It's better to be alone than be with a man you have to provide for. The moment the roles reverse,the woman becomes masculine and the leader in the relationship which unfortunately causes her to start craving for care from her man. A woman is a helper and not the provider, she has to be in her femininity to be able to submit to her man. Once she becomes the provider in a relationship,she loses respect for her man and develops resentment for the man cos he is supposed to do the things she is doing for him. Ladies, anytime you get into a relationship where you shift from your role as a woman, run. You will build up a man who will cheat on you and spend on a woman he will be providing for cos he will be looking at you as a mother since you take care of him. In the long run he will also resent you cos you will be in the controlling seat and he will find a woman who will rub his ego to feel like a man. It's okay to be single and working hard for your future, you will meet a man who is on the same path.
I agree completely u spoke the truth....however, just remember that a man will pay for the woman he wants! A man that wants u will not let u do it....men make money to buy the woman they really want and that's just what I believe point blank!!!
Wow! Zulu on point👌. I started dating this guy we are same age 38 and it's been exactly 1 week, you'll be suprised I have been asked for data, airtime and lunch money🤦♀️. Mind you this guy works, I have already ended this nonsense. The disgrace we come across with 🤣
The only preacher who preaches freely and the word is deep While those who ask for mny in Churches are not telling the whole truth Please God keep for this man a place in heaven I humbly request you our creator
And more often than not, that poverty upon the person is spiritual, its a curse and even the help you give them they will lose it later. It will not benefit their lives at all or even if u marry them you will lose all you have because of joining yourself to that spiritual condition.
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 woow! That's awesome but l quited that relationship coz it ws only stable wn l ws giving, but wn l stopped they started throwing words towards me,
This is the truth, I wish I had sent his ass back to his people sooner! Ruined my life and future being with this trash...and my momma said he was trash long ago 🤦🏽♀️ I wish I had listened!
I am sorry ladies but don't try to save someone. The ending is usually sad. They will cheat on you, leave you and show you madharau like you never saw.
Good point Benjamin a 24 year old has no business concerning themselves with a serious relationship! they should be focusing on developing their career. Well said
Plz ZULU be kind...some of us have bn the head of the house for over ten yrs...I got tired and left...I didn't care how long I bn there...today i look back and seriously don't regret anything...
If you find a beggar just drop ur support and move on thats very true Zulu. I tried to support someone for years but thea was no improvement yr in year out. Until l could not help.
Honestly!...am that girl that you were talking about!...am very good at giving but receives nothing at the end...I’ve lost a lot of money in the name of love...relationship ended and he promised to pay back...am still waiting...sadly,I have had friends and close family members trying to take advantage of me but now my eyes are so open and I look like the bad person since I don’t want to send money anymore....am done and done...let me build myself with my money...God see me through.
Not everybody wants advice this is so true 😂😂😂. As painful as this is, this is so true. 😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂 Sometimes we just waste our time trying to speak sense to people.
Cheiii, self interest rules the world, not Love, God have mercy. Zulu Zulu, how I wish every young lady out there can listen to you, the world would be a better place to live in. We have surely swallowed in alot of nonsense
My name is Sandra I watch your program Benjamin Zulu is so true with everything he is saying where were you when I was younger when I was making decisions in my life I am 64 years old people are so mean
Guys if I am scared of something in a relationship is something like this cause they are untrustworthy and just see you pour yourself genuinely into nonsense
Benjamin zulu needs to come to tanzania; and see all these females above 25 embarassing the nation😩! Please do tours haha! Teach us. He’ll be shocked to see it’s not just pre 25s! Majority is the 25 year olds and above clowning.
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It's better to be alone than be with a man you have to provide for. The moment the roles reverse,the woman becomes masculine and the leader in the relationship which unfortunately causes her to start craving for care from her man. A woman is a helper and not the provider, she has to be in her femininity to be able to submit to her man. Once she becomes the provider in a relationship,she loses respect for her man and develops resentment for the man cos he is supposed to do the things she is doing for him. Ladies, anytime you get into a relationship where you shift from your role as a woman, run. You will build up a man who will cheat on you and spend on a woman he will be providing for cos he will be looking at you as a mother since you take care of him. In the long run he will also resent you cos you will be in the controlling seat and he will find a woman who will rub his ego to feel like a man. It's okay to be single and working hard for your future, you will meet a man who is on the same path.
I agree completely u spoke the truth....however, just remember that a man will pay for the woman he wants! A man that wants u will not let u do it....men make money to buy the woman they really want and that's just what I believe point blank!!!
If you find a beggar on the road, leave a coin but don't take him home 😂😂😂 I truly love this show. It is soooo mind opening!!!
