As a former NYC resident who “re-started” my life in California, thank you for this beautiful created vlog. Just seeing the glimpses of home brings a 😢 to my eye. But, I felt it was necessary for me to explore a new life and adventures outside my hometown. A little scary at first. However, my experiences in NYC provided the foundation and confidence to continue riding the up & down waves of Life.
Love the vid! I've always loved your stuff from way back when from the trailer up in the PNW where I found you on tiktok chopping wood ❤ and I could listen to your voiceovers for hours. This gave me major Patch Adams vibes ❤
Btw, nice job on the color grading! DaVinci is a little different to learn. And the audio was 🤌 spot on!! Also nailed the choice of music that went with the emotions you were projecting and what we were seeing visually! Keep it up! And being 30, you're still a youngin 😉❤
You can tell a lot of time and effort was put into this. Even though you’re the only person in this you’re actually showcasing the city as your partner. It’s like you’re showing yourself being alone but not exclusively lonely, though it does show you may feel that at times. . Thanks for sharing this meditative journey. I think the world is too beautiful a place not to fall in love with it, even if we don’t have someone else to be on the same journey….for now 🫶
Wait I love that!!!! Re: showcasing the city as my partner!! ❤️❤️❤️ wow i love your analysis :) I appreciate you so much for being here and cannot thank you enough
More or less two years since my life became me, the cat, the robotic vacuum cleaner, a big screen and a lot of work. The world forced me to detach and accept loss from a lot of things since 2020, and now there's no point more on trying to return to that previous state... Life must go onward and if we want to live, we must go onward too, even broken. The best part of it, I'd say, is the rare occasion when individual strangers have the chance to share good stories, and yours is a beautiful one, Taylor! An amazing video with an incredible tale, thank you for it! Take care, girl, and I just hope to be able to share more stories with you another time...
Yes onward and upward (even through the worst storms) !! :) we gotta keep on truckin! We got this! Thank you for sharing this beautiful message. I am so glad that you resonated with the video!! ❤️❤️❤️ hope you love the next one too!!!
Congratulations you’re now a film maker! Welcome to the club. I really liked your personal message and you’ve come a long way with your editing. Great choice in music too. Keep up the great work.
Thank you!! 🥺❤️ it’s so exciting to grow and learn something totally new like editing! and also you liked the music too?! I definitely spent a very long time with the song choices (and mixing) I’m curious what stuck out to you re: music choices!!
@@taylorxmichele sorry I had to go back and watch a few times and think about the music before putting my thoughts into words. What stood out to me, is that every musical choice and change accompanies a particular theme marked by dialog. The intro which I think is an instrumental version of "The Glory of Love", sets up plot with subtle swing melody. There's a feeling of whimsical nostalgia that goes along your realization that you find yourself alone. The jazz trumpet and guitar pieces are really nice with their slow tempo which compliments the period of introspection. The vibrato creates a gentle resonance while you talk about finding purpose in solitude. Act 2 has this really cool piano line that's quietly hidden behind your profound awakening. It's quietly walks up and down the chords reinforcing a feeling of determined strength. Act 3 which doesn't have any dialog, just has a nice positive and uplifting rhythm that reflects a sense of hope and forward momentum. You can't help put feel positive. I know the scenes are filled with images of early evening skies, but I like to think of them as dawns rather than dusks. The music is packed with optimism and leaves you with a sense that you're moving on and embracing your journey ahead. Anyway that's my thoughts on the music. Side question. Did you record your mouth trumpet or did you find a player?
