Im a teacher. To keep it simple, alot of mothers substitute financial care for emotional care. They think because the kid have shelter thats enough and kids should shut up and be grateful. While at the same time treating and talking to the kid like they are trash. Kids be decked out in moose knuckle and monclair but walk around extremely sad and traumatized
Homicidal/Suicidal children these days! Men cannot voluntarily leave them alone with their mothers, to do what else? Childhood is sacred, and we as parents give up our "solo dolo" "single ready to mingle" bs when we procreate.
Interesting how u only think mothers are like this...I grew up knowing plenty of fathers who worked and thought that was enough for the family. So stop it!!🙄
Well let me say this to you so you will understand it. We all grew up differently not all of us grew up the same. My mom's has been bullying people for years since she was a kid. Until this day in her 60's all she do is lie and blame her family and friends for everything. Yet alone her son and I don't get along because of her doing she care for him them most. He lives her life and I don't. She tried taking my life twice for no reason. See my dad always listen and understand my mom's always say f you I am the mother nothing you say matters. Till this day she still say it. She doesn't want to hear no one at all. My pops always said if s parent doesn't listen to what their kids have to say it's a problem. He taught me a lot I needed to know. Kids differently don't have to shut up and listen voices need to be hard in a respectful manner. There are too many mothers out here abusive to their kids for no reason at all.
I’m a 42 black man who just walked away from my mother and entire family. Inspite being very Intelligent and wanting a lot out of life I am just now growing as a person it’s sad and hard cause I’m an adult feeling like a child but working hard to heal
Its understandable, I promise Im 40ish and Im working on myself everyday with Yahs help and guidance. Im moving 8 hours away next month and i'll be praying for my 34 yr old brother who is emotionaly messed up and has severe arrested development. Yah bless you brother, love your family from a distance is what im practicing bc they are complete stumbling blocks. I pray for healing for you.
Been trying to have this conversation with my mom since I was 4 years old. I'm now 40. She still sabotaging my efforts. I don't have a relationship with any of my relatives because they abused me the same. Shunned me each time I try to talk
I think most of us black kids can relate to that doing activities and not having your parents around and seeing other kids with their parents attending (mainly kids from other communities).
Mentorship from respectable men is much needed for the sake of the future lives of these children. If you leave children solely in the hands of most of these single women they will be destroyed. Fathers that are not with the mother(s) of their children. You need to step up and fight for your children. It's no longer about your problems with her or her problems with you. It's about the well-being of your child.
Sons that grew up with toxic Black mothers or vice versa have to literally start from scratch on how to learn to think , learn to speak and learn how to act which is embarrassing and sad. Mom's over sexualized their son and control them and try to compete with their daughters while calling theee daughters there best friends which is truth.
My narc Mother use to call me her friend and say that we are cool, i resented that with all my heart. I rebuked her once I was old enough to understand that she was a covert narcissist. "Your my Mother and Im not your friend or cool with you"
Single mothers are destroying their son's without them even knowing it. Case in point Lil Scappy. Child hood is destroyed because of the trauma he has seen and it is destroying his relationship with his woman in the process as an adult.
@@frankie_aab3261 y’all more worried about trying to dodge blame on the woman’s part. She had him being raised in a whorehouse. At a certain point y’all gonna have to concede that women are human and capable of doing wrong just like any man.
Doing what you have to do is NOT having your kid living in a trap/whore house. That doesn’t make sense on any level. There’s no excuse for that whole setup
Agree with you totally. It's amazing how horrible parents make excuses for how they moved in life and say it was their best. Nope. Those are their choices. I absolutely love money but I won't do just anything for money. Legal is best.
I love my son he knew he had a problem and he got some help he went to a psychiatrist he went and got help for his self he was angry and he didn’t understand why but he wanted to be a better person and he got the help you need it now he has three beautiful children and a wife
Growing up in a black household with toxic abusive single black mothers was like hell. As a black son. I shouldn't have to know how every single women looked without clothes on in the household which is a conversation that should also be talk about too withinthe blk community.
“I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible. So the person who marries his fiancée does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better.” 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, 38 NLT
Good convo...alot of people can relate. Scrappy been telling his mom over the years but she never listened. He should've gotten counseling sooner. Also...Whether u want to believe/acknowledge but children do owe their parents. The Bible says Honor thy father/mother especially when they are elderly and need assistance.
