I want to tell everyone reading this I had a Skype call with Craig today and it was amazing, trust this man he knows his job very well, and he truly cares about us as he's been through it all. Save your money its worth every penny... Thank you Craig you a god to me. This is you Nova Scotia Canadian man.
True guys I've watched all the videos in 2 months I've has some negative addictions in my life but watching these videos has been my healthy addiction, it does get better with time but you need to take Craig and Margarets advice it works guys, either way in the end if you get your ex back or not your going to become very mentally healthy and ready for anything life throws at you.
Thank you for this. Currently my ex said she is open for her and I to go to therapy together, but for now she wants to figure out what she needs in her future, two step kids(mine) and two of hers has been overwhelming her the last couple of years. We’ve been separated for a month now. Praying for her every day
So true and I put all the trust and faith in God almighty.... she just got a job and I am jobless right now...she dumped me because I became too unproductive and irresponsible.... working myself on my career since then... God is everywhere 😊
Break up pain is the worst ever pain and I figured out why. This person made you feel comfortable enough to be completely vulnerable, you showed them your flaws, your weaknesses, your trauma from the past and they let you go, so all that pain you ever felt comes back into one big pain in the ass
I wanted to jump on here and give you all some hope. I watched these videos on repeat for 6.5 weeks after my ex decided he wasn’t sure anymore. The situation seemed hopeless. I even noticed he started following other girls from his past on IG and FB. It was crickets the entire time...but guess what? I just got a text from him today saying and he realized he made a huge mistake and for the last 3 weeks, he hasn’t stopped thinking about me and knew after this time apart that we were meant to be together. Pray and ask God to draw your hearts back together. Follow the advice, GO NO CONTACT & WORK ON YOURSELF. I know every situation is different, but I was one that thought it would NEVER happen.
Thank you for this. I was hopeless for the first 2 weeks and I am finally starting to feel hopeful. I know we shared a bond like he has never had before. I need to trust that it meant something to him and that it will bring him back to me.
prishh he wanted nothing to do with me, I went to therapy focused on myself, he ended up begging for me back and yeah now we’re better than ever. Never been in a healthier relationship as it was a little toxic before. We’re now getting married with a baby on the way
@J J my wife left me she said she is done with me she doesn't feel happy with me anymore but I love her I never cheated on her not even once I'm loyal to my wife I was surprise when she told me that
@J J I know it wasn´t my fault, that´s what he made me believe, like I need to replace what it´s not working out here: me, that´s why he found another one after 1 month of the breakup. The more I watch these videos the more I relize that he made me a favor
sometimes it is, but also their ability to communicate they were not feeling well with how things were heading could have been better, so they're also at fault
My relationship is hopeless. 8 months no contact..she cheated on me and left me for somebody she worked with.. but on the bright side I lost 40 lb focused on myself and gained a lot of new friends! The one lesson I learned is to definitely just focus on yourself! Be strong and be better!
@@angelbaby3175 thanks! It was definitely hard. I still think about her alot but I know it's for the best. I lost who I was in that relationship. I still miss her and the two kids but things happen for a reason :)
hey sorry to hear that Billy, but isn't that a success in itself? you have a better life now then you did before and you only lost someone who was toxic enough to hurt you in such a way, all the best man, as someone who has had their significant other cheat before its a horrible thing but a silver lining also in the sense that they free you from the chains of them and their toxic/ narc behaviour, perhaps this latin phrase "memento mori" will allow you to see that this pain will pass, it means Remember death, in essence that our time on earth is short and by her forcing a break in your relationship you are free to have a better life in this short time. all the :) best !
@@shetookthekids484 that's absolutely right !! Thanks so much man! I've been in a great place this last month. I literally just been making Friends and focusing on my self! I really appreciate your comment
You have to feel it heal it so dont cover up and hide from your feelings however you can still move around it and do good for yourself. Only time truly heals and doing positive things for yourself. Easy to say hard to do but what other choice is there.......
My friends and family are telling me to move on. I know my ex'es family and friends are doing the same for her. I don't care what anyone says. I only care about two people's opinions, hers and mines.
Finding this channel was my saving grace in my breakup. It's been a year now, and although I thought I would never heal and move on, I did! It took about 8 months for me to finally feel strong enough to start dating again. I dated a new guy for about 6 weeks, and when he broke it off, it hurt but I definitely felt strong enough to be ok with it. I'm back to emotional neutral and doing great. I've decided to challenge myself in new areas and I really like who I'm becoming. No romantic prospects at the moment, but I can honestly say I'm good with it. I don't think I would've experienced this kind of growth without Craig and Margaret. Thanks so much for all you do! ❤
It's been more than 9 months now, and discovering self love has been the greatest gif I've received from this breakup. I don't feel like a success story yet, and I still have a long way to go, but starting to feel proud of yourself is priceless, no ex can compare. Put yourself first, and you'll be happy again with or without them!
This is true guys, I will comment even tho I was not planning to, but after 5 yrs apart, my ex who I was so in love with and lived with is finally coming back after no contact- all of a sudden, she is being nice and asking to make plans... I'm keeping it friendly because we have so much to solve if we wanted to return to a relationship but honestly, after so much positive progress in my life during these 5 yrs, I'm over her. Time does heal and everything will be fine.
Today, I had my first appointment with a therapist. I got to vent a lot. Even though my breakup wasn't the only topic, it was a big chunk and it all overlapped. Felt very productive. This video helps keep the positive attitude tank full. My next appointment is in a couple of weeks. I don't expect everything to be complete sunshine. Will have a few residual relationship calendar days I'll have to battle through soon, but I'm building on today and making a commitment on this journey to better myself. I wish everyone the best. Don't give up. I don't know how many times I've tried to help people and offer advice in my lifetime, but I rarely take my own advice. I'm finally going to listen to myself this time.
I’m sure we all look up to Craig and Margret for advice and guidance, they’re incredible experts in this field. However, we get these comments such as anyone was to say; “why are you wanting your ex back? Ex’s are ex’s for a reason” etc.... Ask yourself. Why are you looking up this video? Some people in this world fight for their previous loved ones. Some people are not willing to give up. So have respect that if someone wants to pursue this matter, leave them to it. Keep your negative opinions to yourself. Some comments are being truthful, fine but others are just nasty and negative. Keep up the videos. It helps me, and I’m sure it’s helping everyone else.
Christina Baldivino Hang in there. I’m about 3 weeks out of a break up and I’m feeling the same way . . . Hurts so much to just think of the small moments that I thought would never end . . . I’m hoping for that 2nd chance (this is a first break up) and the weird thing is our relationship was 99% great and only 1% ehhh (no cheating or anything even close to that). I just wish I knew a few weeks ago that that one night would be the last night falling asleep next to her, I would have held her a little tighter. Good luck and know there are others feeling the same way.
Stay positive. Been there than that. Yes it's so painful. It makes you feel so drained and abandoned but you must stay in No Contact. Focus on yourself. Love yourself. Trust God and meditation is also best to get yourself back in the process. I understand how does it feel but stay strong. Your ex will come back to you 🙏😇❤ My ex reached out to me after 3 weeks of NC. But we decided to stay what we have right now and get healed together. We're both working on it to be the best version of ourselves. God bless
I love this channel,and i thank god that it was put in my path,it gives me strength when i feel like im going to give in to no contact,and also to understand my actions more. God bless all of us suffering from all the hurt of love,when ironically it should be the opposite,thank you for all your work💯
I remember when negativity and my mental health was so controlling over my thoughts, all I craved was my ex. I was so obsessed with wanting to fix things and finding ways to even get her attention, someway somehow. With reflection and turning the focus onto myself, I realized I’m much better off without her due to her being a huge trigger to my anxiety and push buttons. I’m 100x happier than before. Sad, yet happy to say I finished the elite series. Wahhhhhh lol!
