I am an ESTJ and this video is so accurate it scares me... am i actually that mean to other people? It’s not my intentions whatsoever i just want what’s best for everyone’s future i am an athlete myself as well. Thank you for breaking down this video I think it might help in future situations and to try to feel more empathy.
Yeah this video is hella helpful im entp and I'm dating an estj and since watching it i have changed how i phrase things so instead of asking when he is available now I just say i want to see you and he ask when and then I tell him when... so much easier! And now i also understand why he always orders the same thing as me at the restaurant or wants to try the same beer as me at the bar or asks me what i think he should order...
My husband is an ESTJ and I am an INFJ. Our relationship keeps growing, deepening..tottally recommend for INFJs. One thing I love about him is that he will champion the shy people that everyone ignores.
If INFJs and ESTJs have good relationships than that would explain why my friend from high school (estj) and my friend from church (infj) were cool with each other.
Haha. I'm an infp and I'm starting to see how my subconscious has played a part in my life. I used to be obsessed with Doctor Who and I never considered I was so opinionated or competitive till someone said "get your facts right" B- DID U SPEND TOO MANY HOURS OF YOUR LIFE STUDYING THIS RAMDOM USELESS THING?? I KNOW The Doctors sonic screwdriver doesn't work on wood don't tEST ME. I was.. 14.
This was one of the best videos I’ve ever seen. My dad is an ESTJ and my mom is INFP, I’m INFJ and your video explains all the family fights I’ve ever experienced haha. Thank you so much, I feel like I’ve misunderstood my dad a lot and haven’t been thoughtful enough about him and have held grudges but it’s not really his fault in the end. He just wants the best for me.
Yea, similar experience here ✋ I'm INFJ and my Dad is ISTP and he often triggers me with his Si Hero 😬 but now I unwillingly admit that I have many things to learn from him 😅
I'm an ESTJ and I don't feel I'm a bad person except when I think I'm being selfish. 🤔 I do worry about being right or smart enough, it makes me feel insecure and this bothers me a lot. Aside from this, everything else you mentioned about ESTJs is pretty accurate. What about not knowing how we feel? I always feel flat lined; no highs and no major lows.
There's is a slight difference between assertive and turbulent estjs i'm a turbulent one and experience these things that you don't. Maybe you are an assertive type check it out. :)
As an ESTJ, I don't necessarily think that I'm a bad person, but what I do think is that I am at risk of emotionally hurting people more than others because of my blunt nature, so I would constantly try to improve on myself in this regard. I don't walk around everyday thinking that I'm a bad person. That seems unhealthy. I also don't hold myself to an insanely high standard to how I dress or look...but maybe that's because I think it would get in the way of doing actual work (HAHAHA). Otherwise, most do apply especially with being in INFP "mode/state." And I've learned to know what I want through the process of elimination, but then again that would be based on external evaluation on what would be good to want. Thank you for this video. I admire how engaging you are when you discuss and how you are able to explain these concepts in a simple and easily digestible manner. Keep up the good work!!
I've always had this hypothesis that those who had the submissiveness kink were usually STJs (or other Te users). They are so used to being in control that it's a nice break for them to relinquish it in the bedroom (also, those who have a good dom it's sort of a way of allowing themselves to be broken down in a safe environment).
@gregson8533 Neither is my Estj husband! He's the Dom for sure, I'm the submissive one....although he does prefer me to do most of the "work" in bed to give him a good time lol
Thank you so much for this. I am a INTJ business owner who is contracted to manage a large association who is led by one of these types and up until now he has been a extremely difficult type for me to deal with. Very insecure around me even though I don't try to be too intense around him. He's can be a bully to people who are the more sensitive type and it drives me crazy. I always pegged him as the type that's usually in middle management who loves to be brown nosed but could never run a company himself. This info has helped alot so thank you!
As an INFP, I’ve found that I get along really well with ESTJs! Now I know why since we understand each other through our subconscious personality types! Thanks for making this video! It was very helpful! I learned a lot ^.^
Idk about you all ESTJs but IMO that Si thing is more about being very responsive to and demanding external stimulation. As opposed to Se taking the lead when it comes to “playing”. Not so much who’s literally on top, but more about feeling strongly desired. Si Fi.
There's an ESTJ lady I know, she does church work and takes group photos with her team. She looks at the photos, and if she doesn't think she looks good enough in the photo, she'll make the whole team take a new photo. This lady is in amazing shape for her age, makes 70 look like 45, but she doesn't do any gym work. She just buzzes around from morning until night, a true busybody, and stays in shape that way. I like ESTJ. I admire their productivity and their bad logic and bluster doesn't bother me. I do see that heart of gold, often, with this type.
Well, they are very bossy. And just behave that they are the elitest person in the world. They tend to be narcissistic. And the scream people to do their work. They treat people as their slaves basically. Always makes other follow their arbitrary rules (which are just illogical mostly). They deserve to be slapped and be given the truth . They don't have any right to force their rules onto somebody. - Stereotypically speaking. Exceptions do exist.
I started watching your videos a day ago and I´m obsessed! Thank you so much for all the information, now a ESTJ with a well developed Fi who is on vacation has a lot of interesting knowledge to gather. Hero!!
Estj always seem angry to me and ready to explode. They are bossy and so hate being told what to do by others. They are extemely JUDGEMENTAL and critical and have a hard time emphasising if they havent bern thru it themselves. Tbey are very strong and not your fluffy bunnies but they are great organisers and work hard.
This has been bugging me for years. I got ENFP but I just can't relate. Every ENFP I meet at best we understand each other but I constantly feel myself disapproving of they way they are . So I'm confused. Am I just a mature ENFP or was I just incredibly unhealthy when taking the test. This video was way more relatable than the ENFP.
As an ISFP, I freakin love ESTJs. You always know exactly where you're up to with them, and I love learning from each other. I also love the savage banter you can have with them.
I totally related to you when you said you grew up with a family that rejected your ego. I'm an ENFP with an ESTJ dad and holy shit, the amount of yelling and fighting. Even though we live in the same house, we don't even talk to each other because every conversation is a potential fight. I understand him a bit better now, thank you, Chase.
