Thank you for this guide. It's hard to accept what it says here because the narcissist, my sister, is my only family left. Also, I've only recently learned that she's a narcissist so I'm still in shock while also grieving. The grief is so intense :( I mean she can also be really nice so there's a strong trauma bond, but then the abuse is pretty bad too 😭
I continue to try to limit precisely this damage. My God it’s so hard 24/7 this determined neighbour getting into my home putting things in my food, ever altering the environment to deliver germs to disrupt my internal workings,replacing my gut biome with better bacteria ,having to de-sabotage my bike and car -tyre pressures mirrors every time before I go out,meanwhile feeling sick,constantly in the knowledge of‘what the hell-next,having to fix things indoors,clothes being ruined,shaving gear hidden as well as anything I need for fixing,people being conned against me. Breathing affected but still fighting on-only allowed a spoon-no plate, the vits and supps vitals for being able to cope with the all round attack on health. Oh etc etc that’s just a small example of the catalog of tactics let alone severe sleep deprivation just part of the dedicated campaign of attrition stalking phone tapping photos deleting ok that’ll do for now-a pause for breath and to thank you for being there. Much respect m
High conflict equals a hyper vigilant state 24/7. Even if you don’t wish to be. You will check your blood pressure and find it elevated even at rest. It is so unhealthy. It can also lead to weight gain and diabetes as you compensate with food/sugar. You feel demoralized and frozen so you don’t exercise or they won’t let you because they control the car or just in general cause chaos. Also you never get any hugs or genuine love or support from them so all of these positive endorphins are missing from your life and relationships. It’s horrible.
That much is true. I am under constant pressure at work and at home I don’t know who they will send to finish me because I know too much. They tried twice to get me killed.
So true. What's up with this sugar addiction which has cropped up after this abusive relationship. I am amazed at the amount of sugar I am craving. The amount of sleep and sugar is making me gain weight. Maybe any sugar alternative will help?! Any idea regarding stevia?
@@kritikaroy5058 swap the sugar for protein. Your body needs fuel. Glucose is it's natural first choice. Drink lots of water too. It'll help with fatigue. Your body has been fighting, now it's tired. It will
@free2think I went to police station they didn’t care. I asked them to take photos of my bruises they didn’t. I waited 15 days to get to see the investigator called here corpo de delito when the bruising was gone
That’s why I couldn’t take naps even I didn’t get enough sleep at night. I felt exhausted all the time. I was always in survival mode. Danish, appreciate if you could make a video about healing the nervous system. Thank you so much. You save my life!
It’s interesting how doctors don’t understand the relationship between illness and toxic relationships. For years I suffered anxiety, depression , IBS and chronic infections. I was given medication sent to different specialists. Not one doctor asked me about my marriage. No one asked if I was in a healthy relationship. I just found out about narc abuse in the last couple of years by watching your videos and some others. People should be made aware of narcissistic abuse . It ruins your life and the worst part is you can’t label it. You blame yourself. You think it’s your fault. When I suffered my illnesses my narc spouse treated it like an inconvenience. He never tried to help me or come to the doctor with me. In fact he yelled at me the one time he drove me when I had to go for a test in the hospital because he didn’t want to be late to work. He was self employed. When I got to the hospital I was literally in tears from his screaming.After that I never asked him again to come with me I either went alone or asked a family member to come with me. I wasted my youth and my good health on this guy. I wish I new earlier that he was a narc. It would have changed a lot of things in my life.
I could have written that... Except my doctor of 35yrs eventually told me to leave. Ive had several ops at this stage. My organs were shutting down from living with TWO toxic people & two more visiting. I left my home & business. Health improved 1000000%. Got Divorced.. Long process. Im still amazrd that my declining health (from start of marriage) was linked to Narcissism. Educated myself.
Thank you Danish Yes -that hyper vigilance is so real I could never breathe properly I was always stressed ,nervous and uncomfortable So now after getting out 19 months ago and going NC 3 days later and learning about narcissism -I can breathe,sleep and my BP had lowered Now I’m aware of a toxic person-it I’m tense and can’t be myself I stay away😊
I am blown away on how you deliver your message. You are not only so informal and educational, but you also know exactly how to make us understand it. It makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing this and giving us KNOWLEDGE! 🙌🏽👏🏽
I can actually relate to this . Living with a narcissist you are in constant flight or fight mode all the time. They don’t want to listen to you empathetically , they can’t talk to you within reason. I’ve been on anxiety tablets now for 2 years and according to them it’s always something wrong in my brain , something wrong with the way I act or I shouldn’t be so touchy . If they wouldn’t make my life a daily living hell and shout all the time then maybe I wouldn’t be so depressed.
I will pray for healing for your body and mind. I am experiencing this myself as well. God can help us when "man" cannot. Stay positive and stay in faith, your sister in Christ.
@@corymiller7203 sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy. I feel so isolated and all alone . The reason I feel crazy is because on the outside to strangers and other people they are “ quiet and reserved and polite ! What an act
Thank you Danish for helping me understand what I suspected long ago. I have suffered since I was a small scapegoated child until I discovered freedom and learned to defend myself from their continued attempts to get me back. I am so glad to be still alive.
Good afternoon Danish I truly appreciate your help with your channel I just have to set sometimes and let it soak in my brain I don't have one fond memory of the demonic evil entity I was married to leaved on eggshells for 40 years so thankful Jesus saved me from the demonic evil entity narcissistic abuser
Yes a video on helping the nervous system. Maybe skills to manage and suppress the extremes so that functioning thinking could improve. I suffer from anxiety, depression, and freeze all of the time now. Before I discovered that all of the years of being hurt by him was deliberate my brain couldn’t cope and made the big bad world the cause of my constant fear. Now I am understanding that because I was being covertly attacked inside what was supposed to be a safe place by someone who claimed to love me the fear is now directed accurately. Unfortunately 27+years of misplaced fear has piled up and I am re-experiencing traumatic incidents. The fear is paralyzing and prevents me from taking needed steps to get away from him.
Thought i was doing good no contact for 3 months, thought i was starting to get inch confidence back, till turning up at my door 3 weeks ago ,no real reason but to seek my attention again so yet again have to go through the no contact ,anxiety going through roof and constant panic attacks, totally drained ,cant focus on anything all want to do is sleep
Excellent and insightful video! I can relate. Looking back, I didn't have a car until my 20s and walked everywhere. For the mind and healthy nervous system, I think walking every day, especially in nature, is very healing.
Yes please. My father is one. I don't have the funds for therapy. Been no contact since 2018. Still on anti depressants and anti anxiety medication. I still get triggered by people around me, especially loud talking, banging noises, etc. Please assist to advise what programs you are talking about for healing, and please let us have more videos about healing. I'm a new subscriber and thankful for people like you who help survivors like us to overcome narcissistic abuse. Good luck to everyone out there. I'm almost 50 and wonder if I'll ever think and act "normally" or have the self esteem and self confidence other people have.
