“When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. Then he says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order. Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first.” Matthew 12 : 43-45
And when they return they will attempt to impress us with unbelievable acts in order to “try” and win us back but they just can’t.... they’ve been exposed. Just stand back and watch the show... it’s pretty pathetic...
Criminals always return to scene of the crime . After time passes, narcissist realizes how good things were when they had you and they do the compare game . They look at their life and if they don’t have a supply, or tired of what they have , and you cut them off....they’ll want you back or test you to see what they can get away with . Narcissist are incapable of change so it’s best to just grey rock them and walk away
Narcissists reidolize because once they see that you’ve healed, they sense the fresh potential supply they can suck further from you. And it pains them because they realize that they no longer have access to that because now you’ve grown and became wiser and you’ve saved your love for someone who is truly worthy of it. Someone who can receive and return that love out of selflessness.
They often try to say “we can still be friends”. They try to collect exes as friends if they can so they don’t feel like the bad guy/girl. Also to see if they can try to get back in with you at a later date. If you don’t want to remain friends then they say you’re “bitter”. Smh
Does these people ever feel unworthy - going from source to source - laying naked in 10-50 different beds. I Would die in silede if i lived that life. This is so disgusting. I almost feel sorry for Them. Instead of having a Nice family life they run from bed to bed trowing their clothes of to all 🤮🤮🤮🤮.... what a sad and poor life.
Never backpedal....No sequels, No Part 2's and definitely No second time arounds. Done is Done!.. Not everything you lose is a lost... I haven't regretted that decision since I made it. Stay Gone!
Because that greener grass was not so green after all and the miss the supply you gave them... remember the grass will always be greener everywhere else because the narc has not drained it all of its nutrients. If you ever go back it will be cool for a minute then the narc will say oh look green grass over there ugh
My ex narc ducks and hides from me lolol. I call him a narc and expose him everytime i see him. No one told me but i tell everyone. They are afraid of people when they know that they know.. Bye narc
Narcs will do and say the most irrational and irresponsible things. And when they know they have screwed up, they will try to compensate by doing and saying EVEN MORE irrational and irresponsible things!
It is scary, I truly didn’t know. Ignored all the red flags and I didn’t understand why my health was failing. My body was literally screaming get out but I was stuck in the fantasy painted by the narcissist. I’m grateful for being discarded I would have never been able to leave on my own. Now to detox my mind and overcome the “addiction”.
The narc will diminish your character and value to their new supply…until…everything goes south with them at which point they completely change their tune about you and let the defunct supply know how beautiful and awesome you really were. Masters of playing both sides!
...because they were unable to completely destroy you the first time. BUT... if you did the work in-between then and when they try to come back... learning about narcissism and those things in YOU that made you attracted/attractive to the narc and got help to fix THOSE things? They will never be able to occupy your orbit ever again. Period. Thanks Quinn!
OMG...IM THE 2ND EX WIFE.. NOW ALL OF A SUDDEN, THE FIRST EX WIFE (DECEASED) WAS HIS BEST FRIEND, SOULMATE ETC.,..LAUGHABLE! AND NOW SHACKING WITH AN OLD SUPPLY ...AFTER NEW SUPPLY THAT I WAS TRIANGULATED WITH DUMPED HIM.....SMH THEY ARE NOT HUMAN
This is so true. My ex narc left me and our then 5month old for a hideous creature that lives in the projects with somebody. I was so confused because we differ in looks completely. I also have my own house, car and am financially set. I was so confused but then it hit me, its a control thing and he definitely doesn't have a type. I should have known because all his exes were the same in every aspect. First and last narc for me, I have never seen anything like it!
Im happy for the discard, because it has helped me to save myself. I'm, happy, loving life,could care less,about them. I'm smart, educated, loving, trusting, confident, passionate, enthusiastic, etc. IT WAS A BLESSING FOR ME, THANK GOD, FOR EVERY GOOD THING IN MY LIFE TODAY 💃💃💃✌
You are so on point about them having to completely devaluate and find fault with the old supply in order to justify obtaining new supply. The polarities. Very immature, black and white thinking. This is part of what makes them relationship-incompetent. Thank you Quinn.
