In 17 years I lived with him...I always knew that there were lots of things that we're right about him...I was naive and couldn't know what's going on as he seemed polite....very polite, humble, religiously,calm..the list just goes on...but with time that mask fell off for Best.,..and booom! His true Colors...and a real Person behind his Tightened Mask appeared! I dated, married and bore three kids....just with a Purely Covert Narcissist!!😭😭😭 Thank you brother Benjamin because through your teachings...I'm slowly recovering after I vermuse/ after I left last year 🙏 Jah bless you Eternally
@@catherinenaswa5028 Imagine the freedom of being out of a tight claws of a human demon. I wish to hear you story, I wish to share my story. Many people are not aware of narcissism and our society of pray it will get better, is not helping us at all.Narcissist is not curable
Left such after 11yrs...with 1son...am at peace...all my friends to him were bad,my bosses,the church...timing to be at home...yet he slept out of home for days....no money for anything....but I thank God I took that bold step ... God has healed me and my son was affected when he abused me in front him..called me names..my son would stand inbtwn us and tell him ...dont touch my mom...but today my son tells me mom God has been good to us and will continue blessing us....he is only 12yrs and he encourages me each day...
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 nothing else to add! You just described my ex-husband in this video. The relationship destroyed me. I am still recovering and I am deeply hurt in my soul. He was so insecure, envious, jealous and taking pictures of others men shoes and outfits when we go out. This man were a charming and nice man at the beginning, than he transformed to be the devil himself. I never wish this kind of man in anybody else’s life.
If we can get at least five people like you.Africa would been on a different level.thanks zulu may God keep you to open eyes of more girls.I'm now 24yrs but I'm blessed to hear these words .much love from uganda
Preach deeper man of God actually I personally say that you alone in Africa deserve a special name You have done me well Benja mungu akubariki Sana Love from your neighborhood country Uganda
At some point I just feel people are much better alone than in these relationships... I want to take that risk of just being me by myself against this world. I came alone to this world and so will I leave.
Waw ! Listening to this and almost tearing up thinking about what a great man I have in my husband of 9 years ,who is the opposite of what's being described .
This massage was meant for me because I've been experiencing all that was said by Zulu😱😢 I got pregnant when I was 23 then got married for 18yrs to the devil 😈but now I thank God that I'm free from him permanently
@@ntsakophuzi3209 true, Dr. Ramani has been a blessing to me the past year.....I could barely move, I started with crawling back to norm, I'm walking now, I believe I'll be running soon.
I'm so glad that you have taken your time to talk about these devil's ...most people don't know the pain these devil's cause... I am a victim of covert narcissistic abuse and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy...they invalidate your entire existence....
1. Controlling 2. Dual personality 3. Blackmail-silent treatment/no sorry 4. Stalking/spying 5. Emotional insensitivity/immaturity - basic things about 6. They are date young
I am kind of alarmed that I actually dated two devils in the past without having known in the beginning. I am grateful for God`s grace upon my life that I walked away and am now in a loving relationship with a God fearing man.
Benjamin you are talking to me,Lived with one for 10 years who put me through hell.My face paralyzed on the left side due to accumulated stress.Good thing is, we are now separated and am so happy and peaceful with my 2 lovely kids.I have gone through most of the things you mentioned
So true, I was working under this lady who was a narcissist and she did all sorts of things to torture me. Then afterwards, used the 'I'm an orphan card. And if you hurt an orphan God will fight you ' I was so stressed I even fainted in her office one day. Lord😱
My ex used to cook for himself even after cooking to him, sometimes coming home late, from playing dat and pool , pheeew in public he used to smile alot but being home he's real devil We separated and now am happy tho am single
Benjamin you hit the nail on the head.I've listened to you quite a number of times,your simply Awesome! Thank you for making yourself available for the Masters use,on earth and in heaven he shall reward You mightily.Greetings from Nigeria. Your highly loved.
