No, she just need to stay away from him the abuser, when you use the term "both " you're either justifying or making excuses for his behavior or trivializing her experience, let's call a spade a spade.
He’s talking fast because he’s anxious. He’s scared that he’s in front of a judge again having to explain himself and that he’s a new father. It does NOT justify anything he’s done to her. She needs to protect herself until he gets the help he needs.
He’s scared because he don’t want Judge Mathis to go off on that *ss. He’s trying to own up to what he did to avoid JM wrath because he already knows. He needs to accept and seek all the help he can get.
@@scottrogue946 that’s a really sad, and cynical way to view mental illness. I definitely think that all of his visits with his child should be supervised, and I don’t think she should even think about getting back into a relationship with him at this time, and probably not ever, however, to just write him off because he suffers from bipolar disorder, which is very treatable, is unfair. There but for the grace of God, all the chemicals in *your* brain are balanced. Psychological disorders can often be traced to physiological disorders, i.e., chemical imbalances, and that is no fault of his own. I just pray that he gets the treatment that he needs.
I'm tearing up to. I feel for him and can identify with this young man because my brother has schizophrenia. I hope he takes advantage of it for his own sake. I was glad JM was patient and offered him help, that touch my heart as well. Makes me wonder what she was thinking about when she knew something was wrong with this man and she has children ..Lord!
I definitely hope he gets the help he needs. I'm glad he was open to Judge Mathis's assistance, and follows through on that. Hope she stays safe and strong for herself and her children.
Aweee they got me ready to cry over here!!! I pray he gets the help he needs!! She spoke so beautifully as a woman and a mother I applaud her. I pray the best for their child
@@honeycolored1809 ignorant has hell. Therapy to address her trauma, how cope with this crazy man due to child, self esteem, etc....but she black I guess she don't deserve that service to better herself.
When she said, "I have never met a man who caused me so much pain." Wheeeeeewww chile, that hit home. He seems troubled and needs help. I hope they can move forward in healing.
@@brucenevils2154 Yeah I hear you man , some things stick down low in us forever until we see something similar to ours and it rises back up.... I'm riding with you man on it.
I became a victim of domestic violence for years because I took my ex illness lightly. I thought I could help him. I almost got killed thinking I could change him. Thank God I made it out.
Me too Toya, I thank GOD everyday. I sometimes beat myself up because I have a very poor choice in men. I sometimes feel bad for my daughters because I chose shit as a dad for them
Life is a learning experience without a manual. As long as we're not repeating the same patterns, we're growing. Congratulations to you for making it through 😊
@@SamuelsReview The OP on this thread is an example of how our ignorance and/or stigma can hurt us individually when dealing with someone who is mentally ill or being someone who is mentally ill. She was very fortunate to recognize that she did not have the tools to deal with phenomena.
No one know the heart. We can only think we do. I try to take people at their word, but that doesn't mean get back with them. I do believe he is asking for help with his disease and for her to forgive him. He sounds like he just wants to see his kid. I don't think he is healthy enough to do that right now, but hopefully he will get the help he needs.
Women need to do a better job of picking men. He says he's been damaged since 14 the signs that you shouldn’t lay down with him were there from the beginning
@@scottrogue946 Yeah, because you can't be positive when someone has been negative to you, right? Let's continue the negative cycle as opposed to being forgiving and doing better by yourself and asking the Lord to forgive. Yes, let's continue to hold onto the negativity so that it can take over our whole being. 🙄🤡
@@kapripetit8633 this I will NEVER understand. A person's true character shows within the first 6 months to 1yr of a relationship. I hope these women realize that a baby will NOT change him. It will only tie you to him forever.
The ending was so touching. He needed her words of encouragement. She spoke life into him and the whole case you could tell he had a lot going on that he wanted to let out.
She sure did speak life into him as the Black Queen she is!!!!! Even though she was abused, she still manage to basically tell him, "King, FIX YOUR CROWN."
Smfh y’all are so CLUELESS! When will y’all get that speaking life into these same bums that kill you every five hrs is useless! Wake the hell up BW! You wonder why you’re constantly losing in relationships! BW are the ones who aren’t married because they REFUSE to take themselves out of what is familiar! You don’t owe the BM no damn loyalty! Sheesh🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
And this is why black women will continue to be abused by these emotionally unstable men… because the community praises the women that continue to coddle them.
@@GemOfJade Exactly I'm not condoning mammy behavior. He isn't a child and admitted he's had issues b4 her. It doesn't make her a queen that she stuck by him and put her life in jeopardy
@@Bih1stOfAll Our lives are put in jeopardy by people with various illnesses. Maybe even moreso by people who have mental illnesses, but don't recognize it.
I actually believed him at the beginning of the case when he apologized, but I would still steer clear of him, even after he gets help. I pray he actually shows up for the Free help Judge Mathis has offered him.
His growth has allowed him to be humbled, listen to sound advice and apply. Hope this is a new consistent pattern within him. He appears genuine. I want him to have an outstanding relationship with his child and IF his anxiety, irrational thinking, and high emotions come to a demise, in prayer they can all be a family again.
9:18 "Mental illness" is really a SPIRITUAL disturbance. This man needs GOD and healthy spiritual guidance. **I cast EVERY demonic, negative energy from the cells of his body and the tissues of his brain. God wrap your healing energy around around this man and make him SPIRITUALLY stable; thereby making him MENTALLY whole. **🙏🏽
What people don’t understand is you can’t love the hate out of somebody. I refuse to date anybody with these types of anger and mental health issues. Being single is so nice 😳😉😩🤦🏾♂️
Exactly Scott! That's how people end up dead. Trying to love the anger out of a person who is unstable. I know that people can change, but I'm not the type to wait for the change.