Great video as always, Taylor! I love your thought process with all the reflecting and questioning because I’m an over thinker and it helps to hear someone else going through the same things. I liked when you opened the drawer to reveal the words ‘a short film’ on a piece of paper - very creative! I thought of the law of detachment when you talked about detaching yourself from the outcome. Learning how to let go isn’t easy. What helps me is being open to whatever may come my way and letting life flow through me. I can’t control what happens, but I can control how I react to it. Our minds/thoughts/words are very powerful. It’s like the quotes, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t - you’re right.” And “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” Instead of thinking: I have to do this or I have to do that, replace it with: I get to do this, I get to do that. Gratitude is everything. I’ve become very spiritual within the last year because of TikTok, and it’s helped me have a more positive mindset and outlook on life. Most of what I’m writing in this post are things I learned from TikTok ✨ When you said, “We have to ignite that flame within ourselves before we can even think of illuminating the path for others.” It made me think that we can’t keep lighting ourselves on fire to keep others warm. As we outgrow people, we may not even realize that we’re watering dead plants. The people we meet are in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. I believe that what is meant for me will never pass me by and that everything will work out the way it’s supposed to. Life is happening for you, not to you. If you didn’t get the job, relationship, etc. you wanted, it wasn’t meant to be. Rejection is redirection. If you ask the universe for something, the answer is either yes, not yet, or I have something better. I agree that we’re given the gift of time when we're single to figure out who we are and what we enjoy. It also gives us the chance to work on ourselves, heal, and grow. I trust that the universe has my back and that I’m exactly where I need to be. Everything I’ve been through helped shaped me into the person I am today. I’m also happily single but at times feel lonely or feel like everybody’s got somebody but me. Some things that help me with those struggles are knowing that I’ll spend the majority of my life in a relationship, so I should enjoy this time I’m single and I may even miss it someday. If I knew that I would be getting into a relationship one month from now, I think: what would I do differently in my life? I also think about all the things I haven’t experienced yet with my future partner and it makes me excited knowing that there’s so much to look forward to. Writing in a ‘Letters to My Future Partner’ journal helps me a lot as well since I’m a hopeless romantic who loves writing, and it’s a thoughtful gift I can give them someday. Ahh it looks like the writer in me definitely came out in this TH-cam comment - I blame you for inspiring me so much 😉
Kristin!! I love love LOVE reading your heartfelt words as always I was hoping you would love this video!! Thank you! I think we are on the same sides of TikTok too btw. Re: to keep others warm -- wow, this is really powerful and love to hear your perspective. The watering dead plants ugh I feel that to my core. I agree that rejection is redirection. Isn't it wild how yes it hurts at the time but then you look back six months later and think, "hold on that really worked out in my favor this entire time they were no longer in alignment with me and it was best that season ended at the time that it did because it allowed me to connect with people who are on the same page/chapter as me" The universe is on our side
@@taylorxmichele Very true. Ooh I haven’t heard of The Ripped Bodice, but I looked it up and now I want to go there!! It looks like they have one in LA too (my hometown). I’m in San Diego now, so it’s not too far. I actually visited New York for the first time three years ago in September, and it was really cool since I’d been wanting to go my whole life! Central Park was probably my favorite, but my trip was pretty short, so I’d like to visit again someday (maybe during Christmas time?) and check out more of what the city has to offer, like that bookstore you mentioned. Oh, and maybe meet a certain someone who I’ve been connecting with over TH-cam comments 😉 Wow that is such a compliment thank you!! Writing a book is on my bucket list, actually! I love to journal, write songs, poems, and just creatively in general. I use writing as an outlet to express my feelings and find it to be very healing. I’d like to write a memoir someday, and think it’d be fun to write a queer YA romance. I’d also like to release a book of the poems I’ve written, and maybe songs too. When I was 12 years old, the Disney Channel movie Camp Rock came out and this movie changed my life. It inspired me to write songs, sing, and play the guitar, and it’s how I fell in love with music. Since then, I’ve written hundreds of songs (although some or most might pass more as poems). I find it very hard to put lyrics and music together. It’s easier for me to do them separately. Years ago I entered an international songwriting contest twice in the ‘Lyric Only’ category and won the ‘Runner Up’ placement both times. Maybe sometime I can send you a few of the songs/poems I’ve written. I guess I technically already did when I emailed you a poem I wrote a few months ago inspired by your dating TikToks, but there’s still plenty more where that came from :) By the way, I started learning UX design and am thinking of becoming a UX designer! I’m really enjoying it and plan to get a certificate and build a portfolio so that I can get an entry level job in the field. I wasn’t familiar with UI/UX design until you, so I want to say thank you for the times you’ve talked about your job because it inspired me to look into that type of work! Earlier this month, I finally graduated after being in college on and off for 10 years. (I got my Bachelor’s degree in LGBTQ+ Studies). It feels really good to be completely finished, and I’m excited to enter the job market and look for full-time work. (I’ve been in retail for the past couple of years). I feel like being a UX designer is right up my alley, and it’s been fun learning about what they do. I’d love to talk with you sometime about your job, how you got started, etc.!
