NO ONE CARES! (The Mindset That Changed My Life...)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ต.ค. 2020
- Hey guys, welcome back to another video on the channel! In this one I speak of an idea about no one caring about you and how it actually can be one of the most empowering ideas to date. I hope this video helps and with that said I will catch you all in the next one, cheers! :)
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You don't get results by focusing on results. You get results by focusing on the actions that produce results.
...focus on the process.
Nice quote, keeping in mind this one
Yes exactly 🙌🏻
This
If you're an actor you focus on the work, not the career.
No joke, i started having the mindset that i should care about what i do in life, and not look for external validation, because like you said, no one actually cares
Uses Belle Delphine photo.
Why do we seek for validation and did you find a way to help that because I really need it
I actually feel like i give to much external validation in answers to others that have nothing to offer to anyone else because no one cares to validate you. Your just giving your own answers to someone else
To take advantage of. Because no one cares he’s right lol
Important to note; the people who do care too much about what your doing (haters) are the ones that care too much about what other people think of them, so if there is someone you know that cares that you failed or makes fun of you for it, remember, people don't hate unless you're doing more than them. Keep striving guys , peace
Very true! 💯🙏
One thousand percent true dude 🥰🥰💯
They're jealous
The only one that cares about you and love you in the same time is your mother otherwise is bs
they want you to do good. But not better than them.
Everyone is focused on their own lives they truly don't care.
I was reflecting on this concept some years ago, I said to myself "no one really cares, so you better be doing what you really want for yourself".
Bang on bro! 💯🙏
Have you taken any action on that reflection?
Yet many people have others that care
@@nickjohnson1430 yeah I took acting classes, it's not what I expected for me, but at least I tried it
But wouldn't doing what you really want, for yourself ..very quickly lead to a dead end without any support or connections with other people ..?
It might be a harsh realization for narcissistic people, but for most of people who understand this, it’s extremely liberating.
Thanks for your video!
It's harsh to me because I grew up in a big family that constantly said "I love you", and were always assuring each other of how much they cared. Since I do care, I believed them. Years and years wasted believing their lies.
@@nyeahgarner2420 It’s better to wake up than not, congratulations.
Its a true fact that no one cares these days,its a selfish world.
Sad
It's likely nobody ever did. If you thought they did, it was an illusion created by false social constructs that have mostly dissolved. People are the same.
This shit hit deep. We have a old neighbor suffering from cancer. Every day she walks 3 times a day. Such a kind hearted person. Always trying to help and say hello. She forgets what she says every time so she repeats her self. Because of the cancer. But everything she is saying is super positive and powerful. But when she walks outside. People go inside and hide from her. They don’t care about her. She has no one. But the 5 min conversation every day with someone means the most to her. Yet people don’t care about her. Because she is old. They don’t care that she really wants to just talk to someone because she is alone. They don’t care that she could die any day. They would rather go inside and hide just so that they don’t have to talk for 5 min. Idk I’m kind of rambling here but this one hit me deep. When we get older no one cares anymore. You are a thing in the past. You could die any day and no one would care. The world keeps moving. So stay on your path and conquer the goals you set forth. You are your biggest cheerleader. Satisfy you and your set in life.
Your story deserves recognition, I am glad to find this comment love what you do and what you give is who you are and what you give most likely will receive
True just a f#king true comment
Best comment ever
Even when you’re young, very few will truly care. It’s the benefits of your youth people want, such as to suck all your energy in a dead-end job.
Harsh reality
10 years ago this would have bothered me.... today. I felt all the joy of this realization. thank you
*YES!! It doesn’t matter what u do or think...at the end of the day it’s YOUR life that ur leading...u and YOUR life* 🙏
🙏❤️✌️
The people who walk around thinking their friends and family really care or girlfriend/boyfriend really care are in for a ride awakening. However if you have a parent or spouse they will care to an extent, that's it no one else
This is sadly true. Don't know whether to cry or laugh
this mindset will set you free, focus on yourself, care about your own path because no one else does! your journey has nothing to do with anyone else so it's pointless to assume they care, they don't! you got this!!
