One thing I did to help myself in bottom lining other people's actions was to stop internalizing. For example, instead of "Why would she do this to ME?" I started reframing it as "Why would she do this to ANYONE?" I found that this sort of reframing helped to cut out the personal, emotional static and see a situation for exactly what it is.
The way I deal with woman like this is real simple , Ask her on a date and if she says ANYTHING but “Yes” then politely say , “okay have a good day”. If she tries contacting you again just simply keep the conversation short and don’t engage in keeping the Congo going, just say “Hi and bye” she will get the hint. She would either stop contacting you or she might actually ask you out. Either way is a Win Win.
No bro. The next level up is to not text them back. It's a powerful position. But do this genuinely. It's hard to force yourself not to text back when you really want to. You have to come from a place where you literally don't care.
@@starttakinnotez It's not the silent treatment or passive aggressiveness. Yes communicate interest. If she denies you then move on. Like Corey says, go after the girls who are into you. Stop going after girls who don't care to go out with you.
Well to be specific, I miraculously reconnected with an ex girlfriend from 5 years ago and her and I both became single at pretty much the same time. Well long story short she started asking me to help her with stuff and want to hang out with me like I'm her girlfriend or some shit so I just had to be direct and clear about which direction I was interested in going.
In my experience they all do it. Show definite signs of interest but then if you do the same, they back off. I really haven't got time for silly games these days. The minute they start any games I'm off. Especially if we've already slept with each other - any mind games and they can jog off.
"they all do it. Show definite signs of interest but then if you do the same, they back off" AMEN to that! So frustrating! ESPECIALLY the really attractive ones!
Men often become confused in situations like this because their logical brains can't understand why a woman would waste time on them if they're not interested. This can result in a prolonged "oneitis" situation, where the guy keeps thinking he has a shot, and the woman is playing catch and release to stroke her own ego.
5:10 The #1 most important thing in men that women find attractive is confidence. You always want to have the attitude that all women want you, until proven otherwise.
Exactly this!! Doesn't matter how old you are as man. 40 years old and after listening to 3% man the knowledge gave me abundance of confidence. Females be bouncing all around regardless of their age!!
@@bigneiltoo Do the best you can. In your job interview analogy, point out another similar experience or transferrable skills that you have for the job at hand. For instance, many employers always "require" a 4 year bachelor's degree on a resume, for instance, before they'll even give you a call. I'm a college dropout and have always found ways to skirt around this. I was able to get real world experience and on the job training through super hard F'ing work down in the trenches, and through pain, suffering and sacrifice of my time and time with family. So, since the degree is just the means to the end, and since I attended college but never graduated, I will tell them that "I finished in 2011," which is the date I dropped out. So, the key word being _finished_ , not graduated. It's not lying, it's just stating the reality in a confident way. Get it? I dated an HR chick recently that was a real ball-buster by design (she also had daddy issues since her father passed away when she was just a toddler). At the end of the day, confidence is a belief in yourself - if not competence/ability that you have now - that you WILL have or be able to accomplish or deliver on your promise in the future. Make baby steps towards incremental progress and repeat experimentation/failure and your confidence will start to build and aggregate, just as your competence builds. Let that be your guide. Good luck.
@@bigneiltoo Well, I ended up kicking her to the curb, LOL. Wasn't going to deal with a bad attitude. I even gave her the benefit of the doubt, having many terrible experiences with HR myself (usually in the interview stage, where they act as gatekeepers). But at the end of the day, I want women who are pleasant and easy to get along with rather than combative.
Some women play this yoyo game. They want to know if you still fall for them. They play to make themselves feel good and to mock you at the same time. They know they can push the buttons to make you come to them. Don’t fall in that trap
I have an almost identical story to this. Walked away and told her let me know if you change your mind. She keeps coming back to me though but won’t agree on a date, but still wants my attention. I keep telling her unless you wanna date then I’m not interested. She’s wants me to be her boyfriend without her being my girlfriend essentially
I have someone like that in my life.Full 10/10. She keeps drifting in and out of my life for about the 4th or 5th time now, she has other guys going and coming in the background. I think CW’s teaching is the only reason she never completely leaves, I always make it clear I’m escalating when I’m with her or else no bueno. It’s fucking frustrating how many times I have had to walk away and how difficult she is. She is only interested in me when I’m not there. Following the book I’ve gotten things like you’re the only person who understands me etc bla bla. But some women are broken, either play them back or outright ignore. But you will never ever get anywhere with them
Confident attitude, the way I've internalized it, is not caring whether an attractive woman likes you or not. Just go about your purpose and let them worry about you. They'll put themselves in your orbit if you give them a reason to.
I had a similar experience with a girl I work with in sales. She's super flirty, but I eventually realized that she's flirty like that with everyone. After a canoeing trip with our sales team, we went and got drinks and she was being super flirty with multiple guys on the team, sitting on a couple dude's laps, resting her legs up on another dude, resting her head on my shoulder... I used to have feelings for her. But after seeing how needy she is for male attention, it made it really easy to write her off as another young thottie
So, there is a shy girl at work that I’ve been interested in for the longest time. We used to flirt. Found out she is in a long term relationship. I stopped talking to her except hello and good morning. Began talking to other women and making them laugh in front of her. The next day she comes over to my area in the room and sits down closest to where I work when there were plenty of other places to sit. Putting herself in my orbit when she usually works at another place far across the room. Funny thing, she doesn’t say hi or try to talk to me. Just plants herself near me. Well, I knew she was just looking for attention from me like I was giving to those other girls so I just ignored her all day. By the end of the day she looked sad like her ego had been bruised.
This video came at the perfect time. Thank you coach, I had a woman giving me all the signs then when I went in for the close she acted like she was surprised and flattered and just said she’ll think about it. I get choosing signals from other women that I kinda ignore but now I should start paying a bit of mind and just enjoy the validation I’m getting from everyone. Thanks 🙏🏼
Had exactly the same thing with my former coworker, she uses to text me, just to see if I will finally enter her orbit, but when I then ask her about her husband and how he's doing, she shuts up for the next few weeks 🤣 simply a disgusting behaviour
I am going exactly through this exact situation now with a coworker. Thanks for the advice Coach! I had already decided to not send her more invitations, as the book says, so this just confirms it.
That's good. There's nothing wrong with paying attention to women, but it shouldn't be endless if there's no reciprocation. but sometimes it's good to try anyway, just to see what happens and learn. Live and learn.
@@jamesrussell2936 it is really hard to back away from a girl you like when she is always trying to get your attention, respond with hearty eyes to your selfies, suggests she is interested in you, but in the end, none of that matters if she never agrees to make a definite date alone with you (I tried at least 5 times to set a date). That is my case now, so I'm walking away until she suggests we hang out. Just gotta have an abundance mindset, even if you don't have that abundance. I am glad and thankful to Corey I know this now, because a couple of years ago I would have become this girl's doormat or male girlfriend...
