THE TRUTH ABOUT SEX | Part 1

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ต.ค. 2020
  • If you liked this video would you mind sharing it? Only if you are comfortable of course! (now to the encouragement!) Things don’t always go our way... I actually think that is a great thing... When I think of the fruits of the spirit in Galatians 5 (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness etc..) and the examples of love in 1 Corinthians 13 (patient, kind, no envy, etc) these are the things we should be pursuing to reflect into the world... But we are out here just trying to get in a relationship and make a lot of money... that’s just not the move. And trust me, we are tempted just like everyone to force our will and to tell God that we know better and that 6 figure salary, and easy life would be in His best interest for us. lol. But if those aren’t the things GOD tells us to worry about, and He gives us examples of what to seek then how do we achieve those? For example, if more money comes from hard work... well More patience comes from not getting our way.. and more kindness comes from people being rude to us. And keeping no record of wrongs means we get wronged and CHOOSE to not keep record. You see what I’m saying? So in summation, all your boy is trying to say is this... Count it all joy my brothers and sisters. No matter what we are going through, we have a chance to reflect God’s love into a situation and to others and that is so so so special. Not the nice car, or amazing spouse, or “boss babe” job... It’s the love your bringing to the world, not the kingdom you’re building for yourself... Anyways. I gotta go, we are filming another video TODAY! After this Saturday’s video... We are posting every Monday/Wednesday at 10am eastern (I believe). Trying our best to get a better grip on our schedule.
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  • @benanspaugh8773
    @benanspaugh8773 3 ปีที่แล้ว +898

    When these conversations aren’t talked about by Christians, it leaves room for culture to fill in the gaps. My girlfriend and I look up to you guys a lot. Thanks for your videos!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      agreeeeeeeedddddd

    • @kennethfok
      @kennethfok 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      As christians, we should see having sex as a normal routine within a marriage. It’s God’s greatest gift for us. Because there’s so much sexual immorality, God commanded us to get married so that we can have that one partner to enjoy sex with. Sex is never dirty and shameful because it’s created by God for us to enjoy, and our parents had sex in order for us to be in this world today. The obvious reason for sex is to procreate, where a man and a woman join their sexual organs together and subsequently the joining of their sex cells to produce a baby. But God also wants us to enjoy the physical and emotional bonding that comes with sex.

    • @HeyItsVal
      @HeyItsVal 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@kennethfok 👏🏼

    • @calah5017
      @calah5017 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@ToriAndChad I didn’t even know sex was meant to be the way you explained until seeing this video, and I was raised in a Christian family, it’s sad. What you explained, that’s what I want, not what culture shoves down my throat. I wish I would have known, otherwise I wouldn’t have made certain decisions in the past and struggled with lust and addiction to pornography. But that’s in the past, and I am infinitely forgiven. Thank you for posting this.

    • @calah5017
      @calah5017 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kennethfok beautifully explained!!

  • @caderuoff9329
    @caderuoff9329 3 ปีที่แล้ว +499

    “You can’t find vertical acceptance through horizontal offerings.”
    Chad Masters 2020
    What a quote my guy!!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      hahah well thanks, Cade!

  • @hzlkelly
    @hzlkelly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +245

    So God just shoved this in my recommendations when I'm single? 😂😂😂

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      hahahha well not gonna lie, I wish I knew some of the things I know now, when I was single... but you're hilarious lol

    • @trukanator2
      @trukanator2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same as me

    • @some5794
      @some5794 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Girl, I hear you, It's like: DON'T KICK ME WHEN i'M DOWN

  • @solarfanwings7330
    @solarfanwings7330 3 ปีที่แล้ว +128

    “Intimacy = into me you see” wow that was profound.

  • @audreyford8660
    @audreyford8660 3 ปีที่แล้ว +508

    i love the way y’all approached this. purity culture creates such a toxic mindset of fear in girls & i hope that the church begins to lean into girls and show them into deep love for God rather than shame/fear of sex before marriage. when we are so in love with God we WANT to honor Him because of how much our hearts and minds are aligned with his. also i just got married and can see how much the Lord blesses those who keep His commandments and seek His heart in dating relationships🤍

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      YES AND AMEN!

    • @nitseybellefleur5717
      @nitseybellefleur5717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      AWWWWHHHH THAT'S AWESOME... BIG CONGRATULATIONS YOU TWO....... MAY GOD BLESSED YOUR UNION ABUNDANTLY...

    • @kennethfok
      @kennethfok 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      There is a difference between just simply saying avoid sex because it is dirty and shameful and saying that sex is a beautiful gift from God to be shared with your spouse in a marriage.

    • @apracity7672
      @apracity7672 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      "Purity culture is toxic" oh yeah? Are Jesus and Saint Paul also toxic? They said that those who sin will burn in hell (except those who believe in the name of Christ and repent) They said that if you engage in these types of sin (sexual immorality) you would be barred from entering the kingdom of God. Purity culture echoes what the Bible says word for word, i dont see the problem.

