I have to share this with you... very important! Covert Narcissists are about to take over and ppl don't know what's about to happen! Tucker and Bret Weinstein reveals what's happening and about to happen in the world watch please 🙏 Pay attention!! This is what's going on and about to happen this year! th-cam.com/video/4MIESbBnA2k/w-d-xo.htmlsi=_R_baqeptMcwnaDK That's what the pandemic was about the separation of church and state and bringing them together under public health.... faith in medicine not God Himself.
Hebrews 4 13And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account. James 1 5If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
That isn't even your concern. It does NOT matter how a person you think is narcissist views forgiveness. You aren't given that option. Unless, you take the word of 'Kris Reece' above the words of Jesus.
edwardhayden2061 They’re = you are ... saying that = about yourself ... on costs of other people, right? only sorry that they got caught - so they are the same cheeky like someone who claims "i catched you! ... with my ego, my crime"? ... , don’t get fooled again - maybe i never got fooled by you ... but you obviously want me to get fooled by you ... again and again on my costs ... LisaLauve FACTS - the more you shout like Hitler, the more you lie and your crime$$ are bigger? but you are right, it is your ego, but it is just one, like your body, right? mariongasse434 Like Juda - i also dont like him or others' egos in general (i have my own one) so i also push them to people because i also dont want them on my costs ... Ms.Ny-Gee82 More like pretending to be sorry - you know the best with what hypicrisy you inflate your ego on costs of other people ... Lord help = your ego ... is hell for other people especially when you hypocritically call it help and if some silly/greedy/BPD person (so another criminal) wants to believe such foreign vomited BS without reason? words = wrong, right? everyone - you want to eat everyone so everyone pushes the same back to you? that going through this - maybe noone is so silly/criminal like you to go through your reckless ego on his costs, the hell you want to fry him in ...
I found a narcissist dont mind putting his deceitful ways out there for all to see. And all because he doesnt have a conscience. No tears, no feelings for noone but hisself.
@@cindyforbey2931 They put it out there because they think we are too stupid to recognize it. That's part of their supply. And of course they never think we are clever enough to play them. I played along with my sibling narc til the very end. The last one of their psychological punishments went too far. I went full no contact. Haven't looked back. We are old and this sibling will die alone. No tears will fall. I guarantee.
@cindyforbey2931 yes my husband is one and he only cares about himself and I get the blaim for everything but he can't own up to me calling him a narcissistic person ima let God handle him
@wisconsinfarmer4742 Sounds insane, but is it? How many horrific narc experiences have lead people to God? Besides, if you simply look, God is everything... everything is God.
@@crowbear516 Yeah , there is nothing in the teachings of Jesus that says to strike the meek for the glory of god. He did say to walk away, though, when abused. The church, though, entreats us to stay in abuse especially if it is them doing it.
My Narcissist is my 50yr old Daughter I'm 75 and have put up with her disrespectful words actions. She will never change I called her out on her disrespectful ways towards me. I don't ever want her back in my life she is everything that is being said here. I have already excluded her from my Will she gets nothing from me ever again.
I had to do just that also.I really would of liked to stay in touch as her and I are rooted from high school, some 46 years ago. The toll on my health was un-real. Looking back I should of never took her phone call, I have never been abused before, it really is demonic.
@@areuaware6842 he'll remember you said that. Narcissist's don't like it when they know you've figured them out and he IS the ultimate , final judge of where you'll spend eternity 😳
“They say sorry one minute, then justify their behavior the next”- yes I hate that! Please pray for me guys. Recovering from this is a long journey, but with Jesus it is possible!
Yep. He called me sad and just holding grudges. Then he agreed to everything and apologized. When I didn't accept he said we just had a small falling out and it wasn't a big deal and I'm in my feelings about him and acted like I need to get over it. He's a POS.
@@simionenaclably9280 I disagree, It's about Choices we all make, Reguadless of Religion. It's if you want to be kind to others, or to be toxic to others. It's Heart felt if you choose to be kind. Kindness is always the right choice.
I left a toxic workplace yet their dark antics schemes followed me and permeated every aspect of my life as I knew it. God is my only refuge for sure. Thanks for sharing your testimonies. Jesus is Lord.❤
@@banker1313 best to focus on the goodness and faithfulness of the Almighty God. He is more than able to provide for and protect His very own in all situations. In the name of Jesus ❤️ Amen
I did! I dumped him and God confirmed it right after I broke up with him! Now he came back to church lurking! God will protect me as He has done since I got saved 23 years ago!
once you know he wont let your ego recklessly inflate on costs of his one, you go trying to find someone less responsible and more BPD, possible victim of you? or you will be just comrade$$ in crime = having a big nothing in common and trying to provoke people who arent self-confident enough to withstand such BS and not catch on such empty promises, inflation?
When the narcissist is NICE is more terrifying than when they hateful. If they're nice...they're scheming, dreaming and cheating, slandering and sabotaging....
What if it’s your mommy because the Bible says honor thy parents my mother has never apologized for anything even if she blatantly wrong never pleased about ANYTHING!! Very critical and negative I can’t be around her soon as she sees me her face changes to pure disdain and disgust try and pray but I can’t please her quite frankly I’m sick of it the most peace I have when I block her on my phone I don’t hear her negative voice
When God showed me that I wasn't crazy and I found out that I had lived with this person for two decades, I cried because I always knew something wasn't right, but I didn't know what it was. His passive-aggressive abuse was every day, this person was/is a wolf in sheep's clothing. Thanks for such good information!
In the same situation here, I'm in the you're no longer useful to me phase and I've been discarded. It only took 3 decades, but what the check, time to start fresh and go on working on me phase.
Me too …😢 but now im pregnant, I just started a go fund me…or something of that sort as the pregnancy care is so expensive and I spent all my money keeping up rent with him and food and household needs bc he wasn’t working and now I’m broke 😭 pregnant and alone
This!!!! ❤ when my eyes were opened, I struggled with low self-esteem and guilt. How could I not know?! And I finally realized I wasn't crazy. I had been made to feel like I was crazy for years.
@@michaeljackson7361 wish I could, but now he is disabled & needs constant care. Plus I still work full time I am tired. Not even hospice can help, but that's another story.
I'm 65 years old and after more than 40 years of trying to 'help' narc, the only thing I am sure of in dealing with narcs is this: WALK AWAY, REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THEIR CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE. Move from cities I you have too, but learn the lesson! WATCH OUT FOR NARCS!!!
They never change. They get more hostile until you turn the tables and start to dominate them. Bullies are cowards, they hate it when you stand up to them but you must reform yourself and strenghen your character with God's strength, like David against Goliath you will overcome the fear and conquer them. Invoke #Psalm91 For he will deliver you from the snare of the fowler and from the deadly pestilence.
Is that a narcissist's way of forced power? 😂😂 Have to identify with a biblical character for purpose in life? Goliath at least stood on his own & didn't need an army of gang stalkers for strength. If you don't like someone then don't & stand on it. I think we all know approaching someone's intimate partners, family members, & coworkers to help them harass 1 person is beyond cowardly & there's no excuse for that desperation 🤷🏾♀️ this is not a Bible verse
We can't say never, God can change the heart of anyone who has a desire to change. Never means God can't and that's not right. Maybe rarely change is better, but saying never just limits God and that likely won't make Him very happy.
@wsharp2512 , a narc parent will apologize, and say, "well, I wish I had been a better mother", but only to manipulate you to come back in and let them continue manipulating you. 🙄 There will Not be a dialogue after their apology...no point in healing! 🤔
Or they'll say " If I've done anything wrong forgive me." Even then they never own up to any specifics, they'll use the word's if and anything how nonspecific is this?
They are human-in the flesh; but their flesh has been hijacked, and their souls and spirits have been bound deep within. Only YHVH-Yeshua can free them. I fervently pray that I NEVER AGAIN get seduced into believing that I can…
I totally agree. I would add Don't listen to what they say, But rather watch what they do. These people are just evil, And they love to take advantage of those with good hearts and Empathy. Once they discard you, They'll try to reel you back in to get what they want and then repeat. I will never get back on that hamster wheel again! I'm more valuable than a doormat.
Need more resources for women who can't afford getting the much needed help they so desperately need, because the narc has them financially strapped. My daughter is in this situation as we speak. Been for many yrs. Resources for moms to know how to help and when to back off. I'm saddened just watching the destruction, and she feels there is no help she stuck.
It's so hard when we see a loved one or child stuck in a trauma bond with one of these things. It's hard to get out and even harder when you can't financially support yourself. It can be a long journey out. Keep praying and try to help educate her 🙏
She’s not stuck! She needs to get moving! Help her formulate a DISCREET plan. I had three kids with the narc who took me to court siting child abuse & neglect to get out of paying support. See, I had figured him out and saw what he was. Getting my children and myself to safety was the hill I was going to die on! My plan took several years. I gathered every domestic violence report, every email, every phone call every recorded. Every thing I could get my hands on! I was ready for him that day in court! The judge saw through him, and granted me full custody, and one day visitation with him, but I wasn’t done yet. That one day visitation was still too darn much! I had let them visit one day and just as I suspected, his mother, “his handler”.. verbally abused them horribly. I never sent them back! To hell with the court order! I went even further and sold my house under the cover of night (aka.. private showings, internet only, no signs outside).. and disappeared with my kids! Moved states! Remember when I said, getting them to safety was the hill I was gonna die on? Well today, six years later, we’re on that hill and living our best lives ever! To hell with child support I got them! Me! THIS MAMA BEAR! You don’t get to come for my children! Nor, come for me! Was it easy? NO!! but you got to move and do something! Can’t be complacent. She is not stuck. The children MUST come first.. by any means necessary. 🙏🏾
@@franco2b145 No one is ever stuck in any situation if they truly want to move. It's just years of conditioning and learned helplessness that makes people believe they are stuck. Like you said. For most people, it is a long and difficult process that can take years. But it is doable.
“Then He said to another, “Follow Me.” But he said, “Lord, let me first go and bury my father.” Jesus said to him, “Let the dead bury their own dead, but you go and preach the kingdom of God.” And another also said, “Lord, I will follow You, but let me first go and bid them farewell who are at my house.” But Jesus said to him, “No one, having put his hand to the plow, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.”” Luke 9:59-62 NKJV
Plan "B": Confidential Support Group, document everything, skim money where you can, go to Church - find fellowship, get a part time job - skim money, devise/plan/execute "Plan B". Sent with tons of love.
