First video - Life as a lonely man over 40 with (mild) autism
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 พ.ย. 2022
- Loneliness, the empty platitudes, and being a perpetually single autistic spectrum man over 40.
First time I've ever made a video like this. I had been thinking about making a channel like this for a long time and I finally took the plunge. I might regret this. Hopefully, I won't.
I'm 47 years old and have never had a serious relationship. I was traumatized at a very young age and have struggled to exist with society ever since. You are NOT alone. You matter.
If you want to see real pain, watch some family court videos with poor guys getting divorce-robbed, often to the point of homelessness or jail if they can't pay what the (usually radical feminist) judge decrees. There are worse things than being alone. We should count our blessings.
@@adrianmizen5070 I’ve lost a lot of good buddies this way. What a way to go out by being put through the ringer.
me 2
i did something bad and it come back on me so hard
im still cant move on
I felt this comment
I’ve had significant relationships and I’m bat-shit. Relationships is not an indicator of happiness or health. TRUST ME
All I’m gonna say. You’re loved by complete strangers you’ve never met and because of this video you made….. you speak to millions of us. You matter bro
Lmao bullshit in reality nobody cares about you but the people you know
@@masterpain7742 false
@@DustyRoadz lmao are you so sad you need people on the internet to tell u ur not alone guy??
@@masterpain7742 Na, just your mom and I are disappointed in how you turned out
@@DustyRoadz you live a truly sad existence if you actually believe people on the internet care about u lol
This is the curse of Aspergers- wanting much of what other people have but not being able to get it.
same here
Yes and I think at some point you need to realize what is possible and what isn’t and try to work within those parameters. Then again there are many men with autism that are happily married either children. The spectrum is quite large it seems
@@brianmeen2158 You're right, its a very large spectrum. I am in the spectrum, a PhD, doing well in my career and throughout my youth, I did reasonably well with women too. My gullibility brought me a wrong spouse, she destroyed me completely from within and then the next woman I found ended whatever remained of me. I am absolutely lonely but manage it by doing more work, reading, coding, creating business ideas etc. I have lost all interest in relationships, but crave it so much. This state is the most hurtful.
I have ADHD trying to get tested for Aspergers. Just need a reason why I have nothing and no one wants me.
I am 60 years old, an Army combat vet with multiple tours (and issues), divorced for over 22 years, no kids, friends all dead, family all dead, all alone in a town where people go out of their way to insult and put you down.... yes, I know how you feel. I live it every day.
I hope it gets better for you man, i’ll be your online friend if you really need someone to talk to
jesus, what kind of town is THAT?
Thank you for your service old timer❤🎉
You're better than 99% of the men in this country. There's women and friends out there sir. Just keep your chin up.
Imperialist assassins deserve no love, only hate.
"I run this endless self-improvement treadmill, wondering at what point will I be worthy of love"
That is deep right there.
Look up Take The Black Pill, another man on the spectrum spoke on this in 2015
@@espoire_ the black pill is for dweebs who gave up never do . Hope we can all find peace tho
It all comes down to a man's physical appearance, charisma, and the sound of his voice. I'm 31 and have done everything that's generally expected to be done in this society and I'm still invisible to girl. I'm 5'10" puts me under the 6' physical requirement and I'm scrawny. Owing a house on a nice plot of land has gotten me no attention from any woman because my physical appearance and lack of charism overshadows that
Damn bro I just found out there's way more people than I thought that feel just like I do it's kind of comforting in that fact but also truly deep sad and fucked up
shit hit me HARD
Social media is full of fake success and happiness. To hear something like this video, so articulate, feels closer to the truth for many people out there. Aaron, we are pulling for you.
Dude this is the issue you haven't given him any sort of wisdom you've only agreed with what he said not expounded upon it. TIRED OF THIS.
@@AzamatSlowedAndReverb Not meaning any offence here. But I’d be amazed if he hadn’t tried most of the advice that people will give on here.
All he can do is get out there and try new things where women might be. Try and make friends and focus on the positives. Being down about yourself tends to be a major turn off. Even then there’s not a real guarantee of anything.
@@AzamatSlowedAndReverb Bro you can find thousands of videos on ways to help with this kinda mindset, millions of people watch them. They never receive compliments/support for anything, if no one is being a dick then just shut up unless you wanna tell us some of this special wisdom that hasn't been repeated a million times.
@@AzamatSlowedAndReverb In my own experience it's more often best just to listen with the intent to understand, rather than to give advice. If someone specifically asks for advice then that's a different story. But unsolicited advice isn't always received very well.
YES!!!!
I’m a 30 year old male who’s never been in a relationship. I feel your pain brother.
May I ask why you never been in a relationship? My reply disappeared for some reason G.
@@judgeholder8112 I have pretty severe social anxiety and I also have chronic pain issues that have limited me in life
@@judgeholder8112I'm just 20 and never experienced anything like love. And I feel like cmon bro... I better be 3 meters underground
@@yuribezmenovthegreat4705 I see
@@iamme25yago right
I'm a 36 year old male bachelor and a couple of years ago I was in your position. Getting drunk every day, feeling lonely, sad, empty and given up on love, life, and having a family. I had no purpose and I'm done with life. Until one night on January last year (2023) I then come across a Korean TV show called "I Live Alone" where famous and very good looking male/female celebrities are showing their day to day normal lives as bachelors, and they were enjoying it and finding happiness in living on their own. I was kinda a Kpop fan, and in a way the show somehow healed me and realized that hey it's not that bad at all. If these rich and beautiful/handsome celebrities are happy with being single/bachelor and living a simple life, then why can't I just be inspired by them and just focus on loving and bettering myself. I marathon-watched the series the whole year and truly it made me changed my outlook and I'm in a much better place now tbh. Being alone means you have freedom. And it's something I learned that is a luxury as a single man, so I'm trying to make the best of it each day. Visit places alone. Travel the road alone. Eat a whole box of pizza. Try great restaurants. Buy stuff for yourself like gadgets, shoes, clothes. Get a motorcycle. Get a dog. A lof of exciting things are out there if you just kill the thought that you need someone to be happy. I love my parents and my siblings, and I've accepted the bachelor life. I honestly and truly feel that I'm better off alone than having a commitment with someone, and I'm absolutely ok with that. I love it. All the best to you and to everyone who reads this.
Appreciate you sharing this. Going to try and see if I can implement some of what you’ve written here into my own life moving forward.
Man, the balls it takes to open up on video like this, and be so openly vulnerable like this, when you're depressed and in pain. You're stronger than you know, just for doing this. I've already watched a bunch of your other videos that you've posted after this one. This open vulnerability is a huge display of strength, whether you know it or not, and it will help others. Keep it up man, you will find your way. Thank you for sharing this. 💪❤️
Exactly he is very brave.
Yep, he has balls
nothing short of bravery
Truths! Real men!!! ❤️🙏🥂. Don’t give up but definitely you’re gonna have to put yourself out there and get involved in a lot of things volunteer work everything and keep asking so what if you fail it’s better than never trying.
I don't know man, people are assholes, if they find you vulnerable they laugh at you and call you an incel...hmm, maybe you're right, it takes balls to expose yourself like that, knowing the risks!
Dude you have no idea how not alone you are. Its more common than you think just people don't have the balls like you to own it and if they do, they're made fun of for it. You got some balls dude, mad respect to you. Stay in the fight, its ok to be who you are.
second that.. one thing I've heard, if you are single, you consider a serious relationship, but once you get it, you want to jump. I have a few close friends whom have remained generally not married in their 30s & three of which are very successful. Rock on 🤘🏽✌🏾
Yet, if you watch red pill channels, apparently women are more lonely on average than men when they are 40+.... So sad that men have to lie to themselves just to avoid wanting to blow their brains out
Stop with the pity party offer him wisdom and advice.
@@AzamatSlowedAndReverb I find people like you fascinating. Instead of dedicating your time to actually giving the man in the video any advice, you choose to take that time and spend it leaving a bunch comments telling other people to give him good advice.
@@cococop6679 already left 3 paragraphs of comments nothing was responded to
“What’s the point of travel when you have nobody to share it with” I feel this so much. My parents tell me to travel but I have no friends and no significant other. There’s no point.
I feel your pain 😞
I'm sorry.
May I ask why you don’t have friends or significant other? It’s very depressing and lonely when someone doesn’t have neither.
It really takes the fun out of it.
Yep when you’re alone and travel, you’re just alone in a different location
First off brother, you look great for 44.
Second, you have a mellow way of explaining your situation that makes this subject matter relatable for a lot of people. You come across as genuine and with a unique form of wisdom. You're honest and I appreciate how open your are about your struggles.
With that being said: I know my advice wouldn't work for you because our mindsets are different. I consider myself a "social loner." I have a small group of friends currently that I've had good times with but I also do a lot of things on my own. From what I've deduced from your video, is that you've had a variety of social experiences already, but you don't have any of that stimuli currently and it makes you feel inadequate.
Let me tell you, broski, is that even married and coupled people feel inadequate. Especially those in abusive relationships. But they stay, because they can't stand the thought of being alone. They may think they are getting their physical and emotional needs met, but I guarantee you that half of them aren't. Why do you think the divorce rate has escslted over the last 40 years? You see these couples from the past, through America's so-called golden age, who were together to death. But at what cost to the individual? They went to the grave, and how many of them are already forgotten, with a partner or no partner. Kids or no kids.
