Discussing the mother wound with my mother.
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Hiii! Hope you enjoyed this healing conversation between me and my mum about the mother daughter relationship and the mother wound. Always so grateful for mums insight as a therapist and as the amazing human being she is. We send our love to all of you! ❤️❤️
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Idk how my mom is so forgiving and kind and loving when her mom literally abandoned her when she was young. Like who taught her to be so amazing and great I love my mom 😭
I can not explain it to you in perfect english but the best humans I met (those who made their life pursuit serving/helping others) were those who weren’t treated fairly as a child…. And this alone makes me cry on demand…..😭
People like your mom tend to have more empathy because of what they went through. They also tend to do inner work when coming from a dysfunctional family.
wow I am so proud of her. such a kind person.
She knows what it’s like to not have that relationship. She didn’t have that figure to teach her those things so she taught herself and grew from that. Now, she has a child of her own and she doesn’t want you to experience what she did when she was young. It’s so interesting thinking deep about those things. I love that you have a good relationship with her ❤
Unfortunately for me, there is a lot more than "what I didn't get" in my "mother wound" space. I have deep neglect and severe abuse. It affects me in ways I don't even notice most days, and that's the big lesson of how impactful it is. I am working still to find peace within myself because I don't think I'll ever have that with her more than just accepting she is who she is. And sometimes that will have to be good enough. I encourage anyone who feels like me to ask for help, because this can seriously derail your life without you even knowing.
I get you unfortunately so as soon as the video started I knew it wouldnt be very relatable My relationship with my mum is fractured so severely that this conversation would be too much to dream
i relate. reparenting myself through taking care of myself in motherly ways has been a very healing practice for me
@mysticmaidenmagic I'm just beginning to *really* work through my trauma and reparent myself as I'm almost 25 and I realised if I don't do something now, I'm going to hit 30 and still be unfit to have kids and my life will be miserable. As hard as it is now, I think a better future is all we can look towards when all else is so bleak.
@@GypsyChlo being a good mother to my future children has been a big motivation for me as well, but also think of your inner child often, even maybe looking at pictures of them, and showing them all the love they need
it’s kinda sad that the older the get, the better I notice toxic patterns in my family and it makes me scared about the mother I’ll be in the future (if I’ll get to that). this was beautiful 💛
I hope to encourage and comfort you that I had an extremely traumatic childhood, and my relationship with my child is healthy and beautiful. What I learned is that no parent/child relationship is amazing all the time... and when we are coming from a place of trauma we often times misrepresent other people's lives in our own minds as being better than they are. The truth is we all struggle, and unfortunately, ultimately our children will have to fail and feel pain. That's the hardest part. But the fact that you are thinking about and noticing toxic patterns and wanting to break free from them, means that you are different from those who will likely continue to perpetuate them. If you decide to allow the possibility for children in your life, I hope you will give yourself the grace that you have always deserved and impart this to your babies.
I fear the same thing. I do want to be a good mother if God ever gives me the opportunity. I do want to provide the love and attention to my child because I know how it feels to not have it. I hope God listens to our prayers.
as someone who lost their mom as a kid (who i dearly loved) it’s beautiful to see a healthy, deep mother-daughter relationship like this
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watching your mom as a young girl in the beginning is so wild
You look so much like her!! I love this video so much. You've spoken about things that i could not tell my mum. Here's to hoping there comes a day when my relationship with her can be like yours.
