Learn These Simple Techniques To Calm Your Anxiety
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There's a natural way to calm anxiety that's free and can be used any time of day. In this
compilation I teach about my Daily Practice techniques, which include a specific writing technique
and a simple meditation, used twice a day. Thousands of my students use these techniques to
develop clear thinking, inner calm, and focused energy to make positive changes in their lives. It
can be especially helpful to heal dysregulation from Childhood PTSD. You can take my free Daily
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Your daily practice really really works
I've adopted these techniques not to hide my truth anymore so yes I use this wonderful technique and integrate it in my Journaling since this is my nitch to journal daily this really helps
I meditate as well then I truly feel as I continue healing in my peace of mind and within my heart soul and body as well a better connection to God in better channeling my thoughts daily This really truly healping in self regulation
God bless
I heard that comment about a difficult period. I discovered that difficult periods can be made a lot better by having a better diet, good sleep and some mild abdominal stretching exercises. I cut out excess sugars like juices, sodas, cookies, candy, foods with high fructose corn syrup, ate a couple of fresh oranges a week, lots of green leafy vegetables like spinach and kale, dark green salads, had daily dairy consumption such as milk or plain, unsweetened yogurt with fresh fruit, (not sugary yogurt) and drank more water. I needed natural sources of calcium, vitamin C and magnesium from foods. Pain medications or vitamin supplements taken after the fact did not help. Also, yoga stretches during the month before helps lessen cramps. When I supplemented my vitamins and minerals, in a healthy, preventative way, with a well-rounded diet, this time of month was much better.
"It's just a thought" kind of hit me just right today. I've been dealing with overwhelm from multiple stressors and unable to sleep. I will have to try that daily practice. I write what's on my mind sometimes but not daily and I now understand why it's important to do it daily. Thank you.
Thank you, Anna! Your voice is my Bob Ross lately; I won’t lie.
You are a warrior. Thank you. You are my inspiration.
“Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.” Step 11. I’ve come full circle. To figure out I have these other mental health problems and how do I address them, to hear that it’s using the 12 steps. My sponsor is gonna love this….
Even without trauma issues- this is super helpful for those of us who overthink things.
This really works in keeping up with life as it happens too. Doing this over the years in Al-Anon has made a huge difference for me. I kind of tweak it by asking God to remove what He will of my fear and resentment and replace it with the gifts of His Spirit - faith, patience, love, joy, kindness, peace, self-control.
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Thank you Anna and team. What you guys are doing for traumatized people is revolutionary and life changing. It sure has kept me from winding up in a mental ward because I was on the brink of that before I found Anna's video's and just like herself when she figured out what dysregulation was, I had a lightbulb go off and was like "THAT'S IT!!! that is what I have!" The therapist I used to have, who had 24 years experience said that I have the worst ptsd from childhood she'd seen. I'm a guy and was molested over and over throughout years starting at 9 years old by 3 older boys (not at the same time, none knew about the other) while at the same time my step mother whose own son was one of the molesters and step father resented me for just existing and both were insanely jealous over each of my parents and still are to this day. My stepfather beat me and would intimidate me every chance he had. I have HFA, High Functioning Autism and I was a beautiful child and was told so all the time by people, but I didn't feel that way inside, I never did because I was unwanted by everyone and now I am ugly, ugly, battered and old. I had one relationship that lasted 4 years and it ended 23 years ago and was violent, he would get angry and do things like punch the windshield or ram my car with his, it was my first and last relationship. I've been single and refuse to be hurt again ever since and slowly pushed friends away for fear of being hurt by them. I wound up on oxycontin and then heroin because doctors couldn't figure out where my pain was coming from, come to find out I suffered for 5 years because my gall bladder was dying and they didn't diagnose it until I was on my deathbed and down to 130 pounds, that was over 10 years ago. I've been clean since they removed it and also quit smoking and drinking caffeine. There is so SO much more to my story, there always is isn't there? I'm 48 now and I'm finally trying to exist in life again. . . if I can but things seem so hard. I'm not trying to make myself sound like an angel either because I am not, I have intense anger and rage that builds when I get upset and it's so severe I can't think properly or even function when it happens, it's the dysregulation, sometimes it last for days. Sometimes I rarely get a moment of clarity in a weeks time. Anyway thanks for helping me.
