Ur so relatable. Wish u had more subs, basically agreed with most things u said And I would agree 'selfish' doesn't really do ur point justice, and I would've probably emphasised that being selfish in a general sense probably isn't a good thing but rather having to prioritise yourself over others, only sometimes. Honestly, now that I think of it, calling somebody 'nice' feels so oddly neutral. It's like neither kind nor rude, neither really extroverted or introverted lol, it doesn't really describe somebody. I feel like I only describe ppl as 'nice' if I don't really know them, like u said some people tend to not open up. I think the term 'passive' helps to describe it quite well - not really outgoing, very neutral, doesn't really start interactions or is the first to text, but 'nice' to be around. I've had experiences with friends at uni that never really text me first but we end up talking a lot together whenever we do - it just takes me to have to converse with them first. This created sort of a problem for me because, since I wasn't really being reciprocated, they might've thought I was kind of a liability or annoying (they didn't, and actually they appreciated it, but tbh thats why the idea of being a burden and ur pov resonated w me).
This was so well said, i've pinned this comment !! That's such an interesting point about 'nice' being a neutral term, now that I think of it it's so true because my genuine friends I have so much more to say than call them 'nice'. Thank you so much for watching! ❤️
It's my seventeenth birthday and i was just sobbing my eyes out because most of my friends didn't acknowledge it. It feels so lonely, even though ive tried so hard to be nice. You've summed up all my experiences in one video. On top of that, im homeschooled and taking online uni classes at the same time and i feel like my social life is out of control omg. I cant even drive yet. I always wondered, im a great student, really nice, so why don't i have more friends? I can't force it yk. I'm j gonna chill from now on lmfaoo the right tribe will come soon. Love ur content btw!
hi, i know it's been a few months, but i wanted to say some things i think might help: 1. happy belated birthday!! i hope your seventeenth year is going well so far, and if not... well, that's alright, negative emotions aren't always bad. 2. i'm 19, been homeschooled for over a decade at this point, and i struggle with feeling lonely and inadequate because i'll graduate right around when i turn 20. on top of that, i also can't legally drive yet, like you! i know how to, but social anxiety has caused me not to feel confident in making an appointment for my learner's permit. but overall i just wanted to let you know you're not alone, and that you're not lesser than for not moving at the same pace as everyone else. in the end, most people won't care when you learn to drive, and if they do, then they're shallow.
I don't think I've ever felt this seen by a youtube video before. You basically perfectly described my life as a college student. Idek what to say but I'm subscribing immediately😭
I can't believe my thoughts were so clearly verbalised in this video, when it felt like I was the only one struggling with such a complex conflict within :')
Im too nice and people think im autistic because of it... When the reality was that i just never got to develop myself socially/personally and am just now realizing i like fitness, eating healthy, beauty and fashion and kind of like an earthy girl but bougie travel girl vibe too....but currently im going through sex trafficking so i still have a long way to go
literally! the lack of social experiences really takes a toll as you get older also girl, are you ok? pls msg me if u need help christinaaaliyah1@gmail.com im worried ❤️🩹
your content is amazing!!! i'm so glad I've stumbled upon your channel. things you say resonate with me so much. lately I'm at peak exhaustion with human interaction and thanks to you I'm starting to understand why and what to do about it. please keep going because the introverted people pleasing side of YT needs you🌷🌷🌷
I am actually finding your vids easy to listen to. I think it’s because you understand our can relate to the person you speak about. I’ve watched other videos on being nice, boring, not having friends and, I don’t know if it’s just me, but it feels like the TH-camr would put all of the blame on the individual without much understanding or puts it off to being a low status individual that it kind of puts me off from trying and builds up negative emotions more.
I love this sm!!! Its hella relevant to what i go through..i wasnt always like this..i guess i was raised to be an introvert and stuff in primary cuz my mom never allowed me to hang out w my friends out of school and then i got the biggest culture shock in high school and well till today, i still struggle w makong connections, friends i have but connection..noooo..so im so glad i found your videoo❤❤❤God bless you
Ur so relatable. Wish u had more subs, basically agreed with most things u said
And I would agree 'selfish' doesn't really do ur point justice, and I would've probably emphasised that being selfish in a general sense probably isn't a good thing but rather having to prioritise yourself over others, only sometimes.
Honestly, now that I think of it, calling somebody 'nice' feels so oddly neutral. It's like neither kind nor rude, neither really extroverted or introverted lol, it doesn't really describe somebody. I feel like I only describe ppl as 'nice' if I don't really know them, like u said some people tend to not open up. I think the term 'passive' helps to describe it quite well - not really outgoing, very neutral, doesn't really start interactions or is the first to text, but 'nice' to be around.
