I’ve seen they do treat everyone the same. It may take a while to observe but they do. They just try to keep it together and look golden for certain ones. At the end, they treat everyone the same, especially when they have no use for certain people any longer - then you really see the same treatment. They have “little” slips here and there around the ones they want to look golden to. When you know how they roll, you can’t unsee it on any of them. The people who are fooled want to be or stay fooled - because there are little observable evil nuggets here and there. There is ALWAYS a motive for them. ALWAYS. The narcissist/npd’s have to manifest their mess one way or another.
U r so right in every video. I'm a narcissistic abuse survivor. Still trying to find the light again because still being pulled back by emotional hoovering. But I recognize it now. Thank u for helping me heal.
So painfully true Danish. Regulating our nervous systems by bringing ourselves to the present moment, breathing, humming, stepping from one leg to the other and rejecting negative self talk are vital for managing the triggers. We need peace, quiet, self compassion, patience for ourselves and unconditional love for ourselves to slowly get ourselves out of the hell of narcissistic abuse. It takes a lot of time and we don’t need to defend ourselves, we shouldn’t push ourselves, when the time is right we will start feeling better. It takes time to heal after experiencing hell on earth which narcissistic abuse is.
It's 101% right. Long texts release what's bothering the person. At the same time, we like to help people going through this narcissistic trauma that we suffered.
My ex narc always wanted me to over communicate and over explain myself whilst he never did the same and had a completely different life outside of the home
Oh! The extremely long texts, that people such as my son complain about and my daughter too. Sometimes I stop short because of their complaints but not because of a good habit oh thank you.
I agree with you….I guess I tried so hard to explain what I was trying to say …they dismissed my talking and just put it up to me always talking too much…and eventually one walked away no contact…I leave them pretty much alone now…although they have a standing phone” audience” with their narc father every weekend…I have just limited my exposure to brush offs now …too late I am old and sickly ..
@@claireburkus8497 We must have the same kids. One moved to Hawaii after verbally attacking me when I was thanking him for cleaning my shed. Weirdest thing ever. I am not going to "break the silence" or try to find him. I hope he has a good time, but I can't lose any more of myself to narcs. Go for a walk in the woods instead.
@@claireburkus8497- my children were alienated from me by my ex covert narc and my covert narc mother. Once I divorced him when they were older teens and young adults is when it all made sense what was going on. All three walked away, one has returned b/c I’m ill, the other two know and nothing. I tried for seven years w/sporadically reaching out. Then stopped and moved forward. I thought there was hope w/the youngest, then I found out he was present w/his sibling when I called to say I fractured my hip and needed help. Nothing, he even told her I didn’t need an ambulance, a broken hip isn’t a big deal.🤦🏻♀️ obviously, the hope isn’t there anymore and calling it a day. Maybe one day they’ll realize how their father abused them for his own selfishness to hurt me. By then, I expect to be dead.
OMG. Right off the bat. This is me. I don't text much, but I comment on TH-cam and Facebook. All of my comments are too lengthy.🙄 I always feel the need to prove my opinion or statement, backing them with reason or facts. I reread them before posting them, editing them to remove any misconceptions that may arise. Then, I check for responses every day. I think I'm not great with texts because there was a time when not answering on the spot got me in trouble. I'd get in trouble with my narc for not answering my phone while at work, but I wasn't allowed to be seen with my phone at work. It was so frustrating, to say the least.
This narcisisst i am dealing with, trust me he is the most filthiest man i hv ever seen...He thinks if the person isn't beneficial to him then they are useless.....of no good....Beyond tolerance now*😆🤣
When I text with anyone now I read the text over and over and change the words many times. Then until someone replies I am very nervous that I may have offended them. There have been many times my husband has been angry over the words I used.
5:13 yes. Sometimes you see the manipulation in the text or email, but when you show it to a friend, they give the benefit of the doubt. Because your friend doesn’t understand this sophisticated level of manipulation. 8:19 yes! They love tossing a grenade and ignoring you. Bonus if you “act crazy” at this time.
Omg, I just realized why he would rapid fire messages when I would try to get answers from him! And by the time I'd answer him, he had ten more messages and say I wasn't making sense. This was just him evading my conversations... man I really was a lot more nieve about him then I thought.
