Can we arrive at 100 suscribers With no video? ? Not really how it works. I’ve realized I’m trans fully, and I have enough brain capacity to realize I shouldn’t be feeling immense fucking pain in my chest when I’m called a girl. At 18, your brain is still not developed fully. You’re just suddenly called an adult by society’s standards. Wtf am I gonna do at 18 that I can’t do now? Get surgery? I need to figure myself out during one of the most hard times of my life because of hormones, and you think that waiting until I’m 18 will do something? Sorry to break it to you buddy, but I can understand myself and the norms about puberty myself. I am not supposed to be feeling like I’d like to cut off my fucking breasts because of how feminine they make me look during puberty, and I can figure that out without some society telling me I’m an adult.
gender dysphoria is hell, but you'll get through it. Stay strong, try to keep out of danger, and remember your fellow trans folk, we're all here for each other. sincerely, your trans brother
hey, just wanna talk to somebody about this since i’m too scared to tell my friends, i’ve been feeling like i’m not a guy recently. everytime somebody calls me a girl (on accident most of the time) i feel fine, but whenever somebody calls me a guy, i feel weird, like it doesn’t feel right and i’m considering if im trans. i’m not really sure if i really just wanna just go full on “i’m trans” yet.
@@theclockman775 Take your time, friend. It can take a while to truly figure out what's what (it took me at least a year). A few tips I've got to help you out with learning more about your gender (without coming out!); 1) try out new pronouns and stuff on yourself! call yourself a girl and see how it feels (you don't have to do this around people, you can just hang out by yourself testing things out) 2) Subtle transitioning. Dress a bit more femininely, pitch your voice around a bit, more subtle things that people won't necessarily notice. (This might even help score you some "ma'am"s from strangers!) 3) Hang out in trans-friendly spaces online, and identify as your chosen gender there! You can be whoever you want online, and that makes it the perfect space to find out who you want to be. Experiment! And one last thing: you can always change your mind. Whatever YOU feels is best is how you should identify. Good luck out there, sis!
me after being diagnosed for almost a year: but what if im just faking it edit: this has a lot more likes n responses then i wouldve thought to get but hi i dont worry about this anymore im a proud trans man and i love all you guys who opened up here 💞
SAME I’ve been diagnosed since 8th gradeish [I’m in 12th now] and I’m always like “what if I’m faking? My dysphoria isn’t as bad as theirs so maybe I’m not trans???” Even though I know: I feel comfortable w/ a male/masc name, male/neutral pronouns, if I were alone on an island w/ everything I ever wanted/needed I’d still want to transition, I hate hearing my birth name [especially referring to me], I hate people using she/her or anything more “fem” towards me. But my brain is still “what if you’re fake tho???”
EternalScreaming You don’t have to fit in to a label, just do the thing that feels right to you. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone, even if you were wrong about your gender or sexuality, that’s not the end of the world. Be who you want to be
Me: is a “girl” Also me: wears ALL men’s clothes Acts like a man Hangs out with men Is open about posing as a man online Has a deep voice Goes by all pronouns Wears cologne Steals *brothers* clothes Everyone: *she* is just a Tomboy
Me: Maybe I'm not trans... Also me: Hates my birth name, being called she/they, my feminine features, chest, and voice. Me: Guess I'll just never know.
😸 same (though I am good with she, I just prefer both he and she to be used as I am bigender as far as I can tell) Edit: Yeah no I’m a trans guy. Thought maybe I could make myself be ok with the girl thing... but nope, not how it works, ha. Just he/him
I'm just here trying to figure out whether I'm experiencing dysphoria or not.. I feel like sometimes I do but most of the time I feel fine. gender is much more confusing than sexuality-
@@helyphion Same thing. You are either biologically male or female. The trans activists have brainwashed you into thinking that they are different and that both are social constructs rather than scientific facts. Wake up.
@@helyphion Just because a person doesn't share your opinion doesn't make them an asshole. Were you never taught how to debate someone who is challenging your point of view?
Me: literally transitioning, cries whenever someone calls me a man, and feels so good when I feel womanly Also me: better watch this video to make sure I'm not faking.
Ever since I was young I didn’t like being called beautiful, pretty, girly, daughter, etc. and ever since developing a chest I hated it. I’ve noticed recently I like to be referred to as a male. I got a binder recently and I love it. I went to a social gathering today and cried for a good 20 minutes because people kept calling me beautiful and such and my mom kept referring to me as her second daughter..I haven’t told anyone in my family about how I’m feeling of course so they don’t know it hurts me or anything. But I don’t know if I’m trans or not.. Update: so I’m non-binary! Took me a while but i got there. Thank you everyone for your feedback! :)
I have the same situation... mostly with my parents too, maybe you wanna talk about this with me? U know Instagram or something, I would love to know the person that fells the same as me
Wormzie Worm just know that whoever you choose to be, let the real you shine. I also hate my chest and have growing discomfort with my bottom (especially since I’ve been on my man period this week.its SUCKS). You be you, and don’t let anyone dampen your light or try to change your mind. Misgendering isn’t fun (my mom does it every chance she gets bc I came out to her, and she was so against it that she brings up girly things all the time), but it will get better. Trust me.
The same thing happening here! I don't like the way my parents point out the girly things that I shouldn't do as a boy! I still haven't told them that imma girl inside bcoz of such a sit* Indian Stereotypical Society or Guardians!
Hello! A quick reminder to not just focus on what makes you dysphoric, it can also be helpful to focus on what makes you more comfortable and euphoric! For people questioning their gender, I wish you luck! It can be so hard and it's ok to have doubts. Focus on what makes you comfortable. Transitioning can be hard and confusing, I don't even have a set name yet, and I still have doubt of being Nonbinary, but that's ok. It'll work out.
how do i send this to someone without sending it to them. like telepathically play this video in their mind Edit; PLEASE STOP REPLYING I WAS ALMOST OUTED TODAY BECAUSE OF THIS.
i'm watching this to educate myself so I may understand what my sibling is going through! I am cis, but my sibling is questioning their gender so I'm educating myself for their sake
Please send them to a therapist,one that will not put them on blockers cus they are uncomfortable in their body when they are actually just going trough puberty..cus everyone is uncomfortable with those changes at first,but it can make you think you are not what you meant to be..even tho transgenderism makes no sense
I wish that there was like, a button or something that just told you straight up what you are, I can't tell if I have dysphoria or if I'm just going through a sad period of puberty Edit: Hey guys, I just want to let you know that I have in fact figured out my identity. And now that I'm here, all I can think is "how did I possibly think I was okay with being a girl". So, uh, just keep in mind, you'll figure it out eventually, and you'll know when you have, even if you still feel doubt, it'll be right. Sorry about the run-on sentence. Good luck everyone, you're all valid, and stay safe out there! :)
@Flower 34 I disagree. From an external POV it can definitely seem like that, but for the majority of trans folk, the questioning process takes months or years. And often those that *are* quick to ID as trans are doing so because they have been aware of their dysphoria for a long time but simy didn't have the words or the community to know exactly what it was @AlyssaDoodles, as someone who has known they are trans for over 2 years, I recommend that you write down your experiences with your gender in a journal or app (there's apps that protect your entries with pins and some that even disguise themselves as calculators if you're worried about privacy). It's best if you do it over the course of a month or few so you get an idea of what you're comfortable and uncomfortable with and get an idea of whether you're dysphoric or not and if so, what it's like for you. I'd also recommend experimenting with different pronouns and forms of gender expression. It's normal to feel weird about it at first, but if it brings you some form of comfort then that's something you can keep in mind. It's also handy to introspect and think about yourself and how you feel about your gender. What do you want and why? Are there internalized issues that might be clouding your judgement? If you experience some form of gender dysphoria/euphoria, then what is it like? Just remember to take your time with the questioning process.. Also sorry if you didn't need this advice lol
@@AB-uf1et no, that's actually really helpful, thank you so much! I recently have decided I'm cis and that's what I'm most comfortable with, but if the gender thing comes up again or if someone asks me for advice with it, I'll pass it on, thank you so much
From experience, it's gonna take a while (sadly such a button doesn't exist :( ) but it's honestly perfectly normal. A lot of things come and go and are confusing during puberty, but regardless of what you ultimately realise about yourself, your feelings at the current moment are still part of your experience. I was also unsure for a long time, and since I didn't want to risk talking to people around me about it, I just kept it to myself for practically years on end. I'm still hammering out the shape of things, but some things are more solid now and after a lot of deliberation, I've talked to some people about it since it's settled into looking like it won't "go away" any time soon. But yeah. Don't feel the pressure to decide or have everything make sense (this was one of the most frustrating pieces of advice I ever got, but it's honestly really true and keeps you from making rash lifechanging decisions), and don't feel shame, guilt, or embarrassment even in the case that you find out it wasn't dysphoria. Your feelings in the moment count and self-discovery never ends anyway.
Me here, thinking the same about myself as the comments say. On the other hand I doubt myself for not making experiences due to that self doubt. Ironic.
@@kaisetic3150 technically, we should be waiting until we are 25 to say if we are trans or not, if we are going by the dumb argument that the only reason we are trans is because our brains aren’t developed enough.
I love how I have all symptoms of Gender Dysphoria and my transphobic mother does nothing about it.. and then I watch this video and now come to realize she was medically trained to help others
Me: hates my chest, my "long" hair, sometimes my voice, cry cuz is unconfortable of looking like a girl in public Also me: nah maybe I'm just a cis girl looking for attention...
As a genderfluid person (born as a female) dysphoria is a daily thing I deal with. Like if I'm feeling like a male one day, I hate how curved I am, my chest, my face, my voice, etc. Yet at the same time I look at my feminine body and feel the need to keep it that way or look even more like a woman. It's hard. It gets really confusing and tiring at the end of the day, when all I want to do it just be ME.
I'm using google translator. Something similar has been happening to me lately (I'm going through a somewhat dysphoric stage but thanks to two trans friends I discovered that I may possibly be agender). I want to look good, cute and delicate (I am a boy from birth) but I don't like my manly body. I would recommend that you try, and if you can, talk to people who have already experienced this. In my personal case, I think I am a femboy (although I do not feel very comfortable with the word "boy" I DO NOT EVEN FEEL 100% COMFORTABLE BEING CALLED STRAIGHT XD), being a femboy allows me to be cute and delicate, having a feminine appearance , but without being a trans woman (although I'm going to have to exercise a lot to have a mega feminine appearance, my body is too manly xd). Maybe the same thing happens to you, as I said before, it's a matter of trying and having the right people to accompany you. I wish you all the luck in the world, I know that your comment is old but I still wish you all the luck so that at least you, unlike me, largely overcome your dysphoria and can be happy, anyway. I am possibly agender, as I said before, what applies to me does not necessarily have to apply to you, but I hope it has been useful to you or to anyone else who reads this in the future.
I now know my gender dysphoria is stronger than I thought I thought there was only two types of gender dysphoria I didn't know the last one turns out I emotional dysphoria
Me, a heterosexual cis woman: ...Fuck man. My heart goes out to all of you and every single one of you is valid. I can't understand you as well as I want to, but I can still be an ally all the way!
Watching this to understand my trans friends better 🥺💖🏳️⚧️ Update: I think I actually might be Demigirl, although I'm not 100% sure. I'm identifying with the label for now, and although I may or may not be cis I'm still trying my very hardest to understand my trans friends and myself better, as well as other genders :) Thank you all for the support regardless 💕 Update 2: I now identify as a trans nonbinary demigirl 😎
I am learning more about this and it seems to have a toll. I’m sorry that your going through this some people just immature. But stay strong 💪🏾 because your loved 💕💯
Hm, I do this too, but maybe I just have anxiety? I'm not diagnosed. I keep putting off therapy, because I don't trust any of the therapists in my area. Social isolation can be because of a few things. I just have little motivation to leave my bed/house.
