How to Manage Your Time With Eric Tivers (Part One)
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- It's been a busy first year for the show! But I still can't bring myself to stick to a schedule. Since sleep is important, Eric Tivers joins us to talk about how to manage time in a way that's...well, less scary. He had so much great advice we couldn't fit it all in one episode -- subscribe for more, coming soon!
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1:05 "I was twenty minutes late to my dining room." I felt this in my SOUL.
RIGHT!
I remember a teacher saying I'd be late to my own wedding/ funeral.
I think he thought he was being funny.
I've been tutoring from home, online since the pandemic. I am 15-20 minutes late from my desk Every Single Time. 😭
I was late to online French class wile I was in the same room
As soon as you said “when I make a schedule, I have opportunity to fail. And I do. Which makes me aware of my deficit,” I started crying. I’ve never put into words why time management is my biggest stressor and the greatest source of anxiety. But you did for me. And it makes me so relieved to know I’m not alone in feeling that way.
Me, too. And…. I’m tearing up again.
Came here to say the same thing. I’ve never had this feeling out into such accurate words 😢
When something, like this makes me tear up, I know I've hit on some kind of truth that I've been avoiding... this one had me bawling. I'm glad to see I'm not alone.
I got a job, get this: as a business assistant making schedules. Omgggg
I don't habe adhd but that's me
It goes the other way, too. Some tasks you put off because you think they'll take too long, but in reality, they can be done in much less time.
I had this happen with hanging the shower curtain in my new apartment. I was stuck washing my hair under the bathtub tap or in the bath (neither of which worked great) for several months because I thought hanging the shower curtain would take much longer than it finally did. Part of it was that it involved climbing on a stool because I'm short. I expected that to consume lots of time because I expected it would involve climbing on it and then climbing down and moving it. There was a lot less of that then I thought. And it felt good to be able to shower and properly wash my hair after months of doing a half a**Ed job.
The word schedule makes me panic, just slightly. I can feel it in my chest.
SAME
My Bullet journey helps! thanks for the advice
This comment brings me so much comfort... I’m not the only one...
LOL
That is ADHD??
I might have it.
@@MindyZielfelderArt Ikrrr. Everything feels so forced and overwhelming when it comes to schedules. ESPECIALLY on calendars. 🤮
*UPDATE* -- I, too, find it intensely tedious to track how long things take me. Have I been keeping track for all my activities? uh, no. When I do, do I always *write down* my prediction? NOT HARDLY! But I will say this: even *beginning* to keep track of how long stuff takes me has already made a HUGE difference for me.
One shortcut I found is recording short activities in "voice memos" -- if I'm about to take my dog for a walk, I can easily start recording, say how long I think it'll take me, and stop when I get back -- and then I can name that file "walking the dog." And now I know taking my dog for a short walk before I have to leave for work takes 8 minutes, so I can't do it on my way out the door and still expect to get there on time.
Even if you don't plan on using a schedule, and even if you don't use this technique consistently, even if you end up adapting it to something completely different I really really suggest trying it!
SAME FAM
bobbie goldsmith Usually you can talk to the people in your school to see if they can test you. I'm not for going behind a parent's back but, this is important.
If you read up on the pomodoro technique a little, you'll see that it is in fact a productivity tracking system for keeping track of the time it takes to do various tasks. At the end of the day, you have a record of how many pomodoros it took you to do the tasks, the number of times you had to cancel one, and the specific distractions that are slowing you down. It's a working log of your ADD. I'm somewhat bad at following up on this at the end of the day as the pomodoro technique tires me out (in that good, I've-been-working-hard-all-day-and-need-a-beer way) , so I'm hoping right now that the bullet journal you've pointed me to will help me structure that process a little better and give me an indexed catalogue of how long certain tasks take me.
I'm not suggesting that running up a forward moving clock is a bad idea to time your activities (well, actually I am :-) ); I'm suggesting that you are having difficulty with that you may just want to log and count pomodoros instead. When you underestimate the time it takes to do a task, you just add extra pomodoros, log them at the end of the day (I'm working on a bullet journal to do this), and you know for next time how much time you really need. On top of that, you get 5 minutes of "pizza" every 25 minutes while you're finding all this out.
I love your videos by the way. They are the most motivating resource on the internet right now and obviously backed by legitimate research, professional editing, and professional presentation. I find the quick edits, fast pace, and coherent , flowing narrative (with quick humeoous asides) keep me riveted and convey a ton of information in 5 minutes before my attention can wane. They almost mimic learning through hyperfocus: fast moving, slightly disjointed in visual and aural presentation, yet coherent in content. Those pauses in real life discussion are just holes that distraction can seep into, and you eliminate them here: hats off to your editors. You are making TH-cam what it should be. Mostly though they make me feel that I am not alone in this and motivate me to work on it. That remind me, I have to get back to my bullet journal.
