I agree with you. I have had hairdressers compliment me and ask who is doing my hair. With them I am honest. Total strangers I usually just say thank you. Women who are obviously struggling with their hair I will tell them the truth. Wearing a wig is like wearing jewelry or any other accessory. Look around and you will start noticing how many (of all ages) are wearing everything from full wigs to clip on hair extensions. If it looks good and you are being complimented, take the compliment. We don't need to explain all of the details.
@@wendyamsterdam8482 Maybe hairdresses feel threatened by a wig. Since I discovered the fever of wearing wigs I kicked the hairdresser to the curve, saved $ 135.00 every 3 months and I have instant hair, styled and shade of my choice in only reach to a box. Save gas, time and tips to hairdressers that most of the time have attitudes or cancel your appointment when they feel like it, oh and gift card's for their Xmas and they also demanded tray of homemade cookies. No thanks.
@@ARZU10837 I’m in the EU and here the only people that wear wigs are those with alopecia (or going through chemo) I think there is less pressure to have the ‘perfect hair’ . But I do understand that especially when you go very blonde with long bleaching sessions a wig is cheaper and easier to maintain
How did we get to this point where people can get all into your hair business? My experience is that they will ask in mixed company. Awkward! I tell when it's needed, like women actually having hair loss. Others act interested but never take your advise. Don't get me wrong I still love even nosy people.
Granny was right - sometimes you just say “thank you”. 😄 I too sometimes tell people I’m wearing a wig and sometimes I don’t. I had an awkward moment that I couldn’t stop from happening. I was on a cruise (a small ship - only 400 people). I wore multiple different wigs on the cruise. A lady stopped me and asked how I had changed my hair so much and I said I wore wigs. The next time she saw me she asked me why I wore them? Did I have a disease? OMG, was it CANCER!?!? My husband piped in, “No she likes to change her hair and considers wigs an accessory”. I couldn’t believe he said it! My husband is so quiet, it was a total shock. Boy howdy, do I love him!
I tell people I wear wigs. I told a guy who asked me out and he stopped talking to me completely. Never spoke to me again. Even to call off the date. But I'm glad I told him earlier, I didn't have to deal with him for too long. The other situation I had is I told a work colleague I wear a wig and she hold me and said "I'm so sorry...". But usually people are very nice and compliment you after you say it.
I usually don't tell people I'm wearing a wig. But I don't understand why some people like family will make a big deal about it bc today women where fake eyelashes & nails & make-up. Wigs can take years off so it's my secret!!🙃 BTW, that wig looks fabulous on you & real!😉
It really does depend on the situation, like you said. I'm a 63 year old widow, and my bio hair was pretty good up until my husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and given a death sentence. I was a wreck, worried out of my mind, and my hair began to grow in very strangely...it used to be stick straight, but all of a sudden it grew in kinky, curly, but not a pretty curly, just strange and ugly. Luckily, I've worn wigs for many years, so I could hide the horror that is my hair. Anyway, when someone compliments my hair I usually say thanks and that's the end of it. If I get asked anything further, I say it's a wig, with a big smile, because if it doesn't bother me, it's not likely to bother them. My attitude is...I don't give a flyin' fig what anyone thinks or says about me. Period. Yep, I wear wigs..so what? I wear shoes, too...and? Most people are more concerned with themselves, anyway, so their interest in you is temporary at best. I'm told I look great for my age, and I attribute it to the beautiful hair that I wear...and genetics, but mostly it's the hair. Lol But, like you said, you should try to be prepared when someone says, Gosh, your hair is so pretty...
I’m usually honest with people. I was at my pharmacy and the woman waiting on me asked if I just got my hair done. I told her I was wearing a wig and she was shocked and said how nice it looked on me. Then I got to thinking, do I look like one of those blue haired women from my childhood. But I decided it was a compliment and let it go. I’m 71 and have been wearing wigs for over 10 years and even close relatives didn’t know I wore them. If it weren’t for wigs I would probably be a recluse. Thanks, Denise for getting the conversation going about this. I so appreciate you!
In my opinion it is no one's business whether I wear a wig or not . If people ask about what products I use, I tell them it varies because, it does! When asked who does my hair I say I do.. because I do whether my thin bio or a wig. Since I am a reserved person, personal questions are something I will not answer for anyone I do not know well. I am loving your videos!
I love that you have an approach that works for you! You are right, it really is no one's business and for those struggling with what to do, this is a great option!
I was in line at the grocery store and the checker complimented me on my hair. I said thank you, and then she started asking me questions about it, like did I just get it done, did I flat iron it, etc. There were a bunch of people behind me waiting to check out so I did not feel comfortable saying I wore a wig. It was awkward.
I just wore a wig for the first time this week to work. I’ve told everyone that’s complimented me. I just feel better addressing it. As everyone knows me and how thick and curly my hair was two months ago. A stranger, I say thank you and move along. This has been so hard but I am thankful to have found your channel. You have been a blessing to me. Also. Editing to say, I live in a small town. Most people have known me for years so I just don’t want to try to pretend I’m not going through something, word gets around. Lol but I can understand not telling everyone you meet for sure! It is MY HAIR! I paid for it! 😊
I love your dedication to helping wig wearers. If only this level of thorough help was around ten years ago. A small handful of women, all wonderful, did their best, but none, dare I say it, as full throated as you. Thank you from everyone you assist. You are healing so many!
I have been wearing wigs for 42 years due to PCOS. In all that time only one person came right out and asked me if I had a wig on. Another lady at church told me that I had beautiful hair. I said, "oh thank you" with a big smile. It is no one's business. I do not feel obligated to share. As for the one person who asked me I said, " do you think that is rude"? She felt bad. I feel if you think someone is wearing a wig, just compliment them and let it go. Sorry, but that is how I deal with it.
Perfect advice! It is situational and even depends on how well you know the person. Also, if someone makes a negative comment or tries to “out” you, you can reasonably be certain that that person is not your friend..