    • @audreyford8660
      @audreyford8660 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@apracity7672 if that’s the case, the only one in heaven is Jesus. what is the point of the cross?

  • @annapade4433
    @annapade4433 3 ปีที่แล้ว +249

    What a great topic! My husband and I were really struggling to resist because we started dating in high school where we heard every day what everyone else was doing and it was hard to not push the limits. We ended up breaking up after two years because we had crossed set boundaries too many times and our relationship was not centered around God anymore, but around each other and our desires for each other. We still loved each other like crazy and we wrote letters until we got back to our hometown at the start of COVID. My man immediately asked to see me again and asked if he could date me again. However, this time we decided to not even kiss to eliminate any opportunity for crossing boundaries. A couple months later he proposed to me and asked me to marry him by the end of the summer. We were engaged for only 6 weeks and it made it sooooooo much easier to not feel crazy temptation knowing I was with my future husband. We are so grateful that we waited and it has helped us to start our relationship centered AROUND GOD and not on each other. If anyone reading this is experiencing this struggle, you can ALWAYS start over! We found that it helped to take a break from each other and start with a clean slate. It was also most helpful to not even kiss since we weren't good at setting situational boundaries. It is so worth the wait and it makes it so much more special to wait.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      Wow! Our story has a lot of similarities! Love the idea of the clean slate! Thanks for taking the time to write all that out!

    • @hzlkelly
      @hzlkelly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This is beautiful and I think I had to read this.

    • @SA-Godfavorite
      @SA-Godfavorite 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Wow, this is exactly what happened between I and my boyfriend , we came back together this month of October after a 1 year break-up due to the guilt we had knowing that we weren't doing the right thing. Now it feels so brand new and peaceful

    • @allwayssim
      @allwayssim 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for sharing such a great testimony!

  • @vinciacloete2764
    @vinciacloete2764 3 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    I like how Tori explains the enemy's intent with sex, to drive you into bed when unmarried and out of bed when married 💣

  • @RedPop4
    @RedPop4 3 ปีที่แล้ว +91

    I am Catholic and married, and you guys are knocking this out of the park!! I like your quote that "The enemy will do everything to get you in bed before you're married, and everything he can to get you out of bed afterward." This is so profound and excellent, and I never thought of this. Thank you.

    • @Johnrider1234
      @Johnrider1234 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      TH-cam dave hunt. A woman rides the beast

  • @susanne8437
    @susanne8437 3 ปีที่แล้ว +385

    “God’s character doesn’t change if something deeply affects you or not. Gods character stays the same” wow.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Dang! i forgot I said that hahah We posted part two today!

    • @susanne8437
      @susanne8437 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@ToriAndChad you guys are a blessing in my life and roll models. Im glad for the opportunity to connect!

    • @jenlampton1549
      @jenlampton1549 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ToriAndChad I am a Christian woman who married my husband on Feb 21, 2016, divorced him on Dec 13, 2019, and reconciled (not legally) on Dec 24, 2019, and, although I haven’t felt the urge from God to get legally remarried, we realized that we still love each other and want to be together. So, we do have sex, and I want to say that, unlike my past sexual relationships outside of marriage, I don’t feel the guilt or shame. I will say that I’m a bit of a perfectionist when it comes to my faith (praying, reading my bible etc.), but, in my particular situation, I’m not sure how to fully perceive it because I know that on one hand sex outside of marriage is a sin, but on the other hand God wants us to reconcile if possible, and I’ve read through my bible once, and I’m on my second time from beginning to end and, unless I missed something, I didn’t see where it said we had to reconcile on paper to be considered husband and wife again🤷🏻‍♀️ Anyways, I just thought that I’d share my story and get some opinions outside of my own on this particular subject. 💗Jen from AK

    • @sivavetrivel5822
      @sivavetrivel5822 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for this video!!

    • @sivavetrivel5822
      @sivavetrivel5822 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      In INDIA it is mandatory both person to be Virgin before marriage!!! Here the culture is totally different!!

  • @cactusbounce
    @cactusbounce 3 ปีที่แล้ว +167

    Not Christian.. a muslim but lots of love and really enjoyed your honest insight. God bless ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      Wow! thanks for saying that! it is so encouraging to hear that someone from a different belief appreciates what we have to share! It means a lot, Jasmine. Thank you very much!