Sending so much love ❣️❣️❣️
How I wish I had a mother like your Mum 😢
I think of the word “mother” and only brings me pain, rejected and overall emotional disaster
wow your mom is so beautiful and wise 😭 my mom and i have had a really complex and difficult relationship, and we didn't speak for almost all of my 20s, but in the past couple of years we've reconnected and really hashed things out. your mom speaking about holding on to so much resentment and anger about what she perceived to not be there in her relationship with her mom really hit hard!! i'm so grateful to know my mom now and it does feel like a very tender relationship, but i know it'll get stronger and stronger each year. thank you for this vid
Oh this is heavy. My mother is a narcissist who always picks her favourite child based on her current emotion. I will never experience this kind of a conversation with her because when you try to go deep it almost doesn’t make sense what she says because she is just not emphatic and uses these phrases she picked and I admired her as a child and thought she was the most beautiful and smartest woman ever… which I feel now it is all gone and I experience exactly this- that I don’t know the person who is sitting in front of me anymore. It’s so shallow and I so miss our connection even though I am now aware that it was just an illusion.
Your mother is so knowledgable and an incredible explainerer and I always learn so much from hearing her xx
We love you!!!!
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Not me crying over my tea right now. This was so beautiful and i'm so glad you put this into the world. Cherished 💛
Agh I’m so glad you enjoyed it 🥹❣️❤️
what an honor to gain this perspective on my mothering and my own mother 🙏🏼 beautiful discussion
This was so beautifully put. I have a very damaged relationship with my mother and seeing your beautiful, mature, and deep connection moved me. it gives me hope to create such a relationship with my own daughters if they come. thank you.
your videos feel like hugs 💗
What a beautiful mother- daughter relationship you have. Thank you for being so open and talking about this vulnerable topic 🫶🏽
This was such a special video that I happen to stumble on. Thank you for sharing your mom with us!
What a beautiful and healing conversation. My little girl is about to turn 1 and I relate so much with what your mum is saying. Thank you for putting this out there😌
And thank you for mentioning your dad towards the end of this video. People underestimate the role of a father in his child’s life, especially a daughter. I would not be able to nurture and love my daughter the way I want without the support of my husband.
This is so beautiful. What a gem your mum is 🤍
I love that I can watch your videos and learn a lesson from them. You’re Definitely one of my favourite TH-camrs.
Joy, this is absolutely beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing the conversation and experiences. Your mom is light to us.
Such a meaningful, important conversation. Thank you for this.
This was something lovely I didn't even know I needed to hear. Thank you.
I absolutely adored this.I can see where you get your beauty and wisdom from.Very wholesome conversation and made my heart warm 🥹♥️
y'all made me cry🥺This was so beautiful and really sweet
Sooo grateful to hear your mother speak. My mother is passed on and we will never be able to repair our wound in this life. I have just become a mother myself and I am working with these themes so much, trying to find that understanding that is not intellectual but in the spirit. I am very inspired by your mother and her relationship with you. Thank you for sharing.
such an insightful conversation, I do feel very grateful in having such a good relationship with my mum. your video has made me realise I need to tell her more often how much I appreciate her ♥♥
I love that I can come back here and it always feels like healing to watch your videos
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This is a topic that is so insanely nourishing, something I didn't even think of. Thank you for sharing this video it is absolutely a blessing to many
i almost cried. this was so beautiful
What a beautiful video! I love your mother-daughter relationship, I’m jealous and inspired at the same time. Having a narcissistic mother is not for the weak, yet I can’t wait to become as wise and loving like your mother. Thank you for this video ❤
Such a blessings to have all of those old videos
Joys videos with her mom are so sacred❤your mother excudes wisdom
You both really touched my heart deeply. Thank you so much 🧡
this is beautiful - thanks for sharing!
Just wanted to say that this video is amazing and that please please please keep making the videos that you think are relevant. This is what people want to see and is so essential for their growth. I loved listening and learnt so much in just 29 minutes so huge thanks!
it feels like a gift to be able to hear this conversation. really touching
You have to know you're extremely lucky to have a mother like yours.
Thank you both for this
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watching this on Mother's day and it makes me appreciate the mother-daughter relationship so much more!!
