I won’t agree that its success but it makes a major difference when you do have a significant other....you are stress free more happier and it makes life easier, I am married I have been with him for 3 years I’m happy
@@destinyAlvarez1 I felt this I was single up until about a year ago, and while I was happy by myself, him coming into my Life heightened my happiness. Now we're engaged and working towards a Life together.
YESS biggest thing i've learned in the last two years is that if someone really wants you like they truly want to be with you they will make it known, don't hang around for someone who still has doubt in their mind because it is waaay too painful to be an option to someone when they are your only option in your mind
2:17 "If you weren't there, someone's world would crumble" this line hit me hard, beautifully said... Edit: 8:23 "Our culture...treats having a significant other like success, like you found someone who loves you and that's what makes you worth something. But that's not how any of that works, don't fall for that it's a trap. You are good enough, you are whole, you are spectacular all by yourself." THIS LINE HITS ME HARDERRRR
"Big hearts have the most potential to be scarred because of the surface area" How this girl managed to get me to laugh and cry at the same time damn On a real note though, I really wish we could be friends. You seem really level headed, real (and a weirdo like me :D) and I feel like thats so rare when going into the world. Too bad I live on a different continent :(
I’m 21. I’ll be 22 in August and sometimes I wish I had a time machine so I could transport back to high school and do things differently. The other day I had a mental breakdown and cried to my mom about how I felt like I hadn’t done anything yet...but she reassured me and comforted she said “you’re 21, mi amor. You still have time. You’re in school, you’re working. You can do it!”
I feel the same way! I'm turning 21 in March and in school and sometimes feel down because I feel I haven't "done enough." But you can do it. Often we forget that you're 20's are still reaaaaalllly young.
sym aww Mami, don’t cry! Never dwell on what your friends have and what you don’t have. Focus on what you really want to do and work hard because nothing in life is ever given or offered. And if you change your mind, that’s okay! My step-mother became a teacher in her 50s after realizing education/teaching was the field she was really interested in. You have done something special already! You completed school and now you’re in the position of life where you can make your own decisions (education, relationships, occupation). You can do it! Don’t be scared. ❤️🦋
"You are either trying to use someone to heal yourself, or distract yourself, or make yourself feel like you like something because someone else likes you. Or you are already self sufficient by yourself. You deserve a crown now a bandaid." Ok so you really didn't have to attack me like that😭😭 but omg I'm bout to cry why are you so deep.
Embrace your prudness. Do not let someone talk you into things you may regret. You are the one who has to live with the consequences. I just love your insights. Smart.
I just turned 21 and oh my gosh, so much has happened and changed the way I look at life. It’s so beautiful and comforting to know that others go through this transition as well. I’ve learned in the hard times it shapes you into being the person you were meant to be. You have such a kind soul, thank you for sharing your experience and opinion. ❤️
I like how you said music is an emotional lubricant, I had to stop listening so much to people like Lana Del Rey...I was getting way too into my depression through her. You really hit the nail on the head about that
The ending has me tearing up because I've failed more than anyone I know. But this week, has felt like a new beginning, a new me, and im blessed to watch your videos. Im 22 and its been a rollercoaster. Thx 💛
I do feel lonely very often. Loneliness is something we humans have to learn to live with. U have to get used to being happy, comfortable, and positive while being lonely. It’s pure practice like most things in this world. Once u know how to live and be happy by yourself, that’s when loneliness isn’t ur enemy but ur partner. Then you proceed to look for partnership. But you gotta learn how to love yourself first. Be happy and lonely first. I do hope I helped any today.
Finally someone who understands the root of the chronic heartbreak that our generation suffers from. I see it all around: millenials giving their hearts and their worth to everyone and everything and becoming bitter and it's so extremely sad. I really hope that this generation will grow and heal and pass the wisdom on that they got from the hurt. People, you are beautiful and precious and God loves you. I sincerely believe that and i believe that this generation needs to hear and know that.
Had to pause this cause homegirl really got me cryin in the dining hall rn i gotta leave brb Edit: This hit home way harder that I expected it to...as soon as you said “You failing does not make you a failure”, I started to cry. Failure is one of my biggest fears yet I’m so quick to give up when -shit- things go wrong. I’m in a loss for words...you have absolutely *NO* idea how much you helped me tonight. Thank you, Danielle. So so much. Also! If you’re reading this (hi if u are
❤️😭❤️ giiiiirliiiieee you just took me back to my lowkey crying in the dining hall dayyyys.... you’re seriously not alone. Edit: and hey!! Don’t you let fear hold you back! Chase your dreams while scared as heck! Oooooh yup, I’m doing a video on fear too
Today’s my birthday, I never been so scared in my life.. 20 years old this video helped me realize that I need to embrace my inner anime and stop allowing toxic people in my life..
About to be 23 in 2 weeks, confused and feeling so stuck. Literally don't know what to do with my life but live?! Idk. But at least I'm not alone. I also refuse to give up 😪
I don't think I've ever been so content just to stare at someone while they shower me with positive thoughts. She's great at this. Never stop making content, please.
I have the same age and yes for me, sometimes is so fucking difficult but it is cause i have to decide and choose what things want, what experiences i want to live, and at the time i have to affront my historie, and learn of my bad experiences. So each day , if i have a good day i know that is so great but if i have a day a roaf day i say to my self : is just a day, a bad day. The rest is see that all what you live, see, and experimented is becoming a new part of yourself so you are seeing more, and the best is act, and sometimes we have to do things that are awkward for learn and theres when joy , happy, good fellas appear. Also sometimes i feel like : what im going to do?!! Or what im doing? But is normal.
