As an American, this family is definitely the stereotypical old money English that we typically think of... but they're the most down to earth family I've seen in a long time. Especially their son who recognizes how privileged he is and knows as long as he is his authentic self, he will succeed in life, regardless of his family history. Good on his parents!!
I’m fascinated by your criticism of Stacey & defense of these upper elite parents. If this family were any other family (lesser means, religious, or anything really) the pornographic placemats at dinner would be criticized. I see how Epstein got away for so long. We normalize and glad over this “brand” of sexual entitlement. (Not to mention their other behavior (subtle reactions) like mocking her accent, putting her in place.)
sorry I wasn't replying to you but to the OP saying the children were the result of their 'good parenting' , I agree with you, it was probably down to the good teachers they had and certainly not their parents
The fact you needed to comment this with nearly 300 likes tells me there are a lot of parents out there who don't know how to discipline their kids enough to tell the little shits to get tf off their phones at the dinner table - in fact - don't even think about bringing them to the dinner table AT ALL! Sad.
And fair play to the old boy, patriarch of the family. He did inherit a large estate, but form what I gather it wasn’t in great order. He managed to build something out of it and employ far more folk than when he started, he is involved in the community. Good on them.
@@catholicfaithofmine2664 I only mentioned it because the original comment said "mom does the cooking" and they're down to earth as if they do for themselves just like everyone else. But I don't think so, you just didn't see all the help that goes on behind the scenes.
The interior of this home is exactly how I would imagine an upper class country home to look like. I love the colors on the walls and the very large oil paintings everywhere . It’s not cluttered and not bare. Feels almost family cozy.
@@farzana6676 yeah being old and outdated is the purpose, no need to change everything wastefully each 15 years to look like what Dwell magazine says is modern.
I hear the word privileged a lot coming from a woman who’s on a TV show, traveling, and carrying a LV suitcase. She has worked for that and just like she’s worked for what she has these families ancestors have worked hard to establish generational wealth and security. Of course wealthy people have more privilege because of money and connections however I don’t like to dismiss their hardwork just because they were set up right. I highly doubt if she has children she wouldn’t set them up for the absolute best because as parents that what we want for our children to have better than us. These kids seem lovely and down to earth as the parents which is wonderful to see.
You have to remember that while she is asking the questions, and she may be responding from her biased perspective, she is also asking generalised questions that the average or lower-incomed person is likely to be thinking. Privilege is subjective. If you notice, at the end, while they are eating in the pub, she says to the family that they are the poshest people she has ever met, and the mother responds by saying there are many more families even more posh than them. I, for example, don't have a good income. I rent an older townhouse and have almost nothing to my name, but I have a decent car, food in my stomach, I'm getting an education, and I have a comfortable place to sleep every night. That, for many others in the world, is absolutely privileged. I agree, the family seemed lovely. Out of touch at times, yes, but that is to be expected. I enjoyed their humour and even being open enough to let a stranger into their home with a cameraman for the weekend and answer questions that may or may not be somewhat uncomfortable. I appreciate the different perspectives a lot, and the children were definitely lovely.
@@amandaelynch1 Well said. The first part of what you said is especially astute because many people in the comment section don't seem to get the point and perspective of the show lol.
Poor Tracey was really looking forward to having arguments about wealth and privilege and suddenly everyone turns out to be rational, down to earth and appreciating of what they have. She was quite disappointed which had me smirking and giggling the whole time, loved it, lovely family.
This family is incredible down to earth. They don't boast of wealth, they hunt for their own dinner, they prioritize values for their children, they don't have servants and other assumed privileges. I think she was unfair with her tone at dinner regarding how good they have it. They displayed humility and gratitude and generosity in hosting and serving her.
I’d suggest doing a little research as to how their ancestors built that wealth and privilege. It’s easy to pretend you’re down to earth and of the people when you’re a few generations removed from employing children for pennies in order to build that wealth. Real decency would be embarrassment for past actions and liquidating unnecessary assets to give to the ancestors of the people whose backs they built their privileged lifestyle on. You’re naive in the extreme if you don’t think that they only showed us exactly what they wanted us to see about how much they do for themselves.
They are! But I do think there is a difference between 'old money' and those which have become wealthy in more recent times. While they'll still have a few Bob or two, in reality they're 'land rich' rather than cash rich, and that mixed in with their heritage and desire to maintain what they have and work on improvement rather than continual acquisition leads to an almost humbleness in a way. I wouldn't expect families of the average ceo to be this down to earth and unobessed with bling for example
They put on a good show. Look up some of Stowe pupils self-made video clips online. YT used to have quite a lot of them. With parodies of orgies and sex slaves in boarding houses. Buggery and grape. Lovely children indeed. What they are is very camera aware and switched on enough to put their best foot forward under such a public gaze. I would think it far more interesting to have a fly on the wall experience and get to see them outside of P.R. mode.
I certainly hope that they are camera aware. My mother used to prepare me when the best manners where required at home and in public. Bad manners just embarrass everyone.
Johnny is a great man. He took what he had, got creative, took a risk, and built something that benefits the whole area. I really admire people who create jobs. His wife is also very obviously a very hard worker. "Love and labour" -- those are strong values. The only snob here is Stacey.
@@JustDiane71100-percent correct ..The whole time she was truly getting on my nerves.. these people were hospitable and wonderfu what are they supposed to do.. I don't understand... In life you are given the cards You must play them well either way good or bad ..You You make the Best Of it... were they supposed to decline their inheritance ..would You ?? I Don't think so ..I cannot stand people who automatically put everyone in the same box I have NeVER once had envy or jealousy of someone else .. I guess that's strong suit Comes with DNA as well , I believe because my whole family is like that.. we do not judge people whether they have , or have not.. It is unreal to me that she walked in there and she was judging them right away.. and their house is big but it's not that big for Christ's sake.. They are a wonderful family that through generations continued to keep the families inherentance on top ..that is a very hard thing to do.. to not lose the wealth ..because to lose it, that is an easy thing to do ..I think they are very strong noble people... May they all be blessed❤
@@JustDiane71I absolutely agree with you! I hated her line of questioning. I’m sure that it’s for the “ratings”, but I thought she was incredibly rude.
Its interesting that "Tracy" wears a Rolex and travels with an LV suitcase. Its not a criticism, it just highlights the fact that we all want to succeed and have the best. To me this family is a perfect example of old money. Classy but understated.
@@jeffreysommer3292 Old money don't grasp it either. At least the nouveau riche usually earn their money instead of instead of inheriting the castle made of the peasant bones for bricks and their blood for mortal from their old money rich daddy.
The Arkwright family inc their grandma r the outright stars of the show - funny, warm, hospitable n increasingly endearing as the show goes on. The two children are wonderfully polite and a delight to any parent. I am impressed.
I must say I was a bit disappointed with Stacey in this episode. She came into this with a lot of preconceived notions. Regardless of how kind, gracious and welcoming this family was, she behaved with extreme prejudice to them. They were so friendly and jovial, they didn’t judge her once, but she treated them with clear disapproval from the start.
I would say they were judgemental - the 'three / free' comment, the eating boiled egg. Yes they were also welcoming etc, but you can't say they weren't judgemental
Yeah they took that huge risk of taking out a loan against the estate to open an amusement park, and they run the pub. They weren't working in those places themselves, but I'm sure it took a lot of planning, guts, and ongoing management.
The family has over 800 acres, large house, etc. but I see them working, cleaning boots, cleaning their own horse, making their food. They don’t have a cook serving them, they don’t have a maid cleaning, his boots, etc..
Don't be ridiculous. They didn't show the staff on film, but they certainly have them. One woman is not cleaning a twelve-bedroom mansion on a faulty basis.
@@claravrsnik7858 How do you know that? If you have 150 people working on your estate, they're surely not all gardeners. Just because we didn't see any housekeepers or cooks these 2 days of filming, doesn't mean they don't have them.
being rich and being class are two different things. and this family is so lovely they have both of them. Life dealt them the cards they have and they just ran with it ; they appreciate what they have and they focus on values instead of living extravagantly. Sure they live comfortably, and that's what everyone wants when you're rich, which is absolutely normal behaviour. Stacey isn't wrong to say Britain isn't what it like in 27:18 when you grow up with privileged kids but she needs to remember that in any society in the world, there's upper class, middle class and lower class, her version of growing up does not represent whole Britain entirely.
What a beautiful and down to earth and humble family. Stacey on the other hand 🙄 She seems like the type of person that tells everyone else to share their wealth, but will gladly keep hers.
Yes, just think how much money she could have donated to children in need instead of buying a LV suitcase. She comes across like a champagne-socialist. Absolutely ridiculous .