Part of (if not most of) the reason people may think they can "love the hate out of someone" is the prevalence of stigma and ignorance surrounding mental illness. The brain is part of anatomy just like the heart, lungs, etc. Body parts are prone to illness.
He’s the kinda person we see on fatal attraction. I hope God helps him and it may be done through counseling and medication. He needs to remain single !!
The way he kept putting his finger at the corner of his eye. I was trying to figure out if he was catching a his tears or if it was a mental health sign idk.
Yes, this is sad to watch...I think they are both good people just need help and support. This is a classic example of a good hearted intelligent man who just has to put in that extra work. At least they were respectful to each other in court! Give him the support and he'll be just fine. GOD BLESS BOTH OF THEM.
@@racheldent6138 You need to be quiet. This comment is toxic & abusive. Didn’t the man agree that he needs help? Who are you to put somebody in a “mental ward”? This is why people don’t talk about their mental health concerns openly. Bye.
This is a fatal attraction. He has an emotional disorder and I understand it but JM advice is as good as it’s going to get. Supervised visits and getting this man into treatment.
@@lorylove492 oh no, not at all. She’s the obvious individual of concern. When it comes to the abusers some genuinely don’t care about what they did, don’t want help and ready and willing to do it again. This young man appears to desire the help and is apologetic, genuinely, not just for show. We care about both of them and their paths in life. We’re all human and make mistakes. The question is what are you going to do about correcting it?
My heart breaks for both of them. He needs meds and therapy. Sadly He shouldn’t be around his child at least not now. I appreciate his honesty and apology. This case made me cry.
Yes, I agree with you. Until he demonstrates verifiable signs of healing, neither she nor her child should be around him. Even then, she should proceed with caution.
I know he abused her but I can't help but feeling a lot of compassion for him. He just needs love, lots of it especially for himself. I pray they both heal.
Bipolar is no joke. I have sick people in my family. I'll never forget the day my brother almost strangled me to death. They won't take their meds after a while and become dangerous. In the end he gave up and chose suicide. Run Baby Girl, RUN! Please.
Right!! “It cost a lot” that was sweet! That’s the number one reason why people don’t get help, med management and counseling takes so much you can’t just walk in and get what you need
This is a tough one to watch. I def felt this man's pain, appreciated his honesty and hope he gets the thorough help needed to be productive in both society and his children's life. I also hope the mother finds it within herself to continue to heal from the decisions that kept her attached to him and levels up from here on out ✨
She shouldn’t have let a guy who Clearly shows sign of impulsiveness, bi polar & physical aggression, get her pregnant. But some of these women always think they can change and help A man . I hope both of them bounce back & dude gets help
How she keeps her head down. I see myself when I was in an extremely abusive relationship in her. I wish the absolute best for her, and for her to stay away from him.
3rd. Sis make sure you get that retraining order and have family and friends with you all the time. Get supervise visits, Co parent and child support!!!
He suffers from a mental health issue(s), but not necessarily narcissism. Please stop using that diagnosis as a catchall for every mental health issue.
This was one of my favorite episodes. I love to see the Judge recognize a issue and show compassion. I just knew he was going to light into him about the abuse.
I had a EX with anxiety, codependency, and insecurities like this guy. But those were RED Flags for me. We broke up. NO KIDS TOGETHER either. Women & Men, You do not NEED to have children with a partner that has these type of issues. I say "need" because contraceptive have been around since the 1950's. So, no excuses! Every person needs to help themselves before they date anyone. Her story is one of too many..
Tears actually started coming out my eyes, these two are each such beautiful people . They both deserve so much healing and so much love and so much happiness. I’m so happy JM is going to help this young man.
If the plaintiff ever happens to see this video and read the comments, I’m so glad you’re being supportive of this man but you need to protect yourself because this still doesn’t feel safe. You deserve real love. Real love doesn’t hurt. I hope he gets help.
Awww my heart melted all throughout this segment. His honesty shattered my heart into pieces. And her body language and encouraging words for him at the end, made me lose it, to the point I cried real ass grown man tears haha. Funny but seriously, hoping he takes the help given by Judge Mathis. Episodes like this, makes me LOVE judge Mathis although e can sometimes be such a hot head 🫣🤣😅
It's amazing how all a person had to do is talk a good game and people automatically think they've changed. Leave these unstable people alone. Kudos if they actually do change, but don't sit around waiting for the change.
I completely agree with you; I think the difference is that most people don’t interact with or work with people like this and so they don’t recognize it as a game. I’ve worked in populations with some of the same issues and you are absolutely right that it is a game. More often than not. It’s a lie from them and an attempt at manipulation. They’re not interested in being accountable, getting help, or doing better, they just want access to people. I don’t believe he’s sincere at all.
This case was very emotional. She really tried with him, but he needs professional help. I hope he really accepts the help from Judge Mathis in order to better himself, so he can be there for his child. He doesn't know it, but he is not ready to be in a relationship with anyone, until he takes care of his mental health.
The way he rolled his eyes when she was talking about a very traumatic experience that HE caused and then again when she saying that she hoped he got the help he deserved made me look at him sideways.
The problem I have with this case and hundreds like it is why do these young ladies rush to get pregnant before they really get to know who they're mixing their genes with. Love doesn't solve all problems.
