My voice would start to shake I would want the earth to swallow me when all people in the class look at me. I feel other people are looking at me and so i start imagining myself from 3rd person ( it's a really strong ability) and start overthinking that I'm overthinking.
I'm scared that people will realize my lack of words, the fact that i'm not interesting or informed, or my lazy attitude towards those things. To be honest, It feels regular to have those and besides my lack of words I'd prefer to leave it alone. Maybe that's the wrong thing to do, for others and my own sake but I can't bring myself to care. I'm also scared that i'd be regarded as a dumb, overthinker (i am). Despite this, I feel the reason i don't talk is more because I HATE the feeling of awkwardness. If I just listen to my music in the corner, or read a book, or just face away, I'll feel safer. This is where I belong, where I feel normal, or at least more normal than if I went out there and talked, take risks. That feeling when my face becomes heated and words don't exist anymore, only the fact that I messed up remains. I really just want to feel at ease with those around me, making friends and such, and escape those feelings. But i haven't really... taken a big risk related to that. I can barely convince myself that the short-term embarrassment will be worth the longtime goal of friends. I mean, of course I'd _love_ to have friends and social skills, but in the moment when I'm supposed to talk to others, I don't know if I can tell myself it will be worth it. I've never taken those risks, never climbed a peak, never pushed off the edge. You might say that's fine, but I've been standing still and staring at the edge for (too many) years. You might say that's not fine. Sure I agree, but how do I risk myself? My whole way of being? How do I sacrifice the old me, everything i thought was wrong, and take a leap towards sunlight when I don't even know what the sun on my face feels like? What an overly-long essay, well I do think about this a lot and typing it out is nice.
I totally relate with you cz i I've always felt the same .i feel choked and just wana be away from any social environment ,not that I like it or i don't wana be social ,it's just the was I've be shaped to be through being bullied and made felt that i was not good enough . I'm finally willing to take the risk ,I'm meeting a friend for dinner tomorrow,she's gona be with other 6 people whom I've never met before .it's nerve recking,it could turn out being embarassing for me,but I've made up my mind that this will just be one amongst the many learning phase . I'd be happy if i could at least get one thing straight and that is to be a better listner ..i wish you luck and courage .Will update you guys on how it went .
my face tends to go really red whenever i’m nervous like when presenting or being the center of attention or even talking to a friend of mine. There’s times where people point it out and i even got made fun of for it. It’s something i’m rlly insecure about now but i rlly want to overcome it. I want it to go away but i’m scared to be judged about it again. At school I would walk into the building and id already be turning red because i start getting anxious thinking that everyone is looking at me and judging me. I dislike it so much.
I think u could try to own it? Its like when u trip ans then laugh about urself? Its somethjng ive done since forever, that way u laugh before they do, they laugh WITH U, rather than ABOUT U. If you laugh when someone points out ur red, like 'omg again JAJAJA", youre owning
@@alexc.7035 I see what you mean, it’s gotten a tiny bit better ? but it’s still very hard especially since i’m very self conscious abt it. I will try this though :) thanks for the help, nice pfp btw.
People will call me out that I will be embarrassed ashamed and I’m not masculine especially cus I’m short and blushing for nothing instead of just being in the moment and enjoying the vibes
I think we care too much about what people think so much that we forget the person with the most important opinion, 'you'. What do you think is the question to ask yourself. Your opinion about yourself overpowers what you perceive people's opinion is about you.
I feel like people will find my weaknesses and judge me for it and I get nervous and self-conscious everytime I'm in a social setting. I want to make a change and become a calmer, more positive person.
This is soo true. I am experiencing an insecurity, I felt like crap but then I found out my older sibling was in the same position at my age. It immediately made me feel a lot more confident about the situation.
I feel afraid that people would call me weird for literally anything I did but later I realized that people really wasn’t focus on what I was doing and by me focusing on what other people thought about me became more nervous and shy
My fear only comes from not having enough knowledge to talk long.after asking how are you i freeze because i dont know what to talk about and become nervous
Well, someone would need to start it anyway. When I talked to people I was scared that they might don't understand what I said or don't care about it. Although, this series of videos has really helped me and was completely enjoyable to watch and apply what I've learned from it
ur definitely not a bother, if someone thinks that of you or tells you that, then they’re just not meant to be involved in ur life. Sorry that you feel that way tho :/
Hey David. My hyperanalytical mind is saying if you are able to get confident based on the realisation that everyone else is nervous and self-conscious, wouldn’t that lead to realising that everyone else also, has the potential at least, to become confident and analyse everyone else, which will lead to you becoming self-conscious and nervous again? Would appreciate your insights.
No they don't, on the contrary they think you look great. The problem is you're the only one who doesn't see it, it's called perceived rejection, it's all a lie you came up with in your mind.
That people will find me boring and it frightens me because I think people will belittle me in front of the crowd
My voice would start to shake
I would want the earth to swallow me when all people in the class look at me.
I feel other people are looking at me and so i start imagining myself from 3rd person ( it's a really strong ability) and start overthinking that I'm overthinking.
This article will help you - psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-be-less-self-conscious/
I feel like others will judge me because I'm weird, I'm a weird person because I have no friends
I'm scared that people will realize my lack of words, the fact that i'm not interesting or informed, or my lazy attitude towards those things. To be honest, It feels regular to have those and besides my lack of words I'd prefer to leave it alone. Maybe that's the wrong thing to do, for others and my own sake but I can't bring myself to care. I'm also scared that i'd be regarded as a dumb, overthinker (i am).