@@irving2006drummer You’re right my dude. It is hard to back away from a girl you like, especially when you work with her and she’s all over your selfies. You have to start looking at yourself as the prize, not these broads. They have abundance mentality which is why they play games and shit test dudes. Coach Corey is right when he said to start being friendly to other women at work and treating them all the same. Don’t put yourself out there with the invitations so she can shoot them down every time. You’re too busy being on your purpose.
Hi Irving, also watch his recent video "I think my coworker is interested in me". Read some of the top comments too, most speak from experience. I know it’s hard to see reality but you have to try. It’ll be harder if things go south later on. Trust in yourself!
As a man for the record this has happened to me the woman in question was exactly the same and came from a divorced broken home background. Fortunately I've got away and moved on from her and off the back of it got into Coach Corey's stuff. The quality of people I date are better because it really, really does bring out the best and worst of them quicker to make a better judgement call on who to date.
The type of woman Corey is describing in the quote is basically a narcissist. Women who grow up this way tend to turn into narcissists, and they tend to be awful partners. I've dated women exactly like he describes, and they ALWAYS have the same type of broken home story full of trauma. As tempting as it is to rescue them, you can't. Just let them go. They will never find happiness with anyone, not just you.
One might be tempted to think, what if she finds another and turns out to be happy with them. But the real question is, are you sure she is ever going to be happy with anyone? Well said, J.
And your absolutely right J , these women are NARCISSISTS what people dont understand is that these kind of individuals Lack Empathy , they only see people as mere Objects i.e. Objectification and use and discard there lovers as use for there Narcissistic Fuel and gather whats called " Narcissistic Supply " via Attention and Validation
ive learned to only pay attention to the girls with high interest and leave the others in the background. it makes life so much easier but dont get too complacent because even the interested ones can dissapier very quickly and you will be left wondering wtf happened.
I wish that I had discovered Corey's work when I was a young man, and not when I was in my 50s. When I was in my 20s and early 30s I had lots of female friends who I wanted to sleep with, but only wanted me as a friend. Today, I would never put up with that crap now. I had a very pretty coworker who I tried to date, but she put me into the friend zone. She dated lots of different guys. I met different women through her and ended up dating 2 of them. Each time this happened she would get furious and act as if I had cheated on her. I never hid the fact from her that I was dating these women, because she didn't want me that way. She didn't even want me to kiss her, let alone sleep with her. She even called me a few times and left messages on my answering machine crying, saying stuff like, "I know that I haven't been very nice to you but I really need a friend right now." I didn't return her calls and eventually I had decided that she was nuts.
Hard truth. *SHE IS NOT THAT INTO YOU.* I know what you are thinking "But she does this, she text me, she's doing this and that". Wake up. Confess you like her more than a friend "Call me if you change your mind". Then walk away. And read the book.
Coach Corey, you are the man! Discovered your teachings a few years ago but fell off the wagon. Came back to TH-cam and my boy is still at it. Love it Thanks for all you do! -Larry
This hits home for me. Ive been trying to get advice on this forever. I work at my local college bar and i get so many cases where a girl will be all over me one night and then the next day she shows no signs of liking me. Then a week later she will be all over me again. Its like 50 first dates.
The way I see it is if a woman doesn't kiss me on the first date she's not getting a second. I shouldn't have to work that hard for a simple kiss. I've had plenty of first dates that ended up with either kissing or sex. My last LTR and I had sex on the first date. Why should I have to wait for someone who's not ready?
@@CeeDoubleU Would you rather find out early on if you're not compatible in one of the most important parts of a relationship? Or would you rather waste your time and money? Personally I think you're a weak man if you wait for someone that has already given it away for free.
@@ThomasP525 not true. lately, hoes have adapted a new strategy of making men wait if they get potential boyfriend/husband vibes in an attempt to sell you chastity. Meanwhile, they'll fuck other dudes for fun on the same day.
I had this situation with a girl. This chick would hold my hand and make me feel special all the time.. Yet she wouldn’t want to be my girlfriend in a weird way
Exactly. If you put yourself in their shoes, you'd say yeah , if I was genuinely uninterested, there wouldn't be a whole lot that she could do to make me genuinely interested in her anyway. Why would I expect anymore from a woman who just isn't interested in Me?
Was in a similar situation to this. The coworker was very flirty from the get go. We got along well, she shamelessly talked a lot about sex, showed her cleavage’s a lot and we had somewhat of a connection. Thing is she has a boyfriend and I didn’t move it further because of it. used that fact to observe her actions over the 3 weeks we have been coworkers. I decided to not ask her out or anything because of that too and because I think dating a coworker who also has a boyfriend is doomed to end up in drama. Got her number but we never texted either. She seems to have blockef and deleted me after I stopped giving her so much attention yesterday and I get the strong feeling she just wants to play every guy at work because she enjoys the free attention her boyfriend doesn’t seem to give her. Dont allow yourself to be the guy she goes to for free attention folks. Always be willing to walk away and don’t chase after girls like that.
@@blair5475 Im not the type of guy to ask out women who are engaged that’s why I didn’t move it further. Aside from that she was inconsistent and went hot and cold for too long.
Dejavu... I am this guy right now. And the is that type of co-worker. The only difference is I was cool with her having a bf, because I thought I could win her over. We had multiple dates and hugs, kissing and petting started very quickly. But when I've been trying to move with her further, she was always refusing, finding excuses. Little did I know that all what she was doing was just an act to get attention from me. Finally my patience got the better of me and I said that we should either have sex or stop playing these childish games. Guess what? She left me alone. Guys, if attention that you provide women with is of good quality, women will even kiss you or go oral with you just to string you along, but if you're direct, they can only pretend for so long.
U have no idea how much I have struggled with this. It has made me super depressed and lonely. I get so excited thinking this coworker liked me and just to end up saying that she had a bf
Next time, let her know upfront what your intentions are within the first 5 minutes of speaking...it'll save you a ton of time and you'll get results from being confident and bold.. Cheers my friend!
This is a real thing believe me. I met a woman from Church and we're both old enough that we should be mature about relationships. She would check me out and say hello if I went up to her and said hello. I realized she was using me when I asked her out and she said she's usually pretty busy. I didn't know a woman could look at a guy like she's interested and not be interested. Well I'm done with her and am talking to a girl from work. She's younger and prettier so it would be great if she came to Church with me and the other woman saw us together.
Anytime i ever came across these types of women in the past I straight up asked them to hangout and that they should give me their number. They always stopped attention seeking after that.
Looked at this vedio several times and yes, Mr. Wane is right. It dose work even after a five years ago relationship. She still try to push my buttons, but I listen to Corey Wane and I"am still on top. Thank You Sir.
Corey is my man! This scenario is happening in my life. Had I not read Corey's book (3 out of 15 reads now) I would be just as confused as this gentleman. Asked her out twice and started acting indifferent. As he teaches, she started to wonder about me and began popping up on my radar.