They reidolize you to come back and completely obliterate you. They see you're still standing so they want to pull the rug out from under you all over again.
Mine committed suicide 3 weeks ago 1.7 years of “ no babe, you can’t come back” Hung up 20 minutes later - boom haunted from the grave is worse I believe
They are so full of deceit and lies. Please don't look or go back once you've left the narcissist. I'm so glad that I'm no longer in a abusive relationship with him anymore
The former narcissist friend of mine has come full circle. I confronted him about his behavior and he turned on me in a second and said I was crazy, I was stalking him, I was obsessed, he was afraid of me (because I confronted him with screenshotted proof of his lies and deceptions). So I said fine, I'm done with your B.S. anyway, never contact me again. 3 years after going total no contact and he started randomly messaging me on apps and with new email addresses trying to initiate a conversation, with messages titled "I hope you've been well" and "I've been concerned about you". Why? I thought I was this horrible unstable obsessed stalker that he was afraid of? One would think he'd be happy to be rid of me? Why do anything to attract the attention of such a person? Why even care how they've been? Obviously he's looking for an in, he wants something from me now. I would have thought my never responding to him would let him know I'm not interested in any further contact. But every few months, I get another message and I delete it without reading it.
First time I listened to you in a long time Quinn have been nark free now for 2 years and took me about 4 or 5 months to heal and you was amazing on my recovery. Am so good at picking them up now I can spot them with in 5 mins and even in there texts. My one even tries to get back to me by emailing me still after 2 years. Never replied to any. Keep up the good work.
Plus it depends on the Narc age....they're unable to please 2 supplies at the same time unless they (supplies) agree to wait in line for attention time resources etc
It's definitely not about looks with the new supply, it is simply that this person is tolerant, naive almost, they're not asking as many questions...someone they can control.
Devaluation took place through actions instead of words in my situationship with my Cluster B narcissist. 10 years wasted. The primary source is the one who exposed the fact there is a new source...It’s been a few months and and I am regaining my peace of mind, but I know he will return...but the situation is completely toxic and I deserve much better
ONE MINUTE, YOUR WITH US,AND THE NEXT MINUTE YOUR GONE!! AND WE DON'T KNOW WHEN YOUR COMING BACK, SOOOOOO FUNNY, BUT 100%REAL. SO GLAD,I'VE MOVED ON,SUCH A SHAME!!!!👍👍
Yeah man she thought the grass was greener! Meanwhile, I was watering my grass and it looks like a carpet, lol. She thought the grass was greener on the other side but found out it was artificial turf! Now she's hoovering me, assumed my mannerisms, dress (for real)in an attempt to lure me back. Even though she lives in a different country God allowed me to see her and the new supply. Man, talk about a comedown! I don't know if I hadn't seen this if I would be as resolute as I am. Anyway, I'm no contact forever! Bye Felicia 👋🏾
When I discarded him he accused me over and over of seeing me with another man. He even stalked me and attacked me saying I want this other dude. HE NEVER SAW ME WITH ANOTHER DUDE. His delusional, magical thinking forced him to believe that I left him for another man. That's the only way he could deduce why I left him. Not for any of his actions. That's scary...
Quite the contrast as you say indeed Quinn! Left me for a little girl (23 to his 47) he found online (FB/IG) who was the polar opposite of what he says he loves in a woman. Everything he harped on & hated...she is. I know confidently it will end badly between them both eventually & I’m sure to be idolized again at some point. He is one step away from being a Dateline story. No contact forever ✂️❌⚔️🔱🔱
Mine use to always use the phrase...: REAL EYES, REALIZE; REAL LIES; he’s an old pro...I use to wonder Y he also has a tattoo; that says “Who’s Next”....wow, right...imagine that; he is dedicated to it; like a sport of sorts 😞😔😔& I sadly got into that relationship after not being in one for over 8years; only truly still standing bcuz of God’s Grace (which he even tried to well did mock & abused me even in that)...
My annual narc check up.clean n free 3 years. But real talk this sh... is funny as hell..because if someone still stuck with these jokers. Side note they never ever change. I kept it moving from day 1. No more Hoover’s. Thank goodness.