I'm halfway through the vid and I had to stop and scroll down real quick to tell you that you're the real deal girl like you're keeping it real and the things you say are so genuine and wise and ahh I really, really need this rn. part 1 was already a treat and now this?? thanks so much xx
I'm in my 30's and almost 40, and I agree it's so important to learn this. Still, I have to add, that with age comes more confidences and knowledge of what you want, so that does make some things easier, but feelings things don't really change much, especially towards being single. I'm not saying, it's horrible to be single in your 30's, just that the only things that gets better is your unwillingness to take crap from people and not sweating small stuff. If one guy doesn't call me back, I'm cool, if I meet a guy and it's clear he's not liking my personality, I not going try to be different. I like me and that's good. But, after the 6th, 15th guy rejects you or you reject him, those deep feelings do set in. Also, I believe in love and finding the right person, I'm just now at the age when, I realize, a life partner isn't a given. And, I'm not trying to be a downer, just real. When I was younger, I thought people that never marry or live alone, did that by choice. And, though I have it stories of people getting married for the first time and finding the love of their life after 60 or even at 80 were cute. I have realize, that means, they had to be single for a lot of their life to not have been in love until later in life. And, that's not always by choice, it's just how things work out and it's out of your control. The fact is, you can be a good person, love yourself, be ready for love, want love, want to find a partner and it just hasn't happen for you or when it does you can be lot older than what you think you will be, and that's okay. The idea, that if you stick to your guns and someone will find you, just isn't true for everyone. Again, I'm not jaded, nor have I given up on love. But I am almost 40, never been married, with my life together, I love myself, I respect myself, I'm not a negative person or controlling or bossy or crazy, and I've been single a very long time. I have dated, I have had fun, I have looked for a relationship, I've been honest, I have met nice guys, I have met not so nice guys. According to everyone I know and work with, they don't know why I'm single. I don't know either. But because of this, I know that it's not a simple as someday my unicorn will find me or me him or everyone gets love. That might still happen, but the reality is that I might be 45, 50, 60, or even 80 when it happens and that's not something people tell you, but it's a possibility and it doesn't mean you are unworthy of love or like she said, aren't successful in life, it just means your time table is different.
Girl, you're so right! I have an SO and we still have our own separate development paths left ahead of us. Being in a relationship as an incomplete person just means that you'll have to deal with both of your damages while trying to stay together. And in some cases that's harder than doing it alone. But coming into a relationship as a whole fresh person... that's the most single-handedly awesome thing you can do for another person! P.S. I'm so grateful to The Gazette. If I wasn't able to scream Japanese death vocals at my problems... well... I'd have a lot of DIFFERENT problems!
The hardest thing is when your parents and people are being hard on you when all you’re trying to do is figure things out for yourself and simply growing up
I'm in my 20's and I am single I won't start seeking a relationship until I finish nursing school in my experience if you enter a relationship with not much to offer it will only lead to constant arguing about finances and other things
"Our culture treats having a significant other like success like you found someone who loves you and that's what makes you worth something." Damn, that really hit close to home. I started getting very insecure about being in a relationship since the age of 12. But I didn't want one for the right reasons - caring for and sharing experiences with someone. I wanted one because I felt like I was being judged for not being in a relationship like my peers, I feel like I was less worthy as a person because I wasn't experiencing those milestones that my friends/classmates were having. I felt ugly and unloved despite having a loving family and great friends. I still haven't been in a relationship, 22 turning 23 this year. And I have just recently grasped that I should focus on myself, love myself and be a better person, it's a tough journey and I know I will still have rough times were I fall back into that negative thinking, but I have to learn to love and accept me. Because at the end of the day, the person I will be guaranteed to spend the rest of my life with is me, so I better start liking myself.
Girl I get you when you say Digimon makes you cry. When I think of things from my childhood that nobody else is around to remember with me, or nobody is left to remember with me. Those are the moments that GET ME!
I usually don’t comment on people’s channels but yours has made me cry. It’s like you knew me personally and were speaking to my depression, unhappiness , isolation and my being scared for the future. Thank you for this. You should totally be a life coach because i swear I could feel the confidence coming back again. Thank you. 😊😊😊
I want you to know that God used you to speak truth into my life with the failure bit. im in my last semester of nursing school, and I've failed my last two nursing exams despite my very best efforts, and the exhaustion and disappointment has been hitting me so hard. so thank you for the reminder. made my day a little brighter❤
@@eyitsyaboi4527 may give a piece of advice ? been there done that u should try to get out there a little bit ! even if you don’t see them as often, at least have 2 or 3 person that are trustworthy with whom you can talk to it will help better your social skills and have a confident if they’re also an introvert, that would be good you’ll feel understood and not alone
Please do a video as dating as an empath, I'm currently dating this dude for a few months now and I LITERALLY FEEL INSANE by how much I feel about him and even while talking to friends about it I often feel like I'm the only one who feels so much so quickly in my friend group.
I’m currently the same about my partner I mean we’ve only been dating for 3 months, and I feel so strongly about him but the job he has can be very demanding, and it took so long to actually make it official because of his job.. All my friends say that I should take it slow, but I only ever see myself with him and nobody else.
I'm recovering from this situation (4:59) where I wanted something to work out and it didn't as the other person didn't. Would definitely have been better to move on earlier and not waste so much timeeeeeee
But you still learned things through that experience, right? Don't think of it so much as a regret and try to think "well, it happened and I can't turn back time, but now I've learned and taken something from the experience" It can help the future you :) Not that that's easy to fully believe and not just give into the regret and frustration completely...but it's a mindset I'm personally trying to keep and it is quite healing.
Girl found you from your last 20s video and you are so on point! I’m nearly 25 and I’m totally with you on everything you’ve said :). Love from England!
I needed this. I’ve been going through the most painful, confusing, just indescribable time in my life these last 4 months. It hurts, I feel lost, I feel alone. This comforted me, reassured me, told me to get it together & that I CAN get it together ... all in a kind & understanding manner. You’re beautiful inside and out! Thank you, thank you!
