mom: "where is my tv?" Op: "Oh yeah I forgot to tell you, I showed it to the neighbor and they liked it so I let them borrow it" One week later Mom: "did you ask them to return it yet?" Op: "about that, they said they lost it, sorry mom, things like this happends you know?"
😄 Well, if mother wants to play those games, OP should play those games. I mean, she basically told her daughter there's no point earning the things she wants because she doesn't actually own anything she buys out of her own money, so the same rules apply. Mum can go swivel, and OP should have a yard sale. 😆
When the older sisters told her "it was just a bag" and she shouldn't be upset over it, tell them that they can replace it then since it's "just a bag". Then watch the mental gymnastics performance.
To be fair, I might have suggested the 20/80 split... As in 20% for me and 80% for the actual winner. It's still more money than I can ever even dream of earning at my job.
@@danwizzle91 he's not just dumb, he's a bad person, he was like "what if you live a very long life dad, that would suck for me, I'd rather have your money"
Agreed! That blows my mind! I asked my son (without sharing the reddit story) what he would do in that scenario. He's an independent 25 year old, and he had a great solution. Agree to the terms, sign a "lifetime access" contract, and then get a bank account with both of us on it, that the check is deposited to. That way both people have access to money. I mean, that is if you trust each other. OPs son has shown he's not trust worthy. I just can't fathom his son's thoughts. Right now, my son's name is on my checking, savings, and credit cards. He could use any of them at anytime, and yet, he won't. Even if I ask him to use my money to buy something for me, he refuses to. "It's not my money to spend". (Just to explain why his name is on everything - I gave him full medical and legal PoA after my health started going downhill with an MS and Lupus diagnosis. I know I'll go tounger than I should, and the last thing I want is for him to have to worry about paperwork and "duties" while he's grieving. So, I'm trying to set up everything to be as easy and streamlined as possible.) It also hurts my heart to hear that son told his dad "you could be around 40 more years!" like it was a bad thing. So many people, myself included, would give almost anything to have that extra time with their parents. And he's bemoaning that possibility.
Bro same my mom owns multiple homes and won’t let me stay and pay rent to her let alone a deal like this( for context I’ve never been evicted from anywhere I’ve rented I’m 27 and lived on my own since 20)
You know your mom didn’t lose the bag, right? She totally sold that and pocketed to money. File a police report. The cost of the bag may make it a felony. I’m sure you still have the receipt.
Knowing it was a luxury brand I didn't even get past the title, and even if she DID give it to a friend, then that friend instead sold it, or just kept it. File the police report to recover the cost, but first get the mom to admit it on a provable record, that way she can't just 'lie' and claim it's merely a 'civil matter'.
@@SkyEcho751 With the price of the bag I don't think it can be passed off as a "civil matter" anymore... Worst part is she probably sold it for WAY less then OP bought it for because nobody is paying the full price for "second hand LV" even when it is brand new! She was jealous of her daughters success and stole it from her to "put her in her place" because OP can't do better in life then her failure of a mother...
Story 1: $182,500 a year is more then most people make working full time and then when the dad dies it not only goes up to $365,000 a year but anything the dad didn't spend of his $182,500 a year would go to him as well. If anyone offered me this deal no strings attached they would be my hero for life, there are no words for how bad Op's son is between the stupidity and greed and yes I do think he would have messed up his life permanently within a year.
The lottery ticket would only be in OP’s name. So, if OP died, no more money. The son wouldn’t inherit or get the full sum. There goes his free meal ticket. P.S. not sure what happened if two names were put on the ticket
@DerekWhite-e1d That is not strictly accurate. It largely depends on the State laws. For example, in Michigan, lottery winnings will continue to be paid to the winner's heirs/next of kin on the same schedule as to the winner. (I'm fairly certain this is true in ALL States, but research your own State to verify). Without a will, the division will typically go through Probate (which us why immediately making a will and clear division is important once won). In most States, if more than one name appears as claimant the amount is redivided equally between the names or at least shared in accordance to the original division plus the deceased individuals part split evenly between remaining names.
@@DerekWhite-e1d The original deal was that Op would give his son the ticket so long as he gives his dad half until he dies. So if he took the deal like a smart boy inheriting the win wouldn't be an issue since it would have been in his name.
Story 2: Rslash OP isn’t taking it to small claims court she is going to file a police report and press charges against her mother and her mother’s friend because the retail value of a Louis Vuitton bag exceeds $1,000 which is considered Grand Larceny (Grand Theft) and then take it to small claims court
On the purse story; OP should just renounce her mother's authority if she's grounding her for being objectively in the right. OP's mother can ground her all she wants, but OP doesn't have to play along.
Honestly: this. Mom abused her parental authority to steal from OP, and to then force Op into compliance when she was upset about it. Natural consequence is that OP isn’t gonna respect her as an authority figure.
Story 2 - I hate it when other people tell me, "It's just a [thing], stop being dramatic," like they wouldn't be going off like the Tazmanian Devil if was one of THEIR things that's gone. They act like it's no big fing deal until it's their stuff and never fails to make me angry.
@@MrCrunchytime This. If they think it wasn't a big deal and OP was being dramatic, why don't they do it?? If it's THAT insignificant to you sisters, then you both are welcome to replace it!
I like the suggestion another commenter made. Just steal and sell something of mom's of equal value. It's just a thing right? No big deal. What's she going to do, ground her? She already did that. Press charges? OK, press charges for the stolen bag. Or she could be the bigger person and say fine, I'll drop it. But know that I will be cutting all contact with you the moment I'm able and you can expect zero support from me in your old age.
Last story: I looked up video game characters they could have named the baby after, and what I found was Ruff, a character from Dragon Quest VII who is a white wolf that turned into a human. So… they basically did give the baby a dog’s name. OP is NTA.
Last story: as far as I’m concerned naming a child like this is child abuse your setting up your child for a lifetime of teasing and abuse and no one else will link it to the character they will always link it to the noise of a dog
If seen. I maintain that people will think he’s saying “Rough”. So “My name is Rough”. “Why, what is it?”. “No, like… R U F F.” “Oh, man, that’s rough.” “That’s what I said.” Kid could do standup.
It's one thing to name after a character like Samus Aran, it's another to name it off a Dragon Quest Character who's _literally_ a dog(well wolf but same difference), at least if I got the character right.
Yeah, @SkyEcho751 I tried for the life of me to remember that character. At least they didn't choose Frog from Chrono Trigger or Toad from Mario. Even "Yoshi" is fine by comparison.
"it's just a bag." No. No it's not. Aside from the principle of the matter, a reflection of OP's diligence and ability to set aside money etc., it's an LV bag. If maintained properly, that shit is an investment piece.
@@chaosstripe9446 Absolutely. Someone else posted that there was an update, and OP is filing a police report, because since it was over 1k, that pushes it into grand larceny. That's pretty standard for most, if not all, states.
To others who don not share the same values as you, yeah it is just a bag, or just a car, or just something else. We are not talking about something that is easily replaced or of insignificant cost. When my ex wife trashed my car, she tried to say it is just a car. No it was MY car, and she had to right to trash it because she got upset. That was the beginning of the end.
Yeah, it wasn't just a bag, I imagine it's a really beautiful bag which is made by one of the best French manufacturer companies of all time, there's a reason why this year's Olympics had the medals displayed in cases that were made by the company. If I was OP and bought something from LV, I'd also be upset at the thought of losing it.
Anyone who asks someone to hand over any lottery tickets are stupid. $1000 a day for life is amazing. I would love that, and that kid is regarded for pissing away MILLIONS.
@Juju2927 500 a day is still 180k a year before taxes, that's a full time job for a huge swath of the population. Even if dad kicks around for 40 years, that's still several million he will have pissed away because he's regarded. Then that kid has another 40 years of his own getting 365k a year before taxes. No matter how you swing it he lost MILLIONS, especially if he used it in investments.
Story 2: are the sisters going to replace it then? It’s just a bag so they should have no problem buying a new one to replace the one mom stole. otherwise they can keep their mouth shut and stay out of it. Mom probably sell it or friend really did lose it. I believe either one. But either way she stole her daughters property. She worked hard to get and then punished her for being upset and calling her out. Maybe the next thing should save up for is a lock and a camera.