At 13:45 of the video, I'm listening to what you are saying. You triggered me to go back to my IG and look at all of my accomplishments before and even after the narc. The biggest smile came across my face. They leave us with so much insecurity, self-doubt, and confusion that we forget who we really are. Even when I know I'm doing amazing things, I still have to remember to pat myself on the back. I always go back to your videos when I'm down. No matter what, God always leads me to the right one. Thank you
Omg he went on break so many times!!! And I spent my time running around in circles wondering what I could do to get him back, as if I were the one that was flawed. I feel so sad for that woman I was and feel so relieved I'm not in that same place today. It's like God shined His light on me when I started to learn about NPD. I was set free!
I NEVER thought I'd be thanking my bipolar ex-wife for anything, but here I am. Went monk-mode for 20 years, met someone I THOUGHT was worth a shot only to discover the wonders of covert narcissism. The damage my ex-wife caused me made me evolve into a "grey empath". I know most use the term "super empath" but I prefer grey, kind of like the grey Jedi in Star Wars. They've learned about the Dark side, can utilize those powers but CHOOSE not to. Yes, the devalue/discard from this narc hurt, BAD, but it didn't destroy me and I was able to "suck it up and drive on" as we said in the Army. She downgraded MASSIVELY with a guy who is my opposite in every way (magical thinking that the opposite thing will work) and in a few short months has jumped off the alcohol cliff and now lives in squalor and empty whiskey bottles. I just heard from a co-worker that she has already devalued and is in the discard phase with the new supply. Surprise surprise, she has been popping up around me, acting all bubbly and chatty, "coincidentally" coming around me at work and fishing for attention like she used to in the beginning. She broke her mom's heart, her mom and I had joked about calling each other "in-law" and she so badly wanted me to become a part of her world/family. I was the best "grade A supply" her daughter had ever had, I understand that woman better than even her mother (her words, not mine) so I KNOW she's coming back around. Do I still love her? Yes, I do. But like a grey Jedi, I UNDERSTAND her, and can turn to the Dark side enough to use her own evil against her. There is only one way I'd ever entertain anything other than casual indifference towards her, and it's the one thing she'll almost certainly never do: CHANGE!
Wheww More Truth Quinn 🔥 Trying to co parent with a sociopathic narc monster is a constant state of being devalued and reidolized. Never a focus on the kids, just you or themselves, miserable beings, who bring nothing but chaos, confusion and darkness. You all who don't have children/child with these demonic beings are Blessed Indeed..
Yo this definitely my ex narcissist ♉. He keeps creeping around while he thinks i am not aware he is up to the same shit. Almost a year of no contact you reach out still married and attached to multiple females past/present. I just keep laughing 😆 because he definitely lives in a false sense of reality where his behavior is not a big deal 😂
Quinn you are a boss, reality always sets in after a while with the Narcissist. The place they find themselves in is very disruptive to their delusional minds. So they ignore reality and bounce from supply to supply. When I saw his new supply it was a joke, he was very embarrassed when I sent him pictures he automatically denied her🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Probably one of the best I’ve heard. Reason ...I work with my N-ex ...I’ve ended up with everything ...after 2 years of facing him daily at our business. I’ve lived it, heard it, watch the whole new supply shit pan out. I’ve had therapy ...now onto life coaching (go me 💪) and he can see I’m not doom & gloom easily controlled ...I’m zoom & boom 💥 what a difference Please post more about what happens to the old source on re idealisation. Because ... when they’re bored ...they come back. Even after 2 years some of us need YOU to keep up strong and on the right path Best one you’ve done for me personally - respect ✊
I have researched narcissism for decades and you are literally one of the world's leading experts, your insights are so deep and accurate. I hope that your views and wisdom become known by as many people around the world as possible-- from children in schools to people in workplaces to individuals dealing with these people in their personal lives. Thank you so much for all you do and all you know.