I can't agree more, and except for some things, I really am in the same point. Super relatable :) Things take time, re-building your mind and personality takes time, but I'm sure it worth it
Very captivating. Excellent editing - love your style. Keep it up! First time I ever clicked on a random TH-cam video recommendation and actually watched it start to finish
God I needed this Short Film! Thank you so much. I'm middled aged and married. My solitude time is so precious to me. And the routine of morning reflection with my cup of coffee is something I need to get my head straight. Love the sound, the rain (Feel Like I'm There!) and the people in this video. And another star is your precious dog, Bennie!
Thank you!! I am so glad that this resonated, and yes having our alone time to recharge is so important. Re: the sound of the rain, thank you I am learning and experimenting with the use of sound and sound design in videos!! I appreciate you so much!!
You let go when you take that leap of faith into that thing you always wanted that place you always dreamed of even if it’s not the end journey for you. It’s the next step, but sometimes the step is far enough away that it requires a jump..
@@taylorxmichele Most of my life has been this way. It comes and goes for some. The people who live in it often need to hear these kinds of thought processes though. It's not necessarily a sad existence if you let go of what society has told us life has to be.
Taylor Michele, congratulations on your latest utube video. I thoroughly enjoyed all aspects of it. The subject matter made a lot of sense . I can relate as I'm single by choice but, like yourself, everywhere I go , I see a lot of couples . I question why am I so happy being single. I enjoyed the background music, scenes of NY and your adorable furry pet Bennie. ❤
Thank you!!! I am single by choice too and I love it! I am so glad you enjoyed the video and all the scenery and little Bennie! I cannot believe this rescue pup is 10 it’s wild! So glad you enjoyed the video and I appreciate you so much!!
I just turned 30 earlier this year, and I started to realize that I keep demonstrating the same patterns of putting people first before myself. I didn’t realize how much of a people pleaser I was until recently. No one really told me about it, it was just something I’ve observed and want to work on. I want to start dating again but I also just want work on myself in the best way possible. Hopefully learn some things about myself and what I want along the way. I don’t know you, but I just felt very seen after watching this video. This video felt so real yet inspiring at the same time. Keep it up ❤
Well done. Really nice shot choices. If I may, three suggestions: #1. Are you shooting with your cell phone? No worries, but I would recommend looking for your aperture setting, bring it down a bit for brightly lit scenes, it should capture things with a nice contrasty quality. Took me a while to learn that with my phone. #2. I love the shots with the rain. Don't be afraid to have portions of your video just sit with the sounds of the rain, sounds of the city, that naturalism that cannot be duplicated. You're already very strong with music choices and editing, so challenge your skills with something different in the next video- a space without music, a space to breath between the extra sounds. #3. Don't be afraid to go deeper. Perhaps tell a specific story of where you've bent over backwards for someone, how it started, how it got worse. Go deeper into asking, are you responsible for your circumstances? How? When? When I was in high school, I had a fantastic therapist who gave me the tools to handle life. One of her lessons were, "It's never one-sided when you have an issue with someone. There's two sides to the situation." For example, when my college 'friends' took advantage of my help over and over again, despite never showing up for me, I also kept saying yes, even though they refused to do anything for me. So although, yes, they aren't great people for using me- I was also not being good to myself by being subservient to them when I should have set some boundaries. The more specific you can get with a story, the more you can connect. And it's a little dangerous and scary, you shouldn't give away anyone's name, address or something too specific that would put you both in trouble- just the scenario itself can speak volumes. Imagine a pothole in the street. A lot of water had to fall into the tiniest crack in the ground before it became a pothole, and then it started wreaking havoc on the tires of cars. You are the pothole and you are the car driving over it at all times- it's only through distance and perspective that you know WHEN you are one or the other. Anyhow. I rant a lot. I, too, have been a bit lonely, and I know where my fault lies in that. But I'm working on myself. And you're right. This loneliness is a gift, a time to work on yourself and figure your stuff out. And don't forget, there's a lot of lonely people out there, people who are totally nice and don't have friends or lovers. You're not alone in being alone. Sooner or later, I know without a doubt that- as long as you're a halfway decent person and this isn't a facade- I am certain you'll find your people and they'll be the right people, good people, that you deserve. - M
Hi!! I shot with a Canon G7x and a very tired iPhone XR that has been through the ringer lol! Thank you for this feedback I am definitely still learning about aperture and all the things! I appreciate you
Funny, I was thinking of you and the lonely post that I last saw of you, and wondered how are you doing, how is it going and, I am truly happy to see that you did something great about it. I really wasn’t expecting such a response, after such a disabling feeling you had. As I said before, I have been there and, despite not knowing you, I am proud of how you’ve overcome, again, such a state-of-mind. 😌 CONGRATULATIONS!
