12 Ways to go from Unrefined and Crass to an ELEGANT LADY | Stop these Crass Behaviours Now!

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  • @hollydewbean3248
    @hollydewbean3248 ปีที่แล้ว +345

    Your dress code is your personal commercial. It tells the world who you are & how you want to be treated. First impressions are important.

    • @JENNICOSAS
      @JENNICOSAS ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Absolutely 👍

    • @zodwamabaso7477
      @zodwamabaso7477 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wish I can turn back the clock,Sisi Vivian ❤😢

    • @lashaythestrange
      @lashaythestrange ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Fun fact: it takes 20 additional interactions with a person to undo a bad first impression.

  • @mofimTV
    @mofimTV ปีที่แล้ว +90

    1. Tact: behaving with sensitivity,considerate, not talk about something's at dinner or funerals
    2. Emotional Intelligence: empathy understanding others point of view
    3. Speak with courtesy: politeness
    4. Practice kindness
    5. Practice level headedness. Avoid confrontation and arguments
    6 Don't talk about your achievements
    7. Correct etiquette and social rules: table manners, phone manners no yelling no multiple rings, don't spend on people paying, use your earphones, don't click thru their phones, take your leave, respect personal space and boundaries, don't screaming the street, inappropriate
    8. Respect yourself
    9. Practice self confidence not arrogance by contentment
    10. Practice self control and Ctrl your emotions et sont allow to dictate.
    11. Elegance online: discreet
    12. Be authentic

    • @edoboleyn
      @edoboleyn ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you! ❤

  • @realpristine
    @realpristine ปีที่แล้ว +77

    As a flight attendant, I noticed that there are so many people who lack empathy. One passenger is annoyed that their missing a vacation , while the other is going to a funeral, another has a fear of flying. So many emotions/ energy trapped on a small plane, it would be nice if people were more considerate of others 🥹

    • @marciajohnson1825
      @marciajohnson1825 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think that's the main point of practicing empathy, etc, and incorporating the behaviours mentioned in this video. If we are considerate and controlled in our our behaviour as our way of life, it would stop the inconsiderate assumptions that one could arrive at in such a setting as was mentioned.

  • @claudialartey8020
    @claudialartey8020 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    A gentle answer turns away wrath But harsh words Stir up anger.
    Godly wisdom

  • @bethsullivan6543
    @bethsullivan6543 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    You absolutely GLOW! Would you consider doing a makeup tutorial? You skin is flawless, your foundation is perfect, and your eyeshadow is to die for.

    • @SuperMalikaz
      @SuperMalikaz ปีที่แล้ว +10

      So sweet🥰

    • @rebeccaowowa4312
      @rebeccaowowa4312 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I Agree with you 101% my dear, this makeup is sleek like satin. 👌👌👌 As in it's milky

    • @boldnbeauitful
      @boldnbeauitful ปีที่แล้ว +9

      ​@@rebeccaowowa4312it's actually called a dewy look

    • @jamarlblackett7663
      @jamarlblackett7663 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The Skin can be Flawless, Without Makeup

  • @minkyann8132
    @minkyann8132 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    I'm teaching my 12 yo niece how to be elegant using your videos. She remembers it and practices it. 🙂

    • @aprilgrant1957
      @aprilgrant1957 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      There is hope for the future.

    • @sherileenlambert2784
      @sherileenlambert2784 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That's so lovely. Your neice will remember your input!😊

  • @Tracey_M
    @Tracey_M ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Let me say that you are soft spoken and polished.Whenever I listen to you not only do I master elegance, but also add something to my vocabulary.
    Thanks for wholesome content

  • @SHeri837
    @SHeri837 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I love your voice when you say, “Point number one!”
    It makes me sit up straight and listen! 😅❤

  • @ConstantCompanion
    @ConstantCompanion ปีที่แล้ว +84

    I love this. I am so happy that the youngers, like you, are discarding the crap that those before you thought was cool. It's not cool. It's crappy. Manners arent boring. It isn't mundane. Style is not mundane. It is actually the profound and the exceptional. Congratulations for catching this while you are young enough to enjoy its future fruits.

  • @KL-co4mg
    @KL-co4mg 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Vivian, by a landslide you are the most gracious lady I have EVER seen! Thank you so much for sharing your insight and wonderful personality ❣️

  • @rishikasarma9577
    @rishikasarma9577 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    Miss Vivian, Can you make a video on how we can practice elegance while being a college student? Because as a student we are in budget, have to study and to manage clubs societies, live in dorm. It would be really helpful if you could make a video on it😊❤

    • @honeybunny_2023
      @honeybunny_2023 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      My humble request too

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      When I was in college decades ago, we all practiced elegance. It was a private college and most of us were from affluent families. It's really how you carry yourself. I notice young women curse alot in public. F bombs left and right. Not a good look. Also dress more modest. Showing too much skin actually puts women at risk. "Fo real".