How to ADHD what do I do if I don't know how long something will take me cuz it'll be different each time such as homework so I have a mountain of homework to a little homework it'll take me 10 minutes?
Maybe you can break down "homework" into smaller pieces. Solve 1 page of math problems, writing 1 page of essay, or whatever kind of stuff you have to do (I'm sure you know that better than I do).
"opportunities to fail" Hit the nail on the head with that one. I'm a list guy, but I seem to never finish the list and have to make a new one, with stuff that didnt get done on the old-list going to the new one.
yeahhh. The good news is Eric said nobody finishes everything on their list! Not just ADHDers! whaaaaa
That IS good news.
I often don't make a schedule, because I could be doing "more important things". Then, I forget to use it, and when I remember, I avoid it so I don't have to see how much I failed.
yeahhh we talk about that a bit in the next one.
This reminded me of the hint I heard once that goes... don't tell yourself that "class starts at 9. I must be there by 9." Instead focus on the time that you MUST leave the house (or DEPARTURE TIME). For ME, I will pass the toothpaste tube and go "Oh I have to put the cap on that... that'll only take a few seconds." Then I go in the kitchen and think, "I really should fill the washer and set it...that'll only take a few minutes". Etc. Etc. Etc. And soon I am leaving the house at a couple of minutes before 9 KNOWING that I will NEVER get TO class at 9. - - - How much better it is to focus on, "I need to leave the house at 8:30" which WILL get me there by 9.
you just described the story of my life, without the departure time setting
Thank you ! That helped me :))
This is literally the only thing that works for me lol
It took me so long to realize that. When I did I applied it to work only. The rest of my life I was still late. I am getting better by incorporating that into the rest of my life but it took so much longer I think because i perceived that there was no consequences to being late outside of work. I've started recognizing with some help that my adhd comes with a "consideration of others" issue. its getting better.
Yes, this works for me. I have 2 times for my schedule. Early late, and late early late. So when I need to be at work at 7:30, early late is 7:15. Late early late is 7:25. I focus on these 2 schedules and I am rarely late. I had a friend who was chronically late, I would always give her a time that allowed for her to arrive 15 minutes early and she would come in on time.
My problem with "tools" is I can never use one longer than a few days, then I forget to use it. Rinse and repeat.
Zachary Morrow story of my life 😣
I have that issue too. It helps to tie them to "cues" -- i.e. when you wake up, you brush your teeth. When you go to bed, you lock the door. After you shower, you get dressed. Aaaaand -- when you open your computer, you check your calendar. (for example). Of course we're still gonna get bored of our tools and that's fine, then off to a new shiny one!
Zachary Morrow if you're able to come to my webinar tomorrow (link is in the description) I'll talk about why that's actually not such a big deal.
I see an Occupational Therapist who gives me a new shiney tool every two weeks. She also looks over my personal planner and talks me through the reasons why I haven't been using it. This helps me get back on track. Maybe there's someone in your life you could do this with to help encourage you to stay on track? :)
ADHD reWired Podcast with Eric Tivers I subscribed to your podcast and I love it! Maybe one day I can take part in the coaching.
Anyone doing the homework? It's never too late to do it. What tasks are you timing? We'd love to see your tasks with predictions and actual times.
Good luck.
And in the words of Brené Brown, "failure is such an imprecise word, as soon as we learn from it, it ceases to be a failure." Go learn something, and share your findings.
Hi. I'm first grade in my high school in Korea.(This account is my parent's one) As you would know, Korean school requires students a high level of concentration for long time. I have an adhd and I eat mph 36mg everyday sometimes don't but I eat it almost every day. Every morning in the weenkends like today, I literally never start my day before 2pm even if I get up 8am. I become lazy at my bed and get nervous and think of many things and I go out when I really need to for example when I have my academy. My school record is 17~49th out of 270~290 students. I usually get middle-upper or upper grades in my school. But it's just because I studied quite hard last year when I was in my middle school. But I have a serious problem. I can't start doing my tasks on all weekends!! And I can't divide my task to day and I can't make a plan to study certain subject. Sometimes I get great grades like upper 4% or upper 11% on some subjects but that is not stable and I am not able to maintain it since I have hard time dividing my time and estimate the time I'll need to do it. Also, there is academy in Korea. We go to academy and study subjects that we study in school such as Korean, English, Math, Science, and so on. I still have a hard time studying my subjects that I learn in academy but my teachers in academy manages my study so it's relatively easy to study subjects that I learn in academy. But, I don't study minor subjects such as history or social study etc.I can't do those things with a plan and can't do it successfully. I would really appreciate you if you could give me an advice. Thank you.