She needs therapy herself. Abuse and the kidnapping can forever be traumatizing. I know first hand. It took forever for me to regain my strength back after the abuse. It alters your entire mindset, for the worst!!! Please get help beautiful!
@@ebonylaw9607 it read all over her. She's still afraid of him and that's the scariest part. I say that because if he goes to her with the right words and sweet nothings, she'll go right back. And it'll be worse the next go around 🥺
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This is heartwrenching. I feel for her and she should protect herself, and I feel for him because you can hear the anxiety in his muffled fast speech. I pray for both of them and their mental health too
She had a baby with this unstable man? With that being said, he needs to be in inpatient care and on meds, not dealing with the pressure of being a father.
I hope she has learned her lesson while she’s young and doesn’t continue to date this type of man-child. I feel sorry for her because there is definitely something lacking in her self esteem to tolerate his behavior and she had a baby by him. She needs to ask herself why, she knew who he was before she had his child.
I hope if she ever dates he doesn’t come after her or the new man. The defendant seems super unstable. I wish mental health therapy was available for free or at much lower costs for people who really want & need the help.
@@SamuelsReview There is self and family-referral. Even well-trained law enforcement officers, etc. I'm in California and can't speak for every state, but from my experience, it's true in many major cities in other areas.
@@sereneamani1713 In California, a person can enter a facility for free counseling without being referred by a 3rd party? I'm in GA and they require a referral.
He wants to see his child but left off the fact that he's been refusing to do that unless she's also involved with him. He still is very much manipulative and controlling...imo
I respect her for showing him its about himself as well I am goin through the same thing with my daughters father, only sometimes if we would just look at the red flags in the moments and see what they are now l have to do it both ways mommy and daddy, I know it get better but for now it's not easy the fear of the whole situation
Wonderful comments about this particular episode. Number one , this woman is extremely traumatized and still in fear while on the other hand she’s hoping that her ex receives the help he needs to become the father and man he needs to be for himself. Secondly he still desires to be in a relationship with her in order to be the father he needs to be for his child when that probably will never work. In this particular case and in every situation in life therapy is definitely needed but the power of prayer trumps everything . Only God can protect this young lady, heal this young man and stop the negative generational traits from being transfers to the son. It’s time to lift this family up in prayer for real.
I can see his heart he’s genuinely sorry and ashamed for what he’s done seems he’s had an eye opener, if God can forgive so can we no judgment, I pray he gets all the help he needs and I pray she continues to heal , we are all human and make mistakes but our Heavenly Father still loves us 🙏🏽🙌🏾
He definitely Still got Som going on in his head Chi Coparent leave his behind Alone he ain't seeming to do or get no better he needs some serious help
Whew this reminds me of my sons dad. He physically assaulted me once. Every other incident was torment. I was terrified of him... He use to damage everything we had. Kicked in doors, punch doors off the hinges, steal my car keys, etc. He was very damaged. It took me a while to get away. Glad I got away. It was very hard to coparent.
I pray for her...healing & serenity. I pray the child is and grows up healthy mentally & emotionally. I pray for him..that gets help for his mental/emotional health issues & that he becomes a self sufficient human being & father. 🙏🏾
@@mesee8858 please don't tell me how to state my " OPINION" I can only speak about the community that I come from ..we all know there are " so many men" have a blessed day
N A you are absolutely correct. My heart breaks for some of our blk boys. The way I've seen some "mothers" talk/treat their sons, almost like they're dog on the street, is heartbreaking. Fathers walking out on the family. No wonder why too many grow up damaged. Parents create these Frankensteins with their absence or destructive words, then when they become mentally unstable or destructive, we throw them away. I thank God for the many good parents out there, but these kids growing up in unstable, broken homes I worry about. Keep them in your prayers.
She definitely wears her vulnerability & till she can hide that , she is definitely gonna keep getting gaslighted by him . Bless her heart. Women need male GENUINE FRIENDS like I do & a brother who teaches me what to look for .
He talks too fast because he doesn’t digest anything when he’s being held accountable. He hears excuses and uses them. I’m thinking maybe schizophrenic
I didn't hear him make any excuses and he seemed to digest everything that was happening but his anxiety flairs because of his emotions and insecurities
She should never ever go back to him but i do appreciate him acknowledging he needs help and wanting help. Because most blk men would never get help even knowing they need it.
She's very nice you can tell... Good energy.... He's got issues but he owns up to them and that is the first step.... I pray if nothing else healing takes place so their child can come first and he can become the father he does deserve to be..
She fears him you can see it in her face I feel so sad for her please stay away from him you will be blessed abundantly and above all May GOD protect you sweetheart
This is definitely what i'm dealing with. Met my last ex on social media he moved in due to me being traumatized from a robbery 2months of meeting him. Early March I told him he needs to go home. He started beating me stole money from me months. I was extremely afraid of him. Was so much to deal with. Stole my phone daughter tablet my laptop omg ive never been through so much pain before. Not knowing he's a bandit thought he loved me now im having nightmares cuz the last encountered he choked me robbed me too much. Hope 1 day my daughter an I heal from this
Women!!!! Despite what your Society, or mom, grandmother, auntie or female cousin has told you It’s not your job as a woman to FIX a man. He should not be a project for you. It’s not your job to save him, or to wait in the wings while he “gets himself together”… You deserve better!
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They both need aftercare. This was an extremely delicate case. Mental health help is so important.
