your mom says that or they got lucky and bought a condo in an ok neighborhood a few decades ago that’s now worth 1,000,000 because the neighborhood developed well
@your mom says And you forgot the right kind of connections as well, having rich parents, etc. However, yes there are GENUINE self made millionaires out there.
Because it’s all about quality not quantity. I’m now 25 and I realize it now, when I was in my 20s I felt alone, and I’m 25 now and it stills feels the same because meeting quality people is now harder than even because you get to know so many new people but no one really wants a significant relationship, they are ok with just being acquaintances. So many things are expected of me and I can just barely get out of my bed every morning without wishing to be dead...
@Millennial Celebs Who Inspire If you think your 30's are tough and lonely, wait until you hit 40. You are in for a rude awakening. Better keep leaning and depending on the Lord.
María Camila I’m turning 24 in two days and this gets better. Seriously it does. My 23rd year really really sucked but everything has (or is) worked its self out for the most part and I’m better now b/c the bad experiences. I decided when I was 21 that I would learn from my experience and not let them define me. Stay strong and positive.
Mo'Sha Carter Aries squad 💅🏻💕 I’m turning 23 and I feel like the first few years of my 20s were reallyyy hard. It’s still hard but I’m JUST starting to get my shit together. It’s work and you’re right, we gotta stay positive and keep going 💪🏻
I'm 22 and damn I feel like I'm running out of time. I work with a lot of 30 and 40 year old men and I always ask them, do you feel good and do you think you're too old to go back to school and they say nah I feel good. I still feel young. So that kinda makes me feel better.
dont struggle to much to find it and dont, or you will wind up on the wrong side of things...Try reaching out of friends you have tried making a bond with and start from there.
"it is a really intense experience to realize you're not a child when you've been one your whole life" THIS. I've been trying to put this exact sentiment into words for about a year now, the only way I could describe it was a kind of mourning of your childhood. so thanks for validating my feelings lol !
I, as a person with social anxiety, am worrying that I'll have to go get my own meds from the pharmacy and mum won't be allowed to do that for me anymore, too
LilyWaters Nope. I’m a pharmacy technician. As long as you give them your consent anyone can pick up your meds for you. Customer statements for tax forms though...
@@elia.0713 today I suddenly felt overrun with emotions, impulsive and empty. So I decided to go for a bikeride outside instead of only wishing and thinking about it. Maybe the hormones do something for me^^
Watching this video first at 19 and then again at 22 hits sooooo different. After you've actually spent day after day crying in the toilet at a job that you hate, this feels very comforting.
"your 20s might actually be about finding out about what you don't want to be"... I felt that. I'm in my 4th and final year of university and I'm so sure that this is not my path. But i have to finish my thesis
Dude!! I graduated 2 years ago and immediately started working. Even though I'm grateful for that, I feel like this is NOT what I want to do with my life...
Oh my goodness, YES! She sounds like - if I had an older sister - she's my big sis who's telling me how to make my awesome life even better! I'd buy all her books!
I love you girl. I just hit 30s and I just learned I’m no longer a young woman but an actual woman and it’s another ‘crisis’. Just a new chapter as well to learn about. Super great video about 20s and good life lessons.
Some things I've learnt so far in my 20s. 1. The 5-10 years question is complete BS. Sure they can be used as a guideline but don't try to write them in stone cause shit happens. 2. Money has no value. 3. U will start to learn things about yourself and u might have to reintroduce yourself to yourself.....get me? 4. Your friends will eventually want different things from u BUT that doesn't mean u still can't be friends. 5. Your group of friends will become small and your close group of friends even smaller (maybe 1-3 ppl) And that is NOT a bad thing. 5. A job is a job and u need the valueless money to survive. 6. When u think u are at rock bottom u will realize that there are more levels below. Please try not to sink any further and get help when u start to feel this way. 7. Everyday/week/month cannot and will not be an amazing, exciting adventure cause life does not need to be that serious. ........I'm still learning 😊
I'm 22 and I definitely have not accomplished anything. I have no friends and nothing to show off. People my age are getting married, having babies, and starting their careers while I'm day dreaming about my first date and I took the first job that was offered to me. Is it what I wanted? No Is it what I went to school for? Nope and I always wondered when is my turn but on day my cousin asked me how old I was and I told her. She looked at me and said wow you literally have your whole life ahead of you. My world stopped and I realized that it wasn't the end of the world and that I have so much heading my way and everything will happen in time. Just strap in and hang on for the ride!
Don't worry, the people who have kids wish they had waited. The married ones question why they got married, was it the right choice but are too embarrassed to admit they were wrong. And the people who are starting their careers are still at the first stage. Like she said, everyone wants to say the good parts but not the struggle. I'm not saying look at their worst like I just listed, but understand that they may not have it easy too and they are kids with adult responsibilities. We are all on the right paths for ourselves, we just have to keep going😊.
Batty Chantiniece The best way to take joy out of life is by comparing yourself to others. It doesn’t matter where people are in life, only focus on you.
@@stanloonauglies9358 The worst part is when people compare you to others...why can't they talk about themselves, why must they point fingers at you.😒😞.
Just wanted to let you know that you are definitely not the only person in this situation, I feel a very similar way. I`ve also come to that realisation recently and I feel like it's what I needed to hear for the longest time. 👋🙃
It's so weird, but I've found that in my twenties I've encountered more stereotypical high school "bitchy" behaviour than I ever did when I was actually in high school. And I 100% believe that it is because of the toxicity of comparison. I'm just living my life, working, earning money and then out of nowhere people you think are your friends blindside you because you have something that they don't. It's definitely a time to not only figure out who your real friends are, but to be selfish in the sense that you no longer should let people walk all over you and set boundaries for YOUR benefit, instead of just trying to be nice and cooperative. Before my mid-twenties I was such a doormat and even though I've been betrayed and stabbed in the back, I'm definitely a better person because of it (so BIG thanks to all of those people who've hurt me).
This is actually crazy true, I'm only 22 and I can tell you it's worst when not only your friends but your family is this way, kinda heartbreaking but that's life I guess, it's not supposed to be easy.
I am still in the process of trying to not feel guilty for taking care of my myself, because I am so used to putting other people before myself. I am trying to come to terms with losing people I thought were supposed be here through the rest of it with me, and letting them go, because they aren't good for me.
Sometimes you will meet and befriend people who are amazing and nice but you will feel like you don't belong to them or that they don't share the same feelings like you have for them. Please even if it's difficult, try to end this friendships... It will just make you feel miserable or it even could end up in you becoming jealous of them, before this happens end this relationship. One thing I learned from was, that I can still like someone without wanting to be friends with them. I found this a very important lesson in my life... Especially when it comes to judging people with different opinions than me
the thing about high school is so true. my high school experience was super chill. its in my 20s that I experienced more drama than ever in my entire life.
You just stay You and I'll bet that you'll be fine 😊✌ Luckily today, we are so many "childish" adults not ready to actually be adults that we can have whole groups of friends who share this mindset and in such a comfy environment you can safely continue goofing around while supporting each others and continue learning about life one step at a time 😊 In these days your phone can remind you of anything a parent could, so it's not so scary to be out there as I bet it used to be before you had the Internet right in your pocket 😊🌸
A lot of people entering their 20s still feel like teenagers and I feel like we're all just stumbling around pretending to be grown until we actually feel grown. Leaving your teen years is like being pushed in the back, hard, and your early 20s is the part where you're tripping, trying to find your balance and start walking again.
Hey!! I turn 25 next month.. And I'm still in school (1st semester senior year, FINALLY!).. I still have no idea what I want to do after graduation. But yesssss! Life is a journey, not a race.
Saw the title and knew I had to watch it. I just had my 23rd birthday and I just feel hopeless like I'm already 3 years in and I don't feel like I've accomplished anything I know I have the rest of my life but good Lord I feel like these last five years have been nothing to brag about to say the least.
I know one of the lessons to take from this video and apply it to your everyday life is not to compare yourself or your life to anyone's...BUT I'm 22 about to turn 23 (March 2nd) which REEEAAALLY isn't that far away from now and if I was to tell you about my life you'd probably (actually YOU WOULD) feel like you accomplished a lot. I don't want to be a Debbie downer but trust me......lol.....sometimes life just comes at you really fast, then here you are struggling to make that easy transition into adulthood. :( All the best to you though! I pray you get all the desires of your heart in 2019! What actually keeps me going is my faith. So all the best sis. As long as we're breathing there's ALWAYS hope. Had to change the direction of this comment to something positive 😂💛💛💛💛💛
I would love that!!! There are so many bad voices out there in the audio books!!😅 Some are so bad that it gives me confidence that even I would be able to get casted as a voice actor, when the company is really thát desperate in hiring!😂😂 So thanks to the bad voices in audio book history for making me think I still got a chance anywhere 😁✌🙏
Holy shit I'm 23 and I feel so lost all the time, like I'm some kind of alien. But really, everything you said just got to me, because I always feel like I'm doing this wrong. My 20's have been super crazy, because of mental ilness and family crisis and a ton of other awful shit, and I've ostracized myself. But I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one going through this, that I can reach out to people, that I'm actually allowed to feel like this and relate to others. Thank you so much.
I'm turning 23 this year and oof... I feel like since I graduated high school I've just been consistently stumbling over myself... Dealing with so many personal issues, losing friends, fighting with family, not having a clue for so long what I even wanted to make of my life, struggling to adapt to new responsibilities and mental health problems stemming from so early in my childhood. Most of the times I also beat myself up because I feel like everyone my age around me has already established themselves and I feel like my adult life hasn't even truly begun yet. We'll make it through and find our footing. Hopefully these lessons will make us stronger.
