Irrelevant in the long run. The neurotypical alternations of emotions and facial microexpressions, and body language accuracy, cannot be immitated by us. And you don't even put conscious effort to manifest them. They come natural to you. Misplaced laughter in that context, is still creepy. We will never be compatible with you, so we might as well accept our weird selves
That's what's females respond too living in the moment, being depressed about how your single is a total turn off or worse how you have trouble meeting women, you have to fake it until you make it I'm single and alone too I always act positive thinking about new things I wanna do I don't say hey I haven't had a girlfriend in years ,having a girlfriend is not a prize most females sleep around alot He's looking for validation from opposite sex it's seems.
I agree 100%. As harsh as it sounds people are attracted to light hearted energy. If they can see the weight of the world on your shoulders they get scared and think "that's too much to take on". My advice to Aaron is to be silly on dates. Make dumb jokes, laugh, smile, be genuinely interested in what your date has to say to you and ask questions. You can't go wrong with that positive vibe.
God bless you, man. My daughter is on the spectrum (25 yrs old) and has no friends. She's brilliant and funny, and we get along great. She lives with me-one of her older brothers is here as well-and I know our domestic situation helps, but as a father, I want her to experience all she can. It's good to hear from others like yourself; I think it's generous and courageous to share your life with others. I really hope things develop for you.
Having seen your very first video to seeing this now, it's astounding the progress you've already made in your outlook and demeanour in just a few short months. I think its fantastic that youre coming out so strong with all of this. Your friend talking about leadership is spot on, you did something brave and continue to do it, that's natural leadership and you did it entirely of your own accord. That should impress the shit out of everyone, because it takes true strength of character to do something that brave and vulnerable. You're a good man and I am positive you're helping innumerable people by expressing what they can't for themselves. Keep up the amazing work, it's our pleasure to watch, honestly.
Aaron. You make music. Start playing music. Learn how to play with a band. Become a band member. Play at local shows. Hear the applause. I wish I had the talent, I've given up on guitar a few times.
LOL, those examples of advice is why I reduced my friend group. I lost my tolerance for stupidity. What you are doing is being honest, transparent & vulnerable. It's beautiful, scary but also rewarding in ways that are unpredictable.
Ay man, I love how vulnerable you're being, I appreciate the honesty, and I really respect your stuff. Don't let any trolls or anything get you down, you got more people that love what you do man, even if might not seem like it.
For what it is worth, i’m shy and not too adventurous and i don’t do small talk, but i’ve wound up on many adventures with wacky people. They helped me break out of my shell, either by dragging me out of my comfort zone or by me mimicing the aspects of them i respected. Most of my funny or interesting stories are about those adventures and people. Snowboarding way up in the mountains unprepared, traveling to a new place unprepared (that’s a running theme by the way), a bike tour, backpacking, spelunking. Exploring more restaurants, doing odd jobs (like helping a neighbor dig up their front lawn to replace with astro turf, helping someone refloor a house.). Usually something that sucks at the time but that can be laughed about later. To talk about interesting things, you must do interesting things. I think i learned that from David Deangelo. That and mimic people who are already socially successful. I hope the best for you.
The Meet-up idea sounds awesome! I understand the realism of travel. Definitely a big leap. LMAO I'm stealing the phrase snakeshit 🤣 you're great man. Glad to see your videos and see you smiling
Money doesn't buy class - just be yourself. I admire your ambition to start a Meetup. I host open mics - there's gonna be "haters" in every group - usually from the ones not participating. Just consider the source. Thanks for being vulnerable and making a TH-cam channel. You are a nice looking guy and care about your mental and physical health - that's awesome 🤟
Meetup sounds like a great idea Aaron… I made a lot of friendships hosting poker games, dinners, doing long-distance running with friends, and having a podcast. I’m 100% extroverted and I actually crave BEING ALONE. I’m so over-socialized I envy your nights alone… which is a crazy paradoxical I know, but I bring this up to share with you that everyone struggles at times. You should totally interview other people like you on this channel and create a movement out of the loneliness of folks with autism.
Like others, I found you through the Reddit post, and I've watched your other videos but haven't commented yet. I'm not diagnosed, but I have had multiple people (with ASD) tell me they believe I am also on the spectrum. As a guy who struggles with everything you have been so bravely talking about, I feel really seen. So thank you for doing that. I think a meetup is a beautiful idea. It's something I would definitely attend. Anyway, much love
I would take any advice about moving to Asia with a pinch of salt. Most of the people saying that have no experience of those women and believe the fallacy that they are different to western women. You are an inspiration and I wish I'd had a friend like you at high school, I would actually have gone to school instead of avoiding it.
