A guy shouldn't feel insecure about dating a successful woman. If anything, he should be proud of her ambition and be motivated to reach success himself.
They guy should be happy that she's making more money, what the heck? Especially when the economy is bad and other places are having a recession. It's a dog eat dog world out there man. Got no time for insecure man.
Leslie Watson chilla grandma its a quote from a movie. You must be insecure to project that on another woman. I rebuke you in the name of Jesus. God bless!
@@jesscon4586 , yes something wrong with that. You have no use to society if you are incapable of have a relationship and have children . Have children is only thing you can do that men cannot do. What you gonna do from age 40 to 80 if you don't have a family? Rare cats? Dumb as new age, feminist, man hating women.
Insecure men turn into abusers ; mentally, emotionally or even physically! They initially pretend not to be but after a little while you can see it ; the woman has to recognize it and run 🏃♀️
I concur. Insecure men talk about themselves...only themselves and never ask questions of their female companions. They don't have any way to handle a response that isn't about themselves. I think some are inflicted with narcissistic characteristics. What a waste of time!!!
If you’re dealing with an insecure man or woman, and they aren’t changing...... LEAVE..!!! Stay true to you and respect yourself! It’s better out here.
IDK but I think it's more than being career driven. Some women seek this ideal total package that doesn't exist or slim pickings. The questions: Do you wait for perfection and how long?
I don't understand the issue with wanting to get married...most people have the *natural* desire to marry...And I could be wrong, but this comment feels a bit like when Person A, who is a particular group, gets irritated because Person B says something positive about their own group and Person A makes the comment into something negative...example Latinax is like "Peurto Ricans are hype", next person is like, "you hate people who aren't Puerto Rican"...like how do you get there? How many issue do we have a humans have that we can't celebrate something without someone else being able to see it and appreciate it or keep the nastiness to themselves and move on...geesh...
Manophere. com Are you living in unicorn planet or sth? Please, not all men uplift others, that’s delusional. Some men are great and some try to bring others down. Get back to the real world, and soon.
Manophere. com Dude, I’ve never even met you and you are definitely a stage five creeper. Just because someone makes produces dark horror movies doesn’t make him creepy. Those are famous people making bank. You on the other hand are a creep because of what you say, that’s the worst kind of creepy. Someone sees a gothic person and thinks creepy, maybe they’re a sweetheart. You just admitted to being a creep. Like dude cmon, even these people don’t like to be called creeps just because of their profession. Creepy people always do creepy things, rapists, serial killers etc. They may look normal but their views are so creepy that when they break they do all kinds of disgusting things. Creepy is in what you say and your inner thoughts not what kind of movies you produce or how you dress.
YES! And to be clear, this doesn't just apply to men (or significant others)! Check that circle--your "friends", "family", the folks smiling in your face--insecurity knows no bounds. Some folks don't want you to shine--too busy projecting their small mindedness onto you. Don't let them do it, sis! Be you--do you! Separate yourself from those kinds of people--they won't stop until they bring you down. I'll never understand jealousy! Stop comparing yourself to other people! Define your own success--if you think yours should look like, or better than someone else's, you're doing it wrong!
@Manophere. com You sound like a Narcissist. It's not our job as women to put our mental health on the line to play therapist with you. If you're feeling that bad about yourself go seek out family and/or a counselor for professional help.
This is why it is sooo important to only date ppl you are evenly yoked with!!! Self-esteem should have been planted and nourished in you from your parents BUT if you did not have that, it is now YOUR job as an adult to build it for yourself, not your partners!
Ppl are human tho.In these times everyone in their feelings .. Nobody is going to be evenly yoked in the mental ...I think ppl should seek normal mentally heathy ppl.
I think there’s a difference in dating a person who happens to be insecure and you start to notice it and want to help them get out of that insecurity... versus intentionally dating a person who is insecure so it can feed your ego... cuz people who feed off of insecurity feel stronger , powerful and well valued... and it’s kind of sad !
@Manophere. com That's not the entire point of feminism, I don't know where you got that from. The entire point of feminism is so women can be on the same playing field economically and in society.
While some people do feed off insecurity, there are others who's insecurity causes them to want to put others down to feel better about themselves. There are people who project their insecurities onto others because that's really what they feel about themselves. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder do this all the time, but you don't have to be a certified Narcissist to do this bad behavior.
Unfortunately, you (not you specifically, in general) cannot help someone out of their insecurities. In trying you would have completely altered who you were and still not made a difference because their insecurities have nothing to do with you but with them.
Some people may say It's better to date whoever makes you happy but if he's insecure about your career girl tell him bye. That man will not gonna make u happy at all.
As a man myself, I don't care if she makes more money than me. BUT I'm gonna feel some way if she is always so busy that she doesn't have time to spend with me at all.
Yup! They totally overlooked that aspect. A lot of career-focused women accuse men of being jealous and insecure, when sometimes the woman simply does not know how to establish a work/life balance. Many men don't care about a woman's occupation or salary; they just want their woman to be balanced and be present in the relationship.
I know we all have something about us that makes us insecure, but to be insecure because of your mate's success, looks, and/or outgoing personality can tear a relationship apart.
Ok this comment cleared this up more for me, I don't have anyone to ask these questions but I was wondering what women meant about insecure men being bad, bc ofc I have insecurities (all mainly about certain parts of my body) but I would never be insecure about my partners looks or success, hell if a pretty was with me I'd feel a little bit better about myself. I couldn't understand if having insecurities was a bad thing to women but I think this cleared this up, but idk if it's bad to have insecurities or not
@@ineedhoez why do you have to disrespect other women? There are still women who are hypergamous and traditional and only date men who take the lead and make more than them and there's nothing wrong with that. Personally i don't do 50/50.
Yep, as much as this is a cultural issue, it also an internal job. We cannot allow society or peer pressure from those who follow these toxic cultural norms to dictate our behavior, we need to be stronger than that even if it’s really really hard. Men have been neglecting and neglected of emotional care, they need to be in touch with themselves internally and have a true support group that heals them of their insecurities and past trauma’s. Seek to be virtuous, don’t give into lust (sex, drugs, power, money). It’s okay to have a tendency for these things it’ll never fully fade, but we must keep it controlled because there is no honor in hurting other people or feeding into having vices. Seek to be virtuous, men and women, and you will detect virtuous people more easily. Together we build stronger communities not just with our children but with the influence we place on those around us. Emotional intelligence plays a larger role in bettering your life and other people’s lives than what we may think.
Each one of them looks absolutely amazing! I always fell into the trap of thinking a little jealousy or insecurity was cute early on in a relationship ... It’s not so cute when, like Tam says, they start putting you down just to make themselves feel better! Insecurity will lead to a toxic relationship.
Amen. Women operate in very masculine energy most of the day and then get upset when men don't want to be with masculine women. Learn to turn your feminine energy back on.
Agatha z Or maybe she was just trying to share her experiences and he read it as competition because he was insecure and irrationally and over analyzed the situation. There is no such thing as emasculation. No one can make you feel anything, you make yourself feel that way.