Agreed
I feel we need more mental health hospitals in care and out care treatment
I agree, Gevia is my cousin, and she has her own demons she’s fighting. I’m glad she’s away from him.
I strongly agree
No, she just need to stay away from him the abuser, when you use the term "both " you're either justifying or making excuses for his behavior or trivializing her experience, let's call a spade a spade.
I feel bad for both of them.. she’s scared and he’s suffering. I pray he gets the help he needs 🙏🏽
Me too. I'm nearly in tears. I wish them both healing.
@@Tamisha7 facts. I did cry
Facts
He’s talking fast because he’s anxious. He’s scared that he’s in front of a judge again having to explain himself and that he’s a new father. It does NOT justify anything he’s done to her. She needs to protect herself until he gets the help he needs.
I’m sad for both of them
He’s scared because he don’t want Judge Mathis to go off on that *ss. He’s trying to own up to what he did to avoid JM wrath because he already knows. He needs to accept and seek all the help he can get.
Honestly I think she should get full custody and leave him alone. He can’t possibly be reformed and be a good father. He is nuts 😳
@@shannaholmes833 and he doing it looks like he trying
@@scottrogue946 that’s a really sad, and cynical way to view mental illness. I definitely think that all of his visits with his child should be supervised, and I don’t think she should even think about getting back into a relationship with him at this time, and probably not ever, however, to just write him off because he suffers from bipolar disorder, which is very treatable, is unfair. There but for the grace of God, all the chemicals in *your* brain are balanced. Psychological disorders can often be traced to physiological disorders, i.e., chemical imbalances, and that is no fault of his own. I just pray that he gets the treatment that he needs.
This case brought tears to my eyes. The brother needs help for his mental health and I'm happy he's accepting it.
I'm tearing up to. I feel for him and can identify with this young man because my brother has schizophrenia. I hope he takes advantage of it for his own sake. I was glad JM was patient and offered him help, that touch my heart as well. Makes me wonder what she was thinking about when she knew something was wrong with this man and she has children ..Lord!
My water works kicked in he seems like he is a good guy but mental illnesses kicks in and try’s to control a person prayers for both ends
I thought I was the only one
She terrified of him. I pray she heals as well.
Right. I am a therapist and I wish I could offer treatment
I definitely hope he gets the help he needs. I'm glad he was open to Judge Mathis's assistance, and follows through on that. Hope she stays safe and strong for herself and her children.
Ditto!
I really pray he does, Hurt people hurt the people around them, brother almost made me cry he so broken
Me too. I actually feel for men like him
Amen and me too!!
She really took him to court to get him some help😢
Aweee they got me ready to cry over here!!! I pray he gets the help he needs!! She spoke so beautifully as a woman and a mother I applaud her. I pray the best for their child
I feel sorry for this woman! She seems genuinely sad and afraid. She needs therapy.
She dose not need therapy, as long as she learned from this she move on! Life lessons!
She will need therapy
She also needs self defense class along with gun shooting classes and safety.
@@honeycolored1809 ignorant has hell. Therapy to address her trauma, how cope with this crazy man due to child, self esteem, etc....but she black I guess she don't deserve that service to better herself.
She chose this by choosing to have a baby by an unstable man.
When she said, "I have never met a man who caused me so much pain." Wheeeeeewww chile, that hit home. He seems troubled and needs help. I hope they can move forward in healing.
This case brought me back to my mom's second marriage and I cried. I still carry the scars to remind me So I understand this case a little too much.
@@brucenevils2154 Yeah I hear you man , some things stick down low in us forever until we see something similar to ours and it rises back up.... I'm riding with you man on it.
@@darrylperry9798 thanks for the kind words and understanding
@@brucenevils2154 Aw man no problem I understand what you mean.
@@brucenevils2154 I feel you! Trauma can affect you for the rest of your life.
I became a victim of domestic violence for years because I took my ex illness lightly. I thought I could help him. I almost got killed thinking I could change him. Thank God I made it out.
Same! I’m glad you made it out queen!
Me too Toya, I thank GOD everyday. I sometimes beat myself up because I have a very poor choice in men. I sometimes feel bad for my daughters because I chose shit as a dad for them
Life is a learning experience without a manual. As long as we're not repeating the same patterns, we're growing. Congratulations to you for making it through 😊
Same I thank god you made it out as well
@@SamuelsReview The OP on this thread is an example of how our ignorance and/or stigma can hurt us individually when dealing with someone who is mentally ill or being someone who is mentally ill. She was very fortunate to recognize that she did not have the tools to deal with phenomena.
That apology could be to try to get back with her later. Abusers are manipulative and even use tears
Yeah, I didn’t find it genuine either. He don’t know any other way to be.
I agree but he needs help. Sucks that people have these mental issues
She needs to focus on herself and her child, he needs to sort out his issues.
No one know the heart. We can only think we do. I try to take people at their word, but that doesn't mean get back with them. I do believe he is asking for help with his disease and for her to forgive him. He sounds like he just wants to see his kid. I don't think he is healthy enough to do that right now, but hopefully he will get the help he needs.
AMEN
This is serious. Women are murdered every day by men just like him. I pray that this young lady and her child remain safe.
Both ways
@@blacktowken1232 not equally though, not even close. Women are in much more danger from men than the other way around
Every hour. Hope they both heal.
@@blacktowken1232 Here comes the "not just women" crowd 🙄
Women need to do a better job of picking men. He says he's been damaged since 14 the signs that you shouldn’t lay down with him were there from the beginning
She has to let this man go. His issues seems deep rooted. I see manipulation and violence in his aura.