There are some reddit communities. Raisedbynarcisists or CPTSD. Those are for narcissistic families. But I'm sure there are subreddits for other types of narc abuse
Ohhh Myyyy Goddd!! 🙏💖 If the video about narc's texting got 1 mil + views then this video should get 1 billion + views and millions of likes! ❤ Wow! I'm only into minute 2:42 and you already started to tell my story WORD FOR WORD! 🙏✨️🪽 Thanks a million, dear Danish! You're doing an amazing work! 🙏✨️🕊
OMG, OMG, OMG, I do all these things and I just thought it was just the way I am and thought all these thoughts you spoke of. The only difference is that I was not subjected to hurtful words, just silence, every day of my life as a child, isolated in my room, only coming out for school lessons or when my dad came home after working long hours, to eat. Waiting, just like you said, for just one word to establish a connection with my mother. It never happened. She was trapped behind the wall of her own past, I suppose. But I remember wondering throughout, what was wrong with me, what had I done to make me so unworthy of her love. And I was adopted so I already knew I was abandoned by my first mother, so it had to be me, of course. I remember just being in my room reading and she would come in with a belt and just start wailing on me. I remember screaming over and over, what did I do? Just tell me what I did and I won't do it again. Silence. Silence. Silence. Maybe this is not narcissism. Maybe it was just abuse, but the result is the same. I developed all the patterns of communication and behavior and the thoughts that you speak of, while subjected to complete silence, abandonment, and an occasional beating out of the blue. Someday I will get into therapy with you. I feel like you truly get how this works and can help people out of this trap. I can only imagine what you must have gone through to become so skilled at making these points so clear for people to understand. I really like your teaching style. Five things a narc does, seven things a narc says, etc., etc., That puts it into a structure that is easy to follow and that one can actually do something with the information, at least it does for me. Thank you for sharing. Listening and watching your videos has helped me tremendously to understand and to heal. Sometimes it even feels like you're talking to me personally, what you say is so on point.
Don't they know that I grew up in the 70s with yo yos for toys. I was able to make my yo yo go around the world. I was able to do walk the dog. And make it spin. So therefore I've been somewhat conditioned to the ups and downs. I still have my classic Duncan yo you and new string to boor. I think I'll go back to playing with it.
My friend had car keys taken away she borrowed her friends car her partner had the nerve to text her and said bring home lunch she brought home nothing she confronted him about it with her friend there he denied it. And she deleted the text so there went her proof. She brought home nothing Good for her this is so sick .
One question. How do they keep up with all of this themselves? It's beyond my thought capacity. Why would anyone put so much effort into all of this or does it simply come natural to them? Mind games, head games.....they're missing out on some really great little things in life. It's the little things in life that I love the most. The mind is a terrible thing to waste. As far as I'm concerned the addiction we find ourselves in with the internet wastes too much precious time.
The reason I over text is because I don’t want him to come around behind whatever the situation is and lie about it so if safe, for example I don’t show up somewhere. He usually lies and says oh I don’t know where she is and tries to imply that I’m somewhere I shouldn’t be so I overexplain myselfin order to have people know where I’m at or that I am a truthful person if that makes sense
I know when my narcissistic ex husband is trying to fight with me in his text messages. Still get anxiety because it takes me an hour to figure out an answer to end it before it escalates. Most of the time I am successful.
That monster insulted me subtly in a text.I only understood the gravity of the insult when i left him😂😂re reading old messages i was like ' wait a minute, no he did not'...guess what? He did. But im free.I went cold turkey NC didnt reply to that demon's last text. I dont walk around with anxiety anymore...but my texting style has changed bad...all that silent treatment. Im the one going days without replying to messages now..n its unfair to my contacts
long text explaining how the covert narcissist mother gaslights, Darvo Method, and ignores her grandchildren is being a bad toxic person 😂 literally waited two weeks before replying they did nothing wrong and to quit blaming her for my problems 😂
i’m sure u can do it 🤗 not tryna seem rude btw- i’ve just noticed ppl do it for other creators who don’t have the time to do it in their comment sections… 🤔so ACTUALLY, maybe i can do it🤞🏽 1 1:08 2 2:36 3 4:23 4 6:00 5 7:27 🙊 i hope this helps 😅
I always find myself rephrasing and simplifying the messages I send to people. Ordinary people dislike novels of nonsensical explanations before getting to the point. For example: I'm an imperfect human, forgot my car keys and had to go back inside to get them before going to work. I swear it will never happen again. Narc: You ALWAYS forget stuff, you are such an idiot. I don't know what to do with you. You ALWAYS trouble for people. You NEVER get things right. (Pay attention to the black and white thinking by the use of always and never). While to a normal person it's enough to say: I forgot my car keys inside, and had to go back and get them. Normal response: Shit happens, we're all imperfect humans.
