sometimes people can mix up they like you or they are super friendly. ive met super friendly men i thought was into me. and when i tried to be hier friend for more. that was a misstake. people can be very charming, social, even tesing and flirting and not that into you. at best they only attracted by your looks nothing more. we need to be upfrfont what we feel about them and move on. and also understand people are not mind readers. also that we dont really know people until we know them. and body languge can really fool us and peoples friendly ness. also people being very vunnerble with us doesnt mean a thing either. its what people do on a daily basic. how they make you feel. if you are to confused not a good sign.
ive seen vunnerble people being toxic or not right. ive seen friendly and good people go out of thier way for people not being into them, even seen people tease, flirt. why ghosting happens. in the end looks not all people need emotional attraction too. its also easier to block people online than in real life becuse you dont have a bond. its also easier make bad choices online becuse you just se looks and in real life that can happen too if you just choose them on thier best days. words doesnt mean anything, action does. anyone can be kind when they want something. show thier best side, but you dont really know a person before you seen them in thier bad day. so always choose wisely and be careful who you let in. go rather slow than fast to know people. and never choose someone only based on looks, or external. and if someone dont choose us, its ok, not everyone is our person, that is how it should be. what we want, what god wants for us two diffrent things.
and some women good at spot men liking them, some are bad reading body languge becuse of expirence like they thought people were into them and they got rejected, can also be they like the feeling of having friends. more important if you as a guy dont like the situation you should tell them, and move on if you dont like to be in thier company.
This happened to me a few years ago. Went on a date with a good-looking guy. The whole evening, he showed me pics of his past dates and relationships. The women were 7, 8, and 9. I was just a plain jane. I finally said, "if you can get these girls, then why are you wasting time with me?" His response, "you're a nice girl and i enjoy chatting with you." Yup chatting about his exes the whole evening. I got up and told him i had something to do like wash my hair as i was walking away. I dont need to be disrespected and waste more time dealing with him. You know whats funny, every year for 3 years he would text me. I guess i left some kind of impression on him. So the next time you have to deal with that garbage, just walk away. Dont ever let anyone disrespect you.
Wow, so sorry that happened to you. I think it's really tone-deaf of him to bring up other girls he's met before. It's good that you set your boundaries though!
Im not going to lie, I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. Talking about how attractive somebody else is is not an attack, if it hurts you it’s bc you’re thinking too much about yourself.
No. The proof is in the pudding but keep deluding yourself eventually you will realize most people never compliment YOU and will never talk about YOU that way but always other people
@@DestroAzureDxpeople compliment me all the time. People have also gone out of their way to compliment everyone but me. But the truth is, neither of those things matter. You have to cultivate your own self esteem and know who you are regardless of other people’s opinions. You are important regardless of anyone else.
@@dvgtx44 self cultivated self esteem is delusion. Other people are the only true gauge of who you actually are and where you land on a hypothetical social totem pole, if you were the last human being on the planet you likely wouldn't workout potentially not even groom yourself. Everythinf we do is tied to how pwople percieve us
I feel like I'm the crazy one in these comments but like it sounds like a normal conversation women have with their friends? Women talk about who they like with friends all the time the same as men talk about girls they think cute? These ladies are not treating you like a woman they are treating you as a friend. A friend is a platonic relationship so of course they see you in such a manner and expect it so they probably assumed everything was platonic. Man or women. Perhaps the issue was that some men get into friendships with women in hopes to get into a relationships with them but are they really friends for the women if they want something from them? People, women or man dont owe you anything nor are they entitled anything from you. This of course is not a means to invalidate your feelings you were perfectly valid to feel a way about it. You were tired of being seen in a platonic light from women. This is your video and you were ranting about it. I think you are smart and very introspective with your emotions and yourself. As you said yourself it was probably a manifestation of your insecurities that felt like these women were "attacking" you but which it was probably them just being themselves as they would with friends. I don't think anybody here was in the wrong.
Its not a menifestation its just the truth especially if it happened in the past, none of those girls ever talk about him that way especially when they first met him
And these days if you make a single misplay early on in a relationship it can mean getting ghosted or only getting contacted when theres a favor involved
I don’t want to invalidate your feelings but I think the problem is that you were hanging out with women too much. This is normal behavior and they have clearly friendzoned you by talking about other men in front of you. This is my first video Im seeing from you, but it sounds like you hang out in a lot of feminine spaces in college and not enough masculine spaces. Women talk about men, and tbh it can be a hard pill to swallow so rather than subject yourself to it, just distance yourself from people like this.
Yeah I also got this vibe. He talks about hanging out with groups of women and him being the only guy there, and also talks about awkwardly agreeing with them when they say some other guy is attractive... seems to me like he is setting himself up to be one of the girls, I wouldn't be surprised if the girls thought he was gay or something. Or like he said, they just straight up don't even find him worthy of the slighest bit of respect. I think the former is most likely.
This is true. Whenever I would hang around more women in the past, like groups of them all the time, it breeds feminine behavior. A man needs strong brothers to stay in his masculine and keep him centered.
@@nicolalambo3842 I also think its interesting that Kenji himself was aware that his behavior was feminine. I feel like the majority of women are not attracted to feminine energy in men. Masculinity to me is just be hinest with you so about your interests and personality, not amount of working out and mindset videos will ever make someone masculine. Although the gym could be a space where Kenji could make friends.
No, you are not invalidating my feelings. What you share is definitely true. I actually have hung out a lot in masculine spaces too, but I noticed that when there's female present, there were a lot of those men who were trying so hard to impress other women and often it occured at the expense of me.
