Practicing Taking and Giving - Tonglen

What if you had a broken arm, and the pain caused you to wish all others with a broken arm to be free from pain and suffering? What would that focus from worrying about your own broken arm to worrying about all other broken arms cause? It's a transformation of energy. We call it Tonglen. Come learn with us.
Taking and Giving - Tonglen
00:01 Intro an intention
00:15 In this community we invite all parts of everyone to belong
01:20 The more we ignore the non-perfect parts of us, the more they can cause us to say and do things that we may not want to
02:19 Sometimes the stories we tell ourselves about something are scarier than if we were just in the moment we fear.
02:29 As we practice we invite these emotions to come closer to us and more familiar so they aren’t so scary
2:53 It’s virtually impossible that no one else feels what we feel
03:45 Gratitude offer
04:26 Set intention and motivation for being here right now
06:14 Check-ins
09:00 Tying to let people be where they are and meet them in the moment and it’s creating calm
12:36 Allowing what I’ve learned to act, rather than what I knew growing up
14:46 Taking in negativity and filtering it and giving out positivity. Tonglen.
16:37 Difference between pain and suffering
17:26 Creating a Tonglen visual
20:52 There are three main steps to develop Tonglen
24:17 A definition of trauma
24:40 We can untraumatize ourself
25:44 Refocusing the self-cherishing mind
26:56 Too much concern with self is always the cause of the most suffering
28:00 Don’t believe me just because I’m telling you something. Check it.
29:38 Like metta, Tonglen wants the other not to suffer, but Tonglen is stronger in that we ask that we become the filter of negativity so that the other may feel positivity and comfort
30:54 Eliminating tummy aches using Tonglen
34:52 Stages of Tonglen
35:56 Compassion for all beings is called Great Compassion
36:19 Visually tanslating the word enlightenment
37:44 Settling and a Tonglen practice
44:20 Tonglen meditation by @FitMind
53:30 How to understand how to not take on other people’s feelings
56:05 Avoiding allowing the energy vampires to harm us
1:00:34 Love is abundant
1:01:15 How do we take on someone’s suffering and spread the word of Tonglen?
1:02:28 The more we develop the more we know what someone else needs. And we cannot ask someone else to come to it. We must just exemplify and let someone else ask what we’re doing.
1:04:17 Slowly, slowly and A.I. don’t go hand in hand
1:04:39 Studying is only step one. The practice is the hardest part. Practice helps it get deeper.
1:10:09 Invitation to smile and greet someone we wouldn’t normally smile at or greet
1:12:15 Forgiveness and dedication