you’re so lucky that your high school provided you with these people who are so similar to you and who value their inner child the way you do. adult friendships, esp early 20’s are so difficult to navigate so this was really helpful to see that some people do still value being “silly” and having authentic friendships
What Javis said about being together and 'forced' to be in the same space. I think part of that is not forgetting doing 'boring' day to day things together is also important to actually build a deep, solid friendships. Coffee's and experiences are also important, but the boring day to day things are what make you be a part of each others life.
Watching this confronted me with internalised trauma from the male gaze?? as in, seeing male and female friends be so cuddly and physically close and comfortable in a completely platonic way is SO FREAKING BEAUTIFUL and should be the most normal thing in the world, and yet I feel this part within that thinks “this is not possible” and would be challenged by that, insecure, hyper-self conscious, uncomfortable, on edge? It’s sad, and also eye opening, to acknowledge that within myself. Maybe someone can relate. Anyway, thank you so much for showing us what a healthy adult friendship can look like, we need to see what is possible and normal to others to realise this in our own lives. This level of intimacy is actually what I want, it’s what we need as humans! I’ve heard it being labelled “comfort contact”. Seeing others mirror this to me helps me to know whete fo grow in my own life ❤️❤️
I definitely relate and feel comforted that I'm not alone in these thoughts. As you said, it's so nice to see that these types of friendships are out there and possible :) Sending love ❤
@heather1628 thanks for sharing you feel the same, makes me feel less alone in it too! We will set ourselves free from this, I’m sure :)) 🌸💛 If anything, this shows us what we want in our hearts. That’s beautiful to know. Now we can act on it.
In a time where social media is so oversaturated with same kind of content, your videos lately have been so refreshing and inspiring! thank u for blessing us with this gorgeous video joy 💞
Jahvis is so real in the beginning 😂 Honestly, being an adult brings so much extra responsibility to your plate. What I am trying to do is moving things around in my plate to leave enough space for friends and socializing (at all times). So if a friend randomly reaches out and wants to talk, you can still accommodate them - even if you say “Can I call you in 2 hours?” and move around your schedule a bit. But the most important part is reciprocating. If people don’t reach out and seek your friendship, asses the situation and maybe let them go. Not saying stop being friends with your friend that is busy taking care of their newborn child, they need more time to adjust to their new life. But if you are the one reaching out to a friend 9/10 times and they barely show interest in your life, maybe it is time to let them go. Not everybody is meant to be staying in your life forever.
to be honest, i wish for my friendships to stay as genuine and pure as yours are. there is really something about childhood friends... just warms your heart. they have known you since you were trying to understand/make sense of the world, you guys give definitions to so many things together whereas in uni/later in life everybody has there own belief systems and thought processes that more of than not they are not willing to change that. sending positive energy to you and your friends and i hope that you get to do friend meet ups more often.
I have been a huge fan of your vlogs for quite a long time and I always admire the friendships that you have, even though you were living abroad for a long period of time and you never lost the connection with your friends which amazes me. as I found it difficult to maintain friendships especially when you are far away from them, this video was sooo inspiring and valuable, thank you for sharing xx
Thank you for showing that having such a friendgroup in our 20s is totally possible and keeping it real at the same time with great advice❤ the mood of this whole video >>>
it's so nice to see such a strong bond and loving relationship that you guys share 🌙🌸 we really should be more grateful for friends we feel comfortable with ❤
For me school mates all met good woman while I continue to almost 40 this year with cheaters and playas and still trying to find that one faithful girl. School mates started family and as time went you got left behind cause you don't share the stuff they experiencing after having kids you still trying to just find that one girl to share your life with who will be faithful and you can share life with and start a family.
you’re so lucky that your high school provided you with these people who are so similar to you and who value their inner child the way you do. adult friendships, esp early 20’s are so difficult to navigate so this was really helpful to see that some people do still value being “silly” and having authentic friendships
What Javis said about being together and 'forced' to be in the same space. I think part of that is not forgetting doing 'boring' day to day things together is also important to actually build a deep, solid friendships. Coffee's and experiences are also important, but the boring day to day things are what make you be a part of each others life.
