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0:34 you’ve done everything: me who’s done like nothing except the bare minimum to get the grades I want… 😅 yeaaaah

Ally purugannan just with shorter and fluffier hair

Your story actually reminded me of mine. Back in 2019, when I was still in my Dental school (studying for a BDS- Bachelor's in Dental surgery) in India, I got failed in 2 subjects after months of hard work whilst also battling depression and self h@rm. After that, the world just crumbled. Nothing made sense. So I left Dental school and pursued an entirely different career path that everyone around me found foolish. I studied psychology (social sciences and humanities are frowned upon in India as potential careers) and during my three years of undergrad I did it extremely well. I got into the LSE in 2023, moved to London and graduated in 2024 with my MSc. And now, the pressure is to get a job so that I can pay for my rent here in London, where living costs are pretty deadly expensive, especially for international students. Idk why I'm sharing all of this in your comments section but hey, if anyone reads this and finds themselves in similar shoes as mine, you're not alone buddy.

Loved the red flag comment, the other day, someone said a girl wearing Apple Watch outside of workout clothes is a red flag, social media and dating app, makes us think we can find better

Thank you sooo much Christina for your videos. It is actually so heart-warming to hear your pieces of advises on friendships, self-love and self-esteem and on how to reflect upon some dynamics that hold us back. ❤

Women will literally give you a fake number and then ask you why you never tried to be with her 5 years later.

Bro a woman could say in a club "I want sex" and at least one guy would appear

You are so articulate and pleasant to listen to!

As an eldest daughter this resonated with me so much. also lately my mum has even started noticing how hard I am on myself as in my self talk cause its became very negative or toxic, and like If I try rest I end up always either finding a distraction even scrolling on my phone sometimes or I do rest and end up Idk watching a show I just can't switch off at all and will think most of that time on what I should or could be doing, and then find myself staying up late even just for 'me time' to then find myself in the same situation 😭

the best thing i have ever done is not get into a relationship. know yourself first and work on yourself. get into a relationship later in life. trust me, stay single until you actually are secure, confident in yourself. give love to yourself and then watch how you attract good people

Gen z. Are lost. They belive know everything. So no conversations to cooperate and when do try. They call it slay. They can't handle online with their level of paranoia

14:16 ate

girlie!! please make a video about your favourite books!

Just started watching the video. Ive been single my whole life but ive never thought anything was wrong with me. Im the most average looking girl and i find it hard to believe that nobody asks any of these people, who look better than me, out. I realize that i probably havent felt like that because i get asked out all the time. The only thing i find bad about myself is that i think im cursed, because i always attract the guys with the worst personalities. Im actually gonna start to look soon too, because i wasnt before. Edit: watched a bit more. That blonde girl...i think thats what my problem is.

I wonder how many women claim to be ugly when really they might just be overweight/obese, which is tanking their attractiveness. "Ugly" is pretty unchangeable naturally. Weight can change.

Ive had relationships but I’ve never been loved lmfao

For the first part of the video, I do think a lot of people do deal with that, but I have like thought about it for a long and hard and I don’t really think I can relate to that not saying that anything wrong if you make like a little reasons, why you can’t date someone or getting a relationship But for me ever since I was like a little girl even when I was like was not shy like definitely I just never really like someone and I haven’t started liking someone like a little bit later. And again, I’m not lying to myself. I do really think that for me generally I don’t care being in a relationship because if you guys know like being toxic relationships and I don’t mean dating relationships I mean like family, friends or even knew like when I was younger if I have toxic friends if I can barely get up and take care of myself because I have abusive family members abusive friends how is he gonna be when I get a relationship with someone? But now that I am older and I’m starting to have more better friends and getting my own life together and stuff like that and getting away from all that toxic stuff more I feel like totally. I’m open for a relationship.😊

With the idea of waiting for the “perfect person”…I don’t know that I do that, so much as wait for the “perfect person for me” I recently had the realization that my interests and passions almost clash?? The things that are most important to me exist in such different circles that I’ve never had a friend or family member who I could welcome into every section of my life comfortably. It’s not that they don’t know about my different interests, but they relate to me on one or two things and get along with me “despite” the others. (Note that these aren’t just hobbies, their values and passions) The other day was the first time I consciously realized this, and it made me wonder how this affects my dating life. I’m 18 years old and have never dated, and I’ve always been pretty comfortable with that. However, I’m aware that I have unique expectations in a partner. It would kind of suck to feel vaguely ashamed of some part of myself towards my partner, the way I am towards everyone else in my life. If I were to date, I’d want it to be someone who could get excited about/could understand all these things. Obviously I don’t just want them to be a carbon copy of me, but how can I share my life with someone who I can’t talk about certain things with? I avoid this problem in my friendships by having lots of friends that can relate to me on different things, but obviously this wouldn’t be possible in a relationship. Even in my friendships, it’s always hard to establish deep connections because of this

I've never thought there is something lacking in me, or that I fear being in a relationship. I just haven't met "that person" yet. I'm 28 years old never been in a relationship and I don't think it's a problem. Let's normalize being single in 2025. Life is not about relationships.