Thank you so much both of you for this video. I am part of the *future viewer group*
Here are three tasks approx. and actual timing:
1-Writting an email - replying and answering three questions -
Approx 15 min
Real time 40 min
2- Final reading/reviewing of a 10 page paper draft
Approx time 8h (1day)
Real time 8h + 8h (through 5days)
3-Getting ready in the morning -Just dressing up and grabing my backpack -
Approx 30 min
Real time 30 min when Im catching a train... + 30min prep (packing and sorting clothing)+ 30min shower the night before.
I takes me eternity when I dont have a fix appoiment.
I thought a projekt would take me 30 min, it took me ~1 hour and 30 min😅
Hi Eric! I just found this video and I have a question for you that no one else has ever answered for me. What if you have a task that takes different amounts of time, how would you factor that in? For example, I don't have a dishwasher and do my dishes by hand but it doesn't always take the same amount of time depending on how much there is to do. Thanks for any help!
Beginning today!
11 January 2022
I'm watching this 7 years in the future... A lot happened in those years.
“My aversion to schedules is it’s so many opportunities to fail” WOW - I started sobbing at that part. You’ve just put in to words what I’ve been feeling for sooo long
In replying to Eric you literally spoke my thoughts & reservations. I used to have pads full of lists but I gave up because there were hundreds of reminders of what a failure I was! Same way I stopped blitzing my home when my kids were away for the weekend, I put hours of hard work in & they'd come home & trash it in an hour or two. So I just left it trashed because they made less mess. I cleaned my toilet & bath regularly but the rest was chaos until it got to a point when we had no hot water or heating for several months because I couldn't clear all the areas needed to get a new central heating system. Then social services came & my kids had to live with their dad, they ignored my calls for 13 days but then came round & said they could immediately come back. I now pay someone once a week to help me tidy but I know I know how to do it even better than her but can't seem to make myself start! Recently started CBT & I'm trying to retrain my brain from all the bad habits. I really like your videos. You get me like not many people do. Thank you xx
"20mim late to my own dining room "
sounds like me .. wait I am on the ADHD channel ... nvm everyone is the same here XD
My sense of timing is so poor and so is my sister in law's, we both have ADD. We are neighbours and when her mum invites us over, she always takes off half an hour off the actual time. So, 1pm becomes 12:30pm because she knows we'll then be there at 1pm.
I love how her mum just looks at the fun side of it and the look on her face when we actually arrive early.
That's cute lol
Sis... you are singing my life with your words!😩
The fear of failure when having a schedule is a great reason to not have a schedule. I so get that. X
Oh, girl! I just paused it to comment and give you a *hug*. 20 minutes-late to your dining room! Oh my goodness! I am not going to die alone and broken - why? Because you are out there describing me to me! *phew* I cancelled my entire morning, 20 minutes late for each due to my being sick and not thinking clearly on the 'right thing to do'. I. Need. This. Channel. Thank you!
The thing with me is that even if I make the best schedule ever I'll still forget to follow it, that's the hard part.
same
Logan Firmin same here 😖
Perfect planning, terrible/no execution! 😭🆘🆘🆘🆘
Same with me generally the first ones and then its emotion who drives me.. Motion is emotion.. But iam not worrying amymore we are humans not robots. The main thing. Is to care about the beloved ones and do the essential of your work. We are on a world where the competitivity became unhealthy.. Surround yourzelf wiith persons who has same values. To live in harmony
I love how positive you are. I have a hard time being positive about my state.
Prep AND Clean up time!!! genius!!! love this video... and ai haven't even finished it!
right??? I'd never considered it! Eric is a wealth of knowledge!
Time management is not my strong point... go figure. I am the same way with schedules.... fear of failure seems to be a big part of my thought process. Looking forward to part two. Will be checking out his stuff.
Yeah, me too and honestly? I don't think our fear is unreasonable. At the CHADD conference Eric talked about ADHDers being "time blind" -- we need stuff like timers and clocks and watches just like someone who can't see well needs glasses. No shame, we just need the extra help. And I realized after talking with him, I wouldn't try to drive a car without my contacts on, or I'd get into accidents every time I drove! Why have I kept trying to plan a schedule without a clear sense of how long things take? Of *course* I'll fail!
Everyone should check out Eric's webinars, too!!
How to ADHD no kidding!
How to ADHD, ever since I started watching your videos I've become to appreciate having ADHD. I used to think having it made me less of a functioning part of society, and that made elementary through high school so tough. During my first semester at college I began watching your videos and it made me realize that ADHD has made me who I am today. Thank you again for helping me accept my ADHD.
