After you regain your strength and balance, you really might want to consider branching out into other public speaking roles. You managed to take on a potentially cringe worthy subject while maintaining respect all the way around, in addition to a welcome sense of humour. To top it all off, I feel certain that this video will ease the self-doubt and stress for other individuals in the coming days. Listening to you speak, on seemingly any subject, is like a breath of fresh air. Luke will not be defeated!! 💜💜💪💪🤗🤗☯️☯️ Karen
Thank you Karen, I have been invited a few times to speak and I am open to all. Just on the days where I am not great I can't be overly reliable. But certainly open when I am OK. Thank you for this 🥊💜💜
It's not about being defeated as it's not in your control! I think it's horrible that people say you can beat it etc like it's down to how strong of a person he is!
@@dondamon4669 You are missing the main point of it all! It is actually irrelevant what you or I (or anyone else for that matter, other than Luke himself) think/thought about it (I honestly would have recommended a different stance if asked). So you think it is horrible to support someone in a way that does not encourage a state of complete hopelessness? In all likelihood, it was his fighting attitude that gave him significantly more time than was initially predicted, whether you can accept that or not. Had Luke been in complete denial as to the seriousness of his situation and probable outcome, your thinking would then be applicable - but that is not the case here. As for such conditions being out of our control, my life experience indicates that is complete and utter hogwash. Strength of spirit and attitude is more important than any other factors, including statistics, based on my history. My suggestion: You do you just as Luke chose to - it is not our place to tell anyone else what is right FOR THEM.
There is more to intimacy than sex. Holding each other close is much more important. The way you treat each other shows more about love and commitment. Sending love and respect to you and your family x
I’m sorry that you experienced so much pain, & it’s wonderful that your wife is so understanding. When you love someone, just being able to be close to your spouse is/should be good enough. Being intimate has many forms. ❤
You are a very sweet and virile man. It is so brave of you to take on this subject...no one EVER does. Please don't put the pressure on yourself to pleasure your wife in an old way that will cause you pain. SHE DOES NOT WANT THAT. When my husband was quite ill with cancer , he felt as you do. Our younger years had been very hot...very active. We decided that we were trading "heat" for "sweet" and continued to show our love in that way...nearly to the end. It's the love, man. (ANN)
Luke you are a true diamond 💙thank you for speaking out about the important issues most couples feel they can’t share. I hope you are coping ok, Becks and the children are great too🤗❤️
The morphine can impede your s3x drive too. I worked with H addicts and they have no s3x drives whatsoever..it’s depletes the hormones and seretonin production. Don’t worry about it. It will all return when you get well.. keep your Pecker up..😂😂( sorry for the pun)😂😂 You’re a very lovely man and I can bet your wife doesn’t give two hoots about that side of things..I bet that’s way down her list of wants and desires right now.I really appreciate your candor and you taking us along with you in this journey👊💪🤗
Is there no subject that’s taboo with you Luke You always make me smile when I don’t have a lot to smile about at the moment Keep it up as long as you can!😂😂
It's horrible how much pressure men put on themselves even when fighting CANCER,in pain and on all kinds of medication especially opiates but still worrying about are you a man. Men don't talk about it all you hear is "i ruined her"and i hate that saying man! Thanks luke for all your videos
Hey Luke, this conversation will help many people going threw cancer and other illnesses to feel they are not alone, and the body going threw many challenges , so much respect with your honesty ❤️❤️❤️🥇🇨🇦
Nothing wrong with that man.. the stress of your situation is definitely a factor .. sometimes i can barely get a decent chubby for the old lady with just normal stress of bills / money let alone if I was in chronic pain and getting bombshells dropped on me by Drs like you have .. no shame man it is what it is keep your head up
You are incredibly courageous, inspirational, so honest and selfless in your want to help others ..big love to you to Luke ..you are an incredible human being ❤🎉❤🎉❤
There are so many unintentionally puns in this video. Thanks for sharing and had a few laughs during this video. But in all honesty, i know it sucks! No pun intended 😂