Christa omg I think I was same as you so obsessed with wanting to fix things and making sure he knew I’m here listening to what his issues with me are and how I’m so willing to work on myself to make us work ito meeting his unmet needs. As coaches put it we feel the blame and guilt so much that we don’t even look at their role as well it’s like we own our stuff and their stuff and they get away with not owning their stuff, feeling like they on a pedestal so high and we so low in value and we make them feel this way. Yes as Coach M says spot on at 8:34min - we wish it took something easier and not something as bad as a breakup that allows us the opportunity and motivation to work on us, to really take time on our own to figure ourselves out, what we want from life, and what makes us happy. I feel that we do often lose ourselves in relationships and that’s so sad because it’s not what we set out to do? Who enters a relationship to do this and for us to not grow together but to trigger each other in a bad way? No one does ofcrs! I feel sad and regret that love can turn to bitterness and that one party has to feel they need to leave to go find someone or something to make themselves happy. We hurt like hell, the pain and anxiety I can say that I understand and empathize truly with all the people who have been dumped. I went through a year of sadness and negative thoughts because I had such a long relationship - then there are kids so I’m forced to see the father daily. It doesn’t make healing easier. It’s been 20m since he left and it’s only now I can sort of ‘feel’ all the stuff these coaches say it’s like we can’t see it until one day the time and healing allows us to see it looking back that I can now write out the same sentiments as them to others going through it now. It still hurts I still go through waves of grief but it’s better in sense I can be more present at work and with my children and my friends and family and not the zombie I was in that first year of grief where I was utterly alone and just reclusive. But I can say one thing - it’s ok - the sadness and anxiety and depression and feeling so sick we don’t eat we lose weight we don’t feel like doing anything like going to gym or anything that is fun coz we don’t feel like doing fun stuff and it’s OK. It’s normal - normal to feel that hopelessness and that shock we all feel at the start. We all need to do that before we heal so take your time and don’t put yourself down for doing so, grieve. Because we do put our value so low; you feel horrid you feel you are not good enough that something is wrong with you and that it’s all your fault. The guilt and betrayal alone can kill you. But soon you will realize it’s ok. You learn to value yourself and you learn to even be proud for having fought and believing in your spouse’s / partner’s ability to also become better person and change and own their role and to chose to fight alongside with you. But sadly the dumper doesn’t see that of you. They don’t want to try and fight and they don’t want to believe in your willingness to fight for them. They see us fighting for them as clinging to them pushing them even further away. Perhaps they must lose us completely and realize how hard it is to find someone else who can love them for them and their flaws the way we did. We can be angry and hurt and resent them - I still do at times. Forgiveness is a long and arduous process but eventually you accept that it’s not a reflection of you - but a reflection of where they are and how they need to be in order to be happy and authentic with themselves. Their process is awful and somewhat selfish, but in the end we accept being ok without them. We accept being ok if they don’t want us because our happiness isn’t reliant on them. And you will feel it when you genuinely look at where you are at and feel ok wout them, feel ok for going and do fun stuff wout them and experiences even tho you promised each other you would share your life doing new things together. If the dumper can go be fine and happy doing stuff so easily why can’t you? They have moved on months before they broke up with us and that’s why it’s so easy for them to let go and carry on with life so easily while we stuck in the shock and pain of them having abandoned us. And that is where the pain and anxiety is - I felt that true abandonment that true pain again of having someone leave and be rejected for who I am. But we learn to self soothe and feel ok with who we are. So spend this time alone to figure out what you want, what makes you tick, what drives your happiness and what values you want to establish that makes your life worth living with or without them. Finding a partner then is to compliment your life and to add to / enrich that happiness not to fill a hole in it. My hope for him is that he realizes his happiness wasn’t dependent on me or that I never relied on him for mine (right now he feels that my saving strategies was not me valuing my commitment / vow to him), but he saw it as me chasing and needing him even tho I told him I wanted him and didn’t need him. But unfortunately for them to be convinced of that, they need to see us being ok wout them, not needing and clinging to them but most of all the fact that we respect their feelings - which as hard as it is it’s wot the coaches keep telling us and reiterating over and over. We say we don’t agree with your decision - we love you - but if you don’t want me around I respect your decision and go be free. And if you change your mind and I’m around still, then let’s talk. That’s all they want and for us to not guilt them into staying for our sake. It is so so hard I get it - I died a little and felt wot is the point? All this unnecessary pain we both have to suffer? Our kids our extended families being hurt? And for what? Because someone didn’t want to resolve issues? And worse? Wot did I do that was sooo bad that they didn’t want me? Didn’t see me for me the good loving mother of their children that I was? That I didn’t try my best to love him? The sad reality is when someone doesn’t want you, nothing you do will ever be good enough for them. Them leaving you is about them because they cannot appreciate the love they receive from you, so rather go find someone else who will. In the end, they doing the best they can with what they know and feel at THIS point in time. Who knows? Perhaps their feelings of hurt and resentment they feel towards us may change or they may hold on to it for long but we cannot put our lives on hold waiting for them. They may never come back to us - and we need to be ok with that. And if they want to resent us forever, then it’s their loss for wanting to hold on to such pain and can’t let go. Life is too short - do you want to be with someone who left you coz they can’t see you for you but keeps on thinking you this horrible version that they paint of you in their mind to justify leaving you? They will be the ones struggling in their next relationship or maybe they will realize then how they should have also treated you and feel sorry they also treated you badly and perhaps that one is a success? Only time will tell but right now, use this time to feel ok in your skin and to make a life as if they were never there in the first place. Soon you will exude that confidence and positive energy you will attract either someone else better or perhaps even your ex. Sadly they may feel you only got better due to them breaking up with you but again who cares? It’s how you pick yourself after the most challenging trauma one can ever face in their life that matters. Be strong and you will look back feeling so proud you came through this stronger, better and much much better version of yourself! 🌸
Tbh, I've given up on my ex. I like being alone. Realised I'm better off emotionally alone. Even tho she will always be the love of my life. Its time to walk away
I'm still motivated...since August of 2017. I am on probation forever. Listen to these 2. They are spot on. Margaret told me the truth. I couldn't believe it. It was true. I took her advice and have never been so happy and hopeful for a fantastic future!
hey @Coach Craig Kenneth its so depressing and sad to hear all these success stories, because some of us know that we will never hear back from our ex, neither do we want them back. its just the healing process we're in and the heartbreak trauma that hurts
It's hard to believe it will turn around..we were madly in love..he was planning on moving to the states..he went back to Germany after 5 1/2 weeks of bliss, and decided we need to clear our heads of each other..he can't make the move..I'm devastated and want to crawl in a hole..it's been 3 weeks NC, he's cold and treated me like a stranger..when does this hurt go away?
Isaac Smith my ex did the same, my ex is BPD lots of girls with BPD act that way look for validation anywhere they can, trust me they act that way for your absence, its a rollecoster of emotions, that was my experience, it’s ben 7 months of N.C I’m in a better place mentally emotionally and physically.
Your right you don’t here the success stories well for me it was 6 months no contact she came back....you have to be fonzie and what is fonzie? He’s cool Thanks for your support your videos really helped. It’s positive energy you need. She came with direct indirect lol keep the faith guys be amazing. Be the best version of yourself.
My partner stopped loving me a year ago but stayed with me because of various reasons, some of it was pity. They got colder towards me but they could also be warm at times. They broke up with me a month ago, they were indifferent towards me and told me to move on and that there is no chance we will get back together. I cling onto hope that they will change their mind but it does feel completely hopeless.. I still love them immensely.
Thanks guys , always good advice for us the unfortunate birds left alone in the nest with broken wings 😀but we will heal , there is always a light at the end of the tunnel 🧘♀️
how can I personally take my ex back of 15 years who jumps right into another relationship? rebound or not! it was total disrespect! from learning and listening its just best you focus on yourself, grow, and be the better version of yourself. the right people will come into your life soon enough
Married 23 years together for 25 years, 4 kids 1 grandson and I screwed up. Not on purpose, I didn't cheat but went on an adult dating site and she found out. I never planned on meeting anyone and never wanted too. I don't know why I was even looking. I love her and admire her and would never cheat or hurt her. She split with me 3 months back and I begged and pleaded for the first 2 months but she was cold and adamant we were never getting back together. God I love this woman and I prey she sees it was just a mistake and nothing actually happened. I need her In my life
Thank you, Craig and Margaret, you are my lifeline at the moment and listening to you is helping me make it through night of despair. It has been 9 months since the breakup, 7 months of NC and everybody around me thinks it is completely hopeless and that I moving on is my only choice. But I will not give up and you give me so much motivation and inspiration to stay strong. You are literally saving lives. Mine might have ended tonight had I not pulled myself together to watch some of your videos instead of following my self-destructive impulses. I do have faith that my breakup will turn around and I will try to stay strong, because my ex is the love of my life and I believe that we were good for each other.
Hi Coach, been a long time watching you guys guide us perfectly! This No contact worked for me twice but this time its crossing a record breaking 14days, however thanks for giving some ray of hope to us. Your videos are the biggest saviour during this No Contact! Staying positive
For how long, though? Its been a year. I had prayed he would change his mind. Nothing. Im moving to anothr state for work in 5 months. Whether or not he reaches out, Im going.
@@Camzwinget That's sweet, thank you!! I'm very much looking forward to this new chapter (Charleston, SC). It's just hard. My ex and I were friends for seven years. He was one of my best friends.
@@azazel3944 I'm stuck in the process where I did 38 days of limited contact since we live together. Been talking for two weeks and hooking up but she is still confused how she feels, holding hands is too romantic and so is kissing and when I asked her when she said she loved me, wanted me in her life and to experience everything with me, she replied yeah as a friend. Knew I should have never asked that question. Got too excited the other night when she put me as an emergency contact and listed it as boyfriend that I told her the next day I want her back as my girlfriend, that I love her and her response was I know you do and you are more emotionally involved in this endeavor than she is but she is fine when I asked her how she would feel about a romantic dinner date as in a date and not a hangout as friends deal since she said we need to just hang out as friends and have fun as well as live in the moment and do what feels right in that moment. So I am so lost right now lol
@@azazel3944 I dont actually mean friend but "friend." Its hard for me to read because I even told her if I moved on how would you feel and her response was probably just like all my other friends, do not talk to me and I'll just get over you. It's really hard for me to think she would fit into the mold of most women where these things work considering she hasn't fit that mold while we were together. Even bigger problem is we just moved across country and have a lease together for 10 months plus cannot really afford to move out on my own. So lost between being the guy I was and am around her, talking and so on vs just cold shoulder but again cannot really be ice because we live together.
Yes! Thank you both of you. You two are really AMAZING❤️💙❤️Thank you Margaret when you say OPTIMISTIC!! I feel like it too even though there are days I am down. Still recovering but I know I will stand upright and get better now.We love you🤗Thank you so much for you have so much care and compassion in you. May you succeed more. Hope to have coaching with either of you. Make plans already..🤗
long term long distance relationship broke no contact today by mistake and finally am sure he doesn't want me anymore when he says it's not a good idea to talk. how can anyone be certain or positive to have them back.... this is painful especially in a long distance. dumped by text.
5 months no contact exactly today. I have an anxious attachment style that I am working on. Today was very rough. I truely felt like I was back to being myself today until a thought about my ex crossed my mind. I was extremely jealous and insecure towards the end of the relationship. We were together for 2 1/2 years and shes about to graduate from highschool in 3 months. We fell in love so quickly and planned our futures together. We thought we were gonna be together forever. She broke up with me the day after our monthly anniversary. I almost caved in today to send a message asking if we can meet up and talk about what's been going on and how we feel. We work together and see each other almost every other day at work, but she treats me like I dont exist and avoids me. I've done every mistake and begged and pleaded and fought to fix things. She went from "I need a break, i don't love you, I just want to be friends for now" to "we will never get back together, you need to move on" in just a week. I dont know what to do. I've been focusing on bettering myself, and I'm really tempted to ask her for a second chance. Any thoughts folks? I really love her
My ex is dating someone new but he looks miserable as hell. He can't even smile in his profile picture and he doesn't give her any attention on social media. You can tell she's just chasing him and it's not mutual. He started dating her just days before Valentine's Day, which was day 59 of no contact for us. I know that's the only reason he went ahead with this relationship. But even still, I don't know that there's any hope for us because he's very stubborn and prideful. I can just see him breaking up with her and moving on to the next, just trying to fill that void with one woman after another, rather than take his own advice and get the therapy that he needs to deal with his intimacy issues. I hate seeing this play out because this is a man that I wanted to marry.
Awww yes Craig. . My ex did reach out and said he missed me but it's been 11 months and he didn't come back. My heart still feels sad...I miss him. But I started my own business...something positive did come out of it. 😁
I was happily married for 21 years. We were having soo much fun. We rarely ever argued; arguments were a short calm disagreement and a talk, but rarely ever happened. We considered each other soulmates. We were always inventing new exciting things to do together. We were always hand in hand and laughing together. Three years ago we bought motorcycles and began obsessively riding together. We were having sooo much fun. In fall of 2017 she bought a game (Skyrim) and began playing for hours every day while I was at work. At first I didn't really care. But it began to slowly eat away at our time together. When I came home, we used to meet at the door with a hug and a kiss, then go for a drive and a coffee; that stopped. Things progressed to the point that she was playing 16 hours a day every day. She would get up in the middle of the night to play. I begged her to stop. I told her that it felt like I lost my best friend. She turned to me and angrily said, "maybe you should move out". I was horrified. A month later I approached her again and begged her and gave her an ultimatum; the game or me. She chose the game, announced our separation that day (mother's day 2018), and moved to the basement suite with her gaming set-up. She said that she would need time to find a job and move out. She stayed down there until November 1st before I had to force her to leave with threats of court orders. She got a minimum wage job and moved out. She now maintains her job and plays her game in all her spare time. She has pushed me, her parents and her children away. The only person she will see is our youngest daughter; only because she will shop for her and do things for her. We have been separated since last May, and she has been gone from our house since last November. I miss her so much. I have not contacted her since she left, and she has not contacted me. She emailed me and asked me to send her some items left behind, but that's it. I gave them to my daughter to give to her. I received lawyer papers for divorce about a month ago; it includes dividing of property and alimony guidelines. I have seen my lawyer also. I can't believe that something so good, turned so bad, so quickly after 21 years of a beautiful marriage and friendship. I have been through a lot of pain; unbearable pain. I rode my bike through the summer of 2018 and took refuge at my sisters in the next city on my days off while my wife played her summer away in the basement. I am doing better now, but still hurting. Is there any hope with a situation like this?