My ex from 20 years ago popped up at my aunt's house as an attempt to find me. He left his number. I called him. He apologized to me. He was very abusive to me. Mostly physically, but there was some verbal, emotional, and mental abuse as well. Anyway I can tell that he is a big flirt. And I'm sure that he is in a relationship with someone else. Based off of the things that I have seen. Anyway he keep going on and on about him apologizing to me, and how I should forgive him. Lol. Smh. He keep bringing up how good I was to him in the past. So I know he is only consumed by all the things I did for him, and what I tolerated in the past. He idolizes that part of me. The broken person that I was when I was with him.
They cannot make up their minds about anything! So they stay somewhere in the middle, constantly back and forth through the grey area. Trying to get them to commit is like trying to catch a frog
God HATES the sin but Loves the sinner. But God will also let people reap what they sow. It is how things work. NOBODY gets away from evil. It may appear or seem like they did but trust me God is not mocked. They will get EVERYTHING back.
tell me why i felt IT was gon come back around🤣🤣 then it happened 36 weeks to the day, like u said Quinn. i was laughing the whole time, just observing they insanity. i saw the whole cycle within an hour of me reading his messages on snap & not replying. the lovebombing- devaluing... im still laughing thinking bout it🤣😭😂
Yeah, at this point I dont care about the excuses. A Narc is a Narc is a Narc, new game and words doesn't matter. I'm not about that life anymore. It's too late, I learned to love myself more.
This is so true and then eventually it might be to late for them to get back to reality and they lost their lives never to be seem again so said . Narcissism is so real and sad ending .
Amazing explanation of how a narcissist's brain is out of context with reality and how a narcissist's brain changes reality in relation to his fantasy world and in relation to his twisted perception of his partner, because he cannot handle reality and the truth about himself. THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤
The primary source thinks that she is the only one. She is either a narc herself. Or really thinks he is in love with her. When all he is doing is using her so that he will have someone to take care of him. He looks horrible but that is what she has allways been used to. Oh well she thinks she can fix him, good luck with that.😅
My narc is such a hypocrite. He used religion a lot acting like he was so good. He discards me and posts videos with strippers and music with a lot of foul language. I called him out on it and then he told me I need to find God and sends me a bunch of religious videos. LOL! Its so ridiculous I have to laugh about it.
They treat you nice when they want something from you.
“Every Narcissist has an expiration date”
“When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. Then he says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order. Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first.” Matthew 12 : 43-45
I think its because you started getting better after they are gone. They see you in a better/healthier state and want back in to destroy you again.
These narcs don’t quit because they know we got it going on!
Another thing they say is (I needed to find myself)GTFOH!!!!
And when they return they will attempt to impress us with unbelievable acts in order to “try” and win us back but they just can’t.... they’ve been exposed. Just stand back and watch the show... it’s pretty pathetic...
Criminals always return to scene of the crime . After time passes, narcissist realizes how good things were when they had you and they do the compare game . They look at their life and if they don’t have a supply, or tired of what they have , and you cut them off....they’ll want you back or test you to see what they can get away with . Narcissist are incapable of change so it’s best to just grey rock them and walk away
I don't want to be reidolized by the narcissist...life is better without her. Thank you Jesus...if I got 99 problems least the narc is not one!
Narcissists reidolize because once they see that you’ve healed, they sense the fresh potential supply they can suck further from you. And it pains them because they realize that they no longer have access to that because now you’ve grown and became wiser and you’ve saved your love for someone who is truly worthy of it. Someone who can receive and return that love out of selflessness.
😣 this disorder needs to be more publicized w real world examples
They often try to say “we can still be friends”. They try to collect exes as friends if they can so they don’t feel like the bad guy/girl. Also to see if they can try to get back in with you at a later date. If you don’t want to remain friends then they say you’re “bitter”. Smh
Does these people ever feel unworthy - going from source to source - laying naked in 10-50 different beds. I Would die in silede if i lived that life. This is so disgusting. I almost feel sorry for Them. Instead of having a Nice family life they run from bed to bed trowing their clothes of to all 🤮🤮🤮🤮.... what a sad and poor life.
Once you’ve levelled up they come drooling 💯....best revenge is a happier/ healthier life...and no contact forever and ever amen.
The realest channel on narcissism. Quinn is the truth. RESPECT!!