Going 22 yo in a couple of months, I discovered your channel with part 1. And I fell in love with your personnality. I really want to thank you for your amazing videos, and for being you. Your works lightened my days at a time I was feeling pretty low. So thanks thanks thanks and love, from France
Thank u, just thank u. This makes so much sense. It’s weird that we don’t have that person who tells us “you’re 20’s will be tough, filled with failures you think you wouldn’t encounter but they are meaningful and essential to your success” and also about the poisonous comparison thoughts and habits of our generation. Thank you for being that person. I’m turning 20 this year, but I feel all this and have these sentiments, particularly the thought that I’m no longer a kid; I can’t be a kid again.
Hi, I’m 18 and I’ve been struggling for a while. By a while I mean my whole life. My whole life I’ve felt like a failure, like every decision made by me was wrong, like every word I said was incorrect, insignificant. Thank you. You’ve helped me ignite myself. From the bottom of my heart, Thank you, truly.
I really love the fact that you spoke about being self-sufficient and someone else on that level will come along. I agree you about how society glorifies having a significant other as success, as if you on your own is not enough. I'm currently working on fully loving and accepting myself and it's not easy, but I know it's worth it. You're absolutely gorgeous by the way.
I really needed to hear this. I’m an empath and always end up giving my love to people who don’t know what they want. I just spent nine months in a relationship where this person still didn’t even truly know what it is they wanted.
"you failing doesn't make you a failure. The only way you will be a failure is if you fail yourself by not trying again. Don't give up" I'm sorry, Danielle, but this really made me cry (a relief kind of cry). Thank you for the real talk, I really appreciate it.
Literally turned 24 today (a Pisces with all the feels, lucky me) and let me tell you, literally experienced all these emotions. Thank you for putting these thoughts and feelings, which I thought only I felt, into words of pure wisdom. This brought me so much comfort.
TH-cam has recommended me this video (actually the first one but i've came here after that one) and I assume my FBI agent found out that I'm struggling so much that they recommend me this in the perfect moment of my life. I needed this words. I've cried all that 22 minutes and I just wanted to thank you
This was a WORDDDDD!!! 😭😭😭 OMG I went through all of that! This vid was high key nostalgic lol! It's sooo important to know about these things growing up! I'm so proud of you and who you've become! Keep growing, keep learning, and keep moving within yourself! YOU got this too, Danielle! Never forget that 😊! Sidenote: 1) Last week you were 47K subscribers and today I see 60K! YOU BETTA GO GIRLLL!!! 😍😘😁
"Don't rely on social media to fill the void of your loneliness" I came to TH-cam to fill the void of my loneliness and I did not expect to be called out for it like that, you've given me a very difficult task at 3 am.
I'm soon gonna be 21 and I've never imagined how bad I needed to hear what you said. 20s are so damn hard and I'm so glad I've found such a strong and smart woman that don't even know me but somehow I feel like you're talking to me and telling me that I can do it
That talk about isolation tho, is really what I needed to hear, cause I've completely shut myself out. I really enjoy your talks. Thank you for the positive words and advice 😊😊!
Danielle, you are a light my friend. Lol I bought kingdom hearts too and also feel sad about the childlike mindset I still have. I have a fiancé but I still think anime boys are cute...bittersweet right!? Anyways, the hardest thing about being 25 is I feel in the middle. I still like doing late teen early 20s activities but it’s starting to dawn that I’m no longer that young. Another thing that’s hard is learning that no matter how nice and hardworking you are...you’re not going to please everyone. There are people who will hate, stereotype, and look down on you. Being a black woman, I feel as though I have to prove myself so much more than others. Another thing is the self image. I love being natural but people are only associating our hair with the looser lectures...and it bothers me. There’s just so much more I pay attention to now than I used to. We will get through this and I’m so glad you care to talk about it. Take care and god bless ♥️
"Another person can't fix you. That's not their job." (7:22). Damn. I can relate to this so much... well, kinda. It just made me think about how my parents have been divorced for a while, and my father has always told me that my mother was the only thing he has ever given up on. And I'll tell you.. he *never* gives up on anything or anyone.
I feel like you were talking right to me. I’m in the latter half of my 20’s and still facing some of these challenges. I have a MAJOR decision to make soon...and I am just praying God gives me the strength and courage to do it. I am really trying to get over the fear of failure. Because I realize, if you don’t try, you’ve already failed.
StarPuppy, young lady you have hit so many great points within this part two. If I may add some additional information from those 20 years more than you guys (It will be a bit long. Sorry). 1:49, I would like to add that this is the transition. We are all supposed to go through levels. No matter how painful it may be (Unfortunately). Society teaches us from Kindergarten to work as a group. High school is narrowed down to cliques. College is starting individuality. I'm telling you to keep that part that makes you unique. Hold it like a snow globe and do not let that part go astray because of these major changes. These changes are to build your character and to learn lessons. 2:42, people are characters in a book. Some are primary, secondary and non-existent. We as people (for the most part) like to attach to people, places, and things. Not everyone is meant to be the primary characters. Some are to help us through something. Others we are supposed to assist. Some are to stand by us through it all (Most rare). Also, some will make us learn HARD damn lessons (Listen to your gut and you can avoid a lot of this area). That is okay my lovebugs. Life is supposed to do this. Remember, some may not pass chapter one and that is okay. 2:59, I do feel bad for this generation. Truth be told this issue has always been around, but like explained already this is the first time of being connected to some many at one time. I wished I had listened but dating is for you to figure out what you like and dislike from another person for intimate means. Create what I call your diamond (Emotionally, Mentally, Spiritually - Whatever that may be, and physically). What is your top, so so and bottom? Initial dating you are meeting the "Representative" the associate of the best points of that person. You are the detective. You have the right to be that way and so does he/she. Remember!!!! You can't change someone. They have to want to change themselves...on their own! (Visa Versa). You are learning to add someone to your kingdom. Not fix, hurt or conquer. The same that he/she to you. Let me stop, this is long enough.
Wow!! I'm here in a ball of tears. I'm 20 and life has been so rough lately and I felt absolutely hopeless and weak. Your words of affirmation towards the end really got me feeling better already! Thank you for this!
