"It's not embarassing". Um, yes it really is. We're spread eagle, butt naked on a table with a compplete stranger shoving tools inside us. Even then, it's a complete stranger. No normal human doesn't freak out at the thought of a complete stranger in such a private place
So true and made even worse when they ask questions of a personal nature which then freak you out even further! I think they like to think of us as robots and not vulnerable human beings. Sadly no surprise that the UK's number of women taking up cervical screening has fallen to less than 20%. Another stat I have read is that a thousand women undergo further examination after having a false positive result and only one of those thousand will actually have the disease!
@The Logical Twat Being asked to be relaxed etc and then in the middle of all this being asked a question so personal that it totally stresses one out and as a result the examination is physically painful which it wouldn't have been if it had been made crystal clear that personal questions might be asked . Even better - if any personal questions can be asked when one is fully dressed and facing the person across a desk instead AND being given a FULL explanation as to WHY the question was asked instead of being so tactless and thoughtless. Put it another way - showing the person having the test FULL respect.
Amber Rose OMG Not trying to scare you but my first Pap WAS HORRIBLE AND PAINFUL. I’m not sexually active yet so that made it worse, and the tool was a medium size instead of a small size. It hurted so damn bad and the female doctor didn’t even use lube. When she left the room I even cried a little because of the pain. I felt so vulnerable LOL. I was new to the procedure and I didn’t even know there was lube included. If she would have used lube maybe it would have been a lot easier and less painful. Now I’m in the army and have another one in two weeks. I explained to them my experience and they are gonna make it more comfortable for me regarding the size and lube. Pray for me and wish me luck!! 👌🏽🤦♂️
I felt the same way! I can't use tampons either and I had my first pap smear before I was sexually active. Not gonna lie, it hurt. Yeah it hurt. But it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and now that I've had a few I've learned to try to relax as much as humanly possible (which isn't easy) and just count the tiles on the ceiling lol. I had some minor pain the rest of the day (the type where you take an ibruprofen and forget about it) but haven't had that in the last few I've done. It's not pleasant and I still dread it but it's for my own health and it's usually just 45 seconds of my life once a year so really worth it and don't worry its not as terrible as it sounds.
I have never had a pap smear or even been to an OBGYN because it's a huge fear of mine. My mom never talked to me about stuff like this or even periods. I never really knew anything about OBGYN stuff. 🙁
Ashley Nails by Shwee Yeah its hard when you grow up not talking about things. I’ve tried having a Pap smear twice now with no luck. First time I just clenched up too much since its painful for me (for whatever reason) and second time I had to take Valium but even then it didn’t help and turns out I was bleeding even though it was 2-3 weeks before my period. Great so now I have to get everything checked in case there’s something going on. The most stressful experience I think.
I finally had my first Pap smear 2 week ago, despite being mentally traumatised I survived...apparently. Worst few minutes of my life I basically just clenched right up and held an awkward position with a firm gasp on my thighs. Awful just thinking about it; it was the 3rd attempt this year so I was basically noping the entire time but the dr managed to use one of the tiny tools. Just got the results today, all good thank God because it’s going to be some time before I even want to think about doing that again. I don’t get it women talk about it being uncomfortable for me it was like being stabbed in the vagina, uncomfortable doesn’t even come close!
yeah they make lot of freaky noises i love now where i go mostly use plastic ones. they are lot more comfier too. when i had metal ones on me the gyno was nice enough to run through warm water. cold temp can cause a woman's vagina to clamp up reflexively and has nothing do with nerves. the plastic ones best and oh nice they are disposable too.
@@taylorsannicolas6000 yikes! next time u see your gyno ask her too warm under water and to lube up with surgical lube. and should be few sizes there small which is pediatric and virgin comfort ones and regular. or even plastic speculum in small size as two sizes, a speculum should not be painful it never comfy. maybe get another gyno though doesn't sound like she has good bedside manner. so not professional. yikes that sound so traumatizing i was 18 and still in high school. when i had my first because i have pcos and was on pill. only had one size speculum and well it hurt lots so was removed so only swab inside. my doctor actually refferred me to places that should have other options. man i would have gotten up after saying no want second opinion grab my clothes get dressed and walked out if i had that experience. do not ever let a doctor tell you too sensitive for their liking and that you are exxagerating so arrogant of some doctors. good luck in future. should only feel some pressure sometimes feel slight cold or just wet from surgical lube. pain isn't supposed to occur. and when see gyno always ask questions ask to see any instruments if not quesay. sometimes helps calm down enough.maybe asking every detail how speculums work too can help. not scare or gross out but sometimes when i am just going for an internal there will be a little blood on blades. and told very common.
I had my first one today at 22, and it went very well. The speculum was not painful, nor was the swab. It just felt like a very cold tampon. The anxiety over making the appointment was literally the worst part!
My first one is today too, but I waited too long to do this. Don't be like me y'all, do it when you're in your early 20s. I've made this a very scarey experience for myself by waiting. thanks for your comforting comment
This would have been nice to learn about in school. Was it in the sexual health curriculum? Maybe but clearly not mentioned nor demonstrated enough. This also goes for male prostate exams. Our reproductive organ health was barely spoken about. I'm 23 and have avoided getting it done. And my ex refused to even let it happen because he clearly knew nothing of it but held prejudices. I wish I knew that the speculum is no bigger than a tampon. Or that it's really a simple process. I would have gone a long time ago.
This lady came into my high school and taught us a little bit about everything (she is a sex health educator) and I was surprised at what she taught us. She talked to us about what to expect and what they are actually doing(swabbing the cervix, etc). She even brought in some of the tools that they use and showed us that it’s not as scary as it may seem. I’ve already been through sex Ed at multiple schools because I’ve moved so many times, and am in a health academy and had to go through multiple units learning about this stuff so I was pretty much rolling my eyes at having to relearn the basic stuff. But we were surprised and actually got to learn something and she gave most of us peace of mind. I’m really happy she got to teach us useful things instead of just how to put on a condom, ya know?
@@nicw3251 and yeah big difference of having a wad of cotton shoved up than speculm blades which stretch few inches wide. people got issues if need tampon as big as speculum not that they make any
They really aren't that bad. When you need to have one, speak to friends and family members about who they see and who they have had good experiences with. The female Dr I saw for my first one when I was 18 was kind, gentle, patient and it didn't hurt and I barely felt anything. Personally, I find pap smears easier than the dentist, by far. If you have a friend who tends to be dramatic, don't ask them for advice because they will not offer you useful advice and they will just make you more nervous with a ridiculous and exaggerated story. Ask people who generally give you good, reasonable, trustworthy advice and who are not prone to exaggeration and storytelling.
Lofty Radish I’ve asked my sis because she gets them but it’s just the fact that it’s something going into my vag and the thought of anything going in there makes me hurl
Amya Henderson Same... But I have to get one soon, because my period is missing, IM NOT PREGNANT, IM A VIRGIN ok? And I literally want to die instead of going. It’s going to be so embarrassing
Amya Henderson same. I mean, I’m afraid of TAMPONS. Then those people who somehow put cups into there, and now scraping CELLS off... ehhhhhhh.... not really my thing....
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i’m 17 and i’ve gotten a pap smear before recently and it was the most horrible experience i’ve ever had with an OB/GYN. i’m not trying to scare anyone. the OB that i went to rushed everything and didn’t care that she hurt me. i left feeling violated and later cried at home bc of how rude and hurt i felt afterwards.
Im actually having a partial hysterectomy next year..... But im 42 and mom of two and ive been plagued with heavy periods for about 8 years. Pap smears aren't fun and very uncomfortable but they're good for you.
@@alaynabarnett7376 Thanks.... I have tentatively scheduled my surgery for March 2019. I'm glad there's videos like this for young girls to preview before they go in. They're not fun, but as I stated before, so good for us to make sure everything is in working order down there 👍
@@texastea5686 yeah I'm glad there's videos like this too. I was flipping out about because I knew I was gonna have to some day. I wish you best of luck with your surgery! I hope it all goes well. My mother a few months ago had a surgery to try and lighten her periods but she's going in to get a surgery to not have her period any more. I know it got pretty bad because her mother didn't get it taken care of. I know that while she was in collage she had been getting her period every three weeks. they where really heavy. So I'm glad she's getting taken care of. Again I wish you the best of luck with your surgery in March. You seem like a really nice person.
@@alaynabarnett7376 You're sweet too. Just take good care of yourself, dont become sexually active until you're mature or married, if you are then always use protection, focus on school so you can get ahead in life. help your mom out as much as you can, too. Not sure if she's having a partial hysterectomy like me (they remove the uterus but leave the ovaries) but it's takes anywhere from 4 to 8 weeks to fully recover! You may look well on the outside but your inside still needs to heal. Just be there for her ❤
I did my first Pap Smear today at 28, after I had a physical. I was nervous but it was okay and it wasn’t painful. Just remember to relax, relax, relax and you’ll be okay!!
I’m also 28 and will be getting my first Smear on Friday. I’m so anxious that A)The Speculum is going to hurt and B) My Doctor will find something wrong with me
This makes me actually feel physically sick and anxious. I don’t know why. It’s the same feeling I get when I think about the process of getting or having the coil. It makes me feel viscerally Ill and uncomfortable
I wish my doctor was like you, you made me feel comfortable by the way you talk n explain things ☺️😬 but my doc makes me feel like they don’t care about anything.
legendary _tiger I’m trying to apply for a program to get birth control for free. And the health department where I live said you can’t fill out the application unless you get it done at the time of the visit.