How to ADHD, I want to thank you for your videos. We are into the phases of getting my ADHD tests, and it wouldn't have happened if your videos hadn't caused me to do more research. I am very thankful because the effects of ADHD have been difficult for me and made it harder to get through life, especially school. I wouldn't have gotten help if not for you, thank you!
aww that's so great to hear!!! Thanks for letting us know :D The right support makes a huge difference!
It really does, your tips are always wonderful as well!
aww thanks!!!
I'm in (almost!) the same boat as you!
I'm at the stage of trying to talk to my parents about starting the process for diagnosis.... not going well. I haven't worked up the courage to actually tell them "I think I have ADHD" because I'm scared they'll dismiss it too quickly and not actually listen to me... but I've mentioned how much I'm struggling...
Any tips?
+Ellen Brown Yeah, I had to do a lot of research to get even there. Good luck!
"so that we don't stay up until 3am every night"
me, watching this video at 2:50 am: lol who does THAT
Oh. My. God. This. The "other peoples schedules throw off mine" and also the anxiety and feeling of being overwhelmed because I just don't know how long things take me. After having several melt downs yesterday (a loooooong to-do list and most things have to be done on specific date), this really resonates and also helps so much.
Thank you for this--- timing has been something I've been focusing on for a while now.
Favorite tools for timing:
Computer:
Time Sink. It feels a little big brother-y at first, but omg it times everything I do, labels it appropriately, and I don't even have to think about it until I go to read the report or get my data back out.
Phone:
Toggl timer--- lets you track time on separate timers and separate projects.
The only time I wasn't late for work was when I showed up early because I forgot I was starting later that day. Luckily, I have some understanding supervisors. They understand I'm always even more late leaving work.
I want to thank you so much for making these videos. I just recently came across your videos as I was looking for some relief. It is so difficult to explain to friends and family about ADHD. I'm often told that I just need to be more mindful or stop being so lazy. I understand that ADHD is not a death sentence and people cope with it everyday. I just needed to hear that I'm not the only one who struggles and that it's okay to ask for help. Thank you!
Dude you will never be less fun or interesting. You are one of the most fun people I've ever met( besides me) .
Oh my goodness, I just learned soooo much from this one interview and realised a few things I never thought about before! Things that make me run late and make me feel overwhelmed, like not considering prep and cleanup time. Cleaning the fishtank is one example, I think with getting all the equipment I need and then clean up after it takes well over an hour whereas I thought it took only 30mins. I'm going to time myself today! Thank you so much to both of you!! xx
Ps congrats on one year!!
yay let us know how it goes!!!
How to ADHD well it took 1 hour and 20 minutes! Armed with this info I can now plan my day better. Now got to write it down somewhere so me don't forget lol!
xx
That introspective look on your face when you guys brought up schedules as a 'failure reminder'. Right in the feels :-(
Doing a great job with this show. Thank you for keeping the episodes short, having a perky and attention-grabbing persona, and being honest (possibly the hardest part, depending on your relationship to candor). Creating a show like this is a real time suck (like, I don't know how most peeps do it) and I'm sure you're "learning" a lot about time management techniques that work for you via this show. Keep at it.
I've been dealing with ADHD issues my whole professional life, and I wish this show came out 10 years ago--the normalization and compassion that you exhibit towards symptoms is one-of-a-kind, and it helps me to feel connected to an internet of people who probably didn't make it to the end of my first sentence. :-P
I cannot thank you enough for this 😭😭 EVERYONE talks about having schedules but this is the first time ever someone is actually teaching us how to do it ❤❤❤
Lots of Love to Eric and Jessica
I highly recommend "Toggl Track" as the "Count-Up" Timer Eric suggested to use.
It's easy and intuitive to use and checks up on you should you forget to enter a time entry. Also you get weekly overviews of how long you worked on different tasks and you can group them.
Side note, I watch these sorts of videos with completely different eyes after going to therapy. I realize why he's asking the questions he is, and it makes it easier to understand what key points I should be retaining.
Oh my gosh! What you said about losing spontaneity with schedules rings SO true! I didn’t have a name for this before, but it is exactly accurate! My partner is a very organization and lists based person and they sometimes get stressed out when they ask me what my plans are for the day and my response is “I’ll see when I get there”. When I’ve talked to them or therapists about being overwhelmed by tasks, they always directed me towards making a list, and couldn’t understand how something that was so freeing for them could be so agonizing and scary for me. I’m so glad I stumbled onto your channel because it is giving concrete names and strategies to things that I always thought were just problems with me. I have never been diagnosed with adhd but SO many of these experiences ring true.