This came out so good!! The music, narration and clips. As a recovering people pleaser also navigating a similar journey as you're describing, something I've been thinking about lately is how the lessons learned from the struggles and hardships we're going through, are all meant to help us grow into the person we're meant to become. We need those lessons to get there, and these periods of solitude to process and let them sink in, even though they may not make sense in the moment. In hindsight, they will. I actually just posted a video as well talking about this, self love and loneliness...if you'd wanna give it a watch 😌
Your dog is adorable. Also what do you use to shoot this with? Forgive me if this has been answered before. Those city and park shots are gorgeous and provide a lot of character. Love the style of this video.
Thank you Kevin!! Bennie is the sweetest I am so lucky to have him. I shot this with a Canon G7x small vlogging camera and iPhone XR! Thank you it is so much fun to film in the city. I am so glad you enjoyed the video I appreciate you!!
@@taylorxmichele Wow! That's some great footage from a point and shoot! You're definitely making it look great in post production too. Love it, keep on keeping on!
Or does acknowledging the duality of hyper independence-while I love it and love being alone sometimes you can also see the other side of the coin, yet at the same time it give us the space to have time to reflect on our direction, career, where we want to go-and feel at peace with being on our own (because ultimately it has greatly benefitted us and catalyzed us into upward growth?) 😉
But yes it’s exactly those mixed emotions and it can feel contradictory / yin Yang!! Like for me I love being alone and it’s greatly benefitted me but I also acknowledge cultural societal expectations for women in their 30s in the US and can feel that external pressure at times too ❤️
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As a former NYC resident who “re-started” my life in California, thank you for this beautiful created vlog. Just seeing the glimpses of home brings a 😢 to my eye. But, I felt it was necessary for me to explore a new life and adventures outside my hometown. A little scary at first. However, my experiences in NYC provided the foundation and confidence to continue riding the up & down waves of Life.
Love the vid! I've always loved your stuff from way back when from the trailer up in the PNW where I found you on tiktok chopping wood ❤ and I could listen to your voiceovers for hours. This gave me major Patch Adams vibes ❤
Btw, nice job on the color grading! DaVinci is a little different to learn. And the audio was 🤌 spot on!! Also nailed the choice of music that went with the emotions you were projecting and what we were seeing visually! Keep it up! And being 30, you're still a youngin 😉❤
Oh YES! Her TikTok chopping wood in the mountains!
The video came out so well, I liked the pacing of it!
Glad you enjoyed the video!!
Absolutely love this! So beautifully made and such a great message! It really struck a chord with me 💕
Thank you so much Matt! You liked the message?! :D
You can tell a lot of time and effort was put into this. Even though you’re the only person in this you’re actually showcasing the city as your partner. It’s like you’re showing yourself being alone but not exclusively lonely, though it does show you may feel that at times. .