That is so unfortunate this is y’all and a lot of other black folks experience😫😩 I cannot relate to this and Thank GOD!!My mom ALWAYS created a safe space for me so in turn as a mother I have and will always create a judgment free safe space for my child/children and my man simply because I know how hard it’s been for a lot of y’all.
Absent you supposed to be married before you carry!!!! These women been letting random men impregnate them for decades then ask why they not sticking around 🤡
We casually mentioned the term deadbeat, but I trust you understand who is labeling us. Are you familiar with women who manipulate their children?There is discussion about the impact on a child of growing up in a home without a father figure. However, is the child affected more by the absence of the father in the household or by the mother informing him that "your dad won't be coming back, he's starting a new family," leading the child to believe that his father has chosen his new family over him. While not all women behave in this manner, it is my belief that there are more women who act in this way compared to the number of so-called deadbeat fathers.
They traumatizing daughters too! My Mother smh! I was strong and overcame found Yah. But my 34 yr old brother smh, she has hindered him now determined to destroy him. She has weakened him as a man on purpose. Growing up she spoiled him until his father, a married man wouldnt marry her. Now his father has passed on and she treats their son like total crap then slaps her knee laughing. Example he smokes weed but she tells ppl he smoking that ish, I say Mother they think you mean crack. She laughs and says its all the same. Not to mention all the abuse, physical, mental, SEXUAL, emotional and spiritual. She doesnt want anyone in this family to read the bible she has told the Grandkids its all a rip off and not true bc its been written over and over by men. Im gonna just love her from a distance so that i wont hate her.
With 3 boys this hurts my soul. But even women that pay all the bills that is a mental phuck too because they will look for a women to always take care of them so.. it's important to have a balance in whatever you expose your kids l
Helping the family and learning responsibility is what it's about. You are okay. That's why you can't think of any reason for therapy. If you had not lost your dad, that is what a good Father would teach. You may explore how losing your Father at such a young age may have affected you emotionally and your attachment style. Listening to you, you sound healthy. I believe that's because your mom didn't have nonsense and foolishness going on around you. Sounds like you had a good mom.
I wonder if this could be a topic for a live stream one day. Pertaining to this video. The question is... How can a man and woman come together in a healthy relationship to break generational curses? How can a couple grow together from childhood traumas together? And does learning each others love language play a part in what was missing from childhood. Example words of affirmations because a parent wouldn't give words of affirmations...
Yes you don’t realize effect it has on your children that’s why when my mother introduces to God that’s how I raise my children yes I’ve been through some things but I did not put my children into those things that I’ve been through I wanted to break the cycle
Im a teacher. To keep it simple, alot of mothers substitute financial care for emotional care. They think because the kid have shelter thats enough and kids should shut up and be grateful. While at the same time treating and talking to the kid like they are trash. Kids be decked out in moose knuckle and monclair but walk around extremely sad and traumatized
Homicidal/Suicidal children these days!
Men cannot voluntarily leave them alone with their mothers, to do what else?
Childhood is sacred, and we as parents give up our "solo dolo" "single ready to mingle" bs when we procreate.
Interesting how u only think mothers are like this...I grew up knowing plenty of fathers who worked and thought that was enough for the family. So stop it!!🙄
@@kikismith9563 they both are abusive, but right now we’re talking about black mothers. Try not to project 😊
Well let me say this to you so you will understand it. We all grew up differently not all of us grew up the same. My mom's has been bullying people for years since she was a kid. Until this day in her 60's all she do is lie and blame her family and friends for everything. Yet alone her son and I don't get along because of her doing she care for him them most. He lives her life and I don't. She tried taking my life twice for no reason. See my dad always listen and understand my mom's always say f you I am the mother nothing you say matters. Till this day she still say it. She doesn't want to hear no one at all. My pops always said if s parent doesn't listen to what their kids have to say it's a problem. He taught me a lot I needed to know. Kids differently don't have to shut up and listen voices need to be hard in a respectful manner. There are too many mothers out here abusive to their kids for no reason at all.
