Truth is sometimes I do feel things I shouldn't. For example sometimes I may think to myself, "Now I'm worthy to be here." Sometimes dressing nicer commands more respect when you go into places of business. I feel entitled as a they should take me seriously when I go somewhere. When I go someplace in sneakers it's a whole nother story.
I totally agree. I love to dress up but no one at my work does. I slowly started dressing casual so they wouldn’t perceive me as trying too hard. It’s sad, and I mostly cared about what the ladies thought of me. But after watching this, I’m going back to being true to myself. I shouldn’t care what other people think and should wear what makes me happy. And honestly, I love looking and dressing as a professional; it makes me more productive at work too.
Roena Skates I didn’t know when you put clothes on, you blend with the colors. You’re not only weird but also slow. There are colors that don’t look good with dark either. 🤷🏼♀️ black and white are both neutral. Sounds like you got issues but that’s not my problem
Adrienne was being the most authentic here. Lets be honest, as women, we have all had atleast one moment in which we encountered a beautiful woman and felt 1) automatic jealously, dislike towards that woman or feelings of insecurity and/or 2) desire to be that woman's friend/liked by her
S W correct! And a lot of us aren’t honest enough to say this. We instantly compare and want to see how we measure up. It’s so toxic. Focus on yourself and your unique beauty. It’s not easy to do especially in this society. But it takes time. Spending time with God helps too.
No lol I can't stand when people don't have style. If I see someone else looking good im like okay yes a fellow fashionista. People really just roll out of bed and think it's ok
Hmm nope. Guess cuz my family looking fly is the norm so i am used to it. No jealousy, just admiration. And i want to be everybody's friend until they do something i don't like. Sooo no not every woman.
I feel Adrienne on a wholllleeeee other level. There's been times where girls will give me dirty looks or go out of their way to not talk to you just because I like to over dress and love to look good, it makes me uncomfortable. So many times this has happened and it makes me feel guilty because I can't help how you feel or the insecurities you carry. I use to be so insecure and I worked on it and now I've blossomed and I will never not shine for anyone's negativity.
Well...... are you those girls that shows to much skin like all the time? Because if you are other girls are going to feel intimidated right away by you.
And she is nasty too but nonetheless..she is pretty.. she dont wash her hands when she us the bathroom when she is home.. but i do completely other females cause women in general are beautiful..
Stop perpetuating the damaging stereotype of girls hating other girls because they’re pretty. Society has been pitting woman against each other for centuries by promoting the idea that the source of the conflicts can be linked to outward appearances. Appearances that have been arbitrary set as standards to have men tell us our worth. Sis, we are far too complex for that. Don’t sell yourself short. 😘😘😘 Btw you’re beautiful and I love your smile!😍
Exactly, thats why people allways try to foccuse on the negative things about her, like "shes not as intelectual our as articulate as the other women" our she dosent have enough "depht". Its just insecure people who reflect that on others, in this case her. It happens people
Zara M I hate being stared at too and I’ve become more insecure. In my younger years I was all about sexy and I felt comfortable that way. I don’t now. That’s one reason I dress down a lot because I don’t want attention. I’m trying to change that because I have all these cute clothes I buy.
I moved to the south from the east coast 3 years ago. I noticed women overtly stare and will give a lot of compliments freely in the south! It’s quite a different feeling
I used to be like that - actually pretty recently but now I don't give a damn. Honestly, just go for it! You'll eventually get used to the stares and I kinda just not pay attention to them. People are always judging, so I mean, might as well do you!
🗣🗣🗣Adrienne is speaking facts!! Women who dress nice and feminine are told by other women; “Why are you so dressed up”?! This happens to me a lot because I wear sun dresses and skirts a lot!! This is my daily wardrobe BUT women think that you’re over dressing!!!
Never, their are crazy people in this world keep your private parts covered to avoid being a target and to respect yourself ass, titties, breast never should be on display they are private
Go Yolie! - agree! If a girl tells me I’m beautiful I feel more confident. When a guy tells me I look good I automatically think to myself “mmmhhhmmmm what does this guy want?!? 🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐” LOL! 🤪
Same! It feels more meaningful to me when a female compliments me. I remember a friend told me that she didn't like me at first because I appeared stuck up but then when she got to know me she said I'm like the sweetest person she knows. I actually received similar comments from a few female friends. I think because I wore makeup, colored contacts, dyed my hair, and dressed up for high school and that was considered early to do. I think girls are different now though but in my generation it wasn't common.
I’m definitely a “girls girl” like A, I love women I am always down to be another woman’s hype man. I just hate when women are in competition with one another! Let’s uplift one another, team women ALL DAY 👯♀️
i agree 100% but i think that's only something pretty women say because they don't have a reason to be jealous/insecure. the ugly women who hate themselves yet don't work on their self-improvement are the ones who need to have this mindset.
I loved the way Amanda voiced her difference in opinion from Jeannie's opinion about being "naturally insecure". Respectful and eloquent. Glad to see the improvement in the dymamics between the girls.
@Galva Tron That may be a matter of opinion. I'm not taking her comments as facts. I also dont think that women are naturally insecure. Insecurity is a natural human emotion/feeling in general.
@Galva Tron I agree with you. People are insecure, that includes women too. Some women will become territorial, unkind or dismissive when interacting with a woman who makes them feel insecure, others may feel a bit sad or bad about themselves but WON´T be unkind to the other woman. You can be insecure without taking it out on the other woman. But no point in denying insecurity exists.
Adrienne should dress how ever she wants! Dont dim your light for anybody!❤❤ Plus people will judge either way. If ypu dress nicely they dont like it. If you dress modest they dont like it either. Its more about their insecurity than about you.
@@gaila.9852 No. But it just proves that just because you look pretty it doesn't mean that you are clean. If a person doesn't care enough about the health of others except how good they look, that is pretty conceited and selfish.
The Leo in me wants to look presentable everywhere I go, even if I’m just going to the supermarket. At home I wear pyjamas at all times (still matching pyjamas tho) my friends embrace it and are absolutely stunning regardless of what they wear, we always hype each other up.
I dress modestly to represent my relationship with Christ. Jeannie is right that your outfit sends a message. I definitely want to draw more attention to Christ than myself!
Ebony you don’t have to dress sexy you can dress modestly and have a little bit of makeup on and everything just fits you right and some women unfortunately hate on you.
@@user-cc7od4mr7i No u need to wake up and stop living in your delusional world and worship your paedophile prophet. And who are you to say your religion is right and others wrong?
@@herantomastekeste1184 Oh please, he was no pedophile. On the other hand, maaaaany priests of your religion are. And read your Old testament that justifies the killing of innoncent babies because of their parents' sins.
If someone actually gets mad at you for dressing up, don't worry, they're likely just projecting their insecurities onto you. You have the right to dress however YOU want.
@@lilchristuten7568 I had someone ask me why have I been wearing slacks lately instead or scrubs at my workplace. I thought it was a peculiar question considering everyone wears either one. I just chalked it up to them displaying their own insecurities onto me. I do get complimented more often when wearing slacks rather than scrubs. 🤔🤷🏾♀️
Love what Tam said about feeling inspired by seeing another beautiful woman rather than feeling threatened. There’s nothing wrong with telling another woman she is beautiful, I’m all for it , us women should be uplifting each other ! 💕
Bria Barrows everyone is insecure so I reject the popular opinion that it’s insecurity that is to blame for women being nasty to each other. I think we’re literally just conditioned to see other women as threats all the time. That said, I’ve luckily been sparred from this foolishness and have always been a girls girl! I love women and want nothing more than for them to succeed
I learned to no longer give a crap about what others think about what I wear. What matters to me is if I feel comfortable in what I’m wearing, not others thoughts.