You're right benjamin when talking about orphans. I had one i promised myself to help him to meet his goals.. but!! oooh my God... he was exactly like you are describing them. After a year all his characters shown up. I couldn't hold any more!!!. He started saying he will worship devil untill i return to him. My faith keeps me strong, now am happily chasing my goals. Thenks, you helped me saved myself
What Benjamin is saying is true, I dated such a person for 3 months and my world turned upside down. I was emotionally, physically and financially hurt. I walked away 3 years ago and I have never looked back I thank God I had a awesome youth chaplain.
OMG, this is a perfect description of what i have been through just a few months ago. As per now, I'm going through alot of pain as a result of the whole thing.
Thanks Zulu now I know whom I have been dealing with I have gone through hell for 11 years as iam talking now IAM planning to quit for good my children have gone through a lot imagine abusing me Everytime in front of my kids
I was once a victim for six years in marriage i tried to stay to make marriage work but my friend these people never change i was crushed nearly to death but i thank God am now healing slowly my brother and sisters i you find yourself with a nascisit run for your life as early as possible
This is a preaching that I think should be thought to youngsters in Churches as well...man!!!! I dealt with such a narcissistic relationship previously. It was a long distance relationship and the man called himself a pastor. I thank God I left that relationship.
Wow benjamin thank you to warn younger women cause i have been in that trap in my marriage and you know them he was just like the way you are explaining i did not have peace he was frying me day to day i was in trouble all my life i left after 30years with deep scars that are still paining even today and he also tried to kill me many times god bless you for your teachings especially to young ladies who think they found love
Oh my God .all u are saying is so true I been living with the devil it's self for almost two years I just left him I was dieing he is so evil glory be to God for serving me
Sir Benjamin indeed you are God sent. In this era even though men and women have gained PHDs they lack knowledge, wisdom, insights and discretion. I acknowledge you are the Solomon of this generation 🇰🇪👏🤝💝
I have been with a narcissist and trust I myself can't believe the things he would say and do to me thank God I grew up and left at 25 with my child that man cannot ask me to meet him somewhere I will not go
Aki, this is so true, it has defined people in some previous relationships i walked away from. Thanks God i was able to detect. One of them gave me a codition that kama nataka hiyo relationship ieendelee nipate mimba, and i was not even officially introduced to his familym we even lived separatly.. Wa shidwe kabisa 😂😂
Thanks Benjamin 😅😅 from today I have denounced mine Ex 🙌🙌🙌 everything you said is in him,we have been dating since 2017 but the reason I haven't moved in is because of this characters you have mentioned 🤔🤔,am like will this marriage work.but now I know what I could get into.Thanks for this am gone 🏃🏃🏃🏃no more hopes
I was married to the devil himself the past 16 years was nothing but s horror life I was finished slowly spiritual and physical Only God saved me 2019 we got divorced I was left with nothing but God restored me again
He got furious with me because I told him that my family was concerned about the amount of time we were spending on phone. I hadn't even picked a side, I just told him what they said and he snapped. Lol. Thank God for freedom.
Girl!!!! That's a real narcissist. Mine was the same way....he wanted us to be on phone all the time. He convinced me to share Facebook passwords then he would go and block all my guy friends and reject friend request from all guys. He even went on to block one of my spiritual fathers...dude was very unsecured and when I approached him he said that he had the right to do that. Imagine we were just dating and the man thought he had all the right over me and I wasn't respecting him. I thank God I left him
You just say nothing but honest truth.wish ladies can follow this to avoid mashida zingine..am glad I've seen this before making a very bad decision that would have made me live a miserable life for how long I don't know
I thank God am relieved, breathing air and retaining it OMG. I was bullied by the person I thought I loved, kumbe it was abuse. May God release the devil in such souls.
Zulu u have explained it very well n i now understood a lady i was dating n i left the relatioship five weeks ago .it wasnt easy easy fof me to leave i thought she was geting mad but zulu has made me understand her condition .but whatever i went through in that relationship i cant wish even my biggest enemy to go through
What of people who exhibit most of the signs you have discussed but fake emphathy, use a lot of emotional black mail, apologize very few times but with conditions?