Stephen Brown exactly. Gives an advantage when it comes to trying to balance things out, compared to strong feeler types... because, well, can they actually think? Spontaneous Fe remains extremely foreign though.
@@benaoao6753 the U.S. is mostly an ESTJ country. Japan is an INFP country. (We both know their cognitive functions appearently don't go well together yet both of them can be smart) I'm an INFP & living in the ESTJ land we know as the United States, it stressed me so much in my teen years. But working your inferior functions is good. At least in my case I feel like my ISTP father has helped me out a lot (apparently the right pair for an ESTJ) & I had worked out my superego (it takes a lot of maturity for both to get along) & hanging out with your demon function is another way for someone to mature & it activated my ESTJ subconscious which I use to get by life. It varies tho, I know my type can be in a spectrum of the ignorant SJW, to a PHD graduate with the sense of getting their values taught with the logic they've learned from the systems they fear. so can we NFs actually think? It's a very general question but yes we are forced to. A lot of ENFJs growing up they think they might need logic & order to get what they want so they actually can go pretty far with things like politics, science etc. & INFJs at least one that I know is very strategical with his thinking & is actually close to a thinking type. Idk about ENFPs never met them. It's all based on childhood, influences, & if they are healthy or not. Unhealthy INFJs are scary tho even as someone who prefers the metaphysical at least i know it's unreal INFJs at that state seem not to know what's real or not especially when they watch Nazi based movies, joke about shooting schools, or even hang out with the wrong friends. Scares me more than an ESTJ.
@@benaoao6753 not necessarily. I'm an INTP (so, Ti hero) and my dad is ENFJ (Fe hero with Ti inferior). He's a feeler type but spent his 20's developing his inferior to the point that he got a degree in electrical engineering. So, in many cases, feeler types can develop thinking. I'm a better logical thinker than my dad naturally, but he has better natural situational awareness and Ni parent which is hugely advantageous over a Ni critic/Si child which makes him naturally driven and me naturally prone to failure to launch syndrome. I do find it funny that your immediate thought process in relation to developing cognitive functions is how it can give you hierarchical advantage. Very ExTJ sentiment 🤣😉
Hahaha you nailed it so hard with the examples on Ni trickster... My estj friend first bought a car so he could look cool and ended up not knowing what to do with it. And went to a massage school to make a business later that failed also. And other schools, constantly completing something and then not doing anything with it.
I’m an INFP but I feel more connected to ENTJs than ESTJs somehow. I don’t think I could see myself with an SJ type, maybe SP but I prefer intuitive types. Had a bad experience with an ENFJ though so now I am into ENTJs. I love that little baby Fi and just want to nurture it, while deeply admiring big Te.
I agree. I honestly never give advice to make anyone feel good. To me that is just a collossal waste of time. I give advice because it's financially conducive. I once told my brother that happiness can easily change when your family has nothing to eat. I told him that you dont need to be in love with his job. He just needs to do it extremely well and get paid.
Growing up, i was secretly insecure. I was an overachiever student but all the while I was afraid i dont have worth if im not intelligent. I also know im not everyone's cup of tea and it used to bother me until one of my mentors said that they know im choleric and I have to stop feeling guilty about it and embrace who I am. I was very particular of my appearance because people are visual creatures and I knew at a young age that I need to manage people's perception for me to get ahead. Yeah.
As an ESTJ female. If you ask me what do I want, I will let you know! And can careless if people like me or not. Someone of your pints are good, others not so much.
Well same here as male ESTJ, most of the time I know what I want if you ask me. And actually I do care about others. Althought not everytime I understand the hints given... :D
I personally only care if it will influence someones view of me professionally as a nurse and teacher. Specifically judging my competency or how I do it..my integrity. If some trash talks about my appearance its laughable but my work ethic? I will cut you and prove you wrong by becoming more efficient and make it damn well known! I also only judge others appearance if its sloppy, lazy or childish..flat brim hats are a hard no and deal breaker. People need to show they're putting effort into themselves or what's the point? Some people are narcissistic too. Id rather you tell me where you want to go for lunch so i can accommodate you..not tht i cant decide. Id just rather us all be happy and i know i will be less picky!! See people get us all wrong! 😬😊
Please , all ESTJ. I had a ESTJ colleuge and a friend. He became so stressed about his self-worth that I think he had a heart-attack and died from it.. I miss him. He was a good person. I whish he would just accept that he was a bit silly sometimes and that it is okay to sometimes be a bit silly. He left 2 children and a wife. So please all ESTJ take care of yourself. -His INFP colleuge and friend.
I think I am an Estj, but I’ve never thought of being a bad person. I always worry about my selfworth, but not in that way. As you said in the video, I worry about being stupid, or I worry about not being able to express my own opinions, sometimes because I don’t have an opinion on many things, but also because I worry of being wrong, so I keep agreeing to others and I feel bad about that 🤷🏻♀️ Also I tend to believe to everything someone says to me, even when they’re lying. Also when I was younger, it was easy to manipulate me because of my Ne: I didn’t mind to do what people wanted, and this caused some problems, and that’s another reason why I worry about my selfworth. And finally, I have a really bad relationship with my Fi, because I’m not able to express my emotions or everything about Fi. But, as I said earlier, I’ve never thought of being a bad person
you fucking genius, you revolutionized the relationship with my father (ESTJ), I (INFJ) understood today that instead of saying "I feel" I have to say "I think" and damn many of the problems are gone, holy fuck. I think that I should also say to my mum (ISTJ) "I think you should". I have already explained to her that she should read the running library and books. She said to my sister after I said she should stop watching reality TV "can we just throw the TV out" xD. That's amazing. In 2 days it's her birthday and I'm giving her 4 books. After 19 years of misunderstanding each other (ESTJ Dad, ISTJ Mum with an INFJ Son) I can finally solve the problems.
