My Abortion Experience

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  • @chez066
    @chez066 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2850

    I am reading through the comments of this video and I think it is interesting how all the hate is directed her. There is no mention of the boyfriend who was quick to mention abortion without making sure she was ok first. He shared equal part in the conception, but he is not held accountable.
    Nevertheless, I can't imagine what it would be like to be in that situation. I can tell the decision was hard for you and I think you made what you thought was the best decision, and that's all you can do. You are very brave for sharing your story, and I think you will help other women going through similar circumstances.

    • @jackrags6984
      @jackrags6984 6 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      chez066 - something to think about, if she went through with the pregnancy he'd have to pay child support, so don't say that men aren't held accountable

    • @ramywiles
      @ramywiles 6 ปีที่แล้ว +94

      Jack Rags Because men never skip out on their families?

    • @monkeymind3067
      @monkeymind3067 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      we have school giving sex education and at home parents and we also have lots of contraception available to us
      Hence why she got into such situation and fuc*ing up her body

    • @guitarttimman
      @guitarttimman 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I hope you don't confuse presage and sharing advice as being hate speech! On the contrary, advising others to break away from destructive behavior that causes torment is an act of love.

    • @dashmatt7445
      @dashmatt7445 6 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      I blame her, society, her friend, her boyfriend, and the abortion clinic. Mainly the abortion clinic and society.

  • @kasdfg776
    @kasdfg776 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1787

    NO ONE knows what this is like until they have gone through it. NO ONE knows what anyone else is going through personally. This is a very personal ordeal.

    • @hayleywood2597
      @hayleywood2597 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      You are so right everyone says i would never do it untill your in that situation yourself you can not judge as times in your life can be difficult feel for her know exactly what shes going through it sent me wacko for years it took me years to get over it x

    • @CUTE-tk7xi
      @CUTE-tk7xi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      hayley Wood yes but most people actually don’t do it when they do they won’t ever do it I get she felt like she had no other choice some are like that but people who truly don’t believe in that ACTUALLY will not do it

    • @aaliyahallen-sellers3547
      @aaliyahallen-sellers3547 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Exactly, they just need to shut the hell up.

    • @aaliyahallen-sellers3547
      @aaliyahallen-sellers3547 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      hayley Wood that’s true. i never in my life thought i would get one but i did. Because it was the best for option for me, and i was using protection and everything. Things happen y’all.

    • @bellarose9746
      @bellarose9746 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@aaliyahallen-sellers3547 the reason you had an abortion was it because you thought people would judge you or the fact that you just didn't want to deal with a child birth? "Because you know adoption is an option"

  • @eveaunna1494
    @eveaunna1494 6 ปีที่แล้ว +992

    I remember watching this when i was about 8 or 9 weeks pregnant after my i got kicked out after telling them i was pregnant and i didn't want an abortion ,i was thinking about them and how they felt and i almost let that get to my head .. knowing i really didn't want an abortion .. this video is the reason i didnt have an abortion. Because i knew how hurt i was gonna be.. my baby is 1 month and I'm so glad and thankful for my desicion .

    • @monicajohnson3544
      @monicajohnson3544 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Chula Baby love that 🖤

    • @jasonwade8066
      @jasonwade8066 6 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      great decision and best wishes for you and the baby.

    • @sarahcresap
      @sarahcresap 6 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Chula Baby - That is wonderful. I watched this video about a year ago and it had a profound affect on me as well. So many people are not told how traumatic going through an abortion is. Abortion is not a reset button. It is one of several very difficult options for someone in a difficult position. I appreciate the honesty in the video.

    • @eveaunna1494
      @eveaunna1494 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jason Wade thank you

    • @eveaunna1494
      @eveaunna1494 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Mom .... very. True it was running through my mind like crazy, its a decision that has to be made quickly witch is also so unfair , but i just kept thinking to myself. I just cant this lil human is gonna be apart of me no matter what .

  • @coconutshrimp7919
    @coconutshrimp7919 5 ปีที่แล้ว +281

    I'm curious if this would have gone differently if she was with a man who was excited and supportive when she found out she was pregnant

    • @alexusdumont951
      @alexusdumont951 5 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      123abc it wouldn’t have swayed my decision. I always wanted a life of travel and also a career. I was on birth control to prevent this whole situation. Thankfully I live in a place where I had options. I have now travelled quite a bit and have started a career in EMS. I do want kids one day but only when I am ready to do so.

    • @coconutshrimp7919
      @coconutshrimp7919 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@alexusdumont951 wow! Thanks for responding :)

    • @goldytingz8339
      @goldytingz8339 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@alexusdumont951 Glad you know how to be responsible and think about your future

    • @kamarassakka9922
      @kamarassakka9922 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      1) I don't think it would have gone any different because society has give women God like power. They choose who dies or not.
      2) Its not about men, and not even her ex boyfriend. She didn't love that kid and was just waiting for a push in that direction. She had a choice, she chose to kill. Don't blame men on everything thats wrong with women. She aborted because she wanted to go to Europe
      3) I am happy for that other girl who is planning out her life, but she should know it doesn't always go her way.

    • @johnboehmer6683
      @johnboehmer6683 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@alexusdumont951 , I'm very surprised to hear you say that, there were several things you said in the video that mildly or strongly suggest otherwise. You state at one point you have no regrets, but in 4 or5 others you talk about crying a lot, that it's been very hard, that you wished your boyfriend would have responded to the news differently, that looking at the ultrasound of the baby was really difficult, I think a few other things too.
      A lie that is perpetuated today is that a baby growing in the womb is just a clump of cells, no! If that is true then we are all clumps of cells also, but of course we are so much more. It is natural, the bond between mother and child, natural and instinctive to want to protect and care for that child, and this is what every woman that has an abortion struggles with to one degree or another, consciously or subconsciously. It's what I heard you squirming and trying to deal with just in the video alone, and I do appreciate your honesty in that. But I have no doubt that it's been far more difficult for you than what we saw here.
      With all my heart, I really hope that the same mistake is not made, that you will come to understand that a precious human life is priceless compared to travel or a job. We all make mistakes, the key is always to learn from them and avoid the same thing.I do wish you a great life.

  • @galinilivanov3660
    @galinilivanov3660 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1437

    That boy is not a keeper for sure

    • @Brighteyes7
      @Brighteyes7 6 ปีที่แล้ว +110

      THEY JUST WANT TO F... BUT NOT TAKE ON A RESPONSIBILITY.

    • @nialldecourcey2470
      @nialldecourcey2470 6 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      You do realise it's down to both parties involved to make the decision. If you get pregnant because you are too lazy to use contraception then you have no one to blame but yourself in my opinion.

    • @Uvas83
      @Uvas83 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Bri Zack correct!!

    • @iamcasihart
      @iamcasihart 6 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      @@nialldecourcey2470 Here's the thing: ➡ I don't give a damn *HOW* and/or *WHY* and/or by whom a girl/woman is knocked up/pregnant. ➡ If said pregnant girl/woman wants an abortion, *NO MATTER WHAT the reason(s),* she should have access to a reasonably priced or financed procedure (but preferably, at least partially covered by health insurance).
      Whether a woman had sex with her long-time boyfriend or her husband...whether a woman had sex with *1* man or *101* men...whether a woman was on birth control, used condoms or sometimes used either/or, or never used either, or if there was somehow a mixup...or if a woman was raped (by a stranger in a violent assault, or a "date rape," in which she clearly indicated she did NOT want to have intercourse & she relented, closing her eyes-holding back the tears-praying it would just *be over soon.*
      *NO MATTER WHAT THE REASONS - NO MATTER WHAT THE CIRCUMSTANCES - NO MATTER WHAT, HOW, WHY, WHATEVER: A WOMAN SHOULD ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYSSSSS HAVE ACCESS TO LEGAL ABORTIONS IN A SAFE, COMFORTABLE, COMPASSIONATE ENVIRONMENT!!!*
      No one "likes* abortion. But it is a medical necessity. I am so damn sick, tired & pissed all the way off at this misogynistic, anti-woman, woman-hating bullshit puritanical rhetoric meant to shame women & control women! Women are entitled to enjoy their bodies, embrace their sexuality & engage in *ANY KIND* of sex that brings them fulfillment, pleasure, joy & more! Men do it EVERY FUCKING DAY. Women deserve the same rights...Speaking of rights, if men could get pregnant, you can bet your sweet ass that this would not even be an issue! Men would have abortions & they'd fight for their rights.
      Oh, and another thing, if health insurance covers all of these stupid medications to help with lackluster or altogether GONE erections (aka: meds designed to stroke the already fragile male ego), then what in the hell are so many idiots up in arms about having a woman's birth control meds covered??! Or my bio-identical compounded hormone cream, which my insurance does NOT cover, costs me nearly $50 a month. It helps my overall health & it also improves my libido, making for greater desire, better sensation & more satisfying sex with my man. 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

    • @nialldecourcey2470
      @nialldecourcey2470 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      "It's down to both parties involved to make the decision" Ring any bells? Nothing I said was misogynistic. If you accidentally get pregnant because of not bothering to use birth control then why should people be patting you on the back and calling you brave? It make zero sense. Same the man involved, knowing there's a chance that a woman can get pregnant but still going through with it is just naive from both the man and the woman. I believe woman who have medical conditions or rape victims should have a right to an abortion but not woman who can not be bothered to use birth control. Please change my mind by telling me why a woman and man who are having unprotected sex should have the right to abort their child because it was a "mistake". Also as just a side note why turn to abortion when you can put the child up for adoption? At least it can have a chance at life that way.

  • @TheVildee
    @TheVildee 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1317

    I think it's so messed up that you have abortion clinics in the USA/Canada. Why on earth don't you have abortion as part of the services given by a normal hospital? You would get rid of the protester problem if you acknowledged that this is a procedure that should be done by the gynecological department at the hospital.

    • @ttenrabdn
      @ttenrabdn 9 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      +TheVildee Calgary is in Canada.

    • @TheVildee
      @TheVildee 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Danielle Holbrook Oh sorry, didn't notice! I thought Canada was more liberal though...

    • @xxxTH3summerS3Txxx
      @xxxTH3summerS3Txxx 9 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      +TheVildee They are... but America is worse :(
      *this is coming from an American

    • @TheVildee
      @TheVildee 9 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      xxxTH3summerS3Txxx :( I think it's scary how such a developed country as America is so far behind in these questions

    • @jenniebeez
      @jenniebeez 9 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      +TheVildee They are in the hospital and they also exist as regular clinics too.

  • @slcutcher
    @slcutcher 5 ปีที่แล้ว +898

    I'm sad for you that your boyfriend was so unsupportive and that you felt this was your only option. I hope you aren't still with him. He doesn't sound very nice.

    • @allydef
      @allydef 5 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      S Sykes
      That’s what I was thinking too. She deserves someone way better.

    • @allydef
      @allydef 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Joe Noyes
      She didn’t do it to be evil. She aborted because she was terrified and felt as if it were her only option. Also, her boyfriend wasn’t supportive and, in a way, coerced her into getting an abortion. So please don’t judge or hate, only wish her the best because it’s obvious she’s sad.

    • @deanjameson5916
      @deanjameson5916 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Most high school boys go from girl to girl ever two or so weeks..... Oh fuck I'm starting to sound like an in cell or a god danm white kight

    • @treehuggermc1
      @treehuggermc1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@joenoyes9199 You have a lot of hate and judgment in you. I will pray for you.

    • @kristilelionis829
      @kristilelionis829 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Joe Noyes what you are pointing out is not facts but your opinion. You can disagree with someone without being disrespectful.

  • @kenyagonzalez1072
    @kenyagonzalez1072 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1007

    I wonder if she’s okay, it’s been so long.

    • @ahviwe
      @ahviwe 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Right....

    • @kayleighmacdonald4962
      @kayleighmacdonald4962 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Kenya Gonzalez same here

    • @cathylovesenglishlabradors5029
      @cathylovesenglishlabradors5029 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      No, that knowledge that she killed her own baby, her own flesh and blood.... NEVER goes away.

    • @itswaytoomucheffort5424
      @itswaytoomucheffort5424 5 ปีที่แล้ว +91

      Kylie Charboneau and what happens if a woman is raped? Quite frankly your opinion is fucking disgusting. I don’t like how they get rid of the baby in abortions but who are YOU to judge the woman??? You sick fuck

    • @kyliecharboneau5981
      @kyliecharboneau5981 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@itswaytoomucheffort5424 if you support this, your absolutely a freak and a disgusting human being.

  • @celestialmorpho
    @celestialmorpho 6 ปีที่แล้ว +449

    I am reading through the comments of this video and I think it is interesting how all the hate is directed her. There is no mention of the boyfriend who was quick to mention abortion without making sure she was ok first. He shared equal part in the conception, but he is not held accountable.
    Nevertheless, I can't imagine what it would be like to be in that situation. I can tell the decision was hard for you and I think you made what you thought was the best decision, and that's all you can do. You are very brave for sharing your story, and I think you will help other women going through similar circumstances.
    The saddest thing is, it's always THE WOMAN who has to go through all these shits, like it's only her fault.. like it's even considered as a fault! Where's the Man? What's he doing? Nobody knows..
    It's unfortunate that the "put it up for adoption!" argument is so frequently made. It's as if people refuse to recognize the fact that pregnancy is no small thing to go through, and that it is not always a choice that is free of severe negative side effects on the woman who is pregnant. Nobody ever cares about what the woman is going through. They support birth until they are blue in the face, no matter the cost, but are anti-welfare and totally overlook the reality of the difficulty many women face with pregnancy. It's just "shame on her this!" "Shame on her that!"
    Think about the dead beat fathers on top of that, the men who totally abandon a responsibility that falls on them just as much as it falls on a pregnant woman. It is disgusting how much people care more about birth no matter what and don't give a damn about the women affected.

    • @dt05
      @dt05 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Mizz FlaireBeauty oh put a sock in it!!!! “What about the man? What about the man?” The man has no fucking say in whether or not the woman gets an abortion or not, and can very easily be put on hold support. “My body my choice” right? Except when it comes to blame...then all of a sudden that goes out the window. Just stupid....

    • @notanidiot1527
      @notanidiot1527 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Copy and paste seems to be the only argument you morons have isn't it?

    • @nensg1012
      @nensg1012 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      close dem legs then.

    • @staceyserfling1225
      @staceyserfling1225 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re right! 😰

    • @rafi5535
      @rafi5535 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wtf say something on ur own.

  • @purple_amethyst
    @purple_amethyst 8 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    unfortunately woman who give their babies up for adoption are judged to. I gave my oldest son up when I was 21. I was treated like shit even though I chose to gave my son life. I was in an abusive relationship and I protected my son from an abusive father. no matter whether you give your child up or keep it or have an abortion people judge you for everything. nothing you do is good enough. but you have to please yourself not everyone else.

    • @roorooroo368
      @roorooroo368 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Brianna C I'm so sorry you went through that ridicule during such a difficult situation.

    • @katrand5357
      @katrand5357 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Brianna, thanks for sticking up for women with compassion. I hope you are no longer abused. People don't understand what goes on in the brains of abusers and those who are abused. You can rewire your brain with methods of neuroplasticity through NLP and other therapies. Sometimes, you can learn how to do so yourself.
      lilacsinoctober.wordpress.com/2015/09/29/neuroplasticity-changing-my-brain/ talks about her success with it. cryingoutforjustice.com/2013/08/02/neuroplasticity-learning-disabilities-and-domestic-abuse/ gets more specific. It can help explain what happened in your brain and get you started (if you still need to) on creating healthy relationships

    • @JacobKuba
      @JacobKuba 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Brianna C at least he's alive now

    • @nancybroertjes5160
      @nancybroertjes5160 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Brianna C I am not condemning you. Thank you for the joy you gave adoptive parent(s).