    • @starrjohnson1327
      @starrjohnson1327 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      ​@@danilaroche1156I went to a private college too. Our deans always told us to resist foul language, keep our rooms and appearance neat and be kind.

    • @aeiou0123
      @aeiou0123 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@starrjohnson1327same here.

    • @aeiou0123
      @aeiou0123 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      As a student, wear clean, ironed clothes, carry yourself well (meaning, shower daily, smell nice, be polite n kind, arrive to places ontime, smile n exude confidence). Be well-read, n learn about worldly topics, still hangout with friends at bars, clubs, to be socially intelligent but dress classy. With time it bcomes part of you

  • @Christimony222
    @Christimony222 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love channels like this. So important. Thank you.

  • @robinz.6556
    @robinz.6556 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    This video is pure gold! Every lady can benefit from these pearls of wisdom. Thank you!

  • @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071
    @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Your videos are always very helpful. I simply enjoy them! Thank you.

  • @starchildofthe90s7
    @starchildofthe90s7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Such a gorgeous woman thanks for taking time to create this space.

  • @ohsostylish60
    @ohsostylish60 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Thank you for making the world a better place through your messages, Vivienne ❤

  • @ZionCleaners
    @ZionCleaners ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I look forward to every video. ❤

  • @bellathereader1328
    @bellathereader1328 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This is genius, thank you!! Forget the woke agenda and just implement these principles. It's all about respect of ourselves and of others...

    • @halcyondays8945
      @halcyondays8945 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      “Wokeness” aka “treating everyone with respect and dignity” is a cornerstone of elegance. They aren’t opposites as your comment suggests

  • @mermaid2605
    @mermaid2605 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Absolutely STUNNING skin! WOW! Beautiful!

  • @JesusTheMightyGodMinistries
    @JesusTheMightyGodMinistries ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is such a God given anointing on you. You do it so perfectly with such elegance and you carry yourself so graciously. I am happy to see the Lord Jesus behind it all who has given you the wisdom to put together well thought out points for each video. May the Lord continue to bless you always.

  • @natchasolutions8908
    @natchasolutions8908 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    So wonderful. Thank you. I applaud your poise, class, elegance, sophistication , flawlessness in character, beauty and diction. Excellence at its peak. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @mariamnur3992
    @mariamnur3992 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Hello dear , this vedio is the summery of all . Previously i wasn't that much of elegant. I dressed up modestly but didn't understand which style will go with me. I had some etiquette issues. Last 8-9 months now I'm studying on elegence , manarism , classy & timeless fashion, values & so on. And yes, the results are showing now. I'm more confident & beautiful than before . We wants more vedios from you.

  • @gthomas3609
    @gthomas3609 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    As a white American who is tired of race baiting and hoaxes, I absolutely adore the beautiful melenated faces in elegant clothing 💜

  • @gospelician
    @gospelician 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You are the first and the BEST! Thank you for offering these life-changing tools.

  • @chideraogbata3123
    @chideraogbata3123 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    “How you speak to people is just as important as what you want to say “

  • @AnastasiaEs.
    @AnastasiaEs. ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This was a great video. I'm so happy I discovered your channel; your content is amazing!❤

  • @divinelynaptural
    @divinelynaptural ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I really appreciate this video and your channel. If you meant to do this or not, there is so much BIBLICAL WISDOM for women here. I feel like I'm listening to the book of Proverbs when I listen to you.

  • @Haya_0707
    @Haya_0707 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’ve watched your videos again and again and again and I still love them. It’s not easy to transform in flick of a finger but these reminders keep me in check and it somehow reminds me to sit up straight and the rest follows. You truly are such an inspiration to many women. And these topics align with my religion as well so it’s not difficult at all to apply. Because Islam is all about modesty and respect for self and others. Keep up your empowering work my dear Vivian. And may God bless you in it. Bunches of love❤️🌹

  • @mnameno7713
    @mnameno7713 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I found this video incredible thank you so much for your effort

  • @estherasubonteng3594
    @estherasubonteng3594 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Vivian you are glowing. Keep it up.

  • @TracyAnnJoseph
    @TracyAnnJoseph 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I really love your program it's exactly what I need. Keep up the great work.

  • @widowswatch6610
    @widowswatch6610 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I think this information should be taught to early teens at school. I really feel like kids nowadays are missing this in their life. Also I am using this information for myself. Thank you very much. Do you go into schools and teach these to young teens?

  • @sulusu4812
    @sulusu4812 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Ladies, & any men reading this: ✨ you. matter. ✨ So very much.