OMGoodness, Im not there yet, not quite divorced, but soon, but your comment that you can still get triggered by loud talking and banging, horrifies me that this will never end, even after he's gone 😕
There is a therapist expert in famely scapegoating with narcessist in the famely. She can help you for free to give you advise how to heal, and to understand wat is going on. She wrote also book about it after 10 years of recerce .you can find her online her name is Rebecca. C Mandeville. I am realey greatfull i found her nollege. Love from Holland . ❤
Thank you for going in depth about the physical damage long term exposure to a clinical narcissist causes. I'm coming up on 4 years since an ex girlfriend narcissist completely destroyed my health; physical and mental. I ruminated almost constantly for 3 years after the brutal discard that took place in March of 2019 when the ex filed a false police report for domestic abuse. I was arrested and even though I never lived with my ex in my home the police immediately gave her my home. On the spot. It took me 30 days to get back into my home and it had been damaged, raided and robbed, and she had been hooking up with men in my bed beginning Day One. I was aware of how badly it all affected my mind but just recently I've been diagnosed with heart problems and a very distegulated immune system; which opens the door for opportunistic illnesses. If your gut tells you something is wrong with a person you're close to or want to be close to...don't do what I did and ignore those red flags. Run and don't look back because you can't defend against those type people, or win.
Something similar happened to me. It wasnt really about the material loss I suffered. I was so hooked on her and she used it to break me physically. Never laid a hand on me but did it with words and behaviour.
I understand so many things from your videos. Thank you for explaining things in such a simple way. It means so much to me Danish. After being in a relationship for just 6 months, I got bed ridden for 3 months. The abuse was too high. After three months of watching your videos and meditation and so many other things, finally I am able to move around a bit. I feel this feeling of freeness along with a feeling of loss but am glad to be able to escape. I fear what will happen when he calls me again or sends his friends to check up on me. He might even come over to my home. They are so scary, I feel scared. Going no contact has been the right decision which I could take only because of your guidance. Otherwise I constantly felt, I could have tried more, I could've bent over more. But no matter what I did, I was never enough. I miss how I enjoyed my life before I made the mistake of marrying this abusive addict. I definitely felt the need of a soulmate but never imagined that instead I would get a nightmare. It's better to remain single I guess. Especially after being from a dysfunctional family and being traumatized in this relationship, I feel I will be forever alone. That feeling is scary and brings so much sadness at the same time. Atleast am not being traumatized and abused anymore.
Its important to get enough vitamins and minerals especially magnesium and potassium due to the stress causing our bodies to burn through these vital elements in our bodies.
Also Omega 3, I also do D3, B complex. Magnesium instead of anxiolytics. Exercise. Try to stay away from the antidepressants etc. This too shall pass but it is painful.
Excellent summary of the effects of narc abuse on the central nervous system, Danish. When there is little balance btw the 2 systems and SNS is dominant, the physical body starts to collapse. 10 years ago, I was unable to walk due to sudden intense, debilitating lower back pain (sciatica) that ran down my right leg into the big toe of my foot. The cause was a ruptured L5 disc resting on my sciatic nerve. To heal, i had to spend 40 days in bed to rest the nerve followed by neurological and chiropractic appts to re-calibrate my back. It took almost 2 years of physical therapy and guided meditation to tap into my PNS system for relief and peace of mind. Thank u again for this clear explanation of how living a hypervigilant life due to narc abuse can only lead to a great deal of pain, suffering, and even disease. It is one i can attest to. :-)
Danish you made me laugh in the good way when you said 'there are no beasts now but a narcissist is one so you survived that'☺️ Also im seeing a psych for trauma work however their communication as a whole is not as targeted, direct, and easy to understand as what you described in an 8min video, thankyou👍 Its because youve gone through the shit yourself. Yes please do a follow up vid on nervous system healing.
I now understand the correlation between our nervous system and our health problems. Ive been having on and off for many years digestive and sluggish bowel problems, so called food allergies that effect my skin. This year I had what I think was gastrointestinal problem with loose stools etc for about 5 weeks with alot of problems. I always manage to get these things cleared up with alternative methods of (homeopathics and supplements etc), but once in awhile something starts again and again. Now for last couple of years its hard to sleep and have on and off anxiety. If I hadn't exercised for years now Id be more a mess, as it calms me in so many ways. **WOW!.. Here Iam stressed so much with all these health issues taking things to help me clear things, only to realize that the abuse has compromized my neverous system and weakened my immune system of which my body can't fight for me to the max. Thanks Dinash so much for helping us all. * Have you made s video on how we can further help our nervous system. This would so helpful....God Bless...✝️👑🙏💞
Mine was arrange marriage,but then my husband Narendra Sinha started quarreling with me, told me to live in dark, I got confused, memory loss, thus I lost my gold chain, every day he is quarreling 43 years, he doesn’t help, or contribute in the family 😢
Yes, this was extremely insightful and educational!! I sincerely hope you will give us insight on how to get re-regulated and beneficial practices to maintain ourselves. Thank you so much Danish!!! 💓
Thank you Danish...you explain the cause and effect very effectively...now I understood how I became so ill due to narcissist close friend and later a boss...which is going on at present...
Thank you for naming & explaining the nervous system components -&- then explaining how physiological functions (such as stress hormones) interact with the nervous system. I am grateful for that information & I would very much welcome more info on this subject. I consider this info vital to formulate a cognitive map of narc behavior in order to counteract it + navigate away from it. I think ALL narcs are very aware of what effect they have on their victims. They surely know they are like gods of misery casting evil spells on their victims. They seem to have no remorse while empowering themselves by watching their victims experience submission & pain & bewilderment after infecting innocent people with their disabling narc virus. I appreciate all of your information and I look forward to learning more in order to understand + increase my awareness of what narcissists are doing. Also, I like the chapter breakdown in the description menu. [ I apologize for my redundancy. The problem is that I have spent most of my life in a narc jungle & I need a lot of help to free myself of the narc jumble that was programmed in me. Your information helps to replace darkness with enlightenment.]
10 years later - I’m only now getting the right advice. All the advice I was given was pushing me further into fight flight. Wasted years of ‘thinking positively’ & ‘trying harder’ So little validation of experience was available and almost no appropriate advice..
I got a terrible case of shingles after six years with a narcissist. You’re so agitated your immune system is compromised to the point that viruses hidden in your body, (Chicken pox), is allowed to emerge as an incredibly painful rash with blisters. It feels like someone has taken a blowtorch to your skin. A single beads of water running over it is like a can opener ripping through your skin. Six weeks on my back, I could not move. We had a fight at the time, and had broken it off. She had one of her signature, “tantrums,” for absolutely no reason. It was so upsetting and emotionally exhausting. My body, just gave up. I’m no contact now, four + years, still recovering.
Thank you for this information and the video on brain damage.Ive survived narcissistic abuse twice now and through therapy and self care I've learned a lot but never learned about health problems that can occur in the victim.🎉
I would greatly appreciate if you do an other episode to help stabilized the nervous system for I feel stuck in the constant never ending body tension.
