@@eliciaellis1567 Sadly, most women have a story about being molested as a child. And it does eat us alive at first. But you have to give yourself the right to have a good life, and know the men who do this are no better than dogs and should be reported.
You’re right it will literally eat you alive and you will emotional eat and drink yourself to death if you don’t tell your truth, because you did nothing wrong always remember that
My father was a pastor and I played the piano for another church. My father told me”if the preacher puts his hands on you, knee him in the groin and run away screaming what he did to you.” My mother told my father he shouldn’t have told me that. My father said, “I know how some preachers are and I had to tell her that.” I’m glad he did.
@Gigi Sauce I think she thought he was encouraging me to be overly suspicious and aggressive. Thank God I never had to use the tactics Daddy taught me. I stayed all the way out of the choir room and I was never alone anywhere with a preacher who was not my Daddy.
"tell until someone listens" truth. "get it off of you so it doesn't eat you alive" So many feelings just hearing this. There are too many silent victims and not enough safe places for them to speak and to heal.
Beautifully said...definitely too many silent victims walking the earth hurting...and then hurting others because they have not healed. Thank you for your comment
@KamisKisses - Speak on it sis! Am one of those "silent victims" I wasn't believed either....thinking about it always makes me emotional.....even after all this time😥
I needed to hear this so badly I’m gonna tell my story AND keep telling it even though no one ever listened but I’ve tried everything and it’s always eating me up, this victimiser is also a fake man of god too
Dealing with molestation is devastating, but the blow is even worse when you tell someone and nothing happens, especially those who constantly tell you to tell them if someone handles you inappropriately.....then they do nothing because THEY are embarrassed. The nerve! Smh
i was molested by a family member & when i came out nothing was done ab it ... still to this day. i’m now 20 yrs old , this happened from ages 5 to 6 & to this day it still traumatizes me. also the fact that i told my family & they did nothing except continue to bring this person around.
@Nyaira- I hope you were able to talk to a therapist about your trauma. I found that talking to my abuser about what happened and how that made me feel helped me to understand why he chose to do things to me. We were both kids. He was a few years older and a cousin. During our conversation he confessed to being abused by boys older that him when he was 7. That oversexualized him and he didn’t get help, so he did it to me and continued to do it to others after he saw that no one did anything when I told. As a adults, even tho he was my abuser, he himself was abused but my confronting him about it helped both of us. As an adult, he struggled with relationships because he thought sex with a bunch of different women would fill voids. His abuse to me made me become overprotective to my child. But not having any adults intervene when I spoke up as a child , made me not trust letting my guard down. I became very independent and doubtful that anyone had my back. I know all cases of abuse aren’t the same. Some involves just touching which was my experience. While others involves physical or oral sex. The abuser could be younger, older, man, woman, family, friend or stranger. It’s really sad that so many people have an abuse story. I truly believe that the incidents would be less, IF ADULTS STEPPED IN AND CONFRONTED ABUSERS INSTEAD OF SWEEPING IT UNDER A RUG. If I see something, I’m saying something. PERIOD! We are quick to cancel celebrities when they are caught being perverts, but ignore the nasty old man up the street who has under age girls in and out his car. They need to be called out and humiliated.
@@-love-life3267 😭 😠 😡 😵 😢 😞 💔 Aman On ALL Of What You Said Ms./Mr.@-Love-Life, I Know The PAIN Hell & TRAUMA Of It ALL... 🗣 Speak-Up Everyone, 🗣 SPEAK-UP & Keep On SPEAKING Your TRUTH Regardless OF Anything or ANYONE 👥 STOP The 💔
@@DiddyKatt What a classic victim-blaming sexist comment. Your masculinity is too fragile to admit that there are thousands of women (and some men too) molested by largely men (of course some women too).
@@corazonazultw You know. You how women exaggerate stories. Looking for praise. Looking for praise to cover the anger and bitterness they have towards men. Like their own fathers. And then going on in life unable to find the love they desperately need. Chosing the wrong men. And unable to recognize the right men. Simply because they hold on to anger. My mom who is 92 years old. Always tells me that these women should keep their mouths shut.
My father who is also a Pastor, molested my sister multiple times at the age of 11. She told our mom. He denied it of course and it was swept under the rug. Nothing was ever done about it. Fast forward 40 years later , my sister is strung out on every drug you can name, trying to numb the pain. My heart aches for her day and night. Tried getting her help many times through the years with little success. Thank you for sharing your story.
I am so tired of all the money hungry, fake pastors being treated like they are so holy! They are running around doing so much evil that the church doesn’t know about!!!
We have to stop treating “man of God” as though they are God. They are not. Many are called, but only a few are chosen. Lots of wolves in sheep’s clothing. I never trusted any of them that much to hold them that high. I question their motives and sometimes their preaching.
Fake. Question what Pastor has told you they are perfect? Y'all put too much on them. Y'all want them to be perfect. They are not they are humans and they mess up just like any other human. We need to stop thinking that they are perfect because they aren't. Hopefully this dude was arrested.
This type of pain still occurs in every denomination. People think that only Catholic Priests are touching children. Queen, you are one of the most talented Black women in the industry. God, bless you!
And it affects boys and girls. Men do it to boys and girls. Women too. See they are either a relative or in a"respectful" job so people will be shocked. After the catholic priests scandals and the Me too movement many are realizing this is more than an occasional dysfunctional family.
soooo many people needed that. "Get it off of you, so it doesn't eat you alive." I was 5 and still remember it. I was 19 before I said anything but the immediate relief of acknowledging it. OMG!!!
Yeah. I agree. I met a creep at a religious function. Religion wasn't the same. I outwitted them. But it still shouldn't have happened. Get away from life suckers and people who don't want to hear truth. Be with people who make you you. Who care for you. Who hear you even if it's uncomfortable. People who see you. And keep them. Keep people like this and fuck the rest. Fuck the opposite. You don't wanna hear, there are people who do and who will. My mom didn't want to hear but my grandma did. I stuck with grandma and was better off personally. That's my experience.
Being molested is like a wound that never heals. If it ever does, it may take a lifetime. It affects your relationships with others because you don't know who to trust. My partner try his best he really does, but at the end of the day it's hard to connect or trust others.
@@yuuablewon thank you so much! Someone has been praying for me because I feel a dark cloud of many years lifted. I love you all and i hope that anyone who sees my comment will say a prayer for me.
@@maquesha47 I'm a rape survivor so I feel you. Instead of a man, it was my best friend's mom. They were Hispanic. His mom was attractive and got duscredited because of this as well as the fact I was 17 when it happened. I'm praying for you right now. I want you know peace as I have come to know over the last 14 years of my life. I used to think I was tainted and wouldn't nobody want to be in love with me.
@@danieljacobisdannyfortune8196 thank you very much. It's rare to hear about men but its not uncommon. Thank you for speaking and living in your truth you are brave and a special kind of human. I love you.
I went through it. I told my Family couple of years before they passed. My marriages didn't work. But I'm still here . I'm 68 and the Lord is my everything. He's all I need. Thank God 🙏.
He didn't take these things away, he rather exposed her to the darkness of many who lyingly profess light. He flipped the switch. Yes, tell on them and eventually, watch the roaches scatter.
Yeah when they molest you like that and it's supposed to be the men of God people of light yes he did expose her to Darkness and he exposed her to sex addiction also.
Right! He showed her what life is really about. She was exposed to truth in that moment. It’s unfortunate that it seems we can only see the truth after wickedness shows it’s face.
@@vfree4579 Yes, he did. Misery loves company. Misery spreads like black mold on a wet, white wall in the company of evil people. SMH. It can seem unstoppable and make you feel so powerless.
After being in any abusive sutitation, it changes someone. The abuser takes & destroys ones worth, self esteem, vaules, confidence, and/or perception. It takes time for a person to heal, recover & rebuild. That's why Jennifer said "find someone who will listen". A lot of people don't recover or heal on their own, they just learn how to function with the pain.
