I Moved In With My Girlfriend and Her Child (What’s My Role?)
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Dude moving your 8 year old daughter in with a man you've only known for 3 months....yeah that is one of the most dangerous things possible
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My friend moved into his girlfriend's house and she has a 8 yo girl and 9 yo boy. They had only known each other for 3 months after meeting online 😬 Now they're engaged to be married after dating/knowing one another for 9 months. It's crazy
The most dangerous thing is that she has custody.
I'm an old fart Gen exer but what happened to just dating? Why do people move in after a few months of knowing each other? Specially with children? My mother in law divorced when my husband and his brother were 10 and 8. She dated occasionally but she never brought a man home, at least not until they were in college. His dad dated too but never had a girlfriend move in before he remarried. His dad actually asked for their opinion before he married his second wife.
@@wreckers_band8825Spot on. I don't know if it's loneliness, wanting support with the children or (more likely) financial reasons.
A woman who moves her 8 year old daughter in with a guy she's dated for 3 months is MAJOR RED FLAGS even if that guy is you and you know you're not a danger. She makes terrible decisions. I'd run from her.
💯💯💯💯💯
She obviously was 2 secs away from loosing a roof over her head and here you came riding, a knight wearing white armor, eeger to let her move in.... id be happy to move in too, if i were her... atleast for the moment.
@@casualonemmo-player2167 She makes poor choices
Your role is to stay away from the kid without the mom present
Yeah, that would make me nervous, especially in 2024.
His role is to be a sucker untill she finds her next victim.
The mom has bad judgment. He seems like a nice guy, but living with someone in a matter of months is crazy. My gut tells me that she is someone that jump from raft to raft to find someone to save her. It's nice that caller wanted advice on handling a child in the home.
Absolutely. That alone is a red flag.
She hunted for the father figure and ATM and she landed a nice one. He seems nice. But this situation is way too common now a days.
It seems like to me she's using that guy. She wasn't looking for a relationship she just needed a place for her and her child to stay. Why not go to her family or to a shelter or send the daughter to her biological father until she got back on her feet? She doesn't love that man she just needed help.
@@bubblybubbles4023 I totally agree. It's very common and too obvious as we have seen it too often. You find the nice inexperience person and you love bomb them into making the wrong decision and once that commitment or contract is signed the real you comes out. For him too declare marriage intentions and moving in this quick, the lad is obviously immature relationship wise.
I got a feeling this girl is very attractive and he's getting lust and love confused. This is not going to turn out the way he expects.
She moves her 8 year old daughter in with a man she does not know. Not winning any mother of the year awards.
The guy wanting to live with a single mom is even more perplexing. Apparently he wants to never be a priority.
@@cur244I'd be more worried for different more dangerous reasons........
Welcome to America
@@toomuchinformation Right the woman is clearly using him. She's dangerous to her to her children. Not all parents should be parents and she's definitely one. To move a guy in immediately is beyond stupid and the guy wanting to be with a woman that's clearly using him is just as stupid.
@@pobsarducttapeproducts8763Jesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved.
Remember these four words: Go ask your mother.
Lol
Where is his mom?
Solid advice.
Exactly
I’m so proud of this dude calling in. The moms questionable but he seems genuinely ready to be a role model for that child.
Role model? 🤔 She has a father. This guy is nothing to the child! He's nothing but a pimp getting free services from the mom who is his unpaid whore! 😢
Kid is just caught in the cross-fire!
His role is ATM machine, all responsibility and no authority with single moms.
Kevin Samuels?
@@hansonallie What's your weight and height?
@@Ja50nkAtit’s beautiful
They ain’t looking for love, they’re looking for support.
Unfortunately they need both.. sad situation
Boom there it is💯💯💯
What’s the difference?
This situation is super sus...im blaming mom here. He sounds genuine and is blinded by what is most likely a super hot mom. Its why he's putting up with all of this. Id love to hear from him in 6 months.