Never backpedal....No sequels, No Part 2's and definitely No second time arounds. Done is Done!.. Not everything you lose is a lost... I haven't regretted that decision since I made it. Stay Gone!
Because that greener grass was not so green after all and the miss the supply you gave them... remember the grass will always be greener everywhere else because the narc has not drained it all of its nutrients. If you ever go back it will be cool for a minute then the narc will say oh look green grass over there ugh
When you said guess what they brought with them".. I thought you were gonna say..STDs and babys!😆..
"Every narcissist has an expiration date..."
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My ex narc ducks and hides from me lolol. I call him a narc and expose him everytime i see him. No one told me but i tell everyone. They are afraid of people when they know that they know.. Bye narc
Narcs will do and say the most irrational and irresponsible things. And when they know they have screwed up, they will try to compensate by doing and saying EVEN MORE irrational and irresponsible things!
It is scary, I truly didn’t know. Ignored all the red flags and I didn’t understand why my health was failing. My body was literally screaming get out but I was stuck in the fantasy painted by the narcissist. I’m grateful for being discarded I would have never been able to leave on my own. Now to detox my mind and overcome the “addiction”.
Spot on! Do NOT BELIEVE THESE FEINDS!It its ONLY WORSE the “Next time”...
“Magical thinking” because “they can’t cope with reality, in the first place.” “They drift in and out of states of reality.” Wow. So real. Thank YOU.
They see but don't acknowledge our true soul and identity and they don't miss us on an emotional, heartfelt level at all.
The new source is just a temporary high they need to distract them from their wretched lives and lack of Essence (and you just said that)
No do overs for the narcs. Stay woke y’all! ♥️
The narc will diminish your character and value to their new supply…until…everything goes south with them at which point they completely change their tune about you and let the defunct supply know how beautiful and awesome you really were. Masters of playing both sides!
Pride comes before a fall and humility comes before victory
...because they were unable to completely destroy you the first time. BUT... if you did the work in-between then and when they try to come back... learning about narcissism and those things in YOU that made you attracted/attractive to the narc and got help to fix THOSE things? They will never be able to occupy your orbit ever again. Period.
Thanks Quinn!
OMG...IM THE 2ND EX WIFE.. NOW ALL OF A SUDDEN, THE FIRST EX WIFE (DECEASED) WAS HIS BEST FRIEND, SOULMATE ETC.,..LAUGHABLE! AND NOW SHACKING WITH AN OLD SUPPLY ...AFTER NEW SUPPLY THAT I WAS TRIANGULATED WITH DUMPED HIM.....SMH THEY ARE NOT HUMAN
Narc: "Wow, I was with that person?"
Me: "Ha! I'm saying the same thing ."
Thank you Quinn 💜
Was married to one for 4 years and now he’s trying to reidolizing. He couldn’t reach me...now trying to use my mom.
Because they do not care about the damage they cause to anyone. That is the only reason.
This is so true. My ex narc left me and our then 5month old for a hideous creature that lives in the projects with somebody. I was so confused because we differ in looks completely. I also have my own house, car and am financially set. I was so confused but then it hit me, its a control thing and he definitely doesn't have a type. I should have known because all his exes were the same in every aspect. First and last narc for me, I have never seen anything like it!
Deflecting Hoover’s like I have Capt America’s shield
They will keep testing you as many times as you let them. They won't stop on their own regardless of how many years go by.
This is happening to me. It's the best revenge when you can shut the door in their face. They know they messed up and they have intense FOMO.
Im happy for the discard, because it has helped me to save myself. I'm, happy, loving life,could care less,about them. I'm smart, educated, loving, trusting, confident, passionate, enthusiastic, etc. IT WAS A BLESSING FOR ME, THANK GOD, FOR EVERY GOOD THING IN MY LIFE TODAY 💃💃💃✌
You are so on point about them having to completely devaluate and find fault with the old supply in order to justify obtaining new supply. The polarities. Very immature, black and white thinking. This is part of what makes them relationship-incompetent. Thank you Quinn.
They reidolize you to come back and completely obliterate you. They see you're still standing so they want to pull the rug out from under you all over again.