You should travel. Doesn’t require you to be rich. From the looks of it, it seems you can afford to travel a little bit atleast. I am forcing myself to travel this spring. I am getting a ticket to Portugal for a few weeks or a month. One way ticket. I am self-employed. But I don’t make much and just as lonely as you. And the idea of travelling alone, sounds so boring and pointless. But I bet I might change my mind on that, once I go. Yolo…you need to create excitement and happiness yourself. And no woman can do that for you. Hapiness comes from within, you create it. And if people/women can see that you live a happy life, some woman will come a long and try and ruin that happiness you created😂 trust me.
Life is a struggle itself and finding others we can relate to and have things in common even when we really don't feel like socializing while others tell us we should is tough. If you do a "Meetup" please set up in advance and o people could put it into their plans and routines. If it is on the calendar then not a quick sudden thing you could end up with people coming from miles around. Keep chipping away Brother as your not only being brave and helping yourself your helping others..
Hey I saw your first video and found it strangely relatable, though I’m much younger (24). I’ve also struggled lately with loneliness, but I find myself becoming more content with being alone as time goes on. Electronic music is also a huge passion of mine as well. I like to make downtempo, trip hop, IDM, etc. Though, I am a huge perfectionist when it comes to producing, and haven’t uploaded much to my channel as a result.
You and your channel are awesome Aaron! I’m really glad your content was recommended to me by TH-cam randomly earlier today. You are definitely the kind of guy I would like to hang out with at the gym and just laugh about all the stupid shit that the normies say to guys like us. Lol keep up the great work bro
Well, good on you for knowing how to decipher between what is good and bad advice for you. Don’t get discouraged, and keep stepping out of your comfort zone. Best of luck!
Aaron, I watched your first video last night. Can I just say, as I cis gendered Normy “Beautiful” white, privileged 38 year old woman… I can relate. Unfortunately! I think just SOME of the things you mention are related to our generation. If not coupled up (divorced?) maybe our choices have led us to lonely lives. I think; possibly- there are a lot more people in our age range that have quit dating apps, are still single, and hate it. the love yourself stuff is hard to understand or do when you’ve never had a relationship. Easier to embrace the love yourself when you’ve loved real shitty people. My thoughts for now- I’m excited you did this, for you. The ladies will come! You’ll learn so much from this platform. I can’t wait to find out more about your journey!!
I have many friends who are 40 plus and single that I’ve met on meetup. Hosting a meetup for singles on the autism spectrum is a great idea! You’re an interesting, handsome man! Best of luck!
As a parent to a young adult with autism, I like the meet up idea. Be careful - you may not realise it but you are presenting as vulnerable, this is the internet, and it’s full of scammers. If there’s an avenue to financially exploit you with a romance scam, you’ll be getting targeted before long. A meet up for diverse people is a great idea. Just stay safe.
I think this channel is fantastic and I am glad the ole algorithm sent it my way. I was wondering who inspires you? For example, I was just recently listening to some Marc Rebillet in the background because I enjoy his freestyle music and his kick ass personality. I was also listening to a presentation by Temple Grandin not too long ago and she is both charming and very informative. Stuff like that. What about you? Who brings you energy and joy or focus and direction?
I tried posting on craigslist back in the day for playing backgammon in town at the sandwich shop but every person who replied thought it was some secret code for prostitution. Haha. Anyway, I hope your meetup attempt will be more successful than mine :)
Great videos Aaron! You get my follow. I laughed when you mentioned you had comments suggesting to convert to islam (no don't do that, been there) and telling you to go to the far east (also don't do that)😂 I don't have autism but I definitely think its hard in today's modern times to meet someone unless your the conventional type. If you never conformed throughout your life then its hard to meet someone full stop. It doesn't help that social media/internet has hijacked everyone's lives. Only means of communication now. I totally get it. Having been someone very unconventional who moved around throughout my childhood and adult life, I can honestly say its been very challenging. I truly believe everyone is finding it harder to meet the one. Damn it really sucks right!?
I stumbled accross your channel, watched your first video and now this one. If I was in your shoes I would try involving myself in some charity work. Doing something for the sake of others should help you give some sense of purpose outside of yourself. It could also be a good way of getting to know people who should be more understanding and open towards others.Just be open with people about your condition and explain that you need a bit of help with socializing and are not purposely trying to be distant or something like that, so that they don´t get a wrong idea. Just my 2 cents, hope everything works out for you man.
Oh man! You have the AKAI MPC. I just bought one of those. Been learning to keyboard. In regards to meetup. Do it. Here in Knoxville TN, there is a girl who created a board game group and she’s got a consistent set of people. It is a great option for passing time.
Yeah, I got the mpc really recently and haven't delved into it much yet as there's a steep learning curve, but I've been watching tutorials and have started learning it.
Dude, you look and sound better than in the first video. Much better. You lift now and do new stuff, right? Seems to work. Good for you! Keep it up! Try new stuff!
@@aaronsjournal139 If you ever finish the works of Marcus Aurelius and want to dive a bit further into Stoicism, you could check out the works of Epictetus who is the man who inspired a large part of Aurelius’s work.