    • @missdalina608
      @missdalina608 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Same here 💗

    • @romanamalik9857
      @romanamalik9857 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Same here. Im muslim, but alot of things you say and believe are what we muslims also believe, and thats why your videos are so relatable

    • @cactusbounce
      @cactusbounce 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ToriAndChad ❤️❤️❤️

    • @userm180
      @userm180 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@romanamalik9857 for GOD so loved the world that HE gave HIS only begotten SON that whoever believeth in HIM should not perish but have eternal life"-the Gospel of JESUS written by john 3:16."But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name:"-the Gospel of JESUS written by john 1:12. hi! JESUS loves you and died for you if you accept HIM! HE rose from the dead to show us that death cant hold HIM! repent and start living your life for HIM and when the time is right HE will get you to Heaven❤❤🌈🌈

  • @charyse1361
    @charyse1361 3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    When you started crying Tori I felt that. As a single mother who was never married, I still feel shame for having a kid out of wedlock when most of my friends are married with a few kids. I would say "I did this out of order so now ill never get a Godly relationship because of this baggage." However, I now know that this is a lie. I love my daughter more than anything and I have quite the testimony to share.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      awwww You're so strong!!!!! We posted part two today!

    • @harleighstringer
      @harleighstringer 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      i have always thought the exact same way. i always tell myself that no christian man actually following God will want me because i already have a kid, but i have faith if marriage is His will for my life, it will happen 💙 so i just keep praying for my future husband

    • @isabelmarguerite5560
      @isabelmarguerite5560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@harleighstringer that's the point: A man following God. If a man follows God, and God leads him to you, he will accept and love you even with a child. Nothing can oppose God's will.

    • @kl4360
      @kl4360 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@isabelmarguerite5560 Out of all the comments posted about this video, yours spoke to me the most and your love and wisdom really shine through........like God is working through you.
      When/if like me, your heart has so much to give and offer to a life long spouse with a kind heart and you pray for this..........but then for decades it just doesn't happen, your faith is truly tested. Some of my life experiences and not relationship ones, make me feel like God has forsaken me.
      Mucb more than anything I have missed out on, this makes me feel really sad inside.
      God bless you for your love and light.

  • @harleighstringer
    @harleighstringer 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    i have a 2.5 year old son with my ex boyfriend. we were only together for a year and we've been broken up for 3 years... it STILL has a hold of me to this day. but i have decided to FULLY give my life to Christ, and im praying for the soul tie to be broken and for God to truly heal me

    • @rachelmoore4438
      @rachelmoore4438 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I know I am late seeing this, but I am praying for you!

  • @achilles6445
    @achilles6445 3 ปีที่แล้ว +127

    "Sex is a wonderful servant and a terrible master"..

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Dang that is deep!

    • @achilles6445
      @achilles6445 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ToriAndChad that's not mine... it is zac poonen's quote..

    • @alisonk3900
      @alisonk3900 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lmao you basically switched that from money

  • @alexamarie6399
    @alexamarie6399 3 ปีที่แล้ว +174

    Wow literally so thankful. One of the first relatable and honest Christian couples I have seen on TH-cam. I feel like I watch videos about boundaries or whatever and come away feeling deflated and more guilty. Thank you for being real! I am so grateful for how God is using you two to further his kingdom together.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Well it may help to know that we made so so so many mistakes hahaha but thanks for saying that... we want to be relatable and we want to share God's truth! But in a way that people feel empowered and not ashamed. !Thanks for the love!

  • @meghanodonovan8020
    @meghanodonovan8020 3 ปีที่แล้ว +153

    Brooooo the part about being naked in front of someone and still feeling loved and whole and unashamed made me CRY likeeeee I never realised until I heard it said

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Aww that's so sweet! Make sure to watch the video we posted today on Part 2!

    • @meghanodonovan8020
      @meghanodonovan8020 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ToriAndChad just saw it there SO EXCITED

    • @samtaylor7072
      @samtaylor7072 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Honestly same, that hit so hard 🙈

    • @MuhammadImran-ln4fz
      @MuhammadImran-ln4fz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love u
      I like u
      Am alone 😍😍❤❤💑💑🌷🌷

  • @LillyBrowtteworste
    @LillyBrowtteworste 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    Oh man, it's barely started, and I am already loving this. (I am just typing this as I watch):
    -We push many rules and boundaries, but we do not focus on HEART TRANSFORMATION; we focus on the lines & the do's and don't's.
    -We focus on how close we can get to the line without crossing it. *Why are you running to the line instead of running from it?*
    -Oh, another one! It doesn't matter if you are in love with the person, whether it is having sex in love or not. Scripture has outlined that sex is for the married.
    I have LOVED this! I pray that you follow where you feel God leading you for part 2 and maybe more segments after! I am looking forward to the next video!!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Aww that is so nice! Love that you shared things that spoke to you! it helps us know what people enjoy in our videos so thanks for sharing that! Can't wait to share video two!

  • @enaacquah11
    @enaacquah11 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I literally cried when Tori started to cry❤️it’s so sad how girls are being lied to and led into sexual sin. I’m going to help a lot of people one day with the help of The Holy Spirit✝️you guys are so blessed. Thanks so much. I love uuuuu. I’m soooooo gonna wait it out😊🤟🏾virginity rocks❤️

  • @judahthomason
    @judahthomason 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Tori, just coming across this video today (and I’ve been binging your guy’s videos for the past few weeks)....you have NO IDEA how badly I needed to hear what you said. Shame has been a constant companion and just thank you for being the light of Christ to me today. I really have needed you both and your advice and witness during this season.