Today I had my first ever pap smear. I saw a woman (I would advise anyone doing it to get a woman too as they would of likely had one before and understand to be more careful as they know how it feels) and I was so anxious I had a panic attack. I managed to do it, and honestly the whole thing isn't a big deal at all. I was worried the device would hurt going in/be too big, but it's not (and I don't have penetrative sex, I'm a lesbian but I have emotional issues with penetrative sex). It took maybe a minute total, not even that. It was a sudden shock of being uncomfortable when she opened it more, it didn't really hurt, but she told me my muscles were incredibly tense from being so anxious, hence why it made the situation worse. Now that I've done it, it's not so bad. It's not pleasant, but if you ask if you can play music on your phone or have some audio distraction, it makes the whole thing less clinical and "invasive". I only took off my pants, and had a sheet over me. I didn't feel the swab inside, and overall the worst part was when she expanded the speculum. But she did it bit by bit and said for me to say something if I felt pain, but i was more mentally worried than actually feeling anything severe. That's all that was done, doctor didn't feel around with their fingers afterwards as it was strictly pap smear. But I would recommend discussing exactly what will happen beforehand if you're nervous. And only do it with a doctor who you feel comforted by. Overall: not a big deal. GP's see hundreds of vaginas a month, if not more. To them, there's nothing weird or strange about you, and they're just working.
@Ashley M That makes me feel so good my comment made you feel more at ease :) I didn't have anyone to put me at ease beforehand, and I was exceptionally stressed over the whole process - so I made a point of explaining my experience here in hopes at least one person would feel better about the process. I hope everything went smoothly for you. :)
You are WRONG. I had a male doctor on my 3rd appointment and he was GREAT! He was very professional and unlike my previous two appointments it was painless. The gender of your doc is irrelevant. DO NOT spread false information. Also, Ive read online that some women had a better experience with a male doc.
I had my first Pap smear today and it did not hurt at all. In fact it didn’t even feel uncomfortable. It took like ten seconds, tops. I was shocked at how easy it was. But before hand I was so nervous . The nerves were way more painful than the actual thing!
The worse thing about medical procedures is that no one ever tells you about all the times it was fine, they only ever tell you an exaggerated version of the worst possible story they have ever heard of that procedure.
You promise? I've been binging videos about this all night despite not having to get one for several months... I'm literally dying of anxiety rn but I like my dr (I've been with her for 2 years) so I hope I have the same experience
@@k-mac5136 If you know and like your Dr, then it will most likely go well. Let her know that you are very anxious, if you are very tense it might be painful. She might be able to prescribe you an anti anxiety medication if you think you might panic, speak to her about that in advance. My advice, make yourself as relaxed as you can on the day. Have a good nights sleep the night before, in the morning eat a breakfast that you like, do something that you find fun and relaxing then have another yummy meal again before seeing your doctor. Have a treat for yourself afterwards as well so you have something to look forwards to. I work in a Dr's office taking blood for blood tests and the patients who find it easiest are the ones who are happy, well rested and well fed. People who are tired, stressed, sick and or haven't eaten tend to find it more painful and are more likely to feel light headed and/or nauseated during and afterwards. Good luck with it, my pap was so uneventful I wondered what all the fuss was about, I hope your's is like that too :)
I just had mine 10 minutes ago and my doctor was super sweet and the nurse that came to help her was also helpful. They were both talking to me trying to get my mind off of what they were doing and honestly it wasn’t that bad like people are saying it didn’t take them that long literally only took maybe 15 seconds the most and they were both done. Ladies don’t be afraid it’s okay !
Biggest piece of advice. The more relaxed you are, the easier and less painful they are. I will say, as much as females dislike smears, they are necessary. I had one and my results were abornormal. Turns out I had pre cancerous cells. Has I left having a pap smear for a few years, it could have been much worse.
I’ve had a Pap smear and I’m 18. I went through this whole process. It’s a little nerve racking but remember that the doctor does this all day long. Yes the pap smear is uncomfortable but it’s over really fast. I had some spotting after so I would just let all you ladies know this and just be prepared.
Who cares what the doctors have seen-its not about them it's about YOU. you are paying for a service and you must speak up and demand respect and concerned care, or say you are leaving and tell them why
I have had this done probably 3-4 times already & im 20. You don’t get used to it, but it really isn’t bad! You just feel pressure, not pain, feels a ittle like cramps below your stomach.
I just had my very first one and my doctor was very professional and explained everything as she was doing it. The tool was uncomfortable but not excruciatingly painful (I think it was because it was cold). I did not enjoy it but it was over fairly quickly, and I learned that everything is good which is what I wanted to know. I had a very knowledgeable experience! Ladies you want to make sure that everything is well, and it's good to have that professional opinion. I was not excited about going, but wanting to know how my body is doing outweighed the very little discomfort I did experience. The thing that contributed to my discomfort was my own shyness about my body, the florescent lights, the exposure, the coldness of the room (which was probably about 68- 74degrees F ), and the slight chill and textures of the "instruments" used to examine the area. All these factors can cause you to tense.. so I suggest to be as relaxed as possible. Nothing about this is meant to be painful, but keep yourself calm and relaxed and it will be over before you know it.
I know getting these types of check ups are good for you. I just can't bring myself to go in, I was sexually abused when I was younger and I just can't
i’ve never been to an obgyn simply because i’m terrified and don’t/didn’t know what to expect. thank you for making this it gave me some comfort. still terrifying. but atleast i know exactly what’s going to happen so that eases my anxiety. school and parents never teach you any useful info about your body or what to expect when it comes to these situations. it sad social media gets such hate when it truly is so informative. i’ve learned so much from youtube alone. again, thank you i’m sure this has freaked out so many women but it’s just so helpful !!!
I wish! No seriously if you don’t have a sexual trauma history it’s not that bad. No if you do, especially if you have ptsd from it, it will be horrible. Make sure you have coping skills before going in.
The speculum was so painful for me in the two times I’ve had Pap smears. My muscles themselves could not relax which made it worse. 😢but I survived, it’s one of those things that once it’s over you’ll be glad you got it out of the way
Hi 👋 I just came here to say I just had my first Pap smear literally a few minutes ago and it was the quickest simplest not awkward at all thing ever. Felt a cold insertion & a quick slight pitch that faded with the twerk of my body. Do it for your health ! & you won’t regret it ! I felt no pain other than my mental thoughts lol 😂 good luck 💖
I had my first smear test when I was 24 a few months before my 25th birthday. I went anxious because of the stretchy bit and it felt strange in me. I got a little upset and tearful after it was over.
Lara Macdonnell I’m 24 and every year my GP keeps telling me to do it at my physical. He told me that this year is there year... I just really don’t want to. I’ve never been sexually active, why do I need it?
Thank you so much. I have my first obgyn appointment soon and I'm very nervous. It was helpful to have a run down of the process from a medical professional. Still nervous but not as much.
IrgentwasWieHelden it wasn’t that bad, actually. It was over fairly quickly. I just focused my thoughts on my speech for my Medical Terminology class, which was much more terrifying, so I barely realized it was happening. 😂😂
@@shinxxygold4567 most pediatricians look from when you are a baby all the way up through your teenage years, and all they see is the top they technically don’t even see your private area
I'm having my first pap smear next month. I'm 24 and absolutely terrified. My only experience with anyone going near my lady parts was an abusive boyfriend who didn't take no for an answer. I'm crying just thinking about going in. I'm so scared... what do I do? Please someone help me
It was thankfully very quick and my doctor was very kind. She explained each step before she touched me. Unfortunately for me I was still a nervous wreck. The tool used to look inside (idk how to spell it) was fine on insertion, hardly noticed it, but once it was open...oh holy hell fire did that hurt a LOT. Apparently if you're sexually active it doesn't hurt at all. But if you're a virgin it hurts like hell. Fun. I quickly informed her that THAT HURTS and she moved very quickly and kept a calm soothing voice. Overall, not my favorite experience. Still not sure if I'd rather do that again or get cervical cancer.
@@Ziffelzoovop Yeah... Not comfortable at all virgin or not. I'm married, 42 and have 2 kids and it's still VERY uncomfortable when the speculum is opened up. Not fun. But I want to live long for my kids and I'll do anything to take care of myself and go for check ups, mammograms, and pap smears. Beats getting cancer 😐glad you went! It's only once a year. Make it a special day: get a pedicure beforehand, afterwards have a nice lunch, buy yourself something nice. Make it a day that you look forward to in order to ease the anxiety a bit ❤
I was scared about getting my first pap smear done and I had a great doctor who is very gentle with me and I'm on birth control pills for my period to regulate
The last time I had it done was with a nurse practioner. If anyone heard me they would think I was being killed..Prepare for pain and that thing they put up there is something else not like a tampon. Always get this done by a female doctor.