I believe you Jessica but I think that Loni does care. (See my earlier comment) In addition, her body language and facial expressions betray her words. Fortunately, the other Hosts go out of there way to be gracious and kind to her.
seeyouagain911 I’m only 23 so technically I’m not old too, but I meant to say it as like I’m an adult & shouldn’t waist my time caring what other woman think of me(:
Adrienne is very beautiful, I'm sure she makes insecure people upset when they see her. I'm sure she's had a lot of moments like the ones she's describing.
Anyone who puts that much effort on their hair make up and clothes will look beautiful periodt. Don’t come for me its a surface statement. I do love that she does it for herself. I believe in the same concept just not that much make up.
I was at a dinner party with my husband and some friends. The waitress kept smiling at me the whole time 😊 she patiently waited until the party I was with exited to tell me she admired my sense of style and my makeup was gorgeous 🤩 it was really sweet! It matters ladies! These young girls are looking at you! Keep yourself looking up to the part always!!! You never know who you’re inspiring
Ive always admired other girls. I grew up a Tom boy so to see a pretty girl looking super girly I’d be inspired to get to that level. I still to this day compliment women for how they look. I know it takes work to carry yourself well.
Adriana Antonio what makes you to be a Tom boy? I was just talking recently with my BF about something that I noticed. There is a woman at work who dresses like a man and to be honest I not pay attention to her body until one day I caught myself thinking “ oh she got a big belly” like realizing that she’s is fat and that’s something usually I just realize at first on a woman. either by thinking she’s fat, skinny tall or short. But with Tom boy woman I don’t pay attention on how they are physically (body type ) at first maybe because it’s part of we don’t judge man hard as we judge woman so a woman looking like a man gets the day treatment that I get to man 🤷🏻♀️.
I agree. I consider myself kinda modest but not to the point where I’m wearing just black or bland colors. I love bright colors and bold prints but I also like to be covered up. No boobs or booty showing lol and usually my shoulders are covered too.
Absolutely not. I don’t dim my light for anyone. If I wanna get cute, 🤷🏽♀️ thats my prerogative! If a woman is upset that I look good I think thats a personal problem she’s gonna have to deal with on her own...
I agree 100%. All the New Age feminists are about to call you a "pick me" and say that women shouldn't make decisions to please their husbands because they're men.
I was at the hair salon about two weeks ago..After I had finished getting my hair blown out and wrap, a young lady said to me, you have beautiful hair.. I responded I do, thank you”... (typing this I want to 😢😢cry).... then after I said that I was like why did you say I do like you don’t have pretty hair or don’t believe you have pretty hair... The problem is and I realize it that day.. after being involved with a narcissist, who put me down and would tell me my hair never looked good even after getting it done, nails done.. I was put down so much in that relationship... but when the young lady told me that.. I had to believe it cause I always did love my hair as a kid and as a young lady
O B I A N U J U thank you.. being with a narcissist is very crippling.. I am Out of that relationship 6 months now..thank God.. everyday I tell myself I am good enough, I deserve love, I deserve to be loved the right way etc
SWOOP SWOOP Aw the fact that that relationship made you second guess her compliment makes me sad. But I’m glad you’re out of the relationship and you remembered how beautiful you are ! He was the wrong one, I’m sure everyone else sees the beauty in your hair, your overall appearance and in your heart because I can see it from this comment. Remember to pay those compliments forward and make someone else’s day also☺️. God bless 💕
I'm so glad you recognized your own beauty. I know also what it feels like being with someone who Will try and put you down. But, God has better in store for you. Keep loving yourself and I'm so happy you left that man. I did as well God bless you on your journey and always remember God made us beautiful.
I completely understand how Ade feels!! I get that all the time from other women it's really sad.....I tried to dim my light for years and I was miserable. I'm glad I'm submerging out off it. I just want to be happy at the end of the day
Nah. I started dressing modestly once I learned to respect myself. When I dressed sexy, I didn't care what others thought and I still don't care LOL But I do care how God views me! That's just me though!!
I didn't know God judges people based on how they dress. Last remember we are born naked and created without clothes. Shame is a human thing. Peoples bodies are beautiful and awesome. It's our inability to just see bodies as bodies and respect them as such that brings this futal obsession with oversexualising people, trying to control ourselves by projecting our insecurity and weird repressed socialization with our own bodies and sexuality.
I dress modestly if the event calls for it - family gathering, church, barbecue, ect. But I do not dress modestly on a regular if I'm going out with friends or my bf. I usually dress sexy, not always showing skin but usually something figure hugging and when you got curves, you got curves. BUT I always carry myself in a respectable manner and speak like a lady, so I'm never judged by my outfits and people usually think I'm actually very conservative.
Yes Adrienne, 1000%. In my former church everyone used to watch me sideways because I dressed nicely. But eventually I just decided to be me and dress up because I love too.
I love wearing heels and dressing up. I used to wear heels just going to the shops but I got so many dirty and judging looks from women that it stopped me so now I don’t do it anymore and I miss it. I should start it up again
You definitely should do you sis 💪🏽 wear your heels because if you’re anything like me I have waaaaay too many pairs of shoes 🤣 I wore my heels to the grocery store a few weeks ago! Men were with their women on a Sunday trying not to stare 🙄 yes, on a Sunday
Abigail Owusu , she did her time let her keep reminding us. Sis, you know how your people be forever reminding the rest of Africa that you on top😩😂😅. But I say, let y’all have your shine. You’ve earned it.
Yess, I’ve always felt that other womens low self esteem was my responsibility, but if they have confidence I feel that we can both be free and be ourselves.
Robyn H no because they said they couldn’t relate which I understand. But I just sound it interesting that they at least never heard of this issue. That’s all I was saying.
I feel adrienne 100. I dont care which job im hired at, Im coming with my hair/makeup/outfit on point because thats what type of girl I am. Other woman use to stay throwing little shade.. and idk if I was naive bc I never caught it, other plp would have to tell me like girl she was definitely hating lol. like adrienne said DONT HATE, BE INSPIRED!
Amanda has become nicer with the girls or warmed up, more accepting of their opinions and delivery is much better, makes her more like able, Loni however has become intolerable of the other girls
I think because she's lost her place because she's not the funny one or the pretty one or the smart one every one of the ladies represents something except her unless you want to count oldest
I agree with Amanda n Adriane there r women who judge are feel u think your better when most of the time the women is just being who they are and they shouldn’t feel uncomfortable for being themselves !!!!!!
People say im intimidating, my face is like that but im actually goofy.. So I end up meeting a lot of my women friends in sweatpants and the girl looks like she came from a magazine and i always feel underdressed. So i totally like this, inform them with the dress code thing 🤣👍
Im with Loni on this ion care 🤷🏾♀️ y’all ain’t paying my bills/clothes. I believe in looking presentable in the right situations but trying to look cute for him she them, I’m good
As someone who also loves to dress up and look put together, I completely understand Adrienne cause I've done it multiple times. Don't want to step on toes etc.
I don’t care how people feel about how I dress. If my croptop and mom jeans offend you I don’t know what to tell you love. Sometimes I’m covered head to toe sometimes I’d like for my thangs to thang. If you’re stacked you’re gonna be stacked modest or not. 🤷🏾♀️ I’m always complimenting women on their purses, makeup, shoes, outfits, you name it modest or not. I don’t care what you do with yourself it has zero effect on my life, who am I to tell you what to do when I don’t know you from a can of paint?
Jeannie does have a point though. People are in general insecure and that includes women. Yes, society reinforces that insecurity but there's also a very primitive instinctual mechanism. Just google Intrasexual competition (male or female). Jeannie had quite a strong point there.