@justin_6381 yeah it's a cultural thing. I know because I'm Korean. I've consciously stopped loud sipping as much as possible because I have misophobia and get annoyed with certain sounds. But koreans are loud slurpers it's a sign of appreciation. They make a lot of weird noises overall.
@@orangutan-halibut-walrus yea loud slurping is a sign of appreciation. When you see these Korean Mukbang, the louder the slurping and chewing sound is the more satisfying it is lol
Unfortunately, woman have done this to me too. I’m a woman, so it didn’t feel emasculating, just sad. I just keeping thinking: Is this all that you care about?
The truth is that for the overwhelming majority of young women, yes, all they care about or think about is the guy they all like, it quite literally is the central point of their existance and everything else is secondary. This changes with time as they mature (not always, results may vary)
Feeling invisible is not good, but like you said - it’s all about how you perceive them. In your case, I’m happy to have seen how your mindset has changed over the years. While you can never change others, you can always change yourself. And this feeling of invisibility doesn’t just extend to women, but to all parts of life. Still, what matters most is how you react to them. Essentially chill more, think less. After all, learning to stay calm on the inside after being disrespected is a different kind of growth 😊
"And this feeling of invisibility doesn’t just extend to women, but to all parts of life. Still, what matters most is how you react to them." Well said! 🥰
we cant do anything about people we like dont like us back. ive been there too. also if they would like you back doesnt mean they are right for you and treat you right, like respect, handle stress and dis agreements in a mature way. not everyone is for us. but i belive there is someone for everyone that likes us for who we are and we dont need to impress.
Honestly if you're not interested in the girl romantically, don't let it get to you, if she sees you as a friend then she's gonna tell you about who she finds attractive depending on how close you are, it's not that different from how I am with my guy friends.
As a fellow Asian man, we are not desired by women. Cold hard truth bro, just do what makes you happy, but at the same time improve yourself. We are seen as corny and feminine. It is what it is. Yes, its depressing af, but at this point you may as well just ignore them as we are the least desired men on this planet. Its gonna be a long, lonely road for us Asian men.
@@DailyKenji dont listen to that guy kenji. that's negative self defeating (ie useless) way of thinking. plenty of asian men find partners of any race. you gotta work on your confidence and assertiveness (I know it sounds cliche but its true). when you're hanging out with a girl or two, and they start talking about how hot another guy is, you can't just sit there awkwardly and listen to that shit. you gotta be like "yea he's not a bad looking guy" and move the conversation towards something else, or if they go on about it, start talking with your guy friend who was there with you and ignore them, or have some self respect and walk away and spend your valuable time elsewhere. assume it's a test - it's childish but girls will sometimes do this to sus out if you're confident or not. if the mention of them finding another guy will put you in your feelings. it's childish but it's how the game is sometimes. they don't want to end up with a guy who will turn out to be clingy, jealous, in constant need of affirmation, etc at the slightest hint of another man being attractive to them
i know most asian women date asian men, for many reasons such as culture, family values, work ethic. etc. so what you're saying seems to be out of touch with reality, which is what happens when you believe in modern day media, that show no regard for truth but passionate in creating conflicts. they make money out of that
Most of my life i have been a nerd and always got casually rejected but as i grew older i thought of going to the gym just as experiment , and then everything changed . You should really consider working on your physic if you wana improve your dating scene.
Somewhere out there is a girl who is thinking the same thing about you. We've all been the person someone had a crush on, but we didn't notice or feel the same.
yes i met men talking about other women lol doesnt matter if you are man or woman, sometimes i even met men talking about other women but also wanted me lol. but more important thing if you like them to much, dont like the situation, you maybe should tell them and move on.
I used to think women just didnt ever initiate anything and you had to read very vague signals that they might be interested, but Ive seen enough women throw themselves at good looking guys or give very obvious choosing signals. Its pretty brutal to see and never experience yourself
some people are inconsiderate and they simply don’t care. I remember who celebrated surviving the job layoffs right in front of people who did lose their job.
I appreciate the courage it takes to share these thoughts on this platform. You acknowledged that outward masculinity (or a perceived lack thereof) was impacting how visible you are in circles of women. You're probably correct, though I personally believe that outward masculinity is very easy for most men to improve. You're probably SICK of hearing this, but the number 1 way to make women notice you is through biology, mainly with your physique. A manlier physique will go a long way in how much women notice you, even if you're not blessed to be 6+ft tall. Bigger muscles and better frame make your clothes look more manly, and generally lend more masculinity to your body language as well. I know you didn't come here asking for advice, but I always encourage men to focus on what they CAN change about these situations. There will always be better, greater men that women want more than others; acknowledge your capability to make yourself into one of these men. Dating and mating are survival of the fittest; work hard to be the fittest.
@@p8q42ajnj6 You probably were cute, but you probably just didn't have confidence. I even saw hot guys, that are single I mean like hot guys. They just lacked confidence, and would never ask girls out or take the hit when girls were hitting on them.
Most guys don't realize that there's a lot that they can do to look more appealing to the opposite sex. Just wearing nicer, more hip, clothes, styling your hair in a more trendy fashion, or getting cooler looking glasses really goes a long way! Of course, this applies to females as well. Of course, you have to feel comfortable making those changes, and it's not always easy.