The pain from osteoarthritis in my hips destroyed my sex life. The pain was unbearable. Luckily I had a wonderful understanding husband. But it was so sad for both of us. Pain destroys you
Like you look very good & I’m happy you and Becky are still enjoying intimacy !! It’s actually good for your health , Becky that’s when you connect with your parter . And released the stress of it all , keep enjoying yourselves . And I love ❤️ your videos very informative & thank you 🙏🏿 for sharing ! Love u both lots , Luke’s Army You will NOT be defeated . ❤️✌️😘🥰✌️🤗😊🥰😍
Well done Luke great video which not only covers cancer but all chronic health issues. These issues are common and need to be talked about. Love to u n bex n kids ❤
You are so relatable Luke. honest and upfront, tells it how it is . No beating about the bush(another pun) why is it when we start talking about sex the puns come out . what you and Beckey have is special. True love to conquer all.❤xx
Fair play luke for sharing,putting alot of people at ease they're not on their own in this situation...say it as it is...I got alot of respect for you as a person...cut the crap, straight to the point whilst still having respect and consideration for others even though your going through a hard time yourself....stay strong luke remember UWNBD ❤
Hi Luke, my wife has the end stage of Multiple Sclerosis which I don’t tell most of my Closest friends but here we are on TH-cam 😀 Everything is UP for discussion so to speak 😳. Her doctor has upped her pain meds from Morphine MST tablets & the Oramorph have both been changed to: 50 micrograms of Fentanyl Patches changed every 3 days. They’ve now got her on Oxycodon which is twice the strength of the same Oramorph dose. That helped Woody Woodpecker mutually 😀. But now the end stage is not that far off she’s now made as comfortable as possible on pain relief. I hope you stay as pain free as Possible and all the best. Jamie 😀👍🏻
Sorry to hear Jamie mate. I'm glad you've managed to speak out. And on a public platform. Well done mate. Sorry to hear of your wife and that evil illness, but with you mate you've shown me, a stranger compassion and love. For along as you give her this you're doing all you csn mate regardless of situation. That's admirable. Wishes are with you both and, keep woody going haha. Much love brother
Hey Luke , hope you’re having a good evening and not too cold in this big freeze 🥶 we’re having . Just to let you know that nothing kills your sex drive more than opioid medication , which I’m sure you must have various forms of for pain . I worked in pharmacy and have spoken to many patients who have mentioned this . Best wishes .
I'm actually glad that someone can talk about it because a lot of people want. But you can tell that you both love one another. It may be weird coming from a woman and I do not have cancer but I don't even think about sex anymore I think it's because menopause but I do not even want to be touched. Good thing is when your partner actually truly loves you they will understand and it will not matter.
😂😂👏👏👌 you did it you did the awkward talk about you know thingy 😂 what made it less awkward was you laughing in-between 😁 im so proud of you cuz you really are the only person to front it on here bravo our kid 👏👏 love to you all xxxxx oh and the bit about it looked bigget cuz you lost weight my husband thought his was a foot long from Subway when he lost weight 😂😂😂
You are spot on I have yet to hear anyone talk about this. Ty for your frank and upfront conversation. We do all have needs, But.. there is so much more to a relationship. The love you have for each other is more important than sex. Your so lovely. Cancer sucks! Yall do the best you can and that's what's important . Question...did you have to take something to assist you to have sex like viagra? Does the chemo affect your privates in that way? Mad respect for you talking about this subject!❤
Luke, Thank you for discussing this untold part of life. You are not alone. My spouse is disabled from a severe spinal disk loss. They also have huntch back and scoliosis. Years ago, we were extremely active from the 80s to maybe last 5 years. Like you, they tried, and I could see the pain in their eyes and body language every time. For me, I got to the point of feeling I was going to hurt them. It was a block for us both. So where we are at is we ask each other if we are OK. If it becomes uncomfortable, we use other creative means LOL. But it's not easy to find a Grove, but being creative extends our sexual ideas. We found intimacy is many things, and it doesn't have to be standard. I'm thinking outside the box on the good days. On our off day's we kick back cuddle, watch a movie shoot the shit. Sending hugs!
