And, for those who tell you to get out immediately or don’t understand why you don’t just leave, the answer is that it’s not anymore immediate for most, than a decision to quit your job. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s financial but, a lot of the time, it is. A lot of the time, for any type of abuse, people have nowhere to go. Leaving takes dedicated planning. It means that you decide to not be discouraged from your plan and setbacks, over the course of time. That you try to make that time as brief as possible to ensure you don’t return, but that you have to make a FINAL decision that it is finished. Because, if you don’t, the same or worse likely awaits you. Stay steadfast to planning your exit.❤️
After 17 years of being married to a covert narcissist....I finally got the strength to leave. My divorce was final in August of 2016....working on self love and care. Thanks for sharing...your videos have helped me tremendously!!
Thank you for the video. My father is a narc. I hate anger. I can't stand it from him or my daughter. I read somewhere that you can read your parents. It is enough with moves and looks. Creepy. I have had a trauma. I don't want to give him supply but sometimes it happens.
Cendy D. I am from India....the sad thing is there are hardly any people who would understand What narcissist is. I have gone through hell I was surrounded by them and after listening to these videos from all foreigners(for me),I came to know what exactly was happening and had happened to,me what they were ,what I was,why it all happened,these videos were eye openers and great help,I continue to listen to them as they help me keep going.
You are so right. I never seen anything like them. I asked for a divorce and was pushed over a table. He never apologized. He will not take accountability for his actions. I immediately filed domestic violence charges against him and filed for a divorce. I have been no contact since 11/11/17. we were divorced 4/5/17. I am much happier now mentally, physically, financially and emotionally. I was drained and so unhappy in that relationship. I did not know what narcissism was. I wish I did 8 years ago. I should have paid more attention to my instincts. I ignored all the red flags and trust me there were plenty. Good luck and you can and will survive, I am.
Good title! Give them a wee moment, it'll resonate/be entrenched with you "forever". Told covert mom, after endless hours long of unrelentess critisms to get real by letting me get a long mirror so she could get a good look at herself! She hadn't seen me in yrs, hasn't since, couldn't give me one day! Militant is right, I'd called her an old battle axe for years! Thank you Dr. Linda.
19.5 years living with him, and dating him, off and on, for an additional 9 years. Yep. Narcissistic injury evokes a RAGE that no one who has never experienced it would ever understand. Luckily, the ex is covert and would ghost and go silent. Each episode and not knowing what triggered it eventually became the impetus for leaving the relationship. Selling the house appealed to the narcissist's self-interest - MONEY! - and all the events leading up to its sale and the finalization were easy, as a result. At least one more payment from the ex and my No Contact will be complete. Now currently 39+ days!
I was dragged From room to room being savagely beaten while I was at the very same moment having a miscarriage. There was blood all over the house. I actually had a very premature baby coming out of me and I was being beaten at the same time. Only God knows how I servived that one. I'm free from that relationship now. He was murdered. .
My late narc abusive Dr. Jekyll/Mr Hyde husband of 42 years used to have psychotic meltdowns, rages and temper tantrums. These didn't occur that much when he was younger, just got worst as he got older. I told him I was going to go out and buy him a pacifier since when he had these rages i.e. temper tantrums he acted like a two year old! Thanks for your great video! Personally, don't miss his rages or him.... his death was a kind of divorce and the best way to go NO CONTACT FOREVER!! imho
I know this all too well. I was living with a Narcissist for 17 years. I am now in No Contact, and getting a divorce. I lived, fortunately, through his rages. He would smash my things, my Mother's glasses, bring up the past constantly. No matter what was going on, he was the "right one". It culminated in him trying to break my arm and strangling me to death. He is now convicted felon. I've been free since the beginning of this year. I suffer from C-PTSD, and now that he got out of jail, the fear has come back, I don't know his whereabouts, and it is scary. He knows where I live, and I cannot move. There is a restraining order in effect, and his things are packed, even his IDs are here, and even though he got out Sunday, and has not come with the sheriff to get them, so I can be rid of it. One of my support persons at the local shelter told me yesterday, he's STILL trying to control me by leaving them here, STILL the power over me! I have been having the feeling of dread. I am in therapy now for a few months to rediscover who I AM! I am very empathic, so this struggle is ongoing. As much as I tried, I KNOW he cannot be "fixed", he WILL NOT change. I agree that the rage escalated as he aged.