  • @rosiesullivan2604
    @rosiesullivan2604 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Excellent advice 😊 thanks for the video everything that was mentioned was crucial essential and keep bad behaviour in check. In the old days young ladies used to go to Finishing School and given all your gracious advice plus how to walk properly good posture how to get out of a car how to entertain more or less most of the issues you've covered on other videos all totally correct.❤😂 keep up the good work brilliant job. You made me smile 😊😊

  • @hollydewbean3248
    @hollydewbean3248 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you, Vivian. I need your videos to help keep my self in check.

  • @joyamenpryce8979
    @joyamenpryce8979 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you very much for your informative and inspiring information.
    I do love ❤️ and appreciate your advice 👍.

  • @nicoleebagot6241
    @nicoleebagot6241 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I am unsure if you have a school yet but please do expand. This is both good for individuals and a cultural community. Flawless reminders for myself on a daily basis. Cannot say how much value these videos are especially the one about affordable functional wardrobe.

  • @ethelngwenya5464
    @ethelngwenya5464 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a lovely and important video. Sad that I ve gone through life knowing these things but never really practicing them fully. Will teach them to my grandchildren and hope they turn out more elegant than their grandparents 😢😢

  • @sassyperry6382
    @sassyperry6382 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So gorgeous, elegant, and refined!

  • @deborahajibade-bi9yp
    @deborahajibade-bi9yp ปีที่แล้ว +5

    For another blessing, thank you ma!

  • @KhosiF
    @KhosiF ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You are such a shining light and so generous with your pearls of wisdom. I enjoy and learn so much from your videos and I am deeply grateful for holding the space for all of us…..sending so much love and light your way Vivian❤️😘

  • @charlytigress6944
    @charlytigress6944 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Just started my journey with this channel and I'm happy so far 🤗

  • @MayaHendsenmayajs19442
    @MayaHendsenmayajs19442 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Another excellent video. I love your eyeshadow

  • @chinenyeokoye4651
    @chinenyeokoye4651 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    God bless you for always dishing out wisdom

  • @Dr_Rina
    @Dr_Rina ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I am really impressed by your teaching. ❤it has been of help to me for some time now.
    May God 🙏 continue to enrich you 💕 with more wisdom. 🎉

  • @olujumokeogunrayi1446
    @olujumokeogunrayi1446 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just so much love listening to you Vivian. Thanks for sharing these wonderful tips about elegance

  • @bonniehafeman9757
    @bonniehafeman9757 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such a beautiful lady. Thanks. Amen.

  • @chinwenduezechi3935
    @chinwenduezechi3935 หลายเดือนก่อน

    12 life saving points. Thank you.

  • @kemunto_crochet
    @kemunto_crochet ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much you have helped me a lot in my journey

  • @princess895
    @princess895 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much for this video. More wisdom. Please be uploading more videos regularly. I always look forward to seeing your videos.

  • @happinessenetak
    @happinessenetak ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This was very impactful, thank you.

  • @happygirl4218
    @happygirl4218 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much for this video.
    The way you convey the information is very helpful.
    You're calm and straightforward, but compassionate.

  • @EditorSJ
    @EditorSJ 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Vivienne, your hair looks especially beautiful and elegant worn in an updo! It complements and balances your facial bone structure. Its great that there are casual styles AND dressy evening styles as you are wearing here, that can look lovely with both street and evening attire. Hope to see you use this type of hairstyle much in the future!

  • @delanehopkins8333
    @delanehopkins8333 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is so needed. I do hope others seek this helpful information. My mom passed these golden nuggets to me as a child and I have tried to do the same for my children. God bless you ❤

  • @huskysc7415
    @huskysc7415 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Outstanding message!
    Thank you!

  • @kamusimepromise768
    @kamusimepromise768 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this lady ooh my God thanks for sharing this amazing information

  • @criv_clothing
    @criv_clothing ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much Ma’am…. I’m glad I came across your channel

  • @goddess9624
    @goddess9624 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this empowering and educative video and channel, which encourages women to be the best selves. 😊🙏🏿

  • @maureenrugona1341
    @maureenrugona1341 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this. Well done Viv.

  • @mercydienye2532
    @mercydienye2532 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much Ma'am
    This video has really been helpful.

  • @octaviahicks-braye9859
    @octaviahicks-braye9859 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am loving the yellow dress. Great information. Keep teaching,

  • @giftygyasi310
    @giftygyasi310 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have followed you for a very long time now
    And I see all the good talks and works
    I just wanted to compliment you for such good work
    Keep going high
    The Almighty God Bless You and always be with you
    It's Gifty from Ghana.❤️

  • @angelaalbuquerque9897
    @angelaalbuquerque9897 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wonderful words of wisdom! Thank you🙏🏻

  • @angiejordan6454
    @angiejordan6454 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sadly, I needed this😞. Well, awareness is the first step

  • @claudiar1041
    @claudiar1041 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video! Thanks for sharing 👏👏👏

  • @guadeloupe61
    @guadeloupe61 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hello Vivian, my name is Sabine and I live in Toronto, Canada. Thank you very much for all your videos that I watch almost religiously. Your videos have helped me level up. I have a request, please. Would it be possible for you to make a video about how to deal with people who have betrayed you and show disdain to you. I am going through this and I always have these very negative emotions (anger, resentment). I am doing my best to fight these emotions because I don't want to make a fool of myself. Thank you very much again, Sabine.