You really overestimate her income haha she has a one bedroom flat, if she was a millionaire, she'd not be living like that haha People who have a normal income where they can live comfortably in a non-moldy flat in London are not really the bad guys in capitalism, sorry, your argument is just silly. Buying a LV suitcase (you don't even know if it's a genuine one or a copy bought on holiday in Vietnam) doesn't mean you're swimming in money
@@phoebeel The fact that she would need a statement suitcase with the logo of a luxury brand, genuine or fake, written across the whole thing is silly. You don't know about the status of her income neither, but there is one fact: she has a need for bling, which is totally fine but also totally inappropriate when visiting people who are living at the brink of poverty. Anyway, opinions may differ....
Stacey is the snob here, there is such a thing as working class snobbery, where they fail to try and understand where other people come from, and have a chip on their shoulders because of their insecurities. Johnny may have inherited the estate etc, but unless you work and diversify, you will not hold on to what you are given. Also he created decent jobs in his locality.
yes and she also has prejudice towards private schools. If you receive really decent education about what is right and wrong, sense of value, and how to become a nice person, it does not matter if you are in school with other prestige kids or not.
It seems like you haven't grasped the concept here. She is intentionally challenging them, so she can understand their values better as a priviledged family when they show their true colours. They're a lovely family at the end of the day.
I noticed that wealthy people keep their possessions such as furniture, household items and clothing for decades. Unlike people with much less money always buy the newest and best, completely wasting money. No wonder they can pass money to the next generation. Lovely family!
But the rich can afford to buy more expensive high quality products that they keep for years as for the rest of us who can't afford high quality furniture we buy cheap and replace the furniture when it goes bad
Oh my GOODNESS I LOVE THIS FAMILY SOOOOO MUCH!!!!! Also this should be the way children should be raised regardless of what education they get, they appreciate what they have and have been raised to work hard. They are so polite and charming and truly love and adore their life and family.
The family treated her well and they tolerated her ridiculous questions with calm. To insult them by saying things like the kids shouldn't go to private school while staying under their roof reflects poorly on Stacey. I really love how the family handled this experience, especially the two kids, they've been raised in a good environment, and they are very understanding of where they are. Clearly private school has taught the kids well too. What an amazing family.
How odd that you'd expect Stacey to not have opinions--that somehow expressing a different opinion is rude, 'ridiculous' or 'insulting'. Licking boots isn't attractive.
Lovely home, humble and kind family, dogs, horses, home cooked meals, drinks and laughter. What’s not to love about this life? Ralph Lauren has made a fortune marketing this dream!
I’m watching and annoyed with Stacy’s arguments and line of conversation. I’m from a poor background but what does she expect privileged people to do? Walk around and hang their heads in shame? It is what it is we all couldn’t have been born into riches.
@@Chahlie Just remember that the show is edited. They would have had close to four days of footage and had to compress it down to 40 minutes. For that reason you will not get an accurate depiction of the entirety of the conversations that occurred.
By definition they are anything but normal. It’s not meant as an insult, it’s a fact. Most people have to work to survive. They only have to work because they want to continue having more than most people do. There’s no way to be truly in touch with reality when you’ve never had to face it the way most people would. Real hardship is only conceptual to them.
@@TiffanyAllen1784 Did you watch this vid and listen to what was said by Mr. Arkwright? The home was inherited in poor condition and it makes them no money-- houses like that aren't free. There's upkeep, there's taxes. He's managing multiple businesses to keep that home and his family's lifestyle afloat- nothing is free, which is what he was trying to say this whole video and what seems to have gone over even Stacy's head.
@@vindoodles7346 Yes, I watched the video. Did you read and understand my comment? Their ridiculously oversized home could become a public facility that actually benefits a number of people that makes sense relative to its size. If they sold it and moved somewhere that was only as much space as they need-or even somewhere more with extra space, but that’s less ostentatious, they’d likely make enough of a profit to never need to work again. Most people don’t have those kinds of options. And they wouldn’t if his ancestor hadn’t taken advantage of the poor and literally employed children. They are, in fact, anything but normal. Stop making excuses for the class of people who are perpetuating the level of inequity that has plagued humanity for most of its existence.
She's awful. And no I'm not rich, far from it. She's obnoxious and rude. When she was sitting on the couch talking to that man, she had her feet up on the furniture. Her behavior on this episode sucked.
I totally agree. It almost made me lose interest in watching it. I am glad I did and got to know this family. They seem to be doing an excellent job with their lives.
This family is gracious, open and friendly, good on them!! Send your kids to the best schools align them with the best association and guide/teach them. The end result usually pays off in many ways.
I'm a young Zulu woman in rural South Africa and I'm deeply inspired by this family. Everything about their lifestyle spoke to me. From the kids being in boarding school, to the hunting culture, how the wife cooks and hosts in her home and the husbands business having millions in debt and being successful. I found them very relatable and would love to see more of them
Your Louis Vuitton suitcase is quite bougie!! Surprisingly, I love this family. They were super funny, very welcoming and more down to earth than I expected them to be. I think most people here in the US with that kind of money would not be so welcoming, funny and down to earth.
@@fattoria_di_bastoni Yes. New moneyed people are more snobbish and judgemental. They don't have the Class ,or the self confidence , imbibed in them to welcome people into their home so well
@@jacqueline8559It greatly depends on the upbringing and what their values are. There are plenty of down to earth and honestly not even showy rich folks. So well hidden and humble you would never know they were rich.
The ancestors of the upper class family earned their money. Smart enough to start and run a successful business. Some are born with the drive and intelligence, and others who aren't as successful may not be so driven. Starting and running a business is not easy.
It's interesting how she sees them as "very different people," but they see her as a regular person like themselves and treat her with respect and humility, while she is condescending towards them.
I knew as soon as I clicked on the video that this would be the case. Stacey has come across like this with her previous vids as well.. she hasn't healed
Probably pays to mention that these fears are borne from the unknown, and I am sure the rich family have engaged with many more working class folk in their lifetimes than Stacey has met aristocrats. Don't blame her for being uncomfortable in a new environment, surrounded by the aristocratic class who are posited as "the enemy" by Probably the majority of the population. Please extend her the same compassion and understanding that you extended to the rich people :)
With great privilege comes great responsibility. The manners of the family are immaculate. They are great fun and wonderful hosts. I'd love a weekend there. ❤
Oh dear! Stacey, you MUST take some basic etiquette lessons! I cringed, repeatedly. What a graceful, poised, gracious, hilarious (love the musical and comedic bond sooo passionately!) absolutely endearing , genuine family! Truly enjoyed them! But, tut tut on Stacey’s end.
I also agree on this. I LOVE Stacey, but she seemed to be quite biased from the very start, and a lot of her jokes made me cringe. Normally her videos help show how people with very different lives still share a lot in common with others, but I think she didn't do the best job here. That being said- I probably would have acted the same way as Stacy, that level of wealth is baffling.
how lovely were this family? They were so accomodating and open! The children were so well raised and Arabella was so nice! I even liked her mum! The pinnacle for me was the rude placemats! Loved it. It was nice to have a window into their lives.A really nice watch!
Stacey you need to visit Mapperton and have a good chat with the earl of snadwich. They can tell you just how hard it is to maintain an estate. They work there buts off to not only maintain the house, but to also provide for all the people they are responsible for.
I thought English thought Americans were blunt and straight forward but she’s taking the cake on these questions. He’s handling himself with grace with all these rude questions. Definitely a better way to phrase it
I did not expect nude portraits of family members, and the grandmother urging someone to play The Stripper on guitar! My American white trash self was scandalized by those placemats haha.
Its funny how our upbringing and deep rooted beliefs and stereotypes affect how we judge others. I felt Stacey still couldnt let go of her deep rooted judgements and alluding to privilege as a negative. This family was incredibly nice and down to earth, the children were not spoiled and all work hard and recognize their privilege and even though Stacey enjoyed her time with them, she still felt they were the 'others'. What I found interesting is how negatively Stacey viewed boarding school and private school - knowing a bit about the public education system - it is far from a good standard. Stacey clearly has managed to achieve success despite her dropping out of school, however that will not be the case for the majority of kids who go down that path. Why wouldnt you want to give your kids the best chance in life by receiving a good education, have a better chance at getting into university, and making friends and connections that are likely to help them in future? Why would you choose (given the theoretical choice) to give them a worse start in life? That I do not understand.