Mine committed suicide 3 weeks ago
1.7 years of “ no babe, you can’t come back”
Hung up 20 minutes later - boom
haunted from the grave is worse I believe
i love how you put it - Narcissists try to beat REALITY. - - - SOOOO TRUE.
They are so full of deceit and lies. Please don't look or go back once you've left the narcissist. I'm so glad that I'm no longer in a abusive relationship with him anymore
The former narcissist friend of mine has come full circle.
I confronted him about his behavior and he turned on me in a second and said I was crazy, I was stalking him, I was obsessed, he was afraid of me (because I confronted him with screenshotted proof of his lies and deceptions).
So I said fine, I'm done with your B.S. anyway, never contact me again.
3 years after going total no contact and he started randomly messaging me on apps and with new email addresses trying to initiate a conversation, with messages titled "I hope you've been well" and "I've been concerned about you".
Why? I thought I was this horrible unstable obsessed stalker that he was afraid of? One would think he'd be happy to be rid of me? Why do anything to attract the attention of such a person? Why even care how they've been?
Obviously he's looking for an in, he wants something from me now. I would have thought my never responding to him would let him know I'm not interested in any further contact. But every few months, I get another message and I delete it without reading it.
First time I listened to you in a long time Quinn have been nark free now for 2 years and took me about 4 or 5 months to heal and you was amazing on my recovery. Am so good at picking them up now I can spot them with in 5 mins and even in there texts. My one even tries to get back to me by emailing me still after 2 years. Never replied to any. Keep up the good work.
I discarded, total no contact, no nothing at all. I don't miss him and reidolizing me will be a waste of time and I've got my antenna up !
Plus it depends on the Narc age....they're unable to please 2 supplies at the same time unless they (supplies) agree to wait in line for attention time resources etc
It's definitely not about looks with the new supply, it is simply that this person is tolerant, naive almost, they're not asking as many questions...someone they can control.
they dont reidealize you when they are with their supply. forget about it. let them stay out. HEALLLL
Devaluation took place through actions instead of words in my situationship with my Cluster B narcissist. 10 years wasted. The primary source is the one who exposed the fact there is a new source...It’s been a few months and and I am regaining my peace of mind, but I know he will return...but the situation is completely toxic and I deserve much better
ONE MINUTE, YOUR WITH US,AND THE NEXT MINUTE YOUR GONE!! AND WE DON'T KNOW WHEN YOUR COMING BACK, SOOOOOO FUNNY, BUT 100%REAL. SO GLAD,I'VE MOVED ON,SUCH A SHAME!!!!👍👍
leave them be,,,go no contact and save yourself,,,they are someone else`s problem now,,,,it was just your turn
Yes this is the attempt to start the narc cycle over again.
Yeah man she thought the grass was greener! Meanwhile, I was watering my grass and it looks like a carpet, lol. She thought the grass was greener on the other side but found out it was artificial turf! Now she's hoovering me, assumed my mannerisms, dress (for real)in an attempt to lure me back. Even though she lives in a different country God allowed me to see her and the new supply. Man, talk about a comedown! I don't know if I hadn't seen this if I would be as resolute as I am. Anyway, I'm no contact forever! Bye Felicia 👋🏾
When I discarded him he accused me over and over of seeing me with another man. He even stalked me and attacked me saying I want this other dude. HE NEVER SAW ME WITH ANOTHER DUDE. His delusional, magical thinking forced him to believe that I left him for another man. That's the only way he could deduce why I left him. Not for any of his actions. That's scary...
Quite the contrast as you say indeed Quinn! Left me for a little girl (23 to his 47) he found online (FB/IG) who was the polar opposite of what he says he loves in a woman. Everything he harped on & hated...she is. I know confidently it will end badly between them both eventually & I’m sure to be idolized again at some point. He is one step away from being a Dateline story. No contact forever ✂️❌⚔️🔱🔱
Mine use to always use the phrase...: REAL EYES, REALIZE; REAL LIES; he’s an old pro...I use to wonder Y he also has a tattoo; that says “Who’s Next”....wow, right...imagine that; he is dedicated to it; like a sport of sorts 😞😔😔& I sadly got into that relationship after not being in one for over 8years; only truly still standing bcuz of God’s Grace (which he even tried to well did mock & abused me even in that)...