Right. His energy scares me.
Read my aura Papa Legba's Son 👀
I hate the fact she “spoke life” into him at the end. He held you captive m’am 😳
Right!!!!!!!!!!!!! If she go back she might not make it
@@scottrogue946 Yeah, because you can't be positive when someone has been negative to you, right? Let's continue the negative cycle as opposed to being forgiving and doing better by yourself and asking the Lord to forgive.
Yes, let's continue to hold onto the negativity so that it can take over our whole being. 🙄🤡
One thing abusers always have is a girlfriend, you don’t ever hear them complain about being lonely.
Wow! I never thought about that. You are right
Never.. and they keep a line up..
Great, but sad point.
That’s bcuz most abusive ppl scope out ppl they know they can belittle or take advantage of
@@kimberlysimon7927 I just don’t understand how they can get so many women attracted to them, like initially attracted to them
She is so scared of him. I feel so bad for her and I hope she gets therapy
HIM AS WELL
yes, but seen all the red flags and still end up having a child by him smh
@@kapripetit8633 this I will NEVER understand. A person's true character shows within the first 6 months to 1yr of a relationship. I hope these women realize that a baby will NOT change him. It will only tie you to him forever.
I agree with therapy but after she leaves the state. He is crazy.
@@MikaelaSimone certified
The ending was so touching. He needed her words of encouragement. She spoke life into him and the whole case you could tell he had a lot going on that he wanted to let out.
She sure did speak life into him as the Black Queen she is!!!!! Even though she was abused, she still manage to basically tell him, "King, FIX YOUR CROWN."
Smfh y’all are so CLUELESS! When will y’all get that speaking life into these same bums that kill you every five hrs is useless! Wake the hell up BW! You wonder why you’re constantly losing in relationships! BW are the ones who aren’t married because they REFUSE to take themselves out of what is familiar! You don’t owe the BM no damn loyalty! Sheesh🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
And this is why black women will continue to be abused by these emotionally unstable men… because the community praises the women that continue to coddle them.
@@GemOfJade Exactly I'm not condoning mammy behavior. He isn't a child and admitted he's had issues b4 her. It doesn't make her a queen that she stuck by him and put her life in jeopardy
@@Bih1stOfAll Our lives are put in jeopardy by people with various illnesses. Maybe even moreso by people who have mental illnesses, but don't recognize it.
I actually believed him at the beginning of the case when he apologized, but I would still steer clear of him, even after he gets help. I pray he actually shows up for the Free help Judge Mathis has offered him.
She need to stay away from him he's trouble and very dangerous run run run as fast as you can
@@racheldent6138 so true 🏃🏾♀️
His growth has allowed him to be humbled, listen to sound advice and apply. Hope this is a new consistent pattern within him. He appears genuine. I want him to have an outstanding relationship with his child and IF his anxiety, irrational thinking, and high emotions come to a demise, in prayer they can all be a family again.
Amen
AMEN!! 🙏🏽
Amen
9:18 "Mental illness" is really a SPIRITUAL disturbance.
This man needs GOD and healthy spiritual guidance.
**I cast EVERY demonic, negative energy from the cells of his body and the tissues of his brain. God wrap your healing energy around around this man and make him SPIRITUALLY stable; thereby making him MENTALLY whole. **🙏🏽
In Jesus name Amen.
She needs to stay away from him and be weary of him because he is unstable and dangerous
What people don’t understand is you can’t love the hate out of somebody. I refuse to date anybody with these types of anger and mental health issues. Being single is so nice 😳😉😩🤦🏾♂️
I wish I knew
Exactly Scott! That's how people end up dead. Trying to love the anger out of a person who is unstable. I know that people can change, but I'm not the type to wait for the change.
Part of (if not most of) the reason people may think they can "love the hate out of someone" is the prevalence of stigma and ignorance surrounding mental illness. The brain is part of anatomy just like the heart, lungs, etc. Body parts are prone to illness.
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
He’s the kinda person we see on fatal attraction. I hope God helps him and it may be done through counseling and medication. He needs to remain single !!
I'm surprised he doesn't have an extensive prison record, he seems unhinged.
I think he should be locked up for life. You can see in his eyes there are no redeeming qualities
Exactly
The way he kept putting his finger at the corner of his eye. I was trying to figure out if he was catching a his tears or if it was a mental health sign idk.
@@CookingwithCj319 😒
I feel sad for them both. I hope they can get the help they need, I can tell he really does need support mentally & emotionally & he wants to try. 💛
Yes, this is sad to watch...I think they are both good people just need help and support. This is a classic example of a good hearted intelligent man who just has to put in that extra work. At least they were respectful to each other in court! Give him the support and he'll be just fine. GOD BLESS BOTH OF THEM.
He need to be in a mental health ward he's a toxic abusive man
@@racheldent6138 You need to be quiet. This comment is toxic & abusive. Didn’t the man agree that he needs help? Who are you to put somebody in a “mental ward”? This is why people don’t talk about their mental health concerns openly. Bye.
I’m glad he’s getting the help he needs because I can tell he really needs it. I believe he wants to be a better person. We all should have that goal.
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This is a fatal attraction. He has an emotional disorder and I understand it but JM advice is as good as it’s going to get. Supervised visits and getting this man into treatment.
That’s the first thing that came to mind when he said “I was scared to give her space”.