I will give you a bit of advice all of the same. DO NOT sacrifice your individuality. Do not sell yourself short. Don't be deterred by labels others may want to hoist onto you. You bring something to the world in your own special way. I myself was diagnosed with autism when I was a toddler. It was thanks to the love of my parents that pulled me out of my thick shell I was in. This world is not kind to those with any neurodivergency. It's utterly cruel. But there is joy to be found. Even though I was diagnosed with autism at such a young age, I don't see myself as such. I certainly didn't in my 20's. Perhaps in my late 30's is when I started acknowledging that past diagnosis. I always behaved differently than anyone else. I had such a kooky and funky outlook on life and that can either rub people the wrong way or make them question what your intentions are or who you are as a person in the grand scheme of things. But, I've brought forth joy onto others throughout my life. I'm happy I was able to do as much. They say autism is for life, but I don't care. Because I don't let something like that define me. I also don't broadcast myself as autistic to the wider world, either. People can take me at face value or not.
You say you make music? Did I hear that right? Music is one of God's greatest gifts bestowed onto us. You put forth positive energy to the world with your creations. Find joy every time you compose something. Remember: YOU did that. Nobody else but you.
Gratitude goes a long way, sir. You have to be grateful for things you normally overlook. You're not in a coma in the hospital. You have two strong legs to walk on. You can go to the bathroom on your own without assistance. You have all of the tools to be self-sufficient. Make the most out of things like this and you'll realize how lucky you are in regards to that.
Take the time to work on some self-care. Take a nice and warm soak with some epsom salts and relieve your tired body and mind. Find refuge in the gift of music. I'd be happy to share some recommendations for songs for you if you're open to it. Open your lungs and mind with a woodland hike. Nature is yet another of God's greatest gifts to us. Let it heal your soul.
I am 40. So you're older than me. But I want you to know after watching this video, I look up to you. You have gained another younger brother. I'm very thankful you've put something like this video out in the world. You've made a lot of people relate to you when they thought they were the only ones in the world. I hope you find strength in what I've said. If you want that woman in your life, so be it. I hope you find her. I wish you the best of luck in your pursuits in regards to that. But, if it doesn't happen, do not give into despair. Don't compare yourself to what others have. I send you the best of wishes, good health and happiness as you journey through this life. The same goes for anybody who comes across this message of mine. Let's make our lives matter, in whatever way we can before our time on this earth is up.
I love this comment. You said it perfect! And exactly having a diagnoses doesn’t make a person that diagnoses and doesn’t define them. I actually watched a movie yesterday. It was really good and emotional. “ words on bathroom walls” you should check it out if u want
THIS!
This was a lovely read, I'm 33 and could take some advice from this.
Yeah man, I concur with what you're saying here. I'm 45. I've got some wild OCD stuff going on, and it's basically messed with me pretty bad over the years. I've had some relationships, yeah, but they all crashed and burned. Even though I'm 45, I don't think of myself that way. I have friends who act like their life is over, but mine's just getting started IMO. I've been fasting, losing weight, taking some NMN, looking half decent, trimming my whiskers. It's true that there is a bit of a shortage of reasonable, lovely women in the west. They're either taken or they're unhinged wokeoids. I generally date girls younger than me. I've tried sugar daddy stuff, tided me over for a few years. For this dude, he might wanna try Date In Asia, as there are a lot of women on there with traditional values who are in the Philippines, but would make good wives. I ended up meeting a girl online (on Fiverr lol) who lives in Venezuela, who is pretty cute and seems to like me. Just don't let them scam you. Anyway, I'm alone a lot of the time. I go to parties and leave - bored. I kinda hate hookup culture. Anyway, both this video and you're comment got me thinking a bit. Bottom line is, this guy doesn't need to despair so much, although I do understand what he's going through. I go to bed alone too. I've lost people I loved to various things. A lot of people don't get it and don't care. Also, the music comment is key. Music has buoyed me through a lot. In a way, it's all I need in a given day. But yeah bros, we gotta support each other, it can get rough out there.
@Humbug it isn’t young either, old for some cultures too. I’m thinking your either white or Asian. Mfers live forever.
There is a reason this video has 136,000 views. There are many lonely people and many people in toxic relationships. You are doing a great service by opening up and expressing your innermost feelings and fears. There are many people who can relate. You deserve love and happiness. I hope you meet a good woman who appreciates you.
People have to connect with themselves.
Same I hope Aaron finds someone now because that's ridiculous.
Can we talk about your Austin powers poster?! Yeah baby! You’re awesome. You’re worthy. Keep sharing your thoughts and feelings we all love it ❤
Yeah nice to see some real reality instead of all the fake bullshit on youtube/instagram etc.
@cool your username is "cool" and you're calling people losers. You're basically just insulting yourself at this point lol who do you think you're fooling
48, never married, no kids, never really had a serious relationship. My problem is social anxiety. Your not alone brother. I don't feel bad about it though, I've already accepted it and if someday I meet someone that I can feel comfortable around and fall in love with, fine, but if not, that's fine too! We all don't have to follow the status quo of getting married and having kids to be happy.
Dude just take some benzos wtf is wrong with yoy
I suffer for anxiety as well. You’re not alone.
This is how I was and finally meant a girl that loves me for me, keep this mentality it’s the best possible way to look at it
Is that it really? Social anxiety? I think that sometimes but really I am just very happily introverted and I get nervous talking to people cuz I don't do it often. I was fortunate to find a mate who was also very introverted. We just enjoyed being together. But it's hard for two introverts to meet.
I have social anxiety also. It is painful!
I don’t have ASD, im married and have kids, but I still feel so alone every day. Im listening to you now while lying in my bed with tears in my eyes. I wish life wasn’t so hard… thanks because your video helps me feel less alone
stop saying life embrace challenges and over come them. Be grateful that u have a great life and is not like him. Stay strong king YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT!! 👑👑👑
What is ASD
Lucky you man, be grateful you are normal and you fit in because there are people who will never experience that because of this disability.
That means autism spectrum disorder
@@noone-he1ho How is he lucky? the ''golden marriage and children'' didn't change anything for him.
I'm almost 50 and have never been married, haven't had many girlfriends, and never had a relationship last for even three years. I'm a good looking, healthy man, and have a great career. I've spent my entire adult life trying to figure out why I can't seem to create or keep relationships. I identify with darn near everything you said. And it doesn't get easier as we get older. Just a bleak horizon of fewer options, and more meals, more holidays, more of everything ....alone. And like you also said, there's nobody else to support you in daily challenges.
Besides the loneliness, it's embarassing as hell to be 'that guy' who never go married. On the very rare occassion when I do find a date, they ALWAYS ask "do you have kids ...ever been married"? And when you tell them "no, neither", you can see the shock in their face ...and you know you won't get another date with them. It's just too weird for 'normal' women to understand.
Being slightly younger than you and having had similar experiences regarding women and the marriage question, I came to the conclusion that people thinking and judging others along those lines are arseholes with a very limited understanding of life. That is a type of “normalcy” I learned to absolutely refuse to come in contact with, since such people generally don’t seem aware that it takes two to tango and make relationships work. And fewer still seem to understand how difficult it is to start over past 50. I have had many short relationships with women in the 45-60 yo range while in my thirties and most of them turned out to be in love with the _idea_ of a relationship, yet unable to put it in the effort to make it work.
Have you tried looking into dating foreign women? You might actually have better luck with Japanese career women over 45, due to Japan’s stereotype that unmarried women over 30 have something wrong with them. There even is a special term for them that translates as “past the consumption’s date”.
I am a “normal” 44 year old woman and I’m still single. Never married, no kids. Growing up I was told to focus on my school and a relationship will happen naturally. It never happened. Going through college, I was told to focus on my degree and a relationship will come when I least expect it. It never happened. I started working and I was told to focus on my work and “the one” will come along. It never happened. I am now 44 years old and I feel the same way you do. I am a school teacher. I love kids. I always assumed I would be a mom someday. I think I would have been a good mom. It truly makes me sad when I see everyone else around me happily married and with children. I wish I knew what that felt like. I wish I didn’t have to do everything by myself. I feel like life would be easier if I had a partner. 😢
this is actually sad for real because you are basically past the age of having children at this point, I hope you find a partner though sometime so you don't have to sit all by yourself when you're older.
Very sad because this is what society has told women for a few decades now and it seems like women (and men who would gladly take these women) end up extremely unhappy as a result. They have an innate drive to nurture and be a mother. Women don't have forever to do this, unfortunately. A guy can still get a girl pregnant most of his life, a women really has 18-35/40 before it becomes extremely difficult. Thank you for being honest and hope things work out well for you!
Feminism told you to get your degree and get your career because you can get a man later, be strong and independent. You’ve been totally fucked over. I’m so sorry.
@@TheToxicGunn3r don't men need viagara and have ED and such? Plus most young women prefer guys around there old age not frankenstein. Yeah men miss the boat too. Why are u worried abt women's fertility and what they do with their bodies? E tremely weird
@@gsquared2394 I don't think she's talking about a degree or a career. She was just saying she was waiting for the right one and they never came.
I'm 51, a virgin, and I couldn't be happier. I guess I'm blessed because of my ASD I'm so socially awkward I'm perfectly content being alone. My heart aches for you, and one time I felt a lot like you, but when I finally got my ASD diagnosis I decided to embrace that I'm always going to be this way. I love animals and they are the only companionship I need.
Pets are great. Sometimes I'd rather be with my cat than around people. They don't complain, b¡tch, nag and they never treat us like shit.
Good for you.
@The Darkcel no, I have sexual desire. But like a lot of others with ASD I have problems with senses. Mine mainly being touch. I do not want to be touched. I also have problems with smell. If I see someone attractive and then see them start to smoke I lose all interest right then and there because I hate the smell of cigarette smoke so much. I used to be a lot like this guy and wondered why I can't find anyone. All the while having plenty of opportunities to have sex, but I would always turn them down for one reason or another. Before I was diagnosed with ASD I would beat myself up for not being able to find a partner and my inability to make friends. Now that I know I have ASD I've decided just to embrace who I am. I do know that's not enough for others. And my heart goes out to them. But I decided a long time ago I don't need someone else to be happy. If anything I was making myself miserable telling myself I did.
