"I was an addict, but I wasn't stupid." 3:16 This is a great sentiment to have in this video, that while some of the lives of addicts are taken up with their addiction, they still have a lot of agency over most of the rest of their life. Power to that woman.
Sometimes getting pregnant saves the person too. It’s definitely situational but I personally know someone who was an addict and since having her child has been clean.
@@Julia-vr5wn you clearly didn’t understand the comment... the child doesn’t have to do anything... it’s the pregnancy and birth that changes things... if my friend didn’t get pregnant she very likely would’ve continued on her destructive path BUT having a child saved her life.. made her stop using and be better for herself and the baby... therefore saving her life... You need to actually know what something means or google it before getting all negative like it’s a bad thing! How is a baby supposed to fix a parent anyway???
My best friend had an abortion when she was 12 years old after she was raped and become pregnant. And yet even in those circumstances, some of her extended family members shamed her.
At that point the abortion is a medical surgery necessary to save her life, giving birth would surely have killed her or destroyed her body at such a young age. What is there to shame her about?
If a man says he is infertile to a woman and they have sex and she finds out after it can actually be considered rape in a court of law, there are a couple cases where this has happened and the man has gone to jail
He thought he was, and just hadn't cleared it with a doctor. She said they were together a long time before this happened... I don't think he intentionally got her pregnant.
@@johnnaramos9379 I'd argue that is similar to claiming you are free of STI's- without having gotten tested. Which is totally rape. You only consent to the circumstances presented to you.
@@kyra8925 what? That is not the definition of rape! You had consensual sex with someone that had an STD and didn’t tell you about it. That is not rape
@@ashleyingoldsby It’s for those who lied about being infertile. Same kinda beat as countries that consider taking off a condom without asking the partner during sex as rape. I’m sure that you would be fine if a doctor testifies that you were thought infertile.
I think it’s great to shed light on the viewpoint of “I don’t think I’d emotionally be able to go through with an abortion but I support women who do”. Because the right to free abortion isn’t about wether YOU would get/need one or not, it’s about it being available to those who do need it.
@@xHannibal yes, but that also means being able to acknowledge that it isn’t wrong to get an abortion, even though you wouldn’t want to get one yourself. Exactly the same way that straight people acknowledge that it’s totally okay to be gay, even though they aren’t themselves. It’s all about the opportunity being there for those who need it, and not limiting them just because you’re not one of them. You can agree with the fact that abortions should be free and available for everyone, even though you don’t want to get one yourself.
@@imbroke1992 I think you misunderstand the point. The point is that a person is able to acknowledge someone else’s right to do something even though they would not personally do it. I didn’t say that getting an abortion and being gay are even remotely similar things. I said that a person who is straight is able to acknowledge that homosexuality is 100% okay even though they aren’t themselves, the same way someone who would not want to get an abortion themselves can acknowledge that it should be legal and that it’s okay to get if you want/need it. And for the record, I do not view abortion as “killing another human”.
I love that they asked guys as well. Abortions are always looked at as a "women" thing. Love the guys that supported the decision whether it be for a friend or partner.
I didn’t know men had uterus and now can have abortion? Learning something that is blowing my mind because this whole time I thought it was ONLY a WOMEN thing
I really hope that the lady at 3:54 is able to adopt or do IVF or something. She would be such a great mom and she looked like she was on the verge of tears realizing she might never get to be a mother.
@anherb 1) Generational trauma is code for *I'm abusive and I know it. But it's my upbringing's fault* I do think it's real. However it was her decision not to have a kid. Can't start crying about it "now" that she's 46. 2) She was specifically talking about pregnancy. So yeah, that route has closed.
I know a girl who had an abortion at 16 and never regretted it. I also know a girl who had an abortion at 17 and later killed herself out of guilt. Its a difficult and private decision.
I think you should have talked about the side/after effects. One of my ex's had an abortion with her ex, and she shared that she went through a deep depression afterwards that took almost a year to come out of. It's not easy people, be responsible, especially guys, just because we don't have to deal with the consequences doesn't mean that we don't share responsibility.
I almost had to have one and I joined a support group on Facebook and a lot of it is actually a bunch of scared women with noone to turn to. It's really sad. I definitely recommend seeking support though, many supportive conversations happen. Definitely post anonymously though, pro-lifers will go to your personal profile and try to talk you out of it. Speaking from experience and the warnings given to me.
This is true, it mentally takes a toll on you as well as physically. It’s definitely a hard decision to make and something to think about since it impacts your entire life, however I never regretted my decision and feel like it was the best option for me at the time. I was a young teenager, just beginning college, unemployed and just not ready for taking care of anyone/anything (including myself at that time.) To anyone out there feeling alone or afraid, think about how it would impact your life and whether or not you feel ready to bring a child into the world. Also know there are tons of options to speak over with a physician!
Hormones affect women differently. Some women aren’t emotionally as effected by abortion whilst others are strongly effected because their bodies and their hormones.
For anyone who thinks that abortion access should be restricted except for certain situations like medical reasons/assault/etc, just consider how difficult it is to get medical care in general. Now apply that to abortion, which is extremely time sensitive. Doctors and Individuals should be making these decisions. NOT politicians. Abortion access is healthcare access.
How are abortions healthcare? It’s an elective operation that ends the life of a child. Stop talking about it like it’s a necessary thing for the health of women. It’s a way for people to to avoid taking accountability and responsibility for their actions. That’s it.
This is so weird this came out today as it’s been weighing heavily on my mind. I’m from Oklahoma and they just made it a felony to perform abortions. Which makes me so sad for women - that in this day and age still can’t choose what to do with their own bodies. What they don’t realize is the danger they are now putting women in - if you want/need an abortion you will get one and now not having a safe/medically educated place to go is going to make some take matters into their own hands. This video is so refreshing to see. I really hope it can help get rid of the stigma towards abortion. And hopefully hearing and talking about it more can make forward progress.
This video is extremely powerful. I think it's important to hear from both sides, because they both created the embryo to abort. And I love that this is such a positive/neutral video. It gets demonized too much, and videos like this do the work to counteract that demonized connotation. 🥰 Adding this edit in, because I think my statement is being misconstrued. Hearing from both sides is important because men will listen to men. Hearing the men in this video saying, "it's ultimately up to her," is so powerful!! We don't hear that often enough, so I find it really important. Never take the choice away from the carrier. Their body, their choice. Point blank.
@@DA-js7xz I agree 100000%! My point was that men can watch this and see other men putting the choice in the carrier's hands. That's why it's so powerful to me!
@@gosiar5575 that's my point lmao men will take advice from men more than they will from a woman. So hearing men say, "it's up to her," will open the minds of a lot of people.
Y'all are picking apart the part where I said it's important to hear from both sides. I think it's important for them both to give their side, but obviously it's the carrier's choice. I think it was crucial to hear the men in the video say, "it was up to her," because other men might hear that, find that perspective more relatable, therefore will be more eager to listen. I, as a person with a uterus, would never take that choice away from another uterus haver. 🥰
I love how you say “it’s important to hear it from both sides” when they are giving the same damn opinion. There’s nothing controversial about it. What would’ve been impactful is both pro-life men AND women were answering along with the pro-choicers to give insight on it. Having two people of different genders say the exact same opinion doesn’t mean shit or isn’t as impactful as you think it is.
I got pregnant at 19 with a guy I had just started to see. We got two different kinds of contraception failed us. I was not financially, emotionally o or anything stable enough to have a child. Having an abortion was the worst thing I have ever done, really difficult and painful decision. But it was the right one for me. I wish everybody could have the ability to make that decision. Love to everyone that has gone through this, it's really hard
@@Ari-nk1pb no it's not the same, under no circumstances will that turn into a full person. You need 48 chromosomes We are all just a bunch of cells technically
@@mo.ka.9661 And why is the chromosomes so important? We are just a bunch of cells but we are as well living beings, according to science that is not. It's totally okay if you disagree but since you have no way to rove that your way is right or better than my point of view I would just suggest to respect each other and allow the freedom of choice
@@Ari-nk1pb Because chrosomones establish a distinct human life. According to science life begins at conception, over 90% of biologists agree. Even of that were not the caze why wouldn't we want to draw the starting line earlg as possible just to be on the safe side?
Power to all these people who were willing to share their experiences or communicate that they were uncomfortable answering the question. Abortion provides people with uteruses an option during pregnancy. It is absolutely ridiculous that men in power feel the need to oppress the bodies of others. If you don't support abortion then hopefully you will never need one, but don't take that choice off the table for others.
Completely disagree with the “grown enough to do it, grown enough to raise it and keep it” mentality. So many uneducated CHILDREN are doing these things not knowing what it can lead to and no they aren’t grown enough to be raising a kid when they themselves are kids. Not just that but people are assaulted and become pregnant more than people seem to think
i think that mentality is a bit outdated and honestly untrue. being mature enough to be sexually active doesnt mean you are mature, financially and emotionally stable, or physically prepared enough to raise a child.
Guys, it might be an stupid question BUT can you make a Keep it 100: “Do you use protection (like condoms, birth control, IUD, etc)”? PLEASE!! And thank u so much for this vid!!
Statistically 99% of AFAB people will use some form of contraception (hormonal, or none hormonal IUD) in their lifetime. While 87% of those not wanting to get pregnant are using BC. While the majority of abortions are done cause of failed contraception...Also a lot are women who are mom's already, in a comitted relationships, and again contraception failed...also majority of abortions are happening on women in their later 20s to 40s...it is middle aged women...
18 year old me said I'd never have an abortion. 20 year old be got pregnant knowing what I was doing & became extremely ill from HG. When I say I felt like I was being tortured for months! Got pregnant again in hope of a girl & people convinced me every pregnancy was different. Nope, turns out THAT was a lie. So, yeah I am 24 married, own a home have a career, but felt like I was being tortured once again through my pregnancy. I had to LEAVE my job, because I had nausea/vomiting so bad. I didn't sign up for this. I signed up to just have a baby not be sick that I can't even continue making an income. People really have the audacity to tell a women what she should/shouldn't do with her body. Throwing up 4+ times a day, couldn't even eat half a bagel so lost 15 lbs in 2 weeks. For anyone to say a fetus has a say over the mother has literally lost their mind. I learned that the fetus will get what it needs through the pregnancy, the mother will loose. I was not anemic before I got pregnant and now my RBC count has dropped a lot. Baby is taking so much from me. I will not EVER do this again. I do not recommend. Birth of a baby can be a wonderful thing, but pregnancy and labor I won't sugar coat it, it SUCKS! You may find some women who glorify it or had little to no issues. But, so many women have legit reasons. I have always been pro-choice. But, before I ever had a kid I swore up and down I'd never consider an abortion. When I got pregnant I learned REAL quick the reality. I get irritated when I see men go against abortions. I'm like imagine someone kicking you in the balls repeatedly multiple times a day and they said the only way to get rid of that pain within 9 months was to get rid of it. That would be a tough decision, but since you're in so much pain you will consider it or even do it) Like I'm not even joking having HG had me looking up abortion clinics daily. NO ONE should have a say on what a women does or chooses to do. This topic hits home for me. Because, my mom had HG as well and almost lost her life even when the drs. recommended her to end the pregnancy. If a mother died giving birth to a baby then its "Oh well." but, if a fetus is aborted then the women is "evil." Some people believe no abortions no matter what even if they're raped, some people believe abortions only if it's a medical reason. Truth is what ever happens no one is gonna be happy. But, let's keep it really simple. These people screaming pro-life no very well that they could care less. There is a women somewhere out there right now having an abortion and not one of us know who that person is. We aren't sitting here trying to find out either. When an actual child passes away y'all say "awww" and then continue on with your lives. This school shooting has happened and Iv'e seen footage of people waving signs outsides abortion clinics screaming "You're killing these babies." But, I don't see any of these people at these schools....