I’m so afraid to get this done again. I went when I was 19 (I’m 23 now) and it was so painful, she couldn’t even get the speculum in because I clenched up. She took it out and asked after a few minutes if I wanted to try again but I couldn’t. All she could fit was a long, skinny cotton swab and even that hurt and it caused me to bleed afterwards (like an actual bubble of blood came out when I got home) she tested for STDS/STI’s and everything came back fine. I have horrible cramps tho and went to the hospital for it last year, apparently I have cysts in my ovaries. I just can’t bring myself to go through this again, not to mention I was sexually assaulted so that’s where the fear comes from as well. I just can’t relax. After I was sexually assaulted I didn’t have sex for 4 years. This year I’ve started dating someone and he made me feel comfortable but even then, when we have sex I push him away and he has to go in very *very* slowly. Idk what to do, I wish they’d give laughing gas or a Xanax or something
I have the same exact problems. Only difference is I am older (32) and I actually was able to have one pap like 6 years ago and it was abnormal and I never went back because of sexual trauma and rape no doctor will prescribe "anything addictive" so people like us can't even get any xanax in order to get traumatic stuff taken care of. And I also have a ton of crippling mental problems caused by stuff thats happened to me. You are definitely not alone.
existential dread 14 years old is way too young they shouldn’t be pumping young girls with pills it’s wrong but then again Americans are known to live their whole lives on medicine so it’s normal in your country 🙄
I am most likely going to get one within the next few years or so. If not when I’m 20 then I definitely will have to get one when I’m 21. But watching this video gave me a sense of comfort and relaxation in when I will be getting one. I appreciate this video and keep keeping people informed❤️❤️
I feel like we really take for granted the fact that pap smears help detect one of the only screenable cancers and how because of that, when found early, cervical cancer has a really good cure rate. It hurts seeing all these horror stories from people about their obgyn but dont let that bad experience stop you from looking after your own health. Find a doctor who works better for you and go get these tests done. Its uncomfortable yes, but it could save your life, early detection is key!!!
I’m 22, I refuse to get one. I can’t bring myself to go through it. I understand it’s super important but I feel so distressed even thinking about it let-alone actually having it done.
I had to have a pelvic exam with an internal ultrasound done to find the cause of continuous bleeding and I felt so violated. Will never ever get this done they can’t force you to do it
How else would they have diagnosed you? Medical procedures aren't always comfortable. It is what it is. It's better than letting something serious progress until it's too late- that hurts even more and has a worse outcome.
I’d rather get cervix cancer and die than do this and continue to have periods and birthing and worrying abt getting pregnant, guys have it so easy and it’s so unfair how it’s made....Guys don’t even appreciate what women go through either which makes me not want to be a woman even more
I had it done yesterday. It was my second one ever and it hurt so much!! I asked the doctor why and if it’s normal and she told me because I’m tiny. I had it done before but I just barely realized that the GYN who did my first Pap never used the plastic weird clip thingy!! She only insert something cold inside and that was it!!!
Im not sexually active yet, but I have really bad and irregular periods. I've been told by obgyns that i HAVE to get a pap smear, but my doctor (who has a lot of knowledge about female health, but chose to just go into general nuring) says that it is completely unnecessary when you havent had sex yet. I just want to not miss school every month because of my period, and not have someone stick their hand and a metal thing in me.
Quandesha Stephens if you have a primary care doctor they can do it too. I didn’t go to an obgyn. My primary care doctor did mine and I was more comfortable with her doing it because we have a good relationship and I trust her. Also it wasn’t that bad it was a little uncomfortable and some pressure, but you only have to get it done once a year.
Quandesha Stephens you’re welcome let me know how it goes, I’m sure you’ll be fine I was nervous but like I said my doctor and I have a good relationship and she talked me through it and let me know what she was going to do before she did it. You can also let them know it’s your first time.
I’ve never had one before I’m so scared that I’ll have to get one.. I’m a super private person and I don’t even want people seeing me in my panties if I ever have to get one I think I’ll cry 😭😭
Glad to see I am not the only one who thinks like this. My mom keeps bugging me about going and I don;t want to go, i dont even need to go. I just have really bad cramps during my period
I promise they aren't as bad or as scary as they sound. I have had one, it was quick, simple, easy and not embarrassing or even uncomfortable. I was really nervous and I worried about my panties, and was feeling really uncomfortable about having my private parts on display, but a good Dr will wait for you to undress and fold your clothes and hide your panties and give you time to lay down and cover yourself with a sheet. Personally, I find getting a pap done to be easier than going to the dentist. If you are worried about having it done. Have a look at the reviews of your local Dr's who do pap smears. See what people say about them. Look for someone with a reputation for being kind, gentle, thorough and compassionate. A good Dr won't make you feel embarrassed or ashamed. When you meet your Dr, say that you are nervous and worried and they will treat you gentler. If you are under the age of 18 and aren't sexually active, there isn't a very compelling reason to have it done.
I’ve had a pelvic ultrasound before now that felt weird but not painful at all. I really need to get a Pap smear tho. This video was very helpful not as scary as I thought! This is just part of being a women it needs to be done to maintain our health. 💪🏽
I literally only had a pelvic exam today. She just stuck this long thing up my hooha and it hurt so bad 😂 I literally bled so I think she broke my hymen. It wasn’t pleasant at all and I’m not looking forward to a Pap smear.
Thank you for this video. I will go for my first ever checkup in summer and I am nervous as heck. But I know I shouldn't be and this video with this calming voice puts me at ease. 💋💋
I'm 32 years old. I had an abnormal pap about 6 years ago and I swear I would rather simply never find out of its cancer or not. I also have painful lumps in my boobs. No fuckin way am I being subjected to the mental torture of being spread open and scraped and have my boobs squished inside a machine. I have some severe trauma from being abducted and raped and I just simply can't do this.
exactly. its mental torture,its grooming women,,these exams need to stop,, they are not necessary,,,,the pap smears hurt from the scraping and digging they do on our cervix
Okay I never got one until I got pregnant and honestly I was laughing and talking with a nurse and barely felt anything and before I knew it it was done. It lasts less than 2 minutes and it's really not that big of a deal....
My doctor was a really cool, awesome lady. I was nineteen and really nervous. It was uncomfortable but it didn't hurt. She was talking to me about something completely unrelated, and before I knew it, it was over.
(this is not my account) i am 13 and am thinkign about asking my mom to bring me to get a pap cuz i rarely get my period (longest without it 8 months) i get the cramps and pain every month. And discharge but never any blood. I was to scared to ask but this did calm my nerves a lot cuz it actually explained things to me. My primary pretty much explained it to me by saying "they will put a metal thing in you to open you up and scral cells from inside" and that scared me. I like the way thia lady explained it much much more lol
I just got my period and my step mom (very uncomfortable talk) told me before I could use a tampon I needed a pap smear and this. looks. terrifying. I'M INSECURE I DON'T NEED ANYONE LOOKING INSIDE ME edit: Thanks to everyone who gave me some advise
Ive been using tampons for like a year now, 15, never had a pap smear. Dont really plan on it. Idk where your step mom got that from but you dont need it to use tampons.
I've been using tampons since I was 13 and I'm 20 now. I'm not getting my first pap smear until I'm 21. It's safe to use tampons without having had a pap smear first but maybe your step mom has other reasons for it. I would ask her why you need an exam before you can wear tampons.
You don’t need a Pap until you’re 21, and you don’t really need to go to the doctor until you are ready to start having sex because you’re going to want STD testing and birth control.
Just had my first one done today and definitely not at bad as I thought. Was pretty uncomfortable and a bit painful but only for about a minute. If you have the chance, please get yours!
My pelvic exam/ pap smear was a real non-event. The paperwork was tedious, and the doctor and talked about the local minor hockey team, fer chrssakes. It was literally time I could have spent on something else.
YES. YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR PROCEDURE-SPEAK UP AND DON'T BE PUT OFF OR IGNORED. AND YOU CAN SAY STOP ANYTIME AND THEY HAVE TO LISTEN OR THEY ARE COMMITTING AN ASSAULT.
If you're sexually active or are having issues like heavy periods, terrible menstrual cramps, smelly discharge or you want to get on birth control, then yeah, you need to have a pap smear.
Damn. Aren't yall afraid of cancer? Endometriosis? Cysts? Sexually transmitted diseases? Guess what happens when you have a baby? If you want an IUD for birth control you'll need one. What if you have unexplained heavy bleeding? Painful periods? These exams arent the highloght of my ear but they need to get done to ensure youre in the best health? What if you want a baby and have fertility issues? Be grateful there's so much online info to prepare you for this compared to when I first had mine over 20 years ago. My friend died very young of cervical cancer because she was scared to go. Cancer is worse than an 8 minute exam.
First time I attempted to do a Pap smear , I almost passed out. It was super painful. At first I knew to breathe but the pain was just to much that I had tell the doctor to stop. So when doctors like this say “iTs NOt PaInFul” it makes me a little frustrated. I also personally am a virgin and I don’t think that helped my situation at all lol! I’m thinking about doing my 2nd attempt soon because of my HEALTH.
I just went at 29yr’s old and not sexually active. It was not as bad as I expected! The longer you wait, the more you’ll dread going - get it over with! It’s so important. It’s over in less than 10mins. My doctor was very nice and talked to me the whole time. It’s more pressure than anything and by the time you feel the pressure, it’s over!!!! Definitely should’ve never waited that long, it wasn’t that scary at all.