What has helped me since I got out is doing exhales-it calms me-now your body will recognize toxicity/danger and you can do breathing to regulate I know people also meditate and do yoga
@@saraliburd7752 Great advice. Couple of other things include exercise, sleeping well, cold shower (wonderful for reregulation), moving to no sugar/ low carb lifestyle, reading, journalling and getting some sunshine. Sounds like a lot but take each day at a time. Regards, Allan from South Africa
It's a narcissistic world now. It's always a balance between calming down, then strategizing how to pivot and resist in such a way that they self destruct instead of us. Trying to do it during menopause and with no family left and in the wrong area of the country for your talents is equally as devestating. There are some months of the year when I freak out all over again and have to re-assimilate my psyche, kind of like a mosaic suddenly exploding all over the floor, then having to be pieced together again. The only thing that holds the mosaic together is TRUST - trust in myself, and trust in other people. Thank God my memory is not gone, so that I can at least remember how to trust in my past evidence of progress. I still hate this world full of people who constantly create obstacles for others, though. Also, if it were not for the carnivore diet, my nervous sytem would not be able to function at the level it does right now, depite being afflicted with Lyme Disease. For a few years now I've been the poster child for disease and illness, yet making it look "so easy" in front of other people who haven't even enountered the tip of the iceberg. Danish - if you can ever get around to it, please do an episode or two about "sheeplike" behavior of other people. Where I live, most people simply keep their head down and deny anything is as bad as it is as long as they are doing the bare minimum in life and are able to make money for their lifestyles! (there is not a lot of caring for others around here - not even in Church. Just following rules or being told what to do by a higher up in order to help someone is what is generally done.) People do need to question themselves from time to time: do I have enough spiritual gasoline to make the life journey, or am I riding just on the "fumes" of others around me to make this life?
I used to get tremors night times I couldn’t understand y my body shakes in d night for no reason.. now 5 yrs away from narc nd no such thing is happening..I did not have physically abusive relationship but had mentally abusive relationship with manipulation’s and other stuffs..
1. go search how to regulation with nervous system on chat gbt or youtube. 2. gain your favourite hobbies. 3. do everything with slowly out! 4. music can calm your nervous system. 5. sing can calm your nervous system. 6. painting can calm your nervous system. i mean, do your favourite hobbies can calm your nervous system. but always that it takes a lot of times and process. i wish all the best for your healing journey.
No matter which craft they use , witchcraft , this is the main goal of all of them at the base , one little narc at a time , and all at once somedays . This world is so wacked , thank you , your work is ponomanal .
PLEASE do more on Healing from Narcissist Abuse. And I want to prosecute my abuser! Do you have anything to help me prove their True Self in court and to others. She's Gaslighted my family for almost 40 years! Thank You for your healing words!
Danish thank you for the information but it made me so sad to hear the facts you spoke. The heart beats fast when it feels threatened or about to be harmed. This is so sad and accurate I’ve experienced this feeling very often and it just gets worse with time. Thank you for educating and validating 🙏🏻
Yes, please a video on nervous system healing. I went through a 11 year relationship with a narcist and my nervous system has never been the same. I get routine panic attacks with all the symptoms you mentioned. I've tried therapy and the therapists don't seem to understand the that it's not simply life stress I can breathe away; or they want to prescribe drugs. I'm not looking to dwell on the past. I'd love to get my nervous system back to normal and get on with my life.
Yes I totally agree about the nervous system I was in such a state of a break down from the adrenaline and from the cortisol that I had like Tourette’s jerking and whenever I would have a traumatic thought or a person would walk in the room and just whisper my name I was like very very reactive now my father had that too from the trauma of his life so it was kind of genetic but mine had accelerated and gotten worse fortunately now I’m not I’m smooth and easy the jerking and then the spastic Ness of my nervous system has subsided and you are so right about the damaging effects of the stress on the body and the nervous system nailed it thank you so much Danish you’re amazing‼️‼️‼️👍💌😌🌈 when I was going through that it was your videos along with a couple of other peoples that really helped me to to overcome and stay connected to the truth and to the voice of reason I’m free now and it’s wonderful . 🙂🖼❤️
I was diagnosed with diverticulitis the week before my wedding, MS, 1 yr after marriage and neuropathy the next. I was 50 yrs old at the time and survived 2 divorces, 4 children, buried both parents. I called him my Happy Ending…..NOT!!!!!
1. go search how to regulation with nervous system on chat gbt or youtube. 2. gain your favourite hobbies. 3. do everything with slowly out! 4. music can calm your nervous system. 5. sing can calm your nervous system. 6. painting can calm your nervous system. i mean, do your favourite hobbies can calm your nervous system. but always that it takes a lot of times and process. i wish all the best for your healing journey.
I have Chronic fatigue Syndrome, chronic pain, EDS and POTS, spinal collapse, extreme anxiety, depression, cant regulate body temperature, loss of bladder control, brain fog, but the worst syptom is nervous system flare ups causing MS like all over internal tremors, you will feel like you are plugged into the mains, its horrendous way to live a life, all of this from a lifetime of cluster B toxic abuse, If you are reading this and you are in the early days of struggling what to do about living in an extremely toxic environment, please LEAVE, DONT THINK, GET OUT, I dont care how you think you feel about this person, if you are shouted at, put down, invalidated, if this person is not kind, just or true there no excuse for their behaviours, it will put you in the hospital, repeated surgeries, meds or evn cost you your life, dont stay, please hear me
Danish plz do videos in urdu or hindi Our people need lot of awareness of such people. I know people who are suffering but totally clueless how to deal with such people There are some in hindi but they are not as comprehensive as your videos are
1. go search how to regulation with nervous system on chat gbt or youtube. 2. gain your favourite hobbies. 3. do everything with slowly out! 4. music can calm your nervous system. 5. sing can calm your nervous system. 6. painting can calm your nervous system. i mean, do your favourite hobbies can calm your nervous system. but always that it takes a lot of times and process. i wish all the best for your healing journey.
Thanks Danish, I got answer now for why I cannot breath normally, I always have in digestion issues. Danish, please make a video on how to calm the nervous system.
1. go search how to regulation with nervous system on chat gbt or youtube. 2. gain your favourite hobbies. 3. do everything with slowly out! 4. music can calm your nervous system. 5. sing can calm your nervous system. 6. painting can calm your nervous system. i mean, do your favourite hobbies can calm your nervous system. but always that it takes a lot of times and process. i wish all the best for your healing journey.
My weight went from 59 to 79 kgs becuase of narcissistic abuse,Hair started to fall,Blood pressure increased and life quality diminished beyond repair they sincerely are evil and should be removed .
You've really shared very good insights Danish. Your videos provide lot of education and motivation to me. I would be great and very helpful if you could make a video on how to heal our nervous system after decades of narc abuse. Request.
@narcabusecoach - first of all - THANK YOU! Now I know where my brain fogs are from and stuttering from. I'm a survivor (barely) of a 12 year relationship with a narcissist ex wife and now I learned that my brain issues are because of that. Did i miss the practical steps on how to deal with reprogramming the nervous system? If I didn't, I would love to see a video about this. Thank you!
Such a good explanation of what happens to the nervous system. I developed severe insomnia where I couldn't sleep for 3 days and then I'd sleep for 1 hour. My nervous system was just stuck in fight, flight, freeze. Thankfully it's much better nowadays after some breathing and other excercises. And, of course, with the narc far in the past. Thank you for these videos.
