Its interesting to hear how anger has two sources, fear/hurt and expectation…but wanting is the common source. For expectation is not getting what we want but for fear/hurt is getting what we dont want. I find hurt especially interesting because its really is about wanting…in reverse. Interesting! Onward!
Thank you Dr Brewer for giving us a glimpse into your life with the examples you shared. I aspire to have the patience and composure you model with my clients (I am a business coach) and it's nice to know that you aren't perfect! In addition, it's nice to be reminded that the big scary stuff going on will effect us in these small ways -- to expect it and be prepared to recognize it and how to shift to kindness. My goal everyday is to be loving to each person I interact with and it starts with taking care of myself and my family! Thank you so much!
I thought the anecdote of two spouses vying for use of the microwave when both were feeling anxious very interesting. I thought Dr. Jud was going to describe himself interrupting the microwave to make it available to his wife and, thus, having his impatience supplanted by a feeling of kindness. But the act of continuing to heat the tea made a better and more nuanced illustrative point.
This was a great talk… The example with your wife was perfect. And right now I am behind an idiot driving a Cadillac who had many opportunities to turn right on red and just sit there like a potato because they were too scared to pull out into widely spaced out traffic. Driving is one of the ultimate stressors for me, because nobody else is paying attention at all, and seemingly 80% of the population has not developed basic driving skills. But I did not throw gasoline onto my emotions, which is what I would normally do. I’m surprised I haven’t had 25 aneurysms behind the wheel. My therapist turned me onto your channel and I really appreciate what you are doing. I downloaded your app as well, but my middle name is procrastination, and technology is anathema to me 😁. I will however check it out in the near future
Thank you Dr. Jud I'm glad you're out there helping people making us aware and so many different ways. As a woman feminist an activist I wanna point out that anger is also healthy in the sense that it is about boundaries and having a right to be angry if your boundary is violated. Anger is what fuels the civil rights movement anger.... if our founding fathers and mothers were angry with the British king we wouldn't have the United States of America? As a woman I just feel that abusers the first thing they want to do is put anger on us that is justified and make it wrong. Abusers can undermine righteous injustice anger important anger using massage any and lies. I'm happy to hear that vitamin C is being used to help fight the coronavirus in New York City hospitals and I'm so grateful that I have this wonderful coach that's help me lose weight that I gained from being violated at a doctors. I have PTSD chronic insomnia I'm stuck in a trauma loop and having to deal with coronavirus when I was violated at a doctors and the doctor does employers Teflon is Jeffrey Epstein was when it came to the Manhattan DA NYPD so it's rough but I'm glad I am eating potatoes since I am so sleep deprived potatoes are higher in vitamin C than oranges suzannahbtroy.blogspot.com/2020/03/new-york-hospital-street-coronavirus.html?m=1
Thank you for giving this daily service. These are great. One of the things I’m dealing with as a self-employed person is feeling guilty about not working while I am sheltering in place per our county order. As an over 50 asthmatic, I’m at a higher risk for having a severe case of COVID-19 if I contract the virus. I know, intellectually, that I’m making a rational decision to stay home rather than interact with clients (my work is face-to-face and cannot be done remotely). However, my “not enough” mind is having a go at me a few times per day as I read or hear about people who are putting themselves out there to help others. Please consider doing a segment on some version of dealing with guilt or fear of disappointing others. Thanks.
I need help to get over my anger issues I expect a lot from people around me and especially from my close family and my wife Don’t know how to control this but I really want to act different when i get angry
I am not angry, I am pissed. I am tired of everyone telling me what my reality should be. I am tired of government over-reach and worse the evil they have perpetrated during these times. I need to get away somewhere and yet, there is no where to go. I am not suicidal, but if I was, I am already dead. I could be made into a murderer so easily, that it frightens me. I have more cortisol than I can get rid of and it is literally eating me alive. I have lost 40lbs in a couple months and I only weighed 180 to begin with. All my relationships are strained, including the one with GOD. I have enough intelligence to know everything will be fine, if I can keep my $#!+ together.
I feel you. I think it's time we got some crying out. Everyone feels a lot of hate right now and there is no where to turn. We are truly in a world of hurt. I have found the only thing that comforts me is to cry. There is no one to listen, so I cry. I am a 39 year old male, and I haven't cried in a very long time until the last year or so.