Watching this confronted me with internalised trauma from the male gaze?? as in, seeing male and female friends be so cuddly and physically close and comfortable in a completely platonic way is SO FREAKING BEAUTIFUL and should be the most normal thing in the world, and yet I feel this part within that thinks “this is not possible” and would be challenged by that, insecure, hyper-self conscious, uncomfortable, on edge? It’s sad, and also eye opening, to acknowledge that within myself. Maybe someone can relate. Anyway, thank you so much for showing us what a healthy adult friendship can look like, we need to see what is possible and normal to others to realise this in our own lives. This level of intimacy is actually what I want, it’s what we need as humans! I’ve heard it being labelled “comfort contact”. Seeing others mirror this to me helps me to know whete fo grow in my own life ❤️❤️
This is so beautiful❤️ thank you for sharing. Sending a big hug 🫂
I definitely relate and feel comforted that I'm not alone in these thoughts. As you said, it's so nice to see that these types of friendships are out there and possible :) Sending love ❤
Big hug back ❤️
@heather1628 thanks for sharing you feel the same, makes me feel less alone in it too! We will set ourselves free from this, I’m sure :)) 🌸💛 If anything, this shows us what we want in our hearts. That’s beautiful to know. Now we can act on it.
@@LuanaKiehl333 Exactly! Being aware is the first step. There is hope, and beautiful things are out there for us, too :)) 💛
In a time where social media is so oversaturated with same kind of content, your videos lately have been so refreshing and inspiring! thank u for blessing us with this gorgeous video joy 💞
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A theme in all your videos is you having friends. I admire that about you. It is rare especially in your generation
Jahvis is so real in the beginning 😂 Honestly, being an adult brings so much extra responsibility to your plate. What I am trying to do is moving things around in my plate to leave enough space for friends and socializing (at all times). So if a friend randomly reaches out and wants to talk, you can still accommodate them - even if you say “Can I call you in 2 hours?” and move around your schedule a bit.
But the most important part is reciprocating. If people don’t reach out and seek your friendship, asses the situation and maybe let them go. Not saying stop being friends with your friend that is busy taking care of their newborn child, they need more time to adjust to their new life. But if you are the one reaching out to a friend 9/10 times and they barely show interest in your life, maybe it is time to let them go. Not everybody is meant to be staying in your life forever.
to be honest, i wish for my friendships to stay as genuine and pure as yours are. there is really something about childhood friends... just warms your heart. they have known you since you were trying to understand/make sense of the world, you guys give definitions to so many things together whereas in uni/later in life everybody has there own belief systems and thought processes that more of than not they are not willing to change that.
sending positive energy to you and your friends and i hope that you get to do friend meet ups more often.
Also woah you're almost at 100k! That's so exciting, congratulations 🤭
I have been a huge fan of your vlogs for quite a long time and I always admire the friendships that you have, even though you were living abroad for a long period of time and you never lost the connection with your friends which amazes me. as I found it difficult to maintain friendships especially when you are far away from them, this video was sooo inspiring and valuable, thank you for sharing xx
Your comments always make me so happy 🥹❤️❣️ sending you so much love xxxxx
Thank you for showing that having such a friendgroup in our 20s is totally possible and keeping it real at the same time with great advice❤ the mood of this whole video >>>
This is definitely something I've been thinking about a lot, thank you for your insight! Love you & your friends, your relationships are goals xx
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it's so nice to see such a strong bond and loving relationship that you guys share 🌙🌸 we really should be more grateful for friends we feel comfortable with ❤
This video was so comforting 🤍
You are a great friend Joy! ✨️
Joy, your videos are so special
I loooved that u put a Brazilian song in this video, we really like you 🫶
For me school mates all met good woman while I continue to almost 40 this year with cheaters and playas and still trying to find that one faithful girl. School mates started family and as time went you got left behind cause you don't share the stuff they experiencing after having kids you still trying to just find that one girl to share your life with who will be faithful and you can share life with and start a family.
that's the most wholesome video i've seen this year🥹🩵 hugs from switzerland