I'm going for my second one I'm 24 and I haven't had one since I turned 21 and I'm actually a little nervous since its been awhile but like before I was always told don't be nervous
No one is excited about getting these, dearie. I'm 42 with two kids and these, along with mammograms are not exciting. But I want to live a long healthy life for my kids so I'll do whatever to stay on top of my health.
You don't need a gyn for birth control. Buy it on line. An exam for birth control is a lie they tell you and try to coerce you to do it even though it is not necessary. Used to say you needed an exam as birth control could cause side effects, but this is found now to be untrue. If they won't give you birth control without an exam, go to planned parenthood or on line for pills.
I had my first like three months ago, and it hurt like hell. My doctor had insisted it wasn't painful at all. And I hadn't done much research into it all. I cried not only because of the pain I underwent but also how ignorant my doctor was.
As an RN who's basically retired now, I used to hear those doctors say "if you've seen one you seen them all, I would say to myself "you a**h*le. Also worked in the OR and one old general surgeon (not a gynecologist) had a lot of women (young and old) from his church go to him. fpr pelvic exams and gynecological surgery.
I had my first one when I was Virgin.. it was very traumatic and painful. Currently still a Virgin and have my second one tomorrow. They are gonna make it easy for me this time so wish me luck.
I'm a 36 years old virginal woman. I have my first one at 18 years old. However I have get a yearly exam repeat because of heavy period bleedig, severe PMS, and painful cycles including by birth control renewal once yearly. I'm currently on Yaz generic Nikki to regulate my periods although things can happen to change awkwardly at times.
It's not that bad as it looks. I didn't even feel anything, it was just a bit uncomfortable because of the position I was in, but it definitely didn't hurt
I was 19 when I tried my first pap and I couldn’t do it. My doctor at the time just did a culture because I couldn’t do it, I’m 22 now and I have to go get one again and I could say I’m nervous since my first experience wasn’t all that great
"We want you to be comfortable". We're sprawled out completely exposed on a table while you scrape our insides, how in the hell is that at all comfortable???? I went in for my first last year and refused to be treated. I am a transgender male. SO you can imagine the torment of a male looking person having to be examined by an OB. It's humiliating! It was literally the worst experience of my life. If I could rip my uterous out myself, I would!
I’m sorry you were uncomfortable. However, your reproductive health sometimes comes first. You can request a different doctor. Having 30 seconds of discomfort is worse than having untreated cervical cancer.
I’m so sorry you had this experience. I’m going into gynecology and I have met with some people who are doing great work in cancer screenings for trans folks. They work with people to figure out what will be the least mentally painful for them and even premedicate if needed. It is a big deal and no one should ever diminish that but unfortunately most practitioners have not been trained in how to treat trans individuals.
I'm 22 too, I keep getting letters in the mail for it but I changed doctor so idek who the heck they are and it's all new and scary too oof, just think of something really funny! Look at memes, I can't think of anything else to do , i hop it goes well!!
i watched this and cried because of how anxious it made me
Same here. I have to get on my next checkup.
c e e j same tho
Dude I’m like 10 years away from needing it and I’m still shaking rn. (Seriously I am shaking as I am writing this....)
I have to get one tomorrow .... I'm not ready
Bella Capulet OMG GIRL good luck. Please update if it hurts bc I’m scared for when I’ll have to get mine :(((
"It's not embarassing". Um, yes it really is. We're spread eagle, butt naked on a table with a compplete stranger shoving tools inside us. Even then, it's a complete stranger. No normal human doesn't freak out at the thought of a complete stranger in such a private place
So true and made even worse when they ask questions of a personal nature which then freak you out even further! I think they like to think of us as robots and not vulnerable human beings. Sadly no surprise that the UK's number of women taking up cervical screening has fallen to less than 20%. Another stat I have read is that a thousand women undergo further examination after having a false positive result and only one of those thousand will actually have the disease!
@@missrockafella9432 it so low because it almost impossible to get a doctors apportionment
it natural to be highly embarrassed and nevus saying they should not be is insulting
@The Logical Twat Being asked to be relaxed etc and then in the middle of all this being asked a question so personal that it totally stresses one out and as a result the examination is physically painful which it wouldn't have been if it had been made crystal clear that personal questions might be asked . Even better - if any personal questions can be asked when one is fully dressed and facing the person across a desk instead AND being given a FULL explanation as to WHY the question was asked instead of being so tactless and thoughtless. Put it another way - showing the person having the test FULL respect.
@@gingernutpreacher Maybe.
I cant even get mini tampons in so i have no idea how it would work for me to get a pap smear..
Amber Rose the thing they use comes in different sizes and they apply lube to it in order to make it easier for it to go in
Amber Rose exactly!!!! I gave up I use pads. Ain’t no way I’m going.
Amber Rose OMG Not trying to scare you but my first Pap WAS HORRIBLE AND PAINFUL. I’m not sexually active yet so that made it worse, and the tool was a medium size instead of a small size. It hurted so damn bad and the female doctor didn’t even use lube. When she left the room I even cried a little because of the pain. I felt so vulnerable LOL. I was new to the procedure and I didn’t even know there was lube included. If she would have used lube maybe it would have been a lot easier and less painful.
Now I’m in the army and have another one in two weeks. I explained to them my experience and they are gonna make it more comfortable for me regarding the size and lube. Pray for me and wish me luck!! 👌🏽🤦♂️
Same girl
I felt the same way! I can't use tampons either and I had my first pap smear before I was sexually active. Not gonna lie, it hurt. Yeah it hurt. But it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and now that I've had a few I've learned to try to relax as much as humanly possible (which isn't easy) and just count the tiles on the ceiling lol. I had some minor pain the rest of the day (the type where you take an ibruprofen and forget about it) but haven't had that in the last few I've done. It's not pleasant and I still dread it but it's for my own health and it's usually just 45 seconds of my life once a year so really worth it and don't worry its not as terrible as it sounds.
I have never had a pap smear or even been to an OBGYN because it's a huge fear of mine. My mom never talked to me about stuff like this or even periods. I never really knew anything about OBGYN stuff. 🙁
Ashley Nails by Shwee i understand your fear!! I have the same thing too! I just don't feel comfortable getting it done.😣
Ashley Nails by Shwee same I thought it was for pregnant women!!
Ashley Nails by Shwee Yeah its hard when you grow up not talking about things. I’ve tried having a Pap smear twice now with no luck. First time I just clenched up too much since its painful for me (for whatever reason) and second time I had to take Valium but even then it didn’t help and turns out I was bleeding even though it was 2-3 weeks before my period. Great so now I have to get everything checked in case there’s something going on. The most stressful experience I think.
Ashley Nails by Shwee I’m 21 (almost 22) and haven’t had a Pap smear because I’m too terrified
I finally had my first Pap smear 2 week ago, despite being mentally traumatised I survived...apparently. Worst few minutes of my life I basically just clenched right up and held an awkward position with a firm gasp on my thighs. Awful just thinking about it; it was the 3rd attempt this year so I was basically noping the entire time but the dr managed to use one of the tiny tools. Just got the results today, all good thank God because it’s going to be some time before I even want to think about doing that again. I don’t get it women talk about it being uncomfortable for me it was like being stabbed in the vagina, uncomfortable doesn’t even come close!
When she said that she uses the metal ones I was like hell nahhhhhhh!
You mean there's speculums that aren't metal???
Liv I’m 16 and this bitch has the audacity to say it’s not that big and WIPES OUT A COLD METAL INE AND CRANKS ME OPEN
yeah they make lot of freaky noises i love now where i go mostly use plastic ones. they are lot more comfier too. when i had metal ones on me the gyno was nice enough to run through warm water. cold temp can cause a woman's vagina to clamp up reflexively and has nothing do with nerves. the plastic ones best and oh nice they are disposable too.
@@taylorsannicolas6000 yikes! next time u see your gyno ask her too warm under water and to lube up with surgical lube. and should be few sizes there small which is pediatric and virgin comfort ones and regular. or even plastic speculum in small size as two sizes, a speculum should not be painful it never comfy. maybe get another gyno though doesn't sound like she has good bedside manner. so not professional. yikes that sound so traumatizing i was 18 and still in high school. when i had my first because i have pcos and was on pill. only had one size speculum and well it hurt lots so was removed so only swab inside. my doctor actually refferred me to places that should have other options. man i would have gotten up after saying no want second opinion grab my clothes get dressed and walked out if i had that experience. do not ever let a doctor tell you too sensitive for their liking and that you are exxagerating so arrogant of some doctors. good luck in future. should only feel some pressure sometimes feel slight cold or just wet from surgical lube. pain isn't supposed to occur. and when see gyno always ask questions ask to see any instruments if not quesay. sometimes helps calm down enough.maybe asking every detail how speculums work too can help. not scare or gross out but sometimes when i am just going for an internal there will be a little blood on blades. and told very common.
The plastic speculum hurts so bad, I prefer the metal. It’s just cold
I had my first one today at 22, and it went very well. The speculum was not painful, nor was the swab. It just felt like a very cold tampon. The anxiety over making the appointment was literally the worst part!