Hi Linda, just recently found your videos and as a recoverer from a Female Narcissist, thanks for your v-blogs and helpful information. Looking forward to getting your book in the near future.
Both my parents, but especially my mother.They enjoyed me being in pain, mom trashes my good name to any gullible hanger-on she finds. She is aggressive and ready to strike at any moment but hides it by being smooth. At 79 and 87, they're now angry and bitter that I'm successful. She especially wanted me to fail all my life. I worked as hard as I could using her hate as my fuel to succeed. They looked down on me for being poor while they had money. Now their fancy jobs and the prestige that went with them are gone. They borrowed money from friends to buy a house then blocked them on their phone. The flying monkey friends now see who they really are. They will lie, steal and cheat to get what they want. They overspent and now are broke..while I live a good life happily within my means. Karma. My life is peaceful. With PTSD, it is important for me to have this. I'm safe now and am very grateful.
Every time I entered a room I could feel him taking my emotional temperature. The smallest thing could set him off. He'd attack my deceased mother & dysfunctional brother. I shouldn't have had kids w/ him b/c he began drinking 2 six-packs/night. Called me the most horrible names. I got away after 19 yrs, but had contact cuz 1 son wanted me to.
My mother told me about the time my father talked to her really severe - she prayed she would forget it - she said she got us kids all dressed up and ready to leave.....and then decided we would not be raised in a small apartment. I think back to how we would have all been different if she had left........
I get this video. I have seen it all with my ex. I can't emphasize the cruel part enough about the wrath of the narcissist. Something being scary like a movie. But, scary doesn't cut it. It's like the word would be afraid. You aren't watching the lunatic attack his wife in a movie. |You're in that scary movie , for real. That is a narcissistic jekyll and hyde personality that the out of doors don't see. The rager saves it for the victim at home in the hell pit/ It ends up being so much like a pit of hell with a narcissist entangled in all your money and stuff. It is so disgusting when you find out they wanted nothing more from you than to use your services for free for years and treat you like they never met you. And, they hit below the belt. the dirtiest pieces of shit that the whole world sees as innocent. I'm going to teach gaslighting 101 classes soon.
he'd dead 2 yrs. why am I still affected. like I still need to know IM NOT ALL THE DISGUSTING VILE PERSON HE AAID I WAS!? THE VULGAR LIES TOLD AROUND MY SMALL TOWN..GOD HELP ME..YOU..❤😭
my sister was extremely rageful violent and would repeat how much she hated me and wish you could destroy me and hit me in my face my ugly face you would say I know she hated me she never forgot to say it. My mother would just say I was annoying whatever and when she would get mad her voice could make your blood run cold the rage is a nightmare and whoever suffers from it it could go to really destroy you spiritually psychologically mentally I remember my blood pressure was so high my doctor actually thought I should see a cardiologist just from the stress and fear of living with them it was a total nightmare of pure hatred on and the best part about it was my father was there and didn't even act like a father to me just watched it observed whenever I stood up for myself. Kravitz heart and say you're giving me stress he in some way enjoyed them hating me
I know narcissist,they are cruel, no empathy, and don't really care about you, only knows how to explore you, manipulates, control and masters of lie. They are wolfs in the sheep's clothing. Put a mask in front of their face and you can not know what part he or she is acting. Everything is a corn actor, actress or a corn play, like a movie or a Tv show.
There is no love in these people in there never will be they will not change you need to stay away before they destroy you they do exist in this is real.
