fitting in or conforming to stereotypes has never brought anyone any satisfaction. the only reason people do it is by fear of social isolation/exclusion. and i believe there lies nothing but regret on the path of fear. therefore, to whatever extent one decides to mask what they truly want to be/do with what their environment pressures them to be/do will be the same extent to which their life will feel miserable
that's mostly how i view it as well. but if an aspect of someone's self is associated with a stereotype, i don't believe this would be categorized as "conforming to stereotypes." after all, stereotypes shouldn't dictate what you can or can not be. i mention it briefly in the video, but i think the only time conformity brings long-term benefit is when it is intentionally used as a tool to avoid being in harm's way. i've also been thinking recently that some people just don't care or value having a deeper understanding of themselves, so they wouldn't mind conforming/ they don't see it as conforming. i still have a hard time understanding that way of thought though.
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fitting in or conforming to stereotypes has never brought anyone any satisfaction. the only reason people do it is by fear of social isolation/exclusion. and i believe there lies nothing but regret on the path of fear. therefore, to whatever extent one decides to mask what they truly want to be/do with what their environment pressures them to be/do will be the same extent to which their life will feel miserable
that's mostly how i view it as well. but if an aspect of someone's self is associated with a stereotype, i don't believe this would be categorized as "conforming to stereotypes." after all, stereotypes shouldn't dictate what you can or can not be. i mention it briefly in the video, but i think the only time conformity brings long-term benefit is when it is intentionally used as a tool to avoid being in harm's way. i've also been thinking recently that some people just don't care or value having a deeper understanding of themselves, so they wouldn't mind conforming/ they don't see it as conforming. i still have a hard time understanding that way of thought though.
Makes sense, if you behave according to what others like you won't like yourself.