I have mines today and I'm also 22 lol your comment made my anxiety decrease alot more 🤗
@@annalisaslifestyle4267 I go tomorrow and I’m 22 how was it??
I go tomorrow and I’m 22 as well! How was yours?
@@oliviachin2539 mine hurt to me. but most people say it’s because I’m not sexually active with men so🤷🏾♀️
My first one is today too, but I waited too long to do this. Don't be like me y'all, do it when you're in your early 20s. I've made this a very scarey experience for myself by waiting. thanks for your comforting comment
This would have been nice to learn about in school. Was it in the sexual health curriculum? Maybe but clearly not mentioned nor demonstrated enough. This also goes for male prostate exams. Our reproductive organ health was barely spoken about. I'm 23 and have avoided getting it done. And my ex refused to even let it happen because he clearly knew nothing of it but held prejudices. I wish I knew that the speculum is no bigger than a tampon. Or that it's really a simple process. I would have gone a long time ago.
Lindsey ChassM I never learned about it in school. I wish it was taught
This really needs to be taught. 🙄 It’s crazy how it’s required but not discussed!
Lindsey ChassM right! So many people don't go because they were never educated on it and they're scared when it's actually notally normal
Precisely!! Getting mine done next week! Wish I found this video a long time ago
This lady came into my high school and taught us a little bit about everything (she is a sex health educator) and I was surprised at what she taught us. She talked to us about what to expect and what they are actually doing(swabbing the cervix, etc). She even brought in some of the tools that they use and showed us that it’s not as scary as it may seem. I’ve already been through sex Ed at multiple schools because I’ve moved so many times, and am in a health academy and had to go through multiple units learning about this stuff so I was pretty much rolling my eyes at having to relearn the basic stuff. But we were surprised and actually got to learn something and she gave most of us peace of mind. I’m really happy she got to teach us useful things instead of just how to put on a condom, ya know?
Uh...idk what size tampon she is referring to buy speculums are definitely bigger. Js.
Right?? That was such a lie. My regular tampons aren't much bigger than my pinky finger.
Kori Jones Branscome same. A tampon is a narrow piece of cotton, a speculum is a large metal instrument like 🤷🏽♀️
Kori Jones Branscome right
You got big tampons out
@@nicw3251 and yeah big difference of having a wad of cotton shoved up than speculm blades which stretch few inches wide. people got issues if need tampon as big as speculum not that they make any
Ugh, I hate doing a pap. The worst!!!!! I do it every year because 30 seconds of discomfort is better than cervical cancer, but God it sucks.
Is it really ONLY 30 seconds though? And it is only DISCOMFORT? Or is it PAINFUL?
Vanessa Bayardo no it’s flat out painful 😫
@@tyrakaeppler9272 :/
Its not painful if you're calm and not a virgin
What's horribly painful is an internal ultrasound
Thinking about Pap smears make my stomach curl 😰😖
They really aren't that bad. When you need to have one, speak to friends and family members about who they see and who they have had good experiences with. The female Dr I saw for my first one when I was 18 was kind, gentle, patient and it didn't hurt and I barely felt anything. Personally, I find pap smears easier than the dentist, by far.
If you have a friend who tends to be dramatic, don't ask them for advice because they will not offer you useful advice and they will just make you more nervous with a ridiculous and exaggerated story. Ask people who generally give you good, reasonable, trustworthy advice and who are not prone to exaggeration and storytelling.
Lofty Radish I’ve asked my sis because she gets them but it’s just the fact that it’s something going into my vag and the thought of anything going in there makes me hurl
Amya Henderson Same... But I have to get one soon, because my period is missing, IM NOT PREGNANT, IM A VIRGIN ok? And I literally want to die instead of going. It’s going to be so embarrassing
Amya Henderson same. I mean, I’m afraid of TAMPONS. Then those people who somehow put cups into there, and now scraping CELLS off... ehhhhhhh.... not really my thing....
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i’m 17 and i’ve gotten a pap smear before recently and it was the most horrible experience i’ve ever had with an OB/GYN. i’m not trying to scare anyone. the OB that i went to rushed everything and didn’t care that she hurt me. i left feeling violated and later cried at home bc of how rude and hurt i felt afterwards.
That is unacceptable! I am so sorry you went through that my dear🖤 You are so brave.
Do you report this Physician?
I would rather have my uterus surgically removed
Im actually having a partial hysterectomy next year..... But im 42 and mom of two and ive been plagued with heavy periods for about 8 years. Pap smears aren't fun and very uncomfortable but they're good for you.
@@texastea5686 Aww I feel bad for you. My mother her self goes threw the same thing. Your about the same age. She's a few years younger though.
@@alaynabarnett7376
Thanks.... I have tentatively scheduled my surgery for March 2019. I'm glad there's videos like this for young girls to preview before they go in. They're not fun, but as I stated before, so good for us to make sure everything is in working order down there 👍
@@texastea5686 yeah I'm glad there's videos like this too. I was flipping out about because I knew I was gonna have to some day. I wish you best of luck with your surgery! I hope it all goes well. My mother a few months ago had a surgery to try and lighten her periods but she's going in to get a surgery to not have her period any more. I know it got pretty bad because her mother didn't get it taken care of. I know that while she was in collage she had been getting her period every three weeks. they where really heavy. So I'm glad she's getting taken care of. Again I wish you the best of luck with your surgery in March. You seem like a really nice person.
@@alaynabarnett7376
You're sweet too. Just take good care of yourself, dont become sexually active until you're mature or married, if you are then always use protection, focus on school so you can get ahead in life. help your mom out as much as you can, too. Not sure if she's having a partial hysterectomy like me (they remove the uterus but leave the ovaries) but it's takes anywhere from 4 to 8 weeks to fully recover! You may look well on the outside but your inside still needs to heal. Just be there for her ❤
I did my first Pap Smear today at 28, after I had a physical. I was nervous but it was okay and it wasn’t painful. Just remember to relax, relax, relax and you’ll be okay!!
I’m also 28 and will be getting my first Smear on Friday. I’m so anxious that A)The Speculum is going to hurt and B) My Doctor will find something wrong with me
It went well and results came back normal
@@tayl2991Yesssss❤❤❤
This makes me actually feel physically sick and anxious. I don’t know why. It’s the same feeling I get when I think about the process of getting or having the coil. It makes me feel viscerally Ill and uncomfortable
@PieceOfToast an iud I think
I wish my doctor was like you, you made me feel comfortable by the way you talk n explain things ☺️😬 but my doc makes me feel like they don’t care about anything.
Hope Evalina I had a dr like that, she was awful. Look for a new doctor because you deserve to be treated better
Natatattatification thanks, I for sure need to! :)
Hope Evalina it goes better for me when u explain things. Now imagine not being about to see what’s going on
Get a other one, and you have the right to tell them to stop if you don't want to continue and they have to stop
I'm 18 and never gone before. Anyone else?
BTS' 8th member ill be 22 in April n ive never gotten one
Same.
I’m 24 and I have to get my first one next week.
legendary _tiger I’m trying to apply for a program to get birth control for free. And the health department where I live said you can’t fill out the application unless you get it done at the time of the visit.
21 is the age suggested for people to start going.
Today I had my first ever pap smear. I saw a woman (I would advise anyone doing it to get a woman too as they would of likely had one before and understand to be more careful as they know how it feels) and I was so anxious I had a panic attack.
I managed to do it, and honestly the whole thing isn't a big deal at all. I was worried the device would hurt going in/be too big, but it's not (and I don't have penetrative sex, I'm a lesbian but I have emotional issues with penetrative sex).
It took maybe a minute total, not even that. It was a sudden shock of being uncomfortable when she opened it more, it didn't really hurt, but she told me my muscles were incredibly tense from being so anxious, hence why it made the situation worse.
Now that I've done it, it's not so bad. It's not pleasant, but if you ask if you can play music on your phone or have some audio distraction, it makes the whole thing less clinical and "invasive".
I only took off my pants, and had a sheet over me. I didn't feel the swab inside, and overall the worst part was when she expanded the speculum. But she did it bit by bit and said for me to say something if I felt pain, but i was more mentally worried than actually feeling anything severe.
That's all that was done, doctor didn't feel around with their fingers afterwards as it was strictly pap smear. But I would recommend discussing exactly what will happen beforehand if you're nervous. And only do it with a doctor who you feel comforted by.
Overall: not a big deal. GP's see hundreds of vaginas a month, if not more. To them, there's nothing weird or strange about you, and they're just working.
I have a similar situation and the my is tomorrow. I feeling really nervious
I have my appointment tomorrow and your comment gave me so much ease! THANK YOU!
@Ashley M That makes me feel so good my comment made you feel more at ease :) I didn't have anyone to put me at ease beforehand, and I was exceptionally stressed over the whole process - so I made a point of explaining my experience here in hopes at least one person would feel better about the process.
I hope everything went smoothly for you. :)
Today I got my first pap smear I was so nervous that it was going to hurt but honestly it's not that bad actually .
You are WRONG. I had a male doctor on my 3rd appointment and he was GREAT! He was very professional and unlike my previous two appointments it was painless. The gender of your doc is irrelevant. DO NOT spread false information. Also, Ive read online that some women had a better experience with a male doc.