My annual narc check up.clean n free 3 years. But real talk this sh... is funny as hell..because if someone still stuck with these jokers. Side note they never ever change. I kept it moving from day 1. No more Hoover’s. Thank goodness.
At 13:45 of the video, I'm listening to what you are saying. You triggered me to go back to my IG and look at all of my accomplishments before and even after the narc. The biggest smile came across my face. They leave us with so much insecurity, self-doubt, and confusion that we forget who we really are. Even when I know I'm doing amazing things, I still have to remember to pat myself on the back. I always go back to your videos when I'm down. No matter what, God always leads me to the right one.
Thank you
I’m here for the wisdom.
Omg he went on break so many times!!! And I spent my time running around in circles wondering what I could do to get him back, as if I were the one that was flawed. I feel so sad for that woman I was and feel so relieved I'm not in that same place today. It's like God shined His light on me when I started to learn about NPD. I was set free!
I NEVER thought I'd be thanking my bipolar ex-wife for anything, but here I am. Went monk-mode for 20 years, met someone I THOUGHT was worth a shot only to discover the wonders of covert narcissism. The damage my ex-wife caused me made me evolve into a "grey empath". I know most use the term "super empath" but I prefer grey, kind of like the grey Jedi in Star Wars. They've learned about the Dark side, can utilize those powers but CHOOSE not to. Yes, the devalue/discard from this narc hurt, BAD, but it didn't destroy me and I was able to "suck it up and drive on" as we said in the Army. She downgraded MASSIVELY with a guy who is my opposite in every way (magical thinking that the opposite thing will work) and in a few short months has jumped off the alcohol cliff and now lives in squalor and empty whiskey bottles. I just heard from a co-worker that she has already devalued and is in the discard phase with the new supply. Surprise surprise, she has been popping up around me, acting all bubbly and chatty, "coincidentally" coming around me at work and fishing for attention like she used to in the beginning. She broke her mom's heart, her mom and I had joked about calling each other "in-law" and she so badly wanted me to become a part of her world/family. I was the best "grade A supply" her daughter had ever had, I understand that woman better than even her mother (her words, not mine) so I KNOW she's coming back around. Do I still love her? Yes, I do. But like a grey Jedi, I UNDERSTAND her, and can turn to the Dark side enough to use her own evil against her. There is only one way I'd ever entertain anything other than casual indifference towards her, and it's the one thing she'll almost certainly never do: CHANGE!
DEEP he said they took a "mental vacation!!" TRUTH!! "LUNCHED OUT!!" BABY!!!
Wheww More Truth Quinn 🔥
Trying to co parent with a sociopathic narc monster is a constant state of being devalued and reidolized. Never a focus on the kids, just you or themselves, miserable beings, who bring nothing but chaos, confusion and darkness.
You all who don't have children/child with these demonic beings are Blessed Indeed..
Yo this definitely my ex narcissist ♉. He keeps creeping around while he thinks i am not aware he is up to the same shit. Almost a year of no contact you reach out still married and attached to multiple females past/present. I just keep laughing 😆 because he definitely lives in a false sense of reality where his behavior is not a big deal 😂
Quinn you are a boss, reality always sets in after a while with the Narcissist. The place they find themselves in is very disruptive to their delusional minds. So they ignore reality and bounce from supply to supply. When I saw his new supply it was a joke, he was very embarrassed when I sent him pictures he automatically denied her🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You’re so right. They are crazy peeps! Run away from them as fast as you can. You deserve so much better🌈❤️🥰
The narc ex wasn't outwardly mean to me it was more passive aggressive so it added another layer of hurtful feelings and mindfuckery.
Probably one of the best I’ve heard. Reason ...I work with my N-ex ...I’ve ended up with everything ...after 2 years of facing him daily at our business. I’ve lived it, heard it, watch the whole new supply shit pan out. I’ve had therapy ...now onto life coaching (go me 💪) and he can see I’m not doom & gloom easily controlled ...I’m zoom & boom 💥 what a difference
Please post more about what happens to the old source on re idealisation. Because ... when they’re bored ...they come back. Even after 2 years some of us need YOU to keep up strong and on the right path
Best one you’ve done for me personally - respect ✊
Another great one Quinn... you’re my hero!!! Nobody explains this illness better than you...NOBODY!