You brought up many good points, Denise. The one I hadn't thought of was potentially making the other person uncomfortable by responding "it's a wig." You're right; some people could feel mortified that they might have pressured a wig-wearer (and potentially even a cancer patient, in the mainstream consciousness) to "out" herself. You asked what we respond to questions or compliments, and that brought up some self-reflection and this long answer: I compartmentalize my wig-wearing to begin with, and that automatically shapes what sorts of answers I give. But even given that...interestingly, now that you made me think about it, I realize I *don't* reveal it's a wig, more often than not, no matter which part of my wig life. At work, I strictly wear wigs that are feasible for what my bio hair could stretch itself to do in its present state. I never deviate more than one level in color, and the length remains within 5 inches of what my biohair underneath the wig cap would be. Plus, whatever style my wig at work is, is something my present biohair could technically (given styling tools like flat irons and curling irons), though unsatisfactorily, approximate i.e. at a much thinner/thinning, less glamorous, and less professionally styled level. So, when people I see every day at work and have an ongoing relationship with ask about my hair style, I answer with what steps I could have taken (- and have done in the past, especially when I had a bit more hair on top - ) to achieve that style with my biohair. **For me/my personal goals**, the workplace is not a platform where I want to revel in my creativity and appearance. As you know, perceived (key word) over-attention to appearance is something society can hold against women in many workplace settings. And, I also think any frequent change of appearance, whether for a man or a woman, can be distracting, but I understand if others have workplace cultures where that's not the case. Weekends are when I break out every bright color and any darn texture or style I feel like! The compliments I get are from strangers i.e. people in the street or in shops, cashiers at the grocery store, etc. But I find myself just saying "Thank you so much!" and complimenting them back. Now that I think about it, the reason I don't reveal it's a wig because I feel what they're really complimenting is the aesthetic or maybe even the taste or style they feel I have. They're not actually that bothered about whether the bright purple straight bob or teal beachy wave mane is growing from the follicles in my scalp (and maybe they even assume it's a wig, given the vividness or stylization )--at least, that's what I intuit. The only time I can see myself saying "It's a wig" is if I'm speaking to someone (woman or man) I have reason to believe is from a wig-wearing cultural background or line of work, OR if it's a woman who visibly has hair loss, thin hair, etc. (like I do) and I'd want her to see how good wigs can look!
Four Ducks+ I really appreciated your comment. I feel like I NEVER want to broach the subject with my other sisters who I can see are experiencing the beginning stages of HL. Why? Because my reaction to the whole thing has been pretty much manic depression and I'm afraid if they downplay the seriousness of it , I will completely LOSE IT!!!
@@cristinadriviera8144 thank you for the reply! I completely understand your hesitance in this area. You know yourself and your emotional stimuli well, and that self-awareness is a great gift. The comments on this video are very helpful precisely because they showcase different women's differing/varied strategies for talking (or not talking) about their wigs with outsiders who don't otherwise know it's a wig. I hope everyone watching this video and reading the comments understands that, as with many things in life, there's no one ideal strategy that fits all wig-wearers. But hopefully the variety of ideas here will give food for thought!
I almost always freely admit to wearing a wig. It has led to amazing conversations with women who are astounded by how great my fake hair is and also the fact that they can have great hair too!
I really feel wigs are fashion statements without sacrificing your hair to so many chemicals. And we over flow with confidence there's no dent made on positive or negative conversations. I often wonder when people ask what shade is my hair color or who does my hair, I respond my shade is selected by me and my hairdresser comes in a box.
I really feel wigs are fashion statements without sacrificing your hair to so many chemicals. And we over flow with confidence there's no dent made on positive or negative conversations. I often wonder when people ask what shade is my hair color or who does my hair, I respond my shade is selected by me and my hairdresser comes in a box.
OMG- Denise, you look great in EVERY wig and every color I have ever seen you in (and I've watched LOTS of your videso) but this one, HANDS DOWN is THE best on you!
depends on my mood. whenever i tell them its a wig, they always wanna know where i go to get them. they want the website info so they can go look 4themselves. ! im not uptight about it so the ppl i talk to are usually not uptight about it either. its only fake hair afterall, not sumthing super duper monumentally deep or important, in the big scheme of things in life. 🤗
I had a bad experience a year ago. We were camping and got invited to join a bunch of folks we didnt know around a fire. Not long after a women seven people away hollered at me " you have cancer or something." I was so embarassed. I had on a scarf n wig band with no hair. I said nothing so two more chimed in asking why I wear the scarf. My wonderful husband chimed in and said I like it when she wears a scarf. Shortly after we left. Its taken me a year to finally get a wig. Before that Id been ready... She maybe was just rude, not thinking or thought it was an okay question in front of 18 or so strangers. Ill never forget it. I have extremely thin hair with bald spots. Maybe Thyroid or Alopecia.
Yes!! Be prepared with an answer, because people WILL ask, or comment. The first time admitting it’s a wig is both a moment of huge anxiety, and incredibly freeing. I thank them, say it’s a wig, assure them I’m not sick, and say I have a form of alopecia. That tends to answer most of their questions and seems to remove any awkwardness. I’ve heard from one other person who was ridiculed for wearing wigs, by a group of ‘mean girls’ which horrified me, but I realised that I should have a retort ready for that one too. My experience so far has only been positive, so I’ve never had to use it! Keep it polite but also very cutting! Something like “How would your mother feel if she could hear what you just said?” My heart broke for the woman who was treated badly 😞
I am so glad I found you. Such a genuine heart. I've been wondering about this. I've worn my "hair" out in public about a handful of times. To work, I can wear a ball cap and a ponytail. I just ordered a ponytail wig today!! Very excited. Anyway, I have felt that I should be honest. That's how I've always lived. Much love to you, Denise.
I agree that it's so layered. I work in a public facing job. My co-workers know I wear a wig but I don't usually share it with the clients. I have told my close friends that I wear wigs and why and most didn't even realize I was wearing a wig. If someone excessively talks about my hair I get really uncomfortable and tell them it's a wig. As I have gotten more confident about my wig wearing and my hair loss I have been more open about my wig wearing but I don't think every stranger that compliments my hair needs to know it's s wig. When I first started wearing wigs I knew that there could be awkwardness if people figured it out but I also knew that even with the awkward moments and imperfect wigs it still felt better wearing a wig than not and that is what keeps me strong.
Hi I tell anyone who comments and have never felt awkward doing so. In fact a hairdresser committed about the color. I told her it was a wig and she asked to feel it and was amazed. Also two women have since ordered wigs!
My oncology nurse told me that I’d be surprised how many women refuse chemo bc they’re afraid to loose their hair. For that reason, I err on the side of telling. I figure the person will tuck the info away and recall it one day when they or someone they love is faced with the choice to do chemo or keep their hair. Hopefully they will remember that there is life after hair loss, and that hair loss is worth it to get medical care you need.
I agree Denise. Over the summer I ran into an old friend of mine who was diagnosed with cancer over 30 years ago. I never knew about wigs back then and just assumed that what I saw was her own hair since I never saw her bald. We stood there chatting at the store, and she complimented my hair. I had a split second to decide how to respond: well, I said, remember when I was hospitalized last year? my hair fell out so this is a wig! I am so glad I told her the truth. Most likely she already figured that it was a wig, but I actually see her more often now, because we run in the same Christian circles. What you described Denise sounds so familiar to me. To the lady in line at the check out, I just say thank you when they compliment my hair😄 God bless you Diane❤
I have been wearing Jon Renau smart lace wigs for over ten years. I tell everyone that I have extensions in my hair. Not one single person including my family, my best friend, or men I date know that I wear a wig. Whenever someone remarks about my hair, which is often, I tell them they’re extensions. I get a million questions about the extensions and I answer them in great detail. I used to have extensions so I know all about them.