I'm gonna be honest, I was a little worried when Amanda first came on the show bc I felt like these 4 girls have been with each other for years so I thought it would be weird to just bring another girl in the mix BUT I actually love Amanda on the show!! I think she fits in perfectly and brings a whole new element to it which I love ❤️❤️❤️
As a woman I often dress modestly to stay safe. It's sad but very often even though I enjoy wearing dresses and high heals, I'm afraid to walk the streets dressed in such manner (especially alone and late at night). So I don't do it out of fear of being judged, but out of fear that I won't be safe.
The only time I really dress up is for church or when I'm broadcasting in the studio at my college. I have a very basic sense of style. I like my denim jeans and a sweater, with my rubber boots and a warm jacket.
This is so true! My boyfriend says why you wear makeup guys don't even notice or care about your eyebrows being good and cleaned. I'm like hey I must look good. But when other females notice and complaint it's the best. I always give kudos when I see a girl with bomb makeup or outfit.
Also I feel like women’s figures are a trend and we don’t rlly notice it. Like back in the 90s tall and skinny was the main image and now it’s been changed to thick and curvy women. Whatever figure you have you should love it and it shouldn’t be a trend
A group of friends asked me awhile back why I always wear makeup if I’m going out the house and why dress up for everything. I was taught to always look presentable. Even if I’m going to do groceries I will wear makeup and dress decent. I’m not a full glam makeup type but I’m never caught outside without foundation, mascara and lipstick. That’s just how I am and I won’t ever go in public wearing pajama pants and slippers. Not that I feel I’m better than anyone I just don’t feel presentable without some makeup. You never know who you’re going to meet while out in public and you want to leave a good impression on.
I agree with Adrienne! I am the friend where I absolutely love being dressed up. Even if it's brunch, lunch, dinner, small gatherings. It helps with my confidence and helps me feel beautiful. I typically haven't noticed myself wearing something different for someone to like me. My experience is very different I gained confidence recently in the last 8 months. Since graduating college, working and doing my own thing.
@@JohnneseP because it overrules her, she uses her beauty as a dumb weapon to say and do things that is nasty and beyond normal , she says the stupidest things she acts like she is dumb to the real world and she overdo everything, if you say sex , she does the most , if you say I carry paper in my panties ,she does that , if you had a man that was bad to you , she experience that , if you was poor growing up ', she was poor to , if you take down your pants and pee in down town square she did that ,Adrienne is a make up wined up puppet , she has style and beauty that she thinks give her the ticket to wherever and thus it being a curse to her and she dont know, she wants to be a Kardashians, a JLo a cardi B a Arianna , and a fake. She suppress the real Adrienne, she said that her mom told Israel thanks for bringing my daughter back , but because he is just as fake as her , her mom probably still looking for the real Adrienne.
Jackie Agard wow, who hurt you boo. You don’t know her. To even have the audacity to say everything you just said is beyond me. How can you pick at someone you don’t even know. Making assumptions about her like this. The Kardashians, JLO, and all the other people she admires are REAL people and she has a right to befriend them and love them for who they are as a person just like anyone else does. Secondly what her Mama said about Is bringing the real Ade back to her can be true. You nor did I raise Ade. So if Mama Nilda says Is brought her Ade back to her than who are you (we) to say that isn’t true. If you see her beauty as a cure than you need to look into yourself and ask why. Her story is her story, just like yours belongs to you, and my story belongs to me.
@@JohnneseP well you ask for it and now the answer offends you , who hurt you boo??? , I form my assumption/my opinion, like you did yours, but mine hurts you badly .
I get insecure when it comes to other women for 2 reasons. 1- They REMIND me that I can be doing so much better and that I lack the effort. 2- Men won't pay me any mind when they're around / I feel like men compare me to them and I always come up short. They're real and valid feelings and I just have to learn how to navigate that.
I get it, but I don't think taking it out on such girls is fair. I'm not saying you do that or treat them unkindly in return. I have, however, seen it happen a lot, in high school, uni, at the work place. I don't think getting upset with men would be fair either. I think people should step back and think why they need the attention of several men at the same time, to boost their ego? to feel they have "defeated" other women? will being the most ogled girl in a room, place give such girl happines? I think women resenting other women is a real damaging issue but people prefer to ignore it completely because it's politically incorrect. I think we should focus on things that have the potential to last longer than physical beauty such as kindness, intelligence, integrity, solidarity, being a good friend, child, parent, whatever you decide to do with your life.
I get this.... I've been told by a female co-worker. That I needed to slow down with applying makeup. Because it was to hard to keep up with me. The makeup I wear isn't about the other women around me. I wear it for me. I like how I look in it. It makes me feel good about myself.
I totally agree. I love to dress up but no one at my work does. I slowly started dressing casual so they wouldn’t perceive me as trying too hard. It’s sad, and I mostly cared about what the ladies thought of me. But after watching this, I’m going back to being true to myself. I shouldn’t care what other people think and should wear what makes me happy. And honestly, I love looking and dressing as a professional; it makes me more productive at work too.
Once on a vacation to Cancun with my bf and his friend and his gf, FYI I’m the same as Adrienne, I just love dressing up and especially on vacation it’s so fun to wear different clothing. Anyway my bf’s friend asked him to tell me to not wear “over the top” outfits because he didn’t want his gf to feel insecure. Like WTF that got me so sad and so mad like if I’m the bad person now for wanting to wear some cute outfits for this trip. In the end I ended up wearing what I had packed and that girl didn’t even speak to me the entire trip, she would talk to my bf but not me. I can’t believe how some girls would act. SMH
pierusofpella I would literally just wear like cute crop tops and skirts or a cute bikini with some shorts or a cute little summer dress and she wore the same tshirt and JEANSSS the entire trip which is fine she can wear whatever she feels comfortable in but don’t try to make me dumb down some of my outfits just because she didn’t want to feel bad about hers, and for example she would sit by her man then her man by my bf then me next to my bf and she would talk to her man and my bf but when I put a word in a conversation she would just give me an ugly look and stay quiet so I minded my business and my bf and I would go wonder off to be alone because he notice her actions were rude towards me
For ten years I did just what Ad said but ! Now hell nah I’m trying to do me if I show up in high heels and you’re in flats and sweat pants girl that’s your business !
It's true! If a men compliments me, I feel sexy and question if he wants me. If a woman compliments me, I genuinely feel beautiful. There's this sort of healing for my self esteem.
Yess ooo.....what use to be underwear and nightie is now an outfit people wear outside their home. And I think what they were all saying was good but I think they missed their question.
Adrienne is MEEEEE. My friends always text me asking how I’m going dressed. & when I say casual they make sure to tell me that my casual doesn’t match up to their casual. So then I feel obligated to dress down. I loooove dressing up. I work at a restaurant so I’m in a uniform 24/7 Monday-Sunday. So I feel like, if I have a day off I wanna look cute! I don’t want to dress down for people so they don’t feel pressured to dress up. Girls we need to do better!
I feel like I don’t do this to comparison thing because no matter what someone a woman do some men are not attracted to them. For example for me I know there are some men aren’t and will never be attracted to me and it goes beyond “dressing code” it’s personality and all same way for me there are some men that I will never consider or be attracted to. You don’t choose who you feel attracted to it’s just a unconscious decision
Nah not really. Especially if you’re a lesbian that really doesn’t apply. We compete with other women because we fear the feeling of being inferior to others whether that be based off of physical characteristics or not. We want to feel superior in order to feel confident within ourselves. Not all women feel like this either, usually this is a result of extremely poor self image and self esteem issues. It’s mental toxicity that can be helped.