I would like a video on having a child with a narc and the child becomes an adult narc. I feel responsible for bringing a child in the world that he traumatized if not gave him his genes.
it's like a world that is revolved around them and you don't even know that your in side of it worrying and. torched for 32 yes now I hate myself for being so pathetic
Face slapping, finger marks on the face, hair pulling and head shaking, arm yanking with bruises, psychological terror of family break up and torment...all as a little child. As far back as I can remember....time to walk away
After 1000's of years of human existence, there has been no progress made at all in putting a stop to these vile whatever they are ( I won't use the word human to describe them). We continue, both individually and collectively, to take a left wing approach to these whatever they are. We should, I think, reverse our approach and take a hard right stance to these W.E.T.A. That means that at the first sign of abuse anywhere, we out them and hold them to account in the most ferocious way.
Should we go no contact even if it's a sibling ? The pain of that seems MORE ( right now) frightening than the abuse... Am I normal ? Do alot of people cut with there blood? Its my ONLY shit sibling , I have no one else.
Can you please do another video explaining exactly where the rage comes from. Is the only reason for it self loathing? Are there other reasons? Are they fully aware that they loath themselves?
Karyne Gough The doctor's book is explanatory. The narcissist's self-hate/loathing is enough. When we (the "other") are "supposed to fulfill their irrational dreams/wishes and don't" (because we are human and don't read minds), the N feels denied and rages at us. The intensity of the anger is HUGE and comes out of "left field". We don't understand what's going on and are simply stunned. At least, I would be. Toward the end of my relationship with the ex, I would merely smile, because he was like an infant having a temper tantrum, and I wasn't surprised, anymore. I even would say something like, "You're acting like a little boy who is having a temper tantrum" and he would stop and look at me in surprise. I wasn't supposed to know that, I figure. While I am empathetic about the kind of pain these people must experience because of their irrational thinking, I no longer feel compelled to heal any of them. In my experience, they are "un-healable". It's too painful for me to bear, any more. I could not heal my father (the original N), and I used almost 30 years to "heal" the ex, all to no avail. Time to get on with my life and heal ME of my desire to heal others who WON'T heal.
The rage is explosive, scary . And it’s aways for me to Blame . I triggered it happen. I shouldn’t talk to him that way. I shouldn’t keep ask the questions. I didn’t learn my lessons from past. Don’t corner him. I was been stupid. For the sake of the wellbeing of my kid . Dog is scared hiding in the closet. I am scared of this level of hatred. I need go ahead apologize and beg him to forgiveness . So he can claim down. We could be ok again. That’s traumatic experience played out again and again. I blamed myself forget how sensitive he is. I shouldn’t keep the arguments going. I should back down earlier. It’s all my fault. He act the way he did. I pray to pass this horrible time. Pull him back to this loving claim stage . It’s almost asking a person jump off the cliff to stay with me. Pull him back to this dark place. Just stay with me. I am so sorry. It’s all my fault.
And, for those who tell you to get out immediately or don’t understand why you don’t just leave, the answer is that it’s not anymore immediate for most, than a decision to quit your job. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s financial but, a lot of the time, it is. A lot of the time, for any type of abuse, people have nowhere to go. Leaving takes dedicated planning. It means that you decide to not be discouraged from your plan and setbacks, over the course of time. That you try to make that time as brief as possible to ensure you don’t return, but that you have to make a FINAL decision that it is finished. Because, if you don’t, the same or worse likely awaits you. Stay steadfast to planning your exit.❤️
After 17 years of being married to a covert narcissist....I finally got the strength to leave. My divorce was final in August of 2016....working on self love and care. Thanks for sharing...your videos have helped me tremendously!!
lg8wood Hugs to you.
I hope you are finding peace and self love.
Thank you for the video. My father is a narc. I hate anger. I can't stand it from him or my daughter. I read somewhere that you can read your parents. It is enough with moves and looks. Creepy. I have had a trauma. I don't want to give him supply but sometimes it happens.