Praying for you! Totally understand. I was in it for three decades. Recently divorced for six months now. Start making an exit plan. You will be OK. God is with you. 🙏🏾
I started praying for discernment in December. I now feel like I’m looking at whole different person. I kept putting off getting close to God. Because I knew deep down. Pray for me.
I'm absolutely unable to leave (his disability) & am staying CLOSE as possible to our Lord, but VERY RECENTLY, he began reading (studying???) the Bible, many hours a day, where I can SEE him doing so! Is this manipulation or real desire? He's watched me stay faithful to Jesus & am hoping/praying his faith is real(???). He refuses to go w/me to church, but watches online only (stalking me/knows when I SHOULD be home! 😠But...went ANOTHER ROUND of his "normal narcissist" behavior. I TRIED to tell him the "incident" (3 days ago) re MY side & DID apologize for very MINOR thing that set him off, but made VERY CLEAR he made an issue out of nothing...still said I'm his "punching bag" & never received HIS apology! What phase am I in???
This is sooo spot on. When my husband realized I wasn’t falling for the empty apology again after physical abuse, he flipped right back to blaming me and making my life unbearable. I’m safe and healing now. So glad I left.
@@shaggysbaggy4204 it’s why I am a rock. No initiating conversation, no eye contact, no expression, no anger, no nothing. You will see they’re like a deer in headlights.
Thank you Kris. I recently hired someone who turned out to be a narcissist. I prayed. God showed me his replacement. I fired the narcissist. The reaction was he was aggressive and controlling. I stood firm on my boundaries. I kept telling myself, Great is He who is in me than he who is in the world. God helped me through the situation. God is good all the time.🙏🕊️✝️❤️🤗
@@RememberHim-zz7cc May God bless you. May He direct you to find a job that you are respected and valued. May the new job bring you fulfillment. May the new job be a healthy workplace. May God abundantly provide for all your needs. In Jesus name. Amen
I recently had a "parting of the ways with a covert narcissist. When she realized that I, finally, figured out what she is, she ... flipped ... out. I remained calm the whole time, which REALLY pissed her off. She lunged at me, I put my hand out and said: "You need to back off." Then she tried to hit me and I grabbed her arms, looked her in the eyes and said: "You are not going to hit me. That is not going to happen." She pulled her arms away and yells: "You will respect me! Do you understand me?!" I calmly replied: "I understand more than you think I do." Then she really exploded. I was in the process of moving out anyway, but then she said that she wanted me out immediately. I moved everything out a few hours later and I left. She was expecting me to grovel. That was NOT going to happen. That was on Sunday, 3/10/24. Once I was gone, I went through a lot of different emotions ... anger & sadness, then relief, joy and peace. Things are challenging right now, but it's better than being under her thumb. Who is "she?" My mom. Believe it or not. As far as I am concerned, we are done. I even blocked her phone number and gmail. No more inane texts and emails that I could care less about. I ... AM ... FREE! 🥂🎉🎊 (I don't know if this is relevant or not, but I'm 55 and she is 76.)
I am totally no contact with my family of origin. I have no friends. And I am trying to get rid of my husband- working on my financial stability with two young kids. Never again will I tolerate abuse.
You realize that a woman doesn't have to be a narcissist to behave that way? She can simply be a spoiled, self-centered brat. That is ALL that is required for that kind of behavior. This CHANNEL is creating the old 'When all ya have is a hammer everything looks like a nail' syndrome. This comment thread is just painful to scan over. Almost as bad as this woman's videos.
@@INDOMINION a lot of people stay with their aging parents to help them financially and to help care for them. They have a place of their own, and have the parent move in with them; or if the parent's home is paid off, it's just smarter to move in there. I know many people in this situation, bcz the parent will otherwise be in a nursing home or homeless.
My narcissist would oscillate between sweet, apologetic, and charming and then without warning they would switch to demanding, controlling, entitled, angry, lying, manipulation, and triangulation. Whatever they could do to try and gain back any semblance of control.
I confronted my sister regarding her behavior and told her we were done via text (I will no longer talk with her on the phone to avoid her tantrums, screaming, etc) . First, she texted "I'm sorry". When that got no response, she texted an attack. Accused me of something I would never do. When that got no response she texted "Go ahead, run away like you always do", taunting me. (I have had to take breaks from my sister to remain sane), when that got no response she texted me a photo of a page in the Bible talking about forgiveness and told me "I better get right with God and forgive", when that got no response she went to our brother and told him I had done something she would never be able to forgive me of. No response. I have blocked her on texts and won't take phone calls. She has prayed for people to die before. I know however that God is my protector and she controls nothing. I will never see or talk to her again....and I was her biggest source of narcissic air. She hurt me badly many, many times and I reacted. Can't imagine who she will get that air from now. It is good to be free from all that evil.
@@laurenlowery5799 I am curious how she was able to "hurt" you. Sounds like you got embroiled and naivety on your part. Sounds like you are shrugging from responsibilities. If you caused a rift in the family small, or large part much easier route, Lauren to addres what you have done than to leave her in the lurch and aftermath of what you did. Sounds like, you are the one who created/caused an injury.
I was married to 2 narcissists and when I realized it, they tried everything in their power to prove me wrong. I was labeled crazy. I should be seeking help to change my ways of thinking. I decided to get out and not look back. This was the best thing I ever did.
@@shaggysbaggy4204 it wasn't easy. I too had 3 kids too.Their narcissistic father had a job requiring him to be away and that was how I survived. I was hiding money a little at a time to make my get away. By that time my kids were pretty much adults. We had a fight one night and I was gone, he had put his hands on me for the last time.
When you're eyes are opened, you have to leave, at all costs. Because nothing is more important than your freedom. I was on disability and oftentimes bedridden from ptsd and CFS. I didn't realize i was literally surrounded by narcs- husband, family , church, and friends. I finally divorced my abusive, adulterous husband after 15 yrs, against the counsel of my church and pastors. I was blacklisted. I lost my home and everything i had after the divorce. My ex turned our son against me. I couch-surfed for 5 yrs (learning the hard way that my "friends" and family were using me, stealing my disability money, etc.) until God called me to pack my little car and drive off. Then I lived in my car for 3 yrs, as God began undoing everything that was done, and making me who i needed to be. In 2022, my now adult son moved out of state to be with me. God restored us. I'm no longer homeless and no longer on disability. It's worth it. At all costs. You will learn how much you really don't need. ❤️
Thank you sister this has helped me so much. God will bring you through everything. We just have to trust him. Even if we end up homeless he will bring us out. I'm so happy for you!❤❤
@@chelceasurgenor598 you're so welcome!!! It was 11 yrs ago today that my divorce was final. God showed up in such a mighty way in that courtroom!! They said I'd never leave. They said I'd never make it. BUT GOD!!!!! 🙌🙌👏❤️😭🙏
I’ve moved over 30 times escaping my narcissistic family or origin and now husband. It’s not easy with children and co-parenting. I am applying for disability because it is all just too much.
My friend, we have ALL been there before and we can promise you …… Faith in God will take a step forward ( no matter How uncomfortable) and let Him lead you the rest of the way out. He’s kind and loving as Our True Father and will NEVER do anything to hurt you. The GREATEST ONE lives in your heart if you’re born again. Fear Not, you are the 🍎 of His Eye It’s always on You 😊🫶🙏👍💕
Once you pray to God about leaving the narc it's up to you. Pack your things or not and leave immediately. Don't look back and don't contact any mutual friends or family members that you both know. They don't change, they get worse. 😐✌🏾
Remove them from your life or remove yourself. Painful I know , but it will be worth it. Or stay and be a doormat forever . They DONT change. Take responsibility for YOUR life. YOU MATTER . Don't waste your life on enabling this breed of human through life.
I prayed and I said God I cannot remove myself it is impossible for me. Please help me and if it is your will then please God remove me. One week later it happened God removed me and after some time my smile is finally back and I am regaining a sense of self again.
I heard it said that the mistake many Christians make is they think that if they would just love someone more then they would change but this is not always the case. God is love and most of the wicked still do not turn to Him.
I thought I could love her through it, but it kept getting worse! I pleaded with God to change her, but that didn’t happen. I had to submit myself to the Holy Spirit and remove myself from the marriage as it was revealed to me it was all an illusion! I am on the path to healing, but I have had total peace! No more walking on eggshells, waiting for the other shoe to drop! Once the mask is removed, you see them for who they really are! While it is sad that those years can never be recovered, I am hopeful for the ones ahead! I realized I ignored the red flags at the beginning and there sure were consequences!
Yes! In Revelation it talks about how they will STILL be unrepentant, and curse God, even though they're going through the Great Tribulation period. I mean...if you've seen the ocean turned to blood, I think it would be a wise idea to just accept Him, than not. That's a whole other level of hate, and stupidity that's just evil. I look at narcissistic people like them, because that's what they are. They will NEVER change. They will NEVER accept Christ, and humble themselves to just admit they're sinful, and need Jesus. And that's hard to accept. But it's true.
I am dealing with a female Covert Malignant Narcissist and she has exibited all of these wild behaviours and she gets very Violent alot and it's like she throws little child like temper tantrums.
When I finally dumped the covert religious Narcissist in "ministry' who'd taken me to the cleaners financially, and told her never to contact me again, she predictably attempted "Narcissistic Hoovering"; one of the last thing she said to me was "I love you" -- after literally taking my last dime, calling me names, hurling false accusations at me? THAT'S LOVE??? No thanks!!!
Wow exactly the same with me!!! I’m impressed!! He said the same thing over and over we the he loves me and then called me a rotten woman cause literally God gave me the escape and called me names like rotten woman and so on, and I messaged his pastor and told everything about what happened with the screenshots and the pastor took it very seriously thank God and told me that he had a meeting with him talked to him and took him out of all the functions of the church until he gets his marriage life resolved….when is it going to be resolved? From him NEVER! God is definitely dealing with him!
It's like a circus. Swear. I have been through all these phases over and over again. The whole thing is a circle. I am done. That's why I pray for justice.
Please pray for me. My heart 💔 is hurting. The deception and betrayal was so deep...I know God will vindicate me. Staying in PEACE. Be encouraged folks.
This is common, okay? Please don’t beat yourself up about it. Get free and then have fun rediscovering or redefining who you are! Healing IS possible! ❤❤❤
The evil one will use narcissists in our lives to convince us to believe his lies and to doubt or question our true identity. When that happens, the only really successful way to stand firm under that type of (spiritual) attack is to use the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God, to speak truth to us about what our true identity is, and then allow that truth to realign our beliefs about that area where we believed that lie. For example, if a narcissist has caused you to feel like you don't have hope or a future, you could go to Jeremiah 29:11-14 and ask God to continually remind you of His promises to you whenever you are tempted to believe those lies. That takes the power away from the narcissist and their manipulative behavior and puts your faith in a good and loving God who only wants what's best for you. It's not always easy to do this, but it does get easier with practice and you also start to learn the enemy's tactics so that you can more easily identify when your identity is under attack (because it's not always obvious when the attacks are coming from narcissistic people who are supposed to love you). Always remember that we are more than conquerors! And if you forget that, it may just be time to go back and read Romans chapter 8 to remind yourself that we have life through the Spirit!