That is such an backwards, misogynistic assumption. By that logic, lesbians are incapable of being competitive and judgemental in these regards. Do men compete only for their sexual interests? You sound like the type to assume that women ONLY dress up for their sexual interest. Nope. Plenty of women dress up and do it FOR THEM. Women don't tear other women down soley because of sexual interests. Kind of like when a woman dresses up, she's not necessarily doing it for a man. This black and white logic surrounding women is so degrading and toxic.
Adrienne Yaaaas!!! I hate I have a feeling I need to dress down beacause someone thinks I'm too dressed up, too sultury... When you're dressed up, you can go everywhere! 😎
No.. I don't dress down to make other women feel more comfortable with me, it's not my fault that they are intimidated by me being attractive. I dress to make myself feel good, and I never feel like I'm competing with other women, nor am I jealous when I see an attractive woman. I admire attractive women, and will complement them If and when it's appropriate. I know that when I look good, I feel good, so I dress myself to feel good for myself, not to impress anyone else. But, I also don't have any female friends at all. I'm cool with that though, I'm happily married with a grown son. The only person I'm interested in looking good for besides myself is my husband. As long as he's happy with how I look it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks .
I don’t feel women should have to dress modest. Our bodies are feminine and not meant to be suffocated 24/7 365. I dress semi modestly so I am not judged. Unless I’m out kickin it or at the club.
I absolutely feel the same way as A I am already a pretty girl so I don't want other women to think I'm doing too much. I usual do Also, I'm latina and I don't like the people to annoy me with the stereotype of us overdressing. I still over dress and I still look adorable. But its always on the back of my head 🤷🏽♀️
This also shows that a lot of people feel superior because of the way they dress. Why does someone asking a simple question mean they’re jealous? I “dress up” daily and even men have asked me why I’m so dressed up or if I’m going somewhere. It’s not always about jealousy. Get over yourself. 😂 If your outfit doesn’t match the situation then people want to know why. It’s not always that deep😂
I totally agree w Adrienne, I don’t like getting too many compliments around other women. Because over time, my “friends “ don’t like me. I’ve had that even at work, it actually makes me accepting the compliments awkward
I get Adrienne, people for some reason feel like being “overdressed” means you think you’re better than other people.
Truth is sometimes I do feel things I shouldn't. For example sometimes I may think to myself, "Now I'm worthy to be here." Sometimes dressing nicer commands more respect when you go into places of business. I feel entitled as a they should take me seriously when I go somewhere. When I go someplace in sneakers it's a whole nother story.
Insecurities
I totally agree. I love to dress up but no one at my work does. I slowly started dressing casual so they wouldn’t perceive me as trying too hard. It’s sad, and I mostly cared about what the ladies thought of me. But after watching this, I’m going back to being true to myself. I shouldn’t care what other people think and should wear what makes me happy. And honestly, I love looking and dressing as a professional; it makes me more productive at work too.
Roena Skates what a weird comment lmfao like what? The insecure jumped out
Roena Skates I didn’t know when you put clothes on, you blend with the colors. You’re not only weird but also slow. There are colors that don’t look good with dark either. 🤷🏼♀️ black and white are both neutral. Sounds like you got issues but that’s not my problem
“When you see a beautiful woman don’t be threatened by her, be inspired by her” ❤️
Love it
Krissy Lee I would be more inspired though by inward beauty not necessarily outward. Because outward beauty is God given
RiRi Okoye facts
Yes.
its about what she says and who she is as a person not her being beautiful
Adrienne was being the most authentic here. Lets be honest, as women, we have all had atleast one moment in which we encountered a beautiful woman and felt 1) automatic jealously, dislike towards that woman or feelings of insecurity and/or 2) desire to be that woman's friend/liked by her
S W correct! And a lot of us aren’t honest enough to say this. We instantly compare and want to see how we measure up. It’s so toxic. Focus on yourself and your unique beauty. It’s not easy to do especially in this society. But it takes time. Spending time with God helps too.
It’s human nature. It’s animal instincts. It’s natural to feel it - It’s just something that always needs to be worked through.
No lol I can't stand when people don't have style. If I see someone else looking good im like okay yes a fellow fashionista. People really just roll out of bed and think it's ok
Hmm nope. Guess cuz my family looking fly is the norm so i am used to it. No jealousy, just admiration. And i want to be everybody's friend until they do something i don't like. Sooo no not every woman.
Damn that’s deep 🗣
I feel Adrienne on a wholllleeeee other level. There's been times where girls will give me dirty looks or go out of their way to not talk to you just because I like to over dress and love to look good, it makes me uncomfortable. So many times this has happened and it makes me feel guilty because I can't help how you feel or the insecurities you carry. I use to be so insecure and I worked on it and now I've blossomed and I will never not shine for anyone's negativity.
green houston I’ve felt this for sure. Like sis own your light. We all have beauty.
This. And the whole time in thinking this girl is pretty etc. But their thoughts are negative toward me and we don't even know each other
Well...... are you those girls that shows to much skin like all the time? Because if you are other girls are going to feel intimidated right away by you.
green houston GURL SAME
Don’t let nobody’s darkness dim yo light!! (old wise black woman voice)
Amanda's outfit is so flattering on her and she looks absolutely stunning in this episode.
Gorgeous🥰🥰🥰🥰
I loveeeee her blouse
No, girl. That ugly green color and the shirt bow is terrible.
Jay Rogers jealousy
@@jayrogers7779 I love that bow. That blouse is bomb. To each their own
Adrienne is gorgeous so she probably deals with a lot of haters.
Bria Barrows exactly!! She’s gorgeous and she’s very well styled!! All the time!
And she is nasty too but nonetheless..she is pretty.. she dont wash her hands when she us the bathroom when she is home.. but i do completely other females cause women in general are beautiful..
Stop perpetuating the damaging stereotype of girls hating other girls because they’re pretty. Society has been pitting woman against each other for centuries by promoting the idea that the source of the conflicts can be linked to outward appearances. Appearances that have been arbitrary set as standards to have men tell us our worth. Sis, we are far too complex for that. Don’t sell yourself short. 😘😘😘
Btw you’re beautiful and I love your smile!😍
Exactly, thats why people allways try to foccuse on the negative things about her, like "shes not as intelectual our as articulate as the other women" our she dosent have enough "depht". Its just insecure people who reflect that on others, in this case her. It happens people
Bria Barrows and she’s girly so people HATE
Adrienne is pretty af
They all are!
i agree!
Agreed. She's doing something right lately. She's never looked this beautiful.
B. K Must be that vegan life...💪🏿👍🏿👌🏿
@@ggtracy02 you know what? probably.
I dress modestly because I’m an introvert who hates when people stare at me
Zara M period...I hate that tho like I still wanna dress up but like don’t stare
Zara M I hate being stared at too and I’ve become more insecure. In my younger years I was all about sexy and I felt comfortable that way. I don’t now. That’s one reason I dress down a lot because I don’t want attention. I’m trying to change that because I have all these cute clothes I buy.
I WAS WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO SAY THIS. I want to look good but I dont want the stares...
I moved to the south from the east coast 3 years ago. I noticed women overtly stare and will give a lot of compliments freely in the south! It’s quite a different feeling
I used to be like that - actually pretty recently but now I don't give a damn. Honestly, just go for it! You'll eventually get used to the stares and I kinda just not pay attention to them. People are always judging, so I mean, might as well do you!
🗣🗣🗣Adrienne is speaking facts!!
Women who dress nice and feminine are told by other women; “Why are you so dressed up”?!
This happens to me a lot because I wear sun dresses and skirts a lot!! This is my daily wardrobe BUT women think that you’re over dressing!!!
Same. I normally dress down when I really want to show out. I don't want to be team too much
Same honestly I find joy thinking of what to wear... like not my fault you come in wearing sweats and sneakers daily
My life my lifeeee
I agree with 100%. I dress very feminine all the time, I don't wear tennis shoes, jogging pants, etc. My real friends know that just me.