Aaron you are so handsome and youseem so kind. I would of loved to go out with you if you asked. Just go for it, give it a shot and ask more women out, I think you will do very well.
You would be doing good work hosting a meetup for people with ASD, showing leadership skills is solid advice. There's been a redpill craze, so you're going to see a push for leaving the country to find a partner and treating women like a commodity. The truth is it's rough dating in the west and there are a lot of disgruntled men (there's a recent stat from the US that twice the number of men ages 18-29 report being single than women, around 60%), I personally believe aside from controversial reasons it's because there's a lack of education on gender dynamics and expectations are all over the place. I think these days women just want men they can trust and lean on, the mountain to crashing waves. The problem is that a lot of women become jaded by past experiences with persuasive, manipulative men, grievances which social media stigmatizes and exacerbate, so it's difficult for a man to advertise himself as not having those traits. Something like an instagram profile with photos with friends or family that women could first vet would help quite a bit. Showing you're passionate about something or hold strong ideals for something positive is also really helpful Good luck with your journey
Ever thought about livestreaming? Maybe you've done it, just found your channel. Bet there would be some people that would be interested in watching a livestream of you just jamming on your studio setup.
I think you’d be cool too if we could have an online meet up where people join video chat and just talk and chill maybe we can share music or funny videos and memes that we like. Maybe there could be a set time for one hour or so this way there’s some structure. I’ve noticed at first I’m very shy with people but once I get used to them that shyness goes away… Although the feeling of being drained from interacting always persists I think that’s just part of autism and auditory processing disorder.
Yep, it's the latest addition to my setup! Having fun learning it so far. I also have a TR-8, Blofeld, Opsix, Monologue, MicroFreak, Cobalt8, and TD-3.
@@aaronsjournal139 pretty into synths myself. I see youre into some of the older style new wave stuff from your other tune. Have you explored some of the New Retro Wave stuff thats been coming out over the past 10 years or so?
Hi Aaron. I to have many of the characteristics you have described. Many of the same experiences you have described also happened to me, probably all of them really. I was black pilled by the time I was 27. Which was what helped me in the end. This autism that we have is not something that can be changed. The only thing that can be changed is our view of ourselves, and once this gets in order, then we can start to have some contentment and happiness. This peace we have then allows others to be more comfortable around us. Keep pursuing your special interests and be happy being alone. It worked for me. I finally met a woman at my work, she was not an American, because of that difference she had different values than most of the women raised in the US. You are most likely going to meet someone with ASD, or a woman that was raised differently to value your more deeper qualities, she will fall into your lap somehow, without you having to expend so much emotional currency.
I do not think i am on the spectrum, but i only learned about the whole eye contact thing when i was almost 30. Guess i never saw the logic in it. I think i can handle it quite well 10 years later, but too much eye contact is just creepy for me, and i would be perfectly fine having a conversation without ever looking at the other person.
Ur awesome man for having the heart to do all this and yes you will get some of the worst advice on here don’t go to another country looking for love with a girl that is just gonna use you
Aaron, I like that you are honest. However the negativity and cynicism isn't helping. I've never been in your shoes so I can't relate 100% but you need to start shifting your mind to think positively about your situation. I know it sounds easier said than done but I can't tell you how much life can change when you put on the 'rose colored glasses'. Everyone goes through tough situations in life and believe me when I say you prob are ahead of a lot of men at your age. Feel free to contact me directly if you would like to discuss more. I've been thinking about getting into coaching men. I'm not looking to make any money off you, I honestly just want to help men live better lives
Are they suggesting going to Asian countries because of gender roles and stereotypes regarding subservience? That's really gross advice. You want a spouse that's with you for good reasons. Also I've lived in SE Asia and it's no more lonely than here, I was just more distracted. Hosting a meet-up sounds like a great idea. Good luck!
No its because many western women over 25 have high bodycounts, are bisexual, overweight, have kids etc. Im straight but hes a good looking guy, in good shape, has hobbies/interests and by the looks of his apparetment must have a decent paying job. He should date younger women (under 25) or head over to asia/south america to get himself a younger woman who is gonna give him a family
Thank you for you honesty! You have balls! Damn, I wish I were you! You look great, as far as I can judge as a straight old man. I`m the same age, but my situation is way way worse, truck crash took some of my health. So, my bs thoughts are: ( VERY IMPORTANT - first, check your sex hormones and adjust it with your doctor, if you need it, especially free testosterone ) What helped me in the past, are the dancing schools ( couple dances, tango e.t.c., where you touch and hold a girl, and wrestling ( with guys, obviously, for inside changes )). Wait, just read me out, ok? Who gets the girls? Winners. Have you ever won in a fight? Yeah, dumb old school fight? Recently? If not, please try some good hardcore wrestling or mma club with a good coach. Sparrings are your goal. First you`ll hate em, then you`ll love em. Not gonna lie, you`ll start to win in 6 months, or a year, but you`ll start changing inside a lot faster. What fighting really does is makes the inner self doubting voices quieter. You need to show your self esteem that you can win! Get good gear to protect your face and balls, you`ll need em later. Dancing schools are great! They ALWAYS lack guys, girls are waiting for you. You talk to them a little, hold em, touch em, and they touch you, even smile sometimes, if you`re learning fast. Not bad, I think? If you don`t like something, you can always change your time or a dancing school. Not a big deal. But you definately need to get used to girls. Don`t talk much, look into her eyes, smile, feel her... Good luck! PS Subscribed! Haha, snake shit ) Not a snake shit, checked it all myself, and results were very good!