Run lady runj
He gave her hell, I can tell, and his only concern is getting back with her not his child, he needs the help asap..
Seriously.
He’s about to make me cry. I believe he’s sincere he just needs the true help. 🙏🏾
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they both do
So it's fuck the abused woman I guess lmao
@@lorylove492 oh no, not at all. She’s the obvious individual of concern. When it comes to the abusers some genuinely don’t care about what they did, don’t want help and ready and willing to do it again. This young man appears to desire the help and is apologetic, genuinely, not just for show. We care about both of them and their paths in life. We’re all human and make mistakes. The question is what are you going to do about correcting it?
My heart breaks for both of them. He needs meds and therapy. Sadly He shouldn’t be around his child at least not now. I appreciate his honesty and apology. This case made me cry.
Yes, I agree with you. Until he demonstrates verifiable signs of healing, neither she nor her child should be around him. Even then, she should proceed with caution.
Not good for her to be around him
I know he abused her but I can't help but feeling a lot of compassion for him. He just needs love, lots of it especially for himself. I pray they both heal.
he needs medication....dude is bi polar
Bipolar is no joke. I have sick people in my family. I'll never forget the day my brother almost strangled me to death. They won't take their meds after a while and become dangerous. In the end he gave up and chose suicide. Run Baby Girl, RUN! Please.
He needs to be locked away before he kills her or someone else
I hope she gets her son & run for her life!!! 🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
I was tickled when he asked if JM was going to pay for the treatment. I’m rooting for him to get the help he needs. Prayers for them both.
Right!! “It cost a lot” that was sweet! That’s the number one reason why people don’t get help, med management and counseling takes so much you can’t just walk in and get what you need
@@justhereyeah1112 so true!! It is not cheap by no means. It was sweet! Lol
go home with your praers, ths people do need help
"I'm not perfect."
That's the 1st sentence in the "I ain't shit" handbook.
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This is a tough one to watch. I def felt this man's pain, appreciated his honesty and hope he gets the thorough help needed to be productive in both society and his children's life. I also hope the mother finds it within herself to continue to heal from the decisions that kept her attached to him and levels up from here on out ✨
She shouldn’t have let a guy who
Clearly shows sign of impulsiveness, bi polar & physical aggression, get her pregnant. But some of these women always think they can change and help
A man . I hope both of them bounce back & dude gets help
Yes!!
@@rickybobbydastar6534 Agreed.
@@rickybobbydastar6534 She possibly is in this situation because of her emotional challenges. The issue is pervasive in this country.
@@sereneamani1713 oh emotional challenges I like that . Another “term” for not thinking and no accountability for her own actions
How she keeps her head down. I see myself when I was in an extremely abusive relationship in her. I wish the absolute best for her, and for her to stay away from him.
3rd. Sis make sure you get that retraining order and have family and friends with you all the time. Get supervise visits, Co parent and child support!!!
Don’t take him back . He is not sorry boo he’s a narcissist they are never sorry even if they say it!
He suffers from a mental health issue(s), but not necessarily narcissism. Please stop using that diagnosis as a catchall for every mental health issue.
Notice how he was dodging the questions about his treatment.
She should definitely not take him back but at least he's seeking help she needs to monitor that child and stay protected
With tears and snot.. keep it pushing. And keep your child safe.
This was one of my favorite episodes. I love to see the Judge recognize a issue and show compassion. I just knew he was going to light into him about the abuse.
So you telling me She didn’t see him as a red flag 🚩 from day freaking One?!!! Cmon now… at some point you gotta know your worth !! Lord smh
No they wear masks until they don’t
I had a EX with anxiety, codependency, and insecurities like this guy. But those were RED Flags for me. We broke up. NO KIDS TOGETHER either.
Women & Men,
You do not NEED to have children with a partner that has these type of issues. I say "need" because contraceptive have been around since the 1950's. So, no excuses!
Every person needs to help themselves before they date anyone.
Her story is one of too many..
Amen
Your advice is total rubbish. You should advise them to keep away from people like him.
Yes one of too many , luckily she lived to tell it.
Thank God you didn't have a kid. Blessings.
This falls on deaf ears.
I like the way this ended.
They both seem like good people.
I'm praying for the HAPPIEST of times for them all.
Great case and great outcome. If people were more loving and understanding this would be a beautiful thing.
SO TRUE!
Almost made me cry! I know so many men like him. They drink and do drugs to cope. I empathize with both parties. It’s a sad situation.
I love this episode … Prayers to them
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Tears actually started coming out my eyes, these two are each such beautiful people . They both deserve so much healing and so much love and so much happiness. I’m so happy JM is going to help this young man.
If the plaintiff ever happens to see this video and read the comments, I’m so glad you’re being supportive of this man but you need to protect yourself because this still doesn’t feel safe. You deserve real love. Real love doesn’t hurt. I hope he gets help.
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Awww my heart melted all throughout this segment. His honesty shattered my heart into pieces. And her body language and encouraging words for him at the end, made me lose it, to the point I cried real ass grown man tears haha. Funny but seriously, hoping he takes the help given by Judge Mathis. Episodes like this, makes me LOVE judge Mathis although e can sometimes be such a hot head 🫣🤣😅
No shame in tears sweetie. JM actually gained some cool points on this one cause sometimes he can be a butt. 😉
Thank you for being transparent and commenting, King. Glad to see men like you in the comments 💟
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It's amazing how all a person had to do is talk a good game and people automatically think they've changed. Leave these unstable people alone. Kudos if they actually do change, but don't sit around waiting for the change.