I told my Father at 7 years old that I was molested. He called my Mom at the hospital where she worked and that was that. No talks, no support, no idea what to feel or think. Later my Mother explains she didn't know what the word molested meant. Her and my Father never apologize how they handled the situation and boy am I hurt!
That is why I respect my friend Sandra. She found herself single with a 6 year old daughter. Deprived herself of relationship with men until Genesis left home. .Love you girl❤❤❤
I was sexually molested as a child, by several people. I'm 52 yrs and I still haven't resolved what happened to me. There are two aspects about what happened that have consumed me. I have no memory of when it began, but it was before the age of five. When it finally stopped all blamed was placed on me, it stopped by age eight. I've lost a lot because of this: lifelong obesity, infertility, inability to form relationships, estranged from family. Her ability to speak out is wonderful. We all deserve to be heard, believed and empowered to conclude that chapter in life.
I will never understand why especially in the church when somebody gets molested that nobody does anything about it. If you were my daughter, I would stand up for you and that pastor would meet God. You are so loved. And thank you for telling us about your experience.
@Thomas Jeffries I don't think we can understand somethings that GOD allows to happen, but keep this in mind, we live in a fallen world and the ruler of this world is actually the devil. The sin that entered through the devil to man is actually the issue. Ever since man (humans) sinned, this world is not as perfect as it was. Sin is what JESUS is trying to save us from because no one can enter heaven having sin. It is what hinders us from making it to heaven. That's why we need JESUS, we need to give him our lives and allow him to change our ways and how we live. I encourage you to give him your precious life.🙂
@Thomas Jeffries The Bible has all the answers you 're looking for. GOD has so much LOVE and probably it was so much that HE wanted to give that LOVE to people, then HE thought of creating humans. Maybe. And with regards to the fact that you said it's mythology, can you then explain the number of prophecies that have come to pass from the Bible? I mean it can't be a coincidence that every prophecy in the Bible has come to pass and that others are still coming to pass and others are about to come to pass. If it's a myth, in which I definitely know that it's not, then it looks like most of the things written in there are not a myth at all. And please don't reject the LORD who LOVES YOU Unconditionally, it's not a wise thing for someone to do because the Bible says in Matthew 10:33 - But the one who denies me and rejects me before men, that one I will also deny and reject before my Father who is in heaven. Not because HE doesn't LOVE you but simply because you denied to be his and because you rejected him, it means you didn't wanna be part of him therefore making you to not be part of him. The LORD doesn't force himself in anyone's life. I hope I'm making sense. And it's obvious that HE will reject the ones who don't have him because the Bible says no one can enter heaven unless they are born again - that means receiving JESUS as your personal LORD and SAVIOUR and turning from your sins and turning to him. I really hope you 'll consider. I hope you' ll give him a chance. LOVE YOU but GOD LOVES YOU MUCH MORE THAN I DO❤️
He didn't take your career....you are a movie and tv star. God gave you the desires of your heart and now your truth will help millions of people around the world. Thank you and May God be praised for giving you the courage to share your story!
I can't believe her mother didn't do anything about it SMDH. I can't imagine that I would allow my child to tell me that a adult molested them and do nothing about it.
I can believe it. Some people don't want the light on them. So, it then becomes that they don't want to be embarrassed and the child is ignored because the focus is now on the parent. This is horrible. I have heard this from several people that I know who say their parents didn't do anything. Smh.
@@allthewaynatural6695 Yeah sadly I could see that. I don't know how I would be able to still deal with my parents if they didn't do anything about it though 😔.
But also where was her father and his family? I told well over 6 or 7 adults who marched their lieing asses up those church steps EVERY SUNDAY like they owned the joint. And in the end u was not protected not even by my mother.
Believe it. Most relationships on this earth are shallow. I was taken advantage of a gotten pregnant by a friend and my mom focused more on me being pregnant and the Golden child that she thought would be married before having children instead of actually hearing me out. She thought I wanted it. Now I did keep my child but I was so broken I gave up ever telling her again. It was like her reality was being shattered instead of mine and religious people who don’t live for Jesus will worship the pastor as their God so they take offense to anything you do or say to the pastor of that church. Then you have some people who just ignore what you said because it’s too much for them to handle which is selfish. They are like the lukewarm who enable the sinner instead of expose or rebuke the sinner so that makes them no different than the one who performs that act.
I've walked in her shoes but it hurts deeply when "mother" chooses to turn a blind eye. I'm still telling my truth regardless if family hears me or not.
I don't think her mother turned a blind eye. Her mother knew she was going up against some powerful male forces who abused their power. This is why so many stop going to church. Not because they fail to love G-o-d but because so many church males have inserted themselves between female worshippers and G-o-d. In other words, men want submissive women and women/girls get abuse. It makes it harder to be in Church.
That is what happens with us Black Americans....always pushing it down and staying on the hush hush. Speak of the evil and shine a light on it! Thank you for this post!!!!
@Nila Teume and even now they shun you for bringing it up... “touch not thine anointed...” that man wasn’t any more anointed than a plate of burnt chitlins.
This bought tears to my eyes. My stepmother's husband (he was not my stepfather) pinned me down and sucked my breast one morning before school when I was 13. This came after months of him making inappropriate comments, asking whether I'd teach him how to kiss, lightly grazing my butt a few times amd even suggesting to my stepmom that I didnt shower enough. I showered all the time. Later found out from my brother's friend that he walked in on him looking at me thru a cracked door. It suddenly made so much sense why he would tell my mom that I didnt do it enough. -The only thing that got this 400lbs, 6ft+ man off of me the morning he attacked me was telling him that my brother was getting up for school soon. I told a boyfriend at 16, a mutual friend of my brothers also at 16 (same guy thay revealed what he saw), but never told my Gma until after I was grown in the military at 19, begging her not to tell my father. Years later that mutual male friend threw it back in my face during an argument, stating it likely never happened & I prob made it up for attention. It came out during an argument with my father, and during his drive home he vented with my sister in the car, about his own bullies trying to kill him by bashing him in the head with a pipe. NOT THE SAME. And finally, when my sister told her mother (my stepmother), she wrote me a letter asking me why I never spoke up sooner bc she "had another daughter" that was still around him, putting the responsibility to save my sister fron a hypothetical situation on me, an abused child. I told her that I didnt think she nor my brother would believe me. She was never kind to me, although she'd been in my life from the age of 2. And most importantly, she pushed my older brother and much younger sister to call him dad. He showered them with gifts, but she'd tell him I don't need anything bc I have a father! [My father worked alot and was still depressed the couple years after their divorce. I only stayed with her bc she had my siblings & I didnt want to be alone in our 5br house.] -So this man loved my sister like his own, while the mother ensured there was a distinction between them and myself, as an unloved, unwanted child. This man believed he could get away with it bc he believed noone loved me. She stayed married, but separated (other reasons) for years after & even invited him over while me and my kids were in town visiting. And even my brother still acted like this man was his favorite person years after they all knew. Further proving that I was always a non-factor in their decision to maintain a relationship with him. 😔
Keep your head up. You are not alone. My family wants me to come to Holiday events where I am surrounded by my molesters and rapists. Uhhhmmm no thank you.
I love you very much Sweetheart as we have both been sexually abused as teenagers by members of the opposite sex that were close to us. I feel your pain on how our parents never respect our feelings about what happened. I'm praying that you can find peace of mind over the situation and someone to love you unconditionally.
She is sooo right about the "get it off of you so it doesn't eat you alive" part! I remember telling one of my relatives when I was sexually abused at 5 & I was questioned by the person & asked "what was I doing near that person in the first place"! I'm sure anyone could understand how this would be confusing for a 5 year old. Man, when ppl don't believe you, it hurts. Took me my entire life to finally start healing from that! Smdh
Protecting children is hard in a culture that idolizes men and appoints them as leader and protector of everything. And religion declares woman to submit to and support a man. It’s doom for children. An adult can just reach over and violate a little kid and think nothing of it.