  • @samcampbell2278
    @samcampbell2278 3 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    I love how honest you both are here - especially about covering our eyes, hearts, and ears from the disgusting things the world tries to show us today. THANK YOU BOTH. 💙

  • @Trumpet222
    @Trumpet222 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    These kinds of conversations are so powerful at helping others feel less alone. Thank you Tori and Chad.

  • @TheFitChemist
    @TheFitChemist 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I ended a relationship 3 months ago because I found God and my heart shifted away from sexual sin and towards purity. What Chad was saying is so true. Sex outside of marriage isn’t real love. You love what the other person can do for you. You use them for your own physical pleasure. It’s selfish - the opposite of what love is (love is not self seeking). Seeing you two talk about this makes my heart so full of joy for when I find my future wife who also shares these values. Can’t wait to watch part 2 and part 3!

  • @meganolin5072
    @meganolin5072 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    For a 21-year-old single girl, this really helped change my perspective on marriage and sex that its not necessarily all glamorized but should be handled with caution and grace because its powerful. Thanks so much! p.s. Pastor Mikael Todd has a relationship goals series and that really helped me too on youtube, it was awesome!!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aww thanks for telling us that, Megan! That means so much!

  • @ashjade86
    @ashjade86 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for being honest! I am 34 and separated from my husband of 12 years,
    together 15 years. He was my first and we didn’t wait. I held onto so much guilt from that over the years. So, this video is relevant for many different people. Thank you for speaking out on all of these issues we encounter in dating. This is great!!

  • @twishamohin
    @twishamohin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    What you both said about lies being fed in your mind, it's so apt! I'm 20 and in college and yes im waiting for the right person but in college, I have always been laughed at for the same. It's hard to keep your mind on track when everyone around you says you are wrong or dumb to think like that but I'm doing my best. Waiting for the right person may not seem right to some people now, but it will seem right later and it will be too late by then. The culture everywhere in the world is now to just treat humans as objects and it blows my mind. And about the songs, it's so true. It's really upsetting to see women to encourage all this. And it's not in the States. It's everywhere unfortunately.
    This was so insightful ❤️ love you guys ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @havannahkauffman2477
    @havannahkauffman2477 3 ปีที่แล้ว +107

    Yes, please do a video about getting past your past!

  • @JadeAlexander.96
    @JadeAlexander.96 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This video really helped me! My boyfriend and I recently recommitted our lives to Christ and we both made the decision to wait until marriage even though our relationship has crossed that boundary! It makes me feel like I can relate to you tori!

  • @Nokuthaba_M
    @Nokuthaba_M 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This came right when I needed it,Thank you guys 💞,I’ve been celibate for 2 years ...part of my celibate was driven by fear of being hurt,the shame and guilt around sex and after going through a healing process I felt so free and felt myself having my power back,I was recently feeling like ,”did God say we must really not do it” but something about allowing God to lead really empowers me to keep going....Thank you guys,you really are making an impact out here

  • @nickischroeder6048
    @nickischroeder6048 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You had me crying right along with you…. I didn’t grow up in a Christian household and became one when I was around 21 years old. The enemy truly attacks people in their vulnerability and it’s devastating.

  • @NurseMaddyW
    @NurseMaddyW 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love this video! My fiancé and I just graduated undergrad and grad school and are finally getting married in October! But going through college (even a Christian college) as Christians, it’s been really tough to stay pure of heart, especially when fewer and fewer friends are holding us accountable out of not wanting to “judge” us and other couples. But we both kind of wish that we had friends who were couples that held us accountable while still being honest about the common struggles. Watching your video kinda made me feel like we had that couple friends to keep us accountable and speak truth. The waiting until marriage when your almost married has been really tough and even tougher as we’ve had to push back plans due to the pandemic. Thank you guys for sharing honest struggles but still speaking truth and life! ❤️

    • @petra2366
      @petra2366 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't feel bad. There is nothing wrong with making love to someone you are in love with and deeply committed to. Expressing your feelings for your beloved is a healthy and normal thing to do. There are much better things to do in life than obsess about 'staying pure'. If you have the urge, and feel you are in a place in your relationship where you are ready, do it. It is much better than repressing your feelings.

  • @derekspivey8755
    @derekspivey8755 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I just wanna say I’ve always appreciated you guys so much. I’m 17 and have really been committed in my walk for a few years now...I view yall as mentors in my walk and genuinely appreciate yall bringing up the hard topics to talk about.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      aww thanks for saying that!

  • @crystalmast3973
    @crystalmast3973 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just found your channel from the Earls vlog!! I appreciate your sharing and honesty and the boundaries you set! My husband and I have been married 23 years and we had very strong boundaries set straight from the beginning of our dating. We are so happy we had no regrets in our dating. What you said about the trust you can have for your husband after you’re married and you have to be apart sometimes resonated with me. I say the same thing to my daughters and my friends when we talk about the principles and boundaries we had when we dated. If my husband was able to be strong to wait till after marriage I can have a stronger trust in him to stay faithful to me after we’re married. God has blessed us with 23 beautiful years together! It just gets better. Life has been extremely hard for us but we are stronger because of it. God bless your channel!