I've been wearing wigs, hairpieces, helper-hair, etc., for the last twenty years. At this point, if someone compliments my hair, 98% of the time, I will just say "thank you." When people ask me if my red hair is natural, I tell them I dye my hair, especially the roots, because of the grey coming in, which is true, as I dye my bio hair. If they start asking all sorts of questions like who does my hair, on and on, I usually redirect the question. Overall, it's my business, I don't want to have to go into the whole spiel. If the person asking has challenging hair, I will generally tell them it's a wig or hairpiece. I'm lucky to live in a city where probably 30-40% of the female population wears hair in one form or another.
Great advice!! I sometimes say it's a wig and sometimes I don't. It usually depends on how much time I want to spend talking about my hair. If I say it's a wig everyone will go on and on about it. Asking questions and such. I'm sure the same happens to you. I will usually always say it's a wig if the person who says something has thin hair. I just think I can do them a service by telling them. I also will tell people that I see every couple weeks and they mention I got a haircut or letting it grow etc...I just feel more comfortable telling them because I do wear different styles and colors. I don't think I've ever had someone be uncomfortable like you said the one lady was. And oh my gosh I LOVE this wig on you!! I have seen her on others and always think it's pretty but it's usually always a blonde. This color is absolutely gorgeous on you! It reminds me of Rosewood which I have on Tabu. I will be watching for your updates because depending on how she holds up I may be getting this one!
If someone I don’t know compliments my hair I just say thank you. If they ask me follow up questions I’ll tell them it’s my hair helper. Then I think they assume it’s extensions. People that I know, know I wear wigs. It took awhile to build the confidence but now I’m a big proponent. And my friends are always excited to see what I show up in 😂.
That color is stunning on you. I only tell family. My brother likes to announce it loudly at family gatherings. Workplace...well. They can be cruel so thats a no.
Denise like people at church yes the love my hair and I tell them thank you. Then tell them its a wig I feel comfortable plus I wear different colors and different styles. Like you if you see someone you never would see again. Just say thank you and that's it
I will always tell people the truth, because it's easier than lying. If you say it's a wig, most people will just compliment you on how good it looks and you won't get the 20 questions,as opposed, to lying and now they want to know where you get it cut,and colored , and anything else they can think of asking!
I always tell them it's a wig, I have nothing to hide and it usually starts a conversation . I've even given a few ladies the name of what I'm wearing. Sometimes I get a sad look from the person asking, I'm assuming they automatically think I'm a cancer survivor which I am not and very thankful of that, I do tell them the reason I wear wigs however.
Denise, everything you said was so true! I had to think long and hard as to whether I tell my clients I wear wigs. I am a mental health counselor. I decided to only tell those clients who have lost their hair/are going to lose their hair, etc. that I'm a wig wearer. Otherwise, I say nothing, because that makes the focus me. In my personal life, I am much more open about wig-wearing. It feels good to be a resource, or just to educate my friends and family about hair loss and wig wearing. I've had some pretty insensitive things said to me, but I know they come from a place of ignorance. If I can help that, I want to take that on! Thanks so much for sharing this. It's so helpful.
I agree it is good to be prepared and it is nice to get it in the open if a woman is comfortable talking about it...However...I dont think a woman is obligated to tell on herself. Some people feel that is an open door to ask very personal questions, and if the wig wearer is a private woman, it is very uncomfortable and can even be traumatic. I personally dont feel like I need to discuss my hairloss journey with strangers. It is a sad part of my life.
You are absolutely right and I may not have stated that as clearly as I wish I would have... I definitely don't think we owe anyone ANY explanation... but... so many women have talked to me about the anxiety they feel trying to hide it all the time and that is what comes to mind most when people ask me this question. When we feel we are keeping a secret it weighs on us. I wish that wasn't the case, but it happens to so many women when they first start wearing wigs.
If I feel like the person asking has a sincere question, I tell them. If I feel like they are have nasty intent, I don’t. Yes there have been people like that. If they continue to interegate, my response is…( who does your hair)… Raquel Welch 😉. Any other questions? I love my wigs and they love me.😁
You are very true it all comes down to just feeling comfortable and confident and knowing that this is a part of you a part of your presentation of you. Take me for example I have a full thick head of hair I don't need to wear wigs however I do have herniated disks in my neck and it is painful for me to do my hair with a curling iron or blow dryer lifting my arms up so I prefer just to let my hair go I usually cut it in a pixie and I'll wear a wig. There have been people at work saying oh I love your hair and I'll just smile and say oh it's blah blah whatever wig I'm wearing. Another gentleman at work came up and said there's something different about you and I said oh it's my Sienna wig.... So I would have to say just be confident and own it because if you look at the majority of African American women they wear wigs all the time why because they don't want to mess with their natural hair. And they look stunning and nobody questions them it's just accepted in that culture I think especially as Caucasian women we need to own it and feel great about it because our hair can be as nappy as the next persons and we may have our own story behind it and we may help somebody who may know somebody who is starting a wig journey or never considered that for whatever reason so I just lift up all the girls and I can understand The uncomfortability but once you get past that and just let it go its very freeing! Whose opinion really matters anyway it's how you feel in your wig in your heels in your dress in your style in your home it's an expression of you so I would just walk your life with confidence and just own it and share it who you're wearing and I guarantee the girls are gonna be wow it doesn't even look like a wig..... They're not gonna think anything less of you and if you have a story share it be open be transparent because you never know if you may be hoping someone along the way and you get the return of feeling that gratification I had one friend who I said you know it would be fun maybe sometime you can come over and we'll have a wig of fun and just try on all my wigs and just have some girl time fun and we still joke about that today and of course covid and everything else we haven't been able to do that but... Just have fun because girls no matter what age we can still be silly with one another and enjoy 1 another's company and bond in that way so just think of it like if you have a tastefully simple party or a candle party or a jewelry party have a wig out party and just go ahead and have some fun with your friends and try them all on.... Justified that's how I live my life🥰⚘❣
I wore one of my wigs for the first time in public to church last Sunday and I picked and chose who I told-people who knew me and people I haven’t met. I also just came home from my church women’s Bible study where I wore a different wig. I agree with your assessment of “reading” your audience. Most people I know and who know me, I jokingly tell. Or if they ask me a question about my style, cut, etc. I will tell them. But if it’s a random compliment from someone I don’t know, I just say thank you and move on. Thank you for addressing the elephant in the room. Love 💕 your insight.