Hey Anne, thank you for this valuable comment. I agree completely and this is why I did this video, for this reason. You're right we have expanded too in other areas to compensate too. Sorry about your spouse but I'm so glad you've both found some ground to work with 💜💜
@iwillnotbedefeated you are welcome. Life is always full of twists and turns. I'm going on the 22nd for a biopsy to confirm thyroid cancer. They found 2 over inch TIRADS 5 solid nodule. I have a 3d mammogram tomorrow with ultrasound diagnostic for some hard lumps on my left breast. Then, my cat scan for the mass in my upper abdomen. Hopefully, it's just in my thyroid, but we will see. Another curve for us to figure out. I've not even shared this with my friends and only a few family. Any tips on shaking the exhaustion? I can handle the shortness of breath and the lumps all over, but coffee isn't cutting it. Any tips on things I should be eating or not eating. I know cut down sugar and carbs. This is all new. I literally just got my thyroid results a few days ago. Hope today finds you okay. Sending hugs
i would check your vitamin d i have been taking high dose vitamin d for 10 years i take a dose every 2 weeks and i have not caught the flu since that time not counting all the other things it has helped me with also there is research on vitamin d and cancer and even on covid there are also plenty of videos online including the miracle of high dose vitamin d maybe check into it
Bloody hell mate, we don't need to start a little lukes army then? 😂 On a serious note, well done for sharing 👏 you look like you've put a bit of weight on too
After you regain your strength and balance, you really might want to consider branching out into other public speaking roles. You managed to take on a potentially cringe worthy subject while maintaining respect all the way around, in addition to a welcome sense of humour. To top it all off, I feel certain that this video will ease the self-doubt and stress for other individuals in the coming days. Listening to you speak, on seemingly any subject, is like a breath of fresh air.
Luke will not be defeated!! 💜💜💪💪🤗🤗☯️☯️
Karen
Thank you Karen, I have been invited a few times to speak and I am open to all. Just on the days where I am not great I can't be overly reliable. But certainly open when I am OK.
Thank you for this 🥊💜💜
It's not about being defeated as it's not in your control! I think it's horrible that people say you can beat it etc like it's down to how strong of a person he is!
@@dondamon4669 You are missing the main point of it all! It is actually irrelevant what you or I (or anyone else for that matter, other than Luke himself) think/thought about it (I honestly would have recommended a different stance if asked). So you think it is horrible to support someone in a way that does not encourage a state of complete hopelessness? In all likelihood, it was his fighting attitude that gave him significantly more time than was initially predicted, whether you can accept that or not. Had Luke been in complete denial as to the seriousness of his situation and probable outcome, your thinking would then be applicable - but that is not the case here.
As for such conditions being out of our control, my life experience indicates that is complete and utter hogwash. Strength of spirit and attitude is more important than any other factors, including statistics, based on my history. My suggestion: You do you just as Luke chose to - it is not our place to tell anyone else what is right FOR THEM.
There is more to intimacy than sex. Holding each other close is much more important.
The way you treat each other shows more about love and commitment.
Sending love and respect to you and your family x
Very informative video. Thanks for sharing.
Love your openness and honesty, on all things. Cancer is a bastard.
My brother mentioned this to me, he was seriously ill but managed it once or twice and was proud of himself, I was proud of him too, RIP brother.
So sorry to read this 💜💜
Your honesty is refreshing. Keep fighting this vile invader.
I’m sorry that you experienced so much pain, & it’s wonderful that your wife is so understanding. When you love someone, just being able to be close to your spouse is/should be good enough. Being intimate has many forms. ❤
Good on you for talking about this. This will help a lot of people going through this.
I'm so proud of you 👏 🥰.
You are a real warrior.
Love ❤️ ya.
You are a very sweet and virile man. It is so brave of you to take on this subject...no one EVER does.
Please don't put the pressure on yourself to pleasure your wife in an old way that will cause you pain. SHE DOES NOT WANT THAT. When my husband was quite ill with cancer , he felt as you do. Our younger years had been very hot...very active. We decided that we were trading "heat" for "sweet" and continued to show our love in that way...nearly to the end.
It's the love, man. (ANN)
You are a amazing person so honest love you all x
Aw thank you 💜💜⚓️
Luke you are a true diamond 💙thank you for speaking out about the important issues most couples feel they can’t share. I hope you are coping ok, Becks and the children are great too🤗❤️
Haha thank you for watching, some shy away. I think it is vitally Important too. We're all OK thabk you 💜💜🥊
The morphine can impede your s3x drive too.