    • @lesterspanker
      @lesterspanker 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I personally respect you for making that choice you didn't murder any babies you gave the baby a real chance at life. I'm sorry for the abuse you received no man should ever put his hand on a woman

  • @KarinaPeabody
    @KarinaPeabody 8 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    To hear this story it makes me relate to her and I understand her 100%. She wasn't ready to be a parent and at that early age and of course at some point she was going to wonder how her life would be if she would've stayed with it. Hopefully she gets over it, she's still in pain because it's not easy to forget about something like this. What I admire is the support of her mom... I am going through something similar, but my parents don't approve of the abortion, I'm not in a relationship with this guy and unfortunately he's not exalty what you would call daddy material. It kind of comforts me to hear talk about her experience because in a few weeks I could be going through the exact same thing. I really hope that it's all negative, but that won't save me... I'm afraid, I'm terrified, I'm lonely, I'm depressed and so many other emotions that I feel. I prefer to get rid of it, because I'm not ready, and perhaps in the future I would regret it, but I need to sort out my life before I bring another life into this world.

    • @kaylivargas2695
      @kaylivargas2695 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Stay strong girl, in the end all you have is yourself. I hope everything turns out okay, I'm going through a similar situation

    • @myintx
      @myintx 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      +Kari Grimaldo If you are pregnant, you should go to a Pregnancy Resource Center. They can help. Your friends and family could help. Your unborn son or daughter is not an 'it'. He or she is a human being. Look up fetal development information and read up on it.

    • @dejahwilliams8041
      @dejahwilliams8041 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      the why the bitch had sex

    • @bekahnuxoll5873
      @bekahnuxoll5873 8 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      +myintx she wasn't ready to have a kid, it's the mothers choice. If a woman is getting an abortion they are probably already pretty upset about it, they don't need people like you telling them that they are wrong and that its the worst possible option

    • @myintx
      @myintx 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      +Bekah Nuxoll It shouldn't be anyone's choice to kill an unborn child. The girl in this video didn't sound upset. Her mother was willing to help. She wanted to go to Europe.
      What we need is laws protecting unborn children from being killed.

  • @alxrmrz
    @alxrmrz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +189

    this has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through in the almost 21 years of my life. They don’t tell you how some days will be harder than others. How you will feel completely overwhelmed on Mother’s Day. How you knew it was the right thing to do for you at that moment in your life but you will forever hold on to the what if’s. It’s been very emotionally rough.

    • @jessicasosa7313
      @jessicasosa7313 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I pray you repent. You and the creator of this video. It’s not too late to repent, killing a baby is never the right thing for you. I pray you find peace, Alejandra, peace in Jesus. Please don’t do it again. I will literally adopt your child, they are loved. I’m here if you need ANYTHING, please don’t think this is an option.

    • @Mariah-lm7ok
      @Mariah-lm7ok 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I’m going through this right now and it is the hardest... all of these feelings make me feel so alone and evil and sad... and grief... I felt so rushed into getting my abortion and it was the most painful experience I’ve ever felt

    • @jessicasosa7313
      @jessicasosa7313 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@Mariah-lm7ok I am sorry. I pray you find peace in Jesus there is forgiveness. Turn to Him in your time of grief, He will forgive you, comfort you, and reassure you that your child is with Him and in repentance when the time is come you can join them both. It is not too late. God bless you and help you through this.

    • @rumaleovi3244
      @rumaleovi3244 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@firstchoicebidding8160 Do you really care about "babies"? I don't believe it. There are many reasons for abortion and as the girl said in the video, that "child" was not wanted, so why bring him into the world if he is going to suffer all his life knowing that he was a mistake. As a Latin American I have heard my colleagues say it and it's really painful. Here nobody has a little empathy for those who abort, nobody says "We have to improve the adoption centers", "We have to improve sex education" or "We have to present all the options and their consequences" but they say things that invalidate that decision. Have empathy, don't just be logical or speak from your privilege, open your mind.

    • @hayloplimber
      @hayloplimber 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@rumaleovi3244 *warning, long response- srry* I think the premise for your argument has a fundamental difference to a pro-lifers. That would be the value of the human soul. While you might think the onus is on our society to increase education, I think this is an issue of the heart. Most people know the consequences of sex. However, people will still refuse hormonal birth control because of the toll on the body, and many people refuse to use condoms simply because they damper the experience. People know they have abortion to succumb to in the event they get pregnant. I dont want to assume this is the line of logic, but we live in a society that argues so heavily on women choices and undermines the personhood of a small fetus calling it a “clump of cells”, “unconscious”, “unviable”. I think this minimizes the idea of abortion to much of our society. In essence, I believe this removes the weight of an abortion for many who go into that decision. A “pro-lifer” emphasizes that at the time of conception a human life is brought into the world. A human with a soul, with the same potential as every other “viable” human whose mothers let them live. A human soul is different from just a human. There isn’t a perception that we live in nothing more than a finite biological world thats guided only by evolution, cultural relativism, and moralism. Its believed that a human soul is hand crafted by a loving God who sees that living soul as a unique identity and made in his image, having its own set of DNA, own dreams, personality, etc. While sex might be the means to conception, the belief is that God gives life through sex, as he sees suite. Sex without a creator would just be sex and would not create life. So when you say the child is “unwanted”, perhaps by its mother, but not by God. Its an issue of the heart. A mother not willing to give up her whole life for her child. Radical, right? There are a proportional amount of unplanned pregnancies that mothers pursue in hardship who pick up multiple jobs, sacrifice their whole life. Many of those women reap a harvest of joy from their children. So if you want to talk about education… We can talk about what our society doesn’t teach. Our “progressive society” emphasizes self over others. Its actually hardens people’s hearts. The entire life of Christ is to give it up for others. To lay our lives down in love and service. Those sacrifices actually lead to inward thriving, harvesting love, and joy, and peace. Our society doesn’t teach that? I am someone speaking from experience. I got pregnant, unplanned, at 21 y/o. I can say that you give up your whole life for your baby. But there is not another experience in my life that has ever filled my heart the way having a child has. The innocent, precious way a baby looks into your eyes, and giggles, and coos. It lights up your heart. Having a baby.. its not a punishment. Its gods way of teaching us the beauty of life. I wish our society taught more on the sacredness of life and the transforming power of a baby and becoming a parent, and equipped mothers for motherhood in the event they get pregnant. Thats what I wish our society taught.

  • @bubulynna9927
    @bubulynna9927 5 ปีที่แล้ว +644

    Guys...if youre gonna express your opinion, please do it respectfully without trying to tell her how she feels.

    • @brandiurban5519
      @brandiurban5519 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      B U B U L Y N N A she put herself out there. She knew exactly what to expect. No safe room In the real world.

    • @user-se2nq6vo6j
      @user-se2nq6vo6j 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @@brandiurban5519 The point is to be respectful, because when you shame the other person, they will obviously not be interested in a conversation... And if the people in the comments want to save lives, they have to talk respectfully.

    • @skelitalmisfit12
      @skelitalmisfit12 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@brandiurban5519 lol you are what is wrong with this world. Your toxic attitude is unwanted here. Take it elsewhere.

    • @Johanna-fq5sf
      @Johanna-fq5sf 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Why not both? State your opinion in a respectful way about how you think she feels.

    • @joenoyes9199
      @joenoyes9199 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      the psychopath commit infanticide and then gets on TH-cam to brag about it. She don't want to take any blame for her actions by crying that her boyfriend wasn't supportive but please note it would have affected her life it would have affected her vacation. Pathetic worthless woman she is a psychopath I hope that the spirit of the child and wish she had murdered visits her nightmares. Hopefully the doctor did a good service and removed her reproductive organs so she cannot have a child in the future.

  • @RandomPerson-ml8ej
    @RandomPerson-ml8ej 8 ปีที่แล้ว +332

    I'm against abortion but all of the hate comments aren't helping anything. It's already done so it's not like your comments will have any affect. Do you see how upset she looks in the video. We all know that there are tons of arguments that people can give FOR abortion and tons of arguments that people can give AGAINST abortion. BUT IT'S DONE. In the video she looks like she could use support.

    • @RandomPerson-ml8ej
      @RandomPerson-ml8ej 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Wow! I made a comment about being supportive and trying to avoid endless pro abortion/choice debates and low and behold, a debate about abortion breaks out... ironic

    • @mrsgoogle7930
      @mrsgoogle7930 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Random Person best response I've seen.

    • @enchilada9546
      @enchilada9546 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      "It's already done" isn't a valid argument. We need to chastise awful shit like this to make it socially unacceptable. When you say "oh well it's already happened no point in trying" you are only making things worse.

    • @wolfyzenly5191
      @wolfyzenly5191 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      she may need "support" but does she rlly deserve it? I mean it seems to me that she had pretty much fun getting laid, so why couldn't she had fun confronting the situation she knew she could had gotten into? there's no excuse. if she was young n financially unstable she should had kept her pretty legs shut.

    • @Joann5
      @Joann5 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      wolfy Lyall Howls you must be the same person that don't mind getting laid when legs are open huh? so don't tell someone else what they should do.

  • @skinnylegend1641
    @skinnylegend1641 6 ปีที่แล้ว +598

    my best friend took a pregnancy test in the school bathroom sophomore year. it came out positive. we kept the secret for a while until she had to tell her mom. fifteen at the time. she was in an abusive on and off relationship. he told her they would keep the baby and he would drop out of school and get a job and so would she. she didn’t want this. her mom took her to the clinic to get an abortion. it was very traumatic she named her child and got a tattoo for it. this ultimately the right decision for her. i was raped when i was thirteen, had never gotten my first period, and found out i was pregnant. my aunt took me to get an abortion. this was the right situation for me. the father would have been a fifty year old man. planned parenthood is very kind. they do a lot more than just abortions. both of these situations are viewed as more acceptable for abortion. but i believe all situations are acceptable. no matter how old or young you are, what your health is, if you were raped or not, you should be able to decide what you want to do with your own body.

    • @silenceonly4688
      @silenceonly4688 6 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      skinny legend how tf can you get pregnant if you never had your period

    • @dooomeys799
      @dooomeys799 6 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      skinny legend girl listen, don’t agree if you don’t want to, but you killed the baby because the father is bad, why is that okay?

    • @skinnylegend1641
      @skinnylegend1641 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      halo light you can get pregnant without having your period in certain cases it’s a common mistake girls make where they think they can have sex without protection before they get their period and not get pregnant

    • @skinnylegend1641
      @skinnylegend1641 6 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      Model Maker because not only does my age goes into it at the time, but also the fact that raising a child that’s half of the monster who raped you isn’t something i personally could do. i don’t feel regret or remorse for not letting clumps of cell grow into a baby who i wouldn’t want

    • @dooomeys799
      @dooomeys799 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      skinny legend oh well I guess my supporters are evil because I have a rape baby and it was when I was 17 so idk maybe I’m superwoman and you guys Aren’t, no. Stop killing babies they did nothing wrong, you are denying science

  • @archeangeluriel
    @archeangeluriel 5 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    I remember being younger working for Starbucks I ran a night shift. One of the girls on my shift had an abortion, against her families wishes. What bothered me the most is that my boss wouldn't allow me to let her stay home. She came to work and could barely walk. I let her sit at a table and she just cried. She had to show some paperwork to my boss, and it mentioned she had shingles in the past. My boss fired her for not divulging that info at hire. But to be honest I doubt that girl would have known to mention it. I just remember thinking that was disgusting treatment of a human during the hardest time of her life. Nothing I said mattered though, I was not well liked by my boss either.
    I later list my first baby to miscarriage and thought of that girl. It's a horribly lonely experience to birth death.

  • @alexaw297
    @alexaw297 5 ปีที่แล้ว +933

    I am personally pro life. However, that does not mean I cannot sympathize with you. I have never had to experience anything like this, but I cannot even begin to imagine what you have been through. I am so sorry you had to go through something this traumatic. You are such a strong and beautiful woman for sharing this video. I will pray for you to find peace, hopefully this video starts you on that journey. Stay strong, you are loved!

    • @kenyagonzalez1072
      @kenyagonzalez1072 5 ปีที่แล้ว +94

      This is such a beautiful comment. I’m pro-choice, though I can see the pain it causes this girl in particular and I’m glad that some people in the comments, even if they disagree with her choice, are still sending her love and well-wishes because it can’t be undone now. She needs the support.

    • @gortus
      @gortus 5 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      I wish all pro life people were like this.

    • @alicethefrozenfrog4447
      @alicethefrozenfrog4447 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You are not pro life

    • @alicethefrozenfrog4447
      @alicethefrozenfrog4447 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      A pro life persom think about all babies... Not only their own. So if you think its her choice. You are not pro life.

    • @alexaw297
      @alexaw297 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Alice The Frozen Frog I never said that I agree with the choice she’s made. I am extremely prolife.

  • @tranquility9325
    @tranquility9325 9 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    You have balls of steel to put this story out there. I am very sure that you will help someone in the same situation.

  • @RR-yy2xm
    @RR-yy2xm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    I got my wife pregnant as teenagers, it was a "tube baby" doctor said she had to abort, we were not ready for a baby. we had already broken up. I prayed in the hospital and said to God let it be his will. Doctors could not explain but couldn't abort, my son is soon to graduate from Chico State and I could have not asked for a better son and a better wife.

    • @AnonymousC-lm6tc
      @AnonymousC-lm6tc 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Good for you, but that is the exception not the rule. Pregnancy is not a positive for every woman.

  • @ESE33
    @ESE33 5 ปีที่แล้ว +270

    Abortion is not fun. I'm pro-choice and even I know that. Nobody has an abortion because it's fun or because it's easy. It's not. But I believe that it's important to allow every single person to make their own decision on whether or not to have a baby. Sometimes it's the only option people feel they have.
    We don't force people to donate blood or organs to save people's lives because it's not legal or ethical to force someone to do that. We can't remove organs from people who have died to save someone else's life unless they had an organ donor card. It's illegal. Just think about that before sending this poor girl hate. You can see she didn't have the time of her life with this experience, nor was it something she did lightly.
    Pro-choice people are not for 'killing babies'. We're about allowing people to make decisions about their own body, which is how it should be. There are many people who are pro-choice who would never get an abortion themselves but still believe that other people should have a choice to choose differently from them.

    • @brenoox3
      @brenoox3 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      E S E your comment is spot on. thank you for being a voice for the voiceless❤️

    • @Samantha28_56
      @Samantha28_56 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      E S E blood and organs are not a human being. yes humans have organs and blood but it’s not the same as a baby.

    • @ESE33
      @ESE33 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Samantha28_56 But the human beings those blood and organs could potentially save are equivalent to what you refer to as a baby. THAT's the point I'm making

    • @hottea7574
      @hottea7574 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Ashley K Someone receiving an organ donation is using another persons body and organs fo sustain their self. A fetus is using the woman’s body and organs to sustain itself. It is the same.

    • @hottea7574
      @hottea7574 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      *to sustain

  • @KICLEI_CANADA
    @KICLEI_CANADA 6 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    I hate how abortion is the boyfriends first thought. Your not alone to feel bothered. Abortion helps guys more then girls because we live with the guilt.

    • @gostate009
      @gostate009 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I couldn't agree with you more. I would raise a child myself if it meant preventing an abortion.