Ian Brown Oh man.. how awful, my heart goes out to you 😔 ... gaming addiction is real and i don’t think people take it serious enough. It seems as though she’s hiding from herself or something through her game. It must make her feel a certain way she is lacking. It’s not your fault. I hope things get better for you 🖤
@@marizahofercoach It has been 4 years since we separated. It took me 3 years to get over the break up. I finally started to feel good at the beginning of last year (2021). I ended up going to court and getting a short term reasonable alimony settlement that ends this year. She didn't fare as well as she thought she would. All-in-all it was a very hard 3 years. A lot of ups and downs. I really had to focus on my mental and physical health. Riding my motorcycle thousands of miles was my therapy. The winters and Christmases were hard. I met a nice lady last year, and we are living together now. We've been together for 5 months. We have a good relationship. We are looking forward to summer together this year. We have a lot in common. We are beginning to grow together. My advice to anybody that looses somebody they love: Try to be around family; find something to do that brings you some happiness; eat nutritious food; exercise every day. If you are an older person, get a check-up by your doctor. Get your blood hormone levels checked, and get your vitamin levels checked. Take vitamin D in the winter; it will help with depression. I wouldn't wish the pain I went through, on my worst enemy.
@@marizahofercoach It always gets darkest before it gets light. You need to find something you enjoy doing. Keep working out, and keep eating properly. You never know what good things are around the corner. Death is something we all think about when times are tough, but death already comes soon enough. Work on being a better person. Work on your mind with affirmations and manifestations. Whatever you tell your mind, will make it happen; this is very magical.. Work on your finances. Now is a great time to re-eveluate your life, focus on yourself and your daughter, and work on improving all areas of your life. You can do it, sister. Tell yourself what you want. Visualize it, and it will happen.
@@marizahofercoach Forget the war. Let him go. Move on to better things. If you don't, you'll miss out on what's around the corner for you. Heal yourself, change the way you think.
Thank you Coach Craig and Margret! For all of your hard work! *Craig, I'm going to start with your first workbook, ,The Knowledge,, soon to journey from there! I sincerely appreciate all that you two share ❤
My husband left me and is living with someone else I’m still not over him it’s nearly been a year depressed and not well have 3 kids to look after too x when will this nitemare end x he’s happy now and I’m miserable 😩
Dear Craig and Margaret, I don't know what the future will bring. We do know that probabilities and percentages based on past success or failures can give insight into what can or may happen just as you both teach in what NC can and does do. After two weeks of separating from a woman I very much loved I learned something very important watching all your videos, some over and over again, mainly to work on oneself and be patient. I have come to accept that we might never get together, but as I work on myself I can see the trees for the forest. I joined a gym, I am working out, losing weight, regaining my former strength, looking to better my life in general in many aspects, especially after I abandoned myself for far too long. Looking forward to a bright future with or without the woman I loved. (well, truth be told, I still love her) but I won't be sitting on my backside waiting. If she does call me before I find someone else, so much the batter, if not. que sera sera. Thank you guys so much for all the positive energy and great advice you give over. I love the passion you both have for helping your fellow human being. Your love and understanding comes through and it has touched my heart. Thank you
Coach Craig I honestly believe my relationship is truly done. She left me after almost 4 years and living together just about the same time. She has been cold and angry with me every time I tried to talk to her. After 3 weeks she finally got her stuff but left a few things I felt were sentimental to her. I don't know why she took so long to move out or why she left a few things that I know she wanted, She said she needed to love herself better than what she had been. I took her for granted and made her feel unimportant. I acknowledged it and even apologized for making her feel the way she did. I am older than her by far and wonder if our age gap helped her with her decision. I stopped contact with her as it only made her angrier. Either way after telling me we are done she still has texted me a few times only to tell me everything that's made her upset about the relationship and she Las better off without me. Why does she continue to text like this? Why leave some personal items behind?
I'm currently feel so hopeless. I keep going to videos like these because it kinda gives me hope. But I don't think my ex is coming back. We've been together for 6 years and he just dropped me just like that. Now he's tagging his female colleague on Facebook and I'm afraid that they might be dating. Is there any hope that he'll come back? I miss him so much.
It's going to be okay. This period of time just sucks, there's no way around that. What you're feeling isn't going to just go away. The only thing you can do is to use those negative emotions as fuel to change and fix things about yourself. I promise, you WILL be okay, sooner or later.
@coachcraigkenneth I try to listen to your videos everyday. Your insight and knowledge had had a fundamental shift in my thinking pattern. I feel like I’m growing day by day. I have so much love and gratitude for both you and Margaret for imparting your wisdom on us sorry folk. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your continued service. One day I hope to book a Skype - I would like to learn more about my own childhood traumas and how I can become mentally stronger. Until I will listen to your dulcet tones as I sleep! ❤️❤️ Lots of love from London. Aisha xx
I always have faith that my ex girlfriend will come back one day, (which I wish it’s soon) but whatever the case and whenever the time, I have faith and the universe is in my prayers and hands.
Hi I know you are great therapist, but some people just can’t afford a coaching session. Just have a question about the the break up, can there be a second chance if ex left to work overseas and he literally said he doesn’t want a relationship with you but was okay being friends?? He said no more chances as we hadn’t worked for over 3 years and he felt the relationship was too toxic. If that’s the case, what are the chances that no contact can work can work for long distance? He had not reached out but does reply when I text him, albeit very slow replies. His heart is not just in it anymore and he left the relationship months back before the actual breakup.
Its hard cause my first ex of 2 and a half years came back begging after 4 months of no contact. Even though she said she's never coming back, and she doesnt love me anymore. I did not know I was doing the no contact rule back then. I just got tired and just let her be. I did not want her back cause I met someone new whom I dont want to hurt. And now because of that event, I have this hope that my current ex of almost 4 years would do the same thing too. But IT HURTS SO MUCH cause I know she's different. I know this time, she's never coming back. This hurts alot more than the first time. Im dying. I wish my pain would go away and disappear. It hurts so much. Im tired. I dont want to hope anymore and the memories are killing me. Im just thinking she's dead to me.
@6 String Therapy Its my birthday tomorrow and not being happy just makes me more depressed. I know she won't greet me tomorrow and it's much more difficult during this pandemic cause I can't go out and have fun with friends on my birthday. Instead, I'm going to spend it at home alone and it's just sad. After my birthday, is her birthday in a week. I'm not gonna greet her. I just hope I would be permitted by the authorities to go home to my hometown in the province, maybe there I can be happy. I hope this will be over and done cause I'm already tired. It's almost 3 months now and I've been in the house, I can't go out except for groceries, can't meet friends. There's just no progress cause I'm just by myself with my thoughts isolated from the world.
My ex after a 5 month break up has recently started posting on social media some direct indirect posts. Responding to a post I wrote that was not even directed to her. But answering it. While we are in no contact. The second one she posted that she is thinking of her ex. "Don't you?" She planted a question in her post. She has not followed up on my brief response. But she is probably not going to reach out completely yet. She is starting to show signs posting that she can't forget her ex. "ME". These are her initial moves when she is about to come back. "Testing the waters" first before reaching out completely. It has been a long 5 months. She is finally breaking down. As stubborn as she is. I'll give it a week. Thanks Craig and Margaret!
@@gman9202 She posted that she had a falling out with her rebound. He returned from out of state with flowers candy and an apology. I give it a week or two at the most. He just broke up again with his ex. And is down on his luck. He will be gone quickly and back with his ex again like a typical rebound.
@@gman9202 Not yet. Further developments happened. She has been posting about her relationship with her rebound who returned. So I had to wait longer. She is extremely unhappy with this dude. He has no interest in her as a person. His only interest was ***. You know what I mean. Now that the hormones wore of and faded it's back to reality. She is MISERABLE being with him. And based on her posts it is the worst decision she ever made. She is obviously extremely depressed. Posting that he pushes her away and rejects intimacy with her. Hey! All I did was give it time and give it space. This train wreck of a so-called relationship needs a body bag. Because it's dead on arrival. Tomorrow is her birthday and she is going to miss me and be very depressed. I'll just relax and wait for it...wait for it... That's the update. She is a highly charged emotional intimate type of woman. And together we were like Atomic energy. Right now I bet she is hotter than a firecracker. Stay tuned. That's the update G Man.
@@jinxlee8556 thanks brother, more important than your ex I hope you're feeling better than last week? I have radio silence from mine, she does blogs/vids and seems fine but I'm weaning myself off social media stalking her. Not sure which of our scenarios is worse but I genuinely hope we both grow from our own experiences and get the best for us. Stay strong bro!
Love Craig and Margaret. I listen to them staying positive mine will not sure how or when. Mine was a month ago thinking I looked him at a distance. He said over a month ago he would call me in a few days and not to call to push him futher away and call when ready. Still waiting and fb friends with my parents and friends me i am blocked. But I am staying hopeful. Been working very hard on me 100%. Been working out, going out with friends.
My ex dumper me because she said i was the problem, she didnt believe i will be a good father and husband, so after 6 years of perfect and lovely relationship, i was happy and i know she was too, we were living together ( we were students), one sunny morning she told me to leave the apartment and give her space. All of this happened a month after she lied to me twice that she is at home, both times i called her from our home ( i came earlier from work), and both of the times i believed to her lies that she was just walking down street even tho she was well dressed and had plenty of parfume...She told me not to contact her ever again, i begged, pleade etc...She is sending me breacrumbs now, i deleted her and her family from every social media, enough begging from my side ( because i feel guilty, she made me to believe so). Her mother is calling me from time to time to tell me to call their daughter and try to get back, last time i did that we went on coffee and she kinda dumped me again saying she is not seeing me as boyfriend anymore even tho she was crying and she said she still loves me...i dont get it but whatever, NC it is until forever. Guess attack is best defence at the end.