"dont let your loneliness turn into isolation" felt like a personal attack omg. But seriously so glad I saw this video today. I turned 20 a couple months ago and i've been going through a lot mentally & this really helped & was what i needed to hear. 💓
I just turned 20 this feb 14th and I am having such a hard time... Girl, I gotta say, I absolutely cannot believe you don't have more subscribers. The honesty, the feeling with which you talk, it's like talking to a close friend looking you directly in the eye. Thank you so much for your great advice, keep doing your thing
SIS I NEEDED ALL THESE WORDS SPOKEN TO ME WHEN I WAS A 16 YEARS OLD GAY BOY GROWING UP. THIS IS SERIOUSLY LIFE ADVICE, NOT JUST FOR PEOPLE IN THEIR 20s.
(I'm from germany) I'll be 29 in June. I'm listen to your video and it soothes me a lot. I'm still struggling with myself and my life... 8:21 till 9:07 really hit me hard. :'( I really want to run away from myself and that for years. But i think, i will make it. Because i hear your words and after a long fall, your kind words catched me up. Edit: At the end, when you speak about failure, i did cry, but it was so relieving to me. Thanks.
Thank you so much for this. I'm going through a horrible break up at the moment (5 years) and needed to hear a lot of this. This video actually helped me more than other "how to get over your ex" advice I've seen.
"our culture treats having a significant other like success like you found someone who loves you and thats what makes you worth something" *ouch*
I won’t agree that its success but it makes a major difference when you do have a significant other....you are stress free more happier and it makes life easier, I am married I have been with him for 3 years I’m happy
@@destinyAlvarez1
I felt this
I was single up until about a year ago, and while I was happy by myself, him coming into my Life heightened my happiness. Now we're engaged and working towards a Life together.
TRUTH. JESUS I NEEDED TO HEAR THAT. that was a word.
Destiny Coleman this literally makes no sense cuz I don’t really know why you brought it up.
@@weareallinthis3668 yeah
"Don't let your loneliness turn into isolation" that HIT ME. You are such a beautiful human being, thank you so much. I needed that.
“You don’ have control over your feelings, but you have control over how much space you give them.”
Me to myself under the shower today
Great way of thought. Completely true!!
how... exactly... do you do that
asking for a friend
A shower is not a lot of space. Well done!
"your responsibilieties won't go away even if you try to ignore them"
guilty as charged
😭😭😭😭
Yesss
“You are not replaceable”
Indeed!! It's facts ❤
It’s the truth
Amen✨😍
Why is no one commenting about how drop dead GORGEOUS she is?! 😍
It is a crime.....how can she be this beautiful
It's probably all the important stuff she is saying distracting them
Yea she's Beautiful!!!😍
Yeah she is very beautiful
Im new to her channel..and i did mention it a few times on her videos. i think everyone sees how stunning she is
Anybody else start crying when she said “You failing doesn’t mean you are a failure.” No, just me, ok. 😭😭😭 💕💕
Not just you, my dear. It hit me too
Bella E.B. No girl I’m crying over my dinner rn 😂😂
REAL TEARS STARTED RUNNING DOWN MY FACE AT THAT POINT OMG! Oh, and also have goosebumps throughout this whole video wow
Reading this made me cry
I totally fucking cried
YESS biggest thing i've learned in the last two years is that if someone really wants you like they truly want to be with you they will make it known, don't hang around for someone who still has doubt in their mind because it is waaay too painful to be an option to someone when they are your only option in your mind
I second that wholeheartedly 🖤
2:17 "If you weren't there, someone's world would crumble" this line hit me hard, beautifully said...
Edit: 8:23 "Our culture...treats having a significant other like success, like you found someone who loves you and that's what makes you worth something. But that's not how any of that works, don't fall for that it's a trap. You are good enough, you are whole, you are spectacular all by yourself." THIS LINE HITS ME HARDERRRR
Saaame she is talking gold 😂😂😭
"Big hearts have the most potential to be scarred because of the surface area"
How this girl managed to get me to laugh and cry at the same time damn
On a real note though, I really wish we could be friends. You seem really level headed, real (and a weirdo like me :D) and I feel like thats so rare when going into the world. Too bad I live on a different continent :(
Lin Wong awww
I’m 21. I’ll be 22 in August and sometimes I wish I had a time machine so I could transport back to high school and do things differently. The other day I had a mental breakdown and cried to my mom about how I felt like I hadn’t done anything yet...but she reassured me and comforted she said “you’re 21, mi amor. You still have time. You’re in school, you’re working. You can do it!”
Omg same :(
Girl! Literally... ME TOO!
I can't believe that i mean just the same thing happened to me
I feel the same way! I'm turning 21 in March and in school and sometimes feel down because I feel I haven't "done enough." But you can do it. Often we forget that you're 20's are still reaaaaalllly young.
sym aww Mami, don’t cry! Never dwell on what your friends have and what you don’t have. Focus on what you really want to do and work hard because nothing in life is ever given or offered. And if you change your mind, that’s okay! My step-mother became a teacher in her 50s after realizing education/teaching was the field she was really interested in. You have done something special already! You completed school and now you’re in the position of life where you can make your own decisions (education, relationships, occupation). You can do it! Don’t be scared. ❤️🦋
also can I just mention that your skin is so beautiful and flawless wow
I'm in my 30's and I guess I really needed to hear all this stuff today :(
Ok I say twenties in these vids but HONESTLY me and my friends in their 30’s have these conversations on the REGULAR.
There are people in various age groups who need to hear this.
@@TheStarPuppy youre 30 ????
@@Emmiiii267 I Know.... Black Girl Magic Yall!
I'm 32 and i can still relate
“You deserve a crown not a bandaid.” Thank you.
"You are either trying to use someone to heal yourself, or distract yourself, or make yourself feel like you like something because someone else likes you. Or you are already self sufficient by yourself. You deserve a crown now a bandaid." Ok so you really didn't have to attack me like that😭😭 but omg I'm bout to cry why are you so deep.