    • @catshugging
      @catshugging 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      No, men absolutely live with the guilt too.

    • @kayleighbohn1042
      @kayleighbohn1042 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Maggie Dingman my boyfriend lives in guilt everyday of his life, I don’t wish this pain on anyone.. but it’s the right thing to do when for me personally I didn’t have anything to my name. I didn’t have a job at the time. But I’m against abortion, although I went through it. It’s sometimes what needs to be done.. an it sucks but we stand tall.

    • @larissadueck2643
      @larissadueck2643 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I think guys can live with guilt too. Not to the same degree, of course, but I don't think anyone involved in the process of abortion comes out unscathed.

    • @misskelseypaige123
      @misskelseypaige123 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She said that they had previously talked about what they'd do if they got pregnant and that they BOTH agreed on termination.

  • @zanaopacak7799
    @zanaopacak7799 8 ปีที่แล้ว +93

    She sometimes regrets not having that baby but then she remembers that she travelled the Europe that summer so thats fine wow

    • @ChloeSanders111
      @ChloeSanders111 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Leah Germanio Campos cry a river. It wasn't your decision anyway so shut the fuck up

    • @michellem8760
      @michellem8760 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      D Silva .......she was on birth control, but I guess you didn't listen to that part. Convenient.

    • @d0ttiej
      @d0ttiej 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      and the boyfriends that responded with "Abortion, right?" seriously
      wake the fuck up and stop just shaming the females.

    • @michellem8760
      @michellem8760 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      D Silva You're absolutely correct!! It was her responsibility, that's why she took responsibility and terminated her pregnancy. Because she was not ready for parenthood. Hell, I'm not ready, and I'm a married women. My husband and I never want kids, so if we ever have a slip up, you can bet termination is probably going to be what we'll decide.

    • @egagnon9994
      @egagnon9994 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Leah Germanio Campos,
      Are you even capable to comprehend that some women just DON'T WANT CHILDREN?!... Because you are born with breasts and a uterus doesn't automatically means you feel the maternal instincts...
      I never wanted children myself and I knew this even when I was a little girl... I don't hate children but I don't care for them. Don't feel anything when I see a baby...
      What would have been selfish of me is to go and have children even though I don't have any maternal instincts to "fit in" just because society says a woman MUST feel that urge to have babies, a woman MUST have babies otherwise she is not "normal"...
      I take the necessary precautions not to get pregnant and I never had, but no birth control method is 100 % safe. So does that mean that I should have never had boyfriends and sex? That I should have stayed single and practice abstinence my entire life?!...

  • @Jcluis16
    @Jcluis16 6 ปีที่แล้ว +641

    I can’t believe how close I came to doing this to my son.. my best friend the funniest person I know, I’m 28 now and he’s turning 9. I can vividly remember every moment of walking into the room and knowing I was making a huge mistake. His dad and everyone were pressuring me to get rid of him. I protected him, and it was the best thing I will ever do. ❤️

    • @ramywiles
      @ramywiles 6 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      It's great that things worked out for you in the end, but consider that it wouldn't necessarily be the same for everyone faced with your situation.

    • @YoMissyRocks
      @YoMissyRocks 6 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Same here girl ❤️ now I have a beautiful baby girl and I don’t know what I would do with out her in my life.

    • @Jcluis16
      @Jcluis16 6 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      ramywiles when you become a momma you make it work. There are circumstances that abortion is necessary... but wanting to travel isn’t one of them.

    • @YoMissyRocks
      @YoMissyRocks 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Janie Heming so true!

    • @ramywiles
      @ramywiles 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Janie Heming That's for you to decide for yourself and yourself alone.

  • @angelwings723
    @angelwings723 5 ปีที่แล้ว +422

    First I would like to say that anyone who says your going to go to hell for this is not a Christian! I’m pro life 100% but it’s not my place to judge you my place is to love you. I’m sorry for the things that you have gone through and I hope you do forgive yourself because God is a God of love and mercy and there is nothing we could ever do that would deem us unworthy of his love. I hope you truly have peace and when if ever you have children I hope that peace keeps you going. We all make mistakes and it’s not for anyone else to judge your mistakes if that’s what you somethings feel it was. Keep living no matter what because you matter and you are worth great things and we shouldn’t be judged or weighed by one choice for the rest of our lives. Don’t let this become who you are for the rest of your life.

    • @angelwings723
      @angelwings723 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Joe noyes I’m sorry but I have to question is your a stable individual because you sound a bit unwell maybe you should seek some help.

    • @jen137
      @jen137 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Joe Noyes - Nobody, absolutely NOBODY but God the Father decides who is going to Heaven and who is going to Hell. By you saying that anyone is going to hell is 100% unBiblical. For someone who claims to be a believer, you sure are missing the mark, big time!

    • @ashleygarcia8752
      @ashleygarcia8752 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Krissy MacInnis AMEN

    • @thefenerbahcesk4156
      @thefenerbahcesk4156 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@jen137 What does the bible say about premarital sex? murder?

    • @courtneyhorvath7931
      @courtneyhorvath7931 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel like you messed up your spelling at the beginning?

  • @isthisthekrustykrab4895
    @isthisthekrustykrab4895 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1531

    You are very brave for sharing your experience. I respect you so much for having the courage to make a decision like that.
    Women should have the a right to their own bodies, it's the woman's decision, it's her body and her life. Sometimes women don't have a choice because of their situation or health. And anyone who criticises women for that should feel ashamed.

    • @donsmith4516
      @donsmith4516 9 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      +Rose LIFE Real courage is taking responsibility for your actions. REAL courage would be accepting the fact that your actions have led to the creation of a new life and stepping up to the plate and raising that child, no matter how "inconvenient" it might be, to the absolute best of your ability. THAT is courage.

    • @LogarAcc
      @LogarAcc 9 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      +don smith In medical ethics, we learnt: "Two people can't have the same rights inside one body, without one of them having their rights stripped away". And guess who's the one who SHOULD have those rights.... it's WOMEN. I know, crazy right? How could women ever dare to ask for the right to have autonomy over their own body, and NOT enslave themselves to the misogynistic belief that an incomplete organism has more rights than a full human being?? We're talking for literally a parasitic organism who wouldn't even be able to live without the woman's body. Also, you're treating pregnancy as a punishment for women who dare to have sex for their pleasure.

    • @donsmith4516
      @donsmith4516 9 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      +Msl LogYt Then explain to me who gets rights and who does not in a case of Siamese twins? Secondly, believing that it's wrong to murder an unborn child is in no way a "misogynistic" belief. Simply because you think it's misogynistic does not make it so unfortunately. Thirdly, I am in no way treating pregnancy as punishment and never said that it was, those are your words and obviously your beliefs not mine. If a woman chooses to have sex merely for pleasure, more power to her but if that pleasure seeking turns into a pregnancy then the woman should show personal responsibility for her actions by not killing her unborn child. You obviously see abortion as a way to escape that personal responsibility.

    • @alexiahartzell4055
      @alexiahartzell4055 9 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      +don smith Soooo what you're saying is if I get in a car and drive and someone crashes into me it's my fault because I chose to drive that day? That I should then not be allowed to fix my car? And then because of that have my body messed up for the rest of my life? That's reasonable. I'm not saying everyone should have an abortion, I'm just saying that no one period should get to choose what others do with their own body.

    • @lostleftleg
      @lostleftleg 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      +don smith 1) your siamise twin comparison (or analogy??) is way, way out there, vague and sloppy (age/pathology/viability... what kinda med situation are we even talking about here??) I can guess at the kind of argument you might be trying to make, but... man, what a mess. 2) "Simply because you think it' misogynistic does not make it so unfortunately" - this also works on the inverse bub. 3) reproductive coercion and forced pregnancy is traumatic to the mother and this trauma has an incredible impact on the fetus - see the long-term effects of cortisol and other stress-hormones - i dont think its a terrible jump to consider enforced pregnancy/labor as punitive. Also, these unwanted pregnancies are not always the result of "pleasurable" sex. again, the whole over simplification thing (if only this world was so easy, eh?)

  • @NatBom97
    @NatBom97 9 ปีที่แล้ว +940

    people are so annoying... if you want to have an abortion, get one. if you don't want to get an abortion, then DONT. women have a choice to do this or not.

    • @alexisrojas8635
      @alexisrojas8635 9 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Every woman has the choice ! But think about it this way if you have unprotected sex not wanting to get pregnant USE PROTECTION! It isn't that hard ! You have to take the consequences of laying down. If you aren't financially stable to have a kid DONT OPEN YOUR LEGS SIMPLE AS THAT. ( not directing this towards you just in general)

    • @NatBom97
      @NatBom97 9 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      +alexis rojas of course! if you don't want to get pregnant, use some form of birth control but birth control doesn't always reliable. so I think, women should have that option.

    • @donsmith4516
      @donsmith4516 9 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      +LAADI KAY Just because you have freedom of choice DOES NOT mean what you choose to do will be moral or ethical. We ALL have choices in life. You have to make choices every single day. Some people make choices to be complete dirtbags does that make it right? No. Just because something is legal to do does not necessarily make it the right thing to do. Unless of course you are a dirtbag with no morals.

    • @NatBom97
      @NatBom97 9 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      +don smith you don't have to agree with anyone's choices because they made the choice for themselves, not for anyone else.

    • @donsmith4516
      @donsmith4516 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      +LAADI KAY Oh I see, so rape or murder is not agreeable OR disagreeable because the offender made that choice for themselves. That's brilliant. Your comment is a morally bankrupt statement.

  • @dianawellington731
    @dianawellington731 8 ปีที่แล้ว +102

    I'm proud of you. You did the right thing. Don't let anyone tell you different.
    For those who got something to say under my comment, save it because I will delete.

    • @dianawellington731
      @dianawellington731 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ***** Have you ever heard "diseases can not exist in a Alkaline environment"? If so. That answers your statement about the "cure" to cancer.

    • @dianawellington731
      @dianawellington731 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ***** nope. Never have

    • @dianawellington731
      @dianawellington731 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Three people post comments and two have been deleted. Anyone else want to try me?

    • @dianawellington731
      @dianawellington731 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ***** It makes me a person who delete comments on my own post.

    • @dianawellington731
      @dianawellington731 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ***** same to you

  • @sarahgatens6671
    @sarahgatens6671 5 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    What breaks my heart the most is the boyfriend who immediately pushed for an abortion. He had no interest in supporting any other “choice”. It hurts because EVERY SINGLE woman I know who has gone through abortion lists an unsupportive or pushy partner as the #1 reason they chose to end the pregnancy.

    • @michellewessel1369
      @michellewessel1369 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      My husband is the same. I'm pregnant at 6 weeks and he immediately told me to get an abortion because we don't have the finical standards

    • @imadinasourperson2468
      @imadinasourperson2468 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Also I do think she regrets it but her saying she doesnt because she went. Europe to me that's not a valid reason to get one in pro choice but I also understanf she wasnt ready for a child but I do think she regrets it in my opinion

    • @asrapasha3683
      @asrapasha3683 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      An honest boyfriend is loads better than an absent father.

    • @fivecardan
      @fivecardan 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The guy wouldn't have been a good father anyway. He at least admits it.

  • @hannahtalbert2106
    @hannahtalbert2106 5 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    So many more women have gone through this than I originally thought. Thank you for sharing your story, nothing scarier than having to own up to the decision you choose. From one human being to another, I’m proud of you.

  • @nicolerussow
    @nicolerussow 6 ปีที่แล้ว +440

    Your so brave to share your story. Thank you! I too had an abortion. I didn’t realize how much it affected the following 10 years of my life. I met Jesus and he healed me of the experience. He showed me my sweet little baby boy that I had taken out of this world. He showed me a love and forgiveness that was completely unimaginable. He healed my heart and now I can truly love again! I pray you will invite Jesus- the living God- into your heart and experience the same beautifulness of radical grace that I did. It’s not religion! It’s just Jesus! No rules, no bullshit....just LOVE!!!! May God bless you sweet girl! ❤️

    • @humbertoquintero3731
      @humbertoquintero3731 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      You stilled killed someone no healing will bring that baby back

    • @chula052489
      @chula052489 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sorry to say this but GOD dont forgives this situations is on the bible he give you like he should be the one that tell you when to go back

    • @priestliestarr3012
      @priestliestarr3012 5 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      The bible says, though your sins be as red as crimson, God will make them whiter than snow. So y'all judging her, u know nothing of the bible. It also says there is no sin God cannot forgive. God's ways are not our ways. So don't come here trying to say what God can and cannot forgive

    • @humbertoquintero3731
      @humbertoquintero3731 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      priestlie starr I never brought religion into this I brought logic no amount of praying will ever change the fact that she killed a baby and that will forever be with her

    • @alyssakellar297
      @alyssakellar297 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I am a Christian and I want to say, for those who had abortions or considering. I get that life it is hard. I feel your pain. I am not condemning you. I do not agree with abortion but I do wrong things all the time and Jesus still chooses to forgive me. Jesus looked at the woman who was caught in adultery (which was a death penalty by public stoning at the time) and said, "He without sin cast the first stone."Not one was free from sin and no one is perfect today. He looked at her and said"where are your accusers?, and she replied there is none. and He said , "nor do I accuse you. Go and sin no more." Jesus loves you and is so do I. There is hope, redemption, forgiveness and healing through Jesus.
      John 3:16-17. For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.

  • @cozmickitten5757
    @cozmickitten5757 6 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    This video makes me so sad. I got pregnant at 17 (had my daughter at 18) and almost had an abortion. I went to the clinic, paid the fee, and then they told me that I needed to have an ultrasound beforehand. After that I just couldn’t go through with it. I told my boyfriend and he was surprisingly super supportive. So thankful we ended up keeping her because I can’t imagine life without her. I’m 28 now, and everything turned out ok for us thankfully, but I know that’s not always the case. So sorry you had to go through this.

    • @sagala40
      @sagala40 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      good for you Lara.

    • @amandajean8394
      @amandajean8394 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have had the same situation. I'm the same age. Now However, I am planning to terminate my second pregnancy. It is a very hard decision...

    • @natc1008
      @natc1008 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Harley Quinn just trying to understand why you, someone who is already a mother with a child.... why are you terminating your second pregnancy? Out of convenience? Did birth control fail? Did you have a one night stand or something? Ending ones life is something you can never undo... Why would that be a better choice than the alternative, letting the person live? You're already a mother. You know a fetus is a person. You're not ignorant. Why would you choose to kill an innocent person?

    • @Anna-kp9te
      @Anna-kp9te 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Harley Quinn You could put it up for adoption. If you live in the U.S. it won’t live on the foster care system, it will be adopted immediately because there are more people who want to adopt infants then infants in the system.

    • @ramywiles
      @ramywiles 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Nat C I mean... adding a second child to the mix isn't something you should do lightly. It's not a question of convenience; it's a question of whether or not you can afford (physically, mentally, financially) to support not just one, but two tiny people who are dependent on you for literally everything. Or, if it's not that, it's a question of whether or not you can afford (physically, mentally, financially) to carry a second pregnancy to term while also going through everything involved in giving it up. Sometimes abortion is what's necessary and responsible to all parties involved, and that's fine.
      Also, if you're genuinely "just trying to understand"... using loaded language like "why would you choose to kill an innocent person" is a phrase that inherently casts judgment on someone's choice; you're no longer trying to understand them, you're just going after them. I'd suggest being careful with that kind of language.

  • @catholiccrusader5328
    @catholiccrusader5328 5 ปีที่แล้ว +154

    'He/She who is without sin cast the first stone.' For all have sinned and came short of the glory of GOD; we're all sinners folks.