I had my first Pap smear today and it did not hurt at all. In fact it didn’t even feel uncomfortable. It took like ten seconds, tops. I was shocked at how easy it was.
But before hand I was so nervous . The nerves were way more painful than the actual thing!
The worse thing about medical procedures is that no one ever tells you about all the times it was fine, they only ever tell you an exaggerated version of the worst possible story they have ever heard of that procedure.
You promise? I've been binging videos about this all night despite not having to get one for several months... I'm literally dying of anxiety rn but I like my dr (I've been with her for 2 years) so I hope I have the same experience
@@k-mac5136 If you know and like your Dr, then it will most likely go well. Let her know that you are very anxious, if you are very tense it might be painful. She might be able to prescribe you an anti anxiety medication if you think you might panic, speak to her about that in advance. My advice, make yourself as relaxed as you can on the day. Have a good nights sleep the night before, in the morning eat a breakfast that you like, do something that you find fun and relaxing then have another yummy meal again before seeing your doctor. Have a treat for yourself afterwards as well so you have something to look forwards to. I work in a Dr's office taking blood for blood tests and the patients who find it easiest are the ones who are happy, well rested and well fed. People who are tired, stressed, sick and or haven't eaten tend to find it more painful and are more likely to feel light headed and/or nauseated during and afterwards. Good luck with it, my pap was so uneventful I wondered what all the fuss was about, I hope your's is like that too :)
You have a good doc, who was gentle during the pap smear
I’m good with taking an Ibuprofen beforehand and seeing if that reduces possible pain with the speculum
I just had mine 10 minutes ago and my doctor was super sweet and the nurse that came to help her was also helpful. They were both talking to me trying to get my mind off of what they were doing and honestly it wasn’t that bad like people are saying it didn’t take them that long literally only took maybe 15 seconds the most and they were both done. Ladies don’t be afraid it’s okay !
Biggest piece of advice. The more relaxed you are, the easier and less painful they are.
I will say, as much as females dislike smears, they are necessary. I had one and my results were abornormal. Turns out I had pre cancerous cells. Has I left having a pap smear for a few years, it could have been much worse.
I’m 28 and getting my first one on Friday and I’m so scared that she’s gonna find something wrong with me
"It can be also used to screen for STDs like gona- Alright! So that's your first pelvic exam!"
Lmfaoooo 🤣🤣🤣 idk why they made that jump cut
I was ok till she seid they put there whole hands in hell no
its her fingers. Not the whole hand
Not the whole hand just a finger or two. Never had an exam, but my mom's a nurse.
exactly like bruh I'm not here to lose my virginity
@@mcryourmemorywillcarryon7315 Ikrr wtf
@@mcryourmemorywillcarryon7315 You don't lose your virginity from that.
I’ve had a Pap smear and I’m 18. I went through this whole process. It’s a little nerve racking but remember that the doctor does this all day long. Yes the pap smear is uncomfortable but it’s over really fast. I had some spotting after so I would just let all you ladies know this and just be prepared.
Marissa Noonan its at 21
Who cares what the doctors have seen-its not about them it's about YOU. you are paying for a service and you must speak up and demand respect and concerned care, or say you are leaving and tell them why
Doctor office are always cold.. imagine the heart attack you'll get when they use the freezing cold metal ones...
Ok but like when she pulled out that huge ass metal tool I wheezed-
Ah! Hell no!
I have had this done probably 3-4 times already & im 20. You don’t get used to it, but it really isn’t bad! You just feel pressure, not pain, feels a ittle like cramps below your stomach.
I just had my very first one and my doctor was very professional and explained everything as she was doing it. The tool was uncomfortable but not excruciatingly painful (I think it was because it was cold). I did not enjoy it but it was over fairly quickly, and I learned that everything is good which is what I wanted to know. I had a very knowledgeable experience! Ladies you want to make sure that everything is well, and it's good to have that professional opinion. I was not excited about going, but wanting to know how my body is doing outweighed the very little discomfort I did experience.
The thing that contributed to my discomfort was my own shyness about my body, the florescent lights, the exposure, the coldness of the room (which was probably about 68- 74degrees F ), and the slight chill and textures of the "instruments" used to examine the area. All these factors can cause you to tense.. so I suggest to be as relaxed as possible. Nothing about this is meant to be painful, but keep yourself calm and relaxed and it will be over before you know it.
This is part of life alive experiences. A kind doc makes a difference.
I know getting these types of check ups are good for you. I just can't bring myself to go in, I was sexually abused when I was younger and I just can't
TheHali0617 aw baby no 🙁 maybe you could bring someone you trust with you and have them in the room?
TheHali0617 oh no 😭😥
TheHali0617 me too
Same, I’m so terrified of doing this
Same, I started crying during one and the nurse was lovely, she stopped and offered to have another nurse come in and hold my hand
This was the most terrifying explanation I have ever heard/watched. Thanks for trying....
i’ve never been to an obgyn simply because i’m terrified and don’t/didn’t know what to expect. thank you for making this it gave me some comfort. still terrifying. but atleast i know exactly what’s going to happen so that eases my anxiety. school and parents never teach you any useful info about your body or what to expect when it comes to these situations. it sad social media gets such hate when it truly is so informative. i’ve learned so much from youtube alone. again, thank you i’m sure this has freaked out so many women but it’s just so helpful !!!
Are you allowed to request happy gas?
Cookie Chu it's not needed so no
I wish. Ide need it.
@Kasey suffering emotionally I can see. But physically it's not bad unless your vagina has nerve issues or can't be penetrated without extreme pain
I wish! No seriously if you don’t have a sexual trauma history it’s not that bad. No if you do, especially if you have ptsd from it, it will be horrible. Make sure you have coping skills before going in.
U mean laughing gas
The speculum was so painful for me in the two times I’ve had Pap smears. My muscles themselves could not relax which made it worse. 😢but I survived, it’s one of those things that once it’s over you’ll be glad you got it out of the way
Hi 👋 I just came here to say I just had my first Pap smear literally a few minutes ago and it was the quickest simplest not awkward at all thing ever. Felt a cold insertion & a quick slight pitch that faded with the twerk of my body. Do it for your health ! & you won’t regret it ! I felt no pain other than my mental thoughts lol 😂 good luck 💖
Thank you I really appreciate you sharing your experience.
Thank you so much
thank you, rebecca. i’m currently freaking out about mine
me right now. >_
I had my first smear test when I was 24 a few months before my 25th birthday. I went anxious because of the stretchy bit and it felt strange in me. I got a little upset and tearful after it was over.
Lara Macdonnell I’m 24 and every year my GP keeps telling me to do it at my physical. He told me that this year is there year...
I just really don’t want to. I’ve never been sexually active, why do I need it?
nope.
Ikr
Yes
Never no no no
Thank you so much. I have my first obgyn appointment soon and I'm very nervous. It was helpful to have a run down of the process from a medical professional. Still nervous but not as much.
Probably shouldn't have watched this when my first pap smear is in about two weeks.
loserlykewhoaa how did it go? 😂 mine is tomorrow.
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it wasn’t that bad, actually. It was over fairly quickly. I just focused my thoughts on my speech for my Medical Terminology class, which was much more terrifying, so I barely realized it was happening. 😂😂
loserlykewhoaa Thank you so much for answering. 😂😊 Hope the speech went well.
loserlykewhoaa mines tomorrow! I’m so nervous
MINES TODAY AHH
That's good you showing GYN on TH-cam we need to see more that's really important to see more GYN doctors with videos and showing it to us
I felt Depressed and exposed and like I wanted to die when my doctor did a quick look at the top of my area So how an I gonna get through this
I don't even let my doctor look!
@@shinxxygold4567 most pediatricians look from when you are a baby all the way up through your teenage years, and all they see is the top they technically don’t even see your private area
I'm having my first pap smear next month. I'm 24 and absolutely terrified. My only experience with anyone going near my lady parts was an abusive boyfriend who didn't take no for an answer. I'm crying just thinking about going in. I'm so scared... what do I do? Please someone help me
Yes, update please. Hope all went well for you
It was thankfully very quick and my doctor was very kind. She explained each step before she touched me. Unfortunately for me I was still a nervous wreck. The tool used to look inside (idk how to spell it) was fine on insertion, hardly noticed it, but once it was open...oh holy hell fire did that hurt a LOT. Apparently if you're sexually active it doesn't hurt at all. But if you're a virgin it hurts like hell. Fun. I quickly informed her that THAT HURTS and she moved very quickly and kept a calm soothing voice. Overall, not my favorite experience. Still not sure if I'd rather do that again or get cervical cancer.
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Yeah... Not comfortable at all virgin or not. I'm married, 42 and have 2 kids and it's still VERY uncomfortable when the speculum is opened up. Not fun. But I want to live long for my kids and I'll do anything to take care of myself and go for check ups, mammograms, and pap smears. Beats getting cancer 😐glad you went! It's only once a year. Make it a special day: get a pedicure beforehand, afterwards have a nice lunch, buy yourself something nice. Make it a day that you look forward to in order to ease the anxiety a bit ❤
@@texastea5686 That's a good idea, thank for the tip. I'll try to do that.