She is wise and beautiful and wow her young self looks like you
I can't describe how truly meaningful and special your videos are to me. I'n learning every time. Thank you so much
hey joy, i watched this vid a few days ago and it really hit hard; i’ve always had issues with the mother wound and had a complicated relationship with my mother. especially in the sense of not wanting to parent my future child or children the way i was parented and treated growing up. but seeing the way your mother speaks and treats you gave me hope that i can be like her and have such a deep and beautiful relationship with my children like you guys. im starting therapy to hopefully heal myself in all the right places for this to hopefully happen for me one day. thank you, i needed this 🤍
Sending love ❤️❤️❤️
you are so incredibly lucky to have this
Beautiful conversation. Thank you both ❤
This is INCREDIBLE
This is such an authentic and beautiful conversation, so understandable. Your mother is so intelligent and your relationship is so open, it’s really really admirable. Thank you for sharing this 🫶🫶
I love your videos, they're meaningful 💛
thank you for posting this
Beautiful! I love my mom and mother/ daughter relationship
So many feels watching this. From feeling validated to sad that I cant experience the type of openness and understanding you and your mum have.
Sending so much love your way ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Your mom is gorgeous!!
What a beautiful video, I cannot express just how much I appreciate my mother, I wish I knew more about her
what a beautiful interview ❤️
This was absolutely beautiful, and oh so timely. It was, and is, so healing for me to witness this conversation with your mother. My relationship with my mother has been many things, in this lifetime and many lifetimes prior. To say there's a lot to unpack would be the understatement of the century! But ultimately, I know in the deepest part of me that the fact that the Universal Algorythym placed this video on my path at this exact time was divinely orchestrated to show me that not only is this possible for me and my mother, but that it's already here. Thank you. And I'm sending so very much love to you both! I would to see more videos of you and her speaking! 💖
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I sent this video to 2 of my friends, loved this conversation 🫶🏽
היי ג'וי, אני אף פעם לא מגיבה ובמיוחד לא בעברית אבל הייתי חייבת להגיב לסרטון הזה כי המקבץ הראשון של סרטוני הילדות שלך כל כך זהים לשלי בתור ישראלית בת 20. ולחשוב כמה החיים שלנו שונים כיום... דבר ראשון את מוכשרת בטירוף והסרטונים שלך תמיד מקסימים בעיניי, וגם אמא שלך מהממת ביופייה ונראית מלאת חכמה.
אני מניחה שאת לא רוצה לדבר באינטרנט על הקשר שלך לישראל כי לצערי כולם היום מתנערים מהמדינה והעם שלנו אבל עדיין אם אי פעם תרגישי יכולת לעשות סרטון על הסיפור שלכם ואיך הגעתם למקום שאתם נמצאים בו היום זה יהיה מדהים.
תודה על הדרך המיוחדת שבה העברת את הנושא יחד עם אמא שלך, ריגשתן🙏
עם ישראל חי.
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I love your mum and I love my mum and I love all people who are healing their relationship with their mother. We can learn from the ways we were loved well as well as the ways we we didn't feel love, so we can love ourselves and others how we all deserve to be loved.
Thank you so much for this video ❤ I have a three year old daughter, my first born. I wish to have this relationship with her when she’s older! I recently noticed repeating bad parenting with her (which I experienced from my mother) so this video was a good wake up call to correct myself ❤ I do have a good relationship with my daughter but I think I have been hurting it myself
Enjoyed this deeply, thank you 💕
Thank you for having this conversation! ❤
I lost my mother at young age this is a beautiful discussion❤ thank you both for sharing this video.
you and your mom are absolutely beautiful inside and out. your mom possesses a lot of wisdom. i love your energies and the relationship you two have. it makes me realise how grateful i am for my own mom 🩷
lots if love for you and your mum, joy❤
I never wanted this video to end
I’m gonna get up the courage to ask her to watch this with me 😅I’ve had a aching tooth 🦷 and then this is suggested to me it’s time to try again . 😊 Thank you so much this is truly helping me on my path .