I’m 28 and feel the exact same way and fully feel you on the family crisis my dad ended his own life by choice and Im even more worried if he couldn’t handle life how am I supposed after all I’m 1/2 him. 💙 we’ll get through take life day by day
The problem for me is that I feel like I’m stuck in limbo. I’ve wasted my entire teen years being antisocial and a prisoner in my room. The difference now is that I go to my mundane job instead of school and the come back home and do it all over again. Im waiting for that ‘yeahhh im a young woman enjoying my youth’ to start happening, but the clock keeps ticking.
the thing is that you should stop waiting for it to happens. Make it happens on your own. You can start little and do step step by step. But you have to figure out what you like and what you want to do. And you have to go out to figure it. (While staying safe tho)
I'm a very antisocial person, too 😬 I've a student job, where I get payed very well and have lots of freedoms, but at the same time.. It's a very lonely thing to do and I don't have much communication with other people. I'm thinking about quiting and working maybe in a restaurant or fast food company, I have to change myself...and the truth is that when you're an adult no one will care about changing you, that's something you yourself have to take responsibility for
You obviously don't enjoy being antisocial ((especially all the time)) so push yourself to find a friend. Join a club, go to work event. Put yourself out there no matter how hard that sounds. You'll find it rewarding.
Once I realized I wasn't a kid anymore was when my mom stopped making my doctor appointments 😂 I need a personal assistant, I ain't got the energy for all that.
Lowkey 25 has been a scary ride for me. There are so many times I feel like everyone else has figured out their passion by now. It’s like I want to work and earn money but I don’t want to be trapped with the repetitious notion of it. I always ask myself “I don’t know if I want to do this...” but what else can I do? You know? The feeling sucks. But like you said we will get through it.
Keep up with that trial and error and don’t forget about taking classes! You’ll know when you find your passion, and don’t feel like you’re the only one still trying to figure it out. That’s MOST people. you can do it!!!❤️
StarPuppy thank you so much! 🤗 I pray that your channel continues to inspire us and flourish with positivity and weirdness! 🤩 I love it and it makes my day! I’ll definitely continue with classes and find what works for me. Thank you so much again! ♥️♥️
Rameji -chan luckily you learned it at 19. Imagine being 30 with a family falling apart. That’s my biggest fear. Building with the wrong ppl for 10/20 years ☹️
I've spent 5 years of my life (20-25) crying myself over because I was not a teen anymore and life is a huge mess. Yes, I work, yes I do study and yes I do have my own life yet I'm getting out only now, in 2019, from my "crisis".
YES YES YES to all of this. I'll just add on to this, as a 27 year old: there is so much pressure to have your twenties be the best years of your life, to have the most important experiences, and to have your life completely on track, and I wish that would stop. Let me just say, twenties are crazy. There is no road map, and you have no experience. I was the goody two shoes child with straight A's, I wanted to be married by 24, have my dream career set up by 25, travel half the world by 28, and have a kid at 29. If I had all this my life would be a "success". Looking back it is insane to put a time limit on things you can't control. At 27: I finished my military enlistment, made the wrong decision at a crossroads on my career path and lost an opportunity, had a horrible relationship and a broken engagement, and have had to deal with two MASSIVE blows life threw at me. But I have survived it all, and I've grown in faith and in maturity. I found out who my true friends are. I don't think of myself as a failure. 20's are the years you are figuring everything out, and many times you will get it wrong. You will learn from it. I'm not saying this to discourage you, I'm saying this so you can relax and not feel pressure. She is right, the instagram life is not real. Recently I have felt a lot that God is trying to teach me to let go and not worry about exactly which age things happen in life, and be more worried about whether my life is making a positive impact today.
I had a major depressive episode from 21-22 years old. I was always told to get good grades, go to a good college, and everything will fall into place. Made straight A's through school, went to a top 10 university, and NOTHING. FELL. INTO. PLACE. So, naturally, I panicked and worried and worried and panicked until I was so exhausted, the anxiety flipped into depression. I look back on it now, having literally just turned 30, and I see it for what it is. For anybody going through this now, it's going to be all right. I promise. Those peers you're seeing that "have it all together"? Yeah, they don't. You're so young and you're having the world thrown at you. You're going to get knocked down, you're going to learn, and you're going to thrive. Just keep on moving, keep on learning, and keep on loving
I felt this entire video. The twenties are not a joke. But looking at the brightside, i realized that youth is a confusing but it leads to different adventures. So chin up my fellow 20yearolds, we in this together!!
Well every age has it struggles, it is kind of true for me tho that the 20s are the time to set a direction for your life, which is quite stressful on it's own...so people give your best to make your 20s great, try to achieve the most things you would want to achieve in life.Think that in your 60s you would look back to this time and either be happy you tried everything you wanted, or have regrets you didn't.Keep it strong until 30...than we can have a break 😆
@amy lui Why are you all over this video leaving racist comments and irrational hate? The woman in this video and most Black women in general don't relate to your racist stereotyoes. Wtf is your problem with us???
I literally cried throughout this whole video. Your advice was very insightful and spoke to me. I’ve been in a rut by procrastinating and distracting myself to avoid the reality of me being an adult and not knowing what the hell I’m doing, and this was kinda a wake up call and made me feel less alone. Thank you so much for making this. Your voice was very calming and you sounded very genuine about everything you said, which is rare to find nowadays.. I’m definitely saving this video for future reference. (edit: 212 likes ?? HOT DAMN and it keeps growing lol I’m glad you guys liked my comment, whether you related to it or whatever reason.. just know you’re not alone and we’re all struggling in some way)
This is a mood, sis. I'm 19. Tbh I be watching videos like this so I'm the "best person I can be", when truth be told I have no idea what I'm doing and why. I've been distracting myself heavily from reality. We're going to be okay; you are not alone.
I started tearing up the moment I saw your comment. I relate so much in this. I hate myself for doing this destructive cycle. I just feel so unmotivated. One time I'd be all hype, the next you'd see me disappointing myself further. Life is so hard. I genuinely want to do good.
@@aia4091 girl, I feel the same way. life feels so overwhelming that it just feels easier to distract myself and not think about it, but it's really just making it worse..
I get this is for 20 somethings but once you hit 30 you’ll know that most of the pressure and hopelessness you feel is society’s unreasonable expectations for young folk to reach a sense of maturity and wisdom and so called success by their standards without the considering the factors, systematic barriers and what success is for each individual. And it’s wild we look at those in their late 20s or older who do not meet those expectations as failures. It’s wild. You’ll also realize how much society is fixated on youth rather than THE youth. I’m 30 something but god damn, if I had the knowledge I have now I would’ve Taken a break from school after high school graduation to figure out what I really want to study Spent more time loving myself and learning about myself to define what success and love is for me. I wish the 20s was more so spent on us developing ourselves rather than careers.
This is the biggest regret of my life. I did two majors and I am paying massive amount of debt for it. Rushing to make expensive decisions in your late teens is very risky. The same risks that is making my twenties feel a lot harder. But you live and you learn. What I hope the next generation can do is do more self development through out high school to give them a head start.
Lauryn F amazing. I have Jesus on my side. I’m 21 now. With him, everything is possible. At a certain age you realize this is your life. You have to be the one to make the wise decisions. Stay away from those who don’t truly love you. Protect your heart. Write down your thoughts. Be nicer. Follow your dreams. Be wise. Learn wisdom. Seek Jesus, he’s really real. You got this. You’re beautiful . Read proverbs 3:15. You got this.
Kimberly Escobar Meza thank you for your comment! It really made me feel better since I don’t have many people to talk about how I feel to. I wish you the best with everything and all appreciate it so much :) 2 more hours until I’m 20..
This video is straight up GOLD. Currently 19 years old, about to turn 20 soon. All I gotta say is: thank you for this, I needed to hear every single advice from this video, and I wish you the best. God bless you!
I'm 18 and so stressed about my future. I recently finished high school and i don't know what career to do in uni. I always found this "finding myself" phrase so cliche until i turned 18 and realised i don't know myself at all. It's like a stranger is in my body. I don't know what brings me joy, what i don't like. I don't know how I'd react to certain situations. I literally don't know myself. I'm so scared of failing and not being financially stable. I'm so scared of my twenties.
I thought I'd be married by 25...only thing am married to is my student loans and no job sigh idk where I even want to work...in my country options r very few
yay same here. I'm 31 and I can sooo well remember this shit. 🙈 And it looks like the next one - a "30s-crisis" is right ahead.. In your 30s it will be even more important to have learned, not to compare yourself to others too much. Because then everyone seems to be more successful, and start having a family or is achieving goals you didn't yet and whatever. Cool video style btw.
I turned 27 months ago and I try not to compare myself to other people. I just keep up with some old friends through social media but not comparing because I have it better than a LOT of people I know. Only because of God and I make good choices.
I'm 22 and the last 3 years I've been ill, unable to go to school or work. I'm slowly getting better, but now I have no degree, no job and no friends. I feel like I failed at life and I'm way behind everyone. But there was nothing I could have done to prevent it, and all I can do now is accept it and do the best that I can to build my life back up.
You are not behind everyone, every person in this universe has their own path, it's never going to be the same with everyone and there are no rules to what you should do at a determined age, those are social constructs that don't make sense. Please be strong and remember this!
