The point of no contact rule is for you to rediscover yourself again, to see yourself living without the person you were in a relationship with. It is strength without measure, when done properly. Regardless if you get them back or not, it is for YOU.
It’s day 1 for me. We broke up this morning. It’s been a miserable day. He has not texted me yet and I’ve been hurting all day. I keep watching TH-cam videos to help lol.
It’ll be hard, but each time you cry by yourself you’re a step closer to finding yourself again. And when you’re whole again it’s what made that person attracted to you in the first place! Sometimes we lose ourselves in the relationship because we’re so giving that we forget to take some time in taking care of ourselves and our partners have gotten so comfortable with us that sometimes they forget how special we really are!
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An crying an begging while your emotions are running high, might as well let your emotions take a break to ca down till it can see things clearly you might even realise danm I’m not all that into him I can’t believe I ever cried over it
Yea don't reach out, I did after a solid 2 weeks and now have to start again and he responded but he was horrible and it worse than before. So yea, starting again and not sure if I even want him back because he made me feel crap.
I remember doing no contact with my bf. When we got into this really nasty fight. And I decided enough is enough. Before that I always used to beg and cry. I didn't know this is actually a method to get him back. I simply did because it felt the right thing. I didn't speak to him gor 13 days straight. And then he came back to me as a completely new version who values me more than anything. I suggest every woman out there to try this.
I just went through this exact same situation. Everything you said is absolutely right. We had no contact for 30 days and he called me first... we still love each other and we needed a break to really piece things together to see if we were right for each other. He got cold feet... but realized he didn’t want anything else but to be with me. I feel it’s made us both stronger, even if it was for 30 days. Thank you for this video girl! You’re absolutely awesome! #following
You’re fucking awesome dude. I find it really hard to go NC because I like to fix things/can’t handle cold shoulder. But you’ve really helped me gather the strength up. Cheers for that.
You should do no contact while being ready to not getting back together, it's about moving on first and getting back your self worth and lost dignity. If they come back you can take them and if they dont you move on.
This is one of the best videos I have watched . It’s good to know someone has a similar experience, can empathize , and also give support while remaining funny. Thank u!
Ive met this guy and I thought he was everything I could ever wanted. He's smart, charming, polite, kind. But it was all in my head. I broke his heart by lying about my past. I was lying because I was ashamed and afraid. One mistake, and it's over. I apologized but it wasn't enough. If he was the man that I thought he was, he might wanna give it a try for me. But he wasn't kind enough to fully love me. Fun fact he said: "I fell out of love from you. We can be friends or nothing" Turns out, he has a huge ego. He said if I move on, he will hurt just a bit. Like I was meaningless for him. Its been 5 days. I can't eat, can't sleep. I cried in the middle of the night. After I watched this video, I realized, it wasn't about him. It's about me. And how I handle the situation. By thinking that he has no control over my life, and my heart. If it meant to be, it will be. If he's the one, we will meet again in the future. I treated him with kindness from the first time I met him until now. And if he can't love me or appreciate me, it's his loss. Thank you Edi, for helping me :)
Aulia Santika Don’t ever lie if uncomfortable about the question politely say I’m not ready to talk about it or say my past is my past I learned and look towards the future Don’t be afraid or ashamed or just admit that you’ve made a mistake
NC really works. I used to contact him and tell him that I miss him. when I stopped, only a few days and he texted. Girls try NOT to check his stories or anything.
That’s the point. You don’t want the same relationship as you did because you guys broke up for a reason, nc rule is a chance for you to better yourself as a person and it will give your ex time to miss you. it won’t be the same because you become a better person during nc
THANK YOU, I wanted to scream the whole time because of how wrong this information is. If you ignore your ex when they are reaching out within these 30 days, they will move on and forget about you!
@@janalimanisha5872 I agree. I'm so freaking confused on what to do but because of the person he is, i feel he really needs to feel what it feels like if I moved on.
First of all : THANK YOU. This is the best thing I've heard lately and I've been going through a very tough time. I can't tell you how good it feels to hear that someone actually went through the same things as you, and is offering solutions. You are very cute and all through the video I felt like i was being advised by an elder sister. Thanks a lot. Many blessings and a big hug.
Boy, you're so beautiful! Such a pleasant voice you've got and good acting skills Who'd ever think of breaking up with you? Best of luck with your career endeavours!!!
I just got out of a 11 year relationship and she put a no contact rule on me. I didn’t know such rule exist, and the fact that it’s been 11 years I was in denial so inside of me feels like a ranging angry storm lashing out. So I kept on texting her bugging her to a appoint that she blocked me and my best friend on all social media platforms. So there goes that relationship, 11 years out the window. But I decided I’m picking up whatever dignity I have left and walk away and rebuild myself for myself...
Thats a long time to be together, I bet she will come back if you leave her alone. She will start out with a Hi text...or remind you of something that you guys did. Dont respond. It will drive her nuts
Maybe ... If you didn't spam her and bug her she would of came back to you. Or maybe you deserved to get dumped because by your own comment you appear to be needy
Winter Tarzan Jagrup of course I was needy, I have never experienced a break up before I didn’t know how to react, I wasn’t ready for it. While on the other hand she was and she was also prepared. It’s like she turned in her 2 weeks notice knowing she had another job waiting. While I walked in and got fired. But in the end I only felt bad because I know what I was lacking and I wanted a second chance to make it up and do those things that I was lacking. But as soon as I realized it is what is and that I needed to forgive myself and accept that I can no longer do the things I wish I should’ve. It got easier each day.
We are on the same boat my dear... He also broke up with me and set me free like a cat thrown to the other side of the river. It hurts a lot. I actually wanted to kick him in the face. Women, we are specially created by God so do not allow anyone especially a man who will ruin your life.... God will provide the man anointed by Him and that guy will not make you feel shit instead, he will help you to get closer to God and live your life to the fullest. God is good...
This is how delusional you are i mean you think God is going to send you a anointed man so you can fornicate with him i mean what you think God is a dating coach either you don't understand scripture or you don't understand God or both. However I do concede that every one has that partner you will MARRY without fornication.
@@garywhiteman8837 gary whiteman Sir. You have misunderstood what I said. What I mean is, no one has the right to hurt someone be it man or woman. Especially women. Every person has their partner shaped by God. It is you who doesn't understand the scriptures. Besides, sex was not even part in my statement. What you are saying is a pretext. Out of context sir. What I am referring to is a man you will get married with. God will provide women a good man and we just have to wait and continue working on the purpose set by God. If not, better yet be single because marriage actually is not the thing that can determine the purpose of a person in this world. It's God. That is why, if God's plan for a woman is to get married, God will lead her daughter to the person whom he had anointed. And you are wrong when you said God is not a love coach. He is everything sir and if you have a problem with a man or a woman, you ask God's help because He is our CREATOR. HE KNOWS US. Please READ CAREFULLY SOMEONE'S MESSAGE BEFORE RUSHING INTO A REPLY THAT IS OUT OF THE CONTEXT. Have a good day and God bless.
The no contact rule is useful to keep you strong and focus on a life without their influence and to get stronger as yourself and your energy. To see the true person from a perspective of a untouchable
He may not even notice your gone. Until the sink is piled up with dishes and the trash is overflowing he may just be having a great time on call of duty or something. Does he have his pocket pussy? If so,you probably don't have to think he's out finding a piece of ass. Let him have his great alone time,it's the best thing a guy can ask for I think.
Communicate first. If they are not bluffing and actually want a break up for real.... let them come to you. I would only do NC if my partner hurt me. Silent treatment can be emotionally abusive and immature. Use NC when appropriate.
I’m going to try this. I hope that it works! We’ve broken up two days ago and I’ve been begging him to get back with me and I’ve made myself look like a bum. Thanks for the great video
Victoriya, the same thing just happened with me.. shes been gone totally cold now. I tried very hard and everything to get her back even proposed to her but she said that she cant marry me cz her family has chosen someone for her.. i mean wtf and why the hell she wass coming over to my place and sleeping over just to end up like this. Its just like making urself available every time and caring too much has gone wrong. One of my friend suggested to delete her number so that i dnt see her online and not talking to me would hurt more. So I deleted her number.. totally lost..