Answering your question about the objection to private schools, there are several good reasons. One is that while those kids get a great education and connections that will serve them well for life, they are surrounded by a very limited portion of society that represents the most privileged. They miss out on diversity of thought to a large degree and having empathy for other people. I'm not saying that these people have no empathy or don't want to be empathic, but I'm sure if you had deeper conversations with them, there are plenty of topics that they can't understand or relate to given their lack of experience. More importantly, private schools are a way for the wealthy to escape the public school system and give their kids an exclusive education. Imagine if you could outlaw private schools and force rich kids to go to public schools. Do you know how much better public schools would be if the kids of the most privileged and powerful people in that country went to them? How many more resources those schools would have, because the wealthy and politically connected would use all of the resources to make sure that the school had the best of the best teachers, facilities, opportunities, and so on? Well, we don't have to imagine a country with an education system like this, because Finland only has publicly funded schools that are required to teach the same curriculum and can't charge any private funding. Oh, and Finland is the #1 public education system in the world.
@@Scotter4536 This is not entirely correct. I went to private school in Finland, two actually and spent all my years in school in them. My parents paid tuition. What is prohibited however is education for profit.
What a lovely family! Their discipline and hard work comes across very clearly. I loved seeing their get together and sense of humour! May they continue to be blessed. ❤😊
TO STACEY, IF YOU CAN'T ACCEPT THE FACT THAT THERE ARE ALWAYS GOING TO BE A DIFFERENCE WITHIN SOCIETIES, LIVE IN A CAVE. YOU ARE NOT ENTITILED TO JUDGE & CRIMINALIZE OTHERS JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE RICHER THAN YOU. THIS FAMILY MADE A MISTAKE BY INVITING YOU AN UNGRATEFUL WOMAN INTO THEIR HOME. THE WORLD NEEDS INDUSTRIOUS & SUCCESSFUL FAMILIES LIKE THE ONE FEATURED HERE WHO PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES & EMPMOYMENT TO OTHERS. FROM, NORTH & WEST INDIA
and "regular class" Stacey Dooley is traveling with a 3000 pound Louis Vuitton suitcase and using 250 pound Frederic Malle's "Portrait of a Lady", I have to mention ;)
And this suitcase a d perfume is comparable to the life of those people 🙄 good for her that she can afford what she wants, she achieved it herself and can be proud of it.
@@smiley9872 she doesn’t realize it in the upper class and among the multimillionaires you only do a gentleman bet which is about one dollar in the United States or 1 pound in the UK and it’s only for having fun it’s not about how much money you can bet on some thing. It has nothing to do with the amount of money. and yes, they take their 100 pounds very seriously when you are wealthy that’s how you become wealthy as you take money seriously.
"The poshest people I have ever met" Yeah the lady says "there's a lot more posh people than us" and she's thinking "You are from London. Working for the BBC. Get real" There is nowhere posher than London. Especially not out in the countryside. Kensington, Knightsbridge. Wetherby School, Royal Albert Hall, Buckingham Palace. The British media is full of aristocrats. She is trying to get an interesting spin on the family which is fair enough. But it is real pot kettle situation for a Londoner working for a glamour video magazine to call other people 'posh'.
@@annaal7480 Well sure, but it is a tiny bit hypocritical to pose as lady of the people instead of acknowledging they are all priviliged at that table.
An estate such as this takes very hard work and a lot of money to sustain itself. This family obviously works and plays hard, and they seem quite likeable.
Yes. Most landed gentry are struggling to keep the lights on in the modern era. The houses are just too large for them to maintain. Asset rich, income light.
For a few days of filming. They’ve outsourced most of their child rearing to the point that dad forgot his son had recently broken bones. Do you seriously think nobody ever cooks or cleans for them. Any sort of work they do is because they want to, not because they actually have to. They’re working because they want to continue to have more than they need, not because they have to do it to survive.
Coming from a relatively poor background we (all seven of us)were sent to boarding school at age ten (secondary).Not alone did we receive a good education but we were made stand on our own two feet (decorum, fair-mindedness and the ability to live within our means). Former classmates have/ are putting their kids trough boarding school atm, please God someday I too will have the same privilege. This has got to one of best vlogs / episodes ever, a truly warm and engaging home full of love and respect for each other. To Harry & Violet's parents, We salute you for a job well done, Keep up the good work 'Tracey Pigott' 🏇 😁
I enjoy an educational conversation or friendly debate regarding public vs private schools and people's stances on it. I have only attended public school, so I have no experience with private schools. I also wonder if location (country) matters in the overall experience. I think even having differing stances on the subject has a level of privilege underlining it since public school, for many, is the only option for parents. If I had a child entering school, I would likely choose homeschool. If there were advanced learning opportunities, I would also look into options for that, also. I think the public school system is flawed, and I did not enjoy my time there; however, I acknowledge how access to free education is a necessity, and I am grateful it exists. I also understand the potential problems with private schools, like having limited to no access to different socioeconomic classes. Ultimately, I support whatever option is best for the individual person, and whatever helps them grow into a decent and capable adult.
Yes, it does seem the kettle is calling them black. I agree that the diversity in attitude seems to be more reflected with Stacey , as if she is waiting to make comparisons . I sense the family holds healthy values and from what has been shown the parents have done a lovely job raising their children to be decent human beings , no matter what their status or privalege. This was a very good documentary and I, sure if she interviewed other rich families their would be differences all over the map .
It is amusing, isn't it? Supposedly living in an expensive city like London, earning a good living through entertainment and wearing trendy clothes is a-okay but not being rich and living in the country if you're from old money. Weird.
Great Family. They showed tradition , class, respect. They tried to show thatbeing born into money doesn’t guarantee keeping and passing that money to the next generation if you are not level headed and hard working. That’s why they instil good values into the kids. Best kids by far. Their parents should be proud.
A calm, welcoming, animal loving (exception re fox hunting of course) family who dealt with Stacey's differing perspectives with warmth and humor. If ever I had the chance, I'd be happy to become the interloper for a weekend!
I am an American, and I find these shows fascinating. I am so impressed by how warm and friendly this family is! One thing I found interesting was the price of the boarding school. 30,000 pounds for one of the most elite boarding schools in the UK? Sounds quite reasonable by US standards! My grandkids go to a private day school (not boarding), and their tuition costs more than that!
Why did the host feel the need to be so rude to this lovely family? Honestly,I would much rather spend my time with them than this snobby,and downright prejudiced TV host..
Min 28 "[In] their desire to succeed, they understand that that comes from a hard work. Whatever gets in your way in life you myst, you just got to keep going. keep believing, you know; it's always going to get better and if it doesn't get better then it's not the end." "To Love and to labor is the sum of life."
They were very open minded and a lovely family. She came with pre conceived ideas and was somewhat judgmental. They were all very hardworking. Even at the very end the mother lifted Stacey’s bag into the trunk for her. There is nothing wrong with having different ideas and values. The problem starts when you put people in a category and judge them based on that no matter what you actually see and hear from them. She continuously called them posh and yet they never put on airs or acted like they were better than her. The children were very well behaved and that comes from excellent parenting.
People have - prior to Industrial Revolution and, more recently supermarkets - hunted and fished in various manners also in the poorest of British communities.
Idk where you're from but the poorest in the u.s. deerhunt...the deer and other game they shoot is their family's food for the year- At least where I grew up. The richer you are the more you don't have to depend on hunting cause tou can afford nice meals out and grocery store meat.
This family is amazing and hard workers, can you not see they do work they are not sitting around doing nothing they hunt for there food, they don’t go to grocery stores. Good on them. They work very hard.
Oh, please, of course they do grocery stores. You saw a mere snippet of their life, and one that they devised to try to put themselves in a positive light. His ancestor’s factory employed children who worked for wages that were a step above slavery. They work now to maintain the lifestyle their ancestors built on the backs of the less fortunate who ACTUALLY knew what it was like to work hard.
In my opinion, Stacy needs to act more like a guest, she sits herself down at the dinner table before anybody else, and she eat faster before anybody else she finishes first. She also starts eating. It looks like before anyone else.
@@maureenbrophy7852 it’s just good manners however you’re brought up to be a good guest. It doesn’t matter who your parents are or who you’re staying with it’s always kind to be a good guest.
@@enjoystraveling Please explain how this makes you a "bad" guest? And don't say it's poor manners or that it doesn't conform to etiquette. How could what she did cause any harm to anyone else? Unless they asked her to wait and she disregarded them, they have no reason to be upset other than some pretentious dining etiquette rules created for no reason hundreds of years ago to satisfy someone else's preference. People sitting down before you or starting their meal first, or eating faster shouldn't negatively impact your life. If they do, that's a sign that you have a pretty privileged life void of actual problems that you have to invent things to be upset about.