I have hidden things that happened to me for many year' s when I was six . this year I decided to see a therapist and slowly over weeks told my story for the first time , which was hard to do even my therapist became upset at one stage when she heard my story , and then I found Anna who understood so much of what I endured in my life with out understanding what my problem was , and now every thing makes sense for the first time , I was I nice kid too , now I am working on my healing , I wish you luck with yours , wish you well ,
@@bluedolphin4366 Thank you so much, I wish you luck too, we really need it.
Wow !!!! What a story of survival and now you are not just surviving you are conquering. I have a story too so I can relate to you . I'm 62 ....I know that what I'm going to say next might not be appreciated but what has helped me more then anything else is prayer . When I was in my teens and fear at times was so overwhelming that I would become ' floaty' and think that there was no gravity . At times when I would pray I believed with all of my heart that God Almighty could contain and put boundaries on my fear ...then when I was 21 I was raped by 3 men and that just blew me away even more !!! But through prayer and holding onto bible verses I have really come along way and I give total thanks to a creator who cares ...you are still young and you can have some beautiful days ...when I was 12 my science teacher wrote in my year book " when all the outside world seems black , you can always think beautiful thoughts" ...just that alone helped me throughout my years 😇
Oh gosh you've suffered so much & HFA complicates your processing of such terror I imagine.
Thank you for sharing your painful experience with us
I pray for healing one step at a time 🙏
With regards to the narcissist labelling, I fully agree, it is not narcissism it is just being self centered and someone taking it that way. For example, I told a therapist once that I felt I should be in a better place education wise but due to poverty and circumstance that did not happen for me. He then mislabeled me as a narc. It may be narcissism if it wasn't true though.
I've been watching ~listening to your videos today while I'm working from home.. and I just wanted to say that your videos are extremely helpful. I cried a few times but that's ok. Healing I painful at times. 💜💫
Right now this channel is saving my life. I'm so grateful I found it.
Thank you for the kind words. Jack@TeamFairy
Yes, this is perfect for this time of year, and I’m so glad you are still here. ❤ Saved this!!
I apply your advice and it always helps so much. Thank you for helping us.❤☺
Happy to help!-Cara@TeamFairy
Thank you so much for that wonderful leaf metaphor!
Glad you liked it, it's my favorite too!
-Cara@TeamFairy
You have given me SUCH HOPE THANKYOU you are soooo good at explaining things. And always with such sweet genuine encouragement and realness .❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for the support. Jack@TeamFairy
Very timely, Anna! Thank you!!
So glad! Thanks for watching. -Calista@TeamFairy
Anna, thank you soo much for your videos. They've really helped me understand myself and why I do things a certain way and why sometimes I can't even think straight to do simple task. ( disregulation )
I can not afford a good therapist and I've been soo careful of what videos I watch about dealing with mental health. Your videos have truly helped me in a positive way.
🤔...how did you know that I knew intellectually that listening/ reading about how to do it, is not at all the same as doing it... 🖊 📄... thank you for the step by step Anna 🙏🏻💜📄🖊✊🏻... had to eat a lot of cookies and kept putting the pen down and wandering off 🤔🙄😁... so powerful ✊🏻
Thank you Anna. I will try it.
All the best!
-Cara@TeamFairy
Thank you for this one, best Chritmas present ever and one that I can share with others too...absolutely priceless.
So happy to hear that! Glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you!
You bet!
-Cara@TeamFairy
Thank you so much. This is a late Christmas gift.
Happy holidays!
-Cara@TeamFairy
Thank you. I will try.
Please do!