@@amodernalchemist432 Kidding me? Animals are WAY better than people, lol. People are mostly shtbags. I make exceptions for children and seniors, but the rest of them are mostly sewage, lol.
@@JoinTheProgress yeah, for sure, there are very few exceptions...
I feel so sorry for this man. I have autism too, and I know being lonely alot can worsen your mental health. Just stay strong.
Even the strongest material repeatedly stressed will not stay strong forever, it will eventually fail. But i get you sentiment.
I am married with two kids, one with low-functioning autism. Sometimes, it gets so stressful that I think "Being alone must be great". I am someone that really enjoys my alone time. However, I think after a couple weeks, I would be even more stressed. This video helps me see how lucky I am. Great video.
Also, you most certainly are good enough and I think you will find the right person. You seem like a good dude.
Didnt expect to see you here Brad. Thanks for the top notch programming videos mate
Bro you gave me a job lmao
Seeing you here is like seeing your high school teacher at the grocery store
Another person bragging about having a family on a vid about loneliness. How tone deaf are you... a big f you to you.
I love my own company. The idea of living with anyone turns me off and I have options and have everything a partner would want. Not being independent and being dependent on others is a horrible life to live. This is not happiness and quite a sad life to live. I need my freedom. You only have one shot at life. Tomorrow is not promised. Tomorrow does not exist.
I'm not autistic, but I was the shy, introverted, low self-confidence guy who was never was good at socializing. I've been where you're at, but I got married for the first time at 46. So, there's always hope.
When did you first get a girlfriend?
@@Sidewinder1999 when he began dreaming
@@Danuxsy haahhahahaahahahahahaahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahahahahahahaahahaha u wrong for that lmao
@@Ghazithasoulja and you're just as wrong. small itty bitty dick energy frfr
you can't drop a bombshell like that and not elaborate further
For a loner, I know it takes crazy effort to put yourself out there and be transparent so I do applaud you for making that large leap of faith.
Although this may be therapeutic, I don't think he wants this on interwebs. Just my opinion. This is something for a therapist in a one on one environment.
I’m a loner. I can’t have a regular conversation. My mind runs blank
And I’m not witty or have comebacks or king of the one liners 😊
I agree. Your courage is impressive.
🫂🫂🫂🤗🤗🤗
@@sloppyjonuts9162 sure you can. You sound like you have anxiety and not good social skills . Just try to ask people questions about themselves and follow that up with a detail about yourself .. basic conversations are pretty easy to maintain but you must practice at them
To get better
As a nearly 28 year old guy, I've been alone for the last 11 years since my dad died. There just isn't any reason for me to go outside, except for working. I have no friends or relationships and most of my day is me staying at home and working on different projects. There are millions like yourself out there and you will find all of them on the internet. That's the way I connected to some over the years. It's not the same as a real life friend, s.o or wife, but it can numb the loneliness for a couple of hours a day. Hang in there, you are not alone.
not one reason? 28 is very young! go walk, run, have fun. eventually you will see some girl. stay strong
I agree with SER 1 SER: if you want to be part of a couple, go find it. Same with the youtuber. 😍
@@serumser1 im 27 and i feel like there is no point. with introverts i think we dont want to navigate within the communication and the signals. its all messed up tbh.
So sorry about your dad, is a shame this things happens, I can relate, I'm 25, I don't have irl friends, my only irl friend died like 2 years ago, I only have online friends, I suffer from ptsd but is incredible and somewhat relieving not to be alone.. I wish you the best tho, there still plenty to live and experience, and hopefully you find the most happiness dude! Cheers.
@@martinvr12 I’m 25 as well and I only have a very few friends in real life. I so have some online friends, but they’re not intimate friends. May I ask why you have PTSD? I can be your online friend if you want to.
You should know that many of us who are married are actually still just alone. People try to portray marriage in the most positive light but sometimes, behind the scenes, there's not much cuddling or real closeness going on.
true, it gets like that
Yup!💯💯💯
Married people are sad people that are and always have been dependent on others to make one happy. It’s no way to live, but unfortunately most do
Yep, you could marry a nice gold-digger who demands you buy her a big house, pets, nice stuff, then trash talks you to everyone she meets, hooks up with other men behind your back, and gradually quits having sex or making any effort to pretend to love you. And since she now has her claws in half of everything you own, you are stuck with that. But you have to keep pretending everything is fine to yourself and everyone around you.
I just turned 45, and I’ve been divorced for 15 years. I’ve been socially awkward my whole life, and I feel like I just don’t relate to a majority of people. Myself and millions of others are going through your same struggles, you are not alone.
why don't you reach out to this guy and be a friend to him? Talk to him, he wants female companionship, you'll be a lifeline to this guy. you'll help him more than you'll ever know.
@@themorningson not that easy.
@@joeroot9142 please explain
Women can get sex and companionship wayyyy faster than a man can.
She's being selective. Lol
@@josep6528 The problem with your logic is "getting" those things. We don't want to get those things from women, and most women don't want to get those things from us. The average person is not interested in what they can get from their person but who they are.
I know many women who simply struggle to socialize. Having men throwing themselves lustily is not what these women want either. They want lasting bonds with another man but struggle to socialize. Some humans just struggle with this part of life.
edit: if you ask me to write a long research paper, I can be done before midnight. But if you ask me to approach someone, or really commit to conversation, it becomes painstakingly anxiety-inducing and difficult. It's frustrating but happens for both sexes.
By the time I was In my 50's, I met half a dozen guys who were divorced, paid child support, lost homes, horror stories of misery, etc. There's some worst things out there, than being single. That goes for the older single women too. Some suffer in long marriages.
Exactly, people can fuck you over beyond belief it's not all shits and giggles like he thinks.
@James Trill There is more to an "ideal life" than having a relationship and getting married. If anything I would argue that people who stay single longer have more opportunities to go out and chase the things they love without having to make compromises for somebody else.
Just because somebody stays single (whether voluntary or involuntary) doesn't mean they don't do anything with their life.
Yeah I was just about to say this. Grass isn't always greener on the other side. Best to love what you have and work through your challenges however hard it might seem. I'm 35 f single, live alone and maybe it's cause I'm an introvert but I like it compared to the horror stories I hear from married couples. Even the happy ones have problems I wouldn't want to deal with. I'm ok with my problems. I'm ok to work through them. I'm grateful for whatever good I have. I didn't used to feel like that but I've come to it. I've come to realize everyone has their own set of issues and contentment comes from acceptance of the circumstances and action steps toward improvement.
@R4iderSc4vver haha bro thinks he funny
problem is those of us that haven't had normal relationships then get these left overs that had failed relationships... it feels awkward to date someone with kids, who's been married when I barely have any dating experience myself. Their adult children often have their sh!t together better than I do
I'm only 25 but I've felt the same way as you since I graduated from high school. I have no words of encouragement that you haven't already heard a million times, I just hope we find what we're looking for.
You’re not alone. I wish lonely people knew how to find other lonely people. There are SO MANY PEOPLE feeling exactly like this that need each other.
Exactly!!! There’s plenty of people out there like him and who feel exactly the same way he does! He just has to find ONE of them! He’s good looking and seems really sweet. There’s plenty of women who would love to date him. The problem is that most of them are hiding or too scared to put themselves out there. It’s really sad.
I blame the internet as it gives people a false sense of inclusion by watching , ticking and commenting on people's posts we know but don't interact with irl, it's a false sense of security for a few hours, turn it off and you're alone until next tim e you switch on. People are being led into lonely lives. Even shopping is becoming a lonelier task as self service checkouts will lead to more stress and !ess interaction as we had with fellow shoppers and assistants, not to mention the loss of checkout assistants' jobs and our own enforced free labour doing our own checkout work. Don't use unmanned checkouts and save jobs.
Does anyone know of any website or social platform that has worked for them regarding this issue?
I'm not intelligent or creative enough to start something. But definitely would be nice to have something.
@@emmy_okaye9942 Never underestimate what hidden talents and abilities you have just waiting to be used 🤗🤗
There are just as many songs about lonliness as falling in love.
Most pleasant video I've watched recently. Not Flashy, not click bait, just genuine heartfelt dude sharing with all of us!
Agree , he doesn’t try and deliver his message with gesticulating exaggerated mannerisms and fake bonhomie. Just talks.
I agree, im 23, im still young, but im single and i´ve never had a serious relationship and i enjoyed every second of this video.
Agreed.
Agree, completely listened without even making a sound.. its so empathy-inducing and educative also.. we need to ask more questions to eachother instead of judging eachother..
Not sure "pleasant" is the right word tho, lol
Awestruck.
This is exactly where I am mentally, emotionally, socially. 44yo F but I have experienced the same struggles and thus remain single. I often think I must be the only one in this place. Being over 40, never married or involved, no children, no prospects, gets me a lot of judgment as if I have failed as a woman. I'm very likely to be in the same boat for the rest of my life. Sometimes I am fine with that. Other times I am distraught by it. I continue to make music, create art, enjoy nature, pursue hobbies and goals, and find joy in sharing those things with me, myself, and I. If I'm meant to share with another human, I'll let it happen organically; I'm not going to frantically search. The options are sparse, aren't they? As if 40 is the end of human potential or value as a mate? Hardly. It's really just the beginning in many ways.