@Iffy yeah I will be fine. Time is a perfect healer but u know time is time and it will complete its course and meanwhile this agony is killing.. You are absolutely right, i mean they move freely and not even fight to stay, marrying is far. U know to take someone to that level where u prepare yourself that this is it and this is the person u'r gonna spend the rest of ur life with and all of a sudden this happens out of no where. Pushing slowly and slowly without any genuine reason.. shes spending time with her friends and till late night but when it comes to me, she cant be late from home.. i really dnt know if shes seeing someone but sometime it makes me think like that she is.. :(
Iffy its been 3 days now since nc.. i have not posted anything on social media cz i have deleted her number but she can still see my posts on whatsapp.. so m better keeping it this way.. staying home alone kills u more cz u just cant stop thinking about the shit.. but y u broke it.. keep it like that cz leaving silently is a better way off. Thats wht m trying..
@Iffy Guess what, she contacted herself and for a work. she didnt asked where were u or y didnt contacted. I was a fool to help her, skipped my work to help her and at the end of the day she was with her friend and she was discussing like she wants a new beginning like a new job and a new relationship with someone else.. I even asked her i can talk to her parents if she wants and she just changed the topic. Shes only looking for herself only. WTF.
Haris Shabbir oh no! It sounds like it was working and then she kinda tricked you into contacting her. I think the fact she even tried to do that shows she’s still very interested. Don’t drop everything for her! Work the no contact and plz WORK ON YOURSELFFFFF
"'You can't open the fridge without there being dick flying out" This is the first time I laugh after my break up last week, and that is gold. Thank you so much for that
From my experience women tend to fall in love with the image of a man and not for the man himself. And this is why "relationships" fall apart. But hey,you can never love someone if you don't love yourself in the first place. As for the NO CONTACT rule. If a woman breaks up with you and then she feels she wants to talk to you again and short things out she should do it only when she realizes how bad she had fucked up. We men tend to listen and respect that when we also had feelings for you in the past. And hey,what is the worst/best case scenario ? Win it all or keep on from where you left it. So go ahead and do what you gotta do.
My boyfriend and I just broke up like hours ago and I had a mental breakdown trying to beg him back and this gave me so much strength! IM NOT THE ONLY ONE! I want to do the NC more so for myself than getting back together. Thank you!!!!!
Watching her videos is very comforting... It’s my 1st day of no contact, i decided last night i was done being the one to always fix things. It’s very hard and it’s only my first day
@@jazmir8138 He ended up reaching back out to me and begged for me back- we got back together for 3 months but it was toxic and i broke up with him a year ago- am now happily dating someone new who treats me so much better !
I just got broken up with about 2 & 1/2 weeks ago and it’s been a week and a half of no contact and it’s so so hard. But I think it’s so important to continue no contact because it either lets you know if you’re meant to be together or if you’re both better off apart. Either way this will help you grow as a person which is so important.
Same here.. started week ago. But I was a fool that I called him yesterday. But he ignored me. He said dont bother me. That was killed me. I will never call him again
So sorry guys! I forgot to respond! We have been back together since May 2020. We only ended up being apart for about 3 month. Our relationship now is better than it ever has been! (And when we were broken up I did use the no contact rule) it worked!!!
I thought the point of no contact was for you to rediscover yourself. Yes, if they contact you, depending on how much you have grown from this experience, you can reply back. But if you reply back only after 1 week of being apart, you have to wonder did anything really change? Will getting back together get any new outcomes if you guys haven't been apart to grow and learn. No contact is not a way to game the other into wanting you back. Its a way for you to move on so if they do come back, you are a better version of yourself, so you don't make the same mistakes. But in doing this, you are preparing to move on and if they contact you, its only a bonus. The point of this journey is to find yourself again. When you have been in a long relationship, you lose a sense of self in the relationship. The once charming, outgoing person you once were has become more domesticated into a relationship. Take this time to find the person that first attracted your ex but also grow from that. Doing no contact in hopes for them to just contact you means you made no gain. If they see nothing has changed with you, that only solidifies that your ex was right about the break-up. In the end, move on. You will find that person that appreciates you. If that ends up being your ex again, then go for it. But only once you have grown and matured from this experience.
The caveat is it all depends on what their level of attraction is for you. If it is high they will call you. If its low they will never call you again.
I'm sorry but it just not true, I been no contact for 3 months, but I'm still stuck with her, I'm just doomed...2 weeks ago I was in a sort of a crisis and she called, I did not answer, it seems she has a telepathic connection to me...I know it sounds crazy but I believe that is what is happening
Ohhh my god! U are so insanely GORGEOUS!! Girl!! I needed this. I am going thru the SAME exact thing!!!!!! girl i am insanely depressed. Thank GOD FOR YOUR CHANNEL!!
Love this! Going thru this right now and I’m going on week 2. At this point don’t even care if we’re back or not. Think I’m working on making myself better and focusing back ON ME and not on him! ❤️
Thankyou so much for being honest ..I felt so ugly during my breakup! And when I see you it gives me life because you’re so pretty. You helped me so much
My experience was after 30 days I didn’t even feel like contacting them and then months past and still no text from them , and it’s been a whole year now , and I haven’t heard from them yet
I stumbled upon this video and today is the 2nd day since our break up haha. I will try the No Contact rule and I hope that it will work the same way as yours. Wish me luck! 😭
@@ohhimsapper1321 it worked! It only lasted for 20 days until he said that he can't imagine/stand seeing me happy with another guy lol. By the time he said that I was kinda being flirty with another guy so my ex bf said that he wants to come back but he will give way since I am already happy with someone else lol HAHHAAHA
I broke up with my ex boyfriend over three years ago now. I started dating someone new and I even moved countries to be with my current boyfriend. And to this day my ex still tries to play a power game with me. Just two days ago he messaged me after breaking up with rebound gf no 3. Every few months he gets back in contact with me just to see if I am still in love with him or if I still have feelings for him. He has no intention of actually being in a relationship with me or putting any kind of effort into keeping it. Because every other time in the past that I would allow him back in he would disappear again within a few days. He has a pattern where if he has a certain amount of time go by that no other women are giving him any attention, or he hasn't gotten a new girlfriend, he will message me just to see if I respond. The only reason he messages me is to get an ego boost. He wants to know that he still has access to me, to know that he can still have me if he wishes. It's pretty pathetic when you think about it. The fact is I treated him so well in our relationship but he did nothing but disrespect me and treat me like garbage. So I ended it with him. It has taken me many years to realize how toxic our relationship actually was. He viewed me like a trophy girlfriend and he would take me around to show me off, but deep down inside he was still a child that didn't know how to be in a relationship. He was incredibly shallow and would constantly talk about me behind my back. He is toxic and should be avoided at all costs. So right now he probably expects me to message him within the next few days, but he's going to be very surprised when he realizes I'm never messaging him again. I'm in a really happy place now and I have taken back all the power that he took from me for all those years. Exes should remain exes for a reason, you can't be friends with them and you can't get back together with them. If they never put in the effort in the first place then they were never serious about you. Take back your power and move on ladies and gents. I always believed I would never find another person that would love me. But I decided to work on myself in many ways, and within two years I found the love of my life and we are planning on getting married very soon. Don't listen to your inner monologue it is always wrong there is always someone else out there for you, many potential soulmates. Keep your head up high. And show them your true worth!
6:50 pretty much sums up all women, all the time. Lmfao. Guys actually have the harder time during breakups bc women can find another guy every 5 minutes. Lol
They won't want a new better dude when they are already attached to someone tho girl brains just work differently. That is why you always see ugly guys with pretty girls, work on your charisma man. We are so much more superficial than them. Men cheat whenever an opportunity arises. Girls cheat when their bf is a p*ssy
Im in no contact 2 days, while during corona, which she initiated. It was hard the first half day, but because I have never met a person who didn't do no contact. After the video's it makes me learn to get back my power fully. And I am prepared to go through this, because it makes no sense for me to give the last weeks a lot of love, but that person isn't even reflecting that back anymore.
Today .. He done with me ...😭 bcz of doubts .. Nd i miss him badly .. 1st day of no contact ... I dont know he come back or not ... He says that if u comfortable with another guy then i left u .. Nd says .. Take care from negtive guys i m always avaliable for you if u want any hlp just tell me .. Nd he says bye ... I begging continously 2 days .. 😭 he not trust me ..