I worked with H addicts and they have no s3x drives whatsoever..it’s depletes the hormones and seretonin production. Don’t worry about it. It will all return when you get well.. keep your Pecker up..😂😂( sorry for the pun)😂😂
You’re a very lovely man and I can bet your wife doesn’t give two hoots about that side of things..I bet that’s way down her list of wants and desires right now.I really appreciate your candor and you taking us along with you in this journey👊💪🤗
Thinking of you. Strength hugs and prayers from Ireland Luke ❤❤❤
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Is there no subject that’s taboo with you Luke
You always make me smile when I don’t have a lot to smile about at the moment
Keep it up as long as you can!😂😂
Aw thank you haha. I try and nope there isn't nothing I won't say lol
It's horrible how much pressure men put on themselves even when fighting CANCER,in pain and on all kinds of medication especially opiates but still worrying about are you a man. Men don't talk about it all you hear is "i ruined her"and i hate that saying man! Thanks luke for all your videos
Hey Luke, this conversation will help many people going threw cancer and other illnesses to feel they are not alone, and the body going threw many challenges , so much respect with your honesty ❤️❤️❤️🥇🇨🇦
Thanks for your honesty faiir play chap
Nothing wrong with that man.. the stress of your situation is definitely a factor .. sometimes i can barely get a decent chubby for the old lady with just normal stress of bills / money let alone if I was in chronic pain and getting bombshells dropped on me by Drs like you have .. no shame man it is what it is keep your head up
You are incredibly courageous, inspirational, so honest and selfless in your want to help others ..big love to you to Luke ..you are an incredible human being ❤🎉❤🎉❤
Aww thabk you 💜💜💜
There are so many unintentionally puns in this video. Thanks for sharing and had a few laughs during this video. But in all honesty, i know it sucks! No pun intended 😂
Hahaha you know me 🤣 🤣
You dear sir … are awesome ❤
The pain from osteoarthritis in my hips destroyed my sex life. The pain was unbearable. Luckily I had a wonderful understanding husband. But it was so sad for both of us. Pain destroys you
Like you look very good & I’m happy you and Becky are still enjoying intimacy !!
It’s actually good for your health , Becky that’s when you connect with your parter .
And released the stress of it all , keep enjoying yourselves .
And I love ❤️ your videos very informative & thank you 🙏🏿 for sharing !
Love u both lots , Luke’s Army You will NOT be defeated .
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I hope you get better as each day goes by! You seem like a strong willed person.❤❤❤
He died 😢
Now i know. I can imagine its more issues than what its worth. Must suck but its something else that cancer likes to fuck up❤
Well done Luke great video which not only covers cancer but all chronic health issues. These issues are common and need to be talked about. Love to u n bex n kids ❤
You are so relatable Luke. honest and upfront, tells it how it is . No beating about the bush(another pun) why is it when we start talking about sex the puns come out . what you and Beckey have is special. True love to conquer all.❤xx
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Fair play luke for sharing,putting alot of people at ease they're not on their own in this situation...say it as it is...I got alot of respect for you as a person...cut the crap, straight to the point whilst still having respect and consideration for others even though your going through a hard time yourself....stay strong luke remember UWNBD ❤
💜💜🥊 thank you
Fair play to you mukka for talking about it,good work mate,hope your ok
Hey Luke how are you doing. Love your honesty huge hugs 🌹🌹🌹
Keep being the strong person you are, Luke ❤❤❤
Thank you for the awareness wow u need a award . I prey for you Luke
Thank you so much 💜💜
Admire your openness Luke. No frills just facts and a bit of humour.👍🏻
You really are an amazing fella , your truly inspirational ❤️
Thabk you so much 💜💜
Hi Luke, my wife has the end stage of Multiple Sclerosis which I don’t tell most of my Closest friends but here we are on TH-cam 😀 Everything is UP for discussion so to speak 😳.
Her doctor has upped her pain meds from Morphine MST tablets & the Oramorph have both been changed to:
50 micrograms of Fentanyl Patches changed every 3 days. They’ve now got her on Oxycodon which is twice the strength of the same Oramorph dose. That helped Woody Woodpecker mutually 😀. But now the end stage is not that far off she’s now made as comfortable as possible on pain relief. I hope you stay as pain free as Possible and all the best. Jamie 😀👍🏻
Sorry to hear Jamie mate. I'm glad you've managed to speak out. And on a public platform. Well done mate.
Sorry to hear of your wife and that evil illness, but with you mate you've shown me, a stranger compassion and love. For along as you give her this you're doing all you csn mate regardless of situation. That's admirable.
Wishes are with you both and, keep woody going haha. Much love brother
@@iwillnotbedefeated cheers Luke. All the best to you & your family. Jamie 👍🏻
@@iwillnotbedefeatedwe will get their and Woody gets a work out 🏋️ now and again lol 😀👍🏻
Hey Luke , hope you’re having a good evening and not too cold in this big freeze 🥶 we’re having . Just to let you know that nothing kills your sex drive more than opioid medication , which I’m sure you must have various forms of for pain . I worked in pharmacy and have spoken to many patients who have mentioned this . Best wishes .