God guided me to leave prior to me realizing he was a covert narcissist. I found out the abuse and silent treatment by research after my divorce. I left him with our home we built and everything else and didn’t have any bitterness, anger, emotional distress (outwardly). I felt a relief and a burden lifted. It was weird no emotional distress like prior relationships. God has provided for me emotionally, spiritually and I no longer care about material items.
Wow!!! I Truely love that. Yes , I have experienced this for 26 years. We built our home with our own hands in the woods, and when it was finished , he got even more toxic, closing up, making me feel like “I am Wrong, I am Bad, I am wrong”…. Then when I spoke up… he closed up! Locked himself away in a room except for bathroom and food… and ignored me for 2 weeks, saying “ I want a separation” He left…. I cried and prayed and fasted….. he went to his atheist mother, they manipulated his mind totally against me cuz I’m a Christian. They helped him push for divorce. Now he just gave me Legal separation. He was so called nice to me for 2 months leading up to this. Fooling me…. I pray for strength… I pray I can get through this
@@tinaureta9891 They always play the victim. Mine did same after house was done being built. he would go read his Bible in bed (towards the end). He was so fake. I was with him 7-8 years and didn’t realize how badly I was being gas lit. He told me I was leaving with more then I had when he met me. What? I didn’t want court and in MT you have to live apart for 180 days prior to filing for divorce unless you sign and notarize a legal doc. Done. Cost of divorce was the filing fee. Moved 4 states away. Stay strong and pray about it. God will help you. God Bless.
I bought some land, about to build a house and my wife are giving me so many red flags ...I'm so scared to continue...I mean she throw paper on the floor beside the thrash can instead of putting in
This year, God exposed my husband my mother and my sister. This year I realized I’ve been mentally abused by my mother all my life and now my husband. I love my sister and I’d do anything for her only to realize she’s been a flying monkey and talk sh*t about me when I’m not around. Thank God I divorced my husband and now I’m focused on how I can survive with my daughter.
Every word of this podcast mirrors my life with a Christian narcissist. Kris, you nailed every single one of these phases. It’s been so painful. I’ve been kind and compassionate. I stayed for 24 years being used, manipulated, blamed for his behavior and raged at. He fools most everyone, especially our pastor. He is a completely different person when he is in public, wearing the mask. I’m finally living elsewhere and feeling safe. The lies about my character are hard to hear but I’m just going to be quiet. God has brought me safely out of a dark situation, into the light of His goodness and grace. I’ve finally filed for a divorce. I feel like a failure that I was never able to love him enough or change him. I just cannot keep enduring the abuse.
Only by the grace of God i have a sound mind. I fought accepting the truth of who he is. I couldn't believe what i knew deep inside was true. Freedom came mentaly emotionally and spiritually trusting in God.
I asked for clarity and within hours he accidentally recorded himself and sent me a three minute recording of him completely being a liar and flirting with another woman. There is my clarity, and when he came to the door, I questioned him he denied it, and then I told him he recorded himself and he said I gotta go, and I haven’t seen him in four weeks, and I am very grateful for that clarity that was gifted to me, peace is so much more valuable in this world than what you believe is love when it’s only one-sided. ❤
Unfortunately God exposed my own mother as being a true narcissist who is intentionally trying to destroy my family, and the very fabric of my innermost being. I am a warrior in Christ though, and I know He is looking out for my family and myself. I have faith He will protect us and see us through till the end.
I can testify to that. God showed me everything my mother was doing behind my back. He showed me that my mother was the one stealing from me and was causing all the problems in the family. After years of living & taking care if her I was so exhausted and I prayed, "Abba Father, take my mother from my sight. I can't take it anymore. Please Father help me. I give this battle to You. In Jesus name. Amen." I prayed this over and over. She died less than a month later. She was old in bad health, but I believed God answered. I never thought God would expose my mother being my enemy. Just remember call on Him when you need help. May God keep you & your family safe and makes a path for you to get out of this toxic relationship. God bless.❤
Amen, Amen!!!! I grew up in a family like this as the scapegoat. I was constantly sad and couldn't figure out what I had done to cause them to hate me so much. My mother was jealous of me, the only little girl in a house full of men. Then as I was growing her angst toward me was taught to my brothers and they too thought something was wrong with me because of the way "Mommy" hated me. My father didn't defend me, at least where I could see it. My mother and father fought all the time and it upset me greatly.
🩷🩷🩷🩷 BE OF GOOD CHEER .... Many people this happens to it because they had a great call in their life at birth they had a bright light and the enemy does not like that because he's jealous okay so the Lord is with you and always has protected you... the people who should have loved you the most omg.. the fact that you came through this and very sane that is a miracle from God Almighty so God bless you girlfriend God be with you, be of good courage AMEN... he LOVES you... VERY MUCH... GOD THE FATHER,, JESUS THE SAVIOR, HOLY SPIRIT OF COMFORT.... 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🕊️✝️
I grew up in this same environment. I grew up, moved away, got married, had three sons, as hard as it was to remove myself from the drama of my mom. It was worth it! We maintained a on again off again relationship through our adult years. The last three years of her life, we had a better relationship. But the knowledge of narcissism has been a game changer for me. I am thankful for the videos and their knowledge. I know I am not CRAZY!
It is just a ploy. He went to therapy, said he'd hit rock bottom and was a changed man, even started going to church. Ignoring his lovebombing words and looking at his behavior he hadn't changed. Things he promised he'd do he later made excuses for not doing. I divorced him and he immediately stopped going to church and put him on dating apps. Juggling multiple women at once unbeknownst to them. Same old him. Thank you God for delivering me!
Mine never apologized, he would just ghost me and act like I never existed and it worked every time 😭 he knew I was sad and confused etc but he also saw that his anger, rage and bs wasn't phasing me anymore so he'd basically just go radio silent and he knew it would make me feel the most pain because I had abandonment trauma from childhood. They are definitely demonic and twisted
Same thing happened to me. I was a doormat. Now I'm focused on my life .Finally I sent him a text calling him motherfucker and blocked him.He blocked me back .I am trying to forgive myself for letting people to mistreat me.I also ve abandoned trauma like you and I know that is why all of those things happened. Let's win sister. GOD BLESS YOU ❤
Thank you dear daughter of God. This helps a lot Christians who don't know how to handle this evil without disobeying God, like unforgiving person, but self guard.
My narc husbands go-to when he’s enraged is “You need HELP, you’re insane”. He’s THE MASTER of all masters of this narc tool, that is the deflection, the flipping their own guilt onto others.
I find that as hard as it may be to do this strategy if you agree with everything thing that they are saying about you is true (obviously you know you aren't any of those things) that the narc will have no more ammo or fuel left to fight with you. Just by simply saying your right, I am the one that's at fault here. Then say to them if this is what you think of me and how u feel about me , why do/would you want me in your life?? You end up being the better person for not falling to their level(s)and put an end to the madness...
@@jenniferrosteski3955no, agreeing with everything they say is called enabling. From a christian view, it is untruthful. Nowhere in The Bible are we ever advised ti ‘go along’ with sinful behavior…im sorry, but the narc will only look, or create more anyway.
That's a laughable tactic 😂😂 can't take these losers seriously. They're robots who say whatever the script tells them to in their jotted notes of repeatable bullshih. They just want some attention
This was so timely. My mother is so toxic. Everything that you’re saying she’s doing to me. Making me out to be the problem. I thought I was crazy. I had so much anger when talking to her that I did explode but there’s no taking it back now so of course I look like the bad person. I finally know her true colors and want nothing to do with her.
I dealt with this my whole life with my mom and they antagonize, gaslight , triangulate and deny your reality and then blame you when you lose it. It's text book. I had to cut ties with my whole family because of this. GOD bless you!
You just told my story. I grew up with three brothers and a mother who treated me with disdain. I could never understand why she was so dismissive toward me. Being the only daughter threatened her. My father used me later as his sounding board and then abandoned us. The narc mother loves to triangulate their children to dislike each other. Her fear is that collectively they may figure her out. Praying for your healing from your traumatic childhood of emotional neglect. God is our redeemer!!
Great teaching. I’ve been out 5 years through God grace and mercy, Iv’e survived. I have entered a new phase: strength, boldness, courage. Those boundaries are there in place. I am waiting on Father to restore my alienated children. Prayer needed here. But God is good! He has promised full restoration in His time.
Have faith! They try to take the kids… If there’s issues with visitation, the judge will start to notice… and if you have to go through the whole long & grueling court process, it’s so hard to prove even with EVIDENCE & protective orders expire… gaslighting occurs during the supervised visits too… it makes zero sense & exhausting but you CAN win!
THEY NEVER CHANGE! Kris, you said it yourself once. These people know the words but do not have the music. In Christian lingo it's all talk and no walk. If the conviction of the Holy Spirit is not operational in their lives, no amount of praying and waiting will make a difference. My experience of 35 years in and 5+ years out is testimony to the results of mis-spent hope.
I have just learned about narcissism and what I am learning is how unbelievably twisted and Cemented and purposefull the evil is in these type of people !!! 😮
Are you saying just because your experience is they did not change ( yet) that God can't soften a person's heart? Well your discounting what God can do. You should pray for them.
@@Sarah-psalm127 here you are again imposing on someone's wise safe decision to stay away from EVIL. Since your so adamant about praying for abusers and not the victim..just keep it to yourself to pray for them but stop imposing and harrassing others to do the same especially when they are trying to heal and move on. Your doing more damage than you are bringing healing. They are ignoring you because tou can't chsnge a narc nor reason with them that's because they have wicked stubborn hearts and partner with demons leave everyone alone that's trying to heal. Stop trying to convince pole that they need to spend all their life praying for someone that refuses to change. I thought like you until I had enough of the abuse then turned him over to God. There are tons of comments clearly sayimg to stay away from the barc which lines up with scripture and your going agsinst scripture repeatedly.You need to check yourself. Stop trying to play God's role in trying to tell people what to do by encouraging them to stay wiyh an abuser or even think of them by forcing them to pray for them. You want grace fkr the abuser but not the abused.Backwards.