  • @KimberlyBorchardt92008
    @KimberlyBorchardt92008 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am a single 50 yr.old mother of 3. I find the content you share, is so VALUABLE. Thank you for being so vulnerable for all of us. Blessings to you both Love you kiddos.

  • @emilyg1251
    @emilyg1251 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    “In to me you see” that is SO profound!!! 🤯
    This video was so so so great. I kept finding myself saying “yep. yep. That’s so true. Yep.” Lol because of everything I’ve gone through pre salvation and even post salvation. Many of us have or had such an unhealthy view of sex because of how we were raised, the examples in our lives, culture shoving it in our faces constantly- and you guys totally hit each nail on the head. I can’t wait for part II or a series because everyone needs to learn and understand this the way God meant for it. It’s all for our good! Love you Team Masters!! 🙌

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Aww thanks so much Emily! So sweet of you to be a part of the team and support us and use so many kind words to lift us up! We are so thankful for you!

  • @ThePixma98
    @ThePixma98 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Perfect timing, just perfect. I just broke up with my fiance, he lied to me and revelead he was a muslim, we allready talked about marriage but then he said he dont wanna marry me. Together we decided to go different ways, hurts because i wasnt true to myself, not anymore virgin and i feel so ashamed. I believe Jesus saved me as a little girl, allthough i backslided i have repented it and The Holy Spirit has gave me comfort in this situation. And i still believe there is someone who truly is for me and God wants only the best for his children. Be blessed ❤🕊

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      dang that is wild... thank you for sharing that... Part two got posted today!!!

  • @hopeolivia590
    @hopeolivia590 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Run away from close as possible to sin and to living for the glory of God !!
    thanks for a fantastic and honest video xx

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for the love, Hope!!!

  • @trose4669
    @trose4669 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is so good, so so GOOD. I love these conversations and how heart felt they are. Praise Jesus for using you guys for His Kingdom🤚🏼

  • @d1859
    @d1859 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’ve been waiting for this video! It honestly made me emotional. I’d love a “getting past your past” video, that’s been on my heart a lot lately. Love you guys!!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aww thanks for supporting us!!!

  • @cgonzalezani
    @cgonzalezani 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thank you guys so much for making this video. I recently came across your channel and I truly believe God uses both of you to speak very clearly, it is very connecting and empowering. Funny that I skimmed through your videos earlier this week, hoping I could find this topic being openly and honestly discussed bc I have been struggling with this for years and it has affected the relationship I have with myself, others, and God in so many levels.
    I was about to take a nap rn before my mind raced with negative thoughts and what is honestly trauma from my past and from my broken relationship with my ex. I open TH-cam to clear my head with a funny video but yet this is the first one that pops up on my feed. I wasn’t expecting such powerful message but God wanted to speak.
    I’m tearing up from watching this video I just had to pause and take a moment for myself but also thank you both along the way.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Awww wow! That means so much!!! You're so special to us!

  • @jml79bu
    @jml79bu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "Getting past your past" would be a very good topic that is necessary for so many.

  • @magrock151
    @magrock151 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Y’all are incredible and your rawness to be honest with your viewers is so humbling, thank you for being an open book!

  • @Cutie1141997
    @Cutie1141997 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    "You can't find vertical acceptance through horizontal offerings." "Why are you running to the line instead of away from the line?" Damn you guys, it hit the right chords even though my thoughts are aligned to each and everything you guys said. A really amazing way to put it forward, loved every bit of it. Thank you! It seems like I have a few more answers for the ever questioning world. A big thank you. XOXO

  • @jenn23love
    @jenn23love 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    “Why are you running to the line & not away from the line” wow! 🤯

  • @songsofstar805
    @songsofstar805 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Amen. Thank you for sharing this. The Youth needs to hear this. God bless your marriage! Continue to be a salt and light and speak the truth in love.

  • @jackieperezz
    @jackieperezz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I found y’alls channel today and I’m so glad I watched the whole video. I’ve been struggling explaining to my boyfriend why I want to wait and all the reasons behind it but I just couldn’t find myself saying anything and this video helped a lot. Thanks for being open and honest, God bless you guys.💛

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa ปีที่แล้ว

      If he doesn't understand why you want to wait then is he even a true follower of Christ?

  • @carryg580
    @carryg580 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Can u please talk about resisting lustful thoughts as a single? I feel like the focus is often on like how to avoid going to far with your bf/gf but not your thoughts when you are single or even in a relationship as well

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      yes that is so important and we are working on that type of video!!!

  • @whitneywilliams6168
    @whitneywilliams6168 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    What a video!! Every young person should watch this and receive some perspective 💕.
    Bless you Chad and Tori 🎉

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for the love Whitney!!!