So true! 20s are horrifying, especially after 22 when everyone around you tells you you arent a kid anymore and should be an adult but don't feel yet like one!!! Loved this video sis ❤️❤️ Btw I am a small TH-camr and would be so happy if you could help a bit out! :*
This was so helpful! I’m 21, currently living a life that feels like sinking in quicksand, with a lot of ideas and dreams that are stuck in my head. I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO and it seems like everybody else does! So thank you for sharing your experience and making me feel less abnormal
Omg same, I'm stuck imaginating myself in scenarios that will never happen, I'm a coward and don't really know what I wanna do in life and everyone seems to know what they're doing...
Der Szatan I know the feeling! But right now I’m just trying to live without worrying about future, trying to discover more things about me... Because I don’t want to force myself, it’s worse if I do 🤷🏻♀️
Der Szatan OMG sorry for responding 10 months later but I feel exactly the same as you feel...... I realized that I think about experiencing life more than actually experiencing it
I so appreciate you!!❤ I remember the panic in my 20's. Smh. In your 30's you realize how ridiculous it was to ever believe you'd have everything figured out in your 20's! Life's a journey at any decade. Hills, valleys, sinkholes, dumpster fires, sunrises, and hidden treasures are all a part of the deal at every stage. Chins up, lovelies!😊
Wow...this was A WORD!!! Watching this vid almost made me cry 😭...cuz I'm kind of going through that stage of figuring myself out again right now and I'm 25 😂! I remember my dad and I had a whole conversation about this last year and what he said really stuck with me. He told me, "Your 20's are your fuck up years! It's where you fail so much that you're wondering when the hell you'll get a grip on life. While your 30's are where your feet are finally starting to plant. Homes are bought, careers are more steady, and marriages are solidifying, and etc. Your time will come, just let your 20's flow to what you want, and set your 30's up bit by bit." That shit....hit me hard. And because of what my dad told me, I'm currently trying to set my 30's up. It's hard, but I'm doing it, and that's what counts! I changed and learned SO MUCH about myself that I know my younger 20's self wouldn't even recognize the me I am now lol! It feels good to know you've progressed, but it's easy to get comfortable. That's the hardest thing to break. Side note: That not being cut out for corporate America thing, is the TRUTH! I had ONE office job for a month and I was MISERABLE from start to finish! Emotionally, spiritually, and mentally exhausted from a job that was paying me very well. My mental health means more to me than money. Period. I can lose money and get that shit back, but losing my mind is permanent, and I'm not down for that sacrifice.
Yeeeeeeah we’re VERY similar🤓🤓 your dad sound like mine!!lmaoooo though I’ve never heard him swear lol that’s DEF an amazing support system, I just know your nailing this time period! You can do it!!❤️
I honestly think the world put too much pressure on us to be pic perfect! Life is a journey, we all have different pace! I respect all age and think every day is a great day to celebrate what we are. I remeber being a teen I was so mature people though I was in my 20s now everyone think am in my teen!! Its like returning to the pages i've skipped, in order for me to understand my story! Advice: take your time and grow, embrace ur age.
Me too, I'm 19 and I'm moving out to a rented place with my friend in July. I'm almost halfway through my degree and I feel so fucking lost. I love the new found independence but I am so scared I will be on my own from now on. Like it's up to me to succeed. Anyway, thanks for the therapy session lol. Peace
@Tabathia Jones i think she said she was in her late 20s(could be wrong tho). I laughed at the thumbnail cause she looks 12 talkin bout "surviving your 20s"
I know were close to turning 30 I but got to ask because just the thought freaks be out, like were you ready for it and ok this is my crazy plan Im going to stop keeping track when Im really young so by the time im like 80 i want even remember my age I just think once you hit hood adult why keep track , why be depressed as you get older when u can just forget and I am basically like the girl version of peter pan any ways and no im not crazy. just freaked
Need to thank you. From the DEEPEST depths of my SOUL. I'm 27, black girl (I've been weird for legit my entire life) and honestly I've had depression, lonliness, suicidal thoughts, INTENSE failure over and over again since I was about 15. I'm sobbing right now because some of the things you said really hit me. I haven't been close to my family in years. There have been many times in the past few years where I'll completely isolate myself for weeks at a time and drink myself to the point where my body is shaking. Watching videos like this have pushed me through some of my darkest moments. Your channel has helped so me so much. You have no idea. Thank you.
I hope your doing better this year round Yumi, I am so very sorry you felt this way, your heart must of been aching so much, my heart had ache so much I thought to take ibuprofen to get rid of the pain, on the back of the box it didn’t list or deals with such pain. I pray that God is with you and you are improving. Really take care, and God Bless ✝️❤️
I am in tears and I really needed this I failed my math class in college for the second time I am 18 about to turn 19 and I have this feeling of this exactly
@@diabloa.1700 He's on point lol especially with the dancing, hair and self reflection in the 20's. The 30's look a lil different. I'm 36 so i know. I'm sure the 40's get a little more interesting.
I'm so glad that TH-cam recommended this video. As a 19 year old (who's freaking out about life & adulting), I'm so glad that you decided to make this video. I really needed this.
Currently 18 and I’ll be turning 19 this year, oh my goodness. I really needed to hear this. I have so much anxiety about growing up and who I want to be and what I want to do with my life. It’s almost crippling. Everyday I admit that I have no idea what I’m doing and that I’m just doing what feels right. I seek guidance when I need it and I accept advice when it’s given. So hopefully, that’s proven to be the right way to go about things in a few years.
Do wtf u want I did that too and followed my heart and that’s the best thing that happened to me the answer is within you you’re your own leader so don’t ask others for advice cause the only one who knows what you want is you
For anybody who feels useless for not being a millionaire at your 20's, remember it's not a bad thing! Most people who became so rich so soon get simply bored after a while, live life while you can and go slowly, there's no need to have the entire world on your hands so soon
Get things on the right track in your 20’s trust me!! Prevention is key! I am 32 and I can tell you it gets harder in your 30’s if you dont get your bad habits or bad relationships under control ie:- exercise, self care routine, good job, save money/budget, get rid of toxic bfs and friends on your 20’s!! Unrequited love gets extremely painful in your 30’s but you learn to let go and realise you cant control people or life, you grow up:). Also please work on your mental health in your 20’s too or in your 30’s it gets worse lol!!
I am 23 years old I have a degree and honestly I can't get a job with the degree. Now I am starting a new degree I have zero funding and I am hoping that things will work out. Like they say get things done on your 20s. If you wanna go back to school then do it.
Same. Been thinking about it, since the degree I got would get me nowhere and I don't plan on just being a barista for the next like dozen years, so going back to school for a different profession could be a go.
Just turned 22 and I feel like I’m slowly becoming who I truly am. 20 and 21 somehow felt like being 18, it’s now that I feel like I’m becoming an adult
25-29 is a rough ride. It's scary, sad (there is no doubt you are older now and you can't have your younger years back), career problems, big relationship steps, moving...a lot of things happen during this time, or you think things are supposed to happen during this time. Then you hit 30 and you realize you've been crazy your whole life and wasted a lot of years worrying when nobody else knows what they are doing either. And that's the bottom of it. Nobody knows what they are doing. Take one day at a time, but live each day with purpose. Also, limit social media use and find something offline to do, your brain will thank you. Also I totally agree with comparing yourself to others. It's extremely difficult not to do that. That's why I do think it's important to limit social media. It's awesome, but it can become something negative very quickly.
I just turned 20 but wow what you wrote is so important! especially the social media part! I just deleted most of mine... only use yt once in a while and it was the best decision ever.... not spending ur 20s stalking and comparing is already a win win haha Xo
I have a year until my twenties and literally last night I was bawling my eyes out, thinking I am a complete failure and I’m gonna be stuck in the same place that I am now because of this self-harming fear that I have. I now realize that I have to push myself and get out of my comfort zone. I am a smart individual and I can get very far, it’s just gonna take some time.
Don’t worry! I used to cry myself to sleep till I was like 21 cause I wasn’t progressing. But I realise I actually was. I’m 24 now and time flies after 21, things happen and before you know it - you have progressed! Just don’t look at others for validation, and don’t feel pressured by your peers
Thank you for this. I'm 20 years old and I have the tendency to compare myself a lot to those who I feel are doing better than me but I know that with time I will improve and get to where I want to be. It will take time, but it will be worth it in the end.
i genuinely felt like i was sitting with a friend, chatting about life. thank u so much for this. im about to turn 19 and the future is starting to scare me. thank u so so much aah 😭
I related to everything you said except from the friends part. It's insane that in just two years (between 20 and 22), how much of my social circle shrank to the point of being non-existent now. At 19, I started working full-time and I soon realised what will face me for the rest of my life : my ONLY "friends" were, and are going to be my coworkers. So if I didn't like them, I am shit out of luck. Fortunately, I made very good friends with some coworkers (very close in age to me, as the company hires young ppl), to the point where they became my favorite group of people. We got along really well together. Despite having really serious jobs at such a young age, hanging out with them felt like high school again, which tempered the weird ass decade we were going through. They made going to work so much more enjoyable, especially when shit was sometimes hitting the fan at work. Unfortunately however, I recently left the company. And, as a social group that I originally initiated myself, all things fell apart. It's insane how everything stopped. No more meetings, no more parties, no more hanging out, no more discussions. In just four months, the friendship bled slowly until recently, where I decided that it was *done* for me, and I stopped pursuing the friendship, as I got fed up with being the only one pulling the weight. Even when all things were going great, and we were getting along, I was still bothered by the fact that they really were the only group of friends I had. It always left me wondering : where do people actually make friends ? I always knew that a friendship is mutual and requires a bit of work, but i didn't realise it until i haven't seen any of my school friends in three years, despite living in the same city... Now I really don't know what to do. I'm not depressed about that one friend group, and luckily I've never been one to be dependent on people emotionnally. But I really wonder how people, after their 20's, have friends, keep them, etc ??? anyway, you sure do have beautiful teeth !
i started working fulltime jobs at the age of 18, after class till midnight, I loved the friendship I had with my co-workers, even when our ages weren't that close, we had serious discussions about life and had good laughs and took good care of each other, covered my shifts when i had exams, were more like a family to me. And that really made my working experience way better and bearable. And out of all the group, the outcome was only one very close friendship that we managed to maintain even after i left that job, it took us some effort due to our different schedules, but now i wouldn't trade that friendship for anything.