This is very profound. I'm beginning to wonder whether narcissism might not be the "sin against the Holy Spirit that cannot be forgiven". I've always wondered what it is. But they pretend to it without the change that truly bowing to the Spirit would create.
Extreme love bombing now, which has confused me for decades, but especially now. A neighbor of mine helped shine the light on all of his " good works": Satan mirrors God, which makes you think " Oh, he's So good"! Mine is an extremely manipulative " nice" altruistic narcissist. Satan comes as a beautiful -looking something or someone- beware!!
Yup. It's deception. But, if we stay true to God, His Holy Spirit will reveal them before you fall a prey. If you walk in lust, then the enemy will have his way.
Narcissists ( plural). Like a whole lot of them. Block , block, block them; it's not wrong; it's healthful. Go after them legally if need be! State and federal charges of harassment. Yep!
He can fix them but they have to ask Him for the help which most probably don't because they lack accountability. But God COULD change them, but like you said, getting that help from Him, we have to be able to admit we need it first
I have no desire to get " back to normal" with my former abuser. She's never given me a real apology; just the useless " I'm sorry I hurt your feelings" nonsense. I haven’t spoken to her in years, I have forgiven her, but I will never trust her again. I have absolutely no desire to opening my life up to her abuse again.
Hi Kris .. excellent video. Sadly I lived it .. and yes Ma'am all these toxic individuals really want is your admiration and conformity. It's like way down deep, their heart is all locked up. And because WE, the empath would not treat anyone with such anger and lies, we assume EVERYONE has our best interest at heart!!! They don't. Simply they don't, evil absolutely exists in this world, soo ... I know from experience how important it is to truly LISTEN to the holy Spirit. That beautiful still quiet voice within. Because that IS God trying to protect & guide you. God IS love and wants us to experience being loved well. The enemy of our souls IS a counterfeit. And will offer a substitute, and it always comes in the form of confusion. Normalizing abuse is not FROM the holy Spirit. Thank you Kris for all the excellent videos, God bless you abundantly! 😘🙏✝️🕊️
Absolutely! GOD helped me and saved me from a situation that could have been so much worse. I didn’t listen enough to not marry him, but I listened enough to never move in with him and he never became a part of my every day life. Totally rings true: all they want is admiration and our conformity. Yuck 🤮🤮🤮 I vomit mentally every time I think of it…🐍🐺 he’s the snake in the garden (deceitful) and wolf in sheep’s clothing. The Judas that stabs you in the back… thank GOD He removed me.✝️🙏
@@Kris_Reece Is it possible to rescue my daughter and grandbabies from her boyfriend? He has got a chain on her so hard, she barely smiles. Looks like she may have stopped caring for herself. She says she is staying on her own accord, but we think he may be drugging her? When do we put our foot down or take charge?
Yep my spirit was telling me it’s time to distance myself and spend less time with them. Got an extremely fragile and unpredictable powerful narcissist. Probably should’ve listened sooner my energy is reaching new highs now.
You simply go no contact.A Narcissist will never change. It's not my job to lead anyone to the Lord,figure them out,or deal with their issues.I choose me.They're in God's hands.Forgive & let go.Love them from a distance & Pray for them.
Dear lord! This has been the exact cycle I’ve been through. I’m at the apology stage now. “Gods power is not in question” 🙌🏾 Wow! I’m so happy I found you on here Kris Reece My hope has increased!! But now I know what to do!!!!
I needed to hear this it gives me hope. I seem to bear the weight of the world on my shoulders as a single mom, I’m battling lupus and heart disease. I often face challenges that can seem insurmountable especially with raising two children with special needs. I’m trying to balance everything but Lord I’m struggling to make ends meet, to pay bills, and to put food on the table for my children and I feel so alone. At times I want to give up. But I keep faith because I know God will provide.❤
I’m thankful for the gift of discernment, God showed me this abusive man’s heart through dreams, visions and a word of knowledge. He won’t be manipulating me again.
Awesome! I had to get married again to realize but what I can say is I cried out to the Lord and He heard me and gave an escape! Praise Jesus, I’m separated moved to another city and am doing therapy a Christian therapy 😊
You are 100% right about all of these phases. I stayed in contact with the narcissist ex for almost a year, mostly just to watch what manipulative ploy he would try next. I had no intention of ever seeing him again, after I figured out what he was. It gave me the closure I needed, so I wouldn't doubt my decision to never go back. I'm 59 this month, and I feel like all of my relationships have been with narcissistic men. I'm just now figuring it all out, and fear ever getting into another relationship. My heart is worn out. Thank you for the help you're giving to all of us who've been hoping for the best, but being shown the worst of humanity.
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Hebrews 4 13And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.
James 1 5If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
Thank you !
"I am not the author of confusion." - God.
Amen❤
Ben, we need to put that on a tee-shirt 😂😂🤗🙏🏾
Amen!!!
@@Witchslayer007 yes!!!
Amen and Amen 🙌 just said that a few minutes ago
Narcissists see forgiveness as a permission slip to be abusive again.
A frog is a frog, a scorpion is a scorpion, and a narcissist is a narcissist.
VEEERRRY true!
Very good example
This is a good one
That isn't even your concern. It does NOT matter how a person you think is narcissist views forgiveness. You aren't given that option. Unless, you take the word of 'Kris Reece' above the words of Jesus.
Very true.
A narcissist is a narcissist. They're horrendous personality will NEVER get better.
Are they basically doomed to be a demonic bad person or can they change their ways?
Doomed. It’s God’s judgment on the person.
@@omar2292 beyond repentance?
@@Fuentesico Yup, and they know they're going to burn for eternity.
@@thaistompI’m pretty sure you don’t know that
Narcs dont apologize or repent. When they realize they can't run game any more they just abandon and avoid you.
I disagree. In my experience, they turn to narcissistic rage.
It's both and different from relationship to relationship
True
@@mjb717 They overts rage then abandon, the coverts become snipers from the side and then abandon
True
They’re only sorry that they got caught , don’t get fooled again 💯
*FACTS*
Like Juda
caught with another criminal, who other would deal with (his) crimes?
More like pretending to be sorry 🤦🏾♀️ Lord help everyone that going through this 🙏🏻 😢
edwardhayden2061
They’re
= you are ... saying that = about yourself ... on costs of other people, right?
only sorry that they got caught
- so they are the same cheeky like someone who claims "i catched you! ... with my ego, my crime"? ...
, don’t get fooled again
- maybe i never got fooled by you ... but you obviously want me to get fooled by you ... again and again on my costs ...
LisaLauve
FACTS
- the more you shout like Hitler, the more you lie and your crime$$ are bigger? but you are right, it is your ego, but it is just one, like your body, right?
mariongasse434
Like Juda
- i also dont like him or others' egos in general (i have my own one) so i also push them to people because i also dont want them on my costs ...
Ms.Ny-Gee82
More like pretending to be sorry
- you know the best with what hypicrisy you inflate your ego on costs of other people ...
Lord help
= your ego ... is hell for other people especially when you hypocritically call it help and if some silly/greedy/BPD person (so another criminal) wants to believe such foreign vomited BS without reason? words = wrong, right?
everyone
- you want to eat everyone so everyone pushes the same back to you?
that going through this
- maybe noone is so silly/criminal like you to go through your reckless ego on his costs, the hell you want to fry him in ...
The narcissist exposes themself. Period.
I found a narcissist dont mind putting his deceitful ways out there for all to see. And all because he doesnt have a conscience. No tears, no feelings for noone but hisself.
@@cindyforbey2931 They put it out there because they think we are too stupid to recognize it. That's part of their supply. And of course they never think we are clever enough to play them. I played along with my sibling narc til the very end. The last one of their psychological punishments went too far. I went full no contact. Haven't looked back. We are old and this sibling will die alone. No tears will fall. I guarantee.
@cindyforbey2931 yes my husband is one and he only cares about himself and I get the blaim for everything but he can't own up to me calling him a narcissistic person ima let God handle him
What they fail to realize is that God really was using them for our good and his glory
That sounds insane.
@wisconsinfarmer4742 Sounds insane, but is it? How many horrific narc experiences have lead people to God? Besides, if you simply look, God is everything... everything is God.
@@crowbear516 the insane part is the "glory"
@@wisconsinfarmer4742 Achieving goals... winning the game... is glorious, though.
@@crowbear516 Yeah , there is nothing in the teachings of Jesus that says to strike the meek for the glory of god.
He did say to walk away, though, when abused.
The church, though, entreats us to stay in abuse especially if it is them doing it.
NO CONTACT BEST THING I'VE EVER DONE!
Indeed
Indeed, bye bye 👋 😘
My Narcissist is my 50yr old Daughter I'm 75 and have put up with her disrespectful words actions. She will never change I called her out on her disrespectful ways towards me.
I don't ever want her back in my life she is everything that is being said here. I have already excluded her from my Will she gets nothing from me ever again.
I had to do just that also.I really would of liked to stay in touch as her and I are rooted from high school, some 46 years ago. The toll on my health was un-real. Looking back I should of never took her phone call, I have never been abused before, it really is demonic.
Same here I’ve found peace! Feel so much better about myself😂
God will reveal everything 🗣🗣
🙏
Amen
Amen
Yes LORD 💯💯💯.
Amen
Narcissism is just plain evil.
@@summerjunell525 💯 it really is. These people are truly scary.
The god of Abraham is a narcissist, yes he is evil.
@@areuaware6842 he'll remember you said that. Narcissist's don't like it when they know you've figured them out and he IS the ultimate , final judge of where you'll spend eternity 😳
@@Bitterstone3849 , Already met him.
@@areuaware6842 the God of Abraham is loving, the opposite of narcissistic.
“They say sorry one minute, then justify their behavior the next”- yes I hate that! Please pray for me guys. Recovering from this is a long journey, but with Jesus it is possible!
Amen!
GLORY!
I wish you all the blessings you deserve and hope you will enjoy your journey 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
Yep. He called me sad and just holding grudges. Then he agreed to everything and apologized. When I didn't accept he said we just had a small falling out and it wasn't a big deal and I'm in my feelings about him and acted like I need to get over it. He's a POS.
@@simionenaclably9280 I disagree, It's about Choices we all make, Reguadless of Religion. It's if you want to be kind to others, or to be toxic to others. It's Heart felt if you choose to be kind. Kindness is always the right choice.
Narcissist apologies
"I'm sorry you feel that way "
" I'm sorry you took it wrong "
"Sorry you misunderstood "
Once you know, you go. That's it.