Story 3: Dad’s not crazy, just a lazy JA who doesn’t want to do his basic responsibility and feed his step kids. So he would much rather parent his other child to the point he expects her to just come by and cook dinner for them, even outside of his custody time. I bet the judge would love to hear about that though.
What is wild is that judges usually let older kids have some say in visitation, and whatever dumbass judge in his parent’s case just ignored the fact he didn’t want to see his dad.
*4th Story:* Man, it's been ages since Rslash essentially read an "open Dear John letter" Reddit post. The last one was during an r/bestof video of an OP who posted on r/deadbedrooms, listing every reason why her husband is the absolute worst and why she won't passionately hug him anymore.
With the baby's name story, I can see "Ruff" can be a nickname for "Ralph". The mother needs to realize that naming her child "Ruff", will make her child life "Rough" (Ruff) ... lol
Gee it’s almost like she’s a vulnerable child and has a certain amount of trust and faith in one of the people who raised her even if said person is a jerk
Hon, I work in Retail, and the amount of times someone literally left their Wallet with ALL the money and Credit Cards in it? The amount of times people left their BRAND NEW Cellphones (you know the state-of-the-art iPhones that are well over $2k?) YES! I CAN believe it b/c I'VE seen it with my own two eyes! The only thing with this story is, I don't believe the Mom "Lost It." I think she made that up b/c now she has a potential buyer and the Daughter isn't letting it go!
Story 2 the girl needs to call the cops and file a report that LV bag most likely cost over the 750-1k most states have where theft turns from a misdemeanor to a felony... also it would make the adults pay for thier mistakes and not cause a kid to become jaded to the world.
Lottery story: I'm not exactly sure how that lottery worked, but as I understand it, the younger you are or the longer you live, the more it's worth. So OP was trying to maximize the worth of the lottery ticket, but his son showed he couldn't trust him so he cashed in the lesser prize. I would be beside myself with joy if my dad approached me with that. He already has a lot of money, but my family is kinda meritocratic so he only shares through gifts for bday and Christmas and trips. He already earns close to $1000 a day, I'm closer to $150 per day with my startup. 1000/4 would be more likely since I have 2 sisters.
The lottery ticket would only be in OP’s name. So, if OP died, no more money. The son wouldn’t inherit or get the full sum. There goes his free meal ticket. P.S. not sure what happened if two names were put on the ticket
@@DerekWhite-e1d thats why OP gave his son the offer I believe its the kind of lottery where whoever shows the ticket with the correct number is entitled to the prize
*First OP:* Idk if OP's son is greedy or just a Kevin. Also, why would OP give any of his winnings to his _ex_ wife? OP is NTA. *Second OP:* I'm angry on OP's behalf. If her sisters don't think the bag is such a big deal, then _they_ can pay for the amount to make her whole. Also, if OP can report her mom's friend for theft, she definitely should. OP is NTA, and I hope she opens a savings account for when she's old enough to leave home. *Third OP:* Why do I feel like OP's dad's new wife was his affair partner, and that's (one of the reasons) why OP doesn't claim his stepsiblings? Anywho, barring from emergencies or unusual circumstances, OP doesn't have to cook for his stepsiblings if he doesn't want to. OP is NTA, and his dad sounds exhausting. *Fourth OP:* If it hasn't been made already, there should be a subreddit about people calling other people out through reddit posts. This was good stuff 🍿. I do feel bad about what OP went through, and I'm glad she's leaving the situation. I'm also glad she's protecting her future child from the toxic environment. She'll be a great mom. OP is NTA. *Fifth OP:* OP is being disrespectful for laughing at their sister's baby's name? OP's _sister_ is being disrespectful for naming her kid Ruff. I've said it before, and I'll say it again: giving your kid a ridiculous name is a form of child abu5e. They _will_ get bullied for it. OP is NTA.
Story 4 feels like it all comes down to just the real reason why OP's husband is even married to her in the first place is just so that he can have kids with a woman and a mother for his kids, that's it, which I feel bad for OP, I hate it when people only marry someone not because they truly love them, but just so that they can have kids with them so that their bloodline can continue. Who even gives a darn about carrying out their bloodline and name nowadays?
Story 1: Reminds me of the relationship between 50 Cent and his oldest son. The kid, most likely influenced by his bitter mom, grew up to want more money from his father. Meanwhile, 50 would send something along the lines of $64K a year. The kid went on a podcast and argued with the host about how that's not enough to live off of (in New York; mind you, he's not working himself, and 50 also tried setting him up with businesses like a shoe store on top of this $64K, but he failed at that too). He thought, because 50 was rich, he should have an easy life and everything given to him. These kids (50's son and OP's son) just exist or are bred that way, somehow.
And if the sister thinks it was "just a bag" and OP was being dramatic, then why don't THEY replace it? If they saw NOTHING wrong with what she did, and didn't think it was a big deal, then they are free to replace it FOR OP!
The last story: Absolutely NOT the butthole. While I understand that parents want to be unique and give their children interesting names, but what some parents don't understand, their children will have to grow up with those names and live with those names. In my over four decades on this planet, I've heard some of the most strangest and downright cruel names. In passing, I heard a lady had named her son Human. Who does that? There was another lady I knew who named her daughter Echo. The naivety and arrogance of the parents to refuse to accept that their children will be bullied is just staggering. I got bullied for wearing glasses and having acne. I can only imagine how much worse the bullying would have been had I had an unusual name.
Those expensive bags usually have serial numbers in it to connect it back to your purchase, so the OP could get that bag back if it was sold without their consent
I think normal (i.e. not extremely rich) people buying absurdly expensive designer bags is a stupid waste of money, but I would never dismiss it getting lost or stolen as "just a bag" like OP's sisters did. It's not just a bag, it's all the hours she spent working to afford it, wasted by her mom's stupidity and, most likely, greed. OP _absolutely_ needs to file a police report, not just against her mom's mystery "friend", but her mom as well.
Story3 Flat out refuse and when he eventually gets so pissed that he blows up, report it to the case worker and VOILA no more being forced to spend time with someone who only wants a private chef and not a son. *I'd bet my next paycheck that if op gave in and did what dad wanted, dad would soon expect op to babysit as well.
First story, honestly? Props to OP for going 'You know what? My son is still going to need money so I'm saving some for him anyway' instead of just cutting him fully. But it still might lead to the money being cut off anyway? He was already being not great with his dad's offer, then went full brat and got his mother involved who wants a slice too when OP chose to use the money *he* won in a different way. I don't think OP can really trust that the money might actually be used for his son's future anymore now that she's involved
Two things immediately came to mind on the "Ruff" story: 1) Dennis the Menace had a dog named Ruff; 2) The cartoon Ruff and Ready, where Ruff was the cat and Ready was the dog.
Last Story: When her kid gets bullied in school, the sister is going to be like, "Why didn't you warn me?" 😫 And when OP reminds her that he did, she's going to be like "Well why didn't you convince me?!"
If my dad made me this offer, I would have taken it in a HEARTBEAT!!! I'm disabled, so this would mean I'd be able to actually stop working. I'd probably still keep doing TH-cam, since I already don't know what to do with my days off, but I'd be hiring editors, doing charity streams where I match what I raise, and gifting memberships to my friends channels as much as possible!
Total idiot. If it was me, not only do I say yes instantly but I'm offering to pay at my expense for a lawyer to represent us both and draft up contracts to protect us both.
@@chaosstripe9446 Oh it's real easy to spend far more than that. When you have that kind of money coming in, especially when you don't have to work for it, impulse buying becomes easy. Love the look of that new Ferrari? You can buy it. Want a nicer house? No problem. Family member wants a new house? Piece of cake. Until of course all the taxes and other expenses of all those purchases start adding up and run you into the poor house real quick. Or you just develop a gambling or drug habit and blow it all.
Here’s the thing with the name “Ruff”: -It’s a common onomotopoeia associated with dogs -It’s the name of an OBSCURE video game character -Because not many people know this character, most people will associate the name “Ruff”with dogs rather than the character If they don’t want their son to be teased for it in the future, the parents will definitely need to reconsider the name. Perhaps they can name him after another video game character?
Last story about the kid named Ruff, that's a character in Dragon Quest that was a wolf that was cursed to be a human. So still a dogs name in my opinion.
Last story: Who wants to bet that the video game character was a dog? Sister and BIL are fools. Edit: another commenter identified the game as Dragon Quest 7. I looked it up and found myself mostly right. Ruff is "white wolf pup who was irrevocably turned into a boy."