Even when I was not with them I was stuck in the ON position. And I never developed a resting state. I changed that through the use of GABA before bed.
Yes this is so true, my entire body has been offset bc, of my emotional and mental abuse. I have been 8 months no contact with my ex narcissist. Since then I have been loving on myself, exercising, eating better and doing TRE exercises which has helped me greatly release trauma from my body. I'm feeling and doing better than ever before.
My mother is narcissit and a covert one but she tried to ruin my peace and happiness in every possible ways. I was always traumatized, took anti deppressants for almost a decade, got married to a narcissist spouse who was an abuser in the same way too. Finally I got myself divorced and started to dive down into Islamic knowledge. Now I am practising Muslim and I left all my pills and decided to stick with Islamic way of life and only with this I found a real inner peace. But I continued with my therapy too. But now I do not need any therapy Alhamdylillah.
Yes and now I’ve survived 3 strokes brought on by stress and trauma from the narc ex but having 2 children with him - 1 that just turned 18 who has been his helper/golden child and 1 who has Down Syndrome and is 15 and I’m dreading the day he takes me back to court to get full control over. My body literally can’t take anymore!
Thank you so much for this teaching. Everything makes sense now. My manifestation was IBS and a migraine that lasted 6 weeks. I had slurred speech and many neurological symptoms. From that point forward, I divorced my husband and knew it was emotional abuse. I know now it was narcissistic abuse. I have been in a no contact state with him for several years. Unfortunately, the migraines have come back and it is a result of my relationship with my sister. She has moved away from me and I am in a no contact situation with her. Now, I’m trying to heal again. I would like more information on how to switch back to the PNS from SNS. It feels like my brain has been damaged. How can I heal it? Thank you 😊
If someone is in such a relationship, with a narcissist where one can resist direct retaliation (for example because of comparable physical strength), then one can turn their abuse effect against them, and have them taste their own poison. The tactic is simple, when a narcissists abuses, they are enraged, because one moves out of line with them. This means that if someone continuously defies them and undermines their authority, then one can keep them in an enraged, stressed state for a prolonged period, which is exhausting. When I am stuck with a narcissists I usually implement it via a passive disobedience. Verbally I assure the narcissist that I comply, but when he looks away, I stalwartly continue my agenda. When the narcissist spots me and berates me I feign remorse and compliance (though sometimes clinically), but when he looks away, rinse, repeat. Another way of passive disobedience is to disrupt the mind games that, the narcissist wants force into. This can be done multiple ways. One good tactic is to show complete ignorance and utter disinterest in what the narcissists talk about. Narcissistic mind games usually based on abstract, delusional concepts, rules so it is easy to be ignorant about them. A more proactively disruptive approach is when I claim that their narrative delusionally lacks specificity and I require them to be specific and factually correct and logically coherent. I claim that otherwise their speech is senseless, meaningless. When I do this passive disobedience persistently, I can get really under their skin. If I do it well then I can stress them out more then they stress me out. Of course, one has to do this smartly and have tactical breaks in disobedience when too much escalation occurs or when the favor of the narcissists is needed. But with sufficient persistence one can have them suffer. So for example, from one narcissistic person (he was also sociopathic so I had to be careful) I managed to evoke a panic response, when I conducted my tactic. In psychological warfare persistence is key.
Im in constant fight or flight im either ready to take off which is mostly what I'll do, yet sometimes the fight will kick in like im ready to verbally go off. Like my mind and body constantly on guard. Im so tired of it. Not a lot of people get it, it doesnt just shut off, it becomes a natural state for people sadly.
My greatest thanks to you, Danish, as you spread the knowledge thats so important and needed. I came from narcistic family. My state was FREEZE and dissociate. In my 20 i started to take dissociatives recreationally (it saves me, constantly returning myself to present moment). But my system get used to be in narc abuse, so in 20s i find a sadist, which took year to broke me completely. He enjoyed it.I ran away, change country - and find another narcissist in there! It take years to understand, that it was the 'fault' of my system, my brain and body - to find a state and persons that 'feels like home'. Its not a fault really. Its just how i used to live from very beginning. I live in narcissistic abuse for 10 years? No, its 30+ Now in my 30s, i rent a room, i work, i try to heal. Your educational videos helps A LOT. Im so grateful and appeeciate your work and knowledge you spreading. Please continue. And may you and everybody reading this finds joy everyday.
Please tell me how to record a narcissist, my narcissist sister is a shape shifter , she can figure out what I am Going to do no matter how cool and calm and casual I appear in front of her , sooner or lately she gets to know what I am trying to do , and when I record openly either she is subdued me through her harsh death rays , killing stare but very hard to catch only subconscious mind can register
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Thank you for this guide. It's hard to accept what it says here because the narcissist, my sister, is my only family left. Also, I've only recently learned that she's a narcissist so I'm still in shock while also grieving. The grief is so intense :( I mean she can also be really nice so there's a strong trauma bond, but then the abuse is pretty bad too 😭
To answer your question, yes absolutely positively make more videos on the nervous system
yes please how to heal the nervous system
Yes we need more about recovery than about the narcissist
I continue to try to limit precisely this damage. My God it’s so hard 24/7 this determined neighbour getting into my home putting things in my food, ever altering the environment to deliver germs to disrupt my internal workings,replacing my gut biome with better bacteria ,having to de-sabotage my bike and car -tyre pressures mirrors every time before I go out,meanwhile feeling sick,constantly in the knowledge of‘what the hell-next,having to fix things indoors,clothes being ruined,shaving gear hidden as well as anything I need for fixing,people being conned against me. Breathing affected but still fighting on-only allowed a spoon-no plate, the vits and supps vitals for being able to cope with the all round attack on health. Oh etc etc that’s just a small example of the catalog of tactics let alone severe sleep deprivation just part of the dedicated campaign of attrition stalking phone tapping photos deleting ok that’ll do for now-a pause for breath and to thank you for being there. Much respect m
High conflict equals a hyper vigilant state 24/7. Even if you don’t wish to be. You will check your blood pressure and find it elevated even at rest. It is so unhealthy. It can also lead to weight gain and diabetes as you compensate with food/sugar. You feel demoralized and frozen so you don’t exercise or they won’t let you because they control the car or just in general cause chaos. Also you never get any hugs or genuine love or support from them so all of these positive endorphins are missing from your life and relationships. It’s horrible.
That much is true. I am under constant pressure at work and at home I don’t know who they will send to finish me because I know too much. They tried twice to get me killed.
So true. What's up with this sugar addiction which has cropped up after this abusive relationship. I am amazed at the amount of sugar I am craving. The amount of sleep and sugar is making me gain weight. Maybe any sugar alternative will help?! Any idea regarding stevia?