@@Scotter4536 you seem to be totally oblivious of a term called "courtesy." It's because these families, especially, learn to know their place, or at least are taught to, which could either be struggle or a joy for them. Either way, you, going in there acting like any of that are irrelevant show that you care only about yourself having no decency to consider what others might think or feel.
Watching videos like this to improve my pretty bad english, I realy delight listening how this people speak! It's like music for my ears I understand almost each word wthout subtitle. Thank you!
It was stacey's pronunciation that threw her! Lu-on instead of Luton. For some reason, it has become a habit (and I see it even on TV anchors, and the like), to leave out hard T's and D's. I watched a famous cable personality continually saying Pu-in for Putin and it drove me mad!
Stacey purposely did inappropriate things in this video just to be annoying and make it seem like she's very different. The family are quite normal and moderate. It's entertainment after all.
I find people who come from lower classes often do this as a way to be defiant when in a posh setting. It's rather irritating if you ask me. If the tables are turned, Posh people would certainly have the manners to adjust their behaviour accordingly.
She deliberately put her elbows on the table, asked rude, inappropriate questions and put her feet on the furniture, among other awful things. She was deliberately déclassé.
I am from different culture ,middle east ,i can say from watching this video ,they were hospitable, nice family really , they open thier home and hearts for her as a guest ,why questioning some one about his heritage and wealth !!! The thing amazed me ..where are the servants ??and did the mother say you are going to help me cocking the main course!!!
Or a stupid old woman that exhibited all the traits that make the privileged an item of scorn. The children seemed to be nice in spite of the attitudes of the older generation. No wonder this country is rooted when you read all sycophantic comments here. They can’t really grasp how difficult life is for some people and subtly, and not so subtly in the case of granny, imply it’s peoples fault that they are poor.
Very interesting. I could swear I know some of these people and then I remembered of a TV show I watched a few months ago - Country House Rescue - it's Arabella's family many years ago!
Stacey went with questions and asked them!! Frankly i cannot understand why so many are accusing her of being judgemental and rude. The family were very welcoming, gracious and full of humour. Asides from some tense moments i think they all enjoyed her presence and would be surprised to see the reactions of ppl who viewed this programme.
This is how we in the US think all of Britain lives. It's what we see in the movies. I am rather shocked by that large a house on 900 acres though, bc my relatives here in the US, own a 15,000 acre cattle ranch, and built a very modest humble middle class standard house. But my ancestors were one of the original pioneers who settled in the West. We received the "Original Homesteaders honor" a few years back. My family started rough and I guess as their land grew, their lifestyle didnt. These people are astoundingly amazing. They remind me of New Englanders of Vermont, New Hampshire, Maine and Massachusetts
As an American, this family is definitely the stereotypical old money English that we typically think of... but they're the most down to earth family I've seen in a long time. Especially their son who recognizes how privileged he is and knows as long as he is his authentic self, he will succeed in life, regardless of his family history. Good on his parents!!
I’m fascinated by your criticism of Stacey & defense of these upper elite parents. If this family were any other family (lesser means, religious, or anything really) the pornographic placemats at dinner would be criticized. I see how Epstein got away for so long. We normalize and glad over this “brand” of sexual entitlement.
(Not to mention their other behavior (subtle reactions) like mocking her accent, putting her in place.)
The wife Arabella is a Brexit nutter who thinks Muslims will take over the UK.
Great morals and balance , 100 quid is a lot of money . Loved that .
yeah they have Heinz ketchup on the table thats so petty
You don’t remember how many bedrooms? Come visit, I live in an Efficiency
The stars of this show were the Arkwright family. Very warm, welcoming and wholesome people. It was a pleasure to be in their world for a little bit.
The children were amazing. That shows the good parenting skills of the parents.
True
Not the parents that have raised them, tho. More down to good teachers at the boarding school
Their son left home at 8 lol how do you come to that conclusion
@@veronicav1779 Because their son left home at 8....
sorry I wasn't replying to you but to the OP saying the children were the result of their 'good parenting' , I agree with you, it was probably down to the good teachers they had and certainly not their parents
I like the fact the kids are not on their phones at the dining table, and they are grateful for their riches! I like them.
@PurposefulDistraction-wp7in Oh, they've got a lot more than that going for them.
The fact you needed to comment this with nearly 300 likes tells me there are a lot of parents out there who don't know how to discipline their kids enough to tell the little shits to get tf off their phones at the dinner table - in fact - don't even think about bringing them to the dinner table AT ALL! Sad.
@words-island1011 Yeah that's true too!
lol in what family would it be NOT normal to NOT have their phones at the dining table....?
@@tikifhe7769 any family with teenagers
And fair play to the old boy, patriarch of the family. He did inherit a large estate, but form what I gather it wasn’t in great order. He managed to build something out of it and employ far more folk than when he started, he is involved in the community. Good on them.
What a lovely family. Very down to earth. Mom does the cooking. Children are lovely, thoughtful, and respectful.
And the 150 servants he was very proud of
@@geegee3318so what? They get paid for their work it's not like back in the 1800s when servants were NOT paid. You got food a uniform and a bed.
Why on earth is Mum doing the cooking something to be proud of?! Talk about 1950s attitude.
@@catholicfaithofmine2664 I only mentioned it because the original comment said "mom does the cooking" and they're down to earth as if they do for themselves just like everyone else. But I don't think so, you just didn't see all the help that goes on behind the scenes.
@@geegee3318 Not servants, employees and a 900 acre estate will no doubt be farmed so that number will include the people running the farms
The interior of this home is exactly how I would imagine an upper class country home to look like. I love the colors on the walls and the very large oil paintings everywhere . It’s not cluttered and not bare. Feels almost family cozy.
Yeah, it's a modernised version of a grand, traditional house - quite tasteless tbh.
The interior feels old and outdated. I expected it though because of these landed families struggle to financially maintain these huge estates.
@@farzana6676 yeah being old and outdated is the purpose, no need to change everything wastefully each 15 years to look like what Dwell magazine says is modern.
@@souslesbombes The interior doesn't look 15 years old but rather looks 50 years old.
@@farzana6676 oh how vile of them lol
I hear the word privileged a lot coming from a woman who’s on a TV show, traveling, and carrying a LV suitcase. She has worked for that and just like she’s worked for what she has these families ancestors have worked hard to establish generational wealth and security. Of course wealthy people have more privilege because of money and connections however I don’t like to dismiss their hardwork just because they were set up right. I highly doubt if she has children she wouldn’t set them up for the absolute best because as parents that what we want for our children to have better than us. These kids seem lovely and down to earth as the parents which is wonderful to see.
You have to remember that while she is asking the questions, and she may be responding from her biased perspective, she is also asking generalised questions that the average or lower-incomed person is likely to be thinking. Privilege is subjective. If you notice, at the end, while they are eating in the pub, she says to the family that they are the poshest people she has ever met, and the mother responds by saying there are many more families even more posh than them. I, for example, don't have a good income. I rent an older townhouse and have almost nothing to my name, but I have a decent car, food in my stomach, I'm getting an education, and I have a comfortable place to sleep every night. That, for many others in the world, is absolutely privileged. I agree, the family seemed lovely. Out of touch at times, yes, but that is to be expected. I enjoyed their humour and even being open enough to let a stranger into their home with a cameraman for the weekend and answer questions that may or may not be somewhat uncomfortable. I appreciate the different perspectives a lot, and the children were definitely lovely.
Well Stacey did a lot to earn just for LV suitcase and never even seen hunting😎
@@amandaelynch1 Well said. The first part of what you said is especially astute because many people in the comment section don't seem to get the point and perspective of the show lol.
a woman wearing a 350 quid perfume...
I believe it keeps a lot of work to keep the generational wealth. Laziness leads to poverty.
Poor Tracey was really looking forward to having arguments about wealth and privilege and suddenly everyone turns out to be rational, down to earth and appreciating of what they have. She was quite disappointed which had me smirking and giggling the whole time, loved it, lovely family.
This family is incredible down to earth. They don't boast of wealth, they hunt for their own dinner, they prioritize values for their children, they don't have servants and other assumed privileges. I think she was unfair with her tone at dinner regarding how good they have it. They displayed humility and gratitude and generosity in hosting and serving her.
I’d suggest doing a little research as to how their ancestors built that wealth and privilege. It’s easy to pretend you’re down to earth and of the people when you’re a few generations removed from employing children for pennies in order to build that wealth. Real decency would be embarrassment for past actions and liquidating unnecessary assets to give to the ancestors of the people whose backs they built their privileged lifestyle on. You’re naive in the extreme if you don’t think that they only showed us exactly what they wanted us to see about how much they do for themselves.