    • @sumtuus1229
      @sumtuus1229 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Absolutely true, but the other part of that is "Go and sin no more." We have to resolve as a society to do better. Women deserve better than abortion. Our society can find a way to love both mothers and babies and not pit them against each other. Not judging does not mean "just accepting" either; we have to do better. This girl is suffering and her baby was killed violently. This is heartbreaking.

    • @tpham7632
      @tpham7632 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@sumtuus1229 that is why fasting and turning to God is so important

    • @baileybarrett4654
      @baileybarrett4654 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Fred C. Wilson III And we are all clusters of cells also

    • @savannahcastellanos4117
      @savannahcastellanos4117 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Fred C. Wilson III some sinners are worse than others though...

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      The thing is we can't decide which is sin and which is not

  • @chantalsstalker4402
    @chantalsstalker4402 9 ปีที่แล้ว +411

    "If the anti-abortion movement took a tenth of the energy they put into noisy theatrics and devoted it to improving the lives of children who have been born into lives of poverty, violence, and neglect, they could make a world shine."
    -Michael Jay Tucker
    #prochoice #kidsbeforefetuses

    • @chantalsstalker4402
      @chantalsstalker4402 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      ***** A world with safe, accessible abortions is a better place than a world without them. Women (in countries with legal abortion) are no longer getting botched abortions, no longer being suspected of 'murder' when they have a miscarriage, no longer being forced to carry and give birth to a severely deformed child with zero chance of living more than a couple of days. Less children are sleeping on the streets or in group homes, less children are abused, less women are tied to their rapist for 18 years, and less women are being forced to risk pregnancy and birth related death. Bodily autonomy is a beautiful thing.

    • @chantalsstalker4402
      @chantalsstalker4402 9 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      ***** It doesn't seem silly when women have to rent out their entire body for 40 weeks. Would you support forced blood, plasma, bone marrow, or organ donation to save a child's life? No. Men are never faced with a situation where they are told their bodily rights have to be put on hold.

    • @chantalsstalker4402
      @chantalsstalker4402 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      ***** At least you're upfront about your sexism.

    • @chantalsstalker4402
      @chantalsstalker4402 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ***** We are equal. There is never a point in your life where you have to face the mental and physical health effects of pregnancy. You will never have your entire body stressed for 40 weeks. You always have the right to make decisions for your body. Women having those same rights, which includes abortion, is not unfair or unequal. You're missing the point that there will never be a time where you're forced to do something with your body, so there should never be a time where a woman is either.

    • @chantalsstalker4402
      @chantalsstalker4402 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ***** And that's motherfucking bull shit. But, at that same time, abortion was illegal, so both men and women lost control over their bodies. I support abortion, no draft/drafting both genders. Bodily autonomy for all or none!

  • @stephaniemuse
    @stephaniemuse 6 ปีที่แล้ว +219

    I was on the IUD when I got pregnant. I considered abortion because obviously, if I had wanted a child at this point in my life, I wouldn't have been on the IUD.... My husband and I ultimately decided to keep the baby because we have the support of our family and friends and we feel stable in our relationship. However, even in my case, there are days when I still question my decision to keep the baby... Like, how different would my life be without this baby? Did I choose to have a baby too early in my life? Will I be a good mother? Will my career suffer because of this decision.
    Two sides of the same coin.
    Like you said; it is not regret. You just will always wonder, what if. It is natural.
    It is an extremely personal decision and you are very brave for sharing your story. I wish you many days of blessings and peace.

    • @SartriLLe
      @SartriLLe 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Stephanie's Musings are you pregnant now or did you already have the baby?

    • @stephaniemuse
      @stephaniemuse 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So qutrille : I just had my baby ten days ago! :D

    • @stephaniemuse
      @stephaniemuse 6 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      17sunnyhour : My husband and I waited till AFTER we got married to start having sex, and my IUD was already in place on our wedding night... Am I supposed to have a sexless marriage, then? I accept the fact that having sex creates the chance of having a child, even if protection is used. But pregnancy and a child should not be punishment for having sex.

    • @SartriLLe
      @SartriLLe 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Stephanie's Musings congratulations! 😍. Being a mother has its ups and downs, but it is extremely empowering and rewarding. Make sure you form a support group around you. I don't have a lot of family so I had to look for that. Don't forget to still be you!

    • @kristenjohns8498
      @kristenjohns8498 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Shut the fuck up 17Sunny.

  • @michiqc7171
    @michiqc7171 8 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    this is so wrong in so many ways. i am against abortion all the way!!! it isnt the baby's fault she was being irresponsible. if you're not ready for a child then practice abstinence! how would you like if your parent wouldve aborted you? or your brother or sister? there are so many families out there who would love a child but cant have one!! this is sick!!

    • @anthonylynch575
      @anthonylynch575 8 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Agreed

    • @michiqc7171
      @michiqc7171 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +Luke47895 she said herself they weren't using condoms. everybody knows birth control isnt 100% effective so yes she was being irresponsible. if she wasnt ready to have a child then she shouldnt have opened her legs. period. a baby has a heart beat by 6 weeks of gestation. being a mother of a beautiful baby boy and having gone thru 2 miscarriages, i would never consider an abortion. a woman has a special bond with a child from the moment he/she is conceived and for a woman to do such a thing is pure evil. how would you consider hurting an innocent child who has no fault of how he/she was conceived? im not even speaking based on my religious beliefs, im speaking out of morality. so many people want to adopt. so many people that would love to bring a baby home and raise him/her like their own. why not give that innocent child a right to life, why not give him/her a chance to live??? this is pure cruelty!!

    • @Luke47895
      @Luke47895 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Michi Q Condoms still aren't a 100% protection against it either, that's the whole point, no form of birth control is a guarantee. People enjoy sex, it's the reason why our species has multiplied so quickly. You can't expect people to go without until they're married and have a stable job, that's unreasonable. I'm not trying to minimise you having a miscarriage, a family friend I know had one a few years back and it was a horrific experience.
      That being said, her having an abortion isn't her flicking the v's at women who have had a miscarriage or who are unable to have children it's not a personal thing. You talk about it as if it's a child at that stage, it's a foetus, a potential life. It can't think or feel pain. Are you honestly saying that a person who gets an abortion is the same thing as a person who murders a new born baby, or a child? If so you truly a twisted perspective.
      Okay, so morality, is any more moral to have a child born into a broken home that would possibly suffer abuse, and be unwanted? Then be chucked into a care home for more potential abuse. Then after all that shit be sent to a foster home with more possible abuse to adults who just want the state benefit cheque of raising a kid they don't really want. Don't come at with me nonsense like that's so rare and it hardly ever happens. It happens all the time in the care system. There's already more than enough children in that sorry situation right now, why add more to it?
      She wasn't in any position to have a child, it wasn't intentional, she didn't get to the clinic with a smile plastered on her face laughing while it happened. You can see from the look on her face it still haunts her. There's no cruelty at work here, the foetus can't feel pain, or even know it's alive at such an early point.

    • @calebtruth1941
      @calebtruth1941 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Luke47895 OH MY GOSH ABORTION IS MURDERING A FUCKING HUMAN

    • @calebtruth1941
      @calebtruth1941 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Jim Scalling oh why thank :) you but thats killing it though right

  • @jmoney8630
    @jmoney8630 5 ปีที่แล้ว +184

    I'm sorry for all the people who seem to have watched this just so that they can criticize you in the comments.
    I really appreciate you sharing.

    • @Skarletjonancy
      @Skarletjonancy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Gabriel I watched a silent scream abortion video it was horrible.

    • @kamarassakka9922
      @kamarassakka9922 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @malibu I call that selfishness, I dont know your ethics and morals but it is. If you think killing a baby because you want to go to Europe isn't selfishness, I fear for the people around you.
      Don't get me wrong, I was sympathetic with her till she called a baby a cluster of cells as if she isn't one

    • @michaelmichael8314
      @michaelmichael8314 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @malibu So you're saying that unless a baby is born into a financially stable middle class familyz then it should be aborted. You're saying that the life of a baby born to young working class parents who wasn't planned is worth less than a baby born to richer parents? Whether she was ready or not, her offsprings life was intentionally terminated. I do wish her all the best in her future, but killing a human life (regardless of it's stage of development) is never the choice somebody should make. She made the wrong choice

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Sam Herbst she didn't choose to have a baby.

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @malibu that's true

  • @Sorvea
    @Sorvea 7 ปีที่แล้ว +390

    As someone who is Pro-Life... I am glad you were in a nice facility to be taken care of....
    Imagine this girl as your daughter, and she is going to go through with terminating her pregnancy... No matter your beliefs, would you rather have a nice clean sterile facility with doctors and staff on hand to handle anything that might go wrong, and live another day....
    or....
    If there were no abortion clinics.... and your daughter is going through with an abortion, this puts her in a very risky situation of a room in a house or hotel, or even the back of a van, where it's done quickly, and if something were to go wrong, they would abandon her for fear of getting caught....
    These scenario's right here are why I don not wish abortion clinics to be closed down, no matter how pro-life I am....

    • @ramywiles
      @ramywiles 7 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      This is EXACTLY it, because no matter how effectively we work to reduce abortion, all we can ever do is reduce it. We can't eliminate it. People who don't want to be pregnant will seek out the means to end their pregnancies, and they deserve to be able to do so safely and legally. If we remove that resource, we put more women at risk of dying, and that's not something I'm ok with. (I'm pro choice to begin with, but this particular point is at the core of my own arguments.)

    • @kwpp7
      @kwpp7 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Imagine what it would be like if women actually chose to not murder their babies. Then we wouldn't need abortion clinics. But by all means, keep those "safe" death camps running.

    • @chrisholtorf9906
      @chrisholtorf9906 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You're not pro-life at all. I couldn't care less about the health and security of the executioner. So you have no problem with babies being torn apart and thrown into the garbage, so long as it is done properly and nicely. Where is your compassion towards the REAL victim of abortion? Oh yeah, you don't have any. Because you're cold-hearted but dress it up as "compassion." I see right through your bullshit.

    • @sandyg4646
      @sandyg4646 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      kwpp7, too bad life is complicated and not every woman makes the exact same decisions.

    • @sandyg4646
      @sandyg4646 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      chris the term "women" isn't a dirty word. you dont have to be afraid to say it "woman" see? easy

  • @rameshafrederick3237
    @rameshafrederick3237 9 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    People always bring up extreme cases like rape or incest, but most of the time it's this. Young couples fucking up and getting present, with abortion being the last chance form of birth control.

    • @cazzawee
      @cazzawee 9 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      the couple didn't fuck up, their birth control just failed. that's nobodies fault.

    • @Joyzyii
      @Joyzyii 9 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      +cazzawee They still fucked up. Birth control is not always guaranteed but the reproductive system is, either be ready to take responsibility for your own actions or dont act at all. Way much better decision than to end up killing an innocent life. Then it is the "rights" advocates who go around pointing their fingers at rapists, murderers, and other horrible human beings who make the horrible moral CHOICE of forcing themselves, their violence, and selfish motives on innocent humans. Same shit. You Hypocrites.

    • @cazzawee
      @cazzawee 9 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Joyzyii abortion is taking responsibility. not bringing a child into this world when you're not ready and unable to take care of it properly is responsible as fuck. don't worry your little socks, the thing growing is not a life yet when abortion takes place, so no life is lost.

    • @Joyzyii
      @Joyzyii 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      +cazzawee No, it is not taking responsibility at all. Quite the opposite. Abortion is the action a woman or in some cases a decision a couple makes after they fuck and find out that suprisingly!(because shit what are the odds) they got pregant. They end up wanting to run away from taking responsibility of their actions. Every action has a consequence and theres no way one can justify the stupidity of not knowing the simple fact that putting sperm and eggs together via the action called SEX will result in the creation of a human life (basic ass biology - reproductive system). Aborting that human being's life is called ending a human being's life and ending a human being's life is called killing a human being and those who kill human beings are called killers. So women who abort are killers, like it or not thats a fact and facts regardless of the argument or excuse are immutable.
      Bye.

    • @Joyzyii
      @Joyzyii 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      +cazzawee FYI go take a bio 101 course at your local college. Life begins at conception in every living thing including Human beings. At the time a woman finds out that she is pregnant that "cluster of cells" is A life.
      Fun fact, We are ALL. a cluster of cells in all our stages of development. You are a bunch of cells does that mean you are not alive? Idiot. Living cells are alive. The offspring of a human being is a human being. You dont look like an infant today because you developed into whatever you are now, adult /teen? You lack bones that you had when you were an infant. Technically infants are not the same as adults or elders. Our bodies change. Blastocysts already have a mouth that connects to the anal. A BLASTOCYST. Lets not even talk about how fast a blastocyst turns into a fetus. Those are simply names to classify a stage of human development.
      So yes when she aborted her offspring was alive since the day she conceived.

  • @selfcarelove0822
    @selfcarelove0822 6 ปีที่แล้ว +194

    It seems like a lot of pro-lifers have the notion that women who choose to have abortions are happy about it. That couldn't be further from the case. Speaking from experience, abortion isn't an easy, simple decision. There is so much thought and emotion that goes into making that decision. But ultimately, due to various factors, the best decision for some women really is to terminate the pregnancy.

    • @emartin1057
      @emartin1057 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Call it by what it is. It isn’t terminating a pregnancy, it’s ending the life of an unborn child.

    • @selfcarelove0822
      @selfcarelove0822 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      rachel scott most abortions take place early in gestation, when the fetus is far from being developed. you must believe that life begins at conception, and that’s fine. i’m simply stating my own opinion on this matter.

    • @selfcarelove0822
      @selfcarelove0822 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Eve Martin most abortions take place early in gestation, before fetal development really begins to progress. i don’t find abortion to be the same thing as murder.

    • @selfcarelove0822
      @selfcarelove0822 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Just Me i didn’t make any excuses, and i don’t believe it’s wrong.

    • @emartin1057
      @emartin1057 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Erin at what point do you determine life? This “gestation period” that you so call would be considered the embryo (before 8 weeks), which, at that point the babies heart, lungs, and brain waves are developed. I’m sorry but something with a beating heart has life- that is murder

  • @dragonfruit6532
    @dragonfruit6532 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I can see how sad she is. I’m praying she’s okay. She’s such a beautiful woman and doesn’t deserve this. God rest her baby’s soul.

    • @dbagdaryl
      @dbagdaryl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      If you're getting biblical you should know baby aren't baptized before 12 the baby is going to hell

  • @mynameisnotimportant2854
    @mynameisnotimportant2854 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Perhaps if people were more community-minded, non-judgmental, and looked out for each other like in the 80s, she would have kept the baby. Back I was growing up in Brooklyn, each time a baby was born, we’d help the new mother with the baby, especially if she had to work. We didn’t care if she was on drugs, or was a prostitute or of a special religion. We made sure that baby was fed, had pampers and mom had a place to stay. There were even some mothers that gave all of their food stamps to other struggling mothers. When I was a child, the neighbors took turn taking children to school. Some of the mothers would do other people’s daughters hair, had sleep overs to let other mothers relax. Really wish we can go back to those days where mom didn’t have to be scared and lonely. Now, people have become individualistic.

    • @ramywiles
      @ramywiles 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think this sentiment is lovely and it's great to hear that you grew up in such a caring community, but I also think there are larger systemic factors and disadvantages at play that a small-community-oriented approach is still too individualistic to fix.

  • @ekatt2157
    @ekatt2157 8 ปีที่แล้ว +260

    The Right to Life vs The Right to Convenience....