@@ronny5366 haha you’re so funny. Who said I ever had an abortion??? Very odd. See you guys don’t even know how majority of abortions work lol. Maybe if you were a women you would know majority of abortions happen when the baby is as tiny as a literal seed. Nothing is is being ripped apart. When the fetus is passed just like a miscarriage it’s a big glob, you can’t even see any features what so ever. And by time a fetus looks more like a baby especially in third trimester they don’t just abort the baby. If complications come up they try to do something called induction or c-section to remove it (especially when it’s viable around 24 weeks) so it can be alive outside of the womb. At that point no one’s it getting an abortion. (Unless something develops that will cause the baby to pass etc.) Let’s be real and please for the love of God let’s get educated!!!
I don’t think I’d ever personally go through with an abortion. I’ve always wanted to have a family of my own since I was like 13 but I support people who go through it. However I personally am conflicted because I have mental disorders that could greatly affect me being a parent such as PTSD, MDD, and I used to hallucinate when I got really depressed and I’d never want to scare my child or have them witness that. I don’t think I could put it on my partner either, really. I’m also only 19 so I have plenty of time. However one of my friends went through one. She was raped, only 15 and was kicked out on to the streets and honestly it’s so sad tbh. She didn’t ask to be raped, she didn’t ask to be drugged. I fully supported her decision. Pro life people don’t truly understand how hard it can be for a woman to make that final decision. My friend is an amazing woman and deserves the world if I’m being honest.
My heart aches for the person who wants a child now. I hope she is able to take a young teen in and give them a loving home and environment that they need. I think it could be a very healing and beneficial for them both. I think she would be such a great light for a troubled teen; an example of growing out of past trauma.
“that’s her choice” i love this man yes you still get a say and your opinion but at the end of the day it’s her body that’s changing and carrying the child. guy feelings matter too!!
I wish there was less stigma around this topic. Everyone probably knows at least one person who had an abortion, even if they never revealed it. I had one with my current partner, who I love and hope to share my life with him. We never thought it could happen to us, but birth control failed due to our mistakes. However, we weren't and still aren't sure we ever want kids. Our financial status and other aspects of life didn't matter as much as the fact that we knew we weren't ready to be parents. Some unplanned pregnancies aren't unwanted, but ours was. It was our decision only and we have no regrets. I didn't struggle with depression, sadness, or what if's. The abortion left no emotional, physical, or mental consequences. People should quit that narrative that every woman feels bad in one way or another after the process. That's simply not the case.
@@fur8104 It's called modern medicine, not luck. Abortion is a safe and legal medical procedure that 73 million women worldwide use every year. Oh, and I didn't get rid of a baby. I aborted an embryo because, at that stage, it wasn't even a fetus.
Thanks for sharing. This is so true. It's weird that there is a lot of shaming when women do not feel sad or regret the decision. People should really stop trying to control other people's lives, decisions and bodies.
I pro choice but that’s a dumb opinion/reaction. Regardless of who is having the kid the morality stays the same. It’d be similar to a slave owner saying that non slave owners aren’t allowed to have an opinion on the morality of slave holding.
@@xHannibal Did you seriously just compare being a woman to being a slave owner???? Owning a uterus to owning a slave?? Just another example of pro-life lack of critical thinking skills. In case it's your first day on Earth, there are two things you don't ever compare with anything else: 1. Slavery and 2. The Holocaust. Let's hope you haven't already infringed on the second one, but I don't have much hope...
@@melanyrice592 Cool assumption but I’m pro-choice. Also very cool deflection, you definitely have sound reasoning for your criticism of my analogy. Since, evidently, you have subhuman intelligence, I’ll explain again for you. The exact comparison doesn’t matter here at all. Clearly, you’re far too emotionally invested in this to realize that. The point though is that just because someone isn’t a part of some group does not mean that they do not get to have a say in the morality of the decisions of that group. Just because I’m not Christian doesn’t mean I can’t say anything about Christianity or the decisions of Christians. Just because I or anyone is not a woman doesn’t mean they can’t say anything about the morality of the decisions of women.
The person at 1:03, I empathise with you so so much. I went through the same thing, and it was so so difficult. Thank u for being open about your experience, I thought I was the only one x
I wish they also included more people who have had to have an abortion for medical reasons. My babys life would have been filled with so much pain due to her diagnosis. It was so difficult
My doctors knew something was wrong and didn't tell me which he ended up dying from induce me so I had to give birth to dead baby... Instead of telling me earlier so I could've avoided it... And I almost died in the process from an infection I developed carrying around a dead baby in my body...
I had an abortion in 1987. Back then it was legal. No such things as bans, heartbeat laws, forced sonograms, and no such thing as the abortion pill that came out in 2000. I was one of those who said nope would never happen to me! I had irregular periods. But one went too long and got a home pregnancy test. All it said was pregnant. I had to go to a doctor, finding my own transport because my parents refused, I was an adult. So I found out I was 12 weeks. No sonogram. So have no idea if one can tell the gender at 12 weeks. I told my parents I need an abortion. Dad was born in 1927 mom was born in 1931. Those dates matter because back then you didn’t even say the word abortion and of course no doubt back alley butchers did the deed. My parents were very progressive. We support your decision. I again had to find a doctor and transportation. I don’t know how it’s done in a Clinic as I had mine in a hospital and under anesthesia. All went well. I lost it however when I saw a documentary on pregnancy and at 12 weeks it wasn’t a la clump of cells life that the doctor said. It was the size of a walnut and fully formed. I lost it because I was lied to. I was 28 not 5. I told my boyfriend at the time and he was furious! Why didn’t you consult me! Why should I! Well I’. Not going to pay you back for it! I said I never asked! I pay my own medical bills. His outage was outrageous. Since when do I need to consult him! We were girlfriend boyfriend. I wasn’t owned, we were never going to be married and I don’t need to check for permission. It was ironic his outrage. One he was divorced. If you can’t hold a marriage together, since when does someone have to consult on a medical issue. Two, he already had a daughter he never bothered to help raise or financially support and claimed the mom wanted no money. I said you never offered anyway. Who turns down money to help support their kid! Third he had absolutely no contact with his daughter who’d be in her 40’s by now. I should consult about an abortion when you have a kid you want nothing to do with? Fourth, a year later he threatened a sheriff’s nephew with a gun and was in jail for 8 years. Nope, one who can’t stay out of jail, has no say on medical issues. I had an older brother. No younger siblings, I hung around older kids never younger because there were none where I was. I’m not fond of kids. And mom, who was an alcoholic narcissist wasn’t exactly mom of the year. But I’m a great pet parent. I’m just not fond of human kids. Oh I’m nice to them if they say hello, and I baby sat a couple kids of a friend, but having kids, nope! Do I feel shame, guilt, regret? That’s society who feels that way. I don’t! Was my abortion to save my life? Nope. It was just because and I was entitled. Do I care that some don’t approve? Not in the least. I’m almost 65 now. I think I can live another 20 years without needing anyone’s approval or permission. Have done fine so far! I was outrage at the nurse. Her job was to explain the procedure NOT launch int the how about adoption! Not going to carry for nine months and give away. I stopped her and she was shocked. Tell me the procedure I said and shut up about adoption. Your political or ideological views are of no interest. The doctor kept asking me are you sure? Not once but twice! Are men who want a vasectomy asked are you sure? You may change your mind! No! He gets no questions. It took three years to find a doctor who’d tie my tubes. It’s legal! Got the same crap. Are you sure? Yeah at 31 I was sure. Not stupid y’know. Ironically he gave me too much anesthesia and the nurse thought I’d never wake up. Best sleep I ever had! From what I was told my 12 week old fetus was sucked out by a tube. Whole! None of this crunching of bone and ripping off limbs. My period resumed. I did ask can I have a hysterectomy also? No ethical doctor will do that. So I have everything in there and cauterized tubes. But it was a strange thing. You’re questioned about an abortion, then when you want to be unable to be ever pregnant with tube tying you’re questioned as if your job is to get and be pregnant. Yell at you for abortion, yell at you when you don’t ever want to be pregnant again. Have no idea if other women are given an interrogation today if they want voluntary sterilization. What’s with this abortion is murder garbage! Demand that guns be banned so no school kids are murdered you have the we have the right to shoot anyone! Kids included! Why do the pro lifers and anti abortion people have NO abortion is murder when a fetus is tested and has Downs Syndrome and the doctor suggests abortion! You have an extra two chromosomes, it’s not fatal, Downs Syndrome kids are smart. I used to student teach them at a camp and when I was in high school. They can learn, get simple jobs, pay taxes and even heard of one who graduated college. He needed extra help? Who doesn’t in school. So abortion isn’t murder for a fetus with Downs Syndrome but abortion of a ‘normal’ kid is murder? Sounds very eugenics to me and hypocritical. For some an abortion can save her life! Ectopic pregnancy. It can grow outside the womb and can rupture something and mom bleeds to death. No amniotic fluid the baby dies. They use it to move around and when they get older they exercise their lungs breathing that fluid by mouth as the nose is plugged by waxy like plugs. A fetus can have their organs growing outside their bodies, and don’t live long. Forced to carry a dead baby she gets sepsis and can die of infection. So it seems like the exception for the life of the mother politicians have even taken that away. Rape victims and incest victims shouldn’t be forced to birth a child of violence! The subject of abortion is stupidly selective. It’s always about the fetus. Well without mom the fetus has a bit of a problem. She should take precedence! Male politicians have taken and the Supreme Court who got rid of Roe that legalized abortion in 1973 act like politicians, and know nothing about medicine. Wonder how many abortions the men Supreme Court judges paid for! Now both want to take away contraceptives from women but NOT men who don’t wear it anyway. Do men really support the right to abortion? Or is it whew glad I don’t have to take care of the kid! I think it’s an honest question. If we have an abortion we don’t need permission for men or ask their approval. I don’t think men say so honey I’m going to have a vasectomy what do you think? They do it! I was Middle Middle Class when I had my abortion. Yes my parents were Middle Middle Class. Middle Class went up a notch. The point is abortion isn’t just a Poor thing. I was able to pay for mine because insurance at the time didn’t cover it. I’m tired of the guilting and condemnation of those who’ve never had an abortion. And they’re the first if you criticize how they raise their kids, tell you don’t tell me how to raise my kids! When I’ve suggested that pro lifers take care of a pregnant person in their home and on their dime I’ve gotten “deal” but of course they didn’t, OR “It’s not our responsibility to raise other peoples’ kids!” You want ‘em born YOU raise ‘em! One pro lifer said “well I donate to pregnant women to help raise their kid!” You don’t personally had her your money and you won’t do it without a tax deduction. For some abortion is easy to go through to others it’s hard because society makes it so! I asked a monumental question to mom once. If you had a choice, would you have gotten married and had my brother and I? Can’t remember why I asked but her answer astounded me. Normally mom did what she wanted. But she said if I had a choice no. But it was what you were supposed to do. She got married to dad in 1954 when she was only 23. She was supposed to be married and had kids. And her sentiment for both was apparent. Why dad put up with her drinking and her narcissism he felt he was “supposed” to. Abortion is something called health care! Would the pro lifer anti abortion person want government to say well we don’t believe in organ transplants to save your life, tough luck! Or you have dementia and need care? Sorry! awe don’t believe in it, tough luck! Sound absurd? Well when my fiancé passed away the organs that were in good shape they refused to donate. They didn’t believe in it. Not government but the same principle. We don’t believe in it who cares about others who could’ve used his organs. His heart was the only bad organ. When does it end! No more right of choice! Politicians are trying to prevent the abortion pill. They want to take away the right of women to have contraception. Prevent her from traveling to get an abortion. Since when do others tell you where you can travel! What next? Take away same sex marriage because politicians don’t believe in it when it doesn’t affect your marriage one bit? make interracial marriages illegal again? Justice Thomas would have a problem with that! Where does it end! Yes I had an abortion in 1987! No apologies! Abortion not approved by another don’t get one! Things start small with trashing Roe YOU could be next for a health right, or ANY right to be stolen from you. And you’ll shout unfair while approving it for others like you’re an exception.