This made my day too🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣 he had me yaani
Assisting the devil to destroy you at record speed!!! Benjamin you have killed me!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
poverty is not a lifestyle...is a mindset
My fellow women. You deserve better. Do not ignore the intuitions
Wow! Zulu on point👌. I started dating this guy we are same age 38 and it's been exactly 1 week, you'll be suprised I have been asked for data, airtime and lunch money🤦♀️. Mind you this guy works, I have already ended this nonsense. The disgrace we come across with 🤣
Run run with both feet!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
this is funny. run for your life
Let me just laugh with u😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol, run for your life
The only preacher who preaches freely and the word is deep
While those who ask for mny in Churches are not telling the whole truth
Please God keep for this man a place in heaven I humbly request you our creator
Sometimes when I listen to Zulu's advice I need to take a moment to internalise so it sinks in,like the sense and wisdom in his advice is amazing.
"They know their son is useless and you are the rescuer". Very true. I have seen many examples of this.
U r just saying wt l've been going through 😢😢
And more often than not, that poverty upon the person is spiritual, its a curse and even the help you give them they will lose it later. It will not benefit their lives at all or even if u marry them you will lose all you have because of joining yourself to that spiritual condition.
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 woow! That's awesome but l quited that relationship coz it ws only stable wn l ws giving, but wn l stopped they started throwing words towards me,
@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 So true!
This is the truth, I wish I had sent his ass back to his people sooner! Ruined my life and future being with this trash...and my momma said he was trash long ago 🤦🏽♀️ I wish I had listened!
With an open mind, a lot is unlocked when listening to this gentleman! Great talk 👍🏿
Beautiful Mwikali! 💚 I love the green color on her. Gorgeousss
Yes this guy promised me everything 😂😂😂😂he used to call me wifey so that I do wifey duties and I mean everything,,,, that red big duvet
Simama tena songa mbele
Mwikaliiiiiiiii! Wooow why did you have to look overly gorgeous?😍😍😍😍😍
I am sorry ladies but don't try to save someone. The ending is usually sad. They will cheat on you, leave you and show you madharau like you never saw.
Very true
True
I'm South African 23 years old, and I am learning a lot and I am self about myself now. Thank you.
Me too sis😊
Im so happy to see this dual, I love Mwikali......we are watching u guys from Mozambique
I think this was meant to be a mine😢😢thanks so much I have learnt a lot
I’m in NAMIBIA and everyday I am thankful for this Man’s wisdom ✌️
🥰 fellow Namibian
@@YALOOish We are on track
Me too, osho Lela!! I don't miss his shows at all.
@@etu-love3266 💪💪💪
BE CAREFUL WITH TAKERS, THEY HAVE NO LIMITS. IF YOU IGNORE RED FLAGS, YOU CANNOT BLAME THE SCAMMER. (CAPS FOR EMPHASIS)
Louder please! Total wisdom
Very true they always thinks that becoz ur his girl now everything u get or working for is theirs,
True! Poverty is not lack of money but the mindset
I was in such shit for 5yrs started it wen I was 25yrs left wen I was 30yrs
Thank god am now in a better place
Good point Benjamin a 24 year old has no business concerning themselves with a serious relationship! they should be focusing on developing their career. Well said
This is like the best video I have ever seen on TH-cam this year.
Gosh! !!
Hello from Nigeria
Exactly what you see is what you get
I share your sentiments 100%
I share your sentiments 100%
That lady who said she was not in good terms with the mother.. Now she will be in good terms with her.
Plz ZULU be kind...some of us have bn the head of the house for over ten yrs...I got tired and left...I didn't care how long I bn there...today i look back and seriously don't regret anything...
@maggie I can imagine the situation. Am glad you left
Piece of advice true gentleman don't follow money from a galfred
I just want to say Benjamin Zulu and Mwikali save lives ah 🙌🙌🙌
Mwikali , I love your smile, that dress you look beautiful. Commenting from UK.
When Mwikali laughs so heartily, I could jump for joy 😂😂😂
Mwikalib with zulu is a good dual 😅😅😅 ..... she brings the best of zulu
Wow Mwikali!! You look gorgeous👏👏👏🔥
Mwikali you are a great host!! you have a way to keep your guests so engaged
How I love Zulus' wisdom 🎉🎉
Mwikali you looking beautiful 🥰🥰🥰🥰as usual. Love from Uganda 🇺🇬
Nange wendi mkn
I'm also here from Mukono 😊
Benjamin zulu you tell it as it is! You are a gift from God. Keep educating us please. You are saving a whole lot of us believe me❤
Looking beautiful Mwikali. Benjamin come to Ug, I’ll attend🇺🇬👌🏾
How I should he would we need his advice
I will attend at any cost
True
Mazima
@@nagudistella7319 ninase yaya
FINALLY YOU ARE BACK, I HAD MISSED YOU@BENJAMIN ZULU .LOOKING LOVELY THE GORGEOUS MWIKALI AND ZULU
hahahaa aty makenza what...Zulu will finish me with laughter one day
Mwikali that is nice and beautiful matching. Your shoe is stylish. Keep it up gal
Great to see you back with Mwikali...❤👌
Thank you so much zulu. U ave opened my eyes today
Love this!!! From Norway 🇳🇴💫
Wooow.. the show was just lit mwikali and Zulu I can relate.