I'm actually glad that someone can talk about it because a lot of people want. But you can tell that you both love one another. It may be weird coming from a woman and I do not have cancer but I don't even think about sex anymore I think it's because menopause but I do not even want to be touched. Good thing is when your partner actually truly loves you they will understand and it will not matter.
Why weird coming from a woman? I think it’s weird people are so awkward talking about s*x.
Are you on HRT?
😂😂👏👏👌 you did it you did the awkward talk about you know thingy 😂 what made it less awkward was you laughing in-between 😁 im so proud of you cuz you really are the only person to front it on here bravo our kid 👏👏 love to you all xxxxx oh and the bit about it looked bigget cuz you lost weight my husband thought his was a foot long from Subway when he lost weight 😂😂😂
♥️🙏JUST LET HER GET ON TOP AND SHE’LL COMPLETE UR ENJOYMENT ‼️👏🏽🥰🙏👍🏽♥️♥️♥️♥️
You are spot on I have yet to hear anyone talk about this. Ty for your frank and upfront conversation. We do all have needs, But.. there is so much more to a relationship. The love you have for each other is more important than sex. Your so lovely. Cancer sucks! Yall do the best you can and that's what's important . Question...did you have to take something to assist you to have sex like viagra? Does the chemo affect your privates in that way? Mad respect for you talking about this subject!❤
Haven’t had sex since 2008 and it’s the best thing about being single for me!
Thanks for sharing, ❤
Good for you talking about it. Going forward let your wife be cowboy 😊
Haha cowgirl position? That is certainly an easier option for me, maybe not her hips though lmao 😆 🤣
I haven't heard from you in a while sents this video, iam hopingthat your bays are better., hope your ok ❤,
Hey,yeah I've had a pretty bad few days. I'm going to try get a video up assp. Hopefully I'll feel OK today 💜💜 🥊
@@iwillnotbedefeated 🙏🥊🏆
He died 😢
Try sitting in chair!!!! 😊 and of course there's activity toys you can incorporate 😊
Absolutely!! 😁
Luke,
Thank you for discussing this untold part of life. You are not alone.
My spouse is disabled from a severe spinal disk loss. They also have huntch back and scoliosis. Years ago, we were extremely active from the 80s to maybe last 5 years. Like you, they tried, and I could see the pain in their eyes and body language every time. For me, I got to the point of feeling I was going to hurt them. It was a block for us both. So where we are at is we ask each other if we are OK. If it becomes uncomfortable, we use other creative means LOL. But it's not easy to find a Grove, but being creative extends our sexual ideas. We found intimacy is many things, and it doesn't have to be standard. I'm thinking outside the box on the good days.
On our off day's we kick back cuddle, watch a movie shoot the shit.
Sending hugs!
Hey Anne, thank you for this valuable comment. I agree completely and this is why I did this video, for this reason.
You're right we have expanded too in other areas to compensate too.
Sorry about your spouse but I'm so glad you've both found some ground to work with 💜💜
@iwillnotbedefeated you are welcome. Life is always full of twists and turns. I'm going on the 22nd for a biopsy to confirm thyroid cancer. They found 2 over inch TIRADS 5 solid nodule. I have a 3d mammogram tomorrow with ultrasound diagnostic for some hard lumps on my left breast. Then, my cat scan for the mass in my upper abdomen. Hopefully, it's just in my thyroid, but we will see. Another curve for us to figure out. I've not even shared this with my friends and only a few family.
Any tips on shaking the exhaustion? I can handle the shortness of breath and the lumps all over, but coffee isn't cutting it.
Any tips on things I should be eating or not eating. I know cut down sugar and carbs. This is all new. I literally just got my thyroid results a few days ago.
Hope today finds you okay. Sending hugs
Hi, how did it go? Hope you got the news you wanted @@AnneMarieBibby1966
This is Insane
i would check your vitamin d i have been taking high dose vitamin d for 10 years i take a dose every 2 weeks and i have not caught the flu since that time not counting all the other things it has helped me with also there is research on vitamin d and cancer and even on covid there are also plenty of videos online including the miracle of high dose vitamin d maybe check into it
Bloody hell mate, we don't need to start a little lukes army then? 😂
On a serious note, well done for sharing 👏 you look like you've put a bit of weight on too
Google the acts in Karma Sutra. They will you bring you closer together. 😊😊
You obviously don't understand the video!!
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