It's me too😭😭😭
Embrace your prudness. Do not let someone talk you into things you may regret. You are the one who has to live with the consequences. I just love your insights. Smart.
I just turned 21 and oh my gosh, so much has happened and changed the way I look at life. It’s so beautiful and comforting to know that others go through this transition as well. I’ve learned in the hard times it shapes you into being the person you were meant to be. You have such a kind soul, thank you for sharing your experience and opinion. ❤️
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BLACKGIRL GALAXY lol girl same. God’s already molded me so much but I still have a lot to learn
Enane it’s a whole process girl !! Lol
I saw the first Video a week ago and turned 20 on tuesday, it's like she wants to warn me real hard :D
natsu dragneel believe her lol !!
"if u aint casual u aint casual" gotta remember that!!!! thank you!!!!!
you and your reasoning are beautiful! thank you!
I'm almost 25 and yet I still feel like a teen, I'm not totally ready for every responsibility that's coming to my life and i'm scared.
I still feel like I’m 9-13 like wow
I like how you said music is an emotional lubricant, I had to stop listening so much to people like Lana Del Rey...I was getting way too into my depression through her. You really hit the nail on the head about that
LANAAAAAA I forgot about her!! yup, NOPE. Exiled from my ears in low periods
Hahah same 😂
The ending has me tearing up because I've failed more than anyone I know. But this week, has felt like a new beginning, a new me, and im blessed to watch your videos. Im 22 and its been a rollercoaster. Thx 💛
i love that you mentioned the monogamous thing i’ve tried so hard to be what someone else wants and i just had to realize it wasn’t for me
Yeeeeeah I can RELATE. glad you came to your own conclusion about how you want to conduct yourself though. That’s so important, proud of you ❤️
I do feel lonely very often. Loneliness is something we humans have to learn to live with. U have to get used to being happy, comfortable, and positive while being lonely. It’s pure practice like most things in this world. Once u know how to live and be happy by yourself, that’s when loneliness isn’t ur enemy but ur partner. Then you proceed to look for partnership. But you gotta learn how to love yourself first. Be happy and lonely first. I do hope I helped any today.
Too much loneliness hinders you from growth and opportunities. Everything must be done in moderation so we must FIND SOMETHING TO DO
Imma need ya agent or whoever to plan a DAMN TEDx Talk this is a perfect topic for that platform.
Facts is all you speak! I’m here for it!
Finally someone who understands the root of the chronic heartbreak that our generation suffers from. I see it all around: millenials giving their hearts and their worth to everyone and everything and becoming bitter and it's so extremely sad. I really hope that this generation will grow and heal and pass the wisdom on that they got from the hurt.
People, you are beautiful and precious and God loves you. I sincerely believe that and i believe that this generation needs to hear and know that.
Even now more than ever.
Had to pause this cause homegirl really got me cryin in the dining hall rn i gotta leave brb
Edit: This hit home way harder that I expected it to...as soon as you said “You failing does not make you a failure”, I started to cry. Failure is one of my biggest fears yet I’m so quick to give up when -shit- things go wrong.
I’m in a loss for words...you have absolutely *NO* idea how much you helped me tonight. Thank you, Danielle. So so much.
Also! If you’re reading this (hi if u are
❤️😭❤️ giiiiirliiiieee you just took me back to my lowkey crying in the dining hall dayyyys.... you’re seriously not alone.
Edit: and hey!! Don’t you let fear hold you back! Chase your dreams while scared as heck! Oooooh yup, I’m doing a video on fear too
Today’s my birthday, I never been so scared in my life.. 20 years old this video helped me realize that I need to embrace my inner anime and stop allowing toxic people in my life..
In my late 30's, still needed this sweetie. Thanks for sharing your heart.
TH-cam been snitching on me! 19 years old and anxious and they decided to throw you into my recommended.
Good job YT. SUBBED
Thank You For Making Me Feel Like I'm Not Alone! Currently, 23 GOING THROUGH IT ALL!!!!
Same here, 23 going through a lot, trying to keep up... scared as fuck but, don't give up, right?
Same! 😭 24 next month and I don't wanna enter 24 so depressed. 😔
About to be 23 in 2 weeks, confused and feeling so stuck. Literally don't know what to do with my life but live?! Idk. But at least I'm not alone. I also refuse to give up 😪
bruh especially going to college on top of it when most of your friends are already done
omg I'm 23 as well going to be 24 in 3 months and I'm scared, I feel like I'm getting older and not progressing where I want to be in life :'(
I don't think I've ever been so content just to stare at someone while they shower me with positive thoughts. She's great at this. Never stop making content, please.
She highlighted my comment y'all. I made it to the big leagues.
I want to thank my mom, all those who supported my journey XD
The crown and bandage analogy helped me so much 🙏🏼
I’m 24 and I don’t know how to feel about anything anymore 🙃😭
I have the same age and yes for me, sometimes is so fucking difficult but it is cause i have to decide and choose what things want, what experiences i want to live, and at the time i have to affront my historie, and learn of my bad experiences. So each day , if i have a good day i know that is so great but if i have a day a roaf day i say to my self : is just a day, a bad day. The rest is see that all what you live, see, and experimented is becoming a new part of yourself so you are seeing more, and the best is act, and sometimes we have to do things that are awkward for learn and theres when joy , happy, good fellas appear. Also sometimes i feel like : what im going to do?!! Or what im doing? But is normal.
I dont know very well how to express in english but i want to helpyou.
Im 23 going on 24 and my life is not where i want it to be its going very slow towards my goals i need it to go faster before I hit 30 i hate this
Same...
R Vargas i just turned 24 the feeling is mutual
I'm halfway through the vid and I had to stop and scroll down real quick to tell you that you're the real deal girl like you're keeping it real and the things you say are so genuine and wise and ahh I really, really need this rn. part 1 was already a treat and now this?? thanks so much xx
also YES to the dating experience video idea. :)
I'm in my 30's and almost 40, and I agree it's so important to learn this. Still, I have to add, that with age comes more confidences and knowledge of what you want, so that does make some things easier, but feelings things don't really change much, especially towards being single.