Same here. I get hated on for dressing up.
No Matter What A Woman Chooses To Wear, She Deserves To Be Respected. People Will Always Judge So Dress For Yourself Only.
i cOMPLETELY aGREE wITH yOU oN tHIS oNE bUT i tHINK tHAT’S eASIER sAID tHAN dONE. iT’S hARD nOT tO cONSIDER wHAT oTHER pEOPLE tHINK.
bYE aSHY iTS hARD tO jUST wAKE uP aND lOVE yOURSELF
Exactly
Never, their are crazy people in this world keep your private parts covered to avoid being a target and to respect yourself ass, titties, breast never should be on display they are private
@Bye Ashy ok and when a sicko murders you and your body is never found then what, have some damn morales!!! People are crazy
Lol! A woman told me I look like a model and it made my week. If a guy tells me that I’m pretty or something, I’m like “ya ya ya, I know...” haha
Okkkkk
Hahahaha “...I know”
Go Yolie! - agree! If a girl tells me I’m beautiful I feel more confident. When a guy tells me I look good I automatically think to myself “mmmhhhmmmm what does this guy want?!? 🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐” LOL! 🤪
Same! It feels more meaningful to me when a female compliments me. I remember a friend told me that she didn't like me at first because I appeared stuck up but then when she got to know me she said I'm like the sweetest person she knows. I actually received similar comments from a few female friends. I think because I wore makeup, colored contacts, dyed my hair, and dressed up for high school and that was considered early to do. I think girls are different now though but in my generation it wasn't common.
I'm the same exact way lmao compliments from men make me uncomfortable, but if it's from a woman my day is made
I’m definitely a “girls girl” like A, I love women I am always down to be another woman’s hype man. I just hate when women are in competition with one another! Let’s uplift one another, team women ALL DAY 👯♀️
Amen 🤗
There should be more of you
Aw I like that. And ur gorgeous btw
i agree 100% but i think that's only something pretty women say because they don't have a reason to be jealous/insecure. the ugly women who hate themselves yet don't work on their self-improvement are the ones who need to have this mindset.
Me too. Hell maybe I can learn something new from another woman.
I'm like A, I loooove dressing up and I dress for me. If someone doesn't like it, IDGAF! I'll help you get fly too
Yep! I will wear heela to the grocery store. I dont care!
@@JM-fo2qn😂😂😂
Avia Browne Yes ma’am, I could not agree with you more!
I wish had your attitude my girls but!
I’m learning to not care about what others think.
@@ajohonly3721 Same, girl, same
I loved the way Amanda voiced her difference in opinion from Jeannie's opinion about being "naturally insecure". Respectful and eloquent. Glad to see the improvement in the dymamics between the girls.
@Galva Tron That may be a matter of opinion. I'm not taking her comments as facts. I also dont think that women are naturally insecure. Insecurity is a natural human emotion/feeling in general.
Galva Tron
She was right.
M Muss
You’re wrong.
@Galva Tron I agree with you. People are insecure, that includes women too. Some women will become territorial, unkind or dismissive when interacting with a woman who makes them feel insecure, others may feel a bit sad or bad about themselves but WON´T be unkind to the other woman.
You can be insecure without taking it out on the other woman.
But no point in denying insecurity exists.
Adrienne should dress how ever she wants! Dont dim your light for anybody!❤❤ Plus people will judge either way. If ypu dress nicely they dont like it. If you dress modest they dont like it either. Its more about their insecurity than about you.
you're right.. what's hard is when this happens at work and the person that's the mean girl is your boss. horrible experience.
@ Hannie Cht Just make sure Adrienne learns how wash her hands after she goes to the bathroom regardless of how she dresses 😑.
diva70smusic Are y’all gonna mention this on every single video?
Needed to hear this!!🙏
@@gaila.9852 No. But it just proves that just because you look pretty it doesn't mean that you are clean. If a person doesn't care enough about the health of others except how good they look, that is pretty conceited and selfish.
I’m definitely the one who is “extra” in the group and I have gotten that reaction of “where are you going?” 💁🏽♀️✨🙌✨
Yes. Same for me as well.
Me too
The Leo in me wants to look presentable everywhere I go, even if I’m just going to the supermarket. At home I wear pyjamas at all times (still matching pyjamas tho) my friends embrace it and are absolutely stunning regardless of what they wear, we always hype each other up.
Moyie Rivera same my friends have learned not to ask me “ the dress code” cause I am ALWAYS “overdressed”
Moyie Rivera many many times!
“When you see a beautiful woman don’t be threatened by her, be inspired.”
-Tamera
I don’t think about nobody else when I’m getting dressed
I am Meci 😂
Keep that energy sis!!!!!
Same!!!
Riiight, appreciation to you! 💖🙌🏾
Right lol. Me too
I dress modestly to represent my relationship with Christ. Jeannie is right that your outfit sends a message. I definitely want to draw more attention to Christ than myself!
Ebony you don’t have to dress sexy you can dress modestly and have a little bit of makeup on and everything just fits you right and some women unfortunately hate on you.
Wake uuuuup stupid...jesus is only a messenger....follow god...follow allah...follow mouhamed and waake up
@@user-cc7od4mr7i No u need to wake up and stop living in your delusional world and worship your paedophile prophet. And who are you to say your religion is right and others wrong?
@@user-cc7od4mr7i lol step aside with those Muhammed tales. Live life through Christ.
@@herantomastekeste1184 Oh please, he was no pedophile. On the other hand, maaaaany priests of your religion are. And read your Old testament that justifies the killing of innoncent babies because of their parents' sins.
If someone actually gets mad at you for dressing up, don't worry, they're likely just projecting their insecurities onto you. You have the right to dress however YOU want.
There is a difference between getting mad at them and being disgusted with or feeling a need to avoid them.
@@lilchristuten7568 I had someone ask me why have I been wearing slacks lately instead or scrubs at my workplace. I thought it was a peculiar question considering everyone wears either one. I just chalked it up to them displaying their own insecurities onto me. I do get complimented more often when wearing slacks rather than scrubs. 🤔🤷🏾♀️
SmartLadyLab I wouldn’t even be friends or around someone like that. They sound miserable.
Aww I love that moment Tam had with Adrienne. They love each other. Be inspired. Not threatened.
right? their pure moments, esp as friends, make me love this show :)
Love what Tam said about feeling inspired by seeing another beautiful woman rather than feeling threatened. There’s nothing wrong with telling another woman she is beautiful, I’m all for it , us women should be uplifting each other ! 💕
Lauren I agree. I’m quick to give a woman a compliment especially when I’ve had a few cocktails and I’m in the bathroom lol.
Lauren I agree. But I also feel like some people can’t do that if they feel insecure within themselves. Work on yourself as well.
I stay giving other women compliments
Bria Barrows Yes! I agree with you that’s very important also. We’re all uniquely beautiful and should recognize our strengths 💕
Bria Barrows everyone is insecure so I reject the popular opinion that it’s insecurity that is to blame for women being nasty to each other. I think we’re literally just conditioned to see other women as threats all the time. That said, I’ve luckily been sparred from this foolishness and have always been a girls girl! I love women and want nothing more than for them to succeed
I learned to no longer give a crap about what others think about what I wear. What matters to me is if I feel comfortable in what I’m wearing, not others thoughts.
SAME!
Well said! I work for my money. Nobody gives me money so (to ass) was their opinion, about dressing
Yup, Costco sweats all day baby
I’m just like Loni, I simply don’t care what other women think about me. I’m too old to spend my time caring too much
I am not old but I dont care too.