@@sarahmawed8072 Yeah I find myself more pursuing individual friendships with some people of that group than really coordinating a whole get-away with the entire group. i really enjoy each of them individually, and i'm happy i know them, the friendship still means a lot to me. but i'm a bit sad that the great group dynamic we had died out...
oh... now that I think about it, how does one maintain friendships outside of necessity? All my friends have been people that I have gone to school with or were my neighbors - that is quite a frightening thought for me. Once I graduate college the few people I considered my friends will fade. What will be left?
"20 year old millionaires are not normal"
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!
LOUDER THAN THAT, FOR THE PEOPLE OUTSIDE CAN HEAR TOO!!
your mom says that or they got lucky and bought a condo in an ok neighborhood a few decades ago that’s now worth 1,000,000 because the neighborhood developed well
It's not the norm but that doesn't make it hurt any less. Trust.
@your mom says And you forgot the right kind of connections as well, having rich parents, etc. However, yes there are GENUINE self made millionaires out there.
Do that many people really have that ambition?! 😲
Being in your 20's is like playing a video game where you skip the tutorial & you just sort of run around with no idea how anything works
BASICALLY...
Literally!😂
exactly
Pretty much ... This is my 21st year at life and I'm going to make 2020 great . I owe myself that much .
Accurate 😂
"We have access to more people than our grandparents ever met through their lives yet we feel the most alone"
This is insanely accurate
Because it’s all about quality not quantity. I’m now 25 and I realize it now, when I was in my 20s I felt alone, and I’m 25 now and it stills feels the same because meeting quality people is now harder than even because you get to know so many new people but no one really wants a significant relationship, they are ok with just being acquaintances. So many things are expected of me and I can just barely get out of my bed every morning without wishing to be dead...
Nemesis C because everyone so mean and we don’t feel loved
@Millennial Celebs Who Inspire If you think your 30's are tough and lonely, wait until you hit 40. You are in for a rude awakening. Better keep leaning and depending on the Lord.
@@latishamitchell52 🙏❤
@@latishamitchell52right
I'm 23 and I'm so... so confused. And sad. And stressed. I can't.
María Camila I’m turning 24 in two days and this gets better. Seriously it does. My 23rd year really really sucked but everything has (or is) worked its self out for the most part and I’m better now b/c the bad experiences. I decided when I was 21 that I would learn from my experience and not let them define me. Stay strong and positive.
Mo'Sha Carter Aries squad 💅🏻💕 I’m turning 23 and I feel like the first few years of my 20s were reallyyy hard. It’s still hard but I’m JUST starting to get my shit together. It’s work and you’re right, we gotta stay positive and keep going 💪🏻
I'm 23 as well and I think I have an idea. I'm mostly worried about the future.
I'm 22 and damn I feel like I'm running out of time. I work with a lot of 30 and 40 year old men and I always ask them, do you feel good and do you think you're too old to go back to school and they say nah I feel good. I still feel young. So that kinda makes me feel better.
Girl I'm 21 and honestly same
Anybody in their 20s who feel like they lack relationship and deep connection with ppl?
u are definately not alone 😂
Yes! Meaningful conversations happen once in a blue moon for me and I wish that weren’t the case
yes :( Even though I do have friends, I have never felt so lonely in my life
Yes, I have no friends and never go out.
dont struggle to much to find it and dont, or you will wind up on the wrong side of things...Try reaching out of friends you have tried making a bond with and start from there.
“Acceptance is a muscle, you gotta work it out.”
That’s deep *snaps*
I Am Squidzy it’s not easy
It’s a word
I Am Squidzy I’m your 1k like my g
Read this as she said it
Thank you so much. I guess my phones FBI agent is getting worried about me, so he suggested this. Shoutout to him cuz I needed it more than ever.
Issa fraud what’s a phone fbi agent? do cops monitor our activity?!
Sameeee af! I was literally depressed 2.5 minutes ago about my age. Since my own agent can see this as I’m typing... Thank you, Agent Billips 🙃💚
😂😂😂 right, like mine knows I’m in a crisis
Sameee
SAME
"it is a really intense experience to realize you're not a child when you've been one your whole life" THIS. I've been trying to put this exact sentiment into words for about a year now, the only way I could describe it was a kind of mourning of your childhood. so thanks for validating my feelings lol !
Sameeee
I just come to enter into the band so yeah: SAME
Yes, yes, yes😭
One year later…i feel this. I am mourning my childhood because i feel like it was cut short early…
I’m 17 nearly 18 and I’m kinda like “shit, those minor laws can’t protect me anymore”
sameee lol
Same
I, as a person with social anxiety, am worrying that I'll have to go get my own meds from the pharmacy and mum won't be allowed to do that for me anymore, too
LilyWaters Nope. I’m a pharmacy technician. As long as you give them your consent anyone can pick up your meds for you. Customer statements for tax forms though...
I feel this one so hard. 2 months left...
IS ANYBODY GOING TO MENTION HOW PERFECT HER FACE IS ???? SHES SO STUNNNNING!!! MASHALLAH
So perfect o:
Mashallah indeed!!!
SHE'S BEAUTIFUL
Im telling Allah you're going against his rules
Shiema Nasif yes!!! I was thinking the same!!
"Comparison is the thief of joy" [D R A G M E]
My other favourite!
Reading these comments makes me feel so much better. It's insane how we each feel like we're the only one going through this.
I'm legally 21 but on my head i've never passed 16.
Dylan Wow, same but Im 22. I feel this too hard
Me tooo....
20 and same
I’m legally 23, but I’ve been asked to show my ID twice today, being told I still look 16.
Yes, twice. ~alcoholic af~
Yay for your 20s fml 🎉
Men' s maturity come around the 30
"You need to find out what brings you joy, and sometimes that process is paved by what brings you pain"
Man and it is a painful process:(
Everything brings me pain :I
@@elia.0713 today I suddenly felt overrun with emotions, impulsive and empty. So I decided to go for a bikeride outside instead of only wishing and thinking about it. Maybe the hormones do something for me^^
soul searching is not easy. it can be fun. whether it is fun or not, it is a humbling experiencing.
A word ✨
Watching this video first at 19 and then again at 22 hits sooooo different. After you've actually spent day after day crying in the toilet at a job that you hate, this feels very comforting.
Been there. Leaving will save your life. Don’t let it destroy your soul
@@simsthre4078 thank you, it was getting very close but luckily I've left now
@@aishahoumadi9392 Well done. You made the right choice
"your 20s might actually be about finding out about what you don't want to be"... I felt that. I'm in my 4th and final year of university and I'm so sure that this is not my path. But i have to finish my thesis
Update?? Did it get better?
Were you able to find your path in the end?
Dude!! I graduated 2 years ago and immediately started working. Even though I'm grateful for that, I feel like this is NOT what I want to do with my life...
I had this feeling during quarantine i just turned 20 and im changing my major in the fall and transferring schools i need to be happy
@@tspopstar512 All the best!🌻
You have the voice of an audio book 😯♥️
I could listen to her talk about anything
Yes yes yes!!!
Oh my goodness, YES! She sounds like - if I had an older sister - she's my big sis who's telling me how to make my awesome life even better! I'd buy all her books!
subscribed when i saw the intro hahaha you are so cool
*expriences great honor* welcome to the weirdness!✨🤓✨ (I’m already a home-skillet biscuit, you make me laugh on the weekly🤩🤩)
@@TheStarPuppy OMG I thought I saw someone I could relate to. Well, I'm happy to see what content you create going forward haha
Me 2 hhh
Same
same!!!
I just turned 20 an hour ago and this popped up in my recommendations. My phone out here always listening 👀
Happy birthday yo
Legit saaame. My mom was like you're an adult now and then I opened youtube and I saw this😮
Happy belated birthday love
Your FBI agent is looking out for you
Your phone out here looking out for you better than most adults in your life probably
I love you girl. I just hit 30s and I just learned I’m no longer a young woman but an actual woman and it’s another ‘crisis’. Just a new chapter as well to learn about. Super great video about 20s and good life lessons.
I am 27 and I just consider myself a man not young or grown just a man.
Some things I've learnt so far in my 20s.
1. The 5-10 years question is complete BS. Sure they can be used as a guideline but don't try to write them in stone cause shit happens.
2. Money has no value.
3. U will start to learn things about yourself and u might have to reintroduce yourself to yourself.....get me?
4. Your friends will eventually want different things from u BUT that doesn't mean u still can't be friends.
5. Your group of friends will become small and your close group of friends even smaller (maybe 1-3 ppl) And that is NOT a bad thing.