  • @tammyltrenholmmentoring
    @tammyltrenholmmentoring 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Very good topic and glad you are sharing it :) My husband and I were in intimate relationships before as well but once we became christians and got together we waited until we were married. And our marriage is truly blessed and happy.

  • @2020balance
    @2020balance ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for approaching this so tastefully. I knew when I heard “when lines are crossed and then there’s a breakup, it feels like death” I knew I was meant to watch this. Many blessings ❤

  • @loganday5743
    @loganday5743 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So proud of you guys for sharing this! Thank you, I feel you are meeting so many people where they are at. Praying for this ministry 🙌🏽

  • @susiedyck4914
    @susiedyck4914 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was so great, raw and honest. So much respect for you two. Definitely subscribing. (First video I've watch from you guys)

  • @chanelbradford5353
    @chanelbradford5353 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much for talking and being open. Your videos have inspired me to ask myself a lot of questions that previously I would have ignored had it not been for you guys being so open. Thank you so much.

  • @laurenschraerr
    @laurenschraerr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    YESSS please tori do a video on getting past our past. I so desperately need that at the moment as i am sure so many other woman are. Yall are so wise and this video truly shed light on situations that i feel the church has strayed away from covering in depthly.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      we are working on it!!!

  • @trinityottens
    @trinityottens 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    phew this was so incredible! thank you for your honesty and love in this video. the enemy really tries to feed us lies and make us feel that our past is our present and there are sooo many people (including me lol) that need to know that those lies are not true. love you guys sooo much

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes He does, and we are trying to do the one thing that he doesn't want us to do.. We love you trin!

  • @sharonlefa1634
    @sharonlefa1634 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    LOVE how bold you are in sharing the TRUTH of God and his heart 🥺❤️

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks so much Sharon!!!

  • @othluver7
    @othluver7 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow this incredible I just started to read my Bible and just got because I felt a very heavy feeling in my chest but now I feel extreme JOY. Bless you two!

  • @bh4709
    @bh4709 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Started crying as soon as you did.. Not even 5 minutes in and I’m already emotional omg

  • @Amanda-zt7fu
    @Amanda-zt7fu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I appreciate this video so so much. The church doesn’t openly talk about it. We only got “sex advice” right before we got married. I’m so glad we waited till marriage. Thanks for being real and emotional Tori! 💙💙

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for the love!!! And you're so right!!!

  • @sarahbrennan959
    @sarahbrennan959 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Absolutely loved this. Would LOVE a video on forgiving yourself, your own past as well as your spouse!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      We posted a video on shame and guilty last week! Hope you had a chance to see it!

  • @vickymillar7250
    @vickymillar7250 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Loved this video, thank you both so much for being so honest! I also loved the description! It really challenged me so thankyou so much!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for reading the description!!!!

  • @kirstygracee
    @kirstygracee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You guys this was GOLD. Thank you so much for your hearts!!! I pray for so many people stuck in this sin will watch this ❤️❤️❤️ It needs to be seem. Also another book I highly highly recommend is “Sex and the conversations the church forgot” by Mo Isom, she’s also done a study guide and a course on the topic and it’s amazing!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      dang we will need to look that up!!

  • @haleynewman8011
    @haleynewman8011 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is so good. Thank you. Thank you both for your honesty and advice! I'm so glad I watched this. I will definitely be sharing with my friends ❤️

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for taking the time to watch this!

  • @maiyerxiong3328
    @maiyerxiong3328 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This was super helpful. I appreciate these talks, I struggled with finding love in others, and God saved me in 2017- now I’m walking my path of purity and waiting on God promise of a marriage he has in store for me. Hallelujah!!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      awww so happy it helped!

    • @maiyerxiong3328
      @maiyerxiong3328 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ToriAndChad Tori, I was wondering if you and chad could do a talk about shame and about having a sexual past and how you overcame your shame. These are themes that I’ve been going through in life and I think it’d be so helpful. Tysm and ily ❤️

  • @donmcdaniel2863
    @donmcdaniel2863 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    42 yrs of marriage to one beautiful women. As a man in my sixties I commend you on your efforts. Taboo subject in my early years, oh to have these topics discussed in my youth. Keep up the work.

  • @averylake5974
    @averylake5974 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    stuff young women and men need to hear 💕 you're filled with wisdom and a joy that draws even the unconvinced heart to the truth that you share

  • @spomusmo2349
    @spomusmo2349 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am single and have been for a long time but every time I see couples who love God and are living for Christ it is such an encouragement and gives me so much hope to know that God has someone special just for me🥰🥰

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Awww we have so much hope too! But love that you are strong as single and not hoping into a relationship that would not have God at the center

  • @JoelandAlly
    @JoelandAlly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Mind-blowing! I love this, thank you for your honesty. I relate to all of this and what I've learned is don't compromise the blessings the Lord has for you because of the "what if" or "did He really say that?"