None of us down here in the comments are going to be upset if we dont get a response from you, we understand. Dont worry about the comments so much. Browse them if you find value in it, but dont get too hung up on them.
I don't want you to take this the wrong way, but I fear you might be reading more into what marriage and relationships are like than is actually the case. Most relationships fail before there's even a commitment. Most committed relationships fail because the reality doesn't live up to the hype. Most divorces are filed by women. Half of the surviving marriages involve one or both partners being "unhappy". Something like 25% of the marriages are sexless. Married people feeling lonely is so common it's a cliche. What you see in people's lives as an outsider is what they want you to see; some of them are showing you the truth and some aren't. I'm not trying to say these relationships aren't important but I am saying that simply hitting that benchmark won't necessarily make your life better unless you're willing/able to meet your partners needs for the duration. And even then that's sometimes just not enough because these many of these other people (male and female alike) are incapable of being satisfied. I would weep for you if you worked your way into a relationship with someone who was just trying to use you, or who held you in contempt, or who wanted to treat you like a servant. One cliche that's been making the rounds in "if you treat her like a celebrity she'll treat you like a fan". I don't want to see that happen to you. You might think your situation can't possibly get worse but I would challenge that by pointing out the possibility of building a family only to get kicked out of it later on through no fault of your own. Think about how hard that would hit you.
I visit a farmers market and meet some nice country girls there. They seem to be more empathic, positive, humble, self-sufficient, hard working, family-oriented than city girls. You know, because of "rural flight" there is gender imbalance, lots of single girls, I bet their flirting is unambigutious even neurodivergent will get it.
@@aaronsjournal139 let me know what avenue is best. Hope you are having an ok weekend. It’s just nice to have people who care to talk to sometimes, even if it is on a screen! :)
Aaron, when you’re making jokes and smiling that makes you an attractive person unintentionally. Do more of that!
Irrelevant in the long run. The neurotypical alternations of emotions and facial microexpressions, and body language accuracy, cannot be immitated by us. And you don't even put conscious effort to manifest them. They come natural to you. Misplaced laughter in that context, is still creepy. We will never be compatible with you, so we might as well accept our weird selves
That's what's females respond too living in the moment, being depressed about how your single is a total turn off or worse how you have trouble meeting women, you have to fake it until you make it I'm single and alone too I always act positive thinking about new things I wanna do I don't say hey I haven't had a girlfriend in years ,having a girlfriend is not a prize most females sleep around alot He's looking for validation from opposite sex it's seems.
Agreed!!!!
Agreed!!!! having fun is very attractive to women. Definitely enjoying yourself smiling confidence and being vulnerable. That’s hot as hell.❤
I agree 100%. As harsh as it sounds people are attracted to light hearted energy. If they can see the weight of the world on your shoulders they get scared and think "that's too much to take on".
My advice to Aaron is to be silly on dates. Make dumb jokes, laugh, smile, be genuinely interested in what your date has to say to you and ask questions. You can't go wrong with that positive vibe.
Hosting a MeetUp for people with autism could be helpful to not only yourself, but quite a few others as well 👍🏻👍🏻
I think that would be good for him and help others. A win win.
God bless you, man. My daughter is on the spectrum (25 yrs old) and has no friends. She's brilliant and funny, and we get along great. She lives with me-one of her older brothers is here as well-and I know our domestic situation helps, but as a father, I want her to experience all she can. It's good to hear from others like yourself; I think it's generous and courageous to share your life with others. I really hope things develop for you.
Having seen your very first video to seeing this now, it's astounding the progress you've already made in your outlook and demeanour in just a few short months. I think its fantastic that youre coming out so strong with all of this. Your friend talking about leadership is spot on, you did something brave and continue to do it, that's natural leadership and you did it entirely of your own accord. That should impress the shit out of everyone, because it takes true strength of character to do something that brave and vulnerable. You're a good man and I am positive you're helping innumerable people by expressing what they can't for themselves. Keep up the amazing work, it's our pleasure to watch, honestly.
I like that you are open with your struggle, very brave of you.
Hosting a meetup for other adult ASD people is a brilliant idea! Top tier.
Omgosh, you had me laughing out loud! You could be a stand up comedian. I’m not kidding. “Snake shit”. I love your videos.