5. A job is a job and u need the valueless money to survive.
6. When u think u are at rock bottom u will realize that there are more levels below. Please try not to sink any further and get help when u start to feel this way.
7. Everyday/week/month cannot and will not be an amazing, exciting adventure cause life does not need to be that serious.
........I'm still learning 😊
Im 14, and I can relate to all of these wtf😂😂
Yes! I realized the true purpose of life is just to joyfully experience life not the capitalist societal concepts
@@osikbarbosik you have your whole life and tbh i am so jealous of you.. but get out there and live it!! All the best
@@Riya-qb1kz Ok, thank you!!💜
23 & I agree w/ everything you said 👏🏽👏🏽
I'm 22 and I definitely have not accomplished anything. I have no friends and nothing to show off. People my age are getting married, having babies, and starting their careers while I'm day dreaming about my first date and I took the first job that was offered to me. Is it what I wanted? No Is it what I went to school for? Nope and I always wondered when is my turn but on day my cousin asked me how old I was and I told her. She looked at me and said wow you literally have your whole life ahead of you. My world stopped and I realized that it wasn't the end of the world and that I have so much heading my way and everything will happen in time. Just strap in and hang on for the ride!
Batty Chantiniece I understand how you feel honestly
Don't worry, the people who have kids wish they had waited. The married ones question why they got married, was it the right choice but are too embarrassed to admit they were wrong. And the people who are starting their careers are still at the first stage. Like she said, everyone wants to say the good parts but not the struggle. I'm not saying look at their worst like I just listed, but understand that they may not have it easy too and they are kids with adult responsibilities. We are all on the right paths for ourselves, we just have to keep going😊.
Batty Chantiniece The best way to take joy out of life is by comparing yourself to others. It doesn’t matter where people are in life, only focus on you.
@@stanloonauglies9358 The worst part is when people compare you to others...why can't they talk about themselves, why must they point fingers at you.😒😞.
Just wanted to let you know that you are definitely not the only person in this situation, I feel a very similar way. I`ve also come to that realisation recently and I feel like it's what I needed to hear for the longest time. 👋🙃
It's so weird, but I've found that in my twenties I've encountered more stereotypical high school "bitchy" behaviour than I ever did when I was actually in high school. And I 100% believe that it is because of the toxicity of comparison. I'm just living my life, working, earning money and then out of nowhere people you think are your friends blindside you because you have something that they don't. It's definitely a time to not only figure out who your real friends are, but to be selfish in the sense that you no longer should let people walk all over you and set boundaries for YOUR benefit, instead of just trying to be nice and cooperative. Before my mid-twenties I was such a doormat and even though I've been betrayed and stabbed in the back, I'm definitely a better person because of it (so BIG thanks to all of those people who've hurt me).
Wow
This is actually crazy true, I'm only 22 and I can tell you it's worst when not only your friends but your family is this way, kinda heartbreaking but that's life I guess, it's not supposed to be easy.
I am still in the process of trying to not feel guilty for taking care of my myself, because I am so used to putting other people before myself. I am trying to come to terms with losing people I thought were supposed be here through the rest of it with me, and letting them go, because they aren't good for me.
Sometimes you will meet and befriend people who are amazing and nice but you will feel like you don't belong to them or that they don't share the same feelings like you have for them. Please even if it's difficult, try to end this friendships... It will just make you feel miserable or it even could end up in you becoming jealous of them, before this happens end this relationship.
One thing I learned from was, that I can still like someone without wanting to be friends with them.
I found this a very important lesson in my life... Especially when it comes to judging people with different opinions than me
the thing about high school is so true. my high school experience was super chill. its in my 20s that I experienced more drama than ever in my entire life.
I feel like you’re going to be a really cool grandmother one day
Wear is She Now the awesomest.
Facts
YES
I’m a NeNe(grandmother) myself and I’m here to get on the millennial level to reach All of My Babies! Children & Grand😚😚 I’m loving This Young Lady✨
@@sheretahughes5308 God I love you
your way of speaking is music to my ears lady
She has great diction
21 and I'm stressed and confused every day omg
same
Same
so related
20 and dying on the inside
Sums up my whole life
You could TOTALLY be a TED talk speaker!
I'm 20 years old and honestly I have absolutely no idea what is going on in my life
tsaksteve ❗️❗️❗️❗️
It's normal, SteveT. My suggestion is to start journalling so you can track all that you have going on, and then reflect on it later.
Serve Christ man things will become clearer.
I just made twenty last month I am clueless but this vid puts me in a positive mood for the following twenties that will come in the future for me
You're not alone
I just turned 20 and this came up in my recommendations, I’m not ready for my 20s 😭😭
You just stay You and I'll bet that you'll be fine 😊✌
Luckily today, we are so many "childish" adults not ready to actually be adults that we can have whole groups of friends who share this mindset and in such a comfy environment you can safely continue goofing around while supporting each others and continue learning about life one step at a time 😊
In these days your phone can remind you of anything a parent could, so it's not so scary to be out there as I bet it used to be before you had the Internet right in your pocket 😊🌸
Brace yourself for the rollercoaster ride sis lol hope your faith is stronger ❤
Axelle sibelle thanks brosky.❤️
we all in this together man- we got this.
No one ever is
Wow this is the best comment section I've ever seen. Early too mid twenties, not accomplished much, finally people I can relate to
Philine Wreck Right !
Philine Wreck To be fair, I think thats most people in their early 20's...
It's beautiful ain't it? Just recently turned 25 and feels great seeing other failures around my age I can resonate with
A lot of people entering their 20s still feel like teenagers and I feel like we're all just stumbling around pretending to be grown until we actually feel grown. Leaving your teen years is like being pushed in the back, hard, and your early 20s is the part where you're tripping, trying to find your balance and start walking again.
When she said "You are not alone."
I just started sobbing.
Sally W. you’re good bby. keep ya head up. take your moments, but we comin up.
I'm 24 going on 25 and I've struggled with getting my associate's degree and I've grown to accept that everyone has their own pace.❤❤❤❤❤
Same
k babe love that’s true
It’s the truth! I’m so happy you recognize that, I believe in you!
Same here. Just keep knocking each class at a time. You got this💛
Hey!! I turn 25 next month.. And I'm still in school (1st semester senior year, FINALLY!).. I still have no idea what I want to do after graduation. But yesssss! Life is a journey, not a race.
Saw the title and knew I had to watch it. I just had my 23rd birthday and I just feel hopeless like I'm already 3 years in and I don't feel like I've accomplished anything I know I have the rest of my life but good Lord I feel like these last five years have been nothing to brag about to say the least.
I know one of the lessons to take from this video and apply it to your everyday life is not to compare yourself or your life to anyone's...BUT I'm 22 about to turn 23 (March 2nd) which REEEAAALLY isn't that far away from now and if I was to tell you about my life you'd probably (actually YOU WOULD) feel like you accomplished a lot. I don't want to be a Debbie downer but trust me......lol.....sometimes life just comes at you really fast, then here you are struggling to make that easy transition into adulthood. :(
All the best to you though! I pray you get all the desires of your heart in 2019! What actually keeps me going is my faith. So all the best sis. As long as we're breathing there's ALWAYS hope.
Had to change the direction of this comment to something positive 😂💛💛💛💛💛
Dykejiah Jones I know how u feel hun but I had to constantly remind myself everyone moves differently
Dykejiah Jones I’m 23 too
I feel the same way
I just started some hair care line though
It’s exhausting
@@ChideraStephen Congratz on your hair care line! ^-^
If you’re doing you best, you’re succeeding. Keep going!! ❤️
Love your voice you should do voice overs for audiobooks
I would love that!!! There are so many bad voices out there in the audio books!!😅
Some are so bad that it gives me confidence that even I would be able to get casted as a voice actor, when the company is really thát desperate in hiring!😂😂 So thanks to the bad voices in audio book history for making me think I still got a chance anywhere 😁✌🙏
This is gonna sound so weird but I clicked on this video because of your eyes in the thumbnail
I deadass though the pic was edited!lol I had to see it for myself
same
Me too💀
This is exactly how I ended up on her channel! I had to see if the eyes were real😂😅
Star "puppy eyes".....lol
Holy shit I'm 23 and I feel so lost all the time, like I'm some kind of alien. But really, everything you said just got to me, because I always feel like I'm doing this wrong. My 20's have been super crazy, because of mental ilness and family crisis and a ton of other awful shit, and I've ostracized myself. But I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one going through this, that I can reach out to people, that I'm actually allowed to feel like this and relate to others. Thank you so much.
I'm turning 23 this year and oof... I feel like since I graduated high school I've just been consistently stumbling over myself... Dealing with so many personal issues, losing friends, fighting with family, not having a clue for so long what I even wanted to make of my life, struggling to adapt to new responsibilities and mental health problems stemming from so early in my childhood. Most of the times I also beat myself up because I feel like everyone my age around me has already established themselves and I feel like my adult life hasn't even truly begun yet. We'll make it through and find our footing. Hopefully these lessons will make us stronger.
@@azugirl111 I understand you so much, I'm sure we'll make it through this! We still have so much to learn and many new adventures ahead of us
@@AxisDens Im suicidal and im 18
@AxisDens @tasha b you guys perfectly summed up my life and how I feel, thanks for being here. Life is crazy!
