NRM How To Live More Honestly In The World
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- A bit of theology. A tad of philosophy. And a fork. Put them all together, and you get one of the ways I have learned to live more honestly with myself and others.
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So many people need to hear this type of wisdom, keep bringing it out. With all the social media garbage out now, we have lost apart of this type of wisdom from our parents and grand parents.
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I often say to myself and others in my family (who tend to think everything is catastrophic), take time to gather more information. There is no benefit to making a decision now based on incomplete facts.
Excellent advice!
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As a firm believer of the old adage “Knowledge is intended to be shared, for if it is not shared, it serves no purpose”. Thank you for sharing!
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Thank you! Years ago an older man told my son to tell me that I was Beautiful and to tell me that every day. Then he turned to my son and said. Why would I ask you to do that? He said so my mom would think she was beautiful. He said no so that you would think she was beautiful. Then he said the most profound words i've ever heard. That which we speak goes into our hearts and becomes truth. I think I just heard that from you in a different way. Now you have to understand I have a birthmark on my face. I know it was a gift from god so I don't worry about it. But I thought about this often and realize our words are powerful. I wondered how people could believe their own lies. I soon came to realize that the more they repeated their lives, the more they thought they were true. Very interesting thoughts to think about.
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That was a very great way to explain how the brain works - our reality is the stories we tell ourselves about our lives. This IS ALSO TRUE for our memories, which are way more subjective than we would like to believe. When I talk about the past with my five kids, sometimes it is as if they grew up in completely different households LOL. Great little video today - Thanks!
You just answered a question I have had for years. That is, why are we instructed to give thanks in all situations! I never thought of the answer from this perspective -- that of filling the void with love for God rather than empty explanations for "why did such and such happen?". I am a retired lay leader and lay preacher in the United Methodist Church and really enjoy your videos.
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This was one of the best lectures I've heard in a very long time. If I could give it ten thumbs up, I would. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Wow, thank you!
NRM thank you for explaining this phenomenon so well. My Mother brought me up to always look for the good in others, and to believe the best. With that being said, I never jump to conclusions and I could never understand how people did. Again ty because your explanation makes complete sense. People have called me gullible and an innocent...I wonder if it's because I never accepted the normal way of society. Look for the good in life, just as a child does, and trust God❤
So funny..years (40+ years ago) I was divorcing my husband and went to therapy. My therapist would always tell me “say the words” because our thoughts are running wild and words put my reality out there. My reality. It changed my life.
Now if I’m in a moment of disagreements, I say “The story I am telling myself about this is…..”. Not “I think” or “I feel”. It really helps to neutralize the subject. Plus I find myself pulling back on my knee jerk reaction when I hear silliness.. I repeat the story. Usually I need more information before I judge.
So I totally agree with your subject. Slow down❤️
This is my fourth video of the day. Just subscribed today and I'm doing a mini-binge lol
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This was so heartening that I went from "arms-length" to "subscribe." Even when the world goes WEIRD...WONDERFUL also gets to have it's say, for those who are looking!! Thank you for this❤
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GENIUS!!!! Thank you for reminding us how precious the gift of discernment is and how we should never blindly accept the "narrative". You're GREAT!
This started out with the story I tell myself about not paying attention to people talking about religion and it ended up bringing tears to my eyes. Thank you for that.
Your reply really moved my heart in a BIG way❤️
Wise words. You probably have a book in you of stories from your days helping high school students.
Hi, Tim. I’m so glad I watched your video today, and deeply appreciate what you said. Many, many thanks for sharing sharing this. May God continue to bless you richly! 🙏
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Excellent presentation and food for thought! We need more critical thinkers in this world.
Excellent job conveying a complex concept in a very understandable way. My guess is most everyone can think of times when “imaginary”reality caused harm and overshadowed the truth and facts of the actual situation.
Perhaps I should pause and question myself more before jumping to a conclusion? Thank you for this brief and thought provoking video.
Hi Tim, there is so much to learn. Schools no matter how good or bad, and Society as a whole cannot teach us everything we needed to learn as we were growing up and as we get older that we need teachers like you to continue to teach us life lessons. Thank you Tim. Please add this segment to your videos. Very much appreciated.
I am guilty of this though I hate to admit it. You have made me think, again! My mom used to say, “hope for the best, plan for the worst”.
She also said, “Don’t believe anything you hear and only half of what you see.” Being insecure has a lot to do with how you process things.
If we were all truthful, we ,at some point, are all guilty of this.
You made a video I really needed to hear at this time in my life. THANK YOU!!!
So so true!, we need to get more information instead of spiraling into the negative narrative
Small world! Graduated from Lakenheath HS way back in 67. Love your channel content!