I was scared about getting my first pap smear done and I had a great doctor who is very gentle with me and I'm on birth control pills for my period to regulate
I've been avoiding the PAP smear for 8 years. This video further reinforces my decision
Your voice is so calming and professional, makes things like this seem less scary
The last time I had it done was with a nurse practioner. If anyone heard me they would think I was being killed..Prepare for pain and that thing they put up there is something else not like a tampon.
Always get this done by a female doctor.
Rose Hanna Roberts I’ve always heard that female doctors are more rough and care less than males 🤷🏻♀️
Yup crying because I get mine today and I just turned 22 so I know I'm a year behind. But, watching this made me shake the entire time!!
I’m so afraid to get this done again.
I went when I was 19 (I’m 23 now) and it was so painful, she couldn’t even get the speculum in because I clenched up. She took it out and asked after a few minutes if I wanted to try again but I couldn’t. All she could fit was a long, skinny cotton swab and even that hurt and it caused me to bleed afterwards (like an actual bubble of blood came out when I got home) she tested for STDS/STI’s and everything came back fine.
I have horrible cramps tho and went to the hospital for it last year, apparently I have cysts in my ovaries. I just can’t bring myself to go through this again, not to mention I was sexually assaulted so that’s where the fear comes from as well. I just can’t relax. After I was sexually assaulted I didn’t have sex for 4 years. This year I’ve started dating someone and he made me feel comfortable but even then, when we have sex I push him away and he has to go in very *very* slowly. Idk what to do, I wish they’d give laughing gas or a Xanax or something
I have the same exact problems. Only difference is I am older (32) and I actually was able to have one pap like 6 years ago and it was abnormal and I never went back because of sexual trauma and rape no doctor will prescribe "anything addictive" so people like us can't even get any xanax in order to get traumatic stuff taken care of. And I also have a ton of crippling mental problems caused by stuff thats happened to me. You are definitely not alone.
I relate to this 100% I’m legit panicking…
Hell nah! I ain't letting anyone near my cake😂
LivBoii9 - lmfao I had to this was funny asf they did this to me and I started laughing in the middle and me n the obgyn was dying 😭😂
LivBoii9 - like I got one done at 14 😭 cuz I wanted to get on birth control and I was dying they touched my boob I died 😭😂
Hannah P what kind of skank are u needing a birth control for? Your only 14 your mother must be a skank they say they always breed one 🙄🙄🙄
Hikry Minzzy i hope you realise women get on birth control for reasons other than sex.
existential dread 14 years old is way too young they shouldn’t be pumping young girls with pills it’s wrong but then again Americans are known to live their whole lives on medicine so it’s normal in your country 🙄
When you say “everything off” does that mean socks to? I’m kind of self conscious about my feet lol. I know it’s a weird question
You can keep your socks on
If you wear a dress, can probably keep that on, too
Thank you so much for this! I’ve always been nervous about getting my Pap smear and now I feel so well informed. Thank you
Don’t be nervous 😬 it’s very uncomfortable 😣 I had to do it while I was pregnant the first time it’s uncomfortable 😣
I am most likely going to get one within the next few years or so. If not when I’m 20 then I definitely will have to get one when I’m 21. But watching this video gave me a sense of comfort and relaxation in when I will be getting one. I appreciate this video and keep keeping people informed❤️❤️
I feel like we really take for granted the fact that pap smears help detect one of the only screenable cancers and how because of that, when found early, cervical cancer has a really good cure rate. It hurts seeing all these horror stories from people about their obgyn but dont let that bad experience stop you from looking after your own health. Find a doctor who works better for you and go get these tests done. Its uncomfortable yes, but it could save your life, early detection is key!!!
I’m 22, I refuse to get one. I can’t bring myself to go through it. I understand it’s super important but I feel so distressed even thinking about it let-alone actually having it done.
One of my biggest fears is the metal speculums pinching my insides even if it’s not possible it’s still a huge fear I have
I had to have a pelvic exam with an internal ultrasound done to find the cause of continuous bleeding and I felt so violated. Will never ever get this done they can’t force you to do it
How else would they have diagnosed you? Medical procedures aren't always comfortable. It is what it is. It's better than letting something serious progress until it's too late- that hurts even more and has a worse outcome.
I just got a pap yesterday. So glad I don’t have to think about this for another 2 years 🙏🏽
I'd rather die than do this
Be careful what you say, I have a family friend who just got diagnosed w cervical cancer, she has stage 3 cancer.
Lmao I am scared to lol
I’d rather get cervix cancer and die than do this and continue to have periods and birthing and worrying abt getting pregnant, guys have it so easy and it’s so unfair how it’s made....Guys don’t even appreciate what women go through either which makes me not want to be a woman even more
@@internetexplorer6304 I’ve had that happen and it doesn’t hurt.....
@@internetexplorer6304 Sometimes the doctors have to shove their arm up a vagina elbow length after birth. My mom had to have it done
I did my pap test yesterday and it was so easy and quick; basically no pain.
I had it done yesterday. It was my second one ever and it hurt so much!! I asked the doctor why and if it’s normal and she told me because I’m tiny. I had it done before but I just barely realized that the GYN who did my first Pap never used the plastic weird clip thingy!! She only insert something cold inside and that was it!!!
Im not sexually active yet, but I have really bad and irregular periods. I've been told by obgyns that i HAVE to get a pap smear, but my doctor (who has a lot of knowledge about female health, but chose to just go into general nuring) says that it is completely unnecessary when you havent had sex yet. I just want to not miss school every month because of my period, and not have someone stick their hand and a metal thing in me.
I've actually never been to an obgyn so I'm kinda scared
Quandesha Stephens if you have a primary care doctor they can do it too. I didn’t go to an obgyn. My primary care doctor did mine and I was more comfortable with her doing it because we have a good relationship and I trust her. Also it wasn’t that bad it was a little uncomfortable and some pressure, but you only have to get it done once a year.
Danielle L. Thanks for the information , I will try that
Quandesha Stephens you’re welcome let me know how it goes, I’m sure you’ll be fine I was nervous but like I said my doctor and I have a good relationship and she talked me through it and let me know what she was going to do before she did it. You can also let them know it’s your first time.
Danielle L. Thanks so much again and I'll let you know how it goes
Quandesha Stephens you’re welcome and ok.
I’ve never had one before I’m so scared that I’ll have to get one.. I’m a super private person and I don’t even want people seeing me in my panties if I ever have to get one I think I’ll cry 😭😭
Glad to see I am not the only one who thinks like this. My mom keeps bugging me about going and I don;t want to go, i dont even need to go. I just have really bad cramps during my period
I promise they aren't as bad or as scary as they sound. I have had one, it was quick, simple, easy and not embarrassing or even uncomfortable. I was really nervous and I worried about my panties, and was feeling really uncomfortable about having my private parts on display, but a good Dr will wait for you to undress and fold your clothes and hide your panties and give you time to lay down and cover yourself with a sheet. Personally, I find getting a pap done to be easier than going to the dentist.
If you are worried about having it done. Have a look at the reviews of your local Dr's who do pap smears. See what people say about them. Look for someone with a reputation for being kind, gentle, thorough and compassionate. A good Dr won't make you feel embarrassed or ashamed. When you meet your Dr, say that you are nervous and worried and they will treat you gentler.
If you are under the age of 18 and aren't sexually active, there isn't a very compelling reason to have it done.
I’ve had a pelvic ultrasound before now that felt weird but not painful at all. I really need to get a Pap smear tho. This video was very helpful not as scary as I thought!
This is just part of being a women it needs to be done to maintain our health. 💪🏽
Thank you I've never had one and I'm scheduled You have eased my mind. Whoa!!
I literally only had a pelvic exam today. She just stuck this long thing up my hooha and it hurt so bad 😂 I literally bled so I think she broke my hymen. It wasn’t pleasant at all and I’m not looking forward to a Pap smear.
Thank you for this video. I will go for my first ever checkup in summer and I am nervous as heck. But I know I shouldn't be and this video with this calming voice puts me at ease. 💋💋
I'm 32 years old. I had an abnormal pap about 6 years ago and I swear I would rather simply never find out of its cancer or not. I also have painful lumps in my boobs. No fuckin way am I being subjected to the mental torture of being spread open and scraped and have my boobs squished inside a machine. I have some severe trauma from being abducted and raped and I just simply can't do this.
aww I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you 😭🥺
exactly. its mental torture,its grooming women,,these exams need to stop,, they are not necessary,,,,the pap smears hurt from the scraping and digging they do on our cervix
I am with you my dear. I am 59, healthy and asymptomatic, and have never had a gyn exam ever :)
Did she say one hand in and the other hand on the belly...an entire handdd😮😮😮😮😮😨😨😨😨
Two fingers not hand. The fingers in vagina test is invasive and almost worthless. Family practice doctors don't do it because of that.
i had to get one because my period lasted for literally 53 days and i didn’t know i was getting one until it happened.
ariel rhea / how did they help you? With the bleeding
@@lilhonni I had the same bleeding problem, and the dr did a balloon therapy,,and it worked just fine
Okay I never got one until I got pregnant and honestly I was laughing and talking with a nurse and barely felt anything and before I knew it it was done. It lasts less than 2 minutes and it's really not that big of a deal....
I recently went to get a pap smear and honestly it wasn’t that bad! it was a bit uncomfortable physically, but it was really quick!
