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If their standards are to high , then what do the women bring to the table then ? A question that makes women think alot ?

But most men want to hit the so called ugly girl when they drunk or when the homies are not around Deep down they know she the real one but we fear accountability more than death any ways

As a 32 y.o. single man who's not rich and only 5'6 - even though i have a full-time job, exercise and have hobbies, most people will never find me to be enough. I have to be okay with the thought i might potentially be alone in a romantic sense, but i can find other parts of life that are fulfilling. Whether by the will of a higher being or by circumstance, if someone comes along then cool. If not, thats okay too. Modern society is too focused on passing on perfect genetic legacy with insanely high standards. I refuse to play the game if everything is rigged against the average person. Laying low and just living my life will be the best way moving forward.

I'm feeling behind because I've moved around so much I have no home base. I'm living far from my family who I really miss. I'm worried that moving again would delay my life further because - no dating, no relationship, struggling to make new friends. And feeling behind in my career. Something I don't celebrate enough is how much I've healed! My bond with my family has gotten so much stronger through the years. It sucks to miss them but I'm also glad I miss them. And I'm finally in the right frame of mind for a partner and more friends. Maybe everything is just around the corner.

As a millennial I met the love of my life on a hook up app... dont do it, but do it. I got out of my comfort zone and dated someone who was 7 years my junior, after talking to him and wanting someone who wasn't an immature person (dispite his age he acted like he was my age) we both fell in love even though I had a kid from a previous relationship and he was a playboy in his past. No one is gonna be perfect and I'm speaking for myself.

No ones saying its wrong to have standards, loyalty, communication are basic things - people go overboard though and get picky, remain single and complain they can't find anyone

do people actually care that hard about a releationship? like if u are in one good for u ig, but u rly have to have a lot of free time to maintain a good and healthy relationship

I'm 26 and have been in two relationships. 1 lasted two and a half months and the other lasted 2 months. Both of these relationships were abusive in some way. All this to say yes I have experience but I've never experienced a healthy relationship.

Lost 20 pounds, gained self conscience and do not feel the need to waste my time with people who are nice to me now.

Being in a relationship is the last thing on my mind rn 🗣

So basically a boyfriend is not the main thin innit

Your video reminded me sooo much of how much of a people pleaser i was, to the point I forced myself into thinking this one ‘friend’ was truly my best friend despite the multiple icks and gaslighting. Now i tried my best to put myself first and stop gaslighting myself abt things. Thank you for the video! I reflected on many things because of it ❤❤

I find a lot modern women explicitly say “I will not date, be in a long term relationship, or marry any guy who isn’t liberal; if your a republican or moderate leaning conservative then save us both time and swipe left”. Frankly, this standard alone is too high, 32% of men are conservatives and 48% are independent (30% of whom lean conservative and 18% classical liberals). Like men aren’t nearly as passionate about politics, we don’t care about your political beliefs as long as we can find some common ground or if necessary just agree to disagree.

If your standard are high you better be too is all I have to say i didn't make my first 100k until I was in 28 and guess what it was in one Americans most hated blue collar jobs the oilfield.

1:30 it is so hard to listen, simply because when most women select 5% of "top" men, they creating this problem, because when this 5% men have 10+ girls which want to meat with him, he will be picky, he will ghost them, and don't go in relationship simply because he have options. But this is _only_ 5% men, but women for some reason don't think that what they select is problem, and making it as all men are like this. Sorry to say, but if you only rate what you select, yeah scores will be low, but is more about what and how you select, not that all is bad. So if you no see problem, maybe some therapy? But not by women, she only say "you are right"... which is next big problem, lack of criticize of other women. It is nice to say nice words to women after guy broke, but not when she have another guy and this first discover it or want her to put some standards eg not put halfnaked photos on insta. One more from many is treating men as animals, worst species, or they should only provide without thinking what she should, if someone have any self-respect, he will go away, but women don't see this as problem because "I'm always right" BS, "men should always agree"... nope, sorry, bye 3:20 quality matches? what send first like? why you and women don't understand that more attractive guy is, worst option he is for you. If you don't want bang and end. It is as top actor respons to you, and you counting on long term relationship.