As a person who date in this field. You don’t have to explain to anyone if your not ready. Your parents are just to keep you save and make sure your okay. Liking what u do is a personal thing. And a opinion to them. I say whatever you tell them they don’t have to like it but RESPECT IT. Just for most part but if they do YASSSS😍🥳 celebrations! But ur life is what u make it boo so live it up!💪🏾👑😌❤️
I get it! I’m a 42 year old man that has always felt like a woman. In my early 20’s I constantly dreamt of being Marilyn Monroe: a blond headed with pink highlights MM. I’m a gay man, but in my sexual fantasies I’m a woman. I’ve always felt more of a woman on the inside my entire life. My own mother knew I was gay at an early age. It wasn’t my choice either. At 5 years old, I dressed up like Cyndi Lauper. I mean come on! No, it definitely isn’t a choice! I totally get it!
fuck yeah fuck y e a h i don't meet genderfluids often and because of this i think that feelings inside me is wrong :D i'm so glad to see your commentary here. thank you
Something I'd like to say to any enbies scrolling through the comments. I'm a nonbinary person that uses she her or they them, because I enjoy some aspects of being feminine, but feel very dysphoric in certain situations (dresses, being sorted in with other girls, and on occasion my chest makes me feel dysphoric to name a few) aligning partially with one binary or the other doesn't make you not nonbinary, feeling less dysphoric than others doesn't necessarily make you not nonbinary. Just do what feels good and use the labels that make you feel good! That being said don't just use labels for attention or because you think it's cute or cool, do it because it's what you genuinely feel good about! Lots of love! 💛🤍💜🖤
Thank thank!! Currently questioning myself in terms of gender. Sometimes I wonder if I'm faking because I don't experience physical dysphoria as intensely as others unless I have long nails or something. This gender thing is a whole lot more confusing than sexuality tbh
Thanks for this. I’m still questioning, but I think I’m nonbinary, but I wasn’t really sure because my dysphoria is very little compared to others. I hardly have any physical dysphoria, but it sometimes unpredictably attacks me, like when I’m on my period, or when wearing dresses or skirts. I think my social dysphoria is worse, but it’s also not too bad. I get triggered when someone calls me a lady or a young women, or any of that stuff. I live with my mom, sister and brother, and my brother keeps saying that he doesn’t want to do stuff with us because we’re all girls, which also triggers my dysphoria. I think the best way to describe my situation is that I don’t mind being called female, but I’m more comfortable not being tethered to any gender. Anyway, sorry this was long, but your comment helped me figure things out a little bit more
As a person that identifies as Agender, many people don't think we experience dysphoria, but we most certainly do. For me specifically I experience more Social and Mental dysphoria than Physical, although I still do experience Physical dysphoria.
There are no personality traits, likes/dislikes, that make you male or female. If you get surgery just make sure it's not to change how others perceive you. The people who are deserving of your time will treat you the way you want to be treated and see you for who you really are. You don't have to get surgery to be trans. You don't need to conform to a certain look to be that gender. You decide who you are.
"You decide who you are", huh? If only it was that easy. You say that none of these things define our gender, but then what does? Our wants? If I decide to become a different species or a different race or a different nationality, I won't become one. There are things that can't be changed even if we wish they could. Like it or not, I was born female. Yet I absolutely hate being female and wish I could be a guy. So what? People often make it sound so easy to simply bend the truth to the way we feel. Even if I took hormones, had surgeries and such, that would just be me fighting with nature, it wouldn't truly make me a man. Not after 25 years of naturally being a woman. As for my role in the society, the expectations, the stereotypes - isn't that kinda what's at fault here? You say they don't matter that much, but how else do we tell genders apart? Besides physical traits, that is. Would people question their gender identity so often if those things weren't so narrow? What if we all had a freedom to dress, behave and be as we are? Just my thoughts, I'm honestly very confused about the whole gender thing. Especially about my own identity. I feel like it's more complicated than it should be.
@@M_JackOfAllTrades your thinking of sex. Sex is what you are biologically. It cannot be changed, Though you can get surgery, and pretty much the only difference would be your chromosomes. Some people are born with male and female characteristics. Sex is not as black & white as most think it is. Putting this aside, gender is a form of self expression, so if you say you identify as something your not really lying unless you don't feel that way. Every word is made up, and can have multiple definitions. So arguing you can only be (this) if (this) is pointless. If you ever want to know something about someone you can ask, and if they lie, that's fine, you're not entitled to their personal info. I tried to answer all your questions. I hope you can live your life the way u want to & be happy.
That was helpful, I have a ( daughter ) who feels that way/identifies So ........That's ok. However I Never had an issue with how it goes. Support shall be provided as an when required.
as a nonbinary person, thanks so much! parents who accept their trans and nonbinary children make me so happy and restore my faith in humanity! i hope you and your daughter have an amazing day and i hope she eventually has the body that matches her feelings! :)
Thank you for being supportive, it's kinda sad how a lot of parents don't accept their children for who they are. People like you restore my faith in humanity.
About over a year ago my uncle sent this to me to help figure myself out and it really helped!!!I have now been identifying as a trans man for about 11 months now!!!
Me: literally feels dysphoric everyday, and feels really good and gets in a good mood when called a he even online and feel uncomfortable with my name and body. Also me: *uh yeah I'd better watch this video to make sure I'm actually trans*
I’m ashamed to say I’ve been struggling with my gender for around 2 months now. And counting. Mom is not calling me Kai, she/her pronouns even when I say “hey ask me my gender so you dont get confused” but she doesnt. Only my friends and bf do.
yeah I feel you. I got outed to my mom that I was ftm and she didn't want to hear it. my sister also deadnames me alot and excuses it by saying that I am to young to decide... Only my friends respect my name and pronouns sadly. Its taboo in my house until im 16 :,). I guess I'll wait lol
genderfluid isn't feeling you aren't the gender you were assigned at birth, it's when you feel as if your masculinity/femininity changes or is not fixed
Rim3tu that’s actually not what genderfluid is... it’s not just changing the way you dress/present, cis people do that all the time, the way you feel about your gender actually changes. Stop erasing non-binary identities from the trans community. 🙄 Imagine trying to explain a genderfluid person’s own experience to them. Unbelievable. You’re a real piece of work, you know that?
@@ezra55595 Lol no, someone who is genderfluid is not transgender, people who is transgender like myself is a different gender then they were assigned at birth however, people who are genderfluid feel as if their gender fluctuates and they feel like another gender, remember being another gender and feeling like another gender is different.
recently, the past few months have been the worst. I’ve completely isolated myself and cried almost every night. I felt uncomfortable and didn’t tell anyone about it, or even try to understand it myself. This week I officially came out as trans masc, and I’m still not mentally prepared for anything. I’m going to counseling for it rn, but it truly has helped my mental health a bit more
@Penny Campbell same tho! It's so weird to me-- even before I knew about non binary and all this I always felt uncomfortable being called a woman, female etc, it felt like I was being called something I wasn't.
Lmao younger me would always go on the internet portraying myself as a guy and I loved it, hated when my mom made me dress up and do my hair, hated hitting puberty and developing into a woman it made me go into a depression. Even my first ever memory was when I was 4 and I woke up and went to the living room to ask my mom if I was a boy and was devastated when she said no. Transition has literally changed my mental health for the better. It's so mind blowing how people can't see how transitioning helps trans people.
Hi!! Guys remember that not all trans people have dysphoria, and some present differently/wish not to be cis passing!! I am one of these personally, I'm a more feminine trans boy who also uses neopronouns on top of he/him, remember we're all valid!!
Idk if im trans but i never connected to being a female? Like i dont mind it much but i dont really connect with it? And like i would have liked it more if i was a male but i dont really have enough dysphoria to feel the need to change? Is there a definition for this?
doing what makes you the happiest is always the best option. i’d suggest seeing a qualified gender therapist that’s focused on actual therapy not only medicating it. one can feel dysphoria for other reasons than being transgender, therefor therapy is an important thing. i’m trans myself and gender therapy helped explore a lot of the how and why’s.
trans man here, i never felt connected to being a girl. it never felt as me. try out different names and pronouns in your free time, that helped me a lot. good luck!
Mega Tron it means that you feel like a female and you don't feel like a different gender so you connect to the female gender while for other people who were born a female or male but felt like a different gender feel a disconnect from there biological gender or the gender they were born as (I hope it make sense)
So dispite my user name, like all of this has been going through me all my life. My dad raised me to be a manly man. To handle pain, to suffer in silence, to be strong, to be in charge, all of your standard manly man stuff. I did try, lord did I try to work out, lose weight, but even when I was in my best form I just HATED looking at myself in the mirror. I hate anything and everything that reminds me of me. One time I even punched the mirror after a bad day. I haven't truly looked at my reflection for over 7 years (besides a quick glance to shave). I have always wondered what I could do to make myself happy but every time I thought about being a 'big strong man' the idea was appealing but something felt so wrong about it. I am VERY new about all of this, and I still have my dad's old teachings and habits in me, but now I just can't stand it. This is the first time I am saying this in a public format but I don't want to be a man, but idk where to start 😢
my parents: oh its just puberty. my brain: make me a lesbian girl god. DO IT. edit: it makes me feel better that i am not alone. we are in this together
Ive slightly come to terms with the fact that I cant change my body till im 18+ but I still get depressed because of it and that dysphoria turns into bad mental dysphoria and I haven't left my house in a year.
That is such a crappy situation to be in. I know how much it hurts personally. Please remember, you will transition someday, and you deserve to live as you. You are very strong!
I want to be male. But my mom and dad do not support it. My mother has literally said she would disown me if I ever said I was transgender. I hate being called “girly” “female” “girl” “beautiful” “daughter” etc. I want a binder but she will not allow me to get one. I want to be male really bad but I cannot Because I will literally be disowned. My family will hate me. Who ever is reading this, how will I get them to support.?
For me, it's super hard to tell when I dislike how people are referring to me becaue I'm asexual and feel like they're being overly sexualizing of my body or when I dislike how people are referring to me because I'm (hesitantly?) non-binary and feeling some hard social dysphoria. I honestly have no problem with how my body looks and feels *until* someone is commenting on how I look feminine ("such a pretty young lady") or masculine ("your hair makes you look like a boy").
Am the same way. I really get very uncomfortable whenever someone calls me a woman some days I feel like a male while other days female. I just don't like to be reminded that no matter what am always going to be just a plain woman to people. Am also Asexual who hates anything to do with sex. I'm usually in my head 24/7 to combat how unfair and disappointing reality really is.
I feel this. I'm both aro and ace and I'm not sure if I sometimes feel the way I feel toward my body and the way it can be seen by others because of some kind of gender dysphoria or because I don't want people to think of me in a certain (sexual and or romantic) way...
the dude: dysphoria, left untreated, can result in harmful things me, constantly deadnamed, called incorrect pronouns, and eh about my body: ZOO WEE MAMA
just a reminder: you don’t need to have dysphoria to be trans. if you get _that_ happy feeling when someone refers to you as your pronouns, calls you by your name, if you finally feel seen when someone just calls you he/they/she, you’re trans.
if you are trans for that reason you are an attention seeker trying to be mainstream. Simple as that. You also make a serious situation for people who genuinely have gender dysphoria seem like a joke and a costume you can wear whenever for no real reason other than you are probably a very lonely person trying to fit in. Its either gender dysphoria or you are full of shit...
I feel so bad when people say that demigirls don't exist, or when they say that I'm just a woman looking for attention... I really wanna have a top surgery but I don't wanna be mistaken by a gender-neutral nonbinary, what can I do?