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And.. Narcissists know exactly what they’re doing, and they don't treat everyone the same.
Thats why its so difficult to prove the abuse. Take care out there
True God help us from this demonic people.
The treat their wife and children like hell and behave good with others.
@@mona9096 yep 🤮
I’ve seen they do treat everyone the same. It may take a while to observe but they do. They just try to keep it together and look golden for certain ones. At the end, they treat everyone the same, especially when they have no use for certain people any longer - then you really see the same treatment. They have “little” slips here and there around the ones they want to look golden to. When you know how they roll, you can’t unsee it on any of them. The people who are fooled want to be or stay fooled - because there are little observable evil nuggets here and there. There is ALWAYS a motive for them. ALWAYS. The narcissist/npd’s have to manifest their mess one way or another.
A simple message can cause more anxiety and stress...
They are crazy....
💯
@@annrodriguez2891 and Crazy makerzzz 😵💫
U r so right in every video. I'm a narcissistic abuse survivor. Still trying to find the light again because still being pulled back by emotional hoovering. But I recognize it now. Thank u for helping me heal.
❤
All the best for you! It takes time to heal. And a lot of support. Take your time! ❤
Hear you 😢
@brittneudelossantos2503 your not alone in this fight Britney, well done for getting this far😊 your stronger than they are
So painfully true Danish. Regulating our nervous systems by bringing ourselves to the present moment, breathing, humming, stepping from one leg to the other and rejecting negative self talk are vital for managing the triggers. We need peace, quiet, self compassion, patience for ourselves and unconditional love for ourselves to slowly get ourselves out of the hell of narcissistic abuse. It takes a lot of time and we don’t need to defend ourselves, we shouldn’t push ourselves, when the time is right we will start feeling better. It takes time to heal after experiencing hell on earth which narcissistic abuse is.
Amen to that! You speak my mind!
It's 101% right. Long texts release what's bothering the person. At the same time, we like to help people going through this narcissistic trauma that we suffered.
That's so me...thank you for helping me understand my behaviour pattern better.
My ex narc always wanted me to over communicate and over explain myself whilst he never did the same and had a completely different life outside of the home
Danish u r a cure...u r medicine....I am understanding soo much from all these vedios 🙏🙏🙏
I'm glad I ended my abuse when I did. :(
At number 1 I started crying 😢
Me too
me too 😮😮😮
Oh my God! This is so crazy. My Dad is a narc. And I’ve only recently realised that I don’t need to send major explanations in my texts.
Thank you for helping me in my healing journey
Oh! The extremely long texts, that people such as my son complain about and my daughter too. Sometimes I stop short because of their complaints but not because of a good habit
oh thank you.
I agree with you….I guess I tried so hard to explain what I was trying to say …they dismissed my talking and just put it up to me always talking too much…and eventually one walked away no contact…I leave them pretty much alone now…although they have a standing phone” audience” with their narc father every weekend…I have just limited my exposure to brush offs now …too late I am old and sickly ..
@@claireburkus8497 We must have the same kids. One moved to Hawaii after verbally attacking me when I was thanking him for cleaning my shed. Weirdest thing ever. I am not going to "break the silence" or try to find him. I hope he has a good time, but I can't lose any more of myself to narcs. Go for a walk in the woods instead.