@@goldengoddess6504 I saw a video or song she did in support of Biden indicating she is a Democrat in which everything they do say pass and breathe is antichrist aka against God and im not saying I'm a Republican i believe strongly they both work for team Satan and the best system but it would be a stretch to say she or any christian on a team that opposes what the bible says is all the way back to the Lord.
@@endtimewarrioress Joe Biden is one of the most religious people in D.C. I'm Baptist, and he's Catholic, but that man goes to mass multiple times a week. He carries a rosary in his pocket. I don't doubt his connection to the Lord. He might be one of the few who actually touches his Bible.
@@endtimewarrioress funny you can spot that with Democrats but overlook the antichrist (eyeroll) ways of the republican party. After all, they're the ones focused on pushing a supreme court nominee instead of negotiating another stimulus for those on the brink of financial collapse. They've also kicked up children in cages who may never even remember their parents because they were taken at such young ages should they ever be reunited (without diapers, beds, sheets, and changes of clothes), and are trying to dismantle healthcare for people with preexisting conditions. Just because they tout family values and a belief in some god doesn't mean they're worshipping the same one you are. Now point to anywhere in our holy book where God or Jesus or ANY of their representatives treated people like that.
I am harrassed and shunned on my job, because I told of a co worker who was molesting tenants when he did his inspections. My supervisor said, he was her boy. He was a deacon at a large church in losAngeles. He and his friends harrassed me on the job and even HR did not help me. Eventually my health declined from all of the stress. Heart attack.
He took nothing bc you’re hear and you are a ⭐️ Star. He stopped nothing at all thankfully and the World got to experience Jennifer Lewis but I get it.
He absolutely took something from her. When you are molested, a piece of you will never be the same. It can never be reversed and you have to live with it the rest of your life. Becoming successful doesnt change that.
purplecurves I get that. I do. I been victimized in that way more than once but I think that we stay in the memory of this stuff too long and that steals the joy of our right NOW. I acknowledged, gave my Self permission to feel how I felt about it and realized it’s not happening now so I’m ok and Truly Forgive. Now I’m so detached from it that it’s as if it didn’t happen to me which allows me to address with the intent to heal rather than anger and victimization. I realized that any victimization going forward tied to that was just me victimizing my Self at that point. I’m not negating what happened to her or anyone. I would never and I know we all heal at different rates but I hate to see past traumas steal from the moments of gratitude we could have for coming so far in spite of. I know stardom doesn’t heal it and I get why it was deeper for her bc it affected her Faith but I see a person who had faith in herself enough to reach higher heights and that’s why I said what I said and I meant what I said. You’re right we are never the same after stuff like this but we are whatever we choose to BE: A victim forever or Better from it.It’s up to US.
Perma Frost I get that and it’s sad bc our cultural has learned to put up and shut up especially regarding things that are church related almost like we are challenging God or something if we speak up and it sends the message that people can get away with stuff like this. Rather church related or not things like this shake our faith in life and make us question our safety in the World. I know. It’s hard enough to tell anybody and we go in expecting a certain response. I did when I told my Mother and her response wasn’t what I expected and it was along way to me trusting her again simply bc she didn’t respond as I expected but I love her more than I wanted to hold her to my expectations and hold it against her. This world spends more time grieving the past, expectations that were never met, and in a state of unforgiveness and at war than anything else. I don’t choose war anymore or grief but acceptance of what I cannot change or control more specifically and though a foreign language to most, its working for me. The only time Anyone can steal from me is when I allow what they did out of their own sickness to accomplish what it was sent out to accomplish. Jennifer is an amazing actress and I really hope she has atleast recovered her relationship with her Mother if that’s what she desires.
Something similar almost happened to my grand mother, but she was fierce fighter. SHE BROKE HIS FINGER SO BAD THAT HE WAS NEVER ABLE TO USE IT AGAIN. It subsequently gave him a physical scarlet letter. 🤣😂🤣
As a man with 3 daughters, anyone of them ever telling me about a man's unwanted advances gives me the go ahead to do what daddy's are supposed to do. Protect your children without fear of going to jail for it. Predators will see that and respect it. OR ELSE?
Very powerful! Thankyou so much Mrs.Lewis. My relationship with my mother never quite healed. Even on her death bed she couldn't come to terms with the fact that she brought the monster into my life. She clinged on to life and was more afraid of dying then making amends with me,her first born. She was afraid of having to face her judgement before God. I was the bigger person because I apologized for making her life difficult. She said nothing. I realized she wasn't going to own up to nothing. She would rather die with her guilt. How can a woman blame her 6 year old daughter for "getting herself molested". Survivors of sexual abuse have to deal with the difficult task of forgiving and repairing their life for themselves. Yes that man took my momma from me. But she allowed him to.
I`m so sorry for you and anyone who has endured such horrific abuse, you are a strong brave and beautiful black women thank you Ms.Lewis for sharing that strength with all of us.
Exactly. I was ridiculed by older cousins at the age of 6 for not wanting to kiss a girl at a party. Showing me those ''Players'' girlie magazines. Then being called ''gay'' because you thought it was sickening. What 6 yr old boy is into girls? I wasn't, hell i was still thinking ''cooties'' LOL I didn't even know at that time what that was about. I grew up in an era where the word ''gay'' meant happy. Back in them days if a man smiled at you, you smiled back and kept it moving. Nowdays??? if that happens you either get shot down dead or invited to dinner & dancing. I wasn't sexually abused but exposed to sex at a very young age. I knew many females what were molested when they were younger. It's sad.
Let's stop everything because boys now have to deal with it. *eyeroll*. Had people shunned, got them arrested, and never had them around family again, no child would have to got through this, but no, people still want uncle Ben to break bread at Thanksgiving with all of his victims in the name of family.
What I don't get is why do the parents don't defend or believe there kids over a pastor just because "he's a so called pastor" they are not God.. trust in god and no man.. stop putting these pervs on a pedestal..
Tash Tash. The researched answers are Money, security a home n indifference- self - centered, or sadistic and unfortunately the mother was generally sexually abused also- frozen. Past 40 years drugs. ***No excuse is no ways right but these r the basic answers.***** ?So sorry our Queen Jenifer, Fierce Capricorn !( I am a many decades fan of yours! ) U R a scene taker even in your beginning parts, like the movie with Danny Devito decades ago. We love u n thank u for your revolution right here!! We ALL WILL RISE! P.S. Ironically with ALL things considered ********* you as your book states have played erbod'ys' ( momma)!!
THE PARENTS ARE ALSO BROKEN PPL….. Check who YOU’VE placed on a pedestal to avoid the same fate~ bc it’s not only pastors who are placed on pedestals!!!!!
Yeah, parents broken too.. thats all the more to protect your child it's no excuse!! all I'm saying is I hear alot of parents not believing in there kids when they tell them the been sexual assaulted by a pastor all the other b.s yall talkin I dont want to hear.. just believe in your child is what I'm saying..
Thank you so much this happened to me in the 70s with a Pentecostal preacher me as a 15 year old usher virgin I pushed him also away and ran never told my sister did not think she would believe me the church was everything back then to my family he had 8 children upstairs in the church and just went back upstairs and started shouting
Thank you for sharing. This testimony will touch the hearts and lives of many everywhere. At one I started a Christian based shelter for abused women. Women would come from all across the U.S. to be sheltered with us. To say the least, pastors were always at the top for abusing their wives. Some of the members of their churches knew what they were doing but would still allow them to preach every Sunday but OUR GOD has a way of letting the truth to be told. Please continue telling your story.
Ms. Jenifer Lewis- You are scooping me up from all sides- Politically, artistically and spiritually. I am from NYC ( and may have even MET you on some occasion)... and currently residing VERY far from home.... I never could have imagined that YOU would be so instrumental in keeping me somehow tethered to my roots and grounded in my Faith and self confidence, yet THAT is precisely what you have done for me and I NEED to THANK YOU from every part of my heart. May God continue to bless you in everything that you do. Ain't nobody **cking with ME in these streets !!!