I left a toxic workplace yet their dark antics schemes followed me and permeated every aspect of my life as I knew it. God is my only refuge for sure. Thanks for sharing your testimonies. Jesus is Lord.❤
@@VisibleTimes sorry to hear that I also left a toxic workplace...I'm curious about the antics after?
@@banker1313 best to focus on the goodness and faithfulness of the Almighty God. He is more than able to provide for and protect His very own in all situations. In the name of Jesus ❤️ Amen
I did! I dumped him and God confirmed it right after I broke up with him! Now he came back to church lurking! God will protect me as He has done since I got saved 23 years ago!
once you know he wont let your ego recklessly inflate on costs of his one, you go trying to find someone less responsible and more BPD, possible victim of you? or you will be just comrade$$ in crime = having a big nothing in common and trying to provoke people who arent self-confident enough to withstand such BS and not catch on such empty promises, inflation?
So basically don't take them back because they're irredeemable! Remember when someone shows you who they are... believe them!
In the Book of Romans, it talks about their behavior and says "even God knows they should die "
When the narcissist is NICE is more terrifying than when they hateful. If they're nice...they're scheming, dreaming and cheating, slandering and sabotaging....
IF they apologize, simply say Thank you and walk away...do NOT take them back....its a TRAP by a 3 headed rattle snake
100% truth.
What if it’s your mommy because the Bible says honor thy parents my mother has never apologized for anything even if she blatantly wrong never pleased about ANYTHING!! Very critical and negative I can’t be around her soon as she sees me her face changes to pure disdain and disgust try and pray but I can’t please her quite frankly I’m sick of it the most peace I have when I block her on my phone I don’t hear her negative voice
When God showed me that I wasn't crazy and I found out that I had lived with this person for two decades, I cried because I always knew something wasn't right, but I didn't know what it was.
His passive-aggressive abuse was every day, this person was/is a wolf in sheep's clothing. Thanks for such good information!
In the same situation here, I'm in the you're no longer useful to me phase and I've been discarded. It only took 3 decades, but what the check, time to start fresh and go on working on me phase.
@@maxmaximus8323 2 decades for me
My experience to a tee. Now I know my abuser is a malignant narcissist.
Me too …😢 but now im pregnant, I just started a go fund me…or something of that sort as the pregnancy care is so expensive and I spent all my money keeping up rent with him and food and household needs bc he wasn’t working and now I’m broke 😭 pregnant and alone
This!!!! ❤ when my eyes were opened, I struggled with low self-esteem and guilt. How could I not know?! And I finally realized I wasn't crazy. I had been made to feel like I was crazy for years.
Just walk away, don't say a word, block and never look back
why i dont want to do to you what are you asking for? because i dont like obeying any Hitler and his inflated ego on costs of mine, maybe ...
@@michaeljackson7361 go no contact and maintain that.
but you said more words on our costs, why should we let you committing such unbalanced BPD crime?
@@labakanurzidil2464 their own medicine
@@michaeljackson7361 wish I could, but now he is disabled & needs constant care. Plus I still work full time
I am tired. Not even hospice can help, but that's another story.
I'm 65 years old and after more than 40 years of trying to 'help' narc, the only thing I am sure of in dealing with narcs is this: WALK AWAY, REMOVE YOURSELF FROM THEIR CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE. Move from cities I you have too, but learn the lesson! WATCH OUT FOR NARCS!!!
2 Timothy 3
@@lesliekupchanko5001 had to see these messages. 2nd time in 24 hours I was guided to 2 Timothy 3. God bless
@@sarahgilmore9990
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I was you..same number of years. Took seven years to heal. Get as far away as possible. No contact. It’s possible to heal, but very hard. 🙏 pray.
Same, I am 62. Hard life with them, nightmare. I have moved away from them. With Gods Help.
They never change. They get more hostile until you turn the tables and start to dominate them. Bullies are cowards, they hate it when you stand up to them but you must reform yourself and strenghen your character with God's strength, like David against Goliath you will overcome the fear and conquer them. Invoke #Psalm91 For he will deliver you from the snare of the fowler and from the deadly pestilence.
He will deliver me from the snare of the fowler. THANK YOU for saying that. It was just what I needed to hear today. Psalm 91.🙏❤️🌹
Don't yell and scream, stay calm and speak clearly with conviction, they want you to look crazy so don't do it
Is that a narcissist's way of forced power? 😂😂 Have to identify with a biblical character for purpose in life? Goliath at least stood on his own & didn't need an army of gang stalkers for strength. If you don't like someone then don't & stand on it. I think we all know approaching someone's intimate partners, family members, & coworkers to help them harass 1 person is beyond cowardly & there's no excuse for that desperation 🤷🏾♀️ this is not a Bible verse
HalleluYAH!!
We can't say never, God can change the heart of anyone who has a desire to change. Never means God can't and that's not right. Maybe rarely change is better, but saying never just limits God and that likely won't make Him very happy.
The narcissists, I have known never gives apologies...‼️
Not even on their death beds and that is one major sign they’re a cluster B.
They do give apologies when they are publicly exposed as a way to regain control and further manipulate the situation
@@bruh1052 absolutely these people are monsters
You are right
Me too does it means that person never change
Phase 1: they will try to make everything go back to normal
Phase 2: threats, insult, rage
Phase 3: apology
Phase 4: they’ll justify their behavior
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Sorry, but a narc will never apologize. Remember, they do no wrong, in their heads.
@wsharp2512 , a narc parent will apologize, and say, "well, I wish I had been a better mother", but only to manipulate you to come back in and let them continue manipulating you. 🙄 There will Not be a dialogue after their apology...no point in healing! 🤔
Or they'll say " If I've done anything wrong forgive me." Even then they never own up to any specifics, they'll use the word's if and anything how nonspecific is this?
NO contact... that's it, done, period! Move on to the next chapter of YOUR life!
Dont engage, block, stand . Dont need them.
Narcissists are not human. Evil to the core. They will attempt to destroy you in every way.
They are human-in the flesh; but their flesh has been hijacked, and their souls and spirits have been bound deep within.
Only YHVH-Yeshua can free them. I fervently pray that I NEVER AGAIN get seduced into believing that I can…
Never again I would rathe drink pee😂😂😂
They are demons no doubt! Their real selves have been dead for a long time
I totally agree. I would add Don't listen to what they say, But rather watch what they do. These people are just evil, And they love to take advantage of those with good hearts and Empathy. Once they discard you, They'll try to reel you back in to get what they want and then repeat. I will never get back on that hamster wheel again! I'm more valuable than a doormat.
Amen, Jimmy.
Amen!
My God. I experienced all . But no more rinse, recycling or repeating.
Amen!
Amen ❤️🙏❤️
Just get away from them and stay away .
Need more resources for women who can't afford getting the much needed help they so desperately need, because the narc has them financially strapped. My daughter is in this situation as we speak. Been for many yrs. Resources for moms to know how to help and when to back off. I'm saddened just watching the destruction, and she feels there is no help she stuck.
It's so hard when we see a loved one or child stuck in a trauma bond with one of these things. It's hard to get out and even harder when you can't financially support yourself. It can be a long journey out. Keep praying and try to help educate her 🙏
She’s not stuck! She needs to get moving! Help her formulate a DISCREET plan.
I had three kids with the narc who took me to court siting child abuse & neglect to get out of paying support.
See, I had figured him out and saw what he was. Getting my children and myself to safety was the hill I was going to die on!
My plan took several years. I gathered every domestic violence report, every email, every phone call every recorded. Every thing I could get my hands on! I was ready for him that day in court!
The judge saw through him, and granted me full custody, and one day visitation with him, but I wasn’t done yet. That one day visitation was still too darn much!
I had let them visit one day and just as I suspected, his mother, “his handler”.. verbally abused them horribly. I never sent them back!
To hell with the court order! I went even further and sold my house under the cover of night (aka.. private showings, internet only, no signs outside).. and disappeared with my kids! Moved states!
Remember when I said, getting them to safety was the hill I was gonna die on? Well today, six years later, we’re on that hill and living our best lives ever! To hell with child support I got them!
Me! THIS MAMA BEAR! You don’t get to come for my children! Nor, come for me! Was it easy? NO!! but you got to move and do something! Can’t be complacent.
She is not stuck. The children MUST come first.. by any means necessary. 🙏🏾
@@franco2b145 No one is ever stuck in any situation if they truly want to move. It's just years of conditioning and learned helplessness that makes people believe they are stuck. Like you said. For most people, it is a long and difficult process that can take years. But it is doable.
“Then He said to another, “Follow Me.” But he said, “Lord, let me first go and bury my father.” Jesus said to him, “Let the dead bury their own dead, but you go and preach the kingdom of God.” And another also said, “Lord, I will follow You, but let me first go and bid them farewell who are at my house.” But Jesus said to him, “No one, having put his hand to the plow, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.””
Luke 9:59-62 NKJV
Plan "B":
Confidential Support Group, document everything, skim money where you can, go to Church - find fellowship, get a part time job - skim money, devise/plan/execute "Plan B".
Sent with tons of love.
Please pray for me. I've been dealing with this for a long time. Please help me Lord.
Praying for you! Totally understand. I was in it for three decades. Recently divorced for six months now. Start making an exit plan. You will be OK. God is with you. 🙏🏾
Praying for you!!!
Prayed.
praying that you leave. no contact.
🙏
The more you are closer to God the faster they are exposed stay connected to the most high
I started praying for discernment in December. I now feel like I’m looking at whole different person. I kept putting off getting close to God. Because I knew deep down. Pray for me.
Amen
I must not be very close to God. Been dancing in this monotony for 6 years!
@@healthyforpurpose1898 ANEN HIS WORDS AND CONFIRMATION WAS A LAMP unto MY FEET .!!!!✝️❤️❤️❤️
I'm absolutely unable to leave (his disability) & am staying CLOSE as possible to our Lord, but VERY RECENTLY, he began reading (studying???) the Bible, many hours a day, where I can SEE him doing so! Is this manipulation or real desire? He's watched me stay faithful to Jesus & am hoping/praying his faith is real(???). He refuses to go w/me to church, but watches online only (stalking me/knows when I SHOULD be home! 😠But...went ANOTHER ROUND of his "normal narcissist" behavior. I TRIED to tell him the "incident" (3 days ago) re MY side & DID apologize for very MINOR thing that set him off, but made VERY CLEAR he made an issue out of nothing...still said I'm his "punching bag" & never received HIS apology! What phase am I in???
I believe God will exposed the norssist.
This is sooo spot on. When my husband realized I wasn’t falling for the empty apology again after physical abuse, he flipped right back to blaming me and making my life unbearable. I’m safe and healing now. So glad I left.