I think my sister is this type (honestly could be an Entp as well?). And she's being sorta ostracized from our family because my dad, my mom and me (my brother usually leaves her alone) are getting sick of the constant critique, mean comments and corrections and I've called her so many words in retaliation but I know it's who she is and she usually means well. They just won't consider other people's feelings and are very shallow in social norms so they tend to enforce these things without actually caring about how it makes people feel.
This is so helpful, thank you! Being an ISFJ married to a ESTJ, I was very attracted to his traditional side. Ive been trying to understand how he thinks by digging into this, because of course he isn't going to tell me ever, lol. The "doesn't know what they want" is so true. It is hard for us to make big or small decisions together(like holiday destinations or restaurant choices) because he doesn't know what he wants and I'm scared to pick something that is disappointing. Im learning to just take the lead on many of these things, or let someone else pick to save us both.
You just summarized my mother. INFP here with 3 of my siblings being an INFP as well(which I typed) and one being an INTJ(still not sure) and boiiii we’re struggling with our mother right now. The reason why I’m in this specific video is because I want to understand our mother more(we all love and care for her), and after being curious of the MBTI and stumbling(miraculously I may add) in your channel made me want to type myself and my family properly. The 16 personality test didn’t help me understand myself that much but it was what made me curious. I was typed as an INFJ and for these past few days I BELIEVED that I was an INFJ. I’m so glad I found your channel. I am an INFP. I bet you already know base on this long comment xD I love your insights Chase and your drive to help others through this. Please keep it up, man. As an INFP(who actually got butthurt from your other vids because of my Fi), we need people like you to tell us the truth(even if it hurts xD). You have a loyal subscriber here. Definitely will recommend to others ^^b Have a good day!
@@astonish_injurer5598 unless you're an INFJ that's been in a long time relationship with an ESTJ - quite frankly- you don't know what you're talking about. ESTJs are not very compatible with INFJs and communication is absolutely nerve wrecking (unless they're just friends). Don't try to be edgy and rebel against the obvious. It's faaaar more work than with most other types.
@@astonish_injurer5598 That generic shit must trigger INFPs a lot...try knocking on their door. 😜 INFJs see through this...you're trolling level is lame...like your analyzing skills. Try again.
My therapist is an ESTJ, had to throw her away in the dumpster because of that se critic, she's no INFP. She's basically always commenting on my clothing, she said I have nice hands and what is the meaning of the symbols on my shirt😅damn
What about a series on what each type is like as leaders (organizations, churches, bosses, etc.)? Healthy vs unhealthy leaders? There are leaders in my life I keep trying to type, but I wonder if I'm mistyping because of the functions they have to utilize while in leadership roles..
Exactly! “You should be able to do what I have done!” Unfortunately I’m INFP and that was my ESTJ parent. Frick. No amount of explanation of how inaccurate that is will work.
the mbti community might get the j and p confused for introverts, but Myers Briggs explains it clearly 'in differing gifts'. She describes a general that is outside of the tent with a helper in the tent as the extrovert and the general in the tent and the helper outside of the tent as the introvert. Thus as an INTP, my general (Ti) is not seen by outsiders, only the helper (Ne) is seen unless you are important. I put on top that the Ne is how i handle the world which is a P function, but my primary focus is inside thus the Ti hero.
I've always tested as an infp and I do have some similarities with that type but its never really felt right. Watching this I was like "THATS ME". The only part thats different for me is I'm not quite as much of an outwardly critical person, I tend to think it and not say it unless im annoyed or upset with the person.
@@t5396 yes & no but it doesn't come from a bad place (depending on mental state) for example if I see someone with a bad vibe I usually think "oh hmm maybe if I talk to them it will debunk my thoughts just remember the red flags I learned from my past" if that makes sense (yes the judgment is there but usually I have an open mind)
I thought I was an INTP but the thing I identified with the most was their Si creature conforts - Ne possibilities exploriation coin. After some time away from this topic, I started studying ennegram and discovered I am a 3w2, and it did not get along with INTP. I'm so glad I'm a 317 with all those faults and even more so because now I know where to go. So my "INTP" should be wrong. Studying Objective Personality and trying to discover my cognitive functions, I settle upon a Te/Ne ESTP jumper. There's still the axis of Ne-Si plus It actually accounts for my need of validation above the need of significance.
Thank you for this Video. This is exactly what I was looking for in order to better understand my ESTJ husband. I am surprised at how accurate your description is, especially when it comes to the subconscious INFP philosopher, or the cruel revenge superego. I cannot wait to watch your video about my own type.
Hi so my tests with a psychologist and then later rechecked by myself stated ESTP, but your video about ESTP regarding confronting people and technically bulling them because I care to improve them so much doesn't describe me. I hate bullies and I verbally attack them if I hear one attacking someone shy and innocent in front of me. I actually attacked 3 bullies in my class on a few occasions, to the point that they stopped smiling when I showed up to the class and they weren't in too good mood around me. But I think ESTJ describes me better, especially the part about revenge. My P and J are about 50/50. I also fit your describtion of ISFJ believe it or not ( hope, revenge, caring about looks, and caring about my family, I also like making turkey dinners; and I expect loyalty for my loyalty).
wow that's so right i have estj classmate who liked me and helped me alot but when i started to wear comfort cloths, i guess that was not good to the estj and she started to act harsh with me they really really care about what you wear , i can see why they get along with intj more than entj but besides that they are smart and learn from their past which i wish that i could do the same thing
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 my estj boyfriend is afraid of my cat 😁😁😁 he thinks Cacapou will attack him in the night if he's not under the blanket lollllllllllll and im like no my cat doesn't care about you 🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 This is who I have been and is still on the process of maturing. One point in time I have denied this side of me, because it is so bossy, not understanding that it is still a part of me. (INFP - Ego)
I am an ESTJ woman, and all my relationships have ended in disaster, until my ISTP boyfriend came along (I force him to get tested, when we first met.) I've only just found your video, and I feel a little attacked at how correct you are, with the shadowing. I'm not sure if I feel easy to read, and vulnerable, or just accept it.