1:50 Women who grow up without fathers, a strong masculine presence in the home, or who have a bad relationship with their fathers tend to create male attention and validation in unhealthy ways.They often seek and invite romantic attention from many men, as they never learned the kind of men they should trust, respect, and look up to. *Smart men always look at a woman’s actions to determine if she is capable of being loyal, faithful, and untrustworthy. 2:55 Usually when somebody gets triggered, that means that they got an emotional charge on something. 3:04 If you’re going to date, you have to understand what you’re going to encounter in the dating pool. Because we make our decisions based upon emotions and then we use logic and reason to justify our decisions. People get caught up with their attraction and feelings for one another, and then they just completely ignore all the red flags, the signs of disrespect, the little white lies here and there, the deviousness and make excuses - and then 6 months down the road, a year down the road, or even worse they knock the girl up or marry her, and then they find out that they did a really crummy job in the vetting process.(then then end up in the toxic RP community complaining that all women are the same and it’s not their fault) 4:30 Hang out in a group setting and treat all women the same. The women that like you will move themselves into your orbit so that you can do something about that. They get extra close, they touch you, and they make it really obvious that they like you. 5:05 Asking a woman what her opinion is of you shows that you lack confidence. And the #1 most important thing in men that women find attractive is confidence. *You’re attitude should be, “Of course she likes me. Are you kidding me, this sexy man?”* That’s the playful attitude you want to have. Have the attitude that all women want you, until proven otherwise. It’s always better to come from that place.
My ex is like this. She married now. I stopped talking to her out of respect for the marriage. She still trying to maintain contact. Had to make it a hard no.
I got a friend I used to hook up with this who’s in this boat who recently told me when I posted that I was writing Christmas cards that she just loves getting attention from me. I told her I’m not doing anything while she’s married but her advances continue. It’s an ego thing to be wanted when the veneer of their relationships wears off. Don’t be played boys.
It's ok to ask a girls what they think of you, but if you feel she likes you there's no need to ask, you can sense it. It's not about confidence, it's just knowing where you stand.
If she doesn't agree to a date it's pretty clear what she thinks of you. When already dating I sometimes just hang back, not initiating the hug/kiss/physical contact just to see if she still does. If she doesn't I know it's time to back off and mentally move on.
Charisma on Command recently posted a video titled "how to date someone out of your leauge". the points that was made in that video was at least 90% the things Coach mentioned in his 3% man book. that's why you gotta read the book
Maybe im a little bit too cautious, but i wouldnt have any relationship at a workplace. In my experience, those things rarely go well, and more often then not, just last resort for people who otherwise lack options to meet new people outside of their circle. That whole cirlce dynamic complicate things. Girl with think how will it affect her in the future (money and stability almost always wins in that analysys), what is others opinion of you in the group, what is your standing there, how comfortable are you with that. Will you tell or will you hide, can you be trusted, will you decieve her, will you cause the scene or make her look bad. All of those complications are simply missing when you meet girl outside of your cirlce.
I feel like posting on social media that my wife during separation is saying that she wants to tease guys and I think people should know what she wants
Thank Coach CW for your videos in addition to the book 3%man! I have read book 4x now and listen to audio book now! I practice a mindset goal of daily to be conscioutious of beta behavior mentality that ended up pushing a woman away and breaking the cycle of being needy validating beta behaviors so thank you for what you do helping me change my life! Coach you are the woman whisperer awesome thanks!
I’m with you and I know so much better !! But I failed once and regret to this day ! Why I failed is beyond me but I’m back tho strong with politeness not to give a F anymore . It surely pays off 😂
How do I stop attracting these types of women? For the last 3 years that's all I've gotten and they do bounce quickly as they come in. I keep thinking I'm changing my patterns that I'm missing something and I'm not sure what I just dealt with it just now a girl I just barely started to get to know. We only went out twice and she's already throwing a temper tantrum that I'm not available 24/7 and she wants me to make a decision on whether or not I see a future with her but yet she knows almost nothing about me and has done nothing for me. How to figure out what I'm doing to attract these types and what do I need to do to change it?
Yeah your right Corey.. I asked a girl out after some flirting and she said no and i ignored her a bit,but after some time she started flirting again. Horse>barn I learned from it tho.. persuing is bad. Let the girl come to you naturally.
This video is gold, :) thank you, as anyone dated about has been through this situation.... But the work thing, leave alone, unless one or both of you is planning to leave the workplace soon.... Happy new year coach to your loved ones and yourself. Jon
She contacts me, but only wants to set "friend dates" lets meet for coffee? Or lets go shopping? How would you tell her you don't do friend dates? she said she really doesn't want to lose me as a friend.
Some play this game to get the non-sexual BF experience (which they highly value) from you, while hooking up with Chads, Brads, and Tyrones who give them little or no non-sexual BF experience. You waste your ATM (attention, time and money) and they get the two parts of female Hypergamy met (Alpha seeds, Beta needs).
I had this situation once. My purpose are clear. To get married. And she just playin arround. Im too stupid for gave her lot of chance to prove that she really want me. But in the end. She just still the same. And i choose to walk away. Im done. Looks like we are goin no where. Idont hve much time playin this shit.
7:38 you’re communicating that you’re beturbed by her behavior at some level. That signals a lack of confidence, and when a woman senses a lack of confidence in a guy, they’re going to test them and troll them more to see if he’ll lose his shit. Women are just naturally designed to test the strength of the men around them, because they want to feel safe and comfortable. Why you want to get to the place where you’re unperturbable. Even if she says she doesn’t like you, you just go, “Okay, whatever.” James Bond movies - even when the woman says there’s no way I’m sleeping with you James, he just smirks at her and thinks, “She’ll be naked in my bed later.” That’s the attitude you want to have. 8:48 Match and mirror the girl’s interest level 9:28 Talk with other women and treat all women the same way. You don’t treat one any better than the other. Even if you don’t like other women, just giving them attention and not the girl you’re with will make you try harder to get your *attention and validation* and that’s what you want. *Be fun, be charming, be playful with all women.* This will also help to make you mysterious. It will make it harder for women to tell which one you’re sincerely interested in (maybe you’re just like that with all women?). 11:35 If her actions indicate that she’s not that into you, be okay with that. Be indifferent, unpurterbed, and amused by that. Have the attitude of *eventually she’ll come around, fhey always do. The horses always return to the barn anyways.*
I have one woman (W1) in my friends group that I treat better than all of the others but that’s because we’re close friends and she treats me better than every single other person around. Same circle, I also have one (W2) that clearly just wants attention and occasionally shows signs of jealousy when she sees how I pick up W1 when I hug her.