@@reetgrewal6411 I can only say that you should stop messaging him, contacting him and stop begging him. Im in the same situation as you. And 2 days ago I was really going and experiencing strong feelings and before that as well, since the person who I love is leaving me in a state of "not knowing". So Im in a state just right before breakup but it feels like this is breaking up since she really is in no contact with me with some of her words saying: "I don't know" or "I don't think my feeling may change" that she has over me currently. So I know that I am a really beautiful person inside and outside, and part of being that beautiful person from the inside is that I did my best. So now I comply with the no contact that she started. And am almost through my 2nd day. And I think you should do the same Komal! I think you are a great person if you have such words as you do. So TAKE your strength back, by not contacting him for 30 days or maybe longer! But what happens is that this person will start to think about what he did and if that was the right choice. And at the same time you become a stronger person because you reflect on things and come out even better than you already are. And for this to help you in the 30 days, I recommend looking to all the video's of this girl, and also from this man called Coach Lee! th-cam.com/channels/0sJKdOLV0jBYqA6jqAtkTg.html He has the same answers as Edi Gibson meaning that this is the way to go. but he has many video's of it and it can give you a lot of strength in why you should do this with the no contact. It's the only way now to give yourself power and take your power and in a way your dignity back. It's the only way for the other to realize what he is losing. Again. Im in the same boat as you. I am a a strong person myself from the inside, but I had great difficulty nontheless. But so again, listen to the videos of Coach lee and Edi Gibson, maybe even on a daily basis, so that you know and believe why you're doing this. You can only grow out stronger from this and maybe even win him back. And even if that is not the case, you did become stronger, maybe even miss him way less after that, and made him realize atleast that you do have dignity and that you are more valuable than he thought. So only win win! So Komal. From time to time let me know how it goes! I will also give update :D Almost day 2 done!
After 24 days of no contact I called him to meet up and he was all happy when we met, but he still refuses to initiate any contact and effort with me. So, moral of the story is to not contact them. Trust me you’re better off on your own.
Cyclical Fights over nothing? Sounds like narcissism. These dignity-less jerks will come back regardless. I’ve dated many and they even seem to have a full moon monthly cycle! Just mark it in your calendar everytime he starts a fight with you (and watch how many other girls he suddenly has come into his life as ‘friends’). When the narc fights with you, it’s because they’ve ALREADY found someone else. No contact just makes them think they’re losing you as a source of supply (whatever you’re providing). No contact does also work on normal, safe, guys! But by the time 30 days comes around, you might have moved on (even if just in your mind) already.
Worked for me! Twice, with the same person. This is the third time we’re breaking up in the span of 2 years and deep down I know that this is obviously not supposed and not going to work, not once more. But still, I hope he’s not letting me go for good.. maybe with time I’ll truly understand that I’m better than these ups and downs and just free myself from this recurrent grief.
V R the guy I talked about found a new girlfriend after 2 months, ‘apologised’ to me, and is now treating her way better than he treated me and posting her all over social medias. Guess I was just a free trial lol I’m really hurt to be honest, it sucks to be someone’s ‘teacher’ and then seeing them make progresses with someone else, since you REALLY deserved those results. But all of this crap is morphing me into someone with strong boundaries, more self esteem, and a lot of experience. I’ll never let myself end up with a person with no respect. I know it will take a lot of time to get over this events, but I also know I’ll be fine. And so are you guys!
okay so here’s my story ; My ex and I broke up April 10, and we stayed in contact and even hung out like friends after breaking up. I broke up with him but only because he was treating me like shit and I wasn’t receiving the same energy , we had a lot of problems and he didn’t care to fix them and stated that he was tired of me so I called it off. It was hard because I gave him everything and I did all I could to save our relationship, so yeah it was hard to just treat him as a friend. A few days after we broke up , I begged him to get back because he stated that he had been treating me like shit bc of family problems but when we were together I tried to be there for him but he’d shut me off . That same day I begged for him to come back , later at night I found out that he had already started talking to someone else and it really hurt. He asked a few days later if we could hang and I told him that if he was talking about to someone else then no , but he promised he wasn’t talking to her so we hung out and he kissed me and I fell for it thinking he wanted to get back. The girl he was talking to found out so they’re not talking anymore .. so now this past weekend he texted me saying he misses me but he stated that he didn’t want a relationship for now which is really fucking confusing. I feel like he was just using me as a back up plan after we broke up because he knew that if shit didn’t work out with her id still be down for him but I’ve decided to completely cut him off . His last text was Monday morning and I haven’t even opened it. He sits next to me in class but I ignore him , I don’t even look at him . It is really hard seeing him around because he seems so happy without me. I’m still hurting over our breakup but I’m not gonna be kissing ass anymore Long story short , I hope this works . And if it doesn’t , it’s okay because I’ll grow as a person too. Edit ; he texted me on snap like 2 hours ago but I haven’t opened it ! Should I open it? Should I reply ? Should I just leave him on read? Edit ; I haven’t opened his snap since that day ^ and he just texted my # right now asking me if his mom has texted me. His mom and I still keep in touch here and there , we had a really close relationship but we haven’t talked in a few days. I know my ex , and he thinks by asking about his mom I’ll reply.. he texted me that to start a conversation but I am not gonna reply until it’s a text that I know I should reply to . Sooo yeah this no contact rule keeps getting easier , and so far I think it’s working.
It's been over a year and 6 months..in the beginning I tried everything I could to contact my ex and nothing..then in June for his birthday I tried one last time to contact him and tried getting my cousin to give him my number because they work in the same company.but he didn't want it.so now I'm just like oh well, God removed him from my life for a reason
Although you’re focusing on yourself and doing well...If both parties are following the no contact rule, expecting for the other one to eventually reach out first and it never happens...🤷🏾♂️
Beware: so many get blocked from all platforms doing this before they even reach 10th day ,there is no way to contact again even if you want to , you have to weight the ups and downs before engage such no contact adventure , there is exceptions to this rule , if you cheat for example better go back and beg and ask for forgiveness if you still have heart
If she left you once for another guy, it was her fault. If she did it twice, it's yours... now a third time... brother you need to work on your self esteem and confidence.
Day 1 of no contact for me!🤦🏾♀️😢He's broke up with me several times, it hurts so bad. I always get right back together. However, I've decided to do the No Contact Rule. My biggest thing is learning to live without the Man who encouraged me to stop drinking and gambling. 😢😢😢
You are so adorable. I loved it when you said, "I am not a man anymore! HA! HA!" I hope your fella married you, if not, move on. You are so young and pretty, you will be a great catch for any lucky fella.
I broke up with my ex after 3 years of being together. I thought she was it. I was madly in love with her, but noticed she went cold the last two months. I would ask what was going on and she would tell me everything is fine. I caved and saw her phone (something I never do) and came to realize that she was hinting to her friend of breaking up but couldn’t pull through with it. Confronted her and she confessed she doubted the relationship. She no longer saw me long term. I was so disappointed and pissed off because she was just leading me onto something that she didn’t believe in. The fact that she couldn’t just be honest with me. I thought we were a team. Those last two months were hard because I thought I was doing something wrong so I gave 110% to just end up with the same results. It’s been 7 months now. Still haven’t gone out on one date. Haven’t had sex, although the craving does come on every now and then. I just want and miss that connection. I’m not the guy to go and fuck around with just anyone. *sigh* anyways, I tried on two occasions to reach out to her (two weeks after the breakup and on her bday). She never replied once. Guess it was a good thing. I’m sure everything works out in the end. Really wished things worked out.
l8er move on . Work on urself . If someone walks out of ur life , let them . Keep ur head up . Go no contact . Not for 30 days not for 60 not for 90 . No contact is for u to heal Ann think with a clear head . The best way to get someone”s attention is to remove urs . Keep ur head u .
Walter Estrada thank you. Move on and move forward is what i have been doing. For all I know dream girl is around the corner. Thanks for the positivity brother. Appreciate it
My experience of no contact - after 30 days passed, he unfriend me from fb, then i call him, didn't recv my call.. Do Break up by a message 😁😁😁.. Life is totally fun😂😂
I did the no contact 21 days he came back but it didnt change because he was with another girl so now it's like I'm still waiting because im not letting the no contact play out longer dont give anyone their cake and ice cream it's you or them
Shanell TH I find that when someone is with someone else.. as soon as there is problems they try to come back. I think it’s important to work on your own growth and not come back til you are clear headed
After receiving countless rejections to see him, I broke up with him. I think that's what he wanted all along, me to break up so he didn't have to. But I miss him and I want to see him, I'm almost two weeks into this but I keep arguing with myself that I broke up with him so I should reach out idk. I feel like my rejection was way bigger.