There's no game in him he's sick and he can only say how he feels... She knows now to stay away from him until he gets his head together.
I completely agree with you; I think the difference is that most people don’t interact with or work with people like this and so they don’t recognize it as a game. I’ve worked in populations with some of the same issues and you are absolutely right that it is a game. More often than not. It’s a lie from them and an attempt at manipulation. They’re not interested in being accountable, getting help, or doing better, they just want access to people. I don’t believe he’s sincere at all.
She was very descriptive and on point about everything....he knows he was WRONG!
I love you Judge Mathis. This man is broken and you have given him a chance to heal
I'm afraid for her🙏🏾I hope he gets help and there should ALWAYS be supervised visits perhaps even police escort.....smdh
Unfortunately, it is at this point where what you suggest is needed.
He look crazy , my daughter couldnt bring him to me
Right! I saw 'red flags' the minute i looked at him, not to mention when he opened his mouth.
He needs help
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He is crazy as hell
This case was very emotional. She really tried with him, but he needs professional help. I hope he really accepts the help from Judge Mathis in order to better himself, so he can be there for his child. He doesn't know it, but he is not ready to be in a relationship with anyone, until he takes care of his mental health.
The way he rolled his eyes when she was talking about a very traumatic experience that HE caused and then again when she saying that she hoped he got the help he deserved made me look at him sideways.
The problem I have with this case and hundreds like it is why do these young ladies rush to get pregnant before they really get to know who they're mixing their genes with. Love doesn't solve all problems.
EXACTLY!!!!
She needs therapy herself. Abuse and the kidnapping can forever be traumatizing. I know first hand. It took forever for me to regain my strength back after the abuse. It alters your entire mindset, for the worst!!! Please get help beautiful!
Yes! Her body language when he was speaking to her at the end said A LOT!
@@ebonylaw9607 it read all over her. She's still afraid of him and that's the scariest part. I say that because if he goes to her with the right words and sweet nothings, she'll go right back. And it'll be worse the next go around 🥺
This is heartwrenching. I feel for her and she should protect herself, and I feel for him because you can hear the anxiety in his muffled fast speech. I pray for both of them and their mental health too
I can tell by how nervous she was when she saw him, she’s scared. Bless her and her child.
She had a baby with this unstable man? With that being said, he needs to be in inpatient care and on meds, not dealing with the pressure of being a father.
True. She is also unstable and may need meds and outpatient care. Mental illness affects families and communities.
I hope she has learned her lesson while she’s young and doesn’t continue to date this type of man-child. I feel sorry for her because there is definitely something lacking in her self esteem to tolerate his behavior and she had a baby by him. She needs to ask herself why, she knew who he was before she had his child.
When someone shows you who they are, believe it....No Excuses!!!
I hope if she ever dates he doesn’t come after her or the new man. The defendant seems super unstable. I wish mental health therapy was available for free or at much lower costs for people who really want & need the help.
They have programs to help people, but they have to be referred by a school or social worker.
@@SamuelsReview There is self and family-referral. Even well-trained law enforcement officers, etc. I'm in California and can't speak for every state, but from my experience, it's true in many major cities in other areas.
@@sereneamani1713 In California, a person can enter a facility for free counseling without being referred by a 3rd party? I'm in GA and they require a referral.
@@SamuelsReview Interesting. Thank you. I lived in GA for quite a while, but I was not in the mental health field at the time.
He wants to see his child but left off the fact that he's been refusing to do that unless she's also involved with him. He still is very much manipulative and controlling...imo
Manipulative and controlling behavior is a major part of mental illness.
People with Mental health issues sometimes are, wont change over night. With meds and counseling he will be fine.
NO SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE, he is manipulative this is not gonna change
He didn’t want to give her space!!!! Controlling!!!!!
Glad to see Judge Mathis is getting help for him so he can be successful and in his son's life
I respect her for showing him its about himself as well I am goin through the same thing with my daughters father, only sometimes if we would just look at the red flags in the moments and see what they are now l have to do it both ways mommy and daddy, I know it get better but for now it's not easy the fear of the whole situation
Be thoughtful about who you have kids with....
Who you got kids with
A TH-cam argument in the comments.... Nope
Wonderful comments about this particular episode. Number one , this woman is extremely traumatized and still in fear while on the other hand she’s hoping that her ex receives the help he needs to become the father and man he needs to be for himself. Secondly he still desires to be in a relationship with her in order to be the father he needs to be for his child when that probably will never work. In this particular case and in every situation in life therapy is definitely needed but the power of prayer trumps everything . Only God can protect this young lady, heal this young man and stop the negative generational traits from being transfers to the son. It’s time to lift this family up in prayer for real.
My ex was sweet then crazy. Couldn't deal with the crazy anymore. I got out but with scars....
This was so emotional to watch. Prayers sent up for them both. 🙏🏿❤️
So much to unpack here.
She cannot & should not fix him. I feel kinda sorry for him but I was abused and I don’t go around hurting others. God bless them both. 🙏🏾💖
I can see his heart he’s genuinely sorry and ashamed for what he’s done seems he’s had an eye opener, if God can forgive so can we no judgment, I pray he gets all the help he needs and I pray she continues to heal , we are all human and make mistakes but our Heavenly Father still loves us 🙏🏽🙌🏾
He's a controlling narcissist, don't ever go back to this man, he is and looks crazy.