Honestly, I am a 30 year old female, but I may be an outlier and I do really like Asian guys, probably because I did grow up watching lots of anime, J-drama's, K-drama's, J-pop, K-pop, Chinese dramas etc. and lots of those medias had super feminine guys and always thought they were hot. I know in the united states, not sure where you're from/live, but a guy like you could slay if you had confidence feminine or not, just ooze confidence. For example, in the game Like a Dragon Gaiden, the character Nishitani Homare III portrayed by Kim Jaeuck. In the game, he has his nails painted, however how it's portrayed and he has it done, is a boss move, he may be so feminine having his nails painted but the way he does it oozes confidence, yes it's a very realistic game graphics wise, but if it was live action, I'm sure I'd fell the same way. Women can be cruel I know, I know I have been cruel in the past. Which I don't like to be, and feel guilty afterwards. I also think sometimes, we may do something like this to to kindly say we are not interested sexually, but you are a good friend and trust you. We know if you do ask us out, we will have to turn you down anyways, and that would end our friendship. It's actually really hard for men and women to actually remain just platonic friends. Unless the guy is completely gay or something like that. There are exceptions, but in my experience, one in the party will start to feel more emotional feelings for the other.
I'm not sure if I was being disrespected. I have talked about other girls in presence of girls and it wasn't necessarily with an intention of disrespecting them or anything but just feeling comfortable around them.
@@DailyKenjiYeah it sounds more like they just see you as a completely platonic friend which I'm guessing you don't like because you caught feelings for one of them?
Red flag if someone talking bad about thier ex, or share to much to fast, instant chemistry. and someone talking like that is either 1 not that into you 2 immutare way trying make smeone jallious.
I love your storytelling so much! As soon as I see a new upload of yours showing up on my feed, I drop everything and start watching the video haha. I can't wait to see how your channel is going to grow within this year alone!
I know this is story in the past, if this is still happening to you or other people having this experience, the main solution is to stand up for yourself and have stronger boundaries. The “friend zone” is not entirely real in a sense where you can take yourself out of the situation. These people that rant about other guys are not very good friends and are not being respectful to you, and I think it is true that those women don’t see you as a man, but standing up for yourself and not validating their stories with other guys will make you seem more like a man. A strong man has strong boundaries, and is not entirely physical, but phylogicilly and emotionally as well. When you distance yourself from friends like that and they are not getting your attention and validation there’s two way it’ll play out, 1. They will realize they do still want to have to some sort of relationship with you because they miss the times you had together, which gives you more leverage and respect, or 2. They just stop being your friend, but if they happens they weren’t really your friend to begin with and only saw you for the attention they were getting from you. Just know that this type of feeling of self doubt is avoidable and can be overcome with a little self respect and boundaries which will make you seem like more of a man. Keep up the good work kenji love hearing your stories
It's definitely not a good feeling being invisible to attractive women. Another bad thing is when they start to treat you too much like a girl, if that makes any sense
The man needs to go for women who like him and then go into the friends with benefits with her. In order to get a gf, you must get a woman emotional AND sexually attach to you. His female friends probably were only emotionally attached to him.
bro only personality matters. looks dont matter. you just need to take a shower, hit up some perfume and clean your clothes. thats it!! you gonna have girls dropping on u the moment they see you!
another thing is the guy this girls are obssed with choose a girl that isnt that obssed with him. =P how it works. people dont like needy, people obsseeing over peoples looks ( if they are not a player/toxic) for mature men this is a big turn off
Dude get you a hobby bro everybody I know is always worried about women your great looking guy don’t waste your life worried about what they think it limits your thinking be free go travel, go sky diving , try a jazz club go try art but please I beg do something else
my guy, you are too soft and nice. Instead of looking at 1 girl, you should be looking at 100 girls. Get a sense of how many of those actually like you and adjust your expectations after that. Expect a lot of rejects lol but always keep your head high
Bro just learn to say no, if u dont like what they're talking about just say that u dont like listening to her and leave. This is a really bad sign bro, cus they dont have much sexual attraction towards you. Thats what u get for having friends like those bro. This is just pure feminine energy, I already let go of those kind of people. Im not an incel or some sht, but learn to say " NO" and learn to "let go" Plus u let them consume your time with those petty things, thats a big NO bro.
Can I suggest a positive reframing that you almost got to yourself? If a girl or group of girls feel comfortable enough with you to be open about their desires that is a huge win. The best way to be a good person for a woman to choose is to be around said women. Women appreciate men who aren’t toxic, ofc there are some that do like toxic guys but trust me those are not the type of women you want to date. be kind, empathetic and a good listener. don’t take their interest in other guys as a personal attack it’s not that deep
@@DailyKenjiyea I second MifsudZ. If your female friends are this comfortable around you to talk about such topics, that’s a major win. You’re ahead of a lot of guys.
@@DailyKenjido not listen to his advice. It will keep you frustrated. That is a very “old” way of thinking that has no stats/data but what people view as “socially moral” and correct. If a woman speaks about another guy around you so casual and with such high interest, she doesn’t LIKE YOU.
i dont get why women do that, i feel like it may be a shit test, because of how common it is, like she is testing you by talking about another guy to see if you will get jealous or something so she knows if you like her or not or something, i know for sure women are very very covert on how they communicate
Might be, but it could also be that they genuinely are a bit socially tone deaf and they didn't mean to cause jealousy; that happens too. Either way this is a reminder for us women who generally speaking are more comfortable talking about how we feel at the moment, to not do such things esp in front of guys cause it can be disrespectful.