This Channel is a revelation. Thank you so much for helping people like me get their life back on track.
OMG she is my new hero, if I ever become famous shes getting a mention in my speech.
This was a GREAT episode... in typical ADHD fashion, I had to listen to it 3 times to actually hear it all without my mind wandering or internally talking back with you ("yeah, one time I..." "and then people got angry that I..." "and I felt so discouraged that...") and realized I missed so much MORE of the good stuff!!! Thanks for all that good stuff. ;)
Yea, but that's probably also because of the style of her videos… maybe it depends on the subtype of ADHD/ADD you have, but i don't really get how these videos should work for somebody having problems with focussing. Just these quick cuts like, every second… or even more often!?
Also the voice is kinda problematic. I'd suggest primal scream therapy or something to untighten all that at least a little…
Mc Kenna I had to restart it twice because I realized halfway through I was reading comments and not actually paying attention to what was being said.
Found this chanel one minute ago, already in love.
Hi new brain!!! Thank you :D
Oh I have a great sense of how long a task could take *IF* I could stay hyper focused on it instead of bouncing around and doing half a dozen tasks simultaneously. That goes from 10 minutes to 3 hours and sometimes everything gets done and sometimes... not. But if I have the ADHD tornado of energy to do a little bit of cleaning or organizing in each room then I won't get bored with any one of the tasks because I'm bouncing from one to the next to the next to the next, but connected by one common soundtrack that I'm playing throughout the process. I recommend techno, something with a decent beat and maybe enough lyrics to catch my attention but not have to focus on them.
this was on point. i was just going to start making my study for exams schedule.
also, very good info! ^^
1 year you say? what a quiky dink, I was diagnosed about 1 year ago! Thank you for being a companion to my journey!
awwww!
I’m in the process of being diagnosed as an adult and this blew my mind. This is me!! Thanks for this!
I love how honest and intuitive you are about yourself and your ADHD!
Okay so 3:00 made me start crying. I have ADHD and and I know I need schedules but to hear someone else say exactly why I have so much trouble making them and why they stress me out so much. It feels like failing. If I don't put it down anywhere, I can't fail at the thing that's supposed to help me. Rejection sensitive dysphoria is a big thing with all of us and I think it has something to do with that too. Hearing someone else say this helps so much.
Hello from 5 years in the future! Congratulations on your successes and thank you for such an blessing of a channel! ❤️
The perfection that I relate to scheduling is what gets me. I've tried to create schedules when I was in college, and I try now, and I make them.... Then DON'T check them. Then DON'T look again at them like others said. Although a giant desk calender hanging on our kitchen wall has helped with bills and some other things.
this literally made me cry, not in a bad way. im 33(almost) adhd my whole life(unmanaged most of it) just medicated when I was a kid. and I am really struggling and noticing I really need so many things(ppl) to help me get everything in line and help myself.
I have such a hard time with schedules because I don't know how long things take. Makes so much sense.
Me and my dad both have ADHD and he watches you and recommend you to me :) I've been watching you ever since! You help me a lot! Thanks for helping!!
With my Asperges, I love schedules and routines.
I feel my Asperges overpowers my ADHD in that aspect.
Coops4tw very interesting comorbity.
Thanks for introducing us to a new resource.
3:03 - 3:24 this sentence summs up PERFECTLY why I always procrastinate. I'm blown away for the specific wording and how much it just makes sense to me
Wow, I love how she articulates "creating a schedule gives [us] so many opportunities to FAIL...." YES this is the strongest feeling I get from the need to determine how long something might take. I will get it done when I get it done!!
@3:27 "I like to think there is no such thing as failure" I love this sentiment and have 2 mottos that are ingrained in me that relate!!
1) Practice promotes permanence, there is no such thing as perfect so don't aim for that
2) Trial and Progression : if you learn or progress from a situation it is never a failure
If you keep loosing track as they are talking, go to 06:45 for a bulleted list of steps.
you changed my life at this very moment
Yay a TH-camrs that's fun, helpful and educational!!
I have my problems with planning a schedule, for the same reasons as you. I have several strategies: One appointment per day: That way I can make sure it happens on time. "Free floating" time management: In a week I have certain blocks of work time per day. I do what feels right in the moment to do in that block, given that the outcome is work related. Minimize pre/post time: Get your tools near the tasks, move your files from wherever to your project folder. And I have a different problem: Routines build up on their own, and I have my problem getting out of them.
omg im so happy I'm not alone on this. you are literally an ADHD super hero!!!!!!!!