I love that color on you and the waves are great. Boy, I have had such a problem with this topic of telling or not telling for 10 years now.. Really only my closest friends, husband, and some family know. I wear very natural HH toppers mostly, just starting to try more exciting synthetic wigs. People at work and some family friends have been exhausting with their questions...What are you using, did you change the color, what's different about you?? My personal favorite is...your hair looks so much better than it used to...Ouch! Many times people get up really close examining me. I want to run and hide when it happens. I am humiliated by my androgenic alopecia. I hate that I am when there are so many people with far worse issues to deal with. I dislike vanity in all it's forms. Add to all that I'm introverted and private by nature and it has been very stressful. Honestly it's one of the best things about being retired now, being out of the daily hair fishbowl! I wish people would just compliment and leave it at that. Anyway...I'm trying to find the courage to be more open about it. Thank you for the good advice and encouragement. Sherry
I see no con in being honest. In the instance of a passerby stranger just say thank you. To people who see you every day they already KNOW it's a wig whether you told them or not. I am like you, why would anyone lie about these things if confronted? A cashier at a store just asked me what tools I use on my hair. I had no problem telling her it's a wig. She laughed and told me her mom wears a wig. No one really cares to tell the truth.
I was visiting my elderly sister-in-law at a memory care unit today and that is the first thing Ike it happened to me. One of the workers that I see all the time said “Your Baha’i looks so good now today”. I said well it’s a wig. She said sh would never have known. But that’s okay because I will wear different ones - long or short or red or grey - and I didn’t want her to feel uncomfortable the n T time she saw me. But I’m completely new to it his. I felt pretty darn good after I said it. Almost freeing. Anyway. I’m rambling. Love the color and style on you. I think it hat is my fav so far. Have a beautiful day Denise “ wig sister “ 🥰
My friends know I wear wigs but in general if the person is a stranger and says my hair is nice I thank them but don't go forward, my dogs vet and all her coworkers know my fight with breast cancer, radiation, etc, they all know and comment, one wig is their favorite, Impressive from Toni Brattin in Light Blonde, they also love Beach Mono form EW that I wear with a clip on an up do, we have fun and I have no issue telling people, some neighbors also know but it all depends on how I deal with the person, if it's just on an elevator or a line for check out or if I am friends with them.
Lol, as if I have a choice, Denise. I live in a small gossipy town and people around here don't care, they tell ME that I wear one, such horrible individuals here I tell you. Personally, I don't think it's anyone's business, I'm not comfortable with telling mean intentioned humans anything about myself. xx
When I want to have fun with someone when they say they love my hair and asks who does it I just tell them they can have it tomorrow. Lol they are shocked tha5 it is a wig🤣🤣🤣
Oh I wanted to share Denise you look absolutely stunning in this style it is so youthful on you girl perfect color and everything you are rocking it🥰⚘❣
Great Great advice Denise! You look beautiful in all your wigs! I'm so transparent when I get compliments I either say thank you or go into depth with the person if they start asking questions. I hide nothing lol. I'm proud to wear my wigs as the quality is so real.
Maybe the first lady was thinking natural hair color, as in dyed hair. You wearing a wig was probably the last thing on her mind. Same with the 2nd women. She probably had no clue it was a wig, you proceeded to stress that you owed her an explanation.
My main question is: do most wig wearers wear the same wig day to day, so that the people at work/in their community see them looking consistent, vs. wearing a different wig day to day and so there's absolutely no doubt about it.
HI, if you look back through this thread and find my original comment, you'll see my answer to that point. It's an important decision for every wig-wearer.
I would tell people. I feel that many people can detect a wig. I would be embarrassed to think that someone knew it was a wig and I lied about it. Sounds like that woman was fishing. She probably already thought it was a wig but was uncomfortable asking.
I think the woman in Denise's story was probably hinting that many adult redheads aren't natural gingers! I think that's pretty widely known, at least in the USA. Lots of teen girls dye their red in high school, so the expectation that a lot of women are ginger-by-choice is widespread. I think in the past 10 years with the higher quality of wigs with tons of different cap options and heat styling-friendly fibers, most people of European, Asian or Native American ancestry don't seem to recognize the telltale markers of a *modern* wig-wearer. Women and some men of specific African-ancestry communities (Black American and Caribbean, especially), yes, know better how to spot a wig because wig-wearing has been much more common. And, regardless of their background, you should expect stage performers, theatre people, models, cosplay enthusiasts and others in appearance-centric lines of work or hobbies to straight away spot a wig !
Thanks, Denise for re-enforcing my approach. Sometime I wonder if it's a good time to admit or confess or just let it be. QUESTION: Can you name a wig that is similar to Cal Beach Waves that is shoulder length? It looks smashing on you, but it'd be too long for me.
I'm not Denise (obviously), but Belle Tress London High Tea comes to mind. Slightly different bangs but quite similar. You could also get a similar look with Jon Renau Heidi or Rachel with bangs trimmed in. Or... get Cal Beach Waves and trim the length up to suit you :)
Majority of those asking questions about your hair are asking the questions because they already strongly surmise it’s a wig -but don’t wish to be flat out BLUNT. People think they are very clever by asking questions, or “complimenting” the way they often do. They also want to see if you’ll be honest. Better to just be straight with them… because if they’re asking questions…(including being complimentary) they most likely already really know the truth, IMO.
Better to say it is one if they are seeking styling advice or future cut advice. Not fair for her to believe it’s natural when the result could be unattainable without a wig. I’d never want to have a friends hair messed up because they can’t look like my fab hair
I agree with you. I have had hairdressers compliment me and ask who is doing my hair. With them I am honest. Total strangers I usually just say thank you. Women who are obviously struggling with their hair I will tell them the truth. Wearing a wig is like wearing jewelry or any other accessory. Look around and you will start noticing how many (of all ages) are wearing everything from full wigs to clip on hair extensions. If it looks good and you are being complimented, take the compliment. We don't need to explain all of the details.
I think hairdressers always know that it is a wig, especially synthetic
@@wendyamsterdam8482 Maybe hairdresses feel threatened by a wig. Since I discovered the fever of wearing wigs I kicked the hairdresser to the curve, saved $ 135.00 every 3 months and I have instant hair, styled and shade of my choice in only reach to a box. Save gas, time and tips to hairdressers that most of the time have attitudes or cancel your appointment when they feel like it, oh and gift card's for their Xmas and they also demanded tray of homemade cookies. No thanks.
@@ARZU10837 I’m in the EU and here the only people that wear wigs are those with alopecia (or going through chemo)
I think there is less pressure to have the ‘perfect hair’ .
But I do understand that especially when you go very blonde with long bleaching sessions a wig is cheaper and easier to maintain
How did we get to this point where people can get all into your hair business? My experience is that they will ask in mixed company. Awkward! I tell when it's needed, like women actually having hair loss. Others act interested but never take your advise. Don't get me wrong I still love even nosy people.
Granny was right - sometimes you just say “thank you”. 😄 I too sometimes tell people I’m wearing a wig and sometimes I don’t.
I had an awkward moment that I couldn’t stop from happening. I was on a cruise (a small ship - only 400 people). I wore multiple different wigs on the cruise. A lady stopped me and asked how I had changed my hair so much and I said I wore wigs. The next time she saw me she asked me why I wore them? Did I have a disease? OMG, was it CANCER!?!? My husband piped in, “No she likes to change her hair and considers wigs an accessory”. I couldn’t believe he said it! My husband is so quiet, it was a total shock. Boy howdy, do I love him!