Wow!!! That was the most profound lesson I've learned. You are a very good teacher. Too bad the kids who did not care less did not appreciate you, but I'm sure as they get older and hopefully wiser, they would know they missed their chance. Thank you for that profound lesson. The Lord taught me that a long time ago but was not able to understand fully and put it in a way you so beautifully explained it.
Great video Tim ! Such a great message and wise teaching. This is a lesson we can all learn in this world.
Powerful message. Thank you for the video. Blessings to you.
Spot on Tim. I've just been noticing more since retirement that my thoughts were often initially skewed when forming opinions. I believe that there's so much noise out there that it can overwhelm even the calmest of people. Thankfully I most often took the time to listen to all sides before rendering my own opinion. There are times however where I've had to remind myself not to be easily swayed into negativism that surrounds us. It does eleviate the burdensome weight. We must realize for ourselves not to judge the book by its cover. Thanks for your video. Enjoy your day.
I like: "If you change the ways you look at things, the things you look at change."
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This is so good. I once attended a functional neurology seminar (yes I’m a nerd). It talked about how our brains are wired to always complete the picture. This is true physiologically as well as mentally.
A woman thought she was going crazy after a head injury. She told her doctor, when someone walks in the room I see the body but the head is Mickey Mouse. He explained, you have suffered an injury to your visual cortex. Now you have a central blind spot. Your brain is reaching into your visual memory to complete a picture. It just happened to retrieve Mickey.
I think this part of us is being made in the image of God, to always achieve completion. Hebrews describes Jesus as the author and finisher of our faith. We are also told that “He then began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it.
It is good to mindful of our inherent sinful nature will go toward the negative in what was meant to be a perfect trait in us.
Thank you for this wonderful insight.
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Wow! What an incredible story!
Good advice, Tim....as I've gotten older, I tell myself to take a breath, take a minute, slow down and think about other possibilities of what might be happening or said.
Thanks much for sharing. It made me realize that I have been veering off into negativity more frequently than I would like. My family has been hurt by gossip and this is a reminder to be much more thoughtful of what comes out of my mouth & to "think about my thinking".
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Great video! I was in a support group years ago where a dear friend said, “that’s just a story that your mind made up.” I also worked with a man who said, “In the absence of anything (meaning someone is not responding, etc), my mind goes to a very negative place.” There is so much truth in this!
Thank you bc this is very true. The absence of light leaves darkness so please keep letting your light shine.✨
Both of those are great!
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Thanks for this reminder. A couple years ago I heard Brene Brown say something similar - the story I'm telling myself is - and it tends to take the teeth out of the sense... thought provoking.
I see that everyday. I do that everyday. It is human nature. Thank you for your concise explanation!
This is sooo POWERFUL!
I listened twice, first time in awe (so profound); second listen was to then take it in and plan to use it going forward.
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This needs to go viral to our high school family members.
Well I say many people have gained from your retirement. Thank you for sharing this today and of course decluttering 😊
Great words of wisdom, which I will apply to my life and self. Thank you!
I hate news stories like that! And it happens way.too.often! Good, thoughtful video. Thank you!
…….Holy Cow!!!!!! That was eye-opening👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thoroughly enjoyed your storytelling!!
Thank you for the advice first time I hear it very well explained for beginners.
Great food for thought!
A startling and insightful perspective with which to begin viewing life. The root cause of so many of our problems boiled down to clarity. TY!
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Your life reflects your thoughts.
Your insight here is appreciated, and I’ll be thinking about it for some time. I’ve not thought of things this way and it will not only help me, but perhaps help me to understand others with seemingly “preconceived notions” (my quotes, not yours) about so many things. Truly interesting and I hope this video travels far and wide with its simple yet profound lesson. Thank you for sharing.
Powerful! Thank you
A beautiful commentary, Tim. Simple, elegant, and powerful. Please keep up the great work. I so appreciate your inspiration.
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Thanks again for your thoughts and experiences and learnings. I found this post extremely helpful.
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Great thoughts, thank you. As it is true some tend to assume the worst in an observed situation, I have also noticed that half the times I assume the positive, giving benefit of a doubt, when observing others and situations, and then it turns out i was fooling myself, facts later showed things to be negative. So now my thinking is to try and stay neutral, neither condemning nor supporting, until I have enough facts.
How true - I’ve experienced that several times. Thanks for relating that - never assume before you have the facts. Have a good day.😊
Thank you for your perspective. I am dealing day in and day out with this issue as a foster parent of a very traumatized child and I can honestly say that this video is so much of what is needed. More than a comment, I can write an entire book of how true I find this concept. Thank you
You have given me much to think about. I thank you for that. I will keep tuning in.
NO, dont stop, I want to hear more! or is that you "leaving them wanting more"? Good job. good topic. You explain very well, that must be the teacher in you. Thanks much.