Thanks for sharing this meditative journey. I think the world is too beautiful a place not to fall in love with it, even if we don’t have someone else to be on the same journey….for now 🫶
Wait I love that!!!! Re: showcasing the city as my partner!! ❤️❤️❤️ wow i love your analysis :) I appreciate you so much for being here and cannot thank you enough
Loved your video! 👏 very glad youtube recommended this to me
Aww thank you so much you are too kind!! So glad that this resonated with you
Keep it up nice content .🎉🎉🎉🎉
your nyc vlogs always make me feel so cozy and warm
Thank you Yula!! This is such great feedback too!
Love your storytelling. Everything happens when its meant to. Super jealous your story is in NY, your lifes a movie!
More or less two years since my life became me, the cat, the robotic vacuum cleaner, a big screen and a lot of work. The world forced me to detach and accept loss from a lot of things since 2020, and now there's no point more on trying to return to that previous state... Life must go onward and if we want to live, we must go onward too, even broken. The best part of it, I'd say, is the rare occasion when individual strangers have the chance to share good stories, and yours is a beautiful one, Taylor! An amazing video with an incredible tale, thank you for it! Take care, girl, and I just hope to be able to share more stories with you another time...
Yes onward and upward (even through the worst storms) !! :) we gotta keep on truckin! We got this! Thank you for sharing this beautiful message. I am so glad that you resonated with the video!! ❤️❤️❤️ hope you love the next one too!!!
Love the message in this, def felt like it resonated with me!
Thank you for being here and glad you enjoyed the video!! Sending you positive vibes hope you enjoy the next one!!❤️❤️❤️
Congratulations you’re now a film maker! Welcome to the club. I really liked your personal message and you’ve come a long way with your editing.
Great choice in music too. Keep up the great work.
Thank you!! 🥺❤️ it’s so exciting to grow and learn something totally new like editing! and also you liked the music too?! I definitely spent a very long time with the song choices (and mixing) I’m curious what stuck out to you re: music choices!!
@@taylorxmicheleyou did audio mixing too?? LEGEND
@@taylorxmichele sorry I had to go back and watch a few times and think about the music before putting my thoughts into words. What stood out to me, is that every musical choice and change accompanies a particular theme marked by dialog. The intro which I think is an instrumental version of "The Glory of Love", sets up plot with subtle swing melody. There's a feeling of whimsical nostalgia that goes along your realization that you find yourself alone. The jazz trumpet and guitar pieces are really nice with their slow tempo which compliments the period of introspection. The vibrato creates a gentle resonance while you talk about finding purpose in solitude. Act 2 has this really cool piano line that's quietly hidden behind your profound awakening. It's quietly walks up and down the chords reinforcing a feeling of determined strength. Act 3 which doesn't have any dialog, just has a nice positive and uplifting rhythm that reflects a sense of hope and forward momentum. You can't help put feel positive. I know the scenes are filled with images of early evening skies, but I like to think of them as dawns rather than dusks. The music is packed with optimism and leaves you with a sense that you're moving on and embracing your journey ahead.
Anyway that's my thoughts on the music.
Side question. Did you record your mouth trumpet or did you find a player?
Great video as always, Taylor! I love your thought process with all the reflecting and questioning because I’m an over thinker and it helps to hear someone else going through the same things. I liked when you opened the drawer to reveal the words ‘a short film’ on a piece of paper - very creative! I thought of the law of detachment when you talked about detaching yourself from the outcome. Learning how to let go isn’t easy. What helps me is being open to whatever may come my way and letting life flow through me. I can’t control what happens, but I can control how I react to it. Our minds/thoughts/words are very powerful. It’s like the quotes, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t - you’re right.” And “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” Instead of thinking: I have to do this or I have to do that, replace it with: I get to do this, I get to do that. Gratitude is everything. I’ve become very spiritual within the last year because of TikTok, and it’s helped me have a more positive mindset and outlook on life. Most of what I’m writing in this post are things I learned from TikTok ✨
When you said, “We have to ignite that flame within ourselves before we can even think of illuminating the path for others.” It made me think that we can’t keep lighting ourselves on fire to keep others warm. As we outgrow people, we may not even realize that we’re watering dead plants. The people we meet are in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. I believe that what is meant for me will never pass me by and that everything will work out the way it’s supposed to. Life is happening for you, not to you. If you didn’t get the job, relationship, etc. you wanted, it wasn’t meant to be. Rejection is redirection. If you ask the universe for something, the answer is either yes, not yet, or I have something better. I agree that we’re given the gift of time when we're single to figure out who we are and what we enjoy. It also gives us the chance to work on ourselves, heal, and grow. I trust that the universe has my back and that I’m exactly where I need to be. Everything I’ve been through helped shaped me into the person I am today.