@@keifer7813 they do exist to see how much they can get away with is why women shit test especially after a argument to see if you will still do as they ask
@@justtekina6709 Which only happens once she starts losing attraction to you. If she was really still feeling you, she would be trying to make your life easier, not harder
That was a test for your confidence brotha, girls that are interested in you will always do tests. Like being rude, insulting, or pulling away etc. You must stay emotionally unresponsive to demonstrate high value
@@TheTrueTrinity888 Were you betabuxxing? Just because you dated doesn't necessarily mean there was genuine desire there. You could've been spending on them for some play, idk I've not dated a lot but when I have had interest, there was zero games, no rudeness, no insults etc. The idea that a girl could genuinely like you and disrespect you to see how you react is some red pill fantasy
Thats why you've dating 100s of girls and not a single one chose to stay with you, you're just entertainment to them to show that they can effect guys and can get a reaction out of you. Women literally know if you're playing aloof or not for the sake of beinv datable in thier eyes
Bro, if she's not even your type, you shouldn't care about what she thinks. You can tell her not to talk about other dudes if she's hanging out with you, but other than that, it shouldn't affect you unless you do find her somehow attractive. If she says anything about you being jealous, just tell her she's not even your type. Don't play these childish games or tolerate it, if she's not willing to comply, simply move on.
Most men are open to dating most women especially women they hang around with, its a vague willingness and its hard not to notice a contraast in how they treat you vs other men or dudes they find attractive and notice it never happens to you
And men ain't? I've never seen a guy go out their way to date an ugly woman most would rather be single than settle. In my town u only see ugly guys with more attractive girls 😂
@@ragdull2066 Men get rejected a lot, so you have to keep trying if you want to get married. It isn't impossible, but it is hard. One tip is don't waste your time on women who have no interest in you.
Have you ever heard of the numbers game? It's completely true for men. Don't fixate too much on one woman who you'd think make the best match and start fantasizing. Most guys go wrong there and waste a bunch of time. Appearance wise, lose the glasses, wear contacts. Put on some muscle, eat clean foods and enough protein, follow a workout that best suits you. And for the love of god, get a haircut and style it differently, please! I'm not an expert at rating guys' looks, but i can tell you right now that you look like a typical nice guy who lacks boundaries. Hope that helped.
Don't let anyone here delude you into thinking those girls don't think you're hot or worthy of interest, that is exactly what it means, the proof is in the pudding, if they felt the same way about you, you'd know...
Uhhh as a girl I can you for a fact the way he’s treated is the same as gay friend is treated 😂 he’s just too ugly to even register as a potential male
IMO the most annoying part about girls doing that is that they know exactly how that makes the guy feel.
sometimes people can mix up they like you or they are super friendly. ive met super friendly men i thought was into me. and when i tried to be hier friend for more. that was a misstake. people can be very charming, social, even tesing and flirting and not that into you. at best they only attracted by your looks nothing more. we need to be upfrfont what we feel about them and move on. and also understand people are not mind readers. also that we dont really know people until we know them. and body languge can really fool us and peoples friendly ness. also people being very vunnerble with us doesnt mean a thing either. its what people do on a daily basic. how they make you feel. if you are to confused not a good sign.
ive seen vunnerble people being toxic or not right. ive seen friendly and good people go out of thier way for people not being into them, even seen people tease, flirt. why ghosting happens. in the end looks not all people need emotional attraction too. its also easier to block people online than in real life becuse you dont have a bond. its also easier make bad choices online becuse you just se looks and in real life that can happen too if you just choose them on thier best days. words doesnt mean anything, action does. anyone can be kind when they want something. show thier best side, but you dont really know a person before you seen them in thier bad day. so always choose wisely and be careful who you let in. go rather slow than fast to know people. and never choose someone only based on looks, or external. and if someone dont choose us, its ok, not everyone is our person, that is how it should be. what we want, what god wants for us two diffrent things.
and some women good at spot men liking them, some are bad reading body languge becuse of expirence like they thought people were into them and they got rejected, can also be they like the feeling of having friends. more important if you as a guy dont like the situation you should tell them, and move on if you dont like to be in thier company.
@@annajoy2306 no one chooses wisely girls just fight over the same 10% of guys and the rest of us get absolute leftovers at best
This happened to me a few years ago. Went on a date with a good-looking guy. The whole evening, he showed me pics of his past dates and relationships. The women were 7, 8, and 9. I was just a plain jane. I finally said, "if you can get these girls, then why are you wasting time with me?" His response, "you're a nice girl and i enjoy chatting with you." Yup chatting about his exes the whole evening. I got up and told him i had something to do like wash my hair as i was walking away. I dont need to be disrespected and waste more time dealing with him. You know whats funny, every year for 3 years he would text me. I guess i left some kind of impression on him. So the next time you have to deal with that garbage, just walk away. Dont ever let anyone disrespect you.
Wow, so sorry that happened to you. I think it's really tone-deaf of him to bring up other girls he's met before. It's good that you set your boundaries though!
TFW you think you’re getting close to a girl and she starts treating you like her gay best friend
Im not going to lie, I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. Talking about how attractive somebody else is is not an attack, if it hurts you it’s bc you’re thinking too much about yourself.
No. The proof is in the pudding but keep deluding yourself eventually you will realize most people never compliment YOU and will never talk about YOU that way but always other people
@@DestroAzureDxpeople compliment me all the time. People have also gone out of their way to compliment everyone but me. But the truth is, neither of those things matter. You have to cultivate your own self esteem and know who you are regardless of other people’s opinions. You are important regardless of anyone else.
@@dvgtx44 self cultivated self esteem is delusion. Other people are the only true gauge of who you actually are and where you land on a hypothetical social totem pole, if you were the last human being on the planet you likely wouldn't workout potentially not even groom yourself.
Everythinf we do is tied to how pwople percieve us
always makes my day when i see a new vid notification from you. your content is brutally honest and refreshing.