I’m 28 and feel the exact same way and fully feel you on the family crisis my dad ended his own life by choice and Im even more worried if he couldn’t handle life how am I supposed after all I’m 1/2 him. 💙 we’ll get through take life day by day
The problem for me is that I feel like I’m stuck in limbo. I’ve wasted my entire teen years being antisocial and a prisoner in my room. The difference now is that I go to my mundane job instead of school and the come back home and do it all over again. Im waiting for that ‘yeahhh im a young woman enjoying my youth’ to start happening, but the clock keeps ticking.
Man i relate to this a lot
😥
the thing is that you should stop waiting for it to happens. Make it happens on your own. You can start little and do step step by step. But you have to figure out what you like and what you want to do. And you have to go out to figure it. (While staying safe tho)
I'm a very antisocial person, too 😬 I've a student job, where I get payed very well and have lots of freedoms, but at the same time.. It's a very lonely thing to do and I don't have much communication with other people. I'm thinking about quiting and working maybe in a restaurant or fast food company, I have to change myself...and the truth is that when you're an adult no one will care about changing you, that's something you yourself have to take responsibility for
You obviously don't enjoy being antisocial ((especially all the time)) so push yourself to find a friend. Join a club, go to work event. Put yourself out there no matter how hard that sounds. You'll find it rewarding.
i've been 20 for 6 months and already feel like my life is over.
same
Same
Yep same
me too and only 2 months in :'( fuck getting old. I hope anti-aging medication/therapies are being made right now...
Same
Ever since I turned 19, I’ve been scared about turning 20 because I still haven’t figured out a lot
Same
Same. 19 is legally an adult but most people still view me as a kid. But 20? Leaving my childhood and teen years forever? I can't do it.
Same
Once I realized I wasn't a kid anymore was when my mom stopped making my doctor appointments 😂 I need a personal assistant, I ain't got the energy for all that.
@Mona De Janeiro
lol true
Same !!! Ha hahahahaha ! That was a shock for me. I thought I was grown till that moment
Lowkey 25 has been a scary ride for me. There are so many times I feel like everyone else has figured out their passion by now. It’s like I want to work and earn money but I don’t want to be trapped with the repetitious notion of it. I always ask myself “I don’t know if I want to do this...” but what else can I do? You know?
The feeling sucks. But like you said we will get through it.
Viipandaxi everyday of my life now
After graduation
^^^ THIS is my life at this current moment!!!
Keep up with that trial and error and don’t forget about taking classes! You’ll know when you find your passion, and don’t feel like you’re the only one still trying to figure it out. That’s MOST people. you can do it!!!❤️
StarPuppy thank you so much! 🤗 I pray that your channel continues to inspire us and flourish with positivity and weirdness! 🤩 I love it and it makes my day! I’ll definitely continue with classes and find what works for me. Thank you so much again! ♥️♥️
Yeah i feel that way too and im gonna be 26 this year e.e
I’m turning 28... the difference between now and 22 is WILD
Doesn't it feel like just 2weeks ago when you were? 😂
Please tell me it gets better?!
@@laurafx this please
Totally agree. Just turned 28 this year. It's bizarre.
s mac any great advice?
1. Your artistic style/personality are BOMB
2. THIS IS SO COMFORTING AND REALISTIC
"Be careful about who you let into your heart" damn I'm still 19 and wish I would've learned that lesson earlier.
Rameji -chan luckily you learned it at 19. Imagine being 30 with a family falling apart. That’s my biggest fear. Building with the wrong ppl for 10/20 years ☹️
Same .
I've spent 5 years of my life (20-25) crying myself over because I was not a teen anymore and life is a huge mess. Yes, I work, yes I do study and yes I do have my own life yet I'm getting out only now, in 2019, from my "crisis".
S A M E, and it feels about time
YES YES YES to all of this. I'll just add on to this, as a 27 year old: there is so much pressure to have your twenties be the best years of your life, to have the most important experiences, and to have your life completely on track, and I wish that would stop. Let me just say, twenties are crazy. There is no road map, and you have no experience. I was the goody two shoes child with straight A's, I wanted to be married by 24, have my dream career set up by 25, travel half the world by 28, and have a kid at 29. If I had all this my life would be a "success". Looking back it is insane to put a time limit on things you can't control. At 27: I finished my military enlistment, made the wrong decision at a crossroads on my career path and lost an opportunity, had a horrible relationship and a broken engagement, and have had to deal with two MASSIVE blows life threw at me. But I have survived it all, and I've grown in faith and in maturity. I found out who my true friends are. I don't think of myself as a failure. 20's are the years you are figuring everything out, and many times you will get it wrong. You will learn from it. I'm not saying this to discourage you, I'm saying this so you can relax and not feel pressure. She is right, the instagram life is not real. Recently I have felt a lot that God is trying to teach me to let go and not worry about exactly which age things happen in life, and be more worried about whether my life is making a positive impact today.
Amen
Couldn’t have said it better myself I’m 28
That last part
I had a major depressive episode from 21-22 years old. I was always told to get good grades, go to a good college, and everything will fall into place. Made straight A's through school, went to a top 10 university, and NOTHING. FELL. INTO. PLACE. So, naturally, I panicked and worried and worried and panicked until I was so exhausted, the anxiety flipped into depression. I look back on it now, having literally just turned 30, and I see it for what it is. For anybody going through this now, it's going to be all right. I promise. Those peers you're seeing that "have it all together"? Yeah, they don't. You're so young and you're having the world thrown at you. You're going to get knocked down, you're going to learn, and you're going to thrive. Just keep on moving, keep on learning, and keep on loving
I felt this entire video. The twenties are not a joke. But looking at the brightside, i realized that youth is a confusing but it leads to different adventures. So chin up my fellow 20yearolds, we in this together!!
XxNazoBeastmaster5xX it gets exhausting
Man I hope so, I'm out here dying fam😫
Yes! Good luck to us all
Well every age has it struggles, it is kind of true for me tho that the 20s are the time to set a direction for your life, which is quite stressful on it's own...so people give your best to make your 20s great, try to achieve the most things you would want to achieve in life.Think that in your 60s you would look back to this time and either be happy you tried everything you wanted, or have regrets you didn't.Keep it strong until 30...than we can have a break 😆
@amy lui Why are you all over this video leaving racist comments and irrational hate? The woman in this video and most Black women in general don't relate to your racist stereotyoes. Wtf is your problem with us???
I literally cried throughout this whole video. Your advice was very insightful and spoke to me. I’ve been in a rut by procrastinating and distracting myself to avoid the reality of me being an adult and not knowing what the hell I’m doing, and this was kinda a wake up call and made me feel less alone. Thank you so much for making this. Your voice was very calming and you sounded very genuine about everything you said, which is rare to find nowadays.. I’m definitely saving this video for future reference.
(edit: 212 likes ?? HOT DAMN and it keeps growing lol I’m glad you guys liked my comment, whether you related to it or whatever reason.. just know you’re not alone and we’re all struggling in some way)
This is a mood, sis. I'm 19.
Tbh I be watching videos like this so I'm the "best person I can be", when truth be told I have no idea what I'm doing and why. I've been distracting myself heavily from reality. We're going to be okay; you are not alone.
I started tearing up the moment I saw your comment. I relate so much in this. I hate myself for doing this destructive cycle. I just feel so unmotivated. One time I'd be all hype, the next you'd see me disappointing myself further. Life is so hard. I genuinely want to do good.
@@aia4091 girl, I feel the same way. life feels so overwhelming that it just feels easier to distract myself and not think about it, but it's really just making it worse..
I get this is for 20 somethings but once you hit 30 you’ll know that most of the pressure and hopelessness you feel is society’s unreasonable expectations for young folk to reach a sense of maturity and wisdom and so called success by their standards without the considering the factors, systematic barriers and what success is for each individual.
And it’s wild we look at those in their late 20s or older who do not meet those expectations as failures. It’s wild.
You’ll also realize how much society is fixated on youth rather than THE youth.
I’m 30 something but god damn, if I had the knowledge I have now
I would’ve
Taken a break from school after high school graduation to figure out what I really want to study
Spent more time loving myself and learning about myself to define what success and love is for me.
I wish the 20s was more so spent on us developing ourselves rather than careers.
This is the biggest regret of my life. I did two majors and I am paying massive amount of debt for it. Rushing to make expensive decisions in your late teens is very risky. The same risks that is making my twenties feel a lot harder. But you live and you learn. What I hope the next generation can do is do more self development through out high school to give them a head start.
Amen!
That was good
I’m about to be 20. God help me and give me strength and confidence everyday. I pray for everyone who reads this!
How is it? I’ll be 20 tomorrow, I’m scared
Lauryn F amazing. I have Jesus on my side. I’m 21 now. With him, everything is possible. At a certain age you realize this is your life. You have to be the one to make the wise decisions. Stay away from those who don’t truly love you. Protect your heart. Write down your thoughts. Be nicer. Follow your dreams. Be wise. Learn wisdom. Seek Jesus, he’s really real. You got this. You’re beautiful . Read proverbs 3:15. You got this.
Kimberly Escobar Meza thank you for your comment! It really made me feel better since I don’t have many people to talk about how I feel to. I wish you the best with everything and all appreciate it so much :) 2 more hours until I’m 20..
