10 Valid Reasons to Deny Your Husband Intimacy in Islam | Understanding Islamic Guidance

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  • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
    @F_a_t_i_m_ah  7 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Example of Psychological or Emotional Distress, if a wife is grieving a family loss, she may REQUEST time from her husband to heal emotionally before resuming marital relations.
    Scholarly Perspective: Scholars like Ibn Taymiyyah emphasize the importance of mutual emotional support in marriage. Emotional readiness is a key component of healthy intimacy.
    Example of Sickness or Medical Conditions, if a wife with a chronic pain condition can politely ask her husband for some time to heal.
    The above are for clarification purposes only. If any of the points I mentioned in the video are wrong, Please don't hesitate to let me know.

  • @RaygaanahLatief-gn1te
    @RaygaanahLatief-gn1te 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Alhamdulillah, Maasha Allah said and spoken, very easy to learn from, may Allah SWT grant you to make more such educational videos Alhamdulillah ❤

  • @Sarah-th5vb
    @Sarah-th5vb 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    باراك اللَّه فيكم gurl

  • @SantiagoVeraLoor
    @SantiagoVeraLoor 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

    What really gets me angry is that some men will support their wives financially and yet their wives will deny them any form of intimacy yet still demand their rights. It's easy for a woman to deny the husband intimacy but it's hard for a man not to provide for his wife.
    Great video sister. May Allah bless you🙏

    • @aishajobe2952
      @aishajobe2952 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      That’s totally unacceptable. Us sisters should be very mindful of earning the wrath of Allah which might lead us to the Jahannam due to our actions(the tongue especially)

    • @Shinobu2506.
      @Shinobu2506. 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      If the wife is denying him intimacy,why is she even married?

  • @HafsahAbubakar-gf1jy
    @HafsahAbubakar-gf1jy 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Jazakillahu bi khair Sister.

  • @barackobama3719
    @barackobama3719 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِٱللَّٰهِ ٱلْعَلِيِّ ٱلْعَظِيمِ

  • @KeishaMarieWorthy
    @KeishaMarieWorthy 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Very good sister.. BaraAllah feekum

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Wa Feekum BarakAllah

  • @braimahsambolism9661
    @braimahsambolism9661 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Bless up Sister

  • @mamahstingosesay4930
    @mamahstingosesay4930 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    MashaAllah 😊

  • @fatimathiam5394
    @fatimathiam5394 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Hi sis, plz try to use parsley infusion if you have painful menstrual periods.. keep it up!❤

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Never new of parsley infusion, thank sis

  • @AmanahAdam-f8e
    @AmanahAdam-f8e 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you sister

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      you welcome sister

  • @creekmary
    @creekmary 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    not just for muslim ladies, southern baptist ladies should follow these sensible guidelines

  • @sergeychistov8162
    @sergeychistov8162 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Where can I get a summary?

  • @Shinobu2506.
    @Shinobu2506. 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Alhamdulilah,I’m unmarried!

    • @saniazehra6017
      @saniazehra6017 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Take your time. Don't marry someone for the heck of it!
      Discuss everything beforehand before you marry!

    • @Shinobu2506.
      @Shinobu2506. 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ yeah,that’s right
      I’m waiting for this special man for me
      I hope he will find me❤️❤️
      With Allahs permission,Amin🤲🏻

    • @saniazehra6017
      @saniazehra6017 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Shinobu2506. Ameen! May you find him soon!
      Make a good detailed nikahnama that protects your rights!
      And have in depth discussions with potential partners to assess them! Never settle for low quality!
      Hard work, patience, honesty, ambition, humility, kindness, dignity, sacrifice, spirituality, fortitude, and a pleasant demeanor is what you need!

  • @realfactslocal
    @realfactslocal 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It is important to understand Islam and that we all have a place within all of this and to make sure that this keeps the balance and doesnt assist shaythan we must know ours
    Please listen to
    is it permissible to watch islamic show in which a female speaker Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem

    • @realfactslocal
      @realfactslocal 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It's the fact that It is agreed upon with Scholars that it is haram for a woman to give Dawah in this form
      On youtube
      Secondly there is a difference of opinion if a woman should have her face covered
      But there is no difference of opinion between Scholars on the fact that men do have to avert their gaze from your face.
      So for every man that sees your video And does not avert his gaze in this sin that he commits you will share so say you get 10 000 views or one million views whatever amount is of men you will gain this amount of sins Imagine 500 000 sins you share with To face on the Of judgment or even 500

    • @saniazehra6017
      @saniazehra6017 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@realfactslocalThe scholars are parked into the privacy of women using remote spyware. They listen to women's private phone calls, read WhatsApp messages sent to friends and family - all without your knowledge or permission.
      And they do all of this because some comment you wrote somewhere interested them. If they get super interested, they'll hack you like clingy leeches for 7 years straight following every little detail of your life, turning you into an unsuspecting Kardashian. Yes, they notice even things like why you wrote LOL in a comment or a pvt WhatsApp chat, the softness of a woman's voice (is she trying to appear submissive in her phone conversation to this man), how much phone does she use/ empty scrolling, "how does this person think", and what time does she wake up/if she sleeps at night. Oh, and things like "why she doesn't feel like dressing up on Eid (in spite of Palestine situation making her sad)!
      With other women they notice, "is she trying to virtue signal to opposite gender"
      I know this, because Mufti Menk, NAK, Yasir Qadhi, Mohd Hijab, and many more clung to my pvt data like leeches, hearing n reading even the phone conversations I had with my relatives n making lectures on those topics within the next few hours to 24 hours since 2017.
      In their Islam, you say things about purdah in public, while hacking n violating women in private.