My doctor was a really cool, awesome lady. I was nineteen and really nervous. It was uncomfortable but it didn't hurt. She was talking to me about something completely unrelated, and before I knew it, it was over.
(this is not my account) i am 13 and am thinkign about asking my mom to bring me to get a pap cuz i rarely get my period (longest without it 8 months) i get the cramps and pain every month. And discharge but never any blood. I was to scared to ask but this did calm my nerves a lot cuz it actually explained things to me. My primary pretty much explained it to me by saying "they will put a metal thing in you to open you up and scral cells from inside" and that scared me. I like the way thia lady explained it much much more lol
I hope you get the care you need and that whoever does it will be professional and friendly. It’s always better to catch a problem sooner than later.
if the pap smear hurts ,,its because the doctor uses too much force,, tell the doc to be gentle
These things create my anxiety.
I just got my period and my step mom (very uncomfortable talk) told me before I could use a tampon I needed a pap smear and this. looks. terrifying. I'M INSECURE I DON'T NEED ANYONE LOOKING INSIDE ME
edit: Thanks to everyone who gave me some advise
ThatEmoGirl . Your mom lied, I use tampons and haven't had a pap smear
Ive been using tampons for like a year now, 15, never had a pap smear. Dont really plan on it. Idk where your step mom got that from but you dont need it to use tampons.
I've been using tampons since I was 13 and I'm 20 now. I'm not getting my first pap smear until I'm 21. It's safe to use tampons without having had a pap smear first but maybe your step mom has other reasons for it. I would ask her why you need an exam before you can wear tampons.
You don’t need a Pap until you’re 21, and you don’t really need to go to the doctor until you are ready to start having sex because you’re going to want STD testing and birth control.
ThatEmoGirl Why would your mother say you need a pap smear before you wear a tampon? That is totally not needed and ridiculous.
Just had my first one done today and definitely not at bad as I thought. Was pretty uncomfortable and a bit painful but only for about a minute. If you have the chance, please get yours!
Think u I had to share to my daughter it will be her first time
My pelvic exam/ pap smear was a real non-event. The paperwork was tedious, and the doctor and talked about the local minor hockey team, fer chrssakes. It was literally time I could have spent on something else.
"Not much larger than a tampon", then proceeds to use those giant metal clamps 💀
I promise you, it’s really not as bad as some people make it out to be.
So can I ask them to use the small one?
I always ask for the smaller one
Yes, you can. I always ask for the small one as I find the large one painful.
YES. YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR PROCEDURE-SPEAK UP AND DON'T BE PUT OFF OR IGNORED. AND YOU CAN SAY STOP ANYTIME AND THEY HAVE TO LISTEN OR THEY ARE COMMITTING AN ASSAULT.
I'm nervous 😩 about doing a pasmeer
Natalie Esraoui don’t be , it’s not bad at all. I feel more comfortable with the plastic ones than the metal. If that makes u feel any better 😊😊
If you're sexually active or are having issues like heavy periods, terrible menstrual cramps, smelly discharge or you want to get on birth control, then yeah, you need to have a pap smear.
Oml never getting a pap smear after seeing this. Never never never.
Caitlin Hartley you have to. Sorry to tell you. It's not bad and only once a year
Don't blame u. I'm 34 and I've only had one at age 23. Never been back since and never will. Was treated horribly.
Damn. Aren't yall afraid of cancer? Endometriosis? Cysts? Sexually transmitted diseases? Guess what happens when you have a baby? If you want an IUD for birth control you'll need one. What if you have unexplained heavy bleeding? Painful periods? These exams arent the highloght of my ear but they need to get done to ensure youre in the best health? What if you want a baby and have fertility issues?
Be grateful there's so much online info to prepare you for this compared to when I first had mine over 20 years ago.
My friend died very young of cervical cancer because she was scared to go. Cancer is worse than an 8 minute exam.
It’s not bad at all! I had such bad anxiety my first time but tbh it’s NOTHING!
Shiloh Willis then you dirty
First time I attempted to do a Pap smear , I almost passed out. It was super painful. At first I knew to breathe but the pain was just to much that I had tell the doctor to stop. So when doctors like this say “iTs NOt PaInFul” it makes me a little frustrated. I also personally am a virgin and I don’t think that helped my situation at all lol! I’m thinking about doing my 2nd attempt soon because of my HEALTH.
THANK YOU FOR THIS! After preparing my daughter verbally, I showed her this. TYTYTYTY
@Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever sure, let's skip explaining this to girls. Great idea. 🙄
I just went at 29yr’s old and not sexually active. It was not as bad as I expected! The longer you wait, the more you’ll dread going - get it over with! It’s so important. It’s over in less than 10mins. My doctor was very nice and talked to me the whole time. It’s more pressure than anything and by the time you feel the pressure, it’s over!!!! Definitely should’ve never waited that long, it wasn’t that scary at all.
Why do pap smears hurt ? ,I wish they would come up with a new way that is not painful
I'm really scared now because I have really bad anxiety so I'm scared of this and I'm going to have an anxiety or a panic attack in the office.
Take an anti anxiety pill.
I'm going for my second one I'm 24 and I haven't had one since I turned 21 and I'm actually a little nervous since its been awhile but like before I was always told don't be nervous
I have an OBGYN for birth control but I’ve never had a papsmear and I’m not excited🤕
ashalee I am the exact same way. I'll be having mine in a month. SHANE IS QUEEN
No one is excited about getting these, dearie. I'm 42 with two kids and these, along with mammograms are not exciting. But I want to live a long healthy life for my kids so I'll do whatever to stay on top of my health.
You don't need a gyn for birth control. Buy it on line. An exam for birth control is a lie they tell you and try to coerce you to do it even though it is not necessary. Used to say you needed an exam as birth control could cause side effects, but this is found now to be untrue. If they won't give you birth control without an exam, go to planned parenthood or on line for pills.
I had my first like three months ago, and it hurt like hell. My doctor had insisted it wasn't painful at all. And I hadn't done much research into it all. I cried not only because of the pain I underwent but also how ignorant my doctor was.
Cervial Cancer runs in my family but I’m too scared to get this done.. I’m 20 and have yet to have it.
It’s not bad at all trust me. Worth it.
Cancer and chemotherapy and radiation and losing your hair and oh, dying, is worse than an 8 minute exam. Just saying.....
As an RN who's basically retired now, I used to hear those doctors say "if you've seen one you seen them all, I would say to myself "you a**h*le. Also worked in the OR and one old general surgeon (not a gynecologist) had a lot of women (young and old) from his church go to him. fpr pelvic exams and gynecological surgery.
I'm a virgin who's never had a smear before but should have one. I really don't wanna
Lauren Burke its not too scary it takes such a short amount of time and you know your safe
Mine was quick it didnt hurt just a lil uncomfortable but it wasnt painful
I had my first one when I was Virgin.. it was very traumatic and painful. Currently still a Virgin and have my second one tomorrow. They are gonna make it easy for me this time so wish me luck.
Yea im a virgin too im honestly gonna avoid it idc lmao
I'm a 36 years old virginal woman. I have my first one at 18 years old. However I have get a yearly exam repeat because of heavy period bleedig, severe PMS, and painful cycles including by birth control renewal once yearly. I'm currently on Yaz generic Nikki to regulate my periods although things can happen to change awkwardly at times.
This is good that we got GYN doctor they had to help us and they had to look down near to see what you got down there
It's not that bad as it looks. I didn't even feel anything, it was just a bit uncomfortable because of the position I was in, but it definitely didn't hurt
I was 19 when I tried my first pap and I couldn’t do it. My doctor at the time just did a culture because I couldn’t do it, I’m 22 now and I have to go get one again and I could say I’m nervous since my first experience wasn’t all that great
@5:35 what was she saying before she got cut off? Pap smears can test for STDs?
Hazel Song she said Gonorrhoea
Great video I little anxious about the exam but I know you gotta just do it
"We want you to be comfortable". We're sprawled out completely exposed on a table while you scrape our insides, how in the hell is that at all comfortable???? I went in for my first last year and refused to be treated. I am a transgender male. SO you can imagine the torment of a male looking person having to be examined by an OB. It's humiliating! It was literally the worst experience of my life. If I could rip my uterous out myself, I would!
I’m sorry you were uncomfortable. However, your reproductive health sometimes comes first. You can request a different doctor. Having 30 seconds of discomfort is worse than having untreated cervical cancer.
I’m so sorry you had this experience. I’m going into gynecology and I have met with some people who are doing great work in cancer screenings for trans folks. They work with people to figure out what will be the least mentally painful for them and even premedicate if needed. It is a big deal and no one should ever diminish that but unfortunately most practitioners have not been trained in how to treat trans individuals.
Alison Love That sounds amazing. Hopefully it becomes more widespread soon
So why did u go? Obviously you still have a vagina.
That sucks 😧
I have to go get one done soon but this video helped me understand what to except but the comments and scaring me 🙈
I have my first obgyn appointment on 10.25 I'm 22 and scared
I'm 22 too, I keep getting letters in the mail for it but I changed doctor so idek who the heck they are and it's all new and scary too oof, just think of something really funny! Look at memes, I can't think of anything else to do , i hop it goes well!!