🚩 my patient's biggest mistake when choosing a partner | Part 1

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  • @thepsychdiaries
    @thepsychdiaries  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Recently I've had so many interesting sessions talking about relationships and I thought I'd share some of my reflections. Bit of a new topic so let me know if you like this type of content and also if you have any red flaggy flags in dating! 🚩

    • @Preet-vv3kh
      @Preet-vv3kh 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
      U always have such an amazing concept for psychologically inspired
      #mentalhealthmatters

  • @snowredsnow666
    @snowredsnow666 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Loveee this video its so accurate! Been trying to break this pattern of mine. Instant sparks really often are a red flag and some type of anxiety 🫠 last time it has proven to be a person that activated toxic schemas of the past, making me feel neglected / emotionally abandoned. Now I have a new problem: I feel 0 attraction to 'consistent' guys physically. So idk what now 😅

  • @Abcdefghijklmnoplm
    @Abcdefghijklmnoplm 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I’m a secure and I accept respect, stability and peace. if they don’t bring me peace but chaos then I know this is not what I want.

  • @shalenah
    @shalenah 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    this is such a great and timely video! this is something i learned recently through a somewhat recent friendship breakup. the difference between chemistry and compatibility is something people need to know more about. applying it to future connections, platonic or non-platonic, it makes me excited to experience the beauty and honor that goes into taking the time to get to know someone slowly and letting the connection evolve from there. feels much more secure! (which is great for a person with anxious attachment like myself :) )

    • @thepsychdiaries
      @thepsychdiaries  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This is so beautiful thank you for sharing ♥️

    • @shalenah
      @shalenah 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@thepsychdiaries 🤍

  • @joannepowell8345
    @joannepowell8345 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great information Ro. Love this content 👏

  • @juliaschwartz3207
    @juliaschwartz3207 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You explained this so well thank you so much!

  • @miloevryday
    @miloevryday 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This was really interesting and insightful! Enjoyed learning about schema-activation & the role of our early models of love in our romantic preferences. I'd love to see similar content from you - you seem to also really enjoy them :)

    • @thepsychdiaries
      @thepsychdiaries  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Oh this is so lovely, thank you! They are so fun honestly like I'm having a sit down with some mates and chatting about a cool new model I'm learning about

  • @marcelthiel1
    @marcelthiel1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love this topic! Thank you soooo much for talking about it! ❤

  • @charizarr.d
    @charizarr.d 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great timing, ro! Thanks for the wonderful explanations 😊

  • @taratempleman6864
    @taratempleman6864 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Really enjoyed this video, as always! :)

  • @joelwilliams3115
    @joelwilliams3115 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for this. I struggle to have chemistry with women, it’s good to know it isn’t everything.

    • @lurlinerigney3005
      @lurlinerigney3005 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Omg that videos going to awesome..and thanks for passing your knowledge on to others❤

  • @vibes811
    @vibes811 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well said ❤

  • @albertrabbit185
    @albertrabbit185 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you, psych. Great content. Hope your content n channel will expand!❤ Love you!❤️‍🔥

    • @albertrabbit185
      @albertrabbit185 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I super love this content!

  • @OlegSmirnov-m7y
    @OlegSmirnov-m7y 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That is super accurate.

  • @tatt9191
    @tatt9191 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What an interesting topic! I like it

  • @Abcdefghijklmnoplm
    @Abcdefghijklmnoplm 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great video!

  • @hatse9956
    @hatse9956 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love your videos, give us more ❤

  • @lurlinerigney3005
    @lurlinerigney3005 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks you ....personal truths and clarity is everything. # redflags 🚩

  • @cairosilver2932
    @cairosilver2932 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The schema being something like the romantic connection is reminiscent of a prior trauma bond? But to the person maybe it seems it'll work this time. Is it chemistry or is it a trauma bond asserting itself? To be fair, it can feel like the romance is also going to heal that prior trauma, which in the moment feels like a win-win.

    • @thepsychdiaries
      @thepsychdiaries  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Actually that's so interesting- that maybe the hope that "this time it's going to be different" can make a new but unhealthy partner even more attractive.

  • @sumitpatel9741
    @sumitpatel9741 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey, Really Nice Video! I was wondering if I could Help You Edit Your Videos and Make Highly Engaging Shorts Out Of Them.

  • @rachelaltify
    @rachelaltify 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Did you upload the ‘5 factors of attraction’ video you mentioned? I bet it’s not as cringe as you think!

    • @thepsychdiaries
      @thepsychdiaries  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes well I haven't remembered to make it back on private yet 🙈

    • @rachelaltify
      @rachelaltify 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@thepsychdiaries I just watched it and the intro and outro are adorable! Lots of people love the good old Aussie accent :) And the research and referencing was really good (I am an Australian psych honours student - so I may be a bit biased). I reckon you should leave it up, it's bonza!

  • @减肥舞
    @减肥舞 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @Baummann1
    @Baummann1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Respectfully, I think your point at 12:45 is a little bit short-sighted. Our ancestors have reproduced for billions of years, and the vast majority of humans today can raise children that can raise children etc. I’m not sure if maybe you’re a bit skewed due to the nature of your work and seeing people who have problems with relationships (and consequently ultimately problems with successfully raising children), but in an evolutionary sense, these peoples’ issues wouldn’t carry on into the gene pool anyway, and that would be the end of that.
    It is an absolutely fundamental part of our genetic makeup that we will find compatible people (without thinking about it much) to reproduce with, and while some people will have issues with this (because of various reasons like child-parent relationships and other reasons you outlined), most of us will get along just fine.
    Essentially, what I’m saying is evolution would take care of these things one way or another anyway, or else we wouldn’t be here in the first place.
    However, I’m not at all invalidating your job, quite to the contrary, I believe your work extends the proportion of people who can successfully raise children, which is wonderful for humans, because with knowledge and science we can overcome many previous barriers to leading healthy and enthusiastic lives.