    • @anthonylynch575
      @anthonylynch575 8 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Exactly, you know I once read something that really touched me (It mentions Christianity but I think that it applies to everyone) and it goes like this: Abortion is the exact opposite of the gospel, the gospel says I'll die for you, abortion says you'll die for me

    • @fight_or_fightdarwinsshelf6443
      @fight_or_fightdarwinsshelf6443 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +Anthony Lynch We all have to make difficult decisions, the best we can hope for are people to not cast stones at our hardships. To not prod at our faults. You can have your beliefs, and if you so choose to harp on those who dont follow sue, keep the mean comments to yourself. Your God preaches this. Take heed and follow.

    • @anthonylynch575
      @anthonylynch575 8 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Oh I absolutely agree, life is difficult, I'm not casting stones at anyone, it's not even a religious thing, the tragedy is that in a lot of cases such as this one, the murder is out of convenience, and don't let anyone mislead you into thinking that abortion is anything but murder, that doesn't mean it's not a difficult choice and often as in the case of rape victims it's one that seems to be the only alternative, that doesn't change anything, a baby whether born or unborn is a human being

    • @ekatt2157
      @ekatt2157 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yes, it's more about speaking up for the most innocent person in all of this; the baby boy or girl who could be anything...and instead is sentenced to death....it's heartbreaking...

    • @anthonylynch575
      @anthonylynch575 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Agreed

  • @FrancescaVillani13
    @FrancescaVillani13 6 ปีที่แล้ว +215

    I went through a very similar situation. I had an abortion, but a medical one. I wish I did not have to make that choice, but I could not have been able to provide for my baby. I regret it, I miss being pregnant, I will never know their gender, I'll never see their face and I'll never be able to hold them in my arms. It was the hardest decision of my whole life and I don't know how I will ever get over it. But I also know that I could not have been able to give them the life they deserved. And I was also not willing to grow my baby inside of me for 9 months and then give them up.
    Women have to make the hardest decision of their whole lives, make it quick and take full responsibility for their actions and get called killers by people who will never be able to walk in their shoes. Stay strong women. Only you know what's best for yourselves.

    • @lorimav
      @lorimav 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      " And I was also not willing to grow my baby inside of me for 9 months and then give them up." Why not? How could killing the baby ever have been better than giving them up for adoption? If you had to change residences where you can have no pets, would you euthanize your pet or at the very least attempt to place it in a shelter? Most people would take the pet to a shelter and let it live , how much more should one do that with a human being. I am sorry to be so blunt but frankly you are still in denial and rationalizing what you did. "Only you know what's best for yourselves." No, I'm sorry God created humans and He understands what is best for us. That is why there is a prohibition against murder in the 10 commandments. I wish you no harm but you will never find peace until you realize what you have done and cry tears of repentance and call to God for forgiveness. I have a female relative that had an abortion in part because of the conniving of her husband and the gynecologist. She never acknowledged her part in what she did and has developed a fairly serious mental illness. I have another friend who had an abortion, after some years of having no peace she repented and spends her Saturdays in front of Planned Parenthood begging women not to go through with their scheduled abortions. She has peace and forgiveness and she wants to prevent women from going through the hell she went through. Now she has the satisfaction that dozens of beloved children are alive and loved by their parents either biological or adoptive because of her counsel. Unfortunately that one child died but God has prevented the lives of dozens from being lost through her.

    • @FrancescaVillani13
      @FrancescaVillani13 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      4Veritas I don’t believe in God and I don’t let religion rule my life. I am sorry for what I did, but I’m also rational and know I had no other choice. I’m not judging you for believing in God and following his/her rules, but please stop thinking that that is the only way to live and be accepting of other people’s ways of living, just like God teaches.

    • @ascendednightingale2456
      @ascendednightingale2456 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      4Veritas Abortion was practiced in the Bible if a woman was found to be guilty of cheating on her husband. Read your Bible instead of pulling nonsense out of your ass.

    • @abigailburbridge4957
      @abigailburbridge4957 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Francesca Villani Thank you for sharing your story. 💛

    • @veronicadiaz8486
      @veronicadiaz8486 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hornnnnn!

  • @martareed328
    @martareed328 5 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    I’m really so sorry for you. I was in your same situation two weeks ago, when I first find out I was pregnant. I thought for a second to go for an abortion, but on Monday this week, when I had my first ultrasound and I heard my baby’s heart beating I immediately regretted my decision. I’m 5 weeks pregnant at the moment, and I’m still scared: scared of what people will gonna say about me, scared of not having enough savings, scared because I’m still in college, scared because I’m 20 and I still got plans but of one thing I’m sure: I’m gonna be a parent and I know I’m not gonna regret it.

    • @alexusdumont951
      @alexusdumont951 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Martina Russo I wish you and your growing family all the happiness in the world! This video wasn’t to sway anyone into having an abortion. It was to give an honest account of what it’s like. Pro choice is NOT pro abortion. It means I am supportive of whatever decision my fellow woman decides. I am so happy you have made your choice. Health and happiness to you my love ♥️

    • @martareed328
      @martareed328 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Alexus Dumont I know, dear. My comment was in support of your video and to let you know we are just humans and we’re all different. Before getting pregnant I was strictly convinced that abortion was the solution to an unwanted pregnancy, but honestly I regretted my thought as soon as I found myself in the actual situation, that’s why I’m saying that we’re all humans and we’re all different. Thank you so much for your kindness and for sharing your story, I think you’ve been really brave. You will be a mother in future if you will chose to, and I’m pretty much sure you’ll be a great mother❤️

    • @leslieblanco3536
      @leslieblanco3536 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I'm so happy you're keeping your baby my dear! You'll be a great mom and you're so very brave!!!

    • @Okay-k3f
      @Okay-k3f 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That’s what I’m talking about ! You’re a great influence not to run but fight the fears. Best of wishes girl, I know that you’re a terrific mom.

    • @evantyler888
      @evantyler888 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@alexusdumont951 That's why pro-life and pro-choice are really misleading terms. The terms really should be that you are for the legalization of abortion are you are against the legalization of abortion. I'm against the legalization of abortion - I think it's a crime against human rights, specifically the most basic right to live. However, I'm not against any person's right to choose what they do with their lives or bodies, although I recognize that choices necessarily have consequences, sometimes legal ones. That said, I also don't think that people who are for the legalization of abortion are fundamentally against life. I think their focus is more on the right of a woman to choose what she will do with her body. The only problem I have with their argument is that a woman's choice involves not simply her ORGANS but another human ORGANISM. As an analogy, I would say that I have the right to do whatever I want with my hands. I can use them to cook food, perform surgery, fix a car or anything else. But at the moment that what I choose to do with my hands harms someone else (like, perhaps using my hand to slap someone), the right to choose becomes problematic. As a note, I am a woman, so I do understand what a hard thing this is.

  • @christinevaldez4029
    @christinevaldez4029 6 ปีที่แล้ว +403

    I found out I was pregnant at 17. I was scared to death and knew I wasn't ready. I worked at Burger King for craps sake!
    While my friends attended senior parties, I attended parenting classes. I was bound and determined to get ready before he was born. I thought about adoption, but I just knew no one could love him like I did!
    On 5/8/95, my angel was born. Shortly thereafter I was hired for a CPA firm. With hard work, determination, careful budgeting and a few night classes my career was on track. My friends partied.
    In my mid twenties I married a wonderful guy who loved my son as his own. We went onto have two more son's. My life was full and happy. I no longer stood out as the teenaged mom. I was the mom who attended every football game and made the best birthday cupcakes.
    I'm older now, My son is an electrician. I'm proud of him! My friends did not fair as well as I did. One became a heroin addict and died. Another died in a car accident when her boyfriend drove her home from the bar.
    My angel saved my life! If it weren't for him I wonder would I have become an addict or been in accident after leaving the bar? These things can happen to anyone, but for me, I kept my self out of risky situation for my sons sake. I never realized not only did I choose life for him, I also choose life for me!
    This is not a judgement, believe me I get the feeling of terror when that test turns positive and your not ready, to poor, too young. But trust me, you can get ready, make more money and inevitably you will get older :(.
    It can all work out if you try.

    • @Sealust50
      @Sealust50 6 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      THIS, . . . YOUR STORY, is the one we should be hearing about on a You Tube video, instead of this vile, selfish video posted by a girl who insisted on the easy way out of a situation she created (with the help of a similarly irresponsible male). I loved hearing your story, and I congratulate you on your decision - the only one God would condone. The Lord knows what you did, and I am sure you will be blessed for it. Thank you for setting an example worthy of praise and respect. God Bless You!

    • @christinevaldez4029
      @christinevaldez4029 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Sealust50 Thank you, the courage came from the Lord and he has never let me down.

    • @Sealust50
      @Sealust50 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@christinevaldez4029 I knew from the feeling I got while reading your story that your decision was guided by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. We are SO blessed to have God in our lives to help us through our journey through this brief life here on earth. Non-believers and those who do not know Him have such a terrible road of life to walk. PRAISE THE LORD he is ALWAYS there for us: "For lo, I am with you always, even until the end of the earth."

    • @arideneros9015
      @arideneros9015 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Christine valdez I'm so scared reading your story is giving me sanity.... I'm on birthcontrol but I don't have a job no support from the bf and family, I'm in my late 20s, lived most my years sick, I live with my father and I'm petrified..... lord knows I'm not ready.

    • @christinevaldez4029
      @christinevaldez4029 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@arideneros9015 I am sorry for the lack of support but thankful you have your dad.

  • @Bexinmo
    @Bexinmo 9 ปีที่แล้ว +720

    I'm not sure how I ended up at your video (lost in the youtubes, I guess), but I am glad I watched. It makes me really sad how many horrible people are in your comments. You have to do what you have to do to keep moving forward. Best of luck on your further journeys.

    • @alexusdumont951
      @alexusdumont951 9 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Thankyou. I really do appreciate it

    • @charlottesworld4464
      @charlottesworld4464 9 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      +Becki C but she didn't have to do it!

    • @simplymercyds4458
      @simplymercyds4458 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      +Penguin Pencil! What, are you going to take care of the child? How are you 100% certain that the child will go to a good home and not just stay in foster care???

    • @mandyschmidt7164
      @mandyschmidt7164 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Penguin Pencil! but she did. I fail to see your point.

    • @missk2559
      @missk2559 9 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      +SimplyMercyds My mother could have aborted me, but I was adopted at birth by two amazing parents. I am so grateful to be alive because it could have saved my biological mother so much distress. Foster care and adoption are completely different. There are SO many families looking to adopt babies from birth, it is usually arranged WAY before birth.. during the mother's pregnancy.

  • @alissamcconnell3614
    @alissamcconnell3614 6 ปีที่แล้ว +197

    Anyone with a brain or any commen sence can clearly see the pain in her eyes and can here her voice cracks. And the fact that she kept the pregnancy test with date she found out written on it and the pictures says way more than her trying to convince herself that she didn't regret it.

    • @mckinnonbrown8009
      @mckinnonbrown8009 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      u literally must not have a brain since you can’t spell ‘common’ or ‘sense’

    • @karenflores4987
      @karenflores4987 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mckinnonbrown8009 great counter points you made there..

    • @mckinnonbrown8009
      @mckinnonbrown8009 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@karenflores4987 im not arguing im just saying people have these opinions but arent educated enough to spell.......seems their points are probably not educated either.

    • @karenflores4987
      @karenflores4987 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@mckinnonbrown8009 you had spelling mistakes there too. I still understood your reply. When you are typing from a cell phone at least for me it's annoying to go back and fix every single typo. I disabled autocorrect because sometimes it changes the words and it's not helpful. Anyway, what I am trying to say is that you can have a more productive conversation by focusing on your counter points rather than pointing out spelling errors or typos. That gets nowhere. This is platform for exchange of ideas, opinions, etc. Everyone here is trying to share their comment or point of view. That is the purpose. There is a lot of educated people here. Just because they don't have the same views as you means they are ignorant or uneducated.

    • @mckinnonbrown8009
      @mckinnonbrown8009 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@@karenflores4987 I didn't have any spelling mistakes- I just used 'chat speak'. I will spell out the word 'you' instead of using 'u' since it is apparently difficult for you to understand. I am a lot higher educated than most people commenting on this post and being educated has helped me understand the implications of women's rights opposed to 'i'm christian, so this is murder'. I don't have any qualms against religion- I find that a lot of people blindly follow it as a moral guideline despite the fact it was written thousands of years ago. Anyways, I will not ever have an abortion because I am a responsible adult and I'm tired of arguing with people on this page who don't even have the slightest idea of how women's bodies work. People are so ignorant on here. anyways. have a good day.

  • @katrinapearson7027
    @katrinapearson7027 5 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    in video it sounds like she is still dealing with the guilt of her abortion at one point says "clump of cells but through rest of video says my baby or my child" makes me wonder if she regrets and possibly felt this was her only option. feel sad for you and the forever years of wondering as you look at your friends children😟

    • @laobok
      @laobok 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Because you can only deny so much. See? People who say "clump of cells" have to train themselves to say that when literally, the first thing you think of once you get pregnant is "I'm having a baby," not "There is an organism growing inside me." It's dehumanization, plain and simple.

    • @teehee5700
      @teehee5700 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@laobok “I’m HAVING a baby” not “I HAVE a baby” simply it’s going to BE a baby but not yet

    • @laobok
      @laobok 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@teehee5700 And yet here you are, about to prove my point. But whatever, I'm gonna let you win this one. Fine, whatever you say.

    • @teehee5700
      @teehee5700 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@laobok proving your point of what? Lmao

  • @Ilovewashers18
    @Ilovewashers18 8 ปีที่แล้ว +402

    I remember that I always said that if I got pregnant I wouldn't have the baby surprise is when I got pregnant and I saw my baby (I was 11 weeks at the moment) I saw his feet and his hands moving on the monitor and I was crying I decide to have my baby it was really hard since I had to work until my last month of pregnancy sometimes I was so tired working more than 10 hours and with a huge belly but he used to give me strength, now he is almost 2 years old and I know I made the best decision I love my baby to death I would do anything for him and now I can't imagine my life without him❤️ (sorry English is not my first language)

    • @juhill8172
      @juhill8172 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      +Arianna Lizeth So what? If you had 10 kids you wouldn't regret having them because nature makes you fall in love with a child when it's born but it's just an illusion. Your life you'd be better without a child that came at the wrong time.

    • @conycortescony2823
      @conycortescony2823 8 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      +Ju Hill i see how much of a negative person you are... society doesn't need people like you.

    • @conycortescony2823
      @conycortescony2823 8 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      i had the same experience. i am glad i took the decision to my baby i am already 36 weeks :)

    • @laurenhageman20
      @laurenhageman20 8 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      +Ju Hill it's just an "illusion" ?? um no .its blood its a child that literally grew inside you, that's literally a little you , its another human sou and its fucking beautiful.and not anywhere near a fucking illusion it is so fucking real maybe the realest thing out there. there is no wrong time btw. and i bet arianna has an amazing ass life just like me and my son. fuck off . don't put your dumb ass opinion in if you've never even fucking experienced having a child.