Funny because I've been using a timer to see how much time it took me to take a bath, I thought it was 15 minutes, but I actually take 30 minutes
This is so useful to me - I have memory problems, depression and anxiety and PTSD - and many of these things are so damn difficult for me as well. Scheduling... arrgh! What's that. It's been great to watch these and actually get constructive strategies to use rather than just the 'you should just cheer up', 'you should focus more', etc. etc. I am also the procrastination queen.... I'm beginning to think I may have ADHD myself.
I procrastinate... boy do I procrastinate. I will do something I normally hate to do if it means I can avoid doing something I need to do. Nothing is worse to me then something that's hanging over my head that needs to be done. 😟
Your videos are amazing. If you're ever feeling demotivated because of ADHD or anything else in life, would just like you to know that the content you've put out so far has helped me so much. Thank you
I met Eric Tivers when I use to live on Illinois and I was involves in CHADD (Children & And Adults with ADD).
1. How long things actually take you, time your activities for 2 or 4 weeks. Use a count up timer for your tasks, stopwatch.
2. Account for prep time and cleaning time and TRANSITION time
3. Bullet journal
I do find myself losing track of time whenever I'm with Eric Tivers, he's a gem.
I usually call prep time and clean time a "buffer time", that's getting things out and tidying when at home and it's the time buffer between commute and appointment and extra time when I don't know how long something will take.
Amazing job. This channel just change my life.
+Bolsonaro praieiro ❤️
Riiiiight there's clean up and prep time! I'm 32 and I just seriously had a lightbulb moment. Luckily an assessment is in the stars for 2017! Thanks to you I am no longer ashamed of my unorderly ways, i understand why I'm like this and I am starting to learn how to work with myself instead of against myself. Like I'll try to remember to remember to calculate tasks with prep and clean up time. And use voice memos more because usually by the time I find a pen or remember to write things down I've forgotten what I was going to write. You rock!
Honestly this is my life. I’ve been making and destroying schedules so so long. Thank you for making these videos! I watch at least one of them every day and it’s eye opening and intimidating at the same time.
You can't imagine my delight/shock when you raised your pen at 4:25 and I saw you holding the same pen as I do right now, a pen I'm basically in love with for the last 10 years. Pilot G-2 FTW!!!
here is a time management tool I use: I choose a block of time to devote to a particular subject and then just work in that category for that amount of time. like "clean kitchen for 15 minutes" or "work in craft room for 90 minutes/two 40 min blocks with a 10 min break.
then if I finish early I can reward myself with a break to look at cute cats or read my online comics. to me that feels less constrained.
Yup!! We talk about block scheduling in the next one, I like it too!
I have just tried this 5 10 15 minute plan with 6 tasks.... bedroom laundry clutter ..... you have to stop at the timer. I am going to reduce it to 5 7 10 because I gave up at 15 and started hyper focusing on learning Spanish? One of the six tasks was break. My break turned into hours of Spanish verb conjugation? LOL my hyper focus gift/piece of coal helped me graduate #1 in my nursing program many years ago. So it can be a really good thing. I wish I could get focused on 15 loads of unfolded laundry. Thank you so much for your videos. I think Edward is super cool for you:) Enjoy
I just watched this video about schedule help. I HAVE known these things, but suddenly these things seem so much more doable for me!
Schedules make you rely on the clock and whenever you’re unfocused just look at the clock and you’ll regain focus worrying about the time.
So excited they mentioned timing yourself to learn how long things take !! I just wrote an article about this!! 🙌
Everything you said is me. I can relate soso much. 😓 despising schedules, avoiding failure, no sense of time, feeling overwhelmed.
Watching for the first time in 2021, your future joke paid off! Congratulations!
i bullet journal, so my planner IS my creative project.... and it has been the best way to manage my ADHD symptoms. i think this channel actually helped get me into it :)
SO MANY OF THE VIDEOS YOU POST, MAKE ME WANT TO CRY! I feel like you are the younger version of myself that can articulate EXACTLY how I feel--you might as well be me! I wish I knew I was the way I was because of ADHD when I was younger--I only got diagnosed this year. I suspected it but nothing I ever read was so on-point as everything you post! I bawled on the 'Top 10 Things List" you liked about having ADHD, because I just thought those things were the best parts of my personality, what I liked about myself, what made me unique-- I had NO idea it was all ADHD-related! Thank you for being so transparent! You've made me understand myself better and have streamlined stuff that has taken me the hard way to begin to figure out. At 46, I've figured out some compensation/coping skills along the way... but the struggle is still very real!! Oh yeah, wait!! Wasn't I supposed to be working on my schedule?? Oops! Gotta go!! And yeah... from the future, Happy 2020!!!