I feel like the insecurity doesn't come from a man hating that a women is successful. They probably feel like they aren't good enough. There are probably some that are like the ones they speak of, just showing another side
@Daddy of Drake The corny one is you. Im saying even when woman make it clear that they "want" to help out financially men and their ego still get in the way and they lash out
I'm so sad that Amanda had to ask "Where's he at?" Like, is it that hard to find a man that is mentally on your level? Geeeezzzzz. We have to start raising our boys to be mentally strong. Please let us surround our boys with positive strong minded men if there is no father in the home. It is more crucial than we can imagine.
and sometimes there is just nothing you can say to someone to make them feel more confident, they have to find confidence within themselves, and deal with their own issues and insecurities so that they can grow as a person. but at the end of the day it might not matter how you see them, when they see so little of themselves and it gets so hard to pull them out of it. it would be easier for them if they spent alone time with themselves so you have to let them go.
Girl YES...insecure women put themselves down. Insecure men will pull YOU down to build themselves up. Men project their insecurities onto others and more aggressively than women
If anybody wants to hear Amanda full thoughts uninterrupted or other peoples thoughts on what they feel regarding insecure men I suggest listening to her podcast “ Small Doses “ and the episode is called “ side effects of insecure men “ it will literally having you laughing , thinking and being like “ hmm “
Been with my man for three years and now I'm finally got into my career and he tells me everyday how proud he is ! Yes I make more money than him but he doesnt care bc he knows I worked so hard to get to where I am 🤷♀️🤷♀️
Theres lots of different types of people. Insecure people can be compatible with certain people but not all in a relationship. Its not someone elses job to change for you. Figure out what you want before you start dating and you save yourself time and pain
LOL!! May I ask you to view my current videos and future videos, follow me. I am asking black people to take ownership for our situation and make a difference. Please?
i feel this woman. im education, career driven. my boyfriend tells me i study too much and he tries to tell me i should stop or distracts me and its annoying. i told him i feel like hes being discouraging and then he feels bad and just lets me do my thing from fear of me leaving him. im about to graduate college and hes older than me but still has a whole extra year and a half until he graduates, hes like 2.5 years behind and hes like no your leaving me T_T i wish hed just focus on getting his degree instead of cry that im graduating first.
@@shakirasunshinez I hope you’ve forgiven yourself for choosing to endure that for as long as you did and use it as a lesson so that you know what signs to look for early on in the men you choose to date continuing forward. Too many people, especially my fellow women, complain about dealing with the same crappy man or woman but fail to grow and start doing their due diligence to check under the hood of these people before getting too deeply involved and get mad when they finally have to acknowledge that these people aren’t in alignment with the fantasy that they’ve created in their minds of them. I’m happy for you and I hope you flourish in all aspects of your life 💜
The problem is it’s ALOT of men like that. Woman tend to be more ambitious and striving. Males become content. Not all men but a lot. I came across men like that. I had to not date them. They were fine in the beginning and eventually changed when they see you continuing to evolve
Mike Carter did I say every man no. I have encounter man that haven’t. Clearly you must be one of those insecure men. Just like it’s a lot of insecure female. Guess what the topic was on men not females
Alot of men (NOT ALL) are intimated by women who can do for themselves. I think it's because the man feels as if, he has nothing to bring to the table, if WHAT he's bringing to the table the woman already has. And now he has to find other ways to impress or keep her interest. Alot of men lack personality, respect & charm, so they use materialistic things to try and keep a woman by their side.
Galva Tron insecure much 😂. You wouldn’t be hurt if you didn’t apply it to yourself. She said “ not all men” but interesting how you applied it to yourself. Stay pressed
Silly Me I don’t think they’re intimidated. Women are in denial about how men see them. If you read between the lines they really feel that earning money/having a successful career is a man’s thing AND men generally feel they’re better than women. Therefore if a woman is able to go out in the world and be more successful, what does that say about them as men. They’ll never admit that’s why it bothers them so they just blame women and say they’re trying to be men.
BINGO ...esp the personality part lol....ever talked to a guy whose in his late 30s whose discussing rappers and the newest jordans a lot of dudes havent evolved since highschool
Please believe when a man is insecure he will make you feel insecure either verbally or non verbal. Meaning saying things that are hurtful and make you feel useless or by cheating on you because his (eggplant) becomes his self esteem that needs to get stroked everyday by others who are less than you. I can only do secure men, don’t have time for the insecure ones ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾
My boyfriend broke up with me because he was insecure i was making triple then he was . I never made him feel like he wasnt the man of the house or anything ! Im a Senior at my job he was a massage therapist not working full time
Insecurities are insecurities, shtty behaviors are shtty behaviors. Insecurity isn't a problem in my eyes, shtty behavior is. It depends on how you carry yourself. You treat insecurities with love and shtty behaviours with a "Goodbye! "
Men date insecure women its just not the same kinds sometimes its if men are going to cheat on them/hurt them or there own bodies. Everybody has there own insecures to deal with and we need people who understand that but dont stay if its a big red flag. Nobody wants that type of negative energy around them constantly
Not everyone is insecure, but it's that most people have an insecurity. The issue is how those insecurities manifest because a lot of people take out their issues on the people around them.
@@cutienerdgirlso is it OK to just have insecurities as long as your not taking it out on them, ofc I'm a man and I have insecurities about my body but I wouldn't ever take it out on anyone. What I'm really trying to ask is, is it bad to have insecurities?
So we all gonna ignore the fact that this particular insecurity stems from the fact that all men are told from childhood that a "real man" provides for his family and should be the main breadwinner of the household? Furthermore, if five men were to sit around rolling their eyes at women who are insecure about their appearance, they would be deemed highly insensitive. And rightfully so. This was just a man bashing session with no attempt to look deeper into the issue.
Then he needs to date a woman who makes less money and has a less demanding job. If you make 50k, don't try to go catch you and woman making $250,000 a year. Find you a little chick making her little 25000 and be happy
@@ld8178 I 100% agree that every man and woman should be responsible for themselves. But let's be honest, a man that cannot provide financial security for his wife and family is typically viewed as a bum
If five women sat together and laughed about a man feeling insecure about his appearance, it would still be called insensitive, your point makes no sense
Fr, there was this one time I gave my friend (who happens to be a guy) a ride home, and out of nowhere when I was driving he says “I’ve never had a woman drive me, it feels weird, you should have let me drive” 😂😂 when I say I laughed😂 y’all don’t get it. Like you could have taken the bus🤷🏾♀️😂 that was completely unnecessary
Manophere. com I never said that insecure women werent also dangerous women I am aware that it goes both ways but this episode was about men. Nothing about me has been changed bill was a predator and there are women predators as well. The point I made wasn’t false and I stand by what I said. Ive known insecure men and they’ve hurt me. If you don’t agree then perhaps you’ve been lucky enough to not have been raised by one. Peace and love ❤️ ✌🏾
Everyone has insecurities. I think women are saying they don't want to deal with those insecurities despite the fact that they want us to be open more with our feelings. A man shouldn't fault his girl for making more money than him but if most or all your time is going to your work and barely anything or anyone else, I think your partner earns the right to be a little upset about that. Man or woman.
Quiet the opposite, I've met people who throw their merit around as if it grants them privileges, use it to intimidate others and command respect off the bat, which is wrong. Be empathetic about your success. Tell me your failures, the anxiety that developed from your struggle, I rather hear how you struggled to get where you are. If your success came without struggles your success is worthless and you'll get no respect, from me.
I agree however as a women need to stop chronically choosing insecure men. We can’t keep complaining about it, if we keep choosing those types of guys.
Amanda scratching her neck though 😆. Seriously I've been there. In my personal case insecurity was only one of many issues but was definitely up there as a major issue.