We are not alone, refuse to fight with them... Be silent....😊
🙏❤️🕯️ and I love 🥓
Just call them by their 'True Name's ???
Being silent is a double edged sword, you can be silent when they expect a reaction but, never lose your voice.
I had to learn to stay quite when my narc husband starts fights with me and they Hate when you go quite and silent
@@shaggysbaggy4204 it’s why I am a rock. No initiating conversation, no eye contact, no expression, no anger, no nothing. You will see they’re like a deer in headlights.
I’ve been friends with this friend almost 30 yrs. I recently blocked her finally. I’m done being used.
Thank you Kris. I recently hired someone who turned out to be a narcissist. I prayed. God showed me his replacement. I fired the narcissist. The reaction was he was aggressive and controlling. I stood firm on my boundaries. I kept telling myself, Great is He who is in me than he who is in the world.
God helped me through the situation. God is good all the time.🙏🕊️✝️❤️🤗
@@RememberHim-zz7cc May God bless you. May He direct you to find a job that you are respected and valued. May the new job bring you fulfillment. May the new job be a healthy workplace. May God abundantly provide for all your needs. In Jesus name. Amen
God bless you for your strength and grace 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏
I really like this. I'm going to use it as a mantra.
God help me to stand my ground from today henceforth.
A mistake made twice is a decision.
FACTS a decision with evil intentions
This.
Wow. Harsh.
Abuse is not easy to get entangled from.
I recently had a "parting of the ways with a covert narcissist. When she realized that I, finally, figured out what she is, she ... flipped ... out.
I remained calm the whole time, which REALLY pissed her off. She lunged at me, I put my hand out and said: "You need to back off." Then she tried to hit me and I grabbed her arms, looked her in the eyes and said: "You are not going to hit me. That is not going to happen." She pulled her arms away and yells: "You will respect me! Do you understand me?!" I calmly replied: "I understand more than you think I do." Then she really exploded.
I was in the process of moving out anyway, but then she said that she wanted me out immediately. I moved everything out a few hours later and I left.
She was expecting me to grovel. That was NOT going to happen. That was on Sunday, 3/10/24.
Once I was gone, I went through a lot of different emotions ... anger & sadness, then relief, joy and peace.
Things are challenging right now, but it's better than being under her thumb. Who is "she?" My mom. Believe it or not. As far as I am concerned, we are done. I even blocked her phone number and gmail. No more inane texts and emails that I could care less about. I ... AM ... FREE! 🥂🎉🎊 (I don't know if this is relevant or not, but I'm 55 and she is 76.)
I'm so happy for you that you're free now 💞
I am totally no contact with my family of origin. I have no friends. And I am trying to get rid of my husband- working on my financial stability with two young kids.
Never again will I tolerate abuse.
You realize that a woman doesn't have to be a narcissist to behave that way? She can simply be a spoiled, self-centered brat. That is ALL that is required for that kind of behavior. This CHANNEL is creating the old 'When all ya have is a hammer everything looks like a nail' syndrome. This comment thread is just painful to scan over. Almost as bad as this woman's videos.
😂😂😂😂 Staying with your mom at 55? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@INDOMINION a lot of people stay with their aging parents to help them financially and to help care for them. They have a place of their own, and have the parent move in with them; or if the parent's home is paid off, it's just smarter to move in there. I know many people in this situation, bcz the parent will otherwise be in a nursing home or homeless.
My narcissist would oscillate between sweet, apologetic, and charming and then without warning they would switch to demanding, controlling, entitled, angry, lying, manipulation, and triangulation. Whatever they could do to try and gain back any semblance of control.
Demons can’t keep up their cool
Twisted!
I have read in a post that the behavior you described is a tactic narcs use for control called cognitive dissonance.
they r very good actors, dr jeckle and mr hyde personalities
Behavior never lies.
When I told my narcissist I knew-his eyes became black with rage, it was chilling! After 40 painful yrs. I left and the healing began….
The narcissist has the spirit of Pride.
Levithan spirit
Mine never never never never apologized to me. Don't expect yours to. Once the mask comes off, don't keep testing God. Leave. No contact.
So what do you do when you can't leave?
Mine apologized every time. Tears and the whole thing .
@jamaalgamble3441 pray!
I confronted my sister regarding her behavior and told her we were done via text (I will no longer talk with her on the phone to avoid her tantrums, screaming, etc) . First, she texted "I'm sorry". When that got no response, she texted an attack. Accused me of something I would never do. When that got no response she texted "Go ahead, run away like you always do", taunting me. (I have had to take breaks from my sister to remain sane), when that got no response she texted me a photo of a page in the Bible talking about forgiveness and told me "I better get right with God and forgive", when that got no response she went to our brother and told him I had done something she would never be able to forgive me of. No response. I have blocked her on texts and won't take phone calls. She has prayed for people to die before. I know however that God is my protector and she controls nothing. I will never see or talk to her again....and I was her biggest source of narcissic air. She hurt me badly many, many times and I reacted. Can't imagine who she will get that air from now.
It is good to be free from all that evil.
@@laurenlowery5799 I am curious how she was able to "hurt" you. Sounds like you got embroiled and naivety on your part.
Sounds like you are shrugging from responsibilities.
If you caused a rift in the family small, or large part much easier route, Lauren to addres what you have done than to leave her in the lurch and aftermath of what you did.
Sounds like, you are the one who created/caused an injury.
I was married to 2 narcissists and when I realized it, they tried everything in their power to prove me wrong. I was labeled crazy. I should be seeking help to change my ways of thinking. I decided to get out and not look back. This was the best thing I ever did.
@ruthjones6671 I am married to a narcisst but I also have 3 children with him and no where else to go how did you do it please share
@@shaggysbaggy4204 it wasn't easy. I too had 3 kids too.Their narcissistic father had a job requiring him to be away and that was how I survived. I was hiding money a little at a time to make my get away. By that time my kids were pretty much adults. We had a fight one night and I was gone, he had put his hands on me for the last time.
I would do some serious self reflection if I attracted TWO narcissist.
When you're eyes are opened, you have to leave, at all costs. Because nothing is more important than your freedom. I was on disability and oftentimes bedridden from ptsd and CFS. I didn't realize i was literally surrounded by narcs- husband, family , church, and friends. I finally divorced my abusive, adulterous husband after 15 yrs, against the counsel of my church and pastors. I was blacklisted.
I lost my home and everything i had after the divorce. My ex turned our son against me. I couch-surfed for 5 yrs (learning the hard way that my "friends" and family were using me, stealing my disability money, etc.) until God called me to pack my little car and drive off. Then I lived in my car for 3 yrs, as God began undoing everything that was done, and making me who i needed to be. In 2022, my now adult son moved out of state to be with me. God restored us. I'm no longer homeless and no longer on disability.
It's worth it. At all costs. You will learn how much you really don't need. ❤️
What a testimony💯 So happy for you👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
@@sharoneh8929 thank you!! ❤️
Thank you sister this has helped me so much. God will bring you through everything. We just have to trust him. Even if we end up homeless he will bring us out. I'm so happy for you!❤❤
@@chelceasurgenor598 you're so welcome!!! It was 11 yrs ago today that my divorce was final. God showed up in such a mighty way in that courtroom!! They said I'd never leave. They said I'd never make it. BUT GOD!!!!! 🙌🙌👏❤️😭🙏
I’ve moved over 30 times escaping my narcissistic family or origin and now husband. It’s not easy with children and co-parenting. I am applying for disability because it is all just too much.
This month is 18 years of marriage. I finally have peace and am working on leaving. God's so good! ♥️
😢I'm also married to one
@ I'm sorry. 😞
Praying for God to deliver me from the cruel, abusive narc🙏
My friend, we have ALL been there before and we can promise you …… Faith in God will take a step forward ( no matter How uncomfortable) and let Him lead you the rest of the way out. He’s kind and loving as Our True Father and will NEVER do anything to hurt you. The GREATEST ONE lives in your heart if you’re born again. Fear Not, you are the 🍎 of His Eye It’s always on You 😊🫶🙏👍💕
Once you pray to God about leaving the narc it's up to you. Pack your things or not and leave immediately. Don't look back and don't contact any mutual friends or family members that you both know. They don't change, they get worse. 😐✌🏾
Remove them from your life or remove yourself. Painful I know , but it will be worth it. Or stay and be a doormat forever . They DONT change.
Take responsibility for YOUR life. YOU MATTER . Don't waste your life on enabling this breed of human through life.
God helps those who help themselves.
I prayed and I said God I cannot remove myself it is impossible for me. Please help me and if it is your will then please God remove me. One week later it happened God removed me and after some time my smile is finally back and I am regaining a sense of self again.
Dont wait. Time is our most valuable asset. Don't waste it.
I heard it said that the mistake many Christians make is they think that if they would just love someone more then they would change but this is not always the case. God is love and most of the wicked still do not turn to Him.
SO true
I thought I could love her through it, but it kept getting worse! I pleaded with God to change her, but that didn’t happen. I had to submit myself to the Holy Spirit and remove myself from the marriage as it was revealed to me it was all an illusion! I am on the path to healing, but I have had total peace! No more walking on eggshells, waiting for the other shoe to drop! Once the mask is removed, you see them for who they really are! While it is sad that those years can never be recovered, I am hopeful for the ones ahead! I realized I ignored the red flags at the beginning and there sure were consequences!
Yes! In Revelation it talks about how they will STILL be unrepentant, and curse God, even though they're going through the Great Tribulation period. I mean...if you've seen the ocean turned to blood, I think it would be a wise idea to just accept Him, than not. That's a whole other level of hate, and stupidity that's just evil. I look at narcissistic people like them, because that's what they are. They will NEVER change. They will NEVER accept Christ, and humble themselves to just admit they're sinful, and need Jesus. And that's hard to accept. But it's true.
I am dealing with a female Covert Malignant Narcissist and she has exibited all of these wild behaviours and she gets very Violent alot and it's like she throws little child like temper tantrums.
When I finally dumped the covert religious Narcissist in "ministry' who'd taken me to the cleaners financially, and told her never to contact me again, she predictably attempted "Narcissistic Hoovering"; one of the last thing she said to me was "I love you" -- after literally taking my last dime, calling me names, hurling false accusations at me? THAT'S LOVE??? No thanks!!!
Wow exactly the same with me!!! I’m impressed!!
He said the same thing over and over we the he loves me and then called me a rotten woman cause literally God gave me the escape and called me names like rotten woman and so on, and I messaged his pastor and told everything about what happened with the screenshots and the pastor took it very seriously thank God and told me that he had a meeting with him talked to him and took him out of all the functions of the church until he gets his marriage life resolved….when is it going to be resolved? From him NEVER! God is definitely dealing with him!