It's crazy but true
Thank you I honestly really needed this. I was caring too much about other's opinions of me behind my back but in reality they don't care about me at all which makes me feel at peace
100% truth right here
Your own family should care if they don’t you have nobody
No it wont
People say that they care but your right, they don't care. When i was in the police academy, everyone was always buddy buddy with everyone until someone would quit or get kicked out. As soon as the cadet was out of the building, that person was forgotten. I graduated from the academy and we all have each other hugs, hung out until we got on with depts across the areas and then everyone disappeared. No one cares.
i've had this mentality since was 15
Same bro, ever since a near death experience I’ve thought like this and it’s great
@@bryan1687 whoa was it a OBE? Interesting that's how it changed you 👍
Awesome man
When I feel down about maybe being depressed or a certain situation that’s made me depressed. I always come back to this video as a reminder about life.
People think much less about you than you think, haha. What's really important is how you care for yourself and to do what you need to do regardless of the opinions of others.
As David says, nobody cares anyway.
Boom! Well said brotherhood!
@@MindNow 👑👌
Right!
Well said jaxx
@@milanvb2818 thanks bro!
This is something you realize once you get past your teenage years. You can tell people that you've done this, accomplished that etc etc.....and in the moment they'll be like "oh that's awesome" or whatever. Really though, they low key don't give af
Haha only care if they ask. Otherwise I usually wouldn’t bring it up 🤷🏻♂️👍
I realized this after 11yrs old because I'm not a kid anymore after that
Sound like me trying to explain everything
A good example to relate to this video is that if you are ever embarrassed that you look gross one day or too embarrassed to wear or do something, understand you'll be forgotten in 1 minute. People may joke or laugh at you but in one minute everyone will forget. So dont worry about it and keep on moving.
WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE!! THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I TELL EVERYONE NO ONE CARES”!!!!! This only reaffirms what I will continue to do
People are too concerned about themselves to give a shit about you. That's when I became free
I struggle with this... thank you for the much needed slap to the face!
Sure, anytime
Omg this minset helps so much with social anxiety. It helped me. I did a lot of things that I've never thought i could do. Because of this minset. And i see it in myself how i personally don't care about nobody.
That's great. I'd love to hear more about it.
Honestly, it's about realizing that you have to things for yourself. Be your own priority.
People need others to actually care about them I don't know how that feels
I've never heard someone turn the statement "no one cares" into a positive, thank u man, I needed this so much. It's okay that it can feel this way sometimes, it's how we'll succeed in life, everyone, you've got this 😤😆
Yes! That's why we should just carry on and live life to the fullest without caring for the approvals of others. I also find it liberating. Cheers
I must just add that for me as a pagan, the antidote to the harshness of the idea that no one cares is that I care only for the Goddess. This means I can care for all things :)
This is the honest video I ever saw see guys stop thinking and caring about others no one gives a shit develope yourself.
Really incredible insight. I was having a rough day because it's Christmas and most of family not only didn't bother to reach out but didn't even bother to answer when I tried calling. I know this is an old video but it really lifted me up and I appreciate you and I so fucking care. Thank you. 👍
No one cares about you when you care about the others , loved this keep it going ❤💪🏻
Everyone is so caught up in their own world and problems, different vices. *Self care is most important, love yourself enough to take care of yourself.* From there life blossoms and flows, you become a force of nature, a monster, a light for those who need guidance. Your own personal growth tends to inspire people, usually. Just be Kind.
Real talk💯
Yea nobody cares.especially in my life right now.and that makes me soo sad because i love people and i care about people that i love.but they dont care about me at all.In some way this is sad reality.you want to be sucssesful in life but also to have someone who will be happy or sad in some bad situation because of you and who actually cares.this world sucks😣
@@whyalwaysme9333 don't give up! believe in your strengths, life isn't just life, its what we make of it. :)
Most of them are relatives
@@whyalwaysme9333 the world is fine, is yours for the taking, your world to live, to try, to fail and be confident that noone will care because it's the people that suck.