I’m also happily single but at times feel lonely or feel like everybody’s got somebody but me. Some things that help me with those struggles are knowing that I’ll spend the majority of my life in a relationship, so I should enjoy this time I’m single and I may even miss it someday. If I knew that I would be getting into a relationship one month from now, I think: what would I do differently in my life? I also think about all the things I haven’t experienced yet with my future partner and it makes me excited knowing that there’s so much to look forward to. Writing in a ‘Letters to My Future Partner’ journal helps me a lot as well since I’m a hopeless romantic who loves writing, and it’s a thoughtful gift I can give them someday. Ahh it looks like the writer in me definitely came out in this TH-cam comment - I blame you for inspiring me so much 😉
Kristin!! I love love LOVE reading your heartfelt words as always I was hoping you would love this video!! Thank you! I think we are on the same sides of TikTok too btw.
Re: to keep others warm -- wow, this is really powerful and love to hear your perspective.
The watering dead plants ugh I feel that to my core.
I agree that rejection is redirection. Isn't it wild how yes it hurts at the time but then you look back six months later and think, "hold on that really worked out in my favor this entire time they were no longer in alignment with me and it was best that season ended at the time that it did because it allowed me to connect with people who are on the same page/chapter as me"
The universe is on our side
@@taylorxmichele Very true. Ooh I haven’t heard of The Ripped Bodice, but I looked it up and now I want to go there!! It looks like they have one in LA too (my hometown). I’m in San Diego now, so it’s not too far. I actually visited New York for the first time three years ago in September, and it was really cool since I’d been wanting to go my whole life! Central Park was probably my favorite, but my trip was pretty short, so I’d like to visit again someday (maybe during Christmas time?) and check out more of what the city has to offer, like that bookstore you mentioned. Oh, and maybe meet a certain someone who I’ve been connecting with over TH-cam comments 😉
Wow that is such a compliment thank you!! Writing a book is on my bucket list, actually! I love to journal, write songs, poems, and just creatively in general. I use writing as an outlet to express my feelings and find it to be very healing. I’d like to write a memoir someday, and think it’d be fun to write a queer YA romance. I’d also like to release a book of the poems I’ve written, and maybe songs too. When I was 12 years old, the Disney Channel movie Camp Rock came out and this movie changed my life. It inspired me to write songs, sing, and play the guitar, and it’s how I fell in love with music. Since then, I’ve written hundreds of songs (although some or most might pass more as poems). I find it very hard to put lyrics and music together. It’s easier for me to do them separately. Years ago I entered an international songwriting contest twice in the ‘Lyric Only’ category and won the ‘Runner Up’ placement both times. Maybe sometime I can send you a few of the songs/poems I’ve written. I guess I technically already did when I emailed you a poem I wrote a few months ago inspired by your dating TikToks, but there’s still plenty more where that came from :)
By the way, I started learning UX design and am thinking of becoming a UX designer! I’m really enjoying it and plan to get a certificate and build a portfolio so that I can get an entry level job in the field. I wasn’t familiar with UI/UX design until you, so I want to say thank you for the times you’ve talked about your job because it inspired me to look into that type of work! Earlier this month, I finally graduated after being in college on and off for 10 years. (I got my Bachelor’s degree in LGBTQ+ Studies). It feels really good to be completely finished, and I’m excited to enter the job market and look for full-time work. (I’ve been in retail for the past couple of years). I feel like being a UX designer is right up my alley, and it’s been fun learning about what they do. I’d love to talk with you sometime about your job, how you got started, etc.!
