What Is A Cult and How Similar is A Boarding School To A Cult? | Piers Cross
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- What Is A Cult and How Similar is A Boarding School To A Cult?
Today I wanted to continue the conversation about cults which Wyndham Wallace talked about in my last podcast: • Writer & Music Critic:...
So today I wanted share some of the literature on cults by some of the world's leading experts on them.
What is a cult?
And what are the main characteristics of a cult?
And finally how much like a cult is a boarding school?
6 Characteristics of a Cult: andynaselli.co...
What Is A Cult? www.psychology...
Book on Cults:: a.co/d/7kXgyFe
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The things you talk about re boarding schools resonate massively in terms of both my daughter’s experience of state secondary school. They were hugely traumatised by just a year and a half of it, we now homeschool and trying to piece them back together again (age 12 and 14). The schools intimidate the parents to get on board with their cult like authoritarian behaviour modification, one example of this is enforcing homework every night, the resulting battle encourages relationship breakdown and attachment injuries between parent and child. I’d say abuse is normalised in state secondary schools.
Many state secondary schools are dangerous. There are reasons why 40,000 teachers left last year. Good luck with homeschooling. It is the sensible way forward
@@scinformation7229 Thank you for your comment, it is the reason why we have a national mental health crisis in teens, the school we left admitted that a quarter of their pupils have a significant mental health challenge yet they are overwhelmed and lacking in funds and staff to address this. This is an 'Outstanding' school in Cambridge named St Bede's Interfaith School, looks great on the website but underneath is a dark state of affairs. I believe this is the situation in the majority of state secondary schools. The system is actively harming children, much like boarding schools have done in the past.
My housemaster had a rule that you had to spend at least two weekends at the boarding school when you first got there before being able to have a day with your parents or an exeat. This was clearly to "brake us in" and make us compliant to the school. Another thought is that someones name is really powerful. People to whom there was a lot of affection or who were despised were "re-christened" by the other boys with a nick name. Of course they never asked whether the person in question was OK with this nickname. Calling someone by a name you have made up for them and not the one their parents gave them is controlling in the extreme. It is something that control freaks will always do and it goes right to the gut. Cults of course do this sort of thing a great deal. At boarding school I was just known as "square" or "square bastard" - I cannot say that word or write it even now at the age of fifty three without a little jump in my skin and feeling queasy in the chest.
So you lose touch with your friends back home.
@@lemsip207 Good point. Or you end up just talking about how good the old times were. Even if much of the time they weren't. Boarding school leaves many including myself psychologically homeless. You have a roof and food on the table but nowhere feels like home. School does not feel like home. How can it when it isn't one and has no love or even much of the time basic privacy. And your old home. That doesn't feel like home any more either. In it you are in a hellish count down to when your parents are going to drive you back to boarding school.
I think a lot of book publishing companies are run by ex boarders, so they tell novelists to write boarding school educated characters into them. Enid Blyton never went to boarding school, so how could she write Malory Towers? The main characters in The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe attended boarding schools.
I met someone who went to boarding school who told me there was a thing called “boarding school syndrome”. Curious at this I looked into it and stumbled across your channel. I immediately resonated with so many of the things you talked about. Finally subscribed after watching this because I feel like part of your club. I never had the boarding experience but I did grow up in a cult. I think you’re 100% accurate in calling boarding schools a cult as well. Have you heard of the BITE model?
Behavioral control
Information control
Thought control
Emotional control
Hi @rhennbare3578, thanks for your comment. I am sorry to hear of your experiences. No, I have not heard of BITE. I will look into it. Take care, Piers
I feel similarly about and find parallels in my Catholic (day) schooling experience. My great grandparents, grandparents, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, and naturally, schoolmates all went through the Catholic school systems exclusively. Yes, I was exposed to neighbors and media that didn't, but most of my circle was fully inculcated by a "Cult of Rome" institution that sought power for power's sake. Where could I turn for true escape and by the time you age out of it, it's such a part of you that you take it with you wherever you go. Even when I wasn't at school, I was still interacting with my parents and siblings who were under the severe influence of their schooling too. These schools have their 10,000 hours (made up number to become solidly trained in something) to do as they will with us, and as we suspect later on in life that they knowingly use it to further their own ends instead of truly educating us to be all that we can be. I'm grateful for internet sharing to deconstruct the mind trainings of powerful (and corrupted) institutions.
Look up Charles Chiniquy and his book "Fifty Years in the Church of Rome" as he was a catholic priest for many years then became a protestant and he details what really goes on in the catholic church and how evil it is. There is an audiobook version of it free on yuotube. The roman church is evil and has brainwashed over a billion people. Thank god I didn`t grow up in it.
One very powerful way to control people is through their sexuality and sex drive - which of course for very many has kicked in by the time they are twelve or so. There are purity cults to do with sex - fundamentalist Christian ideas about sex and marriage are an example of this as too are catholic ideas about priesthood and houses for monks and nuns. But ideas of sexual celibacy making you in some sense "pure" I think goes back way before the Christian faith. For instance an ancient Egyptian priest had to abstain from sex for a number of days before performing certain important rituals. In Boarding schools there is a sex cult but it is not a purity cult. It is a cult where you have to advertise how aggressively heterosexual you are and to be seen as gay - let alone coming out as gay makes you despicable. There is also pornography which is something that you are never meant to despise and find distasteful - and be always willing to accept. In my boarding school the older boys would give us pornographic pictures they did not want any more. We used to stay up in the dormitory handing round sex books and reading out letters from pornographic magazines. To be someone you had to be this sexually aggressive golden adolescent and come up with rumours and fantasies that were told as the truth about your sexual conquests. The line between fantasy and reality was always kept carefully and deliberately blurred. Masturbating in the dormitory could be a communal activity and there was no place to privately do this unless you got one of few showers that had a distinct cubicle with it and was not open. This can be all rather common around adolescent boys but I think the hot house atmosphere of the boarding house accentuated it tremendously. It was also accompanied by extremely stereotypical and downright wrong ideas about women. For instance that what they all looked for in a man was him having a really big penis and if you had one it meant you could go to bed with them as much as you wanted. Those who were less interested in sex or suspected or knew they were gay had to keep their mouths shut. Otherwise they would be crushed. In fact not being aggressively heterosexual was seen as evidence that you were gay.
I have seen groups of friends behave like cults. I hate when that happens to me. The way I broke free was not always choose the same as them from the menu in restaurants.
We all know that we were broken in every way possible (physically, psychologically, sexually and spiritually) and "rebuilt" to be "leaders of tomorrow"
No one speaks about the intentional programming we underwent on behalf of military and more specially by the Intelligence Services and how some of us were picked and groomed on behalf of our governments. Boarding schools became the best recruiting and training facilities for Intelligence.
MK Ultra. They got us young and built what they needed, whatever that may be, in some cases to be called upon in the future. We were and are the ultimate MK Ultra and similar type programs soldiers.
No one wants to talk about it. We are their rolodex and it extends to all facets and occupations in society.
Ask yourself why there teachers that abused us in the most horrific ways possible are protected at the highest levels...
all of this!!!
Worked in the kitchen from 6 am in moring and then loading up 6 oven Aga at 10 pm at night. Hard work but I enjoyed that part. But now workaholic. Is the old boy school meeting just carrying it on?