Hé is so right nobody cares! The more i have talked about my divorce /marriedge life. The more negativity i get back
We are a speck of dust on a speck of dust in an infinitely expanding universe. Be fearless. Go live.
Not me I was raised by narcissist parents who been married multiple times to each other that’s right then get remarried to other narcs .
I love how you put it I stay worried for nothing when truthfully no one cares it's a mind thing
That’s it right there, no one cares
Fail, succeed, start over no one cares
"Start what you want to start. Do what you want to do" YES 🙌🏻 I feel like all too often we don't do that thing we want to do just because we care about what others think.. and that's such a waste of time in this life that we have! I still definitely need to work on this so thanks for putting content like this out there man
All i ever ask for is brotherhood & friendship, honesty & be genuine, integrity, kindness. Is this to much to ask for?
Why do some people love to talk at you unloading their energy on you, but rarely want to listen or support you in return.
I love to laugh and be happy and make friends...but often so hard as a adult to do.
Fr bro
It makes total sense. I am at that point now. I used to care what others thought. I used to base everything I did on the thought that someone cared, now I’m awake. Nobody cares. And I do feel free. Free to do what I please
I was thinking this today, no one cares only about themselves
What I can't comprehend about the expression, "Nobody cares" is that if we truly live in a world where nobody really cares about you or anyone else in the world, then why are there people who bother wasting their time trying to do things like make friends and build relationships/connections, etc? Why are there people who waste time getting involved in intimate relationships, going steady, engaged, married, etc? Why bother doing any of that stuff if nobody cares? Why should your spouse marry you if they really don't care about you? Why should you marry them if you don't care about them? Why should your family and your spouse's family bother attending the wedding ceremony if they don't care about either of you? Why should the priest even bother coming to the wedding to marry you both if he doesn't care?
There are times where I feel like this expression is just some cliché-ridden stereotype that has caused so much conflict and separation in our world, and hearing and reading about it every single day becomes tiring. Of course, this is just my subjective beef about the expression, "Nobody cares". Nobody is obligated to care...
I stumbled across the wrong video because I never Thought the world evolves around me I was always such a good caring person and no one ever gives a fuck so I thought I heard you say that I love this, and I’m leaving this video for anyone to have to Google any type of situation like this Hass to be feeling some type away about life God bless you all and stay strong please
Right? Who came to this video and why? Are they the ones who need to be seeing this content? Maybe. Who cares? Get money.
Some of us never had it as children; We have obligations to each other. As a child I could never do or be what I really wanted; I never counted - still don’t. I look back, and I have always been unwanted, unloved, and alone. I have always loved and cared about people - but never had any of it in return. I’m on nobody’s list, in nobody’s thoughts; I feel I’ve just been ‘’in the way’ all my life. Tears flow down my cheeks when I look back and think just how clearly and just how much it has been so obvious that I’ve never really counted or mattered to anyone. I blamed myself too long, when it’s what the selfish world and others have done to me. I should never have been born.
Don't be so harsh on yourself, relax.
that's why overprotection is dangerous. i used to believe that people would laugh at me for not having a job , for watching cartoons, anime or drawing them or for being poor and i asked why would they care? who were they to judge me? they didn't even care about me from the start once i understood this , i decided to do what i wanted do and not what others desired .
I've come to learn if you sit down a tell them what you're gonna do , you will probably get them to care enough to give an opinion. Don't ask for approval. Just do it. Nobody has cared enough to tell me what they think I am doing while I'm actually doing what I want.
For example. I was a serial dater. I date one girl after the next. I never wanted anything serious, and I enjoy having new experiences with different women. NOBODY ever said shit about it. Then, I made the mistake of asking for people's opinions. A lot of dudes, hell, most dudes showed extreme disapproval. By learning that, I stopped dating and have since had a hard time dating again.
You gotta live life to your approval. Or you'll find yourself missing out on all the stuff you like if you get others' approval/opinion.