As an INTP, going to the gym is always super hilarious. We actually have two separate rooms where in one room the S types tend to congregate, ass-slapping each other and yelling" and then we N types are in another room quietly going through our routines and discussing ideas and theory between sets. When I'm maxing or when I'm hyper I actually like to join the ES types but most of the time I prefer the chill room. I like ES types because they always pull me into fun mode.
Now I'm even more confused than I was before. This sounds a lot like me. However, I think I'm either ISTP or INTP. I pretty certain I'm a high Ti user since I tend to build logical models of the world in my head. Maybe I'm an ISTP who is in his shadow because my current job requires me to manage projects.
I had the worst experience I’ve ever had with an ESTJ boss. But I hate to blame the personality b/c I think she MUST have had a personality disorder. I wonder what the interplay is between personality disorders & the various types?
Not really sure if this normal. ISTP was my type since the time I learnt about MBTI. In the past 4 months I started noticing I was no longer identifying myself with that type. Many things changed in my life, work becoming more important and fullfilling, reaching 30 years old. I've retook the test, seems like now I'm an ESTJ.
You know, I tested INFP a while back and it just didn't seem right. I was wondering if someone could be developed enough in their subconscious they could test as that. I'm going to go through all of these videos and pretend I never took the MBTI test.
Question: I had an ESTJ "friend" where that bridge has been burned.. long story short he always put emphasis on others because he had self-esteem issues where he always criticized (Se critic) his friends. Could that be because we didn't make any effort, or should have made him feel good or comfortable (Fi inferior), let alone not attack it, over the course our past friendship? I'm trying to get over this, as you have had the same experience of being on their side of Fe demon, connect the dots and make sense of this. Thanks -INTJ
I am an ESTJ and this video is so accurate it scares me... am i actually that mean to other people? It’s not my intentions whatsoever i just want what’s best for everyone’s future i am an athlete myself as well. Thank you for breaking down this video I think it might help in future situations and to try to feel more empathy.
ESTJs rarely see passed their own nose, such that they seldom are unaware of how they come off to others.
@@CSJoseph *past
Do you love babies as an estj male?
@@joon_choco Well with babies having their future ahead of them and ESTJs Ne-function, I guess they can stand them...
I would also like to know your opinion on babies? update us Robert
I love the way you explain this. It is easier and more pragmatic. You are a wonderful teacher. Thank you.
Yeah this video is hella helpful im entp and I'm dating an estj and since watching it i have changed how i phrase things so instead of asking when he is available now I just say i want to see you and he ask when and then I tell him when... so much easier! And now i also understand why he always orders the same thing as me at the restaurant or wants to try the same beer as me at the bar or asks me what i think he should order...
My husband is an ESTJ and I am an INFJ. Our relationship keeps growing, deepening..tottally recommend for INFJs. One thing I love about him is that he will champion the shy people that everyone ignores.
Istps being shy, haha
I do that too. I like everyone to feel included.
If INFJs and ESTJs have good relationships than that would explain why my friend from high school (estj) and my friend from church (infj) were cool with each other.
Thank you. INFJ here, been chatting with a woman who is ESTJ and it seems too good to be true. Thanks for your perspective.
I'm also an infj married to an estj, together 15+ years and ever more in love!!! 😊
How to make Estj mad: tell them they are wrong. Triggered.
Literally
But you're wrong about that! jk
Haha. I'm an infp and I'm starting to see how my subconscious has played a part in my life.
I used to be obsessed with Doctor Who and I never considered I was so opinionated or competitive till someone said "get your facts right" B- DID U SPEND TOO MANY HOURS OF YOUR LIFE STUDYING THIS RAMDOM USELESS THING?? I KNOW The Doctors sonic screwdriver doesn't work on wood don't tEST ME.
I was.. 14.
@@WalliFrog LMAO
For sure.
I'm in Accounting and I'm an ESTJ. You can imagine how much I love to-do lists and deadlines. Love my job.
This was one of the best videos I’ve ever seen. My dad is an ESTJ and my mom is INFP, I’m INFJ and your video explains all the family fights I’ve ever experienced haha. Thank you so much, I feel like I’ve misunderstood my dad a lot and haven’t been thoughtful enough about him and have held grudges but it’s not really his fault in the end. He just wants the best for me.
Very helpful. INFJ here married to an ESTJ. It’s so cute the soft center. He was once an elite athlete. He continues to be a gym babe.
Yea, similar experience here ✋ I'm INFJ and my Dad is ISTP and he often triggers me with his Si Hero 😬 but now I unwillingly admit that I have many things to learn from him 😅
@@jessicadanielle4872 hiii I am in infj do you have any advice on how to make the relationship work with an estj please
I'm an ESTJ and I don't feel I'm a bad person except when I think I'm being selfish. 🤔
I do worry about being right or smart enough, it makes me feel insecure and this bothers me a lot. Aside from this, everything else you mentioned about ESTJs is pretty accurate. What about not knowing how we feel? I always feel flat lined; no highs and no major lows.
Same! Excitement or positivity isn't a natural feeling at all. I'm always flat and not sure why..
Gosh that's why you guys are so plain...
There's is a slight difference between assertive and turbulent estjs i'm a turbulent one and experience these things that you don't. Maybe you are an assertive type check it out. :)
Timestamps for me
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Rational
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Ne child
7:46-9:10
Fi
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Infp subconscious part 1
10:24-10:35
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13:29-15:00
You should listen to me
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Ideas
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The Istp unconscious part 1
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Ni trickster
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Fe Demon
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Super ego
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"an ESTJ has no problem with their woman being on top and riding them, if you know what I mean"
Well you pretty much spelled it out for us...
hahaha
I'm INTP but actually I feel like I personally have a lot in common with the ESTJs somehow
lol, that's exactly the comment I wanted to put.
@@IOIO6 Same; it's the Si - it lead to kind of a boring bedroom situation though after her Ne was satisfied.
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Yup, very soft on the inside. I've definitely noticed that.