I have some hard truth for you. As as F no matter what age, you only have to do 1 thing. Be in shape, that's it. Your autistic idiosyncrasies are seen as "quirky and cute" where men's are seen as "creepy and scary". Go work yourself to death in the gym and be ultra strict on your diet everyday for 6 months straight. I GUARANTEE You will find a good man to love and cherish you, even on a dating app. He won't be the hottest, and he won't be the richest, but he will be a "good" man. If not, I'll give you my address and you can come slap me in the face in-person. But only if you honest with yourself on whether you followed through.
The "average" man doesn't care if you look like a supermodel, he doesn't care if you don't wear makeup and have some wrinkles, only that you look like you take care of yourself and can take care of him. MILF porn is extremely popular for a reason. They sell the fantasy of the exact type of person you can be in-real life in 6 MONTHS. Bonus Points: You ain't go no kids or baby daddy drama. It's March 19th a man would have to work for years, building his social status and career to have the same dating value you can get by Christmas. Go do it.
@@Reeeeeee12345 try to be a bit more sympathetic bro 😂 I get you though
@@Reeeeeee12345 shut up. We are all literally in this together. Getting laid also doesn’t equal not being lonely for the rest of your life.
I see in the comments lot of hurtin people. It's sad. I myself had very low self worth and I'm tired of living miserable I just want god to take me and then I cry in prey I apologise to god that in such a terrible human being weak nobody treated like trash so I deserve it I guess
I'm.48 female no kids by choice .
...have aspergers....live with my bf been with him.8 year but still feel.lonely
.I have no best mate x
I can relate to what you’re going through. About to turn 37, never had a relationship, no friends. Work, go home, repeat. All I can tell you is we’re in this rough ride together.
I'm 46, and you described my life to a tee. I truly feel your pain, and appreciate this video.. Stay strong brothers.
Aaron stay strong. I’m 44 as well. 20 year ARMY veteran. I was alone for the first 18 years. During that time I had to learn how to deal with loneliness. Some things that helped me: Martial arts(BJJ), working out , hiking, archery, David goggins books, a dog is a big moral booster. Find your own meaning and purpose and learn to master your mind. Best wishes to you. Know your not alone in this journey.
I was going to say, a dog would make a great companion and you could meet somebody whilst out walking in various places.
Well said mate
Tell him dude, i told him to go watch a TRex Arms video because they are good at sucking people in. Not to mention its easier to have expensive hobbies when your single (cough cough)
BJJ definitely. You will feel challenged socially, emotionally, and physically. You will, if you find a gym with a good culture, find support from a group of driven and friendly people. I think you’ll find more confidence. And it’s a beautiful, complex sport.
Also, Aaron, I’ve felt a lot of what you feel. Know this: You’re worthy. You’re worth accepting as you are, even these tough feelings, even the loneliness. And some part of you knows this, since you’re working out and putting yourself out there like this. I challenge you to put yourself out there like this with women out in the world. Read Glover’s Dating Essentials for Men and go do the challenges-one is go out and get rejected 5-6 times. It takes the pressure of success off and, in turn, likely gives you some success. And if I may, get with a pro who can help you feel less bummed. The right one will help a ton.
I’m thinking of joining the army
35 and I feel absolutely the same . I've been on so many weddings but nothing . Little confidence you have disappear in time . Most of my friends are with kids after longterm relationships and I am by myself . Its definitely painful and honestly fault is mine . I was not brave enough to do the first steps . Feel you , mate . Stay strong !
Even if you do the fking first steps you get through blades and nails against you everyday.
I don't think noone experienced what I did, although many as you experienced the same result, I mean THE SAME no relation, no conversation nothing. Like you don't even exist.
I’m 27 and I would totally hang out with you man and listen to you, bro. :(
You are more than good enough you’re a pretty awesome guy just by seeing this video your soul is evident.
😵😵💫😑@@Reeeeeee12345
@@Reeeeeee12345and why would you ask that ?
@@Reeeeeee12345 toss his salad ? Which means licking his waste dispenser?
I haven't been diagnosed with autism, however I'm 50 and in the same social/romantic boat you're in. I feel this SO hard. No clue what's wrong with me. I'm decent looking, kind, enjoy good laughs, and perpetually alone. Always alone. Many similarities to you: small empty apartment, feeling like just existing, failed dating app experiences, never married, no kids, friends all with families and homes. Nothing improves. No companionship. No hope of a real life. My existence is inconsequential. It's lonely and it sucks harder than I'd ever imagined
I mean... Why are you defining the meaning of your whole life by a romantic relationship? You can do better than that.
Having a relationship is not a cure. It can either make your life better, but also make you as miserable as it can be.
You are destined for something greater man. When you were born a crown was made for you in heaven. Christ lets you share in His victory. Go to the catholic Church, it's a hospital for all those seeking a cure.
I am in the same boat and feel down and reflect all the time.
Im 26 and also high functioning. Girls always thought i was attractive enough to approach me and engage... but SOCIETY ITSELF is so rotten, the relationship dinamic is so MESSED UP and TOXIC, that you HAVE TO BE CRAZY to be normal nowadays, sir!!
All my friends of the same age have relationships and is one fight after the other, cheating, gossip, toxicity, etc, etc...
If you think you are on the wrong path, FORGET THAT. Go explore, hiking, sports, gardening, plant a fruit orchard, etc...
Sounds like depression and anxiety are taking a major toll on you. I can relate.
Likewise
Dude no one cares about the pity party offer him some advice we need men. Strong men with a will to make the future better alone or not there is a reward to be bestowed upon you for your actions.
@@AzamatSlowedAndReverb I am in the same situation as him. For me to give him advice would be akin to a broke person giving financial advice. You sound like you're close to perfect, you'd be the better one to offer up advice.
Whatever Georgi. He’s just observing that he may have depression/anxiety. It’s sometimes helpful to kindly let him know because someone who’s experiencing symptoms may not realise that’s what’s happening.
@@steve8803 I offered advice and not perfect but it's from someone with a will to change something that is clearly wrong and a growing issue other people just congregate and don't say anything of value like come on there's a way
This is one if the most beautiful, honest and heartbreaking videos I've seen. I feel so much love for you. I have no advice, I just wanted you to know you are not alone. ❤
I'm 21 and I'm afraid I will end up in your shoes. I never developed any relationship skills in school and I only ever had a small friend group. And a lot of those friends I had are always busy and never have time to hang out. I've never been kissed or had a girl hold my hand outside of dance class. Looking at my future, I don't see how this is gonna get any better, especially the older I get with zero experience, the more undesirable I become.
You're too young for this kid. There's so much to explore.
Not to be a bummer but probs y ea.
I know everyone says that your hope for relationships goes away because of the past but that id not true.
Become OBESSESED with being better and/or learning about people things so much.
Its definitly harder for us, but im much better off now than the day before. And the day before that. :)
You got this 👍
You’ve got to try different approaches that gel with who you are and try to leave your comfort zone without betraying your personality or trying to pass as something completely different.
My twenties were extremely solitary though mentally stimulating, while my early thirties taught me the ropes and pitfalls of dating and relationships. I was often confronted with toxic people and hypocrites that I had to learn to cut off from my life in order to flourish. Somehow, I lucked out at 37 by meeting a foreign woman that actually wanted a solid relationship, unlike many women who are only in love with the idea of it yet unwilling to put in the hard work. And we’re together to this day.
So, like the other commenters have said, you are too young to give up. Perseverance, working/concentrating on yourself, and luck are going to help find meaning in your own life, and maybe love will be part of the equation. Giving up will only ensure stagnation and deterioration of your emotional wellbeing.
If you have a above average penis you will be fine
I’m single because I have a small penis and I’m embarrassed of what a lady will think. I have offers but I turn them down
I'm 31 and only been in 1 relationship. I married the only woman who accepted me for who I naturally was and she died of cancer. No one else has ever given me a chance and I just cope with the "better to have loved" mindset. It sucks because all my life I've always had to be 10x more confident, financially stable, funnier, etc. just to be visible (not as a partner just as a human). I was the fat blk ugly guy with a severe stuttering problem growing up and seeing dudes who would abuse, cheat, disrespect their women be able to get in and out of relationships just because they looked good or had "swag", has made me bitter about ever trying again. I'm not what they want, it's that simple
that is really sad
😞
I'm so sorry, hon'. Life isn't fair.😞💔❤️
Just go work out and dress better. Go traveling and make new friends. That’ll solve all of your issues.
You must love yourself first before anyone else can love you. Just keep going :)
I once had a coworker that dated, got engaged, married, divorced, dated and got girlfriend ALL while I got one single date that led nowhere.
I know a young woman ( like 23-24 ) get married then get divorced and instantly found a boyfriend and is already engaged lol. She's fat and really not that attractive either
Brutal
Relationships and dating has changed. Its now a global game due to social media. On top of that due to women getting mass atention due to social media a lot have decided to monetise themself. He can go to latin america or asia and be top of the food chain. Sitting in america wont fix it it will only get worse.
I haven't been on a date in 8 years, both of my nieces have been created in that time period and their both going to primary school
@@Krul6 and who’s fault do you think that is? (IT IS NOT a loaded question, genuinely asking to see what you think)
This guy is explaining exactly what I'm going through as a 28 year old male, and im not half as attractive as he is, so what hope do I have? I cant live like this and just take the pain thinkinking it'll get better when im older. It'll only get worse...I've tried so very hard to improve myself, physically its worked, but it never boosted my confidence and it wont ever be enough because I cant cure my autism. If I'm broken on such a fundamental level then why shouldnt I just end it? I never stood a chance.
You’re the big brother making this video, helping countless others who have ASD! Thank you
ASD has made me a ghost, haunting various locations and revisiting places pointlessly. The point you make about younger family members having families while you are left behind resonated strongly with me. I feel pathetic and I'm too ashamed to see my extended family very often.