@@kritikaroy5058 swap the sugar for protein. Your body needs fuel. Glucose is it's natural first choice. Drink lots of water too. It'll help with fatigue. Your body has been fighting, now it's tired. It will
Every word is true
We are so drained out
Not able to think it through reasonably
Get confused
They do not want us unwind body and mind to
relax
@free2think I went to police station they didn’t care. I asked them to take photos of my bruises they didn’t. I waited 15 days to get to see the investigator called here corpo de delito when the bruising was gone
Gastral intestinal disorders are usually due to a shot nervous system. The narcissist causes havoc on the macro and micro levels.
These people are criminals and should be in jail
That’s why I couldn’t take naps even I didn’t get enough sleep at night. I felt exhausted all the time. I was always in survival mode. Danish, appreciate if you could make a video about healing the nervous system. Thank you so much. You save my life!
I also couldn't take naps anymore either and now I know why,I was afraid something bad would happen if I napped.Thank you for sharing that with all.❤
Thea of cammomille calms down .
Absolutely correct!
I suffered a stroke due to high blood pressure. Was at the receiving end of narcissistic behaviour for 36 years
So true and I was a nervous wreck and I feel like damaged goods.
It’s interesting how doctors don’t understand the relationship between illness and toxic relationships. For years I suffered anxiety, depression , IBS and chronic infections. I was given medication sent to different specialists. Not one doctor asked me about my marriage. No one asked if I was in a healthy relationship. I just found out about narc abuse in the last couple of years by watching your videos and some others. People should be made aware of narcissistic abuse . It ruins your life and the worst part is you can’t label it. You blame yourself. You think it’s your fault. When I suffered my illnesses my narc spouse treated it like an inconvenience. He never tried to help me or come to the doctor with me. In fact he yelled at me the one time he drove me when I had to go for a test in the hospital because he didn’t want to be late to work. He was self employed. When I got to the hospital I was literally in tears from his screaming.After that I never asked him again to come with me I either went alone or asked a family member to come with me. I wasted my youth and my good health on this guy. I wish I new earlier that he was a narc. It would have changed a lot of things in my life.
Me too. Went through same. :/
I could have written that... Except my doctor of 35yrs eventually told me to leave. Ive had several ops at this stage. My organs were shutting down from living with TWO toxic people & two more visiting.
I left my home & business. Health improved 1000000%. Got Divorced.. Long process. Im still amazrd that my declining health (from start of marriage) was linked to Narcissism. Educated myself.
I don’t think doctors know.
How do we help the nervous system and stabilize it? Please make a video and tell us how ❤
Thank you Danish
Yes -that hyper vigilance is so real
I could never breathe properly
I was always stressed ,nervous and uncomfortable
So now after getting out 19 months ago and going NC 3 days later and learning about narcissism -I can breathe,sleep and my BP had lowered
Now I’m aware of a toxic person-it I’m tense and can’t be myself I stay away😊
I am blown away on how you deliver your message. You are not only so informal and educational, but you also know exactly how to make us understand it. It makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing this and giving us KNOWLEDGE! 🙌🏽👏🏽
I can actually relate to this . Living with a narcissist you are in constant flight or fight mode all the time. They don’t want to listen to you empathetically , they can’t talk to you within reason. I’ve been on anxiety tablets now for 2 years and according to them it’s always something wrong in my brain , something wrong with the way I act or I shouldn’t be so touchy . If they wouldn’t make my life a daily living hell and shout all the time then maybe I wouldn’t be so depressed.
I will pray for healing for your body and mind. I am experiencing this myself as well. God can help us when "man" cannot. Stay positive and stay in faith, your sister in Christ.
@@corymiller7203 sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy. I feel so isolated and all alone . The reason I feel crazy is because on the outside to strangers and other people they are “ quiet and reserved and polite ! What an act
Thank you Danish for helping me understand what I suspected long ago. I have suffered since I was a small scapegoated child until I discovered freedom and learned to defend myself from their continued attempts to get me back. I am so glad to be still alive.
Good afternoon Danish I truly appreciate your help with your channel I just have to set sometimes and let it soak in my brain I don't have one fond memory of the demonic evil entity I was married to leaved on eggshells for 40 years so thankful Jesus saved me from the demonic evil entity narcissistic abuser
Yes a video on helping the nervous system. Maybe skills to manage and suppress the extremes so that functioning thinking could improve.
I suffer from anxiety, depression, and freeze all of the time now. Before I discovered that all of the years of being hurt by him was deliberate my brain couldn’t cope and made the big bad world the cause of my constant fear. Now I am understanding that because I was being covertly attacked inside what was supposed to be a safe place by someone who claimed to love me the fear is now directed accurately. Unfortunately 27+years of misplaced fear has piled up and I am re-experiencing traumatic incidents. The fear is paralyzing and prevents me from taking needed steps to get away from him.
Thought i was doing good no contact for 3 months, thought i was starting to get inch confidence back, till turning up at my door 3 weeks ago ,no real reason but to seek my attention again so yet again have to go through the no contact ,anxiety going through roof and constant panic attacks, totally drained ,cant focus on anything all want to do is sleep
Main thing is your trying again
And this time you’ll know what to do if he ever knocks again
Best of luck❤️
Yes, I would like another video with more information on the work for physical healing of the nervous system. Thank you.
YES, please make a video on how to help our nervous system! :)
Excellent and insightful video! I can relate. Looking back, I didn't have a car until my 20s and walked everywhere. For the mind and healthy nervous system, I think walking every day, especially in nature, is very healing.
Yes please. My father is one. I don't have the funds for therapy. Been no contact since 2018. Still on anti depressants and anti anxiety medication. I still get triggered by people around me, especially loud talking, banging noises, etc. Please assist to advise what programs you are talking about for healing, and please let us have more videos about healing. I'm a new subscriber and thankful for people like you who help survivors like us to overcome narcissistic abuse. Good luck to everyone out there. I'm almost 50 and wonder if I'll ever think and act "normally" or have the self esteem and self confidence other people have.
Or be healthy throughout the year or have enough energy, especially in the mornings.
OMGoodness, Im not there yet, not quite divorced, but soon, but your comment that you can still get triggered by loud talking and banging, horrifies me that this will never end, even after he's gone 😕
There is a therapist expert in famely scapegoating with narcessist in the famely. She can help you for free to give you advise how to heal, and to understand wat is going on. She wrote also book about it after 10 years of recerce .you can find her online her name is Rebecca. C Mandeville. I am realey greatfull i found her nollege. Love from Holland . ❤
Thank you for going in depth about the physical damage long term exposure to a clinical narcissist causes.
I'm coming up on 4 years since an ex girlfriend narcissist completely destroyed my health; physical and mental. I ruminated almost constantly for 3 years after the brutal discard that took place in March of 2019 when the ex filed a false police report for domestic abuse. I was arrested and even though I never lived with my ex in my home the police immediately gave her my home. On the spot. It took me 30 days to get back into my home and it had been damaged, raided and robbed, and she had been hooking up with men in my bed beginning Day One.
I was aware of how badly it all affected my mind but just recently I've been diagnosed with heart problems and a very distegulated immune system; which opens the door for opportunistic illnesses.
If your gut tells you something is wrong with a person you're close to or want to be close to...don't do what I did and ignore those red flags. Run and don't look back because you can't defend against those type people, or win.