As I learn about this phenomena I marvel at how cookie cutter and predictable the cycle of behavior really is across all cultures.
“Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed.” John 3:20 💥
This is God’s judgment on us for being sinful. The brain has been rewired by God for us to only believe lies. It’s not that we want to.
@@omar2292. He handed over judgment to Christ for His obedience. What does your Bible say about how Christ treats the sins of believers?
Confusion=the enemy
It's like a circus. Swear. I have been through all these phases over and over again. The whole thing is a circle. I am done. That's why I pray for justice.
Please pray for me. My heart 💔 is hurting. The deception and betrayal was so deep...I know God will vindicate me. Staying in PEACE. Be encouraged folks.
God bless you and keep you during your trials. God is with you. Hang tight, the light will shine again.
@@JustMe-qq3rc Thank you✅
They betrayed themselves cus idgaf 🤷🏾♀️
God healed my heart it was SHATTERED AND IAM PRAISING GOD EVERY DAY !!
@swanfeather6228 GOD is Able ✅✅✅.
It just hurts. They are so mean. After 30 years of it. I dont even know who i am anymore.
This is common, okay? Please don’t beat yourself up about it. Get free and then have fun rediscovering or redefining who you are! Healing IS possible! ❤❤❤
🙏🏽
I understand where you’re coming from. You can and WILL get your power back. You got this. A strong person will come from your healing.
Mean? They're jealous & obsessed. My manager is "mean"
The evil one will use narcissists in our lives to convince us to believe his lies and to doubt or question our true identity. When that happens, the only really successful way to stand firm under that type of (spiritual) attack is to use the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God, to speak truth to us about what our true identity is, and then allow that truth to realign our beliefs about that area where we believed that lie. For example, if a narcissist has caused you to feel like you don't have hope or a future, you could go to Jeremiah 29:11-14 and ask God to continually remind you of His promises to you whenever you are tempted to believe those lies. That takes the power away from the narcissist and their manipulative behavior and puts your faith in a good and loving God who only wants what's best for you. It's not always easy to do this, but it does get easier with practice and you also start to learn the enemy's tactics so that you can more easily identify when your identity is under attack (because it's not always obvious when the attacks are coming from narcissistic people who are supposed to love you). Always remember that we are more than conquerors! And if you forget that, it may just be time to go back and read Romans chapter 8 to remind yourself that we have life through the Spirit!
I made the mistake of going against advice and telling the narcissist I knew what they were.
God guided me to leave prior to me realizing he was a covert narcissist. I found out the abuse and silent treatment by research after my divorce. I left him with our home we built and everything else and didn’t have any bitterness, anger, emotional distress (outwardly). I felt a relief and a burden lifted. It was weird no emotional distress like prior relationships. God has provided for me emotionally, spiritually and I no longer care about material items.
Wow!!! I Truely love that.
Yes , I have experienced this for 26 years. We built our home with our own hands in the woods, and when it was finished , he got even more toxic, closing up, making me feel like “I am Wrong, I am Bad, I am wrong”…. Then when I spoke up… he closed up! Locked himself away in a room except for bathroom and food… and ignored me for 2 weeks, saying “ I want a separation”
He left…. I cried and prayed and fasted….. he went to his atheist mother, they manipulated his mind totally against me cuz I’m a Christian. They helped him push for divorce. Now he just gave me Legal separation. He was so called nice to me for 2 months leading up to this.
Fooling me….
I pray for strength… I pray I can get through this
@@tinaureta9891 They always play the victim. Mine did same after house was done being built. he would go read his Bible in bed (towards the end). He was so fake. I was with him 7-8 years and didn’t realize how badly I was being gas lit. He told me I was leaving with more then I had when he met me. What? I didn’t want court and in MT you have to live apart for 180 days prior to filing for divorce unless you sign and notarize a legal doc. Done. Cost of divorce was the filing fee. Moved 4 states away.
Stay strong and pray about it. God will help you. God Bless.
I bought some land, about to build a house and my wife are giving me so many red flags ...I'm so scared to continue...I mean she throw paper on the floor beside the thrash can instead of putting in
@@tinaureta9891 You can and will get through this and live in peace. Be brave. You got this💌
Gods going to bless you 7 times fold more than what you left behind ❤
This year, God exposed my husband my mother and my sister. This year I realized I’ve been mentally abused by my mother all my life and now my husband. I love my sister and I’d do anything for her only to realize she’s been a flying monkey and talk sh*t about me when I’m not around. Thank God I divorced my husband and now I’m focused on how I can survive with my daughter.
‘About to get toxic’ that has to be the understatement of the millennium
Every word of this podcast mirrors my life with a Christian narcissist. Kris, you nailed every single one of these phases. It’s been so painful. I’ve been kind and compassionate. I stayed for 24 years being used, manipulated, blamed for his behavior and raged at. He fools most everyone, especially our pastor. He is a completely different person when he is in public, wearing the mask. I’m finally living elsewhere and feeling safe. The lies about my character are hard to hear but I’m just going to be quiet. God has brought me safely out of a dark situation, into the light of His goodness and grace. I’ve finally filed for a divorce. I feel like a failure that I was never able to love him enough or change him. I just cannot keep enduring the abuse.
Only by the grace of God i have a sound mind. I fought accepting the truth of who he is. I couldn't believe what i knew deep inside was true. Freedom came mentaly emotionally and spiritually trusting in God.
Narcissist will never change. That’s the sad reality.
I asked for clarity and within hours he accidentally recorded himself and sent me a three minute recording of him completely being a liar and flirting with another woman. There is my clarity, and when he came to the door, I questioned him he denied it, and then I told him he recorded himself and he said I gotta go, and I haven’t seen him in four weeks, and I am very grateful for that clarity that was gifted to me, peace is so much more valuable in this world than what you believe is love when it’s only one-sided. ❤
They tell on themselves..by the time they pretend sorry... everyone around know how they are...things start to creep up on the creepin
Yes 💯💯really. All the surroundings know them, but they think they are inkognito 😂😂.
They absolutely do. Subtle text or comments. Especially about infidelity.
Unfortunately God exposed my own mother as being a true narcissist who is intentionally trying to destroy my family, and the very fabric of my innermost being. I am a warrior in Christ though, and I know He is looking out for my family and myself. I have faith He will protect us and see us through till the end.
I can testify to that. God showed me everything my mother was doing behind my back. He showed me that my mother was the one stealing from me and was causing all the problems in the family. After years of living & taking care if her I was so exhausted and I prayed, "Abba Father, take my mother from my sight. I can't take it anymore. Please Father help me. I give this battle to You. In Jesus name. Amen." I prayed this over and over. She died less than a month later. She was old in bad health, but I believed God answered.
I never thought God would expose my mother being my enemy.
Just remember call on Him when you need help. May God keep you & your family safe and makes a path for you to get out of this toxic relationship. God bless.❤
@@mday3821 OMG sounds like you've been through hell, my God woman thank God you're okay praise the Lord for helping you in Jesus name amen
@@zzzzzzzzzxx233 Thank you, God bless you. I'm in therapy now...praying for healing.
Same here, mother is pure evil.
Same here, its so painful
Every single time I tried to trust my brother again, he’s turned on me. This time I’m not taking your advice. I’m not ever going back.
Amen, Amen!!!! I grew up in a family like this as the scapegoat. I was constantly sad and couldn't figure out what I had done to cause them to hate me so much. My mother was jealous of me, the only little girl in a house full of men. Then as I was growing her angst toward me was taught to my brothers and they too thought something was wrong with me because of the way "Mommy" hated me. My father didn't defend me, at least where I could see it. My mother and father fought all the time and it upset me greatly.
🩷🩷🩷🩷 BE OF GOOD CHEER .... Many people this happens to it because they had a great call in their life at birth they had a bright light and the enemy does not like that because he's jealous okay so the Lord is with you and always has protected you... the people who should have loved you the most omg.. the fact that you came through this and very sane that is a miracle from God Almighty so God bless you girlfriend God be with you, be of good courage AMEN... he LOVES you... VERY MUCH... GOD THE FATHER,, JESUS THE SAVIOR, HOLY SPIRIT OF COMFORT.... 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🕊️✝️
Soon I hope
I grew up in this same environment. I grew up, moved away, got married, had three sons, as hard as it was to remove myself from the drama of my mom. It was worth it! We maintained a on again off again relationship through our adult years. The last three years of her life, we had a better relationship. But the knowledge of narcissism has been a game changer for me. I am thankful for the videos and their knowledge. I know I am not CRAZY!
It is just a ploy. He went to therapy, said he'd hit rock bottom and was a changed man, even started going to church. Ignoring his lovebombing words and looking at his behavior he hadn't changed. Things he promised he'd do he later made excuses for not doing. I divorced him and he immediately stopped going to church and put him on dating apps. Juggling multiple women at once unbeknownst to them. Same old him. Thank you God for delivering me!
Great. We chose ourselves!!! Freedom and Peace, just awesome 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽.
Mine never apologized, he would just ghost me and act like I never existed and it worked every time 😭 he knew I was sad and confused etc but he also saw that his anger, rage and bs wasn't phasing me anymore so he'd basically just go radio silent and he knew it would make me feel the most pain because I had abandonment trauma from childhood. They are definitely demonic and twisted
Same thing happened to me. I was a doormat. Now I'm focused on my life .Finally I sent him a text calling him motherfucker and blocked him.He blocked me back .I am trying to forgive myself for letting people to mistreat me.I also ve abandoned trauma like you and I know that is why all of those things happened. Let's win sister. GOD BLESS YOU ❤
Signs I’ve seen. Silent rage. Smear campaign. Revenge.
Aka jealousy & obsession
Thank you dear daughter of God.
This helps a lot Christians who don't know how to handle this evil without disobeying God, like unforgiving person, but self guard.
My narc husbands go-to when he’s enraged is “You need HELP, you’re insane”. He’s THE MASTER of all masters of this narc tool, that is the deflection, the flipping their own guilt onto others.
I find that as hard as it may be to do this strategy if you agree with everything thing that they are saying about you is true (obviously you know you aren't any of those things) that the narc will have no more ammo or fuel left to fight with you. Just by simply saying your right, I am the one that's at fault here. Then say to them if this is what you think of me and how u feel about me , why do/would you want me in your life??
You end up being the better person for not falling to their level(s)and put an end to the madness...