I believe you Jessica but I think that Loni does care. (See my earlier comment) In addition, her body language and facial expressions betray her words. Fortunately, the other Hosts go out of there way to be gracious and kind to her.
@@Vortex2654 She often looks uncomfortable. She's also surrounded by young, beautiful, thin women. Says she doesn't care but wears spanx.
seeyouagain911 I’m only 23 so technically I’m not old too, but I meant to say it as like I’m an adult & shouldn’t waist my time caring what other woman think of me(:
Rolanda Flowers Yeah I can see that. Especially when Tamar was on the show, it was like Loni was so desperate for her approval
Adrienne is very beautiful, I'm sure she makes insecure people upset when they see her. I'm sure she's had a lot of moments like the ones she's describing.
Right! Maybe the others really cant relate because Ade STAY slaying everywhere she goes!!
Deborah Sedem ikr. And outside of having a beautiful face, she has a bomb body too, so I know women probably stay hating on A.
Anyone who puts that much effort on their hair make up and clothes will look beautiful periodt. Don’t come for me its a surface statement. I do love that she does it for herself. I believe in the same concept just not that much make up.
So true!! Adrienne would be my best friend! Love confident women like her who like to dress up like me. Lol. Haters will always hate.
Deborah Sedem I just said this.
“Don’t be threatened by her, be inspired by her” ‼️‼️‼️
Yes!!
Am I the only one noticing the sheer sleeves Adrienne, Amanda & Tam are wearing
You're not. I love it!
Love it! I wish they shared their outfit details on the videos or website!!!
Why is that important
At least two of them be having similar outfits pretty often.
Well Loni did say they like to be coordinated! 😁 All of them were wearing long puffy sleeves minus Loni.
I was at a dinner party with my husband and some friends. The waitress kept smiling at me the whole time 😊 she patiently waited until the party I was with exited to tell me she admired my sense of style and my makeup was gorgeous 🤩 it was really sweet! It matters ladies! These young girls are looking at you! Keep yourself looking up to the part always!!! You never know who you’re inspiring
🗣🗣🗣YES TAMERA!!!
When you see a beautiful woman be don’t be threatened by her; be INSPIRED by her!!!! 💕💕💕
Ive always admired other girls. I grew up a Tom boy so to see a pretty girl looking super girly I’d be inspired to get to that level. I still to this day compliment women for how they look. I know it takes work to carry yourself well.
Adriana Antonio what makes you to be a Tom boy? I was just talking recently with my BF about something that I noticed. There is a woman at work who dresses like a man and to be honest I not pay attention to her body until one day I caught myself thinking “ oh she got a big belly” like realizing that she’s is fat and that’s something usually I just realize at first on a woman. either by thinking she’s fat, skinny tall or short. But with Tom boy woman I don’t pay attention on how they are physically (body type ) at first maybe because it’s part of we don’t judge man hard as we judge woman so a woman looking like a man gets the day treatment that I get to man 🤷🏻♀️.
Everyone has a different perspective on modesty
true and that’s perfectly fine☺️
Right. Its subjective and trends have changed overtime
I agree. I consider myself kinda modest but not to the point where I’m wearing just black or bland colors. I love bright colors and bold prints but I also like to be covered up. No boobs or booty showing lol and usually my shoulders are covered too.
Same as we all have a different perspective on “ not covering up”
I'm so happy Adrienne brought that up. I've felt the same way sometimes!
Absolutely not. I don’t dim my light for anyone. If I wanna get cute, 🤷🏽♀️ thats my prerogative! If a woman is upset that I look good I think thats a personal problem she’s gonna have to deal with on her own...
Exactly!
I feel like no woman should be upset if another woman looks cute...like damn COMPLIMENT HER instead of hating😊
Exactly! It’s weird to care.
@@refugeofthoughts8870 i wouldnt say its weird but she definitly should not care. She is pretty, who cares what others think!❤❤
I dress modest, because I feel like it’s lady like. I like my body to be for me and my husband’s eyes only 💁🏽♀️ #ALadyInTheStreets
She'sroyal85 This!!! Totally agree
Agreed ✨
She'sroyal85 💗
Yes same here! Lol
I agree 100%. All the New Age feminists are about to call you a "pick me" and say that women shouldn't make decisions to please their husbands because they're men.
I was at the hair salon about two weeks ago..After I had finished getting my hair blown out and wrap, a young lady said to me, you have beautiful hair.. I responded I do, thank you”... (typing this I want to 😢😢cry).... then after I said that I was like why did you say I do like you don’t have pretty hair or don’t believe you have pretty hair...
The problem is and I realize it that day.. after being involved with a narcissist, who put me down and would tell me my hair never looked good even after getting it done, nails done.. I was put down so much in that relationship... but when the young lady told me that.. I had to believe it cause I always did love my hair as a kid and as a young lady
Wow. This was touching
You were and are good enough for your Creator, who is he? Listen, YOU are your Creator’s greatest desire. ✨
O B I A N U J U thank you.. being with a narcissist is very crippling.. I am
Out of that relationship 6 months now..thank God.. everyday I tell myself I am good enough, I deserve love, I deserve to be loved the right way etc
SWOOP SWOOP Aw the fact that that relationship made you second guess her compliment makes me sad. But I’m glad you’re out of the relationship and you remembered how beautiful you are ! He was the wrong one, I’m sure everyone else sees the beauty in your hair, your overall appearance and in your heart because I can see it from this comment. Remember to pay those compliments forward and make someone else’s day also☺️. God bless 💕
I'm so glad you recognized your own beauty. I know also what it feels like being with someone who Will try and put you down. But, God has better in store for you. Keep loving yourself and I'm so happy you left that man. I did as well God bless you on your journey and always remember God made us beautiful.
I completely understand how Ade feels!! I get that all the time from other women it's really sad.....I tried to dim my light for years and I was miserable. I'm glad I'm submerging out off it. I just want to be happy at the end of the day
*wear what you wanna wear!*
*i don’t gaf what anyone thinks*
*of me. if they’re judging me,*
*that’s THEIR problem* 🤷🏾♀️
I appreciate Adrienne’s honesty.
Nah. I started dressing modestly once I learned to respect myself. When I dressed sexy, I didn't care what others thought and I still don't care LOL But I do care how God views me! That's just me though!!
Totally agree!
Blessings!
Omg same ! ☺️❤️
Amen!!
I didn't know God judges people based on how they dress. Last remember we are born naked and created without clothes. Shame is a human thing. Peoples bodies are beautiful and awesome. It's our inability to just see bodies as bodies and respect them as such that brings this futal obsession with oversexualising people, trying to control ourselves by projecting our insecurity and weird repressed socialization with our own bodies and sexuality.
I love Adrienne's top in this, her whole look is on point
I agree it's really cute
I dress modestly if the event calls for it - family gathering, church, barbecue, ect. But I do not dress modestly on a regular if I'm going out with friends or my bf. I usually dress sexy, not always showing skin but usually something figure hugging and when you got curves, you got curves. BUT I always carry myself in a respectable manner and speak like a lady, so I'm never judged by my outfits and people usually think I'm actually very conservative.
“When you see a beautiful woman; don’t be threatened , be inspired.” I loved that
I don’t want friends who would judge how I dress
Amen!
Yes Adrienne, 1000%. In my former church everyone used to watch me sideways because I dressed nicely. But eventually I just decided to be me and dress up because I love too.
I want all these three shirts....amanda’s, Andrien’s, and Tam’s
Adrienne is so honest and I have seen her multiple times going that extra mile to make another girl feel comfortable, beautiful and secure ♥️
I love wearing heels and dressing up. I used to wear heels just going to the shops but I got so many dirty and judging looks from women that it stopped me so now I don’t do it anymore and I miss it. I should start it up again
Do it girl!!! Keep that head up and stunt in those heels like the goddess you are. There are women like me who will root for you.