I feel my situation is hopeless. I continue to work on myself during no contact. Sometimes I feel like reaching out to my ex, but I don't. I hope one day we can repair things.
My ex fiance and I brokeup 5 years ago..I one who lost hope in love...I went thru alot in last 5 years with depression n aniexty...Now I findout she dating someone her mom just said he steady friend to her...I know what it means...Now I like do I want her back at all if there someone elsed..I know she still love me....I have prayed n stay positive but how does it turn around or get better when my ex push me away...punish me for the pain still today..
I will update a new conclusion, this is not a be all end all. I haven't watched this video, but I've been watching CCK for 3 months. I feel ultimately that being in Faith of getting back together shouldn't be the goal. You should focus on yourself and develop and grow and be amazing. If you had your ex when you were shitty, imagine who you can get when you've fulfilled your purpose and achieved your mastery.
I wish I could afford your coaching Craig, I’m in such a bad place & my head is fried. It’s like I’ve watched so many videos & understand what I could do going forward but won’t get that chance. Despite getting help I can’t process things. And I can’t deal with the regret & knowing I made these mistakes which ruined any chance I had at sorting things.. & because of how I acted I pushed her away I lost someone I saw a future with. and I’ve only got myself to blame. Like how do you live with that??
What helped me the most to cope with the guilt of proper screwing up is to make the decision that the person that made those mistakes, my old me, was going to die together with that relationship. Your new 'you' will never ever make those mistakes again, and you will honour that till you kick the bucket, even if she may never be in the picture again. Become the version of you that you know is within, but didn't dare to be, back then. With time, you will forgive the old you, and be glad that at least, losing the person you loved was not in vain. Make it count!
Domingo Alsina I should’ve learned from last time though.. 5 years difference and I had the same thing happen :/ but suppose I don’t have much choice but to try your way ha. Thank you
Hi Craig ,my ex brokeup with me for another guy that is way older than me , last time we spoke l told her l forgive her ,will she reconnect with me, please respond.
I've given up i reacted to my exs behavior towards me on social media and i called him out on it on Facebook on a post & he unfriended me blocked me on instragram so yes I'm just going to move on now the only way thing's could turn around is if he realises he was wrong
Whats the success rate on a secound break up? :P can there be a "third times the charm"? My ex broke up eith me december 2017, she reached out again febuary 2018, and we had our first date on valentines. We dated until december 2018, and then broke up again...just as bad as the first time. I have been in no contact since then, 4 months. I did not work on myself enough the first time, I realised through Craigs videos where the problems might lie. But, there is one thing to be awere of the problems, and another for them to be "solved", like in your unconcious. I ignored the signs. She must have been pretty strong to put up with my unconcios behaviour for another 10 months, but then she could not take it anymore. Work on your unconcious self if this is your first break up!!...peace
I just want to be okay with them not coming back. I am in love with an avoidant person and I am an anxious person. The last month we experienced some space issues and he said he had too much going on for me. I am devastated behind this. I am doing the no contact and has blocked him on all social media. I heard what you said about the blocking. I did it for me because I didn't want to be constantly checking up on him. I hate that I even want him back.
Hello, I love your advice and videos from you and Margaret, the best and cleverest. My long distance ex has had me blocked for a year and has been mean and sent me a nasty message a few weeks ago,she wrote terrible things. What advice can you give me. I know only Craig and Margaret can console me.
Are there any stories of long distance breakups like mine... After three years long distance n he called it off with a silent treatment and that was it... 3 months no contact
After 10 days of NC my ex messaged me re a pending business. I responded after a few seconds and we had casual more exchanges focused on said business. He updated me again this morning. I am having mixed emotions but troubled for the most part. Missing him more. Anxious whether he has completely moved on. I left him bec he was cheating on me. He admitted to a friend that I am no longer a priority and just wanted us to be friends which, of course, I declined. It is truly hard to appear fine and be fine. Still struggling here. I need some encouraging words...so troubled :(
I broke up with my avoidant boyfriend and then he started talking to another girl. I don’t want to get back with my ex but I wonder if he’ll ever reach out to me. Do you see avoidants come back?
hello mr.craig. i would like an opinion please.after 7 months of my no contact my ex texted.we spoke.in the end with a way of mine i made him say something after the break he had sex with other women and last was precious month.he says he realises his mistakes and loves and i am the unique for him.he wants to come back and if i say yes he will stop immediatly do all these stuff because he claims he wants only me.and from the moment he texted me and i opened the line he finnished with all his bullshit.now he begg me to return.i cant forget the way he treated me before the break up but still love him.all problems started when he went to live in his mothers house.before we were leaving together and we were happy.i am very confused.can you suggest me something?thank you
Hi Craig! It's been 2 and a half months since my ex broke up with me. And 2 weeks after the break up she started sleeping with someone else. I know that it already failed.And she asked about me to mutral friends after. I stayed in NC from day one. She reached out one time with a drunk text 2 weeks ago inviting me out. My response was very short. Leaving the door open but not playing in. Not mentioning anything about the break up. Haven't said a word since. Today is now my 31st birthday and I know I probably won't hear from her. It sucks. I definitely feel like I didn't mean much to someone I really cared about. It hurts thinking about her on this day.
My ex was coming out of a controlling relationship when I met her. I'm the complete opposite of controlling - in fact I'm not nearly assertive enough. I think initially she liked the complete change of personality. After the honeymoon period she became more and more critical and ultimately quite controlling. I struggled to cope with this. It turns out she met someone else 5 months before she broke up with me but didn't tell me until the day of the break up a few weeks ago. She describes the new man also as being very controlling. Is there any hope that she might return to me do you think? I don't believe I have the capacity to be controlling just to win her back. But what else can I do?
My ex has been reaching out doing the indirect direct approach the last several weeks. We started talking again, but she said she just started dating someone. I told her it was too hard for me to be just friends. It hurts too much, but it also hurts to not be there for her. I hope I'm doing the right thing. :'(
Me and my ex breakup more then 2 months ..in the beginning i was trying to fix the problem day after i got mad i told her just go way i don't care am better than you..then later i apologize again and trying to fix things didn't work..i wish i never try..cause we was loving each other ..what's going on now ..it's gonna hurt both not just me why i should care ..if love come back in the right time not when is too late we still have chance to start over with more experience if isn't god bless us ..
After 4 months of no contact I thought I have been alright healing n working on myself... Today I saw his Instagram.... He changed his profile and now his profile is private to me. I can see nothing anymore. I wanna die.... Is this the answer. I collapsed n broke down.... I can't do this
I never kno when I can get back with my ex I had been waiting but I dont like too Hurt kno one what so ever but I think that hes just so very popular with other girls I mean I'm glad that he had other girlfriends but I wanted too be with him every one else can I just wish that I had my on chance but I wish well and for him and all...and thank you for the videos Craig Bennett and Miss Marviearet I hope I I spoiled her name right...
What if during the relationship the problems caused her (my ex ) to fail school. Now 2 months post break up shes back in school doing well? Wouldn’t that cause her to not want to jeopardize dealing with the with the relationship?
Hi Craig. You insist in many videos, -I am sure with the best intention-, not to lose hope, to be optimistic, based on the idea that things often times 'turn around'. Maybe that thought eases the pain momentarily, but the reality is that most relationships out there won't be really revisited, (or it will takes years for the dumper to change enough as to consider it). So here is the catch 22: it takes long time for the dumper to 'miss' you, but the longer it goes from the break up, the slimmest the odds to have a round-two. After years of coaching online, what about releasing a video with real numbers, percentages, cold-hard statistics about relationships by age groups, and percentage of exes back Vs time of NC. Wouldn't that give people a real perspective about the overall chances? Is there any serious study about this out there? Even if every case/person is different, I feel data backing up your recommendations will help everybody to have a more solid ground. Once said that, let me send you and Margaret a big thanks for putting lots of interesting information out there, keep up the great work.
I want to tell everyone reading this I had a Skype call with Craig today and it was amazing, trust this man he knows his job very well, and he truly cares about us as he's been through it all. Save your money its worth every penny... Thank you Craig you a god to me. This is you Nova Scotia Canadian man.
You forgot to tell everyone that you have seen EVERY ONE Of my videos! 💪
I've seen them all too and some 10 times....thanks Craig!
True guys I've watched all the videos in 2 months I've has some negative addictions in my life but watching these videos has been my healthy addiction, it does get better with time but you need to take Craig and Margarets advice it works guys, either way in the end if you get your ex back or not your going to become very mentally healthy and ready for anything life throws at you.
@@cynthiadavison5785 I also watch his videos multiple times lol. Glad to know im not alone. I feel like I learn something new everytime.
Did you record it so you can listen to it over and over? :) I feel like that's something I would do.
Sometimes God separates us in order to work on us before bringing us back together 😉
LaTasha Ursin I believe in this so much. Thank you 🙏🏾
Thank you for this. Currently my ex said she is open for her and I to go to therapy together, but for now she wants to figure out what she needs in her future, two step kids(mine) and two of hers has been overwhelming her the last couple of years. We’ve been separated for a month now. Praying for her every day
I can believe this
So true and I put all the trust and faith in God almighty.... she just got a job and I am jobless right now...she dumped me because I became too unproductive and irresponsible.... working myself on my career since then... God is everywhere 😊
Thank you
Break up pain is the worst ever pain and I figured out why. This person made you feel comfortable enough to be completely vulnerable, you showed them your flaws, your weaknesses, your trauma from the past and they let you go, so all that pain you ever felt comes back into one big pain in the ass
I wanted to jump on here and give you all some hope. I watched these videos on repeat for 6.5 weeks after my ex decided he wasn’t sure anymore. The situation seemed hopeless. I even noticed he started following other girls from his past on IG and FB. It was crickets the entire time...but guess what? I just got a text from him today saying and he realized he made a huge mistake and for the last 3 weeks, he hasn’t stopped thinking about me and knew after this time apart that we were meant to be together. Pray and ask God to draw your hearts back together. Follow the advice, GO NO CONTACT & WORK ON YOURSELF. I know every situation is different, but I was one that thought it would NEVER happen.
Thank you for this. I was hopeless for the first 2 weeks and I am finally starting to feel hopeful. I know we shared a bond like he has never had before. I need to trust that it meant something to him and that it will bring him back to me.
@@BeautyandtheBarista updates?
Luck you. 6.5 weeks. Try 9 months
People watch these videos because they are hurting, be kind! 🌹❤️
"I choose you rather than I need you" - sheesh, Margaret preaching that gospel!
I got my ex back all thanks to you guys, thank you so much. Your videos always got me through. I still watch them though even I had success☺️
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AlexTheFox990 we’re now working on getting our marriage license to get married and we have a baby on the way ☺️
prishh he wanted nothing to do with me, I went to therapy focused on myself, he ended up begging for me back and yeah now we’re better than ever. Never been in a healthier relationship as it was a little toxic before. We’re now getting married with a baby on the way
I love what you said: our ex did a good job at making us feel it was our fault, so true.