If you have to literally "beg" someone to be with you, why do you want to be with them in the first place? You're worth so much more than that. You're focused on the wrong thing, what you should focus on is moving on to somebody you won't have to beg with and ignore to be with!!
K. B. Saying why she was begging?you don’t have any idea what’s going on in that particular couple , maybe she cheat and need to ask for forgiveness, worst you’re saying she worth more than all that and she’s doesn’t need to beg who she may have cheated on . Don’t just give advices on here to make people feel better about themselves without knowing the contexts
It’s day 5 I have to watch this video everyday. I wanna contact him so bad but I’m focusing on myself. I said I wanted space and he just broke up with me. I miss him
The best way to move over a break up, is to turn to God and pursue Him whole heartedly. It helped me alot after breaking up with a toxic guy. He loved and respected me, initially. But like you said, he took my kindness for granted. The best person to pursue and love is God Himself. He will provide you with the right Godly partner with whom you don't have to play all these manipulative games.
Is it bad if I’m watching these videos constantly throughout no contact, because I am imagining that after it we will get back together instead of not hoping we will get back together again and move on? On day 11 of no contact, today is his birthday :/
This video made me cry, I'm not lying, She's talking to someone rn, and I just started Tuesday "June 4" of no contact rn, and I'm still gonna give her gifts on the day that i didnt give to her on our Anniversary cause I still want her to have them ever since the breakup, and I still want to be with her cause I really love her and we dated for a year, and I'm still doing me and I wanna talk to her and be honest with her cause we both made mistakes, but she made the worst one, and I'm a noble person who forgives and moves on and be together, So I hoep we do come back together cause if we don't than... I'll be there for her birthday, even if she is with someone else or not, cause every guy is different so yeah!!
Ashley Brown no contact is no contact forever. It has to be THEIR idea to contact you. It may take 2-9 months or maybe years! It depends on their interest level. If their interest level is below 5, then you will NEVER hear from them again.
Ashley Brown lol yeah like I said it has to be THEIR idea to contact you not the other way around so I was right. P.S it doesn’t matter if you ask me or not!! There is a thing called COMPASSION FOR STRANGERS I’m pretty sure you have no idea what that is so my advice is LEARN COMPASSION 🤦♀️🤦♀️ rather being a bitch about it
Your such an uplifting person to watch and listen to you to time today this is the 2nd time now bring the night I’ve check your videos out I love how you was like no am in charge - cuz my partner loves to be in charge 🕳 It’s all about being independent the move on point of a so so so hard it’s about staying busy - I wonted this video to go on for more longer am off to watch more ;)
After first day of no contact. She text me...hmmm she said she probably dont want to hear from me but I wanted to see how you were doing 🙄 update now she calling about her garage door opener...weeks later
3rd day without contact. Now that I’m writing this it sounds so pathetic but actually I’m proud of myself. When you talk and spend your time with someone everyday for 2 and a half years 3 days without a single word from them is hard.. But I am getting better at it!:)
I am also doing no contact.. it was a long distance "relationship" and escalated pretty quickly. (it was partially my fault) but as I am really bad with not checking out his SM or texting if he's ok, I gave my phone to my friend and she won't return it to me for 30days. I also made a list with 30 things I wanna do in 30 days. It feels great. I hope when I have my phone back, it won't matter whether he contacted me or not... :) I will just be a better person!
The point of no contact rule is for you to rediscover yourself again, to see yourself living without the person you were in a relationship with. It is strength without measure, when done properly. Regardless if you get them back or not, it is for YOU.
Exactly,,well said🌅❤😘
That's very true
Anthony Mercado not true. They can’t stand silence and it eats at them.
@Anthony Mercadothis is especially true if the ex suffers from anxiety.
500th like! yessss
2nd day of no contact wish me luck lol
okur it’s been 5 kinda hard
haven’t texted at all
but having a hard time finding ways to stalk social media
i should stop im trying tho
It's .my 3rd day lol
1st day for me
2nd day lol it’s hard af
It’s day 1 for me. We broke up this morning. It’s been a miserable day. He has not texted me yet and I’ve been hurting all day. I keep watching TH-cam videos to help lol.
It’ll be hard, but each time you cry by yourself you’re a step closer to finding yourself again. And when you’re whole again it’s what made that person attracted to you in the first place! Sometimes we lose ourselves in the relationship because we’re so giving that we forget to take some time in taking care of ourselves and our partners have gotten so comfortable with us that sometimes they forget how special we really are!
Here too... It hurts so bad but I'm doing this 4me... Day 1 NC..
Update
day 1 for me too!
Did you get back to him? It’s been a month.. 😅
Id rather miss him n suffer quietly than lose my dignity by reaching out
Hello the happiness of a man is love... There is a great and expertee in relationship issues... Hes name is baba oz tuda... He helped me get my ex back recently...
An crying an begging while your emotions are running high, might as well let your emotions take a break to ca down till it can see things clearly you might even realise danm I’m not all that into him I can’t believe I ever cried over it
Yea don't reach out, I did after a solid 2 weeks and now have to start again and he responded but he was horrible and it worse than before. So yea, starting again and not sure if I even want him back because he made me feel crap.
@@thelovely961 how is it now? Did y’all get back together? I felt your pain when you said that. Hope all is better for you sweetheart ❤️
I remember doing no contact with my bf. When we got into this really nasty fight. And I decided enough is enough. Before that I always used to beg and cry. I didn't know this is actually a method to get him back. I simply did because it felt the right thing. I didn't speak to him gor 13 days straight. And then he came back to me as a completely new version who values me more than anything. I suggest every woman out there to try this.
I just went through this exact same situation. Everything you said is absolutely right. We had no contact for 30 days and he called me first... we still love each other and we needed a break to really piece things together to see if we were right for each other. He got cold feet... but realized he didn’t want anything else but to be with me. I feel it’s made us both stronger, even if it was for 30 days.
Thank you for this video girl! You’re absolutely awesome! #following
Rosa Sanchez how long did it take for him to start reaching out? Exactly 30 days?
thats awesome Rosa. I'm going on day 2 and its freakin rough...
You’re so lucky 🍀
Calvin Do hows it going now?
update now ??? really need motivation.. i only see a few comments here and there of ex’s getting back together
You’re fucking awesome dude. I find it really hard to go NC because I like to fix things/can’t handle cold shoulder. But you’ve really helped me gather the strength up. Cheers for that.
Keep your head up Raz.
No contact helps you focus on finding love within you instead of depending on someone else to make you feel it what already exists inside your heart.
Well, I didn't contact for 30 days, 60 days, 90 days.... He also never contacted me. So No contact rule sometimes does NOT work.
You should do no contact while being ready to not getting back together, it's about moving on first and getting back your self worth and lost dignity. If they come back you can take them and if they dont you move on.
And it's fantastic when it doesn't work. Moving on is moving on.
True haha
😀😃😄iam in no contact 150 days
@@srinivasbengalurumysuru You win!
I did the 30 days of no contact and my ex came to my house uinvited lol.
AND I OOP
lol 😂
Girl I’m on day 5 and he’s already blew me up and beating on the door 🚪 like a crazy man. SMH 🤦🏽♀️
You are supposed to.go no contact ever again. They wont actually contact you until betweeb day 45-60
That dick 😂😂😂😂😅
This is one of the best videos I have watched . It’s good to know someone has a similar experience, can empathize , and also give support while remaining funny. Thank u!
Ive met this guy and I thought he was everything I could ever wanted. He's smart, charming, polite, kind. But it was all in my head. I broke his heart by lying about my past. I was lying because I was ashamed and afraid. One mistake, and it's over. I apologized but it wasn't enough. If he was the man that I thought he was, he might wanna give it a try for me. But he wasn't kind enough to fully love me. Fun fact he said: "I fell out of love from you. We can be friends or nothing" Turns out, he has a huge ego. He said if I move on, he will hurt just a bit. Like I was meaningless for him. Its been 5 days. I can't eat, can't sleep. I cried in the middle of the night. After I watched this video, I realized, it wasn't about him. It's about me. And how I handle the situation. By thinking that he has no control over my life, and my heart. If it meant to be, it will be. If he's the one, we will meet again in the future. I treated him with kindness from the first time I met him until now. And if he can't love me or appreciate me, it's his loss. Thank you Edi, for helping me :)
Aulia Santika thanks for watching! Glad you figured out your situation
What didn't you tell him about your past you have to understand for a guy your past plays a big role in your future.