Yeah I feel you. I'm the oldest child. And I'm still at home. Watching brothers and sisters have kids and get married. I am happy for them aswell. But I see how they look at me with pity all the time. It hurts so much.
@@KyleGutz oh my goodness. My heart breaks hearing this. I know these days people make fun of Christians, but Jesus is real. He loves you more than you can imagine and He can change your life! All you have to do is ask Him to. Please try. Just say, "Jesus, if you are real, I want to know you. Will you show me who you are?"
That's it. He will blow your mind.
@@Brokebeauty247 Good advice Emily. God bless you for caring and sharing with others. 🙏
Hey don’t feel that way. I was alone for a very long time and one day I met my wife and I’ve been married almost 14 years now and I never ever thought I would say that. You never know what might happen but no matter what don’t feel bad about yourself just try to enjoy your lives as much as possible.
@@KyleGutzyou don't need family
You'll wish you were lonely if married to the wrong person. That's a living hell.
Bad part about being lonely is you can easily end up settling for the wrong person out of desperation. Then you just wish you could be lonely again.
I believe it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. For in loving and being loved, even if the love does not last, we can find value in ourselves and in our connection with another. To go through life without experiencing this connection, to feel invisible and alone, is a loneliness that cannot be easily borne.
AMEN!!!
Okay thanks for putting a smile on my face with the Jack ass joke I love it
Hope everything comes together for you I feel the same but not as deep as your story truly felt it
42 yo f here. never been in a relationship. took me a long time to get over it. realized that childhood traumas directly impact how I experience intimacy. found happiness (as happy as it goes) in my friends and career. Thank you for sharing your story and laying yourself bare. We need more guys and gals like you. may I add that you have gorgeous eyes?
You are in his age bracket message him see how it goes
Childhood affects intimacy sad. I look at intimacy something like immoral dark something to be ashamed or it hurt soul or how would I sleep at night I owing the evil have done
May I ask why you never been in a relationship?
Same here.
Don’t give up! You have all of us here!
I'm 37 and right there with you in many ways. Decent looking, i work out and take care of myself but... High functioning autistic, I've got severe social anxiety. For me it's work, gym, cold lonely house. Wish I had some comforting words but I'm living what you're describing and... well, you get it.
@J 808 i didn't find out til I was 31. Knew something was up since I was a kid just didn't really look into it.
ME too people , I'm lucky to still have my parents and siblings (I'm 41 ) But do worry for the days when I don't have them around :(
you are not alone. People want you to feel good
The world is more unforgiving than ever
what's the difference between being autistic and being a whiner? -cuz it sure overlaps a lot.
This video hit me hard. You basically recounted my biography and my day-to-day life. Absolutely pointless wage slaving with nothing to look forward to. Grinding loneliness.
It made me feel slightly better knowing it wasn't just me going through this. Obviously something wrong with our society. You're not some extreme exception.
@@manager4409 is too much separation in this society. In the third world you know all your neighbors and everyone is closer. You can be the shyest man over there and some girl would find a way to have your shlong in her.
The solution is clear. Find your peers, turn gay, and have an orgy.
i'm 33, completely reclusive, and completely isolated, haven't been on a date since before covid, and haven't been in a real relationship since college age.
i reinstalled tinder this week, and it's just a monument to how alone i always have been.
everyone my age has kids or partners or are just getting out of long term relationships.
how can i hang with people who are so much more "advanced" than i am in terms of emotional and relational experience?
i don't like thinking that the people i have most in common with on that app are the younger women who have less experience. that feels fucking predatory even though it isn't.
i know this kind of isolation is going to continue. isolation is going to be my future.
thanks for sharing. i guess if feels good to know i'm not alone in my alone-ness.
I’ve said this in my own comment, but no one needs to know about the successes or not of your past relationships. I know it may weigh on you but no one can tell just by looking at someone. Also my bf was 31 when we got together and we met through friends. He also thought he’d be reclusive the rest of his life after a terrible break up in his early 20’s. I’m not saying tinder can’t be useful but I think life changes when we least expect it. Keep investing in you and your hobbies and branching out trying to make friends in the unlikeliest of places. I do believe that people find each other but it takes that initiative to just hold on for dear life. Also people move, die, become distant, life doesn’t just stagnate for people. Friend groups change and evolve and who knows if you find yourself in one. We just welcomed a new friend into our group where this is their FIRST irl friend group and they’re almost 30. My point is life is so dynamic and you never know what’s out there. This is also coming from someone with autism and severe depression so trust me I KNOW how fucking terrible life is and can get. But you never know who’s life you can change. Kudos on putting yourself out there.
It for sure takes an insane amount of courage and strength to do what this guy has done here. You’re a really strong person man you can’t give up on believing in yourself brother.
Wow you don’t look a day over 30, keep having faith man. You got this
Remember, its never too late for anything as long as you are breathing.
That’s not enough.. he needs to be more confident. Looks like he has his own world setup, as well as his health and his looks so there’s no reason for him to not be confident (outside of autism which is very unfortunate).
I’m really surprised that a good looking dude like this is in the predicament he’s in. Brutal world
if aaron is struggling like this than anyone that's below him on the attractive scale... is basically doomed.
@@joeswanson733 yeah basically. This goes to show you gotta cash in early. ‘Cause you can get left behind easy
@@Karll541 we're seeing this right now playing out in real time with so many single unwed childless people now. and when i mean people i mean the men.
@Vaga Bond i know. it makes sense too. like there can only be one. im quoting jet li in the movie the one lol
It's over for us below average looking Bros
I'm grateful that I discovered your channel, Aaron. Thank you for being so brave to share your story and life with those who identify with you. I am pushing 40, and I have undiagnosed ASD, though I am certain that I am on the spectrum, because I have struggled with so many things throughout my life.
I only have one friend, who I have known since second grade, and I can't help but think he still chooses to be my friend because he feels sorry for me that I am not "normal." He has managed to build a career, life and family of his own. I have not been able to do any of those things, so we grow farther apart as our lives continue to misalign with age. Sometimes, I do feel alone, but that is often the life of those on the spectrum. We are simply not understood nor completely accepted by most people.
I don't feel alone knowing that there are genuine, good-natured people like you that I can relate to. All my best to you.
Your friend,
Daniel
That whole bit about holding a girl's hand really got me. I was briefly married to a man I'm almost positive was on the spectrum and he thought holding hands was stupid,. He honestly thought physical touch was unnecessary. In that marriage I felt so lonely and he was hard to connect with and I tried so hard. I read up on the differences between neurotypical and people on the spectrum and thought I had a pretty good grasp that we just related differently, but could make it work. He was 43 when we married and had never been married before and all his relationships were short term. He ended up moving back in with his parents after a sort of deep depression. I wanted things to work, he was used to just ending things and he grew tired of people/disillusioned with girls very fast. It's so sad. I don't mean to imply that people on the spectrum are all unaffectionate, I'm sure that isn't the case.
You are NOT ALONE. I am right there too. 41 and nothing to show for my life. Some of the most brilliant minds and amazing people that ever lived never paired up and had children. I wish I could help you. Don’t give up. Never give up.
Man I don’t know how this guy doesn’t absolutely smash the dating market.
Social anxiety. He's exactly like my 17 yr old ASD boy. I worry all the time, even though he's a talented artist and says he's really content, l still have a niggling feeling, I'm introverted, but would be lonely without a mate, l really hope my son finds his voice in this world, just to find his path outside of his comfort zone.
He is beautiful!!
You are so handsome & so very vulnerable.
This is what we actually want.
An honest man who is open about who he is...
No matter the social category
You have to live with someone with ASD to understand
@@StevenMacQuarrie Exactly right, the “weirdness”. As a woman I know how it feels to be that weirdo nobody wants.
I have suffered loneliness as an adult. I am a 38 yr old female that got moved around alot as a kid and struggles to make friends.
Can I just say for anyone that is lonely I highly recommend a pet. I got a rough collie who is now 2 and she has honestly been so good for my mental health. I go on holidays with my dog and lots of hikes.
There are even dog friendly cafes now, and she has helped me meet and start conversations with other dog owners etc.
I now take care of her and she gives purpose and company. Alot better than some human friends I've had over the years.
I would also recommend pursuing your passions, you will start to meet others on the same page with same interests as you. This will give natural topics to talk about.
Dogs are the best and I prefer them to people.
I disagree. I think we should do what this guy is doing here. Feel the pain of loneliness. Embrace it. Face life head on and go do something about it.
I went through 10 years of what this guy is going through and overcame it and then some. Getting rid of my negativity and not numbing the pain of life saved me. God saved me
I second that, i got a pointer and my fur baby is my whole life. He's saved me for sure
Coping by getting an animal and hiding behind that is just masking the truth.
You absolutely nail it. Open goal, back of the net. You have expressed EXACTLY how I feel every waking moment.
It takes an amount of effort to speak on this. I applaud you I'm 32 never been in a serious relationship. All my friends are scattered around the world. I have no one to talk to or confide in. My best friend passed away few years ago. I dont see myself getting married.
Thanks, man. I hear you.
I don't see myself ever being married either.
Not even blowing smoke dude, you’re a catch. First impression before I even knew what the video was about, I thought, this is a good looking guy, good style, great voice, articulate, looks like he has a nice place. Sounds like you take care of yourself and have hobbies and interests. Not divorced, no kids, no baggage. You’re a catch my man. I am certain there are good women out there that would be l happy to find a guy like you. I know it can be difficult to find them, especially as you get older. I just wanted to give you an outsider perspective on the fact that you come across as a catch. I hope maybe that little confidence boost leads to you finding the one.
Wonderful comment from one gentleman to another 🧡
Exactly my thoughts as well!
