:( Yes this is such a common theme- and sensitive men often end up directing emotion into a more "acceptable" way such as anger or aggression. But I'm hoping men of the younger generation are able to learn different ways!
I used to let things push my buttons but I have since discovered the amazing power of asking myself "Does this really matter?". And 9 times out of 10, it doesnt. I cant tell you how freeing this has been, now literally nothing gets to me, I can dismiss it all with that one question. Which may sound like I'd become a cold hearted, unfeeling sociopath............not so. I can care about other people, but I no longer see things from a "Transactional" point of view. What I mean by that is, I still aim to do good in the world and to others but I dont expect anything in return. I do something good for someone, they throw it back in my face........It doesnt phase me because I have zero expectations of others, my job is to "Love my neighbour" but Jesus never said ".......And your neighbour should love you in return". The power of "Does this really matter" is immense.
Just got recommended this video... very informative! As someone who's gone through a lot of therapy, I've always struggled in understanding/trying to label what my sensitivity which always made it a struggle to understand why I react they way I do to things. But the way you've explained it is very insightful! I definitely appreciate how you've broken down how it works anecdotally, neurologically but also explaining and giving strategies for the experiencial part of it all
Hello Ro! I'm from the Philippines and there are a lot of malls in our city. I can really relate to what you said because whenever I enter a mall, it seems like I can see and feel everything around. So, I always need a lot of time to recharge after going to the mall. But since my family and I love going to malls, it has been like an exposure therapy to me. Haha! Thank you for your vids and keep em comin!
I grew up from an Asian family as well, recently I realized that maybe my dad sees me as 'emotional dysregulation' but I think I was just expressing emotions without being fierce. Could you do a video about emotions? Especially the ones always being neglected or denied, like anger fear embarrassment etc. Many thanks~
Hi Ro! Just wondering have you ever speed up your video? Coz your speaking sounds much more rush than before, and somehow I personally feel a bit too overwhelmed on this part😅 since your content is about psychology, I wonder if the speed of your talking to your patient is more appropriate. ❤love you
yes it is sped up a little, you're so observaent! will take that into account next time :) but just for any videos that are uploaded and a bit rushed there is a little speed option on the side to slow it down too
I’m sorry but as a highly sensitive person I have to strongly disagree. This is not a ”condition” nor is it something that makes us inherently different from others that forces us to adjust to ”their” world. I have noticed that I’m the emotionally sensitive type and have realised over the years that people, especially those close to me such as my family, find my sensitivities very annoying because i’m very good at detecting their emotions, which are very often unconscious emotions that even they aren’t aware of. Their emotions also tell me a lot about how they really feel about a certain thing or even me which means no matter how hard they try, they’re unable to hide their emotions and sometimes even intentions. This often leads me to try to help them discover their unconscious feelings and motivations to ”help them grow” but it’s often met with strong dislike and even hatred. I’ve even gotten kicked out of my familys home when I was younger due to this. All I tried to do was to help those around me because I truly cared about their growth and emotional wellbeing. We are emotionally sensitive because we deeply care about our enviroment and the people within it. We’re also super invested into the outcomes of whatever we’re involved in. Our superpower is a level of care and compassion many are not capable of. The problem is not directly us, it’s that we’re in an enviroment where our deep care and sensitivities are not wanted nor needed. We live in an age where true deep connections, honest communication and growth is not appreciated If you’re a sensitive person, do not deny your nature. The best way to deal with your enviroment is to be selective over who and what you choose to care about. But you must be absolutely sure to not choose the wrong person or an object to care about. We’re more vunerable than most people, so choose wisely. But once you do so, be free to be yourself
IMO in evolutionary terms surviving past the various high damage and lethal events of the past (the dark ages and before) could mean low emotional sensitivity to those events makes you have a higher survival and fitness potential (ie, you're not struck down by agonizing feelings that stop you gathering food when a terrible plague rolls through your village). Probably what runs counter to that is that we are an adaptive specie, and to be adaptive you have to have sensitivity - you can't be curious without sensitivity, for example. You don't find ways to treat or create vaccinations against plague without curiosity.
Oops forgot to link this is the video about sensory overload! th-cam.com/video/aPknwW8mPAM/w-d-xo.htmlsi=T6s4OLGY5X9KkUA7
Psychology is the branch of natural science is not social science
As a man, being too sentitive is the worst, when society expect you to be a cold and collected guy
:( Yes this is such a common theme- and sensitive men often end up directing emotion into a more "acceptable" way such as anger or aggression. But I'm hoping men of the younger generation are able to learn different ways!