Something similar happened to me. It wasnt really about the material loss I suffered. I was so hooked on her and she used it to break me physically. Never laid a hand on me but did it with words and behaviour.
I understand so many things from your videos. Thank you for explaining things in such a simple way. It means so much to me Danish. After being in a relationship for just 6 months, I got bed ridden for 3 months. The abuse was too high. After three months of watching your videos and meditation and so many other things, finally I am able to move around a bit. I feel this feeling of freeness along with a feeling of loss but am glad to be able to escape. I fear what will happen when he calls me again or sends his friends to check up on me. He might even come over to my home. They are so scary, I feel scared. Going no contact has been the right decision which I could take only because of your guidance. Otherwise I constantly felt, I could have tried more, I could've bent over more. But no matter what I did, I was never enough. I miss how I enjoyed my life before I made the mistake of marrying this abusive addict. I definitely felt the need of a soulmate but never imagined that instead I would get a nightmare. It's better to remain single I guess. Especially after being from a dysfunctional family and being traumatized in this relationship, I feel I will be forever alone. That feeling is scary and brings so much sadness at the same time. Atleast am not being traumatized and abused anymore.
@@jbrown2908 thank you for this warm comment.. Bless you. You are right about just ignoring them. This freed me from the anxiety.
Am still effected by someone like this from 15 years ago,thank you for explaining this reasoning,helped immense ly.
Its important to get enough vitamins and minerals especially magnesium and potassium due to the stress causing our bodies to burn through these vital elements in our bodies.
@@jbrown2908 Oh yes but you still need extra vitamins and minerals.
Also Omega 3, I also do D3, B complex. Magnesium instead of anxiolytics. Exercise. Try to stay away from the antidepressants etc. This too shall pass but it is painful.
Excellent summary of the effects of narc abuse on the central nervous system, Danish. When there is little balance btw the 2 systems and SNS is dominant, the physical body starts to collapse. 10 years ago, I was unable to walk due to sudden intense, debilitating lower back pain (sciatica) that ran down my right leg into the big toe of my foot. The cause was a ruptured L5 disc resting on my sciatic nerve. To heal, i had to spend 40 days in bed to rest the nerve followed by neurological and chiropractic appts to re-calibrate my back. It took almost 2 years of physical therapy and guided meditation to tap into my PNS system for relief and peace of mind. Thank u again for this clear explanation of how living a hypervigilant life due to narc abuse can only lead to a great deal of pain, suffering, and even disease. It is one i can attest to. :-)
Same thing with me, so much pain in my L4/5, but also diagnosed with severe arthritis and MS.
Danish you made me laugh in the good way when you said 'there are no beasts now but a narcissist is one so you survived that'☺️
Also im seeing a psych for trauma work however their communication as a whole is not as targeted, direct, and easy to understand as what you described in an 8min video, thankyou👍 Its because youve gone through the shit yourself.
Yes please do a follow up vid on nervous system healing.
Thank You Sir.
This happen to me I got terrible anxiety an was I'm flight mode all the time I was total out of control
I now understand the correlation between our nervous system and our health problems. Ive been having on and off for many years digestive and sluggish bowel problems, so called food allergies that effect my skin. This year I had what I think was gastrointestinal problem with loose stools etc for about 5 weeks with alot of problems. I always manage to get these things cleared up with alternative methods of (homeopathics and supplements etc), but once in awhile something starts again and again. Now for last couple of years its hard to sleep and have on and off anxiety. If I hadn't exercised for years now Id be more a mess, as it calms me in so many ways.
**WOW!.. Here Iam stressed so much with all these health issues taking things to help me clear things, only to realize that the abuse has compromized my neverous system and weakened my immune system of which my body can't fight for me to the max.
Thanks Dinash so much for helping us all.
* Have you made s video on how we can further help our nervous system. This would so helpful....God Bless...✝️👑🙏💞
Mine was arrange marriage,but then my husband Narendra Sinha started quarreling with me, told me to live in dark, I got confused, memory loss, thus I lost my gold chain, every day he is quarreling 43 years, he doesn’t help, or contribute in the family 😢
Yes, this was extremely insightful and educational!! I sincerely hope you will give us insight on how to get re-regulated and beneficial practices to maintain ourselves. Thank you so much Danish!!! 💓
Thank you Danish...you explain the cause and effect very effectively...now I understood how I became so ill due to narcissist close friend and later a boss...which is going on at present...
Very good information. ❤️ Blessings Beautiful Soul 🙏🏼🕊️
Thank you for naming & explaining the nervous system components -&- then explaining how physiological functions (such as stress hormones) interact with the nervous system. I am grateful for that information & I would very much welcome more info on this subject. I consider this info vital to formulate a cognitive map of narc behavior in order to counteract it + navigate away from it.
I think ALL narcs are very aware of what effect they have on their victims. They surely know they are like gods of misery casting evil spells on their victims. They seem to have no remorse while empowering themselves by watching their victims experience submission & pain & bewilderment after infecting innocent people with their disabling narc virus.
I appreciate all of your information and I look forward to learning more in order to understand + increase my awareness of what narcissists are doing. Also, I like the chapter breakdown in the description menu.
[ I apologize for my redundancy. The problem is that I have spent most of my life in a narc jungle & I need a lot of help to free myself of the narc jumble that was programmed in me. Your information helps to replace darkness with enlightenment.]
10 years later - I’m only now getting the right advice.
All the advice I was given was pushing me further into fight flight.
Wasted years of ‘thinking positively’ & ‘trying harder’
So little validation of experience was available and almost no appropriate advice..
Yes please I’m struggling! You are awesome, you have helped me so much!! I’m grateful to have found your channel!! Thank you 🙏🏻♥️
I got a terrible case of shingles after six years with a narcissist. You’re so agitated your immune system is compromised to the point that viruses hidden in your body, (Chicken pox), is allowed to emerge as an incredibly painful rash with blisters. It feels like someone has taken a blowtorch to your skin. A single beads of water running over it is like a can opener ripping through your skin. Six weeks on my back, I could not move. We had a fight at the time, and had broken it off. She had one of her signature, “tantrums,” for absolutely no reason. It was so upsetting and emotionally exhausting. My body, just gave up. I’m no contact now, four + years, still recovering.
Thank you for this information and the video on brain damage.Ive survived narcissistic abuse twice now and through therapy and self care I've learned a lot but never learned about health problems that can occur in the victim.🎉
I would greatly appreciate if you do an other episode to help stabilized the nervous system for I feel stuck in the constant never ending body tension.
What has helped me since I got out is doing exhales-it calms me-now your body will recognize toxicity/danger and you can do breathing to regulate
I know people also meditate and do yoga
@@saraliburd7752 Great advice.
Couple of other things include exercise, sleeping well, cold shower (wonderful for reregulation), moving to no sugar/ low carb lifestyle, reading, journalling and getting some sunshine. Sounds like a lot but take each day at a time.
Regards, Allan from South Africa
Yes my ex and I are both 60 and for the first time in my life I was prescribed anti anxiety medication..
Its so touching to see you explain so sincerely. Very good work.