No ones going to know your gender/preferred pronouns by looking at you because people’s brains automatically portray others as male or female. My advice is to just express yourself in a way that makes you happy and not worry so much about how other people see you
If you have top surgery, but don't change your over-all appearance that much people might likely perceive you as a girl still. They could just think you're really flat-chested lol
You can always try binding use a binder or trans tape/kt tape if you can and see how people perceive you on social situations and if it makes you feel more comfortable or more uncomfortable/dysphoric
This reminds me of how today, I was hanging out with a friend, and she was talking over the phone with a different friend saying "I'm on *their* balcony", and I felt a huge rush of gender euphoria. I still feel comfortable identifying as a girl, but I also feel really good about being non-binary. I might be bigender???? Idek, life is weird.
Pronouns don't have to relate to gender, but you're totally valid! If you want to try out some pronouns (or get that sweet, sweet, gender euphoria) you can try the Pronoun Dressing Room www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/
So basically, it's like having an anxiety attack. Actually it might be exactly that, but constant (at least for me). Especially with the thousands of self-hating thoughts running through your mind. That suffocating feeling in your chest that makes it almost impossible to breathe. But I think the worst might be when it feels like someone's squeezing your heart and won't let go until it pops. Imagine looking in the mirror and feeling like you don't know the person looking back. Like your entire personality is fake and everything you do is just to make someone else happy, or to keep them from getting mad or disgusted with you. Making your voice sound higher in public, sweeter. Just to appease. Wearing clothes you hate so your parents don't get mad. Locking yourself in your bedroom because you just can't pretend that day. Go to the bathroom as less as possible so you don't catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror. Not doing your favorite things because they're meant for the opposite gender. Befriending your English teacher because they can tell you're going through a rough time. Wearing hoodies in the middle of summer because you hate what you look like without them. Hate shopping because your mother is there and she'll judge you for buying clothes that might make you feel comfortable. Googling how much an average funeral costs and starting a savings account so your death won't be as inconvenient. Contemplate shaving your head. Going to bed early just to stare at the ceiling until dawn because your mind is racing and you can't sleep. Wondering why you weren't offended when someone accidentally called you a boy. Gradually becoming more and more distant because just the thought of socializing is exhausting. Your dog is your only true friend.
Me: am I trans? Me: *watches this video* Me: *relates to all of this* Me: no. I’m just fake. Everyone else would say I am not trans therefore I am not trans. Seriously though if you relate to these, you’re trans. Even if you don’t relate to all of them but you relate to some/most you’re still valid. You don’t need to transition to be trans. I know I have a hard time accepting my dysphoria because my father has said transphobic stuff and my mom has my deadname tattooed onto her body, but that doesn’t make me any less valid. (Even tho I still have a hard time accepting it. For some reason I’m completely okay with being open about my sexuality around my friends, for some reason gender is really tough for me. Usually I trust my friends with everything.)
so- i enjoy binding since having smaller ~those~ makes me happy. however, i am not trans and i wanna know if i am somehow invalidating trans people and if i’m allowed (i guess) to bind without being trans? just wanted an opinion- thanks
@@notthatstonesav You can do anything you want its your body. I'm sure no trans person would mind something like that. Just be careful with binding so you dont hurt yourself.
savvy stonehouse it’s rare, but I have heard of cis women getting top surgery because of dysphoria even though they identify as women. You can be dysphoric about parts of your body without being trans. It’s also possible you’re non-binary? But that’s something I can’t tell you; you’ll have to explore your identity and figure out the answer to that on your own.
@@MidnightEkaki ty for letting me know- i tried using a bunch of tight bras and i realized it's kinda hard to breathe sometimes so hopefully i'll get better at making fake binders.
Im so glad i didn't transition. Spent years putting on womens clothing in private, and wished i was one. Now that I've mentally developed, i realize it would have been terrible for me to transition. Thank god for old school parents.
According to prospective studies, the majority of children diagnosed with gender dysphoria cease to desire to be the other sex by puberty, with most growing up to identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual, with or without therapeutic intervention
Being a non-binary, diagnosed autistic and ADHD kid, my heightened emotional sensitivity causes me to constantly feel dysphoria in the form of intense self doubt about myself. Because being in a group of mostly lgbt+ people helped me discover myself, my brain sometimes decides to think, "what if your just doing it to fit in", and it is honestly one of the most depressing experiences i go trough daily, and is only weakened by my incredibly accepting friends and family.
@@antisocialmanic yeah I get that, like I understand what I’m feeling but I have no clue how to describe it in a way that makes sense. Not being able to express how you feel about something is awful. Sometimes I might even describe it wrong and people get the wrong idea. Shit sucks man, but keep going on and hopefully you’ll figure stuff out!
Questioning AMAB here: diagnosed ADHD, in the process of getting an autism diagnosis, and now on top of that, I'm questioning my gender. Having a queer friend group isn't making it the easiest to reconsile because what if my adhd/autism is hyperfixating (after 4 years of my best friend coming out as trans and then the rest of the friend group following suit). To be fair, that concern didn't even occur to me until my parents began using my "tendency to be influenced" as a reason to avoid initial affirmations. They want me to go through therapy and make sure I'm trans before they'll look at affirmation and allowing me to socially transition around the house. On top of that, I take Sertraline along with my ADHD medication, for emotional regulation. SSRIs can reduce the impact of dysphoria, so maybe I've been dysphoric this entire time but my ADHD medication masked the dysphoria. Who knows. All I know for certain is I've experienced gender euphoria with she/her pronouns, nail polish, and arm sleeves (I have a picture of nail polish + arm sleeves + legend of zelda ring all coming together to make my hand look feminine and it brings me so much euphoria oh my god). So for now, I'm staying in the questioning phase (makes the mental spiral easier if I tell myself I'm merely questioning, even if on some level, I already know the answer...). After some therapy sessions, I can start to explore with the support of my parents. Being nearly 25 with poor self-sufficiency around the house makes me not want to move out just yet. And I love my parents, and would love to be supported by them
I'm trying to watch more things about trans people, so I can support anyone I meet. I want to get as close as I can to understanding all of the members of our community that fall under the T in LGBTQ+ Edit: Ahahaha.... turns out I was DEEEP in denial..... uhh I'm a trans guy *airhorn noises*
Aw, that’s one of the sweetest things I’ve heard/read today! Whoever you meet will be lucky and grateful to have you there supporting and being a knowledgeable pal, believe me 😋
I think i am a trans male Ever since I was a kid I always thought I was a boy I dressed like boys Behaved like boys Always hung around boys Liked short hair And i am attracted to girls So i was very confused. My mom told.me I am just going through a tomboy phase . I am not going through a phase. I like to be called he / him . I don't feel like I am a girl. I feel like i am trapped in a body which doesn't belong to me . I am not able to accept that I am a girl . I seriously Don't know what to do .
@@avastars3393 hey it's been three years, hope ur doing ok :) both of you. I am a trans teen and my mind always tries to convince me that it's puberty or something. Hope ur not mega trans phobes now tho lmao
At Where I live it's very transphobic so I couldn't get diagnosed, I had to figure out things on my own, here is a reminder for people who are still figuring it out: - being gender-nonconforming doesn't automatically mean that you're trans. being uncomfortable with gender roles or not fitting in them, doesn't automatically mean that you're trans. It took me so much time to realize this, but once I did I finally felt better and less confused. Also realizing this is so important because a lot of transphobes excuse their transphobia by saying that in their teenage years they felt uncomfortable with gender roles and certain clothes but now they are fine and back to "normal". But again how they felt before doesn't mean that they were/felt " trans"
People are asking for advice here, sharing their thoughts, so I might as well. Sometimes I'm fine with being female. yes. girl. absolutely. Other times I'm just like no. no gender. throw it away. what are these things on my chest. they're not _me_. Most of the time I'm somewhere in between. female? i guess. maybe, more-or-less. I'm never male though. So I'm not really trans, because I sometimes identify with my assigned gender, and I definitely don't want to transition to the opposite gender, but I'm not cis either. I'm trying out the label demigirl, and they/them pronouns. I'm fine with she/her most of the time, but I really like they/them. I also really like the name River, which I've used as a screen name for a long time, and I feel more comfortable with it than my birth name.
trans is actually an umbrella term, it doesnt just mean ftm and mtf :) nonbinary people, genderfluid people, and all other people who dont identify as the gender they were assigned at birth all come under the trans umbrella. so just because you sometimes identify with your assigned gender, that doesnt necessarily mean you arent trans (though if you dont want to label yourself as trans thats fine too!!)
Hey! I relate a lot to what you said you're experiencing! (Except I never really feel fully female, more like *sometimes* I kinda vibe with being called a girl) Relatable with the chest thing though lol. Also same thing with the pronouns. I'm glad you're starting to figure yourself out!
Sounds like you're genderfluid. Some genderfluid people may never feel a certain gender, but can feel like multiple others at other times. Actually, one of my favorite youtubers is just like that - genderfluid, but never male! (I had no reason to mention them but shh wtvr)
Does anyone else in here not see yourself when looking in the mirror and feel little to no connection to your reflection? Like you know this is what you look like to other people but you feel like the person looking back at you is a stranger
This made me feel more confident that I am indeed not cis. I am a trans teenager who has not transitioned yet and I've been so scared for a few weeks because suddenly the six hears I've done of questioning has come back to tell me that I'm "just faking it." Because I don't feel what others feel. It's weird. But I know I'm transgender, I'm just a bit more girly then some trans men and cis men. I might even be something else; but I know for a fact that I am more male then I will ever be female, even in my clothing choice and interests. By tomorrow I'll be questioning again, haha. Self doubt is hard.
@@abyss6484 oh my gosh. You could not have replied to that at a better time. I was just about to start bawling at the fact that I'm struggling to decide if I should tell my parents or not. Re-reading this comment made me happy. Thank you
I'm a Gender-Fluid person, I tried to represent myself as a male today, but I'm still closeted so I didn't have a binder, but I tried my best to present myself as male, using my brother's clothes and tying my hair back as well as pushing my chest back. I have my own names for each pronouns I use, when I'm feeling masculine I like to call myself "Avery." Which is masculine by the way, it may sound feminine but it's not. I asked my friends to call me Avery and refer to me as he/him. It wasn't their fault I know it wasn't, but it still hurt me that they referred to me as the person I did not define as, especially after they had known and acknowledged me as Gender-Fluid person for years. I mean yeah, I am in the closet and I'm a girl practically all the time because of it, but ya'll know me, so please address me correctly.. I ended up being put off too by one of my old friends, who's not REALLY my friend but I still hang with her- Anyways I was put off by her because she said she couldn't see me as male and I was always gonna be a girl to her.. So yeah, that sucked, but then my best friend who's a Trans Girl made me feel better, like seriously my best friend is absolutely awesome, she's amazing! But yeah, my best friend is also in the closet and she and I are definitely going through Gender-Dysphoria as I do not feel comfortable in my body a lot and she's a girl stuck in her birth body. Everyone keeps messing up her pronouns and saying her dead name too. It sucks, but it makes me happy seeing these LGBTQ+ videos, I'm glad I can have more things to refer on for my dysphoria and also know that I'm not the only one who relates.
I personally it seems I have social and physical dysphoria I absolutely HATE my chest I've tried flattening my chest in secret because I know my mum would dissaprove because she thinks that when I'm older I'll like them again, no she isn't trans phobic she's just worried about my safety, I can't exactly figure out if I'm trans or maybe nonbinary I've always liked the unisex names a lot I imagine myself as a masculine person but not exactly a boy, I started to feel a disconnect at the start of 2020 before I never worried about anything but once I started thinking more into it i realized I don't see myself as a girl I knew I was different from everyone else but I just never thought of it much but I wouldn't say I fully connect with a female or a male I possibly thing I might be a masculine nonbinary I'm not sure but I'll figure it out someday :)
yeah stay positive, you will figure it out one day! i've tried some stuff and i found that wearing a bra then putting a tank top on flattens a little, but you can also fold the tank top up to your chest until it looks like a really tiny crop top just covering that area. it works, maybe not as much as a binder, because it's..not a binder. :-/ (wear a shirt over it obviously o.o)
Im not trans, but I found this really informative a few months ago when a friend came out to me and I didn’t want to make him uncomfortable by asking questions before he was ready. Thank you so much for this!!
