How Much Do Looks Matter For Gay Men I The Unfiltered Gay Podcast Ep 18

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  • @DearStraightPeople
    @DearStraightPeople  หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    A huge shoutout to Aiden for joining us on this episode and being so open and vulnerable. Be sure to support him and his amazing skincare brand! Use the code DSP10 for 10% OFF any item or bundle: kissg.co/

  • @hanschan
    @hanschan หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Aiman and Kieran are really entertaining. Catching this podcast regularly because of you 2 🎉

    • @DearStraightPeople
      @DearStraightPeople  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for your kind words! 🎉 Aiman and Kieran will be thrilled to hear that.

  • @BengBhai
    @BengBhai หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I literally laughed out loud when Aiman said "Men are predators" 😂😂 also Aiman has really good points and observations 👏🏻
    Love these series please keep them coming! Love how it's so insightful and entertaining at the same time. These series helps a deeply closeted guy to feel a sense of connection to the wider community! Thanks!

  • @Commentatore-tt1jq
    @Commentatore-tt1jq หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    So many good inputs to build on!
    1. I think that everyone can do something to valorise themselves, both on the exterior side (skincare, haircut, exercise, and dress tidy) and on the internal side (building humor, pursue hobbies, and work on being more welcoming and less judgemental).
    2. I feel there is a survivor bias in terms of what we get exposure to. My assumption is that most common gay places are built for "having fun" (discos, bars, saunas, etc.) attract one kind of audience that may be more oriented in valuing aestethics more, or in general the mindset to which people approach those places has some sort of "performace" expectations. (put it raw: to me it feels like going to supermarket with the intent of buying meat, and having so much choice I can be bitchy about what I want - therefore having a selfcentered and egoistic approach). Maybe we should foster more places that are chiller (shout out to Pelangi and oogachaga!) such as openair movie nights, boardgames communities, sport grops, etc. (if you know any please drop a comment :) ) so that people are not there to "hunt" but have a more laid back type of fun.
    3. About building confidence, it could be a nice start understanding that "we do not have to be liked by everyone" and" we do not have to please anyone". At the same time, when we start working on ourselves and we get to selfappreciate more, that is when the search for external validation disappears.
    4. I believe that even working on ourselves its a privilege, it's a matter of mental energy, consistency, time and money, resources that not everyone has, but there is always somewhere small where to start and little progress may go a long way.
    5. Finally, being attracted to whats "beautiful" its part of our evolution as a spieces. We want "healthy" mating partners, and looks are how our brain subconsciously understands at first glance what could be a "good" partner. At the same time, we are not animals, and we can rationalise that people are not just looks. So, even if it is true that we may want an attractive partner, we can be polite towards people who do not intrest us.
    Can't wait already for next video!

  • @lucasfu6703
    @lucasfu6703 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    “I don’t want to be on a flight where the flight attendants are not cute”. This guy is toxic

    • @xxpatricklauxx
      @xxpatricklauxx 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      this is why flight tickets are getting more and more expensive because hiring models is more costly than the flight itself

    • @downundabrotha
      @downundabrotha 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I mean he said what he said move on 😂

    • @grandpawpaw
      @grandpawpaw 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@downundabrotha someone seems hellbent on defending him, blud, are you maybe kieran's throwaway account? 😂

  • @clbert7460
    @clbert7460 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Looks are important as the first impression…in any world, gay or straight. But that may include your face, your body, your clothing and/or the way a person carries themselves.

  • @jamesquivey1538
    @jamesquivey1538 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You are missing 1 main component to finding someone attractive: Confidence without attitude! You take a guy with good looks and body, but low self esteem and his appeal drops. Take a guy with average looks and a belly, see him walk into the room with good posture and a smile, and he suddenly is more desirable. See a guy walk into the room who is confident, smiles, maybe winks at you as he passes; suddenly you are squirming like a school girl! Everyone will want to be seen with him.