-Cara@TeamFairy
Some of my Great Grand Parents we're slaves in America. Some of those triggers & thought were handed down to generations of Af. Americans. Slaves have small minds & weren't taught how to broaden their horizons! JESUS taught me how to broaden my horizons & go beyond what I learned as a child. Childhood for me wasn't much more than slavery. I had to walk on glass & dare not let it break. I joined the Army to get away from that life & oh boy. I wanted to control my life, but in the military your chain of command controls u! If one of them is uninformed u get in trouble. I thank GOD for Basic training. It taught me survival skills & I had the best D. Sergeants! I've been involved in politics & have received letters from the White House. The 1st time I got a letter from the WH it frightened me so bad! I thought I was being inducted back into the Army. I'm old now! I still have nightmares about being put back into the Army! I stand up for my country. I just don't have a chain of command! Thank GOD!!!
Thank you for your service and God bless you!
@@Bambi12-764 you're welcome! I'm glad I was able to serve this nation!!!
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This is such an excellent video on this topic. I need to start cataloging my favorites for go-to advice when I’m stuck. I’ve never felt so hopeful as I have when I recently found this channel and now membership. I truly thought I was just a weird case of unresolvable, damaged psyche symptoms until I found Anna’s work. The next step is putting it all to practice and I’m finding it takes time to build habits and pull out of the fog. For the daily practice, this video is invaluable. Thank you!
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Thank you so much and thank you for being a member! Here's to your healing!
Julie@TeamFairy
Thank you
You're welcome!-Cara@TeamFairy
Thank you thank you thank you❤😊 you help me so much with this video 😢
Happy to help! thank you for watching.
Jack@TeamFairy
I think it's great advice other than reading it to someone else but reading it out loud while your alone may help just as much and then you are not sharing those deep dark secrets you are speaking about. Never share anything with anyone unless you want it repeated because it very likely will be. It is believed that gossip will go to approximately 6 other people and that those 6 people will then tell another 6 and so on. By sharing you create a responsibility for a person to keep those secrets and that can bring a sense of betrayal and break up a close friendship. Thanks for sharing this. Cheers
💫🩷🎀🤞🏻☄️🌼🙏🏻Thank YOU.. THANK you 🙏🏻
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
I tried as instructed and yeah... definitely felt better and able to drive. Not sure how to keep up the momentum, however. Sometimes brushing teeth is an energy sucker... and living a normal life is hard enough. I'll try when I can. Thank you!
Anna or other people readng this comment, i do need ur help - I am following daily practice since couple of month and im calm since starting up this but yesterday i met my school friends. and one of them bullied me on my weight and few grey hair lines, this is after i told them i'm going thru seleration. She has 0 maturity level, first i ignored it bt on 2nd time i got dysregulated and told her "You guys have lot of insecurities". I called her out by saying "You didnt have to work for money and you have 10 maids to look at your house, you dont have any stress, but i have" After this i didnt enjoy their company and I want to stop hanging out with them because i cannot relate with anything they saying. All of them have kids, husband earns for them, none of them work. I wrote everything in daily practice but it didnt go from my head. I dont know why a strangers opinion is affecting me so much?
One of my mind is saying i need to stop hanging out with them because i dont need such energy around me who doesn't know what real life is but
Other mind says I'm gonna meet people like this . My relatives, cousines are like my friend who bullies and i cannot keep ignoring them.
I'm aware that I need to regulate this but I cannot pretend to be ok with bullies. What i dont understand is - How can I be more calm and not get affected with their remark.
We urge you to try out the Daily Practice, every day, twice a day for a week and see if you don't start feeling a bit of relief.
-Cara@TeamFairy
Sounds like an AA fourth step 😊
It is derived from the 10th and 11th step, but taken outside the 12-Step context in order to help as many people as possible with my remaining years.
Thank-you for this instructional Anna. I am going to start doing this today, however, I really didn’t know how to start it, and whether or not to throw away the pages. I’m suddenly wishful there were some “toilet friendly notebook paper” that I could write upon! 😂🤣🙏 LOL!