Lauryn F no problem! Message me if you ever need more advice and help! I’m all ears
Why isn't this a Ted talk??? damn so much insight
I’m almost 21 and I i feel like I haven’t aged a day since I was 12 😅
Procrastination Queen me tooo
Omfg same
same and i wish that i'll keep this feeling forever
I'm 21 😁😁
Same i swear
This video is straight up GOLD. Currently 19 years old, about to turn 20 soon. All I gotta say is: thank you for this, I needed to hear every single advice from this video, and I wish you the best. God bless you!
Turning 20 tomorrow and this makes me feel so goooood!
Same lol 10 months later
I'm 18 and so stressed about my future. I recently finished high school and i don't know what career to do in uni. I always found this "finding myself" phrase so cliche until i turned 18 and realised i don't know myself at all. It's like a stranger is in my body. I don't know what brings me joy, what i don't like. I don't know how I'd react to certain situations. I literally don't know myself. I'm so scared of failing and not being financially stable. I'm so scared of my twenties.
Its okay you'll make it maybes get a job for now and maybe learn about yourself and your interest so you can have a career that you genuinely enjoy
Jip exact same thing here
I am so glad I am 27 now. Time went by slow felt like I was 18 and 19 for like 5 years 😬
I thought I'd be married by 25...only thing am married to is my student loans and no job sigh idk where I even want to work...in my country options r very few
I'll pray for a man for you and you pray for a man for me
@@kekelauren6251 I will
tameka king I’m so sorry
Keke Lauren Lol can yal add me too
@@kianaa1137 no problem
IDK where the hell you came from, but you're friggin' adorable. SUBBED.
For lonely people like me...can we gathering here...and be friends ....telling our problems..listening with all ears giving advice...
met someone special and currently hurting like hell
I'm all ears!
Guys give me your instagram, facebook, tumbler, tweeter whatever I really need someone right now
@@bigtiddygothexegf honestly same. I fell in love with this beautiful girl and she hasn't answered my text messages
@@daphne_lam aw i know the feels. Don't worry! Someone walking out might be a sign to grow a bigger heart
I’ll be 29 in a couple of months (I know I’m not the target audience) but I appreciate this. Thanks.
yay same here. I'm 31 and I can sooo well remember this shit. 🙈
And it looks like the next one - a "30s-crisis" is right ahead..
In your 30s it will be even more important to have learned, not to compare yourself to others too much. Because then everyone seems to be more successful, and start having a family or is achieving goals you didn't yet and whatever.
Cool video style btw.
same im looking for motivation because the way my life set up right now
I turned 27 months ago and I try not to compare myself to other people. I just keep up with some old friends through social media but not comparing because I have it better than a LOT of people I know. Only because of God and I make good choices.
I'm 22 and the last 3 years I've been ill, unable to go to school or work. I'm slowly getting better, but now I have no degree, no job and no friends. I feel like I failed at life and I'm way behind everyone.
But there was nothing I could have done to prevent it, and all I can do now is accept it and do the best that I can to build my life back up.
@Vivi Thank you!!
Homie you are 💯 good
You are not behind everyone, every person in this universe has their own path, it's never going to be the same with everyone and there are no rules to what you should do at a determined age, those are social constructs that don't make sense. Please be strong and remember this!
Same. 24 with 2 babies so lost and lonei
God, why is your voice so soothingly beautiful? 😍
YT recommended me this and I love her voice!! She could do voiceovers
So true! 20s are horrifying, especially after 22 when everyone around you tells you you arent a kid anymore and should be an adult but don't feel yet like one!!! Loved this video sis ❤️❤️
Btw I am a small TH-camr and would be so happy if you could help a bit out! :*
yes i saw 22 as a pivotal time
Wait for 24 when u really u are about to enter your late 20s and have nothing to show for it
Kendi Johns I’m there
Currently about to go through this 😂
My mom puts so much stress on me she treats me like a child one moment and then the next she says you're a grown woman and I'm like which one is it 😂
This was so helpful! I’m 21, currently living a life that feels like sinking in quicksand, with a lot of ideas and dreams that are stuck in my head.
I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO and it seems like everybody else does! So thank you for sharing your experience and making me feel less abnormal
Omg same, I'm stuck imaginating myself in scenarios that will never happen, I'm a coward and don't really know what I wanna do in life and everyone seems to know what they're doing...
Der Szatan I know the feeling! But right now I’m just trying to live without worrying about future, trying to discover more things about me... Because I don’t want to force myself, it’s worse if I do 🤷🏻♀️
Yup! So many ideas stuck in my head and no motivation to pursue any of them!
@@Luke-ft5ow same I draw daily as much as I can, and I don't know how to manage my time.
Der Szatan OMG sorry for responding 10 months later but I feel exactly the same as you feel...... I realized that I think about experiencing life more than actually experiencing it
I so appreciate you!!❤
I remember the panic in my 20's. Smh. In your 30's you realize how ridiculous it was to ever believe you'd have everything figured out in your 20's! Life's a journey at any decade. Hills, valleys, sinkholes, dumpster fires, sunrises, and hidden treasures are all a part of the deal at every stage.
Chins up, lovelies!😊
Ashley Santana true
YAAAAAAAAS I like the sound of that🙌🏿🙌🏿
Wow...this was A WORD!!! Watching this vid almost made me cry 😭...cuz I'm kind of going through that stage of figuring myself out again right now and I'm 25 😂! I remember my dad and I had a whole conversation about this last year and what he said really stuck with me. He told me, "Your 20's are your fuck up years! It's where you fail so much that you're wondering when the hell you'll get a grip on life. While your 30's are where your feet are finally starting to plant. Homes are bought, careers are more steady, and marriages are solidifying, and etc. Your time will come, just let your 20's flow to what you want, and set your 30's up bit by bit." That shit....hit me hard. And because of what my dad told me, I'm currently trying to set my 30's up. It's hard, but I'm doing it, and that's what counts! I changed and learned SO MUCH about myself that I know my younger 20's self wouldn't even recognize the me I am now lol! It feels good to know you've progressed, but it's easy to get comfortable. That's the hardest thing to break.
Side note: That not being cut out for corporate America thing, is the TRUTH! I had ONE office job for a month and I was MISERABLE from start to finish! Emotionally, spiritually, and mentally exhausted from a job that was paying me very well. My mental health means more to me than money. Period. I can lose money and get that shit back, but losing my mind is permanent, and I'm not down for that sacrifice.
Nailah Carew I Understand
Yeeeeeeah we’re VERY similar🤓🤓 your dad sound like mine!!lmaoooo though I’ve never heard him swear lol that’s DEF an amazing support system, I just know your nailing this time period! You can do it!!❤️
I honestly think the world put too much pressure on us to be pic perfect! Life is a journey, we all have different pace! I respect all age and think every day is a great day to celebrate what we are.
I remeber being a teen I was so mature people though I was in my 20s now everyone think am in my teen!! Its like returning to the pages i've skipped, in order for me to understand my story! Advice: take your time and grow, embrace ur age.
I screenshot this
This is a really good comment. So nice how our perspective can do a 180 turn and you can learn even more than you thought was possible
Girll same!!!!
I’ve been crying my eyes out the past few weeks. Suddenly this popped up, looks like my phone knows best
same for me..
Elisa Lin when the FBI agents monitoring your life send help through your add suggestions 😂😂 hang in there baby💓
Hi, i'm 19 and i'm scared. Bye hahahaha
Same!
girl same
me too... hehehe
Same 😭
Me too, I'm 19 and I'm moving out to a rented place with my friend in July. I'm almost halfway through my degree and I feel so fucking lost. I love the new found independence but I am so scared I will be on my own from now on. Like it's up to me to succeed. Anyway, thanks for the therapy session lol. Peace
I'm 23 and I really needed this. I've been having trouble accepting my situation.
Girl, same. I needed to hear this more than anything.
"Capitalize on the fact that it's a new era..." - Star Puppy
I love this quote!
"Comparison is the thief of joy"
Amen sister!!!
I thought that you were like a 17-18 year old having fun on TH-cam? You look way younger than you actually are! You are so cute by the way!
Jada Robinson omg 😂😂😂
Also wondering how old she is lol
@Tabathia Jones i think she said she was in her late 20s(could be wrong tho). I laughed at the thumbnail cause she looks 12 talkin bout "surviving your 20s"
She does not look like a 17 or 18 year old to me.
@@froyokid She does not look or sound like a 12 year old. She looks like a grown woman.
*I just turned 35 and still havent accepted I'm an adult it doesn't get any better yall* 😭🤣 #NYC just found a dream career last week bruh🤣
I know were close to turning 30 I but got to ask because just the thought freaks be out, like were you ready for it and ok this is my crazy plan Im going to stop keeping track when Im really young so by the time im like 80 i want even remember my age I just think once you hit hood adult why keep track , why be depressed as you get older when u can just forget and I am basically like the girl version of peter pan any ways and no im not crazy. just freaked
This life is soo crazy! I’m almost 30 and I still don’t know what I’m doing! I want a career and idk how to do it
Nirvana Burns loooooooool a mood
Hahah
Congratulations girl. No matter the age, you’re doing your thing.
Her intro song got her a subscriber
And another! *relates*
DUDE SAME
Literal same
Need to thank you. From the DEEPEST depths of my SOUL.
I'm 27, black girl (I've been weird for legit my entire life) and honestly I've had depression, lonliness, suicidal thoughts, INTENSE failure over and over again since I was about 15.
I'm sobbing right now because some of the things you said really hit me.
I haven't been close to my family in years. There have been many times in the past few years where I'll completely isolate myself for weeks at a time and drink myself to the point where my body is shaking.