@@claireburkus8497- my children were alienated from me by my ex covert narc and my covert narc mother. Once I divorced him when they were older teens and young adults is when it all made sense what was going on. All three walked away, one has returned b/c I’m ill, the other two know and nothing. I tried for seven years w/sporadically reaching out. Then stopped and moved forward. I thought there was hope w/the youngest, then I found out he was present w/his sibling when I called to say I fractured my hip and needed help. Nothing, he even told her I didn’t need an ambulance, a broken hip isn’t a big deal.🤦🏻♀️ obviously, the hope isn’t there anymore and calling it a day. Maybe one day they’ll realize how their father abused them for his own selfishness to hurt me. By then, I expect to be dead.
Thank you so much! I live with one, my daughter.. I need to move but can't right now...😢
100%!!!!!!!! Thanks so much for sharing!!!!!
Uncannily true.
OMG. Right off the bat. This is me. I don't text much, but I comment on TH-cam and Facebook. All of my comments are too lengthy.🙄 I always feel the need to prove my opinion or statement, backing them with reason or facts. I reread them before posting them, editing them to remove any misconceptions that may arise. Then, I check for responses every day.
I think I'm not great with texts because there was a time when not answering on the spot got me in trouble. I'd get in trouble with my narc for not answering my phone while at work, but I wasn't allowed to be seen with my phone at work. It was so frustrating, to say the least.
That is soooooooo true....
Again, it is as if you have been a fly on the wall of my life. Thank you once again for your platform.
This is terrifying. You're describing the last year of my life.
It is also about my life ! Thank you !
one hundred percent all of this 💯
This narcisisst i am dealing with, trust me he is the most filthiest man i hv ever seen...He thinks if the person isn't beneficial to him then they are useless.....of no good....Beyond tolerance now*😆🤣
Get out instead of using hysterical loughing emoticons.
1:23 - I got my answer
When I text with anyone now I read the text over and over and change the words many times. Then until someone replies I am very nervous that I may have offended them. There have been many times my husband has been angry over the words I used.
5:13 yes. Sometimes you see the manipulation in the text or email, but when you show it to a friend, they give the benefit of the doubt. Because your friend doesn’t understand this sophisticated level of manipulation.
8:19 yes! They love tossing a grenade and ignoring you. Bonus if you “act crazy” at this time.
Thank you, Danish!!! 🙏😊
Mai 2003 se aesa behave karti hu jabse Mera Husband ki entry meri life mai huai hai
Vo time par Email,gmail chat tha
Omg, I just realized why he would rapid fire messages when I would try to get answers from him! And by the time I'd answer him, he had ten more messages and say I wasn't making sense. This was just him evading my conversations... man I really was a lot more nieve about him then I thought.
Is there a community where we learners and victim of this abuse can meet and interact? (Online)
Im desperate abt it
There are some reddit communities. Raisedbynarcisists or CPTSD.
Those are for narcissistic families. But I'm sure there are subreddits for other types of narc abuse
Ohhh Myyyy Goddd!! 🙏💖
If the video about narc's texting got 1 mil + views then this video should get 1 billion + views and millions of likes! ❤
Wow! I'm only into minute 2:42 and you already started to tell my story WORD FOR WORD! 🙏✨️🪽
Thanks a million, dear Danish! You're doing an amazing work! 🙏✨️🕊
These are good things to think about
Thank you!! 💚
Nailed this one 😢
OMG, OMG, OMG, I do all these things and I just thought it was just the way I am and thought all these thoughts you spoke of. The only difference is that I was not subjected to hurtful words, just silence, every day of my life as a child, isolated in my room, only coming out for school lessons or when my dad came home after working long hours, to eat. Waiting, just like you said, for just one word to establish a connection with my mother. It never happened. She was trapped behind the wall of her own past, I suppose. But I remember wondering throughout, what was wrong with me, what had I done to make me so unworthy of her love. And I was adopted so I already knew I was abandoned by my first mother, so it had to be me, of course. I remember just being in my room reading and she would come in with a belt and just start wailing on me. I remember screaming over and over, what did I do? Just tell me what I did and I won't do it again. Silence. Silence. Silence. Maybe this is not narcissism. Maybe it was just abuse, but the result is the same. I developed all the patterns of communication and behavior and the thoughts that you speak of, while subjected to complete silence, abandonment, and an occasional beating out of the blue. Someday I will get into therapy with you. I feel like you truly get how this works and can help people out of this trap. I can only imagine what you must have gone through to become so skilled at making these points so clear for people to understand. I really like your teaching style. Five things a narc does, seven things a narc says, etc., etc., That puts it into a structure that is easy to follow and that one can actually do something with the information, at least it does for me. Thank you for sharing. Listening and watching your videos has helped me tremendously to understand and to heal. Sometimes it even feels like you're talking to me personally, what you say is so on point.