Wow thank you for sharing! Mine didnt believe me either, 30 yrs this is still affecting me....she wont even acknowledge it & I've missed out on seeing my family because hes around 💔😥
When I was 14 years old My best friends father came up behind me grabbed me and tried to French kiss me .I struggled free and told an adult what happened ,this man never apologised he just said that he had to much to drink .
WOW AND THE SAD PART ABOUT IT, IS THIS HAPPENS ALL THE TIME, ON BOTH ENDS, THE RAPE/MOLESTATION AND THE ADULT EITHER NOT BELIEVING U OR WANT TO SWEEP IT UNDER THE RUG...THEN WONDER WHY THEY CHILD ACTING A CERTAIN WAY WHEN THEY GET OLDER, AS UNCOMFORTABLE AS THIS SUBJECT IS, FAMILIES/VICTIMS/PREDATORS ETC NEED TO DEAL WITH THIS SO THE CYLCE DOESNT CONTINUE...
I had the worry of the size of the universe at 4 years old. Trying, then succeeding in telling my mother what was happening to me. It never happened again after that but I carried that weight until a few short years ago. I'm 49 now. Prayers and blessings to all who have struggled to breathe and have a voice.
I enjoy watching and listening to her speak. Such a powerful voice and presence. I am so sorry she experienced that at the hands of a pastor no less. It was not her fault! He will be dealt with, an offense like that is not overlooked by God. I watched the video bc I too know the feeling and the shame I had and still have. Eats at me a lot, but I am atleast trying to work through it. Thank you so much for sharing this Ms. Jennifer Lewis. You are an amazing, confident, talented woman who I have admired for years. Thank you again ❤❤
My wife has been dead almost 6years now. We had 2 children both girls when they were little my wife and I didn’t allow anyone but her mother to baby sit them they are 2 yrs apart. I didn’t allow nor did my wife allow any male family members to be alone with them. My father and mother lived with us when they were little and dad loved to pick them up and twirl them I would stop him I just told him I didn’t want them to get dizzy. My parents died 2 weeks apart my girls were older 10 and 12 and we just protected them to this day they are very beautiful and are married. And they are the same about their children. I even remember being touched by our family doctor and it always stuck with me. I always wondered if my mother suspected something because I remember us getting a new doctor.
Wow!!! I just uploaded a video about this but haven't shared it yet, It's really hard... You see I was molested by a close family member... Thanks for sharing this...
Ms. Lewis, I’m so very sorry that that DEMON violated you. I’m even sorrier for your mother’s response. MY mother would’ve served up his *privates* in a pot of greens and made him EAT them!! Thank you for sharing and may God continue to bless and keep you.
OH MY GOD!!!!! I AM SO SORRY THAT YOUR INNOCENCE WAS SNATCHED FROM YOU. SO SAD THAT IT WAS AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE & LASTLY, BY “A SUPPOSED, MAN OF GOD”. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT & YOU ARE AN AMAZING, STRONG WOMAN, TO BRING THE SPOTLIGHT OUT & SHINE IT ON AN EXPERIENCE, THAT YOU DEALT WITH & DIDN’T LET IT SHAPE YOU, NEGATIVELY. YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION. THANK YOU FOR SHARING.
Keep telling until someone listens...this is very sound advice ..I told my mother he denied it and blamed the older boy down the street ..I told the little girl I played with next door who told her mother her mother asked me about it and did nothing ..it was not until my father was caught in the act by my mother that something was done...I was 7 when this finally ended. When I was about 5 my mother asked was somebody bothering me after I told her and he explained it away I shut down because she did not believe me ...but you have to keep talking until someone believes!!!
I'm a former social worker your mother believed you then but it was hard to leave and she didn't know how she was going to make it until she called him and it was in her face and she couldn't deny it then. How could a mother not know that something is wrong if your in the house with a child that is shut down. Forgive and move on but I'm sure your father haven't had an easy time
I love your words!!! Especially the part about the 3 things he took from you. It is a little late for me to take your advice, but I tell my only granddaughter to always tell her truth, even if it is embarrassing, so that we can all share the hurt and then deal with a plan of action, even in minor things.
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“Get it off of you so it doesn’t eat you alive.” So much truth to that.
Yaaasss it's cool being free and aware
That got me right in the heart.
I wish I knew of this power when I was a child and as a young women .It pretty much ate me alive.
@@eliciaellis1567 Sadly, most women have a story about being molested as a child. And it does eat us alive at first. But you have to give yourself the right to have a good life, and know the men who do this are no better than dogs and should be reported.
You’re right it will literally eat you alive and you will emotional eat and drink yourself to death if you don’t tell your truth, because you did nothing wrong always remember that
My father was a pastor and I played the piano for another church. My father told me”if the preacher puts his hands on you, knee him in the groin and run away screaming what he did to you.” My mother told my father he shouldn’t have told me that. My father said, “I know how some preachers are and I had to tell her that.” I’m glad he did.
Wow.
An awesome father, wow, that was real and straight up advice 🙏🏿🙏🏿
Amen. Sounds like you dad was looking out for his daughter
@@kirsten1007 Always!
@Gigi Sauce I think she thought he was encouraging me to be overly suspicious and aggressive. Thank God I never had to use the tactics Daddy taught me. I stayed all the way out of the choir room and I was never alone anywhere with a preacher who was not my Daddy.
"tell until someone listens" truth. "get it off of you so it doesn't eat you alive"
So many feelings just hearing this. There are too many silent victims and not enough safe places for them to speak and to heal.
Beautifully said...definitely too many silent victims walking the earth hurting...and then hurting others because they have not healed. Thank you for your comment
@KamisKisses - Speak on it sis! Am one of those "silent victims" I wasn't believed either....thinking about it always makes me emotional.....even after all this time😥
Amen to this so so true.
Family usually, are the last to believe and will usually support the perpetrator.
I needed to hear this so badly I’m gonna tell my story AND keep telling it even though no one ever listened but I’ve tried everything and it’s always eating me up, this victimiser is also a fake man of god too
Dealing with molestation is devastating, but the blow is even worse when you tell someone and nothing happens, especially those who constantly tell you to tell them if someone handles you inappropriately.....then they do nothing because THEY are embarrassed. The nerve! Smh
Or the greatest pain to not be believed,by the one who is suppose to love and protect you!
That’s pretty much what I just said.
i was molested by a family member & when i came out nothing was done ab it ... still to this day. i’m now 20 yrs old , this happened from ages 5 to 6 & to this day it still traumatizes me. also the fact that i told my family & they did nothing except continue to bring this person around.
@Nyaira- I hope you were able to talk to a therapist about your trauma. I found that talking to my abuser about what happened and how that made me feel helped me to understand why he chose to do things to me. We were both kids. He was a few years older and a cousin. During our conversation he confessed to being abused by boys older that him when he was 7. That oversexualized him and he didn’t get help, so he did it to me and continued to do it to others after he saw that no one did anything when I told. As a adults, even tho he was my abuser, he himself was abused but my confronting him about it helped both of us. As an adult, he struggled with relationships because he thought sex with a bunch of different women would fill voids. His abuse to me made me become overprotective to my child. But not having any adults intervene when I spoke up as a child , made me not trust letting my guard down. I became very independent and doubtful that anyone had my back. I know all cases of abuse aren’t the same. Some involves just touching which was my experience. While others involves physical or oral sex. The abuser could be younger, older, man, woman, family, friend or stranger. It’s really sad that so many people have an abuse story. I truly believe that the incidents would be less, IF ADULTS STEPPED IN AND CONFRONTED ABUSERS INSTEAD OF SWEEPING IT UNDER A RUG. If I see something, I’m saying something. PERIOD! We are quick to cancel celebrities when they are caught being perverts, but ignore the nasty old man up the street who has under age girls in and out his car. They need to be called out and humiliated.
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WOW. This is is so powerful! Thanks Jenifer for speaking out and sharing the stories that move people and motivate people to take action.
Yes it is and needs to be heard and shared.
I Love you Jennifer
She's not helping anyone. Just expressing anger and bitterness towards men.
And she's a actress. I think she's exaggerating the story.