These channels encourage you to overthink situations and people. There's 9 billion people on this planet. Let's say half or a little more are women. Just be yourself and do your thing. Just tell chicks what you want. If they not with your program then move on. Some woman out there thinks you are all that and a bag of chips. Don't play waiting games and no contact bs with them. All that tells me is to move on to the next one. Once they start with the games, the guy friends, and disrespectful attitude just tell yourself it's done. When they want to know why I just tell them it's me and nothing else. Bam, it's that simple
@@johnq8043 he does have good insight and it depends if you suffer from oneitis. I'm an old head and been married before and had a bunch of different girlfriends from all over. At the end of the day by it all comes to an end. Paul Elam was right when he said if you meet a woman you like and she wants to take it to the next level just ask her what she brings to the table and wait for your answer. I don't hate or bash on them but I take reasonable care of myself. And to be honest I don't mess with anyone over early 30s, and if they have kids forget it. I forget who said it but the good ol days weren't that great either, most of those marriages had nothing to show for other than a bunch of misery and jewelry.
Women want men with lots friends a nice house lots hobbies great job funny organise lots events busy helping others rescuing animals dont smoke or drink too much eat well dress well.
@@Cee_Eff Those are the toxic ones. If you stop those things, simp out on them, then these toxic feral types will complain that you aren’t the same man I met and fell in love with, blah, blah, blah. You can’t please these types. I’ve been there and they will always find some shit to bitch about because they are unhappy with themselves. This is why vetting is so very important. I learned that lesson the hard way
Question do you keep treating the girl fun and playful if she comes to you to talk , keep it short and non playful, or just give her a smirk if she does. I’m in the same boat, i told her i didn’t want to be friends with someone im interested in and she said ok and 5 min later she tries to talking to me and i just gave her a smirk and didn’t reply.
I need advice. I've known a guy for almost 15 years, but we've always been friends. He is really nice to me and treats me well, knows all my likes and pay special attention to the things i like. But my problem is, i dnt find him attractive or that kinda deep romantic, intimate feeling but deep down i know he will be a great companion. Also, it started as him crushing on me in school and now we live in 2 different country. How do i figure out if i like him only as my friend or more than a friend. I don't want to lie to myself or him Please help???
Plus i've dated other people within that 15 year time, but i never crossed my freind zone stage with him. Now we finally agree to maybe trying to have a relationship but i am so worries that i may not be attracted to him and that's y i never cross the line
@@nr6842 you will just know....do you get butterflies?... do you day dream about him?... do you have sexual fantasies?... if not then u just see him as a friend
Is there a possibility that some men just don't have it in them to become a 3 Percent Man? No matter how many times they read the book, they're never going to have the discipline it takes? Even if you know you don't have what it takes, it's definitely still good to read the book so you can at least understand and diagnose your dating problems.
That's the whole idea behind 3% man. It means 97 out of 100 won't. Most guys who read it are probably overweight and make under 50k a year. This book won't help them. Gotta have everything going for you if you want a desirable woman.
So i asked a girl i come into contact with often at my university (who seemed interested) 2x about going on a date. Gave me whole im busy this week but ill let you know. Never asked her again. A couple months later we run into each other at a bar twice in one week. We end up hooking up both nights. Am i able to ask her again on a date?
Man, that is not good. Men trying to kiss or date a woman that is clearly not into him. "How to get control?". You have the control if you ignore a girl who dont want you. If you tried to kiss her or date her she didn't want for the first time, it is over. Try another one, or do something else.
Very true. A man has no control over a woman not being into him, especially when she plays these kinds of games. However, a man has all the control imaginable on how he chooses to deal with it. He doesn't have to play along with the facade, he can simply ignore and walk away, ultimately eschewing any potential importance he once had towards her and stop wasting his time. And he should remain stoic through it all. I've had girls who friendzoned me come running back to me when I made it clear to them that I was leaving them behind.
@@vinaymulukutla358 Yeah, man. When I was young I used to ask myself: oh, how to date that girl? Even she is not willing. That is dumb. It is waste of time. We need to define our limits. "If a girl does X or Y, I dont want her anymore."
I have a woman who demands my constant attention but doesn't offer me loyalty. We've slept together on several occasions but could you imagine saying hood night to her just for her to go screw some other guy. That's NUTS, nah I can't do that.
“Never let a person show you twice they don’t want you. Have some self-respect and walk away.”
Noted
Good one I think
No simping
It’s romantic to constantly buy gifts and do things for a girl you like, even after constant rejections
More than once
One thing I did to help myself in bottom lining other people's actions was to stop internalizing. For example, instead of "Why would she do this to ME?" I started reframing it as "Why would she do this to ANYONE?" I found that this sort of reframing helped to cut out the personal, emotional static and see a situation for exactly what it is.
youre weird
Amazing perspective
@@kevinmarins9473 you’re a clown NPC.
wow. brilliant
Lay off the crack pipe
The way I deal with woman like this is real simple , Ask her on a date and if she says ANYTHING but “Yes” then politely say , “okay have a good day”. If she tries contacting you again just simply keep the conversation short and don’t engage in keeping the Congo going, just say “Hi and bye” she will get the hint. She would either stop contacting you or she might actually ask you out. Either way is a Win Win.
Good strategy... except I've got a couple who aren't getting the hint...i think they have aspergers
No bro. The next level up is to not text them back. It's a powerful position. But do this genuinely. It's hard to force yourself not to text back when you really want to. You have to come from a place where you literally don't care.
Greatest strategy brother.
@@starttakinnotez It's not the silent treatment or passive aggressiveness. Yes communicate interest. If she denies you then move on. Like Corey says, go after the girls who are into you. Stop going after girls who don't care to go out with you.
Great system
Unless she physically touches you in a sober manner, forget this girl.
Her attention seeking behaviour will be a problem further down the line.
I had a taken lady touch me before and she was a co-worker
bingo
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Wow I literally walked away from an old flame last night because of this same bs....said I got enough friends, thanks anyway 👌🏻
I miss that old flame. but I guess its for the best
Friend with benefits
I did the same with my last girlfriend. It was actually hard at the time but afterwards I realized how much better I deserved
Well to be specific, I miraculously reconnected with an ex girlfriend from 5 years ago and her and I both became single at pretty much the same time. Well long story short she started asking me to help her with stuff and want to hang out with me like I'm her girlfriend or some shit so I just had to be direct and clear about which direction I was interested in going.
Not only walk away, but walk away AND mean it
Remember, you are the prize. Act accordingly.
Dealt with one of these and once I realized it I went no contact. They are toxic and will never be happy in any relationship.
In my experience they all do it. Show definite signs of interest but then if you do the same, they back off. I really haven't got time for silly games these days. The minute they start any games I'm off. Especially if we've already slept with each other - any mind games and they can jog off.
"they all do it. Show definite signs of interest but then if you do the same, they back off" AMEN to that! So frustrating! ESPECIALLY the really attractive ones!
@@death24314 It is never too late to be betrayed 🤔😏
I don't understand why!!!!
Even women with boyfriends play these kinds of games.