This video is underrated. Amazing editing.
your mother is so beautiful♥
I recently became a mother and I have an amazing mom that I've learned from. I'm so scared of where I'll fall short, every mother will in some way💔 this was nice to watch and i hope that if i cause any wounds or scratches i can help repair them
this was a reallly beautiful video
Thank you for sharing these thoughts
omg ur mom is so beautiful
My mother has never talked to me directly for so long lol
this is the cutest
your mom has the best hair I've seen in a while
Incredibly insightful video, thank you for sharing! I'll be sharing this with all the women in my life, especially my mother.
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Thank you for sharing.. I totally relate to your mum. I spent a lot of my life feeling the rejection and neglect of my mother...I think God gave me 4 amazing children to help me realise what and how a mother should be and inturn gave me a healthy prospective on why she was an acted the way she did...I spent many years self healing and now come to a place of peace with her and with I my self about her...she has passed now and although she didn't and couldn't bring herself to have peace with me before she died I now have more peace with her now she has gone than when she was here....God rest her soul I think she was a troubled soul and pray she is at peace now ❤...I now have an amazing life,,I have 4 boys and then God blesses me with a daughter...its not been easy with her..but I know she knows that she has a mother that loves her unconditional and will always be there for her... The greatest gift is to be a mother and now being a grandmother to..❤
Your mom is beautiful.
Really a wonderful video!
Two of my favourite women of all time❤ so wise, brave and beautiful as always
Love and miss you so much 💗💗💗💗
My mother was raised in a convent in Quebec and severly neglected. She didn't know how to parent let alone mother. I did a lot of things differently raising my children and now I can't help but feel so ripped off! She is now in contact with me (after a 23 year non-communication relationship) but I have a hard time talking with her. She feels like a stranger and doesn't even know basic things about me after 58 years. I have no choice but accept it now but I'm pretty non-interested about making it better. She just sees relationships to serve her things she needs. I really try to avoid her actually and don't feel like I ever had a mother. It's very weird. She never had any friends either. Her whole life she's never been able to hold onto and carry on friendships. She's lonely now. I feel so angry with Catholicism just ruining her! What a shame.
Loved that and love you ❤
The fact that neither of you cried in this episode shows the strength and wholeness of your relationship
Which font did you use for The End? And just to say this this video is amazing !!
You look just like your beautiful mother.
wonderful conversation
wowwwwww. this was beautiful. I just finished reading The Road Less Travelled (m Scott Peck) and he writes about children who grow up in security vs insecurity. i thought so much of his words and ideas hearing you both talk about the desire to support and champion girls vs the desire to keep girls protected and safe: "As a result of the experience of consistent parental love and caring throughout childhood, such fortunate children will enter adulthood not only with a deep internal sense of their own value but also with deep sense of security ... with this internal sense of consistent safety in the world, such a child is free to delay (instant, dependent) gratification ... , secure in the knowledge that the opportunity for gratification, like home and parents, is always there, available when needed."
Tell your mum she’s the best mom.. thank you
you look just like her❤
instant yes omg
Hope can get a mother like you. My mom is too ignorance. Until now I don't have good relationship with her. She expected us to worshipped her like goddess but her ignorance with our childhood and to our father make us cold towards her😞
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Thank you for this. I am wondering, does your mom have anything else to say about your father and how his support helped her to be a better mom? 25:22
Important video , very insightful.
By the way - journal - let's bold it .
Does your mum have a yt channel ? Can you set that up for her ?
Wow she looked like your twin. She looked like she had you at a young age.
*not me being mindblown 4 minutes in the video*
yeah so this video definitely is not good advice for someone "raised" by a cluster b "mom" in terms of how to navigate the mother daughter relationship in adulthood. BPD Moms like mine never actually start seeing you as an adult and the relationships never become parallel because they treat you the same way they did as a child forever. They thrive off the toxic enmeshment because it means you can't abandon them.
Mine is like this. There are so many macro and micro wounds I had to heal and still heal. Anyway, what this mom said, rings true.
rlly 'copy' & 'paste'
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