Happy to hear that!🥰🥰
any girl would be lucky to get Kenji.
awww professor you so kind as always 🥰
I feel like I'm the crazy one in these comments but like it sounds like a normal conversation women have with their friends? Women talk about who they like with friends all the time the same as men talk about girls they think cute? These ladies are not treating you like a woman they are treating you as a friend. A friend is a platonic relationship so of course they see you in such a manner and expect it so they probably assumed everything was platonic. Man or women. Perhaps the issue was that some men get into friendships with women in hopes to get into a relationships with them but are they really friends for the women if they want something from them? People, women or man dont owe you anything nor are they entitled anything from you. This of course is not a means to invalidate your feelings you were perfectly valid to feel a way about it. You were tired of being seen in a platonic light from women. This is your video and you were ranting about it. I think you are smart and very introspective with your emotions and yourself. As you said yourself it was probably a manifestation of your insecurities that felt like these women were "attacking" you but which it was probably them just being themselves as they would with friends. I don't think anybody here was in the wrong.
You are absolutely right!
Its not a menifestation its just the truth especially if it happened in the past, none of those girls ever talk about him that way especially when they first met him
The bravery to post this is crazy
Yo fax.
It sounds as if you allowed your female acquaintances to get too comfortable with you. In doing so you lost your presence as a man.
yea, both men and women do get comfortable with me pretty quick. It has worked to both my benefit and detriment depending on the situation.
And these days if you make a single misplay early on in a relationship it can mean getting ghosted or only getting contacted when theres a favor involved
Sounds like something a bald 40 something with a beer gut and a beard would say.
Sounds like something a bald 40 something with a beer gut and a beard would say.
Sounds like something a bald 40 something with a beer gut and a beard would say.
Hey man, you make great content. You are a good story teller...even though the stories can be depressing at times
Hey, thanks so much for the compliment!
I see a new Kenji upload, I like
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I don’t want to invalidate your feelings but I think the problem is that you were hanging out with women too much. This is normal behavior and they have clearly friendzoned you by talking about other men in front of you. This is my first video Im seeing from you, but it sounds like you hang out in a lot of feminine spaces in college and not enough masculine spaces. Women talk about men, and tbh it can be a hard pill to swallow so rather than subject yourself to it, just distance yourself from people like this.
Yeah I also got this vibe. He talks about hanging out with groups of women and him being the only guy there, and also talks about awkwardly agreeing with them when they say some other guy is attractive... seems to me like he is setting himself up to be one of the girls, I wouldn't be surprised if the girls thought he was gay or something. Or like he said, they just straight up don't even find him worthy of the slighest bit of respect. I think the former is most likely.
This is true. Whenever I would hang around more women in the past, like groups of them all the time, it breeds feminine behavior. A man needs strong brothers to stay in his masculine and keep him centered.
@@nicolalambo3842 I also think its interesting that Kenji himself was aware that his behavior was feminine. I feel like the majority of women are not attracted to feminine energy in men. Masculinity to me is just be hinest with you so about your interests and personality, not amount of working out and mindset videos will ever make someone masculine. Although the gym could be a space where Kenji could make friends.
your comment is spot on, this is pretty common conversation for girls
No, you are not invalidating my feelings. What you share is definitely true. I actually have hung out a lot in masculine spaces too, but I noticed that when there's female present, there were a lot of those men who were trying so hard to impress other women and often it occured at the expense of me.
Honestly, forget about her, bro. She won't see you that way.
From what I can tell, this happened nearly 2 decades ago. I’m sure he’s been over it for a while
*sip* ☕️ *smack* 👄 *sip* ☕️
I love my boy Kenji but that shit pisses me off so bad
@justin_6381 yeah it's a cultural thing. I know because I'm Korean. I've consciously stopped loud sipping as much as possible because I have misophobia and get annoyed with certain sounds. But koreans are loud slurpers it's a sign of appreciation. They make a lot of weird noises overall.
🤣 My bad. I sip tea cuz it helps me a bit with my nervousness/awkwardness speaking in front of camera 😢
@@orangutan-halibut-walrus yea loud slurping is a sign of appreciation. When you see these Korean Mukbang, the louder the slurping and chewing sound is the more satisfying it is lol
I don’t notice it
i would love to hear more stories from your collage days kenji,if you have pictures from that time it would be pretty cool to share too!keep it up man
"Tea w/ Kenji" would've been fitting for your channel name
I put your suggestion on a poll to change my channel name, so thank you for the suggestion!
Unfortunately, woman have done this to me too. I’m a woman, so it didn’t feel emasculating, just sad. I just keeping thinking: Is this all that you care about?
Women are shallow and male-obsessed. More news at 11
The truth is that for the overwhelming majority of young women, yes, all they care about or think about is the guy they all like, it quite literally is the central point of their existance and everything else is secondary. This changes with time as they mature (not always, results may vary)
Women can be shallow but so can men. I don't think shallowness is exclusive to one gender. All humans have that trait I think.
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Feeling invisible is not good, but like you said - it’s all about how you perceive them. In your case, I’m happy to have seen how your mindset has changed over the years. While you can never change others, you can always change yourself. And this feeling of invisibility doesn’t just extend to women, but to all parts of life. Still, what matters most is how you react to them.
Essentially chill more, think less.
After all, learning to stay calm on the inside after being disrespected is a different kind of growth 😊
"And this feeling of invisibility doesn’t just extend to women, but to all parts of life. Still, what matters most is how you react to them."
Well said! 🥰
we cant do anything about people we like dont like us back. ive been there too. also if they would like you back doesnt mean they are right for you and treat you right, like respect, handle stress and dis agreements in a mature way. not everyone is for us. but i belive there is someone for everyone that likes us for who we are and we dont need to impress.
"feeling invisible"
dude we are lmao
“Choose someone who chooses you as you will never be enough for the person you want”
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Right Kenji. Dating is hard right. I hope you find the one right. Keep up the videos right.