~I didnt realize this is what AA calls 'taking inventory' ?!~Of all the times youve referred to it in your videos, this is the first ive heard it called that!~♡~
I think it’s just one way of taking inventory- but I could definitely be mistaken!
Doctor who was right in that time is not the fourth dimension but time is a big ball of time particles
It’s great, I did it today. But I was left with a question. Doesn’t focusing on it daily gets us too much involved in our negative mindset? I mostly understand the utility but don’t know how to reframe the emotions after. Maybe you have a video on this too, I will search.
Please go to the free course, where there's a new and expanded FAQ that answers this and other common questions. But no -- writing what you're already thinking doesn't firm it up. The spirit of this work is to release the negative stuff that's on your mind already.
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you, I will read that.
I was told by my therapist that the most important thing to do to make it releasing rather than focusing on it is to release it into the universe by burning the paper afterwards. I don't know if that might help you but it did me.
(I couldn't really burn it cause I didn't have a place but my friend's dog loves shredding paper so while I was visiting her we watched the dog shred it and then threw the paper away. It worked well and was very cute.)
@@ira_herself9663 writing stuff out is a way to purge the emotions. Often what helps people is to talk it out if they have someone who can just listen because it's like a steam vent having steam released. We're not ruminating by releasing it onto paper or telling someone/venting. We're releasing that emotional buildup/pressure inside. We're releasing the buildup.
@@hiddenechoes , Try crunching it up & hold it under the water faucet, then squish it tighter & toss it in the trash~This makes it much harder to read than a shredder!~
Anna, I just started the Daily Practice Today … do all of our resentments have to be labeled as a fear? i.e. I deeply resent someone who has intentionality caused grief in my family - how do I make that a fear?
"I am resentful at (name) because I have fear they intentionally caused grief in my family. (there are likely also some more fears under that that give a charge to it all for you). You are resentful because you have fear.
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you Anna.
Also … I really enjoyed the meditation at the end - I felt so relaxed and in a good place at the end of it. Thank you Anna, I am looking forward to feeling less anxious and less angry 🙏🏼
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I started using this technique 5 days ago. The first couple of days I really felt better but now I’m in a heightened state of anxiety all day long. I’m feeling really discouraged.
Come to the free Daily Practice calls so you can ask about that. Or go to the free course FAQs and check out the video titled "What to do if it makes you feel worse"
Thank you❤
I followed your advice and I now know I’ve been digging. Ugh. Feeling better already. Just identifying the problem has been a relief! I signed up for the next call and look forward to learning more. Thank you so much for you kindness and compassion.
@@babymej1on those days were anxiety seems impossible to handle I like to do the practice but after finishing I put ice cubes or an ice bag on my chest for 15 minutes , this stimulates the vagus nerve and releases anxiety immediately i recommend that if u haven’t tried ❤
Hi Anna what happens when you can’t think of anything? There’s times when my mind goes completely blank. Especially when I’m depressed.
Help!
Daily Practice is a good tool to help sort out things like this. Give it a try if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Do you guys practice alchemy on paper because I do practice alchemy on paper
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Can I do this if I use speech input? I can't write very well.
If you can't write because of a disability and/or it causes pain, please type and if that isn't possible, just say it aloud using the speech input and watch the words form. If you can write but just don't like it because of handwriting/spelling/dyslexia etc., don't worry about that at all and just get it down on the page. If the words or letters are misspelled or backwards, it doesn't matter at all :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy That's so thoughtful and helpful, thank you!
Missed the zoom call today :(
Next time :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
If I am already agitated I find the Daily Practice can make it worse. I can't meditate for shit either. Other times it is helpful.
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Can we be resentful of ourselves? I resent myself because I fear ____. ???
YES! This is how we handle feelings of shame, guilt, regret. Have you seen the new upgraded Daily Practice course yet? There is a much expanded FAQ section.