You definitely should do you sis 💪🏽 wear your heels because if you’re anything like me I have waaaaay too many pairs of shoes 🤣 I wore my heels to the grocery store a few weeks ago! Men were with their women on a Sunday trying not to stare 🙄 yes, on a Sunday
I totally agree with this, I am 25 and feel as tho older women are always judging me
They are sis. It don't matter the age trust me
They are but who cares!
Loni will forever remind us that she’s an engineer! We get it Loni!!!!
Abigail Owusu 😂😂true and tam Will always speak about her happy marrige and her love with Adam we get it.
Y’all are funny 😄
Abigail Owusu , she did her time let her keep reminding us. Sis, you know how your people be forever reminding the rest of Africa that you on top😩😂😅. But I say, let y’all have your shine. You’ve earned it.
Abigail Owusu I want her to keep saying it I’m proud she happy about it at least she not proud of being a stripper
Adrienne is speaking truth!!!!
Yess, I’ve always felt that other womens low self esteem was my responsibility, but if they have confidence I feel that we can both be free and be ourselves.
I feel like they lying. Adrienne was real af.
ANNAHIROX I just don’t get how tam and Loni don’t get this...like y’all ain’t that sheltered.
Exactly
Bria Barrows girl ...okay, cuz what the hell was the confusion?
Robyn H no because they said they couldn’t relate which I understand. But I just sound it interesting that they at least never heard of this issue. That’s all I was saying.
Exactly, thank you
Adrienne is speaking for me in this clip.
I'm with Loni on this. I really don't care what people think of me. If I like how I look, I'm wearing that confidence like a crown baby
I know exactly what adrienne means!
I feel adrienne 100. I dont care which job im hired at, Im coming with my hair/makeup/outfit on point because thats what type of girl I am. Other woman use to stay throwing little shade.. and idk if I was naive bc I never caught it, other plp would have to tell me like girl she was definitely hating lol. like adrienne said DONT HATE, BE INSPIRED!
Rennia MUA same! Lol 😂 I put myself together at work. If y’all wanna look bummy that’s on you! You’re gorgeous btw:)
Bria Barrows girlllllllll I Still don’t understand why me looking good would bother anyone LOL & so are you honey 💕
Seems like it bothers you more than anyone else...
I dress for myself tbh idc. If I want to get dressed up and feel cute I will, if I don't want to dress up I try to look decent lol
I dress for me. I’m not thinking about y’all, lol. And I’m always quick to compliment other women, because, why not?
Amanda has become nicer with the girls or warmed up, more accepting of their opinions and delivery is much better, makes her more like able, Loni however has become intolerable of the other girls
I think because she's lost her place because she's not the funny one or the pretty one or the smart one every one of the ladies represents something except her unless you want to count oldest
Loni's always been that way she is who she is and she older so as u get older you just say what you need to say it is what it is attuide .
I agree with Amanda n Adriane there r women who judge are feel u think your better when most of the time the women is just being who they are and they shouldn’t feel uncomfortable for being themselves !!!!!!
People say im intimidating, my face is like that but im actually goofy.. So I end up meeting a lot of my women friends in sweatpants and the girl looks like she came from a magazine and i always feel underdressed. So i totally like this, inform them with the dress code thing 🤣👍
Dress the way that makes you feel your best. Self expression is always more important than trying to please others.
Im with Loni on this ion care 🤷🏾♀️ y’all ain’t paying my bills/clothes. I believe in looking presentable in the right situations but trying to look cute for him she them, I’m good
As someone who also loves to dress up and look put together, I completely understand Adrienne cause I've done it multiple times. Don't want to step on toes etc.
I don’t care how people feel about how I dress. If my croptop and mom jeans offend you I don’t know what to tell you love. Sometimes I’m covered head to toe sometimes I’d like for my thangs to thang. If you’re stacked you’re gonna be stacked modest or not. 🤷🏾♀️
I’m always complimenting women on their purses, makeup, shoes, outfits, you name it modest or not. I don’t care what you do with yourself it has zero effect on my life, who am I to tell you what to do when I don’t know you from a can of paint?
Jeannie thought she was really preaching and then Amanda was like “incorrect” lmaoo😂😂
Jeannie does have a point though. People are in general insecure and that includes women. Yes, society reinforces that insecurity but there's also a very primitive instinctual mechanism. Just google Intrasexual competition (male or female).
Jeannie had quite a strong point there.
I'm gonna be honest, I was a little worried when Amanda first came on the show bc I felt like these 4 girls have been with each other for years so I thought it would be weird to just bring another girl in the mix BUT I actually love Amanda on the show!! I think she fits in perfectly and brings a whole new element to it which I love ❤️❤️❤️
As a woman I often dress modestly to stay safe. It's sad but very often even though I enjoy wearing dresses and high heals, I'm afraid to walk the streets dressed in such manner (especially alone and late at night). So I don't do it out of fear of being judged, but out of fear that I won't be safe.
Loni, I agree with you 💯%. I just don't care.
I'm a 41yr old woman I've never ever ever been jealous of another woman's physical looks and I'm proud of myself for that.
The only time I really dress up is for church or when I'm broadcasting in the studio at my college. I have a very basic sense of style. I like my denim jeans and a sweater, with my rubber boots and a warm jacket.
This is so true! My boyfriend says why you wear makeup guys don't even notice or care about your eyebrows being good and cleaned. I'm like hey I must look good. But when other females notice and complaint it's the best. I always give kudos when I see a girl with bomb makeup or outfit.
ra4207 facts! My bf thinks I’m beautiful without makeup. Guys really just wanna see you! Women on the other hand always wanna one up each other.
Also I feel like women’s figures are a trend and we don’t rlly notice it. Like back in the 90s tall and skinny was the main image and now it’s been changed to thick and curvy women. Whatever figure you have you should love it and it shouldn’t be a trend
A group of friends asked me awhile back why I always wear makeup if I’m going out the house and why dress up for everything. I was taught to always look presentable. Even if I’m going to do groceries I will wear makeup and dress decent. I’m not a full glam makeup type but I’m never caught outside without foundation, mascara and lipstick. That’s just how I am and I won’t ever go in public wearing pajama pants and slippers. Not that I feel I’m better than anyone I just don’t feel presentable without some makeup. You never know who you’re going to meet while out in public and you want to leave a good impression on.
Why does Jeannie also sounds like she’s running out of breath?
Its the rona 👀
Coronavirus
Cause sometimes she takes too long to get to her point so she rushes
Tycker Inget and Ra y’all are wrong for that
😩😩😭
I agree with Adrienne! I am the friend where I absolutely love being dressed up. Even if it's brunch, lunch, dinner, small gatherings. It helps with my confidence and helps me feel beautiful. I typically haven't noticed myself wearing something different for someone to like me. My experience is very different I gained confidence recently in the last 8 months. Since graduating college, working and doing my own thing.
Yesss! Ade is giving out straight facts.
Ade beauty is more like a curse than a blessing,
Jackie Agard and how is that
@@JohnneseP because it overrules her, she uses her beauty as a dumb weapon to say and do things that is nasty and beyond normal , she says the stupidest things she acts like she is dumb to the real world and she overdo everything, if you say sex , she does the most , if you say I carry paper in my panties ,she does that , if you had a man that was bad to you , she experience that , if you was poor growing up ', she was poor to , if you take down your pants and pee in down town square she did that ,Adrienne is a make up wined up puppet , she has style and beauty that she thinks give her the ticket to wherever and thus it being a curse to her and she dont know, she wants to be a Kardashians, a JLo a cardi B a Arianna , and a fake. She suppress the real Adrienne, she said that her mom told Israel thanks for bringing my daughter back , but because he is just as fake as her , her mom probably still looking for the real Adrienne.