Jacqueline López Zeledón and that is where the real pain comes from. They make us feel like it’s our fault. But it wasn’t!
agreed!
@J J my wife left me she said she is done with me she doesn't feel happy with me anymore but I love her I never cheated on her not even once I'm loyal to my wife I was surprise when she told me that
@J J I know it wasn´t my fault, that´s what he made me believe, like I need to replace what it´s not working out here: me, that´s why he found another one after 1 month of the breakup. The more I watch these videos the more I relize that he made me a favor
sometimes it is, but also their ability to communicate they were not feeling well with how things were heading could have been better, so they're also at fault
My relationship is hopeless. 8 months no contact..she cheated on me and left me for somebody she worked with.. but on the bright side I lost 40 lb focused on myself and gained a lot of new friends! The one lesson I learned is to definitely just focus on yourself! Be strong and be better!
So sorry to hear. My ex left me over a month ago PROMISED to call nothing. Not losing hope
Glad u lost weight and gained friends
@@angelbaby3175 thanks! It was definitely hard. I still think about her alot but I know it's for the best. I lost who I was in that relationship. I still miss her and the two kids but things happen for a reason :)
If u need a friend i am here to listen
hey sorry to hear that Billy, but isn't that a success in itself? you have a better life now then you did before and you only lost someone who was toxic enough to hurt you in such a way, all the best man, as someone who has had their significant other cheat before its a horrible thing but a silver lining also in the sense that they free you from the chains of them and their toxic/ narc behaviour, perhaps this latin phrase "memento mori" will allow you to see that this pain will pass, it means Remember death, in essence that our time on earth is short and by her forcing a break in your relationship you are free to have a better life in this short time. all the :) best !
@@shetookthekids484 that's absolutely right !! Thanks so much man! I've been in a great place this last month. I literally just been making Friends and focusing on my self! I really appreciate your comment
it is really hard to stay positive all the time
Yeon In Han it’s hard I’m in the same boat but don’t give up focus on yourself and keep working on yourself. God bless
You have to feel it heal it so dont cover up and hide from your feelings however you can still move around it and do good for yourself. Only time truly heals and doing positive things for yourself. Easy to say hard to do but what other choice is there.......
My friends and family are telling me to move on. I know my ex'es family and friends are doing the same for her. I don't care what anyone says. I only care about two people's opinions, hers and mines.
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Did your ex ever reach out to you???
Finding this channel was my saving grace in my breakup. It's been a year now, and although I thought I would never heal and move on, I did! It took about 8 months for me to finally feel strong enough to start dating again. I dated a new guy for about 6 weeks, and when he broke it off, it hurt but I definitely felt strong enough to be ok with it. I'm back to emotional neutral and doing great. I've decided to challenge myself in new areas and I really like who I'm becoming. No romantic prospects at the moment, but I can honestly say I'm good with it. I don't think I would've experienced this kind of growth without Craig and Margaret. Thanks so much for all you do! ❤
He loves Margaret, lol he looks at her with great respect
It's been more than 9 months now, and discovering self love has been the greatest gif I've received from this breakup. I don't feel like a success story yet, and I still have a long way to go, but starting to feel proud of yourself is priceless, no ex can compare. Put yourself first, and you'll be happy again with or without them!
This is true guys, I will comment even tho I was not planning to, but after 5 yrs apart, my ex who I was so in love with and lived with is finally coming back after no contact- all of a sudden, she is being nice and asking to make plans... I'm keeping it friendly because we have so much to solve if we wanted to return to a relationship but honestly, after so much positive progress in my life during these 5 yrs, I'm over her. Time does heal and everything will be fine.
Today, I had my first appointment with a therapist. I got to vent a lot. Even though my breakup wasn't the only topic, it was a big chunk and it all overlapped. Felt very productive.
This video helps keep the positive attitude tank full.
My next appointment is in a couple of weeks.
I don't expect everything to be complete sunshine. Will have a few residual relationship calendar days I'll have to battle through soon, but I'm building on today and making a commitment on this journey to better myself.
I wish everyone the best. Don't give up.
I don't know how many times I've tried to help people and offer advice in my lifetime, but I rarely take my own advice. I'm finally going to listen to myself this time.
I’m sure we all look up to Craig and Margret for advice and guidance, they’re incredible experts in this field. However, we get these comments such as anyone was to say;
“why are you wanting your ex back? Ex’s are ex’s for a reason” etc....
Ask yourself. Why are you looking up this video? Some people in this world fight for their previous loved ones. Some people are not willing to give up.
So have respect that if someone wants to pursue this matter, leave them to it. Keep your negative opinions to yourself. Some comments are being truthful, fine but others are just nasty and negative.
Keep up the videos. It helps me, and I’m sure it’s helping everyone else.
Watching your videos is getting me through this non contact time. My situation is very complicated and hard to have hope. My heart is so broken. :'(
Christina Baldivino Hang in there. I’m about 3 weeks out of a break up and I’m feeling the same way . . . Hurts so much to just think of the small moments that I thought would never end . . . I’m hoping for that 2nd chance (this is a first break up) and the weird thing is our relationship was 99% great and only 1% ehhh (no cheating or anything even close to that). I just wish I knew a few weeks ago that that one night would be the last night falling asleep next to her, I would have held her a little tighter. Good luck and know there are others feeling the same way.
Stay positive. Been there than that. Yes it's so painful. It makes you feel so drained and abandoned but you must stay in No Contact. Focus on yourself. Love yourself. Trust God and meditation is also best to get yourself back in the process. I understand how does it feel but stay strong. Your ex will come back to you 🙏😇❤ My ex reached out to me after 3 weeks of NC. But we decided to stay what we have right now and get healed together. We're both working on it to be the best version of ourselves. God bless
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Hi Christina how have you been? Did he contact you finally?
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I love this channel,and i thank god that it was put in my path,it gives me strength when i feel like im going to give in to no contact,and also to understand my actions more. God bless all of us suffering from all the hurt of love,when ironically it should be the opposite,thank you for all your work💯
I remember when negativity and my mental health was so controlling over my thoughts, all I craved was my ex. I was so obsessed with wanting to fix things and finding ways to even get her attention, someway somehow. With reflection and turning the focus onto myself, I realized I’m much better off without her due to her being a huge trigger to my anxiety and push buttons. I’m 100x happier than before. Sad, yet happy to say I finished the elite series. Wahhhhhh lol!
Did u love them?
Coach Craig Kenneth YES!! 😭❤️
Good job man, see how you focus on yourself you become extra better than them
Dude, I’m in the same boat! I’m happier within my self and love myself. Keep doing the great work! 💪🏼
Christa omg I think I was same as you so obsessed with wanting to fix things and making sure he knew I’m here listening to what his issues with me are and how I’m so willing to work on myself to make us work ito meeting his unmet needs. As coaches put it we feel the blame and guilt so much that we don’t even look at their role as well it’s like we own our stuff and their stuff and they get away with not owning their stuff, feeling like they on a pedestal so high and we so low in value and we make them feel this way.
Yes as Coach M says spot on at 8:34min - we wish it took something easier and not something as bad as a breakup that allows us the opportunity and motivation to work on us, to really take time on our own to figure ourselves out, what we want from life, and what makes us happy.
I feel that we do often lose ourselves in relationships and that’s so sad because it’s not what we set out to do? Who enters a relationship to do this and for us to not grow together but to trigger each other in a bad way? No one does ofcrs! I feel sad and regret that love can turn to bitterness and that one party has to feel they need to leave to go find someone or something to make themselves happy.
We hurt like hell, the pain and anxiety I can say that I understand and empathize truly with all the people who have been dumped. I went through a year of sadness and negative thoughts because I had such a long relationship - then there are kids so I’m forced to see the father daily. It doesn’t make healing easier.
It’s been 20m since he left and it’s only now I can sort of ‘feel’ all the stuff these coaches say it’s like we can’t see it until one day the time and healing allows us to see it looking back that I can now write out the same sentiments as them to others going through it now. It still hurts I still go through waves of grief but it’s better in sense I can be more present at work and with my children and my friends and family and not the zombie I was in that first year of grief where I was utterly alone and just reclusive.
But I can say one thing - it’s ok - the sadness and anxiety and depression and feeling so sick we don’t eat we lose weight we don’t feel like doing anything like going to gym or anything that is fun coz we don’t feel like doing fun stuff and it’s OK. It’s normal - normal to feel that hopelessness and that shock we all feel at the start.
We all need to do that before we heal so take your time and don’t put yourself down for doing so, grieve. Because we do put our value so low; you feel horrid you feel you are not good enough that something is wrong with you and that it’s all your fault. The guilt and betrayal alone can kill you.
But soon you will realize it’s ok. You learn to value yourself and you learn to even be proud for having fought and believing in your spouse’s / partner’s ability to also become better person and change and own their role and to chose to fight alongside with you.
But sadly the dumper doesn’t see that of you. They don’t want to try and fight and they don’t want to believe in your willingness to fight for them. They see us fighting for them as clinging to them pushing them even further away. Perhaps they must lose us completely and realize how hard it is to find someone else who can love them for them and their flaws the way we did.
We can be angry and hurt and resent them - I still do at times. Forgiveness is a long and arduous process but eventually you accept that it’s not a reflection of you - but a reflection of where they are and how they need to be in order to be happy and authentic with themselves. Their process is awful and somewhat selfish, but in the end we accept being ok without them. We accept being ok if they don’t want us because our happiness isn’t reliant on them. And you will feel it when you genuinely look at where you are at and feel ok wout them, feel ok for going and do fun stuff wout them and experiences even tho you promised each other you would share your life doing new things together.
If the dumper can go be fine and happy doing stuff so easily why can’t you? They have moved on months before they broke up with us and that’s why it’s so easy for them to let go and carry on with life so easily while we stuck in the shock and pain of them having abandoned us. And that is where the pain and anxiety is - I felt that true abandonment that true pain again of having someone leave and be rejected for who I am. But we learn to self soothe and feel ok with who we are.
So spend this time alone to figure out what you want, what makes you tick, what drives your happiness and what values you want to establish that makes your life worth living with or without them. Finding a partner then is to compliment your life and to add to / enrich that happiness not to fill a hole in it. My hope for him is that he realizes his happiness wasn’t dependent on me or that I never relied on him for mine (right now he feels that my saving strategies was not me valuing my commitment / vow to him), but he saw it as me chasing and needing him even tho I told him I wanted him and didn’t need him.
But unfortunately for them to be convinced of that, they need to see us being ok wout them, not needing and clinging to them but most of all the fact that we respect their feelings - which as hard as it is it’s wot the coaches keep telling us and reiterating over and over.