You said it the best
I’m a 42 black man who just walked away from my mother and entire family. Inspite being very Intelligent and wanting a lot out of life I am just now growing as a person it’s sad and hard cause I’m an adult feeling like a child but working hard to heal
Its understandable, I promise Im 40ish and Im working on myself everyday with Yahs help and guidance. Im moving 8 hours away next month and i'll be praying for my 34 yr old brother who is emotionaly messed up and has severe arrested development. Yah bless you brother, love your family from a distance is what im practicing bc they are complete stumbling blocks. I pray for healing for you.
Been trying to have this conversation with my mom since I was 4 years old. I'm now 40. She still sabotaging my efforts. I don't have a relationship with any of my relatives because they abused me the same. Shunned me each time I try to talk
how can you have any conversation with someone at just 4 years old? you're literally still a toddler 💀
I think most of us black kids can relate to that doing activities and not having your parents around and seeing other kids with their parents attending (mainly kids from other communities).
Mentorship from respectable men is much needed for the sake of the future lives of these children. If you leave children solely in the hands of most of these single women they will be destroyed. Fathers that are not with the mother(s) of their children. You need to step up and fight for your children. It's no longer about your problems with her or her problems with you. It's about the well-being of your child.
Sons that grew up with toxic Black mothers or vice versa have to literally start from scratch on how to learn to think , learn to speak and learn how to act which is embarrassing and sad. Mom's over sexualized their son and control them and try to compete with their daughters while calling theee daughters there best friends which is truth.
My narc Mother use to call me her friend and say that we are cool, i resented that with all my heart. I rebuked her once I was old enough to understand that she was a covert narcissist. "Your my Mother and Im not your friend or cool with you"
A deep Convo, that's sorely needed. SALUTE!
Single mothers are destroying their son's without them even knowing it. Case in point Lil Scappy. Child hood is destroyed because of the trauma he has seen and it is destroying his relationship with his woman in the process as an adult.
How does absolutely no accountability land on the absent parent?
She's a certified 304 what do you expect from a worthless human.
@@frankie_aab3261 EXACTLY just the womans faults.
@@frankie_aab3261 y’all more worried about trying to dodge blame on the woman’s part. She had him being raised in a whorehouse. At a certain point y’all gonna have to concede that women are human and capable of doing wrong just like any man.
@@frankie_aab3261if you’re left home alone and you brake a vase, is it your fault or your parents for not being there watching you?
Doing what you have to do is NOT having your kid living in a trap/whore house. That doesn’t make sense on any level. There’s no excuse for that whole setup
Agree with you totally. It's amazing how horrible parents make excuses for how they moved in life and say it was their best. Nope. Those are their choices. I absolutely love money but I won't do just anything for money. Legal is best.
I love my son he knew he had a problem and he got some help he went to a psychiatrist he went and got help for his self he was angry and he didn’t understand why but he wanted to be a better person and he got the help you need it now he has three beautiful children and a wife
😂 🤡
Growing up in a black household with toxic abusive single black mothers was like hell. As a black son. I shouldn't have to know how every single women looked without clothes on in the household which is a conversation that should also be talk about too withinthe blk community.
Yoooo, this one hit home, there was plenty of tough times growing up with Mama, being the only child and a boy growing to be a man
What kind of things did you harbor or resent being an only child and boy?
ALL OF THISSSSSSS ! ……. THIS HAS TO STOPPP ! . We are ruining generations ! Smh . This is heartbreaking in our people!.
“I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible. So the person who marries his fiancée does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better.”
1 Corinthians 7:32-35, 38 NLT
1:23 The mother never said sorry
Exactly! Never to be held accountable
Very vulnerable conversation. Thank you.
I believe the problem begins with marrying for love, instead of its intended purpose of bridging families together. Great conversation!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
Good convo...alot of people can relate. Scrappy been telling his mom over the years but she never listened. He should've gotten counseling sooner. Also...Whether u want to believe/acknowledge but children do owe their parents. The Bible says Honor thy father/mother especially when they are elderly and need assistance.
Toxic is toxic fuck that
Boy bye 👋🏾 Toxic = deserves to d!3 alone
@@user-ye4bu6xh4c Exactly THANK YOU TEL' THAT TO BLK PEOPLE PLEASE
That’s how they trap us “honor thy father” bullshit
NO. Children owe their parents NOTHING! Are you insane?
That is so unfortunate this is y’all and a lot of other black folks experience😫😩 I cannot relate to this and Thank GOD!!My mom ALWAYS created a safe space for me so in turn as a mother I have and will always create a judgment free safe space for my child/children and my man simply because I know how hard it’s been for a lot of y’all.