@@senorpoole3988 were they yours no. Then shut up. Keep your opinion to yourself if it’s not your uterus or your “child”. By the way you are a man so you atleast better shut up. It’s a very difficult choice to make & on top of that there are people like you women need to deal with in such a scenario who makes it 10x difficult for her.
I love this. Just talking about as the most natural thing in the world, no stigma. That’s how I always though of abortion: it’s health care. It doesn’t have to be such an insane stigma, that’s religious fundamentalism.
Love this video! I had one after my birth control failed and I have never regretted it. I already had a child at the time, and she had JUST turned a year old. I was in no way mentally (or physically!) healthy enough to go though another pregnancy and newborn phase! I knew the second I saw the 2 lines I wouldn’t keep it. I never thought I’d have an abortion until I desperately needed it, and I’m so grateful I had the choice❤️ don’t know if I would’ve survived without it.
Currently going through this. It’s one of the toughest decisions I’ve had to make in my life but I know for the sake of this baby it’s what’s best. My boyfriend & I aren’t financially stable, still have 2 years left of school, not living together. I want to have my career to be able to give my future baby the best life possible & not stress with money like my parents did.
If you do a follow-up or addendum to this video please get in touch with me. Am happy to share my teenage unwanted pregnancy story - and the abortion which literally saved my life. I’m 56 now, no regrets.
It is unfortunate that so many qualifiers are placed around abortion "I wasn't in a relationship", "I wasn't financially stable", etc. But it's totally fine to be in a loving committed relationship and be financially stable and still have an abortion because you don't want a child at that moment in life/time. The world needs to have more grace for people.
Amen. I’ve had friends who got abortions while in committed relationships because it would ruin their career and ultimately lead to a worse life for the kid. In one case it was to allow her to leave her emotionally abusive partner who was awful for her mental health. There are a million and one reasons someone could have an abortion, and they are all valid.
The woman with the green head wrap is so pretty. Wow. And this video is so completely relevant right now. So many people are going to have decisions like this altered
To the woman at 3:40 ish, if you know that you would’ve been a great mother, you still have the chance now. Whether having your own or becoming a parent to a child that needs one, you’ve got a whole bunch of time to become a parent.
@@middiimeis1646 didn't you hear she's 46? So, she may be ~50 to actually try giving birth if she's lucky. I guess it isn't impossible, if that's what you're asking.
My son is 7 months old and I attemped to get an abortion when i was in very early pregnancy, but due to COVID restrictions and several mistakes made with scheduling, mine was pushed back an extra 3 weeks and I wasn't able to receive the pill or surgical in time. I love my son, and he's the brightest little star, but I still resent the fact that my choice was ultimately taken from me by circumstance and poor employee performance.
Just a friendly reminder that you do not owe anyone an explanation on why you chose to do what you did!! And a friendly reminder to those who ask for one - it’s none of your business. Proud of each and everyone who has had to make difficult decisions.
Thank you for talking about miscarriages and unviable pregnancies. I had two miscarriages that required medicine and a d&c. Same meds and procedure they do for an unwanted pregnancy. Also love that you asked men too.
I had one in 2017 when i was a freshman in college. I knew that i couldn’t raise a kid in these days cause i couldn’t even handle the stress of school and job and etc. I didn’t want to bring a child with 0 support into this world and that was the best decision I’ve ever made. I have 0 regrets but sometimes i‘m wondering how it would be if i kept it.
I'm so grateful to live in a place where abortions are accessible and I'm furious that it isn't an option everywhere. Reproductive rights are one of the most basic human rights in my mind and it should be available to all. I had an abortion when I was 24 and not once have I ever regretted it. I was in a horrible relationship at the time and we would have been terrible parents. I'm thankful all the time that I was able to break up with him and cut him out of my life completely. If I had his kid it would have been very different. I would have had a living, breathing tie to him for the rest of my life regardless of if we were together or not. Plus, it would have been unimaginably cruel to bring an unloved and unwanted child into the world. I'm not exaggerating when I say my abortion saved my life because I don't think I would be alive today if I had been forced to go through with it. I'm not proud that my own stupidity led me to have to get an abortion in the first place, but I am very happy that I was able to.
Thank you. I had an abortion in 1976. Forever grateful it was legal here. And we marched for legal abortion before 1973. I’m infuriated that people (Republicans) are making it very difficult to get safe abortions. Women will continue to have abortions, legal or back-alley. These Republicans just want to control women’s bodies.
I’ve never had an abortion, I’m still just a teenager, but I’ve never felt more strongly than I do about abortions and how they are vital healthcare and I completely agree with you. It’s disgusting that in most of these countries deciding abortions rights, it’s men making the decision almost entirely. Sick world we live in.
This was amazing and we should talk about it more. When I went through it there was a lot of shame and fear and judgement and those I went to for support really messed up and cut me deep.
Sending admiration and gratitude to everyone who has put themselves out in the open on such a popular channel, and talking about their deeply personal and private experiences.
Abortions shouldn’t be something to be ashamed of. Whether you choose to have an abortion or go through with the pregnancy all of these women are very brave ❤️
@@lizali5588 So if my wife of 10 years of marriage gets pregnant even once we both decide that it's best we shouldn't have a child, she should be shamed for her choice? _Why?_
All these women are brave, except for the women who (or those who support) maliciously perform an act that kills their child (getting an abortion). That is precisely the opposite of bravery, that's cowardly. Imagine thinking killing the most innocent of life as being brave... What a disgraceful world we live in.
I've never had an abortion, and I hope I never have to have one. But I did have a miscarriage last year that I'm very open talking about. Keeping silent about abortion and sex and miscarriage has turned into something stigmatized and negative when it's normal parts of life. I want people in my life to know they can talk to me about pregnancy and sex and that I won't judge them based on their experiences and choices. If people around me are uncomfortable with my degree of openness, that's on th and has no bearing on how I'm going to live my life.
Yeah. We were together for years and got pregnant on birth control. We both had just started new jobs the week we found out, didn't know where we would be living in a couple months and both of our mental health's were in the gutter but we loved each other and wanted a baby so it was a really hard and emotional decision to make. We decided to do it and the whole process was traumatizing for the both of us but we knew at the time it was the best choice. Now it's a couple years later and we're in a much better place and are pregnant with a baby girl that we know we'll be able to properly provide for
I had an abortion 8 years ago. You are allowed to feel absolutely any way about your abortion, but I have never regretted or felt that mine was a mistake.
Same no regrets. It's nobody else's business to decide what's right for you, especially not a government or a bunch of politicians or religious fanatics.
i had an abortion when i was in my early 20s. i’m not proud of it, but i’m not ashamed of it either. i was on birth control but was horrible about remembering to take it regularly. (i switched birth control after that.) i wasn’t prepared or willing to give up things that could hinder or harm it. you can call me selfish, but i just wasn’t ready to change my life for an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy. even now many years later, it’s one of the best things i’ve done. i wasn’t responsible enough back then to take care of myself or it during pregnancy. it was more like a sigh of relief for both me and my boyfriend. having an abortion isn’t for everybody, but it should be easily available to all.
@@Kayleeorsmthn No she doesn’t need to. Instead you should be ashamed on commenting such a thing on what a person did with their body. Be Ashamed on poking your nose in other people’s business & passing a comment like this.
I had a similar situation at 21. My birth control interacted with a new medication and basically stopped working. I had no clue. As soon as I saw the test results I called planned parenthood and then my boyfriend. I regret getting pregnant but I do not regret the abortion.
@Hannah Winterhalder Then why don't "pro-choice" call themselves "pro-abortion choice"? Because I already know they're not "pro-choice" in general either. It's just a mantra, on both sides. Unless you're too hypocritical to see that.
@@mi9172 I was until about 2 weeks ago and I had a family member forced to give birth to a baby who was not with us anymore at 20 weeks because she was to far along to have an abortion. She is also being forced to have a funeral for said baby because it's the law.
@@mi9172 so being forced to give birth and 35+ hrs in labor and then being forced to have a funeral is better than having an abortion? That's insanity.
I had one when I was 21. My boyfriend and I were flat broke and if really wasn't the responsible thing to do. It was so incredibly hard and I vowed to wait until I am ready to be a good mum one day. I'm 31 now with a 10 month old and my second baby on the way. I still get upset when I think about the abortion. I will be teaching my children about safe sex and it's consequences...
If you are respectful of the women who would have an abortion or did, please be respectful of those who do not. Choice is a two way street. Neither path is easy. Also, keep in mind, some of what's described here is when something is medically wrong and the only choice is what mitigates suffering. As someone who has had two ultrasounds end with news no one wants to hear, that situation is devastating. And I had no choices at that point. It was about what was going to hurt them less due to medical that was totally unavoidable.
I’m glad the men all realized that they weren’t the ones who had the vast majority of the responsibility and therefore should defer to the woman and her choice. As for the girl who said, “if you’re grown enough to do the deed you’re grown enough to keep it”- there are so many reasons why that’s so incredibly wrong. Rape being the first, but no only, reason. No child should be brought into this world unwanted, unloved, and set up for abuse and/or neglect. That’s the harsh truth.
Except she said it in an “I” context. Not “you’re”, which makes a huge difference. She’s not talking in general, but rather how she herself would feel in that situation.
I had an abortion... my ex says after that day I was different ( but he was very abusive & wanted me too)... then awhile later he got my sister pregnant ... My sister having a baby saved her life... It fucked me up for awhile thinking I could’ve had a baby that was siblings and cousins... also there is so many layers of pain surrounding my relationship with him... then the pain of my sister and him... so I dk if my depression started from that or not.
There was a time in my life where I knew if I got pregnant I would 100% get an abortion. I was in an abusive relationship and they made me stop taking birth control and they were "allergic" to latex. Luckily turns out I have PCOS and it is extremely difficult for me to get pregnant, even with 2 years of completely unprotected sex.
@@jani4552 thank you for your kind words! 💖 I'm 5 years out of that relationship, have found a wonderful therapist, and am in a healthy and boundary-respecting relationship :) for anyone going through a situation like I went though, please know there is a way out! Please reach out to me if you need any guidance or support 💞
I personally never had had one, a dear friend of mine did, she was going to go on her own and travel back on her own afterwards, I drove her there , waited and drove her home to make sure she was safe. I don't understand how and why governments get involved and make it illegal. Its not their body not their choice.