@@DiddyKatt What a classic victim-blaming sexist comment. Your masculinity is too fragile to admit that there are thousands of women (and some men too) molested by largely men (of course some women too).
@@corazonazultw You know. You how women exaggerate stories. Looking for praise. Looking for praise to cover the anger and bitterness they have towards men. Like their own fathers.
And then going on in life unable to find the love they desperately need.
Chosing the wrong men. And unable to recognize the right men.
Simply because they hold on to anger.
My mom who is 92 years old. Always tells me that these women should keep their mouths shut.
My father who is also a Pastor, molested my sister multiple times at the age of 11. She told our mom. He denied it of course and it was swept under the rug. Nothing was ever done about it. Fast forward 40 years later , my sister is strung out on every drug you can name, trying to numb the pain. My heart aches for her day and night. Tried getting her help many times through the years with little success. Thank you for sharing your story.
So heartbreaking. Praying for her❤
I am so tired of all the money hungry, fake pastors being treated like they are so holy! They are running around doing so much evil that the church doesn’t know about!!!
That's so true!
We have to stop treating “man of God” as though they are God. They are not. Many are called, but only a few are chosen. Lots of wolves in sheep’s clothing. I never trusted any of them that much to hold them that high. I question their motives and sometimes their preaching.
The hart of man is desperately wicked.
Fake. Question what Pastor has told you they are perfect? Y'all put too much on them. Y'all want them to be perfect. They are not they are humans and they mess up just like any other human. We need to stop thinking that they are perfect because they aren't. Hopefully this dude was arrested.
God knows and they will have to answer for it.
This type of pain still occurs in every denomination. People think that only Catholic Priests are touching children. Queen, you are one of the most talented Black women in the industry. God, bless you!
Theres hardly a woman or young lady in the world that hasnt had to deal with some sort of sexual harassment or molestation.
Sadly this is true 🥺
Your exactly right
So true, unfortunately.
And it affects boys and girls. Men do it to boys and girls. Women too. See they are either a relative or in a"respectful" job so people will be shocked. After the catholic priests scandals and the Me too movement many are realizing this is more than an occasional dysfunctional family.
I pray for these women and little girls. I wish all of them could have been raised in my parents' home. My parents' home was a safe haven.
soooo many people needed that. "Get it off of you, so it doesn't eat you alive." I was 5 and still remember it. I was 19 before I said anything but the immediate relief of acknowledging it. OMG!!!
🙌🏼🙌🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Yeah. I agree.
I met a creep at a religious function. Religion wasn't the same. I outwitted them. But it still shouldn't have happened.
Get away from life suckers and people who don't want to hear truth. Be with people who make you you. Who care for you. Who hear you even if it's uncomfortable. People who see you. And keep them. Keep people like this and fuck the rest. Fuck the opposite.
You don't wanna hear, there are people who do and who will.
My mom didn't want to hear but my grandma did. I stuck with grandma and was better off personally.
That's my experience.
Same
I’m so glad she spoke up about this! Topics like this, especially in the Black community / churches, aren’t spoken about too often.
This very much happens in the white churches too.
Oh wow... yes that’s true! I’m so sorry for dismissing that❤️ You’re right! 💯
@Amor Ankh yes it is everywhere but something the black community try to avoid a lot
@Amor Ankh Why are telling me off for? I didn't saying that abuse is down to only the black community. You stop it and read the comments properly!
Man listen 😕😔
“Tell until somebody listens” POWERFUL!!!!
Being molested is like a wound that never heals. If it ever does, it may take a lifetime. It affects your relationships with others because you don't know who to trust. My partner try his best he really does, but at the end of the day it's hard to connect or trust others.
Praying for your peace 🙏🏾 and that you can rest find in your partner. You deserve to live in the present and not worry about the future ❤️
@@yuuablewon thank you so much! Someone has been praying for me because I feel a dark cloud of many years lifted. I love you all and i hope that anyone who sees my comment will say a prayer for me.
@@maquesha47 Amen!! God is SO GOOD!! 🙌🏾
@@maquesha47 I'm a rape survivor so I feel you. Instead of a man, it was my best friend's mom. They were Hispanic. His mom was attractive and got duscredited because of this as well as the fact I was 17 when it happened. I'm praying for you right now. I want you know peace as I have come to know over the last 14 years of my life. I used to think I was tainted and wouldn't nobody want to be in love with me.
@@danieljacobisdannyfortune8196 thank you very much. It's rare to hear about men but its not uncommon. Thank you for speaking and living in your truth you are brave and a special kind of human. I love you.
I went through it. I told my Family couple of years before they passed. My marriages didn't work. But I'm still here . I'm 68 and the Lord is my everything. He's all I need. Thank God 🙏.
Oh wow. A lot of these pastors need to be exposed.
He didn't take these things away, he rather exposed her to the darkness of many who lyingly profess light. He flipped the switch. Yes, tell on them and eventually, watch the roaches scatter.
Yeah when they molest you like that and it's supposed to be the men of God people of light yes he did expose her to Darkness and he exposed her to sex addiction also.
Right! He showed her what life is really about. She was exposed to truth in that moment. It’s unfortunate that it seems we can only see the truth after wickedness shows it’s face.
@@TEWMUCH Yup, so true. When we see it, we never forget the ugliness of it. It haunts us.
@@vfree4579 Yes, he did. Misery loves company. Misery spreads like black mold on a wet, white wall in the company of evil people. SMH. It can seem unstoppable and make you feel so powerless.
After being in any abusive sutitation, it changes someone. The abuser takes & destroys ones worth, self esteem, vaules, confidence, and/or perception. It takes time for a person to heal, recover & rebuild. That's why Jennifer said "find someone who will listen". A lot of people don't recover or heal on their own, they just learn how to function with the pain.
I told my Father at 7 years old that I was molested. He called my Mom at the hospital where she worked and that was that.
No talks, no support, no idea what to feel or think.
Later my Mother explains she didn't know what the word molested meant. Her and my Father never apologize how they handled the situation and boy am I hurt!
She's my SHERO!!!
I love your comment
*hero
Mine, Too
She's an amazing woman
Same swear she my auntie
This was deep. I am so glad you told your truth. Now many more can come out and tell there experience. My was back in the 1980ish.
Mine was exactly how Jennifer describe her experience. Disgusting!! I attended church services that's it!! Don't trust anyone of them
I'm so glad to hear ppl are telling the truth,about what has hurt ,and wounded their spirit, I ride with ya, I've been there!
I'm so sorry this happened to you!!! I'm sick of these undelivered pastors robbing God's people!! Judgement is coming to them!!!
That is why I respect my friend Sandra. She found herself single with a 6 year old daughter. Deprived herself of relationship with men until Genesis left home. .Love you girl❤❤❤
I was sexually molested as a child, by several people. I'm 52 yrs and I still haven't resolved what happened to me. There are two aspects about what happened that have consumed me. I have no memory of when it began, but it was before the age of five. When it finally stopped all blamed was placed on me, it stopped by age eight. I've lost a lot because of this: lifelong obesity, infertility, inability to form relationships, estranged from family.
Her ability to speak out is wonderful. We all deserve to be heard, believed and empowered to conclude that chapter in life.
I will never understand why especially in the church when somebody gets molested that nobody does anything about it. If you were my daughter, I would stand up for you and that pastor would meet God. You are so loved. And thank you for telling us about your experience.
People don't say anything because no one wants to rock the boat. They prefer silence. They don't want to deal with the issue.
Molestation can literally take everything from you please speak like she said till someone listens and ask God to heal that wound
@Thomas Jeffries I don't think we can understand somethings that GOD allows to happen, but keep this in mind, we live in a fallen world and the ruler of this world is actually the devil. The sin that entered through the devil to man is actually the issue. Ever since man (humans) sinned, this world is not as perfect as it was. Sin is what JESUS is trying to save us from because no one can enter heaven having sin. It is what hinders us from making it to heaven. That's why we need JESUS, we need to give him our lives and allow him to change our ways and how we live. I encourage you to give him your precious life.🙂
@Thomas Jeffries The Bible has all the answers you 're looking for. GOD has so much LOVE and probably it was so much that HE wanted to give that LOVE to people, then HE thought of creating humans. Maybe. And with regards to the fact that you said it's mythology, can you then explain the number of prophecies that have come to pass from the Bible? I mean it can't be a coincidence that every prophecy in the Bible has come to pass and that others are still coming to pass and others are about to come to pass. If it's a myth, in which I definitely know that it's not, then it looks like most of the things written in there are not a myth at all.