@@jenniferrosteski3955no, agreeing with everything they say is called enabling. From a christian view, it is untruthful. Nowhere in The Bible are we ever advised ti ‘go along’ with sinful behavior…im sorry, but the narc will only look, or create more anyway.
That's a laughable tactic 😂😂 can't take these losers seriously. They're robots who say whatever the script tells them to in their jotted notes of repeatable bullshih. They just want some attention
This was so timely. My mother is so toxic. Everything that you’re saying she’s doing to me. Making me out to be the problem. I thought I was crazy. I had so much anger when talking to her that I did explode but there’s no taking it back now so of course I look like the bad person. I finally know her true colors and want nothing to do with her.
My mother has done and is doing the same to me.
I dealt with this my whole life with my mom and they antagonize, gaslight , triangulate and deny your reality and then blame you when you lose it. It's text book. I had to cut ties with my whole family because of this. GOD bless you!
You will always be able to help your self with your kindness and comfort ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Reactive abuse is what they count on so they can then play the victim to your perceived insanity and rage. They are evil.
You just told my story. I grew up with three brothers and a mother who treated me with disdain. I could never understand why she was so dismissive toward me. Being the only daughter threatened her. My father used me later as his sounding board and then abandoned us. The narc mother loves to triangulate their children to dislike each other. Her fear is that collectively they may figure her out. Praying for your healing from your traumatic childhood of emotional neglect. God is our redeemer!!
YES. YEARS!! Denial cost me years ! Accepting wad huge ! WICKED WICKED
I will not talk to my mother ever again. She never said ,sorry about anything she ever did. I moved 600 miles away.
Great teaching. I’ve been out 5 years through God grace and mercy, Iv’e survived.
I have entered a new phase: strength, boldness, courage. Those boundaries are there in place.
I am waiting on Father to restore my alienated children. Prayer needed here. But God is good! He has promised full restoration in His time.
While you are waiting, please find joy and happiness in all other areas of your life. 😊
@@littleiodine9480 thank you. I have to say I am living my best life. Freedom, happiness, kindness. I am happy because I choose it daily.
Family court enables them too. To keep up with post separation abuse.
Sad but in many cases, true.
Have faith! They try to take the kids… If there’s issues with visitation, the judge will start to notice… and if you have to go through the whole long & grueling court process, it’s so hard to prove even with EVIDENCE & protective orders expire… gaslighting occurs during the supervised visits too… it makes zero sense & exhausting but you CAN win!
What is keeping abuse after separATION?
THEY NEVER CHANGE! Kris, you said it yourself once. These people know the words but do not have the music. In Christian lingo it's all talk and no walk. If the conviction of the Holy Spirit is not operational in their lives, no amount of praying and waiting will make a difference. My experience of 35 years in and 5+ years out is testimony to the results of mis-spent hope.
I have just learned about narcissism and what I am learning is how unbelievably twisted and Cemented and purposefull the evil is in these type of people !!! 😮
Very well said! The last sentence is profound. Thank you! 🥰
Are you saying just because your experience is they did not change ( yet) that God can't soften a person's heart? Well your discounting what God can do. You should pray for them.
@@Sarah-psalm127 here you are again imposing on someone's wise safe decision to stay away from EVIL.
Since your so adamant about praying for abusers and not the victim..just keep it to yourself to pray for them but stop imposing and harrassing others to do the same especially when they are trying to heal and move on.
Your doing more damage than you are bringing healing.
They are ignoring you because tou can't chsnge a narc nor reason with them that's because they have wicked stubborn hearts and partner with demons leave everyone alone that's trying to heal.
Stop trying to convince pole that they need to spend all their life praying for someone that refuses to change.
I thought like you until I had enough of the abuse then turned him over to God.
There are tons of comments clearly sayimg to stay away from the barc which lines up with scripture and your going agsinst scripture repeatedly.You need to check yourself. Stop trying to play God's role in trying to tell people what to do by encouraging them to stay wiyh an abuser or even think of them by forcing them to pray for them.
You want grace fkr the abuser but not the abused.Backwards.
This is very profound. I'm beginning to wonder whether narcissism might not be the "sin against the Holy Spirit that cannot be forgiven". I've always wondered what it is. But they pretend to it without the change that truly bowing to the Spirit would create.
This video is 100% truth. 24 years dealing with this narcissist. I'm no contact now.
Is your "no contact" just you living somewhere else, but still married. Or did you kick him out and you are divorced?
@@denise0777 divorced 14 years ago.........
Same here❤
I have just become silent. I know longer care. Maybe that's just my attitude, but exhaustion is beyond.
Extreme love bombing now, which has confused me for decades, but especially now. A neighbor of mine helped shine the light on all of his " good works": Satan mirrors God, which makes you think
" Oh, he's So good"! Mine is an extremely manipulative " nice" altruistic narcissist. Satan comes as a beautiful -looking something or someone- beware!!
I agree. My ex was so humble acting, nice, kind, helpful…until he was not.
Yup. It's deception. But, if we stay true to God, His Holy Spirit will reveal them before you fall a prey. If you walk in lust, then the enemy will have his way.
Like poison which is sweet to taste
He won’t change…will NEVER be who I’d like him to be. I’m not backing down, I’ll stand on my boundaries….I’m done.
Narcissists ( plural). Like a whole lot of them. Block , block, block them; it's not wrong; it's healthful. Go after them legally if need be! State and federal charges of harassment. Yep!
A narcissist doesn't change. Let them go, "god" doesn't fix anyone, they have "free will", they must fix themselves.
He can fix them but they have to ask Him for the help which most probably don't because they lack accountability. But God COULD change them, but like you said, getting that help from Him, we have to be able to admit we need it first
This is God’s judgment on us for being sinful. The brain has been rewired by God for us to only believe lies. It’s not that we want to.
I know of narcissists that God did change, so it does happen. It's just not something anyone should wait around for.
@@kiarawilliams2683 but a narcissist thinks they are perfect, and on the right side
Then we have to leave that person forever. They never change.
I have no desire to get " back to normal" with my former abuser. She's never given me a real apology; just the useless " I'm sorry I hurt your feelings" nonsense. I haven’t spoken to her in years, I have forgiven her, but I will never trust her again. I have absolutely no desire to opening my life up to her abuse again.
They will NEVER change!!!!
You forgot adult child narcissists! I never imagined! It’s horrific!
My daughter is. 33. And bi polor she will not get help with
Hi Kris .. excellent video. Sadly I lived it .. and yes Ma'am all these toxic individuals really want is your admiration and conformity. It's like way down deep, their heart is all locked up. And because WE, the empath would not treat anyone with such anger and lies, we assume EVERYONE has our best interest at heart!!! They don't. Simply they don't, evil absolutely exists in this world, soo ... I know from experience how important it is to truly LISTEN to the holy Spirit. That beautiful still quiet voice within. Because that IS God trying to protect & guide you. God IS love and wants us to experience being loved well. The enemy of our souls IS a counterfeit. And will offer a substitute, and it always comes in the form of confusion. Normalizing abuse is not FROM the holy Spirit. Thank you Kris for all the excellent videos, God bless you abundantly! 😘🙏✝️🕊️
A big resounding Amen! Well said Julie. 😀
Absolutely! GOD helped me and saved me from a situation that could have been so much worse. I didn’t listen enough to not marry him, but I listened enough to never move in with him and he never became a part of my every day life.
Totally rings true: all they want is admiration and our conformity.
Yuck 🤮🤮🤮 I vomit mentally every time I think of it…🐍🐺 he’s the snake in the garden (deceitful) and wolf in sheep’s clothing. The Judas that stabs you in the back… thank GOD He removed me.✝️🙏
@@Kris_Reece Is it possible to rescue my daughter and grandbabies from her boyfriend? He has got a chain on her so hard, she barely smiles. Looks like she may have stopped caring for herself. She says she is staying on her own accord, but we think he may be drugging her? When do we put our foot down or take charge?
Yep my spirit was telling me it’s time to distance myself and spend less time with them. Got an extremely fragile and unpredictable powerful narcissist. Probably should’ve listened sooner my energy is reaching new highs now.
I have a teenage child that has learned this behavior from their other parent. It is extremely challenging and exhausting.
You simply go no contact.A Narcissist will never change. It's not my job to lead anyone to the Lord,figure them out,or deal with their issues.I choose me.They're in God's hands.Forgive & let go.Love them from a distance & Pray for them.
Amen!
"you know, THEY know you know" . . . i LOVE this!!
RUN RUN RUN FAST ONCE YOI KNOW!!
Dear lord! This has been the exact cycle I’ve been through. I’m at the apology stage now.
“Gods power is not in question” 🙌🏾
Wow! I’m so happy I found you on here Kris Reece
My hope has increased!! But now I know what to do!!!!
I needed to hear this it gives me hope. I seem to bear the weight of the world on my shoulders as a single mom, I’m battling lupus and heart disease. I often face challenges that can seem insurmountable especially with raising two children with special needs. I’m trying to balance everything but Lord I’m struggling to make ends meet, to pay bills, and to put food on the table for my children and I feel so alone. At times I want to give up. But I keep faith because I know God will provide.❤
Praying for you and your family
🙋🙏🙋🙏🙋
You usually add your "two autistic sons" to your story, TiffMiller1234
God bless you and your children
You are seen, heard and felt, it is tough and hard, sending love to you...😢❤
I’m thankful for the gift of discernment, God showed me this abusive man’s heart through dreams, visions and a word of knowledge. He won’t be manipulating me again.
Awesome! I had to get married again to realize but what I can say is I cried out to the Lord and He heard me and gave an escape! Praise Jesus, I’m separated moved to another city and am doing therapy a Christian therapy 😊
@@liciacanada7527 I feel for you. This guy is my housemate and not by choice either, if I had my way he’d have never lived here.
You are 100% right about all of these phases. I stayed in contact with the narcissist ex for almost a year, mostly just to watch what manipulative ploy he would try next. I had no intention of ever seeing him again, after I figured out what he was. It gave me the closure I needed, so I wouldn't doubt my decision to never go back. I'm 59 this month, and I feel like all of my relationships have been with narcissistic men. I'm just now figuring it all out, and fear ever getting into another relationship. My heart is worn out. Thank you for the help you're giving to all of us who've been hoping for the best, but being shown the worst of humanity.
You will trust again, remember always have discernment and boundaries, say "No" often. You got this! 🙏❤️🩹❤
That's part i needed to hear. They think their presence alone is all they need to bring to the table.
THEY NEVER EVER CHANGE !!- PERIOD.
DO YOURSELVES A FAVOUR - STAY AWAY TILL THE END OF THEIR/YOURS DAYS