As an ESTJ, I don't necessarily think that I'm a bad person, but what I do think is that I am at risk of emotionally hurting people more than others because of my blunt nature, so I would constantly try to improve on myself in this regard. I don't walk around everyday thinking that I'm a bad person. That seems unhealthy. I also don't hold myself to an insanely high standard to how I dress or look...but maybe that's because I think it would get in the way of doing actual work (HAHAHA). Otherwise, most do apply especially with being in INFP "mode/state." And I've learned to know what I want through the process of elimination, but then again that would be based on external evaluation on what would be good to want. Thank you for this video. I admire how engaging you are when you discuss and how you are able to explain these concepts in a simple and easily digestible manner. Keep up the good work!!
I've always had this hypothesis that those who had the submissiveness kink were usually STJs (or other Te users). They are so used to being in control that it's a nice break for them to relinquish it in the bedroom (also, those who have a good dom it's sort of a way of allowing themselves to be broken down in a safe environment).
yessir!
I'm an ESTJ and i don't necessarily think that applies to me, Im not into the whole 'submissiveness kink'.
@gregson8533 Neither is my Estj husband! He's the Dom for sure, I'm the submissive one....although he does prefer me to do most of the "work" in bed to give him a good time lol
Still interested in your deep dive into the types sexuality preferences!
Thank you so much for this. I am a INTJ business owner who is contracted to manage a large association who is led by one of these types and up until now he has been a extremely difficult type for me to deal with. Very insecure around me even though I don't try to be too intense around him. He's can be a bully to people who are the more sensitive type and it drives me crazy. I always pegged him as the type that's usually in middle management who loves to be brown nosed but could never run a company himself. This info has helped alot so thank you!
As an INFP, I’ve found that I get along really well with ESTJs! Now I know why since we understand each other through our subconscious personality types! Thanks for making this video! It was very helpful! I learned a lot ^.^
According to socionics they are duals.
Note to future self: this is definitely my type.
Work on yourself Batman that world needs you
HAHAH. What is your MBTI?
@@gigip4727 Looks like ESTJ. Although I was considering ENTJ atm. But now I'm back to ESTJ again.
I love my ESTJ aunt! Get along so well with her and she tells me I am one of the only people (if not the only) who understands her. - INFJ
aww bronze pairs are so cute in any relationship , this is trully lovely
I just went through some mental phenomena recently and this provided me the answers I've been searching 6 months for.
Idk about you all ESTJs but IMO that Si thing is more about being very responsive to and demanding external stimulation. As opposed to Se taking the lead when it comes to “playing”. Not so much who’s literally on top, but more about feeling strongly desired. Si Fi.
There's an ESTJ lady I know, she does church work and takes group photos with her team. She looks at the photos, and if she doesn't think she looks good enough in the photo, she'll make the whole team take a new photo. This lady is in amazing shape for her age, makes 70 look like 45, but she doesn't do any gym work. She just buzzes around from morning until night, a true busybody, and stays in shape that way. I like ESTJ. I admire their productivity and their bad logic and bluster doesn't bother me. I do see that heart of gold, often, with this type.
Well, they are very bossy. And just behave that they are the elitest person in the world. They tend to be narcissistic. And the scream people to do their work. They treat people as their slaves basically. Always makes other follow their arbitrary rules (which are just illogical mostly). They deserve to be slapped and be given the truth . They don't have any right to force their rules onto somebody.
- Stereotypically speaking. Exceptions do exist.
@@aayushrandeep1981 Very very well said!
I'm an intp. I was watching this video to get to know my mothers new boyfriend and you can see why the sexual part made me uncomfortable.
I started watching your videos a day ago and I´m obsessed! Thank you so much for all the information, now a ESTJ with a well developed Fi who is on vacation has a lot of interesting knowledge to gather. Hero!!
Estj always seem angry to me and ready to explode. They are bossy and so hate being told what to do by others. They are extemely JUDGEMENTAL and critical and have a hard time emphasising if they havent bern thru it themselves. Tbey are very strong and not your fluffy bunnies but they are great organisers and work hard.
Just imagine how we talk to ourselves! Our inner voice is a drill sargeant! ; D
Us estjs certainly wouldn't have a cat as a profile Pic.
Oh so judgemental while totally clueless at the same time (when it comes to emotional intelligence)
I used to be an E with different letters at the end when I was younger before girls bullied me very very badly
@@kentfink9509 whoops that's not necessarily true, bruv. Their Fi Aspiration can bring their sympathy to adore kitten soooooo much 👌
Some things you were talking about, I was laughing. I kept thinking, gah that's what I do! that's why I do that!
I am an ESTJ and tested as an ENFP/INFP - that didn't make sense until I saw your explanation. Is that a permanent or desired state for an ESTJ.
Kyra Watkin INFP testing shows you may be more integrated than most people with your type.
Same here, i got ENFP on the test, but my family, friends and I agree that I'm ESTJ....
This has been bugging me for years. I got ENFP but I just can't relate. Every ENFP I meet at best we understand each other but I constantly feel myself disapproving of they way they are . So I'm confused. Am I just a mature ENFP or was I just incredibly unhealthy when taking the test. This video was way more relatable than the ENFP.
As an ISFP, I freakin love ESTJs. You always know exactly where you're up to with them, and I love learning from each other. I also love the savage banter you can have with them.
As an ISFP i fucking hate them lol
I totally related to you when you said you grew up with a family that rejected your ego. I'm an ENFP with an ESTJ dad and holy shit, the amount of yelling and fighting. Even though we live in the same house, we don't even talk to each other because every conversation is a potential fight. I understand him a bit better now, thank you, Chase.
I’m a ISTP and my husband is ESTJ you have been so accurate👌
Marrying an ISTP!
Awesome breakdown. Looking forward to the rest of the types. Super accurate of the ESTJ female I know.
SpaceyNYC glad to have been a help.
a healthy ESTJ understands that Fi is their weakness. They will use Te to learna about Fi because its logical to be a well rounded individual.