And please don't reject the LORD who LOVES YOU Unconditionally, it's not a wise thing for someone to do because the Bible says in Matthew 10:33 - But the one who denies me and rejects me before men, that one I will also deny and reject before my Father who is in heaven.
Not because HE doesn't LOVE you but simply because you denied to be his and because you rejected him, it means you didn't wanna be part of him therefore making you to not be part of him. The LORD doesn't force himself in anyone's life. I hope I'm making sense. And it's obvious that HE will reject the ones who don't have him because the Bible says no one can enter heaven unless they are born again - that means receiving JESUS as your personal LORD and SAVIOUR and turning from your sins and turning to him. I really hope you 'll consider. I hope you' ll give him a chance. LOVE YOU but GOD LOVES YOU MUCH MORE THAN I DO❤️
@Thomas Jeffries You 're welcome❤️
He didn't take your career....you are a movie and tv star. God gave you the desires of your heart and now your truth will help millions of people around the world. Thank you and May God be praised for giving you the courage to share your story!
I can't believe her mother didn't do anything about it SMDH. I can't imagine that I would allow my child to tell me that a adult molested them and do nothing about it.
I can believe it. Some people don't want the light on them. So, it then becomes that they don't want to be embarrassed and the child is ignored because the focus is now on the parent.
This is horrible. I have heard this from several people that I know who say their parents didn't do anything. Smh.
Wow
@@allthewaynatural6695 Yeah sadly I could see that. I don't know how I would be able to still deal with my parents if they didn't do anything about it though 😔.
But also where was her father and his family? I told well over 6 or 7 adults who marched their lieing asses up those church steps EVERY SUNDAY like they owned the joint. And in the end u was not protected not even by my mother.
Believe it. Most relationships on this earth are shallow. I was taken advantage of a gotten pregnant by a friend and my mom focused more on me being pregnant and the Golden child that she thought would be married before having children instead of actually hearing me out. She thought I wanted it. Now I did keep my child but I was so broken I gave up ever telling her again. It was like her reality was being shattered instead of mine and religious people who don’t live for Jesus will worship the pastor as their God so they take offense to anything you do or say to the pastor of that church. Then you have some people who just ignore what you said because it’s too much for them to handle which is selfish. They are like the lukewarm who enable the sinner instead of expose or rebuke the sinner so that makes them no different than the one who performs that act.
She displays such beauty and such Strength.
You can’t heal what you do not speak. Love her for always speaking her truth. Such wisdom!
Thank you...I SPOKE OUT..nothing happened. I SHARE THE SAME MESSAGE. BLESSINGS AND LOVE
Same here
Same
@Veater Winfrey Thank you for the Update. Blessings
Me as well. Peace
I've walked in her shoes but it hurts deeply when "mother" chooses to turn a blind eye. I'm still telling my truth regardless if family hears me or not.
I don't think her mother turned a blind eye. Her mother knew she was going up against some powerful male forces who abused their power. This is why so many stop going to church. Not because they fail to love G-o-d but because so many church males have inserted themselves between female worshippers and G-o-d. In other words, men want submissive women and women/girls get abuse. It makes it harder to be in Church.
I have talk to a lot of woman and it seems that 95% of us were touch when we were young.. It's Sad
That is what happens with us Black Americans....always pushing it down and staying on the hush hush.
Speak of the evil and shine a light on it!
Thank you for this post!!!!
HIS career would have ended after that!
@Nila Teume and even now they shun you for bringing it up... “touch not thine anointed...” that man wasn’t any more anointed than a plate of burnt chitlins.
@Nila Teume I wasn't speaking of his CAREER in the ministry. Its the OTHER profession that he decided to choose.
SADLY, This happens all to often.
“GET IT OFF OF YOU SO IT DOESN’T EAT YOU ALIVE!” Such a brave woman to share this with the world!
I felt that when she said he took everything from me in that moment.
This bought tears to my eyes. My stepmother's husband (he was not my stepfather) pinned me down and sucked my breast one morning before school when I was 13. This came after months of him making inappropriate comments, asking whether I'd teach him how to kiss, lightly grazing my butt a few times amd even suggesting to my stepmom that I didnt shower enough. I showered all the time. Later found out from my brother's friend that he walked in on him looking at me thru a cracked door. It suddenly made so much sense why he would tell my mom that I didnt do it enough. -The only thing that got this 400lbs, 6ft+ man off of me the morning he attacked me was telling him that my brother was getting up for school soon. I told a boyfriend at 16, a mutual friend of my brothers also at 16 (same guy thay revealed what he saw), but never told my Gma until after I was grown in the military at 19, begging her not to tell my father. Years later that mutual male friend threw it back in my face during an argument, stating it likely never happened & I prob made it up for attention. It came out during an argument with my father, and during his drive home he vented with my sister in the car, about his own bullies trying to kill him by bashing him in the head with a pipe. NOT THE SAME. And finally, when my sister told her mother (my stepmother), she wrote me a letter asking me why I never spoke up sooner bc she "had another daughter" that was still around him, putting the responsibility to save my sister fron a hypothetical situation on me, an abused child. I told her that I didnt think she nor my brother would believe me. She was never kind to me, although she'd been in my life from the age of 2. And most importantly, she pushed my older brother and much younger sister to call him dad. He showered them with gifts, but she'd tell him I don't need anything bc I have a father! [My father worked alot and was still depressed the couple years after their divorce. I only stayed with her bc she had my siblings & I didnt want to be alone in our 5br house.] -So this man loved my sister like his own, while the mother ensured there was a distinction between them and myself, as an unloved, unwanted child. This man believed he could get away with it bc he believed noone loved me. She stayed married, but separated (other reasons) for years after & even invited him over while me and my kids were in town visiting. And even my brother still acted like this man was his favorite person years after they all knew. Further proving that I was always a non-factor in their decision to maintain a relationship with him. 😔
Keep your head up. You are not alone. My family wants me to come to Holiday events where I am surrounded by my molesters and rapists. Uhhhmmm no thank you.
I love you very much Sweetheart as we have both been sexually abused as teenagers by members of the opposite sex that were close to us. I feel your pain on how our parents never respect our feelings about what happened. I'm praying that you can find peace of mind over the situation and someone to love you unconditionally.
Courage to tell your Truth
I'm so sorry that this happened to you, thank you for speaking out. I'm sure it took alot of courage as a child to fight back. Thank you.
"If the first person doesn't listen, tell someone else"
Such a powerful statement.
Very much so
Her experience is so one of so many young black women, and her mother’s reaction is one many of our elders have participated in, and it’s not ok.
RELEASING THE PAIN AND HURT MAKES YOU FEELS SO MUCH BETTER
Don't trust anyone!
I LOVE that you said his name. Jesus called out the demons' names and they got shook! You became a star the day you told someone, yes LEGEND!
Not taking away from the message because i always was molested..
Thank you for this..
P.s my GOD U LOOK BEAUTIFUL!!!
sorry to hear this...always praying for your healing. may you have peace. may you heal through helping others find their voices to speak up.
Sadly I found out later that predators use the church to prey on the unsuspecting.
I hate that parents didn’t do anything back in the day
Parents still do till this day....smh
TRUE
back in the day?? You really missed the point of the video.
@@velmarose4606 nonsense False. Abuse and molestation is still going on. Some parents listen. Some do not. This is not about a certain decade or year.