I’m a man who’s personally been in this situation. I’ve also heard from a lot of men about women, wives, girlfriends etc who unfortunately maybe didn't have the power or success they currently have and so misuse it and belittle their partners in search of independence and freedom. (Knowingly and unknowingly) The idea of not needing a man becomes more concrete as they have the financial and social capital to be independent and so... they start feeling their partner is a burden and behaviour changes and that breeds insecurity in anybody not just men. Then you get the defensive and basic responses ‘it’s not my fault you can’t handle my success’ etc etc and not tackling the issues. I have had this and then with a turn of fate became the breadwinner again and it was only then the realisation sunk in for her.
Everyone has insecurity and woman often hide behind their security with success. In a relationship you do have a responsibility to nurture the insecurities of your partner to an extent
Just move on...if he’s insecure, move to the next guy. But, ladies just know money doesn’t impress men the same way it impresses women. So stop bragging about your degrees and finances cuz WE DONT CARE....men don’t even care if a woman knows how to read, if she BAD.
Siren Thomas I’ve had women lead off with “I’m an independent woman, I have my masters and make over $100K” I’m at the table like “ok...what that mouf do tho”. Men couldn’t care less cuz we not looking to get saved. I had a girl try to flex on me cuz she works for Southwest and travels, she didn’t know I lived all over Europe and been to every continent except 2(Anartica and Australia)...She was more impressed with my travels than I was about hers, cuz again that stuff doesn’t impress men. We are physical, if u fine enough u can tell me “I never been off my block” and I would still be interested.
@@mellawson5807 Im sure sir that you started it by making comments about how much the food cost or even demanding she go 50/50(bc thats what yawl menses are doing today)...of course yawl dont care bc you dont see us as human just objects to be used ...hence the issue and why you needed to make up that random women are telling you their salary on the first date...stop making up stuff youre sounding like the dudes who draw cartoons putting down women....
Women don’t brag about their money the same way men do. Most women are ambitious and make their own money so a mans money isn’t that impressive these days. We don’t care where you traveled to either because women can go to those places too!
The way i see it, a lil insecurity is okay because everyone male or female feels insecure here and there in life. Reassuring the person is good. But where physical, verbal and emotional abuse sets in, then that's a no for me. Deuces. I once had a friend tell me that he wouldn't be with a woman who earns more than he does, even his wife.
This is facts though. A successful woman shouldn’t have to feel she needs to change or lower herself because her man is insecure about his money compared to hers. I mean she hooked up with you in the first place knowing your situation so she probably wasn’t to bothered that you weren’t as successful as her. And I think it also has to do with men wanting to feel traditional and fee like they want to be the head of the household so they need to make more money. But times have change and women are making they money and nothing is wrong with that
Difference in personality types. I would say the SYSTEM helps play a role in emasculating BLK men by default in today's times. Any flex of manhood and the "ME TOO" movement is on speed dial. Or if it's not that, you have people like Dwyane Wade promoting LGBT fatherhood agenda. Or the Feminist movement telling BLK women they don't need a man, they should wear the pants and put on a strap on and flex. So a weak man would fall "victim" to the F***ery that is going on out here. A warrior will check your ass at the door, and willing to die while maintaining the "man's world" mentality. Alpha killer instinct "kill or be killed" Animal Kingdom style flex. Otherwise, if a females is that bitter over the lack of or 101 complaints about a man. Either choose better men, or become a LESBIAN full time.
Emanual Carr I’m sorry to say it but it seems like your apart of the problem. I understand what you mean that the media is attacking black men but you are attacking the ones. People have to stop thinking that the media and celebrities are pushing some sort of Gay agenda when it’s simply people living their truth that’s not harming anyone. People aren’t magically turning gay or lesbian because of it. What Dwyane is doing for is child has NOTHING to do with your life style whatsoever. Don’t let a celebrity be a representation of your skin color or culture. And yes there are some feminists that out right hate men there are plenty of other feminists who love men and just want to be treated with equal respect, equal pay, and equal rights as men. But this is where I think the insecure men gets flustered because he sees the lgbt and feminists are forces against him trying to attack him and that’s not the case. And I feel like the feminists and lgbt wouldn’t have to make groups pushing for their rights if they weren’t being oppressed and discriminated against in the first place🤷🏽♂️ And my thing is you mentioned those two but what does that have to do with a man feeling insecure in a relationship with a woman that makes more money then him?? Yes it’s two different personalities because there are some woman who will flat out no go for that and that’s on them but I believe there are other woman who looks at a mans heart. But you start with yourself and be the change you want to see and not talk about other people just living their lives.
@@arbsan8366 Hey I can respect your points brother. Good incite and some valid points. I could soften up a bit, you make good sense. Good brother you seem to be. Unlike you I'm on the other end and Non tolerant/ little patience for a lot of what is going on out here today. I have to watch my steps, not trying to end up that 1-3 statistic locked up for making a jack move. Much respect to you bother.
I’m seeing men on here talking about Man Bashing?😂 please, if you are not a man who diminishes your female partners accomplishments and success than your ego shouldn’t be so fragile. The situation was brought up taking about a specific type of man not a whole species. And instead of acknowledging both Amanda’s and this women’s lived experience of dealing with haters. Yes hater cuz if your not growing and grinding with me but holding me back ur a hater and nobody needs to deal with that. A few weak ass men decided to write “man hating” instead of acknowledging these women’s situations are part of the problem. Women will not silence ourselves from having these conversations because some men are insecure
Galva Tron I know men like you don’t care about lifting women up and celebrating our accomplishments. And that’s why I’m unbothered and don’t mess with y’all. Me and my partner both lift each other up, are our number 1 motivators and celebrate each other’s accomplishments. Got no time for haters like you but nice try😂😂
Men want an equal. Even though you may make more than him it's how to go about it. If you make him feel little and less of a man then that's where insecurities can start
I feel you. I was wondering why the topic even came up. Unless we're married, why are we talkin about money? If you're trying to go to a five-star restaurant and he can only afford McDonald's, then y'all shouldnt be dating anyway. Women emasculate men all the time and they don't even know that they're doing it. Making a man feel like you can't do anything for them and that they're not needed. No man wants to deal with that. Imagine if you're a female and the guy you're with acts like your place in his life is just for his convenience. He tells you he don't need you. He tells you he's good being single. Nobody wants to feel that way
ineedhoez well to be honest, I kind of assume that the guy that wants me doesn’t necessarily need me🤷🏾♀️ I mean he should (by my standard) already be established and doing his thing, so I would be considered an asset not a necessity. So, I’m not hell bent on a guy needing me. I recognize that I can be replaced. I’m great but so are a whole bunch of other people. That’s the difference between men and women. Men are bent on women needing them where as women are bent on improving men🤷🏾♀️. Plus women really like self-sufficient men.