I am 49 and I just figure this freedom out
I do not know who you are how this video came to me, but yes! This conversation is very true. Understanding that no one cares is essential to leveling up your life. If you bury your head in the sand, eventually, you will be told that no one cares in a vulnerable moment too. You will be expressing yourself, or a pain and be told that no one cares. You are saying, get with the program. No one is really thinking about you that much; even if they appear to be, so then it's MY responsibility to be concerned with where I go from here! Experiences, relationships etc. EVERYTHING! You MUST learn to function without anyone else's feedback; to an extent or depending on the situation.
Love the info you are spreading to people to keep going love that, I had a different version of this convo I was looking for but still love the positivity
What a brilliant video.
To the point.
No waffle.
And full of the advice that very few parents or school will ever teach you.
Great job I'm in my 60s and only child and still trying to grasp the reality of it all but I've come a long way looking back through family friends and job situations and everything else it would have been great if I could have grasped this much younger but there's still time thank you young man
Pursuit of Wonder puts this really well. I’m paraphrasing here, but he says something along these lines:
“Unless you’re famous, everything you do in life will be forgotten with time. After you pass, you’ll only be remembered by your immediate family. But eventually, everyone from your immediate family will also pass. So one day, it’ll be like you never existed.”
Keep things in perspective. Our lives are so inconsequential and meaningless in the grand scheme of things it’s almost absurd.
I used to be so incredibly afraid of rejection when I was young (for a lot of reasons), but I forced myself to change by facing that fear on a daily basis, setting little goals for myself that progressively got harder, until I stopped caring. Now I don’t feel as many butterflies when I talk to the girl I like. I don’t get as nervous at interviews anymore, because no matter the outcome, I know I’ll be ok.
Life is too short to waste time caring about what people (who don’t care about you) think. It’s too short to let your fear of rejection stop you from going after what you want.
If you’re afraid to ask a girl out because you think she’ll reject you, ask yourself: so what if she does? Why do you care if she rejects you. I can understand if it’s someone you’ve known for a long time, or it’s a friend, but you can help how you fee. Just say it and move on. Just because she rejects you doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It just means you weren’t for HER. And there’s nothing you can do about that. Another girl might love to be with you. You never know.
Same thing with applying to a job. So what if you didn’t get it? That just means you weren’t the right fit for THEM. Another company might love to have you. This is the mindset you need to have.
So what if your business failed? You’re still alive. You can always try again.
Long story short, my point is stop caring so much about your image because everyone fails or gets rejected at some point.
"You're still alive. You can always try again" gonna keep that with me for life, thank you so much ☺️
Bruh.. that was a nice read
I'm soo glad I found your channel.. Here I am 3am thinking about work and the stresses.. Alot to do with anxiety as well.. This video helped and came at a good time
This is absolutely the advice most young men need to hear. This was a massive realization for me when I heard the following quote a few years back:
"When you’re 20 you care what everyone thinks, when you’re 40 you stop caring what everyone thinks, when you’re 60 you realize no one was ever thinking about you in the first place."
I'm very grateful I realized this in my 20s and didn't have to wait until my 60s to come to this realization.
Im grateful for realizing at 17
Moral Lesson: Just do it.
This is a very important idea for anyone working towards a goal for the sake of wanting other people's validation. Instead people ought to work towards a goal for the sake of their own personal enjoyment/happiness. Loving the philosophical content m8!
The universe doesn’t *owe* you SHIT
You *earn* it by working for it.
So inspirational this man is....
May God bless you !
Wow that is so liberating you know!!!! am glad you shared it. I started a channel in English and I sack at it and listening to you saying that no one cares just gave me that last push am looking for so thank you love.
Btw that watch looks so amazing on you.
A saying that stays close to me that I heard recently is that "Success is Personal". Success is a matter that nobody can achieve and provide for you its something that is Personal AF. The best analogy for this is the Olympic Games. There are hundreds of disciplines with thousands of athletes all chasing their own desire and goal. Remember that....