We have the same thing. I also lied to him but he dont trust me right now.
Aulia Santika Don’t ever lie if uncomfortable about the question politely say I’m not ready to talk about it or say my past is my past I learned and look towards the future
Don’t be afraid or ashamed or just admit that you’ve made a mistake
NC really works. I used to contact him and tell him that I miss him. when I stopped, only a few days and he texted. Girls try NOT to check his stories or anything.
You're the best no contact coach n that is because you say exactly what to do if they contact you without exactly saying they want you back.
The thing is that when you actually get back together, things will never be as it used to.
That’s the point. You don’t want the same relationship as you did because you guys broke up for a reason, nc rule is a chance for you to better yourself as a person and it will give your ex time to miss you. it won’t be the same because you become a better person during nc
It may be better. It depends on how you feel and think about your new relationship
No contact is not for 30 days . U are wrong. No contact is forever . As long as it takes for them to contact u
THANK YOU, I wanted to scream the whole time because of how wrong this information is. If you ignore your ex when they are reaching out within these 30 days, they will move on and forget about you!
Not true, they need to know what it feels like to actually lose you
They say 30 days because it is said that it takes 30 days to make a habit out of something
What I do know is If he really loves you, He will definitely come back.
Love is a drug. You cant live without it even a single day
@@janalimanisha5872 I agree. I'm so freaking confused on what to do but because of the person he is, i feel he really needs to feel what it feels like if I moved on.
First of all : THANK YOU. This is the best thing I've heard lately and I've been going through a very tough time. I can't tell you how good it feels to hear that someone actually went through the same things as you, and is offering solutions. You are very cute and all through the video I felt like i was being advised by an elder sister. Thanks a lot. Many blessings and a big hug.
Boy, you're so beautiful! Such a pleasant voice you've got and good acting skills
Who'd ever think of breaking up with you?
Best of luck with your career endeavours!!!
I just got out of a 11 year relationship and she put a no contact rule on me. I didn’t know such rule exist, and the fact that it’s been 11 years I was in denial so inside of me feels like a ranging angry storm lashing out. So I kept on texting her bugging her to a appoint that she blocked me and my best friend on all social media platforms. So there goes that relationship, 11 years out the window. But I decided I’m picking up whatever dignity I have left and walk away and rebuild myself for myself...
Thats a long time to be together, I bet she will come back if you leave her alone. She will start out with a Hi text...or remind you of something that you guys did. Dont respond. It will drive her nuts
Maybe ... If you didn't spam her and bug her she would of came back to you. Or maybe you deserved to get dumped because by your own comment you appear to be needy
Winter Tarzan Jagrup
of course I was needy, I have never experienced a break up before I didn’t know how to react, I wasn’t ready for it. While on the other hand she was and she was also prepared. It’s like she turned in her 2 weeks notice knowing she had another job waiting. While I walked in and got fired.
But in the end I only felt bad because I know what I was lacking and I wanted a second chance to make it up and do those things that I was lacking. But as soon as I realized it is what is and that I needed to forgive myself and accept that I can no longer do the things I wish I should’ve. It got easier each day.
Edi Gibson you still together
Vic Cataag she dumped u or u did ?
We are on the same boat my dear... He also broke up with me and set me free like a cat thrown to the other side of the river. It hurts a lot. I actually wanted to kick him in the face. Women, we are specially created by God so do not allow anyone especially a man who will ruin your life.... God will provide the man anointed by Him and that guy will not make you feel shit instead, he will help you to get closer to God and live your life to the fullest. God is good...
This is how delusional you are i mean you think God is going to send you a anointed man so you can fornicate with him i mean what you think God is a dating coach either you don't understand scripture or you don't understand God or both. However I do concede that every one has that partner you will MARRY without fornication.
@@garywhiteman8837 gary whiteman Sir. You have misunderstood what I said. What I mean is, no one has the right to hurt someone be it man or woman. Especially women. Every person has their partner shaped by God. It is you who doesn't understand the scriptures. Besides, sex was not even part in my statement. What you are saying is a pretext. Out of context sir. What I am referring to is a man you will get married with. God will provide women a good man and we just have to wait and continue working on the purpose set by God. If not, better yet be single because marriage actually is not the thing that can determine the purpose of a person in this world. It's God. That is why, if God's plan for a woman is to get married, God will lead her daughter to the person whom he had anointed. And you are wrong when you said God is not a love coach. He is everything sir and if you have a problem with a man or a woman, you ask God's help because He is our CREATOR. HE KNOWS US. Please READ CAREFULLY SOMEONE'S MESSAGE BEFORE RUSHING INTO A REPLY THAT IS OUT OF THE CONTEXT. Have a good day and God bless.
Rea... not all man..... women play games too....
@@rheamaecartin7368 agree
I think you should be looking to marry god. Men seem to be your problem. Be a nun.
The no contact rule is useful to keep you strong and focus on a life without their influence and to get stronger as yourself and your energy. To see the true person from a perspective of a untouchable
Yeah but I feel kinda bad for doing so, I worry about his worries when I disappear!
He may not even notice your gone. Until the sink is piled up with dishes and the trash is overflowing he may just be having a great time on call of duty or something. Does he have his pocket pussy? If so,you probably don't have to think he's out finding a piece of ass. Let him have his great alone time,it's the best thing a guy can ask for I think.
Communicate first. If they are not bluffing and actually want a break up for real.... let them come to you. I would only do NC if my partner hurt me. Silent treatment can be emotionally abusive and immature. Use NC when appropriate.
I’m going to try this.
I hope that it works! We’ve broken up two days ago and I’ve been begging him to get back with me and I’ve made myself look like a bum. Thanks for the great video
Victoriya, the same thing just happened with me.. shes been gone totally cold now. I tried very hard and everything to get her back even proposed to her but she said that she cant marry me cz her family has chosen someone for her.. i mean wtf and why the hell she wass coming over to my place and sleeping over just to end up like this. Its just like making urself available every time and caring too much has gone wrong. One of my friend suggested to delete her number so that i dnt see her online and not talking to me would hurt more. So I deleted her number.. totally lost..
@Iffy yeah I will be fine. Time is a perfect healer but u know time is time and it will complete its course and meanwhile this agony is killing.. You are absolutely right, i mean they move freely and not even fight to stay, marrying is far. U know to take someone to that level where u prepare yourself that this is it and this is the person u'r gonna spend the rest of ur life with and all of a sudden this happens out of no where. Pushing slowly and slowly without any genuine reason.. shes spending time with her friends and till late night but when it comes to me, she cant be late from home.. i really dnt know if shes seeing someone but sometime it makes me think like that she is.. :(
Iffy its been 3 days now since nc.. i have not posted anything on social media cz i have deleted her number but she can still see my posts on whatsapp.. so m better keeping it this way.. staying home alone kills u more cz u just cant stop thinking about the shit..
but y u broke it.. keep it like that cz leaving silently is a better way off. Thats wht m trying..
@Iffy Guess what, she contacted herself and for a work. she didnt asked where were u or y didnt contacted. I was a fool to help her, skipped my work to help her and at the end of the day she was with her friend and she was discussing like she wants a new beginning like a new job and a new relationship with someone else.. I even asked her i can talk to her parents if she wants and she just changed the topic. Shes only looking for herself only. WTF.
Haris Shabbir oh no! It sounds like it was working and then she kinda tricked you into contacting her. I think the fact she even tried to do that shows she’s still very interested. Don’t drop everything for her! Work the no contact and plz WORK ON YOURSELFFFFF
Wow you're a sweetheart with a sense of humor it's no wonder he wants to get back.with you!
"'You can't open the fridge without there being dick flying out" This is the first time I laugh after my break up last week, and that is gold. Thank you so much for that
made me laugh alot too. such comedy for this bleak moment.