Jerico Thompson I understand the point the above poster was making. My point is that men and women play different roles so the whole idea of “oh imagine someone telling you that they don’t need you, how would you feel” scenario doesn’t always line up so neatly with the position women hold( traditionally). There is a difference between needing someone and wanting someone. Women know men don’t necessarily need them especially in regards to finances and such, so a woman’s main goal is to be desired and wanted. Now, that isn’t to say men don’t want to be wanted, however the way men feel wanted is if women express a need for them. Also, men in general are least likely to even say something like “I don’t need you” because men are raised to be providers and self-sufficient. Basically, it’s already a given a man wouldn’t need me in a financial sense. But the same case can’t be said for women because women haven’t been financially independent for as long as men. So, when a women tells a man, “I don’t need you” it has more to do with historical oppression of women in regards to finances and autonomy. And that is the primary reason why statements like that are seen as “emasculating” even if they aren’t meant to be. So, yes women love and want men they just don’t have to rely on them as much in some cases. So in short, men’s ego is tied up in feeling needed, and women’s ego is tied up in being wanted which creates the gender issues we have now.
has anyone else noticed that successful women aw always act like they are so perfect in relationships and no guy would have a problem with them it's not like to be successful you have to put your job before family's and spouses and that successful people tend to want things thier own way
Surely men should be happy of a successful woman. She won't be using him as an ATM, there'll be equality in the relationship, and it'll take some social pressure on the man having to be the breadwinner.
You’re right! The smart men choose to be with successful women ! There are more benefits when both couples are successful and not competing against eachother.
I feel like that title is a bit misleading. It should have been "Dating A Financially Insecure Man". Guys who are insecure at their core just feel like nothing they ever do will be good enough, and so just completely give up trying. What this video describes isn't insecurity, its envy.
Guys love glorifying their women because of their looks, they look at them like trophy’s , where’s that energy when she has a successful career? 🤔 we are expected to look pretty and not have a mind. I think that’s been changing however it takes a while to deprogram.
I think sometimes it's not the fact that you make more money it is how you treat them. Are you making time for the man and relationship? Do you consult the man when making financial decisions if you live together? A man may complain and use words like you are always all about work etc. He isn't jealous or insecure he is simply saying look at me hey make time for us. Same thing with finance, if you live together and you go out and buy something because you make more money the fact that you did that will come up. He isn't complaining about the money but doing that shows a lack of respect. In relationships we have to learn how to differentiate between these situations and the ones where the guy is a real axxhole
While it is true that a lot of men tend to feel intimidated by being With a women who earns more money then him, it’s usually because his value as a man is solely based on him being the primary provider in a relationship. However, it is also based on the fact that for a lot of women, no matter how much they claim to not care if a guy earns less than them, eventually they’ll stop being content with that and require that he makes more money. This is because, for a lot of women, their femininity-mostly in a relationship-is contingent on being provided for (in every way) or being with a man who they perceive as dominant. And, for some women earning more money falls under the umbrella of being dominant; therefore, if the woman earns more money, she’s going to perceive herself as the dominant one, which isn’t going to make her feel feminine.
A guy shouldn't feel insecure about dating a successful woman. If anything, he should be proud of her ambition and be motivated to reach success himself.
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As a guy I agree!
They guy should be happy that she's making more money, what the heck? Especially when the economy is bad and other places are having a recession. It's a dog eat dog world out there man. Got no time for insecure man.
Why are women dating men less successful then her?? 🤔Recipe for disaster.
@@emac1286 facts. Especially if you want kids in the future. You're just asking for a life of unnecessary hard labour
"It's not my job to make you feel like a man. I can't make you something you're not."-Astrid
Damn, your so confident I'm impressed. Truth is, you will more likely the type of woman that will end alone after you hit the wall.
I love that movie!! Facts!
Leslie Watson chilla grandma its a quote from a movie. You must be insecure to project that on another woman. I rebuke you in the name of Jesus. God bless!
Leslie Watson maybe God wants the woman alone to focus on him and nothing wrong with women who choose to be alone
@@jesscon4586 , yes something wrong with that. You have no use to society if you are incapable of have a relationship and have children . Have children is only thing you can do that men cannot do. What you gonna do from age 40 to 80 if you don't have a family? Rare cats? Dumb as new age, feminist, man hating women.
In the words of Astrid from Crazy Rich Asians,
“it's not my job to make you feel like a man. I can't make you something you're not.”
Juliett Frell OOFFF LOUDER FORTHE PEOPLE IN THE BACK🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
increase the volume please!
Insecure men turn into abusers ; mentally, emotionally or even physically! They initially pretend not to be but after a little while you can see it ; the woman has to recognize it and run 🏃♀️
💯% !!!
I concur. Insecure men talk about themselves...only themselves and never ask questions of their female companions. They don't have any way to handle a response that isn't about themselves. I think some are inflicted with narcissistic characteristics.
What a waste of time!!!
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Ur absolutely right
If you’re dealing with an insecure man or woman, and they aren’t changing...... LEAVE..!!! Stay true to you and respect yourself! It’s better out here.
She needs to find men that are just as career driven as she is
Jaime Garcia Yes, but at same time You gotta have balance.
IDK but I think it's more than being career driven. Some women seek this ideal total package that doesn't exist or slim pickings. The questions: Do you wait for perfection and how long?
@@janedough6410 having a career is basic decency
Men that are just as career driven as her want someone younger because they know they can get someone younger.
They could end up being super competitive and hold unhealthy grudges / contempt :/
I should not have to set myself on fire to keep you warm. Your issues are not mine
Well said!👍🏽👏🏽
Galva Tron lmao your tantrum makes no sense
I don't understand the issue with wanting to get married...most people have the *natural* desire to marry...And I could be wrong, but this comment feels a bit like when Person A, who is a particular group, gets irritated because Person B says something positive about their own group and Person A makes the comment into something negative...example Latinax is like "Peurto Ricans are hype", next person is like, "you hate people who aren't Puerto Rican"...like how do you get there? How many issue do we have a humans have that we can't celebrate something without someone else being able to see it and appreciate it or keep the nastiness to themselves and move on...geesh...
@Galva Tron dont nobody wanna marry yawl sir women are turning down marriage...you thinking bout your mamas generation....
Gigi Dodson thats deep
I know a woman going thru this mess RIGHT now. Once they are jealous of your success, u can't change them .
You don't have to dime your light to light somebody's candle
Dim*
Manophere. com Are you living in unicorn planet or sth? Please, not all men uplift others, that’s delusional. Some men are great and some try to bring others down. Get back to the real world, and soon.
Manophere. com And you’re creepy af so...have fun dude.
Manophere. com Dude, I’ve never even met you and you are definitely a stage five creeper. Just because someone makes produces dark horror movies doesn’t make him creepy. Those are famous people making bank. You on the other hand are a creep because of what you say, that’s the worst kind of creepy. Someone sees a gothic person and thinks creepy, maybe they’re a sweetheart. You just admitted to being a creep. Like dude cmon, even these people don’t like to be called creeps just because of their profession. Creepy people always do creepy things, rapists, serial killers etc. They may look normal but their views are so creepy that when they break they do all kinds of disgusting things. Creepy is in what you say and your inner thoughts not what kind of movies you produce or how you dress.
vanick kam period
YES! And to be clear, this doesn't just apply to men (or significant others)! Check that circle--your "friends", "family", the folks smiling in your face--insecurity knows no bounds. Some folks don't want you to shine--too busy projecting their small mindedness onto you. Don't let them do it, sis! Be you--do you! Separate yourself from those kinds of people--they won't stop until they bring you down.
I'll never understand jealousy! Stop comparing yourself to other people! Define your own success--if you think yours should look like, or better than someone else's, you're doing it wrong!
If a man is broken then he's insecure and not what you in need in your life. Skip to the next.