Have no idea why a big part of my comment has a strike through--can't fix it--but hope it's still visible to you and you can still read it the you get here "in the future." ;-D
Eric is a great guy! And just now I noticed how telegenic he is - he should do ADHD reWired videos on TH-cam ;-)
he has some! th-cam.com/channels/L56VPTRLlbu6iBayYwhLKQ.htmlvideos
Thanks Mathias :) I've done a few.
he also has live webinars which are great!!
I wonder why I didn't subscribe yet. AND: You've got WAY too little views! GO EVERYONE, VISIT ERIC'S CHANNEL AND JUMPSTART HIS TH-cam CAREER!!!
Not knowing how long something takes is exactly where I get into trouble every time. Also, I have a strong judgement about how long something SHOULD take me and I force myself to do it within that timeframe. I punish myself if I don’t live up to it (f.e. working late or not taking a break without counting the work hours). Needles to say this is why I feel horrible about my planning a lot and why I searched for this video to begin with.
From tomorrow I will start up-timing myself! Also, because I live alone, I don’t notice when I get distracted. I was thinking of filming myself during my mornings so I get a more realistic view of what I actually do.
I can't tell you enough how much I appreciate how hard you work to make these videos.
I found your channel 2 days ago and it's already made a difference in my life.
I never realized how many of my struggles actually have to do with my ADHD and how my brain functions until I found your videos.
I am determined to support your channel any way I can!
I have developed a morning routine out of trial and error (when I didn't realise I had ADHD), I need to wake up at least an hour before I need to leave for work/school, otherwise I'm getting there late. It used to baffle me that I needed that much time, I knew I needed to let my brain 'boot/start-up' but I didn't realise it was an ADHD thing until I started taking my stimulant medication 30 minutes before actually waking up!
Oh my GOD I can see the frustration in your face and I am so glad that someone else understands. Your channel is soooo helpful
You literally described perfectly what my problems are with schedules. Thank you!
I huge mistake I make is to always think something takes the best time I ever accomplished. Just because I was able to start and finish an institutional video in a single day once in college, doesn't mean that's the time it usually takes. It should be scheduled for at least 3 days. I managed to do it in one day because I had a lot of pressure and nothing else to get in my way that day (I also had most of the props ready to go). That's an example. I do it with everything.
its true that if you never try you will never fail but whats important is this; if you never try YOU WILL NEVER WIN!
what worked for me stemmed from that quote: "what gets measured gets managed"
This gave me the idea of using an app such as Atracker (or Timeloid) which gave me a good idea on how much time i spent on various tasks. i then turned around and made them expected times to be spent in the future.
What a blessing that I have found your channel! FINALLY someone who gets it
You are so great and you have helped me so much.
5:23 - This I ALWAYS forget. I’m especially bad when I have to go anywhere. I ALWAYS forget to factor in the driving time or the walking time to get to where I need to be. I TRY to be aware of this by bringing my appointment time forward and including the travelling time into the appointment time in my schedule. So a 1pm checkup will show as a 12:45 checkup as it will take me 15 minutes to walk to the dentist before my actual checkup. Obviously this only works if I REMEMBER to factor in my travel time, it’s a work in process…
you make it so easy to understand. only videos I watch when it comes to helping with my adhd. thanks 😀
Just rewatched this episode.
It reminds me about me driving somewhere and not planing in the time to dress up and the time to find a parking spot and therefore being 5-10 minutes (depending on the parking situation) late everytime I meet up with my friends
I recently got my dream job of being an instrument repair tech, and the 1 question I get in 50 different ways is how long a repair will take, and sometimes it takes 20 mins, sometimes I'm never left alone long enough to even touch a tool until I'm 6 hours into an 8 hour shift. it's the number 1 thing that gets me chewed out by customers for, and trying to explain to people that there's such a back log of repairs of differing complexities and the fact that nothing is ever what it initially looks like before you dig into a job, and I just sincerely don't know when anything is ever going to get finished. I had to learn the hard way that unless you say it's already done, you're taking too long, it's just the nature of the job. they bring their instruments in because they don't know and understand how to fix it and what it really involves; including time. If you call me and ask me something commonly done, like how long it'd take me to restring your guitar for you, I'd say 20 mins, but if I have a line of 6 people asking me to restring their guitars who just so happen to show up before you, it's not just 20 × 6 = x amount of time it'll take to even get to your instrument, but the time I have to spend getting paperwork and liabilities covered per customer before and during trying to get a guitar not just fitted with fancy new strings, but also take the old ones off and cleaning your poorly maintained instrument, there's more nitpicking I could lay out here, but my point is that if you want to know when your instrument will be ready, and not just how long it'd take me to do it at an uninterrupted pace, then the answer is strictly "I don't know." I'm not really allowed to say that, but I really don't, and I'm always really nervous when I see someone walk into the shop with their instruments, because it's something that always gets asked and something I never know the answer to. I'm hoping that once I get a hang of how the actual system for the shop works, it'll help me in bring able to plan out and prioritize more effectively, but learning how to plan for things that need to get done with room to wiggle with is def. something I need to learn how to do. To Google! many thanks to you, Jessica, and Eric as well, for giving me an idea to start figuring out a solution to this issue that'll work for me! I generally find it quicker when I fail with different strats til I figure one out that works, but knowing different solutions that've helped others is always helpful to finding what helps me.