We say we don’t agree with your decision - we love you - but if you don’t want me around I respect your decision and go be free. And if you change your mind and I’m around still, then let’s talk. That’s all they want and for us to not guilt them into staying for our sake. It is so so hard I get it - I died a little and felt wot is the point? All this unnecessary pain we both have to suffer? Our kids our extended families being hurt? And for what?
Because someone didn’t want to resolve issues? And worse? Wot did I do that was sooo bad that they didn’t want me? Didn’t see me for me the good loving mother of their children that I was? That I didn’t try my best to love him? The sad reality is when someone doesn’t want you, nothing you do will ever be good enough for them. Them leaving you is about them because they cannot appreciate the love they receive from you, so rather go find someone else who will.
In the end, they doing the best they can with what they know and feel at THIS point in time. Who knows? Perhaps their feelings of hurt and resentment they feel towards us may change or they may hold on to it for long but we cannot put our lives on hold waiting for them. They may never come back to us - and we need to be ok with that.
And if they want to resent us forever, then it’s their loss for wanting to hold on to such pain and can’t let go. Life is too short - do you want to be with someone who left you coz they can’t see you for you but keeps on thinking you this horrible version that they paint of you in their mind to justify leaving you?
They will be the ones struggling in their next relationship or maybe they will realize then how they should have also treated you and feel sorry they also treated you badly and perhaps that one is a success? Only time will tell but right now, use this time to feel ok in your skin and to make a life as if they were never there in the first place.
Soon you will exude that confidence and positive energy you will attract either someone else better or perhaps even your ex. Sadly they may feel you only got better due to them breaking up with you but again who cares? It’s how you pick yourself after the most challenging trauma one can ever face in their life that matters.
Be strong and you will look back feeling so proud you came through this stronger, better and much much better version of yourself! 🌸
Craig and Margaret are like the Yoda of relationships. Also good for you for talking about the rude people in some of the comments.
Tbh, I've given up on my ex. I like being alone. Realised I'm better off emotionally alone. Even tho she will always be the love of my life. Its time to walk away
I'm still motivated...since August of 2017. I am on probation forever. Listen to these 2. They are spot on. Margaret told me the truth. I couldn't believe it. It was true. I took her advice and have never been so happy and hopeful for a fantastic future!
Yes, I found a new person, I start exercising again, you just get more free time for yourself.
hey @Coach Craig Kenneth
its so depressing and sad to hear all these success stories, because some of us know that we will never hear back from our ex, neither do we want them back.
its just the healing process we're in and the heartbreak trauma that hurts
Well said. Who cares if they leave. Forget them. But yeah then you get stuck hurting and feeling terrible until you heal. It's so unfair.
Did you hear back from your ex?
Nah bro I’m DONE! She is GONE.
Another great video for encouragement and for us to stay positive, even when we feel at the lowest at times.
It's hard to believe it will turn around..we were madly in love..he was planning on moving to the states..he went back to Germany after 5 1/2 weeks of bliss, and decided we need to clear our heads of each other..he can't make the move..I'm devastated and want to crawl in a hole..it's been 3 weeks NC, he's cold and treated me like a stranger..when does this hurt go away?
All my ex has done is go out, post provocative photos, act out of character... I honestly give up.
Isaac Smith my ex did the same, my ex is BPD lots of girls with BPD act that way look for validation anywhere they can, trust me they act that way for your absence, its a rollecoster of emotions, that was my experience, it’s ben 7 months of N.C I’m in a better place mentally emotionally and physically.
@@Technoirz update?
Your right you don’t here the success stories well for me it was 6 months no contact she came back....you have to be fonzie and what is fonzie? He’s cool
Thanks for your support your videos really helped. It’s positive energy you need. She came with direct indirect lol keep the faith guys be amazing. Be the best version of yourself.
My partner stopped loving me a year ago but stayed with me because of various reasons, some of it was pity. They got colder towards me but they could also be warm at times. They broke up with me a month ago, they were indifferent towards me and told me to move on and that there is no chance we will get back together.
I cling onto hope that they will change their mind but it does feel completely hopeless.. I still love them immensely.
How did it go? How are you feeling now?
Hope you're doing much better now
How are you now?
Thanks guys , always good advice for us the unfortunate birds left alone in the nest with broken wings 😀but we will heal , there is always a light at the end of the tunnel 🧘♀️
how can I personally take my ex back of 15 years who jumps right into another relationship? rebound or not! it was total disrespect! from learning and listening its just best you focus on yourself, grow, and be the better version of yourself. the right people will come into your life soon enough
Married 23 years together for 25 years, 4 kids 1 grandson and I screwed up. Not on purpose, I didn't cheat but went on an adult dating site and she found out. I never planned on meeting anyone and never wanted too. I don't know why I was even looking. I love her and admire her and would never cheat or hurt her. She split with me 3 months back and I begged and pleaded for the first 2 months but she was cold and adamant we were never getting back together. God I love this woman and I prey she sees it was just a mistake and nothing actually happened. I need her In my life
Thank you, Craig and Margaret, you are my lifeline at the moment and listening to you is helping me make it through night of despair. It has been 9 months since the breakup, 7 months of NC and everybody around me thinks it is completely hopeless and that I moving on is my only choice. But I will not give up and you give me so much motivation and inspiration to stay strong. You are literally saving lives. Mine might have ended tonight had I not pulled myself together to watch some of your videos instead of following my self-destructive impulses. I do have faith that my breakup will turn around and I will try to stay strong, because my ex is the love of my life and I believe that we were good for each other.
What was your outcome?
Women from rich families don’t come back.
Been feeling terrible after feeling like my ex and was making progress. These videos help me sleep at night. Thanks guys.
Hi Coach, been a long time watching you guys guide us perfectly! This No contact worked for me twice but this time its crossing a record breaking 14days, however thanks for giving some ray of hope to us. Your videos are the biggest saviour during this No Contact! Staying positive
Update??
For how long, though? Its been a year. I had prayed he would change his mind. Nothing.
Im moving to anothr state for work in 5 months. Whether or not he reaches out, Im going.
Jen Toland enjoy the journey and your new path. Every person you meet with teach you a new lesson bout yourself. You are worth it.
@@Camzwinget That's sweet, thank you!! I'm very much looking forward to this new chapter (Charleston, SC).
It's just hard. My ex and I were friends for seven years. He was one of my best friends.
Live your life. Don't wait for him. You deserve better.
His loss
Here's my problem with this success story... It's ALWAYS a guy that comes back crawling like that... I never hear a story of a women doing the same.
Yeah where are the stories of women coming back
@@azazel3944 I'm stuck in the process where I did 38 days of limited contact since we live together. Been talking for two weeks and hooking up but she is still confused how she feels, holding hands is too romantic and so is kissing and when I asked her when she said she loved me, wanted me in her life and to experience everything with me, she replied yeah as a friend. Knew I should have never asked that question. Got too excited the other night when she put me as an emergency contact and listed it as boyfriend that I told her the next day I want her back as my girlfriend, that I love her and her response was I know you do and you are more emotionally involved in this endeavor than she is but she is fine when I asked her how she would feel about a romantic dinner date as in a date and not a hangout as friends deal since she said we need to just hang out as friends and have fun as well as live in the moment and do what feels right in that moment. So I am so lost right now lol
@@azazel3944 I dont actually mean friend but "friend." Its hard for me to read because I even told her if I moved on how would you feel and her response was probably just like all my other friends, do not talk to me and I'll just get over you. It's really hard for me to think she would fit into the mold of most women where these things work considering she hasn't fit that mold while we were together. Even bigger problem is we just moved across country and have a lease together for 10 months plus cannot really afford to move out on my own. So lost between being the guy I was and am around her, talking and so on vs just cold shoulder but again cannot really be ice because we live together.
@@azazel3944 if it all was a test how do I flip the script or is it doomed forever
@@enjoytheride5876 between all the dating coaches I listen to 90% of them are men returning to women.. sigh
Man,I'm putting a lot of faith in the words of brother Craig and Auntie Margaret, it's like going to the track and placing a bet,LOL!!!!!😊😊😊
Yes! Thank you both of you. You two are really AMAZING❤️💙❤️Thank you Margaret when you say OPTIMISTIC!! I feel like it too even though there are days I am down. Still recovering but I know I will stand upright and get better now.We love you🤗Thank you so much for you have so much care and compassion in you. May you succeed more. Hope to have coaching with either of you. Make plans already..🤗
long term long distance relationship broke no contact today by mistake and finally am sure he doesn't want me anymore when he says it's not a good idea to talk. how can anyone be certain or positive to have them back.... this is painful especially in a long distance. dumped by text.
5 months no contact exactly today. I have an anxious attachment style that I am working on. Today was very rough. I truely felt like I was back to being myself today until a thought about my ex crossed my mind. I was extremely jealous and insecure towards the end of the relationship. We were together for 2 1/2 years and shes about to graduate from highschool in 3 months. We fell in love so quickly and planned our futures together. We thought we were gonna be together forever. She broke up with me the day after our monthly anniversary. I almost caved in today to send a message asking if we can meet up and talk about what's been going on and how we feel. We work together and see each other almost every other day at work, but she treats me like I dont exist and avoids me. I've done every mistake and begged and pleaded and fought to fix things. She went from "I need a break, i don't love you, I just want to be friends for now" to "we will never get back together, you need to move on" in just a week. I dont know what to do. I've been focusing on bettering myself, and I'm really tempted to ask her for a second chance. Any thoughts folks? I really love her
@Justin Gross any update?
Ricardo Martins wait for what lol?
Ricardo Martins did she come back or is it a sad story?
Ricardo Martins ok i get it she didnt come back and its a sad ending lol, u r being sarcastic
My ex is dating someone new but he looks miserable as hell. He can't even smile in his profile picture and he doesn't give her any attention on social media. You can tell she's just chasing him and it's not mutual. He started dating her just days before Valentine's Day, which was day 59 of no contact for us. I know that's the only reason he went ahead with this relationship. But even still, I don't know that there's any hope for us because he's very stubborn and prideful. I can just see him breaking up with her and moving on to the next, just trying to fill that void with one woman after another, rather than take his own advice and get the therapy that he needs to deal with his intimacy issues. I hate seeing this play out because this is a man that I wanted to marry.
Awww yes Craig. . My ex did reach out and said he missed me but it's been 11 months and he didn't come back. My heart still feels sad...I miss him. But I started my own business...something positive did come out of it. 😁
You go girl😍😍😍😍
I was happily married for 21 years. We were having soo much fun. We rarely ever argued; arguments were a short calm disagreement and a talk, but rarely ever happened. We considered each other soulmates. We were always inventing new exciting things to do together. We were always hand in hand and laughing together. Three years ago we bought motorcycles and began obsessively riding together. We were having sooo much fun.