Honestly if you're not interested in the girl romantically, don't let it get to you, if she sees you as a friend then she's gonna tell you about who she finds attractive depending on how close you are, it's not that different from how I am with my guy friends.
As a fellow Asian man, we are not desired by women. Cold hard truth bro, just do what makes you happy, but at the same time improve yourself. We are seen as corny and feminine. It is what it is. Yes, its depressing af, but at this point you may as well just ignore them as we are the least desired men on this planet. Its gonna be a long, lonely road for us Asian men.
Right, but I feel like tide is slowly changing though, hopefully lol.
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@@DailyKenji dont listen to that guy kenji. that's negative self defeating (ie useless) way of thinking. plenty of asian men find partners of any race.
you gotta work on your confidence and assertiveness (I know it sounds cliche but its true). when you're hanging out with a girl or two, and they start talking about how hot another guy is, you can't just sit there awkwardly and listen to that shit. you gotta be like "yea he's not a bad looking guy" and move the conversation towards something else, or if they go on about it, start talking with your guy friend who was there with you and ignore them, or have some self respect and walk away and spend your valuable time elsewhere.
assume it's a test - it's childish but girls will sometimes do this to sus out if you're confident or not. if the mention of them finding another guy will put you in your feelings. it's childish but it's how the game is sometimes. they don't want to end up with a guy who will turn out to be clingy, jealous, in constant need of affirmation, etc at the slightest hint of another man being attractive to them
i know most asian women date asian men, for many reasons such as culture, family values, work ethic. etc. so what you're saying seems to be out of touch with reality, which is what happens when you believe in modern day media, that show no regard for truth but passionate in creating conflicts. they make money out of that
It's crazy to hear someone put into words what I experienced as well but didn't know why it was annoying to me.
Most of my life i have been a nerd and always got casually rejected but as i grew older i thought of going to the gym just as experiment , and then everything changed . You should really consider working on your physic if you wana improve your dating scene.
Somewhere out there is a girl who is thinking the same thing about you. We've all been the person someone had a crush on, but we didn't notice or feel the same.
This is actually really great insight. I 100% agree with you!
yes i met men talking about other women lol doesnt matter if you are man or woman, sometimes i even met men talking about other women but also wanted me lol. but more important thing if you like them to much, dont like the situation, you maybe should tell them and move on.
No we haven't especially if you're overweight
This guy is really handsome. Whoa
I used to think women just didnt ever initiate anything and you had to read very vague signals that they might be interested, but Ive seen enough women throw themselves at good looking guys or give very obvious choosing signals. Its pretty brutal to see and never experience yourself
some people are inconsiderate and they simply don’t care. I remember who celebrated surviving the job layoffs right in front of people who did lose their job.
I appreciate the courage it takes to share these thoughts on this platform.
You acknowledged that outward masculinity (or a perceived lack thereof) was impacting how visible you are in circles of women. You're probably correct, though I personally believe that outward masculinity is very easy for most men to improve.
You're probably SICK of hearing this, but the number 1 way to make women notice you is through biology, mainly with your physique. A manlier physique will go a long way in how much women notice you, even if you're not blessed to be 6+ft tall. Bigger muscles and better frame make your clothes look more manly, and generally lend more masculinity to your body language as well.
I know you didn't come here asking for advice, but I always encourage men to focus on what they CAN change about these situations. There will always be better, greater men that women want more than others; acknowledge your capability to make yourself into one of these men. Dating and mating are survival of the fittest; work hard to be the fittest.
Yep, I 100% agree with you on taking self-responsibility and working on myself to improve my situtation. Thank you.!
@@DailyKenji You're the man. I believe in you!
It’s cold when they do that
Stop hanging around young girls. Maybe that’s the problem.
Omg so sorry that happened. Why are some people so tone deaf or just plain rude 😞
You're really cute! Dont worry too much about it, you'll definitely find someone for yourself in the future!
i was told this alot in hs, and never realized that it was usually told as a deflection/joke :c
@@p8q42ajnj6 You probably were cute, but you probably just didn't have confidence. I even saw hot guys, that are single I mean like hot guys. They just lacked confidence, and would never ask girls out or take the hit when girls were hitting on them.
Most guys don't realize that there's a lot that they can do to look more appealing to the opposite sex. Just wearing nicer, more hip, clothes, styling your hair in a more trendy fashion, or getting cooler looking glasses really goes a long way! Of course, this applies to females as well. Of course, you have to feel comfortable making those changes, and it's not always easy.
Exactly, just make sure you like said styles, don't fake it or become fake.
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Honestly, I am a 30 year old female, but I may be an outlier and I do really like Asian guys, probably because I did grow up watching lots of anime, J-drama's, K-drama's, J-pop, K-pop, Chinese dramas etc. and lots of those medias had super feminine guys and always thought they were hot.
I know in the united states, not sure where you're from/live, but a guy like you could slay if you had confidence feminine or not, just ooze confidence.
For example, in the game Like a Dragon Gaiden, the character Nishitani Homare III portrayed by Kim Jaeuck. In the game, he has his nails painted, however how it's portrayed and he has it done, is a boss move, he may be so feminine having his nails painted but the way he does it oozes confidence, yes it's a very realistic game graphics wise, but if it was live action, I'm sure I'd fell the same way.
Women can be cruel I know, I know I have been cruel in the past. Which I don't like to be, and feel guilty afterwards. I also think sometimes, we may do something like this to to kindly say we are not interested sexually, but you are a good friend and trust you. We know if you do ask us out, we will have to turn you down anyways, and that would end our friendship. It's actually really hard for men and women to actually remain just platonic friends. Unless the guy is completely gay or something like that. There are exceptions, but in my experience, one in the party will start to feel more emotional feelings for the other.