Same here. The closest clinic was 50 miles away so it was a secret trip we made after a midterm we had that morning in college. We literally went straight from our class to the clinic to make it on time. But of course there was a fancy crisis pregnancy center right across the street from our campus! Fuck the government's bullshit
@@shirleyryan7439 You can't prove a belief, which is why the topic is controversial. There is no right answer. Both sides thing they're right and there isn't really a middle ground.
I had an abortion right before the pandemic. I didn't have a job or a place to live, I was crashing at my cousin's house, my partner didn't want to have it, and even though it was my choice and I don't regret it I still feel sad about it. I've been to therapy non stop but I still can't get over it.
I know it's easy for me to say this but you did it for the child you will perhaps have in the future, so that you can bring them into the world when you're as confident as you can be that you'll provide them with the best life possible. Think about the future version of yourself as a mother and how awesome you'll be. Don't dwell on the past version that wouldn't have been ready or willing. This is why you have the power to influence your future.
As a woman, I greatly support a woman's right to choose but specifically for me, I don't think I could ever get an abortion unless it was a literal life or death situation.
THANN YOU FOR THIS. I have not even watched it yet but I just appreciate you even making a video about this topic that nobody talks about even though so many people go through it including me. It’s lonely to go through it’s the worst
So, I'm actually the opposite of that one individual towards the end where they said they couldn't handle the emotional damage from an abortion. I'm so mentally and emotionally unstable, that's actually cannot promise I wouldn't hurt myself or the child if I got pregnant and went threw with it. I'm in a 7+ year long relationship, and we are both in agreement that just not right now, and if it happens, we'll have to get an abortion until we are capable. I just know myself, as does he, and it's just not in the cards as of right now.
@@inspiredbyinspire9234 Shame me all you want, you dont know my situation and how I almost died. I'm glad I was able to safely get what I needed safely.
@@ellamulti8030 you almost died but someone else died all the way. Your situation doesn’t justify murder. I bet even if it wasn’t life threatening you’d say it’s ok to do it. People just use the worst case scenario to justify the whole thing
@@tamarameakes2014 ??? it takes two to make a child, if a man dips out of the childs life and the mother is taking care of it on her own, it's HIS responsibility to still be there for her financially. stop normalizing men not taking accountability for their actions.
Sex is a basic human desire, going through nine painful months to have another human tear your genitals is not. Does that also apply to the 8yr raped by her uncle?
I hate it when men say they are infertile but actually are not and/or never confirm it. And lie about it. Such a thing happened to a friend. She aborted it and broke up with the guy. He thought he could make her keep the baby and baby trap her. Before having sex with a person know their intentions and their sexual history. And to the ladies don't say you are on birth control but never really take the pills.
Not saying it was your friends fault in any way but I think just knowing yourself and what you want going into the act. Just being aware that hey he may say he is but does that mean he is 100%. It’s ultimately both of their decisions unless it was rape. Yah it’s awful that he lied but I would put all the blame on him. Like the one girl in the video said,”if you’re grown enough to do it, you’re grown enough to keep it and raise it.”
@William James Sidis ITS NOT A BABY! most abortions happen no later then 12-15 weeks 3.5months. if they were born at that stage it wouldnt even LOOK like a baby, no organs, no fully developed brain, no consciousness.
@William James Sidis the "baby" (more like just a bunch of cells) doesn't even have a concept of the world let alone a concept of choice or a brain to think so uhm yeah it's not taking a choice away that wasn't there in the 1st place lmao
I 100000% support anyone who decides to go through an abortion but when I think about myself... it gets difficult. As someone with PCOS, the ability to get pregnant is decreased and I always worry whether I'll be able to have a child in the future. So if I did get a surprise pregnancy, I would keep it. Of course I would always have adoption as an option, but I would like to raise a biological child at least once if I can in the future.
believe me if i know someone who has I’d be very upfront with my opinion and all respect would be lost for them. doesn’t matter how common it is it’s still murder. i enjoy the fact that people atleast have to be haunted by their decision when they aren’t being justified by others and it’s just them and their conscious.
I’ve had an abortion once And tbh my last one cause I really regret it. I was soooo sure on keeping it however once I told my bf(now ex) he said he doesn’t wanna be w me or see us together for the rest of our lives. Saying we should wait and how we’re not ready… I was sooo strong about it cause my mother didn’t even want me to have the baby.. so it was rlly hard for me. The fact tht my family wasn’t on my side and how my ex bf didn’t wanna have a child w me … I was hurt asf. So it was like what’s the point… I want a family not be a baby momma cause I kno I was gonna be bitter I already was when I was pregnant… when I got the abortion it was a relief but man when I see babies it hurts me still til this day… cause it’s like damn I rlly wanted a baby and all. It rlly fucks w me mentally and emotionally till this day. I would’ve been 4 months pregnant by now…🥺🫶🏽 but til we meet again my love ..❤️😕
Totally get how you’re feeling. My parents forced me to get one and honestly I regret letting them control me into doing this whole thing, my bf was very happy about the baby I mean we both were but now the baby is gone and my family is carrying on like nothing happened while I’m depressed over the decision and thinking what it would’ve been like to still be pregnant 😞 I’m hoping for a miracle baby next year and I won’t let them control me again whether they’ll be mad at me for falling pregnant Idgaf I miss being pregnant. Seeing babies and pregnant women hurts me
It’s a real tragedy that the people who said they would get an abortion will no longer have that option in many states once the Supreme Court rules on the Dobbs case in June.
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"I was an addict, but I wasn't stupid." 3:16 This is a great sentiment to have in this video, that while some of the lives of addicts are taken up with their addiction, they still have a lot of agency over most of the rest of their life. Power to that woman.
The child would have also suffered quite a bit.
@@adt4025 But luckily she killed it.
Sometimes getting pregnant saves the person too. It’s definitely situational but I personally know someone who was an addict and since having her child has been clean.
@@codimarie090 That makes it sound like it´s the child´s responsibility to save their parent. Children do not owe anyone anything.
@@Julia-vr5wn you clearly didn’t understand the comment... the child doesn’t have to do anything... it’s the pregnancy and birth that changes things... if my friend didn’t get pregnant she very likely would’ve continued on her destructive path BUT having a child saved her life.. made her stop using and be better for herself and the baby... therefore saving her life...
You need to actually know what something means or google it before getting all negative like it’s a bad thing!
How is a baby supposed to fix a parent anyway???
My best friend had an abortion when she was 12 years old after she was raped and become pregnant. And yet even in those circumstances, some of her extended family members shamed her.
Wow that is messed up.
Pro Life people are stupid.
At that point the abortion is a medical surgery necessary to save her life, giving birth would surely have killed her or destroyed her body at such a young age. What is there to shame her about?
i am so sorry you had to go through that.
Awww bless her heart
If a man says he is infertile to a woman and they have sex and she finds out after it can actually be considered rape in a court of law, there are a couple cases where this has happened and the man has gone to jail
He thought he was, and just hadn't cleared it with a doctor. She said they were together a long time before this happened... I don't think he intentionally got her pregnant.
@@johnnaramos9379 I'd argue that is similar to claiming you are free of STI's- without having gotten tested. Which is totally rape. You only consent to the circumstances presented to you.
@@kyra8925 what? That is not the definition of rape! You had consensual sex with someone that had an STD and didn’t tell you about it. That is not rape
Many "infertile" people end up having kids. That is a terrifying precedent if true.
@@ashleyingoldsby
It’s for those who lied about being infertile. Same kinda beat as countries that consider taking off a condom without asking the partner during sex as rape. I’m sure that you would be fine if a doctor testifies that you were thought infertile.
I think it’s great to shed light on the viewpoint of “I don’t think I’d emotionally be able to go through with an abortion but I support women who do”. Because the right to free abortion isn’t about wether YOU would get/need one or not, it’s about it being available to those who do need it.
okay, so killing babies is what YOU want?
I mean the debate centers around the morality of it all
@@xHannibal yes, but that also means being able to acknowledge that it isn’t wrong to get an abortion, even though you wouldn’t want to get one yourself. Exactly the same way that straight people acknowledge that it’s totally okay to be gay, even though they aren’t themselves. It’s all about the opportunity being there for those who need it, and not limiting them just because you’re not one of them. You can agree with the fact that abortions should be free and available for everyone, even though you don’t want to get one yourself.
@@emma_viola don’t compare killing another human to someone dating another person of the same sex. That’s the most homophobic shit I’ve read today tf
@@imbroke1992 I think you misunderstand the point. The point is that a person is able to acknowledge someone else’s right to do something even though they would not personally do it. I didn’t say that getting an abortion and being gay are even remotely similar things. I said that a person who is straight is able to acknowledge that homosexuality is 100% okay even though they aren’t themselves, the same way someone who would not want to get an abortion themselves can acknowledge that it should be legal and that it’s okay to get if you want/need it. And for the record, I do not view abortion as “killing another human”.
I love that they asked guys as well. Abortions are always looked at as a "women" thing. Love the guys that supported the decision whether it be for a friend or partner.
Eventhough men can get involved, it is a woman thing because only women can have it
Well abortions ARE a „woman thing“. Wether the father is against an abortion, indifferent or supportive should have no effect on the woman‘s decision.
@@febatista2932 THANK YOU! A courge answer
@@febatista2932 Abortions are not just a woman thing because abortions affect more than just the person having it believe it or not.
I didn’t know men had uterus and now can have abortion? Learning something that is blowing my mind because this whole time I thought it was ONLY a WOMEN thing
I really hope that the lady at 3:54 is able to adopt or do IVF or something. She would be such a great mom and she looked like she was on the verge of tears realizing she might never get to be a mother.
Too bad for her.
The year where there could have been "generational trauma" is probably
@@raylevi5343 stfu they literally asked her??? and who are you to decide what's best for a stranger...
@@raylevi5343 lol so you just dont understand the words you're using huh
@anherb
1) Generational trauma is code for *I'm abusive and I know it. But it's my upbringing's fault*
I do think it's real. However it was her decision not to have a kid. Can't start crying about it "now" that she's 46.
2) She was specifically talking about pregnancy. So yeah, that route has closed.
@@tamborineman4704 Why don't you explain the incorrect parts, instead of this non-answer?
I know a girl who had an abortion at 16 and never regretted it. I also know a girl who had an abortion at 17 and later killed herself out of guilt. Its a difficult and private decision.
this is very powerful❤️
Yeah I had a friend who killed themself because they had an abortion and I had another friend who got so low when she had an abortion
Obviously it’s more than removing some meaningless cells. It’s a child.
@@inspiredbyinspire9234 no, it’s not…
@@jackiefiedler2171 is it a mole?
I think you should have talked about the side/after effects. One of my ex's had an abortion with her ex, and she shared that she went through a deep depression afterwards that took almost a year to come out of. It's not easy people, be responsible, especially guys, just because we don't have to deal with the consequences doesn't mean that we don't share responsibility.
i dont think anyone chooses to have an aborting lightly. its not like getting a boob job.
I almost had to have one and I joined a support group on Facebook and a lot of it is actually a bunch of scared women with noone to turn to. It's really sad. I definitely recommend seeking support though, many supportive conversations happen. Definitely post anonymously though, pro-lifers will go to your personal profile and try to talk you out of it. Speaking from experience and the warnings given to me.