In fall of 2017 she bought a game (Skyrim) and began playing for hours every day while I was at work. At first I didn't really care. But it began to slowly eat away at our time together. When I came home, we used to meet at the door with a hug and a kiss, then go for a drive and a coffee; that stopped. Things progressed to the point that she was playing 16 hours a day every day. She would get up in the middle of the night to play.
I begged her to stop. I told her that it felt like I lost my best friend. She turned to me and angrily said, "maybe you should move out". I was horrified. A month later I approached her again and begged her and gave her an ultimatum; the game or me. She chose the game, announced our separation that day (mother's day 2018), and moved to the basement suite with her gaming set-up. She said that she would need time to find a job and move out. She stayed down there until November 1st before I had to force her to leave with threats of court orders. She got a minimum wage job and moved out.
She now maintains her job and plays her game in all her spare time. She has pushed me, her parents and her children away. The only person she will see is our youngest daughter; only because she will shop for her and do things for her.
We have been separated since last May, and she has been gone from our house since last November. I miss her so much. I have not contacted her since she left, and she has not contacted me. She emailed me and asked me to send her some items left behind, but that's it. I gave them to my daughter to give to her.
I received lawyer papers for divorce about a month ago; it includes dividing of property and alimony guidelines. I have seen my lawyer also.
I can't believe that something so good, turned so bad, so quickly after 21 years of a beautiful marriage and friendship. I have been through a lot of pain; unbearable pain. I rode my bike through the summer of 2018 and took refuge at my sisters in the next city on my days off while my wife played her summer away in the basement.
I am doing better now, but still hurting. Is there any hope with a situation like this?
Ian Brown Oh man.. how awful, my heart goes out to you 😔 ... gaming addiction is real and i don’t think people take it serious enough. It seems as though she’s hiding from herself or something through her game. It must make her feel a certain way she is lacking. It’s not your fault. I hope things get better for you 🖤
@@marizahofercoach It has been 4 years since we separated. It took me 3 years to get over the break up. I finally started to feel good at the beginning of last year (2021). I ended up going to court and getting a short term reasonable alimony settlement that ends this year. She didn't fare as well as she thought she would.
All-in-all it was a very hard 3 years. A lot of ups and downs. I really had to focus on my mental and physical health. Riding my motorcycle thousands of miles was my therapy. The winters and Christmases were hard.
I met a nice lady last year, and we are living together now. We've been together for 5 months. We have a good relationship. We are looking forward to summer together this year. We have a lot in common. We are beginning to grow together.
My advice to anybody that looses somebody they love: Try to be around family; find something to do that brings you some happiness; eat nutritious food; exercise every day. If you are an older person, get a check-up by your doctor. Get your blood hormone levels checked, and get your vitamin levels checked. Take vitamin D in the winter; it will help with depression.
I wouldn't wish the pain I went through, on my worst enemy.
@@marizahofercoach It always gets darkest before it gets light. You need to find something you enjoy doing. Keep working out, and keep eating properly. You never know what good things are around the corner. Death is something we all think about when times are tough, but death already comes soon enough. Work on being a better person. Work on your mind with affirmations and manifestations. Whatever you tell your mind, will make it happen; this is very magical.. Work on your finances. Now is a great time to re-eveluate your life, focus on yourself and your daughter, and work on improving all areas of your life.
You can do it, sister. Tell yourself what you want. Visualize it, and it will happen.
@@marizahofercoach Forget the war. Let him go. Move on to better things. If you don't, you'll miss out on what's around the corner for you. Heal yourself, change the way you think.
Thank you Coach Craig and Margret! For all of your hard work!
*Craig, I'm going to start with your first workbook, ,The Knowledge,, soon to journey from there!
I sincerely appreciate all that you two share ❤
My ex posts on line what she is not getting from her rebound. Faith, trust, loyalty, intimacy etc., Breaking up with me was a mistake. She'll be back.
She come back?
@@brady-ui7ht No. And I am glad she dumped me. I found a woman 10 times better.
My husband left me and is living with someone else I’m still not over him it’s nearly been a year depressed and not well have 3 kids to look after too x when will this nitemare end x he’s happy now and I’m miserable 😩
This is just what I needed to hear at this very moment!!! Thsnk you Cosches Craig & Margaret!!
This is exactly what I needed to hear today.
Dear Craig and Margaret, I don't know what the future will bring. We do know that probabilities and percentages based on past success or failures can give insight into what can or may happen just as you both teach in what NC can and does do. After two weeks of separating from a woman I very much loved I learned something very important watching all your videos, some over and over again, mainly to work on oneself and be patient. I have come to accept that we might never get together, but as I work on myself I can see the trees for the forest. I joined a gym, I am working out, losing weight, regaining my former strength, looking to better my life in general in many aspects, especially after I abandoned myself for far too long. Looking forward to a bright future with or without the woman I loved. (well, truth be told, I still love her) but I won't be sitting on my backside waiting. If she does call me before I find someone else, so much the batter, if not. que sera sera. Thank you guys so much for all the positive energy and great advice you give over. I love the passion you both have for helping your fellow human being. Your love and understanding comes through and it has touched my heart. Thank you
Why doesn't the comments section just date each other?
Coach Craig I honestly believe my relationship is truly done. She left me after almost 4 years and living together just about the same time. She has been cold and angry with me every time I tried to talk to her. After 3 weeks she finally got her stuff but left a few things I felt were sentimental to her. I don't know why she took so long to move out or why she left a few things that I know she wanted,
She said she needed to love herself better than what she had been. I took her for granted and made her feel unimportant. I acknowledged it and even apologized for making her feel the way she did. I am older than her by far and wonder if our age gap helped her with her decision.
I stopped contact with her as it only made her angrier. Either way after telling me we are done she still has texted me a few times only to tell me everything that's made her upset about the relationship and she Las better off without me.
Why does she continue to text like this? Why leave some personal items behind?
You guys are so so much inspiring and positive , helpful ... Love it
I'm currently feel so hopeless. I keep going to videos like these because it kinda gives me hope. But I don't think my ex is coming back.
We've been together for 6 years and he just dropped me just like that. Now he's tagging his female colleague on Facebook and I'm afraid that they might be dating.
Is there any hope that he'll come back? I miss him so much.
It's going to be okay. This period of time just sucks, there's no way around that. What you're feeling isn't going to just go away. The only thing you can do is to use those negative emotions as fuel to change and fix things about yourself. I promise, you WILL be okay, sooner or later.
Hope you're doing better
@coachcraigkenneth I try to listen to your videos everyday. Your insight and knowledge had had a fundamental shift in my thinking pattern. I feel like I’m growing day by day. I have so much love and gratitude for both you and Margaret for imparting your wisdom on us sorry folk. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your continued service. One day I hope to book a Skype - I would like to learn more about my own childhood traumas and how I can become mentally stronger. Until I will listen to your dulcet tones as I sleep! ❤️❤️ Lots of love from London. Aisha xx
is there any success story for long distance long term.....
I always have faith that my ex girlfriend will come back one day, (which I wish it’s soon) but whatever the case and whenever the time, I have faith and the universe is in my prayers and hands.
Update on this one? :)
Update
Margaret is da best 💕 love this channel
Hi I know you are great therapist, but some people just can’t afford a coaching session. Just have a question about the the break up, can there be a second chance if ex left to work overseas and he literally said he doesn’t want a relationship with you but was okay being friends?? He said no more chances as we hadn’t worked for over 3 years and he felt the relationship was too toxic. If that’s the case, what are the chances that no contact can work can work for long distance? He had not reached out but does reply when I text him, albeit very slow replies. His heart is not just in it anymore and he left the relationship months back before the actual breakup.
The coaching prices are insane, and I've seen a comment where the guy had a session and he never heard back from his ex.
Its hard cause my first ex of 2 and a half years came back begging after 4 months of no contact. Even though she said she's never coming back, and she doesnt love me anymore. I did not know I was doing the no contact rule back then. I just got tired and just let her be. I did not want her back cause I met someone new whom I dont want to hurt.
And now because of that event, I have this hope that my current ex of almost 4 years would do the same thing too. But IT HURTS SO MUCH cause I know she's different. I know this time, she's never coming back. This hurts alot more than the first time. Im dying. I wish my pain would go away and disappear. It hurts so much. Im tired. I dont want to hope anymore and the memories are killing me. Im just thinking she's dead to me.
@6 String Therapy Its my birthday tomorrow and not being happy just makes me more depressed. I know she won't greet me tomorrow and it's much more difficult during this pandemic cause I can't go out and have fun with friends on my birthday. Instead, I'm going to spend it at home alone and it's just sad. After my birthday, is her birthday in a week. I'm not gonna greet her. I just hope I would be permitted by the authorities to go home to my hometown in the province, maybe there I can be happy. I hope this will be over and done cause I'm already tired. It's almost 3 months now and I've been in the house, I can't go out except for groceries, can't meet friends. There's just no progress cause I'm just by myself with my thoughts isolated from the world.
My ex after a 5 month break up has recently started posting on social media some direct indirect posts. Responding to a post I wrote that was not even directed to her. But answering it. While we are in no contact. The second one she posted that she is thinking of her ex. "Don't you?" She planted a question in her post. She has not followed up on my brief response. But she is probably not going to reach out completely yet. She is starting to show signs posting that she can't forget her ex. "ME". These are her initial moves when she is about to come back. "Testing the waters" first before reaching out completely. It has been a long 5 months. She is finally breaking down. As stubborn as she is. I'll give it a week. Thanks Craig and Margaret!
What happen? Did she reach out?
@@gman9202 She posted that she had a falling out with her rebound. He returned from out of state with flowers candy and an apology. I give it a week or two at the most. He just broke up again with his ex. And is down on his luck. He will be gone quickly and back with his ex again like a typical rebound.
@@gman9202 Not yet. Further developments happened. She has been posting about her relationship with her rebound who returned. So I had to wait longer. She is extremely unhappy with this dude. He has no interest in her as a person. His only interest was ***. You know what I mean. Now that the hormones wore of and faded it's back to reality. She is MISERABLE being with him. And based on her posts it is the worst decision she ever made. She is obviously extremely depressed. Posting that he pushes her away and rejects intimacy with her. Hey! All I did was give it time and give it space. This train wreck of a so-called relationship needs a body bag. Because it's dead on arrival. Tomorrow is her birthday and she is going to miss me and be very depressed. I'll just relax and wait for it...wait for it... That's the update. She is a highly charged emotional intimate type of woman. And together we were like Atomic energy. Right now I bet she is hotter than a firecracker. Stay tuned. That's the update G Man.