American women are attracted to either very rich men or thugs/bums. Average men are not wanted.
As a female I must say his voice is weak and I was going to comment that he should work on that. I'm autistic and I cannot stand soft-spoken voices!
Yes, there's someone for everyone. There's a greeting card that says so. BUT, and this is a huge BUTT, finding that person is becoming increasingly difficult. Online has pushed the paradox of choice to be a serious issue. We can always do better, so we keep looking. Everyone is searching way beyond our means. It's a serious mess.
But US men have other options. There are really great women all over the world wanting to marry/partner with US men. I thought it was a scam, gold diggers, wanting a green card but have been researching for 4 years now and it's 100% legit. Yes there are scammers too, but many great women. They don't give a crap if you stim, have meltdowns, have odd interests, short, fat, handsome or ugly. What they care about:
#1 You're a provider. They don't say this openly but they're just like women everywhere, The difference is $600/mo USD is a provider in most of SE Asia. $1000/mo is well to do. They don't actually seem to care about how much though. To them a guy with a lot of money is a problem for most because someone will steal him away. However, they will stay with a guy when money goes away at least sometimes. But you do have to try.
#2 You're loyal. This is what they say is #1 and it's super important to them. Apparently what's going on is that men in SE Asia, Columbia, Brazil are cheating a lot and the women are stick of it. There's also a lot of alcohol drinking.
#3 Kind, honest.
That's their entire requirement list.
These women are very attractive and age gap doesn't matter. They can fall in love hard very fast because you're such high status just by being an American. They will chat for hours everyday, several times a day for more than 2 years hoping you will move to be with her. Most do not want to move to the US, but will if you want. Once in the US there can be problems as American women tell them "you can do better" and they get a lot of attention from many men. It can change them into American women.
The dating site thing is flipped upside down. You'll get swamped with Likes and messages. The paradox of choice will now be a problem for you. You'll see the problem US women are having. Getting 100 women messaging in a week is actually a problem. How do to pick? You start doing the same as US women, increasing your requirements. Soon none will be good enough. Gotta keep your head. Find a good solid woman who adores you.
I'm 62 without ever having a girlfriend or relationship, I've learned to accept it and try to be happy by myself
At what age you accepted it and how hard it was for you?
@@lhomme444 20,it's more sad than hard
That hurts to hear Drew, I wish you love in another life :/
@@trevors2841 Thank you
@@Pault3788 do you have any hobbies or a job that keeps you busy?
This was one of the deeper and sadder things I've witnessed on TH-cam, and that's a really beautiful thing that I'm inspired by you for sharing. I have no doubt it doesn't feel particularly virtuous in any way but the fact you can make people feel something deeply real to the nature of existence (no person will ever truly know what it's like to be another) is beautiful and you should be very proud of that you were brave enough to make it through this video and put it out there. It makes a lot of us feel less alone, too. I think you hold yourself to a lot of expectations society instills, and maybe via that, or maybe inherently to you, developing a serious relationship sounds really important to you. This is probably a 'no shit, sherlock' kind of thing to say. It makes sense, but I would just be wary of that first part, that society has formed what is normal to you in your brain and you seek that normal life. I don't know much about ASD, but my general guideline in life is to question normalcy - just because it's commonplace doesn't mean it's the correct thing or even what you truly like deep down. I watched my parents divorce dissolve and no doubt I'll pursue love and connection, but very likely with the caveat of avoiding married life. I'd also recommend (you've probably tried this) but dating other people with autism, I imagine there's an app or site for it (again, no idea, you might have mentioned it in this video and it just flew by me) - but it seems to me everyone you have crossed paths with doesn't fully get your existence and i think it would be a huge, huge relief finding someone who does, whether they have autism or they grew up with someone who had it, etc. I feel like that would be the biggest weight off your shoulders. Even if it didn't amount in a relationship, but just knowing you're not alone in the circumstances you're in. I have my own mental situation I'm navigating and I used to beat myself up a lot about it and feel extremely bleak about it, but it was realising just how truly not-alone I am that took the most weight off my mind. I'd definitely recommend pursuing any and every community and connection that knows in some way what a life with ASD looks like. I really think it'll help to at best meet and/or communicate with, or at worst observe, as many others as possible who know to some more informed degree the circumstances you're living with.
That aside, a good fundamental one I recommend a lot is acclaimed neuroscientist dudeman Sam Harris' guided meditation on TH-cam. Just search 'sam harris meditation'. I owe a significant amount of my peace of mind in life to his very mechanical explanation of the brain and our experience of life, moment to moment.
I wish you all the best, man. You seem like a lovely person. There is 100% a happy future out there for you, I think it just exists through finding the most understanding surroundings you can, as above. ✨
Turning 30 very soon. I feel ya. As painful, as it is to hear you are not alone in this.
it sucks tbh but it is what it is i guess
I was in your shoes once, yet 30 is when I finally dared to turn things around and started living fully. Chances are you have already done the required introspection and identified your strengths and weaknesses, so just take some risks and start putting yourself out there. I am nothing special and had to contend with severe traumatic childhood experiences, so I do understand how daunting it feels to think you are different and worthless. It is not easy, you will get hurt more than you can imagine, but you have to heal and keep trying if you want things to change for the better. Force fate’s hand until you get lucky. I was 37 when luck came my way, and I wouldn’t have been able to act on it had I not suffered plenty of defeats beforehand. Start doing you and don’t listen to online dating advice, since that is all macho BS to sell you useless consumer goods.
Find out what works for you and who you can attract. If something feels wrong, leave it be and keep searching. Wish you all the best on your journey, brother.
I’m single because I have a small penis and I’m embarrassed of what a lady will think. I have offers but I turn them down 😢
Hey Aaron, my name is Tyler. I just came across this video on my recommended feed. Holy crap, this hit home for me. I am 37, single, no kids, and haven't been in a relationship with any women in over 10 years. I struggle with a lot of mental health issues mainly with substance abuse. Long story shot, I got addicted to heroin, oxy, and cocaine in 2011. I have had a couple relapses, but as of right now I have over 7 months clean off of heroin and cocaine/crack. I know God has a bigger purpose for me in life, and I know He does for you too. Hang in there man! I commend you for being so raw and real.
Keep up the good work.
@@user-pq9vr1uh4g Thank you William, I appreciate it!
Tyler keep it up! It's been 2 decades of me trying to get it right, but any semblance of normality in my life boils down to my abstinence! So glad to hear of your journey, stick to it!
thats an amazing accomplishment! You should be very proud of yourself, that shows real strength. Many people just give up, but you're still going. everyone has slip ups on the road to recovery but as long as you get back up, you're doing it! congratulations and I hope you make all your dreams in this life come true, live with zero regrets and remember everything is an experience and a lesson in life.
That is so awesome, keep it up. Congratulations. I'm in recovery myself. Even in the times when we're alone and searching for companionship etc we're still so much better off than we ever were while using. I don't ever want to go back there. Let's just keep pushing forward!
Jeezuz, you described myself at the beginning.
I’ve been living on cope for the past several decades. In my 20s I was still hopeful because I always thought that there were still possibilities. When I struck out, I worked on what I thought was wrong with me which was weight, fitness, finances, hairstyle and clothing.
In my 30s, I felt a little disappointed because I thought I would’ve met someone by then. Women still said no or they would ghost me. So I kept working on myself. I had a decent job and career. I had my own place, car and could afford to go on trips.
In my 40s I noticed a change. Women would look away when I was near them. I would try to start a conversation but would be ignored. Sometimes I would be patronized. Or insulted. One woman just cut me off when I asked how her day was.
I later realized that I was having trouble because I was ugly and short. Getting older only made things worse. The belief that women go for older men only works if you’re James Bond. It doesn’t work for ugly short men.
You at least are good looking. No homo. And you’re fit. Some of my married friends have let themselves go and look like blobs of skin, but their wives still stick with them. Maybe there’s something to finding love early and growing old with them that makes their love stronger, I don’t know.
All I can say is that be thankful you still have relatives you can celebrate the holidays and birthdays with. I celebrated my birthday by going out to Olive Garden after work. In my head, I sang happy birthday to myself as I sat in a booth by myself. I tried to look happy or at least casually comfortable so as to not creep people out.
But it gets harder. I can’t tell you what I did for the past several Christmases because they were all spent by myself and the memories have faded or melded together because there was nothing significant that stood out.
The funniest moments in my life are when people try to give me advice on obvious routes I could take. They act like they’re the first ones who came up with working out, making money and taking trips to live a better life. Not once do they consider that I’ve already done all those things.
I’ve volunteered at homeless shelters and hospitals to get my mind off of myself but that can only work for so long. It got to a point where I was depressing the homeless even if I was trying to be optimistic about life.
Volunteering at the hospital had its positive moments, but it gets negated when the nurses treat you like a leper and then talk behind your back. Also, since I would volunteer for several hours sometimes, I would have lunch at the cafeteria on occasion. The doctors and nurses who would put on a smile when we were up on the ward would act like they didn’t know me in the cafeteria. It felt like high school all over again which is silly since I was in my 40s.
The other thing I would see was all the families and couples that got together to have lunch. It reminded me that even if someone is feeling ill, they at least have someone to visit them and make their life a little less dreary. Volunteering only got more depressing for me so I eventually quit.
"the memories have faded or melded together because there was nothing significant that stood out" This one is super brutal.
how tall are you?
Yes, you described what I’m experiencing to the tee and much better than I ever could
I feel you! Hope God will bless you with the right partner
In my hometown we have huge statistic gap between men and women, for one man over 20 women, so we are leading by the most loneliness women in the world.
Maybe to try dating app to connect with some Russian speaking women? Some speak English, as there is a huge gap between men and women there, there is a chance to find a good women from there. :(
Ps as men have there many choices they behave with us rude and abusev...