I love your husband.
Sometimes I look at questioner inquisitively and say “ excuse me?”
Thank goodness for great husbands!
Your husband's answer is the best! He's a keeper!
I tell people I wear wigs. I told a guy who asked me out and he stopped talking to me completely. Never spoke to me again. Even to call off the date. But I'm glad I told him earlier, I didn't have to deal with him for too long. The other situation I had is I told a work colleague I wear a wig and she hold me and said "I'm so sorry...". But usually people are very nice and compliment you after you say it.
I usually don't tell people I'm wearing a wig. But I don't understand why some people like family will make a big deal about it bc today women where fake eyelashes & nails & make-up. Wigs can take years off so it's my secret!!🙃 BTW, that wig looks fabulous on you & real!😉
Not to mention, boobs! Do I ask if those boobs are nice,are they yours? LOL
It really does depend on the situation, like you said. I'm a 63 year old widow, and my bio hair was pretty good up until my husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and given a death sentence. I was a wreck, worried out of my mind, and my hair began to grow in very strangely...it used to be stick straight, but all of a sudden it grew in kinky, curly, but not a pretty curly, just strange and ugly. Luckily, I've worn wigs for many years, so I could hide the horror that is my hair. Anyway, when someone compliments my hair I usually say thanks and that's the end of it. If I get asked anything further, I say it's a wig, with a big smile, because if it doesn't bother me, it's not likely to bother them. My attitude is...I don't give a flyin' fig what anyone thinks or says about me. Period. Yep, I wear wigs..so what? I wear shoes, too...and? Most people are more concerned with themselves, anyway, so their interest in you is temporary at best. I'm told I look great for my age, and I attribute it to the beautiful hair that I wear...and genetics, but mostly it's the hair. Lol But, like you said, you should try to be prepared when someone says, Gosh, your hair is so pretty...
I have coworkers who wear wigs. When I compliment them, I don't expect them to stop and tell me it's a wig. I am just completing them.
Great perspective, thank you!
I’m usually honest with people. I was at my pharmacy and the woman waiting on me asked if I just got my hair done. I told her I was wearing a wig and she was shocked and said how nice it looked on me. Then I got to thinking, do I look like one of those blue haired women from my childhood. But I decided it was a compliment and let it go. I’m 71 and have been wearing wigs for over 10 years and even close relatives didn’t know I wore them. If it weren’t for wigs I would probably be a recluse. Thanks, Denise for getting the conversation going about this. I so appreciate you!
I love this! Thank you for sharing!
In my opinion it is no one's business whether I wear a wig or not . If people ask about what products I use, I tell them it varies because, it does! When asked who does my hair I say I do.. because I do whether my thin bio or a wig. Since I am a reserved person, personal questions are something I will not answer for anyone I do not know well. I am loving your videos!
I love that you have an approach that works for you! You are right, it really is no one's business and for those struggling with what to do, this is a great option!
I was in line at the grocery store and the checker complimented me on my hair. I said thank you, and then she started asking me questions about it, like did I just get it done, did I flat iron it, etc. There were a bunch of people behind me waiting to check out so I did not feel comfortable saying I wore a wig. It was awkward.
I just wore a wig for the first time this week to work. I’ve told everyone that’s complimented me. I just feel better addressing it. As everyone knows me and how thick and curly my hair was two months ago. A stranger, I say thank you and move along. This has been so hard but I am thankful to have found your channel. You have been a blessing to me.
Also. Editing to say, I live in a small town. Most people have known me for years so I just don’t want to try to pretend I’m not going through something, word gets around. Lol but I can understand not telling everyone you meet for sure! It is MY HAIR! I paid for it! 😊
YES! Hugs, Tonya!
I love your dedication to helping wig wearers. If only this level of thorough help was around ten years ago. A small handful of women, all wonderful, did their best, but none, dare I say it, as full throated as you. Thank you from everyone you assist. You are healing so many!
I have been wearing wigs for 42 years due to PCOS. In all that time only one person came right out and asked me if I had a wig on. Another lady at church told me that I had beautiful hair. I said, "oh thank you" with a big smile. It is no one's business. I do not feel obligated to share. As for the one person who asked me I said, " do you think that is rude"? She felt bad. I feel if you think someone is wearing a wig, just compliment them and let it go. Sorry, but that is how I deal with it.
Perfect advice! It is situational and even depends on how well you know the person. Also, if someone makes a negative comment or tries to “out” you, you can reasonably be certain that that person is not your friend..
You brought up many good points, Denise. The one I hadn't thought of was potentially making the other person uncomfortable by responding "it's a wig." You're right; some people could feel mortified that they might have pressured a wig-wearer (and potentially even a cancer patient, in the mainstream consciousness) to "out" herself. You asked what we respond to questions or compliments, and that brought up some self-reflection and this long answer:
I compartmentalize my wig-wearing to begin with, and that automatically shapes what sorts of answers I give. But even given that...interestingly, now that you made me think about it, I realize I *don't* reveal it's a wig, more often than not, no matter which part of my wig life.
At work, I strictly wear wigs that are feasible for what my bio hair could stretch itself to do in its present state. I never deviate more than one level in color, and the length remains within 5 inches of what my biohair underneath the wig cap would be. Plus, whatever style my wig at work is, is something my present biohair could technically (given styling tools like flat irons and curling irons), though unsatisfactorily, approximate i.e. at a much thinner/thinning, less glamorous, and less professionally styled level.
So, when people I see every day at work and have an ongoing relationship with ask about my hair style, I answer with what steps I could have taken (- and have done in the past, especially when I had a bit more hair on top - ) to achieve that style with my biohair. **For me/my personal goals**, the workplace is not a platform where I want to revel in my creativity and appearance. As you know, perceived (key word) over-attention to appearance is something society can hold against women in many workplace settings. And, I also think any frequent change of appearance, whether for a man or a woman, can be distracting, but I understand if others have workplace cultures where that's not the case.
Weekends are when I break out every bright color and any darn texture or style I feel like! The compliments I get are from strangers i.e. people in the street or in shops, cashiers at the grocery store, etc. But I find myself just saying "Thank you so much!" and complimenting them back.
Now that I think about it, the reason I don't reveal it's a wig because I feel what they're really complimenting is the aesthetic or maybe even the taste or style they feel I have. They're not actually that bothered about whether the bright purple straight bob or teal beachy wave mane is growing from the follicles in my scalp (and maybe they even assume it's a wig, given the vividness or stylization )--at least, that's what I intuit.
The only time I can see myself saying "It's a wig" is if I'm speaking to someone (woman or man) I have reason to believe is from a wig-wearing cultural background or line of work, OR if it's a woman who visibly has hair loss, thin hair, etc. (like I do) and I'd want her to see how good wigs can look!