Awesome vlog Taylor I will be nyc in October for my 30 th birthday weekend the second weekend I m planning on vloging
Yess! Love it! October is the best time to visit NYC! So excited for you :D Hope you have an amazing 30th birthday in the city!!
Great work on the video. Love your message. Keep it up :)
Thank you friend I appreciate you!!!! So glad you enjoyed the video :) sending you all the positive vibes
I can't agree more, and except for some things, I really am in the same point. Super relatable :)
Things take time, re-building your mind and personality takes time, but I'm sure it worth it
Facts 100%. (And neuroscience re: reprogramming your mind)!!
Very captivating. Excellent editing - love your style. Keep it up! First time I ever clicked on a random TH-cam video recommendation and actually watched it start to finish
God I needed this Short Film! Thank you so much. I'm middled aged and married. My solitude time is so precious to me. And the routine of morning reflection with my cup of coffee is something I need to get my head straight. Love the sound, the rain (Feel Like I'm There!) and the people in this video. And another star is your precious dog, Bennie!
Thank you!! I am so glad that this resonated, and yes having our alone time to recharge is so important. Re: the sound of the rain, thank you I am learning and experimenting with the use of sound and sound design in videos!! I appreciate you so much!!
You let go when you take that leap of faith into that thing you always wanted that place you always dreamed of even if it’s not the end journey for you. It’s the next step, but sometimes the step is far enough away that it requires a jump..
Beautifully said :) cheers to making that jump to great opportunities!!
Hey Taylor, very well put together and relatable! Also in my early 30s living in NYC!
Thank you!! And yessss I hope NYC has been amazing for you!!
This was incredible.
It was? 🥺❤️
@@taylorxmichele Most of my life has been this way. It comes and goes for some. The people who live in it often need to hear these kinds of thought processes though. It's not necessarily a sad existence if you let go of what society has told us life has to be.
Taylor Michele, congratulations on your latest utube video. I thoroughly enjoyed all aspects of it. The subject matter made a lot of sense . I can relate as I'm single by choice but, like yourself, everywhere I go , I see a lot of couples . I question why am I so happy being single. I enjoyed the background music, scenes of NY and your adorable furry pet Bennie. ❤
Thank you!!! I am single by choice too and I love it! I am so glad you enjoyed the video and all the scenery and little Bennie! I cannot believe this rescue pup is 10 it’s wild!
So glad you enjoyed the video and I appreciate you so much!!
I just turned 30 earlier this year, and I started to realize that I keep demonstrating the same patterns of putting people first before myself. I didn’t realize how much of a people pleaser I was until recently. No one really told me about it, it was just something I’ve observed and want to work on. I want to start dating again but I also just want work on myself in the best way possible. Hopefully learn some things about myself and what I want along the way.
I don’t know you, but I just felt very seen after watching this video. This video felt so real yet inspiring at the same time. Keep it up ❤
Ugh yes I FEEL YOU ON THIS!! It is okay we are always learning and growing!! I am so glad you're here and glad that this resonated with you. Thank you
thank you for sharing.
sending love 🙏🏽 😌
Thank you
Well done. Really nice shot choices. If I may, three suggestions:
#1. Are you shooting with your cell phone? No worries, but I would recommend looking for your aperture setting, bring it down a bit for brightly lit scenes, it should capture things with a nice contrasty quality. Took me a while to learn that with my phone.
#2. I love the shots with the rain. Don't be afraid to have portions of your video just sit with the sounds of the rain, sounds of the city, that naturalism that cannot be duplicated. You're already very strong with music choices and editing, so challenge your skills with something different in the next video- a space without music, a space to breath between the extra sounds.
#3. Don't be afraid to go deeper. Perhaps tell a specific story of where you've bent over backwards for someone, how it started, how it got worse. Go deeper into asking, are you responsible for your circumstances? How? When?