Me too
She is sooo right about the "get it off of you so it doesn't eat you alive" part! I remember telling one of my relatives when I was sexually abused at 5 & I was questioned by the person & asked "what was I doing near that person in the first place"! I'm sure anyone could understand how this would be confusing for a 5 year old. Man, when ppl don't believe you, it hurts. Took me my entire life to finally start healing from that! Smdh
Protecting children is hard in a culture that idolizes men and appoints them as leader and protector of everything. And religion declares woman to submit to and support a man. It’s doom for children. An adult can just reach over and violate a little kid and think nothing of it.
It's sad evil made her blame God because it was not God it was the evil inside of a human being who was not of God. I pray she finds him again.
She did. He destroyed her temporarily. She found her way back.
@@goldengoddess6504 I saw a video or song she did in support of Biden indicating she is a Democrat in which everything they do say pass and breathe is antichrist aka against God and im not saying I'm a Republican i believe strongly they both work for team Satan and the best system but it would be a stretch to say she or any christian on a team that opposes what the bible says is all the way back to the Lord.
@@endtimewarrioress
Joe Biden is one of the most religious people in D.C. I'm Baptist, and he's Catholic, but that man goes to mass multiple times a week. He carries a rosary in his pocket. I don't doubt his connection to the Lord. He might be one of the few who actually touches his Bible.
@Perinate Fulch 💯
@@endtimewarrioress funny you can spot that with Democrats but overlook the antichrist (eyeroll) ways of the republican party. After all, they're the ones focused on pushing a supreme court nominee instead of negotiating another stimulus for those on the brink of financial collapse. They've also kicked up children in cages who may never even remember their parents because they were taken at such young ages should they ever be reunited (without diapers, beds, sheets, and changes of clothes), and are trying to dismantle healthcare for people with preexisting conditions. Just because they tout family values and a belief in some god doesn't mean they're worshipping the same one you are. Now point to anywhere in our holy book where God or Jesus or ANY of their representatives treated people like that.
I am harrassed and shunned on my job, because I told of a co worker who was molesting tenants when he did his inspections. My supervisor said, he was her boy. He was a deacon at a large church in losAngeles. He and his friends harrassed me on the job and even HR did not help me. Eventually my health declined from all of the stress. Heart attack.
You should get a lawyer and get some advice about your situation.
Thank you for sharing. Absolutely, tell somebody.
He took nothing bc you’re hear and you are a ⭐️ Star. He stopped nothing at all thankfully and the World got to experience Jennifer Lewis but I get it.
Here
He did take her innocence; but she reclaimed her career. No telling if her relationship with mother or God ever healed 😔
He absolutely took something from her. When you are molested, a piece of you will never be the same. It can never be reversed and you have to live with it the rest of your life. Becoming successful doesnt change that.
purplecurves I get that. I do. I been victimized in that way more than once but I think that we stay in the memory of this stuff too long and that steals the joy of our right NOW. I acknowledged, gave my Self permission to feel how I felt about it and realized it’s not happening now so I’m ok and Truly Forgive.
Now I’m so detached from it that it’s as if it didn’t happen to me which allows me to address with the intent to heal rather than anger and victimization.
I realized that any victimization going forward tied to that was just me victimizing my Self at that point.
I’m not negating what happened to her or anyone. I would never and I know we all heal at different rates but I hate to see past traumas steal from the moments of gratitude we could have for coming so far in spite of.
I know stardom doesn’t heal it and I get why it was deeper for her bc it affected her Faith but I see a person who had faith in herself enough to reach higher heights and that’s why I said what I said and I meant what I said.
You’re right we are never the same after stuff like this but we are whatever we choose to BE: A victim forever or Better from it.It’s up to US.
Perma Frost I get that and it’s sad bc our cultural has learned to put up and shut up especially regarding things that are church related almost like we are challenging God or something if we speak up and it sends the message that people can get away with stuff like this.
Rather church related or not things like this shake our faith in life and make us question our safety in the World. I know. It’s hard enough to tell anybody and we go in expecting a certain response. I did when I told my Mother and her response wasn’t what I expected and it was along way to me trusting her again simply bc she didn’t respond as I expected but I love her more than I wanted to hold her to my expectations and hold it against her. This world spends more time grieving the past, expectations that were never met, and in a state of unforgiveness and at war than anything else.
I don’t choose war anymore or grief but acceptance of what I cannot change or control more specifically and though a foreign language to most, its working for me. The only time Anyone can steal from me is when I allow what they did out of their own sickness to accomplish what it was sent out to accomplish. Jennifer is an amazing actress and I really hope she has atleast recovered her relationship with her Mother if that’s what she desires.
Something similar almost happened to my grand mother, but she was fierce fighter. SHE BROKE HIS FINGER SO BAD THAT HE WAS NEVER ABLE TO USE IT AGAIN. It subsequently gave him a physical scarlet letter. 🤣😂🤣
As a man with 3 daughters, anyone of them ever telling me about a man's unwanted advances gives me the go ahead to do what daddy's are supposed to do. Protect your children without fear of going to jail for it. Predators will see that and respect it. OR ELSE?
Make sure you protect every fiber of their whole existence with your life by every means necessary
Very powerful! Thankyou so much Mrs.Lewis. My relationship with my mother never quite healed. Even on her death bed she couldn't come to terms with the fact that she brought the monster into my life. She clinged on to life and was more afraid of dying then making amends with me,her first born. She was afraid of having to face her judgement before God. I was the bigger person because I apologized for making her life difficult. She said nothing. I realized she wasn't going to own up to nothing. She would rather die with her guilt. How can a woman blame her 6 year old daughter for "getting herself molested". Survivors of sexual abuse have to deal with the difficult task of forgiving and repairing their life for themselves. Yes that man took my momma from me. But she allowed him to.
Thank you for telling your truth God Bless you.
It’s too late. We’re all damaged. This world is very cruel!
Death of your soul is when you tell your mother, the female who gave birth to you, the female who raised you AND tell you to HUSH... 😪😪
Facts.
I believe you and care.
I admire the strength that she presents. Her truth is powerful, and many of us need to hear and know it. Thank you, Queen.
dang..she has gone through soooo much! But she is still here and successful...bless you Ms. Lewis..
I`m so sorry for you and anyone who has endured such horrific abuse, you are a strong brave and beautiful black women thank you Ms.Lewis for sharing that strength with all of us.
That was powerful.
Thanks for sharing. Speak up ladies. SHAME THESE MOLESTERS.
Who hasn't been sexually abused. I hate to say that. Now we have to worry about our boys like never before.
Boys have always been molested. Don't trust anyone with your children!
@crushinsatan Exactly.
Exactly. I was ridiculed by older cousins at the age of 6 for not wanting to kiss a girl at a party. Showing me those ''Players'' girlie magazines. Then being called ''gay'' because you thought it was sickening. What 6 yr old boy is into girls? I wasn't, hell i was still thinking ''cooties'' LOL I didn't even know at that time what that was about. I grew up in an era where the word ''gay'' meant happy. Back in them days if a man smiled at you, you smiled back and kept it moving. Nowdays??? if that happens you either get shot down dead or invited to dinner & dancing. I wasn't sexually abused but exposed to sex at a very young age. I knew many females what were molested when they were younger. It's sad.
Now???
Let's stop everything because boys now have to deal with it. *eyeroll*. Had people shunned, got them arrested, and never had them around family again, no child would have to got through this, but no, people still want uncle Ben to break bread at Thanksgiving with all of his victims in the name of family.
What I don't get is why do the parents don't defend or believe there kids over a pastor just because "he's a so called pastor" they are not God.. trust in god and no man.. stop putting these pervs on a pedestal..
Tash Tash. The researched answers are Money, security a home n indifference- self - centered, or sadistic and unfortunately the mother was generally sexually abused also- frozen. Past 40 years drugs. ***No excuse is no ways right but these r the basic answers.***** ?So sorry our Queen Jenifer, Fierce Capricorn !( I am a many decades fan of yours! ) U R a scene taker even in your beginning parts, like the movie with Danny Devito decades ago. We love u n thank u for your revolution right here!! We ALL WILL RISE! P.S. Ironically with ALL things considered ********* you as your book states have played erbod'ys' ( momma)!!