Over promise, and under deliver. Also, are you repairing while dealing with customers? If so, that is killing your productivity. Every time you have to shift between repair and customer, you lose significant time getting back to what you were doing. If there is any feasible way to block time for repair so it's not interrupted by customers, do it. It will save your company both time and money. Repair is a skilled job. Taking customer orders doesn't require the same kind of skill, and could be done someone making less than you are. By having someone only deal with customer requests, which would allow you to focus on the work that only YOU can do, if there is enough work, this would increase profits and productivity, and customer satisfaction.
ADHD reWired Podcast with Eric Tivers completely agree! from what I can tell, there was a change of management and the store is understaffed altogether, from what I can tell. to a certain degree, either the other tech or I needs to be there because we're the ones who can diagnose and estimate what kinds of repairs are most likely to get it working like new, and my main co-worker is not a people person, to put it kindly. Everyone, myself included, believe that if I'm there, customers should come to me with questions, and check ins. My co-worker is much quicker and book-knowledge aware on a lot of repairs, and I'm more experience because of the whole starving artist who either had to learn how to fix it, or just go without it (I was trained in various styles on multiple instruments, so there were plenty of opportunities to get to see how my instruments worked, hahaha), so I have a general knowledge of how to do it all, but I don't know the vocabulary very well, although I've been improving. I think once m. co-worker and I are able to get our own strengths and weaknesses balanced with each other and we get the back log of repairs that've been waiting for techs to work on them, it'll get a lot more efficient and the work load won't seem so overwhelming. I found it rather intriguing that this video would come out while I am really having to pay attention and assess to how quickly and effectively see that repairs are checked in and finished quite a bit more than I'd had to ever do previously in my life. thanks for the response, it brings up some points that have popped up amongst the millions of wiki pages I've come to refer to as an easier way for people to really understand how my thought processing is non-linear but not as disconnected as it might initially seem. If thoughts had blue links to various pages that led to different and similar links in themselves, and you had to click on every blue link and start to read the page it leads to, you can jump pretty far from your initial page, pretty fast, although it isn't uncommon for the links to get you cycling back through previous pages.
What I do is create deadlines instead of a schedule. For instance, if my Musical Theatre class starts at 11 & I wake up at 10, 10:50 is my getting ready deadline. I have to be ready to walk out the door right at 10:50. So, I guess it is a schedule but I find, if I look at it as a deadline, I get it done.
4:55 I did this spontanesouly recently without seeing this and it works wonder! First time in my 25 years I finish something I plan without deadline.
How did I miss this one? It was from 2016! So true, too..."I'm afraid a schedule will ruin my spontaneity, and I won't be fun..." and that alone proves I have anxiety, which I have denied my entire life!
omg thank you so much your a blessing. 100 % disabled battling depression and anxiety and ptsd and bipolar disorder at 25 single mother of 2 year old I definetly have earned my nick name mosthated due to my many many many uncontrolable flaws. I feel ALONE COMPLETELY ALONE N NO ONE UNDERSTANDS WHY I CANT GET UP IN THE DAY AND SATAY UP FOR NIGHTS AT A TIME AND HAVNT DONE DISHES IN MONTHS OR FOR THAT MATTER EVN TAKEN A REAL SHOWER. and I was turning in to such a push over it felt like if I gave in any more to others id be letting the real me go and not following my heart and what I felt is right n getting taken advantage of anow I see what I have been dealing with. I knew I couldn't help it! no matter how hard I tried I couldn't get ABSOLUTELY ANYWHERE ON TIME even planning two hours ahead!!! oh my god thank you so much Jessica! u hav no idea what this means. If only I knew this info before I got hooked on drugs ! but betr late then never. I cant begin to thank u enough! ! ! may god bless u for changing my whole outlook on life ! your a lifesaver no joke
I'm from the future, and was recommended by a comment in a Vox video "Do I have ADHD?". Subscribed!
Thanks for another great video :)
You are so fantastic, and make me feel better about having ADHD :)
You're so happy, positive and help others feel good. Thank you from Western Australia