I need that fridge
Why is this so heartfelt? You sound like you really loved him
I need people like you in my life , you just make everything so positive 😭🖤 my new favorite youtuber!
Kenzie Rose wow thank you!
From my experience women tend to fall in love with the image of a man and not for the man himself. And this is why "relationships" fall apart. But hey,you can never love someone if you don't love yourself in the first place.
As for the NO CONTACT rule. If a woman breaks up with you and then she feels she wants to talk to you again and short things out she should do it only when she realizes how bad she had fucked up. We men tend to listen and respect that when we also had feelings for you in the past. And hey,what is the worst/best case scenario ? Win it all or keep on from where you left it. So go ahead and do what you gotta do.
My boyfriend and I just broke up like hours ago and I had a mental breakdown trying to beg him back and this gave me so much strength! IM NOT THE ONLY ONE! I want to do the NC more so for myself than getting back together. Thank you!!!!!
I broke up with my last week too.
Who would wanna brakeup with such a pretty woman!🌻
Sybrano Bhugwandass thank you!
Dusty men who don't value women or are not marriage material to be even seriously dating. I hope she chooses better filters.
Watching her videos is very comforting... It’s my 1st day of no contact, i decided last night i was done being the one to always fix things.
It’s very hard and it’s only my first day
Same here girl
jennifer martinez How are things for you?
updateeee
@@jazmir8138 He ended up reaching back out to me and begged for me back- we got back together for 3 months but it was toxic and i broke up with him a year ago- am now happily dating someone new who treats me so much better !
If they fallen in love with someone else then you probably won’t hear from them 😂 sadly
True
This video was so easy to watch. You are gorgeous and hilarious.. perfect combo of humor and comfort..
Thank you so much!
Jennifer Wilson wow that’s so nice! Thank you!
The refrigerator comment was hilarious 😅😅😅 tnx for making me smile as i go thru this rough phase!
I just got broken up with about 2 & 1/2 weeks ago and it’s been a week and a half of no contact and it’s so so hard. But I think it’s so important to continue no contact because it either lets you know if you’re meant to be together or if you’re both better off apart. Either way this will help you grow as a person which is so important.
Is there an update with the outcome of ur situation?
I started the NC rule 5 hours ago 😔 its very difficult. I want to call him so bad. 😔😢
Same here..
started week ago. But I was a fool that I called him yesterday. But he ignored me.
He said dont bother me. That was killed me.
I will never call him again
Carisiaxo Cano Depends on who ended the relationship
i havent talked to my ex in almost 6 months life is great
@@edyacheraii4279 exactly...
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@@edyacheraii4279 He ended the relationship. 😔
After almost 3 years he broke up with me ): he said he needs space to figure out what he wants. I’m going to use the no contact rule. Thank you
bridget W how has it been going?
any update?
@bridget W update?
So sorry guys! I forgot to respond! We have been back together since May 2020. We only ended up being apart for about 3 month. Our relationship now is better than it ever has been! (And when we were broken up I did use the no contact rule) it worked!!!
@@bridget5740 omg, i'm so happy for you. im hoping for the same outcome.
I came to your site to help get over my broken heart. Your advice and sheer beauty really help.
Omg! You are amazing, smart, funny and beautiful. You have helped me. Thank you!
I thought the point of no contact was for you to rediscover yourself. Yes, if they contact you, depending on how much you have grown from this experience, you can reply back. But if you reply back only after 1 week of being apart, you have to wonder did anything really change? Will getting back together get any new outcomes if you guys haven't been apart to grow and learn.
No contact is not a way to game the other into wanting you back. Its a way for you to move on so if they do come back, you are a better version of yourself, so you don't make the same mistakes. But in doing this, you are preparing to move on and if they contact you, its only a bonus. The point of this journey is to find yourself again. When you have been in a long relationship, you lose a sense of self in the relationship. The once charming, outgoing person you once were has become more domesticated into a relationship. Take this time to find the person that first attracted your ex but also grow from that. Doing no contact in hopes for them to just contact you means you made no gain. If they see nothing has changed with you, that only solidifies that your ex was right about the break-up.
In the end, move on. You will find that person that appreciates you. If that ends up being your ex again, then go for it. But only once you have grown and matured from this experience.
The caveat is it all depends on what their level of attraction is for you. If it is high they will call you. If its low they will never call you again.
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It shouldn't be 30 days. It should be indefinite.
I'm sorry but it just not true, I been no contact for 3 months, but I'm still stuck with her, I'm just doomed...2 weeks ago I was in a sort of a crisis and she called, I did not answer, it seems she has a telepathic connection to me...I know it sounds crazy but I believe that is what is happening
Thomas Just I made a video about when it takes longer than 30 days
She is the cutest and more adorable girl I’ve seen 😍
Ohhh my god! U are so insanely GORGEOUS!! Girl!! I needed this. I am going thru the SAME exact thing!!!!!! girl i am insanely depressed. Thank GOD FOR YOUR CHANNEL!!
Same here! It's so hard
Ur literally so pretty. Whaaaaah
Love this! Going thru this right now and I’m going on week 2. At this point don’t even care if we’re back or not. Think I’m working on making myself better and focusing back ON ME and not on him! ❤️
Thankyou so much for being honest ..I felt so ugly during my breakup! And when I see you it gives me life because you’re so pretty. You helped me so much
lynke kowlessar aw thank you so much!
My experience was after 30 days I didn’t even feel like contacting them and then months past and still no text from them , and it’s been a whole year now , and I haven’t heard from them yet
I stumbled upon this video and today is the 2nd day since our break up haha. I will try the No Contact rule and I hope that it will work the same way as yours. Wish me luck! 😭
Same. We broke up Wednesday & it's been only 1 day with no contact. Wish me luck I guess xo
Good luck. I started the NC rule 5 hours ago we get this.
How did it go?
@@ohhimsapper1321 it worked! It only lasted for 20 days until he said that he can't imagine/stand seeing me happy with another guy lol. By the time he said that I was kinda being flirty with another guy so my ex bf said that he wants to come back but he will give way since I am already happy with someone else lol HAHHAAHA
Joy Irene why did you guys break up in the first place?
I broke up with my ex boyfriend over three years ago now. I started dating someone new and I even moved countries to be with my current boyfriend. And to this day my ex still tries to play a power game with me. Just two days ago he messaged me after breaking up with rebound gf no 3. Every few months he gets back in contact with me just to see if I am still in love with him or if I still have feelings for him. He has no intention of actually being in a relationship with me or putting any kind of effort into keeping it. Because every other time in the past that I would allow him back in he would disappear again within a few days. He has a pattern where if he has a certain amount of time go by that no other women are giving him any attention, or he hasn't gotten a new girlfriend, he will message me just to see if I respond. The only reason he messages me is to get an ego boost. He wants to know that he still has access to me, to know that he can still have me if he wishes. It's pretty pathetic when you think about it. The fact is I treated him so well in our relationship but he did nothing but disrespect me and treat me like garbage. So I ended it with him. It has taken me many years to realize how toxic our relationship actually was. He viewed me like a trophy girlfriend and he would take me around to show me off, but deep down inside he was still a child that didn't know how to be in a relationship. He was incredibly shallow and would constantly talk about me behind my back. He is toxic and should be avoided at all costs. So right now he probably expects me to message him within the next few days, but he's going to be very surprised when he realizes I'm never messaging him again. I'm in a really happy place now and I have taken back all the power that he took from me for all those years. Exes should remain exes for a reason, you can't be friends with them and you can't get back together with them. If they never put in the effort in the first place then they were never serious about you. Take back your power and move on ladies and gents. I always believed I would never find another person that would love me. But I decided to work on myself in many ways, and within two years I found the love of my life and we are planning on getting married very soon. Don't listen to your inner monologue it is always wrong there is always someone else out there for you, many potential soulmates. Keep your head up high. And show them your true worth!
He sounds like a narcissist... lookinto narcs and exs x
6:50 pretty much sums up all women, all the time. Lmfao. Guys actually have the harder time during breakups bc women can find another guy every 5 minutes. Lol
Not entirely true.
But mostly!
so true, my beautiful ex can easily find a guy in like 2 minutes but im a guy so its harder
They won't want a new better dude when they are already attached to someone tho girl brains just work differently. That is why you always see ugly guys with pretty girls, work on your charisma man. We are so much more superficial than them. Men cheat whenever an opportunity arises. Girls cheat when their bf is a p*ssy
And u guys cant???