Stephen Brown exactly. Gives an advantage when it comes to trying to balance things out, compared to strong feeler types... because, well, can they actually think? Spontaneous Fe remains extremely foreign though.
@@benaoao6753 the U.S. is mostly an ESTJ country. Japan is an INFP country. (We both know their cognitive functions appearently don't go well together yet both of them can be smart) I'm an INFP & living in the ESTJ land we know as the United States, it stressed me so much in my teen years. But working your inferior functions is good. At least in my case I feel like my ISTP father has helped me out a lot (apparently the right pair for an ESTJ) & I had worked out my superego (it takes a lot of maturity for both to get along) & hanging out with your demon function is another way for someone to mature & it activated my ESTJ subconscious which I use to get by life. It varies tho, I know my type can be in a spectrum of the ignorant SJW, to a PHD graduate with the sense of getting their values taught with the logic they've learned from the systems they fear. so can we NFs actually think? It's a very general question but yes we are forced to. A lot of ENFJs growing up they think they might need logic & order to get what they want so they actually can go pretty far with things like politics, science etc. & INFJs at least one that I know is very strategical with his thinking & is actually close to a thinking type. Idk about ENFPs never met them. It's all based on childhood, influences, & if they are healthy or not. Unhealthy INFJs are scary tho even as someone who prefers the metaphysical at least i know it's unreal INFJs at that state seem not to know what's real or not especially when they watch Nazi based movies, joke about shooting schools, or even hang out with the wrong friends. Scares me more than an ESTJ.
@@benaoao6753 not necessarily. I'm an INTP (so, Ti hero) and my dad is ENFJ (Fe hero with Ti inferior). He's a feeler type but spent his 20's developing his inferior to the point that he got a degree in electrical engineering. So, in many cases, feeler types can develop thinking. I'm a better logical thinker than my dad naturally, but he has better natural situational awareness and Ni parent which is hugely advantageous over a Ni critic/Si child which makes him naturally driven and me naturally prone to failure to launch syndrome. I do find it funny that your immediate thought process in relation to developing cognitive functions is how it can give you hierarchical advantage. Very ExTJ sentiment 🤣😉
Hahaha you nailed it so hard with the examples on Ni trickster... My estj friend first bought a car so he could look cool and ended up not knowing what to do with it. And went to a massage school to make a business later that failed also. And other schools, constantly completing something and then not doing anything with it.
Direct, Initiating, Control . . . I see what you did there.
I’m an INFP but I feel more connected to ENTJs than ESTJs somehow. I don’t think I could see myself with an SJ type, maybe SP but I prefer intuitive types. Had a bad experience with an ENFJ though so now I am into ENTJs. I love that little baby Fi and just want to nurture it, while deeply admiring big Te.
I agree. I honestly never give advice to make anyone feel good. To me that is just a collossal waste of time. I give advice because it's financially conducive. I once told my brother that happiness can easily change when your family has nothing to eat. I told him that you dont need to be in love with his job. He just needs to do it extremely well and get paid.
Maybe some day you can also help people and gey paid too :) if you could be just as good and efficient at it with little investment, why not right? :)
Growing up, i was secretly insecure. I was an overachiever student but all the while I was afraid i dont have worth if im not intelligent. I also know im not everyone's cup of tea and it used to bother me until one of my mentors said that they know im choleric and I have to stop feeling guilty about it and embrace who I am.
I was very particular of my appearance because people are visual creatures and I knew at a young age that I need to manage people's perception for me to get ahead. Yeah.
Loved it. As an ESTJ, I never felt so much understood!
As an ESTJ female. If you ask me what do I want, I will let you know!
And can careless if people like me or not. Someone of your pints are good, others not so much.
Well same here as male ESTJ, most of the time I know what I want if you ask me. And actually I do care about others. Althought not everytime I understand the hints given... :D
I personally only care if it will influence someones view of me professionally as a nurse and teacher. Specifically judging my competency or how I do it..my integrity. If some trash talks about my appearance its laughable but my work ethic? I will cut you and prove you wrong by becoming more efficient and make it damn well known! I also only judge others appearance if its sloppy, lazy or childish..flat brim hats are a hard no and deal breaker. People need to show they're putting effort into themselves or what's the point? Some people are narcissistic too. Id rather you tell me where you want to go for lunch so i can accommodate you..not tht i cant decide. Id just rather us all be happy and i know i will be less picky!! See people get us all wrong! 😬😊
Please , all ESTJ. I had a ESTJ colleuge and a friend. He became so stressed about his self-worth that I think he had a heart-attack and died from it.. I miss him. He was a good person. I whish he would just accept that he was a bit silly sometimes and that it is okay to sometimes be a bit silly. He left 2 children and a wife. So please all ESTJ take care of yourself. -His INFP colleuge and friend.
I think I am an Estj, but I’ve never thought of being a bad person. I always worry about my selfworth, but not in that way. As you said in the video, I worry about being stupid, or I worry about not being able to express my own opinions, sometimes because I don’t have an opinion on many things, but also because I worry of being wrong, so I keep agreeing to others and I feel bad about that 🤷🏻♀️
Also I tend to believe to everything someone says to me, even when they’re lying.
Also when I was younger, it was easy to manipulate me because of my Ne: I didn’t mind to do what people wanted, and this caused some problems, and that’s another reason why I worry about my selfworth.
And finally, I have a really bad relationship with my Fi, because I’m not able to express my emotions or everything about Fi. But, as I said earlier, I’ve never thought of being a bad person
I am an ESTJ and I am thinking about doing HR , it took me forever to figure that out !!!
Your video was so good that you've convinced me that I might be an ESTJ (currently typed as ENTJ).
you fucking genius, you revolutionized the relationship with my father (ESTJ), I (INFJ) understood today that instead of saying "I feel" I have to say "I think" and damn many of the problems are gone, holy fuck. I think that I should also say to my mum (ISTJ) "I think you should". I have already explained to her that she should read the running library and books. She said to my sister after I said she should stop watching reality TV "can we just throw the TV out" xD. That's amazing. In 2 days it's her birthday and I'm giving her 4 books. After 19 years of misunderstanding each other (ESTJ Dad, ISTJ Mum with an INFJ Son) I can finally solve the problems.