This is true, it mentally takes a toll on you as well as physically. It’s definitely a hard decision to make and something to think about since it impacts your entire life, however I never regretted my decision and feel like it was the best option for me at the time. I was a young teenager, just beginning college, unemployed and just not ready for taking care of anyone/anything (including myself at that time.) To anyone out there feeling alone or afraid, think about how it would impact your life and whether or not you feel ready to bring a child into the world. Also know there are tons of options to speak over with a physician!
Hormones affect women differently. Some women aren’t emotionally as effected by abortion whilst others are strongly effected because their bodies and their hormones.
@@Tvhsak or y’know…the act of getting an abortion weighs heavily on people who have a conscience 🤷🏽♀️
For anyone who thinks that abortion access should be restricted except for certain situations like medical reasons/assault/etc, just consider how difficult it is to get medical care in general. Now apply that to abortion, which is extremely time sensitive. Doctors and Individuals should be making these decisions. NOT politicians. Abortion access is healthcare access.
AFAB doctors should be making these decisions.
How are abortions healthcare? It’s an elective operation that ends the life of a child. Stop talking about it like it’s a necessary thing for the health of women. It’s a way for people to to avoid taking accountability and responsibility for their actions. That’s it.
@@senorpoole3988 says the man
@@katielowery1925 what does that have to do with anything?
@@senorpoole3988 DUDE U NEVER MISS
3:54 I hope that woman gets what she wants, she seems like she’ll be a great mother I just wish her the best
This is so weird this came out today as it’s been weighing heavily on my mind. I’m from Oklahoma and they just made it a felony to perform abortions. Which makes me so sad for women - that in this day and age still can’t choose what to do with their own bodies. What they don’t realize is the danger they are now putting women in - if you want/need an abortion you will get one and now not having a safe/medically educated place to go is going to make some take matters into their own hands.
This video is so refreshing to see. I really hope it can help get rid of the stigma towards abortion. And hopefully hearing and talking about it more can make forward progress.
But they shouldnt have the right to not take a vax if they dont want to?
@@Glibzer Did you get vaccinated for Covid?
I think Florida put a temporary ban on 15 week abortions today too
The south isn't known globally as a progressive place, sadly.
@@Glibzer the vaccine isn't forced nor is it illegal to not be vaxed. don't even compare the two.
This video is extremely powerful. I think it's important to hear from both sides, because they both created the embryo to abort. And I love that this is such a positive/neutral video. It gets demonized too much, and videos like this do the work to counteract that demonized connotation. 🥰
Adding this edit in, because I think my statement is being misconstrued. Hearing from both sides is important because men will listen to men. Hearing the men in this video saying, "it's ultimately up to her," is so powerful!! We don't hear that often enough, so I find it really important. Never take the choice away from the carrier. Their body, their choice. Point blank.
Sure, but at the end of the day it's the carrier's choice, and for humans it's the female.
@@DA-js7xz I agree 100000%! My point was that men can watch this and see other men putting the choice in the carrier's hands. That's why it's so powerful to me!
@@gosiar5575 that's my point lmao men will take advice from men more than they will from a woman. So hearing men say, "it's up to her," will open the minds of a lot of people.
Y'all are picking apart the part where I said it's important to hear from both sides. I think it's important for them both to give their side, but obviously it's the carrier's choice. I think it was crucial to hear the men in the video say, "it was up to her," because other men might hear that, find that perspective more relatable, therefore will be more eager to listen. I, as a person with a uterus, would never take that choice away from another uterus haver. 🥰
I love how you say “it’s important to hear it from both sides” when they are giving the same damn opinion. There’s nothing controversial about it. What would’ve been impactful is both pro-life men AND women were answering along with the pro-choicers to give insight on it. Having two people of different genders say the exact same opinion doesn’t mean shit or isn’t as impactful as you think it is.
I got pregnant at 19 with a guy I had just started to see. We got two different kinds of contraception failed us. I was not financially, emotionally o or anything stable enough to have a child. Having an abortion was the worst thing I have ever done, really difficult and painful decision. But it was the right one for me. I wish everybody could have the ability to make that decision.
Love to everyone that has gone through this, it's really hard
Well they can't have that ability if they were aborted and thus never got to grow up
@@mo.ka.9661 Same thing with every time you have a period and the egg goes unfertilised or you ejaculate. It's just a bunch of cells 🤷
@@Ari-nk1pb no it's not the same, under no circumstances will that turn into a full person. You need 48 chromosomes
We are all just a bunch of cells technically
@@mo.ka.9661 And why is the chromosomes so important? We are just a bunch of cells but we are as well living beings, according to science that is not. It's totally okay if you disagree but since you have no way to rove that your way is right or better than my point of view I would just suggest to respect each other and allow the freedom of choice
@@Ari-nk1pb Because chrosomones establish a distinct human life.
According to science life begins at conception, over 90% of biologists agree. Even of that were not the caze why wouldn't we want to draw the starting line earlg as possible just to be on the safe side?
Power to all these people who were willing to share their experiences or communicate that they were uncomfortable answering the question. Abortion provides people with uteruses an option during pregnancy. It is absolutely ridiculous that men in power feel the need to oppress the bodies of others. If you don't support abortion then hopefully you will never need one, but don't take that choice off the table for others.
FUCK THE PATRIARCHY
It's weird to assume that all pro life people are white men🤔
"People with uteruses"??? Wtf! The only people with uteruses are WOMEN, regardless of how they identify.
people with uteruses are sometimes men so **cis men in power
Women vote for those men
Completely disagree with the “grown enough to do it, grown enough to raise it and keep it” mentality. So many uneducated CHILDREN are doing these things not knowing what it can lead to and no they aren’t grown enough to be raising a kid when they themselves are kids. Not just that but people are assaulted and become pregnant more than people seem to think
fr. i think she meant just sex in her personally life. not anything else
I think she was talking about herself specifically and in a situation where it was purely a choice.
i think that mentality is a bit outdated and honestly untrue. being mature enough to be sexually active doesnt mean you are mature, financially and emotionally stable, or physically prepared enough to raise a child.
Stop killing babies. 1% of abortions are from rape and incest. Keep your legs closed ladies.
@@tianasinterludes then why not give it up for adoption to someone who is?
Guys, it might be an stupid question BUT can you make a Keep it 100: “Do you use protection (like condoms, birth control, IUD, etc)”? PLEASE!! And thank u so much for this vid!!
Statistically 99% of AFAB people will use some form of contraception (hormonal, or none hormonal IUD) in their lifetime. While 87% of those not wanting to get pregnant are using BC. While the majority of abortions are done cause of failed contraception...Also a lot are women who are mom's already, in a comitted relationships, and again contraception failed...also majority of abortions are happening on women in their later 20s to 40s...it is middle aged women...
They're trying to ban contraceptives with overturnn of Roe V. Wade
18 year old me said I'd never have an abortion. 20 year old be got pregnant knowing what I was doing & became extremely ill from HG. When I say I felt like I was being tortured for months! Got pregnant again in hope of a girl & people convinced me every pregnancy was different. Nope, turns out THAT was a lie. So, yeah I am 24 married, own a home have a career, but felt like I was being tortured once again through my pregnancy. I had to LEAVE my job, because I had nausea/vomiting so bad. I didn't sign up for this. I signed up to just have a baby not be sick that I can't even continue making an income. People really have the audacity to tell a women what she should/shouldn't do with her body. Throwing up 4+ times a day, couldn't even eat half a bagel so lost 15 lbs in 2 weeks. For anyone to say a fetus has a say over the mother has literally lost their mind. I learned that the fetus will get what it needs through the pregnancy, the mother will loose. I was not anemic before I got pregnant and now my RBC count has dropped a lot. Baby is taking so much from me. I will not EVER do this again. I do not recommend. Birth of a baby can be a wonderful thing, but pregnancy and labor I won't sugar coat it, it SUCKS! You may find some women who glorify it or had little to no issues. But, so many women have legit reasons. I have always been pro-choice. But, before I ever had a kid I swore up and down I'd never consider an abortion. When I got pregnant I learned REAL quick the reality. I get irritated when I see men go against abortions. I'm like imagine someone kicking you in the balls repeatedly multiple times a day and they said the only way to get rid of that pain within 9 months was to get rid of it. That would be a tough decision, but since you're in so much pain you will consider it or even do it) Like I'm not even joking having HG had me looking up abortion clinics daily. NO ONE should have a say on what a women does or chooses to do. This topic hits home for me. Because, my mom had HG as well and almost lost her life even when the drs. recommended her to end the pregnancy. If a mother died giving birth to a baby then its "Oh well." but, if a fetus is aborted then the women is "evil." Some people believe no abortions no matter what even if they're raped, some people believe abortions only if it's a medical reason. Truth is what ever happens no one is gonna be happy. But, let's keep it really simple. These people screaming pro-life no very well that they could care less. There is a women somewhere out there right now having an abortion and not one of us know who that person is. We aren't sitting here trying to find out either. When an actual child passes away y'all say "awww" and then continue on with your lives. This school shooting has happened and Iv'e seen footage of people waving signs outsides abortion clinics screaming "You're killing these babies." But, I don't see any of these people at these schools....
I can’t even begin to describe how brave you are, wishing you the best 💕
If it were your body, your limbs would’ve been torn. Rest up your dead baby👼👼
@@ronny5366 haha you’re so funny. Who said I ever had an abortion??? Very odd. See you guys don’t even know how majority of abortions work lol. Maybe if you were a women you would know majority of abortions happen when the baby is as tiny as a literal seed. Nothing is is being ripped apart. When the fetus is passed just like a miscarriage it’s a big glob, you can’t even see any features what so ever. And by time a fetus looks more like a baby especially in third trimester they don’t just abort the baby. If complications come up they try to do something called induction or c-section to remove it (especially when it’s viable around 24 weeks) so it can be alive outside of the womb. At that point no one’s it getting an abortion. (Unless something develops that will cause the baby to pass etc.) Let’s be real and please for the love of God let’s get educated!!!
I don’t think I’d ever personally go through with an abortion. I’ve always wanted to have a family of my own since I was like 13 but I support people who go through it. However I personally am conflicted because I have mental disorders that could greatly affect me being a parent such as PTSD, MDD, and I used to hallucinate when I got really depressed and I’d never want to scare my child or have them witness that. I don’t think I could put it on my partner either, really. I’m also only 19 so I have plenty of time.
However one of my friends went through one. She was raped, only 15 and was kicked out on to the streets and honestly it’s so sad tbh. She didn’t ask to be raped, she didn’t ask to be drugged. I fully supported her decision. Pro life people don’t truly understand how hard it can be for a woman to make that final decision. My friend is an amazing woman and deserves the world if I’m being honest.
My heart aches for the person who wants a child now. I hope she is able to take a young teen in and give them a loving home and environment that they need. I think it could be a very healing and beneficial for them both. I think she would be such a great light for a troubled teen; an example of growing out of past trauma.
“that’s her choice” i love this man yes you still get a say and your opinion but at the end of the day it’s her body that’s changing and carrying the child. guy feelings matter too!!
I wish there was less stigma around this topic. Everyone probably knows at least one person who had an abortion, even if they never revealed it.