One thing you could do is save this URL somewhere (or as a favorite in your browser). It's a link to this playlist: th-cam.com/play/PL6sRqjtLfiTTni7oXKpSj2cQ9290lkpKH.html
I try to be calm and happy but I'm not going to be nice to someone who is I'm not going to say it but I will say it starts with a p and ends with a k to me people who are like that don't deserve my kindness or any kindness I will give them a few days or maybe years but if I se them and they didn't change there ways I would just tell myself that they are not worth it or they are not worth my time you are ether nice to me and I'm nice to you or your not nice to me and I will not be nice to you that is just the way I se it and I'm never going to change it
I hold my face in my two hands. No, I am not crying. I hold my face in my two hands to keep the loneliness warm- two hands protecting, two hands nourishing, two hands preventing my soul from leaving me in anger. Thich Nhat Hanh written after the bombing of Ben Tre, Vietnam when an American military man made the comment, "We had to destroy the town in order to save it (Seems especially relevant today March 25, 2020 -Money over Meaningful care of Lives US lack of ethical leadership regarding) covid19)
As this horrific time wears on and on and on and on and on I find I have to really work hard to suppress my sarcasm towards willfully ignorant, anti-science idiots. Especially those in government and religious leadership positions who are getting us killed by the thousands, like lambs being slaughtered at the altar of Narcissistic Ego. Maybe it's time to create the "Darwin Awards - World Edition?" As I watch this global train wreck unfold in slow motion - it becomes more and more difficult for me to repress some of the less attractive feelings I experience. I wonder what we are supposed to do with these feelings at this time?
Its interesting to hear how anger has two sources, fear/hurt and expectation…but wanting is the common source. For expectation is not getting what we want but for fear/hurt is getting what we dont want. I find hurt especially interesting because its really is about wanting…in reverse. Interesting! Onward!
Thank you Dr Brewer for giving us a glimpse into your life with the examples you shared. I aspire to have the patience and composure you model with my clients (I am a business coach) and it's nice to know that you aren't perfect! In addition, it's nice to be reminded that the big scary stuff going on will effect us in these small ways -- to expect it and be prepared to recognize it and how to shift to kindness. My goal everyday is to be loving to each person I interact with and it starts with taking care of myself and my family! Thank you so much!
Thank you so much Dr Jud🤗 I'm not one to post a comment but you have no idea how much this has helped me and I just thank God for your life🙈💗🤗🤗
Thank you very much! We all focused only fear or sadness... You pointed very another important emotion that so many people feel when they scared..
Dr. I have this feeling that you can heal souls. You are great.
I SO needed this. Thank you a million times over.
I thought the anecdote of two spouses vying for use of the microwave when both were feeling anxious very interesting. I thought Dr. Jud was going to describe himself interrupting the microwave to make it available to his wife and, thus, having his impatience supplanted by a feeling of kindness.
But the act of continuing to heat the tea made a better and more nuanced illustrative point.
This was a great talk… The example with your wife was perfect. And right now I am behind an idiot driving a Cadillac who had many opportunities to turn right on red and just sit there like a potato because they were too scared to pull out into widely spaced out traffic. Driving is one of the ultimate stressors for me, because nobody else is paying attention at all, and seemingly 80% of the population has not developed basic driving skills. But I did not throw gasoline onto my emotions, which is what I would normally do. I’m surprised I haven’t had 25 aneurysms behind the wheel.
My therapist turned me onto your channel and I really appreciate what you are doing. I downloaded your app as well, but my middle name is procrastination, and technology is anathema to me 😁. I will however check it out in the near future
You so nicely mould psychological truths into everyday living and being. Great stuff.
welcome
Thank you Dr. Jud I'm glad you're out there helping people making us aware and so many different ways. As a woman feminist an activist I wanna point out that anger is also healthy in the sense that it is about boundaries and having a right to be angry if your boundary is violated. Anger is what fuels the civil rights movement anger.... if our founding fathers and mothers were angry with the British king we wouldn't have the United States of America? As a woman I just feel that abusers the first thing they want to do is put anger on us that is justified and make it wrong. Abusers can undermine righteous injustice anger important anger using massage any and lies.