I've had experiences with friends at uni that never really text me first but we end up talking a lot together whenever we do - it just takes me to have to converse with them first. This created sort of a problem for me because, since I wasn't really being reciprocated, they might've thought I was kind of a liability or annoying (they didn't, and actually they appreciated it, but tbh thats why the idea of being a burden and ur pov resonated w me).
This was so well said, i've pinned this comment !!
That's such an interesting point about 'nice' being a neutral term, now that I think of it it's so true because my genuine friends I have so much more to say than call them 'nice'.
Thank you so much for watching! ❤️
It's my seventeenth birthday and i was just sobbing my eyes out because most of my friends didn't acknowledge it. It feels so lonely, even though ive tried so hard to be nice. You've summed up all my experiences in one video. On top of that, im homeschooled and taking online uni classes at the same time and i feel like my social life is out of control omg. I cant even drive yet. I always wondered, im a great student, really nice, so why don't i have more friends? I can't force it yk. I'm j gonna chill from now on lmfaoo the right tribe will come soon. Love ur content btw!
I'm so so sorry, that's literally awful
hi, i know it's been a few months, but i wanted to say some things i think might help:
1. happy belated birthday!! i hope your seventeenth year is going well so far, and if not... well, that's alright, negative emotions aren't always bad.
2. i'm 19, been homeschooled for over a decade at this point, and i struggle with feeling lonely and inadequate because i'll graduate right around when i turn 20. on top of that, i also can't legally drive yet, like you! i know how to, but social anxiety has caused me not to feel confident in making an appointment for my learner's permit.
but overall i just wanted to let you know you're not alone, and that you're not lesser than for not moving at the same pace as everyone else. in the end, most people won't care when you learn to drive, and if they do, then they're shallow.
I don't think I've ever felt this seen by a youtube video before. You basically perfectly described my life as a college student. Idek what to say but I'm subscribing immediately😭
Making people feel seen in my videos >>>> any other feeling
I can't believe my thoughts were so clearly verbalised in this video, when it felt like I was the only one struggling with such a complex conflict within :')
we're in this together bestie
i'd love to know your thoughts on this one
In the middle of an identity crisis. That’s why I clicked on this video!
u and me both! i feel like i have a new crisis every month 🥲
Im too nice and people think im autistic because of it... When the reality was that i just never got to develop myself socially/personally and am just now realizing i like fitness, eating healthy, beauty and fashion and kind of like an earthy girl but bougie travel girl vibe too....but currently im going through sex trafficking so i still have a long way to go
literally! the lack of social experiences really takes a toll as you get older
also girl, are you ok? pls msg me if u need help christinaaaliyah1@gmail.com im worried ❤️🩹
your content is amazing!!! i'm so glad I've stumbled upon your channel. things you say resonate with me so much. lately I'm at peak exhaustion with human interaction and thanks to you I'm starting to understand why and what to do about it. please keep going because the introverted people pleasing side of YT needs you🌷🌷🌷
aw girl, this has literally made my day!! I'm so glad you feel seen by this, this is literally my goal with this channel
We are almost the same person.
hey twin
Your video background is beautiful ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks Ruyina! It's the LEDs the make such a difference
Your channel is amazing I’ve been binging your content recently and the way you think about relationships is so spot on!!
Thanks Rebecca! Glad you resonate
Everything you said is 100% right ❤️❤️❤️❤️
thanks bestie
"fear of being a burden" um yeah 😅
big mood
oh my god, spot on😮😮😮❤❤
Honestly you really do seem like a nice person and I wanna be friends with you! But yeah it's sad that nice people are lonely.
thank you
Yes😢
I am actually finding your vids easy to listen to. I think it’s because you understand our can relate to the person you speak about.
I’ve watched other videos on being nice, boring, not having friends and, I don’t know if it’s just me, but it feels like the TH-camr would put all of the blame on the individual without much understanding or puts it off to being a low status individual that it kind of puts me off from trying and builds up negative emotions more.
I love your videos, you give me a new perspective. Very helpful. Keep it up! ❤🙌🏿
love the setup and video! good luck w exams!!
Thank you!
I love this sm!!! Its hella relevant to what i go through..i wasnt always like this..i guess i was raised to be an introvert and stuff in primary cuz my mom never allowed me to hang out w my friends out of school and then i got the biggest culture shock in high school and well till today, i still struggle w makong connections, friends i have but connection..noooo..so im so glad i found your videoo❤❤❤God bless you
This is literally soo me, everything you said is 100% right ❤❤🫶🏻🫶🏻