His messages came to me at the very right time. There's one clip he named "Deny them response". That particular one really shot me back to existence. My spirit was almost broken.
Where are the likes for this man honestly,,he is doing an amazing job
He is doing the Lord’s work 👏🏻👏🏻
Yes
I wish I could hear this 30 years ago. God bless Benjamin.
I agree!! He’s doing fantastic work🏆
You're saving millions of souls ..thank u so much Benjamin
💯
Yes
@@martha7893 I hope you are okay🙄🙏🏽
Ll⁹p😅⁰
In 17 years I lived with him...I always knew that there were lots of things that we're right about him...I was naive and couldn't know what's going on as he seemed polite....very polite, humble, religiously,calm..the list just goes on...but with time that mask fell off for Best.,..and booom! His true Colors...and a real Person behind his Tightened Mask appeared! I dated, married and bore three kids....just with a Purely Covert Narcissist!!😭😭😭
Thank you brother Benjamin because through your teachings...I'm slowly recovering after I vermuse/ after I left last year 🙏
Jah bless you Eternally
Hugs me I left 2018 so far Soo good
May we share our stories and save people who are going through this kind of abuse and are not aware.
@@catherinenaswa5028 Imagine the freedom of being out of a tight claws of a human demon. I wish to hear you story, I wish to share my story. Many people are not aware of narcissism and our society of pray it will get better, is not helping us at all.Narcissist is not curable
@@imconcerned5947 yes very true even where I am educating people on how to recognize they are living with one and how to leave such relationships
Left such after 11yrs...with 1son...am at peace...all my friends to him were bad,my bosses,the church...timing to be at home...yet he slept out of home for days....no money for anything....but I thank God I took that bold step ... God has healed me and my son was affected when he abused me in front him..called me names..my son would stand inbtwn us and tell him ...dont touch my mom...but today my son tells me mom God has been good to us and will continue blessing us....he is only 12yrs and he encourages me each day...
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 nothing else to add! You just described my ex-husband in this video. The relationship destroyed me. I am still recovering and I am deeply hurt in my soul. He was so insecure, envious, jealous and taking pictures of others men shoes and outfits when we go out. This man were a charming and nice man at the beginning, than he transformed to be the devil himself. I never wish this kind of man in anybody else’s life.
If we can get at least five people like you.Africa would been on a different level.thanks zulu may God keep you to open eyes of more girls.I'm now 24yrs but I'm blessed to hear these words .much love from uganda
Preach deeper man of God actually I personally say that you alone in Africa deserve a special name
You have done me well Benja mungu akubariki Sana
Love from your neighborhood country Uganda
If you need more sound advice search for Mildred and Kingsley Okonkwo
At some point I just feel people are much better alone than in these relationships... I want to take that risk of just being me by myself against this world. I came alone to this world and so will I leave.
Preach sister I agree with u 100 percent
Join me.
🎤🎤🎤🎤nikaa wakasikia
True, join the club.
Yes sister. Read 1 Corinthians 7:8
Am sure this is wisdom we are supposed to pay for!
But this man gives us for free...
Be blessed Ben
Yes
Excellent video. I am recovering from narcissistic abuse. I thank God for giving me the grace/strength to leave.
We can heal together
Yeah me too.
Thank God
Waw ! Listening to this and almost tearing up thinking about what a great man I have in my husband of 9 years ,who is the opposite of what's being described .
Pray for him all the time
U have just explained the man am with aki,all the five signs...God have mercy on me
Zulu you have changed me am 24 years but not dating am just exploring the world 🌎 keep teaching us
He is really good indeed!
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This massage was meant for me because I've been experiencing all that was said by Zulu😱😢 I got pregnant when I was 23 then got married for 18yrs to the devil 😈but now I thank God that I'm free from him permanently
Am also trying to safe myself have been in marriage for 22years am done I need to be whole again.. thanks Benjamin
Same
@@ntsakophuzi3209 true, Dr. Ramani has been a blessing to me the past year.....I could barely move, I started with crawling back to norm, I'm walking now, I believe I'll be running soon.