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Part two got posted today!!!

  • @sarahturnbull3867
    @sarahturnbull3867 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So much wisdom. I really appreciate it as a younger Christian thank you!! Really inspiring the way you seek God’s glory in everything

  • @marielpinedoy
    @marielpinedoy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "The younger (you know the truth) the better" I agree 100%
    We should be aware of this from a very young age. I wish I knew this before.

  • @melodymercy5681
    @melodymercy5681 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is amazing! Totally love you guys.
    And Tori yes yes yes!!please do the video on getting past your past.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes we need to do that video!

  • @brielleblood7176
    @brielleblood7176 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    thank you so so much! this was said so beautifully. i thank God for what you two are putting out on your platform! I am born again and am so in love with God that i don’t want anything that is not in His will for me!!! God bless you both💗

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aww thanks for saying that! and we feel the same! His will! Not ours!

  • @cynthiawangui3468
    @cynthiawangui3468 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love you guys! My inspiration. I love walking a journey of purity, it's pretty exciting for me!!!
    I have also noticed that sometimes as we explain what is right or wrong, we are pinned down by common or our own experiences. Because I have met and seen people who have intercourse before marriage and they still fair so well in life.
    But generally, we stay pure to glorify God

  • @tizambale3502
    @tizambale3502 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm single and still waiting on God. I love 💕💕💕 the fact that you're using scriptures. This video honestly touched my heart.... I'll definitely watch more videos.

  • @TreasureLovely
    @TreasureLovely 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Im literally only 15 minutes into this video and I'm already crying. Its really speaking to my heart and I'm so grateful you both were obedient in making this video. Its truly God's kingdom being built before me. Im blessed to know your channel and honored to get a glimpse into both of your amazing hearts ❤

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Awww you're so sweet!

    • @TreasureLovely
      @TreasureLovely 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ToriAndChad I'm simply being honest 😍

  • @evelinapinzariu5191
    @evelinapinzariu5191 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I really wish, that someday, soon, you’ll do a video about how you can get over your past and how to let God heal you from your past. Lots of love for both of you😍

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      We are working on that!!! Also We posted part two today!

  • @HappilyAnonymousGirl
    @HappilyAnonymousGirl 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You guys are a breathe of fresh air. I love that you discuss these topics with us.
    I’ve only watched a few videos so far, but I look forward to catching up on your content. I have a feeling I’m going to learn a lot of very valuable things that I can’t learn from anyone in my life.
    Thank you for that. God bless you guys

  • @katherineortez2062
    @katherineortez2062 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    SOOOOOOO GOOD! I am so excited for this series!!! Man oh man, that last part made me teary when Chad was saying when we get to heaven we will thank God for the instructions He gave to guard our hearts instead of questioning Him on His why. We have to know and trust God withholds no good thing from us, everything He does is to protect us and keep us from going through unnecessary pain.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes! i love that part too! hahah Thanks for the love! We posted part two today!

  • @alexaalbujargutierrez7474
    @alexaalbujargutierrez7474 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    we need a podcast.. i need a podcast. I loved this, thank you.

  • @gryffinfuryproductions4157
    @gryffinfuryproductions4157 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    A video series on boundaries with friends and possible boy/girl friends sounds amazing!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      yes we are working on it!!!

  • @destiny9420
    @destiny9420 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If you haven't already done a video about getting past your past, please do one as this one was so helpful and the examples you gave about getting past your past sounds really helpful and interesting to listen to x love you guy's videos, only just found you but so glad I found you when I am single and loving on God

  • @WordsPictures997
    @WordsPictures997 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You guys!!! This is soooooo good. I especially appreciate the disclaimer at the end of the sources you've learned from. It really does bring more objectivity and credibility to your video especially in a world where anyone and everyone can share random opinions on topics.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks for the love!!! You're so kind! Also thanks for mentioning the part about the credibility... we don't pretend that these are our thoughts at all! We are so thankful to lean from others and want to make sure people know it's not our own wisdom!

  • @linabourenane8225
    @linabourenane8225 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I am Muslim and our religion says the same abt it and I totally agree god just be trying to protect us

  • @dezibevineau9782
    @dezibevineau9782 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I feel even after marriage there should be a transition period. To go from boundaries to no boundaries in 24 hours would be a big shocker for me.

    • @kennethfok
      @kennethfok 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Agree. It takes time to adjust from always covering up to suddenly being naked in front of someone and from abstaining from sex to enjoying sex. Just go at your own comfortable pace but remember to communicate with your spouse about your fears and insecurities.

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa ปีที่แล้ว

      Same I was thinking I'd want to sleep in the bed with clothes on and slowly get comfortable being close to each other.

  • @catondaley4581
    @catondaley4581 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was such a beautiful video. I really needed this ❤. Thank you so much for opening my eyes, educating me on what God really wants for us, purity and a clean heart❤

  • @melissam2831
    @melissam2831 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Uuffff am I the only one crying 😭😭
    You two literally a blessing , thank you for this video💛
    Tori yes to making a video of letting go of the past

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aww will do! We posted part two today!