Nice application!
ISTP here. Never, ever, ever lie to an ESTJ. They will find out and you will never hear the end of it.
as an ESTJ yes LOL
My dad is an ESTJ and I'm an INTJ. Holy fuck the fights and stories...
I think my sister is this type (honestly could be an Entp as well?). And she's being sorta ostracized from our family because my dad, my mom and me (my brother usually leaves her alone) are getting sick of the constant critique, mean comments and corrections and I've called her so many words in retaliation but I know it's who she is and she usually means well. They just won't consider other people's feelings and are very shallow in social norms so they tend to enforce these things without actually caring about how it makes people feel.
"its who she is".
mbti is not an excuse for anything
This is so helpful, thank you! Being an ISFJ married to a ESTJ, I was very attracted to his traditional side. Ive been trying to understand how he thinks by digging into this, because of course he isn't going to tell me ever, lol. The "doesn't know what they want" is so true. It is hard for us to make big or small decisions together(like holiday destinations or restaurant choices) because he doesn't know what he wants and I'm scared to pick something that is disappointing. Im learning to just take the lead on many of these things, or let someone else pick to save us both.
Loved this. Found the social engineering for ESTJs too, thank you! I’m pretty sure I’ve betrayed one at work... and am screwed.
I'm INFJ and I had an ESTJ friend for years but we clashed on almost everything.
I have been tutoring an ESTJ. We clash on almost everything. (ENFP)
@@silentgrove7670 Yeah because you're incompatible. I'm sure the above guy was probably an INFP as INFJs and ESTJs are super compatible
You just summarized my mother. INFP here with 3 of my siblings being an INFP as well(which I typed) and one being an INTJ(still not sure) and boiiii we’re struggling with our mother right now.
The reason why I’m in this specific video is because I want to understand our mother more(we all love and care for her), and after being curious of the MBTI and stumbling(miraculously I may add) in your channel made me want to type myself and my family properly. The 16 personality test didn’t help me understand myself that much but it was what made me curious. I was typed as an INFJ and for these past few days I BELIEVED that I was an INFJ. I’m so glad I found your channel. I am an INFP. I bet you already know base on this long comment xD
I love your insights Chase and your drive to help others through this. Please keep it up, man. As an INFP(who actually got butthurt from your other vids because of my Fi), we need people like you to tell us the truth(even if it hurts xD).
You have a loyal subscriber here. Definitely will recommend to others ^^b Have a good day!
ESTJ is the most incompatible type with me INFJ
Ive had horrible experiences with them
AMEN! never again!
Actually, INFJ is the ESTJ's third best match. Quite frankly though, I think you're an INFP mistyped as INFJ.
@@astonish_injurer5598 unless you're an INFJ that's been in a long time relationship with an ESTJ - quite frankly- you don't know what you're talking about. ESTJs are not very compatible with INFJs and communication is absolutely nerve wrecking (unless they're just friends). Don't try to be edgy and rebel against the obvious. It's faaaar more work than with most other types.
@@miriamschmitz394 You're an INFP that believes you're an INFJ. Seriously, your reply shows that you're informative and control.
@@astonish_injurer5598 That generic shit must trigger INFPs a lot...try knocking on their door. 😜 INFJs see through this...you're trolling level is lame...like your analyzing skills. Try again.
My therapist is an ESTJ, had to throw her away in the dumpster because of that se critic, she's no INFP.
She's basically always commenting on my clothing, she said I have nice hands and what is the meaning of the symbols on my shirt😅damn
What about a series on what each type is like as leaders (organizations, churches, bosses, etc.)? Healthy vs unhealthy leaders? There are leaders in my life I keep trying to type, but I wonder if I'm mistyping because of the functions they have to utilize while in leadership roles..
its already on the schedule.
I can never normally get along with an estj without getting into an argument with them
Exactly! “You should be able to do what I have done!” Unfortunately I’m INFP and that was my ESTJ parent. Frick. No amount of explanation of how inaccurate that is will work.
Good work Joseph!
Just realized my mom is an ESTJ
This realization helped me learn to love her
the mbti community might get the j and p confused for introverts, but Myers Briggs explains it clearly 'in differing gifts'. She describes a general that is outside of the tent with a helper in the tent as the extrovert and the general in the tent and the helper outside of the tent as the introvert. Thus as an INTP, my general (Ti) is not seen by outsiders, only the helper (Ne) is seen unless you are important. I put on top that the Ne is how i handle the world which is a P function, but my primary focus is inside thus the Ti hero.
I've always tested as an infp and I do have some similarities with that type but its never really felt right. Watching this I was like "THATS ME". The only part thats different for me is I'm not quite as much of an outwardly critical person, I tend to think it and not say it unless im annoyed or upset with the person.
@@t5396 yes & no but it doesn't come from a bad place (depending on mental state) for example if I see someone with a bad vibe I usually think "oh hmm maybe if I talk to them it will debunk my thoughts just remember the red flags I learned from my past" if that makes sense (yes the judgment is there but usually I have an open mind)
estj egos they are really shallow? ugh thats ruuudee 😅
Totally feel called out lol Great video! Ouch about some of this honestly
Says something completely straightforward... “if you know what I mean”
I thought I was an INTP but the thing I identified with the most was their Si creature conforts - Ne possibilities exploriation coin. After some time away from this topic, I started studying ennegram and discovered I am a 3w2, and it did not get along with INTP. I'm so glad I'm a 317 with all those faults and even more so because now I know where to go. So my "INTP" should be wrong. Studying Objective Personality and trying to discover my cognitive functions, I settle upon a Te/Ne ESTP jumper. There's still the axis of Ne-Si plus It actually accounts for my need of validation above the need of significance.
Thank you for this Video. This is exactly what I was looking for in order to better understand my ESTJ husband.
I am surprised at how accurate your description is, especially when it comes to the subconscious INFP philosopher, or the cruel revenge superego.