Yeah let’s see how things play out after the immediate 3-6 month honeymoon phase ends
@@thebeegood1731 I agree. He should have cautioned this guy to really explore where these feelings of even wanting to be this Mr. Magnanimous caretaker/provider come from. I mean, it sounds like he does a little already, but that stuff is super important to work through on his own before trying to be someone else’s new daddy.
If this doesn't work out, he's going to be in the manosphere complaining about single mothers.
this is hilarious and probably so real LOL
@@thebeegood1731 and that leads him to set up a lot of foolish men for failure.
Never live together! That was too fast. The child is going to suffer. Father figure is very important to a girl. You are molding her outlook on Men! If your plans aren't marriage, you need to break it off.
Call me old fashion, but this is a horrible example for the daughter . The mother needs to move out. If things go well, they should get married.
She needed income based housing and is now set up for free in house? Sounds like a dream to me 😂
And he's a UPS driver and they make bank.
Gal w/ a plan?
😂
@@stud6414 do you feel better making fun of people, cut people breaks sometimes he’s looking for advice to better people’s lives
Don’t be jealous
He just let squatters move into his house, good luck getting them out.
You crazy
An 8yr old squatter. Wow
White Knight Syndrome Alert! I know someone who moved in a single mom/gf super early because she had a sob story and it ended with having to have a Sherrif supervise her moving out, so she wouldn't take anything. 7 months and thinking about marriage- bad idea man. Get a lot of pre-martial counseling.
I was just about to add that he could have said no to her moving in. Totally inappropriate
Sounds like lady is broke and needing to fix herself with somone else. BAD IDEA
Premarital counseling doesn't work for the man, since they'll tell him the same thing Deloony told him, then it's going to backfire.
Captain save a hoe
My former boss once told me that all he ever wanted to be was the knight that rescued the damsel in distress. He said he ended up with nothing but a distressed damsel and they had a way of always being in distress, with or without him.
this is going to be a great lesson for this guy , a hard one too. when they break up its going to hurt twice because the lil girl
He wants to marry her. It could be a brutal divorce
@@alluringbliss4165she'll probably guilt trip him into adopting the girl. Then he'll be on the hook for child support as well.
They won’t.
This is a potentially dangerous situation. With an 8 year old child, if there are problems between mom and boyfriend, I can see accusations of child abuse. This guy may have the need to save helpless women. He has taken on a very volatile and unstable situation and he could be badly burned. Especially if he has anything to lose.
Exactly why I choose to live by myself. My home has cameras throughout except for the bedroom and bathroom, but I still don’t want anyone at my home period
Youre role is to pay her bills lol
You are just jealous that they found love.
@@zeroounce8874 ahahaha, single mom spotted.
I’m glad he cares for the 8 year old in this situation. He called the right place for advice. Good on him.
Exactly! What a great guy.
Dudes get in situations like this and then complain why they get cheated on 🤦♂️
Complicate your life, justify why.
Seems like lots of risks to this but cheating. Where do you get that?
I will say this, seven months to allow someone to move in especially with a child is entirely too soon so I am questioning the mothers decision making. There should have been a coversation about about him and his girlfriend’s future first. The conversation about the role he plays in her daughter’s life should been discussed before a box was packed. We have consider the child, what if this situation does not work out? Now the child is hurt. This wayy not thought out and rushed. I understand he was just trying to help out but he isn’t even committed to the mother and hasn’t even been with her for a year.
It wasn't even 7 months. he said they've been together for 7 months, living together for 3.5 months already. So, they moved in after 3 months of dating. Terrible decision making on both sides.
They have been together for 7 months and they moved in about 4.5 months ago. So they moved in at around 2.5 months...
What else are you supposed to do? Never try and find a long term partner? Life has risks
@@CE-vd2pxyou don't date risky people who complicate your life.
Weep for the children because most adults are horrific.
I'm always so fascinated by people's choices. I'm 32 and could not fathom moving in with some woman and her kid. That's why I got married. And I live with my life and OUR kids. Just... wild what has become normal.
A buddy of mine moved in and married a single mom of 3 that I had some brief history with. God bless him.