I had one with my current partner, who I love and hope to share my life with him. We never thought it could happen to us, but birth control failed due to our mistakes. However, we weren't and still aren't sure we ever want kids. Our financial status and other aspects of life didn't matter as much as the fact that we knew we weren't ready to be parents. Some unplanned pregnancies aren't unwanted, but ours was. It was our decision only and we have no regrets. I didn't struggle with depression, sadness, or what if's.
The abortion left no emotional, physical, or mental consequences. People should quit that narrative that every woman feels bad in one way or another after the process. That's simply not the case.
You're just lucky.Not all women are so lucky like you.Good for you getting rid of your baby
@@fur8104 It's called modern medicine, not luck. Abortion is a safe and legal medical procedure that 73 million women worldwide use every year.
Oh, and I didn't get rid of a baby. I aborted an embryo because, at that stage, it wasn't even a fetus.
Thanks for sharing. This is so true. It's weird that there is a lot of shaming when women do not feel sad or regret the decision. People should really stop trying to control other people's lives, decisions and bodies.
I am so happy that you got rid of that baby 💕💕💕.
@@senorpoole3988 I'm guessing you would have adopted her unwanted child had you been given the chance, right?
I know this is a HARD topic but the first girl quite literally answered the question without even saying yes or no...
to clarify [ that’s me:) ] I thankfully never got pregnant
This is such an important video, thank you
I literally cheered out loud when that guy said "If they're the one carrying the baby, it would be up to them".
I pro choice but that’s a dumb opinion/reaction. Regardless of who is having the kid the morality stays the same. It’d be similar to a slave owner saying that non slave owners aren’t allowed to have an opinion on the morality of slave holding.
@@xHannibal Did you seriously just compare being a woman to being a slave owner???? Owning a uterus to owning a slave?? Just another example of pro-life lack of critical thinking skills. In case it's your first day on Earth, there are two things you don't ever compare with anything else: 1. Slavery and 2. The Holocaust. Let's hope you haven't already infringed on the second one, but I don't have much hope...
@@melanyrice592 Cool assumption but I’m pro-choice. Also very cool deflection, you definitely have sound reasoning for your criticism of my analogy.
Since, evidently, you have subhuman intelligence, I’ll explain again for you. The exact comparison doesn’t matter here at all. Clearly, you’re far too emotionally invested in this to realize that. The point though is that just because someone isn’t a part of some group does not mean that they do not get to have a say in the morality of the decisions of that group.
Just because I’m not Christian doesn’t mean I can’t say anything about Christianity or the decisions of Christians. Just because I or anyone is not a woman doesn’t mean they can’t say anything about the morality of the decisions of women.
@@melanyrice592 you're literally killing a baby bro, you're the one that lacks critical thinking.
@@melanyrice592 Nice gate-keeping.
The person at 1:03, I empathise with you so so much. I went through the same thing, and it was so so difficult. Thank u for being open about your experience, I thought I was the only one x
Ugh I understand giving your partner the benefit of the doubt, but I’m never going to trust a man who says he’s infertile without proof.
@thelovelylife7451no you was just dumb and uneducated most youth is supposed to be smart
2:07 “If they’re the one carrying the baby it would be up to them” Y E S
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I wish they also included more people who have had to have an abortion for medical reasons. My babys life would have been filled with so much pain due to her diagnosis. It was so difficult
Same here. The saddest, but best decision I have ever made.
My doctors knew something was wrong and didn't tell me which he ended up dying from induce me so I had to give birth to dead baby... Instead of telling me earlier so I could've avoided it... And I almost died in the process from an infection I developed carrying around a dead baby in my body...
I had an abortion in 1987. Back then it was legal. No such things as bans, heartbeat laws, forced sonograms, and no such thing as the abortion pill that came out in 2000.
I was one of those who said nope would never happen to me! I had irregular periods. But one went too long and got a home pregnancy test. All it said was pregnant. I had to go to a doctor, finding my own transport because my parents refused, I was an adult. So I found out I was 12 weeks. No sonogram. So have no idea if one can tell the gender at 12 weeks.
I told my parents I need an abortion. Dad was born in 1927 mom was born in 1931. Those dates matter because back then you didn’t even say the word abortion and of course no doubt back alley butchers did the deed. My parents were very progressive. We support your decision. I again had to find a doctor and transportation. I don’t know how it’s done in a Clinic as I had mine in a hospital and under anesthesia. All went well.
I lost it however when I saw a documentary on pregnancy and at 12 weeks it wasn’t a la clump of cells life that the doctor said. It was the size of a walnut and fully formed. I lost it because I was lied to. I was 28 not 5.
I told my boyfriend at the time and he was furious! Why didn’t you consult me! Why should I! Well I’. Not going to pay you back for it! I said I never asked! I pay my own medical bills. His outage was outrageous. Since when do I need to consult him! We were girlfriend boyfriend. I wasn’t owned, we were never going to be married and I don’t need to check for permission. It was ironic his outrage. One he was divorced. If you can’t hold a marriage together, since when does someone have to consult on a medical issue. Two, he already had a daughter he never bothered to help raise or financially support and claimed the mom wanted no money. I said you never offered anyway. Who turns down money to help support their kid! Third he had absolutely no contact with his daughter who’d be in her 40’s by now. I should consult about an abortion when you have a kid you want nothing to do with? Fourth, a year later he threatened a sheriff’s nephew with a gun and was in jail for 8 years. Nope, one who can’t stay out of jail, has no say on medical issues.
I had an older brother. No younger siblings, I hung around older kids never younger because there were none where I was. I’m not fond of kids. And mom, who was an alcoholic narcissist wasn’t exactly mom of the year. But I’m a great pet parent. I’m just not fond of human kids. Oh I’m nice to them if they say hello, and I baby sat a couple kids of a friend, but having kids, nope!
Do I feel shame, guilt, regret? That’s society who feels that way. I don’t!
Was my abortion to save my life? Nope. It was just because and I was entitled. Do I care that some don’t approve? Not in the least. I’m almost 65 now. I think I can live another 20 years without needing anyone’s approval or permission. Have done fine so far!
I was outrage at the nurse. Her job was to explain the procedure NOT launch int the how about adoption! Not going to carry for nine months and give away. I stopped her and she was shocked. Tell me the procedure I said and shut up about adoption. Your political or ideological views are of no interest.
The doctor kept asking me are you sure? Not once but twice! Are men who want a vasectomy asked are you sure? You may change your mind! No! He gets no questions.
It took three years to find a doctor who’d tie my tubes. It’s legal! Got the same crap. Are you sure? Yeah at 31 I was sure. Not stupid y’know. Ironically he gave me too much anesthesia and the nurse thought I’d never wake up. Best sleep I ever had!
From what I was told my 12 week old fetus was sucked out by a tube. Whole! None of this crunching of bone and ripping off limbs. My period resumed. I did ask can I have a hysterectomy also? No ethical doctor will do that. So I have everything in there and cauterized tubes. But it was a strange thing. You’re questioned about an abortion, then when you want to be unable to be ever pregnant with tube tying you’re questioned as if your job is to get and be pregnant. Yell at you for abortion, yell at you when you don’t ever want to be pregnant again. Have no idea if other women are given an interrogation today if they want voluntary sterilization.
What’s with this abortion is murder garbage! Demand that guns be banned so no school kids are murdered you have the we have the right to shoot anyone! Kids included! Why do the pro lifers and anti abortion people have NO abortion is murder when a fetus is tested and has Downs Syndrome and the doctor suggests abortion! You have an extra two chromosomes, it’s not fatal, Downs Syndrome kids are smart. I used to student teach them at a camp and when I was in high school. They can learn, get simple jobs, pay taxes and even heard of one who graduated college. He needed extra help? Who doesn’t in school. So abortion isn’t murder for a fetus with Downs Syndrome but abortion of a ‘normal’ kid is murder? Sounds very eugenics to me and hypocritical.
For some an abortion can save her life! Ectopic pregnancy. It can grow outside the womb and can rupture something and mom bleeds to death. No amniotic fluid the baby dies. They use it to move around and when they get older they exercise their lungs breathing that fluid by mouth as the nose is plugged by waxy like plugs. A fetus can have their organs growing outside their bodies, and don’t live long. Forced to carry a dead baby she gets sepsis and can die of infection. So it seems like the exception for the life of the mother politicians have even taken that away. Rape victims and incest victims shouldn’t be forced to birth a child of violence!
The subject of abortion is stupidly selective. It’s always about the fetus. Well without mom the fetus has a bit of a problem. She should take precedence!
Male politicians have taken and the Supreme Court who got rid of Roe that legalized abortion in 1973 act like politicians, and know nothing about medicine. Wonder how many abortions the men Supreme Court judges paid for! Now both want to take away contraceptives from women but NOT men who don’t wear it anyway.
Do men really support the right to abortion? Or is it whew glad I don’t have to take care of the kid! I think it’s an honest question.
If we have an abortion we don’t need permission for men or ask their approval. I don’t think men say so honey I’m going to have a vasectomy what do you think? They do it!
I was Middle Middle Class when I had my abortion. Yes my parents were Middle Middle Class. Middle Class went up a notch. The point is abortion isn’t just a Poor thing. I was able to pay for mine because insurance at the time didn’t cover it.
I’m tired of the guilting and condemnation of those who’ve never had an abortion. And they’re the first if you criticize how they raise their kids, tell you don’t tell me how to raise my kids!
When I’ve suggested that pro lifers take care of a pregnant person in their home and on their dime I’ve gotten “deal” but of course they didn’t, OR “It’s not our responsibility to raise other peoples’ kids!” You want ‘em born YOU raise ‘em! One pro lifer said “well I donate to pregnant women to help raise their kid!” You don’t personally had her your money and you won’t do it without a tax deduction.
For some abortion is easy to go through to others it’s hard because society makes it so!
I asked a monumental question to mom once. If you had a choice, would you have gotten married and had my brother and I? Can’t remember why I asked but her answer astounded me. Normally mom did what she wanted. But she said if I had a choice no. But it was what you were supposed to do. She got married to dad in 1954 when she was only 23. She was supposed to be married and had kids. And her sentiment for both was apparent. Why dad put up with her drinking and her narcissism he felt he was “supposed” to.
Abortion is something called health care! Would the pro lifer anti abortion person want government to say well we don’t believe in organ transplants to save your life, tough luck! Or you have dementia and need care? Sorry! awe don’t believe in it, tough luck! Sound absurd? Well when my fiancé passed away the organs that were in good shape they refused to donate. They didn’t believe in it. Not government but the same principle. We don’t believe in it who cares about others who could’ve used his organs. His heart was the only bad organ.
When does it end! No more right of choice! Politicians are trying to prevent the abortion pill. They want to take away the right of women to have contraception. Prevent her from traveling to get an abortion. Since when do others tell you where you can travel! What next? Take away same sex marriage because politicians don’t believe in it when it doesn’t affect your marriage one bit? make interracial marriages illegal again? Justice Thomas would have a problem with that!
Where does it end!
Yes I had an abortion in 1987! No apologies! Abortion not approved by another don’t get one! Things start small with trashing Roe YOU could be next for a health right, or ANY right to be stolen from you. And you’ll shout unfair while approving it for others like you’re an exception.
So many strong women in this video! Power to you!
So many women who killed unborn children. Yes so strong.