Yes I agree some mother’s traumatize their sons and daughters😢😢😢
A lot of black mothers traumatize their children.
this video has me riveted and in tears.
That’s why you had to balance your life between your children your relationship and your job is a balance
What does 888 mean to Heil Hitler 2 ♾️ & beyond??
You don’t need relationships
What are absent fathers doing to the mental health of their son????
They left that part out!!!!!!
Its both parents.
@@user-ye4bu6xh4cEXACTLY
Absent you supposed to be married before you carry!!!! These women been letting random men impregnate them for decades then ask why they not sticking around 🤡
Maybe more of the men would stay around if they didn’t have to with ratchet women who are manipulative, controlling and compulsive liars.
We casually mentioned the term deadbeat, but I trust you understand who is labeling us. Are you familiar with women who manipulate their children?There is discussion about the impact on a child of growing up in a home without a father figure. However, is the child affected more by the absence of the father in the household or by the mother informing him that "your dad won't be coming back, he's starting a new family," leading the child to believe that his father has chosen his new family over him. While not all women behave in this manner, it is my belief that there are more women who act in this way compared to the number of so-called deadbeat fathers.
Good conversation
They traumatizing daughters too! My Mother smh! I was strong and overcame found Yah. But my 34 yr old brother smh, she has hindered him now determined to destroy him. She has weakened him as a man on purpose. Growing up she spoiled him until his father, a married man wouldnt marry her. Now his father has passed on and she treats their son like total crap then slaps her knee laughing. Example he smokes weed but she tells ppl he smoking that ish, I say Mother they think you mean crack. She laughs and says its all the same. Not to mention all the abuse, physical, mental, SEXUAL, emotional and spiritual. She doesnt want anyone in this family to read the bible she has told the Grandkids its all a rip off and not true bc its been written over and over by men. Im gonna just love her from a distance so that i wont hate her.
With 3 boys this hurts my soul. But even women that pay all the bills that is a mental phuck too because they will look for a women to always take care of them so.. it's important to have a balance in whatever you expose your kids l
Poor Scrapp. Bambi is a hard woman.
The word SOME need to be in front of the topic
Helping the family and learning responsibility is what it's about. You are okay. That's why you can't think of any reason for therapy. If you had not lost your dad, that is what a good Father would teach. You may explore how losing your Father at such a young age may have affected you emotionally and your attachment style. Listening to you, you sound healthy. I believe that's because your mom didn't have nonsense and foolishness going on around you. Sounds like you had a good mom.
Facts trill AC “it’s anti-hunger games “the odds are not in your favor.”
I wonder if this could be a topic for a live stream one day. Pertaining to this video. The question is... How can a man and woman come together in a healthy relationship to break generational curses? How can a couple grow together from childhood traumas together? And does learning each others love language play a part in what was missing from childhood. Example words of affirmations because a parent wouldn't give words of affirmations...
Yes you don’t realize effect it has on your children that’s why when my mother introduces to God that’s how I raise my children yes I’ve been through some things but I did not put my children into those things that I’ve been through I wanted to break the cycle
This episode really brought me to tears
Where his father? Awwww that part doesn’t matter
Smuv he won't stay with you because he's ashamed of what he missed out on.
i can relate to this shit this is a issue in the black community for little black boys and girls
First time watching, and i am a fan for life!!!
I'm a simple man... I see Krew Season; I click
you b!tch you beat me... i wanted to be first
Stop shaming women from not having kids. Not everyone has to be a parent but y’all continue to dig out women who choose not too.
Wtf are you even talking about
@@mbonds44 it was plain English.
Children are proof positive, someone saw worth in you enough to invest, even if we may take a loss. You may be worth it in the long run.
S/0 2 my baby mva, we could've been great 👍 lol thx 🙏 4 the reprive.
@@MrLayz_DaPipehuh?!?!?!
Stop making excuses for them, they should not have had kids until they were rich and had a healthy mindset
Men need to understand that the bare minimum is not enough for you so why should i be cool w it from you?? Hmmmm
1,000%
TF?!
Just imagine if the father's actually stuck around.....
Y’all brothas preachin. 1st time father y’all passin the baton 🫱🏽🫲🏾🫂