  • @rogeretiennedelacruz3000
    @rogeretiennedelacruz3000 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Aidan is cute. Looks are important as most men are first driven by the physical before the emotional.

  • @markshippo
    @markshippo หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    I love Aiman’s positivity and the guest dashing looks. The other host needs to tone down on his toxicity and sarcasms. It was not necessary and uncool.

    • @rmp20002000
      @rmp20002000 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      It's TH-cam. It's designed that way or you wouldn't watch and engage.

    • @lamma746
      @lamma746 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      KIERAN is a good host. He adds the spice. The two hosts bounce their energy off each other, keeping the guests engaged.

    • @grandpawpaw
      @grandpawpaw 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      @@lamma746 disagree, he's not that great. let's not normalize toxic behavior and pass it off as entertainment

    • @downundabrotha
      @downundabrotha 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      It's not Toxic behaviour it's Queer Truths 😂 iykyk it's not for everyone but it's the sharp wit that exists in our communities

    • @grandpawpaw
      @grandpawpaw 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@downundabrotha dont know what you're on, but you're giving delulu

  • @Kelvin-vq7yp
    @Kelvin-vq7yp 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    "Nothing is expensive" sorry man for a moisturiser, $48 is quite expensive for me.

  • @jmac3327
    @jmac3327 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Sorry to burst your bubble. Looks are utterly important in the straight world as well.

  • @weehiongbek7742
    @weehiongbek7742 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What is the link to buy the skin care products ?

  • @niceguy712
    @niceguy712 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    One thing that yall have that I don't have is hair because I started balding at 19 and now I'm 22 still keeping my hair but my front head is completely bald, if you ask why I didn't shave it off because it's not easy okay, it's like your only key to look good is thrown away by something you can't control
    Ever since my baldness started, I wouldn't dare to meet my family friends cousin because I feel very embarrassed about it, and even worse I didnt go outside for 1.5 years because of it too
    Sorry I feel like I just want to vent my feelings because I get judged every time I try to go outside often and people start to feel creeped out because of how I look it's just so tiring especially in this community which we are very obsessed with looking good
    Sorry and thanks, that's all

    • @chester2875
      @chester2875 หลายเดือนก่อน

      i started having male pattern baldness during ns at 18 and i had to keep a super long fringe to cover the bald spot. went to see dermatologist took propecia and minoxidil and didnt work. i ended up using a hairpiece till now and it has boosted my confidence. If i could turn back time i would have gone for a hair transplant. but i have missed the boat because my baldness is so advanced that hair transplant will not work. also that technology was not available back then. I highly suggest to opt for a hair piece and save for a hair transplant. people who say shave everything and embrace the baldness are just bad advice as it is not affecting them.

    • @niceguy712
      @niceguy712 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@chester2875 how much does hairpiece cost you? Also I don't think I can't save up that much money to get a hair transplant because I have so many commitments already

    • @chester2875
      @chester2875 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@niceguy712 i went for a synthetic one over a human-hair version. i initially went to jean-yip as they had 800 dollar human hair version which is nonsense actually. the salon at plaza sing has zero privacy and they wash your hair with the usual crowd and its quite embarrassing and humiliating. i then went to aderans to get their synthetic hair which is about 5k for a hairpiece currently. they usher you into private rooms and there is lots of privacy and respect. it was 3k-ish about 10 years ago and prices increased with time. but the price differs base on your head size and thickness of hair. my head is quite big and since my baldness is like 80% of my head i had to go for a full head version. if its just a smaller area it is cheaper. they will take a sample of your hair and send it to japan and the hairpiece will be of the same colour and texture as your own hair. it is quite easy to put on as it is clip based and comfortable to wear.

    • @vuhuy4186
      @vuhuy4186 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It might be hard for you to regain your confidence, especially if you've faced a lot of judgment about your appearance during your teenage years. But trust me, being bald isn't as bad as you think. Many hot guys out there are bald, and as you start building your value gradually, you'll also rebuild your confidence. Besides, being bald is actually some people's taste too!