Four Ducks+ I really appreciated your comment. I feel like I NEVER want to broach the subject with my other sisters who I can see are experiencing the beginning stages of HL.
Why? Because my reaction to the whole thing has been pretty much manic depression and I'm afraid if they downplay the seriousness of it , I will completely LOSE IT!!!
@@cristinadriviera8144 thank you for the reply! I completely understand your hesitance in this area. You know yourself and your emotional stimuli well, and that self-awareness is a great gift.
The comments on this video are very helpful precisely because they showcase different women's differing/varied strategies for talking (or not talking) about their wigs with outsiders who don't otherwise know it's a wig.
I hope everyone watching this video and reading the comments understands that, as with many things in life, there's no one ideal strategy that fits all wig-wearers. But hopefully the variety of ideas here will give food for thought!
I almost always freely admit to wearing a wig. It has led to amazing conversations with women who are astounded by how great my fake hair is and also the fact that they can have great hair too!
YAY! Love this!
I really feel wigs are fashion statements without sacrificing your hair to so many chemicals. And we over flow with confidence there's no dent made on positive or negative conversations. I often wonder when people ask what shade is my hair color or who does my hair, I respond my shade is selected by me and my hairdresser comes in a box.
I really feel wigs are fashion statements without sacrificing your hair to so many chemicals. And we over flow with confidence there's no dent made on positive or negative conversations. I often wonder when people ask what shade is my hair color or who does my hair, I respond my shade is selected by me and my hairdresser comes in a box.
There is no worst thing. People are rude anyways. I don't surrender my power over wig. Nobody turns me off I bluff them off.
OMG- Denise, you look great in EVERY wig and every color I have ever seen you in (and I've watched LOTS of your videso) but this one, HANDS DOWN is THE best on you!
Thank you so much!!!
depends on my mood. whenever i tell them its a wig, they always wanna know where i go to get them. they want the website info so they can go look 4themselves. ! im not uptight about it so the ppl i talk to are usually not uptight about it either. its only fake hair afterall, not sumthing super duper monumentally deep or important, in the big scheme of things in life. 🤗
I had a bad experience a year ago. We were camping and got invited to join a bunch of folks we didnt know around a fire. Not long after a women seven people away hollered at me " you have cancer or something." I was so embarassed. I had on a scarf n wig band with no hair. I said nothing so two more chimed in asking why I wear the scarf. My wonderful husband chimed in and said I like it when she wears a scarf. Shortly after we left.
Its taken me a year to finally get a wig. Before that Id been ready... She maybe was just rude, not thinking or thought it was an okay question in front of 18 or so strangers. Ill never forget it.
I have extremely thin hair with bald spots. Maybe Thyroid or Alopecia.
Yes!! Be prepared with an answer, because people WILL ask, or comment. The first time admitting it’s a wig is both a moment of huge anxiety, and incredibly freeing. I thank them, say it’s a wig, assure them I’m not sick, and say I have a form of alopecia. That tends to answer most of their questions and seems to remove any awkwardness. I’ve heard from one other person who was ridiculed for wearing wigs, by a group of ‘mean girls’ which horrified me, but I realised that I should have a retort ready for that one too. My experience so far has only been positive, so I’ve never had to use it! Keep it polite but also very cutting! Something like “How would your mother feel if she could hear what you just said?” My heart broke for the woman who was treated badly 😞
I am so glad I found you. Such a genuine heart. I've been wondering about this. I've worn my "hair" out in public about a handful of times. To work, I can wear a ball cap and a ponytail. I just ordered a ponytail wig today!! Very excited. Anyway, I have felt that I should be honest. That's how I've always lived. Much love to you, Denise.
I agree that it's so layered. I work in a public facing job. My co-workers know I wear a wig but I don't usually share it with the clients. I have told my close friends that I wear wigs and why and most didn't even realize I was wearing a wig. If someone excessively talks about my hair I get really uncomfortable and tell them it's a wig. As I have gotten more confident about my wig wearing and my hair loss I have been more open about my wig wearing but I don't think every stranger that compliments my hair needs to know it's s wig. When I first started wearing wigs I knew that there could be awkwardness if people figured it out but I also knew that even with the awkward moments and imperfect wigs it still felt better wearing a wig than not and that is what keeps me strong.
Hi I tell anyone who comments and have never felt awkward doing so. In fact a hairdresser committed about the color. I told her it was a wig and she asked to feel it and was amazed. Also two women have since ordered wigs!
Nope! A fool tells all! Plus it is my hair! I paid for it! 😊
My oncology nurse told me that I’d be surprised how many women refuse chemo bc they’re afraid to loose their hair. For that reason, I err on the side of telling. I figure the person will tuck the info away and recall it one day when they or someone they love is faced with the choice to do chemo or keep their hair. Hopefully they will remember that there is life after hair loss, and that hair loss is worth it to get medical care you need.
I agree Denise. Over the summer I ran into an old friend of mine who was diagnosed with cancer over 30 years ago. I never knew about wigs back then and just assumed that what I saw was her own hair since I never saw her bald. We stood there chatting at the store, and she complimented my hair. I had a split second to decide how to respond: well, I said, remember when I was hospitalized last year? my hair fell out so this is a wig! I am so glad I told her the truth. Most likely she already figured that it was a wig, but I actually see her more often now, because we run in the same Christian circles. What you described Denise sounds so familiar to me. To the lady in line at the check out, I just say thank you when they compliment my hair😄 God bless you
Diane❤
I have been wearing Jon Renau smart lace wigs for over ten years. I tell everyone that I have extensions in my hair. Not one single person including my family, my best friend, or men I date know that I wear a wig. Whenever someone remarks about my hair, which is often, I tell them they’re extensions. I get a million questions about the extensions and I answer them in great detail. I used to have extensions so I know all about them.
I've been wearing wigs, hairpieces, helper-hair, etc., for the last twenty years. At this point, if someone compliments my hair, 98% of the time, I will just say "thank you." When people ask me if my red hair is natural, I tell them I dye my hair, especially the roots, because of the grey coming in, which is true, as I dye my bio hair. If they start asking all sorts of questions like who does my hair, on and on, I usually redirect the question. Overall, it's my business, I don't want to have to go into the whole spiel. If the person asking has challenging hair, I will generally tell them it's a wig or hairpiece. I'm lucky to live in a city where probably 30-40% of the female population wears hair in one form or another.
Great approach!!!
This color is gorgeous on you Denise!
This is wonderful and you nailed it... Just prepare! Thank you!!
Also that wig looks amazing on you!
Great advice!! I sometimes say it's a wig and sometimes I don't. It usually depends on how much time I want to spend talking about my hair. If I say it's a wig everyone will go on and on about it. Asking questions and such. I'm sure the same happens to you. I will usually always say it's a wig if the person who says something has thin hair. I just think I can do them a service by telling them. I also will tell people that I see every couple weeks and they mention I got a haircut or letting it grow etc...I just feel more comfortable telling them because I do wear different styles and colors. I don't think I've ever had someone be uncomfortable like you said the one lady was.