    • @saniazehra6017
      @saniazehra6017 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      And if you have access to the above men, confront them!!!

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      In Islam men are told to lower their gaze, my video thumbnail clearly shows I am a woman, so any man who chose to watch have himself to blame.
      If I should go with your logic you are saying we shouldn’t talk or go out because any man who see us and not lower his gaze we automatically share the sins with him. Can you share any evidence to prove that women share part of that sin.

    • @saniazehra6017
      @saniazehra6017 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@F_a_t_i_m_ah Allah n the Prophet PBUH have warned against extremism in religion. To bloat gheerah so much so that women's existence in society becomes painful is NOT Islam. It is only Talibani extremist version of Islam.
      Out of all the sects, the sect of Islam with piety, purity n humility in people's hearts and sincerity towards the core values of Islam is the rightly guided one, if it is balanced!
      To know how to tread the path of life light while balancing n while having high virtues and values n with Allah as the centre of life is Islam!
      Anything not balanced right is an attempt to do Islam, but NOT Islam!

  • @bintumansaray1604
    @bintumansaray1604 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    The emotional part is very shocking, as many women go through this and are not happy to have intimacy, the husbands use it against them as a sin, many just think about their happiness and forget the woman is human, feeling too proud of I'm the man, I should have you anytime I feel like, not thinking of the woman emotional stress and how to even fix things with her, too much ego, if most practising men follow the teaching of marriage, it will be better home s for families, but %80 of men are very lazy and proud towards their wives and children and they want to control every aspect of a woman's life, so sad

    • @alimixali12345
      @alimixali12345 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      80% of men ? How would you know, are you married to 80% of men please don’t make sweeping generalisations ‎جزاك الله خيرا.

    • @Shinobu2506.
      @Shinobu2506. 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@alimixali12345100%

    • @Shinobu2506.
      @Shinobu2506. 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That is one main reason I’m unmarried
      I’m not an animal

    • @saniazehra6017
      @saniazehra6017 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Emotional well- being is your right in marriage.
      Females are not robots that can hand over their bodies mechanically for another's well being n satisfaction!
      Having said that, the reasons that make you emotionally dissatisfied should be genuine. Long term emotional abuse is reason enough to avoid intimacy, but only do it if communication on improving things has failed miserably over n over!
      You deserve your self respect n well being as well!

    • @saniazehra6017
      @saniazehra6017 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      ​@@Shinobu2506.Make a list of qualities you need in a partner. Make a list of the qualities you think you have!
      Make a list of what you expect in a marriage.
      Ask a potential spouse to make their own lists.
      Make a list of tasks in a marriage. And a list of rights n duties in marriage.
      Match the lists with a potential spouse! Go into the details of things and communicate what will be unacceptable to you!
      Marry only if you both have absolute commitment to their part in a marriage!
      Don't be scared of marrying! Make an informed choice!

  • @sole008
    @sole008 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    The sheikh never said that emotional harm is a valid reason to deny the husband intimacy, the reason behind is simple, since emotional harm is hard to define, leaving that door will allow women to weaponized even mood swings as reason to deny their husband intimacy. Which western women already do, "i dont feel like it, or today i feel stressed, or sad" is not a valid reason sorry, its like a husband saying i will not provide for you this month because i don't feel like it. Duties go above feelings.

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  7 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      Emotional harm in this context refers to situations where the husband engages in abusive behavior, bullying, or betrayal. For example, betrayal could occur if a husband claimed to be a virgin and his wife married him believing he was truthful, considering him a good Muslim. If she later discovered that he had lied, it could cause deep emotional pain and trauma. In such a situation, intimacy would likely be the last thing on her mind, as she might struggle with feelings of mistrust and thoughts about the women he was with before their marriage.
      However, what you mentioned does not fall under emotional harm. She is just expressing her feelings and this feeling are not valid

    • @sole008
      @sole008 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      @@F_a_t_i_m_ah thanks for the clarification 🙏.