I'm not saying, it's horrible to be single in your 30's, just that the only things that gets better is your unwillingness to take crap from people and not sweating small stuff. If one guy doesn't call me back, I'm cool, if I meet a guy and it's clear he's not liking my personality, I not going try to be different. I like me and that's good. But, after the 6th, 15th guy rejects you or you reject him, those deep feelings do set in.
Also, I believe in love and finding the right person, I'm just now at the age when, I realize, a life partner isn't a given. And, I'm not trying to be a downer, just real. When I was younger, I thought people that never marry or live alone, did that by choice. And, though I have it stories of people getting married for the first time and finding the love of their life after 60 or even at 80 were cute. I have realize, that means, they had to be single for a lot of their life to not have been in love until later in life. And, that's not always by choice, it's just how things work out and it's out of your control.
The fact is, you can be a good person, love yourself, be ready for love, want love, want to find a partner and it just hasn't happen for you or when it does you can be lot older than what you think you will be, and that's okay. The idea, that if you stick to your guns and someone will find you, just isn't true for everyone. Again, I'm not jaded, nor have I given up on love. But I am almost 40, never been married, with my life together, I love myself, I respect myself, I'm not a negative person or controlling or bossy or crazy, and I've been single a very long time. I have dated, I have had fun, I have looked for a relationship, I've been honest, I have met nice guys, I have met not so nice guys. According to everyone I know and work with, they don't know why I'm single. I don't know either. But because of this, I know that it's not a simple as someday my unicorn will find me or me him or everyone gets love. That might still happen, but the reality is that I might be 45, 50, 60, or even 80 when it happens and that's not something people tell you, but it's a possibility and it doesn't mean you are unworthy of love or like she said, aren't successful in life, it just means your time table is different.
Perfectly said 👏
At 41🙌🏾
@@tymikkademming3733 , good for you! I'm currenting with someone I met a few months after I wrote that. You just have to keep going.
I'm 19 and this is the real talk I need - thank you my felo wirdo ✌🏼
Same. A few more months and I'll be twenty so I'm definitely listening to this advice
Same though bro
*e* all I'm gonna hint tehe, blessings.
"If you weren't there someone's world would crumble" wow that was beautiful!!!!
Girl, you're so right! I have an SO and we still have our own separate development paths left ahead of us. Being in a relationship as an incomplete person just means that you'll have to deal with both of your damages while trying to stay together. And in some cases that's harder than doing it alone. But coming into a relationship as a whole fresh person... that's the most single-handedly awesome thing you can do for another person! P.S. I'm so grateful to The Gazette. If I wasn't able to scream Japanese death vocals at my problems... well... I'd have a lot of DIFFERENT problems!
Yaaaaaas speak that truth!!!
The hardest thing is when your parents and people are being hard on you when all you’re trying to do is figure things out for yourself and simply growing up
I'm in my 20's and I am single I won't start seeking a relationship until I finish nursing school in my experience if you enter a relationship with not much to offer it will only lead to constant arguing about finances and other things
I'm turning 18 this April but truth af man
"Our culture treats having a significant other like success like you found someone who loves you and that's what makes you worth something." Damn, that really hit close to home. I started getting very insecure about being in a relationship since the age of 12. But I didn't want one for the right reasons - caring for and sharing experiences with someone. I wanted one because I felt like I was being judged for not being in a relationship like my peers, I feel like I was less worthy as a person because I wasn't experiencing those milestones that my friends/classmates were having. I felt ugly and unloved despite having a loving family and great friends. I still haven't been in a relationship, 22 turning 23 this year. And I have just recently grasped that I should focus on myself, love myself and be a better person, it's a tough journey and I know I will still have rough times were I fall back into that negative thinking, but I have to learn to love and accept me. Because at the end of the day, the person I will be guaranteed to spend the rest of my life with is me, so I better start liking myself.
Girl I get you when you say Digimon makes you cry. When I think of things from my childhood that nobody else is around to remember with me, or nobody is left to remember with me. Those are the moments that GET ME!
Jordan Sparks DIGIMON THEME TUNE WAS MY CHILDHOOD.
Honestly I needed to see this right now. I'm 21 just lost my job and everything feels like it's going wrong. Like i'm sorry but I did cry.
Haruka Nanase how are things now 5 months later?
Yeah , im sure you got a much better job , or something that at least pay the bills
Really needed this I'm turning 20 in a few hours 😁
Bene J HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🥳
Happy birthday!
Happy bday!!
Happy birthday! I got a couple more weeks
Thanks 💜
I usually don’t comment on people’s channels but yours has made me cry. It’s like you knew me personally and were speaking to my depression, unhappiness , isolation and my being scared for the future. Thank you for this. You should totally be a life coach because i swear I could feel the confidence coming back again. Thank you. 😊😊😊
I want you to know that God used you to speak truth into my life with the failure bit. im in my last semester of nursing school, and I've failed my last two nursing exams despite my very best efforts, and the exhaustion and disappointment has been hitting me so hard. so thank you for the reminder. made my day a little brighter❤
I really love how she's just doing her hair and filming at the same time. It feels very warm, genuine and intimate.❤
I liked it even before playing it coz I know am in for a treat
HA same
Me too new addiction lol.