My guess was “Ruff ‘n’ Tumble” on the Amiga system, based off the obscure game reference. That game stars a human kid named Ruff, so I think that may be why the sister chose the name for her own baby.
@@damonsnow11 That would explain why she didn't think it was a dog name. But the other one does as well as they saw a person but forgot it was really a wolf.
Ruff: I speak spanish, so the bark in my language is "guau". And still, when I heard the name, my first reaction (26 years old woman) was: Who let the dogs out! And "definitely Doggy style" NTA.
Last story: people who are actively procreating need to realize they’re not naming babies, they’re naming people who will eventually become adults; that name goes on tax returns, college/job applications, business cards, even jail logs. It’s fine if you want to name your kid a unique name but just think about it long and hard bc yes, kids in their school will be mean about any and everything, but wait until they get into the real “big kid” world.
Story 1: you guys know what happened, right? When OP offered his son that deal, the son then went to the mom and asked her what she she thought. She then convinced him to go back with a counter offer. I think Op was gonna get 20%, the son was gonna keep 50%...and give his mom 30%.
Yeah, OP's mother is saying this as if it's not that big of a deal and that OP should just move on from it, like we're not allowed to be attached to an object?
I said it before and I’ll say it again-pick a more normal name like Rufus or Ruford or Ruth and make Ruff a nickname. You can love a character, but remember, your child is not a character. They’re their own person.
Last story: it’s not even a name, it’s a noise. Not only is he going to be made fun, I can see him get in trouble because the teacher thinks he’s screwing around as he’s trying to explain that’s his real name. Don’t care if they don’t want to hear it that is not a name and someone needs to tell them, also not to be surprised when their kid change their name the second he’s old enough
Story 2: NTA, Let's be clear, the mom didn't lose the bag. She sold it. OP should start selling her mom's jewelry to recoup her money. "Oh that necklace? yeah I lent it to a friend who liked it. But then she lost it like your friend lost my $2,000 handbag" *edit* I'd say fill out a police report but that can be dismissed by the mother saying she lent it to a friend and doesn't want to press charges if they live in the US. if you're under 18 YOU are considered your parents property and by default everything you own is, legally, theirs. The law in the US does NOT protect kids from their parents outside of physical abuse or life threatening neglect.
I remember one of the last arguements i had with my dad was because i didnt say hello to his wife and didnt speak to her at all over the weekend. She didnt attempt to talk to me at all. I dont speak to him anymore.
They should've just named the kid Rufus, and nicknamed him Ruff. That way, he will at least be bullied a lot less, so long as they kept the nickname private.
The weird name story. I think any parent who doesn't see how strange names will negatively impact their child should be mocked for their name. Then when they complain say if you think that's bad your child will have it worse by people mocking them if you give them this name. I feel like that's the only way some people will learn sometimes
The second I heard the name "Ruff" I went the kids at school are finna bark at him like "look it's ruff ruff" and laugh their @sses off,that poor child 😭
There needs to be a committee of middle schoolers whose job is to rate baby names. If you can't get the name past them without getting dog piled, you can't name your baby it. 🤣
Tbh with the bag story, I do not think the mother sold it. I think the FRIEND sold it or it got stolen from the careless friend because it's AN OBVIOUS EXPENSIVE DESIGNER BAG. Mommy dearest just wanted to look posh for a day and she lashed out at her daughter for 'being selfish' and not letting the family share in her status-symbol of perceived wealth. The mother is being sheepish and defensive because her good faith 'I will lend this to my friend and get all the kudos for being wealthy and nothing will go wrong, my daughter is being selfish' nonsense came back to bite her in the butt. I bet mom didn't even tell the friend the bag belonged to her DAUGHTER. Technically, the lawsuit should be against mom. Mom STOLE her own teen kid's property and loaned it out. Mom is responsible for repaying OP. The friend received stolen goods and lost/sold it. But in practice, it's better to claim against the friend because authorities will say it's a family matter and refuse to get involved most of the time if a minor makes a claim against their parent for theft.
@@rohesilmnelohe Or, more likely, she cares more about her reputation than her child's property. She lost nothing when the bag was lost. She kept the prestige from lending it in the first place. And if she lied about it being hers, saying 'don't worry about it' to her friend after it was 'lost' brings EXTRA kudos for being 'benevolent'. Actually holding her friend accountable? That's a loss for the mum's bonds and reputation.
Story 1: NTA, this is selfishness at its finest. He got offered $180,000 a year, so long as he agrees to the terms, but noooo, he has to be a selfish AH, and even got OP'S ex in on it for no reason? What for? To strongarm him into giving the money away? Scummy move dude. And why did the ex demand their cut? They have nothing to do with this, it's none of their business!
@@Dondizle Remember that SpongeBob meme where he has a tag on him that says "Professional R****d"? That's pretty much what he is. Or that meme where the dog sipping on a juice box that says "dumb f**k juice".
The lottery ticket would only be in OP’s name. So, if OP died, no more money. The son wouldn’t inherit or get the full sum. There goes his free meal ticket. P.S. not sure what happened if two names were put on the ticket
What its NOT is just a bag. It represents MONTHS of work. It is not just a bag. It also represents the loss of trust in your mother. It could even represent the relationship in total, and its "loss"
Last story: I have some distant young cousins whose parents named them "Rough" and "Rowdy" and I sure hope their behavior no longer aligns with their names, because they were horrifyingly unruly and violent as the toddlers I last saw them as.
I’m not even done with the first story yet and the fact that OP offered his son the winning ticket and only asked for half is incredible. That’s like 182,500 a year for doing nothing!
"Ruff" will never, ever forgive her mother. She will be tormented and teased throughout childhood the way my friend Rose Budd was when her parents decided to be clever and witty. Rose (rest in peace) became overtly promiscuous, running away at fifteen with the first man who asked her to marry him, and those idiots actually couldn't understand why. Needless to say they never met their grandchildren. Rose changed her name entirely and ghosted them until the days they died. We were besties from the late fifties until she passed a couple of years ago, so I can swear with confidence that she never forgave her parents.
For clarity (assuming they're in the US), if the son takes the deal, he'll have to claim all $365k, and pay gift tax (or reduce his estate tax exclusion) for about 90% of the $182.5k he gives his dad every year.
My mom gifts each of us(me and 2 brothers) 4k in a lump sum every year to not have to pay gift taxes lol. When my grandpa went to the nursing home a couple years ago they drained all of his savings over the first like 6 months he was there and she figured it was better to get rid of the money she got from my dads insurance payout and stuff like that before she ends up going to a home. 2 pf us have offered to help her or let her stay with us when she does get to be of that age but she refuses because she says she would prefer it that way because taking care of grandpa was super hard in the last 2 years before he went to the home and some other reasons apperently.
One more thing about the last story is that the sisters said That the name was from a obscure video game character. You're children are not billboards for your fandom
With the bag story, I feel the only appropriate recourse is to just start taking all the mom's stuff and "lending it to friends" then watch how "childish" she gets over her stuff.
That last one had me laughing out loud! Poor kid, he’s doomed. Wretched parents with a ghastly name! The first story I called out straight away, the mum sold that bag
That first story is so ridiculous. If somebody offers you $500 a day for essentially just existing you take it, don't be stupid! I just did the math, and if you were to save up for 6 years, he'd have 1 million dollars by the time he's 25.
When I was a kid, german shepherds were the popular dog, and a popular name for a girl dog was Sasha. There was this girl who moved to our town and started attending our school named Sasha. I really don't remember her ever being bullied about her name. What would make other kids laugh at a name would be similarities to body functions: snot, poop, etc.
It's "Lucky for Life" and 20 years is the guaranteed payout, not the maximum. If claimed by a single individual that lives more than 20 years, it keeps on paying.
Last story: 1, Dabney? OP's sister and her husband get 3 buttholes. 1.) You've saddled your kid with a name that is the sound a dog makes which will set up years of teasing and tormenting. 2.) You named him after some obscure video game character? I love a lot of video games but I don't name my kids after them - especially characters that have a stupid name like that. 3.) When confronted with a small taste of the teasing and tormenting your kid will experience by OP laughing at the name, you decide to freak out and cut contact (because your ego can't handle the possibility you screwed up) - an act the kid won't be able to do with the bullies who will harass him day after day. 1 butthole for each stupid reason.