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  7 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      You welcome and thank you for bringing up those points

    • @namin8400
      @namin8400 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@F_a_t_i_m_ah come on fatimah u are more intelligent then this what happen in the past is past she can't use.it on him now.to refuse sex

    • @Shinobu2506.
      @Shinobu2506. 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Duties go above feelings?
      I’m not an animal for a man
      Thank God,I’m unmarried

  • @dukes3883
    @dukes3883 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Any valid reasons he should deny mine? Beside too much work?😭

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      You should consult a counselor or take him to Islamic court, if he constantly deny you intimacy

    • @huryebesli2110
      @huryebesli2110 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Du Glückliche 😊

  • @chev6392
    @chev6392 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I was married to a Muslim man he leave me.without a divorce he live with more than one woman after leaving home .he told these women he was never been married now he is engaged to another woman without giving me a divorce how do i go about this situation?

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  6 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Go to the nearest Muslim community near you and talk to the imam or whoever is in charge about your situation

    • @realfactslocal
      @realfactslocal 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      As salam ali kum of the highest the responsibilities is given dawah it makes one extremely responsible to allah
      I see that you want good for Islam one must understand where they are
      Chev9362 is not a woman but a man who is a Christian propagator Looking for ammunition against Islam and you are playing into his hand
      ​@F_a_t_i_m_ah

    • @lail111
      @lail111 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      He doesn't have to give you divorce you can obtain it go to the mosque and tell them he has abandoned you.

  • @seekthetruthfindit6879
    @seekthetruthfindit6879 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Not more marital tape advocacy. Any reason is good. THANKS ✌️

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Are u saying any reason is good to deny him?

    • @nissa4644
      @nissa4644 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Not for a woman who believe in Allah and the last day.

  • @TheBlackGentlemanGeek
    @TheBlackGentlemanGeek 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Can you make a video of "10 reasons to deny your wife provision and protection"?

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That a good topic

    • @lail111
      @lail111 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      You seem very triggered do you have something against wn knowing their rights?

    • @lail111
      @lail111 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      And if you can't provide provision and protection then you have no business calling anyone your wife.

    • @saniazehra6017
      @saniazehra6017 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      You can't deny your wife provision and protection and neither to your kids!
      The goal of a family is the right raising of kids. Even though the well being of the parents matters, but it is secondary to what is best for your kids.
      You should try resolve your issues with your wife but never deny anything to the family, even if you have no kids! Only a highly thankless uncooperative "completely provided for" wife can/should be divorced, if things come to that. In rest most cases, be grateful for the companionship the wife provides and try to communicate with the wife on what more can be done that can bring well being into both of your lives!

    • @namin8400
      @namin8400 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@lail111so you agree not to give intimacy to the husband. Yet call him a husband. Come on you can't be greedy and selfish like this

  • @TaraConnor-p5i
    @TaraConnor-p5i 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    5 and 6 are good. Thank you sister

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      You are welcome sis

  • @Pisyum
    @Pisyum 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Using Assem’s video is not an evidence of what you are talking about bcz Assim himself doesn’t provide any evidence. He just comes and says things. Go get the real evidence from the Coran before stating anything please.

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Can you mention something that he said that is wrong?

    • @Pisyum
      @Pisyum 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@F_a_t_i_m_ah it's not about being right or wrong but about giving the prove of whatever a person said regarding the deen. I went to his video many times regarding specific subjects but I am always disappointed because he does give evidence and I don't take anything in my religion without clear prove. For instance where Allah have said that a when a husband cheet on his wife or the opposite you have a right to refuse him or her intercourse? I am not saying it's wrong or right but where is the evidence .We can't blindly believe him without evidence.

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      When you say evidence do you mean, the Quran should explicitly say “when your husband or wife cheat on you don’t have intimacy? Is that what you mean?

    • @saniazehra6017
      @saniazehra6017 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@PisyumThe Quran and the Sunnah do not provide you the sequence of tasks you have to do after waking up. Should you brush your teeth first or relieve your bladder first? Should you have a glass of lukewarm water first?
      Similarly, there are many aspects of life the Quran doesn't speak about. Even the hadith and the Sunnah do not cover those aspects of life.
      The purpose of religion is not to give you the recipe for chicken Tikka masala or Naan, but to give you broad guidelines about living your life. Whatever the Quran and the Sunnah do not speak on but people need explanation on, therefore needs a fatwa. Fatwas are deduced from broad principles and values of religion. While the suggestions/ recommendations in the fatwa may not be mentioned anywhere in the hadith n the Quran.
      There is a lot in Islam that is the work of humans and didn't come directly from Allah in the form of Quran or from the Prophet's hadith/sunnah! That's why there are differences in the 4 madhab (because human interpretations and deductions can be different)!

    • @Pisyum
      @Pisyum 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Not explicitly, but there should be a verse in the Quran that can be used to support that final interpretation. For instance, if I state that the husband always has the right to his wife in terms of sexuality, I should provide a verse in the Quran that supports this claim (verse 223 baqarah ).

  • @DaTruth1017
    @DaTruth1017 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Watch TH-cam video title: *Wahabi/Salafi Mufti Assim Al Hakeem is a 'Proud' Alcoholic*

    • @lail111
      @lail111 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Wow you're such a backbiter.

    • @F_a_t_i_m_ah
      @F_a_t_i_m_ah  6 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Whatever wrong he does is between him and Allah. I am not going to watch such video, that’s waste of time