Love your content ❤
Loved this! I'd be interested in videos on attachment styles too
This is a helpful perspective. Thanks for sharing!
I used to let things push my buttons but I have since discovered the amazing power of asking myself "Does this really matter?". And 9 times out of 10, it doesnt. I cant tell you how freeing this has been, now literally nothing gets to me, I can dismiss it all with that one question. Which may sound like I'd become a cold hearted, unfeeling sociopath............not so. I can care about other people, but I no longer see things from a "Transactional" point of view. What I mean by that is, I still aim to do good in the world and to others but I dont expect anything in return. I do something good for someone, they throw it back in my face........It doesnt phase me because I have zero expectations of others, my job is to "Love my neighbour" but Jesus never said ".......And your neighbour should love you in return". The power of "Does this really matter" is immense.
Just got recommended this video... very informative! As someone who's gone through a lot of therapy, I've always struggled in understanding/trying to label what my sensitivity which always made it a struggle to understand why I react they way I do to things. But the way you've explained it is very insightful! I definitely appreciate how you've broken down how it works anecdotally, neurologically but also explaining and giving strategies for the experiencial part of it all
You've made my day! ☺️ I'm so glad it was helpful!
Such an interesting topic , I am looking forward to hear more about it
Hello Ro! I'm from the Philippines and there are a lot of malls in our city. I can really relate to what you said because whenever I enter a mall, it seems like I can see and feel everything around. So, I always need a lot of time to recharge after going to the mall. But since my family and I love going to malls, it has been like an exposure therapy to me. Haha! Thank you for your vids and keep em comin!
I grew up from an Asian family as well, recently I realized that maybe my dad sees me as 'emotional dysregulation' but I think I was just expressing emotions without being fierce. Could you do a video about emotions? Especially the ones always being neglected or denied, like anger fear embarrassment etc. Many thanks~
I dont cry alot otherwise, but when arguing with family if i get too into it and start getting angry my voice shakes n i start crying h8 it 😭😭😭
I 100% can relate to this!! and it's so annoying because you just want to speak clearly. Hang in there!!
Hi Ro! Just wondering have you ever speed up your video? Coz your speaking sounds much more rush than before, and somehow I personally feel a bit too overwhelmed on this part😅 since your content is about psychology, I wonder if the speed of your talking to your patient is more appropriate. ❤love you
yes it is sped up a little, you're so observaent! will take that into account next time :) but just for any videos that are uploaded and a bit rushed there is a little speed option on the side to slow it down too
I’m sorry but as a highly sensitive person I have to strongly disagree.
This is not a ”condition” nor is it something that makes us inherently different from others that forces us to adjust to ”their” world.
I have noticed that I’m the emotionally sensitive type and have realised over the years that people, especially those close to me such as my family, find my sensitivities very annoying because i’m very good at detecting their emotions, which are very often unconscious emotions that even they aren’t aware of. Their emotions also tell me a lot about how they really feel about a certain thing or even me which means no matter how hard they try, they’re unable to hide their emotions and sometimes even intentions.
This often leads me to try to help them discover their unconscious feelings and motivations to ”help them grow” but it’s often met with strong dislike and even hatred. I’ve even gotten kicked out of my familys home when I was younger due to this. All I tried to do was to help those around me because I truly cared about their growth and emotional wellbeing.
We are emotionally sensitive because we deeply care about our enviroment and the people within it. We’re also super invested into the outcomes of whatever we’re involved in. Our superpower is a level of care and compassion many are not capable of.
The problem is not directly us, it’s that we’re in an enviroment where our deep care and sensitivities are not wanted nor needed. We live in an age where true deep connections, honest communication and growth is not appreciated
If you’re a sensitive person, do not deny your nature. The best way to deal with your enviroment is to be selective over who and what you choose to care about. But you must be absolutely sure to not choose the wrong person or an object to care about. We’re more vunerable than most people, so choose wisely. But once you do so, be free to be yourself
IMO in evolutionary terms surviving past the various high damage and lethal events of the past (the dark ages and before) could mean low emotional sensitivity to those events makes you have a higher survival and fitness potential (ie, you're not struck down by agonizing feelings that stop you gathering food when a terrible plague rolls through your village). Probably what runs counter to that is that we are an adaptive specie, and to be adaptive you have to have sensitivity - you can't be curious without sensitivity, for example. You don't find ways to treat or create vaccinations against plague without curiosity.
I'd like to know more about the leaf.