It's a narcissistic world now. It's always a balance between calming down, then strategizing how to pivot and resist in such a way that they self destruct instead of us. Trying to do it during menopause and with no family left and in the wrong area of the country for your talents is equally as devestating. There are some months of the year when I freak out all over again and have to re-assimilate my psyche, kind of like a mosaic suddenly exploding all over the floor, then having to be pieced together again. The only thing that holds the mosaic together is TRUST - trust in myself, and trust in other people. Thank God my memory is not gone, so that I can at least remember how to trust in my past evidence of progress. I still hate this world full of people who constantly create obstacles for others, though. Also, if it were not for the carnivore diet, my nervous sytem would not be able to function at the level it does right now, depite being afflicted with Lyme Disease. For a few years now I've been the poster child for disease and illness, yet making it look "so easy" in front of other people who haven't even enountered the tip of the iceberg. Danish - if you can ever get around to it, please do an episode or two about "sheeplike" behavior of other people. Where I live, most people simply keep their head down and deny anything is as bad as it is as long as they are doing the bare minimum in life and are able to make money for their lifestyles! (there is not a lot of caring for others around here - not even in Church. Just following rules or being told what to do by a higher up in order to help someone is what is generally done.) People do need to question themselves from time to time: do I have enough spiritual gasoline to make the life journey, or am I riding just on the "fumes" of others around me to make this life?
There not narcissists there devils in the flesh. It’s the end times
I used to get tremors night times I couldn’t understand y my body shakes in d night for no reason.. now 5 yrs away from narc nd no such thing is happening..I did not have physically abusive relationship but had mentally abusive relationship with manipulation’s and other stuffs..
Just curious, how many of us have diagnosed anxiety issues? 🤚meeeee!
Meeee
Me
Not diagnosed but... ya
Danish you are definitely god sent help for this community
God bless you
Hi , yes a video on helping the nervous system would be nice to hear and share, thank you .
1. go search how to regulation with nervous system on chat gbt or youtube.
2. gain your favourite hobbies.
3. do everything with slowly out!
4. music can calm your nervous system.
5. sing can calm your nervous system.
6. painting can calm your nervous system.
i mean, do your favourite hobbies can calm your nervous system. but always that it takes a lot of times and process.
i wish all the best for your healing journey.
No matter which craft they use , witchcraft , this is the main goal of all of them at the base , one little narc at a time , and all at once somedays . This world is so wacked , thank you , your work is ponomanal .
PLEASE do more on Healing from Narcissist Abuse.
And I want to prosecute my abuser! Do you have anything to help me prove their True Self in court and to others.
She's Gaslighted my family for almost 40 years!
Thank You for your healing words!
Thank you this is very helpful 👍 I would like to know more about this topic
Danish thank you for the information but it made me so sad to hear the facts you spoke.
The heart beats fast when it feels threatened or about to be harmed.
This is so sad and accurate I’ve experienced this feeling very often and it just gets worse with time.
Thank you for educating and validating 🙏🏻
Paralyzing fear. 😰 the seizures began. No sleep. Medication.
You nailed it
Yes, please a video on nervous system healing. I went through a 11 year relationship with a narcist and my nervous system has never been the same. I get routine panic attacks with all the symptoms you mentioned. I've tried therapy and the therapists don't seem to understand the that it's not simply life stress I can breathe away; or they want to prescribe drugs. I'm not looking to dwell on the past. I'd love to get my nervous system back to normal and get on with my life.
#learning Brain 🧠 VS #Survival Brain 🧠 Lesson Learned from Ex Covert Narcissistic Wife divorced me 30 years ago Give Thanks always
Yes I totally agree about the nervous system I was in such a state of a break down from the adrenaline and from the cortisol that I had like Tourette’s jerking and whenever I would have a traumatic thought or a person would walk in the room and just whisper my name I was like very very reactive now my father had that too from the trauma of his life so it was kind of genetic but mine had accelerated and gotten worse fortunately now I’m not I’m smooth and easy the jerking and then the spastic Ness of my nervous system has subsided and you are so right about the damaging effects of the stress on the body and the nervous system nailed it thank you so much Danish you’re amazing‼️‼️‼️👍💌😌🌈 when I was going through that it was your videos along with a couple of other peoples that really helped me to to overcome and stay connected to the truth and to the voice of reason I’m free now and it’s wonderful . 🙂🖼❤️
I was diagnosed with diverticulitis the week before my wedding, MS, 1 yr after marriage and neuropathy the next. I was 50 yrs old at the time and survived 2 divorces, 4 children, buried both parents. I called him my Happy Ending…..NOT!!!!!
Yes please, healing the nervous system video!!!
1. go search how to regulation with nervous system on chat gbt or youtube.
2. gain your favourite hobbies.
3. do everything with slowly out!
4. music can calm your nervous system.
5. sing can calm your nervous system.
6. painting can calm your nervous system.
i mean, do your favourite hobbies can calm your nervous system. but always that it takes a lot of times and process.
i wish all the best for your healing journey.
Agreed. It’s a psychological damage. It shuts down our mind completely. We have to cool down completely With healing process.
I have Chronic fatigue Syndrome, chronic pain, EDS and POTS, spinal collapse, extreme anxiety, depression, cant regulate body temperature, loss of bladder control, brain fog, but the worst syptom is nervous system flare ups causing MS like all over internal tremors, you will feel like you are plugged into the mains, its horrendous way to live a life, all of this from a lifetime of cluster B toxic abuse, If you are reading this and you are in the early days of struggling what to do about living in an extremely toxic environment, please LEAVE, DONT THINK, GET OUT, I dont care how you think you feel about this person, if you are shouted at, put down, invalidated, if this person is not kind, just or true there no excuse for their behaviours, it will put you in the hospital, repeated surgeries, meds or evn cost you your life, dont stay, please hear me
Thank you! This video is brilliantly informative and so simple to understand!
We've got to talk about how to get those wind noises out of your audio in Adobe Audition ;)
This would be why I almost had a nervous breakdown. I started medicine and now I feel so much better.
Danish plz do videos in urdu or hindi
Our people need lot of awareness of such people. I know people who are suffering but totally clueless how to deal with such people
There are some in hindi but they are not as comprehensive as your videos are
So how do we heal from all this damage that we've had done to us?
1. go search how to regulation with nervous system on chat gbt or youtube.
2. gain your favourite hobbies.
3. do everything with slowly out!
4. music can calm your nervous system.
5. sing can calm your nervous system.
6. painting can calm your nervous system.
i mean, do your favourite hobbies can calm your nervous system. but always that it takes a lot of times and process.
i wish all the best for your healing journey.
I was with one for 3 months
Thanks Danish, I got answer now for why I cannot breath normally, I always have in digestion issues. Danish, please make a video on how to calm the nervous system.
Proper Education Always Corrects Errors ✌️ ☮️ PEACE and We Are Responsible WAR
Thank you, Danish! Absolutely digitally described and explained! True Absolutely! Thank you for Helping people understand
Thank you, you are great for helping
Thanks for subtitles!
Why I have c PTSD and severe anxiety 😞
That's why my fibromyalgia is so out of control...mother is a narcissistic and so is my ex husband...no wonder they got along🙄
So how to heal the PNS or bring it back
1. go search how to regulation with nervous system on chat gbt or youtube.