And oh my gosh I LOVE this wig on you!! I have seen her on others and always think it's pretty but it's usually always a blonde. This color is absolutely gorgeous on you! It reminds me of Rosewood which I have on Tabu. I will be watching for your updates because depending on how she holds up I may be getting this one!
Wow Denise! This wig was made for you. Both beautiful and real.
If someone I don’t know compliments my hair I just say thank you. If they ask me follow up questions I’ll tell them it’s my hair helper. Then I think they assume it’s extensions. People that I know, know I wear wigs. It took awhile to build the confidence but now I’m a big proponent. And my friends are always excited to see what I show up in 😂.
That color is stunning on you. I only tell family. My brother likes to announce it loudly at family gatherings. Workplace...well. They can be cruel so thats a no.
Denise like people at church yes the love my hair and I tell them thank you. Then tell them its a wig I feel comfortable plus I wear different colors and different styles. Like you if you see someone you never would see again. Just say thank you and that's it
If someone just compliments me, I say thank you. If they also ask who does my hair I have to tell them it is a wig.
Beautiful wig and color on you!!!
This wig makes you look gorgeous and the colour is amazing on you x
I will always tell people the truth, because it's easier than lying. If you say it's a wig, most people will just compliment you on how good it looks and you won't get the 20 questions,as opposed, to lying and now they want to know where you get it cut,and colored , and anything else they can think of asking!
I always tell them it's a wig, I have nothing to hide and it usually starts a conversation . I've even given a few ladies the name of what I'm wearing. Sometimes I get a sad look from the person asking, I'm assuming they automatically think I'm a cancer survivor which I am not and very thankful of that, I do tell them the reason I wear wigs however.
Denise, everything you said was so true! I had to think long and hard as to whether I tell my clients I wear wigs. I am a mental health counselor. I decided to only tell those clients who have lost their hair/are going to lose their hair, etc. that I'm a wig wearer. Otherwise, I say nothing, because that makes the focus me. In my personal life, I am much more open about wig-wearing. It feels good to be a resource, or just to educate my friends and family about hair loss and wig wearing. I've had some pretty insensitive things said to me, but I know they come from a place of ignorance. If I can help that, I want to take that on! Thanks so much for sharing this. It's so helpful.
No matter what style or color of wig you wear you look great in them.
Thank you so much!
That wig looks amazing on you.
They all do but I reallyove this one.
Great advice Denise! You look amazing btw! ❤
I agree it is good to be prepared and it is nice to get it in the open if a woman is comfortable talking about it...However...I dont think a woman is obligated to tell on herself. Some people feel that is an open door to ask very personal questions, and if the wig wearer is a private woman, it is very uncomfortable and can even be traumatic. I personally dont feel like I need to discuss my hairloss journey with strangers. It is a sad part of my life.
You are absolutely right and I may not have stated that as clearly as I wish I would have... I definitely don't think we owe anyone ANY explanation... but... so many women have talked to me about the anxiety they feel trying to hide it all the time and that is what comes to mind most when people ask me this question. When we feel we are keeping a secret it weighs on us. I wish that wasn't the case, but it happens to so many women when they first start wearing wigs.
Nerd Diddles+ i agree with you. Who needs to risk more trauma??? No way! Trust no one.
People compliment me on my wigs and they ask where I bought it, they request price and name of wig and color.
If I feel like the person asking has a sincere question, I tell them. If I feel like they are have nasty intent, I don’t. Yes there have been people like that. If they continue to interegate, my response is…( who does your hair)… Raquel Welch 😉. Any other questions? I love my wigs and they love me.😁
Yes, I tell them it's a wig. It avoids further questions like: Who cuts it, is it dyed, who does your highlights, etc.
You are very true it all comes down to just feeling comfortable and confident and knowing that this is a part of you a part of your presentation of you. Take me for example I have a full thick head of hair I don't need to wear wigs however I do have herniated disks in my neck and it is painful for me to do my hair with a curling iron or blow dryer lifting my arms up so I prefer just to let my hair go I usually cut it in a pixie and I'll wear a wig. There have been people at work saying oh I love your hair and I'll just smile and say oh it's blah blah whatever wig I'm wearing. Another gentleman at work came up and said there's something different about you and I said oh it's my Sienna wig.... So I would have to say just be confident and own it because if you look at the majority of African American women they wear wigs all the time why because they don't want to mess with their natural hair. And they look stunning and nobody questions them it's just accepted in that culture I think especially as Caucasian women we need to own it and feel great about it because our hair can be as nappy as the next persons and we may have our own story behind it and we may help somebody who may know somebody who is starting a wig journey or never considered that for whatever reason so I just lift up all the girls and I can understand The uncomfortability but once you get past that and just let it go its very freeing! Whose opinion really matters anyway it's how you feel in your wig in your heels in your dress in your style in your home it's an expression of you so I would just walk your life with confidence and just own it and share it who you're wearing and I guarantee the girls are gonna be wow it doesn't even look like a wig..... They're not gonna think anything less of you and if you have a story share it be open be transparent because you never know if you may be hoping someone along the way and you get the return of feeling that gratification I had one friend who I said you know it would be fun maybe sometime you can come over and we'll have a wig of fun and just try on all my wigs and just have some girl time fun and we still joke about that today and of course covid and everything else we haven't been able to do that but... Just have fun because girls no matter what age we can still be silly with one another and enjoy 1 another's company and bond in that way so just think of it like if you have a tastefully simple party or a candle party or a jewelry party have a wig out party and just go ahead and have some fun with your friends and try them all on.... Justified that's how I live my life🥰⚘❣
I wore one of my wigs for the first time in public to church last Sunday and I picked and chose who I told-people who knew me and people I haven’t met. I also just came home from my church women’s Bible study where I wore a different wig. I agree with your assessment of “reading” your audience. Most people I know and who know me, I jokingly tell. Or if they ask me a question about my style, cut, etc. I will tell them. But if it’s a random compliment from someone I don’t know, I just say thank you and move on. Thank you for addressing the elephant in the room. Love 💕 your insight.
I love that color on you and the waves are great. Boy, I have had such a problem with this topic of telling or not telling for 10 years now.. Really only my closest friends, husband, and some family know. I wear very natural HH toppers mostly, just starting to try more exciting synthetic wigs. People at work and some family friends have been exhausting with their questions...What are you using, did you change the color, what's different about you?? My personal favorite is...your hair looks so much better than it used to...Ouch! Many times people get up really close examining me. I want to run and hide when it happens. I am humiliated by my androgenic alopecia. I hate that I am when there are so many people with far worse issues to deal with. I dislike vanity in all it's forms. Add to all that I'm introverted and private by nature and it has been very stressful. Honestly it's one of the best things about being retired now, being out of the daily hair fishbowl! I wish people would just compliment and leave it at that. Anyway...I'm trying to find the courage to be more open about it. Thank you for the good advice and encouragement. Sherry
This is a great video. Thank you. Much to consider when faced with this situation.