Despite this, I feel the reason i don't talk is more because I HATE the feeling of awkwardness. If I just listen to my music in the corner, or read a book, or just face away, I'll feel safer. This is where I belong, where I feel normal, or at least more normal than if I went out there and talked, take risks. That feeling when my face becomes heated and words don't exist anymore, only the fact that I messed up remains. I really just want to feel at ease with those around me, making friends and such, and escape those feelings. But i haven't really... taken a big risk related to that. I can barely convince myself that the short-term embarrassment will be worth the longtime goal of friends. I mean, of course I'd _love_ to have friends and social skills, but in the moment when I'm supposed to talk to others, I don't know if I can tell myself it will be worth it. I've never taken those risks, never climbed a peak, never pushed off the edge.
You might say that's fine, but I've been standing still and staring at the edge for (too many) years.
You might say that's not fine. Sure I agree, but how do I risk myself? My whole way of being? How do I sacrifice the old me, everything i thought was wrong, and take a leap towards sunlight when I don't even know what the sun on my face feels like? What an overly-long essay, well I do think about this a lot and typing it out is nice.
I totally relate with you cz i I've always felt the same .i feel choked and just wana be away from any social environment ,not that I like it or i don't wana be social ,it's just the was I've be shaped to be through being bullied and made felt that i was not good enough . I'm finally willing to take the risk ,I'm meeting a friend for dinner tomorrow,she's gona be with other 6 people whom I've never met before .it's nerve recking,it could turn out being embarassing for me,but I've made up my mind that this will just be one amongst the many learning phase . I'd be happy if i could at least get one thing straight and that is to be a better listner ..i wish you luck and courage .Will update you guys on how it went .
my face tends to go really red whenever i’m nervous like when presenting or being the center of attention or even talking to a friend of mine. There’s times where people point it out and i even got made fun of for it. It’s something i’m rlly insecure about now but i rlly want to overcome it. I want it to go away but i’m scared to be judged about it again. At school I would walk into the building and id already be turning red because i start getting anxious thinking that everyone is looking at me and judging me. I dislike it so much.
I think u could try to own it? Its like when u trip ans then laugh about urself? Its somethjng ive done since forever, that way u laugh before they do, they laugh WITH U, rather than ABOUT U. If you laugh when someone points out ur red, like 'omg again JAJAJA", youre owning
@@alexc.7035 I see what you mean, it’s gotten a tiny bit better ? but it’s still very hard especially since i’m very self conscious abt it. I will try this though :) thanks for the help, nice pfp btw.
People will call me out that I will be embarrassed ashamed and I’m not masculine especially cus I’m short and blushing for nothing instead of just being in the moment and enjoying the vibes
I'm afraid people will think I'm a loser and weirdo if I stutter or have nothing interesting or funny to say.
I guess Im kinda randomly asking but do anyone know a good place to watch new series online ?
@Aryan Kabir Try flixzone. You can find it on google :)
stop caring
I think we care too much about what people think so much that we forget the person with the most important opinion, 'you'. What do you think is the question to ask yourself. Your opinion about yourself overpowers what you perceive people's opinion is about you.
I feel like people will find my weaknesses and judge me for it and I get nervous and self-conscious everytime I'm in a social setting.
I want to make a change and become a calmer, more positive person.
Very well explained
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How I'm dressed
This is soo true. I am experiencing an insecurity, I felt like crap but then I found out my older sibling was in the same position at my age. It immediately made me feel a lot more confident about the situation.
I fear that I won't be able to carry on in conversation with people because of my lack of knowledge and people will judge me as stupid.
I feel afraid that people would call me weird for literally anything I did but later I realized that people really wasn’t focus on what I was doing and by me focusing on what other people thought about me became more nervous and shy
My fear only comes from not having enough knowledge to talk long.after asking how are you i freeze because i dont know what to talk about and become nervous
this is life changing ty❤🎉
Well, someone would need to start it anyway.
When I talked to people I was scared that they might don't understand what I said or don't care about it.
Although, this series of videos has really helped me and was completely enjoyable to watch and apply what I've learned from it
why when they dun care about it, thats frightening when u finally decide to challenge yourself to say something casual there's no response
Im scared of fhem been bothered by me and suddenly shout out me, attack me. I dont know why ive felt like that since i was at school.
ur definitely not a bother, if someone thinks that of you or tells you that, then they’re just not meant to be involved in ur life. Sorry that you feel that way tho :/
You're always so helpful
Thank you so much, David!🙏🏽💖
Hey David.
My hyperanalytical mind is saying if you are able to get confident based on the realisation that everyone else is nervous and self-conscious, wouldn’t that lead to realising that everyone else also, has the potential at least, to become confident and analyse everyone else, which will lead to you becoming self-conscious and nervous again?
Would appreciate your insights.
i feel nervous when rolling a joint next to my friends sometimes thinking it might not be well rolled
Im nervous of my voice and the way I speak
Im scared because i know im dumb like i feel i dont have the words to express myself and i dont feel.interesting
I'm afraid people are going to think of me as a fat, stupid person who can only think about herself
No they don't, on the contrary they think you look great. The problem is you're the only one who doesn't see it, it's called perceived rejection, it's all a lie you came up with in your mind.
@@Domi_nique7 thank you so much
I think I'm not funny enough cracking jokes with. I feel as if I'm boring but it's only that I hate smalltalk
Im not smart
I have nothing to contribute
I don't use fancy words