I really think a companion would help bro. Dogs are very therapeutic
I thought the same thing immediately after watching Aaron’s first video. I swear if I didn’t have animals I probably wouldn’t still be here.
He lives in a apartment so he can’t have dogs. Sorry.
Aaron. You make music. Start playing music. Learn how to play with a band. Become a band member. Play at local shows. Hear the applause. I wish I had the talent, I've given up on guitar a few times.
Dude. You’re seriously so cute. Keep smiling!!!! Happiness and confidence is so attractive. And your smile - so handsome seriously.
LOL, those examples of advice is why I reduced my friend group. I lost my tolerance for stupidity. What you are doing is being honest, transparent & vulnerable. It's beautiful, scary but also rewarding in ways that are unpredictable.
Ay man, I love how vulnerable you're being, I appreciate the honesty, and I really respect your stuff. Don't let any trolls or anything get you down, you got more people that love what you do man, even if might not seem like it.
For what it is worth,
i’m shy and not too adventurous and i don’t do small talk, but i’ve wound up on many adventures with wacky people. They helped me break out of my shell, either by dragging me out of my comfort zone or by me mimicing the aspects of them i respected. Most of my funny or interesting stories are about those adventures and people. Snowboarding way up in the mountains unprepared, traveling to a new place unprepared (that’s a running theme by the way), a bike tour, backpacking, spelunking. Exploring more restaurants, doing odd jobs (like helping a neighbor dig up their front lawn to replace with astro turf, helping someone refloor a house.). Usually something that sucks at the time but that can be laughed about later. To talk about interesting things, you must do interesting things. I think i learned that from David Deangelo. That and mimic people who are already socially successful. I hope the best for you.
The Meet-up idea sounds awesome! I understand the realism of travel. Definitely a big leap.
LMAO I'm stealing the phrase snakeshit 🤣 you're great man. Glad to see your videos and see you smiling
Money doesn't buy class - just be yourself. I admire your ambition to start a Meetup. I host open mics - there's gonna be "haters" in every group - usually from the ones not participating. Just consider the source. Thanks for being vulnerable and making a TH-cam channel. You are a nice looking guy and care about your mental and physical health - that's awesome 🤟
Meetup sounds like a great idea Aaron… I made a lot of friendships hosting poker games, dinners, doing long-distance running with friends, and having a podcast. I’m 100% extroverted and I actually crave BEING ALONE. I’m so over-socialized I envy your nights alone… which is a crazy paradoxical I know, but I bring this up to share with you that everyone struggles at times.
You should totally interview other people like you on this channel and create a movement out of the loneliness of folks with autism.
Like others, I found you through the Reddit post, and I've watched your other videos but haven't commented yet. I'm not diagnosed, but I have had multiple people (with ASD) tell me they believe I am also on the spectrum. As a guy who struggles with everything you have been so bravely talking about, I feel really seen. So thank you for doing that. I think a meetup is a beautiful idea. It's something I would definitely attend. Anyway, much love
Is a diagnosis worth pursuing?
Also one more comment, it's really cool to see you smiling in these vids, keep up the content man! You seem like an awesome dude
I’m 25 and losing my hair, be happy for your good looks
Jesus, dude. Sorry to hear that. You might really rock the shaved look though.
I would take any advice about moving to Asia with a pinch of salt. Most of the people saying that have no experience of those women and believe the fallacy that they are different to western women. You are an inspiration and I wish I'd had a friend like you at high school, I would actually have gone to school instead of avoiding it.
You should travel. Doesn’t require you to be rich. From the looks of it, it seems you can afford to travel a little bit atleast. I am forcing myself to travel this spring. I am getting a ticket to Portugal for a few weeks or a month. One way ticket. I am self-employed. But I don’t make much and just as lonely as you. And the idea of travelling alone, sounds so boring and pointless. But I bet I might change my mind on that, once I go. Yolo…you need to create excitement and happiness yourself. And no woman can do that for you. Hapiness comes from within, you create it. And if people/women can see that you live a happy life, some woman will come a long and try and ruin that happiness you created😂 trust me.
I think hosting a meet up is a great idea! I think you’re going help a lot of people with your channel. Keep doing you, man!
Life is a struggle itself and finding others we can relate to and have things in common even when we really don't feel like socializing while others tell us we should is tough. If you do a "Meetup" please set up in advance and o people could put it into their plans and routines. If it is on the calendar then not a quick sudden thing you could end up with people coming from miles around. Keep chipping away Brother as your not only being brave and helping yourself your helping others..
saw your video about being alone and the comments were amazing your channel and the people here are kick ass, thanks for your bravery.
Dude...your comment on the snakeshit advice: "why didn't I think of that?" LOL. loved it. So funny!
Hey I think the organized meetup would be a really cool idea!
Hey I saw your first video and found it strangely relatable, though I’m much younger (24). I’ve also struggled lately with loneliness, but I find myself becoming more content with being alone as time goes on.