THE PARENTS ARE ALSO BROKEN PPL….. Check who YOU’VE placed on a pedestal to avoid the same fate~ bc it’s not only pastors who are placed on pedestals!!!!!
Yeah, parents broken too.. thats all the more to protect your child it's no excuse!! all I'm saying is I hear alot of parents not believing in there kids when they tell them the been sexual assaulted by a pastor all the other b.s yall talkin I dont want to hear.. just believe in your child is what I'm saying..
Right On!
Thank you so much this happened to me in the 70s with a Pentecostal preacher me as a 15 year old usher virgin I pushed him also away and ran never told my sister did not think she would believe me the church was everything back then to my family he had 8 children upstairs in the church and just went back upstairs and started shouting
Knocks me over EVERY time I hear one of these stories and a so called 'parent' is on some straight BS.
I do not even know what this is this is like so not good um but I love to tert I am 7 years old
So true about telling multiple people because sadly how ever many predators there are the numbers of those who protect them is DOUBLE.
Thank you for sharing. This testimony will touch the hearts and lives of many everywhere. At one I started a Christian based shelter for abused women. Women would come from all across the U.S. to be sheltered with us. To say the least, pastors were always at the top for abusing their wives. Some of the members of their churches knew what they were doing but would still allow them to preach every Sunday but OUR GOD has a way of letting the truth to be told. Please continue telling your story.
Omg! Woe to them that lead my children astray. Woe!
Its time to define your name, Debra. Look up Debra in the Bible and het journey and purpose.
WOE!!!!!!!
Only Jehovah can heal the brokenness of molestation, rape or violation I can testify to that
Yes he can ...
Well where was Jehovah wen I was being molested..n I tolded my mother she did
nothing she stayed married to the pervert..
@@mirandabarnes5316 all I know is that from experience when I gave it to Him. He took away my shame.
always praying for your healing...thank you for speaking truth
Ms. Jenifer Lewis- You are scooping me up from all sides- Politically, artistically and spiritually. I am from NYC ( and may have even MET you on some occasion)... and currently residing VERY far from home.... I never could have imagined that YOU would be so instrumental in keeping me somehow tethered to my roots and grounded in my Faith and self confidence, yet THAT is precisely what you have done for me and I NEED to THANK YOU from every part of my heart. May God continue to bless you in everything that you do. Ain't nobody **cking with ME in these streets !!!
Wow thank you for sharing! Mine didnt believe me either, 30 yrs this is still affecting me....she wont even acknowledge it & I've missed out on seeing my family because hes around 💔😥
When I was 14 years old My best friends father came up behind me grabbed me and tried to French kiss me .I struggled free and told an adult what happened ,this man never apologised he just said that he had to much to drink .
Sadly...I know exactly how she feels...same story different scene...
I was molested by my former bishop for years. No one believed me :(
Amen! Amen! As a 7yrs old 8 years old I’ve had some attempts. I exposed them all. Thanks for sharing.❤️🔥
Exactly. They take God from you. You can’t defend yourself. I love when you said Get it off of you so it doesn’t eat you alive.”
She's a great story teller. Men....what to say about them, huh? Nothing.
See ? Thats why we never told anyone. Especially back then. I was terrified of all grownups
Yes!!!. Speak the truth, it will truly liberate you from those shackles of shame, and guilt. I know what she is talking about. Thank you, Jennifer.
But the truth is he didn't take anything away from you. He doesn't have that power. I hope she knows that and is healing now 🙏🏾❤️
It’s not that simple..I don’t think you should put that on women who struggle with difficult memories and feelings.
This woman is a legend! She has been in some of the most classic t.v. shows and movies , she is funny and her soul is gold ! Love Ms. Lewis
WOW AND THE SAD PART ABOUT IT, IS THIS HAPPENS ALL THE TIME, ON BOTH ENDS, THE RAPE/MOLESTATION AND THE ADULT EITHER NOT BELIEVING U OR WANT TO SWEEP IT UNDER THE RUG...THEN WONDER WHY THEY CHILD ACTING A CERTAIN WAY WHEN THEY GET OLDER, AS UNCOMFORTABLE AS THIS SUBJECT IS, FAMILIES/VICTIMS/PREDATORS ETC NEED TO DEAL WITH THIS SO THE CYLCE DOESNT CONTINUE...
I had the worry of the size of the universe at 4 years old. Trying, then succeeding in telling my mother what was happening to me. It never happened again after that but I carried that weight until a few short years ago. I'm 49 now. Prayers and blessings to all who have struggled to breathe and have a voice.
Thank you for sharing this. This happens in the church more than people know. You overcame the darkness.
Religion is poison
I enjoy watching and listening to her speak. Such a powerful voice and presence. I am so sorry she experienced that at the hands of a pastor no less. It was not her fault! He will be dealt with, an offense like that is not overlooked by God. I watched the video bc I too know the feeling and the shame I had and still have. Eats at me a lot, but I am atleast trying to work through it.
Thank you so much for sharing this Ms. Jennifer Lewis. You are an amazing, confident, talented woman who I have admired for years.
Thank you again ❤❤
Yes, tell until somebody listens...so sad to hear these stories of violation, glad she’s speaking out and encouraging women
" Wow "
Jennifer, I applaud you, what strength you have, I loved you before but even more now, I don't know you but I'm so proud of you
THEY MAKE YOU EAT IT AND TELL YOU TO FORGET IT!! 😠 😠 😠 😠
My wife has been dead almost 6years now. We had 2 children both girls when they were little my wife and I didn’t allow anyone but her mother to baby sit them they are 2 yrs apart. I didn’t allow nor did my wife allow any male family members to be alone with them. My father and mother lived with us when they were little and dad loved to pick them up and twirl them I would stop him I just told him I didn’t want them to get dizzy. My parents died 2 weeks apart my girls were older 10 and 12 and we just protected them to this day they are very beautiful and are married. And they are the same about their children. I even remember being touched by our family doctor and it always stuck with me. I always wondered if my mother suspected something because I remember us getting a new doctor.
Wow!!! I just uploaded a video about this but haven't shared it yet, It's really hard... You see I was molested by a close family member... Thanks for sharing this...
Imagine wat he been doing to other girls
Ms. Lewis, I’m so very sorry that that DEMON violated you. I’m even sorrier for your mother’s response. MY mother would’ve served up his *privates* in a pot of greens and made him EAT them!! Thank you for sharing and may God continue to bless and keep you.
Moral of the story...You tell the world when someone don't listen.
OH MY GOD!!!!! I AM SO SORRY THAT YOUR INNOCENCE WAS SNATCHED FROM YOU. SO SAD THAT IT WAS AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE & LASTLY, BY “A SUPPOSED, MAN OF GOD”. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT & YOU ARE AN AMAZING, STRONG WOMAN, TO BRING THE SPOTLIGHT OUT & SHINE IT ON AN EXPERIENCE, THAT YOU DEALT WITH & DIDN’T LET IT SHAPE YOU, NEGATIVELY. YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION. THANK YOU FOR SHARING.
Keep telling until someone listens...this is very sound advice ..I told my mother he denied it and blamed the older boy down the street ..I told the little girl I played with next door who told her mother her mother asked me about it and did nothing ..it was not until my father was caught in the act by my mother that something was done...I was 7 when this finally ended. When I was about 5 my mother asked was somebody bothering me after I told her and he explained it away I shut down because she did not believe me ...but you have to keep talking until someone believes!!!
I'm a former social worker your mother believed you then but it was hard to leave and she didn't know how she was going to make it until she called him and it was in her face and she couldn't deny it then. How could a mother not know that something is wrong if your in the house with a child that is shut down. Forgive and move on but I'm sure your father haven't had an easy time
I love your words!!! Especially the part about the 3 things he took from you. It is a little late for me to take your advice, but I tell my only granddaughter to always tell her truth, even if it is embarrassing, so that we can all share the hurt and then deal with a plan of action, even in minor things.
Powerful! Thank you for sharing
Wow...thanks for sharing sis. This is the narrative for too many of us. We need a change