    • @kzm9741
      @kzm9741 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@vuhuy4186many hot guys bald. Bitch pls

  • @lhawangdorji6718
    @lhawangdorji6718 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hilarious! I love it!😂

  • @call2872
    @call2872 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It is a missed opportunity if the program intends to plug the brand but neglects to show the physical products. The impact of brand recognition is not present.

    • @DearStraightPeople
      @DearStraightPeople  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@call2872 We felt like showing brolls of Kissg products would be too hard sell. But you can check them out here: www.kissg.co

  • @jacksonchan4729
    @jacksonchan4729 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Aidan is so handsome and cute ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @bryinasia
    @bryinasia หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Also. Aiman. Help us gurlies out and drop a basic make up tutorial ;D

  • @Shaider-s2x
    @Shaider-s2x 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Looks so important

  • @yeelengcha1790
    @yeelengcha1790 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Aiman, honey, you are good looking…. Kieran’s “hot take” theory…. Heeeelllloooooo… That’s why all the hot guys want to be your friend!

  • @bryinasia
    @bryinasia หลายเดือนก่อน

    "Men are predators" LMFAOAOOOOOO once again, Aiman is such a vibe 🤩🤩 But damn Aiden!! Not leaving the house if you have a breakout?! 😫😫 I know gay culture can be intensely looks-based, but is it that extreme in Singapore? I know you said it's probably more of a 'you' issue, but the fact that something so normal could inhibit your day-to-day life is really... eye opening. YOU'RE ALREADY SUPER GOOD LOOKING DUDE!! A zit isnt going to change that.
    ... But yea, after looking at some of the other comments on this video and on your channel in general, I can kinda see why someone might be afraid to leave the house in Singapore 😭😭 I'm a little shocked at the amount of negativity and judgement floating around in all the videos' comments section. Like what the heck -- is Singapore in real life like this too?!

    • @DearStraightPeople
      @DearStraightPeople  หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and engaging with the video! 😊
      Although we’re based in Singapore, our audience is incredibly diverse, with viewers from all around the world-something reflected in the range of perspectives in our comments section. With such a large and varied audience, it's inevitable that not every comment will be kind, but we strive to keep the space as respectful and supportive as possible.

    • @bryinasia
      @bryinasia หลายเดือนก่อน

      @ oh true that. Idk why i assumed the majority of those comments were from Singapore 🤣🤣 mb

  • @yangtzeling7468
    @yangtzeling7468 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Looks is always the most important.
    Without looks, no one bothers to know you further.
    Looks is something you are born with.
    The best way to deal with non attractiveness is acceptance.
    The sad thing about unattractive people is that some will try to stand out by looking / behaving / dressing just to get attention, without realising that not all attention is positive attention.

  • @lucasfu6703
    @lucasfu6703 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    “When it’s a woman, they care more about financial stability”. What era is this guest from? Such sexism. Gosh.

    • @xxpatricklauxx
      @xxpatricklauxx 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      yeah i never come across any female that ever list financial stability as part of their type. This type of media are just for entertainment la because it is fiction not fact.

  • @mildent31
    @mildent31 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hello aiman hello keiran❤

  • @CertifiedCruella
    @CertifiedCruella 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Singaporean English sounds sooo funny 😅😅😅

  • @alanlee6503
    @alanlee6503 หลายเดือนก่อน

    DSP10 code doesn’t seem to work for me. Help?

    • @DearStraightPeople
      @DearStraightPeople  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hey could you try again? It should be working now 😊

    • @alanlee6503
      @alanlee6503 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @ ok it works now. Placed an order to support.