I heavily agree with the “not finding guys attractive until you know their personality”. My friends will always be like omg he’s so hot but because I don’t know him I don’t really get it and I think that’s because I really want to connect with someone personally and not just based on outward appearance.

I dated once now,i only had kiss,I don't wanna date any man,I'm good being single,I'm scared of men,and their behaviour towards women in general.

Christina- I think we are the same person. It’s kinda crazy. 😂😂 I am an overachiever, perfectionist, over-thinker, struggle with social gatherings, do the best in math and science, and also want to be a doctor. I love watching your videos because I can relate to almost everything!!

My issue is “where tf do you find someone?” Because even if you try to start a conversation with someone they’re weirded out

Even if you pace yourself, you'd still get burnt out...

I'm actually surprised as a 20 year old. I never realised that people that want to date haven't dated, since it's so easy now with dating apps. I have single friends and they're all kinda uninterested and all my other friends are in relationships or out dating. My socmed also kinda shares relationship stuff so I thought that was the norm, that people were experiencing stuff like me. Especially those in western countries, as I live in an Islamic country. I've been in toxic relationships before and broke up in 2023, it was with a classmate and just infatuation, naivety, caused us both to get in over our heads, he met my family and everything. But now I'm more careful, over a year of being single and have had 3 talking stages, and all of them went well imo. We talked a couple or more weeks, and see whether we're compatible, we weren't, then we cut contact and move on. no drama or toxicity. I spend most of my time on myself and I'm actually in a talking stage rn. And I haven't been devastated over a guy in over a year. 2024 was so peaceful for me because I just decided to use my head when dating and only go on dates when I feel like it, and enjoy few months of not thinking of it as well. I'm 20, super young. I want to get married but don't want children. There is not a ticking time or deadline I've set. My life would be full and complete even if I didn't get married. I'm getting the highs of dating during the talking stage and leaving when the red flags show up despite any attachment. I do have a list and I'm sticking by it, and guess what, I really like the next guy too. Infatuation just lies to you, the tinted glasses. It's sad to cut contact but then you're infatuated w another new person and realise it's not that deep. I'm not even rushing to find the one, cuz who cares. Sometimes it's the boredom and loneliness, and after I satisfy that, I'm ok again. I'm enjoying life sm rn that I no longer spend hours daydreaming abt how much happier I'd be if I had a partner, cuz I am literally that happy rn. If I do find someone I'd want to commit to, it would be another fully happy person, not someone to fill a gap in each other's life

i feel like thinking about why i would make a great partner would make me even sadder because then it's like if im so great why am i single still like its just tragic

Im 32M bought to be 33 on Saturday. I just wanna experience it one time. I'm tired of getting rediculed by family because of it. I feel like a loser

I'm just gonna accept I'm gonna die alone

Вау. Я навіть не думала, що TH-cam дасть мені це відео в рекомендації!😳 Я вже декілька років обдумаю це питання і не розумію як так сталось, що я зараз не маю ніяких стосунків? Мені 22 роки і я абсолютно нормально сприймаю себе як особистість та своє життя. Мені багато разів давали компліменти і декілька разів робили пропозицію зустрічатись. Проте, кожного разу я казала, що це не на часі. Типу, "я зараз зайнята підготовкою до екзаменів, щоб поступити в університет/в мене зараз ідуть екзамени в університеті/ой я зараз така заклопотана на роботі та в навчанні..." і цей список відмовок ще можна продовжувати і продовжувати!!! Коли я була в першому класі школи, я дивилась багато серіалів та фільмів. І я запам'ятала, що кохання часто може "ламати" особисті плани на життя не в позитивному напрямку. Наприклад учні школи знаходили собі хлопця/дівчину і в них понизились оцінки, вони почали частіше прогулювати уроки, не сконцентровані на навчанні та своєму майбутньому. Тож я у свої 7-8 років вирішила, що не буду собі шукати хлопця поки не закінчу школу! 😂А вже в університеті, десь на 2 курсі, вже можна когось собі знайти.😆 І знаєте що? В мене погіршились оцінки в школі і я все частіше стала прогулювати уроки і БЕЗ ВІДНОСИН! Тобто якби в мене був хлопець - нічого б кардинального не змінилось!!! І коли я це вже усвідомила - закінчила університет 😂 Тож дуже дякую за таке чудове відео та цікаві рекомендації у ньому!🎦 Я справді дізналась багато чого нового і подивилась на свою ситуацію з іншої сторони! Я досі боюся стосунків, але тепер знаю, що потрібно зробити, щоб змінити цей стан страху🤌 Ще раз дуже дякую!!🫶 Wow. I never thought TH-cam would recommend this video to me! 😳 For several years now, I’ve been pondering this question and still can’t understand how it happened that I don’t have any relationships at this point. I’m 22 years old, and I feel completely comfortable with myself as a person and my life. I’ve received compliments many times, and a few people have even asked me out. But every time, I said it wasn’t the right moment. Something like, “I’m busy preparing for exams to get into university/I have university exams right now/I’m swamped with work and studies...” and this list of excuses could go on and on! When I was in the first grade, I watched a lot of series and movies. I remember noticing that love often "ruins" personal life plans in a negative way. For example, high school students would get a boyfriend/girlfriend, and their grades would drop, they’d start skipping classes more often, and lose focus on their studies and future. So, at the age of 7-8, I decided I wouldn’t look for a boyfriend until I finished school! 😂 And in university, maybe around the second year, I’d think about finding someone. 😆 And you know what? My grades still dropped in school, and I started skipping classes more often without any relationships! So if I’d had a boyfriend, nothing would have changed dramatically! And by the time I realized this-I’d already graduated from university. 😂 So, thank you so much for such an amazing video and its interesting insights! 🎦 I genuinely learned a lot of new things and gained a fresh perspective on my situation. I’m still afraid of relationships, but now I know what I need to do to overcome this fear. 🤌 Thank you again!! 🫶🔥