As someone who is 21 and ive only been played by men and only men that want to be in my pants yes ive met some good ones but they weren’t my type unfortunately and im severely depressed because it literally makes me feel unwanted in this world by the men im into 😭

Thank you for being the first video on how to meet new people that ACTUALLY HELPS

I could literally relate to every second if this video 🤌🙌🏻😭 Thank you for making me feel better and relieved 🫂💕

Honestly, I think a big part of why high-achieving young women, in particular, are disengaging is because often the loudest single men online and IRL are the angriest combined with the sense that we don't actually *need* a romantic relationship. Getting accused of having too-high-standards (or lying) for wanting things I'm achieving or offering myself (self-supporting, sense of adventure, kindness, likes me as a person and not just as a means for physicality or to stave off loneliness) makes dating seem much riskier. Intellectually, I don't think all - or most - single men my age (26) are like that, but it nonetheless makes the dating sphere feel more hostile generally. I imagine there are "stop lying" comments regarding women's stated standards are from frustrated men who are unable or unwilling to consider that they either don't meet those basic expectations or are failing to communicate that in their frequently mostly-empty profiles. About a third of dating app profiles I see have angry, bitter responses in at least one prompt - if that's what he's leading with, what else do I have to go on? That's not even getting into conversations with matches with inappropriate behavior, misleading labels (i.e. claiming monogamy when poly, claiming looking for long-term when looking for hookups), or projecting past experiences with other women onto me, a stranger who had nothing to do with whatever previous interaction offended him. For many women in my cohort (employed, advanced degrees, pushing-selves-forward young women), the feeling has emerged that we don't need a romantic relationship. My social needs are tended to by family and friends. I'm employed and in school. I plan adventures and have set up my life in ways that I like it. It's not the exclusion of romance or partnership - it's operating outside the dependency of partnership. Here's the thing - I do WANT a relationship, but not at the cost of being with someone plainly unkind or who just likes the idea of a girlfriend or who is incapable of/unwilling to take care of himself. I want to make someone's life better and he makes mine better; not because we fear loneliness but because we legitimately like each other as people. But I don't even know where to find men with the potential to build this kind of relationship with, especially because such a high ratio of my experiences in online dating/apps have been so negative.

Relationship. Being single up until now

I dated 3 guys that I wasn't attracted to & it didn't go well. It was all one-sided.

Long time ago, I heard of this quote, I don’t remember by who though: “learn to lose the desire to be loved” I have mixed feelings on it, but what do you think?

I don’t doubt that dating outside your type works, but my experience just wasn’t that great. I once dated a guy who was not my type. I thought I was too picky and he was kind and nice, so I thought it’d be fine. Nope. He got cold feet when things got serious and dumped me to date the next person. I ended up hurting so much. I felt that because I had listened to this very common advice I was guaranteed a better experience and was very upset to realize that it just wasn’t necessarily the case.

Hi everyone I need some outside opinion on my situation. Ok so me and this girl were going really well we went out on a date (my first)and we were planning on getting together but one day she text me that she thinks I'm a lovely person but she just isn't mentally in the right place to be with someone romantically she said I make it hard for her to not like me we really liked each other but she wanted space to deal with her mental health which I get and her friend who is still talking to me rn abt it all and he said to me it will work it self out and he's sure abt that he also said that he's sure she will see me still wanting to talk to her and be in her life she will see that all as me actually caring abt her which I do obviously but I just don't what to do because we were going perfect and we were gonna get together but she realised she mentally just can't deal with it(she really does have issues I do too tbh)everyone what do I do? Do I move on completely or do be patient another thing I forgot to add was her friend said to me that we were going no contact for a bit so she can get her mental health steadied up. then we will see abt what we wanna do(as in talking again and getting together)I really this girl everyone but last thing what should I do? Move on? Be patient and see where it goes because other than her mental health we literally couldn't have been going better we had sm planned but for now it's cancelled due to her mental health so reddit what do u think I should do?ps neither of us our in the wrong and I've been told is isn't my fault by her friend I just need to know if I should pursue this(I want too)

You just said something about me.l think l am people pleaser.😂

No, SQUARE your standards. Both in number and quality, at least every two years.

If you're looking for a unicorn, your standards are WAY too high. If you're looking for the top 1% of the male population, your chances of winning Mega Millions are better. If you're looking for GQ models and you're not a Vogue model, you're delulu AF.

Lool 51 n not feeling vibe loool

Your type is a waste of type. The woman I’m falling in love with is almost the complete opposite 😭

Every relationship I've heard of or seen irl has problems. I'm demi, but like, after a situationship with miscommunication after 3 months I've decided that relationships are too much of a trouble for me.