I liked the way you said, "Our kids."
Whole different life than living together. She needs a safe place.
Single mom's aren't looking for love, they're looking for help. Your roll is that of the Simp. You're trying to compensate for the love you didn't get at home. You're the safety net. You now have all of the responsibility, and none of the authority.
The caller is a UPS driver, so he's making the coin. He explained that she was having issues getting her place back for financial reasons, so he swooped in on his white horse to save her from herself.
he's in a dangerous situation. What if things go south between him the and mother, and she makes a false allegation against him. He will be out of his own him
Boom I agree 💯💯💯
She may get pregnant by him to try to lock him down.
@@bubblybubbles4023Danger!!!
Let the "you aint my daddy" begin. Get the man a T-shirt 😅
Women tend to get defensive when you attempt to discipline in any way. This won't end well. Also if the kid is a girl that opens the door for all kinds of stuff ie: accusations true or not. Awful advice. Dude should leave asap and im a single mom.
In this situation, which is absolutely inappropriate, he should not be disciplining this child, nor ever alone with her. That is for everyone’s protection. He is nothing to her , and it was not his role to even offer them housing. The mother and father should have worked collaboratively to move the mom and child across state and obtain housing there. That would have revealed many important things , including if this romance has a death. Watching several top news stories just this past month should be instructive to everyone.
@@lilolmecj oh it never is. In this case its possible that she just wants help financially. I am still kind of surprised of how many men are willing to go out on a limb to save women with kids especially because there's no real benefit in it.. coming from a single baby mama who actually dated one or two guys with no kids when i had one.
Children are in more danger from physical and sexual violence from a stepfather, than a young child making accusations. What a way to look at this situation.
@@toomuchinformation that's basically what I said. Accusations true or not. My 40+ year old cousin just told me recently that her ex stepdad snatched a towel off of her when she was growing up. Don't go there with me. I'm not she or her
@@toomuchinformation young children rarely make false accusations, but their parents sometimes do. Furthermore this child and her mother need very firm boundaries. This fellow, though well meaning, is not and never will be her father as long as her own father is in the picture which he is. Furthermore on the chance that this relationship does not last the more superficial it remains, the less loss the little girl feels when mom moves along. The primary focus must be the child. My daughters both have dated single dads, they have insisted on not meeting children 7ntil after six months of dating. Truthfully, none of the relationships have lasted over six months. It is a bit sad when a woman with no children of her own has higher standards for the emotional safety of children than a single mom. Sigh. I know that sounds harsh, and I feel a bit bad saying it. But it is not good for children to build relationships with faux parent figures and mourning that loss over and over. It has long term implications that put them at risk on a bunch of levels.
Don’t play house until you’re married bro! That’s playing with fire especially if she has a child. Don’t bring unnecessary problems to your life
If she is moving back to be closer to the child’s father, he might me setting himself up for heartbreak; living together, especially when another person’s child involved, is moving too fast. I am not saying it can’t work, he should just slow down a bit.
Talking about getting married to someone you have known for 7 months….this will end well
Sounds better than acting like a family without the commitment after 3 months
ATM and babysitter is your role..
You messed up.
Your role is roommate, treat them with respect. Don't even try acting like dad.
His role is to be a sucker and pay the bills.
Single mothers, never, never, ever shack up, while raising your children!!
It's nice that he's asking for advice on something this important. I just don't like that the girlfriend brought her daughter in so fast.
this woman is out her mind shes lucky hes a good man
She most likely moved in because she couldn’t do it on her own. Your role is to pay the bills. That’s all she’s looking for.
Your role? Human ATM.
Thanks -- I needed that chuckle!! 🤪
Facts
You are just jealous and bitter that people found love.
why would courts give custody to a woman who couldnt afford housing ? 🙄
Have you ever heard of welfare moms? They can't afford housing either, but have lots of kids.
Could be the dad didn't contest custody
The fathers of these children don't want them. This is the cycle of immature selfish men prioritizing sex over everything else. These broken women give birth to another generation of children who become immature selfish men and more broken women.