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you so much. I’ve listened to this video twice- I found it to be an especially good one! I like how you put the “montages” together. The recent limerence one also got me the same way. I will check out the course and just wanted to say thank you very much!
"I have fear" makes no grammatical sense to me. Why not write "I'm afraid of....."?
Or just “I fear”
Because this isn't limited to what we are afraid of, we are taking perceptions and negative thoughts and dumping them. We aren't worried about grammar in this case :)
-Cara@TeamFairy
I like Emma but she didn't answer your question about how to deal with the anxiety you felt when your son was off swimming which is a legitimate anxiety that comes from the real thought that he may drown or could have been taken. My answer would be to tell your son to be more aware that someone else is being affected by his actions and try not to do that again. Things like not swimming alone are very good advice.
Emma also went to the extremes when giving examples which wasn't necessary with regards to this discussion. The tiny dog as oppose to a pitbull and the concentration camps as opposed to something like being sent to your room for hours because Mom got angry. Her examples are more in line with actual PTSD and not CPTSD. The major difference being that one is exposure to extreme fear and the other is not.
I'd also say the brain is more like clay or plasticine and not plastic. I also don't buy into the idea that this is passed on genetically unlike something such as alcohol fetal syndrome or some sort of damage that may have been done to the parents chemical balance due to their own longterm abuse which seems very plausible. Interesting discussion all the same but not very helpful with regards to dealing with the ongoing feeling of anxiety that burden our brains so often. Your writing techniques are about the best advice I've come across though. So I will give that a try when it happens to me again. Cheers
I can deal with only one page when I write I am that young
I am at the age of thirty three years old is that considered young or what?
Maybe I can write up to three different pages about my pain
~My spider fear/phobia does not lessen by more exposure to them, it gets worse!~By the end of the summer, after having so many spider encounters, i get really jumpy from seeing so many of them all the time!~
I have the same phobia, I started out by just taking the little teeny tiny ones that I find or that I see, getting them to crawl onto a flyswatter and take them out side *instead* of squashing them with it. So my fear really truly has lessoned some. I will admit though that if a bigger one sneaks up on me I still scream, lol but at least I'm making progress! (I also use a great insect home spray to lower the chances of an encounter.) But what really helped a lot to was that I have security camera's and I watched one crawl across it, it gave me the he bee gee bees but then I forced myself to just be curious at what it was doing, I watched it build a web and it was beautiful, it took that poor little spider two long hours to finish her web then the next day it rained and tore her web down after all her hard work, really made me feel bad for the poor thing. They actually help us by removing a lot of the flying buzzing insects that annoy us every day. You don't have to stare at them or have one as a pet but it helps that if and when you come across one you know that it's not trying to hurt you and just wants to find a home. I can't tell you how to stop your phobia but what helped me, I still have it, just not near as bad. Good luck!
@@LookUpTheKalergiPlanWhitePeeps , I only care about them if theyre in my space, and could get too close to me~A phobia is defined as 'an unreasonable fear', so the fact that they 'wont hurt me' doesnt make a difference, unfortunately!~
I discovered that one of the reasons spiders come out in our houses is because they are looking for water. The next time you see one, run your fingers under the faucet then gently sprinkle the water on the wall where they are attached, without overwhelming them with too much water of course. The spider will go over to the water droplets and drink. Watching them being preoccupied with drinking water may help you see that they are vulnerable creatures. After they are refreshed, they usually go back into hiding in the corners so they can take care of the tiny bugs in your house.
@@christinelitvak6427 , Actually, they are more attracted to the light inside, than looking for water, at least mine are~Ive found during phases in the summer when i go to bed right after dark, i have less spiders~I dont know how big the spiders you have are, but mine are pretty big, or at least its the big ones that bother me, so im not looking to attract them!~
Hi Anna what do you do if you feel stuck in writing the fears and resentments? Sometimes my mind is completely blank and nothing comes to mind. Help!