Men often become confused in situations like this because their logical brains can't understand why a woman would waste time on them if they're not interested. This can result in a prolonged "oneitis" situation, where the guy keeps thinking he has a shot, and the woman is playing catch and release to stroke her own ego.
It's mind-boggling to me. I have no idea what the reward is just some kind of addiction to fill a void?
@@ConsultColin-fv6rc Yes. Called the "Baby-adult void".
Attention and validation is a female’s currency.
5:10 The #1 most important thing in men that women find attractive is confidence. You always want to have the attitude that all women want you, until proven otherwise.
Exactly this!! Doesn't matter how old you are as man. 40 years old and after listening to 3% man the knowledge gave me abundance of confidence. Females be bouncing all around regardless of their age!!
@@ThatGuyOverThereWeird early 50s if you have good skills probably the last hurrah for playing the field: after that women put you in the senior zone
@@bigneiltoo Do the best you can. In your job interview analogy, point out another similar experience or transferrable skills that you have for the job at hand.
For instance, many employers always "require" a 4 year bachelor's degree on a resume, for instance, before they'll even give you a call. I'm a college dropout and have always found ways to skirt around this. I was able to get real world experience and on the job training through super hard F'ing work down in the trenches, and through pain, suffering and sacrifice of my time and time with family. So, since the degree is just the means to the end, and since I attended college but never graduated, I will tell them that "I finished in 2011," which is the date I dropped out. So, the key word being _finished_ , not graduated. It's not lying, it's just stating the reality in a confident way. Get it?
I dated an HR chick recently that was a real ball-buster by design (she also had daddy issues since her father passed away when she was just a toddler).
At the end of the day, confidence is a belief in yourself - if not competence/ability that you have now - that you WILL have or be able to accomplish or deliver on your promise in the future. Make baby steps towards incremental progress and repeat experimentation/failure and your confidence will start to build and aggregate, just as your competence builds. Let that be your guide. Good luck.
@@bigneiltoo Well, I ended up kicking her to the curb, LOL. Wasn't going to deal with a bad attitude. I even gave her the benefit of the doubt, having many terrible experiences with HR myself (usually in the interview stage, where they act as gatekeepers). But at the end of the day, I want women who are pleasant and easy to get along with rather than combative.
@@bigneiltoo HR = the Queen of shit tests 😂
When she doesn't ask you anything about you despite some romance, she's not interested in you. Ask me how I know.
How do you know
Yea brother share with us
Some women play this yoyo game. They want to know if you still fall for them. They play to make themselves feel good and to mock you at the same time. They know they can push the buttons to make you come to them. Don’t fall in that trap
They think they slick but I'm slicker 😆
I can't fall for a woman I haven't been with
I have an almost identical story to this. Walked away and told her let me know if you change your mind. She keeps coming back to me though but won’t agree on a date, but still wants my attention. I keep telling her unless you wanna date then I’m not interested. She’s wants me to be her boyfriend without her being my girlfriend essentially
I have someone like that in my life.Full 10/10. She keeps drifting in and out of my life for about the 4th or 5th time now, she has other guys going and coming in the background.
I think CW’s teaching is the only reason she never completely leaves, I always make it clear I’m escalating when I’m with her or else no bueno. It’s fucking frustrating how many times I have had to walk away and how difficult she is.
She is only interested in me when I’m not there. Following the book I’ve gotten things like you’re the only person who understands me etc bla bla. But some women are broken, either play them back or outright ignore. But you will never ever get anywhere with them
You are validating her by constantly asking her for a date. You should cease all contact and not show any interest.
She doesn't want your attention, she wants you to be ignorant enough to keep feeding her at the nice restaurant
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Crazy how this comes at the perfect time
Confident attitude, the way I've internalized it, is not caring whether an attractive woman likes you or not. Just go about your purpose and let them worry about you. They'll put themselves in your orbit if you give them a reason to.
I had a similar experience with a girl I work with in sales. She's super flirty, but I eventually realized that she's flirty like that with everyone. After a canoeing trip with our sales team, we went and got drinks and she was being super flirty with multiple guys on the team, sitting on a couple dude's laps, resting her legs up on another dude, resting her head on my shoulder... I used to have feelings for her. But after seeing how needy she is for male attention, it made it really easy to write her off as another young thottie
Ty for your service sir🤘
She is a pump and dump. Not to be taken seriously longterm.
So, there is a shy girl at work that I’ve been interested in for the longest time. We used to flirt. Found out she is in a long term relationship. I stopped talking to her except hello and good morning. Began talking to other women and making them laugh in front of her. The next day she comes over to my area in the room and sits down closest to where I work when there were plenty of other places to sit. Putting herself in my orbit when she usually works at another place far across the room. Funny thing, she doesn’t say hi or try to talk to me. Just plants herself near me. Well, I knew she was just looking for attention from me like I was giving to those other girls so I just ignored her all day. By the end of the day she looked sad like her ego had been bruised.
Bro I’m going though the same exact shit right now
This seems to be the new norm for these younger women.
It’s Sick out here!
This video came at the perfect time. Thank you coach, I had a woman giving me all the signs then when I went in for the close she acted like she was surprised and flattered and just said she’ll think about it. I get choosing signals from other women that I kinda ignore but now I should start paying a bit of mind and just enjoy the validation I’m getting from everyone. Thanks 🙏🏼
And for me
Had exactly the same thing with my former coworker, she uses to text me, just to see if I will finally enter her orbit, but when I then ask her about her husband and how he's doing, she shuts up for the next few weeks 🤣 simply a disgusting behaviour
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I am going exactly through this exact situation now with a coworker. Thanks for the advice Coach! I had already decided to not send her more invitations, as the book says, so this just confirms it.
That's good. There's nothing wrong with paying attention to women, but it shouldn't be endless if there's no reciprocation. but sometimes it's good to try anyway, just to see what happens and learn. Live and learn.
@@jamesrussell2936 it is really hard to back away from a girl you like when she is always trying to get your attention, respond with hearty eyes to your selfies, suggests she is interested in you, but in the end, none of that matters if she never agrees to make a definite date alone with you (I tried at least 5 times to set a date). That is my case now, so I'm walking away until she suggests we hang out. Just gotta have an abundance mindset, even if you don't have that abundance. I am glad and thankful to Corey I know this now, because a couple of years ago I would have become this girl's doormat or male girlfriend...
@@irving2006drummer You’re right my dude. It is hard to back away from a girl you like, especially when you work with her and she’s all over your selfies. You have to start looking at yourself as the prize, not these broads. They have abundance mentality which is why they play games and shit test dudes. Coach Corey is right when he said to start being friendly to other women at work and treating them all the same. Don’t put yourself out there with the invitations so she can shoot them down every time. You’re too busy being on your purpose.
Hi Irving, also watch his recent video "I think my coworker is interested in me". Read some of the top comments too, most speak from experience. I know it’s hard to see reality but you have to try. It’ll be harder if things go south later on. Trust in yourself!