I don't think she was rude, I think she was asking questions, because their lives are so different to 99% of others'.
They are! But I do think there is a difference between 'old money' and those which have become wealthy in more recent times. While they'll still have a few Bob or two, in reality they're 'land rich' rather than cash rich, and that mixed in with their heritage and desire to maintain what they have and work on improvement rather than continual acquisition leads to an almost humbleness in a way. I wouldn't expect families of the average ceo to be this down to earth and unobessed with bling for example
If Harry and Violet are your quintessential example of private school “products”, it’s to be recommended for sure. Lovely kids, both of them :)
Indeed. 'They are to be commended'
They put on a good show. Look up some of Stowe pupils self-made video clips online. YT used to have quite a lot of them. With parodies of orgies and sex slaves in boarding houses. Buggery and grape. Lovely children indeed. What they are is very camera aware and switched on enough to put their best foot forward under such a public gaze. I would think it far more interesting to have a fly on the wall experience and get to see them outside of P.R. mode.
I certainly hope that they are camera aware. My mother used to prepare me when the best manners where required at home and in public. Bad manners just embarrass everyone.
@marigoldbeam5475 Ha. And you think drugs, and sex ain't happening in public schools? 😂
These are the ones who actually let you into their house. A tiny sliver.
Harry
is an utter gentleman 😎
Any parent would be proud
What a cute kid!
Johnny is a great man. He took what he had, got creative, took a risk, and built something that benefits the whole area. I really admire people who create jobs. His wife is also very obviously a very hard worker. "Love and labour" -- those are strong values. The only snob here is Stacey.
I agree!! Stacey definitely came across with a giant chip on her shoulder.
@@JustDiane71100-percent correct ..The whole time she was truly getting on my nerves.. these people were hospitable and wonderfu what are they supposed to do.. I don't understand... In life you are given the cards You must play them well either way good or bad ..You You make the Best Of it... were they supposed to decline their inheritance ..would You ?? I Don't think so ..I cannot stand people who automatically put everyone in the same box I have NeVER once had envy or jealousy of someone else .. I guess that's strong suit Comes with DNA as well , I believe because my whole family is like that.. we do not judge people whether they have , or have not.. It is unreal to me that she walked in there and she was judging them right away.. and their house is big but it's not that big for Christ's sake.. They are a wonderful family that through generations continued to keep the families inherentance on top ..that is a very hard thing to do.. to not lose the wealth ..because to lose it, that is an easy thing to do ..I think they are very strong noble people... May they all be blessed❤
@@JustDiane71I absolutely agree with you! I hated her line of questioning. I’m sure that it’s for the “ratings”, but I thought she was incredibly rude.
Totally agree, I thought Stacey was very rude.
I think Stacey is a socialist.
Its interesting that "Tracy" wears a Rolex and travels with an LV suitcase. Its not a criticism, it just highlights the fact that we all want to succeed and have the best. To me this family is a perfect example of old money. Classy but understated.
Which is something the Nouveau Riche don't grasp, generally--that money doesn't buy class. These people are understated and correctly humble.
Classy? There's a nude of mom in the hallway.
Lol! What's classy about them, besides them being white and having money?
LV and Rolex are about as new flashy money as it gets lol.
@@jeffreysommer3292 Old money don't grasp it either. At least the nouveau riche usually earn their money instead of instead of inheriting the castle made of the peasant bones for bricks and their blood for mortal from their old money rich daddy.
The Arkwright family inc their grandma r the outright stars of the show - funny, warm, hospitable n increasingly endearing as the show goes on. The two children are wonderfully polite and a delight to any parent. I am impressed.
What a lovely positive family Open minded, fun, not arrogant, good people 😊❤
I must say I was a bit disappointed with Stacey in this episode. She came into this with a lot of preconceived notions. Regardless of how kind, gracious and welcoming this family was, she behaved with extreme prejudice to them. They were so friendly and jovial, they didn’t judge her once, but she treated them with clear disapproval from the start.
I 100% agree!!!
I would say they were judgemental - the 'three / free' comment, the eating boiled egg. Yes they were also welcoming etc, but you can't say they weren't judgemental
She has the right to do that.
shes common as muck stacey
The one with Down Syndrome was nice though.
Loved this family. Yes I was a bit disappointed in Stacey in this episode. Thought the family made her so welcome
This is a cool family. It appears they’ve maintained their wealth through a great work ethic. Love their personalities as well.
Yeah they took that huge risk of taking out a loan against the estate to open an amusement park, and they run the pub. They weren't working in those places themselves, but I'm sure it took a lot of planning, guts, and ongoing management.
What an absolutely lovely family! They were so very gracious and down-to-earth. I thoroughly enjoyed this episode.
Seems like a nice family and the young man is a delight
The family has over 800 acres, large house, etc. but I see them working, cleaning boots, cleaning their own horse, making their food. They don’t have a cook serving them, they don’t have a maid cleaning, his boots, etc..
Don't be ridiculous. They didn't show the staff on film, but they certainly have them. One woman is not cleaning a twelve-bedroom mansion on a faulty basis.
At 29:58 he literally says they have 150 people working for them.
@@JolieJamesBut not inside the house😅
@@claravrsnik7858 How do you know that? If you have 150 people working on your estate, they're surely not all gardeners. Just because we didn't see any housekeepers or cooks these 2 days of filming, doesn't mean they don't have them.
@@JolieJames
Employees!!!
being rich and being class are two different things. and this family is so lovely they have both of them. Life dealt them the cards they have and they just ran with it ; they appreciate what they have and they focus on values instead of living extravagantly. Sure they live comfortably, and that's what everyone wants when you're rich, which is absolutely normal behaviour. Stacey isn't wrong to say Britain isn't what it like in 27:18 when you grow up with privileged kids but she needs to remember that in any society in the world, there's upper class, middle class and lower class, her version of growing up does not represent whole Britain entirely.
This family prepare their own food despite being upper class. In my asian country, rich people have staff to cook for then.
Interview masked her discomfort with preconceived notions and mild aggression. Her hosts were gracious.
What a beautiful and down to earth and humble family.
Stacey on the other hand 🙄 She seems like the type of person that tells everyone else to share their wealth, but will gladly keep hers.
Yes, just think how much money she could have donated to children in need instead of buying a LV suitcase. She comes across like a champagne-socialist. Absolutely ridiculous .
Can't stand her.
You really overestimate her income haha she has a one bedroom flat, if she was a millionaire, she'd not be living like that haha
People who have a normal income where they can live comfortably in a non-moldy flat in London are not really the bad guys in capitalism, sorry, your argument is just silly. Buying a LV suitcase (you don't even know if it's a genuine one or a copy bought on holiday in Vietnam) doesn't mean you're swimming in money
@@phoebeel The fact that she would need a statement suitcase with the logo of a luxury brand, genuine or fake, written across the whole thing is silly. You don't know about the status of her income neither, but there is one fact: she has a need for bling, which is totally fine but also totally inappropriate when visiting people who are living at the brink of poverty. Anyway, opinions may differ....
She’s too woke. Hypocrite
Stacey is the snob here, there is such a thing as working class snobbery, where they fail to try and understand where other people come from, and have a chip on their shoulders because of their insecurities. Johnny may have inherited the estate etc, but unless you work and diversify, you will not hold on to what you are given. Also he created decent jobs in his locality.
Well said
100% agreed she's snobby the family is not but actually down to Earth ❤
yes and she also has prejudice towards private schools. If you receive really decent education about what is right and wrong, sense of value, and how to become a nice person, it does not matter if you are in school with other prestige kids or not.
It seems like you haven't grasped the concept here. She is intentionally challenging them, so she can understand their values better as a priviledged family when they show their true colours. They're a lovely family at the end of the day.
@@bingboyify She is VERY nice to that Roc Stanford guy and his privately educated children. She likes loony environmentalist who block traffic,
I noticed that wealthy people keep their possessions such as furniture, household items and clothing for decades. Unlike people with much less money always buy the newest and best, completely wasting money. No wonder they can pass money to the next generation. Lovely family!
To buy the stuff that lasts costs more money. You need the money to start with
That’s because it’s worth something!!
would you keep a rug-like, ripped clothes? i would love to look neat and tidy at least
The difference is well made, quality versus cheap. It’s deeper than just furniture!😂
But the rich can afford to buy more expensive high quality products that they keep for years as for the rest of us who can't afford high quality furniture we buy cheap and replace the furniture when it goes bad
Oh my GOODNESS I LOVE THIS FAMILY SOOOOO MUCH!!!!! Also this should be the way children should be raised regardless of what education they get, they appreciate what they have and have been raised to work hard. They are so polite and charming and truly love and adore their life and family.