Thank God
Me too married at the same time
I'm so glad that you have taken your time to talk about these devil's ...most people don't know the pain these devil's cause... I am a victim of covert narcissistic abuse and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy...they invalidate your entire existence....
True
Ohh my so true..I just broke up with a covert too.Are you better now?
1. Controlling
2. Dual personality
3. Blackmail-silent treatment/no sorry
4. Stalking/spying
5. Emotional insensitivity/immaturity - basic things about
6. They are date young
Benjamin Zulu you just killed me explaining split personality🤣🤣you are funny but point home.Genius!
So sad a lot of people living through this
This man is a God sent to me .Thank u Jesus for bringing me this for preparing myself to leave him after 20yrs of marriage no change am done
Wow
I am kind of alarmed that I actually dated two devils in the past without having known in the beginning. I am grateful for God`s grace upon my life that I
walked away and am now in a loving relationship with a God fearing man.
😄
I connect to your blessing in Jesus name
The dislikes are from narcissists 😅
Absolutely
🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣
True.
Exactly now who before?
Benjamin you are talking to me,Lived with one for 10 years who put me through hell.My face paralyzed on the left side due to accumulated stress.Good thing is, we are now separated and am so happy and peaceful with my 2 lovely kids.I have gone through most of the things you mentioned
Wow thank God so happy for you
Aaaahhh, this man, Benjamin Zulu, i have no choice but to let all the adverts to play on to completion!!!!
This affects all aspects of life, not only in a romantic relationship, this message is for me
So true, I was working under this lady who was a narcissist and she did all sorts of things to torture me. Then afterwards, used the 'I'm an orphan card. And if you hurt an orphan God will fight you ' I was so stressed I even fainted in her office one day. Lord😱
Just run
@@joanulumma6458 I did
@@EvelynNjeriOfficial oh my fainting 😲
@@ntsakophuzi3209 I have subscribed to her channel apparently, there are people who are narcissist magnets and am one. An empath.
This man says the wisest things I have always searched for
Yes
I wish I knew you when I was younger.This teaching is entirely for me
Yes
Not so late.
My ex used to cook for himself even after cooking to him, sometimes coming home late, from playing dat and pool , pheeew in public he used to smile alot but being home he's real devil
We separated and now am happy tho am single
How I wish I had a chance to listen to this beforehand. All said about narcissists is 100% true.
Oh my goodness this man is God sent. I am a victim of all you have said. So so soooooo true
Benjamin you hit the nail on the head.I've listened to you quite a number of times,your simply Awesome! Thank you for making yourself available for the Masters use,on earth and in heaven he shall reward You mightily.Greetings from Nigeria. Your highly loved.
Yes
Your wise words rescued me from a Narcissist who I once dated..Keep informing us Coach💯✅
Yes
You're right benjamin when talking about orphans. I had one i promised myself to help him to meet his goals.. but!! oooh my God... he was exactly like you are describing them. After a year all his characters shown up. I couldn't hold any more!!!. He started saying he will worship devil untill i return to him. My faith keeps me strong, now am happily chasing my goals. Thenks, you helped me saved myself
What Benjamin is saying is true, I dated such a person for 3 months and my world turned upside down. I was emotionally, physically and financially hurt. I walked away 3 years ago and I have never looked back I thank God I had a awesome youth chaplain.
Thank God
I know, they suck you dry! Emotionally physically psychologically. Masaitan hao! Wicked people
Thank God for your healing
I hate how they think they can cause you damage discard you than come back anytime they like
true.
My dear... I hate that part of them so much
@@ntsakophuzi3209 thanx sis
@@ntsakophuzi3209 I also listen to her, she is very good
I have a story to tell i was once married to one everything you are saying I passed through even more thanks to God who delivered me
May you liv long Benjamin. Am at my 40s but am learning alot everyday. Thank you
Same to me.lets listen
Yes
OMG, this is a perfect description of what i have been through just a few months ago.
As per now, I'm going through alot of pain as a result of the whole thing.