@Manophere. com You sound like a Narcissist. It's not our job as women to put our mental health on the line to play therapist with you. If you're feeling that bad about yourself go seek out family and/or a counselor for professional help.
@Manophere. com yeet
It's not so much insecurities rather than practicality.
Exactly! A man with insecurities can totally hurt you long term!
I giggle every time Amanda finds a way to promote her book 😂 I love it
That was her podcast
Amanda's podcast and her book have the same name: Small Doses
It's ironic because people can only handle her in small doses.
It’s annoying
@@camille98tt Hater lol. If that was you ,you'd promote your business every time too. I don't knock her get that money boo.
This is why it is sooo important to only date ppl you are evenly yoked with!!! Self-esteem should have been planted and nourished in you from your parents BUT if you did not have that, it is now YOUR job as an adult to build it for yourself, not your partners!
Ppl are human tho.In these times everyone in their feelings .. Nobody is going to be evenly yoked in the mental ...I think ppl should seek normal mentally heathy ppl.
I think there’s a difference in dating a person who happens to be insecure and you start to notice it and want to help them get out of that insecurity... versus intentionally dating a person who is insecure so it can feed your ego... cuz people who feed off of insecurity feel stronger , powerful and well valued... and it’s kind of sad !
@Manophere. com That's not the entire point of feminism, I don't know where you got that from. The entire point of feminism is so women can be on the same playing field economically and in society.
While some people do feed off insecurity, there are others who's insecurity causes them to want to put others down to feel better about themselves. There are people who project their insecurities onto others because that's really what they feel about themselves. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder do this all the time, but you don't have to be a certified Narcissist to do this bad behavior.
Unfortunately, you (not you specifically, in general) cannot help someone out of their insecurities. In trying you would have completely altered who you were and still not made a difference because their insecurities have nothing to do with you but with them.
Some people may say It's better to date whoever makes you happy but if he's insecure about your career girl tell him bye. That man will not gonna make u happy at all.
@Manophere. com Who mentioned jokes?
As a man myself, I don't care if she makes more money than me. BUT I'm gonna feel some way if she is always so busy that she doesn't have time to spend with me at all.
Yup! They totally overlooked that aspect. A lot of career-focused women accuse men of being jealous and insecure, when sometimes the woman simply does not know how to establish a work/life balance. Many men don't care about a woman's occupation or salary; they just want their woman to be balanced and be present in the relationship.
I know we all have something about us that makes us insecure, but to be insecure because of your mate's success, looks, and/or outgoing personality can tear a relationship apart.
Thomas McGill Lmao you sound dumb as hell
Women should support their men
Ok this comment cleared this up more for me, I don't have anyone to ask these questions but I was wondering what women meant about insecure men being bad, bc ofc I have insecurities (all mainly about certain parts of my body) but I would never be insecure about my partners looks or success, hell if a pretty was with me I'd feel a little bit better about myself. I couldn't understand if having insecurities was a bad thing to women but I think this cleared this up, but idk if it's bad to have insecurities or not
because society tells us men that we are supposed to be more than women. More successful, make more money, have more power or demands.
Okay, I hate when someone says "but society... "guess what, YOU are society WE are society. were all society
Then date down. Get you a trailer trash girl and upgrade her. 😂😂😂
@@ineedhoez why do you have to disrespect other women? There are still women who are hypergamous and traditional and only date men who take the lead and make more than them and there's nothing wrong with that. Personally i don't do 50/50.
Yep, as much as this is a cultural issue, it also an internal job. We cannot allow society or peer pressure from those who follow these toxic cultural norms to dictate our behavior, we need to be stronger than that even if it’s really really hard. Men have been neglecting and neglected of emotional care, they need to be in touch with themselves internally and have a true support group that heals them of their insecurities and past trauma’s. Seek to be virtuous, don’t give into lust (sex, drugs, power, money). It’s okay to have a tendency for these things it’ll never fully fade, but we must keep it controlled because there is no honor in hurting other people or feeding into having vices. Seek to be virtuous, men and women, and you will detect virtuous people more easily. Together we build stronger communities not just with our children but with the influence we place on those around us. Emotional intelligence plays a larger role in bettering your life and other people’s lives than what we may think.
Each one of them looks absolutely amazing! I always fell into the trap of thinking a little jealousy or insecurity was cute early on in a relationship ... It’s not so cute when, like Tam says, they start putting you down just to make themselves feel better! Insecurity will lead to a toxic relationship.
If you’re a career driven woman and always end up with insecure men or bums then maybe take a look at yourself first
Galva Tron wdym? Coz ur girl is earning more than u? Lol
Amen. Women operate in very masculine energy most of the day and then get upset when men don't want to be with masculine women. Learn to turn your feminine energy back on.
Galva Tron Nope y’all want a feminine woman, who will be a stay at home wife.
Although I agree with the ladies, I agree with this too! Being a career driven woman, why are those the men you choose to be with? 🤔
Agatha z Or maybe she was just trying to share her experiences and he read it as competition because he was insecure and irrationally and over analyzed the situation. There is no such thing as emasculation. No one can make you feel anything, you make yourself feel that way.
I feel like the insecurity doesn't come from a man hating that a women is successful. They probably feel like they aren't good enough. There are probably some that are like the ones they speak of, just showing another side
Crona Krona I disagree. Feeling like your not good enough IS insecurity tho.
@@DaniielaVergara I said it is insecurity....just from a different standpoint
Crona Krona yes I’ve been there
But its still a toxic masculinity thing for men to feel like they're the ones that have to provide
@Daddy of Drake The corny one is you. Im saying even when woman make it clear that they "want" to help out financially men and their ego still get in the way and they lash out
Why yall out here dating yall haters??? ✌ im dating someone who is here for all of me...we're here to support each other
@PIXEL The Artist exactly!
IKR!!!!!
PIXEL The Artist I love your comment
Loni you should’ve listened to that one dude about them jokes sis.
Stfu
lmaooooo
David Maine I JUST SCREAMED!!!!! Stop 😭😂😂😂😭😂😭💀💀💀
Right!! He was trying to help her. She's not funny at all.
David Maine 😂😂😂
Amanda’s reaction when tamera was reading out the email 😂😂
My parents told me at a younger age
"Life is what you make it" 💯💯
Meaning?
Two flames shines the brightest together but don’t forget there’s two flames so beautiful suh nice
I'm so sad that Amanda had to ask "Where's he at?" Like, is it that hard to find a man that is mentally on your level? Geeeezzzzz. We have to start raising our boys to be mentally strong. Please let us surround our boys with positive strong minded men if there is no father in the home. It is more crucial than we can imagine.
and sometimes there is just nothing you can say to someone to make them feel more confident, they have to find confidence within themselves, and deal with their own issues and insecurities so that they can grow as a person. but at the end of the day it might not matter how you see them, when they see so little of themselves and it gets so hard to pull them out of it. it would be easier for them if they spent alone time with themselves so you have to let them go.
Insecure guys are the worst ! They bring the whole relationship dowwnnn. Make u feel bad..
Insecure men are abusers ; they end up abusing the woman mentally, emotionally and sometimes physically; any woman should run from them
Insecure people, both women and men are the worst in general.