@@jinxlee8556 thanks brother, more important than your ex I hope you're feeling better than last week?
I have radio silence from mine, she does blogs/vids and seems fine but I'm weaning myself off social media stalking her.
Not sure which of our scenarios is worse but I genuinely hope we both grow from our own experiences and get the best for us.
Stay strong bro!
@@jinxlee8556 update?
Crazy! I told my ex who broke up with me that I will have faith we can turn things around
Dear Craig. Great videos I always watching them to keep me motivated.
Love Craig and Margaret. I listen to them staying positive mine will not sure how or when. Mine was a month ago thinking I looked him at a distance. He said over a month ago he would call me in a few days and not to call to push him futher away and call when ready. Still waiting and fb friends with my parents and friends me i am blocked. But I am staying hopeful. Been working very hard on me 100%. Been working out, going out with friends.
My ex dumper me because she said i was the problem, she didnt believe i will be a good father and husband, so after 6 years of perfect and lovely relationship, i was happy and i know she was too, we were living together ( we were students), one sunny morning she told me to leave the apartment and give her space. All of this happened a month after she lied to me twice that she is at home, both times i called her from our home ( i came earlier from work), and both of the times i believed to her lies that she was just walking down street even tho she was well dressed and had plenty of parfume...She told me not to contact her ever again, i begged, pleade etc...She is sending me breacrumbs now, i deleted her and her family from every social media, enough begging from my side ( because i feel guilty, she made me to believe so). Her mother is calling me from time to time to tell me to call their daughter and try to get back, last time i did that we went on coffee and she kinda dumped me again saying she is not seeing me as boyfriend anymore even tho she was crying and she said she still loves me...i dont get it but whatever, NC it is until forever. Guess attack is best defence at the end.
I feel my situation is hopeless. I continue to work on myself during no contact. Sometimes I feel like reaching out to my ex, but I don't. I hope one day we can repair things.
Update???
I feel like reaching out too 😪
the first girls' email : i was literally talking to some friend about the very same thing last night !! so glad i found you coach !
This week is the healthiest I've eaten and most I've got done in a while.
Has anyone purchased The Knowlege? Any reviews
My ex fiance and I brokeup 5 years ago..I one who lost hope in love...I went thru alot in last 5 years with depression n aniexty...Now I findout she dating someone her mom just said he steady friend to her...I know what it means...Now I like do I want her back at all if there someone elsed..I know she still love me....I have prayed n stay positive but how does it turn around or get better when my ex push me away...punish me for the pain still today..
Can you share more success stories in terms of getting together with someone much better rather than getting back with an ex? Thank you!
Agreed. I don't want to get back with my ex. I want hope for finding some one new.
I will update a new conclusion, this is not a be all end all. I haven't watched this video, but I've been watching CCK for 3 months. I feel ultimately that being in Faith of getting back together shouldn't be the goal. You should focus on yourself and develop and grow and be amazing. If you had your ex when you were shitty, imagine who you can get when you've fulfilled your purpose and achieved your mastery.
I wish I could afford your coaching Craig, I’m in such a bad place & my head is fried. It’s like I’ve watched so many videos & understand what I could do going forward but won’t get that chance. Despite getting help I can’t process things. And I can’t deal with the regret & knowing I made these mistakes which ruined any chance I had at sorting things.. & because of how I acted I pushed her away I lost someone I saw a future with.
and I’ve only got myself to blame. Like how do you live with that??
What helped me the most to cope with the guilt of proper screwing up is to make the decision that the person that made those mistakes, my old me, was going to die together with that relationship. Your new 'you' will never ever make those mistakes again, and you will honour that till you kick the bucket, even if she may never be in the picture again. Become the version of you that you know is within, but didn't dare to be, back then. With time, you will forgive the old you, and be glad that at least, losing the person you loved was not in vain. Make it count!
Domingo Alsina I should’ve learned from last time though.. 5 years difference and I had the same thing happen :/ but suppose I don’t have much choice but to try your way ha. Thank you
Hi Craig ,my ex brokeup with me for another guy that is way older than me , last time we spoke l told her l forgive her ,will she reconnect with me, please respond.
I've given up i reacted to my exs behavior towards me on social media and i called him out on it on Facebook on a post & he unfriended me blocked me on instragram so yes I'm just going to move on now the only way thing's could turn around is if he realises he was wrong
Whats the success rate on a secound break up? :P can there be a "third times the charm"? My ex broke up eith me december 2017, she reached out again febuary 2018, and we had our first date on valentines. We dated until december 2018, and then broke up again...just as bad as the first time. I have been in no contact since then, 4 months. I did not work on myself enough the first time, I realised through Craigs videos where the problems might lie. But, there is one thing to be awere of the problems, and another for them to be "solved", like in your unconcious. I ignored the signs. She must have been pretty strong to put up with my unconcios behaviour for another 10 months, but then she could not take it anymore. Work on your unconcious self if this is your first break up!!...peace
I just want to be okay with them not coming back. I am in love with an avoidant person and I am an anxious person. The last month we experienced some space issues and he said he had too much going on for me. I am devastated behind this. I am doing the no contact and has blocked him on all social media. I heard what you said about the blocking. I did it for me because I didn't want to be constantly checking up on him. I hate that I even want him back.
Hello, I love your advice and videos from you and Margaret, the best and cleverest. My long distance ex has had me blocked for a year and has been mean and sent me a nasty message a few weeks ago,she wrote terrible things. What advice can you give me. I know only Craig and Margaret can console me.
Are there any stories of long distance breakups like mine... After three years long distance n he called it off with a silent treatment and that was it...
3 months no contact
I can't wait to see the counsellor
After 10 days of NC my ex messaged me re a pending business. I responded after a few seconds and we had casual more exchanges focused on said business. He updated me again this morning. I am having mixed emotions but troubled for the most part. Missing him more. Anxious whether he has completely moved on. I left him bec he was cheating on me. He admitted to a friend that I am no longer a priority and just wanted us to be friends which, of course, I declined. It is truly hard to appear fine and be fine. Still struggling here. I need some encouraging words...so troubled :(
I broke up with my avoidant boyfriend and then he started talking to another girl. I don’t want to get back with my ex but I wonder if he’ll ever reach out to me. Do you see avoidants come back?
hello mr.craig. i would like an opinion please.after 7 months of my no contact my ex texted.we spoke.in the end with a way of mine i made him say something after the break he had sex with other women and last was precious month.he says he realises his mistakes and loves and i am the unique for him.he wants to come back and if i say yes he will stop immediatly do all these stuff because he claims he wants only me.and from the moment he texted me and i opened the line he finnished with all his bullshit.now he begg me to return.i cant forget the way he treated me before the break up but still love him.all problems started when he went to live in his mothers house.before we were leaving together and we were happy.i am very confused.can you suggest me something?thank you
Love your help though these videos....alot of help. Thank you
Hi Craig! It's been 2 and a half months since my ex broke up with me. And 2 weeks after the break up she started sleeping with someone else. I know that it already failed.And she asked about me to mutral friends after. I stayed in NC from day one. She reached out one time with a drunk text 2 weeks ago inviting me out. My response was very short. Leaving the door open but not playing in. Not mentioning anything about the break up. Haven't said a word since. Today is now my 31st birthday and I know I probably won't hear from her. It sucks. I definitely feel like I didn't mean much to someone I really cared about. It hurts thinking about her on this day.
Did she reach out on your b-day bro
My ex was coming out of a controlling relationship when I met her. I'm the complete opposite of controlling - in fact I'm not nearly assertive enough. I think initially she liked the complete change of personality. After the honeymoon period she became more and more critical and ultimately quite controlling. I struggled to cope with this. It turns out she met someone else 5 months before she broke up with me but didn't tell me until the day of the break up a few weeks ago. She describes the new man also as being very controlling. Is there any hope that she might return to me do you think? I don't believe I have the capacity to be controlling just to win her back. But what else can I do?
Now plz start controlling yourself I'll suggest you
My ex has been reaching out doing the indirect direct approach the last several weeks. We started talking again, but she said she just started dating someone. I told her it was too hard for me to be just friends. It hurts too much, but it also hurts to not be there for her. I hope I'm doing the right thing. :'(
Me and my ex breakup more then 2 months ..in the beginning i was trying to fix the problem day after i got mad i told her just go way i don't care am better than you..then later i apologize again and trying to fix things didn't work..i wish i never try..cause we was loving each other ..what's going on now ..it's gonna hurt both not just me why i should care ..if love come back in the right time not when is too late we still have chance to start over with more experience if isn't god bless us ..
Please don't wait for a breakup to be the best version of yourself 🎉❤
After 4 months of no contact I thought I have been alright healing n working on myself... Today I saw his Instagram.... He changed his profile and now his profile is private to me. I can see nothing anymore. I wanna die.... Is this the answer. I collapsed n broke down.... I can't do this
Stay strong...time heals , work on yourself and keep busy.Trust God and his plan for you.
I'd love to move on from my ex, but I'm afraid to start something new with a new person, please give me some opinions you guys, much appreciated..
Coach Margarette!! ❤️❤️
I never kno when I can get back with my ex I had been waiting but I dont like too
Hurt kno one what so ever but I think that hes just so very popular with other girls I mean I'm glad that he had other girlfriends but I wanted too be with him every one else can I just wish that I had my on chance but I wish well and for him and all...and thank you for the videos Craig Bennett and Miss Marviearet I hope I I spoiled her name right...
My ex msg then he stop talking to me 1 week now, but now it’s alright, I don’t feel so sad about it. Weather he comes back or not.
I know all situations are different, but can we get a percentage on the success stories.?
I need more hope. It’s been 4 weeks nothing yet.😞
Update?
Update???
I'd like to see the odds too.
What if during the relationship the problems caused her (my ex ) to fail school. Now 2 months post break up shes back in school doing well? Wouldn’t that cause her to not want to jeopardize dealing with the with the relationship?
Hi Craig. You insist in many videos, -I am sure with the best intention-, not to lose hope, to be optimistic, based on the idea that things often times 'turn around'. Maybe that thought eases the pain momentarily, but the reality is that most relationships out there won't be really revisited, (or it will takes years for the dumper to change enough as to consider it). So here is the catch 22: it takes long time for the dumper to 'miss' you, but the longer it goes from the break up, the slimmest the odds to have a round-two. After years of coaching online, what about releasing a video with real numbers, percentages, cold-hard statistics about relationships by age groups, and percentage of exes back Vs time of NC. Wouldn't that give people a real perspective about the overall chances? Is there any serious study about this out there? Even if every case/person is different, I feel data backing up your recommendations will help everybody to have a more solid ground.
Once said that, let me send you and Margaret a big thanks for putting lots of interesting information out there, keep up the great work.
Yes, I agree with what you said, it would be great to know where to focus your attention.