@@thebeegood1731they absolutely would be to determine child custody.
Makes me wonder how bad the dad is. #1 reason not to date single moms. Baby daddy drama.
Anyone else think this woman is taking advantage of him? Been in that situation before, I can easily identify.
Very possible, she moved her child in a stranger s home whithin 3 months
@@alluringbliss4165 right.. who does that??
Then he says she is planning to see the child’s father. Whole thing is off.
why am i ugly sobbing. When he say he leaves note for the kid i just pictured how much love and empathy this man must have I hope everything works out. Truly.
Same. I pray all of the good people find each other. ❤
Oh boy. There are so many child molesters out there it isn't funny. I would never shack up with a guy I have known for a short time and drag an 8 year old girl into this situation. Hell no. He may be the best guy on the planet, but how do you know after a few months? Dad should have scooped the kid up until Mom moved closer to him. This is wacky.
The way he phrased it. She could not stay where she was (read: someone took her in, like he took her in, may have been a former boyfriend) and income based housing took too long (or so she says) - and she had no use for a longer lasting contract anyway, she is going to move in a few months time (closer to where the father of the child lives) Or so she says. I wonder what has been REALLY going on ? They are not even playing house. She is crashing on his couch with extra benefits. Likely he pays for all the household expenditures.
She is lucky, as he calls in how to deal with her 8 year old daughter I do not think HE is a predator. The mother however is reckless to move in her child with a man that she has been dating for 3,5 months (now they have been together for 7,5 months).
Ok so where is she supposed to go ...the street?
It's easy to cast judgment on somebody who has very little options in a dire situation.
I think he has good intentions and that’s why he called. I don’t think he’s sure about the future if the kid isn’t comfortable with him but the mom isn’t all there moving in with someone with her daughter.
Pointless call. What’s your role? Nothing. You’re a shack up boyfriend to a mother who has no class or respect for herself or her child, and you don’t have enough respect for her to marry her before bringing them into your home. John’s advice is null and void. He cannot model stability for this girl because this is not a stable situation and they barely know him. In a shack up arrangement, all these words like “commitment”, “boundaries”, “responsibility”, and “family” don’t exist.
The mother wanted somewhere to stay obviously
They don't exist in most marriages either.... married men tend to be more deviant than single men in my experience.
I mean your whole argument is that the situation is bad so just let the worst come out of it? Two wrongs don’t make a right. Putting in the effort to improve a situation despite it being bad is what separates good people from bad people. Good people are people who act good when it’s convenient.
@@Spriggan6000 “Making the best of a bad situation” is what you do when a vacation gets rained out, or some other unfortunate event over which you have no control. This situation is a choice, and she can make the choice at any time to take her child and move out of his house if and until they are married. THAT is what good people do.
@@texasdazzlershow old are you out of curiosity?
I feel like this guy is being used. I hope I'm wrong.
Anybody notice how Dr John immediately assumed the father was a deadbeat who abandoned his daughter? He was given no in depth information to come to that conclusion.
He’s addressing the BF issues/perspective.
Dr John blew this one… he is trying to get this man to marry her faster without mentioning the MASSIVE red flags in the relationship… just terrible
Dr John doesn't see any red flags in women. In his mind a man is supposed to marry a woman no matter the flaws, if she's a stripper with 4 kids by 4 different men, MAN UP AND MARRY HER! 😂
He is a simp for women and gives men bad advice what is new.
Sorry but the mother sounds very needy and what this guy is “teaching” this 8 year girl is that when she grows up it’s cool to live and sleep with different men and bring your kids along. Repeating the broken cycle over and over… I don’t have respect for either of them.
Wishing you the best Michael!
This was an awesome call and such humble, honest, simple and realistic advice. It included advice for for growth, no pressure, and just so realistic. I hope this young man can take this advice and uses it his entire life. Good luck dude!!