They are full of rage hatred and revenge
Muktta Mahajan, the exposure text I've written about Megan Anderly also pertains to you, since you are the same person.
Cendy D. I am from India....the sad thing is there are hardly any people who would understand What narcissist is.
I have gone through hell I was surrounded by them and after listening to these videos from all foreigners(for me),I came to know what exactly was happening and had happened to,me what they were ,what I was,why it all happened,these videos were eye openers and great help,I continue to listen to them as they help me keep going.
You are so right. I never seen anything like them. I asked for a divorce and was pushed over a table. He never apologized. He will not take accountability for his actions. I immediately filed domestic violence charges against him and filed for a divorce. I have been no contact since 11/11/17. we were divorced 4/5/17. I am much happier now mentally, physically, financially and emotionally. I was drained and so unhappy in that relationship. I did not know what narcissism was. I wish I did 8 years ago. I should have paid more attention to my instincts. I ignored all the red flags and trust me there were plenty. Good luck and you can and will survive, I am.
Good title! Give them a wee moment, it'll resonate/be entrenched with you "forever". Told covert mom, after endless hours long of unrelentess critisms to get real by letting me get a long mirror so she could get a good look at herself! She hadn't seen me in yrs, hasn't since, couldn't give me one day! Militant is right, I'd called her an old battle axe for years! Thank you Dr. Linda.
19.5 years living with him, and dating him, off and on, for an additional 9 years.
Yep. Narcissistic injury evokes a RAGE that no one who has never experienced it would ever understand. Luckily, the ex is covert and would ghost and go silent. Each episode and not knowing what triggered it eventually became the impetus for leaving the relationship. Selling the house appealed to the narcissist's self-interest - MONEY! - and all the events leading up to its sale and the finalization were easy, as a result. At least one more payment from the ex and my No Contact will be complete. Now currently 39+ days!
Nettonya Ryane
Their rages are like something out of hell!
I was dragged From room to room being savagely beaten while I was at the very same moment having a miscarriage. There was blood all over the house. I actually had a very premature baby coming out of me and I was being beaten at the same time. Only God knows how I servived that one. I'm free from that relationship now. He was murdered. .
Sharon Edwards GOD bless you
My late narc abusive Dr. Jekyll/Mr Hyde husband of 42 years used to have psychotic meltdowns, rages and temper tantrums. These didn't occur that much when he was younger, just got worst as he got older. I told him I was going to go out and buy him a pacifier since when he had these rages i.e. temper tantrums he acted like a two year old! Thanks for your great video! Personally, don't miss his rages or him.... his death was a kind of divorce and the best way to go NO CONTACT FOREVER!! imho
Brenda Drew you are lucky to be rid of him.
I know this all too well. I was living with a Narcissist for 17 years. I am now in No Contact, and getting a divorce. I lived, fortunately, through his rages. He would smash my things, my Mother's glasses, bring up the past constantly. No matter what was going on, he was the "right one". It culminated in him trying to break my arm and strangling me to death. He is now convicted felon. I've been free since the beginning of this year. I suffer from C-PTSD, and now that he got out of jail, the fear has come back, I don't know his whereabouts, and it is scary. He knows where I live, and I cannot move. There is a restraining order in effect, and his things are packed, even his IDs are here, and even though he got out Sunday, and has not come with the sheriff to get them, so I can be rid of it. One of my support persons at the local shelter told me yesterday, he's STILL trying to control me by leaving them here, STILL the power over me! I have been having the feeling of dread. I am in therapy now for a few months to rediscover who I AM! I am very empathic, so this struggle is ongoing. As much as I tried, I KNOW he cannot be "fixed", he WILL NOT change. I agree that the rage escalated as he aged.
jofish420 oh my god get rid of a stuff! Give it to his family to deal with...