Cut the bullshit!!!
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Im in no contact 2 days, while during corona, which she initiated. It was hard the first half day, but because I have never met a person who didn't do no contact. After the video's it makes me learn to get back my power fully. And I am prepared to go through this, because it makes no sense for me to give the last weeks a lot of love, but that person isn't even reflecting that back anymore.
Today .. He done with me ...😭 bcz of doubts .. Nd i miss him badly .. 1st day of no contact ... I dont know he come back or not ... He says that if u comfortable with another guy then i left u .. Nd says .. Take care from negtive guys i m always avaliable for you if u want any hlp just tell me .. Nd he says bye ... I begging continously 2 days .. 😭 he not trust me ..
@@reetgrewal6411 I can only say that you should stop messaging him, contacting him and stop begging him. Im in the same situation as you. And 2 days ago I was really going and experiencing strong feelings and before that as well, since the person who I love is leaving me in a state of "not knowing". So Im in a state just right before breakup but it feels like this is breaking up since she really is in no contact with me with some of her words saying: "I don't know" or "I don't think my feeling may change" that she has over me currently. So I know that I am a really beautiful person inside and outside, and part of being that beautiful person from the inside is that I did my best.
So now I comply with the no contact that she started. And am almost through my 2nd day. And I think you should do the same Komal! I think you are a great person if you have such words as you do.
So TAKE your strength back, by not contacting him for 30 days or maybe longer! But what happens is that this person will start to think about what he did and if that was the right choice. And at the same time you become a stronger person because you reflect on things and come out even better than you already are.
And for this to help you in the 30 days, I recommend looking to all the video's of this girl, and also from this man called Coach Lee!
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He has the same answers as Edi Gibson meaning that this is the way to go. but he has many video's of it and it can give you a lot of strength in why you should do this with the no contact. It's the only way now to give yourself power and take your power and in a way your dignity back. It's the only way for the other to realize what he is losing.
Again. Im in the same boat as you. I am a a strong person myself from the inside, but I had great difficulty nontheless. But so again, listen to the videos of Coach lee and Edi Gibson, maybe even on a daily basis, so that you know and believe why you're doing this. You can only grow out stronger from this and maybe even win him back. And even if that is not the case, you did become stronger, maybe even miss him way less after that, and made him realize atleast that you do have dignity and that you are more valuable than he thought. So only win win!
So Komal. From time to time let me know how it goes! I will also give update :D Almost day 2 done!
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We just broke up..i will start today and tell after 30 days please i get him back..we were in relationship since 5 years.
I'm going thru a break up atm.... also start today too. I really want to get over him
@@keanjoseph2386 i wish you do i wish all those who have been hurt will heal we are good people we will be happy😊
Yes hun. We'll overcome this pain. Lets us just find time for ourselves and give ourselves that same love we've been giving them.
@@keanjoseph2386 😊listen to let her go by passenger
@@palaksrivastava8533 Listen "if i dont have you, at least i still have me" :)
18 of no contact (3 years in a relation) :'(
After 24 days of no contact I called him to meet up and he was all happy when we met, but he still refuses to initiate any contact and effort with me. So, moral of the story is to not contact them. Trust me you’re better off on your own.
Cyclical Fights over nothing? Sounds like narcissism. These dignity-less jerks will come back regardless. I’ve dated many and they even seem to have a full moon monthly cycle! Just mark it in your calendar everytime he starts a fight with you (and watch how many other girls he suddenly has come into his life as ‘friends’). When the narc fights with you, it’s because they’ve ALREADY found someone else. No contact just makes them think they’re losing you as a source of supply (whatever you’re providing). No contact does also work on normal, safe, guys! But by the time 30 days comes around, you might have moved on (even if just in your mind) already.
Worked for me! Twice, with the same person.
This is the third time we’re breaking up in the span of 2 years and deep down I know that this is obviously not supposed and not going to work, not once more. But still, I hope he’s not letting me go for good.. maybe with time I’ll truly understand that I’m better than these ups and downs and just free myself from this recurrent grief.
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V R the guy I talked about found a new girlfriend after 2 months, ‘apologised’ to me, and is now treating her way better than he treated me and posting her all over social medias. Guess I was just a free trial lol
I’m really hurt to be honest, it sucks to be someone’s ‘teacher’ and then seeing them make progresses with someone else, since you REALLY deserved those results.
But all of this crap is morphing me into someone with strong boundaries, more self esteem, and a lot of experience. I’ll never let myself end up with a person with no respect.
I know it will take a lot of time to get over this events, but I also know I’ll be fine. And so are you guys!
okay so here’s my story ;
My ex and I broke up April 10, and we stayed in contact and even hung out like friends after breaking up. I broke up with him but only because he was treating me like shit and I wasn’t receiving the same energy , we had a lot of problems and he didn’t care to fix them and stated that he was tired of me so I called it off. It was hard because I gave him everything and I did all I could to save our relationship, so yeah it was hard to just treat him as a friend. A few days after we broke up , I begged him to get back because he stated that he had been treating me like shit bc of family problems but when we were together I tried to be there for him but he’d shut me off . That same day I begged for him to come back , later at night I found out that he had already started talking to someone else and it really hurt. He asked a few days later if we could hang and I told him that if he was talking about to someone else then no , but he promised he wasn’t talking to her so we hung out and he kissed me and I fell for it thinking he wanted to get back. The girl he was talking to found out so they’re not talking anymore .. so now this past weekend he texted me saying he misses me but he stated that he didn’t want a relationship for now which is really fucking confusing. I feel like he was just using me as a back up plan after we broke up because he knew that if shit didn’t work out with her id still be down for him but I’ve decided to completely cut him off .
His last text was Monday morning and I haven’t even opened it. He sits next to me in class but I ignore him , I don’t even look at him . It is really hard seeing him around because he seems so happy without me. I’m still hurting over our breakup but I’m not gonna be kissing ass anymore
Long story short , I hope this works . And if it doesn’t , it’s okay because I’ll grow as a person too.
Edit ; he texted me on snap like 2 hours ago but I haven’t opened it ! Should I open it? Should I reply ? Should I just leave him on read?
Edit ; I haven’t opened his snap since that day ^ and he just texted my # right now asking me if his mom has texted me. His mom and I still keep in touch here and there , we had a really close relationship but we haven’t talked in a few days. I know my ex , and he thinks by asking about his mom I’ll reply.. he texted me that to start a conversation but I am not gonna reply until it’s a text that I know I should reply to . Sooo yeah this no contact rule keeps getting easier , and so far I think it’s working.
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@@Mo34565we are married LOL
It's been over a year and 6 months..in the beginning I tried everything I could to contact my ex and nothing..then in June for his birthday I tried one last time to contact him and tried getting my cousin to give him my number because they work in the same company.but he didn't want it.so now I'm just like oh well, God removed him from my life for a reason
Although you’re focusing on yourself and doing well...If both parties are following the no contact rule, expecting for the other one to eventually reach out first and it never happens...🤷🏾♂️
Beware: so many get blocked from all platforms doing this before they even reach 10th day ,there is no way to contact again even if you want to , you have to weight the ups and downs before engage such no contact adventure , there is exceptions to this rule , if you cheat for example better go back and beg and ask for forgiveness if you still have heart
Wow I sooo did not know I needed to watch this video. Thank you so much for sharing your experience!
Why couldn’t my ex be like you? She pretty much left me for the same guy for a third time now. We dated for 2 and a half years...
If she left you once for another guy, it was her fault. If she did it twice, it's yours... now a third time... brother you need to work on your self esteem and confidence.
@@julianblake8385 agree...its sad, its hard...but its not impossible to recover from...
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Day 1 of no contact for me!🤦🏾♀️😢He's broke up with me several times, it hurts so bad. I always get right back together. However, I've decided to do the No Contact Rule. My biggest thing is learning to live without the Man who encouraged me to stop drinking and gambling. 😢😢😢
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You are so adorable. I loved it when you said, "I am not a man anymore! HA! HA!" I hope your fella married you, if not, move on. You are so young and pretty, you will be a great catch for any lucky fella.
It's funny 'coz I feel like you're my best friend giving me advice. Yes Edi, I will stay strong.