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@@tcrcreff um thank you.
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That feeling - that was your manhood. You were being disrespected, and on a subconscious level you knew it.
I'm not sure if I was being disrespected. I have talked about other girls in presence of girls and it wasn't necessarily with an intention of disrespecting them or anything but just feeling comfortable around them.
@@DailyKenjiYeah it sounds more like they just see you as a completely platonic friend which I'm guessing you don't like because you caught feelings for one of them?
I think a healthy acceptance of being atypical or an outcast may lighten your perspective on these events.
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Red flag if someone talking bad about thier ex, or share to much to fast, instant chemistry. and someone talking like that is either 1 not that into you 2 immutare way trying make smeone jallious.
You should animate your stories,, you have great story telling skills :)
I love your storytelling so much! As soon as I see a new upload of yours showing up on my feed, I drop everything and start watching the video haha. I can't wait to see how your channel is going to grow within this year alone!
Awwwwwww my heart melted when i saw this comment! thank you so much!! 🥰
Bro u just like me looks really do matter
I know this is story in the past, if this is still happening to you or other people having this experience, the main solution is to stand up for yourself and have stronger boundaries. The “friend zone” is not entirely real in a sense where you can take yourself out of the situation. These people that rant about other guys are not very good friends and are not being respectful to you, and I think it is true that those women don’t see you as a man, but standing up for yourself and not validating their stories with other guys will make you seem more like a man. A strong man has strong boundaries, and is not entirely physical, but phylogicilly and emotionally as well. When you distance yourself from friends like that and they are not getting your attention and validation there’s two way it’ll play out, 1. They will realize they do still want to have to some sort of relationship with you because they miss the times you had together, which gives you more leverage and respect, or 2. They just stop being your friend, but if they happens they weren’t really your friend to begin with and only saw you for the attention they were getting from you. Just know that this type of feeling of self doubt is avoidable and can be overcome with a little self respect and boundaries which will make you seem like more of a man. Keep up the good work kenji love hearing your stories
Thank you 🥰
I can tell this is gonna get lots of views. I can feel it.
you have to not give a F bro, work out bro and get more masculine, don’t compare yourself to other men just be a better man
Women will compare you anyway, sometimes your best version is still even less popular than someone who just rolled out of bed and did thr bare minimum
Those girls saw his good personality and were immediately attracted to him 😂 What a joke 🤣That is the Black Pill experience my brother
eh its not personal bro, both girls and dudes talk about attractive people all the time. dont get too caught up in it.
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This guy is super cute! Hope he finds the right lady
Stop virtue signalling
Lol its us super cute guys who die alone
Date hiim then
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he needs to find his niche....
latinas for example love asian guys.
mainly for the K pop thing haha
Women can be ruthless.
We should be ruthless in return.
@@internet_janitor that’s incel talk
@ordinaryopinion4081 Depends on what he means.
@@ordinaryopinion-1What’s the definition of an incel? I know what it means, but I’m trying to see something.
@@TheShadowsofYharnam involuntary celibate (you)
She was just trying to be polite by hinting you to "get lost". 😅
You should create a discord server !
Is over for Ricecels
It's definitely not a good feeling being invisible to attractive women. Another bad thing is when they start to treat you too much like a girl, if that makes any sense
The man needs to go for women who like him and then go into the friends with benefits with her. In order to get a gf, you must get a woman emotional AND sexually attach to you. His female friends probably were only emotionally attached to him.
You guys need to learn when to walk away
@@internet_janitor Personally I already did a long time ago
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start going to gym bro, embrace masculinity💪
bro only personality matters. looks dont matter.
you just need to take a shower, hit up some perfume and clean your clothes.
thats it!! you gonna have girls dropping on u the moment they see you!
LOL
My main man Kenjo!
My main man Raoul!
another thing is the guy this girls are obssed with choose a girl that isnt that obssed with him. =P how it works. people dont like needy, people obsseeing over peoples looks ( if they are not a player/toxic) for mature men this is a big turn off
It's so over.
Forget her, only date people who are enthusiastic about you. Do you play a musical instrument? If so, do you want to be in a band?
Yea, I used to be in a band and used to play guitar in during hs and college, but my interests shifted to something else now lol
Dude get you a hobby bro everybody I know is always worried about women your great looking guy don’t waste your life worried about what they think it limits your thinking be free go travel, go sky diving , try a jazz club go try art but please I beg do something else
my guy, you are too soft and nice. Instead of looking at 1 girl, you should be looking at 100 girls. Get a sense of how many of those actually like you and adjust your expectations after that. Expect a lot of rejects lol but always keep your head high
It's one of the tactics women employ to let you know that she will never see you in that way. This happens to most men at some point. Move on!
Kenji san, ganbatte
Nah you gonna have to make Instagram for your fan girls soon lol.
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Try to grow a beard bro that’s what I am trying to do
No one deserves that :(
As a guy I feel like guys talk about girls around girls more than girls talk about guys around guys.
That's also very true. I've done that as well 😅
I feel your pain buddy, that's why I just focus on myself now
I like your stories, but I really wish you could drink out of a mug without doing that slurping sound
Bro just learn to say no, if u dont like what they're talking about just say that u dont like listening to her and leave.
This is a really bad sign bro, cus they dont have much sexual attraction towards you.
Thats what u get for having friends like those bro.
This is just pure feminine energy, I already let go of those kind of people.
Im not an incel or some sht, but learn to say " NO" and learn to "let go"
Plus u let them consume your time with those petty things, thats a big NO bro.