    • @Ilovewashers18
      @Ilovewashers18 8 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      +Ju Hill oh well I'm not planning on having more babies I learn of my mistakes in already 26 and when I had him I was 24 and no there's no ilusion I've never felt so in love with any guy the way I'm in love with my son it's like I was never in love Before him even though I thought I was so everyone has their own opinion I have mine you have yours and that's it I don't regret the decision I took

  • @ashleygwynn516
    @ashleygwynn516 9 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Hi there. I want to thank you for sharing your story. It is so important to let it out, to share, and to relate. I am saddened by the comments coming from both sides on this video. I am Catholic and I want to thank you for speaking up about this because your video helps humanize women who have had abortions. I feel that women who have had abortions rarely speak out. It is very healthy to speak up about this. I am so sorry that you didn't have more support during your decision process. I want to just reach through the camera and give you a hug. You're so beautiful, smart and God loves you, no matter what. I can tell you have a very loving heart. Every breath is a second chance. Keep on breathing... xoxox

  • @RAS_1819
    @RAS_1819 6 ปีที่แล้ว +211

    You saved your pregnancy test. That says more than any words. Please, someday when you understand the true magnitude of this moment in your life, remember that we can only make decisions based on where we are at that moment in time. I hope when you do start a family you will be able to use this memory as an impetus to better love your children. And that you have the courage to tell them. Much love to you.

    • @helenvancevance1407
      @helenvancevance1407 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Adoption

    • @justkatebake
      @justkatebake 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Rachael Ackerman i agree... so much sadnes and epmtiness... poor girl.

    • @kiyariley3590
      @kiyariley3590 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Written beautifully

    • @november11thh
      @november11thh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Lmao the fuuuuuck??? This whole comment was wild. You dead ass sat there and thought typing this would be a good idea, and that hitting send was an even better one. Ew.

    • @firelily7790
      @firelily7790 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@november11thh you are stupid.

  • @robinwillegal8210
    @robinwillegal8210 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    She is in need of healing. The fact that she kept the test is a flag for a future emotional avalanche.

  • @JaneDoe-tl7hd
    @JaneDoe-tl7hd 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Thank you so much, I'm feeling everything you said you were feeling and this is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. I wish I just stopped existing and I wasn't stuck with this seemingly impossible decision. I see all the people I knew in school having children/getting pregnant and it makes me feel so pathetic thinking I can't carry on with it but everyone else can, makes me wonder if I'll ever be good enough. I really needed to hear someone who gets it and I'm so grateful you made this video, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    • @amara560
      @amara560 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are always good enough just the way you are♡

    • @allydef
      @allydef 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      ❤️

  • @waitwhat9776
    @waitwhat9776 8 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    it's really interesting how alot of people here are calling her a terrible person but have no idea what she is going through. I get that all life is important but I also think it's amusing that many pro-livers only think about the fetus and not the life it may grow up in once it's born. I mean yea it wasn't aborted but is it worth it if the child grows up without parents in a shitty foster home never to get adopted, move on to drugs or gangs, and die young from being in the wrong crowd or even kill someone else for food or money... honestly I have a challenge for all those extremely Christians and pro-lifers. if you believe abortion is so wrong and must be banned then go to those foster homes and adopt all those children who would never have parents. if you believe they should have a chance to life then it's Ur responsibility to make sure they live a happy and healthy life... or does Ur opinion on the fetus disappear once it's just born? what really disgusts me about this chat is the pro-choice people who only care that a child is born not that it has a chance at happiness once it faces the real world

    • @alexandralite835
      @alexandralite835 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      agreed

    • @saintcelab3451
      @saintcelab3451 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      people are indeed adopting those children.

    • @alexandralite835
      @alexandralite835 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      that's not the point. he/she is saying its not always a happy end.
      I've been in a foster home after being wrongfully taken away fro my mum cause my dad wanted to be back at her.
      the foster home I was in, the care giver was a drugy, I was ment to be on medication for ADHD she was taking them for herself. she had a boyfriend who was also a drugy, I was starved, abused and the boyfriend use to watch me when I was taking a shower or a bath.

    • @StewBeefIdiocy
      @StewBeefIdiocy 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      God that's so stupid. First, the idea that people who are opposed to abortion don't care about the welfare of children after they're born is just a ridiculous attempt to slander people you disagree with. What is it based on? As far as I can tell it's just based on the fact that the political party opposed to abortion is also the party that's for less government spending. That's it. Never mind that the people opposed to abortion also give more money to charity. All that matter is the tenuous political connection. Then you've got this idea, well If you save someone from being killed then you personally must ensure they live a happy life. What is that, some damn ancient proverb? If you save someone's life that doesn't mean that you owe them anything. Last year there were firefighters called to the apartment building I lived because of a fire. If they saved someone's life that night, did that make them responsible for the person they saved? It's a ridiculous idea. And then there's the idea that someone is better off dead rather than in a foster home! Well, I guess he's for emptying all the foster homes by executing the children. I mean if there better of dead, then it'd be a mercy killing, right? Also, the children in foster homes are NOT children who were given up for adoption when they were born. Advocates of abortion never seem to understand this. Kids end up in the foster system precisely because they were NOT available for adoption when they were a baby. There's actually far more demand than there is supply when it comes to adopting babies. That's why so many people are travelling to Korea and India just to find a baby to adopt. Jeez, what a bunch of nonsense.

    • @halojoe21
      @halojoe21 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Life is more precious than no life. The number 1 is greater than zero. A shit life is still life. And life is worth living.

  • @charlenestoudt122
    @charlenestoudt122 8 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I don't know that I believe you're happy with your choice, because I see it still weighs heavy on your heart, but I DO believe you are trying to make the best of the choice you made. You understand that you can't go back and you have to make the most of what you have now. Guilt can keep us from our present and our future, and that can be paralyzing, and you are not choosing that for yourself right now. I am a Christian and pro-life - but I would never dare to cast a stone. I would not presume to believe I could know the struggles you have worked through. You seem sensitive and tender and I thank you for being so frank and for sharing your story. You are right, this life is a journey and were are the sum of our experiences - the good and sad. I wish you all the very best and wish I could have given you hugs in those times you felt so alone. Thank you for being brave enough to talk about this very difficult subject

  • @ariannagoodman9277
    @ariannagoodman9277 5 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    i’m 3 years late but i just want to say i respect you for sharing your story. i know some people may be hating on you but the fact that you posted this is so brave to me. a lot of people in a similar situation may need something like this to help them make their decision and your perspective will be very helpful. i hope you are doing well, lots of love :)

  • @annabrandi5461
    @annabrandi5461 5 ปีที่แล้ว +227

    I want an update. She is hurting. I want to hug her. She could have done all those things while being pregnant as well.. God is so merciful. I will pray for you

    • @sumtuus1229
      @sumtuus1229 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      That's true... And now her baby would be entering preschool, bringing home finger paintings, etc. She missed out on a lifetime of love and the child never got a chance... for a summer in Europe. This is so profoundly sad. Bad advice from mom and boyfriend.

    • @amara560
      @amara560 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@sumtuus1229 People with children are statistically speaking less happy. So her life might be even better than what you're describing.

    • @saylorsmith7428
      @saylorsmith7428 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      sumtuus1229 are you completely unable to empathize at all? this young girl was so brave to share her story, one that so many women go through and never get to speak about out of fear that people like you will completely disregard their feelings and make them feel ashamed on top of the whirlwind of emotions they’re experiencing just living through the aftermath of abortion. also, if you think it was simply for “a summer in europe” you must be stupid.

    • @imsugar
      @imsugar 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      sumtuus1229 okay and? Who’s to say she won’t have kids in the future. Let women do what they want with their fetus #prochoice

    • @thefenerbahcesk4156
      @thefenerbahcesk4156 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She gave up her virginity. Then she killed her child. What does the Bible say about that?

  • @nadaabboud2508
    @nadaabboud2508 8 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    poor girl she looks like she wanted to keep it but her bf didnt seem supportive clearly shes unhappy and regrets it

    • @fyodorplays6094
      @fyodorplays6094 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      she is quite happy cuz she got rid of the parasite in her womb

    • @fyodorplays6094
      @fyodorplays6094 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      YouGotKnifed12 Man, even you call this thing - "it". Even you know that it's not a human being.

    • @fyodorplays6094
      @fyodorplays6094 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      YouGotKnifed12 Oh, yeah, this "every scientist" trope again. Most scientists actually oppose these nonsensical idea! And for a good reason, son! Shish, some people just love to be ignorant..

    • @fyodorplays6094
      @fyodorplays6094 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      YouGotKnifed12 Google it yourself, why don't you!
      And why do you ask about the wage gap (between males and females, I presume)? Care to explain?

    • @fyodorplays6094
      @fyodorplays6094 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      YouGotKnifed12 And let me guess. You probably don't believe in wage gap? Am I right?

  • @catgivens
    @catgivens 8 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    You did the right thing for you. I am proud of you for sharing this to help other women when they are having to choose.
    I, too, had an abortion at 19. We need to keep this option available, and too many are trying to take this away.

    • @mookethanuke8609
      @mookethanuke8609 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Marina Munuera-Esteller when you become pregnant is shouldn't become a choice.

    • @mookethanuke8609
      @mookethanuke8609 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Marina Munuera-Esteller the choice should come before the pregnancy

    • @mookethanuke8609
      @mookethanuke8609 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Marina Munuera-Esteller I'll stop spreading hate when women getting abortions stop spreading their legs.

    • @Naderade
      @Naderade 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Marina Munuera-Esteller Stfu you stupid ass femifuck with shit for brains. This is not about knowing how it feels and I can give a fuck less how it feels because I dont need to know and I wont have to.

    • @Naderade
      @Naderade 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Marina Munuera-Esteller No I dont have to know youre right because im not a woman. How about you stop calling others ignorant when you are the one shaming men because they dont know what its like to have babies.

  • @ZyericaLaniya
    @ZyericaLaniya 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    7 years later i’m hoping she doing amazing 💕🙏🏾.

    • @誠-f9c
      @誠-f9c 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      A selfish and coward killer.

  • @fe5018
    @fe5018 6 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Very impressed with the honesty, eloquence, and sincerity of this young woman. Possibly the single best video I have seen with regard to this subject. Really moving and heartfelt; kudos for opening your life and experience up in this way to help other people in such a difficult situation.

    • @jonathondanials7182
      @jonathondanials7182 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      F E too bad she did it after killing her unborn child

    • @thanoswife1254
      @thanoswife1254 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jonathondanials7182 what child?

  • @sydney6127
    @sydney6127 6 ปีที่แล้ว +419

    Okay I’m just laughing at the fact that her friend offered to go check the pregnancy test for her but she doesn’t even know how to read one. 😂

    • @Sunny-we7uv
      @Sunny-we7uv 6 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      That's how young she is. Shouldn't be having sex.

    • @Sapphire867
      @Sapphire867 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Some people don't want to see it themselves

    • @guitarttimman
      @guitarttimman 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Never laugh at another person's misfortune. We're all in a bad place. We should be empathetic toward each other, but cautious of the wicked ones who just want to bait more people and cause them harm.

    • @isabellrodriguez1801
      @isabellrodriguez1801 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sway B. But the thing is she didn’t give birth... she aborted the baby that baby is dead

    • @guitarttimman
      @guitarttimman 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      None of us have a time machine. The point we need to make to her is that she needs to stop and never do this again.

  • @EmaAtwell
    @EmaAtwell 9 ปีที่แล้ว +410

    you're so beautiful! putting yourself out there solely for the purpose of helping others is AMAZING. i know lots of people in the comments already told you this but you are very brave. anyone that puts this kind of stuff on the internet is so brave. you probably know this too i mean we don't have to talk about all the haters but ya know... it doesn't matter though. because all the girls you've helped with this video are worth so much more than any person that doesn't understand what it means to go through something like that, dislikes this and hates in the comments. helping others is what matters.and you certainly do that. still.we need people like you. you seem like such a genuine person. I hope you're doing good!

    • @nickwilliams430
      @nickwilliams430 9 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      She is dumb she murdererd a baby she should be in jail for the rest of her life

    • @blakefish1
      @blakefish1 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Ema Atwell
      I'm sorry you feel this way.

    • @alexusdumont951
      @alexusdumont951 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thankyou for your kind words

    • @tokoniakosubo6154
      @tokoniakosubo6154 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      +nick williams don't talk like that. it was wrong but don't you think she's hurt too? have you never done anything wrong before?

    • @yourmelondy2720
      @yourmelondy2720 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Giovanni Valtimo apparently she's not hurt if she said she has no regret of doing it

  • @heybrittsta
    @heybrittsta 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Sounds like a really tough experience. Thank you for sharing.
    Anyone going through something similar- know that you are loved by God

  • @DominiqueForever
    @DominiqueForever 8 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    It's ok Hun and ignore the comments from negative people. But you made a good decision Hun whatever was best for you.

    • @myintx
      @myintx 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      "whatever was best for me" - that is the pro-abortion mantra.

    • @iilovecuteshit
      @iilovecuteshit 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Do you realize how the fuck you sound? what a fucking dumbass

    • @krystaljj4163
      @krystaljj4163 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      go to hell

    • @DominiqueForever
      @DominiqueForever 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +krystal JJ you can go to hell

    • @heatherariza-parker5395
      @heatherariza-parker5395 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I can conceive and won't be mean to her, but abortion is never the right choice. Dismembering a human being with a beating heart, etc isn't a choice

  • @stacygaskins1550
    @stacygaskins1550 8 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    I myself am prolife, but I do not judge the choice of another woman. It is your body and not everyone is in the right place in their lives to take care of a child. You are so so so brave for telling your story.

    • @myintx
      @myintx 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      if you were truly prolife, you would know that it is not her body that was killed in the abortion. It's not judging to tell someone they cannot kill a child - born or unborn - it is PROTECTING a vulnerable human being.
      If you are pro-life you'll vote for Trump for President. He will appoint SC justices that will eventually overturn Roe V Wade.

    • @myintx
      @myintx 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      what words did I "twist"?

    • @fight_or_fightdarwinsshelf6443
      @fight_or_fightdarwinsshelf6443 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you.

    • @anthonylynch575
      @anthonylynch575 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      +Stacy Gaskins, I am pro-life as well but that is the most retarded comment I've seen in a very long time, it's not her body, it's the babies!

    • @OhItsJustMe2
      @OhItsJustMe2 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      so you are ok with someone tearing a babys little body to pieces and killing it. That my dear is not prolife! That is what your mother should have done to YOU!

  • @gracewalter8209
    @gracewalter8209 8 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    So she willing killed a child. I'm not sorry to say she was never raped so she willing had sex without protection. That was her own fault. So she killed something that was not apart of her, that baby was something inside her. It wasn't her body. It was the babies. So I'm just saying my opinion on this. It was her fault that baby died.

    • @HermesChain
      @HermesChain 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Grace Walter not a baby
      And she tried to have protection she was on the DPo shot if you actually watched the video
      It's not her fault she got pregnant

    • @emmarilieee2966
      @emmarilieee2966 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lauryn Hendry she chose to have sex and she knew it wasn't 100% that she would not get pregnant

    • @HermesChain
      @HermesChain 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Emma Bury sex isn't illegal
      She also chose to abort that was her choice and her choice to make as a pregnant female

    • @HermesChain
      @HermesChain 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      TheComment YouScrolledPassed lol don't comment me
      He said and I quote
      "Abortion is a right right and there are bigger things happening" he's all talk he won't do shit

    • @HermesChain
      @HermesChain 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Jared Adams children are dying in wars started by man and being abused helps them and stop whining about something that isn't a child but a cluster of cells and not in your body. She's a free girl DEAL WITH IT. "Want to choke me" you pro births are such hypocrites

  • @hannahjones1974
    @hannahjones1974 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    A baby is definitely not a cluster of cells. An unborn child at 6 weeks has a beating heartbeat and active brain waves. Pro life advocates are wrong to condemn you and I'm sorry for how they treat people.
    I'm pro life and I promise we are not all Condemning.