This guy is totally WHIPPED
Very sweet guy.I’m rooting for this family:)! Praying for peace and happiness!
hope he finds someone better
@@JoseHernandez-ql8vw if he and they are happy that’s all anyone can ask 👍🏽
@@Phantasma98 not exactly.
It's definitely fair to ask that a mom not endanger her child by moving in with a man she barely knows.
And we should ask that people use more common sense in relationships because they might be happy now and in six months they realize it was a mistake.
It's not sweet to let someone and their kid into your home after 3 months. There just naive and stupid, and frankly very irresponsible of the mother as well .
@@Phantasma98 true, but if he's asking random strangers then he probably doesn't know what he's getting into
Great inside and advice.
Why couldn’t she just have moved straight back to her parents 3.5 months ago ?
It's highly likely that the mom does not have a lot of reliable family members or friends. She could have grown up in the foster care system etc.
RUN brother RUN!!! You are worth more than this!!
I'm a woman and I feel the same way. He sounds like a caring guy, he should get to make his own family.
Why do men put themselves in these situations, I'll never understand it. Can't he find someone who doesn't already have a kid?
Desperate and lonely. Probably didn’t have any luck with women in better positions so he had to settle with what he could get as many do.
It's always the dudes with no self worth who settle for single moms.
Stay away from single Moms! That's his role.
He failed miserably. That is why I have no sympathy for most men because of suckers like this one.
I can't believe Dr John is encouraging this relationship 😮😂
I think he knows the caller is going to stay anyway. Some people need to learn on their own.
@UC1kcyJi7ml8WcB-ldi3-QNQmost men unplug from comforting lies as the result of trauma.
Gotta pander to their audience.
Boyfriend, you didn't marry anyone.
Best of luck to them. The guy sounds like he has a heart. The mom sounds dubious to me but can’t judge. I’m glad he sounds like he loves this woman but wish they would do things right, don’t live together and if you have to then don’t be sleeping together. That is If you care about a godly, good relationship.
Ladies you have to plan before you get a divorce. I’m sure she does her best and that this guy is great but you can not just move your new boyfriend in with an 8 year old girl.
There is no way I would my daughter to be in this situation .
What a sweet guy. I hope it works out for him.
So she not a girlfriend if she’s moving back to husband.
Omg… such a good guy!👏🏽
Hopefully, you are sleeping on the sofa & the mom & kid are sharing a room. You don't know this woman. What if she snaps & accuses u of bad behavior with the child ????
I might get some hostile replies to this but it is my humble opinion that if you have a small daughter you NEVER move a man into the house with you. I mentioned daughter in particular and it is worse when you have a girl but I don't think you should move a strange man into the house with you and ANY small child. It's scary enough when you get remarried and present your kids with a stepfather but I think your children should NEVER be presented with someone who is really just mom's current boyfriend. If the two of you aren't interested in making a long-term commitment, do not involve some little kids.
And if you are right up there next to the angel Gabriel and would NEVER harm a child so the child is in no danger, look at it solely from your own point of view. What happens if you become extremely attached to that child and then you and mom break up? As mom's boyfriend, you have ZERO right to have any future contact with that child.
My mom divorced my dad, then lived with another man for six years. When he broke up with her, my world changed yet again. After that, it was a revolving door of men. Granted, I was 16 at the time. But I didn’t much care to see my mom getting used for her body again and again.
I’ve held a firm stance you don't involve children until it's serious. Then take it slow.
Dr. Baloney gave poor advise. He should have told this man to leave. Then to suggest marriage!
Lol…
Very scary and unstable situation! A guy meets a single mom and moves her and an 8 yr old girl into his aparment within 3 months! Giant, flaming, red flags!!!
WHAT A GREAT GUY. Wow. We need more men like him.
Good luck to your new family! Sending Love to you guys. ❤
We have too much men like him and that is the problem.
I have no clue why guys want to be a roommate and "the help" for a woman
It helps when the woman is gorgeous n makes good money
its called simping
Idk it takes a real man to take care of someone elses kid like their own. Same goes for any woman, not many good eggs out there
@@breeequeyour definition of a "real man" is way off. historically and in nature, males dont raise other people's children.