PLEASE stop throwing that diagnosis "narcissist" around". This man has other mental health conditions.
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Preach it Judge!!! I have been saying this for years!
He definitely Still got Som going on in his head Chi Coparent leave his behind Alone he ain't seeming to do or get no better he needs some serious help
Whew this reminds me of my sons dad. He physically assaulted me once. Every other incident was torment. I was terrified of him... He use to damage everything we had. Kicked in doors, punch doors off the hinges, steal my car keys, etc. He was very damaged. It took me a while to get away. Glad I got away. It was very hard to coparent.
What a gorgeous lady inside & out. Prayers for them both & their child 🙏
I pray for her...healing & serenity. I pray the child is and grows up healthy mentally & emotionally. I pray for him..that gets help for his mental/emotional health issues & that he becomes a self sufficient human being & father. 🙏🏾
So many troubled black men out there this truly makes me sad ..I hope he gets the help that it needs to become a better man and father for his child
It’s so many MEN out here! Not just black stop with that narrative! I know a tons of good black men. It’s the one you deal with is the problem…
@@mesee8858 please don't tell me how to state my " OPINION" I can only speak about the community that I come from ..we all know there are " so many men" have a blessed day
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N A you are absolutely correct. My heart breaks for some of our blk boys. The way I've seen some "mothers" talk/treat their sons, almost like they're dog on the street, is heartbreaking. Fathers walking out on the family. No wonder why too many grow up damaged. Parents create these Frankensteins with their absence or destructive words, then when they become mentally unstable or destructive, we throw them away. I thank God for the many good parents out there, but these kids growing up in unstable, broken homes I worry about. Keep them in your prayers.
@@MsArLee1105 I absolutely agree with you it's very sad ! Parents need to do better and put the work in..words stick forever
This case brought tears to my eyes. We as a people need to take mental health/illness more seriously!
She definitely wears her vulnerability & till she can hide that , she is definitely gonna keep getting gaslighted by him . Bless her heart. Women need male GENUINE FRIENDS like I do & a brother who teaches me what to look for .
Is your brother a psychiatrist, psychologist or psychotherapist? This goes beyond just being a bad boyfriend.
@@sereneamani1713 does he have to be one of the two to give advice ??? Y'all people like to argue about anything 🤦🏽♀️😩
That’s huge judge, I love you are helping him man.
This young lady has been through a whole lottttt. And she got to deal with this man for the next 25 years?!??😖😔
25?? No ma'am
naa she gotta deal with this forever
@@kingmontague1926 Hell no she don't. I myself am getting my kid AND myself a cake for when he turns 18 bc that means I'm free too!
@@Bih1stOfAll Regardless of how you feel these people will have to deal with each other for way more than eighteen years
25 uhh hell no more like 18
He talks too fast because he doesn’t digest anything when he’s being held accountable. He hears excuses and uses them. I’m thinking maybe schizophrenic
There is so much to diagnosing specific illnesses. What diagnostic source are you using as a reference?
I didn't hear him make any excuses and he seemed to digest everything that was happening but his anxiety flairs because of his emotions and insecurities
Yep
I’d be scared for him to have my child also. I 🙏🏽 the help helps!
Lord have Mercy on the both of them and their son.
Let him get the help he needs!!
Sad Mental health is real🥺🙏
Love Judge Mathis stepping up for this youngman.
Mathis was definitely on point with this. I’m so glad he pointed these serious issues out🙏🏽
This guy seems....aggressive...😟😟😟😟😟😟🙁 but theirs clearly something going on.
Most dudes from the ghettos of Chicago are aggressive.
How could a.d he not see his mental illness? He is decompensating.
She should never ever go back to him but i do appreciate him acknowledging he needs help and wanting help. Because most blk men would never get help even knowing they need it.
Believe it or not,, mental illness affects men and women of all ethnicities.
She's very nice you can tell... Good energy.... He's got issues but he owns up to them and that is the first step.... I pray if nothing else healing takes place so their child can come first and he can become the father he does deserve to be..
She fears him you can see it in her face I feel so sad for her please stay away from him you will be blessed abundantly and above all May GOD protect you sweetheart
This dude really needs help bad . I mean bad. His only motive is being with her not the child
Father God, help, lead, and protect the both of them, to get the help they need.
Amen.🙏🏽
This is definitely what i'm dealing with. Met my last ex on social media he moved in due to me being traumatized from a robbery 2months of meeting him. Early March I told him he needs to go home. He started beating me stole money from me months. I was extremely afraid of him. Was so much to deal with. Stole my phone daughter tablet my laptop omg ive never been through so much pain before. Not knowing he's a bandit thought he loved me now im having nightmares cuz the last encountered he choked me robbed me too much. Hope 1 day my daughter an I heal from this
Women!!!! Despite what your Society, or mom, grandmother, auntie or female cousin has told you It’s not your job as a woman to FIX a man. He should not be a project for you. It’s not your job to save him, or to wait in the wings while he “gets himself together”… You deserve better!
It is good that he is sorry but don't let that feel him. A changed behavior is the best and only apology you should accept.
Her face is KILLING ME!!!! EVERY TIME HE TALKS SHE FOLDS UP LIKE A LIL 3 YEAR OLD GOT CAUGHT RED HANDED!!!!: I PRAY SHES OK AS OF NOW
Love how Judge Mathis is reaching out to help this young brother.
I wish him the best as he pursues healing.
That's why self love 🖤is important it helps you know your worth and it AVOIDS you dating a the wrong people ijs