Recent life hack people have been talking about: get a sex doll, a good group of friends and a house maid.
Congratulations, you just replaced a woman.
If you want a family though, you'll have to go through surrogacy, but there's a lot of men going that route, so there will always be info on this topic online.
If you need to vent out, we're bro.
You are one of the youngest looking 44 year olds I've ever seen in my entire life! You absolutely have that going for you. Don't give up, you have plenty to offer someone.
he can literally find a college grad and it wouldnt even look weird lol
This dude is a legend for sharing this
I'm 52 and single no children. It's not the life I thought I'd be living but I enjoy my life now. I make my own rules and I don't care what people think of me. If they are negative, I remove them from my life.
Hell yeah, you're killing it.
Brother you live once and life is short. Make the most of it and remember better to be single and happy than be in a relationship with a partner who is going to make life miserable.😊
@@Loner-Wolf I'm liking this attitude guys! Women lose most of their looks after 40-45 anyway and didn't even want to get married until 33 or whatever in the first place. Such a short window of that attractive feminine comfort, but a long time to enjoy your hobbies. Live ya life!
. based atleast^
I don't remove them from my life, I let them stay and wind them up 🤣
Greetings from Australia. I'm also 44 with ASD - I was diagnosed as an adult. I also used to suffer from depression & anxiety. Thank you for posting this video - at least I know I'm not the only one. I've watched all your other videos on this channel & can relate. There are plenty of single women out there who would be glad to be with someone like you - maybe the problem is distance. You're not past your prime - you're just getting started. And thank you for your honesty - never thought I'd come across a video like this. All the best.
Thanks for being this vulnerable. I feel so alone too. You sharing your story makes me feel less alone.
I'm 55 and completely alone. Everywhere I go, I look at EVERYONE'S ring finger and wonder how each person met their husband or wife. I feel like a shell of a man. I've also tried dating apps. I gave my all. I finally gave up. The dating sites only added pain to my fighting clinical depression. I feel your pain so deeply. Watching your video has made me cry uncontrollably. God bless you!!!!
The way modern women are, you're not missing much. Majority have a high body count, and as a result, they can't pair-bond. I choose to be single, and be as self-sufficient as possible. They're not worth the headache. Anyways, hang in there brother.
@@justmeeh2183 modern men start watching pornography at age 10 and can't commit and only talk to women when they want sex. They don't want relationships but to be in control and women want partnerships and not to be subordinate.
@@sarcodonblue2876 That's not what the dating statistics, cheating statistics, and divorce rates show.
@@justmeeh2183 do you really think men are going to look into watching pornography when they probably still watch it themselves? Men don't want to hear that getting aroused over it is not good for themselves and especially women. It is easy to observe these things but I guess men don't notice as the power to pleasure themselves is too high. I guess you have to be a women who has been sexaully harassed or worse.
@@sarcodonblue2876
You make absolutely no sense. You're just defensive about what I stated, and posting based on pure emotions. No one here brought up xx movies, nor is it relevant to this topic.
You’ve vocalised my biggest fear for my son who was diagnosed with ASD. He’s good looking and gentle in his own way. He doesn’t know how to relate. It’s like everyone expects him to speak a foreign language that most of us are able to observe and imitate from birth. He’s never had friends, his siblings only just tolerate him. I don’t know what adulthood will look like for him. I see his troubles and make time to explain things that he should know, but the world won’t make time for him as he grows.
I worry for my daughter. I hope she can learn to tell the difference between genuine people and those that will just take advantage of her.
It’s a hard enough for someone who isn’t disadvantaged to achieve that with what I’ve observed in my experience.
Dont worry he will adapt in his own way let life happen
I think the world will the more people talk about this . Have faith that people will learn from this
I would like to say how much you inspired me with this video. Just by speaking about this and putting it out there is braver and more courageous than anything I have ever done. Thanks man.
Loneliness used to be so bad for me. Once I embraced that pain, it became my strong point. Now everyone around me tells me I am wrong. But that is the thing, I had nobody when I needed someone so I adjusted to being this way. Things do get better, but you need to adjust what you focus on.
125,000 views in 2 months, you resonated with a lot of people man. That’s something to feel good about, you put yourself out there and a lot of people found it and wanted to engage.
Almost 150k now
And from the looks of it the majority of them are attracted to this dude's page for the all the wrong reasons. I'm a 42 yo autistic woman, and I'm really disappointed. Didn't realize that I'd be walking into a war of the sexes over here with a bunch of angry men who hate women because they get rejected.
yesterday his subscriber count was 5k something. now its 6.3k. i swear just the other day it was 4ksomething. his channel is growing quick
Men are waking up to the tinder situation.
@@Pugetwitchyeah I have noticed that as well. I’m trying to steer guys away from the gender war but it’s hard. In all fairness, there are female creators that stir the pot as well .
I’m going to be 41 and single. I’m not autistic but I can understand and relate to a lot of what you’re saying. It’s definitely harder to meet people friends, romantic prospects etc when you’re older. Just wanted to send positive energy … Platitudes don’t really do anything but you seem like a genuinely good guy and I hope you find an amazing woman for you.
I feel exactly what Aaron is saying. Im about to be 40 and single also. Im not autistic either but i think at this point it might be better to be alone that bring in someone to your life that might bring more baggage and stress which is not good for our well being...but we can still hope that we meet that right person eventually.
@@chriskramp5174 being single and content is so crucial brother
This video is gonna get him some dates for sure.
@@PatrolTard Hopefully
Your voice is so calming. Thank you for sharing this with us.
I think you having the courage to come out and be open and honest about this will inadvertently change your life for the better. From what I gather, you're a talented, driven dude with more going on for you than you think. You're life is just beginning. Stay strong
I completely relate to this even though I'm not living with ASD. Just a 44 yr old woman. Thank you for sharing, I actually didn't think there were others like me.
You should make it happen and meet him In real life
I truly think the dating market is a joke and you are a gem ! So kind and authentic! I
You would swipe left on him on a dating site for sure. I have autism too and if he only got one date after 2 years there's something seriously off. I only got around 4 matches in a year when I was single and I thought that was bad. I guess being in my 20s helped but it wasn't easy and I had to do most of the work to get what I wanted (women don't make the first move, ever).
Hey I have never get a match since trying out any app :/
Pricklycats - yeah I mean most women would swipe left on most men/not respond to thier message at least they would not for me.
What is with the MGTOW energy hiding in the replies of this comment section? Do y'all really have to feed on negativity 24/7? Loneliness is something most autists in general struggle with, not only men, & he clearly doesn't blame or antagonise women. Our whole generation has had the least sex and happiness, so please have some empathy.
@@pricklycats Hey Megamind, she said the dating market is a joke, so she clearly doesn't use dating apps due to understanding how superficial they are.
This is the most relatable video I’ve ever seen. Every single point reflects my own experience.
one of the most relatable TH-cam videos I've watched in a long while, thankyou Aaron
Imo if you look like that at that age then you basically won the genetic lottery. Full head of hair, fit, being intelligent etc. Whatever you dream of in life go for it it is not late, just don't overthink it. We are crazily complex yet somehow simple creatures so do what you love to do, keep yourself busy, don't forget to talk to women wherever you want to or have the opportunity. You gonna rock this dude, keep your head up!
I'm the opposite of him, I have ASD, began losing my hair at age 22, I'm now 25 with a bald crown and receeding hairline, I have never had a job and have difficulty to socialize and engage in normal conversations, I've been skinny all my life and I still am (people like to make comments about it) and now I'm trying to get a job as a janitor but even that seem like too much for me but this has been my life and there is nothing I could have done to make it any better, some people get dealt a bad card like me and others are my age now with a great job and high salary, good looks, etc... that's just life.
No kids and no relationship stress. Keeps ppl looking young. I thought my supervisor I was 25...she is 45 no kids no husband.
@@Danuxsy bro, 25 still soo young. Keep your head up. Dont compare yourself. If your hair is an issue get rid of it. Don’t live life looking for attention. Just live your life and I promise you that your happiness will gain the attention you deserve.
This is a real ass statement. I'm 40 and everyone around me looking pretty haggard..... Maybe including me too. This guy looks, speaks and handles himself very attractively.
I really hope he can see through that lens cos I was thinking the same thing-!! But I understand how a girl can be scared off. Gotta fake it till you make it- don’t let her feel like you have her up on a pedestal- we really do want to feel like peers (and like maybe we gotta give some chase.) My bf was the only guy treating me like a person at work (and not like “the hot girl,”) boy I was smitten.
As a 25 year old female on the spectrum, I've been having similar thoughts to yourself. Many women and men feel this way. You are not alone. You have many things in your favor. This video I think is a big step for you. I'll be praying for you, and all our future success in this department.
I'm also 25 and let me tell you, approaching is hard af for me...
@@lennertvermeir7498 Same man as a 17 year old it's really hard😔
@@dimitrytimothee1590 WORK OUT HIT THE GYM CHANGE UR MENTALITY STOP THE VICTIM COMPLEX
You could get with this guy and have a family
@@rltelite9090 oh well that’s useful Mr CAPITAL LETTERS !
I'm 38 with asd. I'm married with a kid. We also have friends with husbands on the spectrum.
You CAN overcome this. You just gotta take chances socially and be willing to grow.
Social skills CAN be learned.
I love your answer!
@@soniaperez2417 I see so many stories on here of aspies struggling as adults, we need more stories of success to inspire.
Not sure If youre trolling, an aspie can never match an NTs social vibes
@@updaet6870 we can find ways to get by, create a life, and be happy. Why is that so hard to believe to call me a troll?