    • @MuhammadImran-ln4fz
      @MuhammadImran-ln4fz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I love u am alone ❤👙💋👄💏💏💑💑😍😍🌷🌷

  • @UrMom-ov1sg
    @UrMom-ov1sg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    I’m only a few minutes in and started crying when tori did😭🤍

  • @luisawebster
    @luisawebster 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Such a great video! Thank you so much! Also yes please a video on getting past your past would be so helpful. God bless you two for what you're doing with this channel x

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes we need to do that!!!

  • @erizajanegingoyon6790
    @erizajanegingoyon6790 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for this video Tori and Chad! ❤ you guys are truly inspiring. Excited for part 2 of this talk!!!!
    Much love from the Philippines! 🤗

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sending love to the Philippines!

  • @GianellaBrautigam
    @GianellaBrautigam 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Soooo good! Can’t wait for part 2! Keep letting yourselves be used by God 💛

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      We are working on it!!!

  • @sianroxanne
    @sianroxanne 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Just wanted to say you guys rock. And thank you. And Tori I loved the emotion you felt because of how much you care. And Chad thank you for your wisdom and sharing that email you sent to a friend. You both make God smile so much :)

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aww you're so kind! Hope you like the video we posted today!

  • @SA-Godfavorite
    @SA-Godfavorite 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I feel like coming across this channel wasn't a coincidence because I just went through this situation and right now I'm holding on God's truth.

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hope you liked the video we posted today!!!

    • @SA-Godfavorite
      @SA-Godfavorite 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ToriAndChad yes!!

  • @margaretlevinson6280
    @margaretlevinson6280 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    God is using you two mightily for His glory! Continue to seek Him and His plan and you will be blessed abundantly. I see it already! Blessings 🙏🏼❤️

  • @skyemanion947
    @skyemanion947 ปีที่แล้ว

    You guys are so down to earth! I didn't have parents who had this sorta talk with me, but this is super chill to listen to

  • @lilycmiller
    @lilycmiller 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This was so good and inspiring for myself! Excited for part 2!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      We can't wait to make it!

  • @Lisa-gc7cl
    @Lisa-gc7cl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    waiting for part 2❤️❤️ SO AMAZING!!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      hahah we may need to film and get that out ASAP!

    • @Lisa-gc7cl
      @Lisa-gc7cl 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Tori and Chad Masters 😂❤️

  • @amandalynnsmith832
    @amandalynnsmith832 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is so inviting to Christ! I did not even know there were other people that experienced that. I feel shame lifted. Thank you for sharing. 🙏

  • @udanajagoda3891
    @udanajagoda3891 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Woahh guys!!! This is such strong perspective and thank you so much for opening up a topic like this and for your honesty and love. So encouraging! Hope you guys are doing well! Love you guys♥️ God bless you

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      we are doing great! Thanks for the love!!!

  • @nitseybellefleur5717
    @nitseybellefleur5717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    HELLO TORI, YESSSSS I'D LOVE TO SEE MORE OF THIS SERIES. APPRECIATE YOU GUYS STEPPING UP AND TALK ABOUT UNCOMFORTABLE CONVO SUCH AS THIS ONE IN A PURIFIABLE GODLY WAY THAT'S REALLY AMAZING AS NOW IN THIS WORLD I SEE SOCIETY ARE NORMALIZING ALL THE WRONG (UNGODLY)THINGS THAT GOD HATES....... BEING WATCHING SINCE I SUBSCRIBE TO YOU GUYS CHANNEL FROM CANADA... AS A BELIEVER IN CHRIST I NEEDED TO WATCH THIS VIDEO AND ENSURE THAT I SEEK WHAT IS PURE AND THAT GLORIFIES GOD...MAY GOD KEEP PLANTING SEEDS INTO YOU BOTH HEARTS THAT KEEP TRANSFORMING LIVES SO THIS GENERATION CAN CHASE WHAT IS PURE AND CHASE AFTER GODS HEART.....

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Part two is uploaded!!!

  • @saraa1687
    @saraa1687 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m Muslim and we share very similar values. Thoroughly enjoyed watching this. Thank you 💗

  • @KaylinaAdams
    @KaylinaAdams 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow guys... AMAZING video. Thank you for sharing your own experiences with us! You guys spoke so much truth and I couldn't have said any of this better. Thank you for letting God shine his light through you. Y'all are my role models. And yes I want to see that video Tori! I'm so excited for that! Love you guys so much!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for the love, Kaylina! We are so thankful for you!

  • @hayleywillbanks3936
    @hayleywillbanks3936 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Oh my goodness I love this so much!! Y'all would be such amazing youth pastors or just pastors in general. Love you both!!

    • @ToriAndChad
      @ToriAndChad  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're so sweet! We posted part 3 today!!!