I see no con in being honest. In the instance of a passerby stranger just say thank you. To people who see you every day they already KNOW it's a wig whether you told them or not. I am like you, why would anyone lie about these things if confronted? A cashier at a store just asked me what tools I use on my hair. I had no problem telling her it's a wig. She laughed and told me her mom wears a wig. No one really cares to tell the truth.
I was visiting my elderly sister-in-law at a memory care unit today and that is the first thing Ike it happened to me. One of the workers that I see all the time said “Your Baha’i looks so good now today”. I said well it’s a wig. She said sh would never have known. But that’s okay because I will wear different ones - long or short or red or grey - and I didn’t want her to feel uncomfortable the n T time she saw me. But I’m completely new to it his. I felt pretty darn good after I said it. Almost freeing. Anyway. I’m rambling. Love the color and style on you. I think it hat is my fav so far. Have a beautiful day Denise “ wig sister “ 🥰
👍🏻. Being prepared is key
Just have to say the color of the wig you are wearing is one of the best colors I've seen on you. Perfect color for you!
You look so pretty in this wig. Color is great on you. Thank you for all your support. I'm new to this.
Thank you so much 🤗
The wig you are wearing is gorgeous on you!
This is a question Ives asked myself? , never sure what’s the right answer, you look lovely in Tresalure by the way 🥰
Who cares if people react. I tell everybody I wear a wig, I hate lies and I say it the way it is.
I have told Sometimes. Depends like you said reading
Reading the situation.
Great info
Love and Hugs😙💕💞
Good advice, Denise. Best to you and family!
Same to you!
My friends know I wear wigs but in general if the person is a stranger and says my hair is nice I thank them but don't go forward, my dogs vet and all her coworkers know my fight with breast cancer, radiation, etc, they all know and comment, one wig is their favorite, Impressive from Toni Brattin in Light Blonde, they also love Beach Mono form EW that I wear with a clip on an up do, we have fun and I have no issue telling people, some neighbors also know but it all depends on how I deal with the person, if it's just on an elevator or a line for check out or if I am friends with them.
Thank you so much Denise, great info and such beautiful hair!! Can't wait for your review 🤩
Oh sweetie I have been there. Same happened to me.
Lol, as if I have a choice, Denise. I live in a small gossipy town and people around here don't care, they tell ME that I wear one, such horrible individuals here I tell you. Personally, I don't think it's anyone's business, I'm not comfortable with telling mean intentioned humans anything about myself. xx
T2the_heyy+ Bless you! I pray all those mean spirited people are convicted to their very core by what they did to you!
You look fabulous in this wig !
Thank you!
I was so engrossed in what you were saying, I forgot to mention that I love that red wig! I can’t wear the long ones, but it looks nice on you. 😍Diane
Thank you so much, Diane!!
When I want to have fun with someone when they say they love my hair and asks who does it I just tell them they can have it tomorrow. Lol they are shocked tha5 it is a wig🤣🤣🤣
LOL, brilliant!
Great advice Denise I couldn't agree more ✔️
Oh I wanted to share Denise you look absolutely stunning in this style it is so youthful on you girl perfect color and everything you are rocking it🥰⚘❣
Thank you so much!!
Great Great advice Denise! You look beautiful in all your wigs! I'm so transparent when I get compliments I either say thank you or go into depth with the person if they start asking questions. I hide nothing lol. I'm proud to wear my wigs as the quality is so real.
Why should we even care. As long as we like it, that's what matters. Lesson I learned.
Maybe the first lady was thinking natural hair color, as in dyed hair. You wearing a wig was probably the last thing on her mind. Same with the 2nd women. She probably had no clue it was a wig, you proceeded to stress that you owed her an explanation.
My main question is: do most wig wearers wear the same wig day to day, so that the people at work/in their community see them looking consistent, vs. wearing a different wig day to day and so there's absolutely no doubt about it.
HI, if you look back through this thread and find my original comment, you'll see my answer to that point. It's an important decision for every wig-wearer.
I would tell people. I feel that many people can detect a wig. I would be embarrassed to think that someone knew it was a wig and I lied about it. Sounds like that woman was fishing. She probably already thought it was a wig but was uncomfortable asking.
I think the woman in Denise's story was probably hinting that many adult redheads aren't natural gingers! I think that's pretty widely known, at least in the USA. Lots of teen girls dye their red in high school, so the expectation that a lot of women are ginger-by-choice is widespread.
I think in the past 10 years with the higher quality of wigs with tons of different cap options and heat styling-friendly fibers, most people of European, Asian or Native American ancestry don't seem to recognize the telltale markers of a *modern* wig-wearer. Women and some men of specific African-ancestry communities (Black American and Caribbean, especially), yes, know better how to spot a wig because wig-wearing has been much more common.
And, regardless of their background, you should expect stage performers, theatre people, models, cosplay enthusiasts and others in appearance-centric lines of work or hobbies to straight away spot a wig !
My goal is to make that person feel uncomfortable for asking. It is no ones business but my own.
@@valelliott2106 + Love that- but how do you do it?
Thanks, Denise for re-enforcing my approach. Sometime I wonder if it's a good time to admit or confess or just let it be. QUESTION: Can you name a wig that is similar to Cal Beach Waves that is shoulder length? It looks smashing on you, but it'd be too long for me.
I'm not Denise (obviously), but Belle Tress London High Tea comes to mind. Slightly different bangs but quite similar. You could also get a similar look with Jon Renau Heidi or Rachel with bangs trimmed in. Or... get Cal Beach Waves and trim the length up to suit you :)
Majority of those asking questions about your hair are asking the questions because they already strongly surmise it’s a wig -but don’t wish to be flat out BLUNT. People think they are very clever by asking questions, or “complimenting” the way they often do. They also want to see if you’ll be honest. Better to just be straight with them… because if they’re asking questions…(including being complimentary) they most likely already really know the truth, IMO.
Better to say it is one if they are seeking styling advice or future cut advice. Not fair for her to believe it’s natural when the result could be unattainable without a wig. I’d never want to have a friends hair messed up because they can’t look like my fab hair
BTW, that color looks great on you.
Good discussion! 🥰
I love this wig on you!!!!!!
What is the color on the Tressallure you are wearing? LOVE the color!
You look so good. ❤
YES!!!
TBH, I don't think it's anyone's business for anyone to know if you are or if you aren't. Just say "thank you" and let it go.
Why would somebody ask? So rude !
Why tell people you are wearing a wig? Do ladies tell people Oh Im wearing a false bra because of mastectomy? It’s no one’s f…business