Hello cutie ?
The family treated her well and they tolerated her ridiculous questions with calm. To insult them by saying things like the kids shouldn't go to private school while staying under their roof reflects poorly on Stacey. I really love how the family handled this experience, especially the two kids, they've been raised in a good environment, and they are very understanding of where they are. Clearly private school has taught the kids well too. What an amazing family.
The family also collected a fee from the producers. They watch their money.
She has asked provoking questions to the nuns and she was praised for that.... Don't know why she's not allowed to question the rich people
Stacey was being herself, and so were her hosts. Nothing wrong with that. I could easily move in with the world of the gentry ! Good parenting skills
Private schooling is a choice and should be respected.
How odd that you'd expect Stacey to not have opinions--that somehow expressing a different opinion is rude, 'ridiculous' or 'insulting'. Licking boots isn't attractive.
Lovely home, humble and kind family, dogs, horses, home cooked meals, drinks and laughter. What’s not to love about this life? Ralph Lauren has made a fortune marketing this dream!
I’m watching and annoyed with Stacy’s arguments and line of conversation. I’m from a poor background but what does she expect privileged people to do? Walk around and hang their heads in shame? It is what it is we all couldn’t have been born into riches.
If that woman was a guest at my house she wouldn't be asked back.... the borderline snideness I suppose was part of her schtick, but it grated.
The only pople in the UK who can publicly be affronted or jeered at are the upper class. isn't it weird?
I agree with you. I thought she was rude. But that is probably all for show.
@@Chahlie Just remember that the show is edited. They would have had close to four days of footage and had to compress it down to 40 minutes. For that reason you will not get an accurate depiction of the entirety of the conversations that occurred.
@@Chahliebut she isn’t just a guest, but an interviewer, and her job is to ask into their lifestyle.
Lovely family! I can’t believe Stacey by the end still insisted that they were “the most posh people I’ve ever met and ANYTHING but normal”
By definition they are anything but normal. It’s not meant as an insult, it’s a fact. Most people have to work to survive. They only have to work because they want to continue having more than most people do. There’s no way to be truly in touch with reality when you’ve never had to face it the way most people would. Real hardship is only conceptual to them.
@@TiffanyAllen1784 Did you watch this vid and listen to what was said by Mr. Arkwright? The home was inherited in poor condition and it makes them no money-- houses like that aren't free. There's upkeep, there's taxes. He's managing multiple businesses to keep that home and his family's lifestyle afloat- nothing is free, which is what he was trying to say this whole video and what seems to have gone over even Stacy's head.
@@vindoodles7346 Yes, I watched the video. Did you read and understand my comment? Their ridiculously oversized home could become a public facility that actually benefits a number of people that makes sense relative to its size. If they sold it and moved somewhere that was only as much space as they need-or even somewhere more with extra space, but that’s less ostentatious, they’d likely make enough of a profit to never need to work again. Most people don’t have those kinds of options. And they wouldn’t if his ancestor hadn’t taken advantage of the poor and literally employed children. They are, in fact, anything but normal. Stop making excuses for the class of people who are perpetuating the level of inequity that has plagued humanity for most of its existence.
She's still the weirdest person she's ever met, I'm afraid.
This visiting woman is so condescending. I will continue to watch as i love this down to earth and humble family.
100% agree with you
She's awful. And no I'm not rich, far from it. She's obnoxious and rude. When she was sitting on the couch talking to that man, she had her feet up on the furniture. Her behavior on this episode sucked.
Yes, The familiy shows true class and 'real' gentility in her presence.
I totally agree. It almost made me lose interest in watching it. I am glad I did and got to know this family. They seem to be doing an excellent job with their lives.
She’s bitter for sure
This family is gracious, open and friendly, good on them!! Send your kids to the best schools align them with the best association and guide/teach them. The end result usually pays off in many ways.
I'm a young Zulu woman in rural South Africa and I'm deeply inspired by this family. Everything about their lifestyle spoke to me. From the kids being in boarding school, to the hunting culture, how the wife cooks and hosts in her home and the husbands business having millions in debt and being successful. I found them very relatable and would love to see more of them
African-Americans don't know they have those cool traditions, because our school system doesn't focus on African history. You should start a channel!
Your Louis Vuitton suitcase is quite bougie!!
Surprisingly, I love this family. They were super funny, very welcoming and more down to earth than I expected them to be. I think most people here in the US with that kind of money would not be so welcoming, funny and down to earth.
They’re old money. Different than new money.
@@fattoria_di_bastoni Yes. New moneyed people are more snobbish and judgemental. They don't have the Class ,or the self confidence , imbibed in them to welcome people into their home so well
I noticed that, too! Ooh, Stacey, you have been a bit of Tracy after all.
English upper middle-class temperament?
@@jacqueline8559It greatly depends on the upbringing and what their values are. There are plenty of down to earth and honestly not even showy rich folks. So well hidden and humble you would never know they were rich.
They seemed very down to earth the whole family which is nice to see and sense of humor
Harry should be a Ralph Lauren model. He epitomizes the 2023 collection.
He is true gentleman and very good looking.
Omg- I thought exactly the same 😂 you took the words out of my mouth 😂 He epitomizes the posh blue-blood look.
i loved seeing the dog sit in the trunk as stacey was leaving. so cute!
The ancestors of the upper class family earned their money. Smart enough to start and run a successful business. Some are born with the drive and intelligence, and others who aren't as successful may not be so driven.
Starting and running a business is not easy.
Love seeing the pan of the camera to the sons pheasant dinner doused with Heinz ketchup. Relatable in any household no matter the economic status.
Lol, yes I noticed that too!
I would gag if I had to eat pheasant
I was thinking the same thing😂
Except poor people never eat pheasant
It's interesting how she sees them as "very different people," but they see her as a regular person like themselves and treat her with respect and humility, while she is condescending towards them.
Extremely rude and low class.
I concur. She was very condescending to them.
I knew as soon as I clicked on the video that this would be the case. Stacey has come across like this with her previous vids as well.. she hasn't healed
That's it! She's having a hard time with it. II hope she heals.
Probably pays to mention that these fears are borne from the unknown, and I am sure the rich family have engaged with many more working class folk in their lifetimes than Stacey has met aristocrats. Don't blame her for being uncomfortable in a new environment, surrounded by the aristocratic class who are posited as "the enemy" by Probably the majority of the population. Please extend her the same compassion and understanding that you extended to the rich people :)
What a lovely kind hearted family.
With great privilege comes great responsibility. The manners of the family are immaculate. They are great fun and wonderful hosts. I'd love a weekend there. ❤
True old honoured British values. Sad to see how they are being destroyed in the big towns.
Oh dear! Stacey, you MUST take some basic etiquette lessons! I cringed, repeatedly. What a graceful, poised, gracious, hilarious (love the musical and comedic bond sooo passionately!) absolutely endearing , genuine family! Truly enjoyed them! But, tut tut on Stacey’s end.
What exactly are you tut'ing about? If you are going to comment on someones etiquette, probably best for you to help them improve on their mishaps.
I agree with you. Stacy was completely biased against them. She couldn't see through her own prejudices. I was very disappointed to witness this.
I also agree on this. I LOVE Stacey, but she seemed to be quite biased from the very start, and a lot of her jokes made me cringe. Normally her videos help show how people with very different lives still share a lot in common with others, but I think she didn't do the best job here. That being said- I probably would have acted the same way as Stacy, that level of wealth is baffling.
She's ignorant, dumb
What was she wrong about her etiquette? I would love to know
how lovely were this family? They were so accomodating and open! The children were so well raised and Arabella was so nice! I even liked her mum! The pinnacle for me was the rude placemats! Loved it. It was nice to have a window into their lives.A really nice watch!
I’d love to come stay a vacation with this this family. They seem lovely and fun, down to earth and just normal.
Now the question is if they will be happy to welcome you😂
I could not eat with them
Stacey you need to visit Mapperton and have a good chat with the earl of snadwich. They can tell you just how hard it is to maintain an estate. They work there buts off to not only maintain the house, but to also provide for all the people they are responsible for.
Yeah I think it’d be a massive headache to be responsible for maintaining a big old house like that.
So don’t maintain the estate? Turn it into something useful and live within more reasonable means.
Very easy to say@@TiffanyAllen1784
To the Arkwright family,
You represent seemingly the best of old English values. A lot of gratitude for this.