Just because you weren't aware of something, doesn't make it fake or a phase. If you are respectful towards people that believe in gods, you should definitely be cool about trans and NB people.
I think this is also an important thing to add, people who do not experience gender dysphoria are *NOT* trans. It doesn't mean you're not valid but the entire thing about being trans is about being disconnected and unhappy with your assigned gender.
No, being trans is about feeling like a gender different to the one assigned at birth. If a cis dude can feel completely comfortable in a dress or being adressed by she/her but is still male cause he feels a strong connection to that gender then it only makes sense that the same thing could happen with a trans dude.
I'm literally scared to tell my dad that I want to transition from female to male because i don't feel comfortable with the gender i was assigned at birth and 1. hes the only parent I have, 2. hes homophobic and might kicks me out of the house 3. If he actually kicks me out I have no where to go
Do you have any friends that are accepting or know you can come out to? If you’re scared of being kicked out sometimes you can stay at a friends place. I would try to find a a backup plan before coming out.
me: finally realizing i’m trans my mind: you’re probably just faking it for attention me: but i haven’t even told anyone my mind: you’re FAKING IT me: HeLp Me PLeAsE my mind: no one can help you now 😭✌️😓
I truly am lucky. I’m genderfluid/non-binary and dysphoria doesn’t really hit me that hard because I’m very accepting of myself/I just vibe in whatever I’m wearing. I know some people struggle a lot with dysphoria and all I want to say is I love you ALL and hugs for everyone🖤💜 you’re very attractive and you are lovely and valued
I’m non-binary and I have fluctuating levels of dysphoria. Most of the time it’s relatively mild for me but I’ll also have times with no dysphoria or moderate or intense dysphoria.
My main issue is that even though I have dysphoria I have only had it recently (like past five months). I've always hated my body but I thought that was just insecurities so I don't know anymore. I think I'm nonbinary or a demiboy but I'm doubting it because I haven't had dysphoria for my whole life.
It's so weird, I almost never feel physical dysphoria, only sometimes, sometimes I even like being called pretty and wearing dresses, but other times I just can't stand just imagining myself in skirt. I think I'm faking it, I just think I can't be a boy, it's uncomfortable imagining myself as a boy, but it's weird thinking about myself as a girl, at some points I love my female body, at other I hate it. I always wanted myself short hair, but when I asked my mom to cut my hair really short she said "but you're a girl!" It made me feel terrible... Writing this feels like I'm doing something illegal... (Sorry if I said something wrong, my English is pretty bad)
I'm transgender ftm and I'm extremely feminine. I go by she/her and my name is Odessa Wales. But I feel dysphoric about my chest. I identify as male too.
Im glad I found this comment, im not trans but I'm a cis gal who only uses he/him pronouns, glad to find people who use different pronouns than expected lol
it's so comforting knowing that there are videos out there like this one explaining the misconceptions of Gender-Dysphia, especially since a lot of people don't really understand it. And as a Non-Binary person, this video is very comforting and helpful
Aww that's so sweet! To make a trans people feel comofrtable around you. You should give them masculine compliments if they're transman. If they're transwoman then more feminine ones :) It usually helps trans people to feel better in your presence.
It is also okay to be a feminine man or a masculine woman. Not being an ideal representation of the stereotypes belonging to your sex doesn't mean that you are less of a man/woman. It only means that stereotypes are silly and made up.
My mom said i need to be diagnosed with gender dysphoria to have top and bottom surgery, im terrified to tell my mom im trans and Im not sure I have gender dysphoria because my mom and sisters are saying that I dont have it, I need to be diagnosed by an actual doctor person thing and im extremely uncomfortable with my chest, my vagina, and my name, my mom has let me cut my hair. I got mad when people misgendered me by saying I was a boy because I wanted to be one so it felt like I was being teased, now I know who I am inside but im scared.. my mom is bi so I have nothing to be scared of... right? Im 11 and I desperately need help.. what age do I come out? How do I bind my chest without mom or dad knowing? They refuse to buy my sister a binder for cosplay so will she buy on for me since I want one because I hate myself?!?!?!?!? PLEASE IM STUMPED
Don't be afraid, you can do it. If your parents are ok with trans people it's safe for you. And so what if you need to be diagnosed? To me you clearly have gender dysphoria so the doctors will see that as long as you tell them how you're feeling.
I really wish they'd update this in very concrete terms and in more detail; "feelings" doesn't cut it for people who have very real mental experiences of being the opposite sex. This is way too vague to address the very complex experience that is neurologic dysphoria. Videos like this are why I'm always left confused about what's wrong with me even though I've been diagnosed with dysphoria.
I respect people's pronouns because nobody respects mine. I also use they/them pronouns for online people who haven't confirmed their gender to me (yet). I used to use male pronouns for everyone on default but then I realized that's rude
Me:feels uncomfortable with my body, hates my voice,feels uncomfortable with facial hair and body hair in genera. Also me:”no I definitely don’t have gender dysphoria”
*insert egg me trying to convince myself that I don't actually have dysphoria and everyone feels like this when they go through puberty*
I felt that o__o
Wait till ur 18
Can we arrive at 100 suscribers With no video? ? Not really how it works. I’ve realized I’m trans fully, and I have enough brain capacity to realize I shouldn’t be feeling immense fucking pain in my chest when I’m called a girl. At 18, your brain is still not developed fully. You’re just suddenly called an adult by society’s standards. Wtf am I gonna do at 18 that I can’t do now? Get surgery? I need to figure myself out during one of the most hard times of my life because of hormones, and you think that waiting until I’m 18 will do something?
Sorry to break it to you buddy, but I can understand myself and the norms about puberty myself. I am not supposed to be feeling like I’d like to cut off my fucking breasts because of how feminine they make me look during puberty, and I can figure that out without some society telling me I’m an adult.
I. Felt. That. So fucking hard.
I always thought all girls feel so terrible about themselves because they are going through puberty.
Everyone does go through this when they go through puberty. Nobody is comfortable during puberty.
Me: Maybe I'm not trans.
Also Me: Feels all of these.
I love your profile pic
@@thatonecringeteen Thanks! I love jacksepticeye. 💚
Jay Myers Are you a pansexual demiboy? I am questioning, but I think that’s what I am too.
exoelice I feel you! You don’t have to label yourself if you don’t want
@@AverageTreeEnthusiast yes I am
gender dysphoria is hell, but you'll get through it. Stay strong, try to keep out of danger, and remember your fellow trans folk, we're all here for each other. sincerely, your trans brother
hey, just wanna talk to somebody about this since i’m too scared to tell my friends, i’ve been feeling like i’m not a guy recently. everytime somebody calls me a girl (on accident most of the time) i feel fine, but whenever somebody calls me a guy, i feel weird, like it doesn’t feel right and i’m considering if im trans. i’m not really sure if i really just wanna just go full on “i’m trans” yet.
@@theclockman775 Take your time, friend. It can take a while to truly figure out what's what (it took me at least a year). A few tips I've got to help you out with learning more about your gender (without coming out!);
1) try out new pronouns and stuff on yourself! call yourself a girl and see how it feels (you don't have to do this around people, you can just hang out by yourself testing things out)
2) Subtle transitioning. Dress a bit more femininely, pitch your voice around a bit, more subtle things that people won't necessarily notice. (This might even help score you some "ma'am"s from strangers!)
3) Hang out in trans-friendly spaces online, and identify as your chosen gender there! You can be whoever you want online, and that makes it the perfect space to find out who you want to be. Experiment!
And one last thing: you can always change your mind. Whatever YOU feels is best is how you should identify. Good luck out there, sis!
@@knightobreath one thing i’m mainly worried about is how my friends would react
80 percent of trans teens naturally resist their urges post puberty
Puberty is a process that instills cognitive development or process thinking
@@theclockman775 Sound like your a girl to me weather that all the time or your genderfluid.
me after being diagnosed for almost a year: but what if im just faking it
edit: this has a lot more likes n responses then i wouldve thought to get but hi i dont worry about this anymore im a proud trans man and i love all you guys who opened up here 💞
vktrs ugh relatable
SAME
I’ve been diagnosed since 8th gradeish [I’m in 12th now] and I’m always like “what if I’m faking? My dysphoria isn’t as bad as theirs so maybe I’m not trans???” Even though I know: I feel comfortable w/ a male/masc name, male/neutral pronouns, if I were alone on an island w/ everything I ever wanted/needed I’d still want to transition, I hate hearing my birth name [especially referring to me], I hate people using she/her or anything more “fem” towards me.
But my brain is still “what if you’re fake tho???”
Bro same
EternalScreaming
You don’t have to fit in to a label, just do the thing that feels right to you. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone, even if you were wrong about your gender or sexuality, that’s not the end of the world. Be who you want to be
Me being diagnosed for over 2 years: hmm maybe I'm just in denial
My closeted and in denial self: *watches this video to check I'm not really trans*
Me: *relates to all of this*
🙃
Good luck on your journey 💛
hope things work out for you! :)
Benedict Sherman bruh
@Mr Lopez lol what
In out and still somehow in denial 🤩
Me: is a “girl”
Also me: wears ALL men’s clothes
Acts like a man
Hangs out with men
Is open about posing as a man online
Has a deep voice
Goes by all pronouns
Wears cologne
Steals *brothers* clothes
Everyone: *she* is just a Tomboy
cat
And your point?
A female since the womb will always be one.
A male since the womb will always be one.
Nothing wrong with being a tom boy or gay. Bye.
cat
If you go by all pronouns why are you mad?
who is mad ?@@lizardd_duck
Me: Maybe I'm not trans...
Also me: Hates my birth name, being called she/they, my feminine features, chest, and voice.
Me: Guess I'll just never know.
maybe you are a guy
togami be kinda transgender tho
Mood
When you think/dream do you see yourself as a male?
😸 same (though I am good with she, I just prefer both he and she to be used as I am bigender as far as I can tell)
Edit: Yeah no I’m a trans guy. Thought maybe I could make myself be ok with the girl thing... but nope, not how it works, ha. Just he/him
I'm just here trying to figure out whether I'm experiencing dysphoria or not.. I feel like sometimes I do but most of the time I feel fine.
gender is much more confusing than sexuality-
bro i feel this. i knew instantly i was bi but i’m like having an identity crisis over gender rn. i hate being confused lmfao
@@helyphion Same thing. You are either biologically male or female. The trans activists have brainwashed you into thinking that they are different and that both are social constructs rather than scientific facts. Wake up.
@@helyphion Nope, just not brainwashed into denial of scientific facts.
@@helyphion Just because a person doesn't share your opinion doesn't make them an asshole. Were you never taught how to debate someone who is challenging your point of view?
help I can't figure out either.
Me: literally transitioning, cries whenever someone calls me a man, and feels so good when I feel womanly
Also me: better watch this video to make sure I'm not faking.
But you are a man
@@yourbanned4522 no Shes not
@@yourbanned4522 can you shut up.
Gosh same- I don’t cry when misgendered but OH IT MAKES ME SO UNCOMFY
@aiden the king illusory
deadnaming mentions from 1:15 to 1:23 and mentions of self harm and suicide from 1:47 to 1:50
tysm
tysm for doing this
You, my friend, are a _wonderful_ person.
tysm for the warnings
Wish id seen this before the vid, but still cautious. Nice one!
Ever since I was young I didn’t like being called beautiful, pretty, girly, daughter, etc. and ever since developing a chest I hated it. I’ve noticed recently I like to be referred to as a male. I got a binder recently and I love it. I went to a social gathering today and cried for a good 20 minutes because people kept calling me beautiful and such and my mom kept referring to me as her second daughter..I haven’t told anyone in my family about how I’m feeling of course so they don’t know it hurts me or anything. But I don’t know if I’m trans or not..