Run.
For how long are you running??
I think the question you should be asking yourself is.....are you ok with becoming a parent? If you are, then address things with both of them. If you're not ready, then stop wasting your time😂
Good luck 👍
I can't believe these comments 😧
Just not a good idea for a single man with no kids to date a single mother. very, very bad mistake
@@chuckokoye2410I don’t think the ‘dating’ is the problem- the mistake is the choice to start living together only after 3 months of knowing each other and with no commitment…
Yeah, it seems there are usually lots of comments disparaging single moms. With that being said, it’s never a good idea for a single mom to move her and her child in with some guy. Same goes for single dads. In this case, they haven’t even known each other all that long. It’s not good for the child.
@@hollye549 they’re both problems. why would a single man with no kids date a single mother, when he can have the same type of woman who doesn’t already have a family of her own? it just don’t make sense. if it was your son, you likely wouldn’t want that for him. and vice versa for women too. you take on a lot of extra responsibility, cost and stress just for the kid to turn around and say “you’re not my dad/mom, why should I listen to you”.
@@hollye549no it’s both. Dating single mothers is a bad idea for most men especially for men that have no kids or are younger. Single moms are mostly just looking for help
Another way of looking at this would be, if your son found himself in this mess, what would you say to him?
MOVE OUT!
Red flags all over this call...
Single mother moving in only after 3 months of dating... 🤯
I've watched this vid approximately 48 times and I am still confused!
He is transferring jobs to be closer to her, but she is already moving closer, so why is he transferring jobs? My mind hurts.
She's moving across the state. He's lovestruck, but hesitant to say he will marry her. He should remain where he is a take a vacation when they leave for mom and relatives to be closer, and her daughter's father will be in the same vicinity.
H*ll, I might have it wrong, too.
I listened but read the comments.
She is moving to be close to family and the child’s father; I promise this will end up in heartbreak for him.
This guy needs to be a “friend” to the mother. Yes honor the mother respect the mother. He supports the mother’s relationship with her daughter.
People saying “why would a single guy with no kids date a single mom with a child when he can date a single girl without a child” - like my dad got with my mom despite her having two kids and thank God he didn’t think like that because they’ve been together for almost 40 years and wouldn’t change anything for the world. Some people are so selfish and petty in these comments it’s disgusting. That said I definitely think everyone agrees the issue with this situation is the timeline for events. They’re making big decisions way too fast.
We're concerned because it's modern times and we know this young man is getting ready to hurt bad.
Glad that you and your mom and sibling landed with a wonderful dad. But it doesn't always work out that way, as you know. If this guy wanted to help, he should have paid something towards her rent. But it is way too early to move in together. i hope it works out well for them but I have lots of doubts.
Im im the same situation now. Not moved in but i really like (dare I say I love) this mom of 2 kids. The reason is we just really connect, same job/intelligence/ambition. I mean, of course it would be better if the 2 kids were my own but i mean I like them too. It just worked out this way for my life so far.
Things were vastly different 40 years ago. It was a noble thing to do to take on that responsibility. No friggin more. Today you're an ATM.
By that metric we’re all “selfish” when we decline somebody else’s romantic pursuit. We all have standards for what we require in a relationship.
Best wishes for the guy. I hope the adults make the right choices here. This could be the start of a beautiful thing.
My parents had their 1st child when they were 18. My dad had issues. My mom had issues. It was doomed from day one. I remember being 5 years old, watching my parents fight, watching my mom cry and beat on my dad’s chest out of grief. I didn’t understand much about the world but one thing was very obvious to me. Mom and dad should not be together. Whatever “together” meant. I never wondered why my dad left us. I now realize something very sad. It never occurred to me that my brother and I were a reason to stay. A family , or our family was not something to value. I definitely always had the sense that it was my parents world, my brother and I just happened to be details in it.