2. gain your favourite hobbies.
3. do everything with slowly out!
4. music can calm your nervous system.
5. sing can calm your nervous system.
6. painting can calm your nervous system.
i mean, do your favourite hobbies can calm your nervous system. but always that it takes a lot of times and process.
i wish all the best for your healing journey.
hello dear danish! any further information about the psycho-physiological aspects of healing would be welcome.
I wonder if nerve damage also results in constantly dropping things. It seems like everyday I’m always dropping something!
Narcissists are thieves...
Taking away any joy we are NOT allowed
My weight went from 59 to 79 kgs becuase of narcissistic abuse,Hair started to fall,Blood pressure increased and life quality diminished beyond repair they sincerely are evil and should be removed .
YOUR videos are so Insightful & Important!!! Years and decades dealing with Narcs has created Auto Immune illnesses and brain fog.
You've really shared very good insights Danish. Your videos provide lot of education and motivation to me. I would be great and very helpful if you could make a video on how to heal our nervous system after decades of narc abuse. Request.
I was diagnosed with Multiple sclerosis after i suffered narcissistic abuse.
🙏
I understand what you are saying. Thank you for these insights.
@narcabusecoach - first of all - THANK YOU! Now I know where my brain fogs are from and stuttering from. I'm a survivor (barely) of a 12 year relationship with a narcissist ex wife and now I learned that my brain issues are because of that.
Did i miss the practical steps on how to deal with reprogramming the nervous system? If I didn't, I would love to see a video about this.
Thank you!
Such a good explanation of what happens to the nervous system. I developed severe insomnia where I couldn't sleep for 3 days and then I'd sleep for 1 hour. My nervous system was just stuck in fight, flight, freeze. Thankfully it's much better nowadays after some breathing and other excercises. And, of course, with the narc far in the past. Thank you for these videos.
Even when I was not with them I was stuck in the ON position. And I never developed a resting state.
I changed that through the use of GABA before bed.
Yes this is so true, my entire body has been offset bc, of my emotional and mental abuse. I have been 8 months no contact with my ex narcissist. Since then I have been loving on myself, exercising, eating better and doing TRE exercises which has helped me greatly release trauma from my body. I'm feeling and doing better than ever before.
My mother is narcissit and a covert one but she tried to ruin my peace and happiness in every possible ways. I was always traumatized, took anti deppressants for almost a decade, got married to a narcissist spouse who was an abuser in the same way too. Finally I got myself divorced and started to dive down into Islamic knowledge. Now I am practising Muslim and I left all my pills and decided to stick with Islamic way of life and only with this I found a real inner peace. But I continued with my therapy too. But now I do not need any therapy Alhamdylillah.
Yes and now I’ve survived 3 strokes brought on by stress and trauma from the narc ex but having 2 children with him - 1 that just turned 18 who has been his helper/golden child and 1 who has Down Syndrome and is 15 and I’m dreading the day he takes me back to court to get full control over. My body literally can’t take anymore!
Thank you very much fir saving my life 🎉🎉🎉🎉
The narcissist "mind trick" is when you subconsciously believe it that they are in control of your emotions.
Thank you so much for this teaching. Everything makes sense now. My manifestation was IBS and a migraine that lasted 6 weeks. I had slurred speech and many neurological symptoms. From that point forward, I divorced my husband and knew it was emotional abuse. I know now it was narcissistic abuse. I have been in a no contact state with him for several years. Unfortunately, the migraines have come back and it is a result of my relationship with my sister. She has moved away from me and I am in a no contact situation with her. Now, I’m trying to heal again. I would like more information on how to switch back to the PNS from SNS. It feels like my brain has been damaged. How can I heal it? Thank you 😊
😂 Wahahaha thank you but remember we're all humans and we don't think alike😂
If someone is in such a relationship, with a narcissist where one can resist direct retaliation (for example because of comparable physical strength), then one can turn their abuse effect against them, and have them taste their own poison.
The tactic is simple, when a narcissists abuses, they are enraged, because one moves out of line with them.
This means that if someone continuously defies them and undermines their authority, then one can keep them in an enraged, stressed state for a prolonged period, which is exhausting.
When I am stuck with a narcissists I usually implement it via a passive disobedience. Verbally I assure the narcissist that I comply, but when he looks away, I stalwartly continue my agenda. When the narcissist spots me and berates me I feign remorse and compliance (though sometimes clinically), but when he looks away, rinse, repeat.
Another way of passive disobedience is to disrupt the mind games that, the narcissist wants force into. This can be done multiple ways. One good tactic is to show complete ignorance and utter disinterest in what the narcissists talk about. Narcissistic mind games usually based on abstract, delusional concepts, rules so it is easy to be ignorant about them. A more proactively disruptive approach is when I claim that their narrative delusionally lacks specificity and I require them to be specific and factually correct and logically coherent. I claim that otherwise their speech is senseless, meaningless.
When I do this passive disobedience persistently, I can get really under their skin. If I do it well then I can stress them out more then they stress me out. Of course, one has to do this smartly and have tactical breaks in disobedience when too much escalation occurs or when the favor of the narcissists is needed. But with sufficient persistence one can have them suffer.
So for example, from one narcissistic person (he was also sociopathic so I had to be careful) I managed to evoke a panic response, when I conducted my tactic.
In psychological warfare persistence is key.
And while they are destroying your health, they are still yelling at you for pity because their knee hurts or they can't shit because of stress
Im in constant fight or flight im either ready to take off which is mostly what I'll do, yet sometimes the fight will kick in like im ready to verbally go off. Like my mind and body constantly on guard. Im so tired of it. Not a lot of people get it, it doesnt just shut off, it becomes a natural state for people sadly.
This describes what I've been going through for 4 years. I have no peace in my life
Thank you Danish, this is so helpful! Love the outdoor scenery too!
My greatest thanks to you, Danish, as you spread the knowledge thats so important and needed. I came from narcistic family. My state was FREEZE and dissociate. In my 20 i started to take dissociatives recreationally (it saves me, constantly returning myself to present moment). But my system get used to be in narc abuse, so in 20s i find a sadist, which took year to broke me completely. He enjoyed it.I ran away, change country - and find another narcissist in there! It take years to understand, that it was the 'fault' of my system, my brain and body - to find a state and persons that 'feels like home'. Its not a fault really. Its just how i used to live from very beginning.
I live in narcissistic abuse for 10 years? No, its 30+
Now in my 30s, i rent a room, i work, i try to heal. Your educational videos helps A LOT. Im so grateful and appeeciate your work and knowledge you spreading. Please continue. And may you and everybody reading this finds joy everyday.
Please tell me how to record a narcissist, my narcissist sister is a shape shifter , she can figure out what I am Going to do no matter how cool and calm and casual I appear in front of her , sooner or lately she gets to know what I am trying to do , and when I record openly either she is subdued me through her harsh death rays , killing stare but very hard to catch only subconscious mind can register
Would like to hear how to heal. Thank you. God bless you.
Was always nervous around him in public 😮
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