Why in the world do people not think about how other children are going to treat their kid over their name!? How tf could 2 adults possibly think "Ruff" is a good name in an English speaking country!? Why tf should OP respect their sister more than their niece or nephew!?
Story 1: NTA, it’s your money your rules and your settings him up for life. Lottery tickets bring out the worst in people and OPs kid is an idiot because he’s wasted this deal Story 2: NTA, its your bag that you bought with you’re money you earned so you’re feelings are valid that you are feeling Story 3: NTA, it’s not your responsibility op and i don’t blame you not wanting to be with your dad Story 4: NTA, your ex’s family is insane and hate op and your ex isn’t standing up for you and yet gives relationship advice but can’t do any of them he basically doesn’t care about you op and I’m glad you’re leaving him he should marry his mom don’t ever make that cringy statement ever again Story 5: NTA, that’s funny and unfortunately people will bully this kid and it’s definitely going to make this kids school life miserable
Story 4: You know how sons can't marry their mothers, right? It's clear OP's husband is only in this marriage just so that he can have kids and he has a maid and mother to do things for him. I hate this kinda family dimatic, I'm getting sick of it, can't we just go back to them marrying their spouses because they truly love them and care about them as well as have kids with them and look after the kids rather than just marrying them so that they can continue their bloodline and get a mother for the children as a bonus?
Well, if I ever hear someone like my sister winning something, I wouldn't take advantage of her, I'd congratulate her for it. Only selfish people would try to take advantage of the person in their life who's become a winner of prizes.
Yes, Dennis' dog _is_ named Ruff. However, since they specified they were naming him after a video game character, everyone has concluded they probably mean Ruff from *Dragon Quest 7,* who was a white wolf pup who was "irrevocably turned into a boy." So... still essentially a dog.
3rd story: Something that rslash didn’t notice is that the dad only asks for op to cook ok the days he’s alone with his stepkids. I think what actually is going on is that the dad doesn’t want to cook for his stepkids because he doesn’t actually like them
At 15, you are NOT an adult. You are NOT a 15 year old woman, you are a teenager. Edit: Excuse me, what? You let your friend borrow something you don't own, something your own child spent her own money on, WITHOUT permission... and now NEITHER adult in this situation thinks they need to take responsibility for the situation? Mom sold your bag. If this story is somehow actually true, then the truth is literally worse.
Plus, I feel sorry for OP for being sucked into the stupid marriage where her husband only married her just so that he can have children while having a caretaker as a bonus. When will this family mindset end?
I don't even make $100 a day; in fact, I barely even make half of that. And Greedy McScrooge is disappointed that his dad is offering $500 a day instead of $800? What a spoiled, entitled brat
If you read story 2 (15f) as "15yo woman", then you should read (16m) in story 3 as "15yo man". Otherwise, stop aging the children and read exactly as stated. 15 yo FEMALE or MALE.
Guys guys, if we assume OP in the first story lives till he's 80, that ticket comes out to a little over 10.5 million dollars. Splitting that with his son makes 5.29 million. By the time the son is 48, he would've already had *5.29 million* dollars. And then he would've got the rest from his dad via inheritance!!
I wouldn't get it from inheritance, he would get it because he is the one that claimed the winning ticket. All he would need to do to keep all the money is just stop sending half to his now deceased dad. But that's over with now, he blew it. Dad took the just over 5 million lump sum payment instead. He better start being nice to his dad or he might get written out of the will.
First Story: NTA but he had a counteroffer, cause 20% of 365k is still 70k a year. You could have still said this is my offer and this is the alternative for not taking it. He's still an idiot. Second Story: NTA yes file that police report. Fourth Story: Yikes, what a loser of a guy NTA Fifth Story: NTA, looked up the character it's literally a White Wolf who became a human... so... yeah it was an animal's name.
Bing says a personal chef costs on average $21 an hour so for the "Food" story there you go OP. He's tour dad so maybe gove him a discount but you get the idea. You work it out woth him on a price you're comfortable with.
mom: "where is my tv?" Op: "Oh yeah I forgot to tell you, I showed it to the neighbor and they liked it so I let them borrow it"
One week later
Mom: "did you ask them to return it yet?"
Op: "about that, they said they lost it, sorry mom, things like this happends you know?"
😄 Well, if mother wants to play those games, OP should play those games.
I mean, she basically told her daughter there's no point earning the things she wants because she doesn't actually own anything she buys out of her own money, so the same rules apply. Mum can go swivel, and OP should have a yard sale. 😆
@@Dondizle Just one problem - she would 100% call the cops on her own daughter
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When the older sisters told her "it was just a bag" and she shouldn't be upset over it, tell them that they can replace it then since it's "just a bag". Then watch the mental gymnastics performance.
@@sugarbeef if I was in OP's shoes I'd literally just sell off anything treasured the sisters and mom have to prove a point.
The first story blows my mind, I would be ECSTATIC if my dad even offered to buy a meal. That’s crazy.
Now I was dumb at 19, I wasn't that dumb, shit
Same, If I was 19, I may be confused because I don't understand, but I wouldn't turn it down after explaining to me about the deal. I'd take it!
To be fair, I might have suggested the 20/80 split... As in 20% for me and 80% for the actual winner. It's still more money than I can ever even dream of earning at my job.
@@danwizzle91 he's not just dumb, he's a bad person, he was like "what if you live a very long life dad, that would suck for me, I'd rather have your money"
Right?
Story 1: I would've **GLADLY** accepted even a 90-10 split if I were in the son's shoes... what a greedy brat.
Agreed! That blows my mind! I asked my son (without sharing the reddit story) what he would do in that scenario. He's an independent 25 year old, and he had a great solution. Agree to the terms, sign a "lifetime access" contract, and then get a bank account with both of us on it, that the check is deposited to. That way both people have access to money.
I mean, that is if you trust each other. OPs son has shown he's not trust worthy. I just can't fathom his son's thoughts. Right now, my son's name is on my checking, savings, and credit cards. He could use any of them at anytime, and yet, he won't. Even if I ask him to use my money to buy something for me, he refuses to. "It's not my money to spend". (Just to explain why his name is on everything - I gave him full medical and legal PoA after my health started going downhill with an MS and Lupus diagnosis. I know I'll go tounger than I should, and the last thing I want is for him to have to worry about paperwork and "duties" while he's grieving. So, I'm trying to set up everything to be as easy and streamlined as possible.)
It also hurts my heart to hear that son told his dad "you could be around 40 more years!" like it was a bad thing. So many people, myself included, would give almost anything to have that extra time with their parents. And he's bemoaning that possibility.
son just wanted to scam the dad and get all of the money
You can cover a lot of expenses for like 20 a day. If nothing else it'll cover most your minor expenses. Let alone 50 times that
Bro same my mom owns multiple homes and won’t let me stay and pay rent to her let alone a deal like this( for context I’ve never been evicted from anywhere I’ve rented I’m 27 and lived on my own since 20)
You know your mom didn’t lose the bag, right? She totally sold that and pocketed to money. File a police report. The cost of the bag may make it a felony. I’m sure you still have the receipt.
100%
Knowing it was a luxury brand I didn't even get past the title, and even if she DID give it to a friend, then that friend instead sold it, or just kept it. File the police report to recover the cost, but first get the mom to admit it on a provable record, that way she can't just 'lie' and claim it's merely a 'civil matter'.
@@SkyEcho751 With the price of the bag I don't think it can be passed off as a "civil matter" anymore... Worst part is she probably sold it for WAY less then OP bought it for because nobody is paying the full price for "second hand LV" even when it is brand new! She was jealous of her daughters success and stole it from her to "put her in her place" because OP can't do better in life then her failure of a mother...
Unfortunately since OP is 15 she doesn't have much recourse.
@@Clyde-S-WilcoxWhat do you mean? 15 year olds can file police reports too.
Story 1: $182,500 a year is more then most people make working full time and then when the dad dies it not only goes up to $365,000 a year but anything the dad didn't spend of his $182,500 a year would go to him as well. If anyone offered me this deal no strings attached they would be my hero for life, there are no words for how bad Op's son is between the stupidity and greed and yes I do think he would have messed up his life permanently within a year.
Heck, there are _couples_ who don't even make $182,500 for a combined income!
The lottery ticket would only be in OP’s name. So, if OP died, no more money. The son wouldn’t inherit or get the full sum. There goes his free meal ticket.