I broke up with my ex after 3 years of being together. I thought she was it. I was madly in love with her, but noticed she went cold the last two months. I would ask what was going on and she would tell me everything is fine. I caved and saw her phone (something I never do) and came to realize that she was hinting to her friend of breaking up but couldn’t pull through with it. Confronted her and she confessed she doubted the relationship. She no longer saw me long term. I was so disappointed and pissed off because she was just leading me onto something that she didn’t believe in. The fact that she couldn’t just be honest with me. I thought we were a team. Those last two months were hard because I thought I was doing something wrong so I gave 110% to just end up with the same results. It’s been 7 months now. Still haven’t gone out on one date. Haven’t had sex, although the craving does come on every now and then. I just want and miss that connection. I’m not the guy to go and fuck around with just anyone. *sigh* anyways, I tried on two occasions to reach out to her (two weeks after the breakup and on her bday). She never replied once. Guess it was a good thing. I’m sure everything works out in the end. Really wished things worked out.
l8er move on . Work on urself . If someone walks out of ur life , let them . Keep ur head up . Go no contact . Not for 30 days not for 60 not for 90 . No contact is for u to heal Ann think with a clear head . The best way to get someone”s attention is to remove urs . Keep ur head u .
Phil I was playing on proposing in a year but you’re right. We are better off. Thanks for the positivity brother
Walter Estrada thank you. Move on and move forward is what i have been doing. For all I know dream girl is around the corner. Thanks for the positivity brother. Appreciate it
@@l8er I'm sorry about what you went through. Hope things are getting better for you.
Bedtime ASMR thus far all is well. Thank you for the positivity 🙂
My experience of no contact - after 30 days passed, he unfriend me from fb, then i call him, didn't recv my call.. Do Break up by a message 😁😁😁.. Life is totally fun😂😂
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little firefly hahahaha😂😂...You are amazing n I’m sure it’s his loss
This is awesome.. Thanks for changing my mind set. After seeing this video I feel relieved and in a lot better stage. 😊
I did the no contact 21 days he came back but it didnt change because he was with another girl so now it's like I'm still waiting because im not letting the no contact play out longer dont give anyone their cake and ice cream it's you or them
Shanell TH I find that when someone is with someone else.. as soon as there is problems they try to come back. I think it’s important to work on your own growth and not come back til you are clear headed
@@edrinablissg Thank you I've stood my ground so far feeling very strong about it.
Gotta tell this works for men and women we are the same when it comes to get back someone. Trust me
You are hilarious and authentic! 😊
Loved it! Loved the way you told your experience! You’re a funny and amazing woman! I’m glad he was not fool of losing you!😘
LILIAN SILVA that’s so nice! Thank you I’m very happy
Absolutely love your personality......You made the point and made me laugh so hard....Thank You 👍
After receiving countless rejections to see him, I broke up with him. I think that's what he wanted all along, me to break up so he didn't have to. But I miss him and I want to see him, I'm almost two weeks into this but I keep arguing with myself that I broke up with him so I should reach out idk. I feel like my rejection was way bigger.
I started no contact after three weeks of begging 🙈I'm on nc now day 4. Do you think I still have a chance
If you have to literally "beg" someone to be with you, why do you want to be with them in the first place? You're worth so much more than that. You're focused on the wrong thing, what you should focus on is moving on to somebody you won't have to beg with and ignore to be with!!
Why were you begging? Did you cheat on him?
Did it still work I’m in the same boat right moe
K. B. Saying why she was begging?you don’t have any idea what’s going on in that particular couple , maybe she cheat and need to ask for forgiveness, worst you’re saying she worth more than all that and she’s doesn’t need to beg who she may have cheated on . Don’t just give advices on here to make people feel better about themselves without knowing the contexts
what happened? please let me know
love this video! on my 18th day of NC and no signs from him yet, will keep trying
Did he ever contact u?
I caved every two to three weeks ... and I know I feel stupid.
If this works out.. Im gonna give this video a thumbs up. Be right back after 30 days. 😊
It’s day 5 I have to watch this video everyday. I wanna contact him so bad but I’m focusing on myself. I said I wanted space and he just broke up with me. I miss him
Nijaha Gailyard any updates ?? If not , were you able to move on?
rawan kamel yess he was trying to get back in my good graces
@@nijeeybtv4313 how long did he take to contact?
The best way to move over a break up, is to turn to God and pursue Him whole heartedly. It helped me alot after breaking up with a toxic guy. He loved and respected me, initially. But like you said, he took my kindness for granted. The best person to pursue and love is God Himself. He will provide you with the right Godly partner with whom you don't have to play all these manipulative games.
5th day of it, ughh wish me luck guys.
i been drinking almost every night.
i got therapy tomorrow.
ill keep updating this.
i hope i get through this.
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Papi we talking.. arent official but we go on dates and stuff
Is it bad if I’m watching these videos constantly throughout no contact, because I am imagining that after it we will get back together instead of not hoping we will get back together again and move on? On day 11 of no contact, today is his birthday :/
This video made me cry, I'm not lying, She's talking to someone rn, and I just started Tuesday "June 4" of no contact rn, and I'm still gonna give her gifts on the day that i didnt give to her on our Anniversary cause I still want her to have them ever since the breakup, and I still want to be with her cause I really love her and we dated for a year, and I'm still doing me and I wanna talk to her and be honest with her cause we both made mistakes, but she made the worst one, and I'm a noble person who forgives and moves on and be together, So I hoep we do come back together cause if we don't than... I'll be there for her birthday, even if she is with someone else or not, cause every guy is different so yeah!!
so what happened since?
U have no idea how much ur video helped me..
You’re so adorable lol
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@Melinda Ross maybe he saw her without makeup jkjk
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I can not tell you how much this video helped me right now, i was freaking out but this just calmed me down. Thank You
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You are hilarious and adorbs, thanks for the advice. I'm on day 3 of 30.
Ashley Brown no contact is no contact forever. It has to be THEIR idea to contact you. It may take 2-9 months or maybe years! It depends on their interest level. If their interest level is below 5, then you will NEVER hear from them again.
Monika Saskavitch thanks but didn't ask you lol and we are back together now so he obviously contacted me. Take care.
Ashley Brown lol yeah like I said it has to be THEIR idea to contact you not the other way around so I was right.
P.S it doesn’t matter if you ask me or not!! There is a thing called COMPASSION FOR STRANGERS I’m pretty sure you have no idea what that is so my advice is LEARN COMPASSION 🤦♀️🤦♀️ rather being a bitch about it
I’m going to try the no contact rule. I also begged him. The past week has been really rough but let’s see what happens.
Sophina Baksh any luck ?
9:59 - "because i'm not a man, anymore..." 😂
I thought i heard that to.
Is that a guy ? Transvestite whatever they call them selves??
Your such an uplifting person to watch and listen to you to time today this is the 2nd time now bring the night I’ve check your videos out I love how you was like no am in charge - cuz my partner loves to be in charge 🕳
It’s all about being independent the move on point of a so so so hard it’s about staying busy - I wonted this video to go on for more longer am off to watch more ;)
I looked pathetic with my ex too😂🤣 imagine that begging her not to break up with me?
After first day of no contact. She text me...hmmm she said she probably dont want to hear from me but I wanted to see how you were doing 🙄 update now she calling about her garage door opener...weeks later
I’m wondering how this applies if it’s a mutual breakup
3rd day without contact. Now that I’m writing this it sounds so pathetic but actually I’m proud of myself. When you talk and spend your time with someone everyday for 2 and a half years 3 days without a single word from them is hard.. But I am getting better at it!:)
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Thank you for this amazing video girl! Your advice is golden x
Melina Georghiades hey! Thank you so much!
Really enjoyed your video - I like your candor and kindness
Thank u 😂
What if they try to text you and you respond with “ hey I’m trying to move on and this is not helping” and then carry on with no contact?
Alexa Yanez silence only
I am also doing no contact.. it was a long distance "relationship" and escalated pretty quickly. (it was partially my fault) but as I am really bad with not checking out his SM or texting if he's ok, I gave my phone to my friend and she won't return it to me for 30days. I also made a list with 30 things I wanna do in 30 days. It feels great. I hope when I have my phone back, it won't matter whether he contacted me or not... :) I will just be a better person!