Thanks Zulu now I know whom I have been dealing with I have gone through hell for 11 years as iam talking now IAM planning to quit for good my children have gone through a lot imagine abusing me Everytime in front of my kids
I have ever met this type of person am feeling like you are talking about me😂😂😂😂,,,,God is great I realized this very early
How I love you Benjamin,from the time I started following you , I have surely grown , love you from Kampala Ug
He doesn’t even want me to talk with my own mother 😅😅😅🤣🤣🙌🏻
Oh man, you guys are just amazing. Thank you for this. You're fun too. I enjoy the laughter also.
Yes
I was once a victim for six years in marriage i tried to stay to make marriage work but my friend these people never change i was crushed nearly to death but i thank God am now healing slowly my brother and sisters i you find yourself with a nascisit run for your life as early as possible
This is a preaching that I think should be thought to youngsters in Churches as well...man!!!! I dealt with such a narcissistic relationship previously. It was a long distance relationship and the man called himself a pastor. I thank God I left that relationship.
Wow benjamin thank you to warn younger women cause i have been in that trap in my marriage and you know them he was just like the way you are explaining i did not have peace he was frying me day to day i was in trouble all my life i left after 30years with deep scars that are still paining even today and he also tried to kill me many times god bless you for your teachings especially to young ladies who think they found love
Narcissistic are vampires 🧛♀️ thank you Zulu
Oh my God .all u are saying is so true I been living with the devil it's self for almost two years I just left him I was dieing he is so evil glory be to God for serving me
Sir Benjamin indeed you are God sent. In this era even though men and women have gained PHDs they lack knowledge, wisdom, insights and discretion. I acknowledge you are the Solomon of this generation 🇰🇪👏🤝💝
This maaaaan Benjamin you're solomon of our times, can't get enough of your advice
All thumbs up for the wise man
invaluable info, I had a narcist for a mother in law. now I understand.
YOU JUST GOT YOURSELF A NEW SUBSCRIBE, Thank you so much
I was married to one......didn't stayed long in that marriage. Left ASAP I discover that. What Benjamin is saying is so true!!!!Be careful it's true.
👏👏👏 Thank you, Benjamin! Let's keep creating awareness.
Priceless advice Benjamin
You saved my life brother thank you .
I have been with a narcissist and trust I myself can't believe the things he would say and do to me thank God I grew up and left at 25 with my child that man cannot ask me to meet him somewhere I will not go
The relationship I had with my mother since I was born...3 years ago I ran away...but yeah all of these things she did to me as a child
I have come to realise, you can be a good pastor
Just watched Benjamin Zulu and Bram Opiyo on narcissist. Thanks Men, I learned something from the talk. God bless.
Aki, this is so true, it has defined people in some previous relationships i walked away from. Thanks God i was able to detect.
One of them gave me a codition that kama nataka hiyo relationship ieendelee nipate mimba, and i was not even officially introduced to his familym we even lived separatly..
Wa shidwe kabisa 😂😂
🤣🤣thank God u came out before it was too late.
🤔🤔🤔🤔
Probably you were not controllable 🤗🤗🤗🤗
Thanks Benjamin 😅😅 from today I have denounced mine Ex 🙌🙌🙌 everything you said is in him,we have been dating since 2017 but the reason I haven't moved in is because of this characters you have mentioned 🤔🤔,am like will this marriage work.but now I know what I could get into.Thanks for this am gone 🏃🏃🏃🏃no more hopes
How do you heal? If you have already been broken, Your self esteem crashed, your will to fight and live gone.
Thank you for covering this topic, they're real demons living a life of facade you've nailed it
Ati 81 missed calls 😂🤣😂
Am with one oh God. I woke up to 11 missed calls today and him banging my gate.
May God protect you for us. I am grateful for your teachings
Omg. I needed this soo bad. Thanks Zulu for this. Blessings aki ❤️❤️
Yes
Benjamin you've nailed it. It was six years of he'll 😭😭😭😭
True, they rush to getting you pregnant
Yes
I can listening to you guys the whole day 😄😄😄
Yes
My God Benjamin continue talking about these narcissists until people get it,indeed they are devils,
I can relate, thank you for the information.. powerful!