Electronic music is also a huge passion of mine as well. I like to make downtempo, trip hop, IDM, etc. Though, I am a huge perfectionist when it comes to producing, and haven’t uploaded much to my channel as a result.
Awesome way to create a lane for yourself and others who can share this same issues. Damn good idea for a meet up. I wish you the best
You and your channel are awesome Aaron! I’m really glad your content was recommended to me by TH-cam randomly earlier today. You are definitely the kind of guy I would like to hang out with at the gym and just laugh about all the stupid shit that the normies say to guys like us. Lol keep up the great work bro
You have a very genuine and sincere smile and nature about you. Build on that Aaron! 🙂
Well, good on you for knowing how to decipher between what is good and bad advice for you. Don’t get discouraged, and keep stepping out of your comfort zone. Best of luck!
Aaron, I watched your first video last night. Can I just say, as I cis gendered Normy “Beautiful” white, privileged 38 year old woman… I can relate. Unfortunately! I think just SOME of the things you mention are related to our generation. If not coupled up (divorced?) maybe our choices have led us to lonely lives. I think; possibly- there are a lot more people in our age range that have quit dating apps, are still single, and hate it. the love yourself stuff is hard to understand or do when you’ve never had a relationship. Easier to embrace the love yourself when you’ve loved real shitty people. My thoughts for now- I’m excited you did this, for you. The ladies will come! You’ll learn so much from this platform. I can’t wait to find out more about your journey!!
Seeing you smile laugh and joke in this video shows your great personality. Keep going!!!👍🏼
So nice to see you smiling! Keep it up my man :)
Love you Aaron don’t ever stop uploading my friend and god bless!
love the video! love the shirt!!! thank you Aaron :)
Cool. Yeah I listened to your first video and the two things that came to mind was joining an in person spectrum group. Also a qhht hypnosis session.
The worst advice is "Just be confident bro"
Aaron your a true gigachad 👍
Good luck with the meetup. It’s a good start.
Ohhhh dude that is a great idea!!!!! Have fun with your experience man, life’s supposed to be enjoyed
I have many friends who are 40 plus and single that I’ve met on meetup. Hosting a meetup for singles on the autism spectrum is a great idea! You’re an interesting, handsome man! Best of luck!
As a parent to a young adult with autism, I like the meet up idea.
Be careful - you may not realise it but you are presenting as vulnerable, this is the internet, and it’s full of scammers. If there’s an avenue to financially exploit you with a romance scam, you’ll be getting targeted before long.
A meet up for diverse people is a great idea. Just stay safe.
I think this channel is fantastic and I am glad the ole algorithm sent it my way. I was wondering who inspires you? For example, I was just recently listening to some Marc Rebillet in the background because I enjoy his freestyle music and his kick ass personality. I was also listening to a presentation by Temple Grandin not too long ago and she is both charming and very informative. Stuff like that. What about you? Who brings you energy and joy or focus and direction?
If getting rich was easy we would all do it. Haha. Money is not the only riches in life. You are doing great on this channel keep it coming❤
Dude, you’re on your way! Keep going
I tried posting on craigslist back in the day for playing backgammon in town at the sandwich shop but every person who replied thought it was some secret code for prostitution. Haha. Anyway, I hope your meetup attempt will be more successful than mine :)
Great videos Aaron! You get my follow. I laughed when you mentioned you had comments suggesting to convert to islam (no don't do that, been there) and telling you to go to the far east (also don't do that)😂 I don't have autism but I definitely think its hard in today's modern times to meet someone unless your the conventional type. If you never conformed throughout your life then its hard to meet someone full stop. It doesn't help that social media/internet has hijacked everyone's lives. Only means of communication now. I totally get it. Having been someone very unconventional who moved around throughout my childhood and adult life, I can honestly say its been very challenging. I truly believe everyone is finding it harder to meet the one. Damn it really sucks right!?
Gym is always worth man never stop gym 💪🏋️♂️
Wow. That is a great idea to host a meetup. I've hosted some. But if you stick with it they do catch on.
I stumbled accross your channel, watched your first video and now this one. If I was in your shoes I would try involving myself in some charity work. Doing something for the sake of others should help you give some sense of purpose outside of yourself. It could also be a good way of getting to know people who should be more understanding and open towards others.Just be open with people about your condition and explain that you need a bit of help with socializing and are not purposely trying to be distant or something like that, so that they don´t get a wrong idea. Just my 2 cents, hope everything works out for you man.
Oh man! You have the AKAI MPC. I just bought one of those. Been learning to keyboard.
In regards to meetup. Do it. Here in Knoxville TN, there is a girl who created a board game group and she’s got a consistent set of people. It is a great option for passing time.
Yeah, I got the mpc really recently and haven't delved into it much yet as there's a steep learning curve, but I've been watching tutorials and have started learning it.