When I was in high school, I had a fantastic therapist who gave me the tools to handle life. One of her lessons were, "It's never one-sided when you have an issue with someone. There's two sides to the situation." For example, when my college 'friends' took advantage of my help over and over again, despite never showing up for me, I also kept saying yes, even though they refused to do anything for me. So although, yes, they aren't great people for using me- I was also not being good to myself by being subservient to them when I should have set some boundaries.
The more specific you can get with a story, the more you can connect. And it's a little dangerous and scary, you shouldn't give away anyone's name, address or something too specific that would put you both in trouble- just the scenario itself can speak volumes. Imagine a pothole in the street. A lot of water had to fall into the tiniest crack in the ground before it became a pothole, and then it started wreaking havoc on the tires of cars. You are the pothole and you are the car driving over it at all times- it's only through distance and perspective that you know WHEN you are one or the other.
Anyhow. I rant a lot. I, too, have been a bit lonely, and I know where my fault lies in that. But I'm working on myself. And you're right. This loneliness is a gift, a time to work on yourself and figure your stuff out. And don't forget, there's a lot of lonely people out there, people who are totally nice and don't have friends or lovers. You're not alone in being alone. Sooner or later, I know without a doubt that- as long as you're a halfway decent person and this isn't a facade- I am certain you'll find your people and they'll be the right people, good people, that you deserve. - M
Hi!! I shot with a Canon G7x and a very tired iPhone XR that has been through the ringer lol! Thank you for this feedback I am definitely still learning about aperture and all the things! I appreciate you
Funny, I was thinking of you and the lonely post that I last saw of you, and wondered how are you doing, how is it going and, I am truly happy to see that you did something great about it. I really wasn’t expecting such a response, after such a disabling feeling you had. As I said before, I have been there and, despite not knowing you, I am proud of how you’ve overcome, again, such a state-of-mind. 😌
CONGRATULATIONS!
Idk how this came up on my feed but this was all well said. Also I miss NYC summers so much.
Aww thank you!!! Glad you’re here and well it sounds like it’s time to visit NYC!! 😉
@@taylorxmichele I’m always home for the holidays at least. Enjoy!
Everything about this was so good.
Thank you Alex this is so kind of you to say!! I am so glad you enjoyed the video and hope you love the next one
the earbuds are the contributing factor to human loneliness!
This came out so good!! The music, narration and clips. As a recovering people pleaser also navigating a similar journey as you're describing, something I've been thinking about lately is how the lessons learned from the struggles and hardships we're going through, are all meant to help us grow into the person we're meant to become. We need those lessons to get there, and these periods of solitude to process and let them sink in, even though they may not make sense in the moment. In hindsight, they will. I actually just posted a video as well talking about this, self love and loneliness...if you'd wanna give it a watch 😌
Your dog is adorable. Also what do you use to shoot this with? Forgive me if this has been answered before. Those city and park shots are gorgeous and provide a lot of character. Love the style of this video.
Thank you Kevin!! Bennie is the sweetest I am so lucky to have him. I shot this with a Canon G7x small vlogging camera and iPhone XR! Thank you it is so much fun to film in the city. I am so glad you enjoyed the video I appreciate you!!
@@taylorxmichele Wow! That's some great footage from a point and shoot! You're definitely making it look great in post production too. Love it, keep on keeping on!
Did I see you near Hudson Yards last night and ask you where the Whole Foods was? I was carrying my dog in a pouch
Alignement with someone… o yeahhhhh… so
So difficult to find it
And then
To keep it…
Title says "hyper independent". Speech sounds like reminiscing past relationships. Confusing. Nice footage, though.
Or does acknowledging the duality of hyper independence-while I love it and love being alone sometimes you can also see the other side of the coin, yet at the same time it give us the space to have time to reflect on our direction, career, where we want to go-and feel at peace with being on our own (because ultimately it has greatly benefitted us and catalyzed us into upward growth?) 😉
But yes it’s exactly those mixed emotions and it can feel contradictory / yin Yang!! Like for me I love being alone and it’s greatly benefitted me but I also acknowledge cultural societal expectations for women in their 30s in the US and can feel that external pressure at times too ❤️