@@s2003katalin thanks man! I just watched it and it was pretty insightful 🙏🏾
Let’s go💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾 love you coach
As a man for the record this has happened to me the woman in question was exactly the same and came from a divorced broken home background. Fortunately I've got away and moved on from her and off the back of it got into Coach Corey's stuff. The quality of people I date are better because it really, really does bring out the best and worst of them quicker to make a better judgement call on who to date.
The type of woman Corey is describing in the quote is basically a narcissist. Women who grow up this way tend to turn into narcissists, and they tend to be awful partners. I've dated women exactly like he describes, and they ALWAYS have the same type of broken home story full of trauma. As tempting as it is to rescue them, you can't. Just let them go. They will never find happiness with anyone, not just you.
Well said!
Yeah true
One might be tempted to think, what if she finds another and turns out to be happy with them. But the real question is, are you sure she is ever going to be happy with anyone? Well said, J.
And your absolutely right J , these women are NARCISSISTS what people dont understand is that these kind of individuals Lack Empathy , they only see people as mere Objects i.e. Objectification and use and discard there lovers as use for there Narcissistic Fuel and gather whats called " Narcissistic Supply " via Attention and Validation
Holy shit you described the girl I had this problem with perfectly.
ive learned to only pay attention to the girls with high interest and leave the others in the background. it makes life so much easier but dont get too complacent because even the interested ones can dissapier very quickly and you will be left wondering wtf happened.
Ha ha 😂😂 right bro
I never deal with those type of people. They're full of it, conceited, and pretentious as well.
I wish that I had discovered Corey's work when I was a young man, and not when I was in my 50s. When I was in my 20s and early 30s I had lots of female friends who I wanted to sleep with, but only wanted me as a friend. Today, I would never put up with that crap now. I had a very pretty coworker who I tried to date, but she put me into the friend zone. She dated lots of different guys. I met different women through her and ended up dating 2 of them. Each time this happened she would get furious and act as if I had cheated on her. I never hid the fact from her that I was dating these women, because she didn't want me that way. She didn't even want me to kiss her, let alone sleep with her. She even called me a few times and left messages on my answering machine crying, saying stuff like, "I know that I haven't been very nice to you but I really need a friend right now." I didn't return her calls and eventually I had decided that she was nuts.
Hard truth. *SHE IS NOT THAT INTO YOU.* I know what you are thinking "But she does this, she text me, she's doing this and that". Wake up. Confess you like her more than a friend "Call me if you change your mind". Then walk away. And read the book.
Coach Corey, you are the man!
Discovered your teachings a few years ago but fell off the wagon. Came back to TH-cam and my boy is still at it. Love it
Thanks for all you do!
-Larry
This hits home for me. Ive been trying to get advice on this forever. I work at my local college bar and i get so many cases where a girl will be all over me one night and then the next day she shows no signs of liking me. Then a week later she will be all over me again. Its like 50 first dates.
The way I see it is if a woman doesn't kiss me on the first date she's not getting a second. I shouldn't have to work that hard for a simple kiss. I've had plenty of first dates that ended up with either kissing or sex. My last LTR and I had sex on the first date. Why should I have to wait for someone who's not ready?
Your last one lol. Women that put out on the first date are easy. What comes fast, goes just as fast. Sorry you learned that the hard way
@@CeeDoubleU Would you rather find out early on if you're not compatible in one of the most important parts of a relationship? Or would you rather waste your time and money? Personally I think you're a weak man if you wait for someone that has already given it away for free.
@@ryanj357 this guy is spot on
@@ThomasP525 not true. lately, hoes have adapted a new strategy of making men wait if they get potential boyfriend/husband vibes in an attempt to sell you chastity. Meanwhile, they'll fuck other dudes for fun on the same day.
I had this situation with a girl. This chick would hold my hand and make me feel special all the time.. Yet she wouldn’t want to be my girlfriend in a weird way
I knew a woman with borderline personality disorder that was just like that
Happy to text. Met up for a great first date. Flaked for the next two. I’m over it. Makes zero sense.
Same here! One date, hooked up great, then just messaged for 4 weeks without being able to secure another date..
Gave up
Women know if they want you in the first 10 seconds-if they act uninterested then they are uninterested '-just keep walking 🚶♂️
Exactly. If you put yourself in their shoes, you'd say yeah , if I was genuinely uninterested, there wouldn't be a whole lot that she could do to make me genuinely interested in her anyway. Why would I expect anymore from a woman who just isn't interested in Me?
State your intentions. If they're not reciprocated, immediately move on. Show these girls the door. See ya! Next!
Was in a similar situation to this. The coworker was very flirty from the get go. We got along well, she shamelessly talked a lot about sex, showed her cleavage’s a lot and we had somewhat of a connection.
Thing is she has a boyfriend and I didn’t move it further because of it. used that fact to observe her actions over the 3 weeks we have been coworkers.
I decided to not ask her out or anything because of that too and because I think dating a coworker who also has a boyfriend is doomed to end up in drama.
Got her number but we never texted either. She seems to have blockef and deleted me after I stopped giving her so much attention yesterday and I get the strong feeling she just wants to play every guy at work because she enjoys the free attention her boyfriend doesn’t seem to give her.
Dont allow yourself to be the guy she goes to for free attention folks.
Always be willing to walk away and don’t chase after girls like that.
@@blair5475 Im not the type of guy to ask out women who are engaged that’s why I didn’t move it further. Aside from that she was inconsistent and went hot and cold for too long.
Dejavu...
I am this guy right now. And the is that type of co-worker. The only difference is I was cool with her having a bf, because I thought I could win her over.
We had multiple dates and hugs, kissing and petting started very quickly. But when I've been trying to move with her further, she was always refusing, finding excuses. Little did I know that all what she was doing was just an act to get attention from me.
Finally my patience got the better of me and I said that we should either have sex or stop playing these childish games. Guess what? She left me alone.
Guys, if attention that you provide women with is of good quality, women will even kiss you or go oral with you just to string you along, but if you're direct, they can only pretend for so long.
U have no idea how much I have struggled with this. It has made me super depressed and lonely. I get so excited thinking this coworker liked me and just to end up saying that she had a bf
Next time, let her know upfront what your intentions are within the first 5 minutes of speaking...it'll save you a ton of time and you'll get results from being confident and bold.. Cheers my friend!
No friends. No más 🙏🏼
Been there, done that, never again.
This is a real thing believe me. I met a woman from Church and we're both old enough that we should be mature about relationships. She would check me out and say hello if I went up to her and said hello. I realized she was using me when I asked her out and she said she's usually pretty busy. I didn't know a woman could look at a guy like she's interested and not be interested. Well I'm done with her and am talking to a girl from work. She's younger and prettier so it would be great if she came to Church with me and the other woman saw us together.
Hopefully things turned out well with the girl from your work!
Anytime i ever came across these types of women in the past I straight up asked them to hangout and that they should give me their number. They always stopped attention seeking after that.