EX👏AC👏TL👏Y!👏
right, that intro be having me hype
also Danielle: "GO SEE YOUR FRIENDS !!!!"
my introvert 21 yo self: "NOOO MY SOCIAL ENERGY IS TOO LOW"
My introvert 18yr old self : i dont have any 😐😔
@@eyitsyaboi4527 may give a piece of advice ? been there done that
u should try to get out there a little bit ! even if you don’t see them as often, at least have 2 or 3 person that are trustworthy with whom you can talk to
it will help better your social skills and have a confident
if they’re also an introvert, that would be good you’ll feel understood and not alone
@@shawtylotty thank you i appreciate the advice
Ahahahahaha time to square up. 😭😭
Bri Douglas that’s really a mood
I just turned 20 two months ago, I AM NOT OKAY. Quarter life crisisses are indeed REAAALL REAL. Thank you for these videos 💙
Please do a video as dating as an empath, I'm currently dating this dude for a few months now and I LITERALLY FEEL INSANE by how much I feel about him and even while talking to friends about it I often feel like I'm the only one who feels so much so quickly in my friend group.
lol it feels like you feel everything twice as much
@@awannabesailormoon2234 exactly lol, and it's definitely not intentional
I feeeel you and I gooootcha
@@TheStarPuppy 😭😭💕💕 thank youuu!!
I’m currently the same about my partner I mean we’ve only been dating for 3 months, and I feel so strongly about him but the job he has can be very demanding, and it took so long to actually make it official because of his job.. All my friends say that I should take it slow, but I only ever see myself with him and nobody else.
I'm recovering from this situation (4:59) where I wanted something to work out and it didn't as the other person didn't. Would definitely have been better to move on earlier and not waste so much timeeeeeee
But you still learned things through that experience, right? Don't think of it so much as a regret and try to think "well, it happened and I can't turn back time, but now I've learned and taken something from the experience" It can help the future you :) Not that that's easy to fully believe and not just give into the regret and frustration completely...but it's a mindset I'm personally trying to keep and it is quite healing.
Between The Lines sameee, it’s hard. But fack it, we’re going to be all right anyhow fortunately
Girl found you from your last 20s video and you are so on point! I’m nearly 25 and I’m totally with you on everything you’ve said :). Love from England!
I needed this. I’ve been going through the most painful, confusing, just indescribable time in my life these last 4 months. It hurts, I feel lost, I feel alone. This comforted me, reassured me, told me to get it together & that I CAN get it together ... all in a kind & understanding manner. You’re beautiful inside and out! Thank you, thank you!
Going 22 yo in a couple of months, I discovered your channel with part 1. And I fell in love with your personnality. I really want to thank you for your amazing videos, and for being you. Your works lightened my days at a time I was feeling pretty low.
So thanks thanks thanks and love, from France
Thank u, just thank u. This makes so much sense. It’s weird that we don’t have that person who tells us “you’re 20’s will be tough, filled with failures you think you wouldn’t encounter but they are meaningful and essential to your success” and also about the poisonous comparison thoughts and habits of our generation. Thank you for being that person. I’m turning 20 this year, but I feel all this and have these sentiments, particularly the thought that I’m no longer a kid; I can’t be a kid again.
KEEP DOING THESE PLS💫💞 they help a lot
Hi, I’m 18 and I’ve been struggling for a while. By a while I mean my whole life. My whole life I’ve felt like a failure, like every decision made by me was wrong, like every word I said was incorrect, insignificant. Thank you. You’ve helped me ignite myself. From the bottom of my heart, Thank you, truly.
I'm so happy TH-cam finally recommended right🙌🙌 been watching ur videos for 2 weeks😊u really brighten up my day ❤️❤️ All love from Portugal 🇵🇹❤️
I’m from Portugal too find her part 1 video and imideately subscriver her Chanel 🇵🇹
I really love the fact that you spoke about being self-sufficient and someone else on that level will come along. I agree you about how society glorifies having a significant other as success, as if you on your own is not enough. I'm currently working on fully loving and accepting myself and it's not easy, but I know it's worth it.
You're absolutely gorgeous by the way.
Where was this when I was in my twenties! STAR PUPPY AWAAAAAY!!!!
Bro you dropped SO many gems in this video like...😱😱😱
You will also learn friends will expect so much from you but none from themselves because friendship only works with 1 person.
I really needed to hear this. I’m an empath and always end up giving my love to people who don’t know what they want. I just spent nine months in a relationship where this person still didn’t even truly know what it is they wanted.
This is really deep 😞
I genuinely did not think anyone else struggled with their twenties besides myself and my best friend. Thank you, I feel seen.
I turn 20 tomorrow and desperately needed this! Especially the isolation part. Thank you!
"you failing doesn't make you a failure. The only way you will be a failure is if you fail yourself by not trying again. Don't give up" I'm sorry, Danielle, but this really made me cry (a relief kind of cry). Thank you for the real talk, I really appreciate it.
What’s Up by 4 Non Blondes has been my 20s anthem
Thank you Starpuppy for the most needed message/advice.
Emily Carlson One of my favorite songs to play when I feel like I’m losing my mind lol
Why is she so pretty😭😭😭 such good genes she’s so lucky
Literally turned 24 today (a Pisces with all the feels, lucky me) and let me tell you, literally experienced all these emotions. Thank you for putting these thoughts and feelings, which I thought only I felt, into words of pure wisdom. This brought me so much comfort.
TH-cam has recommended me this video (actually the first one but i've came here after that one) and I assume my FBI agent found out that I'm struggling so much that they recommend me this in the perfect moment of my life.
I needed this words. I've cried all that 22 minutes and I just wanted to thank you
This was a WORDDDDD!!! 😭😭😭 OMG I went through all of that! This vid was high key nostalgic lol! It's sooo important to know about these things growing up! I'm so proud of you and who you've become! Keep growing, keep learning, and keep moving within yourself! YOU got this too, Danielle! Never forget that 😊!
Sidenote: 1) Last week you were 47K subscribers and today I see 60K! YOU BETTA GO GIRLLL!!! 😍😘😁
"Don't rely on social media to fill the void of your loneliness" I came to TH-cam to fill the void of my loneliness and I did not expect to be called out for it like that, you've given me a very difficult task at 3 am.
OMG dating as an Empath is totally needed.