@@senorpoole3988 Thanks for saying this, u legend
@@senorpoole3988 cry more, incel
@Senor Poole exactly
@@senorpoole3988 were they yours no. Then shut up. Keep your opinion to yourself if it’s not your uterus or your “child”. By the way you are a man so you atleast better shut up. It’s a very difficult choice to make & on top of that there are people like you women need to deal with in such a scenario who makes it 10x difficult for her.
I love this. Just talking about as the most natural thing in the world, no stigma. That’s how I always though of abortion: it’s health care. It doesn’t have to be such an insane stigma, that’s religious fundamentalism.
Love this video! I had one after my birth control failed and I have never regretted it. I already had a child at the time, and she had JUST turned a year old. I was in no way mentally (or physically!) healthy enough to go though another pregnancy and newborn phase! I knew the second I saw the 2 lines I wouldn’t keep it. I never thought I’d have an abortion until I desperately needed it, and I’m so grateful I had the choice❤️ don’t know if I would’ve survived without it.
Currently going through this. It’s one of the toughest decisions I’ve had to make in my life but I know for the sake of this baby it’s what’s best. My boyfriend & I aren’t financially stable, still have 2 years left of school, not living together. I want to have my career to be able to give my future baby the best life possible & not stress with money like my parents did.
girl, you got this. Do what is best for YOU. i am here if you need more support
@@JasmineMurillo Thank you so much! I really appreciate it. ❤️
Well, your future baby might have a better life, but this baby’s future is looking dim😈😈. Nah im just playin’ rest up yo baby doe
If you do a follow-up or addendum to this video please get in touch with me. Am happy to share my teenage unwanted pregnancy story - and the abortion which literally saved my life. I’m 56 now, no regrets.
It is unfortunate that so many qualifiers are placed around abortion "I wasn't in a relationship", "I wasn't financially stable", etc. But it's totally fine to be in a loving committed relationship and be financially stable and still have an abortion because you don't want a child at that moment in life/time. The world needs to have more grace for people.
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Amen. I’ve had friends who got abortions while in committed relationships because it would ruin their career and ultimately lead to a worse life for the kid. In one case it was to allow her to leave her emotionally abusive partner who was awful for her mental health.
There are a million and one reasons someone could have an abortion, and they are all valid.
They aren’t qualifiers, it’s just people explaining their experience and reasons.
It’s not fine. Why do we continue to justify this? It’s just wrong.
no. be a responsible adult and make the RIGHT decision
The woman with the green head wrap is so pretty. Wow.
And this video is so completely relevant right now. So many people are going to have decisions like this altered
To the woman at 3:40 ish, if you know that you would’ve been a great mother, you still have the chance now. Whether having your own or becoming a parent to a child that needs one, you’ve got a whole bunch of time to become a parent.
Nah, she's outta time for a pregnancy (she probably wanted that).
@@raylevi5343 And why would she be out of time for that?
@@middiimeis1646 didn't you hear she's 46? So, she may be ~50 to actually try giving birth if she's lucky.
I guess it isn't impossible, if that's what you're asking.
My son is 7 months old and I attemped to get an abortion when i was in very early pregnancy, but due to COVID restrictions and several mistakes made with scheduling, mine was pushed back an extra 3 weeks and I wasn't able to receive the pill or surgical in time. I love my son, and he's the brightest little star, but I still resent the fact that my choice was ultimately taken from me by circumstance and poor employee performance.
Damn that brat somehow managed to live.
Im sorry but did u just say u love him but regret his existence? 😬😬
@@waveryder4725 plenty of parents feel this way.
@@waveryder4725 nope, reread the comment and think critically.
@@DA-js7xz thats fucked up
Just a friendly reminder that you do not owe anyone an explanation on why you chose to do what you did!!
And a friendly reminder to those who ask for one - it’s none of your business.
Proud of each and everyone who has had to make difficult decisions.
No you don’t have to defend your decision if that’s what you mean, but it is still decent to explain your reasons if someone is genuinely interested.
You may owe God and your unborn child an explanation
@@minnie2352 your sky daddy isn't real..
@@kaci001 I regret to inform you that you are not omniscient and your conclusion lacked a case. Better luck next time.
@@minnie2352 you have no proof that your sky daddy is real..
Thank you for talking about miscarriages and unviable pregnancies. I had two miscarriages that required medicine and a d&c. Same meds and procedure they do for an unwanted pregnancy. Also love that you asked men too.
I had one in 2017 when i was a freshman in college. I knew that i couldn’t raise a kid in these days cause i couldn’t even handle the stress of school and job and etc. I didn’t want to bring a child with 0 support into this world and that was the best decision I’ve ever made. I have 0 regrets but sometimes i‘m wondering how it would be if i kept it.
I'm so grateful to live in a place where abortions are accessible and I'm furious that it isn't an option everywhere. Reproductive rights are one of the most basic human rights in my mind and it should be available to all.
I had an abortion when I was 24 and not once have I ever regretted it. I was in a horrible relationship at the time and we would have been terrible parents. I'm thankful all the time that I was able to break up with him and cut him out of my life completely. If I had his kid it would have been very different. I would have had a living, breathing tie to him for the rest of my life regardless of if we were together or not. Plus, it would have been unimaginably cruel to bring an unloved and unwanted child into the world. I'm not exaggerating when I say my abortion saved my life because I don't think I would be alive today if I had been forced to go through with it. I'm not proud that my own stupidity led me to have to get an abortion in the first place, but I am very happy that I was able to.
Thank you. I had an abortion in 1976. Forever grateful it was legal here. And we marched for legal abortion before 1973. I’m infuriated that people (Republicans) are making it very difficult to get safe abortions. Women will continue to have abortions, legal or back-alley. These Republicans just want to control women’s bodies.
I’ve never had an abortion, I’m still just a teenager, but I’ve never felt more strongly than I do about abortions and how they are vital healthcare and I completely agree with you. It’s disgusting that in most of these countries deciding abortions rights, it’s men making the decision almost entirely. Sick world we live in.
@@enatyung8397 I hope you never need one, but if you do, I hope they’ll be legal. Unfortunately, there are many anti-choice women, too.
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This was amazing and we should talk about it more. When I went through it there was a lot of shame and fear and judgement and those I went to for support really messed up and cut me deep.
Sending admiration and gratitude to everyone who has put themselves out in the open on such a popular channel, and talking about their deeply personal and private experiences.
2:07 such a sweet guy, best mindset ever omg
Abortions shouldn’t be something to be ashamed of. Whether you choose to have an abortion or go through with the pregnancy all of these women are very brave ❤️
I would never shame anyone for anything because I love everyone but Abortion is the killing of children. Abortion can never be justified
It should be something to be ashamed of if you’re using it as a form of birth control.
How should you not be ashamed of killing a baby? How is that brave? It’s disgusting. Your disgusting.
@@lizali5588 So if my wife of 10 years of marriage gets pregnant even once we both decide that it's best we shouldn't have a child, she should be shamed for her choice? _Why?_
All these women are brave, except for the women who (or those who support) maliciously perform an act that kills their child (getting an abortion). That is precisely the opposite of bravery, that's cowardly. Imagine thinking killing the most innocent of life as being brave... What a disgraceful world we live in.
“I’m actually pregnant right now!”
Congratulations to her 😊
"I hope I tell people before this comes out" LMAO just imagine finding out your sister or best friend was pregnant thru a TH-cam video
I've never had an abortion, and I hope I never have to have one. But I did have a miscarriage last year that I'm very open talking about.
Keeping silent about abortion and sex and miscarriage has turned into something stigmatized and negative when it's normal parts of life. I want people in my life to know they can talk to me about pregnancy and sex and that I won't judge them based on their experiences and choices.
If people around me are uncomfortable with my degree of openness, that's on th and has no bearing on how I'm going to live my life.
Wishing you the best, you seem like a very down to earth person
I had an abortion just 2 weeks ago, and am really really happy with the decision I made 💞 sorry for the English am Mexican 👍
I’m sorry for your loss
@@daisylovers3655 ???????
@@gissellegarcia9669 ignore Daisylovers 365, that's an unpleasant reply. I'm happy for you that you made a good decision for you and your life :)
Yeah. We were together for years and got pregnant on birth control.
We both had just started new jobs the week we found out, didn't know where we would be living in a couple months and both of our mental health's were in the gutter but we loved each other and wanted a baby so it was a really hard and emotional decision to make. We decided to do it and the whole process was traumatizing for the both of us but we knew at the time it was the best choice. Now it's a couple years later and we're in a much better place and are pregnant with a baby girl that we know we'll be able to properly provide for
Rest up your baby 👼
This is an amazing video and I love that they show cased both sides. (Honestly love that guy's quick response at 2:14)
I had an abortion 8 years ago. You are allowed to feel absolutely any way about your abortion, but I have never regretted or felt that mine was a mistake.
Same no regrets.
It's nobody else's business to decide what's right for you, especially not a government or a bunch of politicians or religious fanatics.
i’m having one tomorrow and i don’t think that i’ll regret it..it just hurts knowing that it’s my child 💔😓
@@juliannaparese5186 Are you okay? I hope all is well for you.
Peace to all and hope everything works out for the best 💙
Here's a idea why dont you tots close your effin legs smfh you just killed the children 😒
i had an abortion when i was in my early 20s. i’m not proud of it, but i’m not ashamed of it either. i was on birth control but was horrible about remembering to take it regularly. (i switched birth control after that.) i wasn’t prepared or willing to give up things that could hinder or harm it. you can call me selfish, but i just wasn’t ready to change my life for an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy. even now many years later, it’s one of the best things i’ve done. i wasn’t responsible enough back then to take care of myself or it during pregnancy. it was more like a sigh of relief for both me and my boyfriend. having an abortion isn’t for everybody, but it should be easily available to all.
What's selfish is bringing an unwanted child into this world who would have suffered greatly. You did the right thing.
You should definitely be ashamed.
@@Kayleeorsmthn No she doesn’t need to. Instead you should be ashamed on commenting such a thing on what a person did with their body. Be Ashamed on poking your nose in other people’s business & passing a comment like this.
@@Kayleeorsmthn username checks out
I had a similar situation at 21. My birth control interacted with a new medication and basically stopped working. I had no clue. As soon as I saw the test results I called planned parenthood and then my boyfriend. I regret getting pregnant but I do not regret the abortion.
The man in 2:07 Thank you.
I know emotionally I can’t go through with an abortion. I would keep it and because I am in a long term relationship. But I’m pro choice!
I'm pro life and proud
@@mi9172 why?
@Hannah Winterhalder Pro-life means that someone is against the concept of abortion.
@Hannah Winterhalder Then why don't "pro-choice" call themselves "pro-abortion choice"?
Because I already know they're not "pro-choice" in general either.
It's just a mantra, on both sides. Unless you're too hypocritical to see that.
@Hannah Winterhalder I agree.
"i can't answer that"
....so yes.
Bro fr 😭
Blue haired girl at 0:33 is so beautiful!!
absolutely love the supportive guys the guy who was like i’d wanna keep it but if she doesn’t then no because that’s her choice
Pro choice 👌🏼
Pro life 💕💕💕
@@mi9172 I was until about 2 weeks ago and I had a family member forced to give birth to a baby who was not with us anymore at 20 weeks because she was to far along to have an abortion. She is also being forced to have a funeral for said baby because it's the law.
Sorry for their loss, but trust me they made the right choice.
@@mi9172 so being forced to give birth and 35+ hrs in labor and then being forced to have a funeral is better than having an abortion? That's insanity.