Most women don’t just ask for the simple things like “Loyalty” or “Respect.” They ask of these things from the men that won’t give it to them I.e some rich guy who is rich and handsome. I’m tired of hearing women making it seem like their standards are not that high when IT IS most of the time, I’ve been dating as a 22 year old man and I’ve been with women who are 33 year old women who are 26 years old and etc.. and their standards are all too high all of them want a billionaire playboy philanthropist who’s soft hearted but masculine asf, a man who looks masculine like Henry cavil but who looks boyish like Timothee Chalamet. I don’t struggle in dating but I’d say that dating is bad now 55%-45%. 55% of it is women and having too high standards and social media perpetuating lies and 45% of it being male rappers and influencers and simps who lie and “trick” on women thus inflating a woman’s sexual market value in her head.

Make English subtitles, please!

2020, I moved to a city that was basically sweden (Basically not shut down). I got my haircut every week or bi weekly, got manicures with the clear polish so it looked extra clean, spend a thousand dollars on skincare and hygiene, was building my social media. wore gold chains from amazon lol. lint rolled even my basic t-shirts, wearing colognes that I did hours of searching and analyzing for. following all of the red pill dating advice for increasing my perceived value to women, was in the gym... When I tell you, I got a better response from people when I had a huge nappy dry 4c afro and a big belly and high pitched nasally voice... Do things for yourself first and foremost. When I was more careless, i was more selfish, and I only shared the excess when my cup was overflowing from my self focused life. When I hit some rough patches in life I started to care more about what people thought and cared about other peoples idea of how I should live and attract. self improvement is amazing but you have to do it as if you wont be rewarded for it. There are plenty of tall, rich, and or fit guys outside watching some shorter guy with nothing but pure energy connect with people and attracting women on the level that seems impossible. Live for yourself and share the excess. Do not break yourself apart and hope for someone or something or a circumstance to fill in the missing pieces.

To stop worrying about my studies to the point I stop doing things that I enjoy.

This is so gen z: They all seem to notice all the flaws, and speak about them often... yet don't ever _do anything_ to fix it. It's like this generation is in perpetual therapy - using social as the therapist office and their audience as their therapist. They will say 1,000 times in 1,000 videos what the problems are and what they can do to fix it, but they don't ever _do anything about it (except provide you a link to a video talking about the same thing you have been worried about and watching videos about for the last 5 years). If you ever did anything about your problems, you would have no idea what you would do with your day.

I don't think women really have good social networks because many, many women have to resort to social media for validation. For men, we are naturally more solitary, so that being alone does not necessarily mean 'lonely'. I think women have a much harder time being alone than men do. Even when men do open up, *nobody cares.* There is very little empathy for men, *ESPECIALLY FROM WOMEN.* Women too often lose respect for men the more they open up and share their feelings, doubts and insecurities, so men just learn from a *VERY* young age to keep it to themselves and figure it out on their own. Even therapists are majority women who often don't have a real understanding of masculinity. Lastly, most women have *extremely* low Emotional Intelligence. Meaning they often: can't decipher and manage your own emotions don't understand how other people feel have frequent emotional outbursts or mood changes have little interest in finding new ways of solving problems have trouble accepting criticism, constructive or otherwise a habit of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time a certain obliviousness to emotional cues from others a tendency to fixate on mistakes instead of learning from them and moving on Men typically have a much higher Emotional Intelligence than women, though society would think the opposite. This is what causes MAJOR CONFLICTS in male/female relationships.

If why is it always about girls? A lot of guys go through this themselves ( Myself included.)

99% of the people around me who seems to be in a perfect lovey dovey "relationship" are gonna fail . They are destined to fail because they don't think before going into a relationship , some people don't even care if they like the other person in a romantic way they just feel so pressured that they just goes into it . If I had enough time or energy I would do the same fortunately or unfortunately I have more important things to focus on

it's be 5 mouthes sines i entered my new school . no one talks to me in class there's one one girl who all ways askes for my help and i help help her but she don't help me . but i just help her . me and my one friend in my class are all ways left in sport, group works i am sad don't know what to do ( i am in gr 8 ) can you help me

Why would you look for friends on the internet to begin with. Its astounding to think that you can be social on the internet without causing mental issues. The more time you spend on the internet trying to connect with someone the further you get from life. (Gen X)