I've found that my coping mechanism for loneliness is projecting my thoughts out loud or just straight up talking to myself.
I do this constantly, even at work
I do that all the time.
I know this was hard to do.
It was hard to watch.
I echo the sentiment expressed already. You are worthy, and you are loved by people who have never met you.
By putting this video out there for people to find, discuss, and connect over, your impact on the world has been a positive one.
Thank you on behalf of humanity.
Nice do you have advice for him ? I’m similar to him and share many of the same struggles but I can get into relationships but just get little out of them .. he seems unable to find a woman that will accept his nature ..
@@brianmeen2158 there are tons of women out there he just have to get out of the US. This guy is a joke. And deservers to get nothing out of life by acting out like this.
@@brianmeen2158 dude I am asking the same thing but you'll get these comments that are pity party bs with hundreds of likes. We need men with a will and a passion not to make money but to make the world better whether they are alone on the path or not, many rewards will be bestowed upon those who seek to create order and stability for humanity. Those who wish to destroy or sit and watch will only lose themselves in the end
@@AzamatSlowedAndReverb absolutely. Denmo, Men's Maxxing, Dre Drexler (and Hamza) all have discords for men to talk about topics like these and you are all welcome. Just be prepared to face the truth
💗Happy Valentine's Day, Aaron. Looks like your channel is going great! You're never completely alone, brother. Widow, 41 here, also a loner. I won't give up on love, it's pure energy 💟
I'm not on the autism spectrum. I'm 47 and never had a girlfriend and it's not from lack of effort either.
Hell yeah, rock ‘n’ roll on that statement!❤
Yo Aaron talk to her man she looks cute 🥰
Would be a beautiful blessing if the two of you gave each other a chance! Would be wonderfully happy for the both of you❤️
Really? Happy valentines day?
You´re a superhero in my eyes. This video is the push i needed today. Keep going
I'm so alone to the point that I have come to terms with it. The only thing I'm scared of is eventually I will take my own life. Hopefully I don't get to that point
Same.
In the last months I have been considering both things.
Im getting through the lonely part, but accepting to take my own life its really really hard, its not as easy as it sounds.
Also in this headspace myself
I'm 28 and I related to this so deeply. Thank you for making me feel a little less alone in this world.
I’m 28 too!
Me too !
28 can't say the same wake up stop feeling sorry for yourself and start talking to people. You will get rejected a million times but you will always eventually get to know people and the more you do it the more you level up.
@@cyairatiHey I just wanted to say to keep your opinions to yourself about someone without knowing their life story. I have autism and have a hard time talking to people because of it which is why I resonated with his story. I also have an autoimmune disorder which causes my hands and sometimes body to shake and it can be pretty off puting to other people who don't know me with first impressions. You say stop feeling sorry for yourself but I didn't say I do. I also live in a town of less than 10,000 people so talking to 1 million people like you suggested is not really possible. In fact I'd love to know how you physically talked to 1 million people because that's cool. When I said "feeling a little less alone" I was talking about the problem with autism. I don't have a lot of people in my social life that know how hard it can be sometimes so it was nice listening to someone talk about it. By the way I have had girlfriends although short lived. Also telling people to just go talk to someone is not terrible advice but very poor advice. Not everyone has the confidence that maybe you have or expect people to just have naturally.
@@UChallengeTV This is out in public so it's normal to hear everyone's opinion. The question at the end of the day is (What are you getting outta this?) (What is the solution?) I think there is probably one that I can think of witch is to hopefully raise awareness and hope people change and that isn't easy the time this will take let alone 💀... I might not know about his life that much or yours regardless it doesn't mean you know about his just because you relate in someway doesn't make your situation alike. All I am saying is as a man you gotta pick yourself up and find a way because no one other than your parents got you. You are 28 yeah ok so what is the solution? The city you live in has 10k people out the 10k how many girls are around your age whom are single and ready for a relationship? The number is very little yeah thinking about it as time passes it will keep getting harder and harder🤔...
Hey man. Thanks for posting this video. I'm only 32 and I struggle with loneliness as well. I've also never been in a serious relationship with a woman. I hope that changes soon and I am trying my best to change the situation, but it does get tough. Much love and care sent you're way. You are not alone!
I have watched several of your videos and I want to thank you for having the courage to share publicly. You perform a valuable service to many. You are a lot more normal than you think. I don't believe anyone is truly "neuro typical", but there are those who want to classify everyone who doesn't fit their mold as different. There's nothing wrong with you if you aren't loud, obnoxious, and overconfident. Many who behave that way are just putting on an act and aren't really confident. (I know for a fact that some of my most confident friends have admitted that they are putting on an act.)
I am praying for you and I hope you are doing better now.
The sad reality is it’s going to get worse for the vast majority of men. I very rarely get dates and even if I get one it’s almost always the same result, one date and ghost. I just gave up. Started focusing on hobbies and interests.
This video really touched me even though my experience is different, I am a girl, I am 19 years old and I don't live in the west but this just confirmed to me how soul crushing loneliness can be, I wish you all the best Aaron, I really do because you deserve it
You are not alone. I'm 49, tried marriage twice but after a challenging childhood I realised I allowed some men to be in my life who were more interested in what I could offer, and not reciprocating themselves. My empathy ended up being my downfall. I've struggled with depression and anxiety and find that some relationships make me feel worse. I would rather be alone than walking on eggshells around someone who makes me feel horrible. Approaching 50 I sometimes try not to think of the fact that I have no children, or partner or family to speak of. My dog keeps me around, I hate to think how I will ever be able to go on when he is gone. It's just maddening to think so many of us are out there, feeling the same.
If you want children adopt or check fertility clinics about egg and sperms donation. You can a mom on your own
@@z7z766 Women shouldn't give birth unless they have to. Not only does it cost thousands of dollars, even with good insurance, but more babies and women are dying during childbirth than 10-15 years ago because our healthcare system is imploding and women are treated like 2nd class citizens.
Guess kevin samuels was right
@@venicec3310 I didn't know who you are referring to but just saw he is misogynistic and dead, so it didn't go well for him and his outlook.
I don't subscribe to that sort of American rubbish, I live in a more culturally harmonious country, thanks.
I felt that, when you said 'there's no one there when you get home'.
I've been feeling that for a very long time, and when I've told my friends about it, it gets dismissed.
I hope you get better my dude, take it a day at a time
There are times when I get home I just sit in my car and try not to cry.
@@craigdax Sometimes you just gotta do it man! as you were to do anything else like to go to the toilet or breathing, you gotta let the emotions out to make room for new ones!
Hope this helps
I'm 44 with ASD, and one thing I've learned is that those you compare yourself to like your siblings, might not have these great lives that you think they do. For instance, you have your freedom. You can buy things you can afford, or go to the places you want to without having to have the approval of a spouse. There are always trade offs. To gain something means you have to lose something in return. Also, I've learned that to acquire anything worthwhile requires hardship and possibly suffering, like a lack of sleep, long hours, or even physical discomfort. If that's a price that isn't worth paying that's ok too. Everyone has to decide what they value and how far they are willing to go to acquire what they value. I hope this makes sense. If people disagree thats fine.
exactly, this is the mindset that settles in when one is lonely and isolated, the idea that everyone else is happy or fulfilled, in happy marriages, relationships etc, I felt similar to this for a long time, didn't have my first real relationship till my late 20's but I knew so many, miserable relationships around me, in actuality ALL the relationships /marriages around me were not the happiest or healthiest, and everyone would usually tell me I was so lucky I was single and had so much time to just do what I wanted, so perspective is everything!
This guy didn’t even look up the analytics.. something like 70%+ marriages are ending up in complete u happiness and divorce and most so not remarry. He’s missing nothing on that front. Having kids is another story, he can knock up any broad and get to that whenever he wants. It’s self created issues.
All my siblings their entire life is focused around their children. They literally have no life outside of work and kids. Whatever person they were, has ceased to be. They are simply parents now, some are OK with that but others, the loss of freedom is devastating. No wonder people act out and do terrible things like have affairs because they are so bored of family life.
@@cattysplat people are never satisfied cause they never really ask themselves what THEY want, not what society tells them to want, not what they think they should want etc nothing in life, especially once you enter the realm of relationships, marriage, children is easy, you are no longer the center of your world, your only priority, but it never was meant to be that way anyway, people always had a village, people always lived for other people, American culture sells the lie that freedom isn't costly, it is.
You are not alone in a pack of lonely men. This hit me hard because you basically described me to a T. It is frustrating to keep living seeing how much life has past with nothing to really show for it. I feel for you, brother. Don't give up. Keep going.
You probably have more to show for yourself than you give yourself credit for. It's very PC to shit on a man's accomplishments these days. Even if you truly haven't accomplished that much yet, look at what skills and experiences you can draw from to cultivate more in yourself. You could surprise yourself with what you can accomplish in one or two years.
Trust me…women too!!! Especially if you’re not the social media selfie type of woman ;)
Same here. This is my story too but said more eloquently than I could.
This video hit home deep!
@@g.i.520 Yep. I’ve even tried to approach men myself. It’s either they’ll try to use me for sex or reject me flat out. That’s it. Never any romantic prospects. I reckon it’s because I’m unattractive. There’s no other reason. I’m talkative when I get comfortable with people in a situation, I’m bubbly, friendly, open and people who actually bother to get to know me tell me I’m someone who’s easy to talk to. But I’ve noticed, that people often form negative preconceived notions about me even before I get to talk. Men have never approached me in a romantic sense, I’ve never been asked out on a date or to be in a relationship by any man. When I go outside, I’m totally invisible to men. My existence is not even acknowledged. I don’t get flirted on, cat-called, approached by the opposite sex and the typical stuff most women experience.