P.S. not sure what happened if two names were put on the ticket
Taking $1000 a day is dumb. The lump sum is ALWAYS better.
@DerekWhite-e1d
That is not strictly accurate. It largely depends on the State laws. For example, in Michigan, lottery winnings will continue to be paid to the winner's heirs/next of kin on the same schedule as to the winner. (I'm fairly certain this is true in ALL States, but research your own State to verify).
Without a will, the division will typically go through Probate (which us why immediately making a will and clear division is important once won).
In most States, if more than one name appears as claimant the amount is redivided equally between the names or at least shared in accordance to the original division plus the deceased individuals part split evenly between remaining names.
@@DerekWhite-e1d The original deal was that Op would give his son the ticket so long as he gives his dad half until he dies. So if he took the deal like a smart boy inheriting the win wouldn't be an issue since it would have been in his name.
Story 2: Rslash OP isn’t taking it to small claims court she is going to file a police report and press charges against her mother and her mother’s friend because the retail value of a Louis Vuitton bag exceeds $1,000 which is considered Grand Larceny (Grand Theft) and then take it to small claims court
Good. Her mum is a case study in "how to get your kids to go no contact with you."
@@Amarianee And a case study for "what's mine is mine and what's yours is also mine".
Was there an update?
If it’s the US, unfortunately as she was 15 there is a reasonable defense that she is still a kid and her mom technically “owns” the bag
I found the post, but the username is deleted, so didn't see an update. So frustrating. @@DerekWhite-e1d
On the purse story; OP should just renounce her mother's authority if she's grounding her for being objectively in the right. OP's mother can ground her all she wants, but OP doesn't have to play along.
Honestly: this. Mom abused her parental authority to steal from OP, and to then force Op into compliance when she was upset about it.
Natural consequence is that OP isn’t gonna respect her as an authority figure.
Mumsy shouldn't be surprised when OP leaves home at 18 and goes total NC with her. 😮
@@lancerevell5979the mom would likely be upset at OP for not letting her steal from OP anymore
Story 2 - I hate it when other people tell me, "It's just a [thing], stop being dramatic," like they wouldn't be going off like the Tazmanian Devil if was one of THEIR things that's gone. They act like it's no big fing deal until it's their stuff and never fails to make me angry.
"If it was '...just a [thing]', then why did you [action] it?"
@@MrCrunchytime This. If they think it wasn't a big deal and OP was being dramatic, why don't they do it?? If it's THAT insignificant to you sisters, then you both are welcome to replace it!
I like the suggestion another commenter made. Just steal and sell something of mom's of equal value. It's just a thing right? No big deal. What's she going to do, ground her? She already did that. Press charges? OK, press charges for the stolen bag.
Or she could be the bigger person and say fine, I'll drop it. But know that I will be cutting all contact with you the moment I'm able and you can expect zero support from me in your old age.
If it's just a bag then you won't mind replacing it.
Last story: I looked up video game characters they could have named the baby after, and what I found was Ruff, a character from Dragon Quest VII who is a white wolf that turned into a human. So… they basically did give the baby a dog’s name. OP is NTA.
Dennis the Menace's dog was named Ruff too.
Or, because it's obscure, it could be Ruff Trigger, a weird Ratchet and Clank/Jak and Daxter wannabe, which honestly I'd say is even _worse_
I don't see why they couldn't just name the kid Rufus, and nickname him 'Ruff'.
@@sebforce1165 Oh god, you may be right. That would be worse!
@@Eppon6 That would be acceptable, I guess? Though, even as a nickname, Ruff is a pretty weird thing to call your kid.
Last story: as far as I’m concerned naming a child like this is child abuse your setting up your child for a lifetime of teasing and abuse and no one else will link it to the character they will always link it to the noise of a dog
If seen. I maintain that people will think he’s saying “Rough”. So “My name is Rough”. “Why, what is it?”. “No, like… R U F F.” “Oh, man, that’s rough.” “That’s what I said.” Kid could do standup.
Ruff is Dennis the Menace's dog.
@@JamesDavy2009 no Denis the menace has a dog called Gnasher I grew up in the uk and the beano is still going strong
Wow, talk about role reversal. The mom is acting like the 15-year-old and the daughter is the adult. That mom needs some consequences big time.
OP should her car keys and say “Mom you can’t use the car until you earn the money back for my bag you ‘misplaced’” and then drive to work 😂😂😂
On the final story: That's Ruff, buddy.
It's one thing to name after a character like Samus Aran, it's another to name it off a Dragon Quest Character who's _literally_ a dog(well wolf but same difference), at least if I got the character right.
Yeah, @SkyEcho751 I tried for the life of me to remember that character. At least they didn't choose Frog from Chrono Trigger or Toad from Mario. Even "Yoshi" is fine by comparison.
Well, Yoshi actually is a real name, but I digress.
Ruff life ahead of that child.
The only video game character I can think of with the name “Ruff” is Ruff from Ruff Trigger: The Vanocore Conspiracy, which isn’t even a good game.
His girlfriend turned into the moon? (Still watching)
"it's just a bag." No. No it's not. Aside from the principle of the matter, a reflection of OP's diligence and ability to set aside money etc., it's an LV bag. If maintained properly, that shit is an investment piece.
Even if it is brand new, never used, it's at least enough to be over the amount to push it up to a felony for stealing it.
@@chaosstripe9446 Absolutely. Someone else posted that there was an update, and OP is filing a police report, because since it was over 1k, that pushes it into grand larceny. That's pretty standard for most, if not all, states.
To others who don not share the same values as you, yeah it is just a bag, or just a car, or just something else. We are not talking about something that is easily replaced or of insignificant cost.
When my ex wife trashed my car, she tried to say it is just a car. No it was MY car, and she had to right to trash it because she got upset. That was the beginning of the end.
Yeah, it wasn't just a bag, I imagine it's a really beautiful bag which is made by one of the best French manufacturer companies of all time, there's a reason why this year's Olympics had the medals displayed in cases that were made by the company. If I was OP and bought something from LV, I'd also be upset at the thought of losing it.
Anyone who asks someone to hand over any lottery tickets are stupid. $1000 a day for life is amazing. I would love that, and that kid is regarded for pissing away MILLIONS.
He's only getting half, so 500 a day, AND EVEN THEN I WOULD BE PRAISING THEM FOR GIVING ME SO MUCH
One could legit retire for life with that kinda money
Well regarded.
@@Juju2927100%
@Juju2927 500 a day is still 180k a year before taxes, that's a full time job for a huge swath of the population. Even if dad kicks around for 40 years, that's still several million he will have pissed away because he's regarded. Then that kid has another 40 years of his own getting 365k a year before taxes. No matter how you swing it he lost MILLIONS, especially if he used it in investments.
*Last Story:* I can see into Ruff's future, and the dog piling is gonna be _brutal._
Story 2: are the sisters going to replace it then? It’s just a bag so they should have no problem buying a new one to replace the one mom stole. otherwise they can keep their mouth shut and stay out of it. Mom probably sell it or friend really did lose it. I believe either one. But either way she stole her daughters property. She worked hard to get and then punished her for being upset and calling her out. Maybe the next thing should save up for is a lock and a camera.
Story 3: Dad’s not crazy, just a lazy JA who doesn’t want to do his basic responsibility and feed his step kids. So he would much rather parent his other child to the point he expects her to just come by and cook dinner for them, even outside of his custody time. I bet the judge would love to hear about that though.
What is wild is that judges usually let older kids have some say in visitation, and whatever dumbass judge in his parent’s case just ignored the fact he didn’t want to see his dad.
The mom in the second story in a few years: "Why doesn't my kid speak to me anymore?"
Well, hopefully it'll be because the mom is in jail for felony theft.
*4th Story:* Man, it's been ages since Rslash essentially read an "open Dear John letter" Reddit post. The last one was during an r/bestof video of an OP who posted on r/deadbedrooms, listing every reason why her husband is the absolute worst and why she won't passionately hug him anymore.
With the baby's name story, I can see "Ruff" can be a nickname for "Ralph".
The mother needs to realize that naming her child "Ruff", will make her child life "Rough" (Ruff) ... lol
I agree rSlash
“Ah, yes you just, ‘lost’ a pricey bag.”
How can OP believe that?