Wow! This hit home! I do all of them!! 💔
Hello bhaiya,
Thanks
Thanks for Reply ☺️
So true but I am in the next stage....I stopped explaining myself
Thanku Danish 🎉🎉
No1 is so true for me..actually all points
I know it very well.
Don't they know that I grew up in the 70s with yo yos for toys. I was able to make my yo yo go around the world. I was able to do walk the dog. And make it spin. So therefore I've been somewhat conditioned to the ups and downs. I still have my classic Duncan yo you and new string to boor. I think I'll go back to playing with it.
My friend had car keys taken away she borrowed her friends car her partner had the nerve to text her and said bring home lunch she brought home nothing she confronted him about it with her friend there he denied it. And she deleted the text so there went her proof. She brought home nothing Good for her this is so sick .
One question. How do they keep up with all of this themselves? It's beyond my thought capacity. Why would anyone put so much effort into all of this or does it simply come natural to them? Mind games, head games.....they're missing out on some really great little things in life. It's the little things in life that I love the most. The mind is a terrible thing to waste. As far as I'm concerned the addiction we find ourselves in with the internet wastes too much precious time.
These awful awful people, they...."change" and contaminate us right? And this taints us in other relationships and how it affects us right? :(
The reason I over text is because I don’t want him to come around behind whatever the situation is and lie about it so if safe, for example I don’t show up somewhere. He usually lies and says oh I don’t know where she is and tries to imply that I’m somewhere I shouldn’t be so I overexplain myselfin order to have people know where I’m at or that I am a truthful person if that makes sense
I've faced alllll this !!
Thank you for your information 🖤💜
I know when my narcissistic ex husband is trying to fight with me in his text messages. Still get anxiety because it takes me an hour to figure out an answer to end it before it escalates. Most of the time I am successful.
That monster insulted me subtly in a text.I only understood the gravity of the insult when i left him😂😂re reading old messages i was like ' wait a minute, no he did not'...guess what? He did.
But im free.I went cold turkey NC didnt reply to that demon's last text. I dont walk around with anxiety anymore...but my texting style has changed bad...all that silent treatment. Im the one going days without replying to messages now..n its unfair to my contacts
long text explaining how the covert narcissist mother gaslights, Darvo Method, and ignores her grandchildren is being a bad toxic person 😂 literally waited two weeks before replying they did nothing wrong and to quit blaming her for my problems 😂
OMG it's so true
Please Add timestamps for each texting habit for this video
i’m sure u can do it 🤗
not tryna seem rude btw-
i’ve just noticed ppl do it for other creators who don’t have the time to do it in their comment sections… 🤔so ACTUALLY, maybe i can do it🤞🏽
1 1:08
2 2:36
3 4:23
4 6:00
5 7:27
🙊 i hope this helps 😅
So accurate!
OMG😔
so true😢
truth
Sir is topic ko hindi me bhi kare
Kb krmo ka fl milega narcissist ko 😢
Yas i do everytime long text msgs of my narc gf i explain everything of my emotions but she have no feeling not understand my words my feelings .
first
Its very painful to accept the reality of your partner.😢 But Its 1000%truth.Thank you sir , your video's make me more stronger mentally.🥹🙏🏻
I always find myself rephrasing and simplifying the messages I send to people. Ordinary people dislike novels of nonsensical explanations before getting to the point. For example: I'm an imperfect human, forgot my car keys and had to go back inside to get them before going to work. I swear it will never happen again. Narc: You ALWAYS forget stuff, you are such an idiot. I don't know what to do with you. You ALWAYS trouble for people. You NEVER get things right. (Pay attention to the black and white thinking by the use of always and never).
While to a normal person it's enough to say: I forgot my car keys inside, and had to go back and get them. Normal response: Shit happens, we're all imperfect humans.