Don’t move in with her yet in first place. You are just her boyfriend. You are both figuring things out. Last thing on the list should be child introduction. If this relationship leads anywhere, and you get married, that’s when you are going to live together and that’s where you step in as a stepfather
Be her friend, let her trust you. I’ve been thru this, the first sign of you hurt her mother the kid turns on you and becomes between you and her mother. The mother takes the kids and throws you out. 10 years being a stepdad and she threw it away based on kids decision of me after we went thru a rocky patch and a kid seeing the bad
Unless and until you marry the mother, you are, at most, an "uncle". Uncle is the mother's brother.
Uncle no relation. She can call him by his first name. Until they marry one another he'll be boyfriend number one we stayed with when mom and dad divorced. He was a nice but goofy fella.
His role is to leave. She has chosen selfishly to mess her childs life up. He will be destroyed with them.
Damn delony threw the biological father clean under the bus with the comment dad left us. Youve know idea what really went down. Hes hardwired to take the side of the woman.
Don't be harsh with the girl! Talk to the mom alone if there are behaviours or discipline issues and let mom do it or figure it out. Be kind.
Captain save a 304! Saving and trying to fix another mans leftovers and mistakes. Get out while you still can minimize the overall damage. She will use and abuse him more and more as time goes on. What kind of mother would MOVE IN, HER AND CHILD with a man shes only known for a few months! This whole thing is disgusting, clearly a bad and likely desperate mother
Couldn’t have said it any better.
@@BestShootermanUbz I don’t think he gonna do it though, he will continue to be a simp for this leech, and I’m almost positive he will make the grave mistake of knocking her up which will put the nail in the coffin on his life being ruined
bad bad BAD BAD BAD IDEA
edit: was only half through when i wrote this. now i want to say BAAAAAD BAD BAD BAD BAD!!!! BAD BAD IDEA! REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THIS SITUATION
I feel theres alot to this story and was shocked john didnt really ask any questions but just praised dude. It feels edited cause thats alot of information that needs explaining
ATM
Bad advice. He clearly has enough options to marry a woman with no kids and start up his new family.
🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾RUN DUDE
The only advice given to this man should be
Kick them out of your house. You can still keep dating her if you want but you should not be living with her and her eight year old daughter.
Noooooo! Why are you encouraging him to get close to the little girl when he's not married to her mother? That's a disaster. They aren't even engaged, of course he shouldn't be developing a close relationship with the child. Such a sad mess, this is backwards.
A lot of ppl in the comments are projecting their own issues on this man and his relationship. He sounds like a great guy and it’s likely that the mother picked up on that, even only knowing him for as short a time that she did. All Mom’s aren’t irresponsible. A LOT of couples get married in a shorter time frame than this. Him calling in to gain some insight, is truly a sign of his maturity and his emotional intelligence. He realizes that he doesn’t have the tools to handle this situation and is asking for advice. THAT alone, is admirable. The mother clearly made a good choice, choosing this guy. Relax; perfect, judgmental people, in the comments. We know you all have always made great choices. 😒
Or we’ve seen this situation time and time again and we know how this ends, despite best intentions.
Of course not. We are all mortal. Mom and her child are a package. Maybe mom wants a breather without getting close to him.
He hesitated when asking about marriage. He will move across the state and have no prospect of being together.
He's intimate with his roommate, but even he is not entertaining marriage. She probably doesn't want to remarry soon.
I let my boyfriend move in with me and my kids after 3 years of dating. Big mistake, he’s a good man, but doesn’t not help financially, couldn’t wait to get him out.
It depends on if the child has another parent that’s active in their life. Communication is huge. You have to command respect as an adult and a parental figure in your own home, but also be a parental influence. There’s no absolute rule so think hard before making such a huge decision.
This guy needs to take the sex goggles off and recognize the disaster thats in front of him
Do youreself a favor bud, and tell her to rent a place. Shes just using you so she has a place to live, youre going to be supporting a women and her kid that you dont even know.
why is it assumed the father left the family?
Exactly! John just immediately assumed the guy was a deadbeat, with no real info to come to that conclusion.
Almost all his calls are coming off as a man hating, but hype even toxic women for content!