I have researched narcissism for decades and you are literally one of the world's leading experts, your insights are so deep and accurate. I hope that your views and wisdom become known by as many people around the world as possible-- from children in schools to people in workplaces to individuals dealing with these people in their personal lives. Thank you so much for all you do and all you know.
Wow 🥺 what's super scary is how all narcs eventually do all of the same things 😱
They crazy as hell
My ex from 20 years ago popped up at my aunt's house as an attempt to find me. He left his number. I called him. He apologized to me. He was very abusive to me. Mostly physically, but there was some verbal, emotional, and mental abuse as well. Anyway I can tell that he is a big flirt. And I'm sure that he is in a relationship with someone else. Based off of the things that I have seen. Anyway he keep going on and on about him apologizing to me, and how I should forgive him. Lol. Smh. He keep bringing up how good I was to him in the past. So I know he is only consumed by all the things I did for him, and what I tolerated in the past. He idolizes that part of me. The broken person that I was when I was with him.
Omg... that’s exactly how he got me back the first time.. with all that talk. Holly shit. I’m so glad I clicked on this video.
They cannot make up their minds about anything! So they stay somewhere in the middle, constantly back and forth through the grey area. Trying to get them to commit is like trying to catch a frog
God HATES the sin but Loves the sinner. But God will also let people reap what they sow. It is how things work. NOBODY gets away from evil. It may appear or seem like they did but trust me God is not mocked. They will get EVERYTHING back.
tell me why i felt IT was gon come back around🤣🤣 then it happened 36 weeks to the day, like u said Quinn. i was laughing the whole time, just observing they insanity. i saw the whole cycle within an hour of me reading his messages on snap & not replying. the lovebombing- devaluing... im still laughing thinking bout it🤣😭😂
Yeah, at this point I dont care about the excuses. A Narc is a Narc is a Narc, new game and words doesn't matter. I'm not about that life anymore. It's too late, I learned to love myself more.
Every narcissist has an expiration date.
This is so true and then eventually it might be to late for them to get back to reality and they lost their lives never to be seem again so said . Narcissism is so real and sad ending .
100% accurate.....exactly what experienced 5 times with the same person
Amazing explanation of how a narcissist's brain is out of context with reality and how a narcissist's brain changes reality in relation to his fantasy world and in relation to his twisted perception of his partner, because he cannot handle reality and the truth about himself. THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤
They always come back!!!!!! (As long as their supply allows them to)
“We ain’t ever ever ever gettin back together!” - Trailer Swift
Preparing for the day this happens. I pray I will be strong enough to stand my ground and continue no contact.
The primary source thinks that she is the only one. She is either a narc herself. Or really thinks he is in love with her. When all he is doing is using her so that he will have someone to take care of him. He looks horrible but that is what she has allways been used to. Oh well she thinks she can fix him, good luck with that.😅
My narc is such a hypocrite. He used religion a lot acting like he was so good. He discards me and posts videos with strippers and music with a lot of foul language. I called him out on it and then he told me I need to find God and sends me a bunch of religious videos. LOL! Its so ridiculous I have to laugh about it.
A narcissist can never be too rich, too thin or have too many harem members.
When they reidealize you, chances are they're torturing someone else
This literally just happened a few days ago. I feel so manipulated
She said " what does it matter what I did and how I felt in the past if this is how I feel now" lol
Dang. So True So True. I must listen to this until I can walk this talk . Thank you and much love 🤗💋🤗
This is so scary. I’m glad I found you and also very sad. Because this is a new realization for me in my marriage. 😔
Narcissists reminds me of that song from Miley Cyrus called "Wrecking Ball" as to what they'll become towards your life as they enter
Leave me alone for good
SOOOOOOO ON POINT!!! EXCUSES & BLAME ARE FOR LOSERS!!!!
This man is brilliant.
This channel has changed my life 💯