I'm soon gonna be 21 and I've never imagined how bad I needed to hear what you said. 20s are so damn hard and I'm so glad I've found such a strong and smart woman that don't even know me but somehow I feel like you're talking to me and telling me that I can do it
That talk about isolation tho, is really what I needed to hear, cause I've completely shut myself out.
I really enjoy your talks. Thank you for the positive words and advice 😊😊!
why havent i found a friend like you, omg 😭💞
You can be a friend like her to someone else
Im sitting in a restaurant while watching this and i am trying my hardest not to burst into tears like i did on the last video
NoooOoOoOooOooo I specifically hoped I wouldn’t make anyone cryyyy
19:34 "You failing doesn't make you a failure." Damn, that hit me hard.
Danielle, you are a light my friend.
Lol I bought kingdom hearts too and also feel sad about the childlike mindset I still have. I have a fiancé but I still think anime boys are cute...bittersweet right!?
Anyways, the hardest thing about being 25 is I feel in the middle. I still like doing late teen early 20s activities but it’s starting to dawn that I’m no longer that young.
Another thing that’s hard is learning that no matter how nice and hardworking you are...you’re not going to please everyone. There are people who will hate, stereotype, and look down on you. Being a black woman, I feel as though I have to prove myself so much more than others. Another thing is the self image. I love being natural but people are only associating our hair with the looser lectures...and it bothers me. There’s just so much more I pay attention to now than I used to.
We will get through this and I’m so glad you care to talk about it. Take care and god bless ♥️
"Another person can't fix you. That's not their job." (7:22). Damn. I can relate to this so much... well, kinda. It just made me think about how my parents have been divorced for a while, and my father has always told me that my mother was the only thing he has ever given up on. And I'll tell you.. he *never* gives up on anything or anyone.
I feel like you were talking right to me. I’m in the latter half of my 20’s and still facing some of these challenges. I have a MAJOR decision to make soon...and I am just praying God gives me the strength and courage to do it.
I am really trying to get over the fear of failure. Because I realize, if you don’t try, you’ve already failed.
I feel that no matter how much someone tries to warn you you have to learn for yourself most of the time.
StarPuppy, young lady you have hit so many great points within this part two. If I may add some additional information from those 20 years more than you guys (It will be a bit long. Sorry). 1:49, I would like to add that this is the transition. We are all supposed to go through levels. No matter how painful it may be (Unfortunately). Society teaches us from Kindergarten to work as a group. High school is narrowed down to cliques. College is starting individuality. I'm telling you to keep that part that makes you unique. Hold it like a snow globe and do not let that part go astray because of these major changes. These changes are to build your character and to learn lessons. 2:42, people are characters in a book. Some are primary, secondary and non-existent. We as people (for the most part) like to attach to people, places, and things. Not everyone is meant to be the primary characters. Some are to help us through something. Others we are supposed to assist. Some are to stand by us through it all (Most rare). Also, some will make us learn HARD damn lessons (Listen to your gut and you can avoid a lot of this area). That is okay my lovebugs. Life is supposed to do this. Remember, some may not pass chapter one and that is okay. 2:59, I do feel bad for this generation. Truth be told this issue has always been around, but like explained already this is the first time of being connected to some many at one time. I wished I had listened but dating is for you to figure out what you like and dislike from another person for intimate means. Create what I call your diamond (Emotionally, Mentally, Spiritually - Whatever that may be, and physically). What is your top, so so and bottom? Initial dating you are meeting the "Representative" the associate of the best points of that person. You are the detective. You have the right to be that way and so does he/she. Remember!!!! You can't change someone. They have to want to change themselves...on their own! (Visa Versa). You are learning to add someone to your kingdom. Not fix, hurt or conquer. The same that he/she to you. Let me stop, this is long enough.
Wow!! I'm here in a ball of tears. I'm 20 and life has been so rough lately and I felt absolutely hopeless and weak. Your words of affirmation towards the end really got me feeling better already! Thank you for this!
"dont let your loneliness turn into isolation" felt like a personal attack omg. But seriously so glad I saw this video today. I turned 20 a couple months ago and i've been going through a lot mentally & this really helped & was what i needed to hear. 💓
OMG the isolate yourself part is SOOO ON POINT >>>> I actually value hanging out w/ friends more now b/c im always at home all the time
You're the sister I always wished for. Thank you for this.
Thank you for the intentions. I am a pit of despair that needs to hold on until I succeed. Ppl like you bring me back my strength for short bursts.
You're just in time for "toilet time" at work! 😄
Lmaoooooo
Hey it’s Cheese from FHFIF!!
I just turned 20 this feb 14th and I am having such a hard time... Girl, I gotta say, I absolutely cannot believe you don't have more subscribers. The honesty, the feeling with which you talk, it's like talking to a close friend looking you directly in the eye. Thank you so much for your great advice, keep doing your thing
Yes! Another person can't fix you. YOU are YOUR responsibility. #FixYourself
SIS I NEEDED ALL THESE WORDS SPOKEN TO ME WHEN I WAS A 16 YEARS OLD GAY BOY GROWING UP. THIS IS SERIOUSLY LIFE ADVICE, NOT JUST FOR PEOPLE IN THEIR 20s.
Thank you so much for this ❤️ I just turned 22 and needed to hear everything in this, thank you!!
Happy belated birthday. I'm turning 22 on Monday.
(I'm from germany) I'll be 29 in June. I'm listen to your video and it soothes me a lot. I'm still struggling with myself and my life... 8:21 till 9:07 really hit me hard. :'( I really want to run away from myself and that for years. But i think, i will make it. Because i hear your words and after a long fall, your kind words catched me up. Edit: At the end, when you speak about failure, i did cry, but it was so relieving to me. Thanks.
Glückskatze yaaay endlich jemand aus deutschland :D ganz viel liebe an dich ❤️
@@aylevye Ich danke dir!
"Don't spiral because of John Mayer" I felt that😂
Thank you so much for this. I'm going through a horrible break up at the moment (5 years) and needed to hear a lot of this. This video actually helped me more than other "how to get over your ex" advice I've seen.