I'm happy to hear that vitamin C is being used to help fight the coronavirus in New York City hospitals and I'm so grateful that I have this wonderful coach that's help me lose weight that I gained from being violated at a doctors. I have PTSD chronic insomnia I'm stuck in a trauma loop and having to deal with coronavirus when I was violated at a doctors and the doctor does employers Teflon is Jeffrey Epstein was when it came to the Manhattan DA NYPD so it's rough but I'm glad I am eating potatoes since I am so sleep deprived potatoes are higher in vitamin C than oranges suzannahbtroy.blogspot.com/2020/03/new-york-hospital-street-coronavirus.html?m=1
I'm going to remember that gasoline visualization forever. Thank you for your video
Thank you for giving this daily service. These are great. One of the things I’m dealing with as a self-employed person is feeling guilty about not working while I am sheltering in place per our county order. As an over 50 asthmatic, I’m at a higher risk for having a severe case of COVID-19 if I contract the virus. I know, intellectually, that I’m making a rational decision to stay home rather than interact with clients (my work is face-to-face and cannot be done remotely). However, my “not enough” mind is having a go at me a few times per day as I read or hear about people who are putting themselves out there to help others. Please consider doing a segment on some version of dealing with guilt or fear of disappointing others. Thanks.
the first part of the video until 3:13 just made me madder by making me remember more things that make me mad
Thank you for this u dunno how much you helped 🙂
Brilliant, thank you
Thank you! This is encouraging and helpful.
Wonderful! Thanks for sharing!
I am now listening at least twice over...and sharing...a suggestion is how to cope with stress of multiple roles when working from home chikdre
I need help to get over my anger issues
I expect a lot from people around me and especially from my close family and my wife
Don’t know how to control this but I really want to act different when i get angry
Thank you very much I needed this Today 💖💖💖
Thank you! Have been a great admirer since I worked at UMass. Would it be possible to cover decision making?
I struggle deeply with that.
Could you talk about happiness? What is happiness? How to be happy? How to think less negatively
What do I do if the very setup of reality causes anger?
what made me angry is being abused
Can we do a zoom? I really need your help.
I am not angry, I am pissed. I am tired of everyone telling me what my reality should be. I am tired of government over-reach and worse the evil they have perpetrated during these times. I need to get away somewhere and yet, there is no where to go. I am not suicidal, but if I was, I am already dead. I could be made into a murderer so easily, that it frightens me. I have more cortisol than I can get rid of and it is literally eating me alive. I have lost 40lbs in a couple months and I only weighed 180 to begin with. All my relationships are strained, including the one with GOD. I have enough intelligence to know everything will be fine, if I can keep my $#!+ together.
I feel you. I think it's time we got some crying out. Everyone feels a lot of hate right now and there is no where to turn. We are truly in a world of hurt. I have found the only thing that comforts me is to cry. There is no one to listen, so I cry. I am a 39 year old male, and I haven't cried in a very long time until the last year or so.
How does this advice fit in the context of placing boundaries? Eg I feel lots of anger comes from ppl not respecting boundaries
Thank you man I've been swearing🤬🤬🤬 a lot and raging so thanks mate
I’m in the anger stage
help im slowly giving up on the world
But what about when you’re petty and really just want to watch the world burn?
I’m subscribed to this and am not getting notified. It’s also quite difficult to search for. Anyone have a good searching tip?
One thing you could do is save this URL somewhere (or as a favorite in your browser). It's a link to this playlist: th-cam.com/play/PL6sRqjtLfiTTni7oXKpSj2cQ9290lkpKH.html
I think these days you also have to click the bell to get notifications on subscriptions on TH-cam
I try to be calm and happy but I'm not going to be nice to someone who is I'm not going to say it but I will say it starts with a p and ends with a k to me people who are like that don't deserve my kindness or any kindness I will give them a few days or maybe years but if I se them and they didn't change there ways I would just tell myself that they are not worth it or they are not worth my time you are ether nice to me and I'm nice to you or your not nice to me and I will not be nice to you that is just the way I se it and I'm never going to change it
I hold my face in my two hands.
No, I am not crying.
I hold my face in my two hands
to keep the loneliness warm-
two hands protecting,
two hands nourishing,
two hands preventing
my soul from leaving me
in anger. Thich Nhat Hanh
written after the bombing of Ben Tre, Vietnam when an American military man made the comment, "We had to destroy the town in order to save it
(Seems especially relevant today March 25, 2020 -Money over Meaningful care of Lives US lack of ethical leadership regarding) covid19)
Thich nath Hanh such a marvellous man... Each time I listen to him, my heart and soul open, my eyes are wide, I am 5 years old, I learn, I wonder
As this horrific time wears on and on and on and on and on I find I have to really work hard to suppress my sarcasm towards willfully ignorant, anti-science idiots. Especially those in government and religious leadership positions who are getting us killed by the thousands, like lambs being slaughtered at the altar of Narcissistic Ego. Maybe it's time to create the "Darwin Awards - World Edition?"
As I watch this global train wreck unfold in slow motion - it becomes more and more difficult for me to repress some of the less attractive feelings I experience. I wonder what we are supposed to do with these feelings at this time?
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