  • @theresaburdenbeauty
    @theresaburdenbeauty 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    this was a great video. you were brave to post this. it doesn't matter whether I (or anyone else) support your decision or not. It's really good that you are putting this information out there because it may help another young woman.

  • @coralclutts2264
    @coralclutts2264 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Your video saved me from feeling absolutely alone in my thoughts, decisions, and feelings. Thank you SO MUCH.

  • @Bb-qd3zs
    @Bb-qd3zs 6 ปีที่แล้ว +254

    Thankyou for sharing your story. Don’t let the negativity get to you. At the end of the day, you make your own choices and it’s no one else’s business.

    • @Bb-qd3zs
      @Bb-qd3zs 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Right Winger worry about yourself

    • @Bb-qd3zs
      @Bb-qd3zs 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Elizabeth Irvin lmao

    • @elainazimmerman5105
      @elainazimmerman5105 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen

    • @nimrodfilms5104
      @nimrodfilms5104 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      well'its'the'dads'business'to

    • @OnTreader
      @OnTreader 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Honey Claud Stop telling us to pay for your business.

  • @rgCA_01123
    @rgCA_01123 5 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    I am watching this video on 5/29/2019 💔

  • @peachlife5118
    @peachlife5118 6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    From someone who is pro-life personally, you seem like a very intelligent and conscientious young lady who knows what she wants out of life. Stay strong and thanks for being brave enough to post this video for young girls who may need guidance and comfort. God bless and always look forward!

  • @xxzetsubouxx
    @xxzetsubouxx 9 ปีที่แล้ว +102

    You got your abortion, you got what you wanted. FINE. But to think that it is "weird" to be congratulated on being pregnant? Please do not ever become a mother.

    • @IDaisyxD
      @IDaisyxD 9 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      it was weird for her because it wasn't good news for her.

    • @Katie-ww8qk
      @Katie-ww8qk 8 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      That was so rude, you obviously don't understand what she meant by that. You should think through what you say before saying such hateful things.

    • @Mossylemur
      @Mossylemur 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Katie Fleming hi love your vids JK XD lol LMAO

    • @a9029k
      @a9029k 8 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      +Shiki Nozomu It's weird in the sense that she was 19 years old and unmarried. Never ideal by any stretch of the imagination. Most doctors would not give the news that way.

    • @Katie-ww8qk
      @Katie-ww8qk 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +XxMagicSlayerxX 1 what?

  • @yvonnelozano20
    @yvonnelozano20 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Why did TH-cam recommend me this video 4 years later

    • @vegancherry5503
      @vegancherry5503 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      also for me,! I was looking for how to have a baby in my later years. Then this. As I'm seeking, I see people so easily discarding them.

  • @madalynlambert9853
    @madalynlambert9853 5 ปีที่แล้ว +312

    This comment is for all of the pro-life people who are shaming this girl
    If you don’t support abortion don’t click on a video titled “ my abortion experience” it’s really that simple

    • @abortedbaby1335
      @abortedbaby1335 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hello there.

    • @kristinapate7604
      @kristinapate7604 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Madalyn Lambert I know my rights!!!!!😡 BACK OFF!!!!!! I can have an opinion and state it, it’s called freedom of speech!

    • @lanaazzo3601
      @lanaazzo3601 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Kristina Pate I’ve found that people who yell about their rights to freedom of speech are the people who probably should shut up. Just because you can say whatever you want doesn’t mean you should. Saying shitty things still makes you an asshole.

    • @allydef
      @allydef 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Kristina Pate
      Rough day?

    • @camiller958
      @camiller958 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Madalyn Lambert period

  • @asiaharchuleta6089
    @asiaharchuleta6089 6 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    I got pregnant at 14 now I’m 21 with 2 boys and they are my world so happy I had them 🥰

    • @inuyashakarin
      @inuyashakarin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      That’s not something to be proud of.

    • @lolahart3113
      @lolahart3113 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      inuyashakarin mind your business. It’s HER life. Not yours.. the fuck

    • @ilovefrankocean7823
      @ilovefrankocean7823 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      inuyashakarin fr

    • @inuyashakarin
      @inuyashakarin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Lola Hart mind your own then 😂. You should never be proud that you’re pregnant at 14. You just ruined your life, and that parasites life as well. You’re going to struggle the rest of your miserable life trying to raise a parasite.

    • @minettequintanilla9677
      @minettequintanilla9677 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      inuyashakarin how did she ruin her life if she seems pretty stable and happy but go off I guess 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’m 18 about to be 19 and pregnant did I ruin my life too ? Because I’m stable and happy as fuck lol weirdo

  • @CleansedbyHim_co
    @CleansedbyHim_co 8 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Thanks for being honest. Every can talk all the shit they want but your a strong girl!!

    • @anthonylynch575
      @anthonylynch575 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Please enlighten me, what is so strong and brave about this?

    • @CleansedbyHim_co
      @CleansedbyHim_co 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Anthony Lynch she made a hard decision. Fuck you you are a boy and don't know shit what girls go through. Have you carried life in you before? So shut the fuck up you stupid bitch.

    • @anthonylynch575
      @anthonylynch575 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      There are a lot of things wrong with your comment, not least of all the atrocious spelling, but I won't get in to that, I completely agree, I haven't the foggiest what women go through in birth, in fact I respect them tremendously to go through it, but how is that an argument for abortion? She carried life therefore it is brave to end it?

    • @CleansedbyHim_co
      @CleansedbyHim_co 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      Anthony Lynch yeah it is. That's a hard decision to make when your a woman. I agree everyone women has the choice on what's right for they're child.

    • @anthonylynch575
      @anthonylynch575 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Of course it's a hard decision! It's murder! How is death what was right for the child? A lot of great people had rough starts, not least of all was a man who started a successful organization that aids rape victims, and he was the product of a failed abortion! Although I have to say, a huge part of the blame in these cases go to the men, unfortunately most men will run the moment the realize the girl is pregnant. P.S. notice how we can have a civilized discussion without you calling me a "stupid bitch"

  • @kenelyon795
    @kenelyon795 8 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I'm a man. All you guys who may be watching this video I want you to go to the 3:35 mark in the video and listen carefully. And listen to this young woman's testimony. When it mattered the most - her boyfriend completely bailed. Not only did he bail on her - he bailed on his child. Yeh - he bailed on the mother of his child and he bailed on his child. So as a man I want to say something to all you guys out there. The vast majority of abortions are YOUR fault. That's right.
    I believe with all my heart that this young lady would have kept her child if only the "father" would have stepped up and reassured her that he wanted nothing more than to take on his responsibility and that in no way did he want her to kill their child. Just imagine what would have happened if he had told her that. Instead - the first words out of his mouth were to influence her to get an abortion.
    So all you people who want to get on here and deride and condemn this young lady for what she did - how about you put some condemnation where it belongs. The dad is the most responsible. Because he had his opportunity to SAVE his child. And he bailed. I can only hope that he understands the gravity of what he did and that he will one day fall on his face and repent and seek his forgiveness. From all involved.

    • @kenelyon795
      @kenelyon795 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amilah Amen and well said.

    • @brookep3564
      @brookep3564 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      100% agree. Though, my sons dad bailed at 6 weeks and I retained the pregnancy (barely, I nearly lost him because of a hemorahge and stress). He's now 16 months and happy as a lark.

    • @kenelyon795
      @kenelyon795 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Brooke P May the Lord bless you and your baby all of your days. And may the father come to his senses and realize the error of his ways. You are a strong woman. And I applaud you and sing your praises for having your baby and loving him. Children are a heritage and a blessings. They are not a curse. Thank you for sharing your story and please keep on doing it in other places as well. Your testimony has great power to help others. God bless you!!!

    • @kenelyon795
      @kenelyon795 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      I also wanted to let it be known that apparently some losers who read one of the comments above must have thumbs downed it so much that it got hidden. But I can still see it on my end so I wanted to copy and paste what it says:
      Emily Evans on Jan 12, 2017 wrote, "slx lohocla finally someone blames the guy at least a little bit"
      Amen Emily Evans the men deserve the vast majority of the blame. Because they have abandoned the women and their own children. They are not worthy of being called men.

    • @ryanharvey6375
      @ryanharvey6375 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for including men in the discussion and responsibility of caring for new life. We all should rightly bear God's image by sacrificing our lives for another. ❤

  • @theresawebb1447
    @theresawebb1447 5 ปีที่แล้ว +167

    Im pro-choice but watching this broke my heart...it doesn't sound like this is what you really wanted...

    • @NinaZuccaro0824
      @NinaZuccaro0824 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Theresa Webb She said it’s what she wanted several times. Just because the boyfriend wrongly assumed that she’d make this decision doesn’t mean he forced her at all. Please don’t be so quick to remove all responsibility from the woman and place it on the man. In this type of situation, no one “wants” any of the options they have to be honest.

    • @theresawebb1447
      @theresawebb1447 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@NinaZuccaro0824 ....I literally said nothing about the boyfriend. I said it doesn't seem like SHE really wanted to do it.

    • @amylouava5134
      @amylouava5134 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Just because someone wants it doesnt mean they feel good about it. It's a very difficult decision.

    • @alexusdumont951
      @alexusdumont951 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Theresa Webb I didn’t want to experience any of it to begin with. That is why I was so sad. I used birth control to prevent this situation.

    • @Andshewasafairy
      @Andshewasafairy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Alexus Dumont I watched your video about a year after you posted it, afraid that I was going to have to make this choice. But at the same time I was so relieved and grateful that I found someone that had experienced it and I could kind of understand what I was going to possibly go threw. I ended up not being pregnant but I did feel more confident leading up to that point since watching this. And I know that's what you intended this video to be for. So thank you so much for being so brave!! Thank you for sharing your story 💜 I hope you're doing good and I hope good things have happened to you since this. I can tell you're a very genuine, caring, good person and you deserve it

  • @lmsk5178
    @lmsk5178 8 ปีที่แล้ว +369

    You've made a huge sacrifice putting this video up and exposing yourself to public opinion, but I can see that this video means the world to some people. I'm grateful that there are strong people like you in this world.

    • @Tekton177
      @Tekton177 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Elle Musoke
      Truly, it was a huge child sacrifice! Molech must be real proud of her!

    • @BudSmoke37
      @BudSmoke37 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      She did not make the decision to have a baby she made the decision to have an orgasm. Of course she took the easy road. She took contraceptives and they failed. All temporary contraceptives on the market are not 100%, this is common knowledge. We live in a time where people have sex before they marry and have multiple sexual partners throughout their lives. On average a portion of a population WILL be in her shoes. Why do you think she should deserves to submit her life to carrying all that extra weight shoulders. when she's only starting college. Because the contraceptives she took fucked up? And if you feel that bad about it enough to have to comment, then so be it but who the fuck are you to judge.

    • @Tekton177
      @Tekton177 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      BudSmoke37 what if next time not only does her contraceptives fail but she catches AIDS from one of her multiple sex partners, will her orgasm have been worth it? Women who had sex with multiple partners used to be called Whores.

    • @Rae8Anne
      @Rae8Anne 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Chad Swaggins And the strong man in your scenario....where is he?

    • @jimbritttn
      @jimbritttn 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      no, her BABY made the sacrifice; she just pulled the trigger

  • @tamarakacy-cornwall5507
    @tamarakacy-cornwall5507 5 ปีที่แล้ว +272

    Baby girl you’re phenomenal and brave for sharing your story. We are all sinners and no one in these comments should be judging you period. Just talk to God when your heart feels heavy💖

    • @murph1329
      @murph1329 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      actually when you support normalizing a sin then judging becomes fair game

    • @Skarletjonancy
      @Skarletjonancy 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Judging? Yes we should be judging her you idiot.

    • @Skarletjonancy
      @Skarletjonancy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      So if someone killed a 10 year old then we shouldn't judge right? Fuck you!

    • @fbfb64
      @fbfb64 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      She's a coward for killing an innocent child who can't defend itself.

    • @standup2982
      @standup2982 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It's nobody else's business what a woman does with her own body. Well done her for speaking out.

  • @nomfundohlongwane2376
    @nomfundohlongwane2376 6 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Thank you for sharing your story. I'll never judge someone on their choices. Just hope you do heal from this

  • @abbystephens9766
    @abbystephens9766 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Personally I believe nobody should be forced to have a child if they don’t want to i think abortion is totally ok

  • @rebeccahedges8240
    @rebeccahedges8240 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    March of 2016 I watched this video because I found out I was preg with my 3rd child at age 24 and was distraught over this fact. Not feeling capable of handling another child - so I was opting for abortion. I ultimately did not follow through with that decision and gave birth to my first baby girl November 9, 2016.
    My baby girl is so amazing, with the best personality! We just celebrated her 2nd B-day!
    Those cluster of cells you speak of have a life. And regardless of circumstances any baby (planned or not) have a purpose in this life that God almighty has created and planned for that individual. Those in the situation I once was in please please give your baby a chance in this life, please. And know that it’s going to be okay!

  • @becksnbama
    @becksnbama 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    What she doesn't explain is that they do not really talk to you about this. I think they should talk more in depth about this decision. Not where someone says you are going to hell if you do this or those horrible things. A female that is looking at this option, she is scared, confused, and doesn't need all of that hellfire, damnation stuff. it is not an easy decision. It is scary. It is forever. You cannot ever take it back.
    I am not at all going to belittle her. She was young. I feel like she is hurting as she is talking about it. She needed more support.
    I noticed that she left a comment for someone on down and said that she is well. That is great.
    My heart hurts for the pain she went through mentally.
    As far as the people wishing bad things on her, I hope you do not call yourself pro life.
    A woman should ALWAYS have say over what happens with and to her body!

  • @isabel-hf6vb
    @isabel-hf6vb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    the part where she said "i wonder if I'd be having a boy or a girl" made my heart ache for some reason, anyway, she made the choice that was right for her at the time. she was young and wasnt ready to be a mother (some people can be her age/younger and be ready to be a parent, it differs from person to person). im really glad she made this 💞

    • @chikiz2475
      @chikiz2475 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      If your not ready to be a mother don't do what causes it. Your not ready then your not ready for sex either.

  • @charleneyu4187
    @charleneyu4187 4 ปีที่แล้ว +127

    as a pro lifer, I’m so sorry you had to go early to avoid the so-called “pro lifers” screaming things like murder, you’re going to hell, you’re a sinner. pro lifers are supposed to be a community of love. prolife organizations offer services for pregnant women, we love both the mother and the child, we provide counseling to post-abortive mothers. the ones screaming things outside of abortion clinics are not truly pro life and i’m sorry if that happens to anyone.

    • @gypsienova8256
      @gypsienova8256 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I feel the statement about pro lifers screaming at you and yelling you're a sinner and going to hell is a thought you had because someone told thou that. Not because you actually saw it or experienced it? Usually pro lifers are not aggressive that like. I home you heal and see the truth one day of what really happened that day you went to get an abortion. It is sad how having a baby can be such a burden on people. I too hope you are not still with your then very unsupportive boyfriend.

    • @charleneyu4187
      @charleneyu4187 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@gypsienova8256 i didn’t get an abortion lol.. i think u misunderstood my comment. i was saying: as a pro lifer, i don’t agree with the aggressive side of the pro life community. and no i haven’t experienced it but i have seen videos of aggressive pro lifers standing outside abortion facilities & yelling at the women going inside

    • @MrSteveRain
      @MrSteveRain 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      In Gods Eyes She is a Murder! There is no way to say in a soft way. I hope she finds Jesus. Thats the only way to forgive her.