Jackie Agard wow, who hurt you boo. You don’t know her. To even have the audacity to say everything you just said is beyond me. How can you pick at someone you don’t even know. Making assumptions about her like this. The Kardashians, JLO, and all the other people she admires are REAL people and she has a right to befriend them and love them for who they are as a person just like anyone else does. Secondly what her Mama said about Is bringing the real Ade back to her can be true. You nor did I raise Ade. So if Mama Nilda says Is brought her Ade back to her than who are you (we) to say that isn’t true.
If you see her beauty as a cure than you need to look into yourself and ask why. Her story is her story, just like yours belongs to you, and my story belongs to me.
@@JohnneseP well you ask for it and now the answer offends you , who hurt you boo??? , I form my assumption/my opinion, like you did yours, but mine hurts you badly .
I get insecure when it comes to other women for 2 reasons. 1- They REMIND me that I can be doing so much better and that I lack the effort. 2- Men won't pay me any mind when they're around / I feel like men compare me to them and I always come up short. They're real and valid feelings and I just have to learn how to navigate that.
I get it, but I don't think taking it out on such girls is fair. I'm not saying you do that or treat them unkindly in return. I have, however, seen it happen a lot, in high school, uni, at the work place.
I don't think getting upset with men would be fair either. I think people should step back and think why they need the attention of several men at the same time, to boost their ego? to feel they have "defeated" other women? will being the most ogled girl in a room, place give such girl happines?
I think women resenting other women is a real damaging issue but people prefer to ignore it completely because it's politically incorrect.
I think we should focus on things that have the potential to last longer than physical beauty such as kindness, intelligence, integrity, solidarity, being a good friend, child, parent, whatever you decide to do with your life.
I get this.... I've been told by a female co-worker. That I needed to slow down with applying makeup. Because it was to hard to keep up with me. The makeup I wear isn't about the other women around me. I wear it for me. I like how I look in it. It makes me feel good about myself.
I totally agree. I love to dress up but no one at my work does. I slowly started dressing casual so they wouldn’t perceive me as trying too hard. It’s sad, and I mostly cared about what the ladies thought of me. But after watching this, I’m going back to being true to myself. I shouldn’t care what other people think and should wear what makes me happy. And honestly, I love looking and dressing as a professional; it makes me more productive at work too.
I NEED Amanda's outfit🔥🔥🔥👏🏾
Once on a vacation to Cancun with my bf and his friend and his gf, FYI I’m the same as Adrienne, I just love dressing up and especially on vacation it’s so fun to wear different clothing. Anyway my bf’s friend asked him to tell me to not wear “over the top” outfits because he didn’t want his gf to feel insecure. Like WTF that got me so sad and so mad like if I’m the bad person now for wanting to wear some cute outfits for this trip. In the end I ended up wearing what I had packed and that girl didn’t even speak to me the entire trip, she would talk to my bf but not me. I can’t believe how some girls would act. SMH
pierusofpella I would literally just wear like cute crop tops and skirts or a cute bikini with some shorts or a cute little summer dress and she wore the same tshirt and JEANSSS the entire trip which is fine she can wear whatever she feels comfortable in but don’t try to make me dumb down some of my outfits just because she didn’t want to feel bad about hers, and for example she would sit by her man then her man by my bf then me next to my bf and she would talk to her man and my bf but when I put a word in a conversation she would just give me an ugly look and stay quiet so I minded my business and my bf and I would go wonder off to be alone because he notice her actions were rude towards me
For ten years I did just what Ad said but ! Now hell nah
I’m trying to do me if I show up in high heels and you’re in flats and sweat pants girl that’s your business !
It's true! If a men compliments me, I feel sexy and question if he wants me. If a woman compliments me, I genuinely feel beautiful. There's this sort of healing for my self esteem.
The clothes gets less and less. And people thinks it's ok and its body positivity.
Yess ooo.....what use to be underwear and nightie is now an outfit people wear outside their home. And I think what they were all saying was good but I think they missed their question.
It's not the clothes, it's how you feel yourself in said clothes
Well done Adrienne for speaking up 💚💜💛
I dress modestly because it makes me feel better about myself.
These ladies are so beautiful
Many women are natural born haters
Adrienne is MEEEEE. My friends always text me asking how I’m going dressed. & when I say casual they make sure to tell me that my casual doesn’t match up to their casual. So then I feel obligated to dress down. I loooove dressing up. I work at a restaurant so I’m in a uniform 24/7 Monday-Sunday. So I feel like, if I have a day off I wanna look cute! I don’t want to dress down for people so they don’t feel pressured to dress up. Girls we need to do better!
The reason we compare ourselves is to compete for men’s attention. Period.
I feel like I don’t do this to comparison thing because no matter what someone a woman do some men are not attracted to them. For example for me I know there are some men aren’t and will never be attracted to me and it goes beyond “dressing code” it’s personality and all same way for me there are some men that I will never consider or be attracted to. You don’t choose who you feel attracted to it’s just a unconscious decision
Nah not really. Especially if you’re a lesbian that really doesn’t apply. We compete with other women because we fear the feeling of being inferior to others whether that be based off of physical characteristics or not. We want to feel superior in order to feel confident within ourselves. Not all women feel like this either, usually this is a result of extremely poor self image and self esteem issues. It’s mental toxicity that can be helped.
That is such an backwards, misogynistic assumption. By that logic, lesbians are incapable of being competitive and judgemental in these regards. Do men compete only for their sexual interests? You sound like the type to assume that women ONLY dress up for their sexual interest. Nope. Plenty of women dress up and do it FOR THEM. Women don't tear other women down soley because of sexual interests. Kind of like when a woman dresses up, she's not necessarily doing it for a man. This black and white logic surrounding women is so degrading and toxic.
Adrienne Yaaaas!!! I hate I have a feeling I need to dress down beacause someone thinks I'm too dressed up, too sultury...
When you're dressed up, you can go everywhere! 😎
No.. I don't dress down to make other women feel more comfortable with me, it's not my fault that they are intimidated by me being attractive. I dress to make myself feel good, and I never feel like I'm competing with other women, nor am I jealous when I see an attractive woman. I admire attractive women, and will complement them If and when it's appropriate. I know that when I look good, I feel good, so I dress myself to feel good for myself, not to impress anyone else. But, I also don't have any female friends at all. I'm cool with that though, I'm happily married with a grown son. The only person I'm interested in looking good for besides myself is my husband. As long as he's happy with how I look it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks .
I don’t feel women should have to dress modest. Our bodies are feminine and not meant to be suffocated 24/7 365. I dress semi modestly so I am not judged. Unless I’m out kickin it or at the club.
Love love love how real Adrienne is
I absolutely feel the same way as A
I am already a pretty girl so I don't want other women to think I'm doing too much.
I usual do
Also, I'm latina and I don't like the people to annoy me with the stereotype of us overdressing.
I still over dress and I still look adorable. But its always on the back of my head 🤷🏽♀️
This also shows that a lot of people feel superior because of the way they dress. Why does someone asking a simple question mean they’re jealous?
I “dress up” daily and even men have asked me why I’m so dressed up or if I’m going somewhere.
It’s not always about jealousy. Get over yourself. 😂
If your outfit doesn’t match the situation then people want to know why. It’s not always that deep😂
Amanda looks GORGEOUS
I really like Amanda’s blouse
I totally agree w Adrienne, I don’t like getting too many compliments around other women. Because over time, my “friends “ don’t like me. I’ve had that even at work, it actually makes me accepting the compliments awkward