Girl YES...insecure women put themselves down. Insecure men will pull YOU down to build themselves up. Men project their insecurities onto others and more aggressively than women
@Manophere. com tldr
Soooo agreeee 🙋🏽♀️
If anybody wants to hear Amanda full thoughts uninterrupted or other peoples thoughts on what they feel regarding insecure men I suggest listening to her podcast “ Small Doses “ and the episode is called “ side effects of insecure men “ it will literally having you laughing , thinking and being like “ hmm “
Does she have a website for her podcast, youtube, or spotify?
Lupita B. You can listen to it on Spotify as well as apples podcast app
Good god. I can't imagine having to listen to her more than this show
@@MajesticMyronn Thank you. What was the title of her book again? Has anyone read it?
Lupita B. Small Doses : Potent Truths For Everyday Use
Been with my man for three years and now I'm finally got into my career and he tells me everyday how proud he is ! Yes I make more money than him but he doesnt care bc he knows I worked so hard to get to where I am 🤷♀️🤷♀️
Theres lots of different types of people. Insecure people can be compatible with certain people but not all in a relationship. Its not someone elses job to change for you. Figure out what you want before you start dating and you save yourself time and pain
*”you ain’t gon’ bout ta mess up my money” lmaooo PREACH, LONI*
LOL!! May I ask you to view my current videos and future videos, follow me. I am asking black people to take ownership for our situation and make a difference. Please?
I feel like society really abandons the insecure man.. where as the insecure woman, theres much hope for her. Really unfair..
i feel this woman. im education, career driven. my boyfriend tells me i study too much and he tries to tell me i should stop or distracts me and its annoying. i told him i feel like hes being discouraging and then he feels bad and just lets me do my thing from fear of me leaving him. im about to graduate college and hes older than me but still has a whole extra year and a half until he graduates, hes like 2.5 years behind and hes like no your leaving me T_T i wish hed just focus on getting his degree instead of cry that im graduating first.
Are you still with him?
@@ChaChaWitYa no I don’t know why it took me so long to leave
@@shakirasunshinez I hope you’ve forgiven yourself for choosing to endure that for as long as you did and use it as a lesson so that you know what signs to look for early on in the men you choose to date continuing forward. Too many people, especially my fellow women, complain about dealing with the same crappy man or woman but fail to grow and start doing their due diligence to check under the hood of these people before getting too deeply involved and get mad when they finally have to acknowledge that these people aren’t in alignment with the fantasy that they’ve created in their minds of them. I’m happy for you and I hope you flourish in all aspects of your life 💜
The problem is it’s ALOT of men like that. Woman tend to be more ambitious and striving. Males become content. Not all men but a lot. I came across men like that. I had to not date them. They were fine in the beginning and eventually changed when they see you continuing to evolve
Mike Carter did I say every man no. I have encounter man that haven’t. Clearly you must be one of those insecure men. Just like it’s a lot of insecure female. Guess what the topic was on men not females
Mike Carter none of my ex’s were insecure nor is my man now. I don’t date insecure men.
@first last lol GPS is one sir invented by a bw so now what...
exactly a lot of men lack drive...then gets mad when you want more.......
Mike Carter ..... that’s literally what she said, dumbass. lmfao
Alot of men (NOT ALL) are intimated by women who can do for themselves. I think it's because the man feels as if, he has nothing to bring to the table, if WHAT he's bringing to the table the woman already has. And now he has to find other ways to impress or keep her interest. Alot of men lack personality, respect & charm, so they use materialistic things to try and keep a woman by their side.
Galva Tron insecure much 😂. You wouldn’t be hurt if you didn’t apply it to yourself. She said “ not all men” but interesting how you applied it to yourself. Stay pressed
@@amisings3716 thank you...a hit dog will holler
@Galva Tron u mad?😂
Silly Me I don’t think they’re intimidated. Women are in denial about how men see them. If you read between the lines they really feel that earning money/having a successful career is a man’s thing AND men generally feel they’re better than women. Therefore if a woman is able to go out in the world and be more successful, what does that say about them as men. They’ll never admit that’s why it bothers them so they just blame women and say they’re trying to be men.
BINGO ...esp the personality part lol....ever talked to a guy whose in his late 30s whose discussing rappers and the newest jordans a lot of dudes havent evolved since highschool
“Don’t dim your light to light somebody else’s candle”
Well said!!!
Loni’s wig ain’t it😳
It is so bad!! 😂😂😂
I love how Loni's evolved over the course of the show in terms of relationship discussions. Love her and am happy for her
Please believe when a man is insecure he will make you feel insecure either verbally or non verbal. Meaning saying things that are hurtful and make you feel useless or by cheating on you because his (eggplant) becomes his self esteem that needs to get stroked everyday by others who are less than you. I can only do secure men, don’t have time for the insecure ones ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾
It’s terrible to be with a guy who is insecure... I dated two guys who were insecure in themselves.
My boyfriend broke up with me because he was insecure i was making triple then he was . I never made him feel like he wasnt the man of the house or anything ! Im a Senior at my job he was a massage therapist not working full time
Great points. I wasn’t ready 🤷🏻♀️ for Tamera’s “byeeee” luv it
Insecurities are insecurities, shtty behaviors are shtty behaviors. Insecurity isn't a problem in my eyes, shtty behavior is. It depends on how you carry yourself. You treat insecurities with love and shtty behaviours with a "Goodbye! "
Men date insecure women its just not the same kinds sometimes its if men are going to cheat on them/hurt them or there own bodies. Everybody has there own insecures to deal with and we need people who understand that but dont stay if its a big red flag. Nobody wants that type of negative energy around them constantly
Not everyone is insecure, but it's that most people have an insecurity. The issue is how those insecurities manifest because a lot of people take out their issues on the people around them.
@@cutienerdgirlso is it OK to just have insecurities as long as your not taking it out on them, ofc I'm a man and I have insecurities about my body but I wouldn't ever take it out on anyone. What I'm really trying to ask is, is it bad to have insecurities?
I just got out of an Amanda situation a month ago. we lasted for a month too. Dodge it, girl.
Lowkey one of my favorite episodes of small doses!
Keep stepping. These kind of men drain you.
So we all gonna ignore the fact that this particular insecurity stems from the fact that all men are told from childhood that a "real man" provides for his family and should be the main breadwinner of the household?
Furthermore, if five men were to sit around rolling their eyes at women who are insecure about their appearance, they would be deemed highly insensitive. And rightfully so. This was just a man bashing session with no attempt to look deeper into the issue.
Then he needs to date a woman who makes less money and has a less demanding job. If you make 50k, don't try to go catch you and woman making $250,000 a year. Find you a little chick making her little 25000 and be happy
ineedhoez 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣exactly tell em.
This isn’t man bashing. The same goes for women. Get it together hun. No one is responsible for you. Only you.
@@ld8178 I 100% agree that every man and woman should be responsible for themselves. But let's be honest, a man that cannot provide financial security for his wife and family is typically viewed as a bum
If five women sat together and laughed about a man feeling insecure about his appearance, it would still be called insensitive, your point makes no sense
Insecurity + False ego= Narcissism. Run!!
2:32
Find equal... minds. Thanks Loni. That really is gold.
Loni always trying one up Amanda😀
I like that they’ve started talking more on topics submitted from fans. It’s great, and brings in some variety.
Fr, there was this one time I gave my friend (who happens to be a guy) a ride home, and out of nowhere when I was driving he says “I’ve never had a woman drive me, it feels weird, you should have let me drive” 😂😂 when I say I laughed😂 y’all don’t get it. Like you could have taken the bus🤷🏾♀️😂 that was completely unnecessary
Insecure men are dangerous men. Period.