Tim, thank you for this. God bless you friend.
I really love that I found your channel! I’ve enjoyed each video I’ve been able to watch. I’m a new creator and your channel is extremely encouraging. YOU were meant for this.
Thank you Tim for your honesty in letting us see yet another side of the "real" man you are. Another reason I enjoy your videos and have a smile on my face as I 'click' on the arrow to watch your latest. You never disappoint. May God bless your insights.
I appreciate that!
I wish there was a love button for this video. This message was exactly what I needed to hear this morning. I am so glad I found your channel. I lost my father earlier this year and something about your voice and the way you present yourself comforts me in the same way his did.
This is sooo true and eye opening....thank you
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Lovely. Thank you.
Good words. Thank you.
Thank you!
Thank you for this.
Interesting video, Tim! Also, nice background!
A Good Philosophy To LIVE By.👍🏻
Superb and thank you.
Look at those numbers! Thanks for your insight.
Excellent explanation and advice! Thank You for sharing.
Tim, you are a GREAT story teller, changing the world one story at a time. Still learning. Still teaching. GJBrownDO 11/28/1012 06:42 Central
Thank you!
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Wow Tim! Thank you for sharing this. To soak this in I'll have to watch it again.
Amen! Great video ❤
Your Being attracts your Life. Thank you Tim.
Very thought provoking.
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Thank you for your insight. It is thought provoking and something I need to learn to recognize more in my daily life.
So needed right now. Thank you.
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Wow! You nailed it!
I thought you did a really great job of explaining this idea. You are clearly a great teacher:)
Brilliant video! Learning this and doing it could be seriously life changing. I’m going to give it my best shot! Thank you for the calm way you put your thoughts out there.
Thank you for sharing these thoughts
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Well worth watching! Thanks... PS - Think your channel will be a huge success!
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Thank you for sharing this nugget of wisdom. We all need to be reminded of how we can make a difference- good or bad- with our words. Thank you. 😊
Most excellent. I find myself saying "I wonder what the rest of the story is?" more and more these days.
You're giving good advice here. I'll try applying it closer to home more as well.
I have always tried to learn new things, and today my lesson came from you! Thank you for your insight. It's something we all need to hear!
Great video!! Hope to see more of this type/category in the future.
May God bless you along the path of your future adventures 🙏
Crikey I wasn’t expecting this tonight. I’m going to have to write it down, I’m calling it ‘Don’t be a Billy Bob’. Your students were sure lucky to have you for their teacher is all I can say. Looking forward to your next video. 😁
This is a powerful message! A person’s perspective IS his/her reality. I will be rewatching this to truly understand and wrap my head around this concept. 😊
Great lesson Teach.
Thank you, Tim, for sharing this powerful message. As a believer, I ask myself what is the truth? Are these thoughts
assumptions? And what is the Truth in scripture? Are my thoughts lined up? Usually not, when my mind is in a whirl. But I try hard to nip them in the bud. A daily discipline! I love the statement you suggested, “ The story I’ve made up is this.” I will practice this. Out loud!
Good attitude for us to cultivate! Well explained ☺️
Thanks for sharing!
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"Change your thoughts and you change your world" a little quote from Norman Vincent Peal that I keep at my desk.
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Great advice to help declutter the mind. My mom has always told us: What could or would happen if…… thoughts to ponder! Thanks!
Right on! Thx for the reminder! I have a sign in my off that says ‘It’s all in your head’ we do tend to fill in the void!
Awesome ! This is one of my favorites. I relate to it in my own way as a fan of great illusionist such as Houdini . I'm always saying it's not.. "what you see" , but.. "what we are not seeing" that has the keys and answers we wish to know or learn. The tricky part is stopping yourself from quickly jumping to a conclusion. Which just like you said is nearly always negative and usually wrong. But rather pause, wait, look deeper, and learn. Set you feeling down like a cup of coffee onto the table. Give them to the one who created you and ask for wisdom. If you seek you will find. This helped me tremendously with my emotions and thoughts once I figured out the other way was not working and I needed to try a new way of thinking. Life is to short to be angry and mad. Keep moving forward and toward the light of the one who made you.
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Such a great perspective on life. We really do jump to the negative in our minds first. Awesome video and thank you.
You just keep cranking out good content. Thank you for sharing! A good reminder!
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Really, really good perspective. I think I need my teens to listen to your explanation. Might help with all the drama that the experience on a daily basis with peers.
Well said. I needed to hear this today and probably need to have it on repeat for days to come as I work to change the narrative I’ve led myself to believe the last year or so. Pulling weeds out of my perspective isn’t easy for me but must be done. I’d like to get back to more roses and no bitter weed and your words here will help me get there.
Welcome to the channel, Donna! :)