good video

jose 💪🏻

40 and never been in a relationship 😢

Being invisible and rejection is 90% of the male experience

I was in love for the first time when i was 20. And it was genuinely a surprise for me because before that I was pretty sure all my life that I was aroace (aromantic&asexual). I was just...so comfortable by myself I didn't need a romantic partner, I was happy to have 2 close friends and my parents. And the thought of staying single all my life didn't bother me at all, in fact I was looking forward living alone. So, what I can draw from this experience is the problem is not in singleness but in the fact that people feel incomplete or feel uncomfortable on their own, with this attitude you're not gonna find a partner in the nearest future because you have some work ahead of you. If you are not full field on your own getting a partner doesn't magically bring you happiness. I'm saying this not to blame people who are single that they are wrong or broken in some way. My genuine point is: you are complete, you are enough and you can live a happy life on your own, with family and/or friends, try to make peace with yourself and then people around you will notice it and will get interested in you as well.

Love your content so so much. I can really relate to it and I love how it's so multidimensional

Never been in a relationship never wanted to. I'm happy with my life.

Great video! People who are constantly seeking to improve sometimes need this perspective shift. Releasing the how to focus on the why is the biggest life hack! I made a YT video about that bc it was such a big mindset shift for me.

I love your perspectives, your life lessons and your videos❤

Happy New Year from Mexico 🇲🇽🎉🎉🎉 I love your content

I really needed to hear this message. Thank u so much for ur words!!

I think people have put too much stock into online dating. Online dating is where people go when they aren’t mentally healthy enough to make friends and find dates in the real world.

2025, Susge

it's so easy to fall into the trap of spiralling over my self worth lol - I'm only 20, so I know I have plenty of time to get into a relationship. But while I've never been kissed, had someone confess their feelings for me (whether I like them or not), had someone return my feelings, been asked out, or even held hands; my best friends are getting engaged. And I feel like a lot of stuff I see has this vibe of 'when I'm ready to get into a relationship, I will', or this idea of chasing people away unconsciously when you realise they like you. But I've never even come close - I have absolutely no idea what it could even be like to have somebody interested in me in that romantic way. So now I've reached a point where I'm not panicked over it (I previously was because I'd assumed that when I went to college/university that I'd be able to start dating, having not really known any guys beforehand, and then was upset that that hasn't been the case, almost a feeling of missing out), and I love my friends more than anything. I don't feel too upset over being single, but I also am aware that I have a real desire for love and a family in the future, which I have a small fear over not achieving, But in the end, what'll be will be. I know I'll figure it out!

Just turned 23(F), have never had a girlfriend… for some reason it doesn’t bother me 😂, I just think I’m not ready yet

You good you good. I must confess 😊 how did you know all this. Amd as for the community, I'm still waiting for it.

I LITTERALLY LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!!

I'm a highschooler and I've been shamed for not having a boyfriend or ANY talking situations, everyone around me are literally getting it on and I feel so far behind. I've grown accustomed to the fact that guys don't like me. Thanks for this video even though I'm not even sure I can be relating to this.

13:50 is so beautifully said,thank you so much ❤

TH-cam comments are my vision board. My gf i been with for several year's. She is a older less coherent version of you. She speaks several languages and understanding her mind takes work. But your videos help me understand the gf. She wanted to be astrophyscist but never finished her degree

I feel like most of the people who put a lot of stuff on their vision boards and don't acomplish it, blame it on not working hard enough. But I think that it isn't always the case, the case might be that those goals weren't meant for them. Some people just make those goals following the mainstream, but we forget that everyone is different and everybody's journey is different. I really enjoyed the video btw ❤❤ It was refreshing after seeing all of these 'how to make 2025 your year' or 'how to make a perfect vision board'