Benjamin I love this genuine talk.
Zulu is extremely good. Best of best.
U look beautiful mwikali. BZ is amazing . God bless u
Mwikali: God loves us
Benjamin: Only that you keep disobeying the survival instinct He gave you
Me: 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
If you find a beggar just drop ur support and move on thats very true Zulu. I tried to support someone for years but thea was no improvement yr in year out. Until l could not help.
I so love his energy
Honestly!...am that girl that you were talking about!...am very good at giving but receives nothing at the end...I’ve lost a lot of money in the name of love...relationship ended and he promised to pay back...am still waiting...sadly,I have had friends and close family members trying to take advantage of me but now my eyes are so open and I look like the bad person since I don’t want to send money anymore....am done and done...let me build myself with my money...God see me through.
Out of the frying pan...enyewe life haitaki makasiriko😂
You are looking good Mwikali
Not everybody wants advice this is so true 😂😂😂. As painful as this is, this is so true. 😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂 Sometimes we just waste our time trying to speak sense to people.
Wow that's so deep when you're honest you don't lose people it's the people who lose you
God bless yuh Benjamin.... I really love yuh!
Thank you for the useful information 🇿🇼
Zulu wisdom l like your
Truly 95%💚🙏👌💯✔️
Cheiii, self interest rules the world, not Love, God have mercy. Zulu Zulu, how I wish every young lady out there can listen to you, the world would be a better place to live in. We have surely swallowed in alot of nonsense
Mwikali looking beautiful 😍
May God add us more than Benjamin, thax.
My name is Sandra I watch your program Benjamin Zulu is so true with everything he is saying where were you when I was younger when I was making decisions in my life I am 64 years old people are so mean
Love this from ug ,my eyes 👁️👁️👁️ open after some failed rshp
😂😂😂 I love this guy aaaah
This man is a blessing
Mwikali....I love your name really even if I don't know it's meaning😀😀.
Looking stunning u guys😍😍😍😘
Mwikali is derived from the verb-kuikala, meaning to sit down or to settle at a place...
@@kiokomutua4695 khwikhala in Luhyia
Givers should have limits, because takers do not have. I thank God for this kind of wisdom.
Minute 30.0!
Honest people, who meant well never loose people. The inverse is true!!
Loving this...
Great show today!
u are supper, Ben, keep it up
Kunawaka moto uku.
Anyway so educative
wuuuh this is sticking through my heart
Wonderful discussion.. I missed Zulu
The best video ever💯
Such an educative video
Entrance sets the tone
At last zulu in the building. Where were you all this time.
I'm respect zulu family
In all south Africa
💚☕💚🙏👑👌💯✔️🇻🇺💚🇬🇭🌟👌🥒☘️👕🍀
Guys if I am scared of something in a relationship is something like this cause they are untrustworthy and just see you pour yourself genuinely into nonsense
What you do is that you don't ignore red flags. Run away the first time. As women we waste too much time on sth we already know is not right.
Good wisdom girls running to marry coz of age then the future become a problem
Wow I lyk the show
That's y me n men we are parallel lines,I was corned n heartbroken oooooh hmmmm too bad
Facts surely
Zulu utatumaliza😂😂😂😂😂
Wow, this was a wonderful segment. Thank you for the wisdom shared.
"It's Esteem that you need to address first."
thanks for this
Green looks gorgeous on you mwikali😍😍😍😍!
@Mwikali kindly I need such a dress. Send me details where you bought it
It's true marry when your rhyme to each other.
I have relatives who have made these type of mistakes. Very painful.
Enterance...zulus vigour
intuition 🔥
Benjamin zulu needs to come to tanzania; and see all these females above 25 embarassing the nation😩! Please do tours haha! Teach us. He’ll be shocked to see it’s not just pre 25s! Majority is the 25 year olds and above clowning.
Kabisa he should come
I thought am the only one who was wondering why he keep on saying pre 25 ... Benj people are crawling on their 30's.
GOD help you to bring naked truth
Hahaa😂😂
Sure huyu baba anatakiwa kuja Tanzania aone maajabu
Ata wacha nisiongee, ju mimi nimejionea
Words👌❤️
Very true
I have laughed😂👐
Makenna whaaaattt😂🤣🤣😂
If this is not me 😭 Yhooo so naive and attract stuck men whom I always build up