Thank you sir I really like your advice
Looked at this vedio several times and yes, Mr. Wane is right. It dose work even after a five years ago relationship. She still try to push my buttons, but I listen to Corey Wane and I"am still on top. Thank You Sir.
How she try push buttons
Bring other guy around my house in expensive vehicles but I kept my head straight. Crazy phone calls late at night. Never get thirsty. @Subdimensions
Don't drink with girls from work
Corey is my man! This scenario is happening in my life. Had I not read Corey's book (3 out of 15 reads now) I would be just as confused as this gentleman. Asked her out twice and started acting indifferent. As he teaches, she started to wonder about me and began popping up on my radar.
"Oh I only just got your message!" Oh, sure lol
had that message. i've not responded since.
Had that too and she was doing it consistently. So I haven't responded back in 5 days and said the same, then got blocked 🤣🤣
Going through this right now. Good timing, coach. %3man
1:50 Women who grow up without fathers, a strong masculine presence in the home, or who have a bad relationship with their fathers tend to create male attention and validation in unhealthy ways.They often seek and invite romantic attention from many men, as they never learned the kind of men they should trust, respect, and look up to. *Smart men always look at a woman’s actions to determine if she is capable of being loyal, faithful, and untrustworthy.
2:55 Usually when somebody gets triggered, that means that they got an emotional charge on something.
3:04 If you’re going to date, you have to understand what you’re going to encounter in the dating pool. Because we make our decisions based upon emotions and then we use logic and reason to justify our decisions. People get caught up with their attraction and feelings for one another, and then they just completely ignore all the red flags, the signs of disrespect, the little white lies here and there, the deviousness and make excuses - and then 6 months down the road, a year down the road, or even worse they knock the girl up or marry her, and then they find out that they did a really crummy job in the vetting process.(then then end up in the toxic RP community complaining that all women are the same and it’s not their fault)
4:30 Hang out in a group setting and treat all women the same. The women that like you will move themselves into your orbit so that you can do something about that. They get extra close, they touch you, and they make it really obvious that they like you.
5:05 Asking a woman what her opinion is of you shows that you lack confidence. And the #1 most important thing in men that women find attractive is confidence. *You’re attitude should be, “Of course she likes me. Are you kidding me, this sexy man?”* That’s the playful attitude you want to have. Have the attitude that all women want you, until proven otherwise. It’s always better to come from that place.
Thank you 🙏🏼
Great video. The woman in these cases have BPD AP DA NPD attachment issues
The goat has spoken🙌🏾
My ex is like this. She married now. I stopped talking to her out of respect for the marriage. She still trying to maintain contact. Had to make it a hard no.
Im surprised that she even reached out to you
@@CeeDoubleU the people i knew who were married are so far the ones ones i don't really hear from like i used to
I got a friend I used to hook up with this who’s in this boat who recently told me when I posted that I was writing Christmas cards that she just loves getting attention from me. I told her I’m not doing anything while she’s married but her advances continue. It’s an ego thing to be wanted when the veneer of their relationships wears off. Don’t be played boys.
@@JeffDouglas_ them taken women sure do a clever job at leading other men on as if those men really had a chance
It's ok to ask a girls what they think of you, but if you feel she likes you there's no need to ask, you can sense it. It's not about confidence, it's just knowing where you stand.
If she doesn't agree to a date it's pretty clear what she thinks of you. When already dating I sometimes just hang back, not initiating the hug/kiss/physical contact just to see if she still does. If she doesn't I know it's time to back off and mentally move on.
Charisma on Command recently posted a video titled "how to date someone out of your leauge". the points that was made in that video was at least 90% the things Coach mentioned in his 3% man book. that's why you gotta read the book
Maybe im a little bit too cautious, but i wouldnt have any relationship at a workplace. In my experience, those things rarely go well, and more often then not, just last resort for people who otherwise lack options to meet new people outside of their circle.
That whole cirlce dynamic complicate things. Girl with think how will it affect her in the future (money and stability almost always wins in that analysys), what is others opinion of you in the group, what is your standing there, how comfortable are you with that. Will you tell or will you hide, can you be trusted, will you decieve her, will you cause the scene or make her look bad.
All of those complications are simply missing when you meet girl outside of your cirlce.
I think dating from workplace good be awesome, easy and effortless because she knows u, she has a report about you. You did pass the eye test.
HAPPY NEW YEAR from London: UK Coach Corey 🇬🇧
Yeah, I’ve recently experienced this one.
I feel like posting on social media that my wife during separation is saying that she wants to tease guys and I think people should know what she wants
Why do you give her so much power. Ask her out if she says yes cool if she says anything else move on.
Thank Coach CW for your videos in addition to the book 3%man! I have read book 4x now and listen to audio book now! I practice a mindset goal of daily to be conscioutious of beta behavior mentality that ended up pushing a woman away and breaking the cycle of being needy validating beta behaviors so thank you for what you do helping me change my life! Coach you are the woman whisperer awesome thanks!
the man straight forward blatant love it
Good stuff! It’s obvious, but 50% of us did not get enough love as a child, so good coaching.
I’m with you and I know so much better !!
But I failed once and regret to this day !
Why I failed is beyond me but I’m back tho strong with politeness not to give a F anymore . It surely pays off 😂
How do I stop attracting these types of women? For the last 3 years that's all I've gotten and they do bounce quickly as they come in. I keep thinking I'm changing my patterns that I'm missing something and I'm not sure what I just dealt with it just now a girl I just barely started to get to know. We only went out twice and she's already throwing a temper tantrum that I'm not available 24/7 and she wants me to make a decision on whether or not I see a future with her but yet she knows almost nothing about me and has done nothing for me. How to figure out what I'm doing to attract these types and what do I need to do to change it?
This is probably the #1 skill in dating: proper filtering
Yeah your right Corey.. I asked a girl out after some flirting and she said no and i ignored her a bit,but after some time she started flirting again. Horse>barn
I learned from it tho.. persuing is bad. Let the girl come to you naturally.
It will be amazing how many guys will watch this and somehow hear it like, "Treat her like crap and she'll like you."
Yup I hear ya
Very timely.
I’ve been thru this before when an ex came back…so frustrating! I ended up having to walk away again.
Live n learn
This video is gold, :) thank you, as anyone dated about has been through this situation....
But the work thing, leave alone, unless one or both of you is planning to leave the workplace soon....
Happy new year coach to your loved ones and yourself. Jon
She contacts me, but only wants to set "friend dates" lets meet for coffee? Or lets go shopping? How would you tell her you don't do friend dates?
she said she really doesn't want to lose me as a friend.
Some play this game to get the non-sexual BF experience (which they highly value) from you, while hooking up with Chads, Brads, and Tyrones who give them little or no non-sexual BF experience. You waste your ATM (attention, time and money) and they get the two parts of female Hypergamy met (Alpha seeds, Beta needs).