"Bro its a bad sign you're not attractive to women bro" "Stop being your authentic self bro" "women don't want that bro"
@@DestroAzureDx its just cause and effect
@@johnz7167 its also cause and effect they wouldnt be doing that if they found him physically attractive
Hope you have thicker skin by now. What people say barely affects me anymore.
Yes, I absolutely do have thicker skin now 😂.
That's called being delusional to your own social standing.
she was ovulating lmao
its over for you bro
You think so? I respectfully disagree though. It's not over as long as I'm alive!😂
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@@DailyKenjipatience is a skill we must master
Kenji dara
where u been?
Been invisible 🤣
Do you have a girlfriend?
Can I suggest a positive reframing that you almost got to yourself? If a girl or group of girls feel comfortable enough with you to be open about their desires that is a huge win. The best way to be a good person for a woman to choose is to be around said women. Women appreciate men who aren’t toxic, ofc there are some that do like toxic guys but trust me those are not the type of women you want to date. be kind, empathetic and a good listener. don’t take their interest in other guys as a personal attack it’s not that deep
Yes, I try to work on being kind, empathetic and good listener although it's really hard haha. Thanks for your kind words!
@@DailyKenjiyea I second MifsudZ. If your female friends are this comfortable around you to talk about such topics, that’s a major win. You’re ahead of a lot of guys.
@@DailyKenjido not listen to his advice. It will keep you frustrated. That is a very “old” way of thinking that has no stats/data but what people view as “socially moral” and correct. If a woman speaks about another guy around you so casual and with such high interest, she doesn’t LIKE YOU.
Set borders, dont follow women arround. Else they start to get that you dont have anything going on and youre just waiting to hit on them
You better start bodybuilding 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
that won’t save him 😂😂
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Yeah that'll magically make him handsome, fuck off
i dont get why women do that, i feel like it may be a shit test, because of how common it is, like she is testing you by talking about another guy to see if you will get jealous or something so she knows if you like her or not or something, i know for sure women are very very covert on how they communicate
Might be, but it could also be that they genuinely are a bit socially tone deaf and they didn't mean to cause jealousy; that happens too.
Either way this is a reminder for us women who generally speaking are more comfortable talking about how we feel at the moment, to not do such things esp in front of guys cause it can be disrespectful.
Shit tests don't exist. It's just some cope guys tell themselves when really the girl isn't attracted to them that much
@@keifer7813 they do exist to see how much they can get away with is why women shit test especially after a argument to see if you will still do as they ask
@@justtekina6709 Which only happens once she starts losing attraction to you. If she was really still feeling you, she would be trying to make your life easier, not harder
That was a test for your confidence brotha, girls that are interested in you will always do tests. Like being rude, insulting, or pulling away etc. You must stay emotionally unresponsive to demonstrate high value
No lmao. A girl that genuinely wants you won't do all that. She'll make it incredibly easy for you. This hard-to-get stuff is just cope
@@keifer7813 No I've dated 100s of girls it's always the same. The ones that don't do this will do it at a later point.
@@TheTrueTrinity888 Were you betabuxxing? Just because you dated doesn't necessarily mean there was genuine desire there. You could've been spending on them for some play, idk
I've not dated a lot but when I have had interest, there was zero games, no rudeness, no insults etc. The idea that a girl could genuinely like you and disrespect you to see how you react is some red pill fantasy
Thats why you've dating 100s of girls and not a single one chose to stay with you, you're just entertainment to them to show that they can effect guys and can get a reaction out of you. Women literally know if you're playing aloof or not for the sake of beinv datable in thier eyes
@@DestroAzureDx When 80% of young men are single and most young women are in 'situationships', I'm sure it's not a personal issue.
Bro, if she's not even your type, you shouldn't care about what she thinks. You can tell her not to talk about other dudes if she's hanging out with you, but other than that, it shouldn't affect you unless you do find her somehow attractive. If she says anything about you being jealous, just tell her she's not even your type. Don't play these childish games or tolerate it, if she's not willing to comply, simply move on.
Most men are open to dating most women especially women they hang around with, its a vague willingness and its hard not to notice a contraast in how they treat you vs other men or dudes they find attractive and notice it never happens to you
Women are very shallow when they are in their 20s. Perhaps, you will have better luck if you try again. : )
And men ain't? I've never seen a guy go out their way to date an ugly woman most would rather be single than settle. In my town u only see ugly guys with more attractive girls 😂
"Just settle for ran through women bro!"
Not really even men do this and I’m a guy
@@internet_janitor None of those are worth marrying or having a serious relationship with.
@@ragdull2066 Men get rejected a lot, so you have to keep trying if you want to get married.
It isn't impossible, but it is hard.
One tip is don't waste your time on women who have no interest in you.
Get a new girl bhruh
Have you ever heard of the numbers game? It's completely true for men. Don't fixate too much on one woman who you'd think make the best match and start fantasizing. Most guys go wrong there and waste a bunch of time.
Appearance wise, lose the glasses, wear contacts. Put on some muscle, eat clean foods and enough protein, follow a workout that best suits you. And for the love of god, get a haircut and style it differently, please! I'm not an expert at rating guys' looks, but i can tell you right now that you look like a typical nice guy who lacks boundaries. Hope that helped.
Don't let anyone here delude you into thinking those girls don't think you're hot or worthy of interest, that is exactly what it means, the proof is in the pudding, if they felt the same way about you, you'd know...
Uhhh as a girl I can you for a fact the way he’s treated is the same as gay friend is treated 😂 he’s just too ugly to even register as a potential male
@@HH-xs2gmhe is not that ugly
@@SjakkNxkaka you blind?! Maybe as a female I have different opinions but he is like a 3/10 with perfect body just because his face is so weird
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