Pro murder. You will stand in judgement before your maker for your iniquity
I had one when I was 21. My boyfriend and I were flat broke and if really wasn't the responsible thing to do. It was so incredibly hard and I vowed to wait until I am ready to be a good mum one day.
I'm 31 now with a 10 month old and my second baby on the way. I still get upset when I think about the abortion. I will be teaching my children about safe sex and it's consequences...
If you are respectful of the women who would have an abortion or did, please be respectful of those who do not. Choice is a two way street. Neither path is easy. Also, keep in mind, some of what's described here is when something is medically wrong and the only choice is what mitigates suffering. As someone who has had two ultrasounds end with news no one wants to hear, that situation is devastating. And I had no choices at that point. It was about what was going to hurt them less due to medical that was totally unavoidable.
2:27 I FELT THAT!!! 😭😭😭🤣 Because why me? TF 😂😂
I’m glad the men all realized that they weren’t the ones who had the vast majority of the responsibility and therefore should defer to the woman and her choice. As for the girl who said, “if you’re grown enough to do the deed you’re grown enough to keep it”- there are so many reasons why that’s so incredibly wrong. Rape being the first, but no only, reason. No child should be brought into this world unwanted, unloved, and set up for abuse and/or neglect. That’s the harsh truth.
me and my brothers were unwanted unloved and neglected by our parents and i’m glad we weren’t murdered because they were shitty people
Except she said it in an “I” context. Not “you’re”, which makes a huge difference. She’s not talking in general, but rather how she herself would feel in that situation.
I had an abortion... my ex says after that day I was different ( but he was very abusive & wanted me too)... then awhile later he got my sister pregnant ... My sister having a baby saved her life...
It fucked me up for awhile thinking I could’ve had a baby that was siblings and cousins... also there is so many layers of pain surrounding my relationship with him... then the pain of my sister and him... so I dk if my depression started from that or not.
There was a time in my life where I knew if I got pregnant I would 100% get an abortion. I was in an abusive relationship and they made me stop taking birth control and they were "allergic" to latex. Luckily turns out I have PCOS and it is extremely difficult for me to get pregnant, even with 2 years of completely unprotected sex.
I am unbelievably sorry you had to experience that. Hope you’re living the life you deserve now!
@@jani4552 thank you for your kind words! 💖 I'm 5 years out of that relationship, have found a wonderful therapist, and am in a healthy and boundary-respecting relationship :) for anyone going through a situation like I went though, please know there is a way out! Please reach out to me if you need any guidance or support 💞
The honesty of these people is absolutely amazing!! Awesome
0:54 that's really real and also happened to me
I personally never had had one, a dear friend of mine did, she was going to go on her own and travel back on her own afterwards, I drove her there , waited and drove her home to make sure she was safe. I don't understand how and why governments get involved and make it illegal. Its not their body not their choice.
Same here. The closest clinic was 50 miles away so it was a secret trip we made after a midterm we had that morning in college. We literally went straight from our class to the clinic to make it on time. But of course there was a fancy crisis pregnancy center right across the street from our campus! Fuck the government's bullshit
Some people believe that human rights start at conception.
@@frishter I guess that's a personal belief not a proven one.
@@shirleyryan7439 You can't prove a belief, which is why the topic is controversial. There is no right answer. Both sides thing they're right and there isn't really a middle ground.
@@frishter exactly right
I love that they are talking about abortion so casually and not treating it as a taboo topic.
How is killing unborn children not taboo?
@@senorpoole3988 shut it pls
@@senorpoole3988 cry more, incel
@@senorpoole3988 They aren't children until they are born, they are foetuses.
@@zakhobbsmusic correct. A fetus is a developing child.
Respect for making this video and those who participated and answered honestly. Love to all ❤️ especially the lady at 3:46 ❤️
3:35 This lady seems like such a sweet woman, bless her.
I had an abortion right before the pandemic. I didn't have a job or a place to live, I was crashing at my cousin's house, my partner didn't want to have it, and even though it was my choice and I don't regret it I still feel sad about it. I've been to therapy non stop but I still can't get over it.
It shouldn't be just the woman's choice
I know it's easy for me to say this but you did it for the child you will perhaps have in the future, so that you can bring them into the world when you're as confident as you can be that you'll provide them with the best life possible. Think about the future version of yourself as a mother and how awesome you'll be. Don't dwell on the past version that wouldn't have been ready or willing. This is why you have the power to influence your future.
@@darcymr353 Thanks for your kind words 🌷🌼
@@thefirephoenix872 and in my case it wasn't. My partner didn't want to have it so we made the decision together
One you don’t need to be strong emotionally to have an abortion and two you shouldn’t need to get consent or even talk to anyone about it.
Strong woman 👩
As a woman, I greatly support a woman's right to choose but specifically for me, I don't think I could ever get an abortion unless it was a literal life or death situation.
Some People use abortion as birth control it's disgusting
And thats perfectly fine :)
THANN YOU FOR THIS. I have not even watched it yet but I just appreciate you even making a video about this topic that nobody talks about even though so many people go through it including me. It’s lonely to go through it’s the worst
So, I'm actually the opposite of that one individual towards the end where they said they couldn't handle the emotional damage from an abortion.
I'm so mentally and emotionally unstable, that's actually cannot promise I wouldn't hurt myself or the child if I got pregnant and went threw with it.
I'm in a 7+ year long relationship, and we are both in agreement that just not right now, and if it happens, we'll have to get an abortion until we are capable. I just know myself, as does he, and it's just not in the cards as of right now.
I have and needed and glad I was able to get it safely and freely
Shame on you
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@@inspiredbyinspire9234 Shame me all you want, you dont know my situation and how I almost died. I'm glad I was able to safely get what I needed safely.
@@ellamulti8030 you almost died but someone else died all the way. Your situation doesn’t justify murder. I bet even if it wasn’t life threatening you’d say it’s ok to do it. People just use the worst case scenario to justify the whole thing
Glad that you made the best decision for yourself!💓
Came back to this video because of the Roe Vs Wade outcome😔
I love that if she the one carrying the baby it would be her choice.. good man everyone needs to be like him
naw
@@sebastianbrigian9345 yaw
@@sebastianbrigian9345 yawwww
Keep that same energy when it comes to men not wanting to pay child support
@@tamarameakes2014 ??? it takes two to make a child, if a man dips out of the childs life and the mother is taking care of it on her own, it's HIS responsibility to still be there for her financially. stop normalizing men not taking accountability for their actions.
Watching this 9 weeks pregnant & in a tough position. Kinda gave me some perspective... thanks Cut
You take care and do what is best for you 🥰
4:29 speaking straight facts
Sex is a basic human desire, going through nine painful months to have another human tear your genitals is not. Does that also apply to the 8yr raped by her uncle?
“I was grown enough to do it so I’m grown enough to keep it and raise it”
yeah.. no. i was grown enough to do it, so i'm grown enough to find an ultimate solution, one that's best for me.
Amazing to release this right after the labitch family posted their horrible documentary ❤️❤️
labitch lmaoooooo
YES!!!
Stop the baby Holocaust
4:28 Yes! Power to this woman! Choose life!
3:35 hits too hard
I hate it when men say they are infertile but actually are not and/or never confirm it. And lie about it. Such a thing happened to a friend. She aborted it and broke up with the guy. He thought he could make her keep the baby and baby trap her.
Before having sex with a person know their intentions and their sexual history.
And to the ladies don't say you are on birth control but never really take the pills.
Not saying it was your friends fault in any way but I think just knowing yourself and what you want going into the act. Just being aware that hey he may say he is but does that mean he is 100%. It’s ultimately both of their decisions unless it was rape. Yah it’s awful that he lied but I would put all the blame on him.
Like the one girl in the video said,”if you’re grown enough to do it, you’re grown enough to keep it and raise it.”
Respect for making this video. really removes the politics and pedantics that are used by men to justify taking away a womans choice.
Killing a baby? Yeah give females that choice 🤣
@William James Sidis ITS NOT A BABY! most abortions happen no later then 12-15 weeks 3.5months. if they were born at that stage it wouldnt even LOOK like a baby, no organs, no fully developed brain, no consciousness.
@William James Sidis it's not a baby
@William James Sidis the "baby" (more like just a bunch of cells) doesn't even have a concept of the world let alone a concept of choice or a brain to think so uhm yeah it's not taking a choice away that wasn't there in the 1st place lmao
@@violetsapphire4402 Your just a bunch of cells, humanity knows very little about this space we live in, and the concept of free will questionable.
I 100000% support anyone who decides to go through an abortion but when I think about myself... it gets difficult. As someone with PCOS, the ability to get pregnant is decreased and I always worry whether I'll be able to have a child in the future. So if I did get a surprise pregnancy, I would keep it. Of course I would always have adoption as an option, but I would like to raise a biological child at least once if I can in the future.
i have had 2. had an abusive partner.
Someone you love has had an abortion. I hope they never see the out of touch comments some of y'all are making.
believe me if i know someone who has I’d be very upfront with my opinion and all respect would be lost for them. doesn’t matter how common it is it’s still murder. i enjoy the fact that people atleast have to be haunted by their decision when they aren’t being justified by others and it’s just them and their conscious.
Crazy just how many people have had or support abortion
The woman at 3:35 could still adopt if she wanted to, imo!
4:42 NINA
NINA
I’ve had an abortion once And tbh my last one cause I really regret it. I was soooo sure on keeping it however once I told my bf(now ex) he said he doesn’t wanna be w me or see us together for the rest of our lives. Saying we should wait and how we’re not ready… I was sooo strong about it cause my mother didn’t even want me to have the baby.. so it was rlly hard for me. The fact tht my family wasn’t on my side and how my ex bf didn’t wanna have a child w me … I was hurt asf. So it was like what’s the point… I want a family not be a baby momma cause I kno I was gonna be bitter I already was when I was pregnant… when I got the abortion it was a relief but man when I see babies it hurts me still til this day… cause it’s like damn I rlly wanted a baby and all. It rlly fucks w me mentally and emotionally till this day. I would’ve been 4 months pregnant by now…🥺🫶🏽 but til we meet again my love ..❤️😕
Totally get how you’re feeling. My parents forced me to get one and honestly I regret letting them control me into doing this whole thing, my bf was very happy about the baby I mean we both were but now the baby is gone and my family is carrying on like nothing happened while I’m depressed over the decision and thinking what it would’ve been like to still be pregnant 😞 I’m hoping for a miracle baby next year and I won’t let them control me again whether they’ll be mad at me for falling pregnant Idgaf I miss being pregnant. Seeing babies and pregnant women hurts me
this is the best quote.
"i was an addict, but i wasn't stupid. there's no way in hell i could take care of a baby, couldn't take care of myself."
So happy to see all these men so respectful of their women's choices.
I'm not go back to the 1800 I liked it
I'm not for abortion and I'm not against it either, it all depends on who I get pregnant - Dave Chappelle
It’s a real tragedy that the people who said they would get an abortion will no longer have that option in many states once the Supreme Court rules on the Dobbs case in June.
oh no.. they can go to another state and get it.
@@Mdroudian that’s assuming they have the resources to travel, which a lack of is a major motivating factor to obtain one in the first place.
i know… it’s so sad that there is gonna be a law that saves lives of unborn children- heartbreaking
@@waveryder4725 see the definition of children - that ain't it 🤣
@@DA-js7xz how do u define it?