I cannot wait to watch your video about my own type.
4:30 - 5:25 - Seems to be a similar idea to Objective Personality grouping EJs and IPs as deciders and EPs and IJs as observers.
I just figured out that my boss is ESTJ. This series is really great.
now i know why me Estj wants all the best brands and why they engage in buying high end things and why they care so much about what other people say
ESTJ must have invented the saying "please dring responsibly
I actually like ESTJs quite a lot
Holy shit... My mother's a Karen! No wonder I'm so screwed up... Shit.
Hi so my tests with a psychologist and then later rechecked by myself stated ESTP, but your video about ESTP regarding confronting people and technically bulling them because I care to improve them so much doesn't describe me. I hate bullies and I verbally attack them if I hear one attacking someone shy and innocent in front of me. I actually attacked 3 bullies in my class on a few occasions, to the point that they stopped smiling when I showed up to the class and they weren't in too good mood around me. But I think ESTJ describes me better, especially the part about revenge. My P and J are about 50/50. I also fit your describtion of ISFJ believe it or not ( hope, revenge, caring about looks, and caring about my family, I also like making turkey dinners; and I expect loyalty for my loyalty).
I remember reading this one book where a kid made it a point to break every rule in the school handbook. I loved that book.
As a ENFJ I always got so mad at ESTJ now I can understand them at least
wow that's so right i have estj classmate who liked me and helped me alot but when i started to wear comfort cloths, i guess that was not good to the estj and she started to act harsh with me they really really care about what you wear , i can see why they get along with intj more than entj but besides that they are smart and learn from their past which i wish that i could do the same thing
The Estjs and Esfjs in my life have a stubborn adherence to the past (Si) and they think cats can jump on counters and start microwaves (Ne)
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 my estj boyfriend is afraid of my cat 😁😁😁 he thinks Cacapou will attack him in the night if he's not under the blanket lollllllllllll and im like no my cat doesn't care about you 🤣🤣🤣
The fact that history repeats itself shows that the ESTJ way of thinking isn't that strange. A lot is predictable based on historic facts.
Perhaps ESTJs like exercising because of Si parent: a) they're open to trying new experiences; and b) they're responsible with those experiences
By Si Parent, I hope you also imply Ne Child
My mother is an ESTJ in constant superego mode and i am an INFJ, if you ever felt like you know pain... trust me you know nothing
@Wayne H LOL this comment O_O
Still trying to figure my type out, but I can definitely confirm this looks like something I am NOT compatible with (I believe I am a NT)
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 This is who I have been and is still on the process of maturing. One point in time I have denied this side of me, because it is so bossy, not understanding that it is still a part of me. (INFP - Ego)
40% - That’s why we’re fucked
Estjs are the killjoys, the tyrant, the toxic boss, the sadist and she devil. They are your worst nightmare. They get the job done.
fair enough
LMAOOOOO
What, no way! Well, some; my current boss--yes; ugh, what a stupid, dimwit prick, who can't make a decision. But, the others I know are cool.
Unless you are ISTP like myself. Then everyone else's worst nightmare is on your side, and yes, they get the job done. It's great.
I don't know, us intps can get kinda emotionally sadistic
I am an ESTJ woman, and all my relationships have ended in disaster, until my ISTP boyfriend came along (I force him to get tested, when we first met.) I've only just found your video, and I feel a little attacked at how correct you are, with the shadowing. I'm not sure if I feel easy to read, and vulnerable, or just accept it.
Brilliant inside knowledge!
As an INTP, going to the gym is always super hilarious. We actually have two separate rooms where in one room the S types tend to congregate, ass-slapping each other and yelling" and then we N types are in another room quietly going through our routines and discussing ideas and theory between sets.
When I'm maxing or when I'm hyper I actually like to join the ES types but most of the time I prefer the chill room. I like ES types because they always pull me into fun mode.
The more commen the type the less commen they make comments about themselves in the comments? The silent majority.
Dimitri Swords I guess so
Maybe it's bc they have better things to do than waste their life on the internet?
Hi. I heard you mention socionics, I hope you can make videos about them soon.. I want to learn about them too...
Im istp. Just quit a job with a estj boss. You nailed it.
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I really enjoyed listening to this. It is so accurate!
Now I'm even more confused than I was before. This sounds a lot like me. However, I think I'm either ISTP or INTP. I pretty certain I'm a high Ti user since I tend to build logical models of the world in my head. Maybe I'm an ISTP who is in his shadow because my current job requires me to manage projects.
Great content!
How can i tell the difference between an ESFJ female boss and an ESTJ female boss.
I had the worst experience I’ve ever had with an ESTJ boss. But I hate to blame the personality b/c I think she MUST have had a personality disorder. I wonder what the interplay is between personality disorders & the various types?
Not really sure if this normal. ISTP was my type since the time I learnt about MBTI. In the past 4 months I started noticing I was no longer identifying myself with that type. Many things changed in my life, work becoming more important and fullfilling, reaching 30 years old. I've retook the test, seems like now I'm an ESTJ.
I’m an INTJ male with an ESTJ female. Curious to hear thoughts on this pairing!
You know, I tested INFP a while back and it just didn't seem right. I was wondering if someone could be developed enough in their subconscious they could test as that. I'm going to go through all of these videos and pretend I never took the MBTI test.
How accurate are these statistics? 40 per cent of the population?
Question: I had an ESTJ "friend" where that bridge has been burned.. long story short he always put emphasis on others because he had self-esteem issues where he always criticized (Se critic) his friends. Could that be because we didn't make any effort, or should have made him feel good or comfortable (Fi inferior), let alone not attack it, over the course our past friendship? I'm trying to get over this, as you have had the same experience of being on their side of Fe demon, connect the dots and make sense of this. Thanks -INTJ
they need to be made comfy and made to feel good. I recommend watching the social engineering lecture on ESTJs.
i feel called out
I dont care about what others want but test is keep saying that I am an ESTJ
awesome, the explaination really fit so damn much !
thank you CSJ❤️