    • @Jaiunsolicited
      @Jaiunsolicited 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@MrSteveRain god and Jesus don’t exist looney

    • @jessicasosa7313
      @jessicasosa7313 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@MrSteveRain yes I agree. The problem is that we water down what murder actually is. There is 0 excuse for abortion. There is only hope in Jesus and without Jesus we think this is an option because our hearts are naturally wicked. I hope she finds God and she repents for killing an innocent baby. God can forgive if it’s repentance from the heart.

  • @lilbobdadoornob4534
    @lilbobdadoornob4534 5 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Girls here’s one thing you need to remember, if your boyfriend/husband wants an abortion but you want the baby, keep the baby because it’s growing inside of you

    • @beetlebugball
      @beetlebugball 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      And if the baby's daddy wants to keep the baby and you want to abort, keep the baby. Because the baby is just as much the dad's child as they are yours. A baby has their own DNA and is therefore their own being.

    • @danielc8263
      @danielc8263 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@beetlebugball also, it's not his fault he can't carry the baby he wants!

    • @staciepaul
      @staciepaul 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      If the guy is pro-abortion, you are just a means of sexual gratification to him. Dump him and find a real man.

  • @MH-cg3ur
    @MH-cg3ur 5 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Recently had my period and was sad that I'm not pregnant. I was watching menstrual cycle videos and found this video. I'm blessed that when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter before, I was stable, married and ready for a baby. I'm sorry that the pregnancy news did not give you the happiness that it did for me. I could feel your pain. I hope that you are ok now. I know you would've kept the baby if it was a different time. Let's just keep praying for forgiveness. You are brave to share this. I hope that you are doing better and better everyday.

  • @MichaelJordan-ip8hw
    @MichaelJordan-ip8hw 7 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Though abortion is a horrific thing, my heart goes out to this girl. I couldn't imagine going through this.

  • @philmaliawaits8552
    @philmaliawaits8552 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I can feel the sadness from her & it breaks my heart. 😥

  • @sarahstefan5625
    @sarahstefan5625 8 ปีที่แล้ว +131

    The comments on this video are so heartless. There are 7 billion people on this earth and over 3 billion of those people are living in poverty, the earth does't need more human beings. I would rather kill myself than bring another human into this world if i could not take care of it. For everyone saying "wow u just shouldn't have sex if u don't want a kid" wow valid point!! but its also 2016 and sometimes things just don't work out that way

    • @myintx
      @myintx 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      If your concern is overpopulation then you should consider advocating for the extermination of a less innocent group of human beings...

    • @anaskies1988
      @anaskies1988 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      abortion shouldn't be an option....that's why there's a thing call adoption...

    • @Oldsul
      @Oldsul 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very much so the reasoning of a genocidal maniac.
      good job.

    • @mentholqueen6672
      @mentholqueen6672 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Don't worry, Pip. Some people just like living in a fantasy world of ignorant bliss.

    • @myintx
      @myintx 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      menthol - you mean like the ones who heartlessly kill human beings and try to justify it by calling them "clumps of cells"?

  • @stephaniewickert181
    @stephaniewickert181 5 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Thank you for sharing this, people do not realize when you are young and you make a decision it changes your life completely. I have been through something similar except I was pressured and black mailed years ago so much by my ex (boyfriend at the time) to have the abortion. He even threatened to hurt my family if I did not go through with it, he made me feel like it was choice to either be with him and down the road we talk about having children or he would be done with me. He ended up breaking up with me two months after my abortion...this happened about five years ago and never spoke to me since and blocked me on all social media.... If I even tried to message him to talk about what happened he would just say "that was a long time ago" People do not realize that you have to go through with what happened for the rest of your life...I still have lots of trauma from it and it always haunts me. People all have their own beliefs, I was raised in a Catholic family of nuns and priests who were my aunts and uncles, I was brought up that it is wrong and I still don't think it is the right thing to do. But people do not know what it is like until they actually have to make that choice depending on your circumstances. You are brave for sharing your story. Feel free to message me at any time if you need to talk to someone. It is hard on anyone that goes through something like this, for those of you commenting on here bashing her you obviously have not been through medical procedure of an abortion or anything like that, you shouldn't have anything to say because you cannot relate.

    • @laurennicole6195
      @laurennicole6195 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m catholic too never had an abortion and I can’t image. I’m severely pro-life it’s like a fever but I agree. I do not know what it’s like. I just know it’s painful. and there are two victims. One dead and one survivor. God Bless you. I have an eating disorder and it frustrates me when people talk as if they know what it’s like. Telling me that not eating is bad. Because I know. I know all of that. I know it’s dangerous and yada yada, but they don’t know the same picture as I do. I can only imagine having an abortion is 50 billion times worse. I find listening to abortion story’s makes me open my mind. Makes me listen. Pro-life truly is pro-women.

    • @olympiaton6155
      @olympiaton6155 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I got yelled at, and strongly coerced into having an abortion by my boyfriend. Really traumatic! I am sensitive to the pro-choice movement because I think that can happen a lot. And in that case it's more about the man's choice.

    • @ebonymills3254
      @ebonymills3254 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Can I message u I’m 19 and pregnant and I’m just scared idk what to do . The father wants me to have a abortion but if I don’t he said he doesn’t want nothing to do with the baby .

  • @savanahmoorer2333
    @savanahmoorer2333 6 ปีที่แล้ว +261

    I just wanted to say thank you so much for posting this you are so strong

    • @savanahmoorer2333
      @savanahmoorer2333 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      NotreDame4ever easier said than done. She's also a human and humans are animals who have sex. She feels bad it's not like she was careless, if anything you are the coward. Have fucking respect there are people out there who don't give a shit when stuff like this happens.

    • @savanahmoorer2333
      @savanahmoorer2333 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      NotreDame4ever the cowards way? Lmao. If anything she knew she wasn't ready financially or stability and didn't want to mess up the kids life she wants the best and it just wasn't the right time.

    • @sandytruster3292
      @sandytruster3292 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      She is a KILLER!!!

    • @janellecallia2993
      @janellecallia2993 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Elizabeth Irvin Nahh, BYE BITCH to your ignorant ass. A 6 week old blastocyst is not a child it's a fertilizer egg that has divided a bit. Please make sure you're calling the father a "nasty ass" as well. Oh wait, nah you prefer sitting in your miserable home on your iPhone 3rd gen and judging strangers you don't know. That's what I call a very pathetic life. And yes she is strong, sorry to break it to you.

    • @janellecallia2993
      @janellecallia2993 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      dakidjahsiah So should you.

  • @SofiaHernandez-yf8bl
    @SofiaHernandez-yf8bl 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I passed through it as well as you, just a year ago, I was just 16. I just gotta say that.. it’s definitely the most difficult decision I’ve ever done and I’m pretty sure the saddest in my life. Omg I can’t believe that I’ve did it, I can’t even realise at all at this point that actually happened. I was forced to did it even I don’t want it, the guy and I broke up just a month before I discover my pregnancy so he obviously don’t took the notice so good, I was so shocked, so angry and so sad, but the saddest thing was the way he treats me, was horrible; we dated by a year and he supposed to love me and in that bad times he acted like an asshole. When I went to the ultrasound I heard the heartbeats and I remember how my body get cold because I catch that my 6 weeks baby was alive! At that point I changed my mind, I wanna have my baby but I obviously haven’t the support I needed. Those days were terrible, I still remember it so fresh. Something incredible it’s that I don’t even find relief or peace after the abortion, I felt worst and worst...that was just the beginning of my forever pain. I cried so much, and i still do it, it was my baby, my kid, I would never know him/her or see it’s cutie face. At that moment my decision it’s going to define my life, sometimes I regret it but also my “relief” is that my angel is in a better place, it wasn’t my moment to became a mother, I was a 16 year old girl alone with none support so...
    My experience is been so sadly, Just a months ago i finally start learning how to handle it, comforting myself by the phrase “your baby isn’t suffering”
    I most say I’ve became a Stronger girl, I’ve forced myself to keep fighting, nobody is gonna take you out of pain so you only have yourself and you decide if you transform bad things that happened to a better change, or sank into the deep.
    I would keep in mind my baby forever, recently I tattooed the number of beats in the first ultrasound.
    Girl I just wanna say you’re such a good and stronger woman, only you know how much pain you felt and how difficult it was, but keep fighting and don’t give up, life has their painful moments but then you will find relief and happiness again.

  • @micaelamohnen2367
    @micaelamohnen2367 6 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    This video is old but I need to say this. I can tell that it was so hard for you and it was hard for you to talk about. In my country we're fighting for legal abortion law (Argentina). You're strong and someday you're going to DECIDE to be a mom because you want it, because you chose it. Never let someone make you feel bad for your choices ❤️

    • @kierstenanawalt9702
      @kierstenanawalt9702 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Micaela Mohnen I don’t think this comment is necessary

    • @micaelamohnen2367
      @micaelamohnen2367 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kierstenanawalt9702 mm why…?

    • @kierstenanawalt9702
      @kierstenanawalt9702 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Micaela Mohnen woah I meant to comment on a different comment I’m so sorry

    • @micaelamohnen2367
      @micaelamohnen2367 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kierstenanawalt9702 Don't worry 💕

    • @jonathondanials7182
      @jonathondanials7182 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Micaela Mohnen I hope you don’t get legal abortions as that would legalise what is the murder of the unborn. This law that you want changed will lead to millions of innocent humans dying before ever getting a chance to live

  • @berryeyes667
    @berryeyes667 6 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    What I find so amazing about abortion vs people having kids. People say if you abort your a murder, than you watch a homeless documentary & a lady pregnant and people say how could they bring a kid in a world and than you have a 14 year old girl who loves her child and get told they should
    abort. It just madness! Xx

    • @foxyangel2006
      @foxyangel2006 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Jennifer Bacon thank you!!!!!!!!! this comment 100%!!!!

    • @haleypolk4433
      @haleypolk4433 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I like how you think.

    • @mustangguy8981
      @mustangguy8981 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Jennifer Bacon - Huh?? I've personally never heard this from and pro-lifers. Not saying there aren't some but I think those are a very small minority and don't accurately represent the typical pro-life attitude. At the most, I've heard of people questioning a young girls freedom to engage in sexual relationships when they know the risks, know they're economically unable to handle a baby (even though that's silly because it's not THAT expensive and definitely doable if you just work hard- that's coming from someone with 4 kids and not well off financially), and know the consequences that can come from sex. They'd rather these women be given forced sterilization than freely kill a human being to avoid responsibility.

    • @prehistoricorchid3455
      @prehistoricorchid3455 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mustangguy *formerly Chelsea Schear*
      I agree

    • @berryeyes667
      @berryeyes667 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mustangguy *formerly Chelsea Schear* Okay people wrote they didn’t understand what I wrote so I will rewrite it.
      1... I watched Abortion videos people on there go mental that you aborted a baby. How could you etc!
      2... A girl called Maddie Labert she got pregnant at 14 and look at her comments they are beyond vile. She adore her baby and in my view is a very good mum. However, people have written to her saying due to her sins of having is child she will go to hell
      3... BBC 3 documentary called Homeless & in love. There was 2 ladies who were homeless and pregnant and people written on there how could you bring a baby in the world when you are homeless etc
      4... People that have miss abortion is where the baby is died but not miscarriage. Therefore, they have to take the baby away and even on those videos people scream at the women for doing is.
      This is the reason for my original post about is whole situation. I hope you now understand what I wrote. Xxx

  • @Dyrtybyrdie
    @Dyrtybyrdie 8 ปีที่แล้ว +325

    Well spoken and brave girl to share her story.

    • @myintx
      @myintx 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      a brave girl wouldn't have killed her unborn child so she could go to Europe

    • @Dyrtybyrdie
      @Dyrtybyrdie 8 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      myintx Dont like abortion? Dont have one. Its not your body. Its not your life. Its not your business.

    • @myintx
      @myintx 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      "Don't like slavery? Don't own a slave! It's not your back that would be hurt working in the fields all day - it's mine! Slavery is legal. It's not your business" - slave owner from when slavery was legal.

    • @Dyrtybyrdie
      @Dyrtybyrdie 8 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      You cannot compare the two... Enslaving millions of people. To women making a personal and private decision to terminate an unwanted pregnancy. Do you not understand making abortion illegal would help absolutely nobody? It would then become the responsibility of the government to monitor every pregnancy that happens in the whole country. And to force those women to carry the pregnancy to term... Forcing people to have children they dont want. Retraumatizing rape and incest victims by forcing them to give birth is wrong and unamerican. Dont know bout you but thats not how i want my government to spend my tax dollars. There is a laundry list of things that are much more important. ALSO it would only cause women to have back alley illegal abortions that are not safe. Making something illegal doesnt make it go away, it only creates an underground black market for it. And when it comes to healthcare that is not a good situation for anybody, In my beliefs there is only cons to making abortion illegal.
      And again its nobodys fucking business. People should be allowed to do what they want with their own lives and bodies as long as it doesnt affect other people... and no i dont consider the cluster of cells growing in her uterus a person yet.

    • @myintx
      @myintx 8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      - We already have post viability abortion laws in the US an no one is monitoring every pregnancy...
      - I don't care how "personal and private" a decision is. If it involves killing an innocent human being, it should be ILLEGAL.
      - Making abortion illegal would give the many human beings a chance at a full and productive life - you know the ones who had their lives "terminated" because they were unwanted.....
      - Infanticide, murder and anti-abortion laws are about PROTECTING vulnerable human beings... If you don't want a woman or a man to ever feel 'forced' to do something then you must be OK with getting rid of infanticide laws... if a man alone with a newborn wants to go party, you're 'forcing' him to take his precious time and effort to hand off his baby SAFELY to someone else before he goes to the party.. if he's late it's because the law Is forcing him to give a damn..... You see, it's about PROTECTING...
      - Ripping a human being to shreds because they are unwanted is what is un-American.
      - Again, by your own logic, there should be no murder or infanticide laws. Because some people do it anyway.... Well, most people DO obey the laws. And we cannot keep something that is wrong legal just because some might do it anyway.
      - "People should be allowed to do what they want with their own lives and bodies as long as it doesnt affect other people... " Slaves weren't considered full people in the eyes of the law at one point in our history. Guess we never should have made killing a slave illegal (yes, states could do that - even while slavery itself was legal).... I also guess you're against post viability abortion restrictions as legally an unborn child isn't a human being? Oh, and while we're at it - animal cruelty laws need to go... someone ripping the ears off their own pet doesn't affect other people.... Unborn children are HUMAN BEINGS. They are worth protected.

  • @chelseahansell3799
    @chelseahansell3799 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I remember watching thus video after i found out i was pregnant with my 2nd child....i did NOT want another baby....but i had her. Shes is 9 months old today and im so grateful for her and for my 2 year old daughter as well. We all make different decisions...but im so so so happy i had my baby

    • @laurenelizabethfox1440
      @laurenelizabethfox1440 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Chelsea Hansell i am in the same situation right now. I have a son turning one on the 9th this month. and I am pregnant again. I have no idea what to do and I have to decide tomorrow.

    • @leslieblanco3536
      @leslieblanco3536 5 ปีที่แล้ว

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    • @catherinerothe16
      @catherinerothe16 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@laurenelizabethfox1440 did you keep your baby

    • @laurenelizabethfox1440
      @laurenelizabethfox1440 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Catherine Rothe yes I did!!! He turns 7 months next month. And I’m so glad I did!

    • @catherinerothe16
      @catherinerothe16 4 ปีที่แล้ว

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