Update: so I’m non-binary! Took me a while but i got there. Thank you everyone for your feedback! :)
I have the same situation... mostly with my parents too, maybe you wanna talk about this with me? U know Instagram or something, I would love to know the person that fells the same as me
@Wormzie Worm can I just steal those pronouns from you real quick and give you my male body?! I’ve been dying to try on a new chest and clothing!
Wormzie Worm just know that whoever you choose to be, let the real you shine. I also hate my chest and have growing discomfort with my bottom (especially since I’ve been on my man period this week.its SUCKS). You be you, and don’t let anyone dampen your light or try to change your mind. Misgendering isn’t fun (my mom does it every chance she gets bc I came out to her, and she was so against it that she brings up girly things all the time), but it will get better. Trust me.
Persondy - T If only we could switch bodies with someone of the opposite sex as us for a day...
The same thing happening here! I don't like the way my parents point out the girly things that I shouldn't do as a boy! I still haven't told them that imma girl inside bcoz of such a sit* Indian Stereotypical Society or Guardians!
Hello! A quick reminder to not just focus on what makes you dysphoric, it can also be helpful to focus on what makes you more comfortable and euphoric!
For people questioning their gender, I wish you luck! It can be so hard and it's ok to have doubts. Focus on what makes you comfortable.
Transitioning can be hard and confusing, I don't even have a set name yet, and I still have doubt of being Nonbinary, but that's ok. It'll work out.
Lovely comment- thank you! ♡
Gonna screenshot this when in dire need
how do i send this to someone without sending it to them. like telepathically play this video in their mind
Edit; PLEASE STOP REPLYING I WAS ALMOST OUTED TODAY BECAUSE OF THIS.
While they are sleeping play it quietly in their room 👍🏼
well there being transphobic at home, just put this video in the vents and slowly, increase the volume.
Elon musks lil fucking chip
To explain that, we need to understand quantum physics
Leave a video of it on their laptop when they're away
me: *has all of these*
also me: Im JuSt A lEsBiAn
sameee
Same here ):
@@vixistired9633 nice pfp
same here and the funny thing is i'm not even romantically or sexually attracted to women oof -
@@void-enthusiast4281 lol same actually
i'm watching this to educate myself so I may understand what my sibling is going through! I am cis, but my sibling is questioning their gender so I'm educating myself for their sake
Good on you, make sure to give your sibling all the love and support as they're going through this time.
Please send them to a therapist,one that will not put them on blockers cus they are uncomfortable in their body when they are actually just going trough puberty..cus everyone is uncomfortable with those changes at first,but it can make you think you are not what you meant to be..even tho transgenderism makes no sense
@@laraerdelyi4299 exactly people keep trying to indoctrinate kids what bigots
I wish that there was like, a button or something that just told you straight up what you are, I can't tell if I have dysphoria or if I'm just going through a sad period of puberty
Edit: Hey guys, I just want to let you know that I have in fact figured out my identity. And now that I'm here, all I can think is "how did I possibly think I was okay with being a girl". So, uh, just keep in mind, you'll figure it out eventually, and you'll know when you have, even if you still feel doubt, it'll be right. Sorry about the run-on sentence. Good luck everyone, you're all valid, and stay safe out there! :)
same ;-;
@Flower 34 and that's why I haven't done anything or decided anything, to see if it passes
@Flower 34 I disagree. From an external POV it can definitely seem like that, but for the majority of trans folk, the questioning process takes months or years. And often those that *are* quick to ID as trans are doing so because they have been aware of their dysphoria for a long time but simy didn't have the words or the community to know exactly what it was
@AlyssaDoodles, as someone who has known they are trans for over 2 years, I recommend that you write down your experiences with your gender in a journal or app (there's apps that protect your entries with pins and some that even disguise themselves as calculators if you're worried about privacy). It's best if you do it over the course of a month or few so you get an idea of what you're comfortable and uncomfortable with and get an idea of whether you're dysphoric or not and if so, what it's like for you.
I'd also recommend experimenting with different pronouns and forms of gender expression. It's normal to feel weird about it at first, but if it brings you some form of comfort then that's something you can keep in mind.
It's also handy to introspect and think about yourself and how you feel about your gender. What do you want and why? Are there internalized issues that might be clouding your judgement? If you experience some form of gender dysphoria/euphoria, then what is it like?
Just remember to take your time with the questioning process.. Also sorry if you didn't need this advice lol
@@AB-uf1et no, that's actually really helpful, thank you so much! I recently have decided I'm cis and that's what I'm most comfortable with, but if the gender thing comes up again or if someone asks me for advice with it, I'll pass it on, thank you so much
From experience, it's gonna take a while (sadly such a button doesn't exist :( ) but it's honestly perfectly normal. A lot of things come and go and are confusing during puberty, but regardless of what you ultimately realise about yourself, your feelings at the current moment are still part of your experience. I was also unsure for a long time, and since I didn't want to risk talking to people around me about it, I just kept it to myself for practically years on end. I'm still hammering out the shape of things, but some things are more solid now and after a lot of deliberation, I've talked to some people about it since it's settled into looking like it won't "go away" any time soon. But yeah. Don't feel the pressure to decide or have everything make sense (this was one of the most frustrating pieces of advice I ever got, but it's honestly really true and keeps you from making rash lifechanging decisions), and don't feel shame, guilt, or embarrassment even in the case that you find out it wasn't dysphoria. Your feelings in the moment count and self-discovery never ends anyway.
Video: Dysphoria can make you doubt yourself and your experiences
Transphobes in the comments: "That self doubt actually means you're not trans"
Me here, thinking the same about myself as the comments say. On the other hand I doubt myself for not making experiences due to that self doubt. Ironic.
Transphobes can be so stupid -.-
A transphobe replied to one of my comments on here and told me to wait until I'm 18 to say I'm trans because nobody likes puberty...
@@kaisetic3150 Puberty does affect these problems
@@kaisetic3150 technically, we should be waiting until we are 25 to say if we are trans or not, if we are going by the dumb argument that the only reason we are trans is because our brains aren’t developed enough.
Fellow trans man here, personally for me it feels like being ripped open from the inside out and vomiting at the same time but emotionally
I love how I have all symptoms of Gender Dysphoria and my transphobic mother does nothing about it.. and then I watch this video and now come to realize she was medically trained to help others
I'm sorry
I know how ya feel bro they just dont fucking understand
She isn't transphobic she is trying to help you sort your life out
Apache Helicopter I didn’t know she was your mother too 🤦🏻
What makes your mother transphobic?
Me: hates my chest, my "long" hair, sometimes my voice, cry cuz is unconfortable of looking like a girl in public
Also me: nah maybe I'm just a cis girl looking for attention...
That’s how I feel and it sucks
Same
Ha s a m e :,>
i only don't care about my voice because to me i sound like a male. heck, sometimes even on recordings i sound like a male.
Same
As a genderfluid person (born as a female) dysphoria is a daily thing I deal with.
Like if I'm feeling like a male one day, I hate how curved I am, my chest, my face, my voice, etc. Yet at the same time I look at my feminine body and feel the need to keep it that way or look even more like a woman.
It's hard. It gets really confusing and tiring at the end of the day, when all I want to do it just be ME.
Literally how i feel
I'm using google translator. Something similar has been happening to me lately (I'm going through a somewhat dysphoric stage but thanks to two trans friends I discovered that I may possibly be agender). I want to look good, cute and delicate (I am a boy from birth) but I don't like my manly body. I would recommend that you try, and if you can, talk to people who have already experienced this. In my personal case, I think I am a femboy (although I do not feel very comfortable with the word "boy" I DO NOT EVEN FEEL 100% COMFORTABLE BEING CALLED STRAIGHT XD), being a femboy allows me to be cute and delicate, having a feminine appearance , but without being a trans woman (although I'm going to have to exercise a lot to have a mega feminine appearance, my body is too manly xd). Maybe the same thing happens to you, as I said before, it's a matter of trying and having the right people to accompany you. I wish you all the luck in the world, I know that your comment is old but I still wish you all the luck so that at least you, unlike me, largely overcome your dysphoria and can be happy, anyway. I am possibly agender, as I said before, what applies to me does not necessarily have to apply to you, but I hope it has been useful to you or to anyone else who reads this in the future.
Same omg
I now know my gender dysphoria is stronger than I thought I thought there was only two types of gender dysphoria I didn't know the last one turns out I emotional dysphoria
The last one is the one that hits me the most. It's so HARD to deal with‼👊
@@Momo_888-c9c same
* Somehow manages to misread stronger as top surgery*
But yeah, me too
To everyone reading this: please just accept yourself, it's okay to be trans!
- A MtF transgender
You seem like a nice gal :))
@Cam Morrison lmao she is learning to accept herself as female, she's MtF (male to female). Imagine not even hating correctly.
@Cam Morrison no, i think shes a female :)
@Cam Morrison Awesome buddy, good for you. Want a golden star sticker?
@@theodorky8996 thank youuu 🥰🥰
Me, a heterosexual cis woman:
...Fuck man. My heart goes out to all of you and every single one of you is valid. I can't understand you as well as I want to, but I can still be an ally all the way!
Watching this to understand my trans friends better 🥺💖🏳️⚧️
Update: I think I actually might be Demigirl, although I'm not 100% sure.
I'm identifying with the label for now, and although I may or may not be cis I'm still trying my very hardest to understand my trans friends and myself better, as well as other genders :)
Thank you all for the support regardless 💕
Update 2: I now identify as a trans nonbinary demigirl 😎
@Charlee Helton 💞💞
This comment makes me undeniably happy, your friends are lucky and we appreciate you educating yourself
Yes!! This is so good. I'm very happy you're doing this for your trans friends. :)
Same!!
same, I just want to know what they're feeling and how I can help
Me being gender fluid and kind of having dysphoria but also not but having a lot of impostor syndrome:
*internalized screaming*
"It can lead to social isolation"
Me: well shit they called me out. I literally never leave my bed when I'm home and I am home almost all the time.
I am learning more about this and it seems to have a toll. I’m sorry that your going through this some people just immature. But stay strong 💪🏾 because your loved 💕💯
Bro fr I only left my house a few times for groceries in the past 8 months and I stay in bed all day, it sucks
Same, I'm just so uncomfortable with myself I'm literally too scared to leave my room sometimes
Hm, I do this too, but maybe I just have anxiety? I'm not diagnosed. I keep putting off therapy, because I don't trust any of the therapists in my area. Social isolation can be because of a few things. I just have little motivation to leave my bed/house.
How do I send this to my mom without my sending it?
As a person who date in this field. You don’t have to explain to anyone if your not ready. Your parents are just to keep you save and make sure your okay. Liking what u do is a personal thing. And a opinion to them. I say whatever you tell them they don’t have to like it but RESPECT IT. Just for most part but if they do YASSSS😍🥳 celebrations! But ur life is what u make it boo so live it up!💪🏾👑😌❤️
@@dopeviibezintuitivepodcast7093 this lowkey made me cry
get a friend to email it to her
Patrick Drake this
Sarah Kobi that fucking sucks, i hope youre ok
I get it!
I’m a 42 year old man that has always felt like a woman. In my early 20’s I constantly dreamt of being Marilyn Monroe: a blond headed with pink highlights MM. I’m a gay man, but in my sexual fantasies I’m a woman. I’ve always felt more of a woman on the inside my entire life. My own mother knew I was gay at an early age. It wasn’t my choice either.
At 5 years old, I dressed up like Cyndi Lauper. I mean come on! No, it definitely isn’t a choice! I totally get it!
Me, a genderfluid mess: "oh...waw... i--..."
fuck yeah fuck y e a h
i don't meet genderfluids often and because of this i think that feelings inside me is wrong :D
i'm so glad to see your commentary here. thank you
@@ehimjustchillin oh my God, I'm not the only one??? Come here!!! Let's hug!!!-hugs- it's all gonna be ok, we're gonna be ok with this someday!!!