Yeah I find them to be very normal and very down to earth. They seem to put family above money and they aren’t stuck up at all. I adore them
Minute 9:02 , note the beautiful freshly cut flowers at the bedside in the guestroom! Such a nice detail to make Your guest feel welcome 😊💐
I thought English thought Americans were blunt and straight forward but she’s taking the cake on these questions. He’s handling himself with grace with all these rude questions. Definitely a better way to phrase it
In the USA only in the North and Great Lakes are they are blunt. Not in the South or on the West Coast.
What a lovely lovely family- they may have different hobbies/ lifestyle but these are normal people doing their best it’s admirable 💞💞💞
It's hilarious that Arabella's nude portrait is facing the family patriach's portrait! 5:42 Johnnie did very well for himself marrying her!
I did not expect nude portraits of family members, and the grandmother urging someone to play The Stripper on guitar! My American white trash self was scandalized by those placemats haha.
Its funny how our upbringing and deep rooted beliefs and stereotypes affect how we judge others. I felt Stacey still couldnt let go of her deep rooted judgements and alluding to privilege as a negative. This family was incredibly nice and down to earth, the children were not spoiled and all work hard and recognize their privilege and even though Stacey enjoyed her time with them, she still felt they were the 'others'. What I found interesting is how negatively Stacey viewed boarding school and private school - knowing a bit about the public education system - it is far from a good standard. Stacey clearly has managed to achieve success despite her dropping out of school, however that will not be the case for the majority of kids who go down that path. Why wouldnt you want to give your kids the best chance in life by receiving a good education, have a better chance at getting into university, and making friends and connections that are likely to help them in future? Why would you choose (given the theoretical choice) to give them a worse start in life? That I do not understand.
Exactly
Answering your question about the objection to private schools, there are several good reasons. One is that while those kids get a great education and connections that will serve them well for life, they are surrounded by a very limited portion of society that represents the most privileged. They miss out on diversity of thought to a large degree and having empathy for other people. I'm not saying that these people have no empathy or don't want to be empathic, but I'm sure if you had deeper conversations with them, there are plenty of topics that they can't understand or relate to given their lack of experience.
More importantly, private schools are a way for the wealthy to escape the public school system and give their kids an exclusive education. Imagine if you could outlaw private schools and force rich kids to go to public schools. Do you know how much better public schools would be if the kids of the most privileged and powerful people in that country went to them? How many more resources those schools would have, because the wealthy and politically connected would use all of the resources to make sure that the school had the best of the best teachers, facilities, opportunities, and so on?
Well, we don't have to imagine a country with an education system like this, because Finland only has publicly funded schools that are required to teach the same curriculum and can't charge any private funding. Oh, and Finland is the #1 public education system in the world.
@@Scotter4536 This is not entirely correct. I went to private school in Finland, two actually and spent all my years in school in them. My parents paid tuition. What is prohibited however is education for profit.
I loved the video! Thanks!! The Arkwright family is so warm and welcoming. Thanks again!
What a lovely family! Their discipline and hard work comes across very clearly. I loved seeing their get together and sense of humour! May they continue to be blessed. ❤😊
Like teaching them to shoot the birds?!
I like them. They’re decent people.
This family is so sweet!!
I love this family.I love there values.The kids and parents are lovely normal family.❤
Oh my goodness, when dad came out in the slippers I fell in LOVE with this family! ❤❤❤
TO STACEY, IF YOU CAN'T ACCEPT THE FACT THAT THERE ARE ALWAYS GOING TO BE A DIFFERENCE WITHIN SOCIETIES, LIVE IN A CAVE. YOU ARE NOT ENTITILED TO JUDGE & CRIMINALIZE OTHERS JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE RICHER THAN YOU. THIS FAMILY MADE A MISTAKE BY INVITING YOU AN UNGRATEFUL WOMAN INTO THEIR HOME. THE WORLD NEEDS INDUSTRIOUS & SUCCESSFUL FAMILIES LIKE THE ONE FEATURED HERE WHO PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES & EMPMOYMENT TO OTHERS. FROM, NORTH & WEST INDIA
and "regular class" Stacey Dooley is traveling with a 3000 pound Louis Vuitton suitcase and using 250 pound Frederic Malle's "Portrait of a Lady", I have to mention ;)
Indeed, Portrait of a Lady, did it for me, the cheek of her to question if 100 is too much to lose on a bet.
And this suitcase a d perfume is comparable to the life of those people 🙄 good for her that she can afford what she wants, she achieved it herself and can be proud of it.
@@smiley9872 she doesn’t realize it in the upper class and among the multimillionaires you only do a gentleman bet which is about one dollar in the United States or 1 pound in the UK and it’s only for having fun it’s not about how much money you can bet on some thing. It has nothing to do with the amount of money. and yes, they take their 100 pounds very seriously when you are wealthy that’s how you become wealthy as you take money seriously.
"The poshest people I have ever met"
Yeah the lady says "there's a lot more posh people than us" and she's thinking
"You are from London. Working for the BBC. Get real"
There is nowhere posher than London. Especially not out in the countryside. Kensington, Knightsbridge. Wetherby School, Royal Albert Hall, Buckingham Palace. The British media is full of aristocrats.
She is trying to get an interesting spin on the family which is fair enough. But it is real pot kettle situation for a Londoner working for a glamour video magazine to call other people 'posh'.
@@annaal7480 Well sure, but it is a tiny bit hypocritical to pose as lady of the people instead of acknowledging they are all priviliged at that table.
Love this charming family, mom has such a fun personality, grandma is hilarious! Great episode!
To Grandma! Cheers!
An estate such as this takes very hard work and a lot of money to sustain itself. This family obviously works and plays hard, and they seem quite likeable.
Yes. Most landed gentry are struggling to keep the lights on in the modern era. The houses are just too large for them to maintain. Asset rich, income light.
Has no one mentioned the fact that she wrote a bucket list and one of the wishes was to be painted in the nude?! I feel inspired.
I noticed that the mother was responsible for most of the entertaining, the planning, cooking etc.
I doubt it
That looked like a delicious Sunday roast at the end.
For a few days of filming. They’ve outsourced most of their child rearing to the point that dad forgot his son had recently broken bones. Do you seriously think nobody ever cooks or cleans for them. Any sort of work they do is because they want to, not because they actually have to. They’re working because they want to continue to have more than they need, not because they have to do it to survive.
Coming from a relatively poor background we
(all seven of us)were sent to boarding school at age ten (secondary).Not alone did we receive a good education but we were made stand on our own two feet (decorum, fair-mindedness and the ability to live within our means). Former classmates have/ are putting their kids trough boarding school atm, please God someday I too will have the same privilege. This has got to one of best vlogs / episodes ever, a truly warm and engaging home full of love and respect for each other.
To Harry & Violet's parents,
We salute you
for a job well done,
Keep up the good work 'Tracey Pigott' 🏇 😁
I enjoy an educational conversation or friendly debate regarding public vs private schools and people's stances on it. I have only attended public school, so I have no experience with private schools. I also wonder if location (country) matters in the overall experience. I think even having differing stances on the subject has a level of privilege underlining it since public school, for many, is the only option for parents. If I had a child entering school, I would likely choose homeschool. If there were advanced learning opportunities, I would also look into options for that, also. I think the public school system is flawed, and I did not enjoy my time there; however, I acknowledge how access to free education is a necessity, and I am grateful it exists. I also understand the potential problems with private schools, like having limited to no access to different socioeconomic classes. Ultimately, I support whatever option is best for the individual person, and whatever helps them grow into a decent and capable adult.
Stacey seems very judgmental. She is also very privileged but for some reason being rich and living in the city is fine.
Yes, it does seem the kettle is calling them black. I agree that the diversity in attitude seems to be more reflected with Stacey , as if she is waiting to make comparisons . I sense the family holds healthy values and from what has been shown the parents have done a lovely job raising their children to be decent human beings , no matter what their status or privalege. This was a very good documentary and I, sure if she interviewed other rich families their would be differences all over the map .
It is amusing, isn't it? Supposedly living in an expensive city like London, earning a good living through entertainment and wearing trendy clothes is a-okay but not being rich and living in the country if you're from old money. Weird.
Money simply cannot buy class
Is it really that expensive to live in Brighton in a one bedroom flat?
it's impossible to watch really
Great Family. They showed tradition , class, respect.
They tried to show thatbeing born into money doesn’t guarantee keeping and passing that money to the next generation if you are not level headed and hard working. That’s why they instil good values into the kids. Best kids by far. Their parents should be proud.
She was less judgmental with the family who have no rules😂 I prefer these lots by far!