Watching videos like this have pushed me through some of my darkest moments. Your channel has helped so me so much. You have no idea. Thank you.
Yumi Young you seem so sweet and sincere. wishing you all the light and love in the world i hope things start to look up for you
I hope your doing better this year round Yumi, I am so very sorry you felt this way, your heart must of been aching so much, my heart had ache so much I thought to take ibuprofen to get rid of the pain, on the back of the box it didn’t list or deals with such pain. I pray that God is with you and you are improving. Really take care, and God Bless ✝️❤️
Thank you for this.
I am 27 and can somewhat relate.
I am not alone
Im honestly holding back tears and im only 17
we be sittin here fam
Haaa? I’m sorry
@XMARI YUH i am too but like im going to college next year. Growing up is so scary. Realising youre not a kid anymore is scary
dude i’m 15, and i feel inspired 😭
Sameee😭
“ just because your a adult you can’t get your feelings hurt - like no that’s still a thing “ LOL ❤️💔
You are SO BEAUTIFUL, OMG!!!
I am in tears and I really needed this I failed my math class in college for the second time I am 18 about to turn 19 and I have this feeling of this exactly
Mihir Martin I have been there!! You’ll get it.
👏🏾 BLACK 👏🏾 WOMEN 👏🏾 BEING 👏🏾 THEM 👏🏾 SELVES
that is all.
Richard S. Hell yea
Yes Sir! You know it!
Bro stop
@@diabloa.1700
He's on point lol especially with the dancing, hair and self reflection in the 20's.
The 30's look a lil different. I'm 36 so i know.
I'm sure the 40's get a little more interesting.
👏🏾ALL 👏🏾WOMEN 👏🏾BEING 👏🏾THEM 👏🏾SELVES
girl you are naturally gorgeous, there's something very captivating about your eyes
yes her eyes are captivating...
her whole personality is pretty captivating :)
I'm so glad that TH-cam recommended this video. As a 19 year old (who's freaking out about life & adulting), I'm so glad that you decided to make this video. I really needed this.
Hobi's smile I die SAME
Same here
Sameeee
I'm turning 20 in 3 months, I'm not ready y'all
stay strong girl! plus i die with hobi's smile as well 💞
I loved my 20s. The freedom, studying, traveling and only responsible for myself. Good times.
lol can’t relate
My 20s is just studying and crying
@@she_wizzdom4410 that’s sad. I hope working life will be better for you. But for me, I was never as free as I was when I was a student.
i would be so lucky to have a friend like you in my life
Currently 18 and I’ll be turning 19 this year, oh my goodness.
I really needed to hear this. I have so much anxiety about growing up and who I want to be and what I want to do with my life. It’s almost crippling.
Everyday I admit that I have no idea what I’m doing and that I’m just doing what feels right.
I seek guidance when I need it and I accept advice when it’s given. So hopefully, that’s proven to be the right way to go about things in a few years.
Do wtf u want I did that too and followed my heart and that’s the best thing that happened to me the answer is within you you’re your own leader so don’t ask others for advice cause the only one who knows what you want is you
God, same thing is happening to me, i'm almost dying of anxiety
For anybody who feels useless for not being a millionaire at your 20's, remember it's not a bad thing! Most people who became so rich so soon get simply bored after a while, live life while you can and go slowly, there's no need to have the entire world on your hands so soon
Get things on the right track in your 20’s trust me!! Prevention is key! I am 32 and I can tell you it gets harder in your 30’s if you dont get your bad habits or bad relationships under control ie:- exercise, self care routine, good job, save money/budget, get rid of toxic bfs and friends on your 20’s!! Unrequited love gets extremely painful in your 30’s but you learn to let go and realise you cant control people or life, you grow up:). Also please work on your mental health in your 20’s too or in your 30’s it gets worse lol!!
Noted
Yo, girl, I'm 55 seconds in and I already like you!!
I am 23 years old I have a degree and honestly I can't get a job with the degree. Now I am starting a new degree I have zero funding and I am hoping that things will work out. Like they say get things done on your 20s. If you wanna go back to school then do it.
kgaugelo khosa it’s ok girl just get the other degree and make sure it’s a good one
You realized the degree didn’t matter and you still have to pay off the debt and you go get another 1?🤔
Same.
Been thinking about it, since the degree I got would get me nowhere and I don't plan on just being a barista for the next like dozen years, so going back to school for a different profession could be a go.
@@nnelabaptiste5502 yes
Just turned 22 and I feel like I’m slowly becoming who I truly am. 20 and 21 somehow felt like being 18, it’s now that I feel like I’m becoming an adult
This gives me so much hope lol im 20 and feel the same
she is so calming and relaxing
25-29 is a rough ride. It's scary, sad (there is no doubt you are older now and you can't have your younger years back), career problems, big relationship steps, moving...a lot of things happen during this time, or you think things are supposed to happen during this time. Then you hit 30 and you realize you've been crazy your whole life and wasted a lot of years worrying when nobody else knows what they are doing either. And that's the bottom of it. Nobody knows what they are doing. Take one day at a time, but live each day with purpose. Also, limit social media use and find something offline to do, your brain will thank you.
Also I totally agree with comparing yourself to others. It's extremely difficult not to do that. That's why I do think it's important to limit social media. It's awesome, but it can become something negative very quickly.
I just turned 20 but wow what you wrote is so important! especially the social media part! I just deleted most of mine... only use yt once in a while and it was the best decision ever.... not spending ur 20s stalking and comparing is already a win win haha
Xo
I have a year until my twenties and literally last night I was bawling my eyes out, thinking I am a complete failure and I’m gonna be stuck in the same place that I am now because of this self-harming fear that I have. I now realize that I have to push myself and get out of my comfort zone. I am a smart individual and I can get very far, it’s just gonna take some time.
Don’t worry! I used to cry myself to sleep till I was like 21 cause I wasn’t progressing. But I realise I actually was. I’m 24 now and time flies after 21, things happen and before you know it - you have progressed! Just don’t look at others for validation, and don’t feel pressured by your peers
i hate it!!! Getting old sucks. I just wanna keep partying like a teen. I just turned 20!
when it ended I was like "wait no don't go" and "has it really been 20 minutes"?
Just turned 17, I’d be lying if I told u that I wasn’t scared to grow up, but most of all to try and man up
You still have so much time to get it right 😌 i wish i was 17 again
Today i turned 18 :(
Thank you for this. I'm 20 years old and I have the tendency to compare myself a lot to those who I feel are doing better than me but I know that with time I will improve and get to where I want to be. It will take time, but it will be worth it in the end.
Oshinofa Lakoju that’s so true
Keep. That. Outlook. 🙌🏿🙌🏿
Yas!
i genuinely felt like i was sitting with a friend, chatting about life. thank u so much for this. im about to turn 19 and the future is starting to scare me. thank u so so much aah 😭
I haven't seen any videos like yours on YT, it's refreshing
I related to everything you said except from the friends part.
It's insane that in just two years (between 20 and 22), how much of my social circle shrank to the point of being non-existent now.
At 19, I started working full-time and I soon realised what will face me for the rest of my life : my ONLY "friends" were, and are going to be my coworkers. So if I didn't like them, I am shit out of luck.
Fortunately, I made very good friends with some coworkers (very close in age to me, as the company hires young ppl), to the point where they became my favorite group of people. We got along really well together. Despite having really serious jobs at such a young age, hanging out with them felt like high school again, which tempered the weird ass decade we were going through. They made going to work so much more enjoyable, especially when shit was sometimes hitting the fan at work.
Unfortunately however, I recently left the company. And, as a social group that I originally initiated myself, all things fell apart. It's insane how everything stopped. No more meetings, no more parties, no more hanging out, no more discussions. In just four months, the friendship bled slowly until recently, where I decided that it was *done* for me, and I stopped pursuing the friendship, as I got fed up with being the only one pulling the weight.
Even when all things were going great, and we were getting along, I was still bothered by the fact that they really were the only group of friends I had.
It always left me wondering : where do people actually make friends ?
I always knew that a friendship is mutual and requires a bit of work, but i didn't realise it until i haven't seen any of my school friends in three years, despite living in the same city...
Now I really don't know what to do.
I'm not depressed about that one friend group, and luckily I've never been one to be dependent on people emotionnally.
But I really wonder how people, after their 20's, have friends, keep them, etc ???
anyway, you sure do have beautiful teeth !
I relate to this so much
i started working fulltime jobs at the age of 18, after class till midnight, I loved the friendship I had with my co-workers, even when our ages weren't that close, we had serious discussions about life and had good laughs and took good care of each other, covered my shifts when i had exams, were more like a family to me. And that really made my working experience way better and bearable. And out of all the group, the outcome was only one very close friendship that we managed to maintain even after i left that job, it took us some effort due to our different schedules, but now i wouldn't trade that friendship for anything.
@@sarahmawed8072 Yeah I find myself more pursuing individual friendships with some people of that group than really coordinating a whole get-away with the entire group. i really enjoy each of them individually, and i'm happy i know them, the friendship still means a lot to me. but i'm a bit sad that the great group dynamic we had died out...
oh... now that I think about it, how does one maintain friendships outside of necessity? All my friends have been people that I have gone to school with or were my neighbors - that is quite a frightening thought for me. Once I graduate college the few people I considered my friends will fade. What will be left?
You'll survive man💯 I'm in the same position but eventually people who will be willing to stick will stick around just dont beg for people to stay💯