Gee it’s almost like she’s a vulnerable child and has a certain amount of trust and faith in one of the people who raised her even if said person is a jerk
I spent an embarrassingly long time chanting, "Call the cops" at my phone in front of my very confused wife as I listened to this with headphones.
@@LedgerBalance Yikes…
Hon, I work in Retail, and the amount of times someone literally left their Wallet with ALL the money and Credit Cards in it? The amount of times people left their BRAND NEW Cellphones (you know the state-of-the-art iPhones that are well over $2k?)
YES! I CAN believe it b/c I'VE seen it with my own two eyes! The only thing with this story is, I don't believe the Mom "Lost It." I think she made that up b/c now she has a potential buyer and the Daughter isn't letting it go!
@@LilDevyl17 I have fortunately never experienced that, I only worked in retail very briefly.
Story 2 the girl needs to call the cops and file a report that LV bag most likely cost over the 750-1k most states have where theft turns from a misdemeanor to a felony... also it would make the adults pay for thier mistakes and not cause a kid to become jaded to the world.
Lottery story: I'm not exactly sure how that lottery worked, but as I understand it, the younger you are or the longer you live, the more it's worth.
So OP was trying to maximize the worth of the lottery ticket, but his son showed he couldn't trust him so he cashed in the lesser prize.
I would be beside myself with joy if my dad approached me with that. He already has a lot of money, but my family is kinda meritocratic so he only shares through gifts for bday and Christmas and trips. He already earns close to $1000 a day, I'm closer to $150 per day with my startup. 1000/4 would be more likely since I have 2 sisters.
The lottery ticket would only be in OP’s name. So, if OP died, no more money. The son wouldn’t inherit or get the full sum. There goes his free meal ticket.
P.S. not sure what happened if two names were put on the ticket
@@DerekWhite-e1d That wasn't it though. He wanted the son to cash it at first and then split the money.
@@DerekWhite-e1d thats why OP gave his son the offer
I believe its the kind of lottery where whoever shows the ticket with the correct number is entitled to the prize
@@AtotehZ he's just going around comments commenting the same thing even when told the son would of been cashing it in
*First OP:* Idk if OP's son is greedy or just a Kevin. Also, why would OP give any of his winnings to his _ex_ wife? OP is NTA.
*Second OP:* I'm angry on OP's behalf. If her sisters don't think the bag is such a big deal, then _they_ can pay for the amount to make her whole. Also, if OP can report her mom's friend for theft, she definitely should. OP is NTA, and I hope she opens a savings account for when she's old enough to leave home.
*Third OP:* Why do I feel like OP's dad's new wife was his affair partner, and that's (one of the reasons) why OP doesn't claim his stepsiblings? Anywho, barring from emergencies or unusual circumstances, OP doesn't have to cook for his stepsiblings if he doesn't want to. OP is NTA, and his dad sounds exhausting.
*Fourth OP:* If it hasn't been made already, there should be a subreddit about people calling other people out through reddit posts. This was good stuff 🍿. I do feel bad about what OP went through, and I'm glad she's leaving the situation. I'm also glad she's protecting her future child from the toxic environment. She'll be a great mom. OP is NTA.
*Fifth OP:* OP is being disrespectful for laughing at their sister's baby's name? OP's _sister_ is being disrespectful for naming her kid Ruff. I've said it before, and I'll say it again: giving your kid a ridiculous name is a form of child abu5e. They _will_ get bullied for it. OP is NTA.
Story 4 is fucking awesome.
Call HIS ASS OUT
Story 4 feels like it all comes down to just the real reason why OP's husband is even married to her in the first place is just so that he can have kids with a woman and a mother for his kids, that's it, which I feel bad for OP, I hate it when people only marry someone not because they truly love them, but just so that they can have kids with them so that their bloodline can continue. Who even gives a darn about carrying out their bloodline and name nowadays?
Story 1: Reminds me of the relationship between 50 Cent and his oldest son. The kid, most likely influenced by his bitter mom, grew up to want more money from his father. Meanwhile, 50 would send something along the lines of $64K a year. The kid went on a podcast and argued with the host about how that's not enough to live off of (in New York; mind you, he's not working himself, and 50 also tried setting him up with businesses like a shoe store on top of this $64K, but he failed at that too). He thought, because 50 was rich, he should have an easy life and everything given to him. These kids (50's son and OP's son) just exist or are bred that way, somehow.
Story 2:Oh My God,Why the hell are people so generous with other people's stuff?!?
A crime is a crime. Call the cops,OP. NTA at all
And if the sister thinks it was "just a bag" and OP was being dramatic, then why don't THEY replace it? If they saw NOTHING wrong with what she did, and didn't think it was a big deal, then they are free to replace it FOR OP!
The last story: Absolutely NOT the butthole. While I understand that parents want to be unique and give their children interesting names, but what some parents don't understand, their children will have to grow up with those names and live with those names. In my over four decades on this planet, I've heard some of the most strangest and downright cruel names. In passing, I heard a lady had named her son Human. Who does that? There was another lady I knew who named her daughter Echo. The naivety and arrogance of the parents to refuse to accept that their children will be bullied is just staggering. I got bullied for wearing glasses and having acne. I can only imagine how much worse the bullying would have been had I had an unusual name.
Those expensive bags usually have serial numbers in it to connect it back to your purchase, so the OP could get that bag back if it was sold without their consent
I think normal (i.e. not extremely rich) people buying absurdly expensive designer bags is a stupid waste of money, but I would never dismiss it getting lost or stolen as "just a bag" like OP's sisters did. It's not just a bag, it's all the hours she spent working to afford it, wasted by her mom's stupidity and, most likely, greed. OP _absolutely_ needs to file a police report, not just against her mom's mystery "friend", but her mom as well.
Story3 Flat out refuse and when he eventually gets so pissed that he blows up, report it to the case worker and VOILA no more being forced to spend time with someone who only wants a private chef and not a son.
*I'd bet my next paycheck that if op gave in and did what dad wanted, dad would soon expect op to babysit as well.
First story, honestly? Props to OP for going 'You know what? My son is still going to need money so I'm saving some for him anyway' instead of just cutting him fully. But it still might lead to the money being cut off anyway? He was already being not great with his dad's offer, then went full brat and got his mother involved who wants a slice too when OP chose to use the money *he* won in a different way. I don't think OP can really trust that the money might actually be used for his son's future anymore now that she's involved
Clearly son took after selfish ass mom
Two things immediately came to mind on the "Ruff" story: 1) Dennis the Menace had a dog named Ruff; 2) The cartoon Ruff and Ready, where Ruff was the cat and Ready was the dog.
Ruff was the _cat?!_ *Manoj Nelliyattu Shyamalan:* "What a twist!"
I had a St. Bernard named Ruff when I was younger. He was an awesome dog.
Dennis the Menace's dog's name too.
My corgi mutt is named Ruff too lol
Last Story: When her kid gets bullied in school, the sister is going to be like, "Why didn't you warn me?" 😫 And when OP reminds her that he did, she's going to be like "Well why didn't you convince me?!"
If my dad made me this offer, I would have taken it in a HEARTBEAT!!! I'm disabled, so this would mean I'd be able to actually stop working. I'd probably still keep doing TH-cam, since I already don't know what to do with my days off, but I'd be hiring editors, doing charity streams where I match what I raise, and gifting memberships to my friends channels as much as possible!
Total idiot. If it was me, not only do I say yes instantly but I'm offering to pay at my expense for a lawyer to represent us both and draft up contracts to protect us both.
Yeah, even with all my expenses and luxuries I don't think I could spend 180k a year. Especially if I want to actually enjoy what I'm doing.
@@chaosstripe9446 Oh it's real easy to spend far more than that. When you have that kind of money coming in, especially when you don't have to work for it, impulse buying becomes easy. Love the look of that new Ferrari? You can buy it. Want a nicer house? No problem. Family member wants a new house? Piece of cake. Until of course all the taxes and other expenses of all those purchases start adding up and run you into the poor house real quick. Or you just develop a gambling or drug habit and blow it all.
Here’s the thing with the name “Ruff”:
-It’s a common onomotopoeia associated with dogs
-It’s the name of an OBSCURE video game character
-Because not many people know this character, most people will associate the name “Ruff”with dogs rather than the character
If they don’t want their son to be teased for it in the future, the parents will definitely need to reconsider the name. Perhaps they can name him after another video game character?