This was such fun to watch . Such a delightful family and so welcoming to Stacey. ❤
I thought the family was pretty polite, esp the son, and felt like Stacy was a bit rude which was surprising.
Hello?
A calm, welcoming, animal loving (exception re fox hunting of course) family who dealt with Stacey's differing perspectives with warmth and humor. If ever I had the chance, I'd be happy to become the interloper for a weekend!
I am an American, and I find these shows fascinating. I am so impressed by how warm and friendly this family is! One thing I found interesting was the price of the boarding school. 30,000 pounds for one of the most elite boarding schools in the UK? Sounds quite reasonable by US standards! My grandkids go to a private day school (not boarding), and their tuition costs more than that!
I thought Stacey was rude. The family was lovely to her and she kept picking away at father uncomfortable if not taboo subject matter
Isn’t her bag LV ? Probably cost thousands 43:00
Why did the host feel the need to be so rude to this lovely family? Honestly,I would much rather spend my time with them than this snobby,and downright prejudiced TV host..
She's awful!
Min 28 "[In] their desire to succeed, they understand that that comes from a hard work. Whatever gets in your way in life you myst, you just got to keep going. keep believing, you know; it's always going to get better and if it doesn't get better then it's not the end."
"To Love and to labor is the sum of life."
Her knee up at the table killed me, no matter what status have some manners girl
I was so shocked too. Of all the things I noticed was that!
Definitely 😂
Right?!? My father was a truck driver and even I know you don’t do that lol.
Her table manners were appalling.
Please come to my house and spit food at me while you speak ..............
The Arkwrights are a good familly .. Well done for accepting Stacey and allowing the video.. I wish you all well for the future !!
They were very open minded and a lovely family. She came with pre conceived ideas and was somewhat judgmental. They were all very hardworking. Even at the very end the mother lifted Stacey’s bag into the trunk for her. There is nothing wrong with having different ideas and values. The problem starts when you put people in a category and judge them based on that no matter what you actually see and hear from them. She continuously called them posh and yet they never put on airs or acted like they were better than her. The children were very well behaved and that comes from excellent parenting.
In the U.S., the people who hunt are mainly middle class, it's interesting that it's considered an upper class sport in the U.K..
Aren't they called rednecks in the US?
People have - prior to Industrial Revolution and, more recently supermarkets - hunted and fished in various manners also in the poorest of British communities.
Idk where you're from but the poorest in the u.s. deerhunt...the deer and other game they shoot is their family's food for the year- At least where I grew up. The richer you are the more you don't have to depend on hunting cause tou can afford nice meals out and grocery store meat.
@@aimeeciszek6672 Yes, it's lower and middle class.
Actually alot of them are lower middle class too.
This family is amazing and hard workers, can you not see they do work they are not sitting around doing nothing they hunt for there food, they don’t go to grocery stores. Good on them. They work very hard.
Oh, please, of course they do grocery stores. You saw a mere snippet of their life, and one that they devised to try to put themselves in a positive light. His ancestor’s factory employed children who worked for wages that were a step above slavery. They work now to maintain the lifestyle their ancestors built on the backs of the less fortunate who ACTUALLY knew what it was like to work hard.
In my opinion, Stacy needs to act more like a guest, she sits herself down at the dinner table before anybody else, and she eat faster before anybody else she finishes first. She also starts eating. It looks like before anyone else.
Why should she change her upbringing to conform to the family’s norms
@@maureenbrophy7852 it’s just good manners however you’re brought up to be a good guest. It doesn’t matter who your parents are or who you’re staying with it’s always kind to be a good guest.
Her feet on the chair made me so angry…
@@enjoystraveling Please explain how this makes you a "bad" guest? And don't say it's poor manners or that it doesn't conform to etiquette. How could what she did cause any harm to anyone else? Unless they asked her to wait and she disregarded them, they have no reason to be upset other than some pretentious dining etiquette rules created for no reason hundreds of years ago to satisfy someone else's preference. People sitting down before you or starting their meal first, or eating faster shouldn't negatively impact your life. If they do, that's a sign that you have a pretty privileged life void of actual problems that you have to invent things to be upset about.
@@Scotter4536 you seem to be totally oblivious of a term called "courtesy." It's because these families, especially, learn to know their place, or at least are taught to, which could either be struggle or a joy for them. Either way, you, going in there acting like any of that are irrelevant show that you care only about yourself having no decency to consider what others might think or feel.
I love this family. Very good stock and teaching good values to younger generation. Also very funny and down to earth. Loved this
Watching videos like this to improve my pretty bad english, I realy delight listening how this people speak! It's like music for my ears I understand almost each word wthout subtitle. Thank you!
They seem lovely. Also the granny not knowing where Luton was made me chuckle.
Stacy did not pronounce it right, that is why she did not understand her, she doesnt pronounce the T.
She did, you don't say "near London" without knowing where Luton is. Add to this Stacey's ill proounciation
More to do with Stacey's inability to pronounce the T in Luton 😂 when she repeated it with the T the woman knew exactly where it was.
It was stacey's pronunciation that threw her! Lu-on instead of Luton. For some reason, it has become a habit (and I see it even on TV anchors, and the like), to leave out hard T's and D's. I watched a famous cable personality continually saying Pu-in for Putin and it drove me mad!
Stacey purposely did inappropriate things in this video just to be annoying and make it seem like she's very different. The family are quite normal and moderate. It's entertainment after all.
I find people who come from lower classes often do this as a way to be defiant when in a posh setting. It's rather irritating if you ask me. If the tables are turned, Posh people would certainly have the manners to adjust their behaviour accordingly.
She deliberately put her elbows on the table, asked rude, inappropriate questions and put her feet on the furniture, among other awful things. She was deliberately déclassé.
@@athenaf8278yep
@@loloppololp9304yeah
Im absolutely loving this sleepover series. Especially as an American. Brilliant show
Has Stacey never read a British novel or watched a miniseries? How is she so "unfamiliar" with this lifestyle? 😅
She's just trying to create a narrative that they're so different to the common man.
I am from different culture ,middle east ,i can say from watching this video ,they were hospitable, nice family really , they open thier home and hearts for her as a guest ,why questioning some one about his heritage and wealth !!!
The thing amazed me ..where are the servants ??and did the mother say you are going to help me cocking the main course!!!
To love and to labour is the sum of life - wise drunk grandma
Anaïs Nin quote
Or a stupid old woman that exhibited all the traits that make the privileged an item of scorn. The children seemed to be nice in spite of the attitudes of the older generation.
No wonder this country is rooted when you read all sycophantic comments here. They can’t really grasp how difficult life is for some people and subtly, and not so subtly in the case of granny, imply it’s peoples fault that they are poor.
Stacy Dooley's children will definitely be privileged!
It's ironic that she finds that a problem for posher families!🤔
Yes but Stacey doesn't have an estate or wealth so she feels like shes not getting her fair share. She only has common privilege.
She has fame and influence she is just as privileged. Just blythely ignorant of it.
You don't understand the British class system...
I do not think her children will have a good role model,bcs Stacey misses basic ethics
Very interesting. I could swear I know some of these people and then I remembered of a TV show I watched a few months ago - Country House Rescue - it's Arabella's family many years ago!
As a normal woman from Lake St.Louis, Missouri I like this family. They’re far more wealthy but remind me of people I knew growing up in America.
It's how Americans used to act. That generation's died out, sadly.
Stacey went with questions and asked them!! Frankly i cannot understand why so many are accusing her of being judgemental and rude. The family were very welcoming, gracious and full of humour. Asides from some tense moments i think they all enjoyed her presence and would be surprised to see the reactions of ppl who viewed this programme.
People are truly minding their place in this comment section.
Right?? I enjoyed this video😂
Most are commenting on Stacey’s rude behaviour. Poor table manners and often too familiar and privileged in her attitude.
That was great! Don’t know how I found this but was delighted by it. Lovely people.
This is how we in the US think all of Britain lives. It's what we see in the movies. I am rather shocked by that large a house on 900 acres though, bc my relatives here in the US, own a 15,000 acre cattle ranch, and built a very modest humble middle class standard house. But my ancestors were one of the original pioneers who settled in the West. We received the "Original Homesteaders honor" a few years back. My family started rough and I guess as their land grew, their lifestyle didnt.
These people are astoundingly amazing. They remind me of New Englanders of Vermont, New Hampshire, Maine and Massachusetts
I think the family is very gracious and charming
What a cool family, surprisingly down to earth and easy going. Lots of personality in that family 💕
Loved this family.
No pretentious comments or actions.
What a lovely well bred family.
I wish them the best.