  • @mlowe7245
    @mlowe7245 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you this video was so on point!.

  • @obianujueze9381
    @obianujueze9381 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks 👍 keep the ball rolling

  • @AlC-k2j
    @AlC-k2j ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautiful. Thank you so very much.

  • @rajyavardhanshetty6463
    @rajyavardhanshetty6463 ปีที่แล้ว

    Like your videos...they are much needed for our over all development

  • @paulineearle526
    @paulineearle526 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are 👌. I'm so glad you came across my path

  • @SolaScriptura-w8k
    @SolaScriptura-w8k ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you, I love your videos 🙂

  • @CoilyCode
    @CoilyCode ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Beautiful and practical!

  • @Thetarotalchemist777
    @Thetarotalchemist777 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great tips, thanks for sharing!

  • @oluwoletosin4817
    @oluwoletosin4817 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow. Thank you Vivian❤

  • @juliansinyaku7155
    @juliansinyaku7155 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you so much Vivienne, you don't how much you are helping 🎉❤.

  • @LillyRichards
    @LillyRichards ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very informative. Thank you

  • @DavisQuetea
    @DavisQuetea ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for your videos. I have an question. Where would you recommend shopping if your on a budget? I’m looking to upgrade my closet

  • @jillgreene9225
    @jillgreene9225 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    How to ELEGANTLY...voice, execute & keep your boundaries in place WHILE trying to keep Friendships& business relationships❤
    Thank you Lady Vivian❣

  • @Hairicane77
    @Hairicane77 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    One of your best videos so far. 😊

  • @Peacepeacelovelove
    @Peacepeacelovelove ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Walk away from anything that does not serve you, as an elegant woman that is your super power ♥️

  • @sukiemurphy862
    @sukiemurphy862 ปีที่แล้ว

    Such good advice for young ladies! Thank you so much for all your words of wisdom !

  • @marvawiebe4364
    @marvawiebe4364 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautifully stated wisdom!

  • @therealcraftymom10
    @therealcraftymom10 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for these uploads.

  • @2m.channel794
    @2m.channel794 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Learning en relearning,such a master piece ✅

  • @andreajedlohorova6234
    @andreajedlohorova6234 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for your wonderfull videos!

  • @kemostically
    @kemostically ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing

  • @bonniewise-p1v
    @bonniewise-p1v ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes! I have benefited from your points.

  • @boldnbeauitful
    @boldnbeauitful ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love love love this entire look definitely giving classy

  • @patiencepaintsil3050
    @patiencepaintsil3050 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Viv 🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭

  • @Gmarkle-pt8hf
    @Gmarkle-pt8hf ปีที่แล้ว

    I love your videos & your hair up!

  • @lydialal.l.f8382
    @lydialal.l.f8382 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thanks so much Vivian, always bring the best to the table. That was helpful 🙏💜

  • @cozycottage9275
    @cozycottage9275 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Excellent content! Thank you very much.

  • @TheMeghajoshi
    @TheMeghajoshi ปีที่แล้ว

    U r very positive energy, how? Your video about friend is amazing.

  • @sassyperry6382
    @sassyperry6382 ปีที่แล้ว

    I cannot get enough of this channel

  • @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071
    @jacquelinesmith-gaston2071 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love your makeup. It is always applied with taste. Your skin glows! I think you are beautiful.

  • @allurekids4545
    @allurekids4545 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    ❤be tactful. Consider if your words would affect the feelings of the other
    ❤show empathy
    Be in the shoes and see from the other person's view.
    ❤watch your tone... Your tone carries more message than words
    ❤ practice kindness in words and actions
    ❤ practice level headed ness. Avoid drama/confrontation
    ❤ Be civil and cordial with someone else
    ❤be respectful no matter how young,old ,rich or connected someone is.
    ❤ practice self confidence not over confidence and arrogance
    ❤Let others tell about how good you are.be content.
    ❤master self control don't let your emotions control you.
    ❤ practice elegance online,cross checking.don't be an open book.
    ❤be authentic.set boundaries.your happiness should not be at another person's comfort.

  • @shannenn7346
    @shannenn7346 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much!

  • @jozyaidoo4790
    @jozyaidoo4790 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Finally the video I've been waiting for

  • @lovesmith1489
    @lovesmith1489 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this video. I have shared your Woman of Elegance platform with some women in my church. Your hair looks pretty up nice change.