Hi Linda, just recently found your videos and as a recoverer from a Female Narcissist, thanks for your v-blogs and helpful information. Looking forward to getting your book in the near future.
May I just say. You are a beautiful person. I listen to your videos. I always wanted a mom like you. Thank you.
Thank you for helping me understand
Both my parents, but especially my mother.They enjoyed me being in pain, mom trashes my good name to any gullible hanger-on she finds. She is aggressive and ready to strike at any moment but hides it by being smooth. At 79 and 87, they're now angry and bitter that I'm successful. She especially wanted me to fail all my life. I worked as hard as I could using her hate as my fuel to succeed. They looked down on me for being poor while they had money. Now their fancy jobs and the prestige that went with them are gone. They borrowed money from friends to buy a house then blocked them on their phone. The flying monkey friends now see who they really are. They will lie, steal and cheat to get what they want. They overspent and now are broke..while I live a good life happily within my means. Karma. My life is peaceful. With PTSD, it is important for me to have this. I'm safe now and am very grateful.
Every time I entered a room I could feel him taking my emotional temperature. The smallest thing could set him off. He'd attack my deceased mother & dysfunctional brother. I shouldn't have had kids w/ him b/c he began drinking 2 six-packs/night. Called me the most horrible names. I got away after 19 yrs, but had contact cuz 1 son wanted me to.
My mother told me about the time my father talked to her really severe - she prayed she would forget it - she said she got us kids all dressed up and ready to leave.....and then decided we would not be raised in a small apartment. I think back to how we would have all been different if she had left........
This is so scary for women and children to go through( if the perpetrator is male) There is no way to defend yourself.
I get this video. I have seen it all with my ex. I can't emphasize the cruel part enough about the wrath of the narcissist.
Something being scary like a movie. But, scary doesn't cut it. It's like the word would be afraid. You aren't watching the lunatic attack his wife in a movie. |You're in that scary movie , for real. That is a narcissistic jekyll and hyde personality that the out of doors don't see. The rager saves it for the victim at home in the hell pit/ It ends up being so much like a pit of hell with a narcissist entangled in all your money and stuff.
It is so disgusting when you find out they wanted nothing more from you than to use your services for free for years and treat you like they never met you. And, they hit below the belt. the dirtiest pieces of shit that the whole world sees as innocent. I'm going to teach gaslighting 101 classes soon.
millenium
Living a freaking nightmare!
he'd dead 2 yrs. why am I still affected. like I still need to know IM NOT ALL THE DISGUSTING VILE PERSON HE AAID I WAS!? THE VULGAR LIES TOLD AROUND MY SMALL TOWN..GOD HELP ME..YOU..❤😭
thank you for this video! 🎀🎁🎁your a gift this is no joke.. make a plan and do not show your tracks to leave...
Thank you
Walking on eggshells. Walking to run...thanks
Maria Makinen
👍🏻🙏🏻❤️
Thank you Kaz 78 Be well.
my sister was extremely rageful violent and would repeat how much she hated me and wish you could destroy me and hit me in my face my ugly face you would say I know she hated me she never forgot to say it. My mother would just say I was annoying whatever and when she would get mad her voice could make your blood run cold the rage is a nightmare and whoever suffers from it it could go to really destroy you spiritually psychologically mentally I remember my blood pressure was so high my doctor actually thought I should see a cardiologist just from the stress and fear of living with them it was a total nightmare of pure hatred on and the best part about it was my father was there and didn't even act like a father to me just watched it observed whenever I stood up for myself. Kravitz heart and say you're giving me stress he in some way enjoyed them hating me
Thank you Nettonya.
Joy of the public, horror inside the house. Behind the blinders..... I am being very much myself with my values. In English. I wish out. Thanks 💕
I know narcissist,they are cruel, no empathy, and don't really care about you, only knows how to explore you, manipulates, control and masters of lie. They are wolfs in the sheep's clothing. Put a mask in front of their face and you can not know what part he or she is acting. Everything is a corn actor, actress or a corn play, like a movie or a Tv show.