Dude, you look and sound better than in the first video. Much better. You lift now and do new stuff, right? Seems to work. Good for you! Keep it up! Try new stuff!
""Think of yourself as dead. You have lived your life. Now take what's left and live it properly." - Marcus Aurelius"
I've started listening to narrations of the works of Marcus Aurelius. Great stuff.
@@aaronsjournal139 If you ever finish the works of Marcus Aurelius and want to dive a bit further into Stoicism, you could check out the works of Epictetus who is the man who inspired a large part of Aurelius’s work.
Where did you get your shirt??
I want that shirt!
Aaron you are so handsome and youseem so kind. I would of loved to go out with you if you asked. Just go for it, give it a shot and ask more women out, I think you will do very well.
You would be doing good work hosting a meetup for people with ASD, showing leadership skills is solid advice. There's been a redpill craze, so you're going to see a push for leaving the country to find a partner and treating women like a commodity. The truth is it's rough dating in the west and there are a lot of disgruntled men (there's a recent stat from the US that twice the number of men ages 18-29 report being single than women, around 60%), I personally believe aside from controversial reasons it's because there's a lack of education on gender dynamics and expectations are all over the place.
I think these days women just want men they can trust and lean on, the mountain to crashing waves. The problem is that a lot of women become jaded by past experiences with persuasive, manipulative men, grievances which social media stigmatizes and exacerbate, so it's difficult for a man to advertise himself as not having those traits. Something like an instagram profile with photos with friends or family that women could first vet would help quite a bit. Showing you're passionate about something or hold strong ideals for something positive is also really helpful
Good luck with your journey
TH-cam comments can be a cesspool. With that said, you have power over your own thoughts and dreams brother! Where there is a will, there is a way!
Great idea to host a meet-up!
Ok but this guy is actually really cute though.
Damn you’re already close to 3k
Great video.
Ever thought about livestreaming? Maybe you've done it, just found your channel. Bet there would be some people that would be interested in watching a livestream of you just jamming on your studio setup.
I think you’d be cool too if we could have an online meet up where people join video chat and just talk and chill maybe we can share music or funny videos and memes that we like.
Maybe there could be a set time for one hour or so this way there’s some structure.
I’ve noticed at first I’m very shy with people but once I get used to them that shyness goes away… Although the feeling of being drained from interacting always persists I think that’s just part of autism and auditory processing disorder.
You’ve said previously that you live in Nevada, correct? Carson City, per chance?
Leadership 100%
U should definitely stick with this it would be such a good idea I’d honestly come
Subbing to this channel, I rlly wanna see how this goes. u can do it man...
Yoooo. That Akai MPC in the backgrooooouuuund!!!
Yep, it's the latest addition to my setup! Having fun learning it so far. I also have a TR-8, Blofeld, Opsix, Monologue, MicroFreak, Cobalt8, and TD-3.
@@aaronsjournal139 pretty into synths myself. I see youre into some of the older style new wave stuff from your other tune. Have you explored some of the New Retro Wave stuff thats been coming out over the past 10 years or so?
You look good
Hi Aaron. I to have many of the characteristics you have described. Many of the same experiences you have described also happened to me, probably all of them really. I was black pilled by the time I was 27. Which was what helped me in the end. This autism that we have is not something that can be changed. The only thing that can be changed is our view of ourselves, and once this gets in order, then we can start to have some contentment and happiness. This peace we have then allows others to be more comfortable around us. Keep pursuing your special interests and be happy being alone. It worked for me. I finally met a woman at my work, she was not an American, because of that difference she had different values than most of the women raised in the US. You are most likely going to meet someone with ASD, or a woman that was raised differently to value your more deeper qualities, she will fall into your lap somehow, without you having to expend so much emotional currency.
I do not think i am on the spectrum, but i only learned about the whole eye contact thing when i was almost 30. Guess i never saw the logic in it. I think i can handle it quite well 10 years later, but too much eye contact is just creepy for me, and i would be perfectly fine having a conversation without ever looking at the other person.
Hosting a meetup for people on the spectrum is an excellent idea!
Host a meet up!
Great idea - show leadership & host a meet up
What state are you in
Ur awesome man for having the heart to do all this and yes you will get some of the worst advice on here don’t go to another country looking for love with a girl that is just gonna use you
Aaron, I like that you are honest. However the negativity and cynicism isn't helping. I've never been in your shoes so I can't relate 100% but you need to start shifting your mind to think positively about your situation. I know it sounds easier said than done but I can't tell you how much life can change when you put on the 'rose colored glasses'. Everyone goes through tough situations in life and believe me when I say you prob are ahead of a lot of men at your age. Feel free to contact me directly if you would like to discuss more. I've been thinking about getting into coaching men. I'm not looking to make any money off you, I honestly just want to help men live better lives
Is that the AKAI MPC X behind you???
MPC One.
got any dates out of all of this?!