Jasiri's Tunes exactly, they will kill you or damage your life without another thought
Manophere. com I said what I said
Manophere. com I never said that insecure women werent also dangerous women I am aware that it goes both ways but this episode was about men. Nothing about me has been changed bill was a predator and there are women predators as well. The point I made wasn’t false and I stand by what I said. Ive known insecure men and they’ve hurt me. If you don’t agree then perhaps you’ve been lucky enough to not have been raised by one. Peace and love ❤️ ✌🏾
Amanda, you don't need to search no more!! I'm right here and I am Afro-Portuguese!!
Everyone has insecurities. I think women are saying they don't want to deal with those insecurities despite the fact that they want us to be open more with our feelings. A man shouldn't fault his girl for making more money than him but if most or all your time is going to your work and barely anything or anyone else, I think your partner earns the right to be a little upset about that. Man or woman.
Quiet the opposite, I've met people who throw their merit around as if it grants them privileges, use it to intimidate others and command respect off the bat, which is wrong. Be empathetic about your success. Tell me your failures, the anxiety that developed from your struggle, I rather hear how you struggled to get where you are. If your success came without struggles your success is worthless and you'll get no respect, from me.
Just reading the title and my automatic response was “NOPE.” Never settle 💀
a successful *man* or *woman* shouldn't have to feel like they have to change or downplay themselves bcs of their partner's insecurities
i’m loving amanda lately 👍🏼
I agree however as a women need to stop chronically choosing insecure men. We can’t keep complaining about it, if we keep choosing those types of guys.
True.
Amanda scratching her neck though 😆. Seriously I've been there. In my personal case insecurity was only one of many issues but was definitely up there as a major issue.
I’m a man who’s personally been in this situation. I’ve also heard from a lot of men about women, wives, girlfriends etc who unfortunately maybe didn't have the power or success they currently have and so misuse it and belittle their partners in search of independence and freedom. (Knowingly and unknowingly) The idea of not needing a man becomes more concrete as they have the financial and social capital to be independent and so... they start feeling their partner is a burden and behaviour changes and that breeds insecurity in anybody not just men. Then you get the defensive and basic responses ‘it’s not my fault you can’t handle my success’ etc etc and not tackling the issues. I have had this and then with a turn of fate became the breadwinner again and it was only then the realisation sunk in for her.
Bro, you were lucky you survived. Women are naturally attracted to only Men that have money. We all know that.
Uche Emmanuel ; speak for yourself...Good Character is what defines a man, MONEY DOESN’T...!!!
You sound like a dead fish
I love love love that grey top Amanda has on!
Loni with them stories again🙄
Loni is not even funny. Tamar was more of a comedian for me.
When is she going to realize people realize those stories are made up...it’s obvious.
Loni’s wigs confuse me, whenever I see the thumbnails, I think they’re uploading old videos again
He's out there and his name is Trevor Noah 🤗🤗🤗
What!!!!
What
Whattttttt???!!!!
Spill the tea!
Wait he insecure? 😱
Everyone has insecurity and woman often hide behind their security with success. In a relationship you do have a responsibility to nurture the insecurities of your partner to an extent
It is so sad that educated , successful woman , cannot seem to find a man that is an equal, even in NYC, damn
I think they can find them. If you're in a circle of like-kind, one is bound to encounter a man. He may require other criteria however.
Because men that are their equals don’t want masculine women
Men deal with insecure woman everyday tho
Just move on...if he’s insecure, move to the next guy. But, ladies just know money doesn’t impress men the same way it impresses women. So stop bragging about your degrees and finances cuz WE DONT CARE....men don’t even care if a woman knows how to read, if she BAD.
🎯🎯🎯. Right, accomplishments are good but it's more to life then that. It's a reason why they are single.
we dont brag unless yawl start with the whole women are gold digging me argument
Siren Thomas I’ve had women lead off with “I’m an independent woman, I have my masters and make over $100K” I’m at the table like “ok...what that mouf do tho”. Men couldn’t care less cuz we not looking to get saved. I had a girl try to flex on me cuz she works for Southwest and travels, she didn’t know I lived all over Europe and been to every continent except 2(Anartica and Australia)...She was more impressed with my travels than I was about hers, cuz again that stuff doesn’t impress men. We are physical, if u fine enough u can tell me “I never been off my block” and I would still be interested.
@@mellawson5807 Im sure sir that you started it by making comments about how much the food cost or even demanding she go 50/50(bc thats what yawl menses are doing today)...of course yawl dont care bc you dont see us as human just objects to be used ...hence the issue and why you needed to make up that random women are telling you their salary on the first date...stop making up stuff youre sounding like the dudes who draw cartoons putting down women....
Women don’t brag about their money the same way men do. Most women are ambitious and make their own money so a mans money isn’t that impressive these days. We don’t care where you traveled to either because women can go to those places too!
Amanda is a breath of fresh air! Loving her from the UK
The way i see it, a lil insecurity is okay because everyone male or female feels insecure here and there in life. Reassuring the person is good. But where physical, verbal and emotional abuse sets in, then that's a no for me. Deuces.
I once had a friend tell me that he wouldn't be with a woman who earns more than he does, even his wife.
'You don't have to dim your lights to light someone else's candle'. She's a savage 😂🤣😅
That's right.... Girls/Ladies don't let nobody DIM ya LIGHT 🕯️ stay bright 🌞 and shine #ladiesalwayzdosit
"Own financial independence"💯❤💋💥 "You are not about to mess up my money"🎯
That’s the worst to date ! An insecure man!!
This is facts though. A successful woman shouldn’t have to feel she needs to change or lower herself because her man is insecure about his money compared to hers. I mean she hooked up with you in the first place knowing your situation so she probably wasn’t to bothered that you weren’t as successful as her. And I think it also has to do with men wanting to feel traditional and fee like they want to be the head of the household so they need to make more money. But times have change and women are making they money and nothing is wrong with that
Maybe she behaves in a way that does not help him feel secure.
thrilla72 Could be that too.
Difference in personality types. I would say the SYSTEM helps play a role in emasculating BLK men by default in today's times. Any flex of manhood and the "ME TOO" movement is on speed dial. Or if it's not that, you have people like Dwyane Wade promoting LGBT fatherhood agenda. Or the Feminist movement telling BLK women they don't need a man, they should wear the pants and put on a strap on and flex. So a weak man would fall "victim" to the F***ery that is going on out here. A warrior will check your ass at the door, and willing to die while maintaining the "man's world" mentality. Alpha killer instinct "kill or be killed" Animal Kingdom style flex.
Otherwise, if a females is that bitter over the lack of or 101 complaints about a man. Either choose better men, or become a LESBIAN full time.
Emanual Carr I’m sorry to say it but it seems like your apart of the problem. I understand what you mean that the media is attacking black men but you are attacking the ones. People have to stop thinking that the media and celebrities are pushing some sort of Gay agenda when it’s simply people living their truth that’s not harming anyone. People aren’t magically turning gay or lesbian because of it. What Dwyane is doing for is child has NOTHING to do with your life style whatsoever. Don’t let a celebrity be a representation of your skin color or culture. And yes there are some feminists that out right hate men there are plenty of other feminists who love men and just want to be treated with equal respect, equal pay, and equal rights as men. But this is where I think the insecure men gets flustered because he sees the lgbt and feminists are forces against him trying to attack him and that’s not the case. And I feel like the feminists and lgbt wouldn’t have to make groups pushing for their rights if they weren’t being oppressed and discriminated against in the first place🤷🏽♂️ And my thing is you mentioned those two but what does that have to do with a man feeling insecure in a relationship with a woman that makes more money then him?? Yes it’s two different personalities because there are some woman who will flat out no go for that and that’s on them but I believe there are other woman who looks at a mans heart. But you start with yourself and be the change you want to see and not talk about other people just living their lives.