Last story about the kid named Ruff, that's a character in Dragon Quest that was a wolf that was cursed to be a human. So still a dogs name in my opinion.
Should've picked a character from _Bluey_ if the sister is opting for a dog's name. Jack or Pat are both acceptable.
Story 5:People,For the love of God,Don't name your kids weird things!!! NTA at all
Man,That kid's gonna have a Ruff life
That's ruff, buddy.
Dennis the Menace's dog was named Ruff, he was some sort of shaggy dog.
Yup. File a police report for the bag.
Last story: Who wants to bet that the video game character was a dog? Sister and BIL are fools.
Edit: another commenter identified the game as Dragon Quest 7. I looked it up and found myself mostly right. Ruff is "white wolf pup who was irrevocably turned into a boy."
My guess was “Ruff ‘n’ Tumble” on the Amiga system, based off the obscure game reference. That game stars a human kid named Ruff, so I think that may be why the sister chose the name for her own baby.
@@damonsnow11 That would explain why she didn't think it was a dog name. But the other one does as well as they saw a person but forgot it was really a wolf.
Ruff: I speak spanish, so the bark in my language is "guau". And still, when I heard the name, my first reaction (26 years old woman) was: Who let the dogs out! And "definitely Doggy style"
NTA.
the second mother committed a felony, and I bet she sold it. OP definitely needs to press charges
Last story: people who are actively procreating need to realize they’re not naming babies, they’re naming people who will eventually become adults; that name goes on tax returns, college/job applications, business cards, even jail logs. It’s fine if you want to name your kid a unique name but just think about it long and hard bc yes, kids in their school will be mean about any and everything, but wait until they get into the real “big kid” world.
Story 2. Sue both your mom and her friend and grab each of your mom and sister favorite item and "lend it to a friend"
So uhm...Story 1...He says what if it takes his Dad 40 years to die...Bro the money keeps coming the longer he lives....
OP offered to give the ticket to his son. So the son would be getting that even after his dad died.
No, if he gave him the ticket, it would last until the *son* died.
No, that means that the son gets the ticket, he doesn't want to share for 40 years if his dad lives longer.
He wants the full amount asap.
@@lanychabot-laroche135 this. Son got greedy and lost a crap ton of money.
last story:
someone: *asks what the babies name is*
the parent in their best prince zuko imitation: "thats ruff, buddy"
Story 1: you guys know what happened, right? When OP offered his son that deal, the son then went to the mom and asked her what she she thought. She then convinced him to go back with a counter offer. I think Op was gonna get 20%, the son was gonna keep 50%...and give his mom 30%.
Yep! Mama’s little B with an itch will do what he is told.
IF IT'S JUST A BAG, WHYYY YOU DON'T BUY OP ANOTHER ONE?????
File a police report
Yeah, OP's mother is saying this as if it's not that big of a deal and that OP should just move on from it, like we're not allowed to be attached to an object?
I said it before and I’ll say it again-pick a more normal name like Rufus or Ruford or Ruth and make Ruff a nickname. You can love a character, but remember, your child is not a character. They’re their own person.
Exactly or get a pet if you really want to name them after your character. Your dog's not gonna get bullied for being called Sephiroth.
Last story: it’s not even a name, it’s a noise. Not only is he going to be made fun, I can see him get in trouble because the teacher thinks he’s screwing around as he’s trying to explain that’s his real name. Don’t care if they don’t want to hear it that is not a name and someone needs to tell them, also not to be surprised when their kid change their name the second he’s old enough
Story 2: NTA, Let's be clear, the mom didn't lose the bag. She sold it. OP should start selling her mom's jewelry to recoup her money. "Oh that necklace? yeah I lent it to a friend who liked it. But then she lost it like your friend lost my $2,000 handbag"
*edit* I'd say fill out a police report but that can be dismissed by the mother saying she lent it to a friend and doesn't want to press charges if they live in the US. if you're under 18 YOU are considered your parents property and by default everything you own is, legally, theirs. The law in the US does NOT protect kids from their parents outside of physical abuse or life threatening neglect.
I remember one of the last arguements i had with my dad was because i didnt say hello to his wife and didnt speak to her at all over the weekend.
She didnt attempt to talk to me at all.
I dont speak to him anymore.
For what it's worth, the obscure video game character is Ruff, from Dragon Quest 7.
That was also Dennis the Menace's dog's name.
They should've just named the kid Rufus, and nicknamed him Ruff. That way, he will at least be bullied a lot less, so long as they kept the nickname private.
The weird name story. I think any parent who doesn't see how strange names will negatively impact their child should be mocked for their name. Then when they complain say if you think that's bad your child will have it worse by people mocking them if you give them this name. I feel like that's the only way some people will learn sometimes
The second I heard the name "Ruff" I went the kids at school are finna bark at him like "look it's ruff ruff" and laugh their @sses off,that poor child 😭
There needs to be a committee of middle schoolers whose job is to rate baby names. If you can't get the name past them without getting dog piled, you can't name your baby it. 🤣
That stolen bag should be reported to the cops and then see how quickly the truth comes out
"Hey son, you can make 6 figures for the rest of your life by doing literally nothing"
"Not good enough old man!"
Tbh with the bag story, I do not think the mother sold it. I think the FRIEND sold it or it got stolen from the careless friend because it's AN OBVIOUS EXPENSIVE DESIGNER BAG.
Mommy dearest just wanted to look posh for a day and she lashed out at her daughter for 'being selfish' and not letting the family share in her status-symbol of perceived wealth. The mother is being sheepish and defensive because her good faith 'I will lend this to my friend and get all the kudos for being wealthy and nothing will go wrong, my daughter is being selfish' nonsense came back to bite her in the butt. I bet mom didn't even tell the friend the bag belonged to her DAUGHTER.
Technically, the lawsuit should be against mom. Mom STOLE her own teen kid's property and loaned it out. Mom is responsible for repaying OP. The friend received stolen goods and lost/sold it. But in practice, it's better to claim against the friend because authorities will say it's a family matter and refuse to get involved most of the time if a minor makes a claim against their parent for theft.
If the "friend" actually lost it, she would protect her daughter not her friend.
She or her sisters sold it.
@@rohesilmnelohe Or, more likely, she cares more about her reputation than her child's property. She lost nothing when the bag was lost. She kept the prestige from lending it in the first place.
And if she lied about it being hers, saying 'don't worry about it' to her friend after it was 'lost' brings EXTRA kudos for being 'benevolent'.
Actually holding her friend accountable? That's a loss for the mum's bonds and reputation.
Story 1: NTA, this is selfishness at its finest. He got offered $180,000 a year, so long as he agrees to the terms, but noooo, he has to be a selfish AH, and even got OP'S ex in on it for no reason? What for? To strongarm him into giving the money away? Scummy move dude. And why did the ex demand their cut? They have nothing to do with this, it's none of their business!
Right? That ex can go f herself since this is OP's lottery, not hers
I've heard "greed makes people do stupid things," but wow... he went full R word. 😄
@@Dondizle Remember that SpongeBob meme where he has a tag on him that says "Professional R****d"? That's pretty much what he is.
Or that meme where the dog sipping on a juice box that says "dumb f**k juice".
The lottery ticket would only be in OP’s name. So, if OP died, no more money. The son wouldn’t inherit or get the full sum. There goes his free meal ticket.
P.S. not sure what happened if two names were put on the ticket
What its NOT is just a bag. It represents MONTHS of work. It is not just a bag. It also represents the loss of trust in your mother. It could even represent the relationship in total, and its "loss"
15:28 Hearing Dab say "Ruff" like a dog is my new everything
Last story: I have some distant young cousins whose parents named them "Rough" and "Rowdy" and I sure hope their behavior no longer aligns with their names, because they were horrifyingly unruly and violent as the toddlers I last saw them as.
I’m not even done with the first story yet and the fact that OP offered his son the winning ticket and only asked for half is incredible. That’s like 182,500 a year for doing nothing!
I think no one ever told them it was a dumb name because of miscommunication.
"We're naming our child ruff"
"yeah it's a tough process for sure"
$500 a day and he still demanded more... jeez most of us could live in luxury with that amount.
"Ruff" will never, ever forgive her mother. She will be tormented and teased throughout childhood the way my friend Rose Budd was when her parents decided to be clever and witty. Rose (rest in peace) became overtly promiscuous, running away at fifteen with the first man who asked her to marry him, and those idiots actually couldn't understand why.