There is no love in these people in there never will be they will not change you need to stay away before they destroy you they do exist in this is real.
These videos are so helpful Thank you
I would like a video on having a child with a narc and the child becomes an adult narc. I feel responsible for bringing a child in the world that he traumatized if not gave him his genes.
it's like a world that is revolved around them and you don't even know that your in side of it worrying and. torched for 32 yes now I hate myself for being so pathetic
Belieber dreams
To them, you do not exist
Beautiful
Face slapping, finger marks on the face, hair pulling and head shaking, arm yanking with bruises, psychological terror of family break up and torment...all as a little child. As far back as I can remember....time to walk away
After 1000's of years of human existence, there has been no progress made at all in putting a stop to these vile whatever they are ( I won't use the word human to describe them). We continue, both individually and collectively, to take a left wing approach to these whatever they are. We should, I think, reverse our approach and take a hard right stance to these W.E.T.A. That means that at the first sign of abuse anywhere, we out them and hold them to account in the most ferocious way.
I don't remeber him raging much, mainly when he would drink
He was so slick
They are the sickos, not us.
Should we go no contact even if it's a sibling ? The pain of that seems MORE ( right now) frightening than the abuse... Am I normal ? Do alot of people cut with there blood? Its my ONLY shit sibling , I have no one else.
Can you please do another video explaining exactly where the rage comes from. Is the only reason for it self loathing? Are there other reasons? Are they fully aware that they loath themselves?
Karyne Gough The doctor's book is explanatory. The narcissist's self-hate/loathing is enough. When we (the "other") are "supposed to fulfill their irrational dreams/wishes and don't" (because we are human and don't read minds), the N feels denied and rages at us.
The intensity of the anger is HUGE and comes out of "left field". We don't understand what's going on and are simply stunned. At least, I would be. Toward the end of my relationship with the ex, I would merely smile, because he was like an infant having a temper tantrum, and I wasn't surprised, anymore.
I even would say something like, "You're acting like a little boy who is having a temper tantrum" and he would stop and look at me in surprise. I wasn't supposed to know that, I figure.
While I am empathetic about the kind of pain these people must experience because of their irrational thinking, I no longer feel compelled to heal any of them. In my experience, they are "un-healable".
It's too painful for me to bear, any more. I could not heal my father (the original N), and I used almost 30 years to "heal" the ex, all to no avail. Time to get on with my life and heal ME of my desire to heal others who WON'T heal.
Nettonya Ryane good for you ! 👃
The rage is explosive, scary . And it’s aways for me to Blame . I triggered it happen. I shouldn’t talk to him that way. I shouldn’t keep ask the questions. I didn’t learn my lessons from past. Don’t corner him. I was been stupid. For the sake of the wellbeing of my kid . Dog is scared hiding in the closet. I am scared of this level of hatred. I need go ahead apologize and beg him to forgiveness . So he can claim down. We could be ok again. That’s traumatic experience played out again and again. I blamed myself forget how sensitive he is. I shouldn’t keep the arguments going. I should back down earlier. It’s all my fault. He act the way he did. I pray to pass this horrible time. Pull him back to this loving claim stage . It’s almost asking a person jump off the cliff to stay with me. Pull him back to this dark place. Just stay with me. I am so sorry. It’s all my fault.
xu fen che wtf?
How djo I know it's the one in the picture? Lol teeny bopper.
.... doesn't talk to me? I wake up to need to #1
👍🏻🙏🏻❤️
Nick lost it . He broke , as I understood ,mirrors st his school in a rage ,with a delusion of seeing me. I fear death , n I do not deserve to die.
When it's over do I tell him or just keep no contact?
MaryLynn no contact!
Jason Botting yes!
He is gone forever.
Dead to me.
They Scapegoat you without mercy for their sadistic deeds. They are not born that way - they were made into what they are.
Scam artist fraud! Lol