Yup yup! 👊
😎😎😎 your content gets better and better, your confidence is improving
Is true every one selfish. I always saw things in life you help others others help you. I actually show too much care
But people don't like that they think i have wrong intentions:( 😞 😓 😩
Very true honest video right choose of vocabulary and explanation.
It looks to me like you help others, others take advantage of you. There's no reciprocation. People must have values and care for reciprocation to take place. We're living in a superficial and materialistic society where nobody cares about others. When you get successful they'll want something from you, either to make them look good or to go out of your way to do something for them to show you care about them. Everyone is starving for others to care about them, and nobody wants to reciprocate.
No one caring is the most liberating realization. Sometimes I still have to snap myself out of that thought when I feel I "make a scene." Unless you're suffering from an illness that hinders your better judgement we all more or less know what's acceptable in a public space. Feel free, live free.
Right on time. I needed this.
Good stuff. Needed it, absorbed it. Thank you and much love, David!
Yes, that's how we break away from the heard mentality
love this. just what i needed to hear. completely turn it around. thank you.
Yo man, great content, a friend just recommended your channel, and I only have this to say: keep up on what you're doing and thanks for this!
Honestly this makes so much sense to me. I’ve spent a lot of time wishing someone would care. But after I realize that nothing I was going to do was going to make anybody in my family care about me. I just stopped caring about them. I stopped caring about what they think of me I stop trying to please them I stop trying to please anybody that doesn’t care. And I took away from it that if I care that could be one less person that feels like this. I care about my daughter I care about my pets. And I do care about my family (fiancé, mom and dad, extended) but I’m not going to let them dictate my life anymore. They don’t care about how I feel and only care about how they feel. They may ask me to do a lot of things and the only reason I used to do them all the time was because I wanted them to like me. I still care about my parents but I’m not gonna sit there and be pushed around when no one else in the house does nothing. I’m not gonna be insulted and told I’m bad at everything I do when everyone that says that literally makes just as many mistakes as I do. It really does feel like a mindset. But thank you for the reminder that I need to think about myself. Unfortunately when I do this I usually get a lot of backlash and that’s what I’m not good at dealing with. My family is very controlling and always kind of has been. we are currently working on moving out but the pandemic has made things very hard financially. I will say it is hard to think this way when you’re surrounded by it on an hourly basis. I know for a fact when we have our own place that I can easily ignore them because I don’t care what they think about me I only care when it’s brought up every five minutes.
Wow, I just stumbled upon your channel, and after this video I already know, I’m going to be watching a lot more of your videos !!
This is why I subbed to this channel. Keeping it real and to the point. Good to see it
Facts bro let’s go! 🙏💯
In a depressed and very lonely state, this video has plunged me into further depression. Without family or friends who genuinely care about me, I wonder who will arrange my funeral. I'm so sad x
This is exactly what I'm going through I just never really thought of it that way but you're absolutely right thank you
This will save my life.
And I know u probably Don't care about my comment, but Im doing it cuz i Genuinely WANT TO....
Thank you.
Thnak you for making this vídeo!!!
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Awesome message. This is a lesson I learned a long time ago and it's definitely empowering and liberating once you realise how true it is.
And those who think they do care don't actually care, they just think they do.
Those who make a big deal about something are just doing so because they've been programmed to think they have to care about it, but when it all boils down to it, they don't care, they just think they do.
Perfect timing thanks for this
Definitely the best video so far 👌🏻 thank you !!!
This is a mindset that took me years and a lot of therapy just to start to absorb&develop.
I was so concerned with the consequences of putting my heart on my sleeve, and how people would feel about me, that I covered that shit with a full metal jacket and hid from the world. It put me off track from finding a purpose for several years. Isolated with no friends and my fuckin xbox every night.