So what do you do instead of asking a girl what is her opinion about you, if you are not sure if she likes you or not?
I like this advice! :D
I had this situation once.
My purpose are clear. To get married.
And she just playin arround. Im too stupid for gave her lot of chance to prove that she really want me. But in the end. She just still the same. And i choose to walk away. Im done. Looks like we are goin no where. Idont hve much time playin this shit.
She will come back because she has a narcissistic personnality disorder, but move on, because she's sick.
Do not mix work with pleasure bad mixxxx Someone will loose guess who
7:38 you’re communicating that you’re beturbed by her behavior at some level. That signals a lack of confidence, and when a woman senses a lack of confidence in a guy, they’re going to test them and troll them more to see if he’ll lose his shit. Women are just naturally designed to test the strength of the men around them, because they want to feel safe and comfortable. Why you want to get to the place where you’re unperturbable. Even if she says she doesn’t like you, you just go, “Okay, whatever.” James Bond movies - even when the woman says there’s no way I’m sleeping with you James, he just smirks at her and thinks, “She’ll be naked in my bed later.” That’s the attitude you want to have.
8:48 Match and mirror the girl’s interest level
9:28 Talk with other women and treat all women the same way. You don’t treat one any better than the other. Even if you don’t like other women, just giving them attention and not the girl you’re with will make you try harder to get your *attention and validation* and that’s what you want. *Be fun, be charming, be playful with all women.* This will also help to make you mysterious. It will make it harder for women to tell which one you’re sincerely interested in (maybe you’re just like that with all women?).
11:35 If her actions indicate that she’s not that into you, be okay with that. Be indifferent, unpurterbed, and amused by that. Have the attitude of *eventually she’ll come around, fhey always do. The horses always return to the barn anyways.*
I have one woman (W1) in my friends group that I treat better than all of the others but that’s because we’re close friends and she treats me better than every single other person around. Same circle, I also have one (W2) that clearly just wants attention and occasionally shows signs of jealousy when she sees how I pick up W1 when I hug her.
Thanks man.
Baby you just want attention, you don't want my heart
Prob one of the most important pieces of info in Coreys Arsenal…
Yeah they flake on you, f*** that
She works with you forget her.
I can't even relate to this mentality 🤔
needing love but getting only crumbs
Then women will say a man is to dam cocky when they say I look good. There really is no right way to finding a lady
These channels encourage you to overthink situations and people. There's 9 billion people on this planet. Let's say half or a little more are women. Just be yourself and do your thing. Just tell chicks what you want. If they not with your program then move on. Some woman out there thinks you are all that and a bag of chips. Don't play waiting games and no contact bs with them. All that tells me is to move on to the next one. Once they start with the games, the guy friends, and disrespectful attitude just tell yourself it's done. When they want to know why I just tell them it's me and nothing else. Bam, it's that simple
@@johnq8043 he does have good insight and it depends if you suffer from oneitis. I'm an old head and been married before and had a bunch of different girlfriends from all over. At the end of the day by it all comes to an end. Paul Elam was right when he said if you meet a woman you like and she wants to take it to the next level just ask her what she brings to the table and wait for your answer. I don't hate or bash on them but I take reasonable care of myself. And to be honest I don't mess with anyone over early 30s, and if they have kids forget it. I forget who said it but the good ol days weren't that great either, most of those marriages had nothing to show for other than a bunch of misery and jewelry.
Cold
Women want men with lots friends a nice house lots hobbies great job funny organise lots events busy helping others rescuing animals dont smoke or drink too much eat well dress well.
@@Cee_Eff Those are the toxic ones. If you stop those things, simp out on them, then these toxic feral types will complain that you aren’t the same man I met and fell in love with, blah, blah, blah. You can’t please these types. I’ve been there and they will always find some shit to bitch about because they are unhappy with themselves. This is why vetting is so very important. I learned that lesson the hard way
Question do you keep treating the girl fun and playful if she comes to you to talk , keep it short and non playful, or just give her a smirk if she does. I’m in the same boat, i told her i didn’t want to be friends with someone im interested in and she said ok and 5 min later she tries to talking to me and i just gave her a smirk and didn’t reply.
If they seem interested there usually not lol and watch out for compliments on your appearance
Correct
Fear the beard.😚😚 Corey looking good
I need advice.
I've known a guy for almost 15 years, but we've always been friends. He is really nice to me and treats me well, knows all my likes and pay special attention to the things i like. But my problem is, i dnt find him attractive or that kinda deep romantic, intimate feeling but deep down i know he will be a great companion. Also, it started as him crushing on me in school and now we live in 2 different country. How do i figure out if i like him only as my friend or more than a friend. I don't want to lie to myself or him
Please help???
Plus i've dated other people within that 15 year time, but i never crossed my freind zone stage with him. Now we finally agree to maybe trying to have a relationship but i am so worries that i may not be attracted to him and that's y i never cross the line
@@nr6842 you will just know....do you get butterflies?... do you day dream about him?... do you have sexual fantasies?... if not then u just see him as a friend
15 yrs??? Cut off the Orbiter!! Jeez!!
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Is there a possibility that some men just don't have it in them to become a 3 Percent Man? No matter how many times they read the book, they're never going to have the discipline it takes? Even if you know you don't have what it takes, it's definitely still good to read the book so you can at least understand and diagnose your dating problems.
That's the whole idea behind 3% man. It means 97 out of 100 won't. Most guys who read it are probably overweight and make under 50k a year. This book won't help them. Gotta have everything going for you if you want a desirable woman.
So i asked a girl i come into contact with often at my university (who seemed interested) 2x about going on a date. Gave me whole im busy this week but ill let you know. Never asked her again. A couple months later we run into each other at a bar twice in one week. We end up hooking up both nights. Am i able to ask her again on a date?
Red Pill Community is not toxic.
This sounds erie familiar!
Man, that is not good. Men trying to kiss or date a woman that is clearly not into him.
"How to get control?". You have the control if you ignore a girl who dont want you.
If you tried to kiss her or date her she didn't want for the first time, it is over. Try another one, or do something else.
Very true. A man has no control over a woman not being into him, especially when she plays these kinds of games. However, a man has all the control imaginable on how he chooses to deal with it. He doesn't have to play along with the facade, he can simply ignore and walk away, ultimately eschewing any potential importance he once had towards her and stop wasting his time. And he should remain stoic through it all.
I've had girls who friendzoned me come running back to me when I made it clear to them that I was leaving them behind.
@@vinaymulukutla358 Yeah, man. When I was young I used to ask myself: oh, how to date that girl? Even she is not willing. That is dumb. It is waste of time. We need to define our limits. "If a girl does X or Y, I dont want her anymore."
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I have a woman who demands my constant attention but doesn't offer me loyalty. We've slept together on several occasions but could you imagine saying hood night to her just for her to go screw some other guy. That's NUTS, nah I can't do that.
Pump and Dump.