Are they suggesting going to Asian countries because of gender roles and stereotypes regarding subservience? That's really gross advice. You want a spouse that's with you for good reasons.
Also I've lived in SE Asia and it's no more lonely than here, I was just more distracted.
Hosting a meet-up sounds like a great idea. Good luck!
No its because many western women over 25 have high bodycounts, are bisexual, overweight, have kids etc.
Im straight but hes a good looking guy, in good shape, has hobbies/interests and by the looks of his apparetment must have a decent paying job.
He should date younger women (under 25) or head over to asia/south america to get himself a younger woman who is gonna give him a family
You sound like Clint Eastwood....I wonder if he is originally from your area?
Why do you have such a good mic do you stream or something?
I got it in preparation for making this channel, but I also wanted to record vocals for my music production.
@@aaronsjournal139 nice. Good setup
I honestly think your channel will go viral, once placed into the right , or wrong, purview.
Thank you for you honesty! You have balls!
Damn, I wish I were you!
You look great, as far as I can judge as a straight old man.
I`m the same age, but my situation is way way worse, truck crash took some of my health.
So, my bs thoughts are:
( VERY IMPORTANT - first, check your sex hormones and adjust it with your doctor, if you need it, especially free testosterone )
What helped me in the past, are the dancing schools ( couple dances, tango e.t.c., where you touch and hold a girl,
and wrestling ( with guys, obviously, for inside changes )).
Wait, just read me out, ok?
Who gets the girls?
Winners.
Have you ever won in a fight? Yeah, dumb old school fight? Recently?
If not, please try some good hardcore wrestling or mma club with a good coach.
Sparrings are your goal. First you`ll hate em, then you`ll love em.
Not gonna lie, you`ll start to win in 6 months, or a year, but you`ll start changing inside a lot faster.
What fighting really does is makes the inner self doubting voices quieter.
You need to show your self esteem that you can win!
Get good gear to protect your face and balls, you`ll need em later.
Dancing schools are great!
They ALWAYS lack guys, girls are waiting for you.
You talk to them a little, hold em, touch em, and they touch you, even smile sometimes, if you`re learning fast.
Not bad, I think?
If you don`t like something, you can always change your time or a dancing school. Not a big deal.
But you definately need to get used to girls.
Don`t talk much, look into her eyes, smile, feel her...
Good luck!
PS
Subscribed!
Haha, snake shit )
Not a snake shit, checked it all myself, and results were very good!
If you have anxiety try cutting out caffeine. I did and I became so much calmer my social anxiety was halved. If not more
Thats funny. I was told that, go to Asia LOL.
Idk why this came up in my recommendations but you’re cute lol 😊
Aw, thank you!
Try it!
None of us down here in the comments are going to be upset if we dont get a response from you, we understand. Dont worry about the comments so much. Browse them if you find value in it, but dont get too hung up on them.
You have a nice smile
Thank you 😊
You have a gorgeous smile. You should know that about yourself.
Hell dude,
you got a real shine about ya here, compared to ur look in vid 1
onwards and upwards
I don't want you to take this the wrong way, but I fear you might be reading more into what marriage and relationships are like than is actually the case. Most relationships fail before there's even a commitment. Most committed relationships fail because the reality doesn't live up to the hype. Most divorces are filed by women. Half of the surviving marriages involve one or both partners being "unhappy". Something like 25% of the marriages are sexless. Married people feeling lonely is so common it's a cliche.
What you see in people's lives as an outsider is what they want you to see; some of them are showing you the truth and some aren't.
I'm not trying to say these relationships aren't important but I am saying that simply hitting that benchmark won't necessarily make your life better unless you're willing/able to meet your partners needs for the duration. And even then that's sometimes just not enough because these many of these other people (male and female alike) are incapable of being satisfied.
I would weep for you if you worked your way into a relationship with someone who was just trying to use you, or who held you in contempt, or who wanted to treat you like a servant. One cliche that's been making the rounds in "if you treat her like a celebrity she'll treat you like a fan". I don't want to see that happen to you. You might think your situation can't possibly get worse but I would challenge that by pointing out the possibility of building a family only to get kicked out of it later on through no fault of your own. Think about how hard that would hit you.
I visit a farmers market and meet some nice country girls there.
They seem to be more empathic, positive, humble, self-sufficient, hard working, family-oriented than city girls.
You know, because of "rural flight" there is gender imbalance, lots of single girls, I bet their flirting is unambigutious even neurodivergent will get it.
I posted on your first video three long ones. Hope it helps.
💙 Again, for the algorithm...
Can I talk to you? Like, actually a live chat?
I'd be open to that, sure.
@@aaronsjournal139 let me know what avenue is best. Hope you are having an ok weekend. It’s just nice to have people who care to talk to sometimes, even if it is on a screen! :)
You kinda look like the late Jason David Frank from Power Rangers
Lol there are idiots on the web. Glad you aren’t listening to them. We can just laugh at them!