Dont let that happen to you guys,
This one is really important one.
thanks for the advice ! i hope everything is good now
Knowing no one really cares is very liberating
Ever since i was a child no one even gave me that feeling. I was never the puppy but yearned for that attention and now that I’m older i feel even more alone. I moved to a far away city all my friends stop trying to keep in touch and now i just sit in my car every night drinking and crying hoping the world would end. Everything falls apart around me and all the goals i set ends in failure. I preserved throgh so much trauma my whole life but ended up a mess anyway. Started doin drugs cause those addicts are the only ones that wanna spend time with me.. i cant kms cause i care for my family and don’t wanna hurt them but i can’t wait till this life is over. I don’t see a bright future for me so I give up. I’m an empath at heart and never expected anything in return from anyone but damn not a single soul out there besides my mother genuinely loves me. Don’t suggest therapy or exercise or whatever i tried everything i just really believe i was a mistake and that i wasn’t destined for anything but a tragic life. Love to see people out there struggling with depression overcome it im just not one of them.
Thank you very much for the excellent and useful information! You are absolutely right! Nobody cares!
I actually struggle with this and luckily i see this vdeo and Now i am clear that what should i go for in my life ..bcz its my life so i should care about myself not others ❤️❤️
I tune in to ur channel everyday and day day by day your sub count is growing and it's amazing keep going I love ur vids
I needed this, thank you!
Man you should really read “A New Earth 🌎” by Eckhart Tolle. The whole thing is about recognizing the false ego self and patterns that you live by and breaking them and becoming who you truly are
@Derek it’s a lot like the power of Now but goes even further
One of my favourite books 🙏
@@imdavidhammond same here have it handy always
Fantastic book!!👌👍 There is another book called Letting go by david hawkins. It’s very useful as well too..
Thank you for this!
I hate trying to please people 🙃
Thank you!! I really needed this talk I never got it but I feel like I should have gotten it way before just hope I don't crash and burn
As always lovely video with beastly energy 💪🏽 keep it up my man !
Lol I was crying and this popped up in my feed. I guess it’s not exactly what you are talking about but the title struck me bcs that’s how I feel right now.
I haven’t celebrated my birthday since I was 10 and I was fine with it yeah it sucked when my friends would have parties or when they would stand me up when I tried to celebrate my bday with them I got over it. Last year I almost died and suddenly everyone who never cared started caring promising there grand things like we have to celebrate your survival live life more positive. In 2 days marks my year after the heart transplant and new birth Ig and people celebrate it. My birthday this year was ignored I made plans and then everyone stood me up even my brother but I was fine with it there was my second birthday and they promised. So I made plans I told everyone my dad and brother forgot but I reminded them and surprise sunrise no one fucking cares. I don’t know why I’m even crying this has been the case my whole life I guess I just felt like after they almost lost me and how much we go closer trough the thing it would change idk why I had any expectations It only leads to disappointment.
Stop showing up for them.
Your advice goes hard!!!!!! I love your channel!!!
Thanks man, this helped me 🔥🙌🙏🙏
I like the fact that the video is short and to the point 💪🏼
Thanks big brother 💪🏻
Honestly this is solid advice. Thanks man.
Bro this video helped me a lot , thank u for sharing
This is very true.especially in my life right now.and that makes me soo sad because i love people and i care about people that i love.but they dont care about me at all.In some way this is sad reality.you want to be sucssesful in life but also to have someone who will be happy or sad in some bad situation because of you and who actually cares.this world sucks😣
And yes. This world sucks. We're all here together, and unfortunately everyone's priorities are off. Money is what society worships above all else.
So true and powerful , thanks made me feel a lot better
Love this philosophical video haha! Also I feel like I got more motivation by what you're saying, thank you
Wow! A lot of sensible truth to this video! Thanks man!😊
Came to this video because I’m alone on yet another holiday and all I want to do is fucking sing and express myself in a band. Leaving this video feeling more motivated to do what the hell I want to do, instead of worrying about pleasing others through it.
Thank you! I realized this a month ago! The only people that care are your parents! I'm so glad I have a job now!
The most real video I’ve found to help people. Def has helped me
No one cares what you do because you are disconnected from your community. That liberating feeling is the realization you are no longer beholden to society but you are also alone, and alone is the most vulnerable position.