@@arbsan8366 Hey I can respect your points brother. Good incite and some valid points. I could soften up a bit, you make good sense. Good brother you seem to be.
Unlike you I'm on the other end and Non tolerant/ little patience for a lot of what is going on out here today. I have to watch my steps, not trying to end up that 1-3 statistic locked up for making a jack move.
Much respect to you bother.
I’m seeing men on here talking about Man Bashing?😂 please, if you are not a man who diminishes your female partners accomplishments and success than your ego shouldn’t be so fragile. The situation was brought up taking about a specific type of man not a whole species. And instead of acknowledging both Amanda’s and this women’s lived experience of dealing with haters. Yes hater cuz if your not growing and grinding with me but holding me back ur a hater and nobody needs to deal with that. A few weak ass men decided to write “man hating” instead of acknowledging these women’s situations are part of the problem. Women will not silence ourselves from having these conversations because some men are insecure
Galva Tron I know men like you don’t care about lifting women up and celebrating our accomplishments. And that’s why I’m unbothered and don’t mess with y’all. Me and my partner both lift each other up, are our number 1 motivators and celebrate each other’s accomplishments. Got no time for haters like you but nice try😂😂
Glen CoCo yup exactly
You go Glenn Cócó
I THINK IT'S SAD HOW THIS SOCIETY CONDITIONS ITS CITIZENS TO ACCEPT A FASE DEFINITION OF SUCCESS...
Men want an equal. Even though you may make more than him it's how to go about it. If you make him feel little and less of a man then that's where insecurities can start
I feel you. I was wondering why the topic even came up. Unless we're married, why are we talkin about money? If you're trying to go to a five-star restaurant and he can only afford McDonald's, then y'all shouldnt be dating anyway.
Women emasculate men all the time and they don't even know that they're doing it. Making a man feel like you can't do anything for them and that they're not needed. No man wants to deal with that. Imagine if you're a female and the guy you're with acts like your place in his life is just for his convenience. He tells you he don't need you. He tells you he's good being single. Nobody wants to feel that way
@Glen CoCo 🤣🤣🤣 um no ...are you married ?
@@ineedhoez exactly and that was the whole feminist movement gave females. I'm sorry I like having my husband around and appreciate what he does
ineedhoez well to be honest, I kind of assume that the guy that wants me doesn’t necessarily need me🤷🏾♀️ I mean he should (by my standard) already be established and doing his thing, so I would be considered an asset not a necessity. So, I’m not hell bent on a guy needing me. I recognize that I can be replaced. I’m great but so are a whole bunch of other people. That’s the difference between men and women. Men are bent on women needing them where as women are bent on improving men🤷🏾♀️. Plus women really like self-sufficient men.
Jerico Thompson I understand the point the above poster was making. My point is that men and women play different roles so the whole idea of “oh imagine someone telling you that they don’t need you, how would you feel” scenario doesn’t always line up so neatly with the position women hold( traditionally). There is a difference between needing someone and wanting someone. Women know men don’t necessarily need them especially in regards to finances and such, so a woman’s main goal is to be desired and wanted. Now, that isn’t to say men don’t want to be wanted, however the way men feel wanted is if women express a need for them. Also, men in general are least likely to even say something like “I don’t need you” because men are raised to be providers and self-sufficient. Basically, it’s already a given a man wouldn’t need me in a financial sense. But the same case can’t be said for women because women haven’t been financially independent for as long as men. So, when a women tells a man, “I don’t need you” it has more to do with historical oppression of women in regards to finances and autonomy. And that is the primary reason why statements like that are seen as “emasculating” even if they aren’t meant to be. So, yes women love and want men they just don’t have to rely on them as much in some cases. So in short, men’s ego is tied up in feeling needed, and women’s ego is tied up in being wanted which creates the gender issues we have now.
Amanda let’s be friends so we go out together and meets the men. I’m faithful we’ll find a good one soon
Galva Tron oh stfu
has anyone else noticed that successful women aw always act like they are so perfect in relationships and no guy would have a problem with them it's not like to be successful you have to put your job before family's and spouses and that successful people tend to want things thier own way
insecure men will have the nerve to make you feel less of yourself so you can settle with someone whos not on your level. byeeee
Surely men should be happy of a successful woman. She won't be using him as an ATM, there'll be equality in the relationship, and it'll take some social pressure on the man having to be the breadwinner.
@Manophere. com Sorry I didn't understand what you said.
You’re right! The smart men choose to be with successful women ! There are more benefits when both couples are successful and not competing against eachother.
I feel like that title is a bit misleading. It should have been "Dating A Financially Insecure Man". Guys who are insecure at their core just feel like nothing they ever do will be good enough, and so just completely give up trying. What this video describes isn't insecurity, its envy.
Guys love glorifying their women because of their looks, they look at them like trophy’s , where’s that energy when she has a successful career? 🤔 we are expected to look pretty and not have a mind. I think that’s been changing however it takes a while to deprogram.
Today's a different time. Men expect women to bring more to the table than looks.
??? Most men are fine with women having successful careers, are you serious right now?
What if it's the other way around that she has insecurities and trying to bring him down?
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But everyones insecure about something, and anyone who say's they aren't insecure about anything is lying or not self aware.
We all have insecurities, but if you are taking on your mate's insecurities in addition to your own it's gonna lead to disaster.
I think women need their financial equal, as well as their intellectual equal...money is a ball buster for a lot of men...
I think sometimes it's not the fact that you make more money it is how you treat them. Are you making time for the man and relationship? Do you consult the man when making financial decisions if you live together? A man may complain and use words like you are always all about work etc. He isn't jealous or insecure he is simply saying look at me hey make time for us. Same thing with finance, if you live together and you go out and buy something because you make more money the fact that you did that will come up. He isn't complaining about the money but doing that shows a lack of respect. In relationships we have to learn how to differentiate between these situations and the ones where the guy is a real axxhole
Preach.
that topic is good for people in general. Men or women
I'm with Amanda... where is he at?! Because I refuse to settle or dumb down my talent and shine!!
I can soooo RELATE to this. That is another reason why I am still single going on 5 years . That is not my bag to hold
I agree with Loni. It’s about being equals in your mind. My dad always says that.
While it is true that a lot of men tend to feel intimidated by being With a women who earns more money then him, it’s usually because his value as a man is solely based on him being the primary provider in a relationship. However, it is also based on the fact that for a lot of women, no matter how much they claim to not care if a guy earns less than them, eventually they’ll stop being content with that and require that he makes more money. This is because, for a lot of women, their femininity-mostly in a relationship-is contingent on being provided for (in every way) or being with a man who they perceive as dominant. And, for some women earning more money falls under the umbrella of being dominant; therefore, if the woman earns more money, she’s going to perceive herself as the dominant one, which isn’t going to make her feel feminine.
Loni had that wig since the summer of 72’ lol.