Needless to say they never met their grandchildren. Rose changed her name entirely and ghosted them until the days they died. We were besties from the late fifties until she passed a couple of years ago, so I can swear with confidence that she never forgave her parents.
First story: In fairness, the gift/estate tax implications would be hair pullingly frustrating.
For clarity (assuming they're in the US), if the son takes the deal, he'll have to claim all $365k, and pay gift tax (or reduce his estate tax exclusion) for about 90% of the $182.5k he gives his dad every year.
My mom gifts each of us(me and 2 brothers) 4k in a lump sum every year to not have to pay gift taxes lol. When my grandpa went to the nursing home a couple years ago they drained all of his savings over the first like 6 months he was there and she figured it was better to get rid of the money she got from my dads insurance payout and stuff like that before she ends up going to a home. 2 pf us have offered to help her or let her stay with us when she does get to be of that age but she refuses because she says she would prefer it that way because taking care of grandpa was super hard in the last 2 years before he went to the home and some other reasons apperently.
Story 2 NTA first of all secondly how do we know OP’s mom friend didn’t sell it
Probably did but it doesn't matter. Mom is responsible for it no matter what became of it.
As for the last story, I couldn't stop thinking of Celebrity Jeopardy: ::Sean Connery accent:: "ahh, ruff, just the way your mother likes it, Trebek!"
Last story... that kid will have a Ruff childhood 😂
The sister is barking mad.
One more thing about the last story is that the sisters said That the name was from a obscure video game character.
You're children are not billboards for your fandom
If someone offered me 180k a year to sit on my backside, I'd quit my job and find something I actually enjoy doing
With the bag story, I feel the only appropriate recourse is to just start taking all the mom's stuff and "lending it to friends" then watch how "childish" she gets over her stuff.
The sister literally named her kid after Ruff Ruffman lmao
1:24 love the fact OP said he isn't giving anyone money 😭
That last one had me laughing out loud! Poor kid, he’s doomed. Wretched parents with a ghastly name! The first story I called out straight away, the mum sold that bag
That first story is so ridiculous. If somebody offers you $500 a day for essentially just existing you take it, don't be stupid! I just did the math, and if you were to save up for 6 years, he'd have 1 million dollars by the time he's 25.
No need to save squat. Run out of money? No problem, 500 will be deposited tomorrow. And the next day. And the next...
When I was a kid, german shepherds were the popular dog, and a popular name for a girl dog was Sasha.
There was this girl who moved to our town and started attending our school named Sasha. I really don't remember her ever being bullied about her name. What would make other kids laugh at a name would be similarities to body functions: snot, poop, etc.
For the first story, if it's Win for Life, they say they can end it after 20 years.
It's "Lucky for Life" and 20 years is the guaranteed payout, not the maximum. If claimed by a single individual that lives more than 20 years, it keeps on paying.
Last story: 1, Dabney? OP's sister and her husband get 3 buttholes. 1.) You've saddled your kid with a name that is the sound a dog makes which will set up years of teasing and tormenting. 2.) You named him after some obscure video game character? I love a lot of video games but I don't name my kids after them - especially characters that have a stupid name like that. 3.) When confronted with a small taste of the teasing and tormenting your kid will experience by OP laughing at the name, you decide to freak out and cut contact (because your ego can't handle the possibility you screwed up) - an act the kid won't be able to do with the bullies who will harass him day after day. 1 butthole for each stupid reason.
Ruff literally is a wolf turned human..
that last story: honestly, i think the most common response to " My name is Ruff" would be: "that's rough, buddy..."
Why in the world do people not think about how other children are going to treat their kid over their name!?
How tf could 2 adults possibly think "Ruff" is a good name in an English speaking country!?
Why tf should OP respect their sister more than their niece or nephew!?
Story 1: NTA, it’s your money your rules and your settings him up for life. Lottery tickets bring out the worst in people and OPs kid is an idiot because he’s wasted this deal
Story 2: NTA, its your bag that you bought with you’re money you earned so you’re feelings are valid that you are feeling
Story 3: NTA, it’s not your responsibility op and i don’t blame you not wanting to be with your dad
Story 4: NTA, your ex’s family is insane and hate op and your ex isn’t standing up for you and yet gives relationship advice but can’t do any of them he basically doesn’t care about you op and I’m glad you’re leaving him he should marry his mom don’t ever make that cringy statement ever again
Story 5: NTA, that’s funny and unfortunately people will bully this kid and it’s definitely going to make this kids school life miserable
Story 4: You know how sons can't marry their mothers, right? It's clear OP's husband is only in this marriage just so that he can have kids and he has a maid and mother to do things for him. I hate this kinda family dimatic, I'm getting sick of it, can't we just go back to them marrying their spouses because they truly love them and care about them as well as have kids with them and look after the kids rather than just marrying them so that they can continue their bloodline and get a mother for the children as a bonus?
I remember someone saying in regards to the last story, does she expect the kid's future partner to be barking in the bedroom?
Never tell ANYONE you won ANYTHING
Well, if I ever hear someone like my sister winning something, I wouldn't take advantage of her, I'd congratulate her for it. Only selfish people would try to take advantage of the person in their life who's become a winner of prizes.
Story 1: OP is TA for not having introduced his kid to math puzzles.
OP's kid probably thought maths was only for nerds.
Isn't Ruff the dog from Dennis the Menace?
Middle names and nicknames exist for a reason!!!
First name Ruffin, middle name Tumble?
Yes, Dennis' dog _is_ named Ruff. However, since they specified they were naming him after a video game character, everyone has concluded they probably mean Ruff from *Dragon Quest 7,* who was a white wolf pup who was "irrevocably turned into a boy." So... still essentially a dog.
3rd story: Something that rslash didn’t notice is that the dad only asks for op to cook ok the days he’s alone with his stepkids. I think what actually is going on is that the dad doesn’t want to cook for his stepkids because he doesn’t actually like them
2:43, indeed it does rSlash indeed it does, you just put the frustration we all probably have at the son into words.
“Why you little-!”
At 15, you are NOT an adult. You are NOT a 15 year old woman, you are a teenager.
Edit: Excuse me, what? You let your friend borrow something you don't own, something your own child spent her own money on, WITHOUT permission... and now NEITHER adult in this situation thinks they need to take responsibility for the situation?
Mom sold your bag. If this story is somehow actually true, then the truth is literally worse.
OP didn't write the word woman. that was rSlash reading "15F"
"lost the bag"
That OP should file a police report ASAP
Oh my god the SASS in the divorce story!!!
Plus, I feel sorry for OP for being sucked into the stupid marriage where her husband only married her just so that he can have children while having a caretaker as a bonus. When will this family mindset end?
I don't even make $100 a day; in fact, I barely even make half of that. And Greedy McScrooge is disappointed that his dad is offering $500 a day instead of $800?
What a spoiled, entitled brat
If you read story 2 (15f) as "15yo woman", then you should read (16m) in story 3 as "15yo man". Otherwise, stop aging the children and read exactly as stated. 15 yo FEMALE or MALE.
Guys guys, if we assume OP in the first story lives till he's 80, that ticket comes out to a little over 10.5 million dollars. Splitting that with his son makes 5.29 million. By the time the son is 48, he would've already had *5.29 million* dollars. And then he would've got the rest from his dad via inheritance!!
I wouldn't get it from inheritance, he would get it because he is the one that claimed the winning ticket. All he would need to do to keep all the money is just stop sending half to his now deceased dad. But that's over with now, he blew it. Dad took the just over 5 million lump sum payment instead. He better start being nice to his dad or he might get written out of the will.
First Story: NTA but he had a counteroffer, cause 20% of 365k is still 70k a year. You could have still said this is my offer and this is the alternative for not taking it. He's still an idiot.
Second Story: NTA yes file that police report.
Fourth Story: Yikes, what a loser of a guy NTA
Fifth Story: NTA, looked up the character it's literally a White Wolf who became a human... so... yeah it was an animal's name.
Fourth story: Not just a loser, but also sexist who's only in this marrage just so that he can have kids.
last story it is actually a dogs name "fetch with ruff ruffman" enjoy
Bing says a personal chef costs on average $21 an hour so for the "Food" story there you go OP. He's tour dad so maybe gove him a discount but you get the idea. You work it out woth him on a price you're comfortable with.