    • @DearStraightPeople
      @DearStraightPeople  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@alanlee6503Awesome! Thanks for the support and hope you enjoy Kissg 😉

  • @chidiogoorji-oraemesi2245
    @chidiogoorji-oraemesi2245 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    The ozone layer thing is hilarious.
    For those saying Kieran is toxic, he is not he is just realistic. I am considered not beautiful in my country by face and body, so i know, but there are places i go to that i dont want to see an ugly person because there is just something about good-looking people that makes soneone happy and as someone that has been on the bad side of pretty privilege, i think i have a right to say these things.
    I personally dont put in effort with skincare. In fact, i use only coconut oil, and i am okay, but my comfort is what matters.
    Both Kieran and Aiman have their points, which majes the shiw interesting.
    In my country truly in most heterosexual relationships, the wonan just consider financial stability. It is now with the Gen X that it is changing a little, but still 70% are based on the woman consideratiom fir the stability. I know a lot of couples that i have to ask the girl, are you sure but she is like the money will blind her

  • @caedanteng5417
    @caedanteng5417 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Aiman correct there's only lazy people my grandmother said that before. 😂😂

  • @conniec7713
    @conniec7713 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I think Aiden is gorgeous. Whoever is hating on him must have a real butt face. If you were not gay Aiden, I would be beating down your door. But you probably already have enough people chasing you. I wish you all the love, peace, and happiness life can offer. 😘😘😘😘😘💘💘💘💘💘

  • @demo1234-w6l
    @demo1234-w6l หลายเดือนก่อน

    Don't worry your look handsome.

  • @jovimathews
    @jovimathews 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I believe gay person in Singapore make get me as a bf.

  • @Rantvph
    @Rantvph หลายเดือนก่อน

    he is cute for me ^ ^

  • @alvinkoh5556
    @alvinkoh5556 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Because the straight world has more important things to attend to, such as making babies, bringing up children, feed their family, rather than just taking care of the superficial aspects of life.

    • @KainoLo-f5o
      @KainoLo-f5o 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It's the same in both worlds

    • @alvinkoh5556
      @alvinkoh5556 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@KainoLo-f5o sorry, gays can't make babies.

  • @juztina7346
    @juztina7346 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i cant relate to what whatever aiman is saying...lol
    his gay world is definitely not the same

  • @caedanteng5417
    @caedanteng5417 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Looks fades like demin 🤣🤣🤣🤣
    Just do what we can to preserve it time kills our looks as well.

  • @alekzand
    @alekzand หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love Aiman. Kieran you’re cute but b*tc*y - still cute though 😍. Aiden is the most levelheaded and cool one out of the 3. Topic is 👍👍👍.

  • @greensew
    @greensew หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I felt nowadays is more towards Body Shape.
    There's a lot of body shaming in the Gxx community. That is also why so many of them hit the gym.
    Even social media, how often you see good body gxx hang out with the fats....

  • @PulunganHadee
    @PulunganHadee หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Size 🥒 matters than looks

  • @anonymous-dn4iy
    @anonymous-dn4iy 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Why is kieren projecting so much plss ur insecurities are showing

  • @chocolatejellybean2820
    @chocolatejellybean2820 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    How come the guest represents a skincare company but comes in a vest?! so casual and he's representing his business?
    The show is about appearance.

    • @kzm9741
      @kzm9741 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Singlet shorts. Downstairs hawker centre

  • @anonymous-dn4iy
    @anonymous-dn4iy 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Kieren pls stop ure so toxic

  • @WaltDennis-q3j
    @WaltDennis-q3j 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    How about height? In the scene, if you are short, no one notices you.

  • @donde6961
    @donde6961 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I know this is supposed to be light and not everything has to be that deep but damn, Kieran’s vibe is shallow af.

    • @kzm9741
      @kzm9741 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Regina George vibe

    • @anonymous-dn4iy
      @anonymous-dn4iy 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Regina george at least pretty😢

    • @kzm9741
      @kzm9741 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @anonymous-dn4iy yeah if not cannot. How you expect others, will be how ppl expect you.