I was married to the devil himself the past 16 years was nothing but s horror life I was finished slowly spiritual and physical Only God saved me 2019 we got divorced I was left with nothing but God restored me again
Great stuff Mr. Benjamin. Keep it up!
I love your wisdom...really learning a lot
Thank you Zulu. You don't leave lives untouched
Thanks Benjamin zulu , now I wait until 25 yrs
Thank you Zulu
I have dated one for the last three years . Leaving him has been chaotic he won't agree I have left him.
I have been abused properly 😭
Find healing... They contaminate people so badly.
Zulu you really change me in your powerful, wisdom's words every day 🙏🏼,,,
They have perfected the ART of the SPLIT PERSONALITY!!! DEMONS!!
I have experienced this
He got furious with me because I told him that my family was concerned about the amount of time we were spending on phone. I hadn't even picked a side, I just told him what they said and he snapped. Lol. Thank God for freedom.
Girl!!!! That's a real narcissist. Mine was the same way....he wanted us to be on phone all the time. He convinced me to share Facebook passwords then he would go and block all my guy friends and reject friend request from all guys. He even went on to block one of my spiritual fathers...dude was very unsecured and when I approached him he said that he had the right to do that. Imagine we were just dating and the man thought he had all the right over me and I wasn't respecting him. I thank God I left him
@@esthergloria Thank God almighty for your life dear
Million times right thanks so much for the information God bless you for opening my eyes
You just say nothing but honest truth.wish ladies can follow this to avoid mashida zingine..am glad I've seen this before making a very bad decision that would have made me live a miserable life for how long I don't know
God bless you for this powerful teaching. You are one in a million
True
@@grace2excell
Imma
I thank God am relieved, breathing air and retaining it OMG. I was bullied by the person I thought I loved, kumbe it was abuse. May God release the devil in such souls.
Unfortunately they will never change, nor apologise.
Truly Insightful and helpful 👏
Big up Benjamin,,i started following will since i was 21,,i'm 23 as now...getting something...
Just described what am dealing with .I wish i knew this earlier but i know its never too late. Exactly!
Check Dr. Ramani youtube channel and you will know how to handle such people and how you can manage if not running away from them
My current situation but It's never too late
You have nailed it Zulu.Am experiencing all you have said.It is true they are devil's.Threats and blackmail everyday.
I left after living with him for ten years and with four children, but now I'm happy and don't regret leaving him
Thank you Benjamin 👏👏. Ubarikiwe sana.
Most narcissists are toxic,stingy and clingy
Zulu u have explained it very well n i now understood a lady i was dating n i left the relatioship five weeks ago .it wasnt easy easy fof me to leave i thought she was geting mad but zulu has made me understand her condition .but whatever i went through in that relationship i cant wish even my biggest enemy to go through
🤣🤣🤣
This my dad all his behaviour even now he is old in the village still like this ☹️☹️☹️ but i did choose not to listen to him.
Narcissist are even worst wben they are older
Making alot of sense.i married one when I was 26yrs.marriage did ntlast a year,the guy was a real narcissist...now I get it clearly well
tuned in from mmust
My data does nothing else ever since I discovered this channelization
Wow, can't stop embracing the message
What of people who exhibit most of the signs you have discussed but fake emphathy, use a lot of emotional black mail, apologize very few times but with conditions?
Profound wisdom Benjamin
I lived with one, it's three years since we separated and I haven't recovered, his mother is a narcissist too and the dad committed suicide
I totally identify with you! i also lived with one and it has been over 2 years since i left and the mother has NEVER bothered to ask what happened...
Oh my, suicide.😳
True....they mention and call you names "privately".
Very true..
dropping Gems always 😌😌😌
Zulu thank you I have gotten answers to all my troubles used to wonder what's wrong but I have quit and in the process of healing
His messages came to me at the very right time. There's one clip he named "Deny them response". That particular one really shot me back to existence. My spirit was almost broken.