@@stolitzslovechild5224 you can't make me cry by one comment
...
actually NO YOU CAN /HUGS/
yeah, everything will be fine. undeniable fact!
mood tbh alSO OMG ANOTHER GENDERFLUID HUMAN
Hello fellow non-fixated gender people.
Something I'd like to say to any enbies scrolling through the comments. I'm a nonbinary person that uses she her or they them, because I enjoy some aspects of being feminine, but feel very dysphoric in certain situations (dresses, being sorted in with other girls, and on occasion my chest makes me feel dysphoric to name a few) aligning partially with one binary or the other doesn't make you not nonbinary, feeling less dysphoric than others doesn't necessarily make you not nonbinary. Just do what feels good and use the labels that make you feel good!
That being said don't just use labels for attention or because you think it's cute or cool, do it because it's what you genuinely feel good about! Lots of love!
💛🤍💜🖤
Thank thank!! Currently questioning myself in terms of gender. Sometimes I wonder if I'm faking because I don't experience physical dysphoria as intensely as others unless I have long nails or something. This gender thing is a whole lot more confusing than sexuality tbh
@@ronnielinkinsyn5517 I absolutely getcha, happy to help!💖
I’m an enby and I recently discovered that I’m non-binary.
Thanks for this. I’m still questioning, but I think I’m nonbinary, but I wasn’t really sure because my dysphoria is very little compared to others. I hardly have any physical dysphoria, but it sometimes unpredictably attacks me, like when I’m on my period, or when wearing dresses or skirts. I think my social dysphoria is worse, but it’s also not too bad. I get triggered when someone calls me a lady or a young women, or any of that stuff. I live with my mom, sister and brother, and my brother keeps saying that he doesn’t want to do stuff with us because we’re all girls, which also triggers my dysphoria. I think the best way to describe my situation is that I don’t mind being called female, but I’m more comfortable not being tethered to any gender.
Anyway, sorry this was long, but your comment helped me figure things out a little bit more
Question: what does “enby” mean?
As a person that identifies as Agender, many people don't think we experience dysphoria, but we most certainly do. For me specifically I experience more Social and Mental dysphoria than Physical, although I still do experience Physical dysphoria.
There are no personality traits, likes/dislikes, that make you male or female. If you get surgery just make sure it's not to change how others perceive you. The people who are deserving of your time will treat you the way you want to be treated and see you for who you really are. You don't have to get surgery to be trans. You don't need to conform to a certain look to be that gender. You decide who you are.
Thank you, I needed this
"You decide who you are", huh? If only it was that easy. You say that none of these things define our gender, but then what does? Our wants?
If I decide to become a different species or a different race or a different nationality, I won't become one. There are things that can't be changed even if we wish they could.
Like it or not, I was born female. Yet I absolutely hate being female and wish I could be a guy. So what? People often make it sound so easy to simply bend the truth to the way we feel. Even if I took hormones, had surgeries and such, that would just be me fighting with nature, it wouldn't truly make me a man. Not after 25 years of naturally being a woman.
As for my role in the society, the expectations, the stereotypes - isn't that kinda what's at fault here? You say they don't matter that much, but how else do we tell genders apart? Besides physical traits, that is. Would people question their gender identity so often if those things weren't so narrow? What if we all had a freedom to dress, behave and be as we are?
Just my thoughts, I'm honestly very confused about the whole gender thing. Especially about my own identity. I feel like it's more complicated than it should be.
@@M_JackOfAllTrades your thinking of sex. Sex is what you are biologically. It cannot be changed, Though you can get surgery, and pretty much the only difference would be your chromosomes. Some people are born with male and female characteristics. Sex is not as black & white as most think it is. Putting this aside, gender is a form of self expression, so if you say you identify as something your not really lying unless you don't feel that way. Every word is made up, and can have multiple definitions. So arguing you can only be (this) if (this) is pointless. If you ever want to know something about someone you can ask, and if they lie, that's fine, you're not entitled to their personal info. I tried to answer all your questions. I hope you can live your life the way u want to & be happy.
@@rustykettle6889 Thank you!
This needs to be said more often, thank you :)
That was helpful, I have a ( daughter ) who feels that way/identifies So ........That's ok. However I Never had an issue with how it goes. Support shall be provided as an when required.
God! I wish my parents were like you. My mom won't even let me wear sport bras because she hates how they flatten my chest. Like...that's the point.
as a nonbinary person, thanks so much! parents who accept their trans and nonbinary children make me so happy and restore my faith in humanity! i hope you and your daughter have an amazing day and i hope she eventually has the body that matches her feelings! :)
Thank you for being supportive, it's kinda sad how a lot of parents don't accept their children for who they are. People like you restore my faith in humanity.
Never came out, my mum whacked me out for not wearing a dress. She also got mad because I'm too "fat" and that makes me "man-looking". I am 96 lbs.
god, adopt me, my parents are both homophobic and prolly transphobic too
About over a year ago my uncle sent this to me to help figure myself out and it really helped!!!I have now been identifying as a trans man for about 11 months now!!!
l'm so proud of you!
@@EnbyBee thank you!!!!
Me: literally feels dysphoric everyday, and feels really good and gets in a good mood when called a he even online and feel uncomfortable with my name and body.
Also me: *uh yeah I'd better watch this video to make sure I'm actually trans*
Me: *constantly feeling self-doubt*
Me at this video: haha relateable
I’m ashamed to say I’ve been struggling with my gender for around 2 months now. And counting. Mom is not calling me Kai, she/her pronouns even when I say “hey ask me my gender so you dont get confused” but she doesnt. Only my friends and bf do.
yeah I feel you. I got outed to my mom that I was ftm and she didn't want to hear it. my sister also deadnames me alot and excuses it by saying that I am to young to decide... Only my friends respect my name and pronouns sadly. Its taboo in my house until im 16 :,). I guess I'll wait lol
Me: *clearly knowing im a trans male*
Also me: IM TOO YOUNG TO DIE GHTHWRKUYHIOEYJHIORT JIOTYPJKUYKLY7K
Fing same
Literally same 😔
Me: trying to convince myself that I’m not Genderfluid and that I’m just confused
TH-cam recommends me this
Me:
Ah.
Same with me
genderfluid isn't feeling you aren't the gender you were assigned at birth, it's when you feel as if your masculinity/femininity changes or is not fixed
I was attacked on a personal level
Rim3tu that’s actually not what genderfluid is... it’s not just changing the way you dress/present, cis people do that all the time, the way you feel about your gender actually changes. Stop erasing non-binary identities from the trans community. 🙄
Imagine trying to explain a genderfluid person’s own experience to them. Unbelievable. You’re a real piece of work, you know that?
@@ezra55595 Lol no, someone who is genderfluid is not transgender, people who is transgender like myself is a different gender then they were assigned at birth however, people who are genderfluid feel as if their gender fluctuates and they feel like another gender, remember being another gender and feeling like another gender is different.
recently, the past few months have been the worst. I’ve completely isolated myself and cried almost every night. I felt uncomfortable and didn’t tell anyone about it, or even try to understand it myself. This week I officially came out as trans masc, and I’m still not mentally prepared for anything. I’m going to counseling for it rn, but it truly has helped my mental health a bit more
Questioning if I may be non binary, but I don't mind people using she/her, but I also hate people calling me a girl or woman.
@Spare Bun oh good to know!
@Penny Campbell same tho! It's so weird to me-- even before I knew about non binary and all this I always felt uncomfortable being called a woman, female etc, it felt like I was being called something I wasn't.
@@internetaltar awe, ty uwu
Hey same! I don't *hate* being called a girl or woman but I often don't like it. (Especially woman. It feels soo wrong) But yeah I don't mind she/her
I don't mind "She, Her, or Girl"
The term "Woman" just makes me very uncomfortable.
Lmao younger me would always go on the internet portraying myself as a guy and I loved it, hated when my mom made me dress up and do my hair, hated hitting puberty and developing into a woman it made me go into a depression. Even my first ever memory was when I was 4 and I woke up and went to the living room to ask my mom if I was a boy and was devastated when she said no. Transition has literally changed my mental health for the better. It's so mind blowing how people can't see how transitioning helps trans people.
Hi!! Guys remember that not all trans people have dysphoria, and some present differently/wish not to be cis passing!!
I am one of these personally, I'm a more feminine trans boy who also uses neopronouns on top of he/him, remember we're all valid!!
watch me not relate to 3 things, then call myself a fake trans
relatable
Idk if im trans but i never connected to being a female? Like i dont mind it much but i dont really connect with it? And like i would have liked it more if i was a male but i dont really have enough dysphoria to feel the need to change? Is there a definition for this?
doing what makes you the happiest is always the best option. i’d suggest seeing a qualified gender therapist that’s focused on actual therapy not only medicating it. one can feel dysphoria for other reasons than being transgender, therefor therapy is an important thing. i’m trans myself and gender therapy helped explore a lot of the how and why’s.
What does it mean to be connected to being female?
you can *not connect* with gender roles and that doesn't make you trans. you may even hate it but it doesn't mean you need to "become" something els.
trans man here, i never felt connected to being a girl. it never felt as me.
try out different names and pronouns in your free time, that helped me a lot.
good luck!
Mega Tron it means that you feel like a female and you don't feel like a different gender so you connect to the female gender while for other people who were born a female or male but felt like a different gender feel a disconnect from there biological gender or the gender they were born as (I hope it make sense)
So dispite my user name, like all of this has been going through me all my life. My dad raised me to be a manly man. To handle pain, to suffer in silence, to be strong, to be in charge, all of your standard manly man stuff. I did try, lord did I try to work out, lose weight, but even when I was in my best form I just HATED looking at myself in the mirror. I hate anything and everything that reminds me of me. One time I even punched the mirror after a bad day. I haven't truly looked at my reflection for over 7 years (besides a quick glance to shave). I have always wondered what I could do to make myself happy but every time I thought about being a 'big strong man' the idea was appealing but something felt so wrong about it. I am VERY new about all of this, and I still have my dad's old teachings and habits in me, but now I just can't stand it. This is the first time I am saying this in a public format but I don't want to be a man, but idk where to start 😢
my parents: oh its just puberty. my brain: make me a lesbian girl god. DO IT.
edit: it makes me feel better that i am not alone. we are in this together
Don’t fetishize lesbian existence.
@@AddBowIfGirl how is this feteshising lesbian experience?
@@AddBowIfGirl i feel they could have phrased it better but i think their a transbian
Aw yeah! We can always have more lesbians! :3 I’m trigender, but an afab gay. So I’m sorta a lesbian? Lol it depends on the day/week..
Ive slightly come to terms with the fact that I cant change my body till im 18+ but I still get depressed because of it and that dysphoria turns into bad mental dysphoria and I haven't left my house in a year.
Find as much help and support as you can. Don't lose hope, you will get through this :)
Why do you want to change your body?
That is such a crappy situation to be in. I know how much it hurts personally. Please remember, you will transition someday, and you deserve to live as you. You are very strong!
@@MustyUnderboob didn't you read their comment because of physical dysphoria it's not that hard to understand
Try to twist these things into a more positive thing. Once you're 18, you can finally get surgery! Only a few more years till then, I assume
I want to be male.
But my mom and dad do not support it.
My mother has literally said she would disown me if I ever said I was transgender.
I hate being called “girly” “female” “girl” “beautiful” “daughter” etc.
I want a binder but she will not allow me to get one.
I want to be male really bad but I cannot Because I will literally be disowned.
My family will hate me.
Who ever is reading this, how will I get them to support.?
Idk maybe people can be hard to change
For me, it's super hard to tell when I dislike how people are referring to me becaue I'm asexual and feel like they're being overly sexualizing of my body or when I dislike how people are referring to me because I'm (hesitantly?) non-binary and feeling some hard social dysphoria. I honestly have no problem with how my body looks and feels *until* someone is commenting on how I look feminine ("such a pretty young lady") or masculine ("your hair makes you look like a boy").
Oh I understand mate
Am the same way.
I really get very uncomfortable whenever someone calls me a woman some days I feel like a male while other days female.
I just don't like to be reminded that no matter what am always going to be just a plain woman to people.
Am also Asexual who hates anything to do with sex.
I'm usually in my head 24/7 to combat how unfair and disappointing reality really is.
I feel this. I'm both aro and ace and I'm not sure if I sometimes feel the way I feel toward my body and the way it can be seen by others because of some kind of gender dysphoria or because I don't want people to think of me in a certain (sexual and or romantic) way...
@@Anna-dd1tb I feel the exact same wayy
the dude: dysphoria, left untreated, can result in harmful things
me, constantly deadnamed, called incorrect pronouns, and eh about my body: ZOO WEE MAMA
i felt this comment HARD
*Mood*
Yeah like mutilating your body haha
henlo friend, we are the same 🙃
just a reminder: you don’t need to have dysphoria to be trans.
if you get _that_ happy feeling when someone refers to you as your pronouns, calls you by your name, if you finally feel seen when someone just calls you he/they/she, you’re trans.
Degeneracy runs wild here
if you are trans for that reason you are an attention seeker trying to be mainstream. Simple as that. You also make a serious situation for people who genuinely have gender dysphoria seem like a joke and a costume you can wear whenever for no real reason other than you are probably a very lonely person trying to fit in. Its either gender dysphoria or you are full of shit...
this means you are an attention seeker this mocks those who have gender dysphoria
and actually should stop it
As a trans person who has dysphoria you still can be trans if you don't have dysphoria and it's not mocking trans people
@@xbl00dyxw0rmx All bullshit
I feel so bad when people say that demigirls don't exist, or when they say that I'm just a woman looking for attention... I really wanna have a top surgery but I don't wanna be mistaken by a gender-neutral nonbinary, what can I do?
No ones going to know your gender/preferred pronouns by looking at you because people’s brains automatically portray others as male or female. My advice is to just express yourself in a way that makes you happy and not worry so much about how other people see you
If you have top surgery, but don't change your over-all appearance that much people might likely perceive you as a girl still. They could just think you're really flat-chested lol
@@abyss6484 this>
You can always try binding use a binder or trans tape/kt tape if you can and see how people perceive you on social situations and if it makes you feel more comfortable or more uncomfortable/dysphoric
This reminds me of how today, I was hanging out with a friend, and she was talking over the phone with a different friend saying "I'm on *their* balcony", and I felt a huge rush of gender euphoria. I still feel comfortable identifying as a girl, but I also feel really good about being non-binary. I might be bigender???? Idek, life is weird.
Pronouns don't have to relate to gender, but you're totally valid! If you want to try out some pronouns (or get that sweet, sweet, gender euphoria) you can try the Pronoun Dressing Room www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/
So basically, it's like having an anxiety attack. Actually it might be exactly that, but constant (at least for me). Especially with the thousands of self-hating thoughts running through your mind. That suffocating feeling in your chest that makes it almost impossible to breathe. But I think the worst might be when it feels like someone's squeezing your heart and won't let go until it pops.
Imagine looking in the mirror and feeling like you don't know the person looking back. Like your entire personality is fake and everything you do is just to make someone else happy, or to keep them from getting mad or disgusted with you. Making your voice sound higher in public, sweeter. Just to appease. Wearing clothes you hate so your parents don't get mad. Locking yourself in your bedroom because you just can't pretend that day. Go to the bathroom as less as possible so you don't catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror. Not doing your favorite things because they're meant for the opposite gender. Befriending your English teacher because they can tell you're going through a rough time. Wearing hoodies in the middle of summer because you hate what you look like without them. Hate shopping because your mother is there and she'll judge you for buying clothes that might make you feel comfortable. Googling how much an average funeral costs and starting a savings account so your death won't be as inconvenient. Contemplate shaving your head. Going to bed early just to stare at the ceiling until dawn because your mind is racing and you can't sleep. Wondering why you weren't offended when someone accidentally called you a boy. Gradually becoming more and more distant because just the thought of socializing is exhausting. Your dog is your only true friend.
Me: am I trans?
Me: *watches this video*
Me: *relates to all of this*
Me: no. I’m just fake. Everyone else would say I am not trans therefore I am not trans.
Seriously though if you relate to these, you’re trans. Even if you don’t relate to all of them but you relate to some/most you’re still valid. You don’t need to transition to be trans. I know I have a hard time accepting my dysphoria because my father has said transphobic stuff and my mom has my deadname tattooed onto her body, but that doesn’t make me any less valid. (Even tho I still have a hard time accepting it. For some reason I’m completely okay with being open about my sexuality around my friends, for some reason gender is really tough for me. Usually I trust my friends with everything.)
so- i enjoy binding since having smaller ~those~ makes me happy. however, i am not trans and i wanna know if i am somehow invalidating trans people and if i’m allowed (i guess) to bind without being trans? just wanted an opinion- thanks
@@notthatstonesav You can do anything you want its your body. I'm sure no trans person would mind something like that. Just be careful with binding so you dont hurt yourself.
savvy stonehouse it’s rare, but I have heard of cis women getting top surgery because of dysphoria even though they identify as women. You can be dysphoric about parts of your body without being trans.
It’s also possible you’re non-binary? But that’s something I can’t tell you; you’ll have to explore your identity and figure out the answer to that on your own.
@@MidnightEkaki ty for letting me know- i tried using a bunch of tight bras and i realized it's kinda hard to breathe sometimes so hopefully i'll get better at making fake binders.
I want to transition but I’m also scared to
Why do you want to transition?
@methjuice I'm watching children being advertised to and a lot of people in the comments expressing confusion.
RoboPowGaming parents are useless, they don’t even accept da gays
Gerardo same my brain is acting out😭
@methjuice It is absolutely an advertisement. It's an ad for kids.
Im so glad i didn't transition. Spent years putting on womens clothing in private, and wished i was one. Now that I've mentally developed, i realize it would have been terrible for me to transition. Thank god for old school parents.
I’m glad you were able to figure yourself out.
Amen
Whats it like to have gender dysphoria
Me:HELL
According to prospective studies, the majority of children diagnosed with gender dysphoria cease to desire to be the other sex by puberty, with most growing up to identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual, with or without therapeutic intervention
me bigender watching this: “hmmm yes”
also me: “i actually don’t have a problem with any of these since i’m basically male and female 😺”
Hey cool, I’m bigender (girl and boy) too! Though I do have problems with all three types of dysphoria lol 😸
me being gender fluid same but like only sometimes hahaha
Being a non-binary, diagnosed autistic and ADHD kid, my heightened emotional sensitivity causes me to constantly feel dysphoria in the form of intense self doubt about myself. Because being in a group of mostly lgbt+ people helped me discover myself, my brain sometimes decides to think, "what if your just doing it to fit in", and it is honestly one of the most depressing experiences i go trough daily, and is only weakened by my incredibly accepting friends and family.
Same for me except I am not autistic.
For me my autism has caused me to have a hard time expressing how I feel and I don't know how to say how I feel.
@@antisocialmanic yeah I get that, like I understand what I’m feeling but I have no clue how to describe it in a way that makes sense.
Not being able to express how you feel about something is awful. Sometimes I might even describe it wrong and people get the wrong idea. Shit sucks man, but keep going on and hopefully you’ll figure stuff out!
Questioning AMAB here: diagnosed ADHD, in the process of getting an autism diagnosis, and now on top of that, I'm questioning my gender.
Having a queer friend group isn't making it the easiest to reconsile because what if my adhd/autism is hyperfixating (after 4 years of my best friend coming out as trans and then the rest of the friend group following suit). To be fair, that concern didn't even occur to me until my parents began using my "tendency to be influenced" as a reason to avoid initial affirmations. They want me to go through therapy and make sure I'm trans before they'll look at affirmation and allowing me to socially transition around the house.
On top of that, I take Sertraline along with my ADHD medication, for emotional regulation. SSRIs can reduce the impact of dysphoria, so maybe I've been dysphoric this entire time but my ADHD medication masked the dysphoria. Who knows. All I know for certain is I've experienced gender euphoria with she/her pronouns, nail polish, and arm sleeves (I have a picture of nail polish + arm sleeves + legend of zelda ring all coming together to make my hand look feminine and it brings me so much euphoria oh my god).
So for now, I'm staying in the questioning phase (makes the mental spiral easier if I tell myself I'm merely questioning, even if on some level, I already know the answer...). After some therapy sessions, I can start to explore with the support of my parents. Being nearly 25 with poor self-sufficiency around the house makes me not want to move out just yet. And I love my parents, and would love to be supported by them
I'm trying to watch more things about trans people, so I can support anyone I meet. I want to get as close as I can to understanding all of the members of our community that fall under the T in LGBTQ+
Edit: Ahahaha.... turns out I was DEEEP in denial..... uhh I'm a trans guy *airhorn noises*
Aw, that’s one of the sweetest things I’ve heard/read today! Whoever you meet will be lucky and grateful to have you there supporting and being a knowledgeable pal, believe me 😋
*validating airhorn noises*
I relate to ya
My mind: YOU'RE A GIRLLLL
This video: *describes what I'm feeling perfectly*
My mind: *doesn't stfu but I'm a bit happier now*
I think i am a trans male
Ever since I was a kid I always thought I was a boy
I dressed like boys
Behaved like boys
Always hung around boys
Liked short hair
And i am attracted to girls
So i was very confused. My mom told.me I am just going through a tomboy phase . I am not going through a phase. I like to be called he / him . I don't feel like I am a girl. I feel like i am trapped in a body which doesn't belong to me . I am not able to accept that I am a girl . I seriously Don't know what to do .
@@avastars3393 yo did I just find my long lost identical twin?
@@avastars3393 hey it's been three years, hope ur doing ok :) both of you. I am a trans teen and my mind always tries to convince me that it's puberty or something. Hope ur not mega trans phobes now tho lmao
At Where I live it's very transphobic so I couldn't get diagnosed, I had to figure out things on my own, here is a reminder for people who are still figuring it out:
- being gender-nonconforming doesn't automatically mean that you're trans. being uncomfortable with gender roles or not fitting in them, doesn't automatically mean that you're trans.
It took me so much time to realize this, but once I did I finally felt better and less confused.
Also realizing this is so important because a lot of transphobes excuse their transphobia by saying that in their teenage years they felt uncomfortable with gender roles and certain clothes but now they are fine and back to "normal".
But again how they felt before doesn't mean that they were/felt " trans"
The fact that TH-cam knew I needed to watch this.
People are asking for advice here, sharing their thoughts, so I might as well.
Sometimes I'm fine with being female. yes. girl. absolutely.
Other times I'm just like no. no gender. throw it away. what are these things on my chest. they're not _me_.
Most of the time I'm somewhere in between. female? i guess. maybe, more-or-less.
I'm never male though.
So I'm not really trans, because I sometimes identify with my assigned gender, and I definitely don't want to transition to the opposite gender, but I'm not cis either. I'm trying out the label demigirl, and they/them pronouns. I'm fine with she/her most of the time, but I really like they/them. I also really like the name River, which I've used as a screen name for a long time, and I feel more comfortable with it than my birth name.
trans is actually an umbrella term, it doesnt just mean ftm and mtf :) nonbinary people, genderfluid people, and all other people who dont identify as the gender they were assigned at birth all come under the trans umbrella. so just because you sometimes identify with your assigned gender, that doesnt necessarily mean you arent trans (though if you dont want to label yourself as trans thats fine too!!)
Hey! I relate a lot to what you said you're experiencing! (Except I never really feel fully female, more like *sometimes* I kinda vibe with being called a girl) Relatable with the chest thing though lol. Also same thing with the pronouns.
I'm glad you're starting to figure yourself out!
Sounds like you're genderfluid. Some genderfluid people may never feel a certain gender, but can feel like multiple others at other times. Actually, one of my favorite youtubers is just like that - genderfluid, but never male! (I had no reason to mention them but shh wtvr)
I remember when someone called me a he for the first time it was like "ahh ya that the good stuff"
Same
*slowly saves for later because I'm compiling resources so that my mom will get me a binder*
I- that’s a good idea
HEY!! btw for a lot of the people in the comments, you don't need to have dysphoria to be trans!! you are valid just the way you are.
Does anyone else in here not see yourself when looking in the mirror and feel little to no connection to your reflection? Like you know this is what you look like to other people but you feel like the person looking back at you is a stranger
i just really hate stereotypes
This made me feel more confident that I am indeed not cis. I am a trans teenager who has not transitioned yet and I've been so scared for a few weeks because suddenly the six hears I've done of questioning has come back to tell me that I'm "just faking it." Because I don't feel what others feel. It's weird. But I know I'm transgender, I'm just a bit more girly then some trans men and cis men. I might even be something else; but I know for a fact that I am more male then I will ever be female, even in my clothing choice and interests.
By tomorrow I'll be questioning again, haha. Self doubt is hard.
You're completely valid! I feel the same way about being nonbinary
@@abyss6484 oh my gosh. You could not have replied to that at a better time. I was just about to start bawling at the fact that I'm struggling to decide if I should tell my parents or not. Re-reading this comment made me happy. Thank you
Me: maybe I’m not trans
Also me: feels 2 of these
I'm a Gender-Fluid person, I tried to represent myself as a male today, but I'm still closeted so I didn't have a binder, but I tried my best to present myself as male, using my brother's clothes and tying my hair back as well as pushing my chest back.
I have my own names for each pronouns I use, when I'm feeling masculine I like to call myself "Avery." Which is masculine by the way, it may sound feminine but it's not.
I asked my friends to call me Avery and refer to me as he/him.
It wasn't their fault I know it wasn't, but it still hurt me that they referred to me as the person I did not define as, especially after they had known and acknowledged me as Gender-Fluid person for years. I mean yeah, I am in the closet and I'm a girl practically all the time because of it, but ya'll know me, so please address me correctly..
I ended up being put off too by one of my old friends, who's not REALLY my friend but I still hang with her- Anyways I was put off by her because she said she couldn't see me as male and I was always gonna be a girl to her..
So yeah, that sucked, but then my best friend who's a Trans Girl made me feel better, like seriously my best friend is absolutely awesome, she's amazing!
But yeah, my best friend is also in the closet and she and I are definitely going through Gender-Dysphoria as I do not feel comfortable in my body a lot and she's a girl stuck in her birth body.
Everyone keeps messing up her pronouns and saying her dead name too.
It sucks, but it makes me happy seeing these LGBTQ+ videos, I'm glad I can have more things to refer on for my dysphoria and also know that I'm not the only one who relates.
Sucks that your friends did that! I'm glad your trans friend was nice and that you two have each other
Satara Bradford
Aw, thanks, that means a lot to me.
@@ZekeAndSiblings 🌈👍🏼😄
I personally it seems I have social and physical dysphoria I absolutely HATE my chest I've tried flattening my chest in secret because I know my mum would dissaprove because she thinks that when I'm older I'll like them again, no she isn't trans phobic she's just worried about my safety, I can't exactly figure out if I'm trans or maybe nonbinary I've always liked the unisex names a lot I imagine myself as a masculine person but not exactly a boy, I started to feel a disconnect at the start of 2020 before I never worried about anything but once I started thinking more into it i realized I don't see myself as a girl I knew I was different from everyone else but I just never thought of it much but I wouldn't say I fully connect with a female or a male I possibly thing I might be a masculine nonbinary I'm not sure but I'll figure it out someday :)
yeah stay positive, you will figure it out one day! i've tried some stuff and i found that wearing a bra then putting a tank top on flattens a little, but you can also fold the tank top up to your chest until it looks like a really tiny crop top just covering that area. it works, maybe not as much as a binder, because it's..not a binder. :-/ (wear a shirt over it obviously o.o)
I hope if one day I have a kid and if they show signs of gender dysphoria I could learn from this so I could make my child's life happy for them
You are such a good parent
thank you for caring about this :)
you would be an amazing parent ❤
Im not trans, but I found this really informative a few months ago when a friend came out to me and I didn’t want to make him uncomfortable by asking questions before he was ready. Thank you so much for this!!
Just because you weren't aware of something, doesn't make it fake or a phase.
If you are respectful towards people that believe in gods, you should definitely be cool about trans and NB people.
I think this is also an important thing to add, people who do not experience gender dysphoria are *NOT* trans. It doesn't mean you're not valid but the entire thing about being trans is about being disconnected and unhappy with your assigned gender.
No, being trans is about feeling like a gender different to the one assigned at birth. If a cis dude can feel completely comfortable in a dress or being adressed by she/her but is still male cause he feels a strong connection to that gender then it only makes sense that the same thing could happen with a trans dude.
I'm totally not trans haha
Unless...
I'm literally scared to tell my dad that I want to transition from female to male because i don't feel comfortable with the gender i was assigned at birth and 1. hes the only parent I have, 2. hes homophobic and might kicks me out of the house 3. If he actually kicks me out I have no where to go
Do you have any friends that are accepting or know you can come out to? If you’re scared of being kicked out sometimes you can stay at a friends place.
I would try to find a a backup plan before coming out.
@@becausewhy238 i only have 1 friend she's really supporting but here parents are homophobic to so I can't go to here
me: finally realizing i’m trans
my mind: you’re probably just faking it for attention
me: but i haven’t even told anyone
my mind: you’re FAKING IT
me: HeLp Me PLeAsE
my mind: no one can help you now
😭✌️😓
Do you know what you're eventually??
Plss can you answer me because you may can help me😔😔
I truly am lucky. I’m genderfluid/non-binary and dysphoria doesn’t really hit me that hard because I’m very accepting of myself/I just vibe in whatever I’m wearing. I know some people struggle a lot with dysphoria and all I want to say is I love you ALL and hugs for everyone🖤💜 you’re very attractive and you are lovely and valued
this is so cute omg
Keep vibing :)
Thank you ✨
giovana314 dude big mood- nonbinary/genderfluid dysphoria is so confusing skdjffhffjgh
I’m non-binary and I have fluctuating levels of dysphoria. Most of the time it’s relatively mild for me but I’ll also have times with no dysphoria or moderate or intense dysphoria.
My main issue is that even though I have dysphoria I have only had it recently (like past five months). I've always hated my body but I thought that was just insecurities so I don't know anymore. I think I'm nonbinary or a demiboy but I'm doubting it because I haven't had dysphoria for my whole life.
It's so weird, I almost never feel physical dysphoria, only sometimes, sometimes I even like being called pretty and wearing dresses, but other times I just can't stand just imagining myself in skirt. I think I'm faking it, I just think I can't be a boy, it's uncomfortable imagining myself as a boy, but it's weird thinking about myself as a girl, at some points I love my female body, at other I hate it. I always wanted myself short hair, but when I asked my mom to cut my hair really short she said "but you're a girl!" It made me feel terrible... Writing this feels like I'm doing something illegal... (Sorry if I said something wrong, my English is pretty bad)
Me: knows that I am trans
Also me: feels more valid after this video
I'm transgender ftm and I'm extremely feminine. I go by she/her and my name is Odessa Wales.
But I feel dysphoric about my chest.
I identify as male too.
Im glad I found this comment, im not trans but I'm a cis gal who only uses he/him pronouns, glad to find people who use different pronouns than expected lol
keep in mind you don't need gender dysphoria to be transgender, non-binary, etc., gender is a social construct
it's so comforting knowing that there are videos out there like this one explaining the misconceptions of Gender-Dysphia, especially since a lot of people don't really understand it.
And as a Non-Binary person, this video is very comforting and helpful
Me trying to learn to know more about my crush:
Aww that's so sweet! To make a trans people feel comofrtable around you. You should give them masculine compliments if they're transman. If they're transwoman then more feminine ones :)
It usually helps trans people to feel better in your presence.
@@kisu_1919 thank you for the advice and the compliment :)
It is also okay to be a feminine man or a masculine woman. Not being an ideal representation of the stereotypes belonging to your sex doesn't mean that you are less of a man/woman. It only means that stereotypes are silly and made up.
This is the most true thing ever. I was a feminime man and became trans but realized it was wrong because feminime does not equal female!!!
It's also okay to be a machine trans woman or a feminine trans man.
My mom said i need to be diagnosed with gender dysphoria to have top and bottom surgery, im terrified to tell my mom im trans and Im not sure I have gender dysphoria because my mom and sisters are saying that I dont have it, I need to be diagnosed by an actual doctor person thing and im extremely uncomfortable with my chest, my vagina, and my name, my mom has let me cut my hair. I got mad when people misgendered me by saying I was a boy because I wanted to be one so it felt like I was being teased, now I know who I am inside but im scared.. my mom is bi so I have nothing to be scared of... right? Im 11 and I desperately need help.. what age do I come out? How do I bind my chest without mom or dad knowing? They refuse to buy my sister a binder for cosplay so will she buy on for me since I want one because I hate myself?!?!?!?!? PLEASE IM STUMPED
Don't be afraid, you can do it. If your parents are ok with trans people it's safe for you. And so what if you need to be diagnosed? To me you clearly have gender dysphoria so the doctors will see that as long as you tell them how you're feeling.
Just wanna say, you ARE a boy cause you want to be one and there’s nothing wrong with that. That’s literally how being transgender works 😂
How can ur mom or sister know whether or not you have dysphoria?
I really wish they'd update this in very concrete terms and in more detail; "feelings" doesn't cut it for people who have very real mental experiences of being the opposite sex. This is way too vague to address the very complex experience that is neurologic dysphoria. Videos like this are why I'm always left confused about what's wrong with me even though I've been diagnosed with dysphoria.
me: very openly non-binary
also me: 👁👄👁 _hah i do that-_
Non-binary is meaningless
@iknazombie uh- do you know anything about science because👀
my identity do be valid tho
I dentify as a tesla
@@kirbysthiccthighs can you give me proof to back up your claims your either a female or male thats just how it is
@iknazombie
transequality.org/issues/resources/understanding-non-binary-people-how-to-be-respectful-and-supportive
www.healthline.com/health/transgender/nonbinary
www.hrc.org/news/new-cdc-report-highlights-need-to-support-trans-and-gender-non-conforming-y
www.cdc.gov/lgbthealth/transgender.htm
www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/terminology/sexual-and-gender-identity-terms.htm
i used to say transphobic shit and i’m here to understand trans people ig
Redemption
Good for you :) as a Trans guy, you've definitely redeemed yourself
We love character development!!! I'm proud of you!!
So tip for anyone who is dead named. Just screech at the top of your lungs. Or just ignore the person who dead names you.
Or slap them-
That is also effective
@@dilee3467 or say "shut the fuck up david" even if their name isnt david so they know how it feels
i call a lot of people they/them because i either forget their pronouns or just dont wanna misgender the person. does anyone else do this? 😅
I respect people's pronouns because nobody respects mine. I also use they/them pronouns for online people who haven't confirmed their gender to me (yet). I used to use male pronouns for everyone on default but then I realized that's rude
Me:feels uncomfortable with my body, hates my voice,feels uncomfortable with facial hair and body hair in genera.
Also me:”no I definitely don’t have gender dysphoria”
Im pretty sure i came here a few years ago